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"Separation" doesn't have to mean divorce. In this episode, I'm joined by Shawna Meek of Living Stones Coaching to talk about the therapeutic separation — a structured, intentional time apart designed to create safety and clarity for couples navigating betrayal.Whether you're considering time apart or just trying to understand your options, this conversation offers a grounded starting point. Connect with Shawna Meek: www.livingstonescoaching.com or shawna@livingstonescoaching.comDetermined for More bookSix Episode Podcast SeriesGet the resources mentioned in today's episode: The Separation Plan GuideRelational Safety Plan for CouplesShawna is a Professional Certified Coach, author, and coaching consultation supervisor. Her specialized focus is supporting woman experiencing betrayal trauma from problematic sexual behavior and are in a neurodiverse marriage, primarily with autism and Asperger profiles. She currently reaches those around the world through her podcast appearances, individual coaching, couples workshops, and supervising other professionals. She is also a brainspotting practitioner. She is the author of the book, Determined for More, based on her own 25 year marriage journey, available on Amazon.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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This week Amie sits down with Susan Child of Sole Connections Academy to explore foot zoning, holistic wellness, body awareness, self-trust, boundaries, and healing after betrayal.Susan explains her approach to foot zoning and shares what she has observed while working with women navigating experiences including sexual abuse and divorce. The conversation then expands into a deeper exploration of what it means to reconnect with your body after difficult or traumatic experiences.We talk about:Betrayal trauma and disconnection from the bodyFoot zoning and holistic wellnessSelf-trust and learning to listen to your body againNutrition and other wellness practicesConnect with Susan: Sole Connections Academy, Instagram and Facebook: @soleconnectionsacademy We'd love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Learn more about our Bali retreat for women happening in April 2027!
In this episode of the Choosing Different mini-series, Hali is joined by her daughters, Mataia and Morgan, for an honest conversation about betrayal trauma's impact on the whole family — not just the marriage. Hali reflects on what she believed she was doing right at the time (staying reassuring, keeping hard details between the adults) and what she's since learned she missed about how her daughters were actually experiencing it. Mataia and Morgan share what that season of family trauma recovery looked like from where they were standing as kids, and how it's shaping the choices they make now as young moms of their own.Together they talk about the protective patterns that form in the middle of survival mode, why validating both the parent's experience and the child's experience matters for real healing, and what it looks like to break old patterns on purpose instead of by accident. The episode closes with an invitation to the Becoming Together mother/daughter retreat.Mentioned in this episode: If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th.Get support for your children: Witnessed Group Coaching program led by Morgan Ellsworth. Connect with Morgan Ellsworth: morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.comInstagram: @healing.betrayed.families Podcast: Healing Betrayed FamiliesEnjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
If the betrayal in your relationship happened years ago — and life moved forward, but the deepest layers of healing never actually happened — this episode is for you.Maybe the resources weren't available at the time. Maybe neither of you had the language for what betrayal trauma actually is. Maybe you got through the facts but never did the deeper grief work. Whatever the reason, when real repair gets skipped, the pain doesn't disappear — it waits.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Listen to Part 1 HERE. This week, we continue exploring the journey from victimhood toward healing, reclaiming, and becoming the chooser. After betrayal trauma, it can be difficult to trust anyone—including yourself. You may question your intuition, your decisions, your body, your memories, and even your ability to know what is healthy.In this episode, we explore the Reclaimer and Chooser stages, including:Discovering what healthy means for youSeparating yourself from your trauma, thoughts, body, and emotionsLearning to trust yourself and have your own backRecognizing that you have optionsCreating a future that isn't dictated by your traumaYou are not your trauma. You can reclaim. You can choose. You can define what healthy looks like for you.We'd love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Learn more about our Bali intensive for women happening in April 2027!
When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as anger, or dismissed entirely. In this episode, Dr. Laney Knowlton joins us to look honestly at what betrayal trauma looks like for men.We talk about the support gap, look at the cultural messages men carry, and how those make healing challenging.Most importantly, we talk about what actually helps and what genuine healing looks like whether a man chooses to stay or leave. Dr. Laney Knowlton is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor and clinical sexologist with a PhD in Clinical Sexology. She maintains a private practice, Knowlton Counseling with physical offices in TX and UT and is licensed across more than a dozen states. She specializes in sexual abuse, betrayal, and problematic sexual behavior. Dr. Knowlton is the author of Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors (Routledge, 2025) and the developer of the Connected Recovery® framework. She currently serves as President of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH). KnowltonCounseling.com & ConnectedRecoveryTraining.comLaney@KnowltonCounseling.comlinktr.ee/connectedrecoveryFree Handouts Most Recent BookSASH podcast Other Resources in this Episode: Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionHelping Couples Heal From Infidelity and Find Love AgainThe Intimacy PyramidThe Betrayal ShrinkEnjoyed This Episode?Here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Betrayal can leave you feeling powerless.You may stop trusting your partner. You may stop trusting yourself. You may wonder what's wrong with you, blame yourself for what happened, or believe that things will never get better.But there is a difference between being victimized and remaining stuck in victimhood.You'll learn:How self-blame and shame can keep you feeling powerlessWhy “if they would just change” gives away your agencyHow boundaries can help you reclaim your powerHow to recognize your own growth, even when you don't feel healed yetWe'd love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!INTENSIVES COMING UP!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Learn more about our Bali intensive for women happening in April 2027!
You can say all the right words and still leave your partner feeling completely unsafe.If you're the partner who caused harm, that may be the most frustrating thing you've encountered in recovery — you apologized, you said "I understand," you told her you're here, and somehow it still landed wrong. In this episode, Hali explains why your partner isn't responding to your words. She's responding to your body — to whether your presence feels safe or braced, whether you're actually with her or just managing her. That's embodied empathy.Hali walks through what embodied empathy actually is and why a traumatized nervous system is exquisitely tuned to detect the mismatch between what you say and the state you're actually in. Then she lays out two concrete lists: the behaviors that model embodied empathy and build safety (staying regulated and present when she's activated, accountability without minimizing, letting her be angry without firing back, transparency over time), and the behaviors that get in the way (defensiveness, minimizing, blame-shifting, gaslighting, withdrawal, empty promises).Drawing on the response patterns in the book Courageous Love alongside a somatic, nervous-system lens, this episode gives both partners a clear, behavior-level map of what genuine presence after betrayal actually looks like.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Can recovery itself become a form of avoidance?This week, Alana Gordon explores a pattern that can quietly interfere with healing from compulsive sexual behavior and betrayal: using individual recovery work to avoid relational repair—or using couples work to avoid personal accountability.Listen in to learn how to avoid these pitfalls and gauge if your recovery work is actually healing you and your relationship.Journaling prompts for the person who acted outside their values: Am I asking for space to regulate or to escape accountability? How is my individual work helping me become more relationally available? Am I initiating repair or am I requiring my partner to still pursue me? Can I hear my partner's experience without explaining my own first? What changes should my partner realistically expect to see from me, and am I doing that?Journaling prompts for the injured partner: Is this space creating stability or prolonged uncertainty? Is my partner returning when they say they will? Are they initiating the repair? Am I seeing greater empathy, accountability, and engagement? Is the individual work changing behavior or are they only explaining it? What do I need to do in order to remain emotionally safe? LAST CHANCE TO REGISTER!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here.
What happens when a child no longer has to convince their parent that their pain was real?In this episode of Choosing Different Mini Series, Hali sits down with her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, for a short, unscripted conversation about one of the most healing things a parent can offer: belief. They talk about the three quiet ways parents unintentionally dismiss a child's experience - through differing memories, good intentions, and simple unawareness - and why none of those things make a child's pain any less real.Mentioned in this episode: If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th.Join us: FREE Parenting Through the Wreckage Webinar on Wednesday, August 12, 2026 at 5pm PacificGet support for your children: Witnessed Group Coaching program led by Morgan Ellsworth. Connect with Morgan Ellsworth: morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.comInstagram: @healing.betrayed.families Podcast: Healing Betrayed FamiliesEnjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review — Reviews help other people in the betrayal trauma community find this podcast when they need it most. It only takes a minute and means the world.
What does a truly healthy relationship look like after infidelity and betrayal — and is it even possible to get there? In this episode, Hali sits down with Dr. Randi Gray, Licensed Professional Counselor and PhD in Psychology, to break down the real, practical elements of healthy relationships in betrayal recovery.Dr. Gray has spent 12 years specializing in pornography and sex addiction and betrayal trauma, and in this conversation she gets specific — no vague advice, no platitudes. If you've been told to "set boundaries" or "communicate your needs" but never really understood what that looks like in real life after betrayal, this episode is for you.Learn more about Dr. Randi Gray: Dr. Gray is the owner of Randi Gray Counseling where she works as a counselor and as a board approved clinical supervisor. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Board Certified Counselor. She has a Master's Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and her doctorate degree is a PhD in Psychology with an emphasis on cognition and instruction. She is EMDR trained and she is trained in Somatic Experiencing. She specializes in working with trauma, betrayal trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, and improving overall self-esteem and wellbeing. She has facilitated women's trauma recovery groups and addiction recovery, groups. Website randigraycounseling.comAnd booksbydrgray.comEmail randigraycounseling@gmail.comPhone: 480 553-7743Instagram: @randigray_counselingFacebook: Randi Gray CounselingTikTok: @randigraycounselingEnjoyed This Episode?⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review — Reviews help other people in the betrayal trauma community find this podcast when they need it most. It only takes a minute and means the world.
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Betrayal doesn't just break trust—it can completely reshape how you experience rejection.In this conversation, Amie and Alana unpack why rejection sensitivity becomes so intense after betrayal trauma, how comparison steals peace, and why rebuilding self-trust is one of the most important parts of healing.You'll learn:Why betrayal attacks your sense of worthHow rejection becomes stored in the nervous systemHow to rebuild self-trust after betrayalWhy healing isn't about avoiding rejection—but refusing to abandon yourselfChapters03:08 Personal Story of Shattered Self-Worth10:33 Rejection Before and After Discovery13:46 Comparison and Hypervigilance18:07 Self-Objectification25:40 Rebuilding Self-Trust and SafetyWe'd love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!Register Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here.
This is the first episode of the Choosing Different mini-series of conversations between Hali and her two adult daughters, who were both teenagers when their family was in the thick of betrayal and dysfunction. Instead of letting that experience pull them apart, they've been doing the slow, unglamorous work of healing, learning each other again, and trying to break some of the generational patterns they grew up with. They are upfront that they don't have it all figured out. This isn't a highlight reel - it's a real, sometimes messy conversation, shared in case it helps open a door in your own family. In this episode, they talk about what it means to relate to each other as two adults instead of parent and child, how to choose curiosity over criticism, navigating marriage and relationships as an adult child, supporting each other's dreams, showing up emotionally, and, at the heart of it, what healthy repair after a rupture actually looks like. If this conversation resonated with you, we'd love for you to join us in person. We're hosting a Becoming Together Mother Daughter Retreat in Sedona, AZ, September 8–12. Join Us: Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat Enjoyed This Episode?⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review — Reviews help other people in the betrayal trauma community find this podcast when they need it most. It only takes a minute and means the world.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety.Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect. Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate these upcoming experiences: Reclaimed Men's Parts Work Intensive to heal, integrate, and live wholeheartedly after problematic sexual behavior held August 18-21st. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive takes place October 6-9th in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Awaken the Man Within Men's Somatic Healing Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey — and are ready to go deeper. This takes place November 8-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.
You finally know the truth. So why do you feel worse?If you're the betrayed partner and your fear, anger, and grief have grown rather than shrunk since disclosure, the first thing Hali wants you to hear is that there's nothing wrong with you. In this solo episode, Hali explains why it's common for trauma symptoms to temporarily increase after the truth comes out — and why the usual advice to "just talk about your triggers" doesn't go far enough.From there, Hali reframes the real work for the partner who caused harm: moving into embodied empathy, managing their own triggers when their partner is activated, and learning to experience a trigger as an opportunity to rebuild trust rather than a criticism or an attack. And she anchors all of it to the foundation underneath: real, ongoing movement on making amends, because no amount of skillful trigger-handling works without changed behavior beneath it.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Rejection sensitivity can quietly shape addiction, relationships, and recovery.In this episode, we discuss why individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behavior often experience intense fear of rejection—not as an excuse for harmful choices, but as an invitation to deeper healing.You'll learn:Why rejection sensitivity developsHow shame reinforces addictive cyclesWhy recovery requires emotional resilienceThe difference between accountability and identityPractical ways to build emotional capacity and secure attachmentHealing isn't about becoming rejection-proof—it's about learning to experience discomfort without escaping it.Chapters02:48 Rejection as a Symptom 04:03 Childhood Roots07:32 Neurodivergence09:15 Addiction as Escape11:35 Secrecy and Shame Loop15:58 Identity vs Behavior19:13 Emotional Immaturity22:49 How to Heal RejectionWe'd love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!Register Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here.
When someone betrays a partner and then starts doing "the work," the person who was hurt is left with an exhausting question: is this real, or is he just saying the right things? In this episode, host Hali Roderick is joined by psychologist Dr. Yosi Amram, known for his work on spiritual intelligence, to explore one of the most painful uncertainties in betrayal recovery — the difference between a partner who has genuinely changed and one who is simply performing accountability.Whether you're rebuilding trust, questioning whether your partner's growth is real, or doing your own accountability work, this conversation offers a deeper lens on what authentic change actually looks like.Learn more about Dr. Yosi Amram: Yosi Amram, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, a CEO leadership coach, a couple's relationship therapist, a best-selling, award-winning author, and a pioneering researcher in the field of spiritual intelligence. A former founder and CEO who led two companies through IPOs, Yosi has coached over 100 CEOs, and works with couples to cultivate passionate conscious relationships that grow and deepen their capacity for love. Yosi is a regular contributor to Psychology Today and the founder of several nonprofits including Engendering-Love.org and AwakeningSI.org.YosiAmram.netYosiAmram.comSI-Relationship.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/yosiamram/TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qE-Xlt6_usAEnjoyed This Episode?Here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Writing an impact letter can feel overwhelming, emotional, and even re-traumatizing.So why do it?Amie and Alana unpack the purpose behind this powerful recovery tool, explain how it fits into therapeutic disclosure, and discuss why the greatest healing often comes from validating your own experience—not trying to convince your partner to understand.Chapters02:17 Where It Fits in Disclosure03:41 Timing and Personalization07:19 Grief and Ongoing Healing09:03 Your Story and Shared Grief16:44 Writing Makes It Real18:10 Stop Minimizing20:55 Write For You, Not ThemWe'd love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!Register Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here.
An apology is a moment. Making amends is a process - and confusing the two is one of the most common places betrayal recovery gets stuck.In this solo episode, Hali breaks down the real difference between apologizing and making amends after infidelity and betrayal. An apology expresses remorse, and it often marks where repair begins, but it was never built to carry the full weight of what betrayal breaks. Making amends is something else entirely: a commitment to make things right and to live differently, demonstrated through consistent, trustworthy action over time.Hali walks through what making amends actually looks like in practice: working with a professional to build a recovery plan you can sustain, setting goals that reshape how you live, respecting your partner's boundaries, naming the values you're committing to, and developing genuine empathy for the impact of your choices. She also names the foundation the whole process depends on: staying in integrity, because a single new breach can derail months of rebuilt trust.This episode is for you if:You're the partner who caused harm and you've wondered why your apology didn't land the way you hoped — or you want to understand what real repair requires of you.You're the betrayed partner and "sorry" hasn't felt like enough — and you want language for why you were never asking for too much.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
This is Derek Miller, Speaking on Business. Larson and Company is one of the largest CPA firms in Utah, with offices in Salt Lake City, Spanish Fork and Moab. They have earned multiple recognitions and continue to rank among the fastest-growing firms in the country. Partner Kyle Robbins, joins us with more. Kyle Robbins: Larson was founded in 1975, and for 50 years we've grown alongside Utah businesses. We started with a focus on Utah's insurance industry and remain nationally ranked as one of the largest auditors of insurance companies in the country. Over time, that expertise has expanded into key industries like manufacturing, real estate, construction, dealerships and nonprofits with services ranging from audit and tax to accounting and advisory support. We know the Utah business landscape because we've been part of it for half a century, helping organizations navigate growth and change along the way. At Larson, we aim to be true partners with our clients, built on a culture of continuous improvement and year-round support. We focus on relationships, responsiveness and practical solutions that help you make confident decisions. And with a 92 percent employee retention rate, our clients get to work with the same team year after year, saving them both time and money. Derek Miller: By helping businesses stay strong, adaptable and prepared for growth, Larson and Company continues to play an important role in Utah's economy and business community. To learn more about their services and history, visit Larson.com. I'm Derek Miller, with the Salt Lake Chamber, Speaking on Business. Originally aired: 7/15/26
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It's one of the most common—and heartbreaking—questions after betrayal trauma.This week Amie and Alana discuss what healing actually looks like after betrayal trauma, why recovery often feels painfully slow, and the practices that truly help. They explore support groups, self-compassion, psychoeducation, nervous system healing, somatic work, family-of-origin healing, and the obstacles that can quietly keep us stuck.Most importantly, this episode offers hope. Even if you can't see it today, healing is possible. If you're in the middle of the darkness, keep listening.Chapters01:14 Will I Ever Heal?2:00 Personal Story05:01 Darkness to Sunrise Metaphor07:47 Early Stage Healing Tools11:03 Real Self-Care Explained16:51 Psychoeducation and Roadmap21:24 What Hinders Healing25:14 Advanced Somatic Work32:15 There is HopeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.
There's a dynamic underneath a lot of disconnected relationships that almost nobody names — and when it collapses, it can quietly erode intimacy. In this episode, I'm joined by Tyler Patrick, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and co-host of the Therapy Brothers podcast, to talk about masculine and feminine energy as a relational dynamic — what it is, how it gets out of balance, and what it takes to restore it after infidelity.Whether you're the betrayed partner who had to harden to survive, or the partner who caused harm and is trying to show up differently, this conversation offers a grounded, non-shaming way to understand what may be happening beneath the surface — and a path toward rebuilding something stronger than what was there before.About today's guest: Tyler Patrick is a licensed marriage and family therapist, speaker, and co-host of the Therapy Brothers podcast. Alongside his brother Brannon Patrick, Tyler helps individuals and couples navigate addiction recovery, betrayal trauma, relationship healing, and emotional wellness through honest, compassionate conversations. With more than 20 years of experience in the mental health field, he's known for his direct, relatable approach and passion for helping people rebuild trust, connection, and wholehearted living.Connect with Tyler: https://therapybrothers.org/choosing-to-stayemail: connect@therapybrothers.orgphone number: (435) 227-5272Facebook: /Therapy.BrosInstagram: @Therapy.BrothersYoutube: /@Therapy.BrothersTherapy Brothers Podcast: TherapyBrothers.orgReclaimed Heart Journey: https://join.reclaimyourheart.orgRising Son | Men's Retreat: https://risingson.orgEnjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Why does accountability feel so difficult after betrayal?For many betrayed partners, the answer seems obvious: if someone truly understood the pain they caused, they would simply own it.But healing is often more complicated.This week Alana explores why accountability can feel emotionally threatening for those who have betrayed a partner—not as an excuse, but as a pathway toward understanding the barriers that prevent true repair.You'll learn:The role shame plays in defensivenessHow nervous system responses can block empathyWhy self-hatred isn't accountabilityWhat betrayed partners should watch for when accountability never comesIf you're navigating betrayal trauma, compulsive sexual behavior recovery, or rebuilding trust after infidelity, this episode offers practical insights grounded in trauma-informed care.Chapters01:40 Why Accountability Feels Threatening03:22 Identity Death and Safety11:11 Grieving the False Self13:20 Mistakes Mean Rejection18:44 Emotional Capacity for Repair25:07 When Accountability is Missing28:25 How Betrayers Build AccountabilityRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.
BYU football lands a commitment from four-star EDGE rusher Uhila Wolfgramm out of Maple Mountain High School in Spanish Fork, Utah. Wolfgramm picked BYU over the Oklahoma Sooners, in a tightly contested recruiting battle that went down to the finish line. KSL Sports BYU Insider Mitch Harper shared his thoughts on BYU landing Wolfgramm and what it means for the Cougars 2027 recruiting class. Who's next? There are some key decisions coming up. When it comes to recruiting, everyone is keeping tabs on 2027, but don't sleep on the future signal-callers. Mitch caught up with American Fork High QB Jake Matsen, a class of 2029 prospect, to discuss his recruitment. Then, finally, EA Sports College Football 27 is out. Mitch shares the 10 highest-rated BYU players over the last 25 years in the game. Subscribe to the Cougar Tracks Podcast to stay up-to-date with all the daily episodes. Cougar Tracks is on YouTube and X every weekday at Noon (MT), and KSL NewsRadio at 6:30 p.m. (MT). Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cougar-tracks/id1146971609 YouTube Podcast: https://kslsports.com/category/podcast_results/?sid=2035&n=Cougar%20Tracks Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2NCF1KecDsE2rB1zMuHhUh Download the KSL Sports app Google: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bonneville.kslsports&hl=en_US iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ksl-sports/id143593 Mitch Harper is a BYU Insider for KSLsports.com and hosts the Cougar Tracks Podcast daily on KSL Sports YouTube and KSL NewsRadio (SUBSCRIBE). Harper also co-hosts Cougar Sports Saturday (12–3 p.m.) on KSL NewsRadio. Follow Mitch’s coverage of BYU athletics in the Big 12 Conference on X (formerly Twitter) and Instagram: @Mitch_Harper. Want more coverage of BYU sports? Take us with you wherever you go. Download the new and improved KSL Sports app from Utah’s sports leader. Allows you to stream live radio and video, keeping you up-to-date on all your favorite teams.
One of the biggest obstacles to healing after betrayal isn't a lack of love — it's shame. When the person in recovery floods with shame, they lose the ability to truly listen, hold space, or take accountability. And without that, trust cannot rebuild.In this episode, Hali sits down with Jacob Fletcher, a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT), to talk about what real relational healing requires — and why slowing down is often the fastest path forward.Whether you're the partner trying to understand why accountability feels so inconsistent, or the person in recovery trying to figure out how to actually show up — this episode gives you a real, honest look at the inner work required on both sides.Connect with Jacob Fletcher: Jacob Fletcher is a licensed mental health counselor and the founder of Pure Wellness Counseling where he specializes in helping individuals navigate trauma, addiction, and personal growth. He is a CSAT therapist and uses various modalities to help his clients find healing. You can also connect with him for coaching at Choose Recovery Services. Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are 3 ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Many people spend years reading books, listening to podcasts, attending therapy, and understanding addiction. Yet they still feel stuck.This week Luke and Alana explain why information alone never creates transformation—and what actually does.You'll learn:Why insight feels good but doesn't change behaviorThe uncomfortable “growth zone”How emotional awareness rewires recoveryWhy habits matter more than motivationHow integration creates lasting healingChapters01:35 The Recovery Expert Trap02:25 Swimming Lessons05:37 Insight vs Practice07:24 Repetition11:15 Integration15:13 Systems18:46 Compassion As You Try to ChangeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.
After betrayal, one of the most exhausting patterns couples hit is what I call the Groundhog Day of disclosure: the betrayed partner asking the same questions again and again, while the partner who caused the harm feels like nothing they say is ever enough. In this episode, we unpack what's actually happening underneath that loop — why the repeated question isn't an interrogation but a nervous system trying to build a floor under itself — and how both partners can survive it without drowning.We talk about:Why answering "logically" doesn't create safety after betrayalHow consistency and tone build trust at a body levelThe despair of "nothing is ever enough" — and the real risk it createsPractical tools for both partners, plus a way to face the loop as a teamEnjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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Why does an emotionally shut down man struggle to change—even when he genuinely wants to?In this follow-up episode, Luke and Alana respond to listener questions about emotional shutdown, nervous system healing, and what recovery actually looks like for men who have spent years disconnecting from their emotions.***Listen to Part 1 HERE.***Together they explore:Why insight alone doesn't create changeWhat emotional shutdown is really protectingHow attachment wounds shape adult relationshipsWhy some men become more emotional after starting recoveryWhat somatic work actually isHow nervous system healing creates lasting transformationWhat emotional reconnection looks like in real lifeChapters01:23 Why Insight Isn't Enough07:40 What Shutdown Protects11:50 Control and Safety16:20 Predictability Over Vulnerability20:10 Reconnecting Emotionally28:53 Somatic Work Explained30:14 Healing Takes TimeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.
When a marriage is in crisis, the conversation almost always centers on the couple. But what about the children sitting in the middle of it?In this episode, certified family law specialist and founder of Bloom Family Law, Katie Padilla, joins us for an honest conversation about what kids actually experience when families fracture — and what parents can do to minimize the damage, whether they choose to stay or leave.If you are a parent in the middle of a family crisis, this episode is for you.About Katie Padiilla: Katie Padilla is a Certified Family Law Specialist, founder of Bloom Family Law. She is a collaboratively trained attorney, a certified coach, and a meditation teacher who approaches every client as a whole person navigating one of the most profound transitions of their life. At Bloom Family Law, Katie has built a practice that blends rigorous legal expertise with trauma-informed coaching, emotional intelligence, and a deep commitment to keeping families out of unnecessary conflict. Her work extends to foster youth and parents, and her clients consistently describe leaving her not just with resolved cases, but with a renewed sense of who they are and what they are capable of.Connect with Katie Padilla: bloomlegalcoach.comhello@bloomlegalcoach.comIG: BloomfamilylawEnjoyed This Episode?Here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
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What does an emotionally shut down man actually look like?Spoiler:Usually not what people think.In this powerful conversation, Luke and Alana explore the hidden reality of emotional shutdown in men—especially the high-performing, successful men who appear “fine” on the outside but are deeply disconnected on the inside.From avoidant attachment to compulsive behavior, emotional numbness, and relational loneliness, this episode helps both men and betrayed partners understand what's really happening beneath the surface.Healing is possible. Deeper connection is possible.But first—you have to feel.Chapters01:48 What Being Emotionally Shut Down Looks Like04:01 High Performing Shut down09:13 Inside the Shutdown12:39 Signs and Logic16:54 Learning Emotional Safety19:35 Tears and the Body22:27 Busy vs Stillness24:14 Chasing Intensity30:00 Numbness and Dissociation38:35 Individuation and ReconnectionRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.
If you've been checking your partner's location for the fifth time in an hour - or waiting for your spouse to hand you a roadmap to your own recovery - this episode is for you.The parent-child dynamic is one of the most common and least talked about patterns that forms after betrayal. It makes complete sense that it develops. And staying in it will cost you both.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review — Reviews help other people in the betrayal trauma community find this podcast when they need it most. It only takes a minute and means the world.
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What if you're not healing wrong?After betrayal, many people compare their recovery journey to others and wonder if they're making the right decisions. Whether it's disclosure, separation, therapy, support groups, or boundaries, it's easy to get caught in "should" thinking.In this episode, Alana discusses why healing isn't one-size-fits-all and how learning to trust your own intuition can become one of the most important parts of recovery.You'll learn:Why "should" often signals shameHow comparison sabotages healingThe difference between guidance and personal truthWhy you don't need permission to trust yourselfHow to strengthen self-trust after betrayal traumaChapters01:10 The Shame Behind Should04:53 You're the Expert on You10:48 Choosing Your Own Path13:38 Building Self-Trust18:57 Takeaways on ShouldsRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***
Recovering from the events at Spanish Fork (depicted in the short story Route 666) Jazzbeaux sets off to take revenge against Elder Seth
What happens when ADHD and betrayal trauma collide in the same family? This episode is one of the most important conversations we've had on the podcast — and it's one that doesn't get talked about enough in the recovery space.Hali Roderick, CPC, ACC, sits down with two incredible therapists to unpack how ADHD shows up across every part of the betrayal trauma family system — from the person with problematic sexual behaviors, to the betrayed partner, to the children caught in the middle.Monifa Ellis-Addie, LMFT, CSAT, CCSP Monifa is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in anxiety and intimacy issues that spawn from incongruences in sexuality. Her work supports individuals navigating the complex process of healing after sexual betrayal. Website: Banyon Therapy Group Instagram: @intimateanswers Podcast: Hope & Healing ChatsMorgan Ellsworth, LAMFT, CCSP Morgan is a therapist who specializes in supporting individuals navigating the impact of betrayal trauma within family systems. She is especially passionate about helping teen and adult children process the complexities of betrayal in the family system, while also supporting parents as they learn how to best care for and support their children through the healing process. Website: Ellsworth Family Therapy Instagram: @healing.betrayed.families Podcast: Healing Betrayed FamiliesEnjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review
Notas sobre el programa:Este texto breve en espanol presentamos una exploración sobre el coyote de Baja California, describiéndolo como uno de los sobrevivientes más inteligentes y malentendidos del ecosistema desértico. El autor destaca la asombrosa capacidad de adaptación de esta especie, la cual puede cazar en el desierto o buscar alimento en las costas del Mar de Cortés con la misma eficacia. A diferencia de las percepciones negativas comunes, se revela que estos caninos poseen una estructura familiar monógama y vínculos emocionales sorprendentemente fuertes entre las parejas. La narrativa también explica cómo los intentos humanos por erradicarlos han fracasado, provocando en cambio una respuesta reproductiva compensatoria que ha expandido su presencia por todo el continente. En última instancia, se invita al lector a ver al coyote no como una amenaza, sino como un vecino resiliente que ha habitado la península desde mucho antes del desarrollo humano.
Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
You've done therapy. Communication is improving. The triggers aren't as constant anymore. So why does emotional connection still feel difficult?This week, Alana explores the hidden layers of betrayal trauma that continue impacting intimacy long after recovery begins. From nervous system hypervigilance to protector parts, grief, shame, and emotional exhaustion, this conversation explains why closeness can still feel unsafe — even when both partners are trying.This episode offers compassionate insight for betrayed partners and couples working toward deeper relational healing after betrayal.Chapters01:53 Betrayal and the Nervous System06:32 Functional vs Emotional Intimacy12:14 Protector Parts18:38 Shared Grief21:41 Common Blocks To Going Deep28:30 Tools That Build Connection34:39 Slow Steps Toward SafetyIf you want to connect deeper with your partner, consider joining us for our Rise and Renew couples retreat in Costa Rica this summer. If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***
One of the most confusing parts of healing after betrayal is that couples can do “all the right things” and still feel emotionally disconnected.In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore why emotional connection after betrayal trauma can feel so complicated—even when healing is happening.We also share about our upcoming Rise & Renew Couples Retreat in Costa Rica - a healing and connection-focused experience designed for couples who want to step away from the stress, noise, and survival mode of everyday life to intentionally reconnect emotionally, relationally, and spiritually.This conversation offers compassionate insight for couples navigating betrayal recovery, emotional disconnection, trust rebuilding, intimacy struggles, and relationship healing after infidelity.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingHere are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety.Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect. Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.The Rise and Renew Couples Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), complete this interest list for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th.The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.
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Even after trust is rebuilt, many couples still struggle to feel deeply connected.In this episode, Alana and Hali, Choose Recovery Services coach, explore the hidden barriers to intimacy after betrayal trauma — including nervous system dysregulation, vulnerability fears, protector parts, and power dynamics in recovery.You'll learn:What true emotional safety looks likeWhy conflict isn't always the problemHow co-regulation strengthens intimacyThe next stage of healing after stabilizationIf you want to connect deeper with your partner, consider joining us for our Rise and Renew couples retreat in Costa Rica this summer. If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!Register Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***
What does it look like when a mother and daughter do the healing work together? In this special episode, I'm joined by my daughters to pull back the curtain on the Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat, an intimate gathering just outside Sedona, Arizona, designed for moms and daughters who are both actively doing their personal growth work and ready to bring it into their relationship.We talk about the heart behind this retreat, who it's truly for (and who it isn't), what makes it different from a conference or a girls' trip, and why the stunning off-the-grid location near Sedona, AZ is part of the healing itself. Plus, my girls weigh in on all of it. If you're a mother or daughter who feels the pull to go deeper in your relationship while honoring your own becoming — this episode is for you.If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), complete this interest list for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters near Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th.Check out Mataia's Podcast: Good Day with TayCheck out Morgan's Podcast: Healing Betrayed FamiliesConnect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety.Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect. Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveThe Rise and Renew Couples Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your spouse, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. The Reclaimed Intensive for Men is a transformative 4-day men's intensive designed for those healing from problematic sexual behaviors who are ready to go beyond sobriety and into deeper emotional healing. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic work, experiential exercises, and authentic group connection, participants gain tools to better understand their inner world, release shame, strengthen emotional regulation, and reconnect with their most authentic self.The Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for women takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Awakening the Man Within Somatic Healing Intensive for men is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey and are ready to go deeper. This intensive is for men who no longer want to simply talk the talk of recovery, but are ready to embody it — men who are willing to step into the somatic and energetic work that creates real, lasting change.Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.
After infidelity or betrayal, even simple conversations can feel loaded, tense, or unsafe.You may feel like:You're trying to connect… but it keeps going wrongYour partner misunderstands youEvery conversation turns into conflictIn this episode, we explore the concept of mistranslation after betrayal—how both partners can be reaching for connection but experiencing each other as a threat due to nervous system activation.This episode takes a trauma-informed approach, emphasizing that emotional safety and recovery must come first before relational repair can begin.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety.Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect. Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), complete this interest list for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th.Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.
Current UGA Senior Player of the Year Darrin Overson wins the Senior Stroke Play Championship at The Oaks at Spanish Fork with a playoff victory over Utah Tech Head Coach Brad Sutterfield. Randy Hicken wins the Super Senior divisions after a couple recent close calls. Overson and Hicken joins the pod. Sponsored by Goldenwest Credit Union.
After betrayal, boundaries become one of the most talked about — and most misunderstood — parts of healing. Many couples find themselves stuck in painful cycles where boundaries meant to create safety instead lead to more conflict, defensiveness, and distance.In this episode, we explore the difference between boundaries that heal and boundaries that punish, and why that distinction matters for couples trying to rebuild trust after betrayal.When boundaries become punitive, relationships often shift into an unhealthy parent/child dynamic — where one partner becomes the enforcer and the other becomes the one trying not to get in trouble. This dynamic can increase resentment, defensiveness, and emotional distance, making healing more difficult.Instead, we'll talk about how healthy boundaries create safety, predictability, and nervous system regulation, helping couples move from power struggles into partnership.This episode is designed for both partners — whether you were betrayed or you're working to rebuild trust — and offers a compassionate, trauma-informed approach to boundaries that support real healing.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time.Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.
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Why does joy feel dangerous after betrayal?If you find yourself bracing for something bad—even in your happiest moments—this episode will help you understand why.We're diving into:Hypervigilance and trauma survival patternsThe fear of being blindsided againWhy your brain clings to predictabilityThe hidden cost of “waiting for the shoe to drop”How to slowly rebuild safety and emotional freedomChapters00:37 Hypervigilance After Betrayal03:20 Survival Mode Explained06:41 Choosing Joy Again11:45 Wiggle Out Slowly17:07 Brain Versus Soul18:52 The Cost of VigilanceRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***
Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions in betrayal trauma — but still shapes every interaction, every conversation, and every attempt at repair.In this powerful conversation, I'm joined by Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCSP to unpack what anger actually is, what it's protecting, and why nervous system regulation is the key to responding rather than reacting.Because anger isn't the problem. It's the nervous system underneath it that determines what happens next.Matt is the Executive Clinical Director of Begin Again Institute, a treatment center that offers Trauma Based Intensives for Men seeking recovery from porn and sex addiction. He has served more than 1,500 families since 2019. Matt's expertise is in men's addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma, couple's recovery and the spiritual aspects of recovery. Matt holds a Master's degree in Couples and Family Counseling and is credentialed as Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). If you would like to connect with Matt: beginagaininstitute.com matt.wenger@bai.care https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-wenger-19b883294/Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time.Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.
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4/21/26 - For the ParentWhen betrayal enters a family, children often carry invisible pain. This week Luke Gordon joins Amie and Alana to talk about his personal experience with how to repair after betrayal.Listen in as he shares what his experience was like trying to reconnect with his children and rebuild trust.In this episode, we break down:Why kids react strongly (and sometimes unexpectedly)How betrayal trauma affects attachment and trustWhat parents can do to rebuild safety and connectionThe difference between supporting vs. overwhelming your childIf you want to learn more about helping children and teens heal after betrayal, listen to Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. Tune in to Morgan Ellsworth's podcast: Healing Betrayed FamiliesChapters01:28 Hannah's Anger and Boundaries05:10 Teens and Ongoing Impact08:25 Attunement and Vulnerability17:44 Make It About the Kids23:18 Radical Transparency30:02 Validate Their Reality39:19 Grace for ParentsRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nima Rahmany to unpack the push-pull dynamic that so many couples experience after betrayal or relational trauma.He explains how our nervous system shifts between states like fight-or-flight, shutdown, and connection—and how real healing requires learning to regulate those states rather than just understanding the dynamics intellectually.Dr. Nima Rahmany is a nervous system and trauma specialist helping individuals heal attachment wounds and become trigger-proof in love and leadership. Formerly a chiropractor, he now guides clients through somatic and shadow integration to break free from toxic patterns and self-abandonment. Dr. Nima offers several programs designed to support this process, including his Attachment Style Quiz and the Trigger Proof Experience, a monthly program focused on emotional regulation and relationship transformation.If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might need this conversation.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time.Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Later this year, the Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25 - 28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.
Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Betrayal trauma doesn't just affect couples—it impacts children in ways many families don't fully understand. This week we welcome Morgan Ellsworth, a fellow Choose Recovery Services coach and expert in helping children, teens, and families find clarity and hope after betrayal.In Part 3 of this series, we explore:The emotional world of teens navigating betrayalWhy kids create their own narratives (and often blame themselves)How to give your children clarity without overwhelming themWhat healthy emotional support actually looks likeIf you're a parent trying to protect your kids while healing yourself, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools.Listen to Part 1 and Part 2.Connect with Morgan Ellsworth: Healing Betrayed Families podcastChapters1:12 Meet Morgan Ellsworth10:12 Kids Mirror Trauma Responses12:31 Giving Teens Language16:05 Communication26:19 Validating Kids' Emotions31:35 Kids Process Reality DifferentlyRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***
Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
“I thought it was my fault.”In this powerful episode, Hannah Gordon, Alana's daughter, shares what it's like to grow up in a home impacted by betrayal trauma—and how that experience shaped her identity, relationships, and healing journey.From silent shame to emotional clarity, this conversation highlights:The reality of how kids internalize family painThe importance of giving children space to feelWhy healing doesn't mean “feeling better” right away—but feeling lighterThis is a must-listen for parents, partners, and anyone navigating the long-term impact of relational trauma.Chapters04:22 Hannah Finding Her Voice06:25 Kids Internalize the Pain13:39 Necessary Hard and Growth19:33 Healing Was Not Linear22:32 Building Self Trust23:40 Therapy and Self Awareness28:44 Advice for Betrayed Partners32:07 Message to Hurting DadsRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***NEW Help Her Heal Support Group for Men starting in April! - Register now to experience the deep healing that can come from learning about empathy, communication, and relational repair.
Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
When betrayal hits a relationship, children often feel the ripple effects—sometimes in ways parents don't immediately recognize. This week we welcome Ellia Marcum (CPC, BSP, CYPFC, CMHC) to help us understand the impact betrayal can have on the whole family system.In this episode, we talk about:The hidden impact of betrayal trauma on kidsWarning signs your teen may need extra supportWhy teens often hide their painHow community and mentorship help children healBuilding emotional safety and resilience in teensConnect with Ellia: Mood Well Coaching Turning to Peace magazine - Use the discount code HEALING10 to get 10% offFree resource: How to Talk to Your Children About Family InfidelityChapters03:48 Teens and Mental Health Shift05:16 Hidden Hurt and Stress Signs09:16 Real Family Examples12:47 What to Watch For16:51 Sibling and Peer Support25:25 Mentors and Asking for Help31:06 Safety in the Body35:58 Boundaries and What's MineRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***NEW Help Her Heal Support Group for Men starting in April! - Register now to experience the deep healing that can come from learning about empathy, communication, and relational repair.
Tucker Boyle has spent over 25 years teaching Seminary and Institute for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, where he has worked closely with youth and young adults to help them deepen their relationship with Jesus Christ and navigate real-life challenges with faith and awareness. He has served as a Young Single Adult bishop and in other leadership callings, giving him a front-line perspective on the complexities individuals face in their spiritual journeys. Tucker is the founder of Harmony Road Retreats, a nonprofit organization that creates compassionate, supportive spaces for individuals wanting to find inner harmony while experiencing shifts in their faith. Through retreats, teaching, and his podcast Call to Harmony, he helps people develop practical tools for navigating spiritual dissonance, regulating the nervous system, and cultivating a more grounded, personal connection with God. He lives in Spanish Fork, Utah, with his wife Katie and their five children. Links https://www.harmonyroadretreats.com/ What I Learned About Leadership When My 2nd Counselor Left the Church ChurchofJesusChrist.org Topics and Questions Watch the video and share your thoughts in the Zion Lab community Transcript available with the video in the Zion Lab community Highlights Tucker talks about navigating faith crises and transitions. The discussion explores the intellectual and physiological aspects of questioning faith, moving beyond “black and white” thinking to find spiritual peace through connection and the heart. 00:02:21 – Tucker’s Faith Crisis Journey 00:03:24 – Understanding Faith Crisis Beyond Doubt 00:04:05 – Importance of Community in Faith Transitions 00:04:32 – Tucker’s Experience in Teaching 00:05:43 – Observations on Youth and Young Adults 00:06:31 – Trusting the Goodness of the Younger Generation 00:07:11 – Defining Faith Crisis and Faith Journey 00:08:28 – Tucker’s Personal Faith Crisis Experience 00:09:01 – The Impact of Seeking Other Perspectives 00:10:37 – The Challenge of Balancing Beliefs 00:11:54 – The Role of the Dissertation Chair 00:12:38 – Navigating Fear and Doubt in Research 00:14:03 – The Dissolution of Testimony Pillars 00:15:17 – The Moment of Psychological Free Fall 00:16:21 – The Question of Wasting Time in Faith 00:17:03 – The Complexity of Belief and Doubt 00:18:03 – The Nature of Testimony Pillars 00:19:21 – The Challenge of Seeing Humanity in Divinity 00:20:58 – The Shift from Certainty to Complexity 00:22:46 – The Experience of Testimony in Church 00:23:40 – The Impact of Testimony on Personal Faith 00:24:53 – The Role of Nervous System in Faith Experiences 00:26:54 – The Importance of Self-Regulation 00:28:24 – The Journey of Healing and Understanding 00:30:31 – The Non-Linear Nature of Faith Journeys 00:31:13 – The Moment of Clarity and Love 00:33:08 – The Temporary Nature of Spiritual Experiences 00:34:24 – The Shift Back to Struggle 00:36:08 – Understanding the Faith Crisis Experience 00:37:41 – The Journey Towards Harmony 00:39:44 – The Role of Heart vs. Mind in Faith 00:41:06 – The Transformation Through Faith Crisis 00:43:22 – Embracing Complexity in Belief 00:45:01 – Gratitude for the Faith Crisis Experience 00:45:34 – Moving Forward with New Perspectives Key Insights The Nature of Faith Crisis: A faith crisis is often experienced as a physical response in the nervous system, where the world feels like it is falling apart, rather than just an intellectual disagreement. The Trap of Certainty: Boyle describes his own journey from a “black and white” mindset of having every answer to encountering complexity that dissolved his traditional “pillars” of testimony. Leading with the Heart: While the mind seeks to label, divide, and categorize, the heart can hold nuance, questions, and imperfections in church history or leadership that the analytical mind cannot. Spiritual Regulation: Finding peace often requires “stepping back” from a stressed mind through practices like meditation, allowing for an openness to God even when specific questions remain unanswered. Trusting in God's Reach: A central theme is the belief that individuals cannot “get out of God’s reach,” and that His love is not dependent on common organizational membership. Leadership Applications Creating Safe Spaces: Leaders can support those in transition by listening without an agenda to “fix” or judge them, ensuring the individual feels safe and “not othered” within the community. Managing Parental and Leader Panic: Tucker advises leaders to trust in the “deep goodness” of the youth and recognize that God’s plan is large enough to encompass their questions and journeys. Focusing on Connection Over Advice: Instead of providing a “five-point plan” or intellectual rebuttals, leaders should focus on maintaining a loving relationship, mirroring the “eternal bond” offered by God and Christ. The award-winning Leading Saints Podcast is one of the top independent Latter-day Saints podcasts as part of nonprofit Leading Saints’ mission to help Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. Find Leadership Tools, Courses, and Community for Latter-day Saint leaders in the Zion Lab community. Learn more and listen to any of the past episodes for free at LeadingSaints.org. Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway, Reyna and Elena Aburto, Liz Wiseman, Stephen M. R. Covey, Benjamin Hardy, Elder Alvin F. 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