Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Wanna get spoiled and stay in charge?This week, I'm breaking down how to play the game like a princess with a PhD in power. You'll learn how to make him think he's leading—while you're actually driving the damn car.Tap for the cheat code to his ego.The secret sauce? Tune in. I'm not giving it all away here, babe.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:AQUA-TRU - Get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to AquaTru.com - and enter code “ADULTING” at checkoutSIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Don't look to Shannon Middleton to offer wisdom or unlock your potential. She's here for one thing: to make you laugh, even if it's at her own expense. South Carolina college drop out, Shannon moved to Nashville 10 years ago and hit the ground running. Her life is a series of crazy events, and she's going to share them. From giggling with her friends to diving deep into conversations about life, no topic is off limits here. Expect to laugh, and constantly question if you accidentally flipped your playback speed to 1.5x. Join Shannon every Tuesday for your weekly dose of shenanigans on Probably A Podcast.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Listen bestie, you know that tight feeling in your chest, the unexplained fatigue, the random headaches and sleepless nights? That's your body screaming: this relationship is toxic!! RUN. (We're talking, romantic, platonic, or family—no one gets a free pass.)Today, Violetta reveals the science-backed truth about how emotional stress from toxic relationships physically destroys your health—think cortisol chaos, immune system crashes, and gut meltdowns. If you have ADHD, trauma, or an anxious attachment style, congrats—you're 10x more sensitive to this damage.Tune in for:The chilling Bluebeard story about ignoring your gut instincts (never again, babe!).A powerful checklist to instantly spot red flags.Clear, science-backed insights into exactly what's happening in your body.A no-BS, 3-step call to action to reclaim your life ASAP.Because here's the deal:You can't heal in the same environment that made you sick.So today, we're choosing YOU.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NUTRAFOL- This Mother's Day, consider the BEST-selling hair growth supplement!! For better hair + $10 off + FREE shipping, go to Nutrafol.com and enter my promo code - ADULTINGGIFTAQUA-TRU - Get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to AquaTru.com - and enter code “ADULTING” at checkoutPAIRED APP - Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at HERESIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you'll finally find out.If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.Bonus: Don't miss the quiz at the end—It'll help you decode your partner's attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you're done guessing and ready to know who you're really dealing with.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NULLY CLOTHING RENTAL - Just go to Nuuly.com and use my code ADULTING to get $28 off your first month.PRETTY LITTER - Get 20% off on your FIRST order + get a FREE cat toy + FREE shipping when you go to prettylitter.com/adulting SHOPIFY - Sign up for your ONE DOLLAR per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adultingPAIRED APP - Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at HERERULA HEALTH - Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/adultingSIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Think he was your soulmate? wrong. He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi.This isn't another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who's done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.”In this short, savage 5 step guide, I'm breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop romanticizing the inconsistency of A LOVEBOMBER. Because love bombing isn't love—it's manipulation with good marketing.You're not crazy. You're just waking up.It's time to stop making chaos feel like home.And no, babe, he doesn't get access to this version of you anymore.So save this episode, share it with your friends, and leave a 5 star review when you're done.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:SIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Second week of the month? You know what that means—it's time for Dear Violet - where you call, text, or email me your BURNING questions and I give you the best advice that you need to hear.From pooping in front of him (WHY) to co-signing car loans in the talking stage—On today's episode, I'm breaking down the dumbest sh*t we've all done for men who didn't deserve it. Plus: navigating ex drama, toxic friends, and how to actually move on from heartbreak when therapy, shrooms, and silent retreats aren't cutting it.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NUTRAFOL- This Mother's Day, consider the BEST-selling hair growth supplement!! For better hair + $10 off + FREE shipping, go to Nutrafol.com and enter my promo code - ADULTINGGIFTNULLY CLOTHING RENTAL - Just go to Nuuly.com and use my code ADULTING to get $28 off your first month.AQUA-TRU - Get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to AquaTru.com - and enter code “ADULTING” at checkoutSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're tired of feeling stuck, this is your wake-up call.In 21 days, you can reset your mind, body, and soul—and completely shift the trajectory of your life. No fluff. No waiting. Just the mindset, the energy, and the exact steps to become her. This is the sign you've been looking for!! Your future self is begging you to press play :)P.S. Make sure to tune in to the 3 call to action steps at the end.If you enjoyed today's episode, don't forget to subscribe and share with your friends! please leave me a 5 star review on the podcast app if you get a chance. I read them all and they really help my podcast

Buckle up besties, because we're removing the love goggles, dry-heaving over mixed signals, and finally realizing your soulmate is not the guy who ghosted you after “accidentally” falling into another woman's vagina. Oopsies.In today's spicy little episode, 'm diving into the chapter that should be tattooed on every situationship survivor's forehead: Let Them Show You Who They Are from Mel Robbins' book The Let Them Theory. This episode is for anyone confused, delusional, freshly dumped, or just in need of a no-bullsh*t reminder that love shouldn't feel like a cryptic puzzle from a 2009 Tumblr post. If they wanted to, they would—and if they didn't, they won't. Period.Subscribe now before I show up at your house and start reading this chapter out loud in a Russian accent until you cry and heal!!! AHHHHHHHH LOVE YOU

Hi besties!!! This week, Almost Adulting gets extra raw (and maybe a little gross) as Violet sits down with Bachelor royalty,Kaitlyn Bristowe, for a no-holds-barred conversation full of TMI, laughter, and brutal honesty. In this episode, we cover:We Listen and We Don't Judge – Icebreaker confessions, including bathroom mishaps, weird habits, and the things nobody admits to.Living Alone vs. Relationship Life – The best and worst parts of solo life and the unexpected struggles that make us miss having a man around.The Art of Oversharing – Social media, internet hate, and why people love to pretend they've never done anything wrong.Toxic Hollywood Friendships and toxic Hollywood men with weird kinks Poop Kinks & Other Horrors – Yes, we went there. Buckle up.Get ready for an episode that's equal parts hilarious, shocking, and way too relatable. We listen, we don't judge… but we might gag.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This March, we're giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aries man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to uncover:

Tiny Adults, it's that time of the month—our second-week Dear Violet episode! But first, a little story time. I just got back from a wild Vegas weekend at UFC, where I had an unexpected run-in with Andrew Tate. Yep, you heard that right. I'll spill all the details before diving into today's episode, where we tackle everything from confidence killers to trauma, self-love, and getting what you want.Here's what we're covering:The Power of Labels – How to label someone to get exactly what you want.Grief & Healing – Everyone processes grief differently. Here's how to navigate it in a way that works for you.Trauma & Your Nervous System – The difference between immobilization and movement during trauma—and how it determines your healing speed.Breaking Down Trauma Processing – The three key steps: sensing, naming, and identifying.When You Feel Ugly & Unlovable – My advice to someone struggling with self-worth.The 4 Confidence Killers – What's secretly holding you back from the life you want.Self-Affirmations I Swear By – Plus, a sneak peek into my love-yourself speech.The Real Key to Self-Love – It's not what you think.Does He Like Me? – How to go from the friend zone to something more.5 Easy Comebacks – What to say when someone's being rude (because we love a good mic drop).This episode is packed, so grab a drink, get comfy, and let's get into it! Don't forget to subscribe, share with your friends, and leave me a 5 star review on the podcast app besties :)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Pack your bags, Tiny Adults (is this nickname working for you?? Y/N?), because we're heading to Aspen—where the altitude is high, the skiing is tragic, and the men? Well… some of them are worth the trip. This episode is a rollercoaster of luxury, disaster, and unexpected life lessons. From scoring free designer fits to nearly dying on the slopes, this trip had everything. Buckle up—you're in for a ride.⏳ TIME STAMPS:[00:00:00] - [00:13:16] ➝ My favourite part of traveling, the perks of flying deaf, and why you should actually appreciate your loved ones.[00:15:04] ➝ That one time my boyfriend low-key hated me, my alleged passion for stealing, and how I learned altitude sickness (much like the female orgasm) isn't a myth. (Wait, wuttt?!)[00:25:58] ➝ Me vs. skiing: a brutal battle for survival. Plus, the lesson I should have learned—and what you should take away instead. (Cue the existential crisis.)[00:50:42] ➝ Brazilian men are hot, Bad makeout sessions, and why escaping Aspen is always a sh*t show.Click play for luxury, disaster, and life lessons you didn't ask for but need!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to Benson Book Club—your monthly deep dive into books that actually hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we're cracking open The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. “Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.” – Mel RobbinsTranslation? Stop trying to control people who don't text back, don't show up, or don't give you what you want. LET THEM. And then? Watch your life get so much easier.This episode covers:Why chasing people is a waste of timeWhy You're Exhausted Trying to Control People – The #1 mistake we all make when we try to “fix” or “convince” others. (Spoiler: It never works.)How to Stop Taking Things Personally – When someone ghosts, disrespects you, or doesn't show up the way you want—here's how to instantly stop giving a f*ck. The Freedom of LETTING THEM – What happens when you stop chasing, stop forcing, and just let people do whatever they want? (Hint: Your life gets 100x easier.) Your Energy is YOURS—Take It Back – You don't need their approval. You don't need closure. You need to focus on YOURSELF.The Magic of The LET THEM and Let Me Theory – The second you apply this, you'll start feeling lighter, happier, and completely unbothered.If you're tired of overthinking, over-explaining, and over-giving—this episode is for YOU.Hit play, and let's talk about it.

Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This February, we're giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Pisces man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to uncover:

Welcome to Dear Violetta - our monthly series airing every second week of the month! where I answer your toughest questions with the unfiltered advice you need to hear. If you've ever questioned a friendship, obsessed over a ghoster, or felt like you fall too fast in love—then today's episode is for you.Topics Covered:Ending a toxic friendship & signs your friendship is toxicShould you give a guy who ghosted you a second chance?The fastest way to get someone to do what you want (in work, love, & life)First date mistakes: The #1 thing ruining your chances before the relationship even starts"Why are all the men I date cheaters?” (Hint: It's deeper than you think)Getting attached too fast: The difference between love & emotional attachmentThe real reason we get swept away SO easily

What if I told you happiness isn't the goal—and most people don't actually want it?

Welcome back Tiny Adults! This month's BBC – Benson Book Club episode is all about trauma, your brain, and why you can't just ‘get over it--because Your Body Keeps The Score ;)We're covering:

Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This January, we're giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aquarius man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to uncover:

Welcome to the official first Almost Adulting episode of 2025! Today, we're breaking down what's holding you back and how to rewire your brain to unlock unshakable confidence.Spoiler alert: Confidence isn't something you're born with—it's a skill you can learn, and today I'll teach you how to master it in 5 simple steps.In this episode, we'll unpack: The 4 Biggest Confidence Killers: (4:31)Confidence Killer #1: Caring too much Confidence Killer #2: Your #1 biggest haterConfidence Killer #3: The biggest thief of joyConfidence Killer #4: Your #2 biggest haterI share my own personal story of how I overcame social anxiety, bullying, and self-doubt—and went from invisible to unstoppable. (14:02)The 5 call to action Steps that will change your life: (28:43)Change How You Interpret FeedbackUse This Affirmation to Change Your RealityKeep Promises to YourselfFake It ‘Til You Become ItUnderstand That Everyone's a LoserYou'll learn how to:Silence the voice in your head that tears you down.Stop caring about other people's opinions (for real this time).Flip the script on rejection and self-doubt.Use affirmations and power poses to build confidence fast.Create an environment that helps you thrive.This episode is your ultimate confidence cheat sheet. Ready to level up? Hit play now!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this raw and insane episode, I break down my wild two-week nightmare during the LA fires. From flames creeping toward my house and having to evacuate in chaos to my house getting broken into.Oh, and all those conspiracy theories? I'm spilling the truth—was it arson? Is State Farm really bailing on people? And why was LA so unprepared for this? Buckle up, because I'm sharing everything you didn't know the LA fires and debunking/confirming the conspiracy theories everyone's been talking about. Hit play to find out what really went down during the LA/Palisades fires. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

From frozen grapes under tables to dodging dating disasters to becoming a born-again virgin and reclaiming self-worth—this year was a journey. Tune in as I spill on heartbreaks, hilarious fails, and the glow-up moments that made it all worth it. Plus, the realest advice you'll ever hear if you think they're the one (spoiler: they probably hate you) and a step-by-step guide to manifesting your dream partner on New Year's night for 2025. Grab your wine, bestie—it's reflection and manifestation time. ✨We will be back on January 16, 2025 with the first episode and a whole new structure.

Ever wished procrastination was an Olympic sport because you'd definitely win gold? Well, it's time to change that mindset, one tiny step at a time! In today's episode, we're diving into the genius of the 2-Minute Rule from Atomic Habits by James Clear. Discover how this bite-sized approach to habit-building can turn even the most persistent procrastinator into a productivity powerhouse. Learn from the greats like Twyla Tharp and the biggest procrastinator you know (me!) to transform those daunting tasks into do-able habits. Whether it's conquering clutter or finally starting that side hustle, you'll be amazed at how just two minutes can change your life. Ready to become a master of small wins and big gains? Tune in and stop procrastinating today!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome.Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss:Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away.Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated on, and what NOT to do in your next relationship. A decade without sex—should she stay or go? I give therapy advice on what language to use to reignite her connection or to find the closure she needs. Your story deserves to be heard! Call me at (310) 439-8019 to share your questions, struggles, or just spill some juicy tea! Subscribe now for new episodes every Thursday. Let's dive in and start thriving—togetherSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we kick off with a hilarious throwback to my 12-year-old self being an absolute menace (prepare for secondhand embarrassment!). Then, we dive into YOUR CALLS. Your heartfelt, hilarious, and jaw-dropping voicemail questions and stories. From navigating loneliness after moving to a new country to dealing with relationship resentment from a ruined vacation, and even the ultimate tale of reclaiming your power after infidelity—it's all here. Oh, and what happens when your best friend chooses a boyfriend over you?Grab your headphones—it's about to get deep, raw, and empowering. Let's unpack, laugh, and grow together. Got a story or question? Call in at (310) 439-8019 and let's make your voice the star of the next episode!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Violetta shares the hilarity of being dumped by someone she didn't even know she was dating and catching the gaze of a hot (but very taken) actor. She also dives into her DMs to give one of you advice on why your partner might be obsessing over your wild past—and spoiler: it's all about their insecurities, not you.The episode wraps with 10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Don't Do. From managing emotions and embracing fear as growth to building trust and navigating happiness, Violetta breaks down how emotionally aware people thrive without letting their feelings take the wheel. Tune in to learn how to master emotional resilience and live your best, most balanced life.Got a juicy question or wild story? Dm Violetta at @violetbenson on Instagram for a chance to be featured in next week's episode. Let's laugh, learn, and glow up emotionally—hit play!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder how special you must think you are to believe you're the victim in every story you tell? To assume that when you fall, all eyes are on you, and when you fail, everyone is laughing? Seriously, how special do you have to feel to believe that little old you is not just the center of your own world, but the focus of everyone else's universe too?Are you Hey Besties!

Are you being needy or jumping through hoops Like a circus poodle to make someone's crusty a$$ son happy? then stop right there and listen to this episode sugar tits. Ever wondered why most women crave something from a man that they need to give themselves or where the key is keeping your rhythm intact to avoid creating a void in your life? Learn why lowering yourself to fit his criteria lowers the relationship value and why being the "nice girl" might not always be in your best interest.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this wild episode, we share the unforgettable story of a disastrous elevator incident that turns hilariously messy, delve into dating horror stories like discovering a date is married, and a Tinder match nearly goes off a cliff (literally). From ex-girlfriend party ambushes to duffel-bagged sleepover assumptions, and the epic Taco Bell 100-taco fiasco—these are dating fails you won't believe. We'll laugh, cringe, and give you the lowdown on the absurd lengths people go to in the name of love (or just plain chaos). We then end the episode with some dating advice about being the other woman and men with female best friends, you don't wanna miss it! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I sit down with Whitney Port, beloved reality TV star from The Hills and The City, entrepreneur, and podcast host. Whitney opens up about her deeply personal journey with infertility, the pressure of public life, and the complexities of navigating anxiety and self-worth. Prepare for a candid, relatable, and incredibly inspiring conversation as we delve into her struggles and triumphs.We discuss:Navigating Infertility: Whitney shares her heartbreaking journey through five miscarriages, IVF, and her decision to seek surrogacy.Surrogacy ProcessRedefining Self-Worth: How Whitney balances her identity and self-worth beyond fame and public opinion.Managing Anxiety: Insight into Whitney's personal tools for handling anxiety, from mindfulness to self-compassion.Balancing Personal and Public Life: Reflections on maintaining authenticity and boundaries in the public eye.Resilience in the Face of Loss: Whitney's reflections on hope, healing, and finding strength in the face of grief.And so much more!!! I also give you a fun intro about the date I am going on today :) enjoy!!!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men. On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed.We discuss:The Power of Praise: Why giving a little ego boost makes him crave your attention.Be His Queen—Silently in Control: How to stay in control of the relationship while letting him feel like he's "the man."Secrets from "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus": Tips that turn any date into the one you want.Boosting His Self-Esteem: How to be his safe haven and keep him invested.Mastering His Heart by Stoking His Ego: Make him feel like a hero—The knight-in-shining-armor metaphor and how men are motivated by feeling needed and appreciated.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereGet ready to take notes because these tips aren't just for anyone—they're for those who are ready to take back their power and get the princess treatment they've been longing for.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we go all in on love, dating, and relationships—holding nothing back. If you're fed up with mixed signals, emotionally unavailable partners, or just feeling like you're not getting what you deserve, this is the episode that will turn it all around for you.What we discuss:If you catch me doing THIS, then just KNOW I'm going through it and someone's dusty a&& son p*ssed me the F off!The best advice my mum gave me when it comes to heartbreak3 questions to ask yourself in the beginning of datingHow your energy in the relationship reveals if they're right for you—and the kind of energy that signals they're the one.How to stop wasting time on people who aren't showing up for you.The key to a successful relationship: (hint: you need more than love)And so much more!! For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereThis episode will help you finally break the cycle of toxic relationships and demand the love you deserve. Trust me, you NEED to listen to this one if you want to save your love life—or finally find your soulmate/your person.Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Today's episode is brought to you by:ACORNS Investing: head to acorns.com or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future today!WANT Book: Buy your copy of this year's hottest book, the instant New York Times bestseller WANT–available now wherever books are sold. Visit Dearmedia.com and use code PODCAST for 20% off Harris Campaign: Choose a New Way Forward and visit Kamalaharris.com/issues to learn moreGet more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Pick your colour, pick your path! In this special October tarot card reading, I've pulled out three different decks that predict the rest of your month—from your career to life to love! Each deck is tied to a colour that calls out to you. Timestamps:Green - 2:03Pink - 12:51Red - 21:16Each colour holds a unique reading packed with guidance for the month ahead. So, which one is speaking to you? For more premium extra episodes+ad free episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereDon't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Today's episode is brought to you by:Ned: Become the best version of yourself and get 15% off Ned products with code ADULTING. Go to helloned.com/ADULTING or enter code ADULTING at checkout.Misunderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel: To listen to MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel, just search for “MissUnderstood” in your podcast appSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're feeling lost, stuck at rock bottom, unloved, unheard, unmotivated, or unhappy in your current situation—if you feel completely defeated, like you've lost your sense of purpose, and that things will NEVER get better—this episode is for you.This is the wake-up call you've been waiting for!Today I get personal on what hitting rock bottom taught me and how I pulled myself out, and how you can too. We discuss:How everything feels like salt, when you walk around wounded.The truth about why some people have such a powerful impact on us—No they are NOT your twin flame.How losing yourself can actually lead to a breakthrough.The dangers of confiding in the wrong people during your weakest moments.How to recognise when someone's projecting their insecurities onto you.How to protect your energy and rebuild your confidence.And lastly, 3 things to remember when hitting rock bottom. We end this heartfelt episode with some laughs, cringe quotes, and a random true story about my encounter with Eva Mendes that might surprise you. For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereTrust me, you're stronger than you think, and your comeback is about to be legendary. Don't miss this episode and share it with your bestie—this might be the push you both have been waiting for!

If you're feeling lost, stuck at rock bottom, unloved, unheard, unmotivated, or unhappy in your current situation—if you feel completely defeated, like you've lost your sense of purpose, and that things will NEVER get better—this episode is for you!This is the wake-up call you've been waiting for.Today I get personal on what hitting rock bottom taught me and how I pulled myself out, and how you can too. We discuss:How everything feels like salt, when you walk around wounded.The truth about why some people have such a powerful impact on us—No they are NOT your twin flame.How losing yourself can actually lead to a breakthrough.The dangers of confiding in the wrong people during your weakest moments.How to recognise when someone's projecting their insecurities onto you.How to protect your energy and rebuild your confidence.And lastly, 3 things to remember when hitting rock bottom. We end this heartfelt episode with some laughs, cringe quotes, and a random true story about my encounter with Eva Mendes that might surprise you. For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereTrust me, you're stronger than you think, and your comeback is about to be legendary. Don't miss this episode and share it with your bestie—this might be the push you both have been waiting for!

If you're feeling lost, stuck at rock bottom, unloved, unheard, unmotivated, or unhappy in your current situation—if you feel completely defeated, like you've lost your sense of purpose, and that things will NEVER get better—this episode is for you!This is the wake-up call you've been waiting for.Today I get personal on what hitting rock bottom taught me and how I pulled myself out, and how you can too. We discuss:How everything feels like salt, when you walk around wounded.The truth about why some people have such a powerful impact on us—No they are NOT your twin flame.How losing yourself can actually lead to a breakthrough.The dangers of confiding in the wrong people during your weakest moments.How to recognise when someone's projecting their insecurities onto you.How to protect your energy and rebuild your confidence.And lastly, 3 things to remember when hitting rock bottom. We end this heartfelt episode with some laughs, cringe quotes, and a random true story about my encounter with Eva Mendes that might surprise you. For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereTrust me, you're stronger than you think, and your comeback is about to be legendary. Don't miss this episode and share it with your bestie—this might be the push you both have been waiting for!

Instead of colonising why don't we DEcolonise today? Trauma that is!Join me in this transformative conversation with global thought leader and TEDx speaker, Yemi Penn, as we dive into alternative approaches to healing trauma. We explore powerful topics like:Decolonizing trauma: What it means and how it changes your healing journey.Bending your reality: How to rewrite your narrative and create a thriving life post-trauma.Facing adversity and why cultivating a mindset of curiosity and rebellion is necessaryBreaking toxic patterns: Tools and practices to disrupt negative behaviors.Embracing discomfort: How leaning into vulnerability and discomfort can lead to profound personal growth.To get more information about Yemi along with her book, Did You Get the Memo?--a powerful book that explores reclaiming one's story and turning pain into power. You can learn more about both at yemipenn.com​ Women With Purpose)Tune in for practical insights and empowering strategies to transform your pain into strength.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My most unhinged episode yet or at least in the top 5!If you have ADHD or think you might or just want to laugh your a$$ off then this episode is for you. From my worst date stories to my doctor drug testing me for a snow habit at 9am, to giving you a tarot card reading for that one burning question on your mind—this episode has it all! Don't forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Love ya!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'm not enough?" Today, we're calling that out for what it is—the biggest lie you've ever told yourself, and the one thing holding you back from living the life you're meant for.This week, we're kicking off a brand-new series! Every week, we'll be debunking one LIE that's been holding us back from living our best lives, and we're starting with this episode.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereToday, we're breaking down the three key drivers of this toxic mindset and debunking each one together. For every lie we uncover, you'll get practical, actionable steps to help you step into your true potential. By the end of this episode, you'll have the tools to rise above self-doubt and stop letting these lies define your worth. It's time to let go of the lies and step into your power.TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - 9:07 - Imposter SyndromeHow and why your mind tricks you into feeling like a fraudDebunking the myths fueling self-doubtActionable steps to overcome imposter syndrome9:08 - 24:32 - Social Comparison TheoryHow and why comparing your life to others' highlight reels only keeps you stuckDebunking the myths that everyone has it betterActionable steps to overcome social comparison 24:33 - 37:40 - Negativity BiasHow and why your brain is literally wired to focus on the worstHow to reprogram your brain for growthDebunking the myths that everyone is out to get youActionable steps to overcome negativity bias37:41 - 44:09Powerful message/reminder that you are more than enoughFinal steps to help you start becoming the best version of yourself—the version that already exists, but just needs to be unleashed.Ready to crush self-doubt once and for all? Tune in now to begin your journey to self-worth and empowerment.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ready to uncover the dark, dirty secrets of starting a business? But first, Violetta catches you up on her $95,000 dentist bill (yes, you read that right), and the mid dude that made her an offer she almost couldn't refuse... ALMOST."Violetta is joined by Ret Taylor, co-founder of the wellness brand Ned, as they dive into the often overlooked, not-so-glamorous realities of starting and growing a business. From how banks can put your business on a hidden blacklist that could kill your dream before it even begins to the roadmap of how Ned managed to thrive in the Wellness space.Exposed: The secret blacklist banks don't want you to know about and how it can silently destroy your business.Essential for new entrepreneurs: The three unmissable tips every new business owner MUST hear to succeed.Stop glorifying the grind: Burnout isn't a badge of honor. We're rewriting the narrative on how to build a thriving business without sacrificing your mental health.Mindset shift: Life happens FOR you, not TO you—how this powerful shift can unlock limitless potential.Stand out or fade away: Why blending in is the death of your brand and how to make your business unforgettable.Giving back: Discover how this brand is revolutionizing the industry by supporting farmers and leading with purpose.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast hereToday's episode is brought to you by:Ned Wellness - Visit Ned Wellness and use code ADULTING for 15% off your first purchase!!EHarmony - Get who gets you on eharmony! Sign up today CookUnity - Go to cookunity.com/ADULTING or enter code ADULTING before checkout for 50% off your first week.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Find out why this episode hit over 100,000 downloads on its first day—Tune in RIGHT NOW to learn the psychology of WHY MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!!! whether beginning, middle, or end--it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta is bringing you part two of one of her most viral episodes to explain the reasoning behind this unavoidable phenomenon and a 3 step playbook that guarantees he'll come crawling back in NO time!In this episode, Violetta covers:Reasons he pulled away according to male dating experts.A 3 step playbook to get him crawling back:"Surprise Him"Mirror his actionsDetach completely in 24 hoursA guide for the girlies who got dumped.A guide for the girlies getting the cold shoulder.For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast here Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Get more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokWant more episodes?Listen to - Why Men Pull Away - part one - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-tired-to-be-crazy-with-violet-benson/id1459685850?i=1000610824819Listen to - How to Detach in 24 Hours - full episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-tired-to-be-crazy-with-violet-benson/id1459685850?i=1000661414993Listen to - How Men Fall In Love - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-tired-to-be-crazy-with-violet-benson/id1459685850?i=1000660615151Today's episode was brought to you by:Today's episode was brought to you by:EHarmony - eharmony - Get who gets you on eharmony! Sign up today on https://www.eharmony.com/Equilibria - Ladies, take control of your health and Head to myEq.com to try out Equilibria's Hormone Balance and Use my code, adulting for 25% off your first purchase! #Datingadvice #datinghacks #relationships #AlmostAdultingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you want to stroll into any room like you own it and have people hanging on your every word? Do you want to be so magnetic that the partner of your dreams can't resist being drawn to you like a moth to a flame? And how about finally standing your ground and making sure no one ever overlooks you again, so you can start living the fabulous life you've always deserved?Well, you're in the right place because this episode is your ultimate guide to leveling up your confidence game in dating and in life with my 5 confidence hacks. Welcome to BAD B*TCH UNIVERSITY, baby! This is the third of FOUR powerhouse episodes designed to change the way you've been dating, raise your standards, kick your self worth and self esteem into high gear, attract only the best, and unlock the NEW AND IMPROVED YOU!!!For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review! ✨Get more content on:Add podcast on InstagramAdd me on InstagramAdd me on TikTokToday's episode was brought to you by:Small Cat Food - For 50% off your first order + FREE shipping, head to Smalls.com/ ADULTING and use code AdultingEquilibria - Ladies, take control of your health and Head to myEq.com to try out Equilibria's Hormone Balance and Use my code, adulting for 25% off your first purchase! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to BAD B*TCH UNIVERSITY, baby! This is the second of FOUR powerhouse episodes designed to change the way you've been dating, raise your standards, kick your self worth and self esteem into high gear, attract only the best, and unlock the NEW AND IMPROVED YOU!!!For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - 13:12 - Catch up with Violetta:How to circumcise a manFemale circumcisionNipple piercings - good girl vs. bad girl.13:13 - 46:05 - How to keep him obsessed:How to attract what you wantBecome everyone's dream girlLearn the secrets to keeping his attentionBecome more confidentSay goodbye to toxic relationshipsEmbrace your worth, set your standards high, and stop settling for anything lessToday's episode was brought to you by:Pretty Litter - Go to PrettyLitter.com/adulting and use code ADULTING to save 20% off on your first order + get a free cat toy. CBDistillery – Visit CBDistillery.com and use code ADULTING for 20% offshopify – Sign up for a ONE DOLLAR-per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adulting Skims – Shop the SKIMS T-Shirt Shop at SKIMS.com. Now available in sizes XXS - 4X. If you haven't yet, be sure to let them know I sent you! After you place your order, select "podcast" in the survey and select Almost Adulting in the dropdown menu that follows.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to Bootcamp, baby! This is the first of four powerhouse episodes designed to change the way you've been dating, raise your standards, kick your self worth and self esteem into high gear, attract only the best, and unlock the NEW AND IMPROVED YOU!!!For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/TIMESTAMPS:First segment - Catch up with Violetta - 0:00 - 28:21Get ready to pee your pants with today's segment! Violetta discuss a bizarre news story that involves a pink Tesla and a man caught porking it, like it's just another Tuesday. She takes it up a notch and imagines a world where women acted like men for a day. She ends the segment with a trip down memory lane to her wild childhood —including the time she almost died (not clickbait) while her parents had no choice by to watch in sheer terror.Second segment - Are You Used Goods? - 28:22 -54:25Today we crush the myth of "used goods" once and for all. Violetta breaks down the four critical mistakes women make when dating under the pressure of that ticking biological clock. And gives you 4 crucial dating tips that will save you, so you can stop feeling like leftovers and start acting like the main course you are. We're talking:Do not make the mistake of dating when you are your lowest - you will accidentally pick up all the strays.NEVER out communicate a man - how you're turning him off. Don't hop into bed thinking it'll keep him—newsflash, it won't.Ditch the pity parties—your ex was trash, and he's gone, so stop giving him airtime.. especially on your dates.A little pep talk to close the episode that will uplift your mood and mindset when it comes to yourself and your dating life.This is just the start, bestie. Bootcamp's gonna be your best friend this month, with each episode hitting harder and empowering you more. Share this with your friends to reclaim your worth and level up!! so hit play and let's get into it!

Bonus episode - 3 hours of sound of manifesting sound for anyone looking to elevate their vibrations and energy to better attract and manifest while sleeping or for anyone looking for frequency music to listen to while practicing gratitude or doing my manifesting techniques from last episode/other episodes.This powerful track uses the 432Hz frequency as a base and continuously builds on itself, allowing you to elevate your vibrations and focus your energy on manifestation. Listening to this audio track or meditating at a frequency of 432 Hz can help you elevate your vibration and connect with higher states of consciousness necessary for manifesting miracles. You can use this tool to attract wealth, achieve financial freedom, gain education, or travel to luxury destinations.*Reminder: visualisation is a crucial element of the law of attraction so remember to visualise your dreams while this sound is on*The power of your mind and the universe is within your reach, and by focusing on positive thoughts, elevating your vibration, and using the Law of Attraction, you can make your dreams a reality. Download this episode to save this sound and share with a friend.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

STOP RIGHT THERE AND LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE RIGHT NOW!! Today, August 8th, marks the MOST powerful manifesting day of the year—the rare 8/8/8 Lions Gate Portal. Don't walk, RUN to listen to this episode on how to manifest everything you've ever wanted!! For ad free episodes + extra weekly episodes, subscribe to the premium podcast - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - 6:06 - Intro to Lions Gate manifesting Portal 8/8/86:07 - 9:14 - Grocery List manifesting method ( manifest multiple goals)9:15 - 15:22 - Letter to your future self manifesting method (manifest a new life in 6 months - 1 year)16:33 - 19:12 - Love letter manifesting method (manifest your future soulmate)19:13 - 23:07 - Whisper manifesting method (manifest a specific person to be OBESSED with you)23:08 - 25:50 - Other simple manifesting techniques 25:51 - 28:35 - Manifesting mantrasToday's episode was brought to you by:Equilibria - Ladies, take control of your health and Head to myEq.com to try out Equilibria's Hormone Balance and Use my code, adulting for 25% off your first purchase! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.