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Bu bölümde iş yerinde kullanabileceğiniz bazı ifadeler serimize devam ediyoruz.VocabularyIt's good to see you all hereso that's all I wanted to say about the budget for next yearI'm afraid I can't say at the momentI have to check firstI couldn't catch the question.Where was I?As I said before / As I mentioned earlier / As I pointed out
So, I took my spare time to create the new eBook ‘It's OK to Hate Your Ex'. It took a while to complete it. It's way different than people think it would be. Rachel and I discuss the book and a bunch of other things - as we do! Discussions of long term relationships count too, fertilizer stinks, give yourself grace to heal, people do better and ‘you is beautiful and you is smart'. There is so much to this podcast. Basically we want people to do better. And there is a free gift to the first 15 listeners that jump on it after the podcast! And most people love free.Subjects of:How did you table your hate?You is healedMy care column is narrowNeed to balance the soilWeed can be family members tooForgive yourself firstI think I'm a catCaddyshackFind your peaceRiding the storm outParts of the cogs of divorce recoveryBe gone before someone drops a house on youGiving no f*cks or just being cynicalAARPHate can be subjectiveFIRST 15 LISTENERS!!Amazon Link ‘It Ok to Hate Your Ex'Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Our favorite frog boy producer puts together one his greatest hits of all time as he takes us through the 2023 NFL season through the eyes of a DolFan Hook:My team's gone coldI'm wondering why McDaniel made that callTua tries to fit that windowBut they can't see the BallEli Apple on My screen so bad,I watch HEAT basketballIt reminds me that it's not so bad, it's not so badVerse `:Dear Mike, I'm writing this just to tell you this is awesomeWe almost had it last year but I blame Skylar ThompsonTua's in jiu-jitsu man I wonder what they had taught emImma leave my cell and email at the bottomcase you wanna chop it up about what plays to call in autumn Super stoked for Fangs, it's a shame about RamseyDid you ever think Xavien Howard would be our plan BYou see the Bills fighting dog? This is our yearSpeaking of Bill I bet Belichick is living life in fearHe knows Mac Jones is in the driver seat of his CareerAaron Rodgers out here in the Dark being Weird The AFC is ours and it's never been so clear20 years wit no playoff wins Is in the rear This the last time that I end year in Tears manAnyway I Dm'd you, u prolly missed itCall me when you get this I just bought my season tickets Hook:My team's gone coldI'm wondering why McDaniel made that callTua tries to fit that windowBut they can't see the BallEli Apple on My screen so bad,I watch HEAT basketballIt reminds me that it's not so bad, it's not so badVerse 2:Dear Mike I had to write this while I wait for your replyThis seasons been amazing man I can't even lie 6-2 by Week 8 already, how time FlysThe way the Cheetah moving out there he got 9 livesWhat is it? Achane or Achan?I'll call him whatever longs as feed him is the gameplanChris Grier at the helms man I know the teams in great handsNothing can go wrong support my team like a great fanRaheem Mostert in my home on poster I can't believe they did a celebration roller coasterYou worried bout Reek I got Waddle in the HolsterWe react the same when Jevon went coast to CoasterI know so far against good teams were an 0ferWe got time to show we'll be laughing when it's over My girl said don't do this again I told her we gon show herI'm drunk on hype and high on life and I ain't getting soberHOOK:My team's gone coldI'm wondering why McDaniel made that callTua tries to fit that windowBut they can't see the BallEli Apple on My screen so bad,I watch HEAT basketballIt reminds me that it's not so bad, it's not so badVerse 3:Ayo Mike I hope you heard my voice notes i hope you listen.I don't understand how you lost the dam division. How you make me hate hard knocks that must've been your mission 2nd half adjustments just had put you in submissionI don't know bout Tua but they better pay ChristianLook another screen pass I don't understand the visionLook I'm mad hurt. No really. I'm talking mad hurtHow you sit and make me watch Taylor Swift Swag SurfNot to mention how you got here losing to dad firstAll because you couldn't draw a play to get a damn firstI mean really the Tennessee Titans...The F**kin Titans?!?!That guy don't even Coach there no more we should prolly try him Stephen Ross send some of your money we could buy himMan I'm hurt dog, I was on top of the earth dogHow I get here from the greatest show on. Surf dawgWhy my team playing softer than a little nerf ballThe longest streak without a playoff win, now we first dawg
Playlist that audio from :: YT :: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLliyIjlQOpG0ZpoJADsP_HbbnmtCNFp2H&si=QCnHHdmSSS70mVqG Lyrics Everything disgusting, conversation is so boringHeard about what? I hate her, I don't agree, I did it firstI give a fuck, I just wanna fuck, eat, sleep, love, happyCan you make me happy? Can you keep me happy?Can you distract me from all the disaster?Can you touch on me and not call me after?Can you hate on me and mask it with laughter?Can you lead me to the ark? What's the password?I need humanityY'all luck humanity, drowning in vanityCraving humanityY'all lack humanity, I need humanity, I needEverybody wanna be beautiful, scared of the unusualScared of giving mutual respect, all that you hateYou reflect all the godlike, you forget how to love somebodyI hate everybody, I hate everyoneLet's talk about A.I., robot got more heart than IRobot got future, I don'tRobot get sleep but I don't power downI'm wide open, I'm awake, I'm on autopilotI'm out of my mind and I'm wide openCan you distract me from all the disaster?Can you touch on me and not call me after?Can you hate on me and mask it with laughter?Can you lead me to the ark? What's the password?I need humanityY'all lack humanity, drowning in vanityCraving humanityY'all lack humanity, I need humanity, I needYou said all of my friends are on my payrollYou're not wrong, you're an assholeScreaming at you in the LudlowI was yours for freeI don't get existentialI just think about myself and look where that got meStanding on my own in an airport bar or hotel lobbyWaiting to feel cleanThat's so fucking boringCan you distract me from all the disaster?Can you touch on me and not call me after?Can you hate on me and mask it with laughter?Can you lead me to the ark? What's the password?I need humanityY'all lack humanity, drowning in vanityCraving humanityY'all lack humanity, I need humanityI needThose who have forsaken their humanityThey like to patch their life with moralityI think I might be tryna patch my life with morality(Curious, I'm curious) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/juljina/message
How to Earn Credit Card Points for Free TravelSo you have your wallet set up, you've got your main and supporting player cards, and you've mastered the basic travel hack lingo - now what? Today we break down four main ways to maximize your point earning potential and get one step closer to free travel.If you aren't sure where to start with travel credit cards- check this out firstI'm not going to lie to you- a lot of travel hackers get the crazy redemptions and amass huge point stacks by what's called, card churning. That is- getting a bonus from a card, holding it for a year, closing it and reopening it 48 months later (or however long you have to wait to get the bonus again). BUT there are ways you get many points, without churning or with churning only a card or two instead of your full wallet. What else we cover in today's episode -How to earn the most credit card points on everyday spend-Free apps that help you track your credit card multipliers -How I accidentally earned points by going out to eat-What to be careful about when earning credit card pointsMake sure to go back and listen to all the episodes on travel hacking during our summer school season! Support the showJoin our Travel Community on Facebook to connect with other like minded travelers, share stories, tips, tricks and travel hack wins- Travel More Insiders Subscribe to our Newsletter for access to our giveaways and travel hacking tips Visit our Website https://travelmorepodcast.com/ Join Going (Scott's Cheap Flights) Use code: MAGIC20 for 20% off your first year! Check out Travel Food on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetravelmores/ Don't waste something you're already paying for! Email us at info@magicpasstravel.com to see how we can help you make the most out of your upcoming Disney or Universal experience. Disclosure: We only recommend products we would or do use ourselves and all opinions expressed here are our own. This post may contain affiliate links that at no additional cost to you, we may earn a small commission.
On today's episode we have a Basil Hayden Red wine Cask Finish. Continuing our series in finishes, we have a beam Suntory bottle created by its newest master Distiller, Freddie Noe! We talk about master distilling VS Master Blending, Different finishing styles, and the Jim Beam Legacy. All that and more on today's episode of Whiskey Chasers!Our Website is www.whiskeychaserspod.com, check us out! Thanks, and enjoy the show!Be sure to show some love for the company that brought you today's bottle!https://www.basilhaydenbourbon.com/red-wine-cask-finish patreon https://www.patreon.com/WhiskeychaserspodYou can also sign up through buzzsprout!May of last year, Fred Noe announced that he was naming his son, Freddie Noe as master distillerWhich makes him the 8th generation master distiller in the beam familyFreddie is known for his creation of the Little Book series, which is my all time favorite seriesYou could understand my excitement when I heard that he was the master behind the latest release.Crafted in 1992 by Booker Noe as part of the Small Batch collection, Basil Hayden introduced a more subtle side of bourbon compared to its counterpartsNamed after the late Master Distiller Basil Hayden SrTo craft this special expression, eighth generation master distiller Freddie Noe blends the signature Basil Hayden Kentucky Straight Bourbon Whiskey with bourbon partially aged in Californian red wine casksTight lipped on what kind of red wine was used.The thing that excites me the most about this bottle is who was responsible for it.Freddie Noe might be one of the first master distillers, who I would consider to be a master blender firstI wonder if they are tight lipped on what red wine was used because there were multiple types?Little book is blended by percentages of different whiskies so, with how perfectly blended and well rounded this bottle is, why couldn't this be blended similarly with different percentages of basil hayden finished in different wine casks?I think that naming freddie noe might prove to be a game changer in the whiskey world. Basil Hayden Sr. Was master Distiller in 1796His Grandson, Raymond Basil Hayden, Started “Old Grand Dad” in his honorCalifornia red Wine is a blend of red wines made in california. Usually merlot, and Cab being the prominent profilesHigher would be fine, but not longing for itYou can taste the ryeHigher proof may be worseMore wine forwardSupport the showWebsite:www.whiskeychaserspod.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/WhiskeychaserspodFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/whiskeychaserspodcastInsta:https://www.instagram.com/whiskeychaserspodcast/TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@whiskeychaserspodcastThanks For Listening! Tell a Friend!
GROW Greatness Reached over Oppression through Wisdom My Life in the Sunshine I Love the Shadow, it's LivingIt's me! WoMan King, Child of God✨
更多卡卡老师分享公众号：卡卡课堂 或者添加我的微信：zaocanyingyu 也就是早餐英语的拼音 送你一份我个人学习大礼包，帮助你在英文学习路上少走弯路“我先走了”不是 I go first 好友聚会、同事聚餐三五成群、好不欢快然而偶尔难免有急事只能“我先走了”这句常用语如何用英文礼貌表达你知道吗?今天卡卡老师和大家分享这句话的地道英文。我先走 ≠ I go firstI go first 不管从语法和结构上都是错误的。这个一看就是纯正的中式英语，可英文里没有这种说法。如果你说 I go first, 外国人会想，那谁是second? third?所以正确的表达是I have gotto go. 我先走了。I have to go.我得走了。I gotta go. 我要走了。Sorry, I must go. 抱歉，我必须走了。I must fly. 我要走了。eg: Thank you for your hospitality today, but I have to go.谢谢你今天盛情招待我，但我要先走了。
Today on the podcast we're talking about the first three things that helped me feel better.It was 10 years ago exactly that Ross and I started trying to conceive, which feels like a long time ago, but also feels like just yesterday - I still remember all of the real and raw emotions of trying to conceive.And two years into our journey, after our first IVF cycle, I had a miscarriage. I thought I knew rock bottom prior but after our loss, it was like I now knew the molten lava in the centre of the earth.I didn't want to share how we were feeling with anyone (I actually didn't feel like I could) and it wasn't so much a feeling of anger (even though I was angry) it was more a feeling of being broken and lost. I don't know if you can relate?So, what changed, what helped after that moment for me… that's what we're talking about on today's podcast.So often I have people ask me how to feel better and the answer is… unfortunately, not as simple as one, 5-minute exercise that people can do each day. In all honesty, there were a number of things that I did (but mostly mindset shifts) that helped me to radically shift the way I was feeling and coping on my journey.But if you had to start somewhere, what would you do?Here are the first 3 things I did that helped me feel better:Had a circuit breakerWe needed to get out and break our routine. I never quite understand the logistics of ‘taking a break' because I was so acutely aware of when I was ovulating etc BUT, we got away on a last-minute trip to Lombok… and not a trip where we went out sightseeing or anything. A trip where there was pretty much nothing I could do but sit with my feelings and rest. I was… although I'd have never acknowledged it at the time… so so needed. And it got us away from work (where let's be honest I couldn't concentrate anyway) and everyone's constant questions. It gave me space to feel what I was feeling, and regain some energy.GratitudeThis one practice has been the thing that I've done that has had one of the biggest impacts on my life and that of my clients. Each night I began writing in a little journal, 3 things I was grateful for. Not just the big things - but mostly the little things.As I understand more about our brains now that I'm qualified I know the mechanics of how this works in our brains and for a practice that takes literally less than five minutes per day - the rests can be profound.I made the decision to put myself firstI didn't ‘do' anything in this regard but it was a massive shift and one that I don't think many women have made - even if they tell themselves that they put themselves first. It was a moment of saying that I was worthy of spending money on myself (especially if it was going to help me FEEL better), I was worthy of my time, and I was worthy of saying no to things that didn't serve me. So so many women will say that they put themselves first, but I'd argue, don't.I used to feel guilty saying no to people.I used to feel guilty spending money on myself (things like buying clothes, yes, but on my mindset and things that were more abstract - massively!)I used to feel guilty taking sick days… when I was actually sick!And so…. Things shifted for me when I decided that I was worthy.I'd spend time and money investing in abstract things like my mindset and programs that would help my emotional health (knowing that my husband would think nothing of a night out with the boys, a carton of beer or even a new surfboard - my goodness - I could absolutely spend $297 on a course about creating small steps to feeling better!)I'd spend time resting and not feeling guilty.I'd spend weekends pursuing new hobbies.That decision was the start of being able to find what did work for me, and those were the three things that helped me feel better.Robyn x
Dear You- Creating A Happier, Motivated, Wiser Version Of You
Reflecting on the past year and what my takeaways were. In this episode, I talk about 5 mistakes I made in 2021 that you can learn from. Hope it helps you out. 1. Fell into the trap of hustle cultureWorking hard is important. But honestly, A 'good life' has a lot of different components than just working.2. Lost an epic friend I pride myself with how articulate I am. Though, It doesn't equal to having good communication skills.Learning to actually bring up things that bother me rather than doing dumb sh*t haha3. Knowing how to make money is one skillset and learning how to manage it is a whole other skill You can't be spending more when you make more. Gotta learn to save, invest etc to create wealth. 4. Abandon myself for someone, always choose you firstI went to therapy for a year to work on my abandonment issues + few other traumas that were specifically affecting my dating life. TBH, I just wanna say it really paid off.5. Being too rigid and strict with my routine & goalsI'm extremely goal oriented. So I wouldn't go off plan or be open for a detour because it feels like a waste of time. But I've learned that magic happens in the unexpected detours. So learning to stay open and saying yes to different opportunities.
Are you letting these common objections hold you back when it comes to building your personal brand?Personal branding is about helping you grow your business. It's about making a better connection and letting the people who need your services and need the things that you bring to the world: your super powers, as I often call them.It's letting your ideal clients connect with you so that they can actually make the decision to work with you because it's better for them.So if you're saying any of these kinds of things that I cover in this episode, remember it's doing two things. It's holding you back from the impact that you want to make in the world. And more importantly, it's withholding your services from the people who really need you the most. The most common objections I hear are:I don't like having my photo takenI can't afford to have professional photos doneWhat I do isn't all that interestingI want to lose some weight firstI don't know what to do in front of a camera
First things firstI'mma say all the words inside my headI'm fired up and tired of the way that things have been, oh oohThe way that things have been, oh oohSecond things secondDon't you tell me what you think that I could beI'm the one at the sail, I'm the master of my sea, oh oohThe master of my sea, oh oohI was broken from a young ageTaking my sulking to the massesWriting my poems for the fewThat look at me, took to me, shook to me, feeling meSinging from heartache from the painTaking my message from the veinsSpeaking my lesson from the brainSeeing the beauty through the...
It takes a village to raise a child. I see the influence I have had in the friends of my children to shape their vision of the world. What village are we allowing to raise our children?Young children in their formative years and the ideas that are formed are designed to be nurtured in the home by heart nurtured mothers. We have natural gifts and talents that become beautiful in the synergy of a loving home.Children can be the greatest teachers for parents as they poke at the unresolved issues and create awareness so we can heal as Deepti talked about today.Today I give myself permission to see and encourage children’s gifts I am a divine son/ daughter of GodI see through the eyes of Christ’s lovePride and gratitude fills my heart in familyI nourish my heart firstI set an amazing example to followI nurture children in Christ’s loveI am the loving, building stewardI have done my bestI continue to choose learningI am aligned with the Lord in allI continue to build momentum for growth and learningClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook Group. Check out the NEW! Daily GPS Planner. It’s a Gratitude Journal and Planner in one! There is space to write your Inspired Shortcuts, record all your thoughts and impressions from The Daily Gratitude Call and even pages to help you stay focused on your Path of Purpose!To have a 15 minute conversation with Wylene Benson and gain new perspective on an area you desire to change, schedule a time on her calendar by going to this link: askwylene.comTo work more closely with Wylene, email her andclick here to learn more about her new book The Seven Gateways – Your Map to Integrity in Life and Business that so many have discovered to be the key to living a life of purpose, fulfillment and happiness!Support the show (https://wylenebenson.com)
SUNDAY GATHERING WORSHIP LYRICS:Call to WorshipIsaiah 44:6-8 – 6 Thus says the Lord, the King of Israel and his Redeemer, the Lord of hosts:“I am the first and I am the last; besides me there is no god. 7 Who is like me? Let him proclaim it. Let him declare and set it before me, since I appointed an ancient people. Let them declare what is to come, and what will happen.8 Fear not, nor be afraid; have I not told you from of old and declared it? And you are my witnesses! Is there a God besides me? There is no Rock; I know not any.”Everlasting GodStrength will rise as we wait upon the LordWe will wait upon the LordWe will wait upon the LordStrength will rise as we wait upon the LordWe will wait upon the LordWe will wait upon the Lord Our God You reign foreverOur Hope our strong Deliv'rer You are the everlasting GodThe everlasting GodYou do not faintYou won't grow wearyYou're the defender of the weakYou comfort those in needYou lift us up on wings like eagles Jesus Paid it AllAnd I hear the Savior sayThy strength indeed is smallChild of weakness watch and prayFind in Me thine all in all 'Cause Jesus paid it allAll to Him I oweSin had left a crimson stainHe washed it white as snow(It's washed away)(All my sin and all my shame) Lord now indeed I findThy pow'r and Thine aloneCan change the leper's spotsAnd melt the heart of stone And when before the throneI stand in Him completeJesus died my soul to saveMy lips shall still repeat Oh praise the One Who paid my debtAnd raised this life up from the dead(Jesus)How Great Thou ArtO Lord, my God, when I in awesome wonderConsider all the worlds Thy Hands have madeI see the stars, I hear the rolling thunderThy power throughout the universe displayedThen sings my soul, my Savior God, to TheeHow great Thou art, how great Thou artThen sings my soul, my Savior God, to TheeHow great Thou art, how great Thou artAnd when I think of God, His Son not sparingSent Him to die, I scarce can take it inThat on the Cross, my burden gladly bearingHe bled and died to take away my sinWhen Christ shall come with shout of acclamationAnd lead me home, what joy shall fill my heartThen I shall bow with humble adorationAnd then proclaim, my God, how great Thou artAll I Have is ChristI once was lost in darkest nightYet thought I knew the wayThe sin that promised joy and lifeHad led me to the graveI had no hope that You would ownA rebel to Your willAnd if You had not loved me firstI would refuse You stillBut as I ran my hell-bound raceIndifferent to the costYou looked upon my helpless stateAnd led me to the crossAnd I beheld God’s love displayedYou suffered in my placeYou bore the wrath reserved for meNow all I know is graceHallelujah! All I have is ChristHallelujah! Jesus is my lifeNow, Lord, I would be Yours aloneAnd live so all might seeThe strength to follow Your commandsCould never come from meO Father, use my ransomed lifeIn any way You chooseAnd let my song forever beMy only boast is You In TendernessIn tenderness he sought me, weary and sick with sinAnd on His shoulders brought me, back to His fold againWhile angels in His presence sang, until the courts of heaven rangOh, the love that sought me!Oh, the blood that bought me!Oh, the grace that brought me to the fold of GodGrace that brought me to the fold of GodHe died for me while I was sinning, needy and poor and blindHe whispered to assure me: "I've found thee, thou art Mine"I never heard a sweeter voice, it made my aching heart rejoiceUpon His grace I'll daily ponder, and sing anew His praiseWith all adoring wonder, His blessings I retraceIt seems as if eternal days, are far too short to sing His praiseDiscussion Questions1. What’s the good news you tend to live out of? Would you consider yourself a “good news/gospel” person? Why?2. Where in your life have you been pushing where it would be more effective to be pulling? In your life as a disciple, a parent, etc?3. Where do you need prayer this week?Benediction20 Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.
Today I had the pleasure of speaking with Chris Wooten, a retired marine turned successful real estate investor with a portfolio of 534 units. In this episode I want us to absorb everything we can from Chris who took his military experience and incorporated it into his real estate empire.Let’s dive right into Chris’ story and pick his brain about becoming an above average performer in every area of your space.Things you will learn in this episode:[00:01 - 09:17] Opening SegmentI introduce Marine veteran, Chris WootenCurrently manages a portfolio of 534 unitsReminder to send a review - Link at the bottom of the show notes Chris talks about his storyJunior ROTC Major teaches Chris how to keep hitting above averageLearning how to get promoted by hitting above average in all areasI weigh in with my wife’s experience in fitnessYou don’t have to be the best in just one thingChris talks about his Marine Corps experience[09:17 - 22:43] Hitting Above Average in your SystemsChris realized he needed to make and sell his own productSurrounded himself with knowledge first As he moved around with the military he would research real estate in the areas he was placed in How Chris started flipping houses as a side-hustle You need to put the right systems in placeChris talks about how to make an effective systemRelying on the team How to be a good leaderThe Dichotomy of Leadership - Jocko Willink Chris talks about building yourself up firstI talk about my experience in building systemsChris’s final thoughts on system building[22:43 - 35:00] Hitting Above Average in Your Deals and Strategies Chris shares his journey from flipping on active duty to scaling up to Multi FamilyGetting the right culture into your spaceChris sold all his single family units and re-invested itI ask about what Chris is looking for in a deal nowChris breaks down his strategy and goalsFinal words on pursuing Above Average performanceSetting down a narrow path rather than setting a bunch of goals[35:00 - 40:23] The FOCUS FIVE SegmentWhat book have you gifted most often? The One ThingIf you can get an hour of somebody's time and ask questions, who would that be and why?Steve JobsWhat is one thing you believe that most people would disagree with you onChris talks about understanding the “granular pieces”Morning routine; How do you start your day?Have green juice, work out focusing on fat burn, get the kids to school, learn with audio books while working outWhat is the best place we can connect with you online?See below for social links.Final words from meTweetable Quotes: “To be a good leader you have to start with the foundation of yourself.” - Chris Wooten“Consistent above average performance will overtake excellence in individual events.” - Chris WootenResources mentioned in the episode:The Dichotomy of Leadership - Jocko Willink The One Thing You can connect with Chris personally on Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram. You can visit his website https://www.wootencapital.com/ to learn more about investment strategies..LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who wants to explode their business growth by sharing this episode or click here to listen to our previous episodes.Are you working HARD but not really moving the needle on anything? You should check out my POWER LIST and find out how you can get more done to move your business, project, or relationship closer to where you want it to be. Let’s go!To know more about me and all the real estate opportunities you can find, check out my website at Hansstruzyna.com. Get the chance to talk with me for FREE. Set up a call using this link https://calendly.com/h-struzyna/15min See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Tomorrow evening is my Masterclass that shows God is simple. Following Him and His inspiration as cues from our bodies is simple. Can you allow your life to be easy?Babies are a connection between heaven and earth. We receive that first gift of our body. I was struck with innocence and wonder babies do life with. They live without fear and moving into the unknown in discovery. We can live as little children and babies as scriptures direct us. We can be born again as we choose the unknown as babies do.Sybil talked about as bodies as a partnership rather than an ownership. We can face the and release hurt, wounds, and pain it allows us to release physical and emotional weight. Our bodies show up as we need.Today I give myself permission to appreciate all my bodyI am listening to the messages my body is giving meI am making immediate correctionsMy body is a gift and blessingI am in a synergistic partnership with my bodyI am being clearer with my bodyI know when to be the obedient servantI am the obedient servant at the right timeI satisfy my primary foods firstI use secondary foods appropriatelyClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook Group. Check out the NEW! Daily GPS Planner. It’s a Gratitude Journal and Planner in one! There is space to write your Inspired Shortcuts, record all your thoughts and impressions from The Daily Gratitude Call and even pages to help you stay focused on your Path of Purpose!To have a 15 minute conversation with Wylene Benson and gain new perspective on an area you desire to change, schedule a time on her calendar by going to this link: askwylene.comTo work more closely with Wylene, email her and click here to learn more about her new book The Seven Gateways – Your Map to Integrity in Life and Business that so many have discovered to be the key to living a life of purpose, fulfillment and happiness!Support the show (https://wylenebenson.com)
Despite the share market volatility as a result of Covid-19, all major industry super funds produced a positive investment return over the past financial year. Whilst that might seem entirely good news, there are some concerns for which industry super fund members should be aware of.Let’s start with the good news firstI have compared the largest 8 Australian industry super funds. According to data collated by our research provider, Lonsec (SuperRatings), Cbus produced the best returns in the 2019/20 financial year. However, AustralianSuper produced the best long term (10 years) return, although there not a big difference between the top 3 funds (Hostplus, UniSuper and AustralianSuper). I have compared the investment options with similar levels of growth assets – but more on this below.See table on blog (website)Of course, longer term returns are what is most important. It is not always possible or even desirable to produce the best returns each and every year. Sometimes a fund has to take too much risk to do so.Investment returns are important for marketingThere is no better marketing than achieving the highest investment return as it attracts a lot of new superannuation members.I was very interested to read this article in the Australian Financial Review about Hostplus’ balanced option. For the financial year up until May 2020, it had lost 3.5%. However, as timing would have it, on 29 June 2020, the Fund decided to revalue its unlisted property 6.8% higher. This resulted in halving its its Balance options loss to -1.74% for the financial year. How convenient. I discuss my concerns with respect to transparency and accountability below.There are a number of ways a super fund can window-dress its returns including revaluing unlisted assets and changing the asset allocation i.e. being more or less aggressive than the desired allocation of the investment option.Fees vary substantially between fundsIf your super balance is relatively low, fees (and contributions) matter more than investment returns. However, as your balance grows (and certainly if your balance is above $250,000), investment returns become the most important factor.Out of the selected funds, First State Super (FSS) charges the highest fees for its balanced option at 0.95%, whereas UniSuper is much cheaper at 0.53%. That is, UniSuper’s fees are nearly half as much as FSS, and that is likely to have a substantial impact on your balance over time.Importantly, you do not have to pay higher fees in order to generate higher investment returns. You will note that UniSuper is the most inexpensive fund with close to the highest returns while for FSS, the reverse is true. The less you pay, the more you receive.Concern 1: Some funds invest more aggressively it appearsPre-mixed investment options allow you to invest your super in a way that is commensurate with your risk appetite. If you are conservative, then you must select a conservative investment option. However, if you are aggressive, then a ‘growth’ or ‘high growth’ investment option might suit you. And if you are in between, like most people, a ‘balanced’ investment option is the way to go.However, most ‘balanced’ options are not really that balanced. Instead, their asset allocation is closer to growth. The reason for this is they are chasing higher investment returns, to make their fund appear more attractive.You might be surprised to learn that the assets super funds invest in can vary dramatically. For example, Cbus only invests 31.5% of his ‘balanced’ option in shares compared to 60% for UniSuper – this is what has helped them achive the best returns last financial year. Therefore, don’t be fooled by the investment option’s name – you must review its actual asset allocation. The chart below illustrates these variations.Perhaps the most concerning allocation is what is called “alternatives” because this asset class is very opaque. Alternative investments typically include infrastructure, private equity and credit (i.e. corporate bonds), but can include anything really including derivatives, currencies, commodities and so forth.This lack of disclosure and consistency makes it impossible for investors and their advisors to accurately understand how their money is invested and the associated risk. Furthermore, because most of these ‘alternative’ investments are unlisted, their pricing (valuations) are not transparent. More on this below.Concern # 2: in-house investment managementIn the endeavour to reduce investment fees, most of the industry super funds are increasing the amount of investments that are internally managed by their staff, as opposed to using external investment managers. For example, AustralianSuper currently manages 39% of its ‘balanced’ investments but aims to increase that to 50% by 2021.Whilst this might sound like a good idea, its impact on future investment returns is uncertain. It creates some potential challenges. Firstly, it is more difficult to sack an under-performing staff member compared to a fund manager. Conversely, retaining a team member that produces above average investment returns is equally difficult – as other super funds and money managers will try to poach them. Finally, staff turnover can also adversely impact investment performance. In short, it’s all about attracting and retaining the right people which is an added challenge for these funds.Concern # 3: Almost no transparency leads to very little accountabilityThe only way to create a strong level of accountability, is to ensure complete transparency. That way, it’s impossible to hide. Everything is out in the open for people to see; including risk, performance and fees. This is true for any and all investments, not just super.There is almost no transparency with respect to industry super fund investments, individual investment performance, risks and so on. It is near on impossible to ascertain what your fund invests in. This was the concern that research provider, Lonsec cited when it downgraded AustralainSuper’s rating recently.The existence of unlisted investments can be a cause for concern as prices/values are not set in an open market. Of course, the funds are subject to financial statement audits and the like, but this still gives rise to a large amount of subjectivity. An unlisted investment’s value is inherently more uncertain compared to an asset that trades on the open market.A recent example of this is Hostplus’ property revaluations on 29 June 2020 which I referred to above. Whilst these revaluations may well be prudent and accurate, the timing together with an overall lack of transparency, invites scepticism.By comparison, listed companies have continuous disclosure obligations by law. This mean companies must report to the ASX any information that“a reasonable person would expect to have a material effect on the price or value of the entity's securities”. This created a very transparent market and provides information for investors to base decisions upon. It is my belief that super funds should be subject to similar reporting requirements. That is, the requirement to disclose any information that a reasonable person would expect to have a material impact on the value or performance of their super balance. This would allow members and their advisors to make more informed decisions. Of course, most organisations rarely want to invite such transparency and accountability for obvious reasons.Industry fund index optionsMany industry super funds offer 100% index investment options e.g. a balanced fund that is only invested in index funds. Whilst these investment options do provide significantly more transparency, as I wrote about last week, I do have concerns with the underlying risk in these portfolios. In addition, their asset allocation is different to their actively managed options which has meant the investment returns have been circa 1% p.a. lower over the past 5 years. It is for these reasons that I’m not a fan of these index options, even though I’m a staunch believer in indexing investing.Our super portfolios under-performed last financial yearAs I wrote in this blog last week, some company and sector valuations in the share market appear irrational and very risky. I always construct investment portfolios with the aim of maximising investment returns over the medium to long term. Short term results are largely irrelevant. This is evident by the fact that after a return of 19.48% in the 2019 calendar year, the weighted average return across my clients’ super portfolios for the 2019/20 financial year was a loss of 3.81%.Stockbrokers and fund managers typically only advertise returns when the news is good, for obviously reasons. But I’m happy to be held accountable for the returns we produce. I know that it is not always possible to achieve the best returns each and every year, particularly if that is not your aim. For the 10 years ended December 2019 our returns were identical to AustralianSuper’s – which means we beat every other industry super fund.I am very clear on the reasons why we have generated lower returns over the past 12 months. It’s because we have had materially lower exposures to over-valued companies, sectors and markets. I see no reason to invest my clients’ monies in asset price bubbles. Not only is that high risk, but it’s also likely to impair longer-term investment returns.Most importantly, my clients and I have full transparency – we know how and where their monies are invested and how each investment has performed compared to its index. This invites a high level of accountability.Past returns are not a reliable indicator of future returnsThe most important predictors of medium-term investment returns are (1) how your money is invested i.e. asset allocation and methodology and (2) the investment fees you pay. Past returns can sometimes be a guide but are not always a reliable predictor. Super investors would be well severed to consider some of the risks I’ve outlined above.
Planned, Prepped, and Productive: Real Food Cooking for Busy Moms
Today on the podcast I'm talking all about mindset. Specifically I'm talking about all of those nasty little thoughts in your head that are getting in the way of your meal planning success (and likely your success in other areas as well). 5 mindset shifts that will make your meal plan more successfulLike you, I have totally put myself through a mindset workout wondering if family meals and cooking are really all that important, and if I am really capable of both making dinner and living a balanced and stress-free life. Negative thoughts are toxic and if you are constantly telling yourself that you don't have time, you hate to cook, your family doesn't like anything you make, or that you aren't good at it...you will likely fail at the whole family meal, meal plan, meal prepping thing. We all have those negative thoughts and I want to show you how you can overcome some of those negative thoughts. This episode comes with a little assignment, if you've already listened to the podcast and are ready to begin your assignment you can get your free Mindset Shift Worksheet here!Get your FREE Mindset Shift Worksheet here!Don't believe everything you thinkUp until recently, I never stopped to consider that what my brain is telling me is not always true. In fact, it's hardly ever true! If we allow ourselves to believe the negative thoughts about ourselves and about the world we are setting ourselves up for failure. Here's just a few ways to shift that negative mindset to a growth mindset when it comes to cooking and meal prep. 5 Mindset Shifts for Meal PlanningFailure is good, every failed attempt is taking you one step closer to success. Failure is not fun, but failure teaches you so much more than success! Learn from those failures and as you add up all of the things you learn, eventually you will reach success.Your path to success doesn't have to look like anybody else'sInstagram compare-ers I'm talking to you. Just because your best friend gives up her entire Sunday to meal prep adorable little packaged healthy meals doesn't mean you have to. Learn from your own personality, experience, and mistakes and forge your own path. Meal prepping and planning does not have to be all or nothing, small steps are still progressIf you're eating cold cereal every night (no judgment) you are probably not ready to start making every meal from scratch. Start with a Sunday dinner, or maybe some partially from scratch cooking. As you learn you'll be ready to add more, don't get overwhelmed because you try to do too much all at once. You're not supposed to be good at it at firstI have some pretty embarrassing cooking stories. Cooking is a skill and an art that takes time to develop. Meal planning is also a skill that takes practice, so if you are a good cook but you are terrible at meal planning, you just have another skill to work on. Don't stress. You'll get there!You ALWAYS have the ability to change directionSo that meal planning app that you paid for isn't working like you thought it would? Let it go! You made a bunch of freezer meals but you don't like them at all? Give them away and get them out of your freezer and life. If something isn't working for you, change it. Simple as that. You aren't a failure, you just learned something that didn't work. Move on. Don't stay stuck because you've invested time, money, or energy into something that isn't working. Mindset shifts for meal planning worksheetNow that we've talked about some of the ways you should be shifting your thinking to be able to grow and progress, let's get to
Find your voice - Episode 19- "How to control your thoughts and manage depression" - Alex Roberts #19Tagline: "Do what you want to do, not what people want you to do "Alex Roberts, was a recommended to me by a friend and little did I know he was actually a neighbour...well almost! Despite sharing the same postcode, love for personal training, fitness, heath and mindset we also shared a lot of personal stories in this episode.More so from Alex who bravely who showcases his vulnerability by openly talking about depression, anxiety and his struggles with grief and the loss of his father. A genuinely humble guy who has achieved success by just being himself and helping people on a daily basis. His approach to self talk has inspired and motivated me, and he hits on so many key aspects during this interview that we can all implement and take on board to enhance our levels of happiness and mindsetA shining example that what you see, isn't what you always get and the importance of never judging a book by its cover.I thank Alex for his openness, his bravery and for being an all round great guy. I urge you all to support and follow his journey as he is a great person to know and connect with.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Website: https://www.alexrobertsfitness.co.ukFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AlexRobertsPersonalTrainingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliro898/Have an awesome day#JustDeuIt #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so I'm extremelyexcited to be bringing you Alex Robertsto the show today and Alex is somebodywho was actually recommended to me via afriend now alex is a personal trainersimilar to myself we have similarinterests but what really struck a chordwith me when I spoke to Alex prior tohim coming on this episode was he'sbattled with anxiety over well anddepression now I can't diagnose myselfin depression because I've never beenclinically diagnosed with it but when itcomes to ins ie a novel one boy can Irelate so it was extremely interestingto hear his side of this and I supposewhen many of you follow his journeyafter this which I'm very soon you'regonna want to do you're gonna see hissocial media profile and think wow isthis the guy on the episode because likemany of us we judge a book by its coverand Alex when you see his cover onInstagram you wouldn't necessarily thinkthis is an individual who perhapssuffers in the way that he explains onthis interview so I think withoutfurther ado we're gonna get straightinto this and once again I just want tothank everyone for their amazing supportwe've now hit well over 100 reviewsthank you so so much for thatokay so firstly I just want to thankAlex for coming on the show today howyou doing today I'm fineyou good where is good fantastic yeahI'm not you're coming you sure it'salright that's good stuff so I know Alexbriefly we've spoken obviously on socialmedia that's where we connected we'reactually neighbors we don't live too farfrom each other actually five minutesliterally yes so I think it's importantfor the listeners who are listening tothistoday to get to understand a little bitabout yourself so a little bit aboutyour story and basically what's broughtyou here in your life situation todayI've recently been doing my own sort ofvideos and songs are in depressionmyself I've never really experienced anymental health problems at all until Ilost my dad four years ago now yeah fouryears ago I didn't had a single problemdidn't really suffer from anxietydepression or anything but it seemed tobe that significant sort of traumaticmoment and brought brought a number ofproblems okay as such so yeah I'd saythe 1 4 Matic man was obviously losingmy dad which then spiraled on to anumber of other things later down theline a first sort of new heir sort ofmental health problems was funnilyenough when out in New York theChristmas okay after I'd lost my dadI was literally walking down one of thestreets going towards Grand CentralStation and I'm I just felt so likeoverwhelmed it was said he was sostrained and that felt anything like hadjust overwhelmed and I was just likeBestway describing he was trapped insidemy own head rocky do you Jonesy no Imean I sort of trapped in my own headand I was I was just really overwhelmedfor no particular reason at all andthat's when that's um the main sort ofdefining defining time where I sort offelt and knew but I was suffering fromsort of mental elf right and this wasfour years ago yeah how old are you knowif you don't want me that's for 27 soyou're 27 so around the age of 23 wasyou so just for the listeners nowobviously I know you're a personaltrainer you've been doing personaltraining for how many years five or sixfive six years so you actually apersonal trainer at this point as wellyes okay so in terms of we'll jump backto where you are now so in terms unlikeyour general life going up to say 23before this moment happened what kind ofstuff was you do was it was you alwaysinto the training the model those intertrained not not so much to mine okay sothe mind absolutely not I don't thinkmany of us know whatno I'm not yeah not a thing I was verysporty I play good level of rugby playerafter County fantastic I was atuniversity very very very carefree okayI'd say I really didn't give it yeahabsolutelyvery carefree very still I'm out goingto an extent now but slightly a bit morereserved let's say we're very bubbly Iwas on track with with Union stuff butyeah in terms of tuning into the mind orso into is my intuition if you if you'dlike and then when you had that tragicmoment when you lost your dad that'swhen I started realizing order in asecond it's one thing training our bodyit's another thing yeah yeah laterpercent and have you so what have youdone then since then cuz obviouslyyou're similar to me in that respect soI we touched on it briefly before thissometime personal training myself rightyeah and I understand the importance ofyou know looking after yourselfphysically but more so now I train everyday more for this ya know Mike andpeople don't get that people might thinkis for aesthetics or for a six-pack orsomething it's truly not yeah it's trulytwo combines ie not have that V anymoreyeah is that something that you do aswell so I think now yeah training isvery much a part of me improving mymindset as well now it's probably themost essential thing for me nowso I know it's a difference when I don'ttrain serotonin levels drop in except Iknow some big differencelack of energy that's not now was thethat was the main one for me cuz I had aweek off my own training a couple ofweeks back and I was just tired andwaking up tired going to bed tired itwas just yeah boy it's one of them likebut then you start self sabotagingyourself don't you for not draining themwell in reality your body needs to restbut yeah I mean it's very important forthe mindset nonetheless and the morepeople can recognize that yeah thebetter creasy's yourself were you've gotgoal you've got a target point you gottayou've got a goal point focal pointmm-hmm so in terms of briefly you meantlike the mental health thing would youcall it anxiety and overwhelm or wouldyou actually call it depression have youbeen diagnosed or is it something thatyour yeah I mean oh yeah well I sufferedwell still suffer from anxiety now okaybut I had my main by that bad episodelast January I have nowhere rightabsolutely out of nowhere so obviouslywhen I lost my dad I was quite low andBobby that will be the best time verynumb okay maybe didn't understand asmuch as I should have done what wasgoing on maybe so I sort of known to thefeeling's boffing last January that thatwas a real scary moment or a scary pointI think my sleep started to go and onceyou sleep starts where you don't dealvery well with all our suffering withinsomnia this was about two weeks so Ijumped on some medication friends are indepression and slowly slowly start tolift okay and it was quite amazingreally because we've in the space of ayearI don't it's mad mad to think about abought Mustang right I traveled over Iknow another free countries childanother three countries changedworkplaces again and I'm not saying thiswas from the tablets whatsoever but Ialso think another defining thing Ibought some of Tony Robbins he's contentokay a big mindset guy guru and I boughthis content and did that for three orfour weeks and that was a bit of a gamechanger as well that's brilliantso in the space of six months to a yearand switched from literally rock-bottomI mean when I say rock-bottom I was Ihad to move to my mom's for about twoweeks would you say you were eversuicidal I had thoughts I've never hadnever come tried to commit now I didhave thoughts but I would never do okayI know but never done it but and yeah Igot to that I got to that sort of verylow pointjust lying on a sofa watching the TV andhe was he was a terrible terrible part Ithink my mom was really shocked as wellthat I've gone from that to that pointin course here it was crazyWow and I was helpless to it mmm it feltlike I couldn't do anything like nowobviously in hindsight you can recognizeyou were in this kind of slum yeah yeahso in that particular moment would youoblivious to it like how you acted rightokay not clear okay couldn't do a thingit's crazy it was literally at zero Wowand it was a kind of Tommy Tory Robinsorry Tony well and it's fully enough sowatch these pearl he's got he's got aprogram on that let's call them I am NOTyour guru yeah and I watched that everyday for like five days I'm going to crya lot yeah I was crying there's onescene with it with the lady who hadsuicidal woman yeah yeah that's whatpulled me out of it okay the suicidalwoman when she said like I can't cope nomore a car and that was a turning pointI vote no more of this now yeah yeah gotmyself back into work so obviously atthis point I was in Irelandokay I'm self-employed or wasn't earningI'm off work I'm in January a reallybusy periods of all these sports allthese sports are going on yeah yeah butyet just completely overwhelmed feltlike I was way out of controlWow didn't have a clue what was going onhow to tackle it so this six-monthtransition now you've got you've got theMustang you've gone travelling you'vesort of lifted yourself back up againyeah sort of finding your way againyeah is that a recent event now are wetalking is that now her armhow's your position right now goodstrong fantastic strong I mean from lastJanuary to this January's been verystrong okay and so on food threat thisyear and just find that then so Ifollowed Tony Robbins I follow a lot ofpa yeah because I have to how I put foodin my mouth how I lift weights I have toalso put stuff into my mind yeah Bagonon that sort of stuff whatever it iswhoever you you know you resonate with Ithink you should put it into you yeahyeah because otherwise you startwatching the news your thoughts arecompletely the wrong way yeah in withthe way that I wouldn't recommend if youwant like a strong mindset yeah so sothat's itand so what I want to know now isobviously you're in a good place nowtouch briefly on the gym stuff what'syour daily habits like now because I'mthinking there's probably a thousandpeople listening to this who canresonate with what you've just gonethrough the anxiety that feeling of justbeing in a rock yeah and I believe thatmotivation doesn't last forever and itcomes down to a level of discipline tokind of just get over those bad daysyeah so what kind of routines do you doon there like a daily basis I mean I trymy best to sort of get up the same timeevery day quickly c'est quoi best 7Harper 7 mmm saying you've got thatsolid routineI normally have breakfast as normal Iwon't so I'll prep the food for the dayahead or the on coming days because I'dnormally have gaps ok in between clientsI can pop em and prep all the food yo Dit's fresh then as well of course I'mfortunate enough that I can come backhome and get obviously so I've got astress with crap not saying it's a badthing to prep into brilliant things yeahabsolutely I don't do that anymore Icould do so close myself yeah I can justcome pop back so they're not all go towork do like my morning sessions maybestraight through into the afternoon thentrain and maybe come back then a fewmore you need depends on what theDiaries looking like okay nighttime Idon't really have caffeine past 2 3o'clock ok I cook caffeine off I'm nottoo picky with food late at nightdoesn't it doesn't really bother me yeahas long song again and that caloriesthat any impaired a thatreally matter fury at 11 o'clock or notmore so more freedom like yeah I like tosleep like yeah yeah say yeahthen I'll obviously do what I was goingon meeting where the chat with friendsgirls whatever whatever's on the agendaI don't normally train in evenings okaynot normally I'd normally have itwrapped up by get out of the way freep.m. yeah training do you listen tobooks do you read books do you do anygratitude or goal-setting or anythinglike that yeah it's funny enough for allyou're gonna see this is mad as welloh I'd actually vote when I was in thisrow yeah or as I was just coming out ofit last year I droped some goals downand every single one was it happened itwas AMA I wrote it down on piece ofpaper and stuck on the side of my bed onthe cupboard and one was buy a new cardsaid Range Rover originally why don't Iupped it out a lot but that was one Igot a new car yeah trap wait this is soweird since it said travel to freeanother three countries you've neverbeen to yeah we're not in trouble I wentto Dublin I went to Budapest I went toZurich Switzerlanddamn what was the other Craig this isthe craziest one I think once said mootmove Jim places because it will changethe game this was these worldwide okayAndyI did that you spoke about the lid yeahplastic my mindset was gone from thereto learn so I wasn't particularly happyat work yeah mr. just was not helpingmatters whatsoever yeah but it was justweird and every single one that I wrotedown yeah yeah and I didn't refer backto him all until one day I just lookedhim before yeah yeah well this is thething so I'm very big on personaldevelopment like I pride myself on mylast job think I read like 50 books orsomething okay and the first ever thisis this is why we were quite similarwhen I was 25 I was working in London atthe time and the first persondevelopment guru I ever found was 20Robbins yeah so I was listening to hisstuff I mean one of these tapes hementions writing it down and theimportance of goals and I remember Ithat particular point I wrote downI think it was like two three cause acommon belief there Birnam the phase 2and it was 2 1 buy a house and two tobuy a golf always wanted a golf croquetyou could never afford one like mom anddad blessing they brought me a fiatpunto which is like the best time everyeah it was all we could afford and isyour first car loved it to bits but inmy head was always like if I can get agolf kind of made it yeah and at thattime again in a row tip I forgot aboutit until about two three years later andI'm getting a Scirocco cuz they've justcome out a stroke I look hard beforeyeah they are amazing my kind of thefault of sure up so ever so I'm meant toget involved it's just kind of like inmy eyes a bit man upgrade yeah and I'vegot buying my first investment hold andso it was weird because I rememberfinding my books women burrows moving asa what's this and I'll pretend it's mygoals and that's why every time I'vedone it it has worked so now one of mykind of practices on every morning is towhat my goals now nothing you've justproven that yes yes because what happenssubconsciously you're almost seeing theopportunities out there and you'reprobably driving more towards a 100percent so yeah yeah I mean I writegoals down and what was everything wastalking about I meditate 39 ok yeah it'swhen I was struggling in that bad pastI've seen tell okay can ask what yourmeditation process is I just use a anyYouTube app that I really can we're richone for grieving cried she just loved itI mean this loads so simple it's asimple matter of I'm just thinking forthe listeners get on YouTube the stuffsout there type in minute yeah yeah forhowever long you can do it yeah yeah anduntil you fall asleepreally that's why also you do at nightyeah I do it at night I don't reallytend to do a probably a good ideabecause if you're anything like me butI've got to sleep and I'm worrying aboutother things I've got to do the nameyeah that's how the brain works so it'svery seductive at night isn't it yeah soI tend to do it at night and sometimes Iwon't use it if I'm quite chilled I'lljust go straight to sleepit'll depend yeah yeah so your foodobviously you're a personal trainer andI'm probably the worst person trying togive food advice because I used tosuffer with binge eating I would be veryflexible with my diet so if I fancysomething I'm just gonna eat it becauseI don't have been doin it later yeah somy diet is a bit like I do get responseson Instagram but how are you eating thisagain to me it's all about calories yeahyou know what goes into your body youbarely enough effectively European Kyeah yeah body composition so have yougot any particular foods that you eat oragain um now I mean so up more flexwe're gonna try and cut down like soobviously I've been bulking for Trump onsome mass a while now I finally hit 15stone plus now so I think I'm back downto 15 stone now was 15 stone fight fourweeks agoyeah I'm 15 stone now so I'm quiteregimented leave it now as I cut downwhen I'm trying to bulk up I'm not asrecommending I'm still in terms of thefoods I mean I'll keep the same foodslike every I'll change them up every twoweeks so if a breakfast still be oatswhey protein powder and not salt Ana'smilk yeah then two big meals of likechicken noodle stir-fry and the last methat we salmon I'm right and I'll be thesame for two weeks and ostrich eat ofwire okay it seems to be workingyeah and then obviously hydration isasleep yeah I have loads I only drinkwater really water and tea I couldpretty much have the same food I supposeon all the time my only thing is when Ifirst died I took a everything thatyou'd consider open commas here a badfood yeah and then what was happeningwas I did that for about 18 months I wasso strict and the moment I stoppeddieting because I gave up boxing all ofa sudden mate I was in like 10,000calories a day to that to that reallyhonestly to the point last um what wouldbe here I'd be out with the missus and Icouldn't buy the car back because I wasjust like glued up like the nightprofessor horrible and what used tohappen was I used to beat up for twodays Friday Saturday sometimesabsolutely hate myself swear at myselfin the mirror and I used to go to thegym three times a day up until thefollowing Thursday and then what I do isI use down to like 1800 so I'm wonderingin overtraining and then all of a suddencome Friday again when I go out for adrinkI'm drink and obviously then you loseall your common sense and I've do the10,000 Kelly thing again slow so I'lluse this thing called my fitness parkwhich yeah mate he was like this justlike you all the time so I've got overthat too hypnotherapy and why I did itand then that's why now I'm veryflexible in my process of said that youpercent my diet is like nutrient-densefood you know that the stuff that youyears they're talking about but then thelast day if I want a biscuit or achocolate you're gonna see me do itbasically okay so yeah it's interestingyeah yeah why were we accessible it's umit's crew shoulder yeah I mean I wish Ihad more of a nutrient-dense style atyourself I just think there's also anargument for sustainability as well yeahyou've got other diets sustainable andyou've got to enjoy it because that'sgonna have mental implications if not aswell if you're not enjoying your food init everything looks back to the point ifyou're not enjoying your food you're notgonna sustain it yeah therefore yourbody's not maybe where it's supposed tobe or where you want it to be thereforethe mental problems coming it's all it'sall interlinked of course everything'sinterlink to it and just on the mentalhealth thing there that you that you'reon about so would you say that'sprobably the biggest adversity thatyou've been through during that time andfor the listeners because I'm surethrough our life we're all gonna losesomebody very close to us and go forthat sort of patch in our lifewhat were the lessons that you learnfrom it and how did you fully get overit god Jerry's the 100 percent thebiggest adversity I've never experiencedanything like that my entire life noteven when the day my dad passed okay Ididn't feel as bad right as I did lastJanuary the emotional pain was just as asailor's overwhelming do you think itwas a build-up from I think every whathappened was rock so I went see acounselor like last and late last yeargoing into early this year because I'venever I never had a proper bereavementcounseling and I still had loads ofstuff underlined and I think that's whatthe bill that was okay so imagine havingthat much emotional pain build-up forwhat three years and just explode analpha to correlate shape yeah it's justit's just gone explode in the air yeahand I tell you in terms of the lessonslearn I think the bereavement counselordefinitely helped me to understand asinteresting the stuff and the lessonsthat I learned were the grief has notimelineit's now got a time line there's noproper way to grieve yeah yeah it's okayto feel back you've got it you've got tofeel these emotions you've got to feelthe emotions and not subdue them okaysee if you subdued him you have anepisode like I did and that's I wouldn'twish that wish that were my worst enemy[Music]another lesson was probably I learnedthat I'm strong a lot stronger than afault of I thought you were yeah yeah toget through that I mean there's not muchto phase me now to be honest if I cancome over that they're in the fin andand this is one of the things I've triedto do with this podcast as wellis I don't want somebody to go throughwhat you've just been through you knowto lose their parent and then go throughthe pressure what I wanted to do isrealize the last point you said that wasjust amazing it's but stronger than wewe know we are and that we think we'recapable of and I think the only way youfind that is by going through someadversity or yeah I should never know orshould I be no no this is where I love Ilove the gym and I love people that areinto the gym because when you go to thegym you don't go there to have like aluxury time you go there you put yourbody in distress yeah provided how youtrain and then you you're almost tryingto grow in that moment and I urge peoplenot just to do that in the gym to dothat through life as ah yes why I got toprobably speak in sessions when most ofthe time I choke oh you go you're goingto like help you absolutely opt thatdoes I mention that the other thingthat's been really good especially foryourself with anxiety as well I thinkthat's brilliant and the first few timesI've been there and they've asked me tosay something I'm just looked out everywannabe luck don't say it's in numberone public fear though isn't it it isand I thought in my head if I canconquer that I can conquer anything andI wonder way there now and I think liketwo weeks four actually won the bestbeat of the day coach me if you ask methree months already left yeah you knowchances that's amazing though man yeahso hence white but you're doing the samethings like you've had to come out ofthis sort of dark hole and you've doneit and you've said some amazing thingsthey're like it's okay not to feel greatgrief has no timeline and I think comingfrom a male and most of you know if youcould follow Alexpaid so like Instagram in great physicalshape you're training people you'regoing to come across as a sort of alphamale or suppose yeah yeah cause there'sa vulnerability in what you're sayingand I think as a guy I think we need toobviously it's best that more yeahbecause we have this thing like bravadolike our culture our weaknesses and Ithink especially meant to have one ofthe things I'm working on this year asare is really trying to raise awarenessfor mental health yeah because my momsuffered with it support people withmental health and I think people areyourself it make other people who may bein a similar situation to yourself thinkif alex is it 100 yeah yeah now youwon't believe the amount of people thathave told me to have gotta do you won'tbeliefs add isn't it like I honestlythink most of the human race has it tosome probably got it some degree yeahwhere some people just say you how abouta few years I've had people just comeout yeah about it for about ten yearsright but I'm the on the surfaceeveryone's got masks everyone's got amess yeah some of the strongest peopleare no wood on the surface successfuland they've come you have beenabsolutely struggling for 10 years it'scrazy my anxieties but today I'm strongyeah yeah and this is this is what I tryand be as transparent as I can on mysocial media with everything I doso ridership there something's goneabout try and say not to sound likedepressing because I don't want to comeacross as a depressing life yeah andit's almost like guys it's okay not tobe okay yeah or to have a shit day whereyou just feel like you're in the funkbut I get those days but if course he'sgone wrong like I probably had the bestday before and I wake up the next dayfeel absolute shit for note-for-note nothat's that's unfortunate the horriblething about yeah anxiety and stuff it'sit can just creep up on you forabsolutely no reasonhence why it did two years off well yeahthis was exactly and I'm overwhelmedfeeling as well oh there's there's beenoverwhelmed moderately than has beenoverwhelmedcompletely with everything that youcan't control anything you you can'teven function under the day-to-dayroutine if you ask me a question I replya very about ten-secondlater Wow it's a serious very seriousthing very serious thing and you'reworking on it now though yeah I think ofmy massive yes inroads to it to behonest and I honestly put that down tothe bereavement counselor okay so you'drecommend anyone going through that toat least talk whether it's with thecounselor you know some people have astigma attached to that but I think talkis probably one of the most important100% I mean I wouldn't see a really goodwoman called Elaine at Walsallbereavement center which is free yeahyeah free of charge so I mean that thesystem she's got there she's very she'svery very good I mean it just made meunderstand my emotions more Jamie andcosy I think the trouble with anxietyfeel completely alone with it down yeahand you think the only one in the worldyeah yeah absolutely ten times worseyeah see people need to understand thatyou're not the only one going through itand that in itself makes hugeimprovement because you feel sort oflike the most worthless one in the roomis not make sense so yeah it's nice andother people are soft it's nice to knowin a way people are suffering as well ashorrible as that I know what I mean bythat though I know it's nice to knowthat people have the same infusionproblems yeah and I think if we lickabout twenty said earlier that'sprobably the problem with society todayespecially when you're hearing aboutkids with like depression or kind ofsymptoms they go I don't like socialmedia and seeing this perfect life thateveryone's portraying yeah that's notthat's not it it's like somebody mightpost every brand new car or they mightpost a holiday but there might be indebt there might have had a bereavementthe day before so anything would havehappened absolutely and if what happensis we see that as a snapshot now you gotto remember 99.9% of people on in theworld are already gonna post highlightsthem on this follow us has greatreception we've see the good sideabsolutely and and that's kind of likethe gift and the curse I think withsocial media which is and again anotherreason I do this issay look yeah you got fantastic stuff onyour histogram you can learn a hell of alot about fitness and personal trainingand stuff but there's a real person hereand you could probably learn morevaluable life lesson yeah yeah by thisinterview that since 100% I think Ithink the kids of our generation nowthat didn't set up to fail that garbsI'm sure they've got no chance becausethey're coming to a world where they'vebeen handed this this phone here thistablet here yeah and I think I waslistening so glad you know simon Sinekyeah yeah yeah I was listening to someof his stuff I mean he's basicallysaying there's no way like kids now canhandle the dopamine fix of what they'relooking at the big good hormone fixbecause they're they're obsessed of itthat as soon as air phone pings afterhappy it's crazypick it up when they don't want you tobe happy about his own when you thinkabout it the grand scheme of things it'sjust but I was just I was drivingthrough some place near Warsaw a fewweeks ago and I was just looking and Iwas like the kids coming out of schooland every single one on the street wason the phone I'm not talking aboutone in ten every single one of them wason the phone and a fuck I just referback to when I just call I was runningaroundI mean running around and doing justcrazy stuff like I look at them now andI think that you just been cell phoneit's not their fault I don't think it'stheir fault it's not their faultI think leeches are allowing some phonesinto lessons are they now it's like yousaid potentially setting them up to failisn't it I think we're kind of like agood generation where we lived beforethe phony era but also now we get tobenefit I suppose from like a workperspective yeah so I fell into the trapinitially of like say like Instagram youknow you looking who's engaging my postand stuff yeah I do now and I probablysaid for the last four months iswhenever I write a post unlike what theFacebook I use quite a lot I just turnedmy phone off them and I only ever gotback to reply what I don't do is scrollthrough Facebook and like other people'sstuff will follow other people's stufftoo much yeah is it all supportive butbecause I don't want to put my mind inthat in that moment or no rage yeahagente really thinking yeahI'm doing enough or I'm not enoughbecause someone's always doing this sojust on my own something you have to bea bit selfish that look this is what Iwant to say if you resonate with itfantastic if you don't mind past it butI just want to get off my chest so areyou social media especially prayerthat's a way I just talked it to myselfand it's kind of like my journey yeahyeah I can be like oh yeah you shouldsay that then how much I've got grownsince yeah if that makes senseand that's helping massively because Ireckon if I was constantly on Facebookand I've done it where I'm just watchingeveryone and everyone's buying new carsand doing crazy things and I'm like youalmost been inferior a little bit yeahbut as you said those points wouldfollow up at the same time how do youknow that person is in hasn't taken ahuge loan to pay that you just put onthe Instagram of the face but of courseyeah they haven't been given thathaven't won the car you didn't it mightbe one those free optionsyou're never know any plug youautomatically think are their doing wellthey're doing it right that's the phrasenew reality probably haven't got muchself worth custom I've been given thecar so Duty absolutely and I think themost important thing is probably likehappiness that how happy are they reallyoh yes well of course this is this isthe issued so it's all falserepresentations what they do is take iton face value isn't it yeah this is itas you say it's the the pros and cons ofsocial media media but I think now whatwhat annoys me is that I have to usesocial media for business for businessat the same time I hate it yeahBono's gotta be done 100% that's that'swhere oh yes stuck between ever to letgo of social media and just try and finda way that you can live with it yeahbecause it's only gonna get worse yeahof course I mean we spoke about voicehence the podcast yeah everything'sgoing to probably voice-activatedapparently there's a massive statistic Idon't know if the top of my head thatmost people when they search into likeGoogle or Syria or something and I'mprobably talking about youngerdemographic yeah they dovia voice so that's how much is changingI mean that we're probably still used totyping stuff and it's it's incrediblereally I mean it's incredible how muchwe've developed break I just wish youknow their whole mentor half side andthat sort of it was developing at thisyeah we said yeah it's um it's very veryscary for them yeah I don't know if yourclients on any one set stuff or yeah I'mpretty much to go to guy oh yeahfantastic yeah pretty much do you be agood great advocate but very very verymuch so and i've i've had people likei've pulled people a depression i pulledthem have things by just doing what I doreally don't rely telling going from myexperiences etc regardless from youngerthan them or not doesn't matter haveanother different experience absolutelybut you have massively change peopleit's mentally physically got more thebest periodsyeah what you do what you do but I meanI'm not gonna name names I don't know soenough like I mean there was one guytrained is literally where I was interms of rock bottom he didn't lead thehouse that he didn't leave the house andhe hadn't trained in how long and Ipretty much pulled him out of it he wasin this last year I think he was in itthey're not then I didn't know hedropped before he was it fell a bit lowand poor mentally before I did so I Ifell into I fell into it I got back outof it and pulled him okay sort of out aswell which is commendable because it'sprobably the hardest thing just puttingyourself out yeah and I just rememberinglike I was trying to I was trying to getinto work but couldn't write I was tellhimself yesterday I'm going back in andfire comes to it and I can get back inand I remember I'm just saying you justtake your time etc so eventually gotback in and now he's here and of a threeor four stone down fantastic at work hada baby oh wow I love that me had a babyyeah yeah loves these training so goodstuff good on you mateso yeah he's on it now yeah I thinkbecause obviously I did my qualificationI think about eight years ago my lastfew clients I stopped at the back end oflast year they used to say the trainingand everything yeah it's fine whateverbut they say we enjoy like the mindsetporks and stuff that I used to give himlove that side of it because you don'tknow what people what stresses have goton the life and you don't know what inthat hour our slot or whatever you haveyeah you don't know how much you'llbenefit directly because people I'lltell you after G that you don't evenknow what you do yeah you don't see noyeah you don't see it yeah do you know Imean and that's a special thing I thinkthat's a special thing about the job Iagree if you can change someone's lifearound like that it's pretty bit there'sno better feeling better than earningmillions for some companies latelyabsolutely you're gonna see not much ofoh yeah so would you say that's yourkind of motivation now like movingforward or I mean what what keeps yougoing now on a daily basisthat in itself only percent that I meanI think you have to get to know people alittle bit more don't you their personalgoals what the one thing you can startto build that rapport yeah and once youstart to build that rapport it meanseven more to you doesn't it because youlied the pass and you become be the bestdigital yeah my similar so you'rerocking up into work and it's not evenwork Jeremy you doing it for them andlet's just see the seem so grateful yeahyou made me want to go back there yeahthat's a big finger isn't it I mean ifyou can if you can do that that's prettyspecial I think of course but if you canstart to retune people's minds andrelationships with food exercise withthemselves it then impacts on thepersonal life and other stuff like thatyeah you create a butterfly effect yeahpositive because I think if you if youcan start to improve that that there'sgonna be good things that'll topple overabsolutely from that closing the hardestworkers in the room in the gym andnormally the heart the most successfulpeople financially your family wiserelationship probably if you take thatlevel of discipline and work ethic intothe world it's all a discipline isn't itunder the most disciplined people aremost successful people and if you canprove that in the gym probably one thehardest I agree scenarios are going tobe ok I always look at someone and ifthey're physically in good shapeyou know you've got some good level ofdisappeared another half hours yard workI know you've had to probably go tosocial events and not eat what everyoneelse is eating or drink what everyoneelse a drink lot you've had to makesacrifices so I fully appreciate thatyeah a lot of people don't understandthat they'll call those sort of people agym free cause yes absolutely yeahwhen you think about it now the matter Ialways you've probably have to do tochange a physiques and our bodies andit's incredible incredible amount yeahbut a lot of people don't understandthat and there are a hell of a lot oflazy people yeah yeah hell of a lot oflazy people which I can't understand Idon't understand how they've got to thatyeah how about that stage whoever itstuning from a young age or Parenthood orfell in with the wrong crowdI don't know yeah do you know I mean soI don't know it's one of the pillarsthat are you so I was in corporate firstI went straight into business one of thethings that I wanted to do was to workwith people on a one-to-one basis so yesI love the person training I do it moreand I sort of mindset basis as well lieespecially property and stuff but canhelp them yeah develop and one of thefirst things I'll say before I startworking with them is you gotta get a gymplandon't be talking to liver yeah one thingfor you to do before you do anythingelse is work on yourself first so all ofthem will have to do some level ofphysical activity now whatever that isit doesn't need to be lifting weights itcould be yoga ISM going for runswhatever they want to do but you have todo some level of activity yeah yeah Imean that almost be any discomfort inorder to grow yeah and always do thatface because then I think like you saidif they're if they can work really hardto give 100% on that they're nothingokay that's a great trait with thatcould work with that person's gotworking yeah yeah whereas if they'veturn around but no I just want to learnabout this or making money but Iwouldn't do this I'm not okay I'mprobably not the right code for you yeahbecause my coach is gonna be holisticit's gonna be about everything yeah yeahand I think you'll be great at thatI think obviously as your businessstarts to expand in your personaltraining you could potentially I don'thave your own franchise I don't knowwhat your goals are but because you haveboth aspects of it I think you're veryreally well yeah yeah it is a good thingto tap into niche it's all interlinkedisn't it and it's only gonna get it'sonly gonna get moreprevalent in society a hundred percentso what's your fear now death right okayI spoke to my Cantrell about thisbecause she was like when when you losepeople close to you rather than extendedfamily or someone who's not particularlyclose to you you realize mortality cuzuntil then you're immortal our ninjaknow I mean you don't fit nothing youreally think cuz I it doesn't reallycross your mind you're invinciblethrough more so that death scares meokay now yeah that scares me and I thinkyou just you've hit the nail on the headthere because if somebody hasn't gonethrough death listening to this podcastthey're gonna think nice not reallyresonating somebody who's been throughit it almost comes in your head on adaily basis so I think everyoneeveryone's going to lose some worth somestage that's just the way the worldworks you know we haven't worked out howto survive forever and I lost aboutseven people within 18 months no friendsor familybut prior to that I'm not really lost noone so for me is like here soul and soulhas lost their granddad or the grandmaand I feel sad but that was it it wasvery short-livedwhereas now yeah that whole death thingI suppose it does scare me because Ithink I don't know if this is my lastday hence why I try and like bust my assand work as much as I can to make surethat if I was to leave today I've leftthe world in a better place yeah if thatmakes sense so is motivation it is rightit is you become more instantly you feellike most things scarier and what was itkind of saying now she was likeobviously once I lost my dad I felt likeI needed to do everything fast needed tobuy have sat down rah-rah-rah all ofthese things because she doesn't knowhow much time you've got and that'sthat's unfortunate thing of this wholerealizing mortality send you in a rushyeah that's where the anxiety sets inyeah whatever nothingness by then thatresonates with me so much because I feelI've got so much to do so many people Iwant to help and I'm like I could begone tomorrowand it scares me yeah so you're tryingto rush into it everything yeah and Iknow that's probably not the right placeI I follow of course it's not yeah butwe know we know this for your towerwe'represident absolutely well yeah thatthat's what she was saying if she feltlike oh my dad died at this age am Igonna die at this age now yeah I'vegotta do this I gotta do that harsh inorder to this yeah and in reality you'vegot all the time in the world reallyyeah but in that moment in thatchanneling yeah we exact it in your headyeah but you can't get out of its it's aparent and that's the UMthat's mortality isn't it do you followGary Vaynerchuk a little bit yeah wellhe started to grind on me after was ityes he's a mob like Jota but one of thethings he says he's really good is hesays you should be impatient in there inthe micro I either short-term or patientfor the macro for the long-term whichwhen I think about it and why he says itmakes sense so it's like yes you shouldwork absolutely like 100 percent everysingle day as if it's your last day butstill know your goals that you want toachieve and stuff are gonna take longera bit like I suppose bodybuilding forexample yeah you're now on a cot forexample to get t-they it's not gonnahappen no matter how hard you traintoday you're not going to get to thatbody today yeah even if you've had thebest I ever today something happen butwhat you can do is absolutely crush itright now and then tomorrow repeat nextday repeat and then all of the suddenyou will you will get there as well yeahso like that's one thing he says thatreally resonates with me yeah but likeyou said when you get that level ofanxiety and it it overwhelms you it'sdifficult to think you're like you'renot thinking there's no claritybasically your thoughts yeah yeah andwhat what people need to realize likeyou're in control of these thoughts youcan still control them you've justyou've gone down a path where you thinkyou can't control them do you know Imean except every four is well withinthe control we just don't know it likewhen you're in that bad patch yeahthat's right and that's what I learnt aswell and that was with the bereavementcounselor yeah yeah that's powerful butlike you are in control of your thoughtsit's just a belief that you're not thatmeans you're leaving that you're notwhen you are should we were before wewere beforebefore we had events and one not so manyI think about it a lot we were kids thethoughts we have you're invincible youknow we were going toKaizen our heroes why can't we have thatan absolutely because somewhere alonglife somebody's told you you can't dosomething or you've fallen down andrather as a kid where you keep gettingback up you've actually said you knowI'll stay down we're just going theopposite way yeah yeah that's a problemin it and it does take certain thingslike these events traumatic events andother events in your life that obviouslymake up your thoughts do you know itmeans in your beliefs your beliefs arethe one you start believing certainthings about the world and yourself thatcomes out in your actions and yourbeliefs are just a combination of thethoughts yeah cause this is why you'vegot a control everyone everyone's gotdifferent millions of ways it's not justus yeah of coursetrust me when you get to a deepconversation with someone you reallyknow what the thinking about you theyactually thinking that you know I meanso you know we're not alone with thatthat's what we've got and you are youare in control you've just got to tryyour best to control them it's a goodaffirmation tough so I do affirmationsin the morning as wellso I say stuff like I'm no longeranxious I'm not shy yeah yeah I thinkyou have to consciously make the effortwhich is a viewfinder so you have toconsciously make yeah yeah because ifsubconsciously I'm I'm not in I'mpotential everyone has to do this yeah Ican't see how you can you cannot do it Ithink everyone does do it but we assumethe people at the top like you knowyou're Dwayne Johnson you're Kevin Hartcelebrities they don't do it but theydid Wayne Johnson suffers yeah dad yeahreally badly rock is that everyone'sIdolit's amazing mean yeah and you are youare approaches of your your thoughts youare you are your thoughts on powerful meyeah but like people need to understandyou can't control them yeah if you wantto if you just let them spoil problemsisn't it absolutely yeah but whatthey've got understand if you do have aday like that that's fine push it intothe car but that's all and as well areyou better start to continue to beatyourself up for another few weeksthat lifestyle enough disease we've realsaturations and without you behind somehorses or absolute making up these theseproblems yeah which is what humans tendto do we can we can sabotage ourself asmuch as you want but we don't tend to doto us so why should we do it toourselves but we Dukes it's easyit's true though innit nice I'm notgonna say to you what's going on in myhead about I won self-sabotage myselfthen say the same stuff to you it'sdeeper nasties or what to do yeah yeahisn't that weirddo you know what I mean what so why whywhy why do we think it's right to do itto us ourselves he's probably the mostimportant at the end of the day I'm yessir if you think about it logically weare actually the most important peopleto ourselves yeah so yeah but it's it'seasy and it's easy to say to yourselfit's no one's gonna question okay we'regonna go in three two onewhat did you eat for breakfast squats ordeadlifts squats the ability to fly orbe invisible fly if your favourite cheapmeal Peter when your fame money yourproudest moment getting into the camhere everything your favourite food foryears number one health to staydisciplined biggest Fitness to me thereare certain foods that convert backyeah definitely achieve your number onegoal this year travel more your favoriteTV show ever sons of anarchywould you rather know how you will dieor when you were dying when yourfavorite hobbies Jim if you could sitwith one person in the world for an houryou would it be oh my dinero your worstfear is a child dinner for your favoriteplace in the world okay if you couldabolish one thing in the world whatwould it bemurdering your favorite song ever deathmatchorder number read boys or predict thefuture three times your favorite superEurope Batman why his minds oh yeahwho's badasses yeah he's IV I'm finallyyour biggest sprint organization okayfantastic so the next question we'realmost at the end actually it's aboutreflection so not really exactly whatyou don't know because obviously nowyou've worked on your physical healthyour mental health you're in a muchbetter place so nobody exactly what youknow now if you could go back to a timewhere you were struggling or maybe ayounger version of yourself and youcould whisper something in that person'sear just to kind of make their lifeeasier I suppose growing up what wouldyou say it will passit will pass 100% it will pass me I'llget bad you've got you've got to gothrough this to grow and it will passvery difficult to see the time yeahimpossible to sing yeah yeahwhat it will party will pass a lot thatthis isn't last forever yeah nothinglasts foreveryeah so I'll have to send you a podcastafter this made their little EastBhagwat similar kind of thing and theguy on it he was talking about chaos andhow he just flipped the script in hismind to say he enjoys the chaos becauseof high resilience and how much strengthhe's gonna build from it and how muchknowledge whereas a lot of us were kindof trying to avoid pain and stuff wherehe's that bring me down because I knowin six months time I'm gonna be muchyeah yeahyou almost let it enter right buddywe're actually at the last question nowso the last question I always ask myguess is if in a 150 years time sciencefails to save us all and all that existsis a book on the table and that book isabout you and it's about your life andall of the great and wonderful thingsthat you aspire to do you want to do youknow you've done it but in order to makesomebody pick that up what would onethat I will say and two what would thesummary at the bat tell us about you tieit would be something along the lines ofnever give up the summary of my likewhat yes I think about this wait there'sthere's somebody gone to a book storeand they're looking at all these booksand they've turned it around now youneed to make them want to pick it up tobe like oh that's quite interestingactually that sounds interesting so alittle bit about yourself maybe thethings you want to achieve how do youwant to be remembered but I just wantedto say that you'd want to meet as manypeople as you can make a positiveimpression with everyone you come intocontact with never give up on anythingyeah until it's completely done and justkeep trying to live in the momentkeep trying to live in the moment that'sthe only one you can control and justkeep do what you want to do not whatpeople what you have to do do what youwant to do because there ain't no timefor nothing else really absolutelyreally I think I'd pick it up yeah yeahyeah definitely me I appreciate so thankyou for that that brings us to the endof the show now but before we leave andI close it off I just want you to givethe listeners a chance to obviouslyconnect with yourself so I will put allof this in the show notes anyway so youcan literally click on it by any appthat you listen to this one but where'sthe best place to contact you mobile oremail okay I don't know if you want toput your mobile direct down here yeah myInstagram okay choose your Instagramyeah yes let's go for it yeah it's a liro eight nine eightokay fantasticup or down the shoulders or you wantlike snapchat Facebook anything likethat or a more I don't really use okay Iuse Facebook obviously just type in AlexRoberts okay then there should be anaked man obviously yeah that's theprofile of course you person did butyeah those two platforms okay 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Podcast: Having no strategy is a recipe for disasterIn this weekly video:00:25 – Why people trading without a strategy is a disaster ready to happen01:30 – When you learn how to drive a car you get tuition02:25 – You’ll end up crashing03:00 – Understand the market firstI'm going to explain why trading the Forex market without a proven strategy really is a recipe for disaster, so let's get into that right now.Hey, traders. Andrew Mitchem here from The Forex Trading Coach. We're video and podcast number 296.Going to explain to you why so many people get into trading without a proven strategy, and why that almost always is a recipe for disaster.Why people trading without a strategy is a disaster ready to happenWhy talking about this subject? Well, it comes about because the last week, I've held two live, free to the public webinars with my colleague Paul Tillman, who's based over in the US. On those webinars, we asked people to explain to us what is the biggest issues that's holding you back as a Forex trader? What's your number one problem?While people had things like money management, a lack of time, and the psychology behind trading, not having confidence in their system, the whole lot really came back to the biggest problem was people don't have a strategy. They don't know what they're doing. They lack knowledge, and therefore when you think about it, no wonder the stats say somewhere between 90-95% of all Forex traders lose money. It's quite scary, really, because people enter into this without really knowing what they're doing. It's not good.When you learn how to drive a car you get tuitionLet's try and change that. Think of it this way: if you went to drive a car, you'd want to know what you're doing. You'd want to know some rules, you'd have some knowledge about the vehicle, some rules about the road, how the vehicle worked, what you need to do, how you start it, how you drive it, how you accelerate, slow down, corner, reverse, all those type of obvious things as car drivers and vehicle drivers, we fully understand.Think about to when you started to learn how to drive, how scary that was. But of course, probably what you did is you got some help, you got some tuition. Whether it was a professional driving company or friends or family, someone taught you how to drive. What to do, how to get into gear, how to accelerate, how to put fuel in the vehicle. All those type of things that you just normally take for granted.You’ll end up crashingTrading's exactly the same. When you don't know how to drive, you'll end up crashing. When you don't know how to trade, you'll end up crashing. They both hurt. One hurts physically because you're getting smashed up. The other hurts financially and emotionally because you're getting smashed up. It's exactly the same, so just think about it in that way. Go back to thinking when you first started driving. If you've got kids and they're old enough, think about how they're driving and how scary it is sat next to them, because really, they don't know what they're doing. But you're trying to help them along, and trading is exactly the same thing.Understand the market firstWhat I really, strongly urge you to do is when you want to get into trading, make sure you understand the market first. Make sure you understand the strategy, make sure you understand what works for you. Don't just jump in and throw thousands of dollars into a trading account and then blame everybody, blame the market, blame the broker, blame everybody else apart from yourself. Because the problem is unless you've sought help and support from a proven strategy, a proven mentor, a proven system, then the disasters are likely to happen.Think about it this way: when it comes back to cars again, if you know how to trade,
My adventures of having a therapist and teacher who put us both into a bit of a situation. And the best food to soothe the gut and recharge your brain.Hi everybody, I'm Barbara Fernandez, the Rocking Raw Chef, here with my Clean Food, Dirty Stories: one to entertain, the other to inspire.I help people stamp out stress, depression and fatigue over at RockingRawChef.com, and today's title is:The one thing your therapist should NEVER say to youIn addition to this story, at the end of this episode I'll share with you the best food to soothe the gut, recharge your brain AND bring you strength and connection to who you really are.OK enough hints from me, let's get on with the story.Right, so this story is a bit of a doozy and I've never shared it before except with a few close friends. So why not share it all over the internet, right? The reason I'm sharing this story though is because I feel it deals with a really important topic, and that is boundaries.Let's talk boundariesWhen I say boundaries, I don't mean fences or stone walls or anything like that. I'm talking about the boundaries that we all set that say to people, “You can come here but no closer”. For those who don't know, boundaries are our (mostly unconscious) way of telling people what is and is not OK.So for example your boundaries with your friends are probably very different to those with your coworkers. Friends can most likely get closer to you, not only emotionally and mentally, but physically as well. You probably wouldn't move away from a friend in an elevator if they were standing fairly close to you, whereas with a stranger, you would. Right? We talk about personal space and that's one kind of boundary.Now why am I prefacing my story with talk about boundaries? Well, because this story is all about violating someone's boundaries – imposing upon them, in this case, mine - in a very intimate way...without even touching them. And this kind of behavior is just not OK, although it does make for an interesting story, as you'll see.It started in a bookstoreThis story takes place not in Paris as with some of my previous episodes, but in London, England. And it starts in a used bookstore.My son was very small – he was about a year old – and he and I often found ourselves in used bookstores, whether we wanted to be there or not, because his dad loves books. He wanted to browse and scour all the shelves searching for whatever books caught his eye. While my son and I were waiting, I spotted a flyer on a bulletin board advertising training in a particular method of therapy that sounded really exciting. I won't say exactly what it was because this isn't about name calling and the story involves the founder of that method and, you know, I don't want to use real names because the purpose isn't to name and shame, it's just to tell a story.I looked at the flyer and my intuition said, “You need to do this course. It's perfect for you”. So I wrote down the phone number and the website address and looked it up at home. And sure enough, it looked fantastic. It was a full year of training in a small group to become a therapist using this method. I could even use my vocal skills, so I thought 'wow that really is perfect!'Very exciting...at firstI signed up for the course and was very excited on my first day. Beforehand I had already read a bit about the method's founder, whom I'll call Chris, and I was really looking forward to learning from him.We were definitely a small group – there were twelve of us, plus Chris and his two female assistants. And the training was very intense. Chris told us that he wanted to 'break down the walls of our egos' (and if this sounds like something a leader of a religious sect might say, well yes you're right. How did you know?)So what followed were some very long days of exploring our own inner psyches using Chris' method – we did this in the mornings usually. Then in the afternoons we would do group work, so trust exercises, therapy games etc. We also always had some kind of circle time where we would talk about things that had come up during our group and individual explorations of our inner worlds. Chris was the lead therapist, and we were all like his clients. We were learning by exploring our psyches and then using him and his therapeutic skills to deal with what came up.Dealing with heavy stuff, and ego-breaking exercisesAnd I have to say that some of the stuff that came up was pretty heavy. Things that people had repressed for years, or that they remembered vaguely but had never explored, or that they didn't even remember until the work we were doing brought a memory to the surface. I can't go into details for obvious reasons, but we're talking childhood abuse, family members committing suicide, birth trauma, that kind of stuff. So not exactly what you'd chat about over a coffee, right?Some of the exercises were pretty interesting as well, as was the homework. One assignment I remember was that for 3 days we had to create a blanket fort in our homes (now that does sound like fun, right?) and we had to live in there. We also had to eat our food without using our hands from a bowl on the floor. Sounds weird, right? I mean now you probably definitely think I'm nuts!I mean I'm all for self-exploration, but I have to say that my son's dad thought I was nuts. My son thought it was normal – I mean he spent a lot of time crawling around on the floor anyway so he probably figured Mommy was playing like he was. It was interesting to say the least, and I know I did have some deep realization or other during that process but for some reason I can't remember for the life of me what that was. Anyway, that's not important.Is he skilled, or is he psychic?Anyway exercises like this make you a bit vulnerable, and we very quickly came to depend on Chris in the all-day sessions for his help and support. He was very, very skilled – extremely good at what he did, and he would see things in people that left you thinking, 'Is he psychic? How did he see that?' It was incredible to watch. So we all, I think, admired him. Certainly for me, I had him on this therapist pedestal – I admired him as a teacher, a trainer and a therapist. Nothing more than that though.One day we were learning about two aspects of a relationship between therapist and client that are crucial to understand if you want to be a good therapist. And those aspects are transference, and countertransference. I need to explain them so that you understand what comes next. But it's pretty logical and I'm going to give a very simplistic explanation here.Transference and countertransferenceTransference is a process where the client unconsciously transfers feelings that they have for someone in their life onto the therapist. So for example let's say a therapist is helping a woman get over her difficult relationship with her brother. At some stage in the therapy, that woman can start to transfer her feelings for her brother – good and bad – onto the therapist. The mind does this to help us work through those feelings, because the therapist is a 'safe' version of her brother. The client can rant and rave or say things to the therapist-as-brother that she perhaps wouldn't feel able to express to her real brother. And a good therapist knows about this process and is smart enough to work with that transference.For example if the woman starts ranting at him in the way she used to at her brother, the therapist can use that dynamic to respond to her in a way that can help her move forward. This is very simplistic, so if you're listening and you're a therapist, please forgive me. I know it goes deeper than that but I'm just trying to get across the basic idea because of what comes next in my story.An example of countertransferenceLet's say then that the woman is ranting at the therapist because in her unconscious mind he has become her brother, in a sense. In a perfect world, the therapist wouldn't take this personally. He or she would be thinking 'Well her transference is that I'm her brother, I know this, so I won't take this personally'. But therapists, like the rest of us, are human. And they do react to the client's transference – which we call countertransference. In the case of the ranting woman, the therapist's reaction – his or her countertransference – could be anger. It could be fear. It could be any number of things depending on the therapist's own personal history. And a good therapist will recognize that if he or she starts to feel a strong emotional response, then perhaps the client is unwittingly triggering some of the therapist's own personal stuff. Cause we all have our personal stuff, right? We all have buttons that people can push, regardless of how much personal development we do. It's just that usually the more personal development you do, the more difficult it can be for someone to push your buttons. But the buttons are still there.And now the story gets tricky...So here's where my story gets tricky. One day we were in our circle time talking after we'd done some group work, I think this was about 3 months into the course, and Chris wanted to talk about his reactions to each of us as people. Well, as clients. He wanted to do this because he was convinced that his reactions to us were based on our stuff. In other words, his countertransference. He went round the circle saying things to people like “With you, Jim, I feel on edge a lot of the time. I wonder where that has shown up for you in your life?” or “With you, Anna, I feel protective, like I want to look after you to make sure no-one hurts you. Where could that come from?”. Then he got to me – and he said the thing that (according to the books I read that he recommended we read) NO therapist is ever supposed to say. He said, “With you, I feel a lot of sexual energy, a very primal kind of attraction”.No, no, no! Therapists are NEVER supposed to tell a client that they are sexually attracted to them, countertransference or not! Clients – and students – are fragile people. And we were in the middle of a very intense psychological process of breaking down barriers and uncovering any unresolved issues in our lives. It was hard, scary work and none of us needed this kind of complication. Especially as we were such a small group, working together in one room for 8 hours a day 5 days a week.Delayed hearing? Yup, that's a thingNow Chris threw this particular bombshell 3 months into the course, but interestingly I didn't actually hear him say it until 3 more months had gone by. My mind literally blocked out his words in the moment he spoke them, it wouldn't let me hear them to protect myself. Unfortunately my subconscious heard them and the dynamic between us changed after that day. You might think that's weird, but this does happen. There are moments when we just don't hear something because, yeah, our mind protects us and it just gets blocked out.Whereas before, he was the teacher, therapist and innovator that I admired, now he was a dangerous threat. The problem though was that because my conscious mind didn't let me hear his words until months later (when a comment from someone in the class unlocked my memory), I didn't understand why suddenly I was afraid of him. During our group exercises there was so much tension between us that it affected everyone, especially me, I think.The worst part though was that as the course progressed, I started to get more and more upset, and he somehow had managed to convince himself and the rest of the class that I had “started it”. He was convinced that his attraction to me was simply his countertransference due to “my stuff” even though he was the one who had said to me out of the blue that he was attracted to me. And he had some of the other students believing that I was more than a bit like unhinged. Which was just really annoying, especially once I'd remembered what had actually happened.My ego was having a great timeAnd the other annoying thing or challenging thing was that there's a very thin line between massive admiration for someone and attraction. So as the course progressed it was difficult to not feel a response to the mega teacher saying he was attracted to you. I felt singled out in some way, and if I'm honest, it made me feel important. Right? Suddenly I had something that no-one else on the course had.Well I know now that the whole scenario was pretty ridiculous if not embarrassing. I think of it now and it makes me (almost) want to laugh, but how often have we felt important over something that actually wasn't that important at all? My ego was basically having a field day. It was totally in control. So I'm sure that's happened to you, right?Anyway even with the huge cloud of tension hanging over my head, I did manage to finish the year. Ironically when we had completed our last assignment, he gave me the only compliment for the entire year. On the last day.How Chris really saw me...and my conclusionIn our final circle time, he went round to each person and said what he wished for them and/or what he could see them achieving with what they'd learned. And as usual it was super perceptive and absolutely incredible, actually. It was one of those moments when again you were like, 'is this guy psychic?' When he got to me, he said “Out of everyone here, you're the one who I can most see doing what I did. You're the one I can see creating your own method and taking it out into the world to affect change”. So of course I felt like screaming – if he thought I was that good, why on earth couldn't he have told me that, instead of talking about his feelings of attraction and stuff. Anyway!My conclusion looking back on all of this is that circumstances can create feelings that aren't real. As soon as a few weeks had gone by, after the course, the whole attraction thing felt false. And while he really should NOT have said what he did, it taught me a lot and I'm very grateful for the experience.I learned that our minds can create all kinds of stories, his and mine and everybody else's. And if we take a step back from the situation – or in my case a couple of years' distance – we can see the experience in a different light. Which makes me question how much of what we experience in our day to day lives is real truth? How much of what we think is happening, or what we think others are thinking and feeling comes from our own stories? We speak a little bit about this in my episode with Corrina, with Corrina's story which I'll link to as well.The other things I learned were within the method itself, which is absolutely amazing and I do use it for many things today. I gained an invaluable tool, even though it cost me a bit of heartache to get it. And I also learned how strong I can be and about the different kinds of people that I can help. So was it all worth it? Definitely. It's all life experience, right? Even the blanket fort and eating out of the bowl. All good!Can you disappear from Google?I never found out what happened to Chris after that, except that he left the country shortly afterwards and his two female assistants left the course at the end of the year, at same time I and the other students did. They would never say why, but I do wonder why they both left.A few years ago I even tried Googling Chris to see what he was up to, and I found...are you ready? Nothing! Nothing! A founder of a fabulous therapeutic method who has written several books...and I found nothing. It's like he's disappeared from the face of the earth. But even so, like how can you disappear from Google? Right? Amazing. I guess it's possible.Anyway, I share this story for anyone who ever starts a therapeutic journey. Yes I learned a lot, but it was definitely the hard way. So make sure you're in good hands, and if your therapist or trainer starts making noises like “Oh I find you attractive”, take my advice and run the other way! Food to soothe the gutSo, I mentioned at the beginning of this episode that I'd share with you the best food to soothe the gut, recharge your brain AND bring you strength and connection to who you really are. And that food is... avocado!Benefits of avocadoThere are so many benefits of avocado, it's ridiculous. Avocado is a great food to soothe the gut because it can actually help restore the lining of your stomach and intestines. It also has anti-inflammatory compounds that work like aspirin but without thinning the blood. So if you have any kind of condition where your digestive system is upsetting you, so things like IBS etc, any kind of irritation in your digestive tract, then you definitely want some avocado. Because as a food to soothe the gut, it's one of the best.Also avocados are one of the best-known foods for the brain. Their omega 6s can help restore our central nervous system and can help alleviate conditions like Alzheimer's, dementia, ADHD, things like that. So I don't know about you, but my central nervous system could definitely use a reboot sometimes and yeah, avocados are just the thing.They also have anti-ageing benefits: they're great for the skin and they can even help reduce dark circles under your eyes. And they're even great for your hair – you can mix some avocado – ripe avocado obviously - with your favorite conditioner and use it as a hair mask.The other neat thing about avocados is that the fats that they contain are similar to those in breast milk! It actually makes an amazing first food for babies along with bananas.And on an emotional level, avocados are like a 'mother fruit'. They nurture us at a very deep level. Think of them as the supreme 'comfort food' – that's actually good for you. The next time you want to reach out for a comfort food, as many of us do, reach for an avocado instead and see what happens.How to pick and store avocadosHere's the best way to tell if an avocado is ripe: Press gently near the stem. There should be a bit of give. If it's too soft, it's too ripe and may be stringy. You don't want that. If there's no give, it's too hard and isn't ripe yet. The color should also be uniform, where possible, whether it's the lighter or darker green variety.Now for storing avocados, they're best kept out of the refrigerator because cool air spoils their flavor. It just ruins them. Keep them at room temperature until you're ready to eat them. I have heard that people freeze avocados, I haven't tried that myself. You can try that if you want. I know it's possible but I haven't done it, I always eat them fresh.How to eat avocadoThe easiest way to eat avocado is to obviously just slice them down the middle, take out the seed (just stick a sharp knife into it and pull) and scoop out the flesh with a spoon. You can puree it with a fork if you're giving it to a baby, or if you just want to make yourself some speedy guacamole. Just mix in some diced tomato, a squeeze of lemon juice, a dash of sea salt, maybe a bit of chili powder if you like spicy things, and then instant guacamole!I have lots of recipes that go great with avocado in my 5-Minute Salads & Sauces ebook, and I'll post the link in the show notes.Have YOU got a story to share?Which brings us to the end of this week's story – and if you've got a true story to share (and you'd like to know what food could have saved the day or enhanced your situation), I'd love to hear from you!Got a question, or a comment?Got a question, or a comment? Pop a note below in the comments, that would be awesome. You can also subscribe to the podcast to listen 'on the go' in iTunes, Stitcher or TuneIn.I hope you have an amazing day. Thank you so much for being here with me to share in my Clean Food, Dirty Stories. Bye for now!RESOURCESLink to 5-Minute Mains and other recipe ebooks: https://rockingrawchef.com/5-minute-recipes/More about the benefits of avocados here: http://undergroundhealthreporter.com/avocado-health-benefits/Article on avocados as first foods for babies: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4882728/
Podcast: Why learning HOW to trade is so importantIn this video: 00:24 – You need to learn HOW to trade first 00:56 – Getting squash lessons 02:52 – Investing in your yourself through training and coaching 04:05 – Long term investment in your future 04:28 – I’ve been teaching traders worldwide since 2009 05:06 – Three important letters “HOW”Let's talk about why learning "HOW" to trade is so important. Let's get into that right now.Hi Forex Traders! Andrew Mitchem here, The Forex Trading Coach. Today is video and podcast number 211.You need to learn HOW to trade firstI'm going to talk about something really important. It's all about the importance of learning how to trade. It's that there's so many parts of trading, but unless you actually learn the how to bit, get that bit right, the how to trade. It's an important little word because if you get that right things will be great. If you get it wrong, then you can have all the systems, the accounts, everything, but it will not work for you. Let's explain a little bit more.Getting squash lessonsTo give you an example, just this week I've taken up learning how to play squash. I used to play about 20 years ago when I didn't have grey hair. I'm looking at something to do that's going to help keep me fit and something that I haven't done for awhile and I thought, "I'd love to get back into some squash." What did I do? First thing I did is I went along to a club and I had a chat with them, worked out what the membership was going to cost me for the year.Then I thought, "Actually, I need to get to be taught how to play." Again, it's the "How To". Get that bit right. The learning with a mentor, with a squash coach, is actually going to cost me more money than the annual membership of a really good local club. Some people might just think that's absolutely crazy and think that's ridiculous. Why would you just pay someone to do that when you can just get out there, and get a ball and a racket, and hit away, and off you go?Yes, I could do that, but of course I'm probably not going to progress very far and I'm going to end up getting frustrated because my skill level will be just about the same. It may improve a bit. It may go backwards. Who knows, but it's not going to give me what I really want. To me, investing in someone to help teach me to look at what I'm doing right, what I'm doing wrong, a coach in squash is such a valuable investment because I'm investing in me. I'm investing in my overall enjoyment of the game. Probably going to get myself far better results. Therefore get high rankings, play against better people, progress. All those sort of things. That's what I'm after from it.I'm trying to do it at the very beginning. I don't want to come in with lots of bad habits and then someone's gotta unfix all those bad habits and break all those habits that I've got into.Investing in your yourself through training and coachingTo me, upfront, I'm looking at investing in training and coaching. Trading Forex is absolutely no different. You see people will come to me and they go, "Andrew, how long's it going to take me to pay off your course if I've got a thousand dollar account?" To me it's like, it's almost like it's not relevant. Don't take that the wrong way, but take it and think of it, don't get offended by that comment. Think of it a different way. Turn it right around.You could have a million dollars in your trading account, but if you don't know how to trade, if you don't know what you're doing, you're going to lose some money on that account. Likewise, if you've got a thousand dollars in your account and you go, "Why would I want to go and spend fifteen hundred, two thousand dollars on a coaching course when I've only got ...
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