We're Not Fine

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug take on the idea that having been either the Golden Child or Scapegoat in your family of origin had a lasting impact on you and is most certainly showing up in adulthood and in your romantic relationships. Both roles are toxic and either cursed you with a pressure to perform and please or an assumption that you can never do anything right. Tune in and weigh in, we want to hear from you!

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on “defensiveness” as the most common maladaptive self-protective coping strategy in relationships. As you all know, that doesn't tend to go well. We feel attacked, defend ourselves, or maybe we roll our eyes, sigh heavily and tell our partner they misunderstood or they are too sensitive. We might not realize that we are creating a rupture by not validating their experience in that moment, but we are. Tune in to learn practical strategies to take that crucial momentary pause and learn to respond differently in those moments. Your partner will thank you!

Can differing ambition levels tank a relationship? When can it work and when is it a crack in the pavement? She loves him. He is happy to be who he is where he is, and there is no stopping her ambitious career path. An amazing mailbag episode honoring love from all walks of life.

In this poignant and emotional mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia touch on the painful realities of being in love with with a partner who is deep in addiction and not taking ownership of the issues or making efforts towards healing and changing. How much can a partner put up with? Can you force them to go to treatment? When do you leave? What if they are the love of your life?

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug look at the pros and cons of a significant age gap in relationships. What matters most is emotional maturity, communication style and the ability to appreciate each others special contributions of wisdom or playfulness. But what about bridging the gap? What about social perception? Tune in and find out how to navigate these complex and often wonderful relationships!

In this episode we address a listener's concern that he can't stop fixating on his first love, even though he is happy in his relationship and his ex is married with children. Doug and Dr Talia look at the power of first love from many angles. Are we obsessing or just nostalgic? How can we make our warm memories fuel a warmer current relationship? How can we reclaim the parts of us we have lost that were merely highlighted in those early relationships? And is there a pattern in when we feel that longing? Could it be when we feel disconnected in our current relationship? Tune in and find out!

In this mailbag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug take on a really important couples' question;“how important are shared interests in a relationship?” It turns out they're not necessary for the survival of a relationship, but it is undeniable that it can do wonders in creating connection and joy when a couple shares new adventures and memories. It's also crucial to have your own individual interests that light you up whether you are alone or with friends, and of course a balance of both is ideal for a happy partnership and life satisfaction. Tune in!

In this episode, Doug and Talia discuss the complexities of workplace friendships, particularly those involving the opposite sex, and the impact these relationships can have on romantic partnerships. They explore themes of jealousy, trust, and communication, emphasizing the importance of transparency and emotional intimacy in relationships. The conversation also touches on the role of couples therapy in addressing insecurities and fostering healthier dynamics between partners. The hosts provide insights into navigating these challenges while maintaining fulfilling friendships and relationships.Chapters00:00 Navigating Workplace Friendships02:51 Understanding Jealousy and Trust in Relationships05:48 The Role of Couples Therapy09:08 Men and Women: Different Perspectives on Friendships11:56 Emotional Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics14:47 Signs of a Healthy Work-Spouse Relationship17:59 Balancing Work and Home Life20:49 Final Thoughts on Friendship and Trust

This great New York Times article “What Sex Therapists Wish We Knew” really sparked some heated conversations and Doug and Dr. Talia wanted to share all of them with you. We talk about comparison being the thief of sexual joy, updating your definition of sex, and the different types of desire. You will definitely want to listen to this one. And don't forget to share it with all of your lovers!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

Sometimes incompatibility is a death sentence for a relationship, and other times it becomes clear that the way you are communicating your expectations is a bigger problem than incompatibility. This episode will help you determine whether upleveled relationship skills are what you need, or if your issues are truly dealbreakers threatening your longevity.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

In this episode, Dr Talia, Doug and Shanenn Bryant, the host of the Top Self Podcast respond to jealousy provoking scenarios, and test out the Jealousy Scale. Would you be okay if your partner kept a minor infidelity from you? Would you be upset if your partner showed you cute people they are following online or would it more upsetting to see their likes behind closed doors? We'd love to hear from you!

Love Addiction, do you feel constant stress about what your partner is up to, if they're thinking about you, why they're not checking in with you, if their feelings have changed? You might have a love addiction. Do you feel like you are not whole without a partner? Are you constantly seeking your other half? Do you feel like you must become exactly what others are looking for to be loved and accepted? You might have love addiction. Tune in to Doug and Dr. Talia as they do a quick deep dive!Keywordslove addiction, attachment theory, relationships, communication, self-love, emotional dependency, anxiety, conflict resolution, personal growth, mental healthWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

10 signs that you are getting “Throned”. Basically, Gen Z rebranded social climbing, and we love it. Throning is dating someone mainly to enhance your own reputation and boost your ego and credentials by association. Tune into this fun episode to determine if there's any of this going on in your life! And if so, what to do about it.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

A few episodes ago Doug and Dr. Talia dove into signs you may have had an emotionally immature or abusive parent. If you are finding yourself in relationships that have unhealthy power dynamics or communication patterns, those original emotionally immature/abusive family relationships could be the reason. If you blame yourself for other people's bad behavior, exhibit self-destructive behavior, fear others' reactions, long for their approval, or if you bend over backwards to manage or “fix” your partner's emotions to feel less disregulated, you will find your answers here, along with suggestions for continued healing. We've got your back, friends.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

Is your phone the silent intimacy killer in your relationship? If it is your phone addiction that is the problem, you would be the last to know. If it is your partner's mind numbing phone use on the other hand, it is probably all you notice. Doug and Dr Talia discuss how our screen use could be negatively impacting our intimate relationships, and offer baby steps we can take to be intentional with our attention again.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

In this Episode Doug and Dr Talia discuss the signs you might not have recognized as a child that your parent was emotionally immature at best, and emotionally abusive at worst. Were they overly moody? Constantly negative and critical of you? Did they invalidate your emotions? Give you the silent treatment? You're in the right place. Let us walk you through it, and you might decide it is time to talk to someone. You can finally be free of the negative impacts of the emotional abuse.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

Did you know one in four couples sleep separately? You will be amazed by how these couples describe the experience of intimacy in their relationship. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug discuss the pros and cons of couples sleeping in separate rooms. Great for sleep, terrible for your sex life? Or does the great sleep translate into better intimacy? Tune in to hear what couples are saying!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia ask some tough love questions about the way you fight. Are you fighting to win? Do you bring up the past? Do you get defensive and shut down? Take a listen and see if there are some ways you can level up the way you fight to strengthen your relationship instead of damage it.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug agree partially but not totally on whether we are more honest when we are drunk. Are we feeling our deepest darkest repressed resentment but unfiltered enough to finally say something? Well, that never turns out well. Are we no longer able to hide our longing and lust for a coworker at a Holiday Party? The question is whether our frontal lobe turning to mush for the evening helps us unleash our truth, or if what we are unleashing is an immature and distorted exaggeration of the truth and that is why we feel regret in the morning.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

In this Mailbag Episode, Doug and Dr Talia take on the many angles, caveats and exceptions to whether liking and commenting on your ex's posts online is actually OK when you're in a committed relationship. We'd love to hear your take!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

In this mailbag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug are faced with one woman's disgust with her boyfriend's all too close and dependent relationship with his doting mother. On the one hand, how wonderful that he can connect so deeply, that could only be a great sign for your relationship… Right? On the other hand, if he is not capable of fully taking care of himself, are you even dating an adult? Will he be able to take care of you? Or will you be taking his mother's place?We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77

In this episode, Doug & Dr Talia chose their top 5 favorite questions to ask a potential partner! Some of the answers will tell you if you would be a good fit for a strong and healthy dating relationship, and other questions might help you determine if your personalities, lifestyles and dreams of your future won't be compatible long-term.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Happy Thanksgiving WNF Family! We got great feedback about this Turkey Day episode from last year, so we are airing it again. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some very relatable Thanksgiving mail bags. Then we tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We also offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you, or dread, loneliness and obligation, we embrace you and want to share it with you. Gobble Gobble!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In the second half of this amazing LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into how Rhianna's history of chronic pain might still be affecting her, and she shares with us the professional knowledge she has gained from both her pain journey and her education. She teaches us about Somatic yoga therapy, and takes us through a powerful exercise in awareness. She gives us tips, tricks & strategies to live a more pain-free life.@thereliefspacethereliefspace.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In the first half of this amazing LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into Rhianna's personal story of battling excruciating and debilitating back pain at the age of 25. She shares with us how her unexplainable chronic pain affected her mental health and her romantic, family and friend relationships, as well as how she advocated for herself in the health care system. In the second half, dropping next week, we ask Rhianna how the trauma and grief associated with her chronic pain might still be affecting her, and she shares with us the professional knowledge she has gained from both her pain journey and her education. She teaches us about Somatic yoga therapy, and gives us tips, tricks & strategies live a more pain-free life.@thereliefspacethereliefspace.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this mailbag, Doug and Dr Talia respond to our listener “Giuseppe”, who is in love with his girlfriend and wants desperately to be supportive of her, but can't help but notice that she has conflict with so many people in her life. She insists she is not the problem. People either can't stand her, or have cut her off and she will tell me that she has spent years putting up with their behavior and has finally created boundaries for herself and will no longer accept their disrespect. Who do I believe? How do I support her if I don't like the drama that follows her everywhere? Help!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

For the third Halloween in a row, our favorite Mystic, Medium, Psychic and Healer Kaya Jelani returns to answer all of our questions! How can we tell the difference between intuition and our own anxiety? How do we know if something isn't a hell yes and then what do we do about it? How do we know when it's time to leave a relationship? How do we tune into alignment and misalignment? Can you read someone's aura? How do you tell your partner they need to evolve or evacuate?We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this mail bag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to a self-conscious 31 year old man who says that his fiancé is way out of his league, like traffic accident causing and heart stoppingly beautiful. He says he's just an average guy, and was mostly feeling comfortable until the barrage of questions and criticism from her friends and family started and never stopped. They can not understand why she would be with him when she could do so much better. Needless to say, this poor couple is suffering from a bad case of self doubt that is like a crack in the pavement, as it will keep growing under any further stress. Are they doomed?We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Nothing makes our intentions to grow and change, to start a good habit, stop a bad one, feel more poignant and urgent than sitting at the bedside of the dying. We think we have problems? We probably don't even notice the petty things we complain about, the ways we feel sorry for ourselves, or the things we take for granted. In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have the honor of speaking with Kelly Grosklags, LICSW, Grief Therapist, Podcaster (See My Grief) and author of "A Comforted Heart" and "When Love Meets Grief" about her 30 years of experience sitting with the dying and their families. We ask her what she has found are the most common themes of what we should not spend another second worrying about, we dive into peoples' near-death experiences and related epiphanies, why some find comfort in religion and spirituality, how to be a compassionate witness and support person for the dying and their family, and differentiate between grief and depression. It was an incredible episode if we may say so ourselves!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this final sixth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to apologize so well, you will not need to continue apologizing. In order to resolve conflicts in relationships, we encourage you to use 'I feel' statements and take responsibility for your behavior and its impact on others. Easier said than done. Sincere apologies are those that acknowledge the other person's experience and commit to making changes. To be heard is to be healed, and apologies without behavior change are just manipulation. BAM.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this fifth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to disappointment-proof yourself and accept the truth that your needs are not as obvious as you think they are. And your partner is not psychic, as much as you wish they were. And even though you might be better than your average bear at anticipating and fulfilling the needs of others, there are a host of reasons why your partner might not be beating you to the punch in meeting your needs. When you say “ I shouldn't have to tell them” or “they should already know “, you are in fact setting yourself up for a world of resentment, frustration and disappointment. Doug and Dr. Talia are encouraging you to own your needs and lovingly make them clear, even if you have to repeat them. We are rooting for you!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this fourth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples' therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about “giving the benefit of the doubt” even if it's hard. Yes Yes, the best predictor of future behavior might be past behavior, but giving the benefit of the doubt allows your relationship and your partner to grow. Don't pigeon hole them and jump to dark conclusions, you will perpetuate a reactive relationship dynamic in which neither of you see each other accurately and with love. We hope you enjoy this mini-sode!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this third of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples' therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about where each of us lies on the continuum of authenticity vs harmony in our love relationships. We tend to give our partner what we most desire. Those valuing “authenticity” (sometimes at the cost of harmony) feel most connected to their partner through honesty, sharing their thoughts, feelings, observations, and are more free to share constructive feedback and state their needs with their partners, hoping for a reciprocation in effort. On the other hand, those valuing “harmony” (also often at the cost of authenticity) value a general feeling of calm, ease, positivity, joy, and hope for a reciprocal “going with the flow for the greater good” in their interactions with their partner. Both ways of being in the world are often in reaction to family of origin patterns that we are either seeking to recreate, healthy or not, because the interactions feel like home to us, or to regulate our fried nervous systems, or hopefully to create a connection that feels healthier and stronger than the one we grew up in. Which is superior? A balance is what we seek, but what we do know is that you can have authenticity without harmony (not an enjoyable relationship perhaps), but you cannot have true harmony without authenticity. Enjoy!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this second of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples' therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we urge you to stay in the discomfort of having a loving but tough conversation with your partner. “Don't Drop the Rope” speaks to the idea that when our nervous system is short-circuiting in a trauma response; fight, flight or freeze, let's try to stick with it if we can, or at least acknowledge their bid for partnership along with our need to calm down, and reassure our partner we will circle back to resolve it as soon as we are regulated.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this first of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples' therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we focus on “If you don't do your your work, everyone around you will have to”. The idea is that the benefit of doing your work, owning your past, your trauma, your triggers, your unmet needs, is so great. You will be changing dysfunctional and toxic relationship patterns, you will be empowered to communicate your thoughts, feelings, needs and boundaries, you will stop feeling victimized by others' bad behavior and you will find more fulfillment and joy in your relationship life. On the flip-side, we argue the cost of not doing your work is too damaging. You will be perpetuating unhealthy patterns and continue to think others are the problem. You might even blame them for disregulating you rather than feel responsible for your own reaction, communication, and triggers. To “own” your triggers is to be freed from the unconscious toxic relationship patterns that are no longer serving you. We encourage you to level up in your precious relationship skills.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 2 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you're welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris's perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How's it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.In this week's episode, our couple shares how they reconnected after years of sadness, loneliness and solo journeys through their own busy lives and bumpy mental health. Gaby finally shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years. And stay tuned for our BONUS guest the last 25 minutes. Meet Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jenikka Tomashek, NP.You will come out of this episode feeling warm & hopeful, with a suitcase full of strategies for improved partnership around the hormonal struggles, as well as increased insight into the medical angle of what's happening, lifestyles suggestions and potential treatment options.SEND THIS EPISODE TO YOUR HUSBANDS, WIVES, PARTNERS, SISTERS, FRIENDS, MOMS, FRIENDS' MOMS & MOM'S FRIENDS... anyone you think would benefit from this conversation! Like, subscribe and follow for more!https://www.superiorintegrativemedicine.com/https://www.instagram.com/jenikkat_np?igsh=N2tteW9ndXF6bGtphttps://www.instagram.com/gaby_b_well?igsh=MXd0NXA4OXpnbndiZA==This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 1 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you're welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris's perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How's it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.Part two next week includes our couple sharing how they reconnected as Gaby shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years, as well as a segment with our bonus guest, Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jennika Tomashek, NP. You will come out of this episode feeling warm & hopeful, with a suitcase full of strategies for improved partnership around the hormonal struggles, as well as increased insight into the medical angle of what's happening, lifestyles suggestions and potential treatment options.SEND THIS EPISODE TO YOUR HUSBANDS, WIVES, PARTNERS, SISTERS, FRIENDS, MOMS, FRIENDS' MOMS & MOM'S FRIENDS... anyone you think would benefit from this conversation! Like, subscribe and follow for more!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Divorce is not the end, and it definitely does not need to be a black ominous mark in your life story. In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into Love After Divorce! Many of us get married young in our 20s with hearts full of hope and sporting a fresh pair of rose colored glasses. We live footloose and fancy free, no responsibilities, no real problems, and then a myriad of changes happen during those next two decades that can challenge and change us to our core. Sometimes the external strains of real married life; unsupportive in-laws, purchasing a house, financial trouble, having children and all of the complications co-parenting can bring, or even something innocuous like finding a new community, hobby, or religion and growing passionately in that direction, but not with your partner. Maybe one of the partner's develops mental illness or chemical dependency, maybe they have an affair, maybe you do. We are all human; not everyone has done their work, is an amazing communicator, or is willing to be self reflective and own their behaviors that are straining the relationship. In which case, let's talk about Love After Divorce. Tune in for some truly beautiful stories!00:00 Introduction: Falling in Love After Divorce14:59 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Relationships17:23 Chemistry and Attraction: Essential Elements in a Relationship21:57 Communication and Growth: Keys to Long-Term Relationships25:41 Soulmates and Compatible Partners: Are There Multiple?26:38 The Impact of Life Stages on Relationships29:47 Reconnecting with High School Friends35:15 The Importance of Emotional and Physical Intimacy45:37 Finding Multiple Loves in One's Life50:10 Recovering from Abusive Relationships51:55 The Journey of Self-Growth and Self-AwarenessWe're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Dear WNF listener, if you have listened to our show, you will know that ADHD is a topic so near to our hearts we wanted to find just the right person with just the right knowledge base and approach to do this complex and relevant topic justice. In this episode, we hear from federal attorney and trade negotiator turned founder of Interlace Solutions, a coaching firm helping professionals and executives to fulfill their potential. Elle O'Flaherty coaches both individuals with ADHD and couples who would like to partner better around ADHD. If you or your loved one has ADHD, this episode will really speak to you. We cover how to determine the difference between unfocused, burnt out, unmotivated and actual diagnosable ADHD, most common ADHD related issues for the ADHD-er, and then we dive into the impact of ADHD on a relationship. And most importantly, this episode is packed full of apps, resources, strategies for better mutual understanding and partnership around ADHD. Prepare to feel so much love and compassion of all those involved.https://www.interlacesolutions.com/@elleoflaherty on Instagram00:00 Introduction and Excitement for the Topic01:23 Overview of the Podcast and Topic03:11 Personal Stories and Examples of ADHD Challenges05:38 ADHD Brain Traits and Accommodations08:20 Understanding ADHD as a Strength10:05 Managing ADHD Symptoms and Challenges16:06 Elle O'Flaherty's Background and Interest in ADHD22:31 Increase in ADHD Diagnoses in Women24:48 Stigma and Disclosure of ADHD28:48 Talking About ADHD in the Workplace and Relationships32:03 Motivating Individuals with ADHD36:10 Reframing and Adding Interest to Tasks40:43 ADHD and OCD Overlap42:08 The Overlap Between ADHD, Trauma, and Autism Spectrum Disorders43:05 The Lack of Training and Understanding Among Healthcare Professionals45:23 The Challenges of the DSM-5 Definition of ADHD46:17 Medication and ADHD Coaching as Treatment Options50:27 Strategies for Managing ADHD Symptoms53:45 Externalizing Memory and Accommodating ADHD in Daily Life56:02 Creating Routines and Accommodating ADHD in Relationships01:06:21 Understanding Time Blindness and Hyperfocus in ADHD01:13:19 The Benefits of Having an ADHD Partner or Co-worker01:14:43 Accommodating and Supporting Individuals with ADHD in Relationships01:19:20 Strategies for Navigating ADHD in RelationshipsWe're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Are there scenarios in which a potential love or sex interest could be a platonic friend? Mayyyyyyyyyybe, but unlikely. In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia look at this question from many angles, and we want our listeners to chime in! Do you agree that it is nearly impossible? Have you had experiences of successful platonic relationships that have remained uncomplicated with exes, friends of the opposite sex if you are straight or bi, and friends of the same sex if you are gay or bi? We discuss sexuality, attraction, communication, and a fascinating research study of the American Scientific Journal. Tune in!00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer02:39 Can You Have Platonic Relationships with Attraction?15:39 Differences in Perception Between Men and Women20:12 The Impact of Socialization and Stereotypes28:01 Debating the Feasibility of Platonic Relationships34:33 Navigating Platonic Relationships with Attraction39:46 The Challenges of Maintaining Platonic Relationships45:58 Conclusion and Call to ActionWe're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this classic Mailbag Episode Dr Talia and Doug tackle two tough but relatable relationship issues. In the first, Amy gives Jake an ultimatum; either he quits his dangerous air courier job in Alaska after he lost two of his best friends doing the same dangerous job, or she leaves. But this career is his soul filling passion. What to do? And in the second mailbag Jess messed up with her serious long distance boyfriend of 6 months when she started up a “platonic” in-person friendship with her ex lover. She has been incredibly transparent and has done everything to honor her boyfriend's feelings short of ending the friendship. Dan says he has had enough. What to do? Can these couples be saved? Tune in to find out!00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer01:20 Recap of Previous Episode and Live Event10:19 Introduction to Mailbag Episode11:43 Jake's Dilemma: Convincing Girlfriend About Job Safety18:12 Navigating the Balance Between Passion and Relationship23:42 Understanding Different Tolerances for Risk in Relationships25:55 Addressing Anxiety and Fear of Abandonment in Relationships26:51 The Importance of Open Communication and Compromise28:17 Accepting the Inherent Risks in Certain Professions31:59 The Importance of Transparency and Trust in Relationships34:19 Learning from Past Mistakes37:26 Navigating Long-Distance RelationshipsWe're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia have a conversation with Kim Harms, DDS about her journey through multiple catastrophic losses in her life; the resilience and grace with which she came out of the darkest grief pit, as well as the incredible wisdom and advice she gives to other survivors of painful losses of loved ones. She lost both her mother and her 19 year old son to suicide, and her husband from what she is certain was a broken heart. This episode will give you such compassion for yourself and empathy for others in similar painful circumstances. We also hope you will be inspired to fight your way back to yourself, as Dr Kim says, and fight your way back to your remaining loved ones.Website: drkimberlyharms.comBook #1: Naomi & the Widows Club https://a.co/d/7QZdDuo and the workbook is just coming out!Book #2: Are You Ready? How to Build a Legacy to Die For also coming out now, more information on her website!Chapters00:00 Introduction and Welcome03:18 The Importance of Finding Joy in the Present Moment06:40 Dr. Harms' Personal Experience with Suicide and Mental Illness09:26 The Tragic Loss of Dr. Harms' Son12:20 Finding Meaning and Beliefs About the Afterlife17:01 Family History of Suicidal Depression19:50 The Loss of Dr. Harms' Husband23:03 Navigating Loss and Making Alternative Plans25:20 The Power of Revenge and Fighting the Grief Pit27:17 Understanding the Phases of Grief30:07 Navigating the Stages of Grief and Healing32:03 Finding a Safe Place and Conquering Fear and Loneliness33:02 Updating Identity and Finding Purpose and Joy35:20 Navigating Relationships and Love After Loss39:34 Overcoming Obstacles to Healing45:00 Planning for the End of Life01:00:00 Conversations about Death and Downsizing01:01:28 Planning Ahead and Choosing Where to Go01:03:12 The Challenge of Downsizing and Feeling Clean01:05:05 Leaving a Positive Legacy01:08:50 Finding Purpose Within and Living a Joyful Life01:09:46 Seeking Professional Help and Fighting for Well-beingWe're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk boundaries with Dr Catherine Cleveland. Boundaries really get a bad rap. We think of them as entitled, cold, rejecting, and whiny. Well, the joke is on us. The fewer boundaries we have with our loved ones, the more those relationships are fraught with irritation, resentment and even bubbling rage. "They should already know they are asking too much", we say to ourselves. "They should intuit that I hate when they drone on about my day." "Can't they see I am overwhelmed and can't take another thing on?" And then we say "go on", "sure, honey", "no problem", and then guess what? We add to our pile of resentment towards someone we care about that ultimately ends up leaking out of us with sarcasm, eye rolls and passive-aggressive snarkiness. What is the antidote? Boundaries! Let's rebrand this bad boy. If we understand our own values and communicate them clearly and lovingly, we eliminate over 50% of our interpersonal frustration. The other 50% of our frustration is most likely that we are not being honest with ourselves about our own needs and preferences. Well, we will help you with that! Meet our guest Dr Catherine Cleveland. She is a PhD-trained licensed mental health counselor who is deeply passionate about assisting individuals in rural and local communities with their personal challenges. She founded Cleveland Emotional Health, LLC, and developed The Cleveland Emotional Health Residency Program for master's and PhD-level graduates, dedicated to promoting distinguished mental health counseling. She also wrote the Book The Four Essential Pillars of Boundary Setting: A practice-informed guide to Elevate your Empowerment, Authenticity and Self-Worth.https://a.co/d/03QpghE3We're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Hey listeners, this is We're Not Fine with a quick update. We're taking a break this week to celebrate the holiday. We'll be back next week with more great content. Enjoy your holiday, and thanks for understanding!We're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

WNF Family, we did it! And we couldn't have done it without you! Our 100th episode marks two years of growth, amazing connections, brilliant guests, so many great topics hi-lighting the interplay between mental health and relationships, new learnings and much wisdom imparted. Join us as we reflect on our 2 years, share BTS drama, bumps and bruises along the way, and honor our beloved team Alex, Geoff, Jon and Digg as we ask them their secrets to a healthy relationship and their greatest insights about relationships. You don't want to miss this one!00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer02:43 The Impact of Mental Health on Relationships04:09 Reflecting on the Journey: Challenges and Growth09:07 Building a Supportive Community23:57 Excitement for Future Episodes and Live Events36:39 The Power of Honesty, Communication, and Empathy37:05 Assuming Nothing and Listening38:01 Being Considerate and Setting Boundaries40:24 Self-Love and Not Compromising54:25 Don't Be a Dick and Empathize57:13 Continual Learning in Relationships01:00:52 You Can't Beg Someone to Love You01:06:23 Differentiating Between Healthy and Enmeshed Relationships01:08:24 Self-Love and Confidence in Pursuing Personal Goals01:11:34 Gratitude for Team Members and the Opportunity to CreateAlex's Chocolate chip cookie recipe\\\\\\\\230g Cake Flour27g AP Flour5g Kosher Salt8g Corn Starch6g Baking Soda1.25 cups (2.5 sticks) Unsalted Butter285g Brown Sugar115g White Sugar2 Eggs3 Egg Yolks100g Walnuts450g chopped chocolate bars (mix of milk chocolate and dark)Mix wet, mix dry, combine together, add chocolate and walnuts, refrigerate overnight. Preheat oven for 375F. Bake 6oz cookie balls on sheet tray for 23 minutes sprinkling generously with flake salt halfway through. I've also been experimenting with creating Nutella "wafers" in the freezer to bake sandwiched inside the cookie dough. I press a bit of Nutella between two sheets of Parchment paper, then freeze until solid. Cut cookie dough in half and insert Nutella wafer before baking.\\\\\\\We're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this episode, Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen discuss the five main personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. The characteristics of each trait and how they manifest in individuals are explored. The hosts emphasize that these traits exist on a continuum and that there is no good or bad trait. The importance of understanding and accepting different personality traits in ourselves and others is also discussed. The conversation covers how different personality traits can impact relationships, mentioning specific disorders such as generalized anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder, dysthymic disorder, borderline personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. The Big Five personality traits are revisited, and the concept of agreeableness is examined, particularly in relation to valuing harmony and cooperation. Positive and negative personality traits are discussed, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance. The episode concludes with 11 practical ways to give yourself a personality makeover.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Overview09:12 Exploring Openness13:32 Understanding Conscientiousness23:24 Navigating Introversion and Extroversion26:39 Understanding Neuroticism28:15 Exploring Personality Traits and Disorders29:04 The Big Five: Understanding the Core Traits29:31 Agreeableness: Harmony vs Authenticity30:27 Positive and Negative Personality Traits36:57 11 Ways to Give Yourself a Personality MakeoverWe're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Today's topic is Dating with Daddy Issues in honor of Father's Day. Here's to all of the amazing dad's out there who are showing up for their children with interest, affection, tenderness and consistency. You are changing worlds and preventing attachment issues. We applaud you! Today's episode focuses on the wounds we carry with us when we have unmet needs from our own fathers' rejection, disinterest, criticism, infidelity, disappearance… All of these unmet needs affect our adult relationships and influence who we are attracted to. The first part of this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk about the attachment issues that can arise from our father wounds. Then we invite Melissa Rogers, expert matchmaker from our most listened to episode from last June 2023, Let's F#*%ing Date, into our conversation. She shares her experience as expert and dater. What are daddy issues? How do we know if we have them? How do our unresolved issues affect us in dating? What are the different wounding father archetypes and how do they affect our attachment style?We're Not Fine Family, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have a chance to talk to the beloved former news anchor on KARE 11 Sunrise, Bryan Piatt. He started experiencing symptoms of Anxiety and OCD from an early age with no understanding of what was happening to him. The disparity between his perfect external presentation and his quiet internal suffering grew until he could take it no more. He chose to stop running and hiding from his mental illness, and instead integrated the diagnoses into his life, ultimately setting him free and starting him on a healing journey that turned into becoming a therapist specializing in OCD and Anxiety. Please join us for this powerful conversation and get ready to fall in love.You can find him on Instagram at @bryanpiatt and his Podcast Take What Serves. Leave the Rest. on all podcast platforms!https://stateofmindtherapy.com/bryan-piattWe're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia respond to real life couples struggling with mismatched libidos that are negatively impacting their relationships . One writer is breaking off an eight year relationship because they can't meet their partner's sexual needs and feels insecure and constantly pressured to give more than they are able to give & in the second couple, the writer has a much higher sex drive than her boyfriend and can't help but feel undesirable and rejected whenever she initiates and he's not in the mood. To get to the meat of the episode, skip ahead to the 25 minute mark as Dr Talia and Doug catch up and banter for the first part of every episode!We're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug tackle one of the most common relationship problems; mismatched sex drives. In many couples, there is one individual with a more robust libido, who feels enough burning desire for intimacy that they are the default initiator, often creating a pursuer and distancer dynamic, leaving one member of the couple feeling undesirable and rejected and the other member of the couple feeling overwhelmed, maybe even avoidant, and generally terrible that they are not able to satisfy their partner. We share 12 great conversations starters to connect with your partner around libido compatibility and sexual desires, and we go over many potential causes of the libido mismatch. Tune in to your one stop shop relationship meets mental health podcast, and thank you for tuning in every week!! We're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia share their 50 years of combined experience in the couples' therapy room. Being married is hard, even if you're married to someone fabulous. What are the signs that there are some dealbreaker red flags brewing in your marriage? Resentments building that can't be undone, trusts broken that can't be repaired, differences in values and dreams that can't align without one of the partners feeling stifled. Tune in! We answer all of the questions you might be asking yourself!We're Not Fine Family, for quick and easy to digest takeaways from each episode and so much more, join our Patreon Memberships starting at $1/month. For our free tier, you have access to our informative and fun newsletter, it's worth it to join.https://www.patreon.com/werenotfine?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creatorWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy