Podcasts about Spanish Fork

Governor Cox is pushing local leaders for help with the goal to build 35,000 starter homes in Utah. Holly Richardson, Editor of Utah Policy and KSL NewsRadio's new host of Inside Sources on KSL NewsRadio, shares her insight. The Mayor of Spanish Fork, Mike Mendenhall joins the show to discuss how his city is making an effort to combat Utah's housing crisis.

Are you struggling with the overwhelming emotions of grief? In this episode, Amie and Alana dive deep into the complexities of grief and explore practical strategies to manage its intensity. They discuss the importance of grounding techniques, pacing oneself, and the dual awareness concept to navigate through grief in a healthy and balanced way. Listen in for insightful advice on moving forward without drowning in your emotions.Coming up!Help Her Heal Men's Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. We don't want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Fill out an application to learn more and see if you qualify.Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Group coaching calls are Wednesdays at 6:00pm CT.⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on our NEW Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.

Have you ever felt like grief is more complicated than it seems? This week Amie and Alana delve into the hidden aspects of grief, especially when it comes from betrayal. From mourning the future you envisioned to grieving the loss of self and delayed grief, we explore the intricacies of each. Learn how to recognize these overlooked pieces and find validation on your healing journey.Referenced in this episode: Reality Collapse and Reality Fragmentation - past podcast episodeComing up!Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.Help Her Heal Men's Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. We don't want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Fill out an application to learn more and see if you qualify.⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on our NEW Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

Are you stuck replaying painful memories and wondering how to find peace? In this episode, Amie uncovers why rumination happens and how it serves as a protective mechanism for the mind. Discover practical tools to break free from its grip, validate your emotions, and reclaim your present. Book a session with Amie to learn how Brainspotting can support you on your healing journey.Coming up!⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives! Fill out an application to see if you qualify.⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on our NEW Instagram account: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

This week we are pleased to welcome Bronwyn Schweigerdt, a psychotherapist and anger expert, who explores the intricate relationship between anger and shame. Through personal stories and practical exercises, discover the health impacts of suppressed anger and how to develop a healthier relationship with your emotions. Connect with Bronwyn through her website, podcast (Angry at the Right Things), or YouTube channel.Coming up!⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives! Email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com to learn more.⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - For men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn how to date yourself first. Explore how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

Are you unsure about the type of therapy you need after betrayal? Join Amie and Alana this week as they discuss the critical differences between traditional marriage therapy and affair recovery support. Discover why it's essential to have a therapist who is trained in betrayal trauma and learn how to find the right therapeutic path for healing.Coming up!⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives! Email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com to learn more.⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

(Keep listening at 18:04 to hear about our NEW scholarship program. Email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com to learn more!)Are you struggling to trust your own reality in a relationship? In this powerful episode, Alana explores how we sometimes abandon our truth to align with our partner's version of reality, when dealing with betrayal trauma.Understand why this happens and learn practical strategies to reclaim your inner knowing. If you've ever felt foggy, confused, or crazy after conversations with your partner, this episode provides the validation you need to reconnect to your truth.Referenced in this episode:Finding Freedom in Boundaries with Laura Fisher - past podcast episodeRegister Now and Get $200 Off!Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT April 23-26.  Use promo code thriveapril2025 for $200 off.Coming up!⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, somatic healing, rafting, hiking, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to help you on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.

Do you struggle with balancing support versus enabling your partner in your relationship? This week, Amie and Alana clarify how betrayed partners can differentiate between supporting their partner's recovery and over-functioning to their own detriment. They offer insights on how to establish healthy boundaries, seek individual support, and foster genuine healing for both partners. Discover practical advice for maintaining your autonomy while truly supporting your loved one.Register Now!Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Connect with us on Social Media:Alana GordonAmie WoolseyChoose Recovery Services

Feeling stuck in your healing journey? This week, Alana dives into how to recognize stagnation and regain momentum. Learn the five signs that indicate you might be stuck and discover actionable steps to reassess and realign your support systems. Embark on a path of empowered action and somatic healing to continue moving forward in your recovery.Register Now!Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Connect with us on Social Media:Alana GordonAmie WoolseyChoose Recovery Services

Ever feel like your body is working against you after experiencing betrayal? This week Amie discusses the importance of listening to your body's signals and believing its wisdom. Discover how to stop using therapeutic tools to bypass your feelings and start truly honoring your body's messages for genuine healing and empowerment. Learn how to turn your body from a perceived enemy into a trusted guide on your path to recovery.Register Now!The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive for women on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Connect with us on Social Media:Alana GordonAmie WoolseyChoose Recovery Services

In Episode 350 of the Research Like a Pro Genealogy podcast, Diana and Nicole discuss Florence Matilda (Creer) Kelsey's first job. Diana begins by asking Nicole what she has been working on or reading. Diana recaps RootsTech, mentioning classes on AI, locality research, and transcriptions, as well as meeting listeners. Diana then introduces the subject of the episode by asking listeners if they remember their first job outside the home. She notes that ancestors also likely worked and faced challenges like answering to a boss and learning new skills. Diana shares that she is writing about her maternal grandmother, Florence, for her 52 Ancestor post, focusing on Florence's experience teaching school as a teenager.  Diana recounts that Florence was born in 1892 in Spanish Fork, Utah, and was the oldest of twelve children. When Florence was about fifteen, her mother had an accident, and Florence and her sister began working outside the home. Nicole reads from Florence's history where she describes teaching at Castilla, a small town in the mountains. The episode discusses the history of Castilla as a recreational area with hot springs and excursion trains. They examine the students Florence likely taught, identifying them as the children of the Southworth family, with whom Florence lived. Diana and Nicole conclude by sharing that Florence, despite finding the job unpleasant, was proud to help her family and purchase items for herself and her parents' home. This summary was generated by Google Gemini. Links Florence (Creer) Kelsey and the Challenge of a First Job - https://familylocket.com/florence-creer-kelsey-and-the-challenge-of-a-first-job/ Sponsor – Newspapers.com For listeners of this podcast, Newspapers.com is offering new subscribers 20% off a Publisher Extra subscription so you can start exploring today. Just use the code “FamilyLocket” at checkout.  Research Like a Pro Resources Airtable Universe - Nicole's Airtable Templates - https://www.airtable.com/universe/creator/usrsBSDhwHyLNnP4O/nicole-dyer Airtable Research Logs Quick Reference - by Nicole Dyer - https://familylocket.com/product-tag/airtable/ Research Like a Pro: A Genealogist's Guide book by Diana Elder with Nicole Dyer on Amazon.com - https://amzn.to/2x0ku3d 14-Day Research Like a Pro Challenge Workbook - digital - https://familylocket.com/product/14-day-research-like-a-pro-challenge-workbook-digital-only/ and spiral bound - https://familylocket.com/product/14-day-research-like-a-pro-challenge-workbook-spiral-bound/ Research Like a Pro Webinar Series - monthly case study webinars including documentary evidence and many with DNA evidence - https://familylocket.com/product-category/webinars/ Research Like a Pro eCourse - independent study course -  https://familylocket.com/product/research-like-a-pro-e-course/ RLP Study Group - upcoming group and email notification list - https://familylocket.com/services/research-like-a-pro-study-group/ Research Like a Pro with DNA Resources Research Like a Pro with DNA: A Genealogist's Guide to Finding and Confirming Ancestors with DNA Evidence book by Diana Elder, Nicole Dyer, and Robin Wirthlin - https://amzn.to/3gn0hKx Research Like a Pro with DNA eCourse - independent study course -  https://familylocket.com/product/research-like-a-pro-with-dna-ecourse/ RLP with DNA Study Group - upcoming group and email notification list - https://familylocket.com/services/research-like-a-pro-with-dna-study-group/ Thank you Thanks for listening! We hope that you will share your thoughts about our podcast and help us out by doing the following: Write a review on iTunes or Apple Podcasts. If you leave a review, we will read it on the podcast and answer any questions that you bring up in your review. Thank you! Leave a comment in the comment or question in the comment section below. Share the episode on Twitter, Facebook, or Pinterest. Subscribe on iTunes or your favorite podcast app. Sign up for our newsletter to receive notifications of new episodes - https://familylocket.com/sign-up/ Check out this list of genealogy podcasts from Feedspot: Best Genealogy Podcasts - https://blog.feedspot.com/genealogy_podcasts/

Have you ever felt lost or questioned your value after experiencing a betrayal? Join Amie and Alana as they unpack the profound impact of betrayal on self-worth and identity, sharing personal stories and providing insights to reclaim your sense of self.Learn how to navigate the complex layers of trauma, heal from within, and build a stronger foundation of intrinsic worth and value.Register Now!The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive for women on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. ⁠Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Connect with us on Social Media:Alana GordonAmie WoolseyChoose Recovery Services

Are you navigating the painful journey of betrayal and struggling to identify red flags in your relationship? Join us as we discuss common warning signs that a betrayed partner should watch for and how to understand them. Learn the importance of earned trust, emotional accountability, and why your healing journey matters. Plus, discover our upcoming events aimed at helping you reclaim your power and move towards transformation.Referenced in this episode:Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales - past podcast episode. Learn more about Sarah's work HERE.Listen to our seven-part series on Full Therapeutic Disclosures: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7. Get our FREE eBook⁠ “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?”⁠⁠ delivered straight to your inbox.⁠ ⁠Sign up here!⁠Register Now!The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically.Courage to Thrive Intensive - Reclaim your power and take the next courageous step on your journey toward healing. This intensive for women will help you gain practical tools to establish boundaries, manage triggers, and reconnect with your authentic self. Experience a blend of psychoeducation, practical exercises, and somatic healing practices. Join us in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23-26. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support .⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Connect with us on Social Media:Alana GordonAmie WoolseyChoose Recovery Services

Have you ever felt like a part of you is holding you back? This week Luke Gordon (coach and co-founder of Choose Recovery Services and host of the Beyond the Facade podcast) joins Alana, and together they explore the transformative journey of parts work and the power of self-acceptance in healing. Luke courageously shares his own story of how understanding his protective parts led to breakthrough moments in his recovery. Discover powerful insights on acknowledging and understanding the different parts of yourself to promote deeper connection and authentic living. Ready to do your own parts work? Register now!Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom. Referenced in this episode:No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzAltogether You and Altogether Us by Jenna Riemersma and Dr. Richard SchwartzComing Up!The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically.Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery ServicesChoose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Connect with us on Social Media:Alana GordonAmie WoolseyChoose Recovery Services

Why is a full disclosure one of the most feared yet vital steps in recovery? This episode dives into the misconceptions about full disclosure, its importance in rebuilding trust, and why it's just the beginning of deeper healing and connection. Learn how full transparency lays the foundation for trust and allows both partners to move forward authentically.Want to learn more about full disclosures? Listen to our seven-part series: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7. Get our FREE eBook⁠ “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?”⁠⁠ delivered straight to your inbox.⁠ ⁠Sign up here!⁠Register Now!Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom. The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

This week Alana joins Luke Gordon on his podcast, Beyond the Facade, as they explore the crucial first step in overcoming compulsive behavior: breaking through denial. Learn about the importance of accepting feedback, taking responsibility, and facing discomfort to become your true self and transform your relationships.Intensive for Couples: Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - Register by 2/28/25 and use the promo code rebuildus500 for $500 off! This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th. Payment plans available by emailing info@chooserecoveryservices.com. Register Now! Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom.  Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources. The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

Are you trapped in a cycle of anxiety and hypervigilance due to betrayal trauma? Join Amie as she dives into understanding hypervigilance and its deep-rooted impacts on your mental and physical health. Learn practical strategies to let go, build self-trust, and find peace within yourself. Explore how to shift from control to curiosity and soothe your nervous system in the path towards healing.Register Now! Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - Register by 2/28/25 and use the promo code rebuildus500 for $500 off! This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th. Payment plans available by emailing info@chooserecoveryservices.com. Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom.  Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources. The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically.⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us.More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free! Road to Recovery Webinar - FREE interactive discussion on the second Sunday of each month that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - For men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and empowerment. 

Did you know Choose Recovery offers free monthly webinars? This week we are replaying the January webinar which explores the powerful world of somatic healing and Brainspotting.  Discover how these therapeutic techniques can transform your recovery journey, manage intrusive thoughts, and enhance your emotional well-being. This episode will enlighten you on the importance of getting into your body and trusting the healing process. The monthly webinar is hosted by Hali Roderick (Choose Recovery Services coach and co-host of the podcast Choosing to Stay). Learn more about Hali here. Mentioned in this episode: Brainspotting resources on Amie's website Feelings wheel How We Feel app Register Now! NEW! Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th and again in Spanish Fork, UT November 5th-8th.  NEW! Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom.  NEW! Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources. The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. Learn more about all of our support groups, courses, webinars, and intensives on our website.

When it comes to healing from betrayal, doing the right thing at the wrong time can backfire. Join us for a special podcast bonus episode as Alana and Hali Roderick (Choose Recovery Services coach and co-host of the podcast Choosing to Stay) discuss the intricacies of couples work post-betrayal.  They emphasize the importance of early recovery steps, highlighting the need for safety and stability before diving into deeper relational repair. Listen in to learn about emotional and psychological safety, early couples recovery work, and how to know when you're ready for deeper couples therapy. After listening, be sure to check out our upcoming intensive especially for couples who have been in active recovery for at least a year and are ready to deepen their connection. The Rebuilding Us intensive will be offered twice this year - first in Mesa, AZ in March and again in Spanish Fork, UT in November. Register today to secure your spot and elevate your relationship! Register Now! NEW! Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th and again in Spanish Fork, UT November 5th-8th.  NEW! Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom.  NEW! Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources. The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. Learn more about all of our support groups, courses, webinars, and intensives on our website.

Abuse can happen anywhere - including places that are meant to provide safety. This week Alana welcomes Lisa Compton (Instagram) and Taylor Patterson to the podcast. Lisa and Taylor are the authors of the book Skills for Safeguarding. Together they discuss the urgent need for safeguarding in church communities.  Learn how faith-based organizations can better prevent abuse and support trauma survivors, challenging common misconceptions about forgiveness, repentance, and healing within religious settings. This conversation offers practical insights on creating cultures of safety, while providing hope that meaningful change is possible through education and collective action. Register Now! NEW! Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th and in Spanish Fork, UT November 5th-8th.  NEW! Men's Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom. https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/G1OwdBs NEW! Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources. The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Road to Recovery Webinar - FREE interactive discussion on the second Sunday of each month that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - View our calendar of intensives for 2025! Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - For men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn how to date yourself first. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

This week Luke Gordon joins Alana as he opens up about living with ADHD and demand avoidance. Luke and Alana explore how these dynamics impact their interactions and the steps they take to maintain a balanced and empathetic relationship. This episode offers a real-time glimpse into their ongoing journey individually and relationally of self-awareness, accountability, and mutual support. Luke Gordon is a certified addiction recovery and betrayal trauma coach and co-founder of Choose Recovery Services. Listen to his podcast Beyond the Facade or schedule a free consultation. Register Now! The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Register before January 31st to save $200! Boundaries Boot Camp - Experience a six-week deep dive into boundaries. Learn more about what boundaries are, practical tools and skills for communicating and upholding boundaries, and how boundaries can protect relationships. The boot camp will begin the first week of February. Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th and in Spanish Fork, UT November 5th-8th.  ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Do you feel like you're not doing boundaries “right,” or you worry that your boundaries aren't working? Join Alana and special guest Laura Fisher (fellow coach at Choose Recovery Services) as they discuss the critical importance of boundaries in recovering from betrayal trauma. Learn about differentiating requests from boundaries, the importance of understanding your personal values, and the empowering effect boundaries can have for both partners. Laura provides insightful analogies and strategies for separating behaviors from people, understanding what makes boundaries truly effective, and learning to trust yourself in the process. Learn more about Laura here. Referenced in this episode: Boundaries Boot Camp - Wanting to learn more? Join Laura for a six-week deep dive into boundaries. Learn more about what boundaries are, practical tools and skills for communicating and upholding boundaries, and how boundaries can protect relationships. The boot camp will begin the first week of February. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Coming Up! The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us January 22-25, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

What happens in your body when you hear difficult conversations about narcissism, betrayal trauma, and abuse? Join Amie and Alana this week as they address emotionally charged topics and how those topics can trigger strong reactions in both your body and mind. Listen in as they share insights about the importance of paying attention to your body's responses and as they explain how these natural reactions can actually guide you on your healing journey. Coming Up! Brainspotting Intensive - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us January 22-25, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE. Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2025. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

What happens to your brain and body when the reality you thought you knew completely shatters? This week Amie explores how betrayal trauma often leads to reality collapse and reality fragmentation. Learn what these terms are, how to navigate the emotional whirlwind they bring, and how to begin rebuilding trust in yourself and in your reality once again. Coming Up! Brainspotting Intensive - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us January 22-25, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE. Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2025. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Last week we learned what personality disorders are and how they can impact relationships. This week Amie and Alana welcome back Alexandra Repke, a licensed psychologist (PhD, CSAT, C-PD, CAIMHP), to explore what you can do if your partner has been diagnosed with a personality disorder. Alexandra provides critical insights on adjusting expectations, setting boundaries with consequences, and maintaining your own well-being while supporting your partner's treatment journey. Learn more about Alexandra Repke.  Listen to part one HERE.  Referenced in this episode: Karpman's Drama Triangle The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists by Eleanor D. Payson Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul T. T. Mason and Randi Kreger Coming Up! Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2025. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us January 22-25, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Hour 2 of JJ & Alex with Jeremiah Jensen and Alex Kirry. Stevenson Sylvester filling in for Alex Kirry Chris Armstrong, President of the Utah Hockey Club Dustin Smith, Head Coach at Spanish Fork and Founder of QB Elite Mikhail Sergachev, Utah Hockey Club defenceman

Dustin Smith, Head Coach of the Spanish Fork football team and Founder of QB Elite, joins the program to discuss the Pavia injunction and what impact it is already having on high school recruits.

JJ & Alex with Jeremiah Jensen and Alex Kirry on December 20, 2024. Stevenson Sylvester filling in for Alex Kirry RB Wayshawn Parker commits to Utah How the courts rule on JUCO atheletes could have negative impacts on high school recruits Would You Rather? Chris Armstrong, President of the Utah Hockey Club Dustin Smith, Head Coach at Spanish Fork and Founder of QB Elite Mikhail Sergachev, Utah Hockey Club defenceman

Are you struggling to understand the complex world of personality disorders and their impact on relationships? Join Amie and Alana as they speak with Alexandra Repke, a licensed psychologist (PhD, CSAT, C-PD, CAIMHP), who breaks down the myths and realities of personality disorders, especially in the context of addiction and betrayal.  Learn about the different types of personality disorders, how they affect connections, and gain insights into treatment approaches that offer hope for healing.  Learn more about Alexandra Repke.  Coming Up! Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2025. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us January 22-25, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Do you feel like you're barely able to keep your head above water and wonder if you'll ever feel good again? Join Amie and Alana this week as they explore the challenges that come from living in survival mode. Explore the impact of staying in unsafe environments and learn the importance of radical acceptance and self-awareness. Understand how your body responds to emotional trauma and learn about tools and mindsets  that can help you whether you choose to stay or go in your relationship. Referenced in this episode: Brainspotting Intensive - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10, 2024. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Click here to let us know you want to be added to our interest list, and we'll let you know when registration opens! Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Coming Up! Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

We start off with Frank Christ presents, 'They're Fine, Just Fine,' and then we list off your Things That Must Go. After that, we crown Boner of the Day as we broadcast live from Spanish Fork for the Road to the Road Home . Then we play a round of Beat Gina and of course, finish with the Boner Recap, news and our Live Nation Concert and Community Calendar.

The word “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot, but is that label even helpful? Join Amie and Alana this week as they invite Gary Katz to weigh in on this important topic. Gary is a certified sex addiction therapist as well as the founder of the Center for Intimacy Recovery in New York. Together they unpack the nuances of labeling behavior, the risks of misdiagnosis, the profound impact of betrayal trauma, and practical tools for recovery. Referenced in this episode: Learn more about Gary Katz. ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads this betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Coming Up! Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.  Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Join Amie this week for a heartfelt discussion on the concept of graceful acknowledgment, especially during the challenging holiday season.  Learn practical steps to gently validate your feelings without the pressure to feel gratitude before you're ready. Discover realistic expectations and self-compassion strategies to navigate triggers and emotional turmoil more effectively. Referenced in this episode: Trauma Trigger Kit - This kit is designed to support you in times when a trigger comes out of nowhere or when you are going into a potentially stressful situation. Stay grounded and connected to yourself by accessing your five senses with the items in the trigger kit. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Coming Up! Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.  Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Lance and Hugie (Head Coach/D-Coord) from ALA come and visit. Coach Lance came on last year and told the story of his first year coaching in Spanish Fork. (Episode #51) It was a tear-jerker episode. This episode we got all the updates on fun, this football season, coaching. We then challenged them to a round of The Newlywed Game. The Hewlett's Vs. The Work Couple. Can you guess who won? ----------------- YouTube: https://youtu.be/G0GJTUJl0_A - Instagram: @thhpod @jesshewlett @haydenshewlett - Other Ways to Listen: https://linktr.ee/thhpod

Join us this week as we revisit one of our most popular episodes from 2022. The road to recovery can be a long and difficult road. When you don't know where you are headed and how to get there, it can feel even more daunting. Join Alana, Amie, and their guest, Luke Gordon, as they unpack the stages of individual and relational healing. They emphasize the necessity of humility, transparency, vulnerability, and empathy.  Whether your partner is participating in recovery or not, learn actionable strategies and gain hope for a journey towards trust, emotional stability, and genuine connection. Download a visual of the recovery map ⁠here⁠. Coming Up! Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.  Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Eric Frandsen and JD Walker discuss the 4A football semifinals: Ridgeline lost to Spanish Fork; Sky View faces Crimson Cliffs. Utah Jazz beat Dallas on a late dunk.  NBA playing with changes to the All Star game

Eric Frandsen and Jason Walker provide their predictions for Utah State vs Hawaii on Saturday. Jalen Royals invited to Reese's Senior Bowl. #1 Ridgeline faces #4 Spanish Fork in the 4A semifinal game. Utah Jazz face Dallas in a standalone NBA game. Utah Hockey Club picks up a big win against one of the best in the NHL. Pick 6.

Join Amie and Alana as they conclude their series on full therapeutic disclosures by discussing why disclosure is not the end of the journey and what steps to take next.  They explore the importance of shared grief, the significance of building a plan for rebuilding trust, and the pitfalls to avoid post-disclosure. Learn about crafting personalized aftercare plans that include therapy, support systems, and empowerment practices to continue the healing process effectively. Get our FREE eBook ⁠“Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?”⁠ delivered straight to your inbox. ⁠Sign up here!⁠ Referenced in this episode: Listen to⁠ Part 1⁠,⁠ Part 2⁠, ⁠Part 3⁠, ⁠Part 4⁠, ⁠Part 5⁠, and Part 6 Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie's self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection. Coming Up! ⁠Take Back the Holidays Special Workshop⁠ - Choose Recovery Services is excited to sponsor this workshop presented by Sarah Morales. Learn strategies and tools to help you shift from feeling anxious and powerless to empowered and equipped to face holiday experiences with those who have a history of gaslighting. The workshop will be November 16th from 11am-1pm CST and costs $30. Follow ⁠sarahmoralescoaching⁠ on Instagram and register for the workshop ⁠HERE⁠.  Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation with us. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.  Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion.   Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.  Healing Hearts - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. Beyond the Facade: Men's Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You'll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.  Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

Rebekah's first Cesarean was a birth center transfer after her baby boy unexpectedly flipped breech during labor. Though she was confident in her decision to consent to a Cesarean, she was devastated and left with a lot to process. Right away, Rebekah's midwives instilled confidence that she was a great VBAC candidate and introduced her to The VBAC Link. Rebekah thoroughly researched and prepped for her VBAC knowing it was the path she wanted to take. She decided to stay with the same birth center as she felt so loved and supported by them. Her second pregnancy was filled with physical, mental, and spiritual preparation for her VBAC. Rebekah developed a deep connection with her baby girl and shares precious stories during both her pregnancy and labor when she knew just what her baby was trying to communicate. Rebekah's VBAC was healing in so many ways. It was particularly special to birth in the same suite that she labored in with her first and have such a different outcome. All of Rebekah's intentional work paid off to help her have a very sacred birth and postpartum experience!How to VBAC: The Ultimate Prep Course for ParentsFull Transcript under Episode Details Meagan: Hello, everybody. Welcome to The VBAC Link. We have our friend, Rebekah, here today and she is local to me here in Utah so it's always so fun to hear a Utah story especially because I usually know the provider and the location and things like that or I've served with them so it's fun to hear the stories that I have served with the people who are serving these amazing VBAC mamas. We have our friend, Rebekah, like I said and she is a mama of two. She is a stay-at-home mom and is in Spanish Fork. She is passionate about birth and hopes to one day pursue birth work. She hired one of our VBAC Link certified doulas so just as a reminder, if you guys are looking for a doula, let me just tell you that our doulas are amazing. These doulas truly love birth and love VBAC and are all certified in VBAC so you can check that out at thevbaclink.com/findadoula if you are looking for a doula. Rebekah left us a note. It says, “The after-birth high doesn't always happen. I have heard so many stories of women who experienced it and I was expecting to feel that. I however did not.” She says, “Don't feel robbed of it.” She was confused why she didn't feel it but she is going to talk a little bit more in her story. I love that message because I didn't feel the birth high with some of my kids either and it is weird. I remember sitting there thinking, Wait, aren't I supposed to be crying right now or aren't I supposed to be screaming how happy I am right now? It just didn't come. Please know that if you didn't have that immediate birth high, it's okay. It's totally okay. We do have a Review of the Week. It is from Yulia and this is actually on our VBAC Course. It says, “This is an amazing VBAC Course that helped me understand how I can educate and support families in the best way.” She is actually one of our VBAC doulas so again, if you guys are looking for more information on VBAC and you really want to learn just all of the history of VBAC and Cesarean and how you can increase your chances of VBAC, check out our course at thevbaclink.com and let us know if you take it. Let us know what you think about it. All right, Ms. Rebekah. Your hometown is Utah, same as me. We are here together. You're in Utah County. You're probably 45-50 minutes away from me so just shy of an hour. Where did you give birth for your VBAC? Rebekah: It was the Utah Birth Suites in Provo. Meagan: Okay. Awesome, awesome. Well, I'm so excited to get into your stories today. I know that with your first one, you went through it. It was spontaneous labor turned unplanned Cesarean. Now if you are listening, I'm sure you can raise your hand. How many of us are having the same situations? We are going into labor and we have that unplanned Cesarean. It's so, so hard. Before we get into your story, are there any suggestions that you would give to the listeners or any tips for moms just like us for moms who went into labor and had an unplanned Cesarean?Rebekah: The heartbreak and the trauma that comes with that is really hard to navigate so in planning a VBAC, my number one piece of advice is hire a doula. Hire a VBAC-certified doula and do all of the hard work you can to mentally prepare. Try not to blame yourself for the C-section because I know we all do that at some point if it wasn't planned. Meagan: Yeah. I love that you said that. Don't blame yourself but at the same time, let's arm ourselves up with information and even first-time moms, there are so many times that we go in and we think we sort of educated ourselves but we didn't. If we can try and educate ourselves a little bit better, we can hopefully be a little bit more armed for the unexpected and even then when the unexpected happens, it's not easy to be armed. It's not easy to be prepared. Okay, so let's talk about that first birth that was an unplanned Cesarean. Rebekah: Yeah. I got pregnant in 2020 so COVID insanity and I had known even before I got married that I didn't want to be in a hospital. I'm number 6 of 7 kids and my mom had all of us unmedicated. I was a home baby. Some of us were born at home. Some were in a hospital. Some were in a birth center. I just really felt that in my bones and in my genes that I can give birth. It's not scary. My mom did this this many times without medication. My sister did it 5 times so I really felt confident. With everything happening in hospitals during COVID, I just was like, I don't even want to try to mess with that so let's go the midwife route. I got in contact with a friend of mine who was a doula and she recommended the Utah Birth Suites in Provo. I reached out to them. We toured a couple of different birth centers and that birth center just felt right. We met almost the entire team that first day in the interview. They spent almost an hour just chatting with us. I was about maybe 18 weeks, 20ish weeks. I was about halfway through my pregnancy. I had two or three meetings with an OB because I didn't have a midwife and it just wasn't my favorite. It was so long between visits and they lasted about 15 minutes. I saw a different person each time. It felt very impersonal and I don't like repeating myself over and over again to all of these different people. It didn't feel right. It wasn't really what I was looking for. I found the Birth Suites and they took care of me for the rest of my pregnancy. I had a little bit of hypertension issues toward the end so the last three or four weeks were really juggling this game of, are we looking at induction this weekend? My blood pressure would read really, really high then I would do all of the things to bring it back down. I was watching my nutrition and taking the vitamins and everything to bring it down. It would come down just within a safe enough range to keep giving me care. Legally, if it crossed that line into worries of preeclampsia, then legally they had to transfer me into the care of an OB. My midwife was really working hard with me to keep it down. It was doing this up/down thing and by the end of each week, it was like, “Okay, we might have to induce you in a couple of days if you want to stick with us.” I was okay with that. My midwife had talked with me about that so it wasn't pushed on me. I was doing everything to stay within their care. That was my whole goal so if I had to be induced, that's what I would do. But every weekend came and passed and my blood pressure would come back down. Finally, it was the day before my due date. I went into labor in the middle of the night. It was maybe 2:30 in the morning. I felt my first contraction. I could tell it was labor because it was different than all of my Braxton Hicks. The only sign I had that labor was going to start was that I had cramping the day before. I was like, “Oh, this is kind of uncomfy.” I didn't think anything of it. As a first-time mom, I didn't know a ton. I did as much research as I possibly could but labor is so random with every mom and baby. There really is no way to tell. I go into labor early in the morning and I woke up my husband. I said, “I think I'm in labor. I think these are contractions. They're not stopping. They're getting really intense.” Intense compared to the Braxton Hicks I had been feeling. I let him sleep and I went into a different room and classic first-time mom mistake. Instead of resting, I got up and started moving and trying to get things going because I was all excited. I didn't want things to slow down. I was timing them and texting my midwife. She said, “See if you can lay down. Take a Tylenol if they are super uncomfortable and try to get as much sleep as possible because you've got some time.” I tried doing that. It wasn't working for me. I was super uncomfy laying down. I did not like it at all. I felt good when I was up and moving because I think that slowed things down but I didn't know the difference. I just knew it was less uncomfortable. I was like, “I'm not going to be sleeping. Let's just go do something.” We went on a drive. We did a little shopping. We walked around. We went back home. We hung out for a little bit. Then my husband was like, “Do you think I'm okay to go to work?” I was like, “I think you are. You can go to work. I think we have plenty of time. Things are still pretty spread out right now. We can call our doula and she'll come hang out with me at home.” So that's what we did. Our doula came over and my husband went to work and everybody was like, “What are you doing here? Your wife is having a baby. What's going on?” He was like, “She's fine. She has our doula.” Our doula was with me for a couple of hours and things had picked up enough to where I felt like he needed to be home so we called him back home. Things were moving on not slowly but slower than I wanted. I was just trying to be patient and let things go–Meagan: Trusting the process. Rebekah: Yes, exactly. I'm not a very patient person so this really was a big learning experience for me. So my doula is keeping contact with our midwife and eventually, it was like, “Okay, I think you're good to head to the birth center. It looks like things are pretty steady now.” We got to the birth center. I really wanted a water birth so they drew a tub and I relaxed in the water and tried some different positions. Hands and knees in the water were hard and uncomfortable. They gave me a towel to keep from slipping around but it was really uncomfortable. My knees didn't like staying in that position and I didn't want to be laying back. So I just wiggled around in the water a little bit. They were like, “Let's see if we can get you in a different position and try to get things moving a little bit.” So they got me out of the water. We tried the birth stool. I did not like the birth stool but it helped me progress a ton so that was good. I think I lost my mucus plug on the birth stool. I was feeling tons of pain in my lower back, like lots and lots of pain in my lower back. My thighs were shaky and I felt a lot of intense sensations in my thighs whenever I would have a contraction. There was a lot going on with my body that I wasn't really prepared for or expecting. I got back in the water to help relieve my back a little bit and I ended up getting stuck on my back lying back in the tub. It was getting to the point where I was almost passing out between my contractions because I was so, so tired. My body had been working for so long and it just felt like things weren't quite where they needed to be with how long I had been working. Again, my midwife said, “If you pass out, we will have to transfer you.” They gave me the oxygen and some essential oils to smell to keep me awake. They were trying to help me as best as they could. I guess my husband was out in the hall with the midwives and it was student midwives who were taking care of me and there was the head midwife who was overseeing them. They had a little pow-wow about what they thought we should do. The midwife was very big on mother-led labor. She was like, “Well, she's a first-time mom.” I had been in labor for so long that things were concerning at this point so it was just, “Let's give her a little bit more time and try to keep her awake and see how things are going. She's doing great. She's tired and this is normal.” A bit more time passed and one of the student midwives was like, “We need to check her. She should be farther along by now. She says she's pushing. She feels like she's pushing but we are not seeing the water separation and as much opening as we would like to see.” They got me out of the water and onto the bed and the head midwife performed a cervical check to see what was going on. I had a contraction while she checked me and my water broke. It was just full of meconium. She said, “I can feel his bum. He's breech.” It was crazy because we thought he had been head down the entire time but when I was in the water, there was a big movement in my belly and I was like, “Oh, that was kind of crazy.” We thought, did he flip? When we realized he was breech, was that movement him flipping while I was in labor?Then my midwife also made a comment later, “Well, maybe he was bum down longer than we thought he was. Maybe that wasn't the flip.” It had everybody baffled. My midwife has been practicing for a couple of decades. She's very experienced and this had everybody stumped. She had never really seen anything like this happen before so at this point, she said, “Well, you have two options. We will send you home and send you a midwife who can deliver breech babies,” because she was licensed and in Utah, licensed midwives aren't allowed to deliver breech babies which I think is silly. She had the training and experience. She just legally wasn't allowed to do it. She said, “We can send you home and send you a midwife or you can go to the hospital where they will definitely do a C-section.” She gave us a couple of minutes. We weren't in any emergent situation. The baby wasn't in distress. His heartbeat had been great the whole time so there was no reason to believe that he was struggling at all. She gave us a couple of minutes to decide. Earlier in my pregnancy, I received a blessing from my husband and was told something like, “However our child is supposed to come into this world–”, and I was like, “Well, that's silly. He's going to come how we are planning on him to come.” I remembered that in this moment and said, “I think this is what that meant. I think he was always supposed to be a C-section.” It was a very interesting combination of feelings happening at the same time, remembering that and knowing this was how it was supposed to go but also being beyond devastated that this was the path things took. So we chose the C-section not because first of all, the thought of having more contractions in the car was like, I'm not going to do that. I just knew it wasn't safe. I was almost passing out and I knew that a breech baby can sometimes be a bit more work. I was in no position to do that. So my husband drove us to the hospital and I had maybe three contractions in the car. Our midwives called the hospital to tell them what was going on and that we were coming so they were ready for us. It was very quick. We got there. They took great care of us and had me in the operating room and the rest was history. We had the C-section. The anesthesiologist was so sweet. He was this old man who spoke really softly and assured me that everything was going great. He stayed with us the whole time through the surgery. I heard him cry and it was great. They wrapped him up. They held his cheek against mine for a minute and then they took him out. My husband followed him and then they stitched me up. That was my C-section. We spent 3 days in the hospital. My birthing team came to visit me one by one in the hospital and every single one of them told me that I was a great candidate for a VBAC. They told me about The VBAC Link so that's when I started on my whole journey listening to you guys and started to really plant those seeds that, “You are capable. You didn't fail. You are able to do this still.” I know that some moms after having a birth experience don't really want to hear these things and they weren't in a place to hear those things, but for me, it was really great to immediately have that confidence spoken into me. That was my C-section. Meagan: Yes. I love that your team knew you so well to know that that was what you needed to hear in that time. Those were the things that you needed to hear. So knowing right away that you were a good VBAC candidate, was it something that stayed with you and you were like, this is what I want to do?Rebekah: Yes, absolutely. It wasn't ever a question if I was going to have a repeat Cesarean. That was never part of my plan. You can't really plan birth but I had never really had that fear of, Am I going to need another C-section? There's always a little bit of it there, but it was always, I'm going to have a VBAC. That's what we're going to do from that point forward.Meagan: You knew. You felt that it was right. You found out about us at The VBAC Link. You had your providers already. Did you stay with the same providers or did you switch? Rebekah: Yeah. Meagan: Okay, stayed. Rebekah: Well, technically yes. I stayed with the same Birth Suites and the head midwife who was overseeing the student midwives who cared for me in my first pregnancy was the one who cared for me during my second. I got to know her a little bit better during my second pregnancy and she was ahead of everything at that time. Meagan: Okay, awesome. So you are pregnant now for the second time. Tell us about this amazing VBAC journey. Rebekah: Yeah. So I got pregnant– when was it? It was probably late summer, early fall when I got pregnant with my second. I immediately reached out to– she's a licensed midwife now but the student midwife who was in charge of my care the last time. I reached out to her because I loved her so much. I said, “I'm pregnant again and I would really love for you to take care of me.”She said, “Well, when you are due is right when I go on leave.” I said, “That's great timing.” I reached out to another girl who was on our team who I loved and the same thing. They were taking their leave at the same time. She was like, “But it's within a week. You're due within a week of when I go on leave. If you end up having your baby before I go on leave, are you okay with me being there?” I was like, “Yes. I would love for you to be there if you can to support.” That's not what ended up happening, but it was fine.I reached out to Melissa. She's one of the owners at Utah Birth Suites. She started that whole business. I got to know her with my first so I reached out to her and said, “I'm pregnant again and would love to be in your care.”It was really great that she already knew my history with my first pregnancy and first birth. I had stayed in contact with them. They do a lot of things in the community and they try to stay in touch with their moms who they take care of. It's not like it had been 3 years since I had seen her. I had seen them here and there so I felt really comfortable with her. I had a couple concerns with this pregnancy with the hypertension issues and stuff that we had with him being breech. There were just things that I really wanted to stay on top of and keep an eye on. My blood pressure was fantastic throughout this entire pregnancy. It was at such a healthy level the entire time. We never had that concern of preeclampsia or hypertension because it just wasn't a factor. It was really nice. I was doing all of the things this time around with the vitamins and supplements and nutrition and water intake and all of the things that I neglected with my first pregnancy. I was super, super determined to have this VBAC. My midwife really pushed protein– lots and lots and lots of protein. We really wanted to strengthen that uterus and try to be as strong as we possibly could so I really took that to heart and tried my best. I got really excited when I came up with a new recipe that had a ton of protein. I would take a picture and send it to her and write up the recipe. I was like, “I'm so excited about this one.” It's like when a kid draws a picture and is so excited and their parent sticks it on the fridge. That was how I felt. I was like, “Look at me. I'm working so hard this time.” I was worried about her flipping breech but that was never an issue either. She stayed head down the whole time. This was a little side note that was interesting. During my anatomy scan to find out the gender, the ultrasound tech was looking over everything and he said, “There's no way to really tell for sure because your uterus has expanded now,” but he said, “I wonder if you have a bicornuate uterus.” He said, “Because your birth was breech, right? He flipped?” We had seen this ultrasound tech for the first so he knew everything that happened there. So I said, “Yeah. He flipped breech.” I had never heard that word before. I didn't know what that was. He explained it to me and said, “It's really common for women with a bicornuate uterus to have babies who flip breech.” So I was like, “Okay, that's interesting.” He said, “After you have this baby and your uterus shrinks back to normal, we should take a look at it.” I have yet to do that but I'm curious too. She never flipped breech so I don't know. Maybe I just have a goofy-shaped uterus. I don't know.Meagan: Maybe or it was just a freak thing. Baby needed to be head up. Rebekah: I don't know. That was interesting and I'm curious to see what the results of that are. But anyway, we got in contact with a doula, a VBAC-certified doula in the area. Her name is Isabelle and she is fantastic. She is absolutely phenomenal. She is also a birth assistant so she is fully immersed in this birth world. She is so knowledgeable and has tons of experience. We clicked really fast and I knew that I wanted her to be our doula. She really just was invaluable the whole time. She recommended that I do some fear-release exercises and meditations to work through some of the trauma that I didn't really realize that I had from my first birth. I thought I had processed and accepted as much as I could but I think healing isn't a linear process and being pregnant again and having another baby brought up a lot of stuff and a lot of fears. On a personal note that I won't really get into, I had a different set of fears surrounding this pregnancy for different reasons so there was just a lot to work on emotionally and mentally. I took that very seriously. This was a very sacred and spiritual pregnancy for me. Maybe it's just like that mother-daughter bond. I don't know. I felt way more connected to my baby this time and I really wanted to do my due diligence in making sure that my mind and my spirit were in a good spot for this pregnancy and this birth. One of the fear release exercises she sent me was one provided by The VBAC Link. It was a little worksheet to get your mind going and there are specific questions on there about what are some fears you have and where do you think those fears come from? It was that kind of stuff and toward the bottom, it helps you reframe those a little bit. Meagan: Yeah. Rebekah: It had me write out what my fears were and then to write an affirmation to counter each fear. I had 20 affirmations all written down just to go along with this list of fears. Then I actually used a couple of those and printed them out as my visual affirmations for when I was in labor. So fast forward, we're about 38 weeks and I was thinking for whatever reason that this baby girl was going to be early. So 38 weeks came around and I was starting to get excited. I'm like, “I think she's going to be here pretty soon.” I was starting to have some prodromal labor which I didn't experience with my son so that really reinforced the idea that she would be here soon and that was not the case. I had 2.5 weeks, well yeah. I guess it was about 2.5. Normal labor started around 39 weeks. So every night on the clock from 8:00, I would start getting really intense contractions that felt like early labor with my son but I also had much stronger Braxton Hicks this entire pregnancy so I was like, “I can't really tell the difference.” I told my doula that. I was like, “I'm afraid I'm going to miss you and I'm not going to reach out to you in time or you're not going to make it to us in time because I won't know when labor is actually happening.” That was a big worry of mine this time around. It was so different than with my son. She said, “It's okay. You can just text me as much as you need to and as much as you want.” So I did. I texted her a lot the last few weeks and she was like, “Your body is doing great.” She told me that in her experience, she said, “Just from what I've seen with my VBAC moms, I actually see prodromal labor happen a lot. I personally think that it's the body's way of being more gentle rather than doing all of the labor hard and fast at once. It's lots of little bits of labor to get your body ready and ease into it so it's not as intense on your body.” I was like, “You know, that makes sense.” I don't know. I don't think there are any studies around that that I know of, but that made sense to me. I really tried to just internalize that and not get too discouraged when things would stop as soon as I went to bed which they did every time. At 8:00, they would pick up and be there for a couple hours then it would stop when I fell asleep then I'd be fine until the next night when it would pick up again. My husband and I would go on a walk every single night and on these walks, I could have sworn that she was going to fall out. I could feel that she was right there. I could feel that my body was literally opening. I could tell that I was dilated. I never got cervical checks this time around which was oddly empowering. I really trusted my body and knew that things would happen regardless of the number that my body was dilated. I had no idea but my midwife was like, “You know, it wouldn't surprise me if you are sitting at a 4 right now.” So if anyone has experienced prodromal labor, you know how exhausting it is and how discouraging it is mentally, physically, emotionally– all of it. It had been a couple of weeks of this and I had officially gone past 40 weeks. I'm officially overdue and my son being born right on time, it was really frustrating that I was going past my date with this one. I didn't want to be induced. There was really no reason for it other than I was getting tired of being pregnant. My midwife was supportive if I wanted an induction. After I hit 40 weeks, I think she would have done it. She said, “Oh, we can do this,” but she also was really encouraging and assured me that my body was doing what it needed to. It was normal to feel discouraged, but let's just give your body time, especially with a VBAC. Induction can come with its own set of risks. I knew that. It was just such a mental battle trying to remember that. I know the risks sometimes can be small, not that it would worry me personally. For some moms, I know it would but for me, the risks that came with induction weren't enough for me to say no to it completely. But also, you never know so let's not play that game. Let's just be as patient as we can. A couple of days before I went into labor, I had it. I was over it. I was in the middle of a breakdown in tears just exhausted. I was with my husband and I said, “Why isn't she here yet? Why doesn't she want to come?” I was just processing things out loud and I said, “I know my body is ready. I can feel it. My body is open. She is so far down there. I feel like her head is going to pop out any second. What is going on? Why have I not gone into labor?”Then he just was really comforting to me and letting me process how I needed to and then I said, “I feel like she's scared.” That was a really interesting feeling. Like I said, I felt more connected to this baby and it was like a lightbulb that was the answer. Your body is ready but your baby is not. We were overdue at this point so I said, “I feel like she's scared. I'm not quite sure why, but I'm almost positive that's it.” So I took a moment to kind of then go into myself. I went into a different room by myself and again in tears was just sobbing and praying and spent some time talking with the Lord and then I spent some time talking to my baby. I told her, “We're ready for you. We are so, so ready for you. I know you are scared. I don't know why but you're not going to be alone. We're going to go through this together. You're going to be safe. Mommy and Daddy are going to take care of you. You're going to be okay.” It just was a really, really sweet moment. Two days later, I went into labor. Meagan: Ohh. Rebekah: I guess she just needed that reassurance that things were going to be okay. Meagan: She needed the okay. Yeah. Rebekah: Yeah. I think she felt that something was coming with all of this prodromal labor. She knew that things were picking up and she just needed a little pep talk. So this time around, again, around 3:00 AM– I guess that's when babies like to come. I hear that so, so many times between 2:00 and 3:00 AM is when things start to happen. I don't know why that is the magical hour, but it is. This time, because we know I was afraid I wouldn't know when labor had started, this time is started with my water breaking. My water didn't break until after 17 hours of labor with my son. I was asleep and woke up to re-situate myself and I felt this pop inside my body. It kind of hurt a little bit. I was like, what was that? It was a really weird sensation. I thought, Was that my water? I reached down and I feel around. I'm like, Well, I'm not wet. I stood up just to see what was going on and there was this huge, giant gush. I was like, Well, yep. There it is. This was probably my favorite part of my entire labor. My husband was asleep and I said, “Honey, honey, my water broke.” He was still half asleep and he said, “Do you want me to fill it up for you?” He thought that I had dropped my water bottle or something. I was like, “No, honey. My water broke.” He jumps up and he's like, “Oh, oh.” He started freaking out and he was like, “What are you supposed to do?” He was frantically looking around. He was still half asleep. I was like, “Okay, take a breath. Go get me a towel first of all,” because I was gushing all over the floor. “Get me a towel and then text Melissa (my midwife)” or my doula. I didn't know who it was. I said, “Let them know.” He said, “Are you okay? Do we need to go somewhere? What's going on?” I said, “No, we have time. Water breaking is not a big deal.” I had done lots and lots of research and listened to a million birth stories so at this point, I feel like a pro because I am fully immersed in this birth world. I said, “No, I'm okay. I'm just going to change and lay back down because I'm not having contractions yet. I feel fine, but I do need to rest so I'm going to change myself and lay down.” That's what I did. I wasn't going to repeat the mistakes of my first birth of moving too fast. Meagan: Getting too excited and yes. Rebekah: Yeah, especially with the exhaustion that I was feeling toward the end of my labor with my son, I was like, I don't want to feel that again. I lay back down. I know myself well enough that I wasn't going to fall back asleep. There was no way that was going to happen, but I was like, But I need to stay as relaxed as possible. We kept the lights really low. I put my birth playlist on and just really did some breathing to keep myself relaxed and as open as I possibly could. That's how I labored for the next several hours but things got intense really fast. As soon as my water broke, I knew that my contractions were going to be more intense. Even though labor had technically just started, I had a feeling that I wasn't going to be in labor for very long because it had been 2.5 weeks of prodromal stuff. I was like, I think this is going to be quick. I was really unsure of what to do though because I was timing my contractions. I have screenshots and was sending them to my doula. She said, “Oh, those look great but let's wait an hour and see how that goes.” But I was feeling like things were picking up. I felt like things were getting more intense but people kept telling me to wait. My midwife was like, “Oh, you have time.” My doula was like, “Oh, you have time.” I told my husband, “I don't know what to do because everyone is telling me that I have time but I don't think we do.” Every time I stood up to go to the bathroom or get in the shower– I tried the water in the shower because my doula said, “Sometimes that can make things a little bit more comfortable. Some women like to labor in the shower for a little bit.” I thought I'd try that. I loved the water but I did not like being upright. I did not like standing because it made contractions so, so intense but they were short. They were half the length than when I was lying down. I think they thought I had time because there were still several minutes between contractions and they were still pretty long. They were like, “We want them just a little bit shorter and a little bit closer together,” or longer contractions. I don't remember. I was like, There is something in me that is telling me that this is moving pretty quickly. I don't like being upright and I feel like I need to rest. It was a lot of weird stuff going on in my head trying to figure out how to handle things. I stayed in bed. It was this instinct in me, “You need to stay lying down.” Any time I stood up, it picked things up and for any birth with other moms, that's what you want, right? You want things to pick up and you want things to progress and technically standing upright was progressing things, but it didn't feel right to me for whatever reason. I knew I needed to be resting and lying down. I was starting to get tired. I texted my midwife and said, “I'm starting to get worried because I don't feel like I should be this tired this early, especially with how much I've been lying down and resting.” She said, “I think you need a little boost of energy.” She said, “Eat a snack and go outside and take a walk. Get some fresh air. Get some sunlight.” In my head, I was like, I don't want to do that. I don't want to be up. Every time I stand up, I can't explain it. Everything in my body and spirit was like, “You need to stay lying down.” I was like, “You know what? She's been doing this longer than I have. I'm going to trust her. I'm going to do it.” I make my way upstairs and as I'm getting a snack, I have a contraction that just had me seeing stars. I almost passed out. It was so, so intense and I told my husband, “I'm going to throw up. I'm going to pass out.” I leaned against the counter. He rubbed my back and when it was over, I ate my snack really, really quick. It was a sugary snack to give me a blood sugar boost. I ate my snack really fast and then immediately went to the living room and got on my knees and leaned against the couch. Again, I can't be standing. Meagan: Yeah, and gravity is causing it to happen too much. Rebekah: Yeah, and I was like, I don't have the capacity right now to handle these standing. I need to be more grounded. I got on my knees on the couch and my husband was like, “Are you okay?” I was like, “Yes, I just can't stand up.” I had a few contractions on the couch because everyone was telling us to wait so I was like, “Okay, let's just do a few more contractions and see how these were going.” That's when I hit transition. It was a little before 9:00 AM or it would be 8:30-8:40. I had a few contractions and they got really, really intense really quickly. It was starting to get a little bit more painful. I was feeling a lot more pressure in my bum and I had to physically relax my pelvic floor and open it because things were starting to feel a little bit pushy. I say that's when transition was. I actually don't know. I feel like I breezed through the transition phase because things just happened so fast. I would guess that's when it was. We called our midwife. Our doula hadn't come to us yet. I called maybe an hour before and said, “Why don't you make your way to us because things are starting to pick up?” She said, “Okay.” She lives maybe an hour away. So she's on her way to us and hasn't made it to us yet. We call our midwife and say, “Things are pretty intense over here.” She listened to a couple of contractions over the phone and she said, “Those sound great. You're doing awesome.” These contractions, I was getting really, really vocal through them, and having gone through labor unmedicated with my son, I knew that I was pretty close just based on the noises that I was making and the way my body was feeling. I was like, We're pretty close here. She said, “Okay, do you want to meet me? Let's meet at the birth center at 10:00,” which means we would have had to leave 20 or 30 minutes from that time or from the time we were at. I said, “We can't do this at home for another 20 minutes.” I had another contraction and my husband and I both go, “No, we're coming now. We can't stay here and do this for another 30 minutes. Things are moving too fast.” She said, “Okay, great. I'll meet you there.” We called our doula and we said, “Go straight to the birth center.” The birth center is kind of in the middle of us so she didn't have to backtrack. We get to the birth center. Our doula met us there. She said, “You had one contraction after you got there and the next one, you were pushing.” My midwife was there maybe less than 10 minutes after we showed up, between 5-10 minutes but I had a couple of pushing contractions with just my husband and my doula at the birth center. When I got to the birth center, I assumed the position. I got on my knees and leaned against a chair because that's how I had been doing it at home. I loved it. Every time I would have a contraction, I would put my hands on the ground so I was on hands and knees and I would lean back a little bit. Everything in my body just told me to get as low to the ground as you possibly can. Any amount of pressure or sensation on my body was amazing. It just kept me feeling grounded because of my son, when I was in the tub leaning back, I kept reaching up like this saying, “Help me. I need help. Help me.” I felt so untethered and nobody knew what to do for me because I was in the tub. They couldn't do counterpressure on my hips or my back because of the position I was in. It was just like, there's nothing we can do for you. I refused to move so it was like I got stuck in this position where I felt so ungrounded and untethered. But this time around, I was solid. I loved it and I actually had a bruise on my forehead the next day because I was pushing my forehead against the chair every time I had a contraction. But it was awesome. I loved that feeling of feeling so solid and grounded. I had pushed for maybe an hour before she was born and I felt that ring of fire. It made me say a bad word. I was like, “Oh my gosh,” because I didn't feel it with my son. When I leaned back during a contraction, I could see some blood on the chucks pad on the ground that I was moving on and I asked them, “Am I tearing?” There was a pause and my midwife said, “Your body is stretching exactly how it's supposed to.” So that was tearing. She was not going to tell me, “Yeah, you are.” She was really encouraging and she was like, “Your body is stretching the way it is supposed to,” but in my head, I was like, I know I'm tearing. I could feel it. It wasn't horrible, but I could tell. I had this memoir going on in my head the whole time where I literally had to tell myself, You're not going to break. You're not going to break, because those sensations on my pelvis while pushing her head out were so intense. Meagan: Intense, yeah. Rebekah: It just felt like my pelvis was going to crack but I knew that wasn't the case. My body was made to do this. It was doing what it was supposed to do. It was really a big mental battle. I've heard a lot of women talk about how they go into labor land and it was this out-of-body experience, but when I tried to do that and let go I guess is the term, that's when I started to feel fear set in and I felt really uncomfortable when things got more painful so I really had to keep myself in my body. I am not the type that can just close my eyes and say, “Okay, my body is just going to do the work.” I couldn't do that. I had to really stay fully present. I guess I needed to feel that sense of control so I was talking myself through it the whole time. “You're doing okay. Keep your voice low.” I was very, very loud. “Keep your screams and your moans in a low tone and keep yourself open. You're not going to break.” I had to keep telling myself these things. My husband was talking to me, “You're doing so great. You're amazing. Our daughter's going to be beautiful. You're doing such a great job.” My doula was scratching my back and doing counterpressure. Everybody was just amazing. The vibe in the room was just absolutely incredible. She started to crown and my midwife said, “Rebekah, why don't you feel down and you can feel her head? That might be encouraging to you.” I think she could tell I was getting frustrated. Every push I was sure she would come and she didn't. I would get so mad and I would push harder than I probably should have and maybe that's why I tore because I was being impatient. I feel down. I could feel her head crowning. I started talking to her. I started crying. I'm like, “Sweetie, I'm so excited to meet you. Hi, sweetie. You're doing great.” A couple of contractions later, her head came out. Then we chilled with her head out. We chilled between contractions. One of the girls on our team got an awesome shot just from right behind. She took a picture of her head sticking out so it was just a straight shot of my bum with her head and it was just a beautiful, beautiful picture. So I feel down and I feel her head. I'm rubbing her head. I'm talking to her and I'm breathing. I got water between every single contraction. I took a drink of water. I took some electrolytes. Oh, between contractions, I would sit up and lean on my husband. I would lean on his lap and then during a contraction is when I would go down on all fours. It was just this up, down rhythm that I got into. That's what I did. Meagan: That is awesome. Rebekah: It was awesome. I really got into a groove. I felt safe and comfortable. After her head came out, the next contraction, her entire body just slipped right out and I got to reach down and grab her and pull her up onto my chest. It was just amazing. But I didn't feel that birth high. I was expecting to feel it. Everyone talks about this incredible rush of endorphins and “I wanted to do it again. I had just done this amazing thing and I got a rush of these feel-good hormones”. I was expecting to feel that and I didn't. It was a beautiful moment and I was so happy to be there but I kept waiting for that high to hit me and it wasn't hitting me. I was like, “Oh, that's weird, but okay.” I had hemorrhaged after my placenta came out. It wasn't enough to really be emergent, but it was kind of concerning. They were doing the fundal massage. They were putting pressure on it. I was holding my baby the whole time leaning on my husband and my husband was like, “Is she okay? What's going on?” I asked him to say a prayer and to pray for us. So the midwives were working on me quietly. My husband says this quick, beautiful prayer just that everything would be okay and that things would go the way they were supposed to. My midwife asked if I would be okay with Pitocin to help stop it and that was fine with me so we did a quick shot of Pitocin and a couple of minutes later, it completely stopped and I was good to go. It was just a few minutes of this and even hearing the word “hemorrhage” or “You are losing more blood than we would like,” I still never really panicked or felt afraid because I trusted my team so much and I knew that if things were emergent, things would be going differently. There would be a different energy but no one was concerned. No one was rushing around. No one seemed panicked. It was just like, “You're losing a little bit of blood, but–”Meagan: We're taking care of this. Rebekah: “We're taking care of this.” It was so quick. It was so quick. It was taken care of and I'm so blessed that that was how things go because I know sometimes that's not the case for other moms, so in my case, it really wasn't that big of a deal. Meagan: Yeah. Rebekah: I got to take a postpartum bath. Well, I guess they did the stitches first because I had a second-degree tear that required stitches, and when they were checking my tear and they told me, “You're going to need some stitches,” I immediately burst into tears because for whatever reason, that sent me back to my C-section because to me, stitches meant, “We're stitching you up. We're closing you up.” Meagan: Yeah, yeah. Rebekah: It was this weird flashback moment that caused me to panic and I started crying. I told them it reminded me of my C-section and I know that sounds silly. It's just a few stitches from tearing in comparison to stitches from a C-section.Meagan: It doesn't sound silly. Rebekah: But to me, it wasn't. Oh, also, I was in the same birth suite that I was laboring in with my son the first time around. I was on that same bed when the midwives told me, “He's breech. We have to do something else.” So it just was like I was back in that same space where I was being told that I have to do something that I don't want to do that was scary to me. My doula was really sweet and talked me through it. My whole team talked me through it. They were like, “You're fine. It's okay. It's not a big deal.” They were very validating like, “I understand. That's why you are scared and why this is bringing things up again but you are safe. We're going to take care of you. You're not even going to feel it. We're going to numb you.”Meagan: Numb it up, yeah. Rebekah: Yeah. My doula stayed with me through my stitches and she was like, “Let's put on some music,” because I was talking about this music that I loved. She was like, “Let's find this album and let's listen to it.” So she found this album and she talked with me the whole time through the stitches. Then I got to take my beautiful postpartum bath in the salts and the flowers and stuff. It was just beautiful. My doula got a picture and she was like, “You look so angelic like a mermaid.” I was lying sideways and my hair was all draped. She was like, “There are flowers in the water. It is beautiful.”Again, it was a healing full-circle moment when they handed me my baby to take this bath together because the tub was another source of stress and anxiety from my first birth. I felt stuck. I felt abandoned. I felt like I didn't have a ton of help. I had help but it didn't feel like it. So just a lot of little moments throughout this suite that I was in that helped heal me a lot from my first birth that were all of these trauma points from my labor with him. They did the newborn exam. I got to hold her and be in the same room as her the entire time. I held her the whole time they did my stitches. We waited to cut the cord until it was white. My husband got to cut the cord. It all was incredibly, incredibly beautiful and healing. I did have to have two bags of IV fluids because of the blood that I lost which kind of helped rebuild that. My doula fed me soup while I was in the tub snuggling my baby. It just was a night and day difference. Meagan: Yeah, such a different experience. Rebekah: She's 7.5 weeks old and we're doing great. I healed very well, so much faster than with a C-section. Again, night and day. I don't even feel like I had a baby. Healing this time has been incredible this time especially having a toddler and worrying, Am I going to be able to do these things?Meagan: Yeah, that was actually one of the reasons among many that I did want a VBAC too. A lot of people were like, “What are your reasons?” One of them was that I want to have a better postpartum experience physically as I'm recovering because I just remember being so– and it can happen with vaginal birth too. Vaginal birth doesn't just eliminate your chances of not a great experience. You can still have a not-great experience with that with a vaginal birth, but yeah. I was like, “I want to be able to pick up my kids. I want to be able to drive if I needed to. I want to be able to–”. Rebekah: Go to the bathroom and shower by yourself. Normal human things. Meagan: Right, not have my husband holding me up showering. Yeah. That, for me, was such a big difference too in my recovery. That alone. Yeah. I'm so happy for you. I'm so glad that you were able to not only just have a different experience that was healing just in general but then all of these little things that you were able to heal from in addition like you said with the tub and these peaceful experiences and your connection with you and your daughter like, “Hey, I think she's scared and I need to go talk with her. I need to be with her.” And even during the pushing, you had that connection again. “Hey, honey, we are excited.” You were touching her and talking to her. It just goes to show so much how much more connected these babies are than we think they are. They really, really are and your body was ready. Your baby wasn't ready and sometimes that is the case and we have to understand that usually when spontaneous labor is going on or whatever, it's a team effort– body and baby together. Sometimes it's not and we have to help them. Rebekah: Yeah, exactly. It was crazy actually pushing a baby out. I don't want to say that I'm scared of doing it again but I wasn't expecting it to be as intense as it was. With my son, I was complete. I had dilated to a 10. I was fully effaced. His bum was right there. I think if we hadn't known sooner that he was breech, I wonder if we would have had an accidental breech delivery at the birth center because I was complete. I was ready to push a baby out. My body was already pushing. I had done all of the labor up to the pushing a baby out part. I think I had just built it up in my head, “Oh, you've done this before. You've done this before. You'll be okay.” I had done everything but the pushing phase. Feeling her actually coming out of my body was such a bizarre sensation. After her head was out, I actually felt a little wiggle. She wiggled her body in there and I said, “I can feel her moving.” My midwife was like, “Yep. She's getting ready to come out.” It was incredible that I was able to actually feel all of these things even though it was painful and it was hard. That's the only thing I wanted. I wanted to feel what it was like to actually birth my baby out of my body and do what it was designed to do. It just was incredible and it doesn't take away from the experience with my son at all. Both labor experiences and both birth experiences taught me so many things in completely different ways. When I tell my birth story with my daughter, I really hope that it doesn't come off that I was trying to rewrite history or trying to erase the way things happened with my son because it's not the case. The stories don't exist without the other. It's just been incredible to see how their personalities are different just based on how labor went with them. I really believe that the way your labor goes and the way your pregnancy is, you can almost tell what your baby's personality is going to be like based on those things and how they go. Definitely with my kids, that has been true. Meagan: Yeah. A lot of people especially with breech are like, “Oh, this stubborn baby. This baby wouldn't flip. This baby threw us a curveball,” then they come out and they're like, “They're still throwing curveballs. They're still stubborn.” I mean, I've heard that is definitely something that can happen. The babies set the stage. Rebekah: Yeah, absolutely. I kept saying when I was pregnant with her that I felt like she was going to be a feisty baby and be fiery. That is how she is. It was beautiful. Meagan: Well, I'm so happy for you. I absolutely love, love, love your birthing team over there. They are just so amazing and I'm so glad that you had a doula and you had the support and that you were able to find healing through this birth experience. You know, every single birth is unique. You're going to heal and grow through every single experience. It's the most beautiful thing. Rebekah: This podcast helped a ton. That was another thing that I did during my prep. I was listening to The VBAC Link Podcast and a couple of other podcasts. I watched lots of birth stories so for VBAC moms, it is another piece of advice I have. Really just soak in all of those VBAC stories and instill that confidence in yourself because I have heard some moms who stay away from podcasts and they like to just have their thoughts and their experiences be their own. That's great and that's fine, but for me, I really needed that support and I really needed that constantly spoken into me. So hearing birth stories, especially VBAC birth stories for VBAC moms is invaluable. It was incredibly empowering. I'm so thankful for your podcast and the fact that you do this and put this community together for moms who listen to it.Meagan: Thank you. It's definitely something that I missed out on in my pregnancies and wanted. I was searching and searching and searching. There would be VBAC stories here and there but I really needed something more. That's why we started this so we could hopefully help people along the way and have more and have that community and that support and just that drive. I feel like you hear these stories and it really helps you be like, “Oh, okay wait. These hundreds of women before me have done this. These are not even half of the women out there.” The amount of submissions that we get and the amount of stories on social media, there are so many stories out there. You are all Women of Strength and you can do this. I think you are right. Listening to these stories, you're going to find something. You're going to find connection and nuggets. You might even find healing through other people's stories. It's weird to think about that but truly, yeah. Rebekah: Even the repeat C-section stories, I loved hearing those and that was what my mental and emotional prep this pregnancy revolved around. I was like, If we're going to have a VBAC, we're going to have a VBAC. That's not what I was worried about. It was that I wanted to make sure that my mind and my spirit and my body were in a place to receive another C-section if it needed that. If I have to have another one, I'm going to make sure that it's a positive experience this time around. So hearing those stories from women who had repeats and even that was healing for them was awesome to hear. Meagan: Yeah, and you were talking about that in the beginning with that unexpected. Your unexpected was that you had an unexpected breech, surprise baby and you were exhausted. That was the route that felt right and some people go into spontaneous labor and it turns into a Cesarean for whatever reason or they go into an induction and the body wasn't responding and baby wasn't responding. We have these unexpected experiences and it's hard because when we are preparing for unmedicated vaginal birth or a medicated vaginal birth or vaginal birth in general, we don't want to think about that Cesarean. We don't. It's easy to push it aside. That's one of the reasons why I think sharing CBAC stories and scheduled C-section stories on the podcast is so important because it does happen and it's important to learn your options there. We just share stories here and we want everyone to find what's best for them and if we limit what we can learn, I think we are doing ourselves a disservice. Rebekah: Absolutely, yeah. Yeah. I hope to get into birth work someday. Ever since I got pregnant with my son, I have been completely immersed in all of it. My Instagram feed is 90% birth workers. So I have learned so much and I used to do that. I used to only really pay attention to the holistic, natural, unmedicated side of things but now, I follow several labor and delivery nurses and OBs and take little pieces from here and little pieces from there. As you are preparing for a new baby, you can't possibly know everything or prepare for everything but knowledge is power and knowledge helps to dissipate fear. As much as you possibly can, learn and arm yourself with it. Like you said, I think that's why doulas are so important too. They can help you in that process of figuring out what education you can focus on or should be focusing on based on what you want. Yeah, it's just incredible. Birth is incredible no matter how it happens. It's hard and it's gritty and beautiful. Meagan: Absolutely. I couldn't agree more. Well, thank you again so much for being here with us and sharing your stories. Rebekah: Thank you so much. ClosingWould you like to be a guest on the podcast? Tell us about your experience at thevbaclink.com/share. For more information on all things VBAC including online and in-person VBAC classes, The VBAC Link blog, and Meagan's bio, head over to thevbaclink.com. Congratulations on starting your journey of learning and discovery with The VBAC Link.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Are you curious about whether you're ready for a full therapeutic disclosure? Join Amie, Alana, and Luke as they discuss this critical question. They explore the importance of timing, mutual respect, and emotional readiness for both partners.  Whether you're the betrayed or the betrayer, this episode offers valuable insights to help you navigate this challenging but potentially transformative process in your healing journey. Watch us on YouTube Referenced in this episode: Listen to Part 1 and Part 2 Learn more about Luke and book a consultation HERE Tune in to Luke's podcast Beyond the Facade Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal - book by Kevin B. Skinner Coming Up! Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE. More From Choose Recovery Services ⁠⁠⁠Beyond the Facade Podcast⁠⁠⁠ - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. ⁠⁠⁠Choose Healing⁠⁠⁠ - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! ⁠⁠⁠Healing Hearts⁠⁠⁠ - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.  ⁠⁠⁠Help. Her. Heal⁠⁠⁠ - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. ⁠⁠⁠Choose 90 for Men⁠⁠⁠ - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. ⁠⁠⁠Choose 180 for Men⁠⁠⁠ - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Choose Renewal⁠⁠⁠ - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. ⁠⁠⁠Resilient Teens⁠⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠Adult Children Uniting for Healing⁠⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. ⁠⁠⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠⁠⁠ - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within⁠⁠⁠ - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  ⁠⁠⁠Should I Stay or Go?⁠⁠⁠ - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠Alana Gordon⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amie Woolsey⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Choose Recovery Services

In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale sit down with marriage therapists Boone Christensen and Kaprena Moore to discuss how couples can establish and maintain healthy boundaries in their relationships. They explain what boundaries look like in marriage, why they’re important, and how to effectively communicate them. Boone and Kaprena share real-life examples and provide tips on dealing with common boundary issues, including emotional safety, parenting, and handling conflicts. The episode highlights how boundaries can foster love, respect, and protection, rather than control.   About Boone & Kaprena: Boone and Kaprena own Steps Family Therapy in Spanish Fork, where they conduct individual, couple, and family therapy. They both performed qualitative research in graduate school on the role of clergy in mental health and relational issues. When not doing therapy or spending time with their two kids, Boone loves camping, fishing, and reading research on therapist development. Kaprena loves planning events, writing music, and yoga. They are both consultants for the mental health company, Mindless. Insights: Boone: "I'd say boundaries are the things you do to protect yourself and keep yourself healthy. They are nothing that you expect anybody else to do anything about." Kaprena: "When boundaries are about changing and manipulating your partner, they are poisonous. When they are about protecting yourself, they can convey love." Liz: "I think boundaries really are about safety. It's not just my feelings, but my partner's feelings. I just I do think of a cocoon a little bit when I think of a boundary or fenced in area where we're both inside, and it's not about the rupture, it's about making room for both of us." Dave: "I think that the boundaries perhaps can change. Is that possible over time? Is more understanding and his development and his relationship changes, still to have protection, but there may not be boundaries now we're okay. We need to adjust this. If I have a child that's living at home, or if there's a an accident or mental health or struggles or things okay, we need to adjust the boundaries here of what's happening to keep that protection in place." Links: https://stepsfamilytherapy.blogspot.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@boonechristianson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapy_with_boone_lmft/?hl=en   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/  Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/    Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com  http://drdavespeaks.com    Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com  

Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redefining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic healing to help your physical body find some relief from the stress of trauma. I would love to see you in Utah in person! You can learn more HERE and reach out to Vanessa at Choose Recovery Services at (702) 277-9145 with questions.  In this episode, we are joined by Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC, who is a colleague of ours at Choose Recovery Services. She sees individual clients as well as couples. She has many specialized trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), APSATS, Full Therapeutic Disclosures, Deconstructing Gaslighting, Mindfulness Based Addiction and Trauma Treatment and more. You can read all about her and connect with her HERE.   Laura joins us  as we dive deep into how to stay emotionally grounded when betrayal leaves us feeling out of control. We'll explore what it means to stay within your window of tolerance and why it's crucial for emotional stability and healing after infidelity. Learn how to identify when you're being triggered, and understand how these triggers are often a subconscious bid for connection and safety. We'll discuss how to regulate your nervous system in those moments when shame surfaces and past hurts resurface, offering practical strategies to help you manage your reactions instead of being overwhelmed by them. Whether you're struggling to stay present during difficult conversations or finding it hard to manage unexpected emotional waves, this episode provides tools to help you stay steady. Self-Care Wheel  Window of Tolerance for Men Window of Tolerance for Women  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. 

Today we dive deeper into therapeutic disclosures and address main concerns that often arise when considering them for you and your partner.  We delve into various reasons why therapeutic disclosures are crucial, and we explore reasons why a full disclosure might not be appropriate. 00:25 The Importance of Full Therapeutic Disclosure 03:11 Informed Consent in Relationships 07:19 Truth and Transparency in Healing 08:14 The Process of Learning and Sharing the Truth 13:20 Creating Safety Through Disclosure 18:09 Putting the Story Together for Healing 27:10 Understanding Safety Concerns 31:32 The Role of Emotional Sobriety 35:26 Common Excuses and Realities 41:49 The Strength of the Betrayed Partner Referenced in this episode: Learn more about Luke and book a consultation HERE Tune in to Luke's podcast Beyond the Facade Episode on gaslighting with Sarah Morales Episode where Amie and Luke talk about the ways a separation can bring healing Watch us on YouTube. Coming Up! Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE. More From Choose Recovery Services ⁠⁠⁠Beyond the Facade Podcast⁠⁠⁠ - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. ⁠⁠⁠Choose Healing⁠⁠⁠ - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! ⁠⁠⁠Healing Hearts⁠⁠⁠ - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.  ⁠⁠⁠Help. Her. Heal⁠⁠⁠ - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. ⁠⁠⁠Choose 90 for Men⁠⁠⁠ - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. ⁠⁠⁠Choose 180 for Men⁠⁠⁠ - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Choose Renewal⁠⁠⁠ - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. ⁠⁠⁠Resilient Teens⁠⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠Adult Children Uniting for Healing⁠⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. ⁠⁠⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠⁠⁠ - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within⁠⁠⁠ - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  ⁠⁠⁠Should I Stay or Go?⁠⁠⁠ - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠Alana Gordon⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amie Woolsey⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Choose Recovery Services

Dive into a candid conversation as Luke Gordon, an expert in betrayal trauma and men's mental health, joins Alana. Together they tackle pressing questions many women have about their partners' troubling behaviors.  Luke provides raw, honest insights into the mind of someone struggling with betraying and addiction. He tackles tough questions about trust, self-worth, and the devastating impacts of compulsive behaviors on relationships. Watch us on YouTube. Referenced in this episode: Tune in to Luke's podcast Beyond the Facade Coming Up! Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Healing Hearts - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.  Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon Amie Woolsey Choose Recovery Services

You've heard us talk about the intensives that Choose Recovery Services hosts, but how do you know if they're the right fit for you?  Listen to this special episode as Alana goes into detail about our upcoming Courage to Thrive Intensive. Learn what the intensive is, who it is for, and what it can do for your healing and growth.  Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. We can't wait to gather in person and embark on this life-changing journey together! Reach out to our office staff if you have any questions.

In this episode, we introduce a series focused on full therapeutic disclosures. Hosts, including Luke Gordon, delve into the importance and process of full therapeutic disclosures in therapy. We discuss how Choose Recovery Services sets a higher standard for these disclosures and emphasize their role in rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships. We guide both betrayed and betraying partners through this challenging yet foundational process, highlighting the need for careful, empathetic handling to avoid re-traumatization. The episode touches on the critical steps involved and the importance of individualized care in the disclosure process. 02:16 Understanding Full Therapeutic Disclosures 07:05 Choose Recovery Services Approach 08:52 The Process and Benefits of Full Disclosure 11:42 Challenges and Misconceptions 17:31 Avoiding Botched Disclosures 32:34 Empowerment and Decision Making Coming Up! Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE. More from Choose Recovery Services ⁠Believing In You Coaching Membership⁠- want to take your healing to the next level? Ready to start believing in yourself again, trusting yourself again and loving yourself, perhaps for the first time? It takes being intentional in your healing and this coaching membership gives you every opportunity to become more aware of whats keeping you stuck. ⁠Click on the link for more information.⁠ ⁠⁠Beyond the Facade Podcast⁠⁠ - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. ⁠⁠Choose Healing⁠⁠ - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free! ⁠⁠Healing Hearts⁠⁠ - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. ⁠⁠Help. Her. Heal⁠⁠ - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. ⁠⁠Choose 90 for Men⁠⁠ - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. ⁠⁠Choose 180 for Men⁠⁠ - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Choose Renewal⁠⁠ - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. ⁠⁠Resilient Teens⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠Adult Children Uniting for Healing⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. ⁠⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠⁠ - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Dating From Within⁠⁠ - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  ⁠⁠Should I Stay or Go?⁠⁠ - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: ⁠⁠Alana Gordon⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amie Woolsey⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Choose Recovery Services⁠

In this episode, we explore the heartbreaking disappearance of Kiplyn Davis, a teenage girl from Spanish Fork, Utah, whose case remains a mystery. We take you through the events leading up to her disappearance, the extensive search efforts that captivated her local community, and the enduring questions that linger.  Research by our friend Whitney St. Andre, with the Navigating Advocacy podcast, and assistance by Haley Gray. Special thank you to Brandie from Evaporate the Missing who put Haley in touch with Kiplyn's sister, Karissa, who helped make this episode possible.  Order Richard Kiplyn's book  “When an Angel Leaves Your Life” at KiplynDavis.com.  And check-out our social media for a chance to win his book.  Thank you to this week's sponsors! Turn back time on the appearance of your skin with Purity Woods's Age-Defying Dream Cream. Purity Woods is currently offering 17% off sitewide but we have an additional 10% discount for our listeners for a total savings of 27%!  Go to puritywoods.com/MOMS or enter code MOMS at checkout for an additional 10% off your first order.  Right now, Hungryroot is offering our listeners 40% off your first delivery and free veggies for life! Just go to Hungryroot.com/MOMS, to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies! This is the absolute best time to check them out, because right now, Gabb is offering $25 off any device to new customers—with no contract required! That's $25 off any Gabb smartphone or smart watch. Just go to Gabb.com/MOMS —that's where you'll get the best deal.  Get ready for the season of change, visit Wayfair.com or get the Wayfair mobile app.  To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://www.advertisecast.com/MomsandMysteriesATrueCrimePodcast.  New merch! Check out Moms and Mysteries Threadless! You can also get new episodes a day early and ad free, plus merch and more at Patreon.com/momsandmysteriespodcast Listen and subscribe to Melissa's other podcast, Criminality!! It's the podcast for those who love reality TV, true crime, and want to hear all the juicy stories where the two genres intersect. Subscribe and listen here: www.pod.link/criminality  Check-out Moms and Mysteries to find links to our tiktok, youtube, twitter, instagram and more! Make sure you subscribe and rate our show to help others find us! Sources: The Charley Project N/A, Officials in Spanish Fork Looking for Missing Teen, 4 May 1995, The Daily Herald De Bruin, Cornelia, $500 reward offered by missing…, 6 May 1995, The Daily Herald NamUs Peterson, Shellie, 29 years after the disappearance…, 2 May 2024, Serve Daily Website Facebook Mason, Pamela & Hollingshead, Todd, The Kiplyn Davis Story…, 11 Dec 2005, The Salt Lake City Tribune. N/A, Spanish Fork High School presents… 3 May 1995, The Daily Herald Due to character limitations, additional sources are available upon request.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dillon runs Yeti Welding, a fabrication shop out of Spanish Fork, Utah. We talk all about how he's built his business to include over a dozen team members and about the work his shop does. @Yeti_weldingwww.FabricatorOlympics.com

Dillon runs Yeti Welding, a fabrication shop out of Spanish Fork, Utah. We talk all about how he's built his business to include over a dozen team members and about the work his shop does. @Yeti_weldingwww.FabricatorOlympics.com www.FabricatorOlympics.com

Garret Shields has a bachelor's degree in History and a master's degree in Religious Education, and is currently working on a Ph.D. in History, researching issues and questions related to race and the priesthood in Brazil. He works in the Church Educational System as a Seminary teacher. Garret served in the Brazil Rio de Janeiro Mission and has since served in many callings in the Church including ward mission leader, high councilor, elders quorum president, bishopric counselor, Sunday School president, and nursery leader. He currently serves as a priest quorum advisor. Garret lives in Spanish Fork, Utah, with his wife and four energetic, adorable, and amazing children. Monica Fell has worked as a registered nurse for almost 20 years, where she has had the privilege of loving and serving in many capacities from hospital settings to home health and hospice, and working with struggling youth in group homes. At church, Monica has also served in many callings, including nursery leader, librarian, Relief Society counselor, girls camp director, Primary president, Young Women president, and currently as a Young Women 1st counselor. She served as a "teaching advisor" while Garret was Sunday School president in their ward, working alongside the presidency to support teaching both in the home and at church. Monica is a single empty nester who calls Spanish Fork home. She had the privilege of raising two boys and identical twin girls, is grateful for a son- and daughter-in-law she loves like her own, and can't believe how much fun it is to be a "Nana" of an adorable, spirited, 3-year-old granddaughter. Links There is already a discussion started about this podcast. Share your thoughts. Transcript coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library Highlights Recognizing that most gospel teaching at home and even at church in their ward was done by women, Garrett decided to include women in the Sunday School presidency. Monica, one of the teaching advisors in the presidency, highlights the success of their approach, especially in addressing the challenges faced by women in implementing Come Follow Me at home. The podcast delves into the structure of their meetings, the proactive nature of their leadership, and the emphasis on Teaching in the Savior's Way. The dynamic and collaborative nature of their presidency meetings fostered a strong bond among the members and led to better teaching in the ward as a whole. 00:03:06 - Garret's Background and Role as Sunday School President 00:07:40 - Monica's Perspective on Serving in the Sunday School Presidency 00:10:19 - Structure and Dynamics of the Sunday School Presidency 00:14:10 - Importance of Being a Difference Maker in Leadership 00:19:22 - Implementation of Teacher Council Meetings for Parents 00:25:13 - Emphasizing Christ-Centered Teaching 00:29:05 - Structure of Teacher Council Meetings for Parents and Teachers 00:34:11 - Importance of Building Relationships and Camaraderie in Leadership 00:36:38 - Proactive Approach to Leadership and Ministry The Leading Saints Podcast is one of the top independent Latter-day Saints podcasts as part of nonprofit Leading Saints' mission to help Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. Learn more and listen to any of the past episodes for free at LeadingSaints.org. Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway, Reyna and Elena Aburto, Liz Wiseman, Stephen M. R. Covey, Julie Beck, Brad Wilcox, Jody Moore, Tony Overbay, John H. Groberg, Elaine Dalton, Tad R. Callister, Lynn G. Robbins, J. Devn Cornish, Bonnie Oscarson, Dennis B. Neuenschwander, Anthony Sweat, John Hilton III, Barbara Morgan Gardner, Blair Hodges, Whitney Johnson, Ryan Gottfredson, Greg McKeown, Ganel-Lyn Condie, Michael Goodman, Wendy Ulrich, Richard Ostler, Kirby Heyborne, and many more in over 700 episodes. Discover podcasts, articles, virtual conferences,