Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

188  Developing healthy boundaries is an absolutely essential part of having a great intimate relationship, especially as highly sensitive people.They are a way to take care of yourself, each other, and the relationship.  I teach 3 types of boundaries, and today we are diving into the 2 psychological, or energetic types of boundaries: Protection boundaries, and containment boundaries. (Please listen to episode 51 for Relationship Boundary Basics.)When you use these kinds of boundaries skillfully, you will be able to create more closeness in your relationship, and leave beyond patterns and behaviors that create extra division, conflict,  and animosity.The thing is, many HSPs are a bit weak in these particular boundaries. So let's change that starting now! Dive in to hear what these two types of boundaries are, whether or not you need to strengthen them for yourself, and how and when to implement them. For each type, you will hear 2 or 3 tips to grow stronger boundaries (including two visualizations you can use over and over again), so you can feel less pain, resentment, and regret, and be more skillful at communicating and connecting with your partner. Listen in.SHOW NOTES:CHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED: Stop Taking It So Personally Coaching Privately with Hannah ENJOYING THE PODCAST?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. ALWAYS CHECK THAT YOU ARE STILL RECEIVING DOWNLOADS (if not click arrow in upper righthand corner).Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship-- AND support the podcast for as little as $3) HERE. Hop on Hannah's Email list for more direct support for your relationship right into your inbox.

187    If you want a great–or even just good– marriage, you of course want to feel close and connected to your spouse. When you and your partner have that going for you, it's one of the best feelings ever! But even if you're not feeling that way these days, there is a LOT you can do to receive and deepen the connection and closeness in your relationship (in almost all cases).It can take a little effort and a bit of know-how. So today I want to give you 2 principles to set you up to be able to make that connection the best it can be.Once you understand these, you'll be able to use them in 4 primary categories that are proven to help bring alive much more emotional intimacy and connection in a relationship. So listen in to hear what these main areas, or categories, to focus on are. I'll also give you some examples and ideas for each of the categories, so you can make some shifts TODAY in the quality of connection and love you feel between you and your partner. You'll also hear about the best simple way I know to quickly amp up the closeness and connection in your marriage, and an opportunity to really apply all I share here in this episode for real lasting change in the quality of your marriage. Listen in! SHOW NOTES:Join the live version (the only one this year!) of  CLOSER TO YOUR HUSBAND IN 7 DAYS CHALLENGE for $37, which runs May 4th-10th, 2025. I will be there guiding you through the whole wonderful week of building connection and deeper love between you and your honey--and even answering your very own questions. Learn more and join now here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.

186  In this episode, you will learn about one very powerful, but simple, way to generate emotional connection and strengthen all realms of your relationship.Words and great verbal communication can really add to the closeness you feel in your relationship, but they are absolutely not the only way to deepen connection. In fact, there is plenty of research that shows the power of physical touch to create the kind of closeness and intimacy so many of us want in our relationships. So dive in to hear why cuddling is so important and how its ripple effect can transform your whole relationship, from the amount of affection there is, to how great your sex life is, to the sense of safety and emotional intimacy there is between you and your spouse…You'll also learn how to do it well and what to do if you just don't feel like it. Dive in!SHOW NOTES:Join the live version (the only one this year!) of  CLOSER TO YOUR HUSBAND IN 7 DAYS CHALLENGE for $37, which runs May 4th-10th. I will be there guiding you through the whole wonderful week of building connection and deeper love between you and your honey--and even answering your very own questions. Learn more and enroll now here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.

185  Every marriage needs a foundation of respect to thrive. Yet, in so many marriages, there's a lack of respect. Studies show that men, especially, feel its lack, which tends to take a big toll on the sense of love and connection in that relationship. Why is this so common? Well, for one, it does not always come naturally to be respectful. And, as women, we may sometimes shy away from giving our respect to our spouse because we have a misunderstanding of what it looks like when it comes to intimate relationships. Or we wait for them to be more loving first. So, in this episode, let's:Clear up the misconceptions about what respect looks likeClarify exactly what many women do that leads men to feeling disrespected (it can be less obvious than you may think)Discover why, if your partner is feeling disrespected, it is hurting your whole relationship and making it harder for you to feel loved, too Learn about why it matters so much to cultivate respect–especially if you are married to a man.And get 10 specific things to do and ways to communicate to build more mutual respect– and ultimately love– into your marriage.If you want to feel more loved, and even like a treasured queen, you want to start leading more respect into your relationship. It's like an aphrodisiac to most men–and will create a positive snowball effect in your marriage as you build it into your daily life together. Listen in.SHOW NOTES:Join the live version (the only one this year!) of  CLOSER TO YOUR HUSBAND IN 7 DAYS CHALLENGE for $37, which runs early in May. I will be there guiding you through the whole wonderful week of building connection and deeper love between you and your honey--and even answering your very own questions. Learn more and enroll now here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.

 This episode is one of the -- if not THE-- #1 most essential episode of this podcast, if you want to have a loving, connected lasting marriage. SO important I'm updating and re-publishing it so you can listen again--or for the first time. Most of us limit ourselves (unconsciously, of course!) from feeling as much love as we could in our marriages. We therefore not only miss out on all the love available, but we also miss out on the benefits it brings to our marriages, and to our own selves–of which there are SO many, especially for you as a highly sensitive person. Now, you may want to feel more love, but you may also feel like it's not really up to you. That how much love you feel is contingent on how loving your spouse is. You may tend to only experience feeling love when it's easy to do so, and not so much when your husband does things that make it hard to love.Today, my friend, we begin to change all of this. Because love is always available to you, and you can even love what is hard to love (only if you want to, of course!). But it is a skill you may need to learn, so it can become habit–or simply natural to you.When you make a habit of loving without conditions, only good can come of it. Listen in to this episode to find out what I mean, how it can bring out the gift of your sensitivity, and how you can be empowered to have so much more love in your marriage and life–no matter what your husband is or isn't doing– by no longer withholding love unconsciously, and instead making unrestricted love a regular and deeply nurturing part of your life.SHOW NOTES:ACCESS THE COURSES MENTIONED: Stop Taking It So Personally Closer To Your Husband in 7 DaysENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.

183   This episode is for everyone in an intimate relationship —especially if reactivity is ever an issue, or if you ever find yourself in sticky, difficult, or heated interactions with your spouse– or you just want to communicate and relate even better!You will learn one of the most essential skills you can develop to make your relationship strong and loving: The Pause. Being able to pause is immensely powerful when it comes to  communication and navigating conflict is a graceful way– and even avoiding conflict and reactivity altogether. I would go so far as to say being able to Pause, in the way I describe in this episode, is a sacred skill. It gives you the ability to respond skillfully, instead of reacting in a way that makes things worse.But, as simple as the idea of pausing is, it is HARD to actually do. This episode will change that!So listen in to hear:What the pause actually is, Why it's so key to success in loveWhy it is so hard to do (without the key I will teach you)They 1 major key to being able to successfully do itAnd the practical and simple practice that will make you a pro at the Pause in a matter of weeksOnce you've tuned in and done as I suggest in this episode, you will be so much further ahead of most people in your ability to respond to your spouse, no matter the situation, in a way that invites peace, understanding, connection, and even collaboration, and you'll be well positioned to preserve and deepen the integrity and strength of your relationship for the long haul.SHOW NOTES:CHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED: Stop Taking It So Personally Closer To Your Husband in 7 Days ENJOYING THE PODCAST?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. ALWAYS CHECK THAT YOU ARE STILL RECEIVING DOWNLOADS (if not click arrow in upper righthand corner).Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship-- AND support the podcast for as little as $3) HERE. Hop on Hannah's Email list for more direct support for your relationship right into your inbox.

182 The ESSENCE of what it takes to have a good – even GREAT – marriage is not complex – it's actually very simple. In this episode, I boil down EVERYTHING I teach my clients to do–and everything I have done to make my marriage the amazing loving thriving one it is– into the 3 things you must do to have the same. Just 3! Because I want you to see how simple it really is. That said, DOING them may not be “easy” without learning some basic things. Which is why, in this episode, I also point you to resources that help you learn how to DO these in easy, digestible, do-able steps. Tune in to learn:The 3 simple things you must be able to do to have a great marriage–the WHAT you need to do to make your marriage loving, supportive, affectionate and funHow to determine which of the 3 areas YOU personally would benefit most from focusing on first A deeper overview of the 3 things, what happens when you aren't good at them, and why they are so key to a great marriage.HOW to learn each of these 3 things (what will make doing the 3 things so much easier) beyond this podcast, so you can reap the huge rewards of your marriage becoming the way more loving, connected, light-hearted one you want it to be.Listen in. You will come away with a clarity that has likely been missing up until now, and a clear direction to move in to make your marriage better, and better… and better!SHOW NOTES:Take the QUIZ to find out which of the 3 areas to focus on first: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?CHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED: Stop Taking It So Personally Closer To Your Husband in 7 Days ENJOYING THE PODCAST?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. ALWAYS CHECK THAT YOU ARE STILL RECEIVING DOWNLOADS (if not click arrow in upper righthand corner).Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship-- AND support the podcast for as little as $3) HERE. Hop on Hannah's Email list for more direct support for your relationship right into your inbox.

181   If you sometimes find yourself overwhelmed, triggered, emotionally overloaded, or reactive in conversation (or conflicts) with your spouse, this is a must listen episode.In it, I want to introduce you to a key thing to do (a tool I don't want ANY HSP to live without), broken down into 4 simple steps,  so you can get back to navigating that charged moment or conflict with grace, sensitivity, effectiveness, and in a way you feel good about.Because if you are a sensitive woman who wants to show up at your best and have the best relationship you can with your significant other, this is one tool (or simple skill) you must have in your toolbox…. and actually use!It can make or break a relationship, it is so powerful. And it will serve you in any situation that tends to spike your stress levels to a point that causes you to feel overwhelmed or like it's just  “too much”.Dive in to understand why and when to use this tool, and the 4 simple steps to actually do it, so you, your relationship, and your spouse can reap the rewards  of more ease, connection, and more loving, respectful, and solution oriented  communication – and ultimately a stronger overall relationship. SHOW NOTESHop on my email list here. Or click here to get on it AND get free support.CHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED: Stop Taking It So Personally Foundations of Emotional Wellbeing for HSPsOTHER COURSES Of HANNAH'SCloser To Your Husband in 7 DaysBring Back the Attraction ENJOYING THE PODCAST?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. ALWAYS CHECK THAT YOU ARE STILL RECEIVING DOWNLOADS (if not click arrow in upper righthand corner).Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. 

180 Most, if not all, couples argue. Even when their relationship is very healthy. So if you and your spouse find yourself mired in the occasional --or even more regular -- conflict, it doesn't mean it's detrimental to your marriage, and it doesn't have to be painful…In fact, conflict can actually be an important part of growing a more deeply intimate, connected and supportive marriage. How do you make sure conflict goes the most smoothly it can, does the least damage– and the most good in your marriage? As an HSP I know you want to know!The answer is simply: develop some simple skills and put some basic ground rules for conflict in place. In this episode, you will learn my 9 most highly suggested basic ground rules for navigating conflict better, and hear my advice on how to begin implementing them, and actually start the process right away! This episode is a great one to listen to with your spouse, if they are willing!Grab a pen and some paper, dive in, and be ready to change the course of your conflicts forever for the better, so you can solve issues, really understand each other better, and become a closer, stronger couple over time.  SHOW NOTESCHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED: Stop Taking It So Personally Foundations of Emotional Wellbeing for HSPsOTHER COURSES Of HANNAH'SCloser To Your Husband in 7 DaysBring Back the Attraction ENJOYING THE PODCAST?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. ALWAYS CHECK THAT YOU ARE STILL RECEIVING DOWNLOADS (if not click arrow in upper righthand corner).Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Hop on Hannah's Email list for more direct support for your relationship right into your inbox.

179  Things are changing around here going forward. What will it mean for you? How can the podcast (now a vast library!) be even MORE helpful going forward?Listen to this short episode to hear what to expect and how the changes will affect you – and how you can make the most of the podcast and my support to make your marriage great going forward.I will give you a few very specific and practical suggestions for how you can make the most of my help via the podcast and beyond (hint: give me your topic suggestions, get access to the podcast map, and other super simple actions to take right away). You'll also hear how I've been working behind the scenes to make my help more accessible for more people with other offerings beyond deep-dive coaching, and how this goes hand in hand with this podcast to make it even MORE useful to you. Please listen in, so you can get the most out of this podcast and all the ways I can help you make your relationship one you feel great in as an HSP. SHOW NOTESSuggested to do's:Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. ALWAYS CHECK THAT YOU ARE STILL RECEIVING DOWNLOADS (if not click arrow in upper righthand corner).Hop on Hannah's Email list. Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. CHECK OUT HANNAH'S COURSES: Closer To Your Husband in 7 DaysStop Taking It So Personally Bring Back the AttractionFoundations of Emotional Wellbeing for HSPsHannah's Website

178  If you're unhappy enough in your marriage to be questioning if you should stay or go, you probably feel uncertain, confused, afraid. You're too scared and unsure if it's the right thing to do to actually leave, but you also know you don't want to go on living like this with your spouse. What if your spouse CAN improve? What if you CAN connect in the deeper ways you want? What if you CAN'T? What if he can't? It can be paralyzing. And spirit killing!It's time for some clarity about what's best for you moving forward!In this episode, I will help you get that. Although there isn't a black and white answer I can hand you today, I do have some clear advice to share. And even an outline for an illuminating and super clarifying conversation that you can have with your spouse to help you know whether it is time, or not, to leave—or whether this relationship actually has room to improve into a fulfilling one you really WANT to stay in.I will also share more in depth the 5 ingredients you need to put into this clarifying conversation, and what needs to happen first, during and after. I could have easily called this episode “How To Motivate Your Spouse Stretch And Grow Into The Partner You Really Want”, instead. Because what I share in this episode, if you implement it, is the most powerful way I have ever seen to invite and motivate your spouse to do a whole lot more to make your marriage one you both feel great in… And if he is unable even then to be the loving supportive partner you want in life, you will know for sure that staying is not what's best for you, and be free to move on with integrity, confidence, and peace. Listen in.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching (learn more here), and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever.  Doors Close for the foreseeable future on January 15th, 2025!  Fill out this form to get started. SEE WHAT PAST CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT WORKING WITH HANNAH HERE.Find Hannah's On-Demand Courses (for more connection, attraction, and ending hurt and disconnection) here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

177  There are three major things I learned from my first marriage ending in divorce that have allowed me to create an amazing fulfilling marriage with my second husband. As I've worked with hundreds of other highly sensitive women, I've noticed the struggles I had in my first marriage echo so many of the struggles these other HSP women have in theirs.  So it makes sense what worked for me will also help you have a much more fulfilling marriage!AND the unhappiness, lack of fulfillment, and pain we tend to feel in our relationships as sensitive women is often sourced in a few challenges that are an innate part of high sensitivity. Even though this trait is amazing, and a true gift for you and the lucky people who get to have you in their lives, high sensitivity can come with a shadow side, especially when it comes to specific aspects of intimate relationships. Listen in to this episode for a reminder of how your sensitivity can be such a strength when it comes to intimate partnerships (it never hurts to hear a reminder, right?!), and also  hear how the same qualities ( which have to do with our conscientiousness and high standards) can sometimes end up undermining the strength of the relationship–until you implement the 3 tips I share.Not only do I share quite a bit about my first marriage to help illustrate my advice, so it's fun to listen to, but the 3 tips I share are simple. Just listening to this episode can bring you some real "ahas" and lead to some great change in your marriage or committed relationship. Happy New Year!SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching (learn more here), and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever.  Doors Close for the foreseeable future on January 15th, 2024!  Fill out this form to get started.Find Hannah's On-Demand Courses (for more connection, attraction, and ending hurt and disconnection) here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

176  When things are feeling less connected, loving and supportive in your relationship than you want them to as a highly sensitive person, there is an excellent chance a lot of it is coming from chronic dysregulation and emotional overload. In other words, stress.  As Hsps, it is hard to NOT feel overstimulated or stressed in our modern lives. I've recently shared a fair amount about how this leads to nervous system and emotional dysregulation. Which is, honestly, terrible for relationship health! But it is a lot more than the outer world that creates this dysregulation and stress. In this episode I dive into the huge thing that tends to create this internal overstimulation– in other words, how we dysregulated ourselves from the inside out! It's important to SEE this, and how you do it. In this episode I will give you a great starting place. I also share how to stop this internal dysregulation so you can feel peaceful, and be able to give and receive the deepest love, and have the best marriage.I honestly think, without understanding what I share in this episode, it will be 1000 times harder to be alive and to be married as a sensitive person (it sure was for me!). So tune in to this essential episode.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching (learn more here), and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever.  Doors Close for the foreseeable future on January 15th, 2004!  Fill out this form to get started.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

175  Ever felt that stinging (or punch-in-the-gut) feeling when your partner says or does something hurtful? Or maybe it's something he doesn't do that leads to you feeling like he just doesn't care. Like you don't matter. Like you aren't loved.Normal for everyone, for highly sensitive women and deep-feeling women, this is extra oh-so-common. It may very well be true that your partner could be more skillful in his interactions with you. At the same time, so much of the hurt you feel in these moments comes from taking things personally. (Even if you may not think you do so, listen in to find out for real, because it is a human brain thing, and most people do it to some degree.)And you can put an end to that NOW.And you want to. Because taking things personally doesn't just hurt–it costs us big time in our intimate relationships, leading to all sorts of AVOIDABLE pain. . . and diminishment of affection and connection.I, too,  used to take all sorts of things personally, and it hurt me and my marriage. I spent years learning how to put an end to that unnecessary pain, and replace it with the closeness, ease and love I want between my husband and I. I want that for you to.As you learn to not take things so personally, it will free you up to have way more of the support, connection and loving intimacy you want with your partner. Listen in to this updated and re-release essential episode, where I dive into 3 big keys to stop taking things so personally so you can feel less hurt and more love everyday of your life.And don't miss the announcement about the short course you can take to make your habit of taking things personally a thing of the past for you.SHOW NOTES:Click here to learn about and join THE STOP TAKING IT SO PERSONALLY COURSE --7 steps to less hurt and more love every day of your life.ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

174   This is a slightly revised episode, updated and re-released because of its importance! Here's to not tolerating mistreatment, and how to begin the process of influencing your partner to treat you best! As modern women, we've been encouraged to not let ourselves be “doormats” in our relationship with our significant other. And we want to be strong, to not tolerate criticism or unkind treatment, and to stand up for the respect we deserve. All of which is so important to have a healthy loving marriage, especially as a sensitive person.But sometimes we do this in a way that actually makes us feel even more walked all over, more like a doormat--and in more pain than ever. So how do we stop being a doormat for REAL? Listen in to find out how.Hint: it has to do with understanding what we can control and what we cannot ...and then learning how to control what we ourselves have dominion over--which is our own selves….and becoming Un-walk-over-able!Even if your partner is sometimes unkind, uncool, and disrespectful, you can put an end to feeling like a doormat-- without FIGHTING, and with dignity, self-containment, confidence, and rooted in love for all involved.In this episode I break down the specifics of what this entails and get you started on the path to feeling strong, empowered, respected, and being treated with the kindness, care, and love you deserve.SHOW NOTES:Check out The Stop Taking It So Personally Course, a self-paced course to feel more love and less hurt -- and help you be best positioned to effectively advocate for the loving care you want from your spouse. Or see Hannah's full course shop here.Work 1:1 with HannahENJOYING THE SHOW?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

173  Releasing this one early to help you reduce any Thanksgiving related stress! We have a TON of sway over how we feel on a daily, hourly, and even minute by minute basis–-as well as on our ability to connect in the deepest, sweetest, most loving ways with our loved ones. So very much of this comes down to which part of our nervous system is activated at the moment, and knowing how to activate the parts of it we want “on”, and de-activate the parts we want “off”.There are very specific steps and skills to doing so, of course. In this episode, I give you 4 “hacks” to help you intentionally shift into the parts of your nervous system that allow you to feel calm, light, at ease, grounded, connected, playful, relaxed, and joyful.You'll learn about when use them, what they help with, and exactly how ot do them, so you can try them out for yourself, and get a taste of being in the nervous system states that not only FEEL the very best, but also allow for the best connection, communication, and interactions with your loved ones. You'll also find out why patching together “hacks” like these, although helpful, are not the full solution, and what else you need to make happen if you want to truly develop nervous system resilience and regulation, so you can spend the majority of your waking time feeling calmness, ease, and lightness, and be at your emotional and relational best. Dive in and start feeling better right away.SHOW NOTES:Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship  here. DOORS CLOSE DEC 2nd. Join here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

172 If there was one thing I could shout out from the rooftops right now to help all intimate relationships –and really all of humankind and our very planet– what I share in this episode would be it. It is that important. Have you ever felt a sense of your spouse being “against” you, almost like they're an enemy, a nemesis, a “bad guy” at moments, if not much of the time? If so, you are FAR from alone. So many of my clients have told me that they feel that way, even if it is only subtle. And the amount of division people are experiencing in general is at a super high level in so many realms. And, of course, one of them is between intimate partners. Even in this most intimate and sacred of a relationship, it's all too easy to fall into this sense of being against each other. And as our hearts start to feel hardened to them, it's like we lose touch with the very tender, real, full of feeling human we fell in love with. They become less 3 dimensional, less human. But what's really going on is that we lose connection with the part of ourselves that can connect. This is a very common phenomenon, even in relationships that start out great. And it is a prelude to further disintegration of love– and even divorce.Listen in to prevent this oh-so-common experience from slowly sucking your relationship of love and connection.You will learn: why, over time, we tend to fall into this sense that our spouse is the “Bad Other” (some of the science, and physiology behind it), what it has to do with stress and a maladaptation of our nervous systems to our modern lives, what to do about it on various levels, and 3 specifics steps to melt it away and feel a sense of remembering the tender human you fell in love with....so you can connect back to the part of you that CAN connect so beautiful and fully–and STAY connected to it.SHOW NOTES:Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship  here. And join here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

As a sensitive or deep feeling person, your nervous system is more reactive. This matters. Because, importantly, your nervous system is the foundation of not just your emotional well-being, but also your relationships well-being— or it's lack of well-being! A chronically overstimulated, stressed out nervous system (which, let's face it, most of us have in our modern world, especially as HSPs) is a loving relationship's biggest enemy.And, so long as your nervous system stays that way, you're going to have a much harder time in your relationship in every way. You'll be like a garden without nourished soil: wilting, fruitless, fried, fragile, and dried out.Listen in to this bonus episode where I announce a very special opportunity for you to break free of reactivity in life and love at the most foundational level, and build a solid foundation of emotional well-being (that grounded safety and nourishing supportiveness that are the very roots of a deeply loving marriage), so you can:Diffuse an argument before it even starts, while keeping your wits and feeling grounded.​Stop irritability, feeling easily triggered, overstimulation, and bouts of stress and anxiety, and live with a daily sense of security, peace and even lightheartedness. ​Stay connected to that big heart of yours when challenges come up between you and your spouse, instead of turning against each other, so you can navigate them with ease and a true sense of collaboration​.Always be able to move into the best state of mind to communicate better than ever before, so you can actually get through to your partner in the ways you've always wanted to (but haven't been able to so far) and finally feel truly heardand feel deeper connection, love, and attraction to your partner–and even have more lightness and fun together!And more… Listen in to learn more about how to build the best foundation for a great relationship to grow from. SHOW NOTES:Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship  here. And join here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

171 If you've ever felt AT ALL uncomfortable to express yourself in any way in your relationship, this episode is for you. Because, even if you want a loving affectionate marriage, a weird thing may happen that I've seen again and again with women I've worked with (and I've done it myself, too!) :You may edit your loving impulses, stop yourself from expressing in certain ways the love you have for your partner, out of fear of how it will be received. OR you may have a deep truth to share, but you hold back because it may be too uncomfortable. Either way, by editing yourself like this, you end up feeling helpless to make your marriage more connected and loving, and dimming your power to create a culture of deep positivity and supportiveness with your spouse.In this episode, you will learn why we do this, what it looks like (you may be doing it without realizing it!), what surprising and wonderful things often happen when you don't do it, and 3 keys to stop overriding your own truth and self-expression in your marriage. Listen in so as to no longer diminish some of the most incredible parts of you–and so you can pave the way for the deepest connection, loving intimacy, and trust to grow between you and your partner.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage so much more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. When you sign up by mid-November, 2024, as a BONUS you will also get the LIVE Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship. It all starts by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

170  If you have any chance of having a great –or even just a decent– marriage, there will inevitably be times in your relationship that you need to take a look at your self and how you are approaching your relationship. To self-reflect and take ownership of the ways you are contributing to a less-than-great relationship.Even if you know how essential this is for making positive changes and having lasting love, it can still, unfortunately, feel painful–if you approach it the way so many people do. Luckily, I have found a way to take the pain out of facing all this. It can even feel good to look at those sticky, unskillful, or not-so-pretty patterns we fall into…with the right attitude and a good dose of self-support. (I personally find it thrilling!)I want to share how with you today in this episode, broken down into 7 specific tips.So listen in so that you no longer avoid doing –even just a little– this extra essential relationship improving meta skill and so you easily can make the loving changes on your end that will allow you to steer your marriage in a much more loving and connected direction.Ready to feel so much more connected and loving with yourself-- and proud of yourself, too? Listen in. SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage so much more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. When you sign up by mid November, 2024, you will also get, as a BONUS, the LIVE Foundations of Emotional Well-being Course. It all starts by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

169  This is the first in a re-boot of some of the most essential episodes of the podcast that I will be releasing occasionally. Whether you're newer to the podcast, or if you've listened to every episode, this one is a must listen (or re-listen). Because often, as humans, we go about trying to improve our marriage backwards: we're more focused on changing our partner than changing ourselves.But focusing on your spouse isn't where you pack the most punch for actual change!There is a more effective, easier, and more rewarding approach to improving your marriage, where you actually have powerful influence to have the loving, connected, supportive marriage you want with your husband.It entails bringing your focus back to YOURSELF, by answering this essential question: “Who do I want to be in my relationship?”.  And then centering your focus on becoming her.This will get way better results in your marriage.In this updated episode, we look at what it means to be who you want to be and WHY focusing on this is so effective when we want to improve our love lives.  I illustrate this with an example of a challenge in my own marriage and the difference in results I get when I'm focusing on my husband improving, versus stepping in to being who I really want to be, instead.  Then I help you define for yourself who you want to be. Creating this clear vision for yourself is essential in order to actually take that journey of becoming her. Once you take this step you will be on the way to truly making changes by leaps and bounds in your marriage.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. When you sign up by mid November, 2024, you will also get, as a BONUS, the LIVE Foundations of Emotional Well-being Course. It all starts by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

The connection and closeness we so deeply want with our partner can dissipate for a variety of reasons, but often it comes from a slow hardening of our hearts towards our spouse in response to the arguments, the many moments of irritation, or the mistakes we feel they are making, and the disappointment we feel from it all.If that resonates at all (or you are simply tired of feeling disconnected with your partner), this story-and-metaphor-filled episode is an absolute must-listen for you.To create more of the deep intimacy and connection you truly want, it's essential to stop this slow closing of your heart. Because it is cutting you off from love and making the closeness you crave ever elusive.  It starts with recognizing that this isn't simply because of what's been happening recently between you, but rather because of what I am calling “emotional vitamins” that you did not get in your younger years, which have led you to “over-protect” your tender heart when you don't get the love you need from your spouse.   It's the case for most of us. But it can absolutely be changed now. You've just got to "take" the right "vitamins"!Listen in to this episode to hear all about why our hearts slowly harden, and what you can do today and beyond to “take” the Emotional Vitamins you need to heal your heart and make available so much more of the love, connection, and intimacy you want between you and your significant other, so you can really FEEL it between you.SHOW NOTES:LAST CHANCE to join the special event that's been shown to generate a lot more closeness and connection in other highly sensitive women's intimate relationship, the CLOSER TO YOUR HUSBAND IN 7 DAYS CHALLENGE , for only $24! We start Tuesday, October 15th. Learn more and enroll now here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

167  You want to look forward to your life with your significant other into the future. Imaging a bright future with each other is part of what keeps a relationship vibrant and alive in the present. An important (and sometimes overlooked) piece of that is spending time dreaming into that future together with your spouse. Sharing and supportively working towards both your personal dreams and your dreams for your relationship will not just be super connecting, but it will bring excitement, fun, and so much fulfillment into your lives together.Dreaming together can be like glue that keeps you moving side by side into a bright looking future. There really isn't a better way to honor who each of you are, and feel on the same team. Plus, it's HOW you make cool things happen!Sadly, I've found that this important element of a marriage slips to the wayside in many marriages, to the detriment of both partners. So join me today to hear:Why you want to make sure you are dreaming together, What amazing and deeply satisfying things it leads to for both of youWhat counts as “dreams” (hint: they don't have to be outlandish or big!)What it looks like to dream together Why knowing and supporting each other's dreams matters,Tips for actually doing thatMy own personal stories about how dreaming with my husband has affected my marriageAnd ways to start dreaming together for more connection today, including specific questions to ask and communicate about …so you can feel a sense of truly looking forward to your future with your partner by your side, as you build, together, a life you both love. SHOW NOTES:The popular Closer To Your Husband in 7 Days Challenge is back, updated, and better than ever! We start October 15th. Learn more and enroll now here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

Many women I talk to feel as though their husband doesn't contribute enough domestically, like with the household chores like dishes, laundry, etc, or with the kids. If that is going on at all for you, you probably feel resentful about it, and a sense of burden at having to do the lion's share of the domestic load. Who wouldn't?!This episode will change that, and help you get your partner to contribute more domestically. You see, there is a common pattern that many couples fall into where one partner is taking on a lot more than the other person in terms of taking care of domestic things. And it is rarely just one person's fault. There is a very common dynamic, one that both partners are complicit in, that is the cause of this in most cases: what I call the overfunctioning/underfunctioning dynamic. In this episode you will learn:what that looks like how it leads to this unbalanced and miserable dynamic whether it is happening in your relationshipwhy it's so common for HSPs to fall into and the 3 practical tangible steps you should take to reverse it . . .so you can get the help you deserve around your home and your spouse can feel like a valued contributor he ultimately wants to be deep down. With stories and tangible action steps, you will walk away from this episode with a very practical plan to finally feel like the real domestic and romantic team in life you want to be with your significant other.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. When you sign up by late November, 2024, you will also get, as a BONUS, the LIVE Foundations of Emotional Well-being Course. It all starts by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

165   If you are tired, as so many women–and especially highly sensitive women—are these days, then it IS affecting your relationship – for the worse. When we are tired, depleted, or burnt out, we HSPs tend to feel especially burdened, irritable and even resentful. And unfortunately it is just so easy to get tired, depleted or burnt out in our modern lives with all the societal and real-life pressures. And you likely feel you have to just keep go-go-going. Especially if you are a mom or have a full time job (or both!).If any of this is rigging a bell, please listen to this episode. Because you deserve to feel good in your life and relationship!And I want to give you deep permission to rest. Listen in to hear why, how, and what that looks like. And take up my loving little challenge for you this week. You'll be on track to lose the exhaustion, the irritability, and even the sense of ongoing burden and resentment, and start replacing it all with a sense of nourishment and vitality. This is essential listening for all highly sensitive people.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

164  All marriages have ups and downs. It's in large part how you handle the downs that determines the overall quality of your relationship, and whether it grows more deeply loving and stays that way, or it disintegrates.In this episode I candidly share how I recently applied my own coaching teachings to my own marriage during one of those harder times (when I was feeling like my husband wasn't supporting or caring for me well), and how I coached myself into feeling not just supported again, but even cherished.As vulnerable as this is to share with you, I really wanted you to be able to see that even people with skills like mine go through harder times, and that instead of that being something to weaken your marriage, it is an opportunity for more growth, both personal and as a couple–WHEN you apply the coaching (and self coaching) I teach you and my clients. You'll not only hear the exact process I went through, but also how I dealt with resistance to doing my end of the work, how I took ownership over the hard emotions I was feeling, and how I shed the anger and hurt and began to feel loved and supported again–in just 10 or 15 minutes of my time! – so you can learn from me and even use this same process yourself. I truly want you to be able to know just how to move out of those inevitable harder times in your marriage and get back to the love, connection and mutual supportiveness you cherish, so you can feel more fulfilled and secure, and keep evolving in the best ways both personally and as a couple. So listen in!SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

163  Understanding this one thing about relationships can truly make or break your marriage:What we practice grows stronger. And in our relationship, we are, consciously or unconsciously, always practicing.  We practice having arguments, or finding our way to a solution. We practice reactive communication, or choosing to communicate more consciously, we practice repulsion or we practice attraction, etc. If that sounds intriguing but confusing to you, and you aren't sure how to practice the things that build a strong and loving relationship that lasts, then this is a must-listen episode. Because in it, I tell you what is actually at the source of the patterns you are practicing in your relationship, so you can make a conscious choice about if you want to keep practicing them, or instead choose ones that are going to truly enrich your relationship.  This is a truly back-to-the-basics episode–meaning, a deep and important reminder of what I teach that is most essential to understand to improve your marriage in big ways. What you will hear today is what distinguishes my approach to relationships from most relationship advice out there, and WHY my clients get such amazing results with me, when they haven't with all the other relationship help they've tried before. So dig in.SHOW NOTES: Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to harness your power to feel amazing in your marriage and get more sensitivity, connection, and support than ever from your partner. Get started by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

162  Today you'll hear about one of the big things my husband and I do once a year that just lights up our marriage–it's like a total connection, attraction, and intimacy rejuvenator for us. And it can be for you, too.Although usually the most important work you can do in your marriage is about small actions and changes made on a regular basis, I've found that there are some bigger things you can do occasionally that will really infuse your relationship with so much of ALL that you most want it to be. This is one that I highly suggest.Listen in to hear why this is so good for any marriage (including how it can amp up the  attraction and passion between you, as well as set you up for a more connected relationship for the rest of the year), how to do this well as an HSP, how to handle obstacles to making it happen, and what to do if you have any resistance to this idea.You'll also hear why, although doing this is truly a gift to any intimate relationship, there is something that is definitely more essential to do when it comes to having a loving connected marriage–and I will share just what that is in this episode. Dive in.SHOW NOTES:Get deeper marriage help form Hannah:Is everything decent between you and your spouse, but a bit dull? If bringing alive more of that flirty attraction and connection of the earlier days is your top priority, my short training, Bring Back The Attraction, is a great starting place for you! Grab it here. Even better? When you join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Coaching, you'll get her deep, super individualized support to harness your power to feel amazing in your marriage and get more sensitivity, connection, and support than ever from your partner. Get started by filling out this form. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

161  Today is a quick dip into an absolutely ESSENTIAL part of building and maintaining a great relationship with your significant other: consciously fostering fondness of them. (You'll do it in just 5 minutes!)And yes, you CAN absolutely feel more warmth, admiration and love for them on purpose, and build in more of all the good stuff between you and your spouse.A solid body of research about what makes marriages work indicates (and my clients experience confirms) that it will make your marriage stronger, your friendship deeper, and even the passion in your relationship more alive.Unfortunately, it's all too easy to let this piece slide (or just not know HOW to do it!). Then things tend to feel worse and worse in our relationships.Luckily there are many ways to actively build a stronger sense of fondness for this person you've chosen to spend your life with–and only good things will come out of it, when you know how and actually put them into practice. Today, I give you a very specific process (including 5 quick questions for you to answer) to do so!  So dive in!SHOW NOTES:-->Take the free QUIZ: There are 3 core areas that are at the very SOURCE of what's not going well–and what will make it go well–in all marriages. Just ONE of these areas is most important for YOU  to focus on first — and when you make some good changes in that area, you will see your relationship improve quickly.Which area is it for YOU? Take my 2 minute free quiz, What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage? to find out.-->NEW!! For the Summer and Fall of 2024: Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Coaching.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

160  A common question I have heard from women I work with is, “How can I hold my partner accountable?” And the internet is full of people saying we need to hold our husbands accountable. But what even does that really mean when it comes to an intimate relationship? And how do you actually do it? That's what you will learn here today.The truth is, “holding someone accountable” can be an important part of growing a great relationship, if you understand some of the subtleties of what it looks like. But there are many ways to try to do it that not only don't work, but can sabotage an otherwise good relationship. And even though you can't force your partner to be accountable to his goals, agreements, or becoming a great partner, you can create the best conditions for them to hold themselves accountable. And that is what we really want to happen in our intimate relationships. Listen in for 7 keys to doing so, including a very specific script for how to navigate it when he breaches an agreement, so your spouse will be most likely to follow through on better and better ways of being in your relationship. SHOW NOTES:-->NEW!! For the Summer and Fall of 2024: Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Coaching.-->Take the free QUIZ: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

159  Almost all of us instinctively approach our intimate relationships in mixed ways: ones that generate more loving intimacy and harmony, and ones that drive division and pain, which I call the Backfiring Tactics.  To have the marriage you want, it will take cultivating more of the first, and minimizing those Backfiring Tactics. This is always one of the very first things I help my clients do, and I want you to be able to do the same.The thing is, it can be hard to do, because the backfiring tactics can seduce you into believing you are acting “empowered”, when really it's a completely false sense of power that's actually hurting you and your marriage.So, if you want to feel close, connected, and on the same loving team in life with your honey,  it's essential to be on the lookout for these sneaky perpetrators of so much pain and division, so you can stop doing them and choose approaches that work SO much better in love.Listen to this episode to hear the 7 primary Backfiring Tactics  (I've added a few since the first episode on them years back), and why we are so prone to them, and what exactly they look like in action, along with recommendations for other episodes to go deeper into each one,  so you can identify which ones you tend to fall prey to, and begin to put an end to them. As you begin this process you will be moving out of the power-over dynamics that keep our marriages locked in painful cycles of struggle, and into the power WITH approaches, truly relationally empowered ones that make your marriage into one that continues to deepen over  time  in love, mutual respect, supportiveness, and joy.SHOW NOTES:-->NEW!! For the Summer and fall of 2024: Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Coaching.-->Get the PODCAST MAP, a trail guide to help you make the most of the podcast and find answers to your relationship questions, so you can have a better marriage as an HSP FOR FREE!  Here's how:  share the podcast with 2 people you know are likely to be interested in it, and then contact Hannah at hannah@lifeisworthloving.com to report you did so!-->Take the QUIZ: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

If you don't feel your partner loving you, or sometimes your partner's supposed love isn't matched by his actions, this episode is for you.Women often share with me that this is a common experience for them, and they are hurting because of it. And without some insight into what is really going on in these instances, their relationship just feels worse and worse over time. I don't want that for you!So listen in to hear what is likely going on for you, and for your spouse, when this happens. Why is it that, although he tells you he loves you and cares about you, he doesn't always show it with kisses, doing special things for you, or listening to try to understand??Take a moment and try to really understand, instead of making it into something it isn't. Instead of falling prey to the belief that it's because he doesn't love you enough or that you aren't somehow lovable enough to him.Because that's very rarely what is actually happening. You are, almost  certainly, VERY loved. And when you can understand what is really going on, you will be  able to FEEL so much more loved, and be best positioned to help  your partner show you that love in the ways you like receiving it! So dig in.SHOW NOTES:NEW!! For the Summer and fall of 2024: Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Coaching.Take the QUIZ: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

157  There are many “micro” things you can do on a regular basis to keep your relationship strong (and so you don't need larger “interventions” that take a lot more time and energy in order to get things back on track). And a very important one? Micro repairs. Today we dive into just how to make them, as well as how to make micro re-directs that will help stop a downhill-heading interaction in its tracks. These are mini skills that you want to be able to do easily, because, in all relationships–even healthy ones– there will be moments of micro-rupture, when the sweetness of connection between you gets disrupted by reactivity, or normal human unskillfulness. But these won't hurt your relationship as long as you make repairs when they happen–even if you weren't the one who “started” the rupture. So listen in as I share when, why, and how to make these micro repairs, and give you the exact words to do so effectively. You'll come away with the knowledge to easily mend any little rift between you and your spouse and also the best chance of your partner getting good at making these repairs, as well, so you will never be in discord for long as a couple, and can easily get back to connection, affection, and a palpable sense of love between you. Dive in.SHOW NOTES:The Stop Taking It So Personally CourseFind out how Hannah can help you more over at her website.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

156  An episode for both you and your spouse, especially if communication isn't always the easiest thing between you or if one or both of you ever feel misunderstood or unheard. If you want to give your marriage the best chance to be the fulfilling connected one you want–the NEW marriage we talked about last episode– and your partner the very best chance to be the loving, supportive one you want, then the MOST PRACTICAL thing you can each do is relate to each other the way you want to be related TO.  And one of the most practical ways you can relate to your spouse in the way you want them to relate back, is to “hold space” for them and offer your kind caring presence when they are sharing anything close to their heart with you.Sounds basic, but it can be harder than you think because so many of our default  human tendencies come up and get in the way, breaking the beautiful opportunity for building connection, deep understanding, and trust.  So in this episode I share some of the nuances of what holding space and great listening really looks like, and tell you very clearly what it does not look like, and just how it actually do it with the help of the “4 C's” for the most rich, nourishing, intimate in all ways (wink wink) kind of relationship. So listen in, together or separately, and then go apply what I suggest and watch as you both start feeling more respected, understood, and lovingly connected, as well as much better at communicating!SHOW NOTES:Want to spice things up more in your relationship?  Bring Back The Attraction, Hannah's on-demand 45 minute course,  gives you 7 keys to spark more of the magical appeal you used to feel, is now available here.Find out how Hannah can help you more over at her website.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

155   Sometimes you hear something that changes everything, and puts you in a state of mind that leads to finally being able to bring a big dream to life. This must listen episode may very well be that for you. Because if you are like most of the women I talk to and work with, you want a new level of intimacy with your spouse: a real partnership that is tender, connected, deeply supportive and nurturing in all realms– intellectually, physically, emotionally, domestically, in terms of each other's dreams and inner life. You want to feel like your significant other is a true team with you in life.And it's really important that you get this! For you, for our world, even for your partner.But, this is really a NEW paradigm when it comes to committed relationships and marriage. It's still just emerging. And, unfortunately, the old and recent paradigms of marriage that still live on in many of us (which I will explain today), are making it harder to bring our partners onboard and make this new, beautiful vision we have of marriage come to life. So we are left frustrated, disappointed, resentful, and questioning if we can have the kind of relationships we really want with our current partner. It doesn't have to be this way. You CAN (in most cases) open the door for your partner to be that full partner you want, and your marriage to be the NEW supportive and nurturing-in-all-realms marriage we women want. Especially as an HSP.To do so, it will help you SO MUCH to understand the old school paradigm of marriage, and how it still colors so much in our marriages, and also the recent (or current)  paradigm of marriage–both of which are, though perhaps empowering for one individual in the relationship, very relationally disempowering overall! We dive into this today. Then you'll learn about what it takes to leave those old painful paradigms behind, step into relational empowerment (not just individual empowerment), and finally birth the new marriage we want so badly.This is an essential and healing episode that will soften and sweeten your world with forgiveness and understanding, as well as empower and compel you to relate to your partner in such a way that gets him collaborating to bring this new paradigm of marriage very much alive between you. Listen in.SHOW NOTES:Learn about and enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. (Doors close for the YEAR June 20th)ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

154   Other people in your life  ( friends, family members',  and even professional "authorities" in your life) are going to have opinions on your spouse and your relationship, and they may share them with you. If you don't know how to handle this well, you may end up making things even harder in your relationship.As highly sensitive people it can be all too easy to let our other's opinions –especially if they are in any way negative–color our own experience. And unfortunately, when it comes to our marriage's health and happiness, this can be quite problematic–even if they meant well. I can't tell you how many times my clients have told me they felt EXTRA doubt and confusion about their marriage because someone in their life said something along the lines of “I don't think he's right for you” or “I don't know what you see in him.” (And sometimes it's just what they THINK their friend thinks of their partner that causes pain, fear, and doubt.) This can be crazy-making, and a total power-leak if your goal is to have a really good loving marriage.So today you're going to learn how to handle other people's thoughts and opinions when it comes to your relationship–so you can grow the health of your marriage, instead of diminishing it.  We dive into: What to do about other people's opinions and advice, including how to discern when to take it on or not.How to stop something someone said about your spouse or marriage from seeping into you and giving it damaging weight or authority.Why their judgments and opinions are NOT that accurate (or important)Whose opinions really matterWho and what IS a trustworthy source of authority, wisdom and truth about your relationship and spouse. And specific ways to get your friends and family to help you grow the marriage you want, instead of accidentally making things harder for you.Even if you haven't ever been subject to hearing negative opinions about your spouse or relationship, if you have friends or family, this episode will help you, since all I share here can be applied to any opinion anyone shares with you about any realm of your life.SHOW NOTES:TAKE THE NEW 2 MINUTE QUIZ, "I Want A More Loving Connected Marriage. Where Do I Start?" It will identify the area that will make the biggest positive impact on your unique marriage when you focus on it.Learn about and enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. (Doors close for the YEAR June 20th)ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

153   As women, we often go to our friends and other people in our lives when something isn't going as well as we want with our partner, or when an issue comes up. And it's only natural to want to get support that way. But, it is all too easy when we do that to fall into the toxic trap of griping, venting and male-bashing — even WITH the big sensitive conscientious hearts we tend to have as HSPs.Some things in our culture are so widely practiced that they're accepted without any thought that they might be damaging. And this one is such a sneakily toxic part of our culture, with such damaging effects to our men,  to us and our relationships,  that it needs to be talked about, and faced.So today we are going to dive into it, along with why it's a problem for your relationship (and the world), why to stop doing it, and what to do instead to help your marriage become the loving, connected, fulfilling one you want–and still being able to go to your friend to get support and commune about your relationships!I know you want to live in a world where relationships are filled with mutual respect, deep care, kindness, and real love, so come take a step towards bringing that to life in your own marriage today, and be part of leaving this emotionally destructive habit forever in the past.SHOW NOTES:TAKE THE NEW 2 MINUTE QUIZ, "I Want A More Loving Connected Marriage. Where Do I Start?"Episodes to better understand men in relationship: Revolutionizing Men, Their Feelings, And Love With Casey Desharnais  Men, Emotional Maturity, And Love (Or How To Invite Your Husband To Evolve)Men Being Honest About The Hard Stuff With Casey And WillENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

152   Not feeling as connected as you want to with your spouse? Feeling like you're not on the same page much these days, or you have sort of evolved AWAY from each other? I have been there and it doesn't feel good. But there is a way back that's simple and straightforward. In this episode, you'll hear a great remedy to bring more connection into your marriage–in ways BOTH you and your partner look forward to. It's a process I've done myself that really helped me and my husband not just feel more connected, but also have a clear path to more of it forever into our future together.Today's episode will share exactly how to make sure you have plenty of ways you and your spouse can be together that are fun and fulfilling to both of you. When you apply what I share, you will have the grounds for a more resilient, connected and fun life together into the future.  Dig in!SHOW NOTESBring Back The Attraction, the new on-demand 45 minute course to that gives you 7 keys to spark more of the magical appeal you used to feel is now available here.Want to know the very best starting place to focus on to improve your unique marriage? TAKE THE NEW 2 MINUTE QUIZ, "I Want A More Loving Connected Marriage. Where Do I Start?"ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

151  Most of the highly sensitive women  I talk to mention wanting their relationship to feel "lighter"-- easier, more carefree, more warmhearted.  And that IS a place where a lot of joy  can be found in our intimate relationships--if we can access that lightness. . .The challenge is, as HSPs, we can tend to take things pretty seriously. Not a bad thing, by any means, but it can make it harder to feel that lightness so many of us long for.  So I made you a very "light" ( short and sweet) episode to give you a drop of that lightness right now. Listen in to hear the one question that can open up a sense of lightness right away, and make space for more and more lightness to enter into your relationship--and whole life--as you let this way of seeing things integrate into you. Please note that NONE of what I offer here is meant to dismiss or belittle the hard stuff that can comes along with intimate relationships ( that is very real and important to acknowledge). In fact, it is meant to help you navigate through any of that with more ease and peace.  Let this episode seep into your cells over the coming week or more. . . and see what shifts in you and your marriage from there. SHOW NOTESWant to know the very best starting place to focus on to improve your unique marriage? TAKE THE NEW 2 MINUTE QUIZ, "I Want A More Loving Connected Marriage. Where Do I Start?"ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

150  I put out a call to you listeners for questions, and today I am going to answer three of them!All three highly sensitive women's questions are very relatable and have a somewhat similar theme:How to handle being bothered by things their spouse does or ways he is, so they can feel better AND work with their spouse effectively in these situations. Specifically (but with a bit more detail).Ella asks, “What are your recommendations for easing anger surrounding the innate stubbornness of your partner?” Nina asks, “How would you approach conflict with a husband in front of your kids?” Kelly asks, “I can't seem to train my brain to stop thinking negatively about my marriage, specifically about my hubby, and frequently wonder whether I should be in this marriage or not. What is causing this thinking?  It is very disconcerting. Any ideas?” I certainly do have ideas for them about what to do in all of these cases–and for you if you are ever annoyed, irritated, angry or frustrated with your partner, my answer will help you, too! Listen in to hear my coaching and strategic tips on how to handle these specific situations and feelings, so you can be much more successful in navigating these issues, as well as feeling more peace and happiness with your husband. This episode is also a great way to tangibly tie a lot of my teachings together and apply them to real-life situations. So dig in.SHOW NOTES:Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

149   After 32 years of marriage, and the help of many different marriage counselors,  Kathy was looking at apartments and thinking of a future without her husband.She just could hardly imagine being happy with him again. Nor did he didn't seem interested in getting help for his side of the issue they had between them.But, with the commitment to make a final attempt with my coaching, after just a week or two of starting her work with me, not only did she start to feel really different, her husband started responding to her differently, too. And as she kept up her work on her side of the street, on how she was relating to him, guess what? He started to make bigger changes on his end, and even seek out support for himself.So now they were both building in more love between them and collaborating on creating a better future together, one where they are both getting their needs and wants met.How did Kathy do this? She tells us in this conversation where we discuss it all, as well as:How she'd been through lots of other sessions with other professionals that didn't change things, but how pleasantly she was surprised when she started to focus on herself, on who she is, on her own thoughts, and what she wanted to bring to the relationship, that things really–and suddenly–changed.How she freed herself from long-held resentment and finally got her husband on board to follow through in a promise he made and help her achieve a life-long dream of hersWhy, after listening to the podcast without much change, working directly with me in Treasured made all the differenceWhat she did to get her hubby on board to improve things between them together.How developing better boundaries ( of two types), and learning how to “insource her value” made her marriage and all sorts of relationships in her life betterWhat being part of a group coaching program was like for her as someone who is “not a group person”How no longer thinking of her sensitivity as something that was wrong with her, and learning how to honor the needs it brings played into just generally being happier and more carefree in her life. Kathy drops many bits of wisdom and insights for any HSP who is not as happy as they want to be in their relationship and we cover quite a few universal issues and solutions for highly sensitive relationships, so listen in. This is such a great story for anyone wanting to not be alone in  working to improve your marriage, but to understand what it takes to get your partner on board to collaborate on bettering your relationship together. SHOW NOTES: Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

148  If you're a woman between the ages of 35 and 55, you are going to want to catch this episode–and bring your spouse! Because this is a big transitional time for women and couples of this age range. And, even though the hormonal shifts that happen during this time have a bad rep, they actually bring along with them a big opportunity to grow the love, supportiveness, connection in your marriage, as well as start your “second spring” in life and love.In this episode, I bring on Bria Gadd, a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, holistic health coach, and personal trainer who specializes in female hormones, to talk about it all with me, and dish out her wisdom on how to use this time to benefit your marriage. Studies show that in 69% of divorces, it's women who are the ones to initiate it. And often this is because in midlife, as hormones are shifting, many women start to feel like they want more, like they no longer want to settle for the same old same old in their relationship and life. If you don't understand what is happening, or how to support yourself in this time, like most women don't, (because the research is very new!), it can lead to a much harder time in your life and marriage!But when you, and ideally your spouse, too , get educated about this perimenopausal time of life, it will allow you to work with yourself and your spouse to navigate this time in a way that can birth the best times of your marriage.So listen in as Bria and I discuss all of that as well as:What we tend to struggle with during this time (no, you are NOT alone!!) What is really going on for us women hormonally in these years, and how it affects us.How this time's a call to really self-educate and learn how to best support yourselfBria's 4 pillars of what you need to thrive during this time and beyond, both physiologically and emotionally, How to start healing from  hormonal imbalances and the exact starting places for you to get going today to avoid hormonal chaos, such as impatience, irritability, anxiety, insomnia, weight gain, lowered libido, and more, that can negatively impact your relationship and whole life at this time, and begin to truly thrive like never before in your life. Although the most important thing during this time is YOUR OWN self-support in very specific ways, when your partner understands what's really going on during this time, too, they can help support you through it, so you can both LOVE this (long) period of time of your lives, and beyond. This episode is the beginning of that.SHOW NOTES:Last chance to get The Foundations Of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs for FREE ! Join Treasured, Hannah's marriage transforming program for HSPs,  by Sunday April 14th, 2024. Click here to learn more. To Find Bria: The Period Whisperer PodcastInstagram @bria_period_whispererBria's Quiz: “Are Your Hormones Holding You Back?” 

If you are at all curious about or interested in what coaching can do for you and your relationship, or even what it IS, this bonus episode will help clarify that, and what my specific version of it, for highly sensitive people,  is all about. Since I have changed a few things over the years in what and how I offer marriage coaching, I wanted to update you about those changes as well as help answer some common questions about it all.So listen in to here the answers to these questions (I recommend listening to the full episode, but you can also pick and choose which question you want to hear the answer for by jumping to that time in the episode, noted by each question):What is marriage/relationship coaching and Hannah's program, Treasured? (@ 4 mins)Who is it for? (@ 6 mins 45 seconds)Why is Treasured different and will it work if other things haven't? (@10 mins 15 seconds)Can my partner and our relationship really change if it's only me working on my end of things? (@18 mins 20 secs) Why a group program for such a personal thing? Will I be helped as much as I would be in 1:1? (@ 22 mins 30 secs)What are the specifics of how it works? (29:25)Why would I do a coaching program, instead of just doing it on my own, like from the podcast? (33:26)How do I enroll? (35:44)Can I talk to you before committing? (36:46)If you want a happier, more fulfilling, loving dynamic between you and your spouse, you've got to find out how coaching can help. Listen in. SHOW NOTES: Treasured description and info pageTreasured FAQTo get started, fill out The Great Mutual Fit Form here.

147  Gina, a client who worked with me in Treasured, had been totally disconnected from her husband and lonely in her marriage for 20+ years. The connected intimacy we love as sensitive people? There wasn't any of it. She wasn't sure she could change things much after all those years, or how totally disconnected they were,  but she was clear she didn't want her life to feel that way forever, and so she dove into the work.Low and behold, as you'll hear, nowadays she and her husband are really connected and even quite affectionate with each other (they started to be just several weeks into our work together). And as she led the way in reconnecting, her husband started joining her in building more and more intimacy between them, so now building and enjoying more and more connection is a totally mutual thing for both of them. How did she do it? Listen in and she will tell you!In our conversation, Gina opens up about what things were like with her husband for so long, why and how she completely – and quite quickly – changed things between them, and what the biggest keys were for her that made all of this possible. Listen in to get a dose of hope and inspiration, and hear some great marriage and emotional well-being wisdom from this highly sensitive connection maestro!SHOW NOTES:Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the Podcast Map , so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.  Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

146  What can you realistically expect to feel in a good and healthy relationship? In this episode I spill the beans. Listen in to hear one potent bit of clarifying medicine to help you lean away from all the painful worry and doubt that comes up around your relationship, to relieve you from all the questioning you may be doing about whether this marriage can be improved or not, and help you lean into improving what's realistic to improve between you and your partner. If you've ever felt something was wrong with your relationship because you find yourself unhappy, or upset, or having a hard time emotionally about things with your spouse…Or if you've ever been at all unsure if this is the right relationship for you, or compared your marriage to someone else's (with yours coming up short)...…You've got to listen to what I share in this episode. Because I lay it out bluntly: what you can really measure a good relationship by (or a poor one!).  No more wondering needed!You will walk away relieved and also motivated to spend your time improving what CAN be improved, instead of wasting your energy on what cannot. Listen in.SHOW NOTES:Bring Back The Attraction, the new on-demand 45 minute course to that gives you 7 keys to spark more of the magical appeal you used to feel is now available here.Find out how Hannah can help you more over at her website.  ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

145  If you sometimes (or often) can't quite feel love for your significant other, I totally get it. I have felt that, too, many a-time, and I know it DOESN'T feel so good . Because, of course you want to feel love for and connection to the person you spend your life with, right? So I want to share a personal story with you that will help.Dive into today's episode to hear about one of the times I felt deeply cut off from my love for my hubby, and how I got myself back to that sweetness of feeling connected and loving towards him again–so you can do it, too!How I did that is a reliable process I still use in those times I feel cut off from my heart–because it really can happen rather easily as HSP's in our busy overstimulating modern lives (and because relationships can bring up a lot of stuff that makes it all too easy to shut down our hearts–even when we have big ones!).I also share what can get in the way of feeling that steady love for our significant other, and how there may well be different routes to access it again for you, depending on what's going on for you. And I give you the most basic key to figuring out how to guide yourself back to feeling more in your big heart  again, so you can feel better AND inspire more connection, fun, and even passion with your spouse. Dive in!SHOW NOTES: Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

144  If you've ever been frustrated by slow or no change in your relationship–either on partner's end or your own, and you want to stop falling into those same old painful dynamics with your partner again and again, and instead SEE things actually getting better over time…… you've got to understand how change works.Because it really is a process, with 4 distinct stages. And before you even get to them, there is a pre-stage, which is where most people (you?) tend to get stuck.When you understand these 4 stages you will be so much better equipped to make the real change you want actually happen.In this episode, we dive into them, as well as into a bit of the science of what is really going on to make new ways of being with each other stick.So many people don't understand how change really works, and therefore don't persevere with the process… and end up getting nowhere.  Now, because of this episode, that will not be you anymore!With personal and client stories, and well as one very important metaphor to help you understand how the brain really changes (and the brain IS your  #1 agent of change), you will leave this episode so much more empowered and so much more hopeful and encouraged that you, too, can make those changes you've been wanting in your marriage.  Dive in!SHOW NOTES:Submit your question to be answered on the show by hopping on my email list HERE (you'll soon get instructions on how to submit.)Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

143   If you are like many other women,  deep down you probably LOVE your partner, but it can feel like you DON'T LIKE him very much sometimes, yeah?I've been there, too, and it doesn't feel great… because who wants to not like the person they're planning to spend their whole life with? By now, it shouldn't come as a surprise that this can be even more common of an experience as an highly sensitive Person unfortunately. That's why I want to share with you 6 primary things I've learned from my own experience with re-enlivening my LIKE for my husband. So listen in to hear my story of going from feeling rather annoyed often with my husband, and wondering if I even liked him and what it means if I didn't, to realizing one day how MUCH I now truly enjoy him! Just like I do, you CAN laugh, be playful, flirt with, and simply enjoy your partner again, when you really implement the 6 steps I share in this episode. Don't get stuck in the myth that there's nothing you can do from your side of the street to change things for the SO much better.  It simply isn't true.Listen in and follow my lead, and you WILL start feeling closer and happier with your partner–and even start really LIKING him again. SHOW NOTES:Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

142   Developing Self-Compassion is one of the key ingredients to building a truly thriving marriage as an HSP. It is embedded in everything I teach and will be forever, because it is just so essential. So I invited Lori Cangilla, a psychologist and HSP specialist, to have a conversation about it with me, share stories and some laughs, and dive deeper into what self-compassion is all about in this episode. Although self-compassion is often misunderstood, it is a source of so much goodness between you and your partner–and even if you haven't been the most self-compassionate person up until now, you can totally develop it! And it will send powerful healing ripples throughout your whole life and marriage.So listen in to discover: what self compassion really is (and what it isn't!) how it relates to compassion and connectionThe common misunderstandings about it that may be preventing you from accessing the deep benefits of it, the 4 main pieces that compose self compassion, why you would bother spending a bit of energy to become a more self-compassionate person as a highly sensitive personwhat the benefits of it are in our intimate relationshipswhy being self-compassionate can be challenging at first for HSPs the two types of self-compassion and how they work together to help you lead a life that is empowered, and self-honoring, as well as compassionate to others,  and tips to begin developing more self compassion starting todayNo HSP should live life without this vital way of relating to yourself.  As you grow your self-compassion, you will open doors to richer and deeper connection and intimacy with your own self and with your significant other, and reap the rich benefits of it in all areas of your life for all your years to come. SHOW NOTES:Find Lori at singularlysensitive.com  and her book, Wander and Delve here.Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 

141  This episode should be required listening for anyone in an intimate relationship! With many years under my belt as a marriage coach, one of the biggest and most common problem-causer I've noticed again and again that causes disrespect, pain, and discord in marriages (and more so in HSP marriages) is the tendency to not know the difference between one's own side of the court and one's partner's side of the court–and therefore not tend well to your own, and over-tend to theirs.  This episode will shed light on why this is so damaging, help you identify if you are doing this–even just a little bit–and help you put an end to it, so you can re-develop or strengthen the mutual respect in your relationship that is so essential for it to thrive.We dive into the 3 types of “business” there are when it comes to relationships, and clarify what is your domain and what is your spouses–and what is beyond everyone's control.Then you will get very specific and practical advice on  how you can stop wasting your energy where you have no power or control, and instead put your energy where it is truly effective to drive REAL positive change in yourself and in your marriage…and you and your significant other are freed up to both able to genuinely enjoy each other a whole lot more  For some of you, when you take this episode to heart, it will be the magic bullet that begins a cascade of healing in your marriage–and that perhaps even lets you see once again in your partner that person who you originally fell in love with, but haven't seen in a while! SHOW NOTES:Become A Podcast Supporter and Get the Podcast Map! Learn about how to get more of Hannah's  Support, Courses ,and Coaching HERE.

140   We all want a life full of what is most important to us, full of “Wealth” of the emotional, relational, and also financial, kind–or what my guest, Mark Yegge, a “wealth architect” and money manager, calls “balanced abundance”.In other words, we want the wealth of feeling good, feeling secure, feeling healthy, feeling connected, loved, and fulfilled in this life. There is solid research that proves this.Even Einstein, the most brilliant scientific mind of his time, was super clear about what actually makes humans feel most alive and abundant. (In this episode we share the most beautiful secret letter he wrote to his daughter—it will truly just melt your heart!!)Unfortunately, because of the culture we live in, it's easy to end up (almost by accident) over-focusing on things that don't actually lead us to that happiness and fulfillment. That lead, instead, to what I call Emotional Poverty. Mark and I have both seen all too many people lose track of what most matters to them by over-focusing on the pursuit of a successful career and financial abundance (or what we think is just financial security), while under-focusing on the things that actually bring them Emotional wealth and TRUE security.Since you're here, you have a pretty good sense that relationships are a prime way to the happiness and meaning you want in this life. But you're likely (even to just a small degree) to fall under the influence of cultural programming that, by no fault of our own, distracts you from being able to make your important relationships the truly fulfilling and life-giving ones you know they are meant to be. Luckily, it's not so hard to re-align with what matters most to you, which is HOW you will be able to bring more TRUE WEALTH, the kind that matters most to YOU,  into your life, starting today. It can just take a bit of remembering –and intention.So listen to this fun, laughter-filled, not-to-be-missed  conversation,  where Mark and I dive straight into the heart of all of this. You'll come away with your heart energized and a surge of motivation to bring what most matters to YOU alive in your life, so you can feel genuinely happier and more fulfilled --and wealthy in all ways--as an HSP. SHOW NOTESFind Mark at www.lightcircle.org/yourgreatestyear or  https://markyegge.com/Get your seat at Freedom From Hurt Week with Hannah here.Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.