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Link to original articleWelcome to The Nonlinear Library, where we use Text-to-Speech software to convert the best writing from the Rationalist and EA communities into audio. This is: 6 non-obvious mental health issues specific to AI safety., published by Igor Ivanov on August 18, 2023 on LessWrong.IntroI am a psychotherapist, and I help people working on AI safety. I noticed patterns of mental health issues highly specific to this group. It's not just doomerism, there are way more that are less obvious.If you struggle with a mental health issue related to AI safety, feel free to leave a comment about it and about things that help you with it. You might also support others in the comments. Sometimes such support makes a lot of difference and people feel like they are not alone.All the examples in this post are anonymized and changed in a way that it's impossible to recognize a specific person behind them.AI safety is a rather unusual fieldThe problems described in this post arise because AI safety is not an ordinary field to work in. Many people within the AI safety community believe that it might be the most important field of work, but the general public mostly doesn't care that much. Also, the field itself is extremely competitive and newcomers often have hard time getting a job.No one really knows when we will create AGI, and whether we will be able to keep it aligned. If we fail to align AGI, the humanity might extinct, and even if we succeed, it will radically transform the world.PatternsAGI will either cause doom or create a utopia. Everything else seem unimportant and meaningless.Alex is an ML engineer working in a startup that fights with aging. He believes that AGI will either destroy humanity or bring a utopia, and among other things it will stop aging, so Alex thinks that his job is meaningless, and quits it. He also sometimes asks himself "Should I invest? Should I exercise? Should I even floss my teeth? This all seems meaningless."No one knows how the post-AGI world will look like. All predictions are wild speculations, and it's very hard to tell whether any actions unrelated to AI safety are meaningful. This uncertainty can cause anxiety and depressionThese problems are an exacerbated version of existential problem of meaninglessness of life, and the way to mitigate them is to rediscover meaning in the world that ultimately doesn't have meaning.I don't know when we will create AGI and if we will be able to align it, so I feel like I have no control over it.Bella is an anxious person, and she recently got interested in AI safety and she realized that nobody know for sure how to align AGI.She feels that AGI might pose an extreme danger, and there is nothing she can do. She even can't understand how much time do we have. A year? Five years? This uncertainty makes here even more anxious. And what if the takeoff will be so rapid that no one will understand what is going on?Bella is meeting a psychotherapist, but they treat her fear as something irrational. This doesn't help, and only makes Bella more anxious. She feels like even her therapist doesn't understand her.AI safety is a big part of my life, but others don't care that much about it. I feel alienated.Chang is an ML scientist working on mechanistic interpretability in AI lab. AI safety consumed all his life and became a part of his identity. He constantly checks AI safety influencers on Twitter, he spends a lot of time reading LessWrong and watching AI podcasts. He even made a tatoo of a paperclip.Chang lives outside of major AI safety hubs, and he feels a bit lonely because there is no one to talk about AI safety in person.Recently he attended his aunt's birthday party. He talked about alignment with his family. They were a bit curious about the topic, but didn't care that much. Chang feels like they just don't get it.Working on AI safety is so important that I neglected other parts of my life and burned-out.Dmitry is an undergrad student. He believes that AI safet...

Series: All! Jesus has all authority, So that all nationsMight pledge all allegiance to him.Scripture: Matthew 17:1-13Cross references: Luke 9:31; 2 Cor 3:18; 4:4-6; Romans 5:8, 12:1-2; Malachi 4:1-6; 2 Tim 3:16-17Title: “How does worshiping Jesus Christ affect my daily life?” (Darien Gabriel)A lot of help came through David Platt's commentary this week (see below)Bottom line: Worshiping Jesus Christ affects my daily life by transforming your affections. This affects your daily decisions and the motivations behind them.Discussion questions for group and personal study. Reflect and Discuss1. What hobbies, activities, and people do you spend most of your time with? How do these things affect your thinking and your behavior?2. If we become like what we behold, then what does it look like to behold Christ today while He is not physically present?3. List five attributes of Jesus Christ in Matthew 17.4. How does this passage speak to the superiority of Jesus Christ over well-known Old Testament figures?5. Describe the relationship between Elijah and John the Baptist in verses 9-13.6. Does this passage speak to Jesus' divinity? Explain.Final Questions (optional or in place of above)What is God saying to you right now? What are you going to do about it?Find our sermons, podcasts, discussion questions and notes at https://www.gracetoday.net/podcastQ. What do I want you to know? A. That we are transformed by what we treasure; we live our lives based on what we worship.Q. Why? A. Because you are changed by what you value—what you truly love. This drives your motivations and decisions.Q. What do I want you to do? A. Treasure Christ above all so that you'll become more like Christ in character and competency.Q. Why? A. Because there is no better way to please God than to “Listen to him.” INTROI am who I am today because of one key relationship—my wife, Anita. (We celebrated our 35 anniversary this month)From the day I met her, my desire has been to be with, around and even like her. Our friendship started in 9th grade. She snagged my heart that early. Overtime, as we've grown closer to God and each other, I've oriented my life around her (often in concern with Christ, but not always) and this has changed me into who I have become. And it's still happening. I went from friend, to boyfriend to fiancée to husband to fellow parent and grandparent. I also went from a lost, self-centered, self-absorbed young man to a found, somewhat self-centered, somewhat self-absorbed older man. I have become what I beheld. What have I beheld? What have I set my affections on? Her. Jesus. And by God's grace we've both moved up our marriage triangle towards Christ and, as a result, each other. This is what it means that we become what we behold. We behold or become beholden to or set our affections on that which we value. The more we value it, the more of a hold it has on us. And the more the hold, the more it transforms us into it's image. If that is godly, we become more like Christ. If it's not, we become less like him. This foundational to what the Lord is teaching us in Matthew 17 today. It starts with this question:How does worshipping Jesus Christ affect my daily life? I submit it does so in 5 ways (with some help from David Platt). Today we'll focus just on the first one.I. It transforms me from what I value to what Jesus Christ values. (17:1-13; cf. 16:23)Why? Because we become what we behold.Ex. My pursuit of Anita has transformed me over the years into a more mature person, a husband (we're one), a father and a follower of Jesus Christ.How? Through glad obedience. II. It helps me suffer long. (17:14-21) Longo-suffering = patience. Love is patient (1 Cor 13:4)Why? Putting others first is hard but it's what love does.How? By the power of faith (prayer)Rick Warren says he can tell a person's faith by their prayersIII. It helps me surrender my life. (17:22)Why? Because of his merciful example. Romans 5:8; 12:1How? Buy the renewing of your mind. Romans 12:2; 2 Tim 3:16-17IV. It helps me with my perspective. (17:23)Why? It reminds me that Jesus Christ won at the cross.How? By grace through faith.V. It helps me live humbly and confidently. (17:24-27)Why? Because I know who's authority I have and live under already.How? By forsaking/surrendering my rights in this world.CONCLUSIONSo my bottom line today is worshipping Jesus Christ affects my daily life by transforming my affections which affects my daily decisions my motivations behind them.Who are you becoming?What are you beholding? What are you setting your affections on?Anything less than Jesus Christ and his kingdom means you're settling for something so inferior to what you could have. And you'll never become who God created you to be until you get this right.My prayer for you today is that you'll repent of pursuing any and everything in your life that doesn't deserve your affections and reorient your life around your merciful Creator and Savior.Let's pray.Bottom line: Worshiping Jesus Christ affects my daily life by transforming your affections. This affects your daily decisions and the motivations behind them.“17:1-9 The transfiguration was: (1) a revelation of the glory of the Son of God, a glory hidden now but to be fully revealed when he returns; (2) a confirmation of the difficult teaching given to the disciples at Caesarea Philippi(16:13-20); and (3) a beneficial experience for the disciples, who were discouraged after having been reminded so recently of Jesus' impending suffering and death (16:21). See notes on Mk 9:2-7; Lk 9:28-35.” NIV Study Bible “Transfigured is a weak word, but perhaps it is the best available English word to translate the Greek word Matthew uses here, which is the passive form of the verb metamorphoō. The verb literally means “a change of form.” It comes over into the English language as the word metamorphosis. We use it to describe the amazing transformation of a caterpillar into a butterfly. But transfiguration includes the prefix trans-, which means “across.” What was crossed in the transfiguration? We might say Jesus crossed the line from the natural to the supernatural, from the human to the divine, as the cloak of humanity that veiled His true glory was removed and His glory became visible.” —RC SproulExcerpt FromMatthew - An Expositional CommentaryR.C. Sproulhttps://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewBook?id=0This material may be protected by copyright.BIOY, Jan 24, 2023By Nicky Gumbel …On the other hand, if you follow Jesus and surrender your life to him, you find the very purpose of life. The words of Jesus are extraordinarily powerful. There has never been a time when it is more important to ‘listen to him' than now!Jesus took Peter, James and John up a high mountain. Jesus' appearance changed right before their eyes. ‘Sunlight poured from his face. His clothes were filled with light. Then they realised that Moses and Elijah were also there in deep conversation with him' (17:1–3, MSG). They heard God say, ‘This is my Son, marked by my love, focus of my delight. Listen to him' (v.5, MSG).As Moses and Elijah talked with Jesus, so you too can live a life ‘talking with Jesus'. Your experience may not be as visual or auditory as that of the disciples on the Mount of Transfiguration, but you too can know the presence of Jesus in your life. Through reading his words and meditating on them, you can experience a conversation with Jesus through the Holy Spirit.You can, in a sense, look into his face, which shines ‘like the sun' (v.2). You can fall down in worship (v.6). It can feel as if Jesus is actually touching you and saying to you ‘do not be afraid' (v.7). And there are times when you may look up and see ‘no one except Jesus' (v.8).Lord, thank you that when I lose my life for you, I find it. Help me to *listen* to your voice and to follow you, daily.SECTION OUTLINE SIXTEEN (MATTHEW 17)God confirms Peter's earlier acknowledgment of the deity of Christ by transfiguring Jesus on the mountaintop. Jesus heals a demon-possessed boy, predicts his own death, and instructs Peter to pay the Temple tax with a coin found in the mouth of a fish.I. THE SPLENDOR OF THE SAVIOR (17:1-13)A. The confirmation on top of the mountain (17:1-8): Jesus takes Peter, James, and John with him.1. What they see (17:1-3)a. The appearance of God's Messiah (17:1-2): His face and clothing shine like the noonday sun!b. The arrival of God's messengers (17:3): Moses and Elijah appear and speak to Jesus.2. What they say (17:4): Peter wants to build three shelters, one each for Jesus, Moses, and Elijah.3. What they hear (17:5): The Father speaks from heaven, attesting to the love he has for his Son.4. What they do (17:6-8): They fall to the ground, terrified, but are reassured by Jesus.B. The conversation coming down the mountain (17:9-13)1. The command (17:9): Jesus instructs the three to say nothing concerning what they saw until his resurrection.2. The confusion (17:10): They want to know if Elijah will come before the return of the Messiah.3. The clarification (17:11-13)a. His answer (17:11-12)(1) Elijah will indeed come (17:11).(2) Elijah has already come (17:12).b. Their assumption (17:13): By this they understand that he is referring to John the Baptist.II. THE SOVEREIGNTY OF THE SAVIOR (17:14-21, 24-27): Jesus demonstrates his deity through two miracles.A. The boy with a demon (17:14-21)1. The desperation of the father (17:14-16): He begs Jesus to heal his son.2. The exorcism by the Lord (17:17-18: Jesus quickly drives the demon from the lad.3. The frustration of the disciples (17:19-21)a. They say, "Why couldn't we cast out that demon?" (17:19).b. He says, "You didn't have enough faith" (17:21).B. The fish with a coin (17:24-27)1. The who (17:24b): Some tax collectors approach Peter.2. The what (17:24c): They demand to know if Jesus will pay the Temple tax.3. The where (17:24a): This takes place upon Jesus' arrival in Capernaum.4. The why (17:25-26): Jesus informs Peter of two things.a. Why he should not have to pay this tax (17:25): Kings tax the conquered, not their own people.b. Why he should pay the tax anyway (17:26): Though he is free, he should try not to offend anyone.5. The how (17:27): Jesus tells Peter to throw a line in the lake, open the mouth of the first fish he catches, and use the coin he will find there to pay the tax!III. THE SUFFERING OF THE SAVIOR (17:22-23)A. His revelation (17:22-23a): He tells the disciples of his coming betrayal, death, and resurrection. B. Their reaction (17:23b): The disciples are filled with grief.References/Bibliography:“Preaching the Word” Commentary, Douglas Sean O'Donnell, Edited by Kent Hughes“Matthew” by RC Sproul“CSB Christ Chronological,” Holman“The Bible Knowledge Commentary” by Walvoord, Zuck (BKC)“The Bible Exposition Commentary” by Warren Wiersbe (BEC)“Exalting Jesus in Matthew” by David Platt (CCE)Outline Bible, D WillmingtonNIV Study Bible (NIVSB)ESV Study Bible

Darcia Narvaez, Ph.D. is Professor of Psychology Emerita at the University of Notre Dame and a research pioneer integrating work on child flourishing, human moral development, healthy psyche, and Indigenous Peoples' worldview. Professor Narvaez talks about her breakthrough work, the meaning of "The Evolved Nest," and her new book, "Restoring the Kinship Worldview."About DarciaIn addition to being Professor Emerita of Psychology Emerita at Notre Dame, Darcia is a fellow at the American Psychological Association, and at the American Educational Research Association. She has written, co-authored and edited more than 20 books. Her book, Neurobiology and The Development of Human Morality won the William James Book Award. Her newest book, Restoring the Kinship Worldview, is co-authored with Indigenous worldview scholar, Four Arrows.References The Evolved Nest Neurobiology and The Development of Human Morality Restoring the Kinship Worldview Four Arrows (co-author / co-editor, “The Kinship Worldview”) 9 components of the Evolved Nest Alloparents  Iain McGilchrist, The Master and his Emissary Robin Wall Kimmerer, The Honorable Harvest (from Braiding Sweetgrass) Linda Hogan (Chickasaw Nation) Genevieve Vaughan,  Maternal Gift Economy Nature's Gift Economy David Abram, Spell of the Sensuous  Human microbiome  Symbiosis Melvin Konnor James Prescott  Allan Schore, neurobiological attachment Jon Young, Coyote games Tamarack Song, games to develop intuition David Bohm, physicist, “The real intelligence is insight intelligence and it comes in from the outside.” Program0.00 Welcome & IntroI. THE KINSHIP WORLDVIEW 2:50 What is a “worldview”? 4:30 What is a “Kinship” worldview?6:58 Contrast the Indigenous worldview of connection with the Western worldview of disconnectedness II. THE EVOLVED NEST9:35 What are the characteristics of an “evolved nest”? 11:35 Components of the Evolved Nest:>>  11:45 Soothing perinatal experiences>>   13:00 Breast feeding>>   14:25 Lots of affectionate touch, no negative touch>>   15:20 A welcoming social climate>>   16:25 Alloparents who are responsive >>   16:55 Self-directed play with multiple-age playmates>>   17:55 Nature connection >>   19:14 Routine healing experiences 22:20 On being an animal III. RESTORING THE KINSHIP WORLDVIEW24:55 Talking about the book -- What are you trying to convey with the precepts? 30:18 Darcia: To understand our Nature as a Human species is to understand what Thriving looks like>>   happy, calm, quiet minds, gleeful, childlike>>   sense of humor that's not hostile>>   holding hands, sitting together, enjoying being together… >>   try to make the other person laugh and feel safe>>   there's no big ego, it's “us”.32:00 The Honorable Harvest, Darcia shares favorite quotes, including: “Sustain the ones who sustain you and the Earth will live forever.”34:50 What healing medicine feels like; Tom shares a quote37:05 Darcia: We have a lot of unhealed grief and trauma we pass on, instead of taking time to heal37:30 What is the relationship between the Sacred Feminine and The Maternal Gift Economy? 40:25 Communion, holy union, co-creation, and our interconnectedness 41:10 Darcia on Nature connection and her “Ecological Attachment”, experiment42:30 Rooted and connected: “Our roots extend out from our skin and our other body cavities.” 43:20 The microbiome; "We are communities"44:00 Where does your passion for restoring kinship come from? How are you teaching this? IV. RESTORING OUR WORLD48:10 What should we be doing to restore The Nest?>>   Make sure you yourself are centered; Nature connection is one of the best ways to heal. >>   Learn to get back to social joy. >>   Learn to guide the conscious mind into connection; build the communal imagination. 52:12 What is sustaining your spirit right now?>>   I sing to the 6 directions>>   I sing on my land>>   Lying on the Earth, leaning against a tree, huggling with spouse>>   Try to make my husband laugh, sing and dance together.>>   Keep aware: "I am and always will be part of the Earth."V. CONCLUSION54:30 Final thoughts>>   The first precept: the recognition of spiritual energy in Nature; find that guardian spirit... 57:00 Tom reads a final quote, on Community Welfare (Dona Enriqueta Contreras)57:56 End QuotesEverything the baby experiences engraves the brain for life. So you want to make sure you don't distress the baby because then you're shifting the trajectory away from wellness towards illness or ill-being or adversity.(In a) welcoming social climate, the mother feels supported, the baby is wanted, the community is delighted with having the baby around, and the baby feels like they belong, that they can make a difference, make other people smile and laugh as they are made to smile and laugh…The mother is there to be affectively attuned to the baby's emotional systems to keep maintaining them in the best bio-chemistry for growth.You want to let children have that (self-directed play) experience when they're young so they can build self-confidence. . . When you don't provide the nest, in general, you're deflating that individual…We can get caught up in ruminations, because of this left brain, especially if we weren't raised in a nurturing way, we'll have OCD, worry, depression… all this stuff that goes on when you're un-nested… So we need healing practices to get back into centeredness, into relational connection with others and the natural world, back into gratitude and into our bodies…Our sociology relies on good biology.If we're raised in these nested communities, virtue is a byproduct, is the result. You would not survive in a community, dependent on others, if you were vicious. So, virtue is part of our heritage as well.In the primal wisdom, the kinship worldview, life is relationships with everything, with All other relations, animals, plants, spirits, etc.We're trying to get back to connection, to understand that we are all connected, and that part of being connected properly is to be present, to honor the spider, the tree, the Earth, the computer, these are all things that people are relating to…We are embodied creatures, we're bio-social.Another piece is holism. The way to be human isn't just to be in this thinking mind, that left brain eco-consciousness. It's actually quite distressing to be there.The left brain thinks it knows everything.If your survival systems are overdeveloped and you're easily triggered, the authoritarian is going to be easy to pull you in. . . We forgot that we need to nurture, nurture the heart. And, you have to be immersed in relationships to build the empathy, the sensitivity, and the understanding, and the willingness to forgive, and be generous… All that is part of the Indigenous way, you're immersed in that kind of  social, loving community. And this then allows you to grow your human potential. Which is another thing we're not doing…Generosity is part of who you are a human being. But what Capitalism (to the Gift Economy) has done is stop that flow and allowed people to hoard resources, and force others to not have any resources…Writing “Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality” brought me to the realization that Indigenous wisdom, the kinship worldview, is our heritage. It is what comes about when we honor our physicality, our embodiedness, our species wisdom, and it's what will save us…The Western wisdoms tell us, "Clear your heart, clear your fear, clear your ego, and then be open to divine energies.”Thanks for listening. This podcast is 1 of 4 keynotes from our Summer Solstice 2022 collection, "Restoring Connective Tissue." It was produced and edited by Chris Searles. 

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IntroI know where you live—where Satan has his throne. Yet you remain true to my name. You did not renounce your faith in me…. Revelation 2 1. THE SATANIC UNDERBELLY • Know the real agenda………the real enemy • A conflicting mix • Weeding through it all 2. WHAT YOU SEE AND WHAT YOU DON’T • Eyes to see. • Sin blinds • Satan blinds 3. POLITICAL PLATFORMS THAT SERVE SATAN • If you were satan • If you had to get in and control • 1 John 5…who is in control of this ‘fallen world system’ 4. LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS • God • Word • Prophecy • Church • You file:///C:/Users/shatt/Documents/RADIO%20RAGGED%20EDGE%20NOTES/Targeting%20the%20satanic%20underground.pdf

Day 10 in a row — I'm starting to get the hang of things. On today's show I get into stuff like:We’re changing the podcast introI need a description for the showCan you please review this podcast?Women have sex as their advantage, Men have violenceWanna see my balls?Let Trump supporters grieve in peace, without mocking themI don’t display a gradient in my emotions to others; I only show them “fine” until it’s notI support underdogs, and people who have suffered loss regardless if the loss was an assholeTrump is a shitty child running amok in Walmart, and the GOP are his parents

On this episode: We say goodbye to Bernie and discuss the legacy his two presidential runs have had on the democratic party going forward. The Source of Rodger’s Side Eye has to do with Covid-19 conspiracy theorists. Lastly, a disproportionate amount of Coronavirus victims are from urban black neighborhoods. We discuss the reasons that may be, and remind you to stay at home if you are able. Continued on the next episode…Show Prologue:Brothers Breaking Bread, or the “Triple B Pod”, is a collection of African American professionals, friends, and family that attempt to tackle the important issues of the day. We bring our unique brand of humor, sensitivity, and oftentimes anger to the analysis. The show features Rodger (@KcStork); “The Brothers of Doom” James and Joe; Anthony (10 Meters); Ada (Lady Lavender) and extended #3BPod family. We cut our teeth as podcasters creating nearly 100 episodes of the Negroraguan Podcast, we’ve kept much of the format and traditions with a few personal touches that come with a new show. We sincerely hope you enjoy, and subscribe to the show. Music Cred:Show Intro- We Outchea - Joseph JeffersonOutro- It’s Over – Joseph JeffersonPhoto Editing:Jason JonesTitle: Chemical Radiation/I Will Say it With You “Nnnn...”IntroI’m Distant:https://www.instagram.com/p/B-sxacMDdad/?igshid=1l4lxdqsld4mq&fbclid=IwAR0hM_qLYRDdgGv_jOJqd4ATQSmpxdxvOFerpYaJkdJqewRQQOkkKhfC3I8Bernie Drops out:https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/bernie-sanders-drops-2020-presidential-155921948.htmlNoam on Bernie:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=URZihNBsnjA&feature=share&fbclid=IwAR1kRocveFcixPt5vdP8vg63N74IoNS__fdCIHWzVZGvCcOFDCYQ6NTapQECOVID-19 Updates:Stop Moving: https://twitter.com/jemelehill/status/1248270172458225664?s=09&fbclid=IwAR19DqV2cQYpEoUDc9l9m_PYhBGCkCIXXnLLWSH44FB_sWBYehNMm5Oqw9kBlack Folks can’t win:https://www.kansascity.com/news/coronavirus/article241824321.html?fbclid=IwAR0FdWeNL9HRkmsBwCNclTNv8BCQw4hH-XiPe1XTlxcV56mjwDjh4wHscI8https://www.kansascity.com/opinion/editorials/article241901781.html?fbclid=IwAR1KkHHKa5Xz45L25e-IJSvebU-rykWBWXXUL9wF3YkoiiJxuCxSTOdwK2cCorona bombs:https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/mar/26/hospital-bomb-attack-man-killed-fbi-agents-missouriSpitting and Licking:https://www.cnn.com/2020/04/09/us/woman-licked-grocery-store-items-trnd/index.html?fbclid=IwAR1KkHHKa5Xz45L25e-IJSvebU-rykWBWXXUL9wF3YkoiiJxuCxSTOdwK2cTrump on the rise:https://thehill.com/homenews/administration/492123-trump-hits-record-approval-in-fox-news-poll?fbclid=IwAR19mGjiUm0fxqnHkQ0jeB0Njj_Gm10R476zOWCmRkjm0XilBDaRDRvL2qoElection NewsBiden ad vs Trump ad:https://www.facebook.com/OccupyDemocrats/videos/844223729390613/https://www.cnn.com/2020/04/10/politics/trump-campaign-ad-joe-biden-fact-check/index.html?fbclid=IwAR2fF-5ngPkQSfIKWyTUihXVMcDb2z-49vaHjXScVOctRVn_r2OOBxY5g4Ahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv7yVCwv6NUClosing out and Extra:5G: https://twitter.com/tyrone_brother/status/1247561916572209154?s=20Black Thought spitting:https://twitter.com/tyrone_brother/status/1247561916572209154?s=20Go ahead and say it:https://twitter.com/tyrone_brother/status/1247561916572209154?s=20

Continued from the previous episode: In the midst of the Coronavirus pandemic that was initially written off by the White House and surrogates, a Fox News poll claims that Trump has never been more popular. Black neighborhoods are being denied delivery service, surprising no-one who has ever attempted to order a pizza in the hood. Delroy Lindo encourages white colleagues wanting to say the N word to live the American Dream. Black Thought of the Roots made some noise with a home version of NPR’s Tiny Desk concert series. Show Prologue:Brothers Breaking Bread, or the “Triple B Pod”, is a collection of African American professionals, friends, and family that attempt to tackle the important issues of the day. We bring our unique brand of humor, sensitivity, and oftentimes anger to the analysis. The show features Rodger (@KcStork); “The Brothers of Doom” James and Joe; Anthony (10 Meters); Ada (Lady Lavender) and extended #3BPod family. We cut our teeth as podcasters creating nearly 100 episodes of the Negroraguan Podcast, we’ve kept much of the format and traditions with a few personal touches that come with a new show. We sincerely hope you enjoy, and subscribe to the show. Music Cred:Show Intro- We Outchea - Joseph JeffersonOutro- It’s Over – Joseph JeffersonPhoto Editing:Jason JonesTitle: Chemical Radiation/I Will Say it With You “Nnnn...”IntroI’m Distant:https://www.instagram.com/p/B-sxacMDdad/?igshid=1l4lxdqsld4mq&fbclid=IwAR0hM_qLYRDdgGv_jOJqd4ATQSmpxdxvOFerpYaJkdJqewRQQOkkKhfC3I8Bernie Drops out:https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/bernie-sanders-drops-2020-presidential-155921948.htmlNoam on Bernie:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=URZihNBsnjA&feature=share&fbclid=IwAR1kRocveFcixPt5vdP8vg63N74IoNS__fdCIHWzVZGvCcOFDCYQ6NTapQECOVID-19 Updates:Stop Moving: https://twitter.com/jemelehill/status/1248270172458225664?s=09&fbclid=IwAR19DqV2cQYpEoUDc9l9m_PYhBGCkCIXXnLLWSH44FB_sWBYehNMm5Oqw9kBlack Folks can’t win:https://www.kansascity.com/news/coronavirus/article241824321.html?fbclid=IwAR0FdWeNL9HRkmsBwCNclTNv8BCQw4hH-XiPe1XTlxcV56mjwDjh4wHscI8https://www.kansascity.com/opinion/editorials/article241901781.html?fbclid=IwAR1KkHHKa5Xz45L25e-IJSvebU-rykWBWXXUL9wF3YkoiiJxuCxSTOdwK2cCorona bombs:https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/mar/26/hospital-bomb-attack-man-killed-fbi-agents-missouriSpitting and Licking:https://www.cnn.com/2020/04/09/us/woman-licked-grocery-store-items-trnd/index.html?fbclid=IwAR1KkHHKa5Xz45L25e-IJSvebU-rykWBWXXUL9wF3YkoiiJxuCxSTOdwK2cTrump on the rise:https://thehill.com/homenews/administration/492123-trump-hits-record-approval-in-fox-news-poll?fbclid=IwAR19mGjiUm0fxqnHkQ0jeB0Njj_Gm10R476zOWCmRkjm0XilBDaRDRvL2qoElection NewsBiden ad vs Trump ad:https://www.facebook.com/OccupyDemocrats/videos/844223729390613/https://www.cnn.com/2020/04/10/politics/trump-campaign-ad-joe-biden-fact-check/index.html?fbclid=IwAR2fF-5ngPkQSfIKWyTUihXVMcDb2z-49vaHjXScVOctRVn_r2OOBxY5g4Ahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv7yVCwv6NUClosing out and Extra:5G: https://twitter.com/tyrone_brother/status/1247561916572209154?s=20Black Thought spitting:https://twitter.com/tyrone_brother/status/1247561916572209154?s=20Go ahead and say it:https://twitter.com/tyrone_brother/status/1247561916572209154?s=20

IntroI want to give a warm welcome to my wonderful guest today, Ali Fazal, Senior Director of Marketing at Hibob. Now, I've been following this company for at least 180 years, and I'm excited to learn a little bit more about him and the company.In his words, Hibob is a modern employee engagement platform that helps companies attract, excite, and retain top talent. This is even more relevant in today's climate, where you want to keep your best people more than ever.We're talking with Ali today about Diversity & Inclusion. We're going to discuss what that means, get some basic advice, and then learn what some of the barriers are that companies may encounter.Read the rest here.

Friend, let’s be real. Have you ever wondered why Jesus called the twelve disciples -- like what made them special? Why those guys? How about reading through Scripture and seeing that there is an unforgivable sin? Do you ever fear that you have committed it and felt the fear and shame of not knowing if you are “really saved?” Last question: do you feel lonely? Your family and friends might be there, but you still feel the emptiness of --well, life? If you identify with any of these, I am so glad you tuned in because we are going to work through Mark 3:13-35 where we learn that Bold is… trusting Jesus even in strange circumstances.IntroI will never forget the day that I was on the bus in 4th grade. One of the girls I sat near told me that if I ever said that the Holy Spirit did not exist (or even thought it), I was definitely going to hell because that was an unforgivable sin. Talk about gut wrenching. Not something you want to hear as a kid. She meant well, she was passionate and excited, but that it the problem with poor exegesis… that’s not what the verse means.If you have ever thought this, DON’T WORRY! We will clear all this up. Here on the Bold is… podcast, I like to read the passage together then break it down verse by verse. If you are interested in following along with me, I am reading from the New Living Translation today.This is Mark 3:13-3513 Afterward, Jesus went up on a mountain and called out the ones he wanted to go with him. And they came to him. 14 Then he appointed twelve of them and called them his apostles. They were to accompany him, and he would send them out to preach, 15 giving them authority to cast out demons. 16 These are the twelve he chose: Simon (whom he named Peter), 17 James and John (the sons of Zebedee, but Jesus nicknamed them “Sons of Thunder”), 18 Andrew, Philip, Bartholomew, Matthew, Thomas, James (son of Alphaeus), Thaddaeus, Simon (the zealot), 19 Judas Iscariot (who later betrayed him). 20 One time Jesus entered a house, and the crowds began to gather again. Soon he and his disciples couldn’t even find time to eat. 21 When his family heard what was happening, they tried to take him away. “He’s out of his mind,” they said. 22 But the teachers of religious law who had arrived from Jerusalem said, “He’s possessed by Satan, the prince of demons. That’s where he gets the power to cast out demons.” 23 Jesus called them over and responded with an illustration. “How can Satan cast out Satan?” he asked. 24 “A kingdom divided by civil war will collapse. 25 Similarly, a family splintered by feuding will fall apart. 26 And if Satan is divided and fights against himself, how can he stand? He would never survive. 27 Let me illustrate this further. Who is powerful enough to enter the house of a strong man and plunder his goods? Only someone even stronger—someone who could tie him up and then plunder his house. 28 “I tell you the truth, all sin and blasphemy can be forgiven, 29 but anyone who blasphemes the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven. This is a sin with eternal consequences.” 30 He told them this because they were saying, “He’s possessed by an evil spirit.” 31 Then Jesus’ mother and brothers came to see him. They stood outside and sent word for him to come out and talk with them. 32 There was a crowd sitting around Jesus, and someone said, “Your mother and your brothers are outside asking for you.” 33 Jesus replied, “Who is my mother? Who are my brothers?” 34 Then he looked at those around him and said, “Look, these are my mother and brothers. 35 Anyone who does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.”Shoo, okay -- let’s try to break this down. Starting in verses 13-19:13 Afterward, Jesus went up on a mountain and called out the ones he wanted to go with him. And they came to him. 14 Then he appointed twelve of them and called them his apostles. They were to accompany him, and he would send them out to preach, 15 giving them authority to cast out demons. 16 These are the twelve he chose: Simon (whom he named Peter), 17 James and John (the sons of Zebedee, but Jesus nicknamed them “Sons of Thunder”), 18 Andrew, Philip, Bartholomew, Matthew, Thomas, James (son of Alphaeus), Thaddaeus, Simon (the zealot), 19 Judas Iscariot (who later betrayed him). Jesus calls twelve men to follow Him.The number 12 has a purpose, this is not a random number. There is a redemptive-historical significance to it, according to Lane. These twelve men represent the 12 tribes of Israel. God’s chosen people originally came from the 12 tribes of Israel and is continued through the work of Christ and His 12 followers.Their job was to do ministry with Him, and after Him which is still the mission for His followers today (remember the Great Commission in Matthew 28)Here’s something that is super interesting: the promise that is given to these twelve men (and now to us) is that they share the power of the kingdom, that we now have access to through the means of Christ. I know that the names of the disciples are broken down here, but I want to revisit this at another time. Each disciple is very interesting in the way he was recruited to follow Jesus, the ministry He did with Jesus, and what their lives were like after Jesus ascended into heaven. We hope to complete an informational packet on this one day, but for now lets keep moving forward with the rest of chapter 3 in Mark.20 One time Jesus entered a house, and the crowds began to gather again. Soon he and his disciples couldn’t even find time to eat. 21 When his family heard what was happening, they tried to take him away. “He’s out of his mind,” they said. Fun fact, Mark is the only gospel to report this incident. The crowds were so big that Jesus was not even able to eat. His family states “he’s out of his mind” and this probably happened because He was claiming to be God.22 But the teachers of religious law who had arrived from Jerusalem said, “He’s possessed by Satan, the prince of demons. That’s where he gets the power to cast out demons.” Okay, listen to this: the late Bible scholar William Lane said, “The arrival of a delegation of legal specialists from Jerusalem suggests that the Galilean mission of Jesus had attracted the critical attention of the Sanhedrin. The scribes know that Jesus has a considerable following and that he possesses the power to expel demons. It is possible that they were official emissaries from the Great Sanhedrin who came to examine Jesus’ miracles and to determine whether Capernaum should be declared a :seduced” city” the prey of an apostate preacher. Such a declaration required a thorough investigation made on the spot by official envoys in order to determine the extent of the defection and to distinguish between the instigators, the apostates and the innocent.”23 Jesus called them over and responded with an illustration. “How can Satan cast out Satan?” he asked. 24 “A kingdom divided by civil war will collapse. 25 Similarly, a family splintered by feuding will fall apart. 26 And if Satan is divided and fights against himself, how can he stand? He would never survive. 27 Let me illustrate this further. Who is powerful enough to enter the house of a strong man and plunder his goods? Only someone even stronger—someone who could tie him up and then plunder his house. I love this next passage. This is Jesus using logic and reason that somehow escapes the brains of those around him. He is like -- guys, why would satan cast out satan? Why would he destroy his own realm… think about it. So simple, pure, and true… in true Jesus fashion.28 “I tell you the truth, all sin and blasphemy can be forgiven, 29 but anyone who blasphemes the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven. This is a sin with eternal consequences.” 30 He told them this because they were saying, “He’s possessed by an evil spirit.”Okay, first of all, we must remember to keep this in context. Remember who Jesus is surrounded by… “legal specialist” and remember what they just accused Jesus of… “being satan”. They are giving demons and satan credit for the Holy Spirit’s work. They are not accepting that salvation is through Jesus, and this my friends is what He means when he says, “blasphemes the Holy Spirit.”Alright, ladies, let’s wrap this up. 31 Then Jesus’ mother and brothers came to see him. They stood outside and sent word for him to come out and talk with them. 32 There was a crowd sitting around Jesus, and someone said, “Your mother and your brothers are outside asking for you.” 33 Jesus replied, “Who is my mother? Who are my brothers?” 34 Then he looked at those around him and said, “Look, these are my mother and brothers. 35 Anyone who does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.”Jesus took this interruption and made it a teaching moment. Jesus is expressing His sincerity to the crowd by calling those around Him His family. If you believe, welcome to the family.That was a lot of information in a little bit of time. So, what does all this mean for us today?Guys, the only unforgivable sin is not accepting the grace of Jesus. When He died on the cross, He said, “IT IS FINISHED.” There is nothing you can do that will make Him not love you. Let that sink in. Ladies, it’s been so much fun finishing up Mark 3. Tune in next week as we begin chapter 4. If you don’t mind, leave us a rating and review and we would be so very grateful! Go out and be bold.

IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for this discussion on Collective Grief. What do you think Collective Grief means? The name kind of gives it away. Collective grief is when a loss occurs and it’s felt by a group. Collective grief doesn’t have to limited to one’s local neighborhood. Collective grief can occur when a traumatic event happens in one’s state, society, nation, or world wide. I can recall when terrorist attacked Paris in 2015. The devastation was felt worldwide. Buildings and monuments in many countries including Australia, Pyramids of Giza, Dubai, London, Mexico City, Tokyo, and many more places expressed mourning and support by lighting up landmarks in blue, white, and red, which are the colors of the French flag. Collective grief can be the result of many different types of traumatic events, such as war, death of a public figure, act of terrorism, a hate crime, or a natural disaster. In 2005, Hurricane Katrina, a category 5 hurricane took almost 2,000 lives, and in 2010, Haiti experienced massive earthquakes that impacted an estimated 3 million people. Videos, pictures, and stories allowed people all over the world to witness theses natural disasters and it’s impact on fellow human beings. The loss experienced brought grief to many communities and nations.Collective grief can be validating for some. Being able to verbalize and express your sadness, disbelief, or anger after a loss and have a group of people who are also having the same reaction can bring comfort. It reminds you that you’re not alone. That someone else is having the same experience as you. When you realize that you’re not alone, empowerment steps in. In 2018, there was a school shooting in Parkland, Florida and 17 people were killed. The students of that school came together and not only vocalized their grief, but in a matter of 5 weeks, they put together a national protest called March for Our Lives where they expressed their concerns and desires for a change in gun laws. Them coming together is an example of when people share a common feeling, they can become empowered to strive to make changes. When 9/11 happened here in the U.S., there was an increase in enlistment into the military and supporting government agencies. Some joined because they saw others experiencing the same feelings they were having and was empowered to take action to hopefully make a difference. Collective grief also allows people to mourn together. When a public figure dies or a murder happens in a community, here in the U.S., many times there’s a candlelit vigil. When someone dies in a family, there’s usually a funeral or a memorial service. In D.C. and on government properties, the flag will fly half mast in response to a tragedy. Some people call these acts a ritual or a tradition. However you want to see them, it’s undeniably a way for people to mourn together. For us to feel validated in our grief. Another common way collective grief can be experienced is by going to a memorial. There are memorials all over the world that shed light on historical tragedies, such as the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in D.C., the Korean War Memorial in South Korea, the Holocaust Memorial in Berlin, or the Taj Mahal in India. All of these memorials are for us to come together to mourn and remember those who have died. Collective grief doesn’t always mean people will come together and agree on how to mourn or what the next steps should be. The United States was shook after the Columbine High School shooting. 13 people were killed, the 2 shooters were killed and 20 others were wounded. I was in middle school at the time and I can recall seeing news reports entire demeanor change as they tried to hold back tears while sharing the tragic information. Weeks after the shooting, a gentleman drove several states over to Colorado to make a memorial for those who were killed that day. He brought

The belief behind the technique is when we are able to non judgmentally acknowledge and accept another person for where they are, it helps reduce intense emotions. By engaging in radical acceptance, the gentleman is able to reduce his level of frustration. Keep in mind that radical acceptance doesn’t equal agreement, it’s a mere way of acknowledging what is happening in a nonjudgmental fashion.That’s an excerpt from the show. Today, we’ll be discussing Insights from my most recent Managing My Grief Workshop, and, here’s the intro.IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for this discussion on Insights from Grief Workshop. As you already may know, I’m the Founder and Executive Director of Inspirational Hope. It’s a non profit organization that supports individuals who’ve experienced grief and sexual assault. We provide workshops and have a yearly fall conference. Last year at the conference, a young lady shared with me her desire to have a more hands on experience to be able to process the information that was shared. During the next few months, I created Managing My Grief Workshops that’s done through my LLC. Last week, I had my second all day Managing My Grief Workshop and was reminded of a key component of grief that is many times not discussed. The workshop begins with the typical ice breaker, then transitions into the nitty gritty of grief, the grieving process, how an individual’s family’s culture plays a role in the grieving process, we talk about coping skills, triggers, support systems, and space to even do a few role plays. Throughout each section of the workshop, I enjoy hearing how one navigates through their grief and them giving me and others attendees the opportunity to give support and guidance to navigate through the grief more efficiently. In this particular workshop, there was and overarching theme I heard throughout the day and it was lack of empathy from family and peers. In a previous podcast, I discussed disenfranchised grief. If you haven’t listened to the show, I encourage you to listen to Disenfranchised Grief after finishing this show to understand the diverse categories. To recap, disenfranchised grief is when someone experiences a loss and those around them minimize or don’t acknowledge the impact of the loss. In the workshop, we had individuals who were currently going through grief and others who provide support to those who are grieving whether it was through their work or volunteering. It was interesting to see how the conversation transpired. I opened up the discussion by sharing a quote from Megan Devine’s book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand. The quote is, “we aren’t’ here to fix our pain but to tend to it.” Due to the richness and her authentic perception on how grief is mishandled in the U.S. culture, Megan Devine’s book will be broken down in a future podcast. After sharing the quote on “fix our pain,” versus “tend to it,” we took a deeper dive into this concept and that’s where the intriguing part of the discussion occurred. A side note, all attendees sign a waiver giving me permission to share their stories and insights to help others, with the expectation that their identity will be kept confidential. I can’t help but be inspired by how authentic and eager the attendees were to talk about their experience related to getting support from others, or in many cases, lack of support. There was one gentleman in particular who enthusiastically shared how when his daughter died, he was tired of hearing people tell him, “I’m sorry for your loss.” He shared how every time someone made remarks similar to being sorry, anger would rise inside of him. There was a woman there who volunteers in giving others support who are grieving. She was becoming noticeably uncomfortable while the gentleman was passionately and almost on the verge of

MMG7 Types of Grief: Cumulative GriefExperiencing grief after a loss is challenging in itself, but to add more loss can bring on what some call, “grief overload.” That’s an excerpter from the show. Today, we’ll be discussing Cumulative Grief And, here’s the intro.IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for this discussion on Cumulative GriefDid you know that there are different types of grief? While we discuss Cumulative Grief, keep in mind that it isn’t “good” or “bad,” it’s a mere way for you to identify what you are experiencing. When you understand what you are experiencing, it can be used as a grounding place and it can bring normalcy to the experience, which in itself is gratifying and beneficial. Cumulative Grief is when someone experiences multiple losses within a short period of time.Experiencing grief after a loss is challenging in itself, but to add more loss can bring on what some call, “grief overload.” When someone experiences grief overload or cumulative grief, they many times have thoughts of “I’m going out of my mind,” or “I’m going to have a nervous breakdown.” Please understand that this reaction is normal, very normal to an abnormal situation. There are many reactions people can have after experiencing multiple losses in a short period of time, such as denial or a state of shock. Your brain is an amazing and powerful organ. Some come from the belief system that your subconscious mind will only share information with your conscious mind when needed. That your subconscious mind is partially designed to only give your conscious mind information it can process at that moment. So when someone is in denial after experiencing a loss, one can see it as that person’s subconscious mind is protecting them from reality because their conscious mind can’t handle processing the multiple loss at this moment. The relationship between your conscious mind and subconscious mind is much more complicated and layered that what I described, but that’s a very simplistic overview. For those who like analogies, here’s one that was taken from GriefRecoveryMethod.com “Visualize what is happening inside you. Most of us have a drawer, cupboard or closet where we store those scattered items that we might need some day, but do not know what to do with in the meantime. (We have a neighbor down the street who appears to have an entire garage filled with such things.) When we open this container, it is often difficult to find anything amid all of that clutter. It can be overwhelming. This is very much like our personal internal storage center for those grief filled memories of our life. It is such a random collection of memories of sad moments from our life that it is difficult to isolate each individual thought.”The belief that our subconscious mind will only share what your conscious mind can handle, and the analogy that our internal experience is like a messy drawer or closet resulting on one becoming overwhelmed and shutting down, can be seen as defense mechanisms. While family members may try to force a loved one to acknowledge multiple losses, the person experiencing the cumulative grief has intentionally or unintentionally created a defense mechanism to protect themselves from the pain and sadness of their loss. History of trauma is a factor to consider that can play a key role in the use of defense mechanisms. So, what to do?Please be understanding of yourself and others who are in denial or shock after experiencing multiple losses in a short period of time. It may be possible that your conscious mind is unable to processes that information at this time. The grand impact of those losses may be too overwhelming for you to process and that’s okay. When you are ready, take one step at a time to work through your Cumulative Grief. You can learn to manage the grief that derived from your multiple losses

MMG4 Types of Grief: Normal GriefWhen exploring normal grief many take it from their own perspective, when in all actuality, it’s about asking does the person’s reaction make sense with their context…. We live in a quick fix it type of world and unfortunately, that many times carries over into grief. Grief isn’t something to be fixed, it’s something to experience. Its not right or wrong, it just is. It’s a natural experience after loss.That’s an excerpter from the show. Today, we’ll be discussing Normal Grief, and, here’s the intro.IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for this discussion on Normal Grief. Did you know that there are 15 types of grief? Death alone is challenging to grieve, but there are other losses that occur after losing companionship, such as changes in family roles, financial changes, and loss of dreams of what could be. Keep in mind that the type of grief we’ll be discussing isn’t “good” or “bad,” it’s a mere way for you to identify what you are experiencing. When you understand what you are experiencing, it can be used as a grounding place and it can bring normalcy to the experience, which in itself is gratifying and beneficial. Normal Grief is defined as the ability to move towards acceptance of loss. The initially intensity of emotions such as pain, sadness, loneliness, anger, guilt, and yearning gradually decreases. People who experience normal grief are able to function in their daily activities such as maintaining healthy eating habits, taking showers, meeting work goals, taking care of family, paying bills, and other life responsibilities. While preparing for the show I came across an insightful question regarding normal and abnormal grief. The questions comes from Whatsyourgrief.com. Which of the following grief related behaviors is abnormal?A. A father who visits his son’s grave every morning B. A widower who continues to wear his wedding ring 5 years after his wife’s death C. A woman who refuses to part with her deceased mother’s belongings D. A woman who avoids the restaurant where she met her deceased husband E. A man who experiences intensely emotional days two years after his daughter’s death F. None of the above – you have no idea what’s normal for anyone else in their grief.If you guessed (F), congratulations you get 100%This particular article goes on to explain that humans naturally categorize things, resulting in us trying to place things in a nice and neat box. When something doesn’t fit into the box we created, we consider that behavior or situation to be abnormal. Grief isn’t simple enough to put into a box, now combine that complexity with each human being’s uniqueness in perspective, experiences, personality, genetics, and culture. Lets look at an example to try to understand how complex grief can be. Chris is a 22 yo who’s mother died a couple months before he graduated from college. Graduation comes and he was able to have 2 weeks between graduation and his first day of work at his new job. He decided to go home where his father and younger brother still live. When he walks into the house for the first time, he sees a picture that his mother and him took the night of his Senior Prom. Chris feels intense distress has thoughts that he can’t survive without her and breaks down and cries. The 2 weeks go by quickly. As he leaves the house to start his adult life, he sees the picture again. This time, he feels a closeness to his mother, has thoughts that she will always be with him and sheds a few tears. The object didn’t change. Chris had the similar outward reactions of tearfulness. The thing that changes was his internal reaction, grief, his thoughts and emotions. Even in normal grief, things can be unpredictable at times because “your relationship with certain thoughts, objects

MMG3 Types of Grief: Anticipatory GriefIn this particular study done in Sweden, they revealed that 4 out of 10 widows reported that “the pre-loss period was more stressful than the post-loss.” That’s an excerpter from the show. Today, we’ll be discussing Anticipatory Grief and, here’s the intro.IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for this discussion on Anticipatory Grief. Did you know that there are 15 types of grief? Death alone is challenging to grieve, but there are other losses that occur after losing companionship, such as changes in family roles, financial changes, and loss of dreams of what could be. Keep in mind that the type of grief we’ll be discussing isn’t “good” or “bad,” it’s a mere way for you to identify what you are experiencing. When you understand what you are experiencing, it can be used as a grounding place and it can bring normalcy to the experience, which in itself is gratifying and beneficial. Anticipatory Grief or what some call Preparatory Grief occurs before death. This type of grief is common to experience when someone finds out that a loved one or they themselves will eventually die, usually related to a chronic illness or a surgery gone wrong.Its extremely challenging because the person is in an in between place. On one hand wanting to embrace hope that the person will live, while on the other hand trying to cope with the idea of losing the person, all while trying to enjoy the time they have left with the person. Since anticipatory grief is rarely discussed, people experiencing it often feel isolated. If they were to express their grief, many times people aren’t supportive or don’t accept the person’s pain because the person who is sick is still living.Think about the partner who finds out their spouse has stage 4 cancer and only have a few months to live. What are some things that partner is told? “How’s your spouse doing?” or “It’s great that you get to spend that last few months together.” Here’s a common one, “It’s unfortunately the doctors found out too late. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.” While all these comments sounds supportive and empathetic, in reality, they are superficial and non-supportive to the person experiencing the grief. True empathetic comments will go something like this, “Wow, I can’t imagine what it’s like to have to watch a spouse slowly die. How are you handling it?” or “This whole situation is tough and I’m sure its hard to handle this alone. If you ever want to talk or have someone to sit with, let me know.” Or “This has to be painful for you. How are you dealing with your upcoming loss?”Do you hear the difference between the set of comments? One doesn’t truly acknowledge the spouse and the second set sees that spouse for where they are and what they are experiencing. In our fast paced self-centered world, many deliberately choose the first set because it elicits a precise and non-deeply emotional response, resulting in the person commenting feeling as if they supported, but in reality dismissed the grief that the person is experiencing. Yes, it will take time to sit and listen or to sit in silence with someone, but if you truly want to support the person, you have to see the person for where they are mentally and emotionally. There was a Swedish study done with widows who’s relatives were dying from cancer. The study used the Anticipatory Grief Scale which was created in 1991 that uses the Likert Scale. In this case the scale was 1-5. One meaning Strongly Disagree and 5 meaning Strongly Agree. The widows filled out this self-assessment questionnaire based on what they were currently experiencing . Questions ranges in topics from daydreaming about how things use to be before the diagnose, to feelings, reactions, and future thoughts. In this particular study done in Sweden, they revealed that 4 out of 10 widows re

Many people who minimize their experience with loss because people who they are close to didn’t validate their experience. Loss is a part of life, so naturally, grief is a part of life. If someone you know minimizes your experience with loss, whether it’s loss of a job, death of a partner, or leaving college, remind yourself that this is your experience. Not theirs, so they aren’t always going to understand.That’s an excerpter from the show. Today, we’ll be discussing Events that Cause Grief. And, here’s the intro.IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for this discussion on Events that Cause Grief.When you hear someone is grieving, what’s the first thing you think? If you thought something along the lines of someone must of died, you’re with the majority. Although death is definitely a leading cause for someone to experience grief, there are other events that happen in life that can lead to grieving. As I was preparing for the show and looking over these definitions, I was reminded and touched by how deeply the pain of being deprived can be. How you want something back so badly, but are unable to attain that thing again. To never be able to experience something the way it was once experienced and only have memories or items to remind you of that experience. It’s understandable why grief is so challenging to live with and why some deliberately choose to push down their grief instead of acknowledging it. The pain can be overwhelming to even think about for some. After listening to the show, if you feel overwhelmed or down, remember to do something healthy to lift your spirits. I’ll share a few ideas at the end as well. In a previous show discussed what grief. To listen, go to the Defining Grief, Mourning, and Bereavement Show. For now, I’ll give an overview. Grief is basically the inward distress one has after experiencing a loss. Loss and lose have many definitions in the Webster’s Dictionary. Some of which include, to miss from one’s possession; to suffer deprivation of; to part with especially in an unforeseen or accidental manner; the harm resulting from separation; a decrease in amount, magnitude, or degree, and several more definitions. So how does this relate to identifying events that lead to grief? It’s all about one’s internal reaction. Two people can have the same experience, but based on genetics, perspective, experiences, and many more factors, the two individuals will have completely different reactions. Take for example one who experiences a divorce. Divorce is a common cause for grief. While one person who is getting a divorce may feel elated, another person may feel deprived, heartbroken, and distressed, resulting in them experiencing grief. While listening to this list, understand that not everyone who has these experiences will also experience grief.This list was taken from GreifRecoveryMethod.com Now, let’s get to the list. A few events include, death of a spouse, death of a family member or friend, divorce, and marital separation. This next one I found to be very interesting, marriage. Marriage in itself can bring grief. There are other aspects to marriage that can bring grief, such as, an increase in conflict within a marriage. Imprisonment is another event that can lead to grief. Grief is very common amongst people who experience chronic illnesses. This part of the list includes loss of control of body, change in health of a family member, personal injury or illness. Elizabeth Kubler Ross was a Swiss-American Psychiatrist who wrote a book called On Death and Dying. In her book she interviewed 200 cancer patients, which is where we get the 5 stages of grief or what some may call the Kubler-Ross Model. In a future show I’ll discuss the different stages or experiences of grief. Kubler-Ross did a superb job in showing how many people with

Transcript:When one experience loss, they are essentially, deprived of something or someone. Although someone appears to be functioning magnificently in society, in reality, within the confines of their home, they could be mourning.That’s an excerpt from the show. Today, we’ll be discussing Defining Grief, Mourning, and Bereavement. And, here’s the intro.IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for my first Managing My Grief Podcast Show. This discussion is on Defining Grief, Mourning, and Bereavement.Many times we hear someone use the terms grief, mourn, and bereavement interchangeably, but do you really know what they mean? Grief, according to Webster’s Dictionary, is a “deep and poignant distress caused by or as if by bereavement.” While mourning’s definition is, “to feel or express grief or sorrow; to show the customary signs of grief for a death” They may sound similar, but they are quite different. Grief can be viewed as the internal reaction after experiencing loss, such as anger, sadness, or hurt.And mourning is the outward expression of grief. For example, a child loses their parent. Inwardly, they may experience confusion and anger, that’s grief. Outwardly they may cry, or become more aggressive towards peers, and that is mourning.At times you may hear people say, “They’re still mourning,” or recently someone shared with me that they haven’t mourned their father’s death yet because they have to focus on supporting their family. In a future show we’ll talk about the different reasons why someone may not mourn immediately after a loss. For now, I’m going to share a story with you so see if you can identify the grief and mourning. Again, grief is internal reaction and mourning is the outward expression. Keep in mind that sometimes, mourning isn’t obvious. Chris is a 22 year old who recently lost his mother. He continues attending classes and maintaining good grades in college. Chris continues spending time with his friend, and seems to be functioning as well as when his mother was still living. Several weeks pass, a few of his friends notice that when they go out to eat, he doesn’t eat as much, sometimes, doesn’t eat at all. His friend’s jokingly confront him and he jokes back saying, “I’m trying to lose weight.” As finals draw near, he dives more into studying and passes all of his classes. At graduation, distant relatives notice Chris’ loss in weight and make a few comments on how handsome he looks. Throughout the graduation celebration, family members tell him how proud his mom would be if she were here. He oddly looks down, says thanking, and moves away to talk with other people. Were you able to pick up on the grief and mourning Chris was experiencing? The grief Chris experienced was depression. There’s a difference between sadness and depression. The initial difference is the length. Sadness typically lasts no more than 2 weeks, but if someone experiences sadness consistently for 2 or more weeks, then that experience can be classified as depression. The depression Chris was experiencing was being manifested by losing his appetite and not eating as much. His method of mourning was not eating. Now that’s not to say that he deliberately chose to lose his appetite. Losing his appetite was how the grief chose to manifest itself outwardly. Everyone experiences grief differently resulting in them mourning differently, and that’s okay, that’s what make’s us unique. On to bereavement. Bereavement is another term we may hear someone use. “Oh, they are in bereavement,” or related to work, someone may say “they’re gone for bereavement.” Here in the U.S. most jobs provide a 3 day Bereavement Period for people to “deal with the death of a family member.” Which by the way, 3 days isn’t long enough to “deal” with loss, but that’s another discussion. There are some empl

We are still preparing for our very classy episode. In the meantime, here is a buffer episode. Gothic Garra and Naruto (really?) from the Konoha Corner Podcast join us to talk about the upcoming anime season. Also, Funk.Click here to download episode (Right-click and Save As)(0:00 - 11:25) IntroI’m surprised no one said Cheerios or Rice... Visit www.ssaapodcast.com for the full notes

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