100% Guilt-Free Self-Care

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-266 This week on the podcast, I am talking all about the insidious nature of being raised a good girl. She's so polite. She's so agreeable. She is so likeable. She's such a team player and so dependable. And we wonder why we are exhausted and resentful we don't have time for fun, friends or self-care. Meet Sandi Konta. She's a coach for women who are ready to create a life that reflects their needs, without feeling guilty. We met because we are both Fair Play Facilitators. I love learning about the how and why other facilitators come to the work of rebalancing domestic labor. Sandi is  Done Being Good and I love what she's unpacking and unlearning. Please listen to my conversation with Sandi and let me know what you think. 

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-265 How was your week? This week on the podcast I am sharing 10 Things Saving My Life Right Now. I love when Kendra from The Lazy Genius does these every few months, so you might also love hearing mine. What's saving your life right now?

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-264 How was your April? So glad I had the chance to sit down for an interview with a new pal where we talked about creating the lives we've always dreamed of, how we let go of what's ok when we deep down know something bigger and better aligned with our values is out there waiting for us. Meet Tamara. Tamara Wamsley is a transformational coach and founder of The Ambitious Chick Freedom Movement. She is on a mission to redefine success for ambitious women. After experiencing her own journey from burnout to breakthrough, she now guides women to break free from unfulfillment and create lives of purpose, financial freedom, and soulful alignment. As a multi-faceted coach combining business strategy with soul-led transformation, she helps ambitious women discover their true calling and build thriving, purpose-driven businesses. Through her signature Freedom Roadmap, she's challenging outdated definitions of success and empowering women to create prosperity on their own terms. Her approach uniquely blends practical business strategy with deep inner work, helping women not just achieve success, but create success that feels authentic and fulfilling. She believes that when ambitious women step into their power and align with their soul's mission, they don't just transform their own lives—they create ripples of change throughout their communities and the world. Whether you're questioning the traditional path to success, feeling called to something bigger, or ready to turn your purpose into profit, today's episode will show you how to create freedom and fulfillment on your own terms.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-263 So glad I had the chance to sit down for an interview with a new pal where we talked about creating the lives we've always dreamed of, how we let go of what's ok and trust that the thing we really want is out there and how to have difficult conversations gracefully. Meet Jenny. Genevieve “Jenny” Dreizen, Co-Founder and COO of Fresh Starts Registry, is an operations specialist, marketing professional, and modern-day etiquette expert. On the heels of her sister Olivia's divorce in 2020, prompting Olivia to have an ‘aha moment' when she realized we needed to reframe the narrative around big life changes, and her own decade-long relationship ending Olivia and Jenny founded Fresh Starts Registry, a first-of-its-kind platform built to support those going through brave and bold changes, such as divorce, job changes, coming out, living through grief, and more, by revolutionizing the art of starting again. Jenny lives to remind people that we create the rules we live by all on our own and with our own happiness and joy at the center of it all, as illustrated through both her personal and professional endeavors. Her career has spanned multiple industries, informing her expertise across operations, business, marketing, and etiquette.  Jenny is passionate about creating usable, efficient, and beautiful systems to run Fresh Starts Registry to maintain their Experts, Support Specialists, and Freshies. She pulls in all of her knowledge from the various verticals where her expertise has flourished to enrich the experience of each person Fresh Starts touches.  Born and raised on Long Island, New York, Jenny now resides in Scotland with her husband, whom she eloped with in 2023.  When she isn't helping run Fresh Starts Registry, using her talents to write Simple Scripts to help people have hard conversations and set boundaries, hosting Jenny Says So where modern etiquette meets real life, co-hosting A Fresh Story, a podcast featuring raw, vulnerable, and honest conversations with guests about brave life decisions and fresh starts, or sharing her etiquette and gift-giving tips with major media outlets, she can be found enjoying the beautiful views of Scotland, taking a walk and picking up a sweet treat, or listening to her musician husband perform. She hopes to bring joy to others, make sure everyone feels seen in every aspect of their lives, and remind every person she supports that there are no rules to living a fulfilled life.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-262 Approximately 20,075 days ago I was born. In case you don't have a calculator handy, that is double nickels AKA FIFTY-FREAKING-FIVE years old.   It feels completely bonkers because it doesn't feel like that much time has gone by. Everyone I have met recently is in the 38-48 year range and that got me thinking about how much my life has changed for the better since my late 30s.   At 39 I started blogging. At 40 I started teaching yoga. At 41 I became a mama. At 42 learned about invisible labor, domestic load & inequity in marriage At 43 I resigned from teaching school and dove into teaching restorative yoga At 44 I was a caregiver to my mom post stroke and my preschooler. At 45 I hosted several yoga retreats. At 46 I went back to school for my Life + Work Coaching Certification. At 47 I started speaking on stages about self-care At 48 I got paid to speak on stage. At 49 I started a podcast At 50 We lived through a global pandemic At 51 Grieved the loss of my best friend At 52 I wrote and published a book. At 53 I wrote a politics column for Jennifer magazine At 54 campaigned hard for Kamala Harris.   Not surprisingly, self-care has played a huge role in that. This week on the podcast I am sharing Fifteen Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Life after 40.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-261 My mom died 10 years ago today. We weren't close, but she was my biggest cheerleader. The older I get the more I understand who she was and how much of the time in history she was born into really shaped who she got to be.   My mom couldn't wear pants to her segregated school, got married at 20 and had her first child at 21. I came along right before she was 25. She was on the younger side of average at the time, but was relieved to be out of her parent's house.   In the early 1960s women then didn't have a lot of choices. Options for work were secretarial work, nurse, teacher or domestic labor. None were high paying. Women couldn't even get a checking account without a male co-signer until 1974.   I tell you all of this because my mom wanted my life to be different than hers. She wanted me to get my education, find a career of my own choice, be able to support myself, not have kids too early and to not get married unless it was a partnership.   She used to say, “Don't do what I did”.   I used to joke with her that I wouldn't because her life in a lot of ways was truly awful.   As I've gotten older I have asked a lot more questions: Were the choices my mom made personal failings or choosing from a limited amount of crappy options?+ If she'd been born in a different era would she have led a different life? Would she have waited to return to college after marriage and kids or would she have gone straight through like me? Would she have gotten married or even had kids? Would she have gotten divorced? Would she have gotten the mental health treatment she needed after having a traumatic childhood?  This week on the podcast I am sharing 10 Lessons I Learned From My Mom.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-260 Are you waiting for someone to choose you? Are you holding back because you think you aren't ready? Are you waiting until you have enough experience or go back to school? Are you worried you'll get it wrong? I hear these fears all the time from women. They want to do something that makes a difference in the world and they get stuck because the little voice in their head telling stories about why now isn't the right time, they aren't the right person and they stay stuck in the loop of inaction. This week on the podcast I am sharing a very special interview with someone who didn't wait to be picked - Liz Minella. I first was introduced to Liz when she hosted the Women Wednesdays calls during the Harris campaign. I knew she was someone I could learn from so I started following her on Instagram. Needless to say I am a fan and wanted to know more about how she got her start. So I asked her to be a guest on the podcast and it confirmed she has a lot to teach us about how to use what we have to move our values and issues forward today.  Liz Minnella is a mom, fundraiser and Instagram demfluencer. She gained an audience on Instagram following the Fourth of July shooting in Highland Park by posting short actionable steps for fellow activists to take to advance gun violence prevention legislation and she helped lead the grassroots push to pass the IL Assault Weapons Ban.  During the 2024 election cycle, she hit her stride organizing and activating everyday people to use their power and influence to make change. She founded Chicago Women for Harris and co-organized and MCd White Women: Answer the call, which broke Zoom with over 200,000 viewers.  She served as the Finance Co-chair of Women for Harris and raised tens of millions of dollars for the Harris campaign. She held weekly Women Wednesdays for Harris Zoom calls and organized door knocking trips across the battleground states.  Her work was featured in a front page article in the New York Times and on CNN in the days following the election. She recently founded Connect Forward an organization dedicated to funding and facilitating a new media ecosystem for liberal voices. She is also host of Demfluenced, a podcast focused on the intersection of social media and politics.  In other words, Liz didn't wait to be picked. She doesn't have any special training. She doesn't have a background in the field. She has an Instagram account and a passion for gun safety. In our interview she shared with me how she got her start and her plan to change how Democrats use social media to create change.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-259 If I were in charge of how the world operates, I would definitely sleep as little as possible, stay horizontal in my soft pants, drink caffeine in the AM, and booze it up at night while eating BBQ potato chips and candy corn and feel FANTASTIC! But alas, I am not in charge. Instead we have to subscribe to human biology 101 or feel like a bucket of hot garbage or rusty buckets of bones. Or Boooooth.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-258 This week on the podcast I am doing a deep dive into Calming the Chaos Part 2: Friends Are More Important Than We Think.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-257 Cops and vampires have permission to enter. Crazy too. Someone recently said that since the plan is to overwhelm and exhaust us into giving up, we need to look at our own behavior in order to survive this administration. The goal is to watch the rollercoaster without getting on the rollercoaster. Watching a rollercoaster feels way different than riding a rollercoaster, doesn't it? This metaphor helps to capture the concept of equanimity really clearly. Being calm during a crisis is what we practice in the CARE Club.  {Enroll today with code 2025EARLY to save $600. Payment plans are available.} This week on the podcast I am doing a deep dive into Calming the Chaos: Part 1.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-256 Can you believe it is still January? It feels like it has been decades long because so much has happened and very little of it has been good news. In tough times it is easy to feel down and hopeless. It is easy to feel like everything is out of our control and we can't do anything because everything sucks. That simply isn't true. We can do plenty for ourselves, the people we love and our country. For today let's take note of some delightful things in my world that happened in January. This week on the podcast I am doing a deep dive into CARE Club. I share not only what it is, but why I created it just for you in this time in history. 

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-255 What comes to mind when I say the words “teenage girl”? Some common ones I hear are:   Mean. Catty. Overly emotional. Overly sexy. Scary.   Is this the real story about teen girls or something else?   What were YOU like as a teenager?   This week on the podcast I am sharing my conversation with author Chelsey Goodan.   Chelsey Goodan is the author of the USA Today national bestseller, UNDERESTIMATED: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls, which has been endorsed by Oprah Daily, saying: “If you have a teenage girl in your life, you need to read this.”   Chelsey has been an academic tutor, mentor, and empowerment coach to teenagers for 16 years and serves as the Mentorship Director of DemocraShe, which supports and guides girls from underserved communities into leadership roles.    She speaks regularly to audiences about gender justice, conducts workshops, and as a keynote speaker, she teaches communication strategies that create psychological safety for everyone from teenage girls to CEOs.    Featured on The Today Show with Hoda & Jenna, NBC News Daily, Reese Witherspoon's Hello Sunshine, and in TIME Magazine, Chelsey's thought leadership explores humanity's potential for authenticity, liberation, and empowerment.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-254 This week on the podcast I am sharing my conversation with fellow coach, Ivana Robinson. Ivana Robinson is a certified Life & Leadership Coach and reformed corporate ladder climber who helps women disillusioned with the status quo to abandon the rulebook, liberate themselves from expectations, and prioritize their desires without guilt.   Through her email list and social media accounts, Ivana serves thousands of people per week, encouraging her audience to feel the fear and do the damn thing anyway. Ivana's inspiring & rebellious journey helps audiences realize that bravery and confidence are already inside of them.   Ivana's favorite form of self-care is saying no, but two things she'll never turn down: an afternoon nap or a Beyoncé concert.   This conversation with Ivana reignited my interest in living abroad. Ivana figured it out and now lives in Mexico.   Have you ever dreamt of living abroad?   Ivana also hosts retreats that sound dreamy. I used to host retreats. Would you be interested in going on a retreat hosted by me?  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-253 In this week's podcast episode I am sharing my interview with Tiffany Yu. Tiffany Yu is the CEO & Founder of Diversability, a 3x TEDx speaker, and the author of The Anti-Ableist Manifesto: Smashing Stereotypes, Forging Change, and Building a Disability-Inclusive World.  Tiffany started her career at Goldman Sachs before becoming a speaker and writer on disability.  At the age of 9, Tiffany became disabled as a result of a car accident that also took the life of her father.  Inspired by the viral The Anti-Ableism Series on TikTok, The Anti-Ableist Manifesto is Diversability founder Tiffany Yu's revelatory examination of disability for any ally to go beyond mere awareness to be an active anti-ableist and help form a more equitable society for all. Not going to lie, I devoured this book! After spending countless hours advocating for my daughter over the years, especially in the education system, this was a perfect guidebook to helping non disabled people advocate for inclusion, access and belonging for all students. If you know someone who has had to advocate for themselves or a family member in the health, education or employment systems, definitely share this book. If you'd like to learn how to be an ally to the disabled community, definitely read this book.   

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-252   Laura Mayes is an Emmy-winning writer, senior director of Unlocking Us with Brené Brown and the Dare to Lead podcast, VP of Influencer Programming and Relations Everyday Health Group's Pregnancy & Parenting division, home to Mom 2.0, What to Expect and BabyCenter, a co-founder of the Mom 2.0 and the Mom 2.0 Summit, and a partner in Altitude Summit.   Over the last 25 years, she has created, developed and produced live events and shows, including industry conferences, brand events, book and product launches, podcasts, awards shows, the curation of national art exhibits and nationwide programs for women in media.   Not going to lie, I tried really hard not to fangirl over Laura during this interview because she is The Coolest. She's one of the original women who made a name for herself on the Internet through early blogging.   I have been fascinated with that group of women since I first learned about them in 2010. Absolute pioneers in new technology, influencer marketing and making a name for oneself as a woman on the internet.   Plus she's Sister Brené's pal and podcast producer.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-251 In this week's podcast episode I am sharing my interview with author Lori Sugarman-Li.  Lori believes deeply in the power of families and is a passionate voice in the cultural shift aiming to articulate the value and visibility of unpaid work. Her career as a Communications Strategist, combined with a decade devoted to full-time care of her family, community, and children's charities worldwide, served as the inspirational backdrop for her professional relaunch as a Coach, Speaker, and Author.  Lori is dedicated to fostering meaningful conversations within families, encouraging them to contemplate how they care for one another and their shared space.  Lori, her husband, and two sons are Canadian-born and live steps from Lake Michigan in Chicago. Please go see the sneak peek of this delightful story. Our Home is about the power of families, their beautiful but unending work, and the special connection between family members who share a space. "A tip of the hat to all of the invisible labor that happens […] making little ones aware of what their parents do and reminding parents to watch for those bucket-filling moments of delight with their children." —School Library Journal I want everyone to give Lori's book to the families in your life this holiday season. Please listen to the interview and let me know what you think. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-250 How are you? Please hit reply and tell me or call a pal. We need community now more than ever.   If you are up to it, I would appreciate your thoughts on my 2025 offerings survey. This is your chance to tell me how I can best serve you in 2025.   These last two weeks I have been equal parts being in community with others and resting. The gratitude I feel for my support people is infinite. Knowing I am a support person for many is something I take very seriously. We are better together and I love that my work is alongside others wanting to make the world more equitable, fair and just.   The big question of how do I/we keep working towards a better future keeps coming up. I know one answer is to not quit. 

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-249 In this week's podcast I am sharing a message I need to hear right now: I believe in you.

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Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-247 In this week's podcast I am excited to share my thoughts on another book I recently read The Plan: Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius by Kendra Adachi. I am a huge fan of Kendra's podcast, books and how she is able to break down problems into manageable pieces. I never miss an episode so when the opportunity to be part of her book launch came up, I jumped right in. Executive functioning skills are something that I have struggled with my whole life. I am so glad I have women to help me learn time and project management while acknowledging the realities of being a woman, a mom, a business owner, a teacher all while having an ADHD brain.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-246 In this week's podcast I do something I have never done before. I interviewed a man, specifically one who refers to himself as a Recovering Man Child. Meet Zach Watson. Zach is an Invisible Labor Coach and he helps men implement the Fair Play Method into their homes to improve domestic equity. Learn more about Zach's Mental Load Mastery Program for men. You can also find Zach on Instagram.

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Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-244 This week has been a lot. Sunday morning I found myself unexpectedly crying for three hours trying to figure out why I felt so overwhelmed even though everyone in my family was doing so much invisible work. Things I discovered included that I had extroverted way too hard, that all things on a to do list do not carry the same emotional weight and  my hate of 90+ degree weather was still very much felt. Monday couldn't come soon enough. Thankfully I was able to connect with a kindred spirit to talk all about fresh starts. I definitely needed one.  I love a do over more than most people because do overs are how I keep going in life. Olivia Dreizen Howell and her sister Jenny started a divorce registry three years ago when they both were in the midst of life changing break ups. When I first heard this concept I couldn't believe someone hadn't thought of it before. It makes so much sense! We shower brides and babies with gifts marking a new life transition, but what about all of the other life transitions: divorce, death, graduation, job loss.  In today's world of marrying later and cohabitation before marriage it seems like a lot of people go from one toaster as a single person to two toasters as a couple to one toaster during cohabitation or marriage to NO toaster when you split up. I'm just saying that the time we need a new toaster is likely not at the beginning of a marriage, but rather at the end.  I knew I had to interview the brains behind this brilliant idea and also the woman who started that national conversation around women having privacy in the voting booth. If you've spent any time online where people are talking about post it notes in the bathroom encouraging Republican women to cross party lines to vote for Kamala Harris because that you vote is public, but who you vote for is private then you've seen Olivia's viral idea in the wild. In this week's episode I am sharing my conversation with Olivia about Fresh Starts, Voting Without Fear and how self-care is often the first thing to go when you are changing the world. In case you haven't yet met… Olivia Dreizen Howell is Co-Founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry, a clinical hypnotherapist, neuro linguistic practitioner, certified life coach, and single mom.   After her 2019 divorce, Olivia noticed that while society celebrates weddings and babies with registries, there's little support for moments when people truly need to rebuild their lives, like divorce or job loss. This realization led her, alongside her sister Jenny Dreizen, to create Fresh Starts Registry, the first and only platform that helps people through life transitions by offering both expert guidance and essential home items. She is also the co-founder of the Vote Without Fear Platform, dedicated to empowering Americans to vote safely.   With a strong background in marketing and communications, Olivia has worked on global campaigns and TV shows, founded March Lion Media, and led social media efforts for brands, celebrities and TV shows. Since founding Fresh Starts, she co-hosts and produces A Fresh Story podcast and has written over 250 scripts to support people through life changes.   Olivia has been featured in Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, and more. She's also the founder of YentaList, a job-posting site, and uses her platform to support single parents, empower women, and advocate for mental health and emotional resilience.   Please connect with Olivia online:   IG: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/thedigitalyenta FB: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry Twitter: https://twitter.com/FreshStartsHere LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/fresh-starts-registry/

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-243 I have been thinking a lot about where we were 6 months ago. I had barely been diagnosed with ADHD, we were still in limbo with a bunch of stuff with my kid, and all I wanted for my birthday was my best friend to still be alive so we celebrate our birthdays together like we did pre pandemic - eating our way through West Coast cities with our pal Jeannie and laughing all weekend. March is one of my big grief months and this one hit particularly hard. During that week I recorded a podcast called: My Birthday Wish for All of Us. In that episode I talked about all things I want that can't be bought at the mall: quality and affordable child care, paid parental leave, hell just parental leave, universal preschool. Those little social safety nets, oh I really mean economic issues that are standard in other countries around the world.  (Go listen - you'll be shocked how much maternity leave you get in Bulgaria). It was in that episode that I referred to participatory democracy as a group project. And people still laugh/ groan every time I say it. Many of us are still outraged by group projects. Maybe it is because you were stuck in a group with people you didn't like or didn't share interests with. Maybe it is because you were stuck in a group with people who didn't care about the outcome and they didn't do their part of the assignment. Maybe it is because you were stuck in a group with people who didn't even understand the assignment and made zero effort to get it together for the good of the group. And you were stuck doing all the work. And everyone got the same grade. In this week's episode I am sharing a Pep Talk for Fall 2024.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-242 This week's guest is Jaime Davis. She is a Board Certified Specialist in Family Law, as well as a Certified Family Financial Mediator and Certified Parenting Coordinator.  Her practice incorporates all areas of family law, including complex equitable distribution and child custody cases, child support, post-separation support, alimony, alienation of affection, and criminal conversation. She also handles family law contracts such as Premarital, Postnuptial, and Separation and Property Settlement Agreements. Jaime is also an author and podcast host who aims to help people through divorce and preserve family relationships and finances. Jaime invited me to be a guest on her show because she wanted to hear more about Fair Play. 

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-241 Happy back to school aka new year! While I love the fresh start energy of a new school year, it also brings a deep feeling of anxiety. Will the teacher like my kid? Will the teacher be fair? Will the other kids include mine and be kind to her? The second day of kindergarten was the first time I got a behavior call from school and I have spent every beginning of the school year since educating teachers and administrators about disabilities and disability rights within the public school system. We have had to learn about special education laws and disability rights all while raising our little firecracker. Sometimes I feel like the universe had this kid in mind for me because what else would explain my past work as a lobbyist, a public school teacher AND a coach? These jobs gave me the skills to go to bat on her behalf.  But not all families have the time, money, expertise or experience to help their students.  This is lonely work for parents of kids who don't fall into the school system because of learning and thinking differences. A lot of times we parents share similar  struggles as our kids. Between me and my husband we have 36 years of direct classroom experience. AND THIS IS STILL A MYSTERY. The education system needs help and no place is that more apparent than in special education. If your student needs an IEP or a 504, uses a wheelchair or other medical equipment or has ADHD you have to know a whole lot more stuff than parents who never deal with special education. The craziest part of this is so much of special education is settled law. It should be this hard to access services legally required for students under settled law, right? Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) guarantees students with disabilities free and appropriate education was passed in 1975 and updated in 2004. The Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA)  was enacted in 1990 - 34 years ago. Why is this still such a struggle? I recently asked my friends, neighbors and former teacher colleagues what they wished everyone knew about special education. They came through… everyone feels like every single part of the system is set up to fail. I just discovered our school district has been under scrutiny since 2017 about their failure in special education. They have been involved in lawsuits and are just now trying to get it sorted. Needless to say I will be throwing in my two cents because this has been a shitshow. People who aren't directly involved have no idea how much extra work we are all putting in trying to sort out a complicated and confusing process. It is a privilege to not have to advocate for your student. People who live this every day are exhausted and anxious because we all want the same thing for our kids: a quality education that will help them be lifelong learners.  This isn't the last you'll be hearing from me about systemic changes in education, but I did want to share a resource I found. Of course I immediately checked this out from the library, devoured the contents and then reached out to the author to be a guest on the podcast. Meet Kelley Colman. Kelley Coleman is a feature film development executive turned author and advocate for parent caregivers and individuals with disabilities.  Her book Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and Supports draws upon over a decade of experience, including her own experience parenting a child with multiple disabilities.  Kelley lives in Los Angeles with her husband, two boys, and her son's trusty service dog. Who can you share this episode with? Does anyone you know know a student with thinking and learning differences like ADHD, autism, dyslexia or other learning difficulties? Do you know a family that has visible disabilities? Do you know a teacher, principal or school board member? Please pass it on.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-240 This summer has certainly changed the culture and climate around women supporting women. I am seeing so many first time volunteers knocking doors, phone banking, text banking, putting up yard signs and having conversations with people about the upcoming election.  It is absolutely thrilling to see. I love having all this new energy around uplifting women candidates and also women in general. Women are coming out of hiding and using their voices. It is a thing of beauty. This evening I am going to a fundraiser in my neighborhood for Dr Flo - the first Black female candidate for mayor of Sacramento. I am committed to electing Democratic candidates - especially women - to all offices. I want progressive policies at all levels of government.   This week in the 2024 Summer Podcast Series we are headed way into the archives back to episode #28 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast: Intentional Saving & Spending for Self-Care. Putting money where our values are.  You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-239 Have you been tuning in to the DNC this week? I am utterly stunned because we have never seen anything like this before. Politics is usually stuffy and boring.  Not this year. The energy is absolutely electrifying! I am absolutely delighted with every speech. The roll call with a DJ and the playlist for every state? Perfection. Streaming the convention on YouTube and Tiktok equals no commentary to get in the way of the goodness. The Democrats inviting new media creators to cover the convention was absolutely brilliant because every day people are showing the convention from their perspective. A stroke of genius! Tonight is the last night of the DNC and I  am left with one feeling:  IT IS UP TO US. When we show up we can make big changes happen. It's up to us to get out the vote. It is up to us to show up with so many votes there is a clear mandate for progressive change.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-238 Next week is the first week of school

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-237 This week in the 2024 Summer Podcast Series we are headed way into the archives back to episode #22 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast: My Non-Negotiable Morning Self-Care. I absolutely love seeing behind the scenes of people's lives. I wanna know about people's habits, rituals, routines and what is in their purse. If you are like me you can take a sneak peek at my morning routine. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast. As always, if you like this show please tell a friend and/or leave a rating and review.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-236 This week in the 2024 Summer Podcast Series we are headed way into the archives back to episode #5 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast: Your Mental Health and Why It Matters. Do you know about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES)? Everyone needs to because it can add years to your life.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-235 This week in the 2024 Summer Podcast Series we are headed way into the archives back to episode 15 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast:  Body Acceptance, Body Neutrality and Yoga for Those That Think It Isn't For Them with Anna Guest-Jelley. While I was first introduced to the idea of function over form in my late 20s, I still suffered from internal battles about beauty standards and our cultural obsession with thinness. It was the 90s and early 2000s when heroin chic was a thing. It wasn't until I got into my serious yoga practice in my late 30s that I began noticing again the functionality of my body. Some days I could do endless Sun salutations and other days I could barely get off the floor.  Thankfully the studio where I was practicing was one that asked us to practice self-compassion and acceptance while we were on the mat. Anna was one of the people who I connected with online. She had been using yoga as a tool to relieve her frequent migraines.  She has always lived in a bigger body and finding a safe place to practice was a challenge. So she created her own. Show links: Modern Mom Probs with Tara Clark It's All Yoga Anna Guest Jelley  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-234 This week in the 2024 Summer Podcast Series, we are headed way into the archives back to episode 4 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast: Self-Compassion.  When people ask me what has had the biggest impact on my life, I always say self-compassion.  This practice has changed everything for me. It has helped me be more productive, prolific, and passionate. It has helped me be a kinder parent, partner, and professional. It has helped me be closer to my friends, my spouse, and my kid. It has helped me take bigger risks, be more open and vulnerable, and be really proud of who I have grown up to be.  Don't be fooled by the simplicity. It is one of those simple but not easy practices. And it is 100% worth the effort daily.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-233 This week in the 2024 Summer Podcast Series, we are headed way into the archives back to episode 11 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast: How to Say No the Wholehearted Way with Rosie Molinary. Rosie is one of my dearest friends and teachers. She writes life changing books, creates beautiful pieces of art and tells a damn good story.  Rosie is the creator of the Summer of Intentionality and her lessons in using her time intentionally has helped me prioritize what is most important and let go of what isn't a fit now (or ever) all without guilt. In this episode Rosie offers her 6 step framework for deciding if something is worthy of your calendar at this stage in your life. I would love for you to listen to this interview with Rosie. She is a delightful human and I am sure you'll walk away with some wisdom you didn't even know you needed. You can find all the episodes and show notes at www.tamihackbarth.com/podcast. As always, if you like this show please tell a friend and/or leave a rating and review.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-232 I have such a complicated relationship with the 4th of July. It is my mom's birthday and she's been gone 9 years. She would be so proud of the life and business I have built helping women with self-care and rebalancing the domestic labor at home while also helping to create more equity in the US. I am so sorry she isn't here to see it.  Independence Day hits differently for me now. Living through historical times is no joke. The veil over the story that America is the land of free and home of the brave is gone. Very few of us are free. We are in the biggest fight for democracy since before World War II. We are being called to create something better for everyone and change is exhausting. What are your thoughts on this Independence Day? In the first of our 2024 Summer Podcast Series we are headed way into the archives back to episode 4 of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast: Why Fill Your Cup Before

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-231 How are you? Any vacation plans to share? I would love to hear about your trips, your traditions and how you spend your time away from home when you get it. I didn't grow up with yearly vacations so this is all new territory for me. Please share! Are you on Threads? I am one of those weirdos that loves meeting new people on social media platforms, so when it started I jumped right in. It reminds me of what Twitter was back in the beginning….a cocktail party full of smart people I don't know yet and I can attend while wearing my pajamas. That's where I met this week's podcast guest. We were both chatting people up on Threads and started talking to each other. We got to meet in real life at Mom2 Summit and as she said, “the conversation was so good we walked to the bathroom together and kept right on talking”. Have you met Tara Clark of Modern Mom Probs? She is a delight. Check out the Modern Mom Probs mission: Our mission is to support women through the trials and tribulations of modern-day motherhood, normalizing taboo topics through empathy and a good laugh. With a focus on honesty, relatability, and humor, we candidly share our experiences, creating an inclusive environment for all mothers to feel seen, heard, and connected. Tara Clark is an author, speaker, content creator, podcaster, and the founder of Modern Mom Probs.  After becoming a mom and recognizing a hole in the online space for moms to authentically connect, she launched her Instagram account in 2017. She has since built a valued community, solidifying herself as a humorous, trusted voice in the parenting space.  Her work has been featured in prominent publications including Buzzfeed, Today, Motherly, Parents.com, Scary Mommy, Romper and Yahoo Life.  She is the author of Modern Mom Probs: A Survival Guide for 21st-Century Mothers and the founder of Modern Mom Style Box, a clothing rental subscription service for busy moms. She is also the host of the Modern Mom Probs podcast, where she seeks solutions for modern mom problems by interviewing medical experts, therapists, popular content creators, and best-selling authors.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-230 Our guest this week used to work in corporate America and this is what she had to say about becoming a parent: Most people want to leave work behind when they get home, but I found myself leaning into the leadership qualities from my past work life. I naturally turned to experts, built teams to support my partner and me, and recognized that I valued my time differently than every other parent I knew. And interestingly, I seemed to also be genuinely happier than the parents around me, proudly parenting in a way that put my time at the forefront so that I could show up more joyful for my family. Meet Christine Landis. Hi, I'm Christine! Former CEO turned Peacock Parent.  I am passionate about empowering parents to delegate like a #boss at home, so they can take more control of their time. By applying the skills I learned in growing and selling a multi-million dollar business to my personal household, I've been able to treat the home like a growing company.  Delegating low-joy tasks, outsourcing chores, and managing teams at home, ultimately buys my partner and I more quality time with our family. And time is the real luxury in life. Christine's 99 Tasks You Can Delegate Today is a gift to you.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-229 How are you? Remember that time in the 90s when Hilary Clinton said it takes a village to raise a child? It turns out she had visited Africa and that it is a very common African proverb attributed to her, but I digress... I could sorta see it then, but the notion that we are all interconnected and rely on one another in small and big ways has been made clear especially during the pandemic. Family Success Team is a term I came up with when we became parents. I define members of our FST as anyone who helps us be successful in any way. People who are on my FST include: school/teachers who work well with our neurodiverse kid, her OT, our therapists, our babysitters who played endless games of Thomas the Train and Duplo, all the neighbors/friends who pick up or drop off my kid when I am not able, all the housecleaners we've hired over the years, Carly - our professional organizer who helped me learn how to use our house spaces better, my hairstylist because she saves me time, money and product, my chief of staff Katie who does all the behind the scenes work in my business, the grandparents for taking care of themselves and having a good relationship with our kid, my walking buddies, my yoga teacher, my strength training coach, my parenting coach, my health coach, my business coaches, my physician, my friends who show up day after day, my biz besties, the public library, my Fair Play colleagues, all the authors who have helped me be a better version of myself. I could go on, but I think you get the point. We really aren't made to do life alone. There is simply too much to be done and we can't be experts at everything. There is a beautiful surrender to that if you ask me. Imagine having so much to do it is keeping you awake at night, wishing you had a personal/executive assistant, but not having the time or the energy to find someone to add to your Family Success Team. I found the person to talk to at Mom 2 in Nashville. Meet Ashley Chang. Ashley is the co-founder and CEO of Sundays, an executive assistant service for working parents. Their goal is to accelerate parents in their careers while creating more time for family. Sundays can help with family, with your home stuff and with your work stuff. Examples include: scheduling medical appointments, helping your kids get a passport, making your vacation itinerary and reservations, getting teacher appreciation gifts, canceling cable/subscriptions, finding and booking a swim teacher or math tutor or nanny. Sundays can also help you get quotes for movers, order photos, replace your house filters and replace appliance pieces.  In other words, Sundays help reduce mental load and get those nagging tasks out of your head and on to the DONE list.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-228 (We had some technical difficulties last week, so here's what would have happened if we didn't.) We are counting down the days until school's out for the summer break and also until the first day of school. Eight and 75 respectively.  Last week, I shared the Summer of Intentionality with you, and we have been implementing those plans to squeeze the most out of the season. If you'd like to create a memorable summer for your family, check out that episode. I am so excited to introduce you to my guest this week! I met Patricia at Mom2 Summit last year in Scottsdale. We bonded quickly over having both been classroom teachers and now coaches. I was in the midst of my ADHD evaluation so I had so many questions for her. Patricia Sung helps moms with adult ADHD work with their unique brains and get their ish together one step at a time and feel confident running their family life.  She hosts Motherhood in ADHD, a Top 5 Parenting podcast, encouraging mamas with practical strategies and relatable missteps. She's a hobby-hopping, anxious adventurer, willing to try almost anything once. A midwesterner at heart, she reluctantly has adopted the word "y'all" and lives in Houston with her husband and two young sons.  You can grab free resources and get your crap together with other ADHD moms in Successful Mama Meetups at www.motherhoodinadhd.com. 

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-227 May was a LOT. I am so happy to be heading into the summer season to make some memories, finish some projects, read a lot and spend time with my family. Around here we call this season the Summer of Intentionality. I learned about it from my pal Rosie Molinary.  Rosie met a boy at a college party who could recite long poems from memory. She was impressed and asked him how he was able to do it. His answer is what became the SOI.  I tell more of the story on this week's podcast along with things that are saving my life this season.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-226 In this week's podcast I am talking all things storytelling and speaking with someone who has decades of experience. Meet April.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-225 One of the most pivotal life choices I ever made was changing my career from politics to teaching. [You can read about my unconventional career path]. Before studying to be a teacher I had a very fixed mindset. I believed that people were smart or not. I believed that you were born with it or you weren't. I believed failure was the end of the line and the worst thing that could happen.  The philosophical nature of my yoga practice coincided with the timing of my career change. I was seeking something…better. I was choking on the black and white thinking I was used to. Whispers of new ways of thinking crept into my mind while I was on my mat. As I entered my teaching credential program I set the intention to have a beginner's mind. I didn't have to have the answers already, I was seeking learning. I was allowing myself to show up vulnerably. I was showing my professors and my classmates I was humble enough to learn new things, make mistakes, and try something different to get different results. This simple shift of being okay with not already knowing changed my life forever. Perfectionism had its grip on me for the first 30+ years of my life, and it felt terrible. Teaching allowed me to be present for learning. Not the good scores and college acceptance letters to post on social media. But the real kind.  We send our kids to school to learn, but how many of us are okay with making mistakes, failing, not getting what is taught and having to figure it out?  Learning means acquiring knowledge or skill in something. That means you start out not knowing anything about it. Then, you learn about it and realize how little you know. With practice, study, and data collection, you can apply what you've gained to what you know, and if you stick with it, you'll eventually become competent.  In other words, learning is a hard, ugly process. And it absolutely rocks if you can get beyond the shame of not knowing or being terrible at stuff in the beginning. Anyway, I got to interview Jess Lahey about her books about failure and addiction and I really tried not to fangirl too much.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-224 I have been meeting with tons of interesting women doing amazing work in the world, taking a class on branding, preparing for a couple of speaking events and handling some big parenting challenges. In other words, I am ready for a little R&R this weekend for Mother's Day.  So many have told me lately that all they want for Mother's Day is some silence and solitude, perhaps a meal they don't have to think about or clean up after.  Me too! So that's what I requested from my family. I will also be reading by a pool and swimming. Nice way to spend a Sunday if you ask me. So excited to share my interview with Melissa Llarena. We talked about how our imagination is the secret weapon to getting the life and career you want. I love how her mind thinks! Melissa's creativity, imagination and determination have helped her connect with some of the biggest thought leaders. Melissa Llarena is a bestselling author, imagination coach, consultant, speaker, contributor to ForbesWomen articles that have garnered 4 million-plus views.   Melissa is also the host of Unimaginable Wellness, the podcast for entrepreneurs, founders, and creators who are moms. Featured guests include Gary Vee, Beth Comstock, Suzy Batiz, David Meltzer, Jordan Harbinger, Kanika Chadda Gupta, Angela Middleton MBE (i.e., Member of the British Empire), Ken Honda, and hundreds of other unconventional thinkers. Melissa has been featured in the WSJ, Business Insider, Fox Business, CNN Money, The Huffington Post, and other publications. She holds a psychology degree from NYU, an MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth, and a Transformational Coaching Academy certificate. She is also training to become a meditation practitioner.  Melissa lives in Austin, Texas, with her husband and three sons (one singleton and a set of identical twins). 

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-223 Welcome to Maycember! If you are a parent or teacher you know that May is just as busy as December (thank you Holderness family). It's also the season when we start looking towards summer break and beyond. Are you a teacher, helper or giver with something to teach? Would you like to make income from your ideas? This week's podcast guest Sara Torpey can teach you how to do just that.  

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-222 Have you read You Can Heal Your Life? I only understood about every third word, but one big takeaway is: change is possible and you have the power to make it happen.  I was sold on the concept, but I needed something a bit more practical to help me in my everyday life. Then I found this book, and everything changed. It set me on the path I am on today. The Women's Comfort Book: A Self-Nurturing Guide for Restoring  Balance in Your Life  by Jennifer Louden. Fast forward a few decades and I had a major epiphany: authors are people. People are on social media.  ✨poof✨ I found Jen on Twitter and sent her a message telling her how her book had changed my life. She responded (

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-221 Five years ago I published my first 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care episode. I promised myself I would release a season because I knew I had ten things about self-care I wanted to share with you. I had no idea what the show would grow into.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-220 Today's guest is Kat Green, she's a perpetually curious and laid-back individual, a minimalist, and the proud owner of Badass Homelife. She is an ADHD Organizing Specialist and absolutely loves helping neurospicy folks find systems that work for them. I hope you'll give my interview with Kat a listen.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-219 After I attended an author's panel last year I introduced myself to Laura Tremaine. It was a super nerdy moment for me because I love her books and podcasts. I love her storytelling.  I am super intrigued by her. Our backgrounds are very different—she grew up in very conservative Oklahoma, and I grew up in the liberal San Francisco Bay Area. But she moved to Los Angeles in her 20s and has talked about how that has impacted her. Because I wanted to learn more about her, I asked her to be a guest on my podcast; she said yes!  Then I made it weird. I didn't reach out to schedule for almost a year.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-218 For more than a decade, I have been talking to people about self-care. Some would say I am a self-care evangelist because it saved my life. It is the only thing that keeps us from being burnt out. It is the fuel for feeling good enough in your life to keep going in our desire to make the world a better place. “I don't have enough time” is one of the most often expressed reasons why women aren't doing the self-care that they need. They are too busy because of work, child raising, keeping up with the housework, and doing all the things for all the people in their lives. What in your life would change if all time was created equal? What would change if you had enough time for your self-care and a more balanced distribution of housework and childcare in your home?  In this week's podcast, I got to talk with Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play, about creating equitable households, reducing the mental load, decreasing emotional labor, and making invisible work visible.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-217 It's my birthday week, and I am having a lot of feelings. Spring feels like another new year; it is election season, and I am now entering my mid-50s. Now seems like a good time to share my birthday wishes with you. You can find them in this week's podcast episode. Some may surprise you, and others may not.      

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-216 I've got moms on the brain. Yesterday was the 9th anniversary of my mom's death and I am so bummed she isn't here to see how well I am doing, how much my daughter is growing and how the world is changing for the better. She would 100% be my biggest cheerleader in my work. I even talked a lot about moms in this week's podcast. I interviewed Calvina Nguyen of Your Brand Spark. Calvina was born in China and moved to the US when she was 9, which brought a whole new conversation around self-care and one immigrant family's experience. In her professional life, Calvina runs Your Brand Spark, a creative agency that educates small businesses in design and branding while helping them build a solid visual brand foundation that empowers them to connect with the right audience and grow a thriving business.  I hope you'll listen to my interview with Calvina.