Podcasts about top self

Hey guys hey! Ever feel like life's on repeat—same drama, different day? Whether it's in your relationships, your work, or that inner critic who never shuts up... there might be a reason: your subconscious is running the show. In this episode of Adulting with Autism, I'm joined by Shanenn Bryant—Pattern Transformation Expert, creator of Top Self, and host of the globally ranked Top Self podcast. We dive deep into:

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you're nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, insecurity, or control—and what to do instead. From revealing instead of blaming, to communicating needs without making your partner defensive, this episode is packed with powerful reframes and tools to shift from criticism to connection.Key Moments:·       2:00 – Why criticism is often an attempt to control, not connect·       6:00 – How to tell the difference between a complaint an emotional need·       12:20 – What your criticism is actually trying to say·       20:40 – How to turn a complaint into a “reveal or request”·       29:00 – The neuroscience behind why we misread our partner's silence·       38:00 – A hilarious hot tub story that'll test your jealousy triggersGolden Episode Nuggets:

In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who shares her remarkable journey from growing up in an alcoholic home to becoming 16 years sober and helping others transform their lives. From IV drug use at 18 to finding sobriety and purpose, Leah's story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling with addiction, unhealthy patterns, or leadership challenges.Golden Nuggets:

In this eye-opening episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Shanenn Bryant, pattern transformation expert and founder of Top Self, who reveals the hidden connections between childhood experiences and adult relationship patterns. Guest's Info Shanenn Bryant helps women demolish their patterns and dominate their future. As a Pattern Transformation Expert and founder of Top Self, she bridges the gap between attachment theory and real-world transformation, showing women how to recognize and transform patterns that limit both their personal and professional lives. Combining her certification in Integrated Attachment Theory with nearly a decade of corporate Learning and Development experience, Shanenn demonstrates why "conscious seeing leads to conscious being." Host of the 2.5% globally ranked podcast Top Self, she's helped thousands of women transform their relationship with themselves and others by understanding the science behind their stories. Shanenn brings a unique blend of professional expertise and personal insight to her work. She demonstrates how the same patterns that show up in relationships often appear in professional settings, helping women create lasting transformation in all areas of life. Through speaking engagements, workshops, and her podcast, she's on a mission to help women move from old patterns to personal power. Highlights The shocking truth about why anxious and avoidant people fall in love– and the unconscious dance that keeps them locked in painful cycles The "relationship land mine" hiding in children of alcoholics – why growing up with addiction creates a dangerous attachment style that sabotages love just when it starts feeling safe Why "trying harder" never works – Shanenn's personal revelation about why willpower alone couldn't stop her jealousy (and why addicts can't just "stop using") The hidden "core wounds" driving your relationships– uncover what's really happening when you keep choosing partners who can't love you back The surprising reason secure relationships often feel "boring" – and how your brain creates chaos when things get too calm The BTEA method– a powerful technique to trace your triggered behaviors back to their original childhood wounds How Shanenn overcame crippling jealousy – the turning point that saved her marriage after 8 years of struggle Why your brain is designed to confirm your worst beliefs – and the simple reprogramming technique that can permanently change your patterns The unexpected way Shanenn healed her relationship with her alcoholic father – after decades of estrangement Listen as Christopher and Shanenn share personal experiences and professional insights that will transform how you understand both yourself and the addicted loved ones in your life. Links and Resources from this Episode https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/ Connect with Shanenn Bryant https://www.topself.com/   Call to Action Schedule a Call Free Resources Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Make sure you're subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Subscribe with RSS

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom.From his concept of "the house of your heart" to practical techniques like "embrace the digs," Dr. Stewart offers a refreshing perspective on emotional intelligence that can transform how you experience your relationships.Golden Nuggets:

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nurture lasting love and embrace conflict as an opportunity for growth.Golden Episode Nuggets:

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In this episode, Dr Talia, Doug and Shanenn Bryant, the host of the Top Self Podcast respond to jealousy provoking scenarios, and test out the Jealousy Scale. Would you be okay if your partner kept a minor infidelity from you? Would you be upset if your partner showed you cute people they are following online or would it more upsetting to see their likes behind closed doors? We'd love to hear from you!

❤️ The Date Doctor is Here!In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony matchmaker, and author of the upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate." Dr. K shares her expert insights on building healthy relationships, understanding family dynamics, and navigating the modern dating landscape with authenticity and purpose.Key Moments

In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance.Episode HighlightsThe development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skillHow childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systemsWhy hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuitionThe physical and emotional toll of maintaining constant vigilanceKey Insights70% of children from alcoholic homes develop hypervigilant traits that persist into adulthoodOur body's stress response system gets programmed in childhoodEmotional threats are processed by our bodies the same way as physical threatsHypervigilance can create false beliefs and misinterpretation of neutral situationsReferences Mentioned"The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk - Purchase BookPlease note, I am an Amazon affiliate and I may receive a commission if you purchase this book from this linkBehind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp - Register hereAny issues with registration reach out to support@topself.comCall to ActionJoin the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp for:- Access to the Overthinkers Toolkit- 21 days of core wound reprogramming- Daily check-ins and support- Private session included- Workbook and guided meditation resourcesTime Stamps[00:00:00] Introduction and welcome[00:01:22] Personal story about childhood trauma[00:05:04] Development of hypervigilance as a survival skill[00:06:21] Scientific explanation of threat detection systems[00:09:15] Research on childhood trauma and relationship hypervigilance[00:15:07] Difference between curiosity and hypervigilance[00:17:06] Body tension awareness exercise[00:21:12] Reference to "The Body Keeps the Score" exercises[00:22:18] Information about the bootcamp program[00:25:52] Closing thoughts and practical steps forward

Wanna know the science behind being happier?  Check out this week's episode with Tedx speaker and happiness expert Tia Graham.Tia Graham shares some powerful stuff about choosing happiness, managing triggers, and transforming childhood trauma. From practical happiness frameworks to deeply personal stories about motherhood and healing, this episode is jammed packed with valuable tools for anyone looking to increase their joy and emotional regulation.Episode Highlights:The SPIRE framework for wellbeing: Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Relational, and EmotionalWhy some people are naturally happier than others (and what we can all do about it)How childhood trauma can impact our adult relationships and parentingPractical tools for managing triggers and regulating your nervous systemThe power of short, meaningful connections with friendsKey Takeaways:The MEDS Framework for Daily HappinessThree Ways to Increase HappinessTools for Managing TriggersGuest Spotlight:Tia Graham is a happiness expert and speaker who helps working moms find peace, joy, and emotional regulation. After transforming her own relationship with happiness through both personal experience and scientific study, she now leads the Calm Working Moms Collective.Resources Mentioned:Book: "Self Compassion" by Dr. Kristen NeffFree Resource: 30 Self-Care Practices in 5 Minutes or Less at www.calmworkingmoms.com/selfcareThe Calm Working Moms CollectivePerfect For Listeners Who:Want to increase their daily happinessStruggle with emotional triggersAre working through childhood traumaNeed practical self-regulation toolsWant to build stronger relationshipsQuotable Moments:"Happiness is a choice and it's something that you have agency over.""Everyone can make it better for themselves... there is a component of choice and agency, and that's really around your thoughts, your behaviors, your responses."Timestamp Highlights:[00:01:23]  Tia's journey into happiness research [00:04:17]  Understanding happiness set points [00:04:51]  The SPIRE framework explained [00:12:33]  Personal story about childhood trauma [00:17:14]   Practical tools for emotional regulation [00:21:25]  Free self-care resource introduc

Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!)  In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself.  Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why your inner child needs a time-out from running your relationships.Key TakeawaysWhy are you testing your partner with "abandonment scales" that don't exist How suppressing emotions is actually self-abandonment in disguiseThe truth about external validation and why it's like trying to fill a leaky bucketWhy building self-trust doesn't mean becoming a totally independent islandHow to stop abandoning yourself (even when you're feeling super insecure)Memorable Quotes

This episode is fire!

Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities.What We're Diving Into:The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfolio, showing up everywhere in your life from dating, to work, to relationships... all of itWhat Top Self is currently offering so you can make this your year of change.The fascinating discovery that our defense mechanisms are surprisingly consistent performers across all life domainsNotable Moments:"Our programming isn't compartmentalized" – which explains why some people lead the way they do, why some people react the way they do, why some people take things so personally.  our patterns are everywhere and we are on autopilot unaware of most of them.  What's Available For You Now:Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp: Six weeks of methodical pattern disruption ($397)One-on-one coaching: For those ready to conduct a thorough investigation of their life patternsCIS Membership: A collective of women examining their shared experiences with refreshing candorEpisode Breakdown: 00:00 - Embracing 2025 01:00 - The Paradigm Shift 03:00 - Origins and Evolution 05:00 - Pattern Recognition 08:00 - Strategic Next Steps 12:00 - Closing ThoughtsRemember: You're part of a community navigating these waters together.For your next steps in pattern recognition and reformation, visit topself.com/bootcamp.

What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now?Will it be the same thoughts you're having today?  Will you're focus be on the same things?In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" or better known as a thought spiral and suggests you could try to do the opposite.What?Shanenn shares:How your thoughts have likely been your biggest enemy this year and the physical impact of negative thought spirals on your body and emotions

Hello, I'm Vanessa, the host of Women In Confidence. Welcome and thanks for listening. I designed this podcast to appeal to working women who want to understand what confidence is, what you can do to build (or rebuild) your confidence and then maintain it. I interview amazing women who have genuine stories to tell about their journey through life and how they manage the ups and downs of life. My vision is for my listeners to try something that has worked for my guests and if it changes their lives then I feel that the podcast has been a positive contribution to the world.This episode is my musing as 2024 draws to a close and I look forward to 2025 and I start planning for a new venture after a week long awakening.If you enjoyed this episode or any of the Women In Confidence episodes, please like, rate, review and share widely so that more fabulous women can find us. Also check out my Instagram and TikTok pages for more content and confidence boosting inspiration. You can also tip the Women In Confidence podcast using the following link https://womeninconfidence.captivate.fm/support. Anyone who tips, gets a shout out on the show.I hope 2024 was good to you - wow time is flying so quickly and after a year away from the microphone, 2025 will see Women In Confidence returning to the airways. Vanessa xx

Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time?  Do you feel like you use your time wisely?  When I am insecure and jealous, I don't!  When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache.In this episode, Shanenn and Dr. Adam Dorsay talk about the concept of connection in our modern world. Despite being more technologically connected than ever, many people struggle with loneliness and disconnection. Dr. Dorsay shares insights from his new book, Super Psyched about authentic connection and how to find it in various aspects of life.Key Topics Discussed:The paradox of being technologically connected yet feeling disconnectedThe four dimensions of connection: self, others, world, and something greaterHow social media comparison affects our relationships and self-imagePractical tips for maintaining long-distance friendshipsCreating novel experiences with your partner to strengthen connectionThe importance of investing time in activities that truly energize usNotable Quotes: "We're more connected technologically than ever before... And yet, we are less connected than ever before." - Dr. Adam DorsayResources Mentioned:Dr. Dorsay's Book Super PsychedSuper Psyched PodcastDr. Pat Love's "Hot Monogamy"Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay:Website: www.dradamdorsay.comTEDx Talks: "Friendship in Adulthood" and "Men and Emotions" Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode.Key Takeaways:A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-opening fact)Only 20-23% of men cheat in relationships (Sorry to ruin your trust issues with actual statistics)Married people cheat less than unmarried folks (Apparently, putting a ring on it does mean something to both men and women)The divorce rate isn't all about cheating (Turns out money problems are the real home-wrecker)Shanenn shares a mind-blowing exercise that will make you question EVERYTHING you thought you knew about your dating history. Spoiler alert: her "everyone cheats on me" narrative turned out to be more like "25% of people cheated on me." Talk about a plot twist!The Episode Breakdown:✓ The relationship audit: A step-by-step guide to analyzing your dating history (grab your pen and tissues)✓ The truth behind the numbers: Why your "everyone cheats" story might be as reliable as your ex's excusesCrucial Reality Checks:Your partner's cheating probably has more to do with their issues than your worthYoung relationships, unstable backgrounds, and core wounds all play a role in infidelityIf your "yes" list is above 50%, you might not have a cheating problem – you might have a "picking partners" problemWant to dive deeper? Shanenn mentions her "Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp" coming up in January for those ready to break free from their trust issues and core wounds.Contact: sbryant@topself.com to share your own percentage or insights from this exercise.Remember: Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean your math is right. Time to crunch those numbers and maybe, just maybe, give trust a fighting chance. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.THE HEART OF ITThe moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it)Why we feel the need to prove we're "not stupid" in relationshipsThe protective pattern of "just so you know I know" statementsHow choosing trust over proof can completely change your relationshipHave you ever noticed that quiet moment before you launch into relationship detective mode? That split second where your mind offers up a perfectly reasonable explanation, yet something pushes you to prove you're not easily fooled? Shanenn breaks down this fascinating pattern and reveals why our need to appear "aware" might actually be working against us.Through real-life examples, she shows us how these small moments of choice can shift our entire relationship dynamic. Learn why phrases like "just so you know, I know" might be hurting your relationship.  Other topics covered in this episode are:The split second when your rational brain offers the logical explanationWhy proving you're "aware" actually creates more anxietyThe freedom in choosing not to voice every suspicionHow tiny choices to trust can lead to massive relationship shiftsTRUTH BOMBS "Your life will be so much calmer, so much happier, and with less anxiety if you make the choice of saying, 'You know what, I'm going to go with this logical explanation.'"MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE[Coming Soon] "Triggered to Transformation" CourseEmail: sbryant@topself.com (Share your moments of choosing trust over suspicion!)YOUR NEXT STEPS (Choose Your Own Adventure)Notice when you're about to launch into "just so you know" modePause when your brain offers the logical explanationTry sitting with the peaceful explanation (just for 5 minutes!)Share your experience with Shanenn at sbryant@topself.comDid this episode hit home? Share it with someone who's ready to choose peace over proof.Remember: Choosing not to say "just so you know" doesn't make you naive - it makes you brave.00:00 Introduction to Top Self Podcast00:49 A Teenage Adventure: Sneaking Out04:41 The Consequen Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

When self-defense turns into a legal nightmare, having the right knowledge and support can mean the difference between freedom and prison. In this episode, I sit down with America's self-defense attorney, David McDermott, to uncover the harsh realities of defending yourself in today's legal system. From navigating conflicting laws to the dangers of speaking to 911, Dave shares invaluable insights gained from handling more self-defense cases than any other attorney in the U.S. Topics covered include: - Why you can go from victim to defendant in seconds. - The critical importance of training and self-defense education. - How prosecutors use your own words and actions against you. - The myths and dangers of warning shots.If you carry a firearm for protection, this is a conversation you can't afford to miss. Learn how to protect your rights after protecting your life. This conversation is why I always tell people—get yourself some legal protection. And that's where something like USCCA comes in. ➡️ https://www.mrcolionnoir.com/go/uscca/ It's not just about having a gun; it's about knowing the laws and protecting yourself from the legal aftermath. USCCA provides education, training, and self-defense insurance for law-abiding gun owners. Because let's face it, even when you're in the right, legal battles can be just as stressful and dangerous as the actual incident itself. I personally choose USCCA because they don't just give you the tools to defend yourself—they give you the knowledge to stay out of situations like this in the first place. Even if you don't go with USCCA, go with something because you don't want to have to face the legal system alone. I think USCCA is the best, which is why I work with them, and they do offer my followers special FREE bonuses to become a member with a 365-day money-back guarantee.Self Defense insurance with special bonuses for Colion Noir subscribers ➡️ https://www.mrcolionnoir.com/go/uscca/  

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears.Key Moments:- 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living a fulfilling life- 9:00 - Dr. Warren shares a vulnerable story about her college relationship- 21:00 - The Three A's of Authenticity framework revealed- 31:00 - Why your friends might not understand your jealousy (and that's okay)- 37:00 - Small changes that lead to massive transformationGolden Episode Nuggets:

Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread?  Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship?  I was there too but you can turn things around.  Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference.  It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over.  Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.In fact:Research shows couples who recover quickly from disputes have higher relationship satisfactionOne partner's ability to recover quickly can positively impact the other partnerQuick recovery helps prevent conflict spillover into other areas of the relationshipHere are some common things to avoid but there's so much more packed in this episode:Getting defensive when partner isn't ready to accept apologiesSeeking excessive reassuranceEngaging in catastrophic thinking   Shanenn also shares some recovery strategies like:Use "I" statements when explaining your perspectiveFocus on impact rather than intentGive partner space to process their emotionsReturn to normal daily routinesAvoid forcing immediate reconciliation   ## Resources Mentioned- Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp- Individual coaching options- ForYourMarriage.com- PsychologicalScience.comSomething to highlight from the episode: "As bad as it gets, if you start making the changes, remember, you can make big changes with small steps."---## Social Media Posts### Post 1

In this episode of Referrals Done Right, Scott Grates is joined by certified life coach and podcast host Shanenn Bryant. Together, they dive deep into how limiting beliefs and lack of self-confidence can hinder personal and professional growth, and how to reprogram your mindset for success.Key Takeaways:Self-confidence & Sales: Shanenn shares how low self-confidence can impact sales performance and why addressing deep-rooted insecurities is key to achieving success.Subconscious vs. Conscious Mind: Learn how 95% of your actions stem from your subconscious mind and how reprogramming limiting beliefs can unlock your potential.Overcoming Rejection & Jealousy: Explore how to handle rejection and use jealousy as a tool for personal growth, turning these emotions into opportunities to rewrite your narrative.Tune in to learn actionable steps to increase your confidence, reprogram your mindset, and achieve your goals!---Episode Markers:(0:00) - Introduction & Overview(1:15) - Show Start & Shanenn's Background(3:15) - Impact of Lack of Self Confidence on Performance(4:40) - Self Awareness(5:30) - Subconscious vs. Conscious Mind(7:15) - Addressing Subconscious Thoughts(9:55) - Rewriting Subconscious Programming(10:30) - Taking Immediate Action(11:20) - BTEA(12:20) - What is the Worst Case Scenario?(14:00) - Silence That Voice (TEDx Talk)(14:45) - Methods in Reprogramming(17:00) - Visualizations(18:30) - Fear of Rejection(19:45) - Dealing with Rejection(23:30) - Comparison(25:30) - Jealousy vs. Envy(29:20) - Solution Not the Problem(31:15) - Confidence(32:00) - Learning New Things & Brain Plasticity---Scott Grates Links:Referrals Done Right Book Pre Sales - https://www.referralsdonerightbook.comReferrals Done Right FB Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/296359076662332Insurance Agency Optimization - https://www.agencyoptimization.comScott Grates Website - https://www.scottgrates.comLove Living Local  - https://www.instagram.com/lovelivinglocal315Scott's FB - https://www.facebook.com/scott.grates.1Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/scottgratesShanenn's Links:Top Self Website - https://www.topself.com/IG - https://www.instagram.com/topselfcoach/---The Referrals Done Right Podcast is sharing the secrets to creating infinite opportunities to grow your small business. Hosted by Scott Grates.

Feeling needy?  Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self.  In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.She shares the importance of becoming the captain of your own ship to maintain emotional balance and independence. Shannen invites you to take small steps towards self-sufficiency and happiness. Don't miss this lighthearted take on serious topics, as she promises cracking the code on meeting your own needs could be a game-changing, life-altering experience. 00:00  Welcome and Introduction00:19  Understanding Limiting Beliefs01:03  Today's Topic: Meeting Your Own Needs01:41  The Acronym SELF05:49  Identifying Your Needs14:46  Steps to Identify and Meet Your Needs28:27  Conclusion and ChallengeRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

How we attach in relationships is everything!  That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss.  This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva. Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed all four types: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment. If you are wondering why you're friends are quite like you and could give a flying fruit loop about their husbands traveling out of town with a young co-worker, than slap on those earbuds and turn up the volume because Jessica's here to tell you why that is.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:44 Understanding Attachment Styles02:17 Personal Journey with Fearful Avoidant Attachment04:04 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships04:51 Path to Becoming a Therapist07:49 Exploring Anxious Attachment12:48 Navigating Relationship Needs and Communication15:05 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Dynamics17:44 Fearful Avoidant Attachment and Jealousy22:02 Strategies for Developing Secure Attachment31:13 Conclusion and Podcast PromotionRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it.  That's not why so stop beating yourself up.  You may just being going about it in the wrong way.In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite trying various self-help techniques. She shares personal stories, including recent disruptions preventing new episodes, freeing a groundhog, dealing with a trapped skunk, and the misadventures of her skunk-sprayed German Shepherd BUT.... that's not even the good stuff you came here for. She shares the importance of addressing subconscious programming and introduces her upcoming 'Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp' for those feeling stuck in their emotional battles.00:00  Introduction to Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity01:37  Personal Updates and Apologies02:48  The Groundhog and Skunk Saga10:39  The Main Topic: Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity13:35  The Turning Point: Therapy and Self-Discovery18:00  Understanding the Subconscious Mind23:22  Invitation to Join the Bootcamp25:08  Conclusion and Upcoming EpisodesRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be. Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how settling your internal chaos can transform your life and relationships.00:00 Understanding Your Inner Self00:12 The Dilemma of Trust and Action00:27 Defining Your Desired Self00:50 Practicing the Person You Want to BeCheck out Abby's amazing Tedx Talk Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode, Narelle Todd and NYT Bestselling author, S.E. Smith, discuss the most common self-sabotage habits that hold authors back from reaching their full potential. Learn how to identify and overcome these pitfalls to boost your productivity, enhance your writing, and successfully market your books.

In this episode, Katie offers expert tips on managing period pain and mood swings by nurturing your liver, spleen, and kidneys. Hear Katie's self-care strategies that you can start applying today for a healthier, more balanced life. Don't forget to check out Katie's free organ fact sheets and her bestselling book 'Yang Sheng' for more in-depth guidance. This episode is brought to you by Dr Vegan - https://drvegan.com Try 'HAIR SAVIOUR' and use the code: BRINDLE25 to get 25% off your first order. Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KatieBrindleOfficial/videos To contact Katie, email: ownyourhealth@katiebrindle.com To find out more about Katie's Beauty Range, go to: https://hayoumethod.com/ Follow Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katie_brindle/ 'Own Your Health' is a Viral Tribe Production Disclaimer: Yang sheng techniques are designed to support your overall wellbeing and should not be used as a substitute for any medical treatment you may be undergoing. You should not use the information in this podcast for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The one thing I hear so much is how ashamed you are about being jealous, it actually even affects the growth of this podcast because you don't share it with your friends and family because you don't want them to know you're this way.  But I know you don't want to be this way and I also know that unfortunately you feel as ashamed and judgement because people will say your crazy, psycho or nuts and that makes you feel even worse.Guess what, you don't deserve for ANYONE to say that to you.  Not your spouse, your partner, your friend, your family members... no one.  And on the show today, I talk about why you don't deserve it.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode of the Top Self podcast, I talk with Michelle Brown, a functional nutrition and lifestyle practitioner with a specialty in the biology of trauma. Michelle explains how trauma affects the body's nervous system and the importance of addressing both mind and body to heal. This episode is a good reminder that other factors are at play within our body when it comes to jealousy and we have to take a holistic approach.  Michelle covers 2 BIG things to consider and put on your radar as you work to overcome your jealousy:how nutritional imbalances, neurotransmitters, and traumatic experiences can influence mood disorders, chronic pain, and other health issues. practical tips, including a mood fix assessment and somatic tools, for recognizing and addressing these imbalances for better mental and physical health.00:00  Introduction to the Podcast and Guest00:26  Understanding the Biology of Trauma01:37  Mind-Body Connection and Its Impact05:13  The Role of Methylation in Mental Health08:28  Exploring Neurotransmitter Imbalances13:07  Addressing Trauma Responses17:13  Practical Steps for Nervous System Regulation27:19  Conclusion and Final ThoughtsGrab Michelle's Mood-Fix Assessment hereSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode, master financial coaches, Shana and Vanessa, who co-host the Financial Coaching for Women podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% worldwide and stays in the top 10 "How To" podcasts on Apple in the US AND they are on Top Self today to discuss how financial transparency and trust are crucial in relationships. Backed by five years of hands-on experience as financial coaches and training by Dave Ramsey, Shana and Vanessa, have guided thousands of people all over the world, crafted what feels like a million budgets, and honed their own unique systems. Their advice stands out because it's non-judgmental, straightforward, and breaks down complex financial concepts into simple, actionable steps.They offer practical tips for couples to manage their money together, touching on: the significance of budgeting, building honest communication, and avoiding financial secrecy  by setting up separate spending accounts while keeping joint finances transparent and honestending the paycheck to paycheck cycleautomating your budget, bill, savings and spending00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:35 How It All Began: The Story of Friendship and Business02:20 The Importance of Trust in Financial Relationships03:07 Common Financial Issues in Relationships04:10 Early Financial Conversations in Dating05:49 Impact of Upbringing on Financial Behavior08:11 Transparency and Trust in Marriage12:03 Building a Budget Together15:36 Joint vs. Separate Accounts in Marriage17:57 Creating a Joint Budget18:07 Balancing Different Financial Priorities18:46 Bonus Tip: Making Budget Meetings Fun21:13 Automating Your Finances21:40 Separating Accounts for Better Management25:27 Handling Different Income Levels28:43 Common Financial Mistakes29:26 Digital Envelope System31:21 Conclusion and ResourcesRegister for the Trust Building Bootcamp:One-Time PaymentSplit PaymentsSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

What if your deepest insecurities could be transformed into opportunities for emotional growth and stronger relationships? Join us on the Lift One Self podcast as we welcome Shanenn Bryant, coach and host of the Top Self podcast, to unravel the complexities of insecurity and jealousy in our romantic lives. We kick off with a calming grounding meditation before diving into Shanenn's enlightening distinctions between envy—yearning for what others have—and jealousy, which stems from the fear of losing what we already cherish. Shanenn's personal anecdotes shine a light on the significance of self-awareness, helping you understand jealousy as an internal struggle rather than a blame game.Unearthing the core wounds from childhood, like feeling unworthy of love due to a parent's absence, we explore how these old scars shape our present relationships and behaviors. Through candid stories, we illustrate how recognizing harmful patterns—born from past traumas or betrayals—can disrupt your nervous system and lead to unhealthy habits. We introduce the concept of "sitting in the suck," emphasizing the vital role of experiencing and processing painful emotions for personal growth. Viewing emotions as data, not directives, becomes a powerful tool in managing responses and enhancing self-awareness.Our heartfelt discussion emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in forging stronger emotional connections. By delving into emotional intelligence and validating personal experiences, we provide actionable insights on building trust and open communication. Trusting oneself emerges as a pivotal theme, crucial for navigating the inevitable uncertainties and potential pains of relationships. As we wrap up, we encourage you to share these valuable insights with your loved ones, connect with us on social media, and remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. Tune in for an episode brimming with practical tools and profound wisdom on navigating insecurities and fostering emotional healing.To connect with Shanenn Bryant:https://www.topself.com/Remember, the strongest thing you can do for yourself is to ask for help.Please help us grow by subscribing to and sharing the Lift OneSelf podcast with others.The podcast intends to dissolve the stigmas around Mental Health and create healing spaces.I appreciate you, the listener, for tuning in and my guest for sharing.Our websiteHttps://.LiftOneself.comFind more conversations on our Social Media pageswww.facebook.com/liftoneselfwww.instagram.com/liftoneselfMusic by prazkhanalRemember to be kind to yourself.Always do your own research before taking action.Remember, the strongest thing you can do for yourself is to ask for help.Please help us grow by subscribing to and sharing the Lift OneSelf podcast with others.The podcast intends to dissolve the stigmas around Mental Health and create healing spaces.I appreciate you, the listener, for tuning in and my guest for sharing.Our websiteLiftOneself.comFind more conversations on our Social Media pageswww.facebook.com/liftoneselfwww.instagram.com/liftoneselfMusic by prazkhanal

If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend.  Addiction is tough and I have seen it throughout my family and others families and it can be so destructive.  Join myself and Rachel Harrison as she talks a bit about her recovery, how she is different today in many ways other than just being sober.  I hope this episode can be an inspiration for you as alcohol mixed with jealousy whether you have an addiction to it or not, can be a recipe for disaster.Connect with Rachel at www.recoveryoursoul.netRegister for the Trust Building Bootcamp:One-Time PaymentSplit PaymentsSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable.  Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you are not alone in this either.  I'm talking about cheating and not your partner cheating... you cheating.  I'll cover possible reasons this might be something you do or have done in the past. Its a short one but I hear it enough and I know you are feeling guilty and ashamed so I thought we should talk about it.  It's also a great reason to sign up for the upcoming Bootcamp and you can register by clicking either of the provided links below based on what payment option works best for you.  The Trust Building Bootcamp starts on August 7th.  We meet every Wednesday at 7:00 pm Eastern Time for 6 weeks until September 11th.Register for the Trust Building Bootcamp:One-Time PaymentSplit PaymentsSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

“Jealousy is not the problem, it's a solution” - Shanenn Bryant Shanenn Bryant is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low-self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship.  As a relationship confidence expert with a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the confidence code, and overhaul their insecure habits.  Shanenn is on a mission to empower women, dispelling the stigma around self-esteem challenges and empowering them to embrace their intrinsic value, finding strength to relax and thrive in life and relationships. You Don't Want to Miss: The top 3 things to do to overcome extreme jealousy How to know what “too much jealousy” looks like How jealousy imact our self-confidence and relationships AND SO MUCH MORE!! Links And Resources: Follow Shanenn at https://www.topself.com/ Grab Your FREE Self-Love Activation Meditation and Self-Care List at: http://theabundancealchemist.com/ The Abundance Alchemist Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theabundancealchemisttribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitlyn.theabundancealchemist/ Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any transformational thoughts, ideas, or inspiration! And, if you enjoyed this episode, please leave me a rating and a review! Sending you so much love and gratitude!  

I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the questions we ask and why we ask them.It's a quick dump episode but an important one when it comes to communicating with our partners and the reassurance questions we ask over and over again.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Imagine how different life might be if you found true acceptance within yourself! Today we welcome writer, entrepreneur, and two-time bestseller January Donovan as our special guest speaker on women's personal development; she provides advice for managing family life, career goals, and personal achievements. Jan is the creator of The Woman's School, an educational program that empowers women by helping them take control of all aspects of their lives, such as mental health, self-image, and meaningful relationships. January advises us on maintaining personal development in an ever-evolving world.  In this episode, we talk about feelings of inadequacy or overload experienced by women due to cultural shifts.   We also look at ways women can effectively communicate, set limits, and manage their minds in today's rapidly shifting society.  We cover other topics to: friendship dynamics, ways to enhance yourself personally, and achieving big dreams for women living with chronic disease.This engaging dialogue on self-worth and personal development is valuable and can be life-changing.   We hope this podcast will empower women in all aspects of their life, and inspire women to move forward on their journey with confidence and purpose. January's BioJanuary Donovan is the founder of The Woman School and The Wholeness Coaching  School. She is a 2X #1 best-selling author, an entrepreneur, and a mother of 8 children. She has over 20 years of experience training women and was featured in Forbes in their Top Self worth coaching programs.   January's bold dream is to build a school designed to train women with the practical skills to manage their lives. She spent 15 years training women for free before realizing that to reach millions, she had to learn to build a business and do so while prioritizing her family.  The business grew from 0 to a multimillion-dollar company reaching 40 countries in under three years and landing her the title as one of Forbes Magazine's top coaches. Website https://tws.thewholenessschool.com/thewomanschoolIG - https://www.instagram.com/january.donovan_/ Tiktok- https://www.tiktok.com/@januarydonovan Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheWomanSchoolOfficial/ YOUTUBE - https://www.youtube.com/c/JanuaryDonovan Twitter - https://twitter.com/JanuaryDonovan_Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/january-donovan We hope you have enjoyed this episode. Please like, comment, subscribe and share the podcast.To find out more about Lynnis and what is going on in the V.I.B.E. Living World please go to https://linktr.ee/LynnisJoin the V.I.B.E. Wellness Woman Network, where active participation fuels the collective journey toward health and vitality. Subscribe, engage, and embark on this adventure toward proactive well-being together. Interested in joining the new V.I.B.E. Wellness Woman Network go to https://www.vibewellnesswomannetwork.com and sign-up to be notified when the network launches.

Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner?  Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be?  Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question?  Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answering.It's very possible we're not asking relationship strengthening questions or posing our questions in the right way and here to tell you what you should be asking instead is an author and filmaker, Topaz Adizes, who has spent over a decade exploring human emotion and intimacy through over 1200 crafted conversations. In this episode, as he gives some reframe examples, you can hear not only how the questions would land differently but how they open up the possibility for some really good conversations.Here are a few other things we talk about:the art of asking well-constructed questions to strengthen relationships insights on maintaining a healthy partnership by creating the right space for communication. practical advice about avoiding binary questions and ensuring curiosity-driven inquiriesthe importance of regular check-ins to prevent conflicts from escalatingTopaz's work can be found at theskindeep.com.00:00   Introduction to Topaz and His Work01:23   The Concept of 'The And'02:44   Crafting Meaningful Questions07:51   Navigating Relationship Challenges11:44   Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations13:14   Maintaining Healthy Relationships24:08   Personal Growth Through Relationships25:22   Final Thoughts and ResourcesSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation.  As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory. Wonder why no matter how much you tell yourself you're not going to be jealous anymore and then just a few days later you find yourself in a jealous meltdown and don't know why you can't shake it?  We talk about the reason for this and spoiler alert... your conscious mind can't outwill your subconscious mind. Here are just a few of the mind blowing topics we cover in this episode:subconscious reprogramming techniques how to meet your own needs effectively dealing with core wounds that trigger emotional suffering, like jealousyThais also breaks down the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant, offering tips on how to identify and shift your attachment style for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. This life-changing episode promises to blow your mind and offer actionable steps to transform your inner world and outer connections.00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement02:31 Thais Gibson's Background and Journey02:44 Understanding Attachment Styles and Personal Development04:23 Thais's Personal Struggles and Healing Journey07:05 The Power of the Subconscious Mind13:03 Core Wounds and Emotional Feedback16:52 Jealousy, Envy, and Core Wounds33:31 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adult Relationships36:26 Late-Night Texts and Dating Dilemmas37:03 Understanding and Addressing Unmet Needs39:32 The Magical Kitchen Analogy42:07 Steps to Meet Your Needs Independently45:01 Reprogramming Core Wounds50:40 Exploring Attachment Styles01:01:45 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsTake the Attachment Style QuizGet the book Mastery of Love by Don Miguel RuizSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

I absolutely can't stand it when I hear people say "you have to just get over it". Or especially things like.. you're crazy, or you're nuts when they are referring to you being jealous.  There is such a stigma around "being jealous" that people seem to just have no tolerance for.  Yes, I understand it is not healthy, yes I understand its not something to pass off as if its OK to be that way but it certainly doesnt make you crazy or nuts or broken.  EVERYONE has something they need to work on or something that is triggering for them or reminds them of something else.  That just means your brain is working the way it should.  Its doing it's brain thing... survival and efficiency.If you continue to feel bad about being jealous, you are going to keep focusing on the wrong thing and this will continue to be a heavy weight on your shoulders.  Stop focusing on the idea that it is embarrassing or that they are something fundamentally wrong with you.  There no need to put your enegy in that space.  The longer you run from it, the longer you try to deny or push down that you have this, the long you will be running from it.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and this could be keeping you stuck.  According to my guest today, Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and host of 'The Psychology of Performance', shares his insights on the detrimental effects of positive thinking when misapplied.This very thing is the reason I was kicked out of therapy.  I kept trying to figure out how to fix the fact that I was angry at my father for being an alcoholic, that I was sad that I had been cheated on time and time again.  And, just as Dr. O'Connor explains in this episode, I didn't need to be fixed.  I wasn't broken and you're not broken either.  Join us in the great conversation as we talk about:overcoming anxiety, building self-worth, and achieving peak performancethe importance of addressing and understanding fear and anxietypractical strategies for managing performance anxietythe value of resilience and realistic thinking over forced positivityBring us along on your drive and learn that acknowleding and adapting to your fears can lead to a more confident and fulfilled life. 00:00  Welcome to Top Self: Overcoming Anxiety and Insecurity01:00  Introducing Eddie O'Connor: The Psychology of Performance01:38  Unpacking the Myth of Positive Thinking01:58  Eddie's Journey into Sports Psychology03:45  Strategies for Overcoming Performance Anxiety05:10  Applying Sports Psychology to Relationships07:56  The Reality of Anxiety and How to Navigate It15:05  Choosing How to Respond to Our Thoughts18:05  The Limitations of Positive Thinking22:02  Finding Purpose in Pain and Moving Forward25:41  Closing Thoughts and ResourcesSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Every time you catch yourself nagging from here on out, you're going to remember this episode.I have such a FIRE guest today.  Dr. Abby Medcalf, a relationship expert, psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker and she delivers some hard core truths in her very no-nonsense kind of way and one of them is...Don't Have A Victim MentalityRemember your mom saying, you're driving me crazy, or your're going to give me grey hair.... maybe that was just in my house BUThearing statements like these growing up have us to believe that we're responsible for other peoples feelings or that other people can make you feel a certain way.The conversation really gets good when she shares that when we're not getting what we need, we focus on what we want and we NAG about what we want.  This blew my mind to think about it and is now stuck with me.Here are just a few other things that we talk about:overcoming the victim mindset in relationships, addressing jealousy, and the importance of taking responsibility for one's actionsthe power of meaningful communication with partners setting healthy boundaries and understanding one's needsAnd, if that wasn't enough, she shares how to handle situations like flirting and unmet expectations in relationships, making the episode a must-listen for those seeking to improve their emotional intimacy and connection with their partners.00:00 Welcome to Top Self Podcast: Meet Shannon Bryant and Dr. Abby Metcalf02:38 Unpacking Relationship Dynamics: Victim Mindset and Jealousy05:00 Navigating Insecurities and Setting Healthy Boundaries13:01 The Art of Communication: Asking the Right Questions18:10 Exploring Solutions Together: Collaborative Problem Solving25:40 Understanding the Subconscious: Aligning Thoughts and Actions28:32 Closing Thoughts and Invitation to Relationships Made Easy PodcastJoin the Trust Building Bootcamp today. Doors are closing soon so choose which option works best for you. One-time Payment Option Split Payment OptionSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Jealousy is a complex emotional response often triggered by feelings of insecurity and fear of loss, and can profoundly impact personal relationships. It typically arises when an individual perceives a threat to a valued relationship, whether the threat is real or imagined. This emotion can lead to behaviors aimed at preventing loss, such as excessive monitoring or controlling tendencies, yet these actions often exacerbate the fears driving the jealousy. In this episode, we delve into pervasive issues surrounding jealousy, uncovering their origins rooted in individual past experiences and amplified by today's social media-driven culture. The discussion offers valuable insights into the psychological patterns contributing to jealous behaviors. You'll discover practical tips and methods for self-regulation, including breathing exercises and strategies for improving communication with partners. Emphasizing self-awareness and the conscious choice in responding to relationship stressors, this episode aims to transform approaches to trust and connection, empowering individuals to cultivate healthier, more secure emotional bonds. Shanenn Bryant is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship. Using her instructional design certification Shanenn has developed many sales, systems, and development skills courses and delivered more than 400 training classes. As a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:41 Shannon Bryant's mission to combat relationship insecurities. 08:51 Understanding the roots and impact of jealousy on relationships. 13:43 The interconnectedness of jealousy, anxiety, and insecurity, relating them to past experiences of relational trauma and insecure attachments. 26:01 The tendency to be attracted to unavailable partners as a means of avoiding self-reflection and confronting personal issues. 27:13 The role of technology in exacerbating jealousy and practical steps to address it. 34:37 Balancing trust and vigilance: Navigating the fine line in relationships. 37:51 Strategies for overcoming jealousy addiction. 41:03 The concept of jealousy as a symptom rather than the problem itself, emphasizing its role as a solution signaling underlying issues. 47:38 Coaching, resources, and trust-building programs for overcoming jealousy. Mentioned Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Shanenn Bryant Websites: topself.com Instagram: instagram.com/topselfcoach Podcast: topself.com/podcast — TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy in Relationships, Anxiety, and Insecurity Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Extreme jealousy is toxic and can damage your relationships and your life.  Shanenn Bryant is a relationship confidence expert, educator, podcast host, coach, and the founder and CEO of Top Self.  You can reach Shanenn at her website www.topself.com.   Some highlights Shanenn shares:What is the difference between "normal" levels of jealousy and "toxic" jealousy?Extreme jealousy usually comes from a lack of self worthPeople suffering from toxic jealousy often experienced dysfunctional relationships growing upExtreme jealousy comes from extreme fearToxic jealousy is not rationalYou can't "prove" fidelity - you can only prove infidelityWhat are the stories you tell yourself?What is the root?What is the insecure reassurance loop? and why is it never satisfied?Jealousy is a sign of a deeper issue that needs to be resolvedWe have to admit that we are the problem (or at least part of the problem)How a "think, do, say" journal can help people overcome toxic jealousyHow jealousy takes over your lifeStart with one small thingWhy you have more control when you overcome the habit cycle of anxietyYou are not aloneLet's dig in and turn down jealousyImprove your happinessAnd morePlease share, subscribe, leave a rating and review, visit the Linda's Corner website at lindascornerpodcast.com and/or follow on youtube, facebook, instagram, and pinterest @lindascornerpodcast. Thanks!Also please visit the Hope for Healing website at hopeforhealingfoundation.org for free resources to increase happiness, build confidence and self esteem, improve relationships, manage stress, and calm feelings of depression and anxiety.   Become the champion of your own story as you overcome your challenges.  

Marni welcomes Shanenn Bryant to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to crack the control code and transform the way we view jealousy. Shanenn is a jealousy and relationship confidence expert. She's also the host of the Top Self podcast and founder of self-development company, Top Self. It's not just about eradicating jealousy but understanding that this feeling isn't the problem, but rather a symptom of it. And the answers can be found by examining yourself.    *         Focus on yourself *         Lengthen the space between trigger and response *         How to foster self-awareness   What's Jealousy Got to Do With it? [05:35]   Jealous stems from somewhere internal, from a place of insecurity. And that could either be because of some type of dysfunction in your childhood or because you went through a bad experience in a romantic relationship. Either way, to understand the feeling itself, you need to look at yourself and ask the right questions.   It doesn't necessarily have to always be that it was a cheating incident. I felt like I was insecure and jealous before that ever happened.   Make Room for Accountability [14:49]   While it may be difficult to do so in certain situations, it's important to take responsibility rather than blame your partner straight away. Self-awareness is key.   You cannot change something that is blocking you, unless you really take a look at what you think, do, and say.   Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries [21:10]   Before getting into a relationship, it's important to have an open and honest conversation about boundaries, particularly those regarding interactions with exes. It allows both partners to understand each other's expectations.   Have that conversation to figure out what that relationship is like beforehand and then you make the decision if that's a relationship you want to be in.   Make a Connection: ·         3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training* ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Live A Life Of Confidence- TOP SELF (Book a Call)