Medium Lady Talks

In this heartfelt episode of Medium Lady Talks, Erin is joined by filmmaker and memory-keeper Kalee Isbell, founder of Isbell Family Films, to explore how photography and family videos can become a vital tool in your self-care toolkit. What starts as a chat about taking more selfies quickly unfolds into a deeper conversation about postpartum depression, creative healing, and the emotional power of seeing yourself—and your life—through a different lens. Kalee shares how her journey began with a “One Second a Day” video project during her son's first year, eventually leading her to discover joy and healing in documenting life's quiet magic. With warmth and honesty, she reveals how editing home videos during postpartum depression offered her a new perspective that helped shift her mindset from overwhelm to appreciation. Together, Erin and Kalee unpack: Why photos can be part of presence, not separate from it The science behind creativity and mental health recovery How “prompting vs. perfectionism” can transform family photos Tips for guilt-free memory-keeping (hint: outsourcing counts!) Why you should take the photo with YOU in it, especially on the good days A clever hack for milestone photos that reduces pressure and perfectionism The emotional resonance of seeing your past self—and giving her some tenderness Whether you're navigating early motherhood, managing digital overwhelm, or looking for a low-lift way to prioritize your well-being, this episode is your gentle nudge to take the selfie, make the memory, and remember that being seen matters.

In Episode 139 of Medium Lady Talks, I'm joined by floral designer and creative entrepreneur Jennifer Lasachuk, owner of The Paisley Rose in Mississauga. Jennifer has been running her floral business for nine years—exactly as long as she's been a mom—and together we explore how matrescence and entrepreneurship often arrive hand-in-hand. As someone who launched Medium Lady when my youngest was born, I couldn't relate more to her journey of identity, creativity, and growth. We dig into what it really takes to thrive as a florist in a female-dominated profession often underestimated by mainstream narratives. Jennifer lovingly debunks the myths of the "bridezilla" and the "sweet florist main character," shining a light on the bold, practical, and deeply artistic work behind event floristry. She shares her grounded approach to dreaming big: believe in your vision, but back it up with logic and skill. We also talk about what self-care looks like in the midst of personal transitions, including Jennifer's reflections on her separation, motherhood, and finding space for herself outside of the roles she holds for others. ✨ If you're a woman feeling the spark of something new, a creative dream that won't let go—this episode is for you. As Jen says: “Trust that feeling in your body. You have to share it.” Topics We Cover: The parallel paths of motherhood and entrepreneurship What matrescence teaches us about identity, ambition, and becoming Busting floral industry myths and reclaiming the florist as a business leader The behind-the-scenes truth about running a female-led creative business Balancing big dreams with logic, skill, and resilience Navigating self-care through personal transformation and separation Why trusting your creative instincts matters more than perfection Links Mentioned: Follow Jennifer and The Paisley Rose on Instagram: @thepaisleyrose Learn more about floral design for events and Jennifer's amazing work on her website. 

What if your nervous system didn't believe it was safe to want something just for you? In Episode 138 of Medium Lady Talks, Erin is joined by life coach Cecelia Mandryk (@ceceliabmandryk) to continue our series on How to Take Care of Yourself. Together, they explore the difference between dopamine-driven quick fixes and the courageous work of sustained self-care. Cecelia offers powerful tools and reframes that help high-functioning people make their minds a calmer, safer place to be. Erin and Cecelia talk about: Why identifying what YOU want can feel threatening when you've learned to meet everyone else's expectations How our culture of outrage keeps us stuck—and how to move from reactivity to empowered action A step-by-step walk-through of tending to your nervous system when you're feeling overwhelmed or angry The magic of nervous system regulation (even when your brain tells you it won't work) Why the actions you take from empowerment might look the same as outrage-driven ones—but feel completely different ✨ “You can't choose something better until you know what you're choosing.” — this quote from Cecelia hit me hard and stayed with me. You'll also hear: A grounded reminder from Walt Whitman that it's okay to be a contradiction My frustration with the way self-care has been co-opted by consumerism—and how Cecelia helped me reframe that into compassion A call to reclaim self-care as simple, nourishing, and deeply powerful This is a conversation for anyone feeling burned out, stuck in rage or fear, or unsure how to move forward without losing themselves.

In episode 137 of Medium Lady Talks we continue the How to Take Care of Yourself series, I'm joined by surface designer and illustrator Devon Bennett of PencilsnParsley. Together, we explore how making something just for the joy of it — no fancy supplies, no pressure — can be a powerful form of creative self-care. Devon reminds us that you don't have to be an artist to start creating. You don't even have to look at your finished piece! It's about the process, not the outcome — and it's in that process that you'll often find clarity, calm, and emotional release. We cover: Devon's early creative spark with her self-published childhood comic Oh Corncob! Why Devon recommends Find Your Artistic Voice by Lisa Congdon to anyone rediscovering their creativity How creating without judgment builds emotional resilience and strengthens self-trust Devon's practice of using art to process anxiety — and how she even brings her drawings to therapy sessions The magic of starting with what you have — just set a timer, grab whatever supplies are nearby, and get messy! The importance of practicing non-judgment when making art (and why progress is happening, even when you can't see it) One of Devon's favorite mottos: "The only wasted paint is what's left in the tube." How Devon approaches resistance to creativity with compassion, not criticism Why Devon's positive affirmation sticker series is all about encouragement and gentle growth Final advice on how to make time for creativity even in busy seasons — and the reminder that there are multiple ways to be consistent. Plus, I share one of my favorite quotes from Gretchen Rubin: "A thing that can be done anytime is often done at no time." — a gentle nudge to carve out a little time for creativity today. ✨ Resources & Links Mentioned: Find Devon's work, stickers, and art for sale: PencilsnParsley.com Support Devon's creative journey on Patreon Follow Devon's playful art adventures on YouTube Shorts Book rec: Find Your Artistic Voice by Lisa Congdon

Episode 136 of Medium Lady Talks is a refreshingly honest and hilariously real conversation with my two best friends, Sarah and Emily. We share a candid conversation about taking medication for mental health. One of us is a routine queen when it comes to her meds, one of us is a little chaotic (but loveable!), and I've taken mental health medication during two meaningful chapters of my life. Together, we open up about what it really looks like to take care of yourself with the help of medication. Whether you're currently on meds, have been in the past, or are considering talking to your doctor—this episode is for you. We talk about how we got started, what keeps us going (or doesn't), finding the right therapist and therapy modality, and why meds are a support system, not a shortcut. We also keep it light, with a healthy dose of friend banter and real-life encouragement. This episode is part of our “How to Take Care of Yourself” series—because self-care isn't all bubble baths and meditation apps. Sometimes, it's filling your prescription and taking your meds.

In episode 135 of Medium Lady Talks, Erin shares five meaningful ways to celebrate yourself as part of the ongoing "How to Take Care of Yourself" series. Inspired by her recent 42nd birthday, Erin makes the case that celebrating yourself isn't indulgent, it's necessary for sustained well-being. Episode Highlights: Celebrating yourself is a practice, skill, and mindset that contributes to your sustained well-being Why saying "it out loud" is the first step to genuine self-celebration How scheduling solo celebration time honours your finite time and personal worth The power of inviting others into your celebrations to amplify joy Why giving to others from a place of fullness creates positive ripples The importance of taking your time with celebrations instead of rushing through them Resources Mentioned: Gretchen Rubin: Author of "The Happiness Project" who explains how personal celebration is a cornerstone of sustainable happiness through habits and rituals Tamu Thomas: Author of "Women Who Work Too Much" who describes speaking our celebrations as a way to tap into everyday joy Oliver Burkeman: Author of “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management For Mortals" who reminds us of the importance of deliberately allocating our finite time to joy Barbara Fredrickson: Pioneer in positive psychology whose "broaden-and-build theory" explains how shared joy amplifies positive emotions and builds resources Reflection Questions: What deserves to be named and celebrated in your life right now? How might regular self-celebration change your relationship with achievement? Which celebration style feels most comfortable or uncomfortable for you? How can you resist cultural conditioning by choosing joy over fear, perfectionism, or people-pleasing? Looking for more support? Access exclusive content and mindful living tools on Patreon.  Join the conversation! Share one need you're naming today and tag @medium.lady on Instagram. The series starts here! Episode 131: Why is Taking Care of Yourself So Hard? Don't forget to subscribe! If this episode resonates, share it with a friend or leave a review—it helps others find the show!   Other Related Episodes (for your enjoyment): Episode 132: How To Take Care of Yourself Insight #1 - Say YES to Help Episode 133: How To Take Care of Yourself Insight #2 - Name your Needs Episode 134: How To Take Care of Yourself Insight #3 - Stay Curious   Medium Lady Reads Episode 39 - Are Celebrity Memoirs Clogging Up Your TBR?   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Patreon: www.patreon.com/mediumlady  Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads Keywords: self-celebration, self-care, gratitude practice, personal development, positive psychology, burnout prevention, mindful living, medium effort living, women who work too much, happiness project, joy, vulnerability, cultural conditioning

In this third installment of the "How to Take Care of Yourself" series, Erin explores how curiosity can be a gentle, accessible tool for wellness that doesn't require a life overhaul. Whether you're ready to embrace change or feeling too depleted to add one more thing to your to-do list, this episode offers simple ways to replace judgment with curiosity. In Medium Lady Talks Episode 134: Why we default to judgment instead of curiosity when we're depleted The science behind how curiosity opens pathways that self-criticism closes A simple three-step framework for staying curious even during challenging times Practical exercises including the 5-Minute Curiosity Break and "What If?" Reframe How curiosity connects to naming your needs (from Episode 133) Curiosity is a practice, not a one-time solution. Even just one curious thought today counts! Remember, we're not doing a life overhaul; we're making tiny shifts that add up over time.

Many people struggle to recognize their own needs, especially when they've been conditioned to prioritize everyone else first. In Medium Lady Talks, Episode 133, host Erin Vandeven explores why naming your needs is the first step to sustainable self-care—and how to start, even when it feels impossible.

In Episode 132 of Medium Lady Talks Erin shares the first episode in the new self-care series “How To Take Care of Yourself”. The first item on the list is one that most people definitely struggle with - saying yes to help that's offered. This isn't just about asking for help, which is naturally hard enough and makes many of us feel vulnerable and out of control! But there are many people in our lives who offer help or who are very available to take on tasks and support our needs for care - are you making the most of the help available in your life?  Why is asking for help so hard? And why do we feel guilty when we actually get it? If you've ever resisted delegating tasks or felt like needing help meant you were failing, this episode is for you. In the new MLT series How to Take Care of Yourself, we're exploring the deep-seated beliefs that keep women, especially mothers, from seeking support—and how breaking free from the “do it all” mindset is one of the most important steps towards sustained wellness. In this episode, we'll cover: ✔️ Why asking for help feels uncomfortable (and how to shift your mindset) ✔️ Small, practical ways to start accepting help without guilt ✔️ Letting go of control: why it's okay if things aren't done your way ✔️ How individualism and hustle culture fuel burnout ✔️ The connection between receiving support and true self-care If you've been struggling to balance it all, this is your permission to let go and let others in. Listen now and start practicing your care  in a way that actually supports and sustains your well-being. The series starts here! Episode 131: Why is Taking Care of Yourself So Hard? Tune in and don't forget to subscribe! If this episode resonates, share it with a friend or leave a review—it helps others find the show! #SelfCare #AskingForHelp #BurnoutRecovery #MentalLoad #DelegationTips #MindfulMotherhood #PodcastForMoms #WomenSupportingWomen Other Episodes (for your enjoyment): Episode 120: 9 Small Things my Husband Never Feels Guilty About Episode 123: Are You Guilty or Did You Just Make a Decision? My Final Word on Guilt (until 2025). Episode 83: Is Your Self-Care Helpful or Harmful: A Book Review of “Real Self Care” by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice: Help, I'm doing too much, and none of it well! Episode 126: Hear Me Out - Choose a Need for the Year Instead of a Word for the Year Medium Lady Reads Episode 37 - EBooks of Physical Books? Which do you prefer?   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Patreon: www.patreon.com/mediumlady  Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! This week's episode is a bit of a vulnerable off the cuff episode - I have a few things weighing heavy on my mind, and all of it surrounding the frustrations we all experience around the effort of taking care of ourselves. My hope is that this episode represents a "kick off" of a new series of content designed to help us all consider the smallest most useful and accessible ways of taking care of ourselves today, so we can take care of our families, friends and communities tomorrow.   Episode Summary: In this episode, I chat about: How our inability to take care of ourselves shows up in our division and judgemental discourse with one another My own challenges to show up for myself in small ways also causes me to reflect back on the ways my life will matter, and how I want to be as well as possible to do that work, for example, raising my sons to be people who make the world a better place. We can't get the barriers out of the way until we're willing to be honest about why it's so hard to take care of ourselves Why do we resist self-care? Even when a billion-dollar self care industry is telling us we should be excited and happy to take care of ourselves? Society's over emphasis on individualism as a cultural value and as a personal strength: it's always better if you can take care of yourself without needing anyone.Success is measured by how much you did on your own. Generationally millennial parents are having a much different experience raising their children than their parents did in the 80s or even their parents in the 50s and 60s. All of these thoughts have me realizing how much more I want to talk about taking care of ourselves and to start to create a new language outside of the self-care industrial complex. Reflect on this final question:   “Where are you having a hard time taking care of yourself?” Other Episodes you might like: From Medium Lady: Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice: Help, I'm doing too much, and none of it well! Episode 128: How to Bring Your Authentic Self To Your Friendships with Helene and Christina from It's YOUR Birth Day Podcast Episode 129: You Better Keep it Up Cutie! With guest Anna Przy   Medium Lady Reads Episode 36 - Beware the Spoiler Police!   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Patreon: www.patreon.com/mediumlady  Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! This week's episode is an authentic and open episode with my guest Ashlie Daigle, otherwise known as the Cheerbrarian. Ashlie and I have been “kindred spirits” both in the kind of content we like to share with the world, as well as our outlook on life and our enthusiasm for giving advice. Despite that identity and persona, Ashlie gets real with her current mental health struggles and how hard it is to reconcile the part of her identity she's known for, when she doesnt' really feel like that person. Episode Summary: In this episode, Ashlie and I chat about: Why Ashlie chose podcasting over other forms of content creation Ashlie and I talk shop about podcasting and how an asynchronous relationship with our listeners can sometimes be amazing and sometimes be a bit jarring - plus we debate whether you should start at episode 1 or start with a podcast's most recent episode! Where do you fall in the debate? Ashlie's advice to name the negative voice in your head, so when the negativity gets really loud you can tell that persona to “zip it”  Content creators will often say that they are their first audience member, and they often catch themselves making the content that they need to consume out in the world - Ashlie shares that with her recent diagnosis of clinical depression that her past few episodes were a way of trying to ask for help. We talk about the vulnerability of admitting to your audience that you don't have it all figured out.  We want everyone listening to know: it is ok to need help, it's ok to ask for that help, and to lean on your support system and open the doors to let others show up for you so you can get what you need from your community. The paradox of being someone who is good at helping others is the validation you feel from playing that role; we talk about how hard it is to learn how to find validation from within and how vital that can be to wellness and balance during times when anxiety or depression are heightened.  If you identify as a perfectionist, the slow process of growth can be very unappealing and demotivating The internal stigma with mental health medications can be really challenging to face and overcome  Taking care of yourself while battling depression takes many many small steps and all of those small steps need to be celebrated - join me celebrating Ashlie for the work she's putting in to take care of herself.   Other Episodes you might like: From Ashlie: Your Brain is a Dirty Liar (Part One) Manage Uncertainty with (some of) Your Wits Intact Book Recs Year in Review The Power of “No” (Part 3) - Zoe and I say NO to immediately responding   From Medium Lady: Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice: Help, I'm doing too much, and none of it well! Episode 128: How to Bring Your Authentic Self To Your Friendships with Helene and Christina from It's YOUR Birth Day Podcast Episode 129: You Better Keep it Up Cutie! With guest Anna Przy   Medium Lady Reads Episode 36 - Beware the Spoiler Police!   Other Resources mentioned: Yes Please by Amy Poehler - borrow from your local library! The Princess Bride by William Goldman - available at the library Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown Practical Magic by Alice Hoffman Meditations for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman Wool by Hugh Howie The Searcher by Tana French Women Who Work Too Much by Tamu Thomas Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir Connect with the Cheerbrarian Instagram: @thecheerbrarian  Website: www.cheerbrarian.com  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Patreon: www.patreon.com/mediumlady  Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! I'm so excited to welcome today's guest to the show. Anna Przy! Does the phrase “It's called manifesting… look it up…” or “You better Keep it up Cutie” sound familiar? Anna Przy is most recognizable for her short form social media videos that involve a bathrobe, her front yard, and no shoes. Sometimes featuring an old vacuum and some high kicks you'll often see Anna looking up at the sky and politely appealing to the cosmos. I first discovered Anna during the pandemic, and have been a huge fan of her pep talks and point of view ever since. Episode Summary: In this episode, Anna and I chat about: How Anna's layoff from event planning during the pandemic social distancing measures resulted in her taking a hard look at the “road map” that she had been diligently following all of her life towards happiness. But when the pandemic hit, and she lost a lot of those things, but she still felt  pretty ok about herself! That led to Anna taking a chance online sharing these thoughts, and deconstructing everything she thought she was supposed to believe for her audience, to help us all realize that we're all struggling with these ideas, and how much those messages have never resulted in happiness. Did you know you can pretty much do whatever you want? Anna confesses at first she wasn't sure, but the longer she's online the more she realizes that the possibilities are endless and she wants you to feel that way too. By design Anna's message about mental health and self-love aren't packaged like your typical mindset gurus - that's by design and it's because Anna doesn't want to hear that message herself.  Anna's had a long journey deconstructing the “90s misogyny mindset” that has been made easier thanks to her online community. How Anna has been strategic about the way she gets people to accept messages of deconditioning or radical self love - knowing that often people aren't ready to hear it. Being able to share herself authentically doesn't come without fear, Anna describes how she's been able to manage the fear of being seen because the benefits of overcoming that fear are life changing. As challenging as the comparison game on social media may be, sometimes it allows us a chance to snap out of our pre-conceived assumptions when we see other people trying things or existing in a way we didn't think was possible. Anna has only two rules for life and they're applicable in every situation. We talk about why the practice of betting on yourself (without proof) can be a revolutionary mindset hack Humour can start as a coping mechanism but it can also be a way to mask your discomfort with big feelings (yours or other peoples). Anna and I are strong cheerleaders for anyone who wants to become a content creator - just start despite your perfectionism! Anna says “exhaustion is very different when you're happy” and that lives rent free in my mind   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice: Help, I'm doing too much, and none of it well! Episode 128: How to Bring Your Authentic Self To Your Friendships with Helene and Christina from It's YOUR Birth Day Podcast Episode 63: Storytelling, Conscious Parenting and the Myth of Balance with Katy-Robin Garton Medium Lady Reads Episode 35 - We're Back with our 2025 Reading Goals! Connect with Anna Instagram: @akprzy TikTok: @akprzy Patreon: www.patreon.com/akprzy  Website: www.akprzy.com Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Patreon: www.patreon.com/mediumlady  Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi and welcome to the first interview for Season 5 of Medium Lady Talks! In this episode, I chat with Helen Schrute and Christina Cohen, therapists and hosts of the It's YOUR Birthday Podcast. We're talking all about friendship, partnership, trust and navigating the messy middle of life with your bestie by your side. Episode Summary: In this episode, you'll hear more from my guests about: - The incredible story of their individual challenges and how navigating a cancer diagnosis and grief after the death of a parent brought them even closer to supporting one another. Christina and Helene share the nuance of the closeness of their friendship and balancing the risk of a creative enterprise together - effectively becoming business partners- and how they navigate that. Even when you have an easy connection with a friend, it still requires your time, attention and energy to keep nurturing the relationship, in addition to boundaries and commitment! The Its YOUR Birthday Podcast is all about teaching women to navigate external expectations, to let go of pressure and celebrate who they want to be.  Why deep friendship requires a bit of risk and authenticity  Christina and Helene share the concept of “the messy middle” and why you have to tackle it before you get to a place where you can celebrate yourself daily - but don't worry we're also there to guide you with the tools and mindset to see the mess for the gift that it is. Using the “traffic light” visual to help you place where you are on your journey and how to meet your needs. The messy middle can also be kind of a “comfy” place for people reluctant to take their first vulnerable step towards change - we talk about some medium effort ways to make those moves and advance on the green light of your own life. We wrap up with a discussion about self-celebration: how do you acknowledge when you're getting what you want out of life? How do you make that a true party? By the end of this episode, you'll feel equipped and inspired to choose a guiding need for 2025 that aligns with your values and supports your well-being.   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice: Help, I'm doing too much, and none of it well! Episode 68: Is Friendship a Type of Self-Care with Roz and Erin in the Valley Don't miss my episode on It's YOUR Birth Day : Episode 30: The Gift of Finding YOURSELF   Medium Lady Reads Episode 35 - We're Back with our 2025 Reading Goals! Connect with Helene and Christina Instagram: @itsyourbirthdayofficial  Website: www.yourbirthdaypodcast.com  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Medium Lady Talks is heading into its fifth season! Five years ago, I started creating content—on Instagram, on this podcast, and in this incredible community. Over time, I've learned so much, not just about content creation, but about self-care, burnout, and the evolving nature of identity as a mom and a creator. In this episode, I'm sharing five key lessons from five years of content creation—the hard-won truths about sustainability, creativity, and growth that have shaped both my work and my life. Whether you're a fellow creator, a working mom, or just someone trying to live more intentionally, I think you'll find something here for you. In this episode, we'll talk about: Why hustling isn't the key to success (and what is) How self-care is a foundation, not a reward The fluid nature of identity—and why that's a good thing Recognizing burnout before it sneaks up on you Why community matters more than metrics (and how to nurture it)

Hello, hi and welcome to the final episode of Medium Lady Talks for 2024! As we look ahead to 2025, I'm sharing a new and impactful approach to guide your personal growth: choosing a need of the year instead of a word of the year. In this episode, I explore why focusing on your needs can help you take more intentional and meaningful action to support your emotional and mental well-being. Plus, we're spinning the “Wheel of Needs” to dive into four powerful areas: Honesty, Purpose, Stability and Hope. I also introduce the importance of joy and contribution as essential needs that recharge our emotional batteries and remind us of our capacity to make an impact. Episode Summary: In this episode, you'll learn: - Why "words of the year" often fall short and how needs provide a more actionable focus. - How to identify your own need for 2025—and how to start meeting it. - Ways to bring lightness, fun, and meaning into your year through play and small contributions. By the end of this episode, you'll feel equipped and inspired to choose a guiding need for 2025 that aligns with your values and supports your well-being.   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 124: Reclaiming Fun - Dozens of Free Ways to Enjoy Yourself (with Insight From the Medium Kids!)  Episode 120: 9 Small Things My Husband Never Feels Guilty About with guest Handsome Face Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice: Help, I'm doing too much, and none of it well! Medium Lady Reads Episode 33- Cozy Christmas Reads 2024 Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello hi! The holiday season can be magical, but let's face it—it can also be overwhelming! In this episode, I'm sharing the five (and a half!) things that are helping me feel like myself and move through the busiest time of year as mindfully as possible. From favourite apps and comforting habits to traditions that warm my heart, these small joys are saving my season. I'll also share a wildcard favourite that surprised me, plus one thing that's definitely not saving my season (hint: it involves a certain trendy food). Stick around for an exciting invitation to join the next chapter of the Medium Lady community in 2025. So grab your cozy drink, take a deep breath, and let's list out the things that are bringing simple joy and balance this holiday season. What's in This Episode?

Hello, hi! Why is having fun so hard sometimes? As moms, we often find ourselves stuck in caretaker mode, struggling to reconnect with the joy of play—whether it's for ourselves or with our kids. In this episode, we're talking about fun and how stepping out of your comfort zone can bring more laughter, connection, and lightness into your life. I'm sharing unique, low-cost (and even free!) ways to have fun, both solo and with your family. You'll also hear from my three kids—William, Henry, and Beckett—who reveal what fun means to them, how they know they're having it, and what they'd love to do to have fun with me. Spoiler alert: their answers might surprise you! Together, we'll unpack why playing can feel awkward, how to overcome that mindset, and why fun doesn't have to look perfect to be meaningful. Whether you're looking to reclaim a little joy for yourself or bond with your kids in a playful way, this episode is full of practical ideas and heartfelt encouragement to make it happen. What you'll hear in this episode: Why fun feels hard for parents and how to move past the awkwardness. Unique ideas for solo fun: Reconnect with what you love doing in your free time, with ideas that cost little to nothing. Fun with kids: Creative ways to play and bond that don't require a lot of planning or pressure. Insights from my kids: Hear William, Henry, and Beckett share their thoughts on what fun means to them and how they want to have fun with me. Mindset shifts: Practical tips to embrace imperfect fun and stop overthinking play. Resources mentioned in this episode: Links to your Instagram or community where listeners can share their own fun moments and ideas. [Insert any books, articles, or tools referenced in the episode.]   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 123: Are You Guilty or Did You Just Make a Decision? Episode 120: 9 Small Things My Husband Never Feels Guilty About with guest Handsome Face Episode 121: Mindful Content Creators and the Quest to Curate a Perfect Childhood with guest Stephanie Cunningham Medium Lady Reads Episode 33- Cozy Christmas Reads 2024   Other Resources Mentioned: Ralphie Jacobs free printable "25 Ways to Fill your Child's Cup this Holiday Season" Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi and happy holidays It's the most wonderful time of the year… time for the fourth annual Cozy Christmas Reads episode! This episode is special because Jillian and Erin are joined by two additional guests, Stephanie Cunningham and Ali Oppenlaender. The four women come together yearly (previous episodes are linked below), to share each year's picks for a cozy Christmas read.  If you're ready for this year's edition, just hit play wherever you listen to podcasts! In This Episode: As per usual, the ladies begin with a check-in. Mentioned in this episode: Cozy Christmas Reads 2023, 2022, 2021 The ladies rank their reads from scrooge to Christmas on Hallmark Street. It's time to share the books! The women go through and each share one book, and then they go around a second time to share their second book. You MUST listen in to hear Stef's second pick. You won't believe what she chose!

Hello, hi! I can't seem to stop talking about guilt - but  I PROMISE this is the last I'll say about it (at least until 2025) . The thing that continues to remain problematic and troubling for so many women, the thing that gets in our way is that we're always feeling bad. If we're not feeling bad we're avoiding the things that make us feel bad or managing the feeling to get rid of it. What if there was another way? Today's episode is for anyone who ever wondered “what would I be like if I could get rid of the guilt, for good?” Episode Summary Check in: I share that I'm finally feeling my mental health improve It takes considerable effort when you feel terrible; nothing feels like medium effort and this recovery has felt that way I'm lucky to have a lot of support already available to me when I need it and I'm so thankful for my friends and family who have connected with me and supported me. Medium Effort At the beginning of Season 4 I was really helping people get out of their own way, and examining how willing we are (or aren't) to take that step and celebrate our desires and visions for our lives. But what listeners kept pointing me to was that their guilt was a tremendous obstacle on that path. If they were ever going to get out of their own way, they were going to have to get rid of the guilt. 31% of people polled on my instagram stories said that theri personal expectations drive a lot of their burnout , they struggle knowing what to let go of and they often feel unsure of what's normal, and what's social media. At the end of the summer in an open call for responses, the IG community again shared DOZENS of unique reasons they feel bad. But it wasn't until episode 113 and 114 with Tami Hackbarth where I realized that people needed a practical way to examine their guilt and move past it with certainty and grace. Today's episode features two hallmark reasons why you should spend medium effort to get over your guilt - and both of them were featured in a book I'm currently reading: Likeable Badass by Dr. Alison Fragle.- specifically page 77, and 78 of the book Embrace the power of your decisions: our decisions can be powerful but we use guilt to minimize how much we want to use that power, instead letting our guilt make our decisions feel like a burden or like a way to keep staying small. Imagine if you chose to feel powerful instead of guilty about your decisions. Women see each decision as a chance to fail but what if we saw them as a chance to embrace our power.  Guilt drives apologies: Women apologize more than men becuse women have a lower threshold for what constitutes an apology worthy event. This low threshold for apology also comes with a caveat - you're not just feeling like you owe more apologies but you also feel like you're wronged and owed and apology more often. As women we need to raise the bar (ALOT) on what constitutes a transgression or wrongdoing because it's not just getting in our way, it's also getting in the way of our relationships and perceptions of others. In the episode I walk you through a practical exercise I call “catch and release” so you can notice your guilt, examine it for a transgression and then either release it with an apology or move on/show up with a decision. Mindful Fun: Make a list of small decisions you're excited to make and look forward to embracing the power that comes with choosing your clothes, picking out a movie, or deciding what to bring to the holiday potluck.    Other Episodes you might like: Episode 119: 9 Small Things I'm No Longer Feeling Guilty About Episode 120: 9 Small Things My Husband Never Feels Guilty About with guest Handsome Face Episode 121: Mindful Content Creators and the Quest to Curate a Perfect Childhood with guest Stephanie Cunningham Episode 114: The Difference Between Guilt and Shame when it comes to Self-Care with guest Tami Hackbarth   Medium Lady Reads Episode 31- Your Reading Slump is Totally Normal Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Are you feeling overwhelmed by all the expectations of the holiday season? In this episode, we're tackling the “holiday guilt” that so many moms and women feel this time of year—guilt about not doing enough, spending too much, or skipping traditions. Together, we'll explore how to tell the difference between decisions you need to let go of and opportunities to align with what truly matters. By the end of this episode, we'll have completed an exercise to help you map out a holiday season that feels joyful, intentional, and guilt-free.   Episode Summary Check in: I share that while everything is going well on paper, I've been struggling with a flare-up of my anxiety. My empathy has been in overdrive with a lot of things I'm witnessing online or in the news. I'm trying to remember that I've learned a lot over the last 5 years managing my health and wellness, but that doesn't mean that I'm “cured” or that I'll never struggle Today's episode is about normalinzing guilt and allowing guilt to run the show to meet the needs of others over the holiday season. We accept our guild over the holiday because it's kind of motivating! It gets us doing some things that maybe feel like a lot of extra for OR it helps us make decisions, and the holidays are a time when decisions are in overdrive and add to our exhaustion. I discuss a few areas of the holidays where you might be experiencing guilt:  Holiday Planning and preparation Gifts Family and Community events and expectations Parenting and Kids Holiday Burnout   Medium Effort Reflect on what always matters to you all year round and ask yourself “does that change for the holidays?” Ask yourself, “what will make me feel aligned with my values this holiday instead of managing guilt and making sure I'm productive?” Make a list of all the things that might make you feel guilty this holiday season, and sort them into two categories: 1. Move on (this is just a decision, and not specific to your values) and 2. Show Up (something is meaningful for you and should be prioritized) Mindful Fun: Make a Holiday Map On your own or with your spouse/kids/friends/ write out three priorities for your holiday (these will come from the show up column) Around these priorities list any and all activities that you might do that you can either plan for or decide if the opportunity comes up you will pursue.  Draw a large circle around those things and write in “Where I show up this holiday season” on the top of the circle Below the circle, brainstorm the non-priorities *(usually the opposite of whatever already matters to you) Draw a box around this list and title it “Where I move on this holiday season.” Now that you have a Holiday Map, notice when things show up that were unexpected and you can evaluate those things against the map, knowing you've already decided where to show up and where to move on WITHOUT the guilt. Our guilt is a habit, and it will take practice to remind yourself that it's not about normalizing guilt, it's about making decisions and having conviction about those decisions as you move through the season.  This might not feel smooth this year but with practice maybe in the future it will be easy to experience the holidays without guilt! Other Episodes you might like: Episode 119: 9 Small Things I'm No Longer Feeling Guilty About Episode 120: 9 Small Things My Husband Never Feels Guilty About with guest Handsome Face Episode 121: Mindful Content Creators and the Quest to Curate a Perfect Childhood with guest Stephanie Cunningham Medium Lady Reads Episode 31- Your Reading Slump is Totally Normal Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode features a returning special guest to Medium Lady, my friend Stephanie Cunningham. Stef can be found on instagram @steffski where she role models real-life living, sharing both the highs and the lows of homeschooling, intergenerational living and breaking the “highlight reel” so that her friends and followers feel like they can share in the chaos of this season of life.   Episode Summary Stephanie's guiding principles about what she shares online are about authenticity and serving her own interest first, which is such a refreshing point of view when we see overly curated or highly produced content online  We discuss how much our attention might be drawn to “online perfection” while we also desire seeing, meeting and building connection with people who are “just like us” A really amazing part of our friendship is that we're both creating content online: Stephanie and I reflect on where we've become more mindful about creating content even when it's hard to resist the pull of “virality” we acknowledge that it's not good for us and it's not good for our communities Through thoughtful exploration time and time again with my audience I have been teasing apart the nuance of guilt experienced by women. What comes up time and time again are the concerns and worries that women have about their motherhood: am I doing enough of the right things for my children? Am I giving them the childhood they deserve? If we all want to give our kids a magical childhood where does that desire come from? How is it affected by curated motherhood content online? Our kids also have their focus drawn to content online and just like us, they have desires to bring that online content into their real lives - this changes the stakes for how we manage their expectations, and ours. Part of our desire for our children to have a magical childhood comes from the emerging conversation about how much our parents' choices affected us, and why we might feel compelled to make sure our kids never have similar experiences. “Cycle Breaking” happens when you're willing to get off the pendulum and acknowledge that your parents did the best that they could and sometimes they made mistakes and those mistakes affected us. The best way I've heard this said was listening to advocate and speaker Prasanna Ranganathan when he said his parents were “always careful to protect me while never limiting my opportunities. Curating childhood as millennial mothers also includes awareness of screen time and how we help our kids interact with screens  Our job as parents is not to make sure our kids are happy 100% of the time…. But what about the holidays? The pressure increases to curate a perfect childhood around the holidays and this can be exacerbated by what you see online. One KEY question to ask yourself around making memories this holiday season is “What do I want our family/my kids' takeaway to be from this season?” and maybe, (probably) that will mean going against the mainstream in some way or another Stef and I also chat about the days that aren't “holiday” and the specialness of Ordinary Time - most of our days are these sacred ordinary days and there are plenty of opportunities to bring mindful celebration and gratitude to those “regular old” days. You don't have to do this on you own! Stephanie and her partner Craig make time to plan and work out their intentions together before they get too deep into the season Other Episodes you might like: Episode 119: 9 Small Things I'm No Longer Feeling Guilty About Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice - “Help! I'm Doing Too Much and None of it Well!” Episode 87: Cultivating your Aspirations with guest Stephanie Cunningham Episode 23: In the Interest of Realness with Stephanie Cunningham Medium Lady Reads Episode 30- Would You Try a DNF Challenge? Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode features a very special guest who hasn't been on the pod in a while - my husband Nick! Nick reviews last week's episode list of the 9 Small Things I'm No longer Feeling Guilty about. We hope you enjoy this episode and you like seeing another side of Medium Lady!    Episode Summary Check in:  I've brought Nick on mic to review the 9 things, and you may (or may not) be surprised what he thinks of these things! Medium Effort Here's my medium effort list of 9 things  I'm no longer feeling guilty about Buying and eating candy as a grown up Shopping at a budget grocery store Not eating enough protein Reading a lot Watching my shows on the big tv Buying stupid stuff on Amazon that I could afford but didn't use Taking vacation days to be alone Buying used books and not reading them Not monetizing or not monetizing sooner A Moment of Gratitude: I share my gratitude for Nick - don't worry he didn't listen to that part of the recording. I feel so lucky to have a partner that is fun, values-driven and open to my many ideas and goals. Yet, he never let's me take myself too seriously, which is exactly what I need!     Other Episodes you might like: Episode 119: 9 Small Things I'm No Longer Feeling Guilty About Episode 114: The Difference Between Shame and Guilt with Tami Hackbarth Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice - “Help! I'm Doing Too Much and None of it Well!” Episode 74: How to be a Human With a Voice with guest Jam Gamble Medium Lady Reads Episode 30- Would You Try a DNF Challenge? Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is a personalized list of all the little things that I let myself feel guilty about. And through the episode I give myself permission to let these things go, mostly because there's nothing wrong with them! This episode is for you if you feel like you spend too much time trying to navigate guilt when you're just trying to relax and enjoy yourself.   Episode Summary Check in:  I've just come off an amazing experience hosting a live-in person event conceived by Jam Gamble creator and CEO of the Slay the Mic program and community Today's episode is a riff on some things I've been mulling ever since interviewing Tami Hackbarth from Episodes 113 and 114. Tami talked all about 100% Guilt Free Self Care, and I've personally struggled with going from all the guilt to none of it - this list of small things I'm letting go of is my way of using Medium Effort to get past guilt especially when it comes to the small stuff. Medium Effort Here's my medium effort list of 9 things  I'm no longer feeling guilty about Buying and eating candy as a grown up Shopping at a budget grocery store Not eating enough protein Reading a lot Watching my shows on the big tv Buying stupid stuff on Amazon that I could afford but didn't use Taking vacation days to be alone Buying used books and not reading them Not monetizing or not monetizing sooner Mindful Fun If you write your own list your follow up task is to look at it with a lighthearted point of view Try to laugh especially if you've been carrying guilt about small things - you silly goose! Let that stuff go! We're not going to let ourselves feel bad about feeling bad A Moment of Gratitude: I share my gratitude for my podcasting equipment. My mic, my computer, Riverside, my lighting and camera, so many tools that come together to help make the podcast what a gift! I am in awe of my setup when I remember how long I dreamt of having a podcast and now I have one that is enabled by amazing technology and tools.   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 114: The Difference Between Shame and Guilt with Tami Hackbarth Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice - “Help! I'm Doing Too Much and None of it Well!” Episode 74: How to be a Human With a Voice with guest Jam Gamble Medium Lady Reads Episode 29 - Somewhere Beyond the Sea-Quel Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is more Medium Effort Advice. In this episode our listener asked “Past me seemed to have it all figured out. I look at pictures from 2-3 years ago and I want to get back to that but right now everything feels too hard. What do I do?”  This episode is for you if you feel like you used to be on top of things, but somehow, you've gotten off track. Episode Summary Check in:  I'm fighting the end of a cold (sorry for the congestion!) and all of my October anticipation (yay! Events! Friends! Family!) is colliding with that common desire to just cancel everything and stay home. Today's listener asks a question (sent on IG) about how to get back on track, especially when comparing your current self to your past self. High effort problem solving: the high effort approach will quickly flex to muscle things back to ‘the way they were'. This approach tries to solve the problem by taking a deficit-minded approach to goal setting. This approach might take on a “self-care project” that will demonstrate achievement or future transformation. While you may get a high from the initial goal setting, eventually these radical goals are hard to sustain and may perpetuate the cycle when you find yourself “off track” again. Low effort problem solving: This approach sees the problem as very overwhelming and dreads a future where everything is even worse. They spend so much time catastrophizing the future they become anxious and overwhelmed. Because of this, the low effort personality will avoid their core emotions and escape by performing activities that change the external environment. These activitiies usually keep their hands busy in a way that temporarily helps “shut off” those emotions.    Medium Effort problem solving: Instead of the ideal future, the troubled past, or the dreaded future, what if wes set goals based on our resourceful past? *these 4 ideas are from the Dialectical Orientation Quadrant studied and published by Dr. Haesun Moon (see resources). Medium effort goal setting addresses what's happened between that “past you” and the present - reflecting on the passage of time, evaluating the themes of your past and reviewing what you're proud of and how you've tackled challenges. This approach allows you to fill in the gaps between here and there adn acknowledge that there's many things that influenced change over time.  Mindfully setting goals after acknowledging the past enables you to acknowledge present you and use what has gone well in the past to support your future growth and goal achievement. Mindful Fun: Build a playlist to ground you in the present season. These songs might include some nostalgic favourites but should be focused on what you're enjoying right now. Enjoy the playlist whenever you're engaging in tasks or habits to support your new goals. Let the music you choose today represent your current season of life so future you can remember this time fondly. A Moment of Gratitude: I share my gratitude for my parents both for hosting my youngest two sons for a sleep over but also to acknowledge our evolving relationship and the ways that our relationship has been able to evolve to meet our needs and the season of life we find ourselves in. Mom and Dad, I love you both very much.   Other Resources Mentioned: Coaching A to Z: The Extraordinary Use of Ordinary Words by Dr. Haesun Moon Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 117: Medium Effort Advice - “Help! I'm doing too many things and none of them well!” Episode 83: Is your Self-Care Helpful or Harmful? A Book Review of “Real Self-Care” by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin Episode 69: Unlocking the Simple Secrets of Goal Setting with guest Jillian O'Keefe Episode 62: Gentle Goal Setting for Burnt Out Mothers and Millennials   Medium Lady Reads Episode 28 - Your TBR is Just a Version of Your Ideal Self Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is a new kind of format, we're doing “Medium Effort Advice”. One listener asked me on instagram: “How do I handle the problem of doing too much? Because I'm going too many things,  I end up not doing them well or even to completion. This episode is for you if you too are struggling with all.the.things this fall, and you want a bit of relief!   Episode Summary Check in:  The weekend did not go as planed but as the month of September closes out, I'll look back on what I enjoyed about the month, and I look ahead to what I'm anticipating being fun and fulfilling in October Today's listener asks a question (sent on IG) about how to address the problem of doing too many things and not doing any of them well or to completion. High effort problem solving: the high effort approach sees this with regret from the past, focused on allll those things that were never finished. This approach tries to solve the problem by putting it on lock in order to achieve a more ideal future state - planners, systems and rules. This approach also sees optimizing your time and maximizing productivity as “self-care” Low effort problem solving: This approach sees the problem as very overwhelming but impossible to change. They also regret the past, but even more so they dread the future as this cycle keeps repeating itself. Because this person never says no to new things, they may be getting something out of the problem some kind of positive feedback for taking on more and more.  Medium Effort problem solving: Instead of the ideal future, the regretful past, or the dreaded future what if we think about our resourceful past? *these 4 ideas are from the Dialectical Orientation Quadrant studied and published by Dr. Haesun Moon (see resources). Medium effort notes the limiting belief inherent in the question “I never do things well” or “I never finish things properly. Addressing this limiting belief helps us take action in a way that questions the limiting belief and instead confronts it with evidence from our resourceful past that proves actually, we do many things well, and we have seen lots of opportunities through to completion. Mindful Fun: In order to further help solidify your new beliefs about this problem I give the listener an “assignment” to create a project hall of fame for past projects that have gone well, AND instructions to conduct “closing ceremonies” for all of their unfinished business, so they can gain the permission they need to stop pursuing those undone things that are bogging them down.   A Moment of Gratitude: Did you know about Banned Book Week? (Sept 22-28) I share my gratitude for Libraries and all they do to maintain accessibility to knowledge and to fight against forces that would limit our agency and autonomy by controlling access information and artistic expression.   Other Resources Mentioned: Coaching A to Z: The Extraordinary Use of Ordinary Words by Dr. Haesun Moon   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 109: Medium Lady Unfiltered - Three Truths about Motherhood Content on Instagram and TikTok Episode 89: Everyday Manifesting with Diana Alexander Rane Medium Lady Reads Episode 27 - Escape and Put Your Face in a Book Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode is another behind the scenes episode of content creation and podcast   production. For my monthly plan this September I decided to focus my awareness on imposter syndrome, and paying attention to where that shows up in my life and how hesitation and self-doubt affect my actions. This episode is for you if you've ever heard that tiny , nagging voice ask “Who are you to have the nerve?”    Episode Summary   Check in:  I struggled to find my footing in the month of September due to preconceived notions that everything was “stable”. As a mom I've found myself on a learning curve that I didn't anticipate!    I'll share a window into this September's monthly plan and how thinking more about Imposter Syndrome has even got me thinking about how often self-doubt creeps into podcast creation.  What are the specifics of Imposter syndrome? Persistent self-doubt, despite previous success and an ongoing fear of being “found out” attributing your success to luck or diminishing your accomplishments. Check, check, check. Imposter syndrome is worth paying attention to and being conscious of because it inhibits our desire to try new things and grow. It holds us back! Not only that but this hesitation creeps into our relationship and shapes our interactions with others. What stops the cycle? First off: self-awareness. Train your brain to look for imposter syndrome by calling it out and looking for it. Other ways you can move past imposter syndrome:Reframe your mindset to focus on the evidence of your accomplishments: start by saying “I'm so proud that I ________”  Let others around you help you gain perspective, not to seek validation and approval but to course correct your self-doubt Practice your  self-compassion: What if you could come and give you a big hug? Or high five you during the small day to day wins? You can capture a more realistic picture of what's working well using my daily planner strategy Accept that your growth will be associated with not getting things right on the first try - this doesn't mean you have to doubt your entire existence - you might just need time to learn that new thing. I share a bit more of my own thoughts about why I've been feeling imposter syndrome as a podcaster lately, that goes back even farther to my doubts about “Medium Lady” being the right brand name.    A Moment of Gratitude: Are you packing up any summer clothes? What did you experience wearing those clothes this season? What did you enjoy wearing? What will you be excited to see again next year?     Other Episodes you might like: Episode 109: Medium Lady Unfiltered - Three Truths about Motherhood Content on Instagram and TikTok Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson Medium Lady Reads Episode 27 - Escape and Put Your Face in a Book Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode is one of my favourites, part of my “Five things” series for all of our episodes that end with the number 5. This episode is going to give us a way to focus on mindfulness during a chaotic season of family life: the month of September. The goal of the episode is to help you gain a sense of presence that you can continue to return to through the upheaval of a busy season of transitions.   Episode Summary Check in: I'll share what's going on these last few weeks and why I probably need today's episode as much as anyone else. TLDR; parenting in September is A LOT y'all. The Five thing you can do right now to survive September, are all about remembering a lot of the things i've already been able to get good at over the last 5 years: Mindfulness, Presence, Setting Priorities and OinBoundaries, Self-compassion, Rest. One of the first things we can do around our survival of September is to set boundaries on our self-talk and how we manage meeting our own internal expectations: How can you talk to yourself in ways that represent a kinder and gentler perspective on your own expectations?  Use the acronym GRASS to remind yourself of this mindfulness practice:G: Ground into the present moment R: Remind yourself of what's in your control (and what isn't) A: Acknowledge what's working S: Say thank you S: Sleep and Rest Why is Mindfulness the perfect antidote to September? Because often time transitions bring up a host of limiting beliefs that usually make us feel overwhelmed, worried, anxious and frustrated. What mindfulness does is it bring more emotions to the table to keep those emotions company, which allow us to experience more emotional balance. You don't have to do all of the letters in order BUT if you want to achieve Sleep/Rest, you will probably find a smoother path to good quality sleep if you do actually practice the grounding and mindfulness exercises first.   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 113: Playing the Long Game in your Freedom from Domestic Struggles with author and coach Tami Hackbarth Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is part two of my interview with Tami Hackbarth a Life + Work coach, keynote speaker, Author, Podcast Host and Fair Play Facilitator. Tami's work helps women feel less like crap so they have the energy and bandwidth to create the world they want to live in. In part one of our conversation we talk all about the re-balancing of domestic life as a means to find the time for self care. Make sure you catch up on Part one of our conversation in episode 113!   Episode Summary   Once we find domestic freedom we've finally managed to create time for our own meaningful self care In order to access guilt-free self care we have to first assert that taking care of ourselves isn't bad and doesn't make us bad people: it makes us human Tami shares how she engages couples to begin determining the distribution of domestic labour as a Fair Play Facilitator Tami describes Unicorn Space and explains the benefits of finding personhood outside of parenthood, partnership and professional work I share my personal story of why starting the podcast was a big part of my own Unicorn Space  What should you do with your Unicorn Space? It starts with a great question: What do you want to be known for? Consider making a Cinderella list of all the things you want, and if that feels too big start with a simple list of the things you like and then share with those in your home!     Other Episodes you might like: Episode 113: Playing the Long Game in your Freedom from Domestic Struggles with author and coach Tami Hackbarth Episode 109: Medium Lady Unfiltered - Three Truths About Motherhood Content on Instagram and TikTok Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson   Resources Mentioned Fair Play by Eve Rodsky - find it from your library on Overdrive Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky - find it from your library on Overdrive We Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel Rogers - find it from your library on Overdrive Connect with Tami: Website: www.tamihackbarth.com Instagram: @tamihackbarth  Free workshop! Reduce the Mental Load - https://www.tamihackbarth.com/reduce-mental-load  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is part one of my interview with Tami Hackbarth a life + work coach, keynote speaker, author, podcast host and Fair Play Facilitator. Tami's work helps women feel less like crap so they have the energy and bandwidth to create the world they want to live in. In Part 1 of our conversation we talk all about the re-balancing of domestic life as a means to find the time for self care. Tune in next week for Part 2 of the conversation where we talk more about that actual self care and how to make the most of your newfound free time!   Episode Summary The shocking question Tami's boss asked her that started it all: Are you happy? Tami's then set to work conducting a year long experiment to take care of herself and the results probably won't surprise you but her commitment definitely will! The odds are we run into burnout after leaving our needs unmet - even those needs that we're not aware of. It can be vulnerable to admit we have needs just like everybody else and it can be very difficult to ask for help to have those needs fulfilled. Having those needs met means we have to give up control, especially in our absence Tami and Erin compare notes on how it feels to parent our kids based on their gender and the expectations on us to care about their appearance accordingly] When we disengage from the scripts about gendered work, we set the stage for freedom for everyone in the household to let go of societal norms and pressures You have to start letting go of your attachment to domestic duties, relinquishing them to your kids and partner - otherwise you'll have to do them.FOREVER. The hilarious conversation Tami had with a 4th grader after he told her she was “the laziest grownup he'd ever met” Some of this is unappealing - usually because it's not a quick fix, even though it works!   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 109: Medium Lady Unfiltered - Three Truths About Motherhood Content on Instagram and TikTok Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson   Connect with Tami: Website: www.tamihackbarth.com Instagram: @tamihackbarth  Free workshop! Reduce the Mental Load - https://www.tamihackbarth.com/reduce-mental-load  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is all about my daily gratitude habit that I call “Car Gratitude.” This episode is designed to help you consider your own gratitude habits and where you struggle to create time and space to reflect on what you're grateful for. If you've tried to start a gratitude habit before with no success, this episode will give you the keys to lock down this life changing habit for good.   Episode Summary This episode was inspired by my recent efforts to be more intentional and integrated when I produce content for the podcast and for instagram Most days on Instagram in my stories on @medium.lady I share what I'm grateful for that day, I always film this from my car right before I catch the train to work A recent poll on my stories revealed that only 40% of the Medium Lady Community agree that they make time for their own reflection and gratitude habits. 60% of the community admitted they don't make time for this practice as often as they would like. There were countless times I tried to make a gratitude habit stick and it didn't work: and that's not a problem, it's actually very normal and common. I'll share the story of what was behind the very first instance of Car Gratitude that kicked off a two year habit What are the benefits of practicing gratitude so consistently! I'll share everything that has been part of my personal experience. You don't need money or skill to do gratitude well - what do you need? Time and space. And how do you do that? I'll share my thoughts about overcoming the barrier of time and space to create more room for your emerging gratitude practice. You might have developed a gratitude instinct when times are tough - and why you might want to quit that before developing a deeper gratitude practice. I'll share what you can do instead.   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 109: Medium Lady Unfiltered - Three Truths About Motherhood Content on Instagram and TikTok Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is another Monthly Planning episode - consider it self-care for your summer! This episode is aimed at walking you through my free download “How to Start a New Month” which aims to help you consider how to mindfully embrace the month ahead and plan how you want to focus on yourself in the future. Grab your copy of the free download here, and let's get started!   Episode Summary I share why having the house to myself isn't all it's cracked up to be Sometimes we anticipate our future self that is the “ideal self” and we imagine that ideal self doing everything “perfectly”. When that doesn't come to pass we can be left feeling kind of icky My biggest hangup about the summer is the following limiting belief: “If I don't optimize my time, the summer will be wasted” When we identify limiting beliefs we want to just get rid of them forever, but I'll share why it's more helpful to think of this practice as turning down the dial rather than flipping the switch. You might have a different limiting belief about the summer - I'll talk through a few How do you tackle a limiting belief once you've realized it? I'll walk you through my personal method to gain perspective and take away some of the belief's power. After we gain some perspective on our limiting beliefs we can take action and start planning for the month of August Part one: What is known about August? What are you looking forward to? How do you want to feel? Part two: What am I learning? Take a look back on your year, or even the last three month to think about highlights, and the events or feelings you want to carry with you into the new month. Part three: Have some fun describing the “vibe” for the month ahead, imagining the sounds, smells, textures associated with the month Put all three parts together and come up with a plan: make decisions about how you want to spend your time. What are you going to read? How are you going to play? Where are you going to experiment? How are you going to focus your thoughts? You already have everything you need to experiment with this kind of plan, the stakes are low and the return on investment is high. Trust me I've been planning like this for almost FIVE years!   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 57: How I Plan My Month - An Example of Thoughtful and Personalized Monthly Planning Episode 84: September Reflections and October Intentions - A Monthly Planning Guide Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson Other Resources mentioned: Soundtracks by Jon Acuff - on Overdrive! Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is a review and critique of the book “The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health is the Missing Key to Living Longer Healthier and Happier” by Kasley Killiam. This episode is designed to share a bit about the book, my major take aways, and a reflection on the key frameworks that might guide you to think differently about your connections. Are you a Butterfly, Firefly, Evergreen or Wallflower? Listen to find out! Episode Summary I'm going to review and apply the concepts from the newly published book The ARt and Science of Connection by Kasley Killiam I share my review of the book, what I liked and what didn't work for me Killiam writes “Health connection with other people requires a health connection with yourself. Which includes: knowing yourself, caring for yourself, honoring your needs and bringing that authentic self into interactions with others.” “Research has shown that lonely people tend to be hypervigilant in social interactions and more prone to focusing on the negative than the positive: more guarded, they have more self-doubt, they might feel more self-conscious and make more assumptions about their interactions.” These realizations from the book have me asking: Are you lonely? (PS It's totally ok and normal if your answer is yes) Interactions as millennials and mothers might be laden with a lot more nuance and context that adds to this hypervigilance and monitoring of our interactions in a way that leads to self-criticism and more loneliness Connection (even healthy positive connection!) will always require time and energy, yet time and energy usually feels like a scarce and precious resource for millennials and mothers Is social health different for Millennials than other older generations? I think so! I'll share the four connection “personalities” outlined by Killiam: Butterfly, Evergreen, Firefly and Wallflower PLUS I couldn't help but add a fifth personality of my own! How do you know how to improve your relationships? There are 4 options: Strengthen, Rest, Tone and Flex Once you gain awareness about the way connection meets your needs and how you want to improve your connections the hardest part is likely going to be taking action - and seeking connection from others to meet those needs - relying on others to respond to those needs: you can do it! Other Episodes you might like: Episode 109: Medium Lady Unfiltered: Three Truths About Motherhood Content on Instagram and TikTok Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson Episode 83: Is your Self-Care Helpful or Harmful - A book review of “Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness” by Pooja Lakshmin MD. Introverts and Extroverts with Handsome Face   Other Resources mentioned: The Art and Science of Connection by Kasley Killiam - on Overdrive! Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode is a first for the show: Medium Lady Rants? After being influenced by a few videos critiquing BookTok and the Beauty Influencer space it occurred to me that some of the problems in those spaces also exist in the motherhood content space. And I have a lot of thoughts about it! This episode is designed to give you some healthy skepticism about short form content that targets mothers, so you can avoid the shame and blame that can sometimes be triggered after a scroll session. Episode Summary Why do moms seek this kind of content in the first place? And why can it be harmful? While we don't need to call out or “cancel” any particular creator there are themes behind some of the content that is useful to pay attention to I'll talk about why I resisted embracing the “Mom” niche for so long The “machine” of social media is not invested in our wellness at all - even if creators are doing their best to create intentional content Ultimately, motherhood content on social media feels like it's serving a need - if we're aware of what those needs are we can be more mindful as we consume short form content.  It's crucial to remember that virality will always come before your mental health - and I'll explain more about why this is the case. What is rage baiting? And how does it work when it comes to short form content for mothers? Remember your focus and attention is currency: creators will use your insecurities as the entry point to gain more of that currency as collateral you might find yourself being preyed upon for engagement. I routinely reflect on the struggle I've experienced as a content creator to dabble with and mess around in some of the spaces that provide a straighter path to growth and virality and the cost of that would be my personal desire to help people and leave my audience better than when they found me. Awareness of how this content can leave you in a shame and blame spiral is only good if it compels you to take ACTION - I'll share my suggestions for how you can bring mindfulness and digital habits to your consumption of short form content (it's easy I promise)   Other Episodes you might like: Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson Other Resources mentioned: The Opal App Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Today's episode is part two of my interview with Madeline Farquarson from Knomii. Madeline is a Certified Professional Coach and Co-Founder of Knomii. Her coaching and counseling practice helps self-aware and overwhelmed achievers reclaim their freedom and energy by reconnecting with themselves. As an anxious overthinker herself, she loves helping people trapped in their lives and heads start taking action and making decisions that put all that self-awareness to good use. The second part of our conversation describes safety, needs and how challenging it can be to gain awareness when we're not able to address those needs. Make sure you head back to listen to Episode 107 for more of the conversation set up and aha moments!   Episode Summary How important safety is to explore your emotional experience, and how a coach can hold the keys to that emotional safety There's a lot of highly consumable material out there on mental wellness: “psychological life hacks” and sometimes it can be exhausting to figure out how to put that knowledge to good use for your own relief. Madeline describes a new way to think about your needs sharing the Sailboat Metaphor from Scott Barry Kaufman and how that can help us conceive more creatively about what we're needing to manage our mental wellness Madeline also describes using the Needs Wheel as a way of honing in on what might be going on when our psychological needs aren't being met, but our physical or social safety is secure. While we're often conditioned to suppress our needs or compare them to others, Madeline reminds the audience “Your ability to take care of yourself, doesn't take away from anyone else.” If you're interested in a hybrid group/1:1 course on Emotions from Madeline and Knomii you can sign up for the fall wait list HERE Think about where you're at in the cycle of awareness, acceptance and action - If you're stuck in “awareness” think about moving in to the experimenter/observers mindset you can learn more in this YouTube Video Connect with Madeline and Knomii: Website: www.knomii.com  Instagram: www.instagram.com/knomii.coach TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@knomii.coach Free 30-min clarity call: https://savvycal.com/knomii/mediumlady Join the waitlist for the Knomii Emotions course launching this fall Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode is part one of my interview with Madeline Farquarson from Knomii. Madeline is a Certified Professional Coach and Co-Founder of Knomii. Her coaching and counselling practice helps self-aware and overwhelmed achievers reclaim their freedom and energy by reconnecting with themselves. As an anxious over-thinker herself, she loves helping people trapped in their lives and heads start taking action and making decisions that put all that self-awareness to good use. The first part of our conversation tackles the overlap between therapy and coaching and teaches us a very helpful lesson about the difference between fear, anxiety and overthinking. Make sure you're following the podcast so you don't miss part two of the conversation next week! Episode Summary Madeline shares why having a deeper sense of purpose and meaning is something that gets her out of bed in the morning Listen for a great description on what coaching is, what coaching isn't, what therapy is and what therapy isn't - you've always wanted to know! An exploration of the gap between therapy and coaching and how to bridge that for yourself and with your wellness team Why therapy can feel unproductive at times - even when you're working really hard! Does self-awareness lead to burnout? Madeline and Erin both think so… but you need to reflect back on times when this might have been true for you. The difference between core emotions and inhibitor emotions will change the way you think about your anxiety.  Anxiety is an inhibitor emotion, it's trying to inhibit your experience of a core emotion that you've learned is unsafe to feel Overthinking is a defence emotion which tries to protect us from the discomfort and pain of inhibitory emotions or core emotions Remember this: “Challenging emotions lead us to feelings of relief when we express them.”   Connect with Madeline and Knomii: Website: www.knomii.com  Instagram: www.instagram.com/knomii.coach TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@knomii.coach Free 30-min clarity call: https://savvycal.com/knomii/mediumlady   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode is our quarterly “five things list” but instead of five things I'll share SIX things that are saving my summer. You're going to love today's episode if you find, like I do, that at this point of the season, you're rushing trying to cram as much life as possible into every minute of every day. I don't know about you but I need permission to slow down! And this kind of list, my favourite foods, apps, clothes and yes even a few mindset tricks, is just the ticket to getting out of those limiting beliefs and feeling the relief that a positive reframe can bring. This episode I'll share the six things saving my summer, and I even got to share what YOU told me was saving your summer this year as well!   Thoughts and Musings Lately I've just been feeling as thought I've been cramming more and more into the same amount of time I've come to the conclusion that I need to figure out a way to slow down This leads me to consider my limiting believe that “I don't have enough time” and “I can't slow down” What makes your list of things saving your summer? Anything that you want more of, or the things you think you “should” be doing this summer There's no limit to what makes the list! Don't edit or censor yourself - whatever ends up on your list is unique and applicable to you.  Some of my summer fatigue comes from making lots of decisions in every day and some of the things on my list help to minimize over thinking and decision fatigue The SIX Things Amazon bike shorts under my favourite summer dresses Treats and meals on auto-pilot - removing as many decisions as possible when it comes to eating and treats  The Finch Self Care App - here's my friend code! J16CFE2T4A ALL of my Friendships - if you're my friend, thank you for saving my summer - and if we're in a group chat you are a real one Getting 10K steps a day - it's annoying but this really works A new exercise to reframe my mindset around Limiting Beliefs When I went to my stories on Instagram to hear from you - listeners! Here's what you shared: A big family road trip adventure Confidence to operate the new barbeque Living each day like it's the BEST DAY EVER EVA Birkenstocks in every colour Lizard time - purposefully going outside to sit in the sun Air dried hair Backyard pool Planning lunch ideas ahead of time to avoid getting in a rut Moving my workouts to first thing in the morning and having time to read during the day Other Episodes referenced Episode 104 Part Two Four Questions to Free Yourself From Summer Stress Episode 103: Part One Four Questions to Free Yourself From Summer Stress   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Today's episode is a behind the scenes reflection on the five things I learned from hosting my very first event. Typically all episodes that end on the 5 I do my “five things saving my life” series but this episode is a switch up, 5 things I learned putting together the “Chase the Good” Event which happened live and in person on June 8! The event was incredible and surpassed all of my expectations. This episode I'll break down a little of what it FELT like to plan, prepare and deliver on a huge (and public) step outside of my comfort zone.   Thoughts and Musings In the last year I've felt my ideas and curiosity growing about putting together a paid offer After speaking on a panel at the Healed Hearts Empowered Voices, hosted by Jam Gamble, and felt awed by the impact of an in person event Jam challenged me on Instagram to host an event - and because of this external accountability I felt like I could follow through or I “had” to follow through Then people who saw Jam on Instagram started asking me about my ideas for the event: when you speak things out into existence you engage other people in participating in your vision “When you speak things out loud, you call other people in, to help you achieve your dreams” Once the ball got rolling and people were aware that I was planning the event it started to come up in conversation and that allowed me the opportunity to receive encouragement, and advice and ideas from other people. This became a supportive context where I could do something outside of my comfort zone while feeling encouraged.  Chasing the Good for me is about gratitude and presence while balancing the experience of being a millennial woman and mother. Understanding that we were heavily conditioned to want a specific kind of life and now coming of age to recognize that we're not sure what we REALLY want, and what we've been taught to believe we want. Chasing the Good is about how to go after MORE of what you truly want, and to filter out what you've been conditioned to think you want. The event was an incredible success with a great group of women I had to do a lot of inner work to prepare myself to step outside of my comfort zone and share a paid offer with my audience   Things I learned Picking a date is hard: Eventually I had to realize that there was no perfect date for the audience (especially busy women and mothers) and I had to go with the choices that felt right and easy to me. Food is hard to plan for and will eat up your event margins: I ordered 50% more food than I needed! But even though food is hard to plan for it's absolutely essential to make people feel cared for during the event. Events are not for making money - at least not your first event! And even though making money wasn't the goal for me, I was still curious to see what would happen from hosting a paid event. Gift Bags are not a big deal and they make people really happy. Even though I spent way too much time overthinking what to put in the gift bag, they are an essential part of any future events that I might have. Hosting your event comes hand in hand with a lot of hard work on your mindset. Thankfully with guidance and coaching from Siobhan France I was able to work on understanding this mindset. I gained trust that my offers will find the people they are for and the people they aren't for are still served by other kinds of content that I offer. While I'll still have to work on this for future offers, the barrier to entry is way lower now that I've built trust from this first experience.   What will I do with this package of content? WHere can I take it and modify it for other audiences? I'm going to wait and see before I decide but I do want to do SOMETHING with the content. If you have any ideas within you to share content and passion with an audience - You CAN do it, of COURSE you can.  Other Episodes referenced The Happiness Challenge with Ellen Wong Episode 74 How to Be a Human with a Voice with Jam Gamble   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! We know that the MLT main feed always enjoys a crossover episode with my sister podcast Medium Lady Reads (affectionately known as MLR). Enjoy this episode with guest host Alesia Galati from @wereadsmut on Instagram! _______________________ Hello, Hi, and welcome to Medium Lady Reads this is episode 22, “The BIPOC Alphabet Reading Challenge with guest Alesia Galati.” In this episode, Jillian and Erin welcome their first guest host, Alesia Galati! They're discussing Alesia's BIPOC Alphabet Reading Challenge. Jillian and Erin would love it if you shared what diverse authors you're reading! Be sure to tag them on Instagram, Jillian is @jillianfindinghappy and Erin is @medium.lady, or you can tag the show @mediumladyreads! In This Episode: Jillian welcomes Alesia to the episode. Alesia is the owner and founder of Galati Media, as well as podcast host of two shows, “Successful Podcasting Unlocked” and “Listeners to Leads.” In addition to being a fellow book lover. She is the co-creator behind We Read Smut on Instagram, a bookish account dedicated to those who like their books ranging anywhere from sweet to scorching.  You can find Alesia on Instagram here, and you can find @WeReadSmut on Instagram here. Alesia introduces herself.  Learn how Alesia was reintroduced into the reading world. All three women check-in on how their reading is going. It's time to talk about the BIPOC Alphabet Challenge and you can learn all about it by clicking here. Alesia kicks-off the recommendations in this episode - tune in to hear all 26 recommendations from diverse authors.  The women share what's on their holds list. Books In This Episode: A: Almost Maybes by Anna P.  A: Against the Loveless World by Susan Abulhawa B: Bad Guy by Kenya Goree-Bell C: Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese D: Drop Dead Gorgeous by Lauren Landish E: Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon F: Firekeeper's Daughter by Angeline Boulley G: Getting Schooled by Christina C. Jones H: Honey and Spice by Bolu Babalola I: In Every Mirror She's Black by Lola Akinmade Åkerström J: Just for the Cameras by Viano Oniomoh J: Let Us Descend by Jesmyn Ward J: The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan K: Kwarq by Nikki Clarke K: Know My Name by Chanel Miller K: The Kite Runner by Khalid Hosseini L: Leave the World Behind by Ruman Alaam M: Much Ado about Nada by Uzma Jallaludin N: Nightcrawling by Leila Mottley O: On the Come Up by Angie Thomas P: Persepolis by Marjane Strajapi Q: Queenie & the Krakens by Aleera Anaya Ceres Q: Q&A by Vikas Swarup Q: Quicksand by Nella Larsen R: Role Playing by Cathy Yardley S: ShadowLands Omega by Elizabeth Stephens T: Transcendent Kingdom by Yaa Gyasi V: V - Vampires of El Norte by Isabel Cañas V: The Vanishing Half by Brit Bennett V: Venco by Cherie Dimaline W: We Were Dreamers by Simu Liu X: Xeni by Rebekah Weatherspoon X: Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia X: XOXO by Axie Oh Y: Yolk by Mary H.K. Choi Z: Prize Money by Celeste Castro Z: Anita de Monte Laughs Last by Xóchitl González Z: Zora Books Her Happily Ever After by Taj McCoy

Hello, hi! Welcome back to Medium Lady Talks! In this episode, I continues my deep dive into how to free yourself from summer stress with the final two of the four essential questions. Building on last year's insightful Episode 70, "My Life-Changing Hack for Having the Best Summer Ever," and the first part of this series in Episode 103, Erin provides practical advice to help listeners avoid becoming overwhelmed by summer's demands. Episode Highlights: 1. Name your Top Three Summer Experiences: Erin shares her top three personal summer experiences that she aims to enjoy. Emphasizing the importance of individual joy over imposed expectations, she encourages listeners to identify and prioritize their own key experiences for a fulfilling summer.     2. How will you Find Rest this Summer?: Rest isn't just about sleep. Erin explores various forms of rest to recharge during the busy summer months.     Erin's discussion revolves around the empowering quote, "In between stimulus and response there is a space. Within that space lies your ability to choose, and in that choice, you find your freedom." She encourages listeners to embrace freedom over perfectionism and make mindful choices to enhance their summer experience.  Erin invites everyone to join her in-person workshop, "Chase the Good," on June 8th in Burlington, Ontario. This event will provide tools and strategies to help participants recognize and amplify the good in their lives. Tickets are available via the link! Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Welcome back to another exciting episode of the podcast! Today, I'm revisiting the topic of summer stress, building on the success of last year's popular Episode 70, "My Life-Changing Hack for Having the Best Summer Ever." In Episode 103, I'll kick off the first of a two-part series dedicated to answering four crucial questions designed to help you avoid feeling reactive and overwhelmed by summer's endless tasks. So grab a cup of tea and your journal and get ready to say good bye to your summer stress. In today's episode, we focus on the first two questions: 1. What are you excited for this summer? 2. What has you feeling exhausted this summer? By addressing these questions, you can proactively manage your summer plans and emotions, ensuring a more relaxed and enjoyable season. This episode emphasizes the concept of choosing freedom over perfectionism when planning your summer activities. Don't forget to stay tuned for Episode 104, airing on May 29th, where we'll tackle the remaining two questions: 3. What are the top three experiences you'd like to have this summer? 4. How will you rest this summer? If you're local to Ontario, Canada I would love it if you join me at the Chase the Good workshop on June 8th, in Burlington Ontario. Tickets are still available! eThis in-person event is the perfect opportunity to connect, reflect, and embrace the best of what summer, motherhood and our every day lives have to offer. Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! Welcome to Episode 102 of Medium Lady Talks where we're unpacking a thought-provoking question: "Can you change what you want?" This episode is all about mindset, self-discovery, and the pursuit of happiness. And I'll talk all about what you can expect if you join my event, Chase the Good, on June 8th in Burlington Ontario. Exploring Different Perspectives Inspired by a quote from Oprah and my own personal "aha moment" in therapy, I'll explore different perspectives on this question. Some might firmly believe that their wants are fixed, while others acknowledge the fluidity of desires and the power to shape them consciously. In the "No" Camp In the "no" camp, we consider how societal norms and past expectations can influence what we think we're allowed to want. We unpack the pressure to conform to certain ideals and the discomfort that can arise from challenging those norms. In the "Maybe" Camp For those in the "maybe" camp, we discuss the possibility of evolving desires in response to changing circumstances or external influences. We reflect on the importance of exploring new interests and reevaluating our values as we grow. In the "Yes" Camp  And for those who confidently say "yes" to changing what they want, we celebrate the freedom and agency that comes with embracing this mindset. We encourage listeners to explore their desires authentically and pursue what brings them joy and fulfillment. Chase the Good Medium Lady Community Event Resources and links mentioned in this episode include the Chase the Good event happening on June 8th from 12:30 to 4 pm in Burlington, Ontario, Canada. This transformative event offers a space for self-discovery, connection, and personal growth. Get your tickets today and join us for an afternoon of insightful discussions, empowering exercises, and meaningful connections. Remember, it's okay to question what you want and to embrace the journey of self-discovery. See you at Chase the Good! And if you can't join us on June 8th join my Gratitude Coaching Waitlist: If you're ready to build the place in the world made for you and develop the skills to experience authentic  joy and gratitude, sign up for our gratitude coaching waitlist. This is a new service I'm offering, and will be a low/no cost option while we grow and learn from each other. Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello hi! In Episode 101 of Medium Lady Talks, we explore a timely question, "Do You Have Something to Say?" with visibility expert Megan Hamilton from Ubu Skills. We delve into three distinct responses: "No," "Maybe," and "Yes," uncovering valuable insights for each listener who finds themselves answering the question. For those who answer "No," Megan emphasizes the importance of evaluating the safety of using our voices and overcoming uncertainties about our opinions. She offers practical advice on how to identify and articulate what we want to express. For the "Maybe" responders, Megan highlights the significance of recognizing the conditions and barriers we impose on speaking out. She stresses the importance of considering the audience and setting boundaries, which can help diminish sensitivity to others' reactions. For the confident "Yes" responders, Megan provides guidance on choosing where to share our voices. She emphasizes the individual journey of discovering one's comfort zone and gradually expanding it by stepping out of familiarity. Furthermore, Erin and Megan reflect on their positionality as het-cis white women, acknowledging the privilege it entails and the responsibility to amplify marginalized voices. They underscore the importance of using their platforms to create space for voices that have historically been silenced. Join us as we navigate the complexities of finding, nurturing, and amplifying our voices in a diverse and dynamic world. Connect with Megan - Website https://www.ubuskills.com/  - Megan's Instagram: @ubuskills Key topics: 1) Evaluating Safety: Overcoming uncertainties and identifying what we want to express. 2) Setting Boundaries: Developing resilience to others' reactions and choosing the right audience. 3) Expanding Comfort Zones: Gradually stepping out of familiarity to amplify our voices. 4) Acknowledging Privilege: Reflecting on positionality and using platforms to amplify marginalized voices.   Don't miss out on Megan's invaluable insights and reflections, and be sure to follow her on Instagram and LinkedIn for more inspiration. Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Hello, hi! In this milestone 100th episode, I sit down with  Pamela Chriton, a photographer and owner of Ten West Photography Studio, to explore the central question: Can you make a big career change? Pam's journey from teacher to successful entrepreneur offers valuable insights into navigating the uncertainties of career transitions. As we chat, Pam reflects on her evolution from the structured world of teaching to the dynamic realm of photography, sharing candidly about the challenges, doubts, and triumphs she encountered along the way. Our conversation touches on the societal pressures to follow a predetermined path and the fear of stepping outside the norm. Pam's experience reminds us that while change can be daunting, it also holds the potential for profound growth and fulfillment. Reflecting on her diverse teaching experiences, Pam emphasizes the importance of defining success on one's own terms and remaining open to new possibilities. She encourages listeners to embrace uncertainty, take calculated risks, and trust in their ability to navigate change. As we explore Pam's journey, we uncover the essence of resilience, adaptability, and the pursuit of passion. Her story serves as a beacon of hope for anyone contemplating a career change, offering practical wisdom and encouragement to those embarking on their own transformative journeys. So, whether you're feeling stuck in your current path or yearning for something more, Pam's insights remind us that it's never too late to pursue our dreams and create the lives we truly desire. Tune in to this inspiring episode and join us on the journey toward personal and professional fulfillment. Connect with Pam: - Instagram @pam_tenwestphotography - Website: www.tenwestphotography.ca  Connect with Erin:  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads  

Hello, hi! Welcome back to another episode of Medium Lady Talks, where we dive into all things self-discovery and personal growth. Today, we're tackling a question that's been buzzing around: "Can a personality quiz really make my life easier?" Let's unpack this together! In this lively discussion, Erin and Tracy Stanger delve into the world of personality quizzes, exploring their potential benefits, limitations, and everything in between. They kick off by addressing the skepticism surrounding personality quizzes, examining common misconceptions and potential drawbacks. From there, they explore the diversity of quizzes available, from Buzzfeed fun to more structured assessments like DiSC, CliftonStrengths, and Four Tendencies. They also discuss the intriguing Enneagram Personality Test. Through personal anecdotes and case studies, they illustrate how self-awareness gained from these quizzes can transform lives and careers. Finally, they offer practical tips for leveraging this newfound self-awareness to enhance decision-making, communication, and overall well-being. Resources and Links Mentioned: DiSC Assessment CliftonStrengths Assessment Four Tendencies Framework by Gretchen Rubin Enneagram Personality Test Tracy Stanger's Website: tracystanger.com/learn-lbb  Tracy Stanger on Instagram: @tracy.stanger Conclusion: Ready to uncover your true self? Dive into the world of personality quizzes and embark on a journey of self-discovery. Whether you're a skeptic or a believer, there's something for everyone in this exploration of personality types and their impact on our lives. Let's unlock the mysteries of our personalities and embrace the power of self-awareness together! Connect with Tracy: Email: tracy@tracystanger.com Instagram: @tracy.stanger Website: tracystanger.com/learn-lbb Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Welcome back, listeners! Today I'm solo on mic exploring a question that's inspired by a text chat I had with a friend: "Is your burnout preventable?" If you've ever found yourself plagued with exhaustion, resentful of all the things out of your control, and down the path to truly crippling physiological symptoms, this episode is for you.   Summary: In this episode, we'll think critically about burnout, examining it from different angles. I'll reflect on a recent conversation with a friend and grapple with the question of whether burnout is inevitable or something we can fend off. We'll dissect burnout from three perspectives: "no," "maybe," and "yes," navigating through the complexities of stress management and self-care. Remember that burnout isn't a one-size-fits-all experience. It's about tuning into ourselves, understanding our triggers, and embracing the belief that we have the power to steer clear of burnout's stormy seas. Whether you're a firm believer in prevention or still on the fence, know that you're not alone in this journey. Reach out, seek support, and let's navigate through the waves together.   Resources and Links Mentioned: - Kristin Neff's book: "Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself" - Find more resources at self-compassion.org.   Episodes Referenced:   - "Gentle Goal Setting for Burnt Out Millennials and Mothers" (Episode 62)   - "Effort Energy and Connection with Siobhan France" (Episode 49)   - "How to be a Human with a Voice" (Episode 74)   - "The Identity Revolution: Why I Plan My Free Time Each Month and You Should Too" (Episode 82)   - "Is Friendship a Type of Self Care?" (Episode 68)   - "8 Ways to Make Better Decisions as a Couple" (Episode 60)   - "Is Your Self-Care Helpful or Harmful?" (Episode 83)   - "Medium Lady Talks about Parenting on a Bad Day" (Episode 10)   - "Medium Lady Talks about Lowering the Bar" (Episode 11)   - "Financial Self-Care with Lianne Hannaway" (Episode 53)   - "Finding Calm in the Life You Already Have with Cecelia Mandryk" (Episode 90)   - "Why We Get in the Way of Our Creativity and Self-Care" (Episode 67)   - "Medium Lady Talks about Doing Less with Tracy Stanger"   - "Everyday Manifesting" with guest Diana Alexander Rane (Episode 89)   - "My Life Changing Perspective on Having Your Best Summer Ever" (Episode 70)   Thanks for joining us on this insightful episode! Don't forget to hit subscribe and share the podcast with fellow millennial mothers. Stay tuned for more episodes packed with wisdom, laughter, and heartfelt conversations. Until next time, don't forget, you're doing such a good job. Join my Gratitude Coaching Waitlist: If you're ready to build the place in the world made for you and develop the skills to experience authentic  joy and gratitude, sign up for our gratitude coaching waitlist. This is a new service I'm offering, and will be a low/no cost option while we grow and learn from eachother.   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Welcome to this special Happiness Framework Series, hosted by Medium Lady Talks in collaboration with Dr. Ellen Wong Episode 9: S is for Sustainability Join us for the final installment of our Happiness Challenge as we explore the vital concept of sustainability in fostering long-term happiness and well-being. In this concluding episode, Erin and Ellen dive deep into the significance of sustainability within the context of happiness. From the broader perspective of environmental conservation to the personal realm of individual decision-making, sustainability plays a pivotal role in shaping our journey towards fulfillment. Discover why sustainability is not just a practical aspect of life but a cornerstone of the Happiness Framework, representing the culmination of our exploration into the nine elements of happiness. Resources from Ellen: Ellen Wong's website for more information about her work and programs. Access the comprehensive Happiness guide to get started on the complete framework! Connect further with Ellen on Instagram  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads Level up your Listener experience! 1. Reflect on the sustainability of your decisions and actions in daily life. 2. Embrace the concept of sustainability as a guiding principle in your pursuit of happiness. 3. Share your insights and experiences with the Medium Lady Talks community on social media @medium.lady on Instagram *Keywords:* Sustainability, Happiness Framework, Well-being, Decision-making, Environmental Conservation. *Key Points Summary:* In this final episode, Erin and Ellen delve into the multifaceted concept of sustainability, highlighting its importance in fostering long-term happiness and well-being. From environmental stewardship to personal authenticity, sustainability permeates every aspect of our lives, shaping our choices and guiding our journey towards fulfillment. As we conclude the Happiness Framework Series, remember to prioritize sustainability in your pursuit of happiness, embracing practices that nourish your soul and support your growth. Thank you for joining us on this transformative journey to chose a happier life! Stay tuned for more insightful conversations, deep dives and interviews on Medium Lady Talks.

Welcome to this special Happiness Framework Series, hosted by Medium Lady Talks in collaboration with Dr. Ellen Wong Episode 8: S is for Social Connection In this episode, Ellen and Erin explore the importance of meaningful social connections in fostering happiness and well-being. Join us as we delve into the pressures of social connections and how to keep it simple and attainable. We'll talk about our priorities when it comes to social connection, balancing the time we have to make sure it's meaningful without putting too much pressure on how we show up. You'll gain insights into how to cultivate and cherish meaningful connections with those who matter most, empowering you to experience greater happiness and fulfillment in your relationships in your family, with your friends and among your community. Keywords: Social Connection, Authentic Relationships, Meaningful Connections, Well-being Resources from Ellen: Ellen Wong's website for more information about her work and programs. Access the comprehensive Happiness guide to get started on the complete framework! Connect further with Ellen on Instagram  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Welcome to this special Happiness Framework Series, hosted by Medium Lady Talks in collaboration with Dr. Ellen Wong Episode 7: E is for Emotional Resiliency It's Part 7 of our Bonus Series on Happiness with Dr. Ellen Wong. While many areas of the Happiness Framework are concrete, Erin and Ellen talk about why the conversation about emotional resilience is challenging without also getting into burnout.  Erin and Ellen explore practical strategies for cultivating an ability to embrace both positive and negative emotional experiences, so you can maintain a reliable foundation for long term happiness over time. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, we uncover the transformative power of emotional resilience in fostering happiness and fulfillment, offering guidance on how to build emotional elasticity in your own life. Keywords: Emotional Resilience, Coping Strategies, Inner Peace, Well-being Resources from Ellen: Ellen Wong's website for more information about her work and programs. Access the comprehensive Happiness guide to get started on the complete framework! Connect further with Ellen on Instagram  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Welcome to this special Happiness Framework Series, hosted by Medium Lady Talks in collaboration with Dr. Ellen Wong Episode 6: N is for Nature In this episode, Erin and Ellen remind us that nature is right outside our door and only moments away from boosting our happiness. Once we get out of the narrative and perspective that associates the outdoors with exercise or work we can begin explore nature's profound impact on our mood and well-being. Discover the simple yet powerful ways to integrate nature into your daily life, creating an environment that nurtures happiness and vitality. Through inspiring stories and practical advice, we highlight the transformative potential of immersing oneself in nature, offering a refreshing perspective on finding joy and serenity in the great outdoors. *Keywords: Nature and Happiness, Well-being, Serenity, Environmental Connection* Resources from Ellen: Ellen Wong's website for more information about her work and programs. Access the comprehensive Happiness guide to get started on the complete framework! Connect further with Ellen on Instagram  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Welcome to this special Happiness Framework Series, hosted by Medium Lady Talks in collaboration with Dr. Ellen Wong Episode 5: I is for Inner Peace Halfway through the Happiness Framework and we stop at the core of our inner lives: the path to inner peace an essential component of a happy and fulfilled life. Erin and Ellen will discuss how we all need to learn how to quiet the inner critic, cultivate courage, and foster self-compassion, laying the foundation for greater confidence and contentment. Through heartfelt anecdotes and practical tips, we explore strategies for harnessing inner peace amidst life's challenges, empowering you to use this pillar of happiness to maximize a sense of stillness no matter how busy your life truly is. Keywords: Inner Peace, Self-Compassion, Confidence, Tranquility Resources from Ellen: Ellen Wong's website for more information about her work and programs. Access the comprehensive Happiness guide to get started on the complete framework! Connect further with Ellen on Instagram  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads

Welcome to this special Happiness Framework Series, hosted by Medium Lady Talks in collaboration with Dr. Ellen Wong Episode 4: P is for Productivity In this episode, we explore the intersection of productivity and happiness, delving into the nuances between happiness-oriented productivity and the pervasive hustle culture. Ellen shares a great example from her experience travelling in Bhutan. You'll learn the one quick question that will help align your productivity with personal well-being, so you can put your time and energy towards what truly matters. Keywords: Productivity and Happiness, Hustle Culture, Self-Care, Sustainable Practices Resources from Ellen: Ellen Wong's website for more information about her work and programs. Access the comprehensive Happiness guide to get started on the complete framework! Connect further with Ellen on Instagram  Connect with Erin: Instagram: @medium.lady Email: mediumladytalks@gmail.com  Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify Instagram: @mediumladyreads