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Best podcasts about Alexandra H Solomon

Latest podcast episodes about Alexandra H Solomon

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Episode 323: Parenting Through Regret and Repair with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2025 47:54


When you've finally left a toxic marriage and your kids, especially adult kids, have spent years steeped in that same environment, the guilt can be crushing. You wonder: How do I help them heal? How do I set them up for success when I feel like I already failed them? Dr. Alexandra Solomon is back, and we're getting into the deep stuff: parenting through regret, healing alongside our kids, and what it means to let our children hold their truth, even when it wrecks us a little. And, when you've walked through fire and come out whole, you get to show your kids that love can look like mutual adoration, and that being single is better than being stuck. Here are some truths you'll hear: Your healing is the best gift you can give your child. Witnessing their pain doesn't mean narrating their story. You're allowed to screw up, and still be a good parent. This one's for every mother who wonders if it's too late to get it right. It's not. Here's what else we discuss in this episode: Why witnessing your child's pain is step one to their healing (7:25) How healing ourselves supports our kids more than trying to fix them (9:37) Why modeling a healthy post-divorce relationship can be life-changing (22:49) The danger of “I don't want my kid to make the same mistakes I did” (35:44) How to have emotionally safe relationship talks with your kids (39:59) Learn more about Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Wild Pastures Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodesFocused Strategy Sessions with Kate  Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Alexandra's websiteIntimate Relationships 101Reimagining Love Podcast Alexandra on Instagram Alexandra on FacebookMasterclass Anxiety Toolkit =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link:  https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-323-parenting-through-regret-and-repair-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/  

We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle
Can You Change Your Partner? With Dr. Alexandra Solomon

We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 61:13


396. Can You Change Your Partner? With Dr. Alexandra Solomon   Renowned relationship expert, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, joins to explore a common dilemma in relationships: determining when to accept a partner's behavior and when to advocate for change – and what role you typically play in this dynamic. -How to become a real-life power couple -Whether you're the changer or accepter role in your relationship -How your childhood could be playing out in your relationship -The importance of understanding your role in relationship dynamics Resources from Dr. Solomon for the Pod Square related to our conversations: dralexandrasolomon.com/hardthings. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A licensed clinical psychologist in private practice, couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is the host of the Reimagining Love Podcast and author of Love Every Day, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stronger Marriage Connection
Daily Acts of Love Build Strong Intimate Marriages | Dr. Alexandra Solomon | #118

Stronger Marriage Connection

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2025 40:37


Be sure to watch this and every epsidoe of the podcast on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zjuKWgivYNo Today Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned relationship expert, joins Dr. Liz Hale and Dr. Dave Schramm to discuss daily practices for love, relational self-awareness, and fostering intimacy. The conversation dives into overcoming relationship stagnation, understanding family of origin influences, and managing differences in relationship work. Learn how small, intentional actions and curiosity can transform your marriage into a thriving, intimate partnership.  About Dr. Solomon: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trustedvoices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness hasreached millions of people around the globe. A couple’s therapist, speaker, author, andprofessor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinicalwisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity totheir relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals,and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popularInstagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the school ofEducation and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologistat The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reachestens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show.   Insights: Alexandra: "Be willing to study your reactivity. You know, the stuff that makes you feel tense, the stuff that makes you feel urgent, stuff that makes you feel kind of shut down or cynical or hopeless, to take a look at that and to and to be curious about what it what it's showing you about a place that you're stuck, or maybe something that you might need to ask for a bit differently than you have." Liz: "I spend a great majority of my time with couples on the here and now, thepresent and the future, and probably not nearly enough time on the past, the family of origin. But I love that you remind almost that we either put it in their place or it's going to run the show. So, it's really crucial to ask some of those key questions about each other's childhood and especially, especially your own." Dave: "I love the idea that just that concept of consistency, of that compassion, that love, what are we going to do for us today? Getting out of those ruts, they require just intentionality. They require a lot of work. They really do, but the best things in life really do require effort and intentional thinking ahead. Yeah, let me check in with my wife today. Or, hey, what's on your mind, or what's stressful? Or what can I do for you? Those types of check ins regularly, making those deposits into those love buckets I think are, are critical."   Dr. Solomon's Links: Website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ Podcast: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/?hl=en X: https://x.com/AHSolomon   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com    This episode provides a compassionate and practical guide for anyone seeking to build healthier perspectives around sexuality, reduce shame, and improve intimacy in their relationships. Don't miss this deeply insightful discussion!

Dr. Streicher’s Inside Information: THE Menopause Podcast
S3 Ep135: Minimizing the Monotony of Monogamy How relationships change over time with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dr. Streicher’s Inside Information: THE Menopause Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2024 48:20


When there is a lack of lust decades into an otherwise loving marriage or relationship, many, if not most, women assume their indifference to sex is a result of declining hormone levels and that a prescription for estrogen, testosterone or a libido enhancing drug will re-light the flame. A plunge in hormones can be part of the problem, and sometimes a trip to the pharmacy will help, but there are a lot of other reasons that have nothing to do with hormones or menopause that impact on keeping that sexual spark alive.  In this episode, I am joined Dr. Alexandra Solomon, the author of Loving Bravely, Taking Sexy Back, and her latest book, Love Every Day- 365 relational self-awareness practices, to help your relationship heal, grow and thrive.  We discuss:   Is the MONOTONY of monogamy inevitable?  What is “RELATIONAL SELF AWARENESS”? What is UNPACKING and why is it important? Tips to CONFLICT RESOLUTION as opposed to conflict escalation?  What if you are in a good place in terms of love and intimacy, but are worried about losing that connection over time?  Why it is important to understand your PARENTS relationship to have better adult relationships LEAVE the relationship or FIX the relationship?  What if you “love them” but are not “In love with them?”   What do you tell women when it comes to LIBIDO DRUGS to reignite the spark? Why women are often resistant to SEX THERAPY? How past sexual TRAUMA can inform current sexual experiences, and how to reclaim pleasure Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework for Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 220k followers. She is on the faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features deep dives into complex relationship dynamics as well as conversations with high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture.  Dr. Alexandra Solomon https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ Dr. Solomon's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/  Loving Bravely by Dr. Alexandra Solomon https://bookshop.org/books/loving-bravely-twenty-lessons-of-self-discovery-to-help-you-get-the-love-you-want/9781626255814 Taking Sexy Back by Dr. Alexandra Solomon https://bookshop.org/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want/9781684033461 Reimagining Love, Dr. Solomon's podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386 Love Every Day https://www.amazon.com/Love-Every-Day-Self-Awareness-Relationship/dp/1683736532 For more information on this topic:  Episode 8: When Painful Sex Leads to Problem Relationships  with Dr. Sheryl Kingsberg Episode 10: Dating After 50- Make it Awesome Not Awful- With Bela Gandhi Episode 20:  Is non-monogamy having a moment? With Dr. Wednesday Martin Episode 41 Why Men go Missing in Bed with Dr. Stephen Snyder  Episode 54 What Happens During Sex Therapy with Rachel Zar  Episode 89  Faking Orgasm with Rachel Zar Episode 115 “Do You Have Good Sex? A visit with Dr. Ruth   Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina-A gynecologist's guide to eliminating post-menopause dryness and pain Dr. Streicher's Inside Information podcast is not intended to replace medical advice and should be used to supplement, not replace, care by your personal health care clinician. Dr. Streicher disclaims liability for any medical outcomes that may occur because of applying methods suggested or discussed in this podcast. Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine, and the founding medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause. She is a certified menopause practitioner of The Menopause Society.  Sign up to receive DR. STREICHER'S FREE NEWSLETTER Dr. Streicher is the medical correspondent for Chicago's top-rated news program, the WGN Morning News, and has been seen on The Today Show, Good Morning America, The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, NPR, Dr. Radio, Nightline, Fox and Friends, The Steve Harvey Show, CBS This Morning, ABC News Now, NBCNightlyNews,20/20, and World News Tonight. She is an expert source for many magazines and serves on the medical advisory board of The Kinsey Institute, Self Magazine, and Prevention Magazine. She writes a regular column for The Ethel by AARP and Prevention Magazine.  Subscribe and Follow Dr. Streicher on  DrStreicher.com Instagram @DrStreich Facebook  @DrStreicher YouTube  DrStreicherTV LinkedIn @DrStreicher Books by Lauren Streicher, MD  Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina-A gynecologist's guide to eliminating post-menopause dryness and pain Hot Flash Hell: A Gynecologist's Guide to Turning Down the Heat Sex Rx- Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy Come Again! A Guide to Midlife Libido and Orgasm  (available for pre-order)  To Find a Menopause Clinician Episode 46 Finding a Menopause Clinician Who Will Listen Midi Health  joinmidi.com Midi Health is a telehealth company that provides high level menopause care and also takes insurance in all 50 states. Dr. Streicher is Midi's Medical Director of Education and Community Outreach and is familiar with their medical protocols, which are all regularly updated and set by the top academic menopause experts in the country.  The Menopause Society- Certified Menopause Practitioner List Menopause.org To find a menopause practitioner: https://portal.menopause.org/NAMS/NAMS/Directory/Menopause-Practitioner.aspx Put in your zip code and designate NCMP or CMSP to get a certified menopause practitioner. While all people on this list have passed a competency examination, Dr. Streicher does not vouch for every one of these clinicians. Most are excellent.  Major Medical Centers It also may be helpful to check with major medical centers in your area. Many have menopause clinics or lists of doctors that have an interest and expertise in menopause.  If you are in the Chicago area, the center founded by Dr. Streicher:  The Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause Sexmedmenopause.nm.org Menopause Masterplan Sessions. Dr. Streicher offers one on one and group informational and educational Menopause Masterplan sessions.  For more information: https://www.drstreicher.com/menopause-master-plan

Modern Intimacy
How To Love Every Day With Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Modern Intimacy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2024 53:24


How can you keep the curiosity alive in a relationship? In this episode, we revisit a community favorite where Dr. Kate and Dr. Alexandra Solomon talk about the nuances of relationships. They explore some of the questions that Dr. Solomon created in her quiz that reveals roles we take on within relationships. The two work to unpack how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. Together, they discuss: • How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. • How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. • How to love someone while not losing yourself. & so much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Be sure to check out her latest book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive. Original air date: October 10, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast: the Self-Love Podcast for Women
#194: How to Love Someone Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2024 56:25


There's often a disparity between how men and women make sacrifices for their relationship. In a long-term partnership, it's normal and necessary to compromise, but how do we ensure that said compromises don't make us lose important parts of ourselves in the process? Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to talk about how to identify, communicate, and retain independent parts of ourselves as we embark on a life journey with someone we love. We talk about… - how to keep the “me” within the “we” - is dating objectively harder now than it was in the past? why or why not? - should we go through our partner's phones as a way to ensure honesty? Remember: when two individuals form a unit, there are parts of their individuality that may be pushed aside. It's not always a bad thing as long as we acknowledge each other's individualities within. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, phD, is internationally-recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awarness has resonated with millions. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tool people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical pscychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of now 3 books: Taking Sexy Back, Loving Bravely, and Love Every Day. Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Get Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/book/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Mentioned In This Episode... Lizzo's NPR Tiny Desk Concert: https://youtu.be/DFiLdByWIDY?si=KAXcDxpW1aVmA9v2

The Long Distance Love Bombs Podcast
203: Dr. Alexandra Solomon - Can we redefine what it means to love and be loved?

The Long Distance Love Bombs Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2023 60:31


Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships. Her framework of Relational Self-Awareness framework has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of three books: Love Every Day, Taking Sexy Back, and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show. Her first book, Loving Bravely, can be found here: https://amzn.to/2KSQKMS.   For her second book, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want, click here: https://amzn.to/33VGjzy. To check out her latest book, Love Every Day, click here: https://amzn.to/3sSqWJs. Check her website out here: http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon _______________________________________ Follow me on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for my weekly newsletter!  Each week, I share a personal story and my favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of my favorite books here, including MY BOOK, and many my guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of my favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/message

Perimenopause WTF?
5 Ways to Overcome the Perimenopause Relationship Drought with Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon

Perimenopause WTF?

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2023 32:28


‘5 Ways to Overcome the Perimenopause Relationship Drought' is the topic in today's episode on the Perimenopause WTF! podcast. Listen in as Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon answers some of the perry communities' most pressing questions; from having zero sex drive in a same sex marriage during perimenopause to how to rekindle that spark in your waning (perimenopausal filled) relationship.  We never hold back so neither should you! Send in a voice question: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/perryapp/message Perimenopause WTF! brought to you by perry!  Perry is a safe space for connections, support, new friendships and occasional laughs during the menopause transition. It's a #1 perimenopause app where you will meet other warriors who understand.  Sharing experiences will help to feel ‘normal' again. No, you're not crazy and no, you are not alone. With our network of wonderful menopause experts, we have gathered an abundance of  evidence-based knowledge, articles, podcasts and a new book: The Perry Menopause Journal. To learn more visit: www.heyperry.com https://perry.app.link/perimenopausewtf The Perimenopause Journal Are you looking for a meaningful way to prioritize your well-being during this crucial phase of your life? Do you crave self-care practices tailored specifically to the ups and downs of perimenopause? The journal offers: 1️⃣ Thoughtful Prompts: 2️⃣ Progress tracking: 3️⃣ Evidence-based knowledge  4️⃣ Community Support To grab a journal visit:  heyperry.com/theperrymenopausejournal or amzn.to/3Nt1YYR

TRUST & THRIVE with Tara Mont
222: Relational Self-Awareness - with Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Couples Therapist & Author of Loving Every Day

TRUST & THRIVE with Tara Mont

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2023 46:21


Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely. In this episode, Dr. Solomon shares insight on her work as a couples therapist, by discussing the value in healthy conflict, the importance of compassion within relationships, intimacy and trust, and more. FOLLOW DR. SOLOMON: INSTAGRAM: @dr.alexandra.solomon BOOK: Love Every Day PODCAST: Love Reimagined STAY CONNECTED: INSTA: @trustandthriveTIKOK:@trustandthriveTWITTER: @trustandthriveFACEBOOK: bit.ly/FBtaramontWEBSITE: www.tara-mont.com EMAIL: trustandthrive@gmail.com

Modern Intimacy
Practices to help your relationship heal, grow and thrive with Dr. Kate and Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Modern Intimacy

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2023 55:24


Alexandra Solomon's new book LOVE EVERY DAY 365 Relational Self Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive is released today, October 10th. Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. She also writes a popular blog for Psychology Today. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples. She is a founding expert on the Mine'd app, and she serves on the clinical board of Dame Products. She has contributed to outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. In this episode Kate and Alexandra talk about the nuances of relationships. They refer to the quiz Alexandra created that reveals roles we take on in the Family of Origin Roles quiz and how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. They also talk about the premises in her new book: *Love is a Daily Practice. *How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. *How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. *How do you love someone and not lose yourself. They also talk about some of the 365 specific practices to keep love going suggested in the book. It is a revealing and spirited talk about you, relationships, and keeping the curiosity alive. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: Mayer Labs- Swirl Lubricants: Go to www.Amazon.com and visit the Kimono Swirl store. Use promo code 20SwirlNaked for 20% off through the month of November. Dipsea: For listeners of the show, Dipsea is offering a 30 day full access free trial when vou go to: www.Dipseastories.com/Getnaked Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast
104: Love Every Day with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2023 50:27


Bela chats with Dr. Alexandra Solomon about her new book, "Love Every Day" - and we talk about so many things including: Can we get better at relationships? Toxic Monogamy - What does it mean, and why is it fostered by "Disney" and the Hollywood industry? Attraction -- does being attracted to someone while you're in a relationship mean the death-knell of the relationship? What is 'micro-cheating' and how to know if you're doing it!  The best test and so easy to do.... Why a deep friendship is KEY to a successful relationship Why great sex long term is also fueled by friendship This episode is awesome, and if you're ready to invest in Dr. Solomon's book, put this link in your browser to buy it!  https://bit.ly/3Lu449e Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational jmSelf-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely. If you're ready to invest in the love of your life, and if you're tired of being single, schedule a one hour session with Bela to change the trajectory of your dating life!    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Episode 236: Love Every Day with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2023 55:23


Dr. Alexandra Solomon returns to the podcast this week to discuss her new book, Love Every Day. Part of the book's premise is that love needs to be a daily practice. Dr. Solomon shares her insights and wisdom about how to show up for the relationships in your life.   Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., is internationally recognized as today's most trusted relationship voice. Her Relational Self-Awareness framework has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon, hosts the podcast REIMAGINING LOVE and has a new book, LOVE EVERY DAY, on sale this October.  Featured topics include: Why love needs to be a daily practice (5:17) Relational Self-Awareness (RSA) is the key to a healthy relationship (9:31) How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team (27:15) How cultural context and identity shape our relationships (36:52) Dr. Solomon answers, “Why is dating so challenging right now?” (47:32) Learn more about Dr. Alexandra Solomon: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, Ph.D., is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-236-love-every-day-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/ The Divorce CoalitionThe Divorce Coalition on InstagramDr. Alexandra Solomon's website Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Instagram Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Facebook Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Free Your Energy
How To Heal Relational Wounds with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Free Your Energy

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2023 54:54


How To Heal Relational Wounds with Dr. Alexandra Solomon THERAPIST. PROFESSOR. SPEAKER. AUTHOR. Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. Learn more about Dr. Ali here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/about/ Please leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Reviews make a massive difference for new readers who are considering this podcast. If you are a loyal listener and you want to support this mission to inspire people to free their energy, you can subscribe here: Support The Show ————————————————————————————————————————————————————-- The Free Your Energy podcast stream on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, listen here: sylvestermcnutt.net/podcast

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Sex with Dr. Jess
Help! I’m only attracted to the “wrong type” & what to do when I’m no longer “in love”

Sex with Dr. Jess

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2023 37:00


Why am I only attracted to "toxic" partners? How can I heal & move on from old wounds? What do I do when I love my partner, but I'm no longer "in love"? How do you define love? How do I deal with a partner who blames everyone else for their problems? Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins Jess & Brandon to answer your relationship questions. She explains why we sometimes avoid healthy relationships and; why we might; be drawn to harmful ones. And she also provides a nuanced look at how learning and healing from old wounds can help us to change the future -- without dwelling on the past. Finally, they discuss how couples can deal with the challenge of loving one another while no longer being "in love". Follow Dr. Alexandra Solomon's work: Reimagining Love Podcast Alexandra's Website Instagram Thank you to Lovehoney for their support of this podcast! Save on toys, lingerie, and much more at Lovehoney.com with code DRJESS15   And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Help! I'm only attracted to the "wrong type" & what to do when I'm no longer "in love" Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Happy New Year. Happy New Year 2023. This is going to be a good one. And I'm excited for our conversation today because we're going to talk about being in love versus loving someone. We're going to talk about the paradox of healing. I'm hoping to talk about attraction to people that you don't want to be attracted to and lack of attraction to the people you do want to attracted to, be attracted to. With Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who is a psychologist, she's got a huge following on Instagram. She got her own podcast. I'm super excited for that. Before she joins us, big shout out to our sponsor launching us into 2023. My friends at Love Honey and I have been working with Love Honey for a long, long, long time. Long, long, long, long time. And you can check out all of their goodies. They have a whole bunch of New Year's sales. And I've got an extra discount code. Dr. Jess Ten for Lovehoney.com. Lovehoney CA all the different Love Honey sites. So if you're looking for lingerie, if you're looking for latexware, if you're looking for all the good vibes to start the year with good vibes, love Honey.com code Dr. Jess Ten to say. All right, without further ado, we are going to get into this. Joining us now is Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, a psychologist and author, the host of her own podcast, Reimagining Love, that covers everything relationship related, from your background in therapy to academic approaches to pop culture, representations of relationships and how that affects how we relate in real life, basically all the practical aspects of relating. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for having me. This is such a treat to get to spend some time with you. Yes. And a great way to start 2023, because you're brilliant. You have you have a couple of books. You have not only the podcast Reimagining Love You Have Taking Sexy Back How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want. Best Selling Award winning book. And you have another book. Loving bravely 20 Lessons of Self Discovery to help you get the love you want. And you have a big following on Instagram and everyone needs to go check out Dr. Alexandra Solomon on IG.

Sex with Dr. Jess
Help! I’m only attracted to the “wrong type” & what to do when I’m no longer “in love”

Sex with Dr. Jess

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2023 37:00


Why am I only attracted to "toxic" partners? How can I heal & move on from old wounds? What do I do when I love my partner, but I'm no longer "in love"? How do you define love? How do I deal with a partner who blames everyone else for their problems? Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins Jess & Brandon to answer your relationship questions. She explains why we sometimes avoid healthy relationships and; why we might; be drawn to harmful ones. And she also provides a nuanced look at how learning and healing from old wounds can help us to change the future -- without dwelling on the past. Finally, they discuss how couples can deal with the challenge of loving one another while no longer being "in love". Follow Dr. Alexandra Solomon's work: Reimagining Love Podcast Alexandra's Website Instagram Thank you to Lovehoney for their support of this podcast! Save on toys, lingerie, and much more at Lovehoney.com with code DRJESS10   And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Help! I'm only attracted to the "wrong type" & what to do when I'm no longer "in love" Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Happy New Year. Happy New Year 2023. This is going to be a good one. And I'm excited for our conversation today because we're going to talk about being in love versus loving someone. We're going to talk about the paradox of healing. I'm hoping to talk about attraction to people that you don't want to be attracted to and lack of attraction to the people you do want to attracted to, be attracted to. With Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who is a psychologist, she's got a huge following on Instagram. She got her own podcast. I'm super excited for that. Before she joins us, big shout out to our sponsor launching us into 2023. My friends at Love Honey and I have been working with Love Honey for a long, long, long time. Long, long, long, long time. And you can check out all of their goodies. They have a whole bunch of New Year's sales. And I've got an extra discount code. Dr. Jess Ten for Lovehoney.com. Lovehoney CA all the different Love Honey sites. So if you're looking for lingerie, if you're looking for latexware, if you're looking for all the good vibes to start the year with good vibes, love Honey.com code Dr. Jess Ten to say. All right, without further ado, we are going to get into this. Joining us now is Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, a psychologist and author, the host of her own podcast, Reimagining Love, that covers everything relationship related, from your background in therapy to academic approaches to pop culture, representations of relationships and how that affects how we relate in real life, basically all the practical aspects of relating. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for having me. This is such a treat to get to spend some time with you. Yes. And a great way to start 2023, because you're brilliant. You have you have a couple of books. You have not only the podcast Reimagining Love You Have Taking Sexy Back How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want. Best Selling Award winning book. And you have another book. Loving bravely 20 Lessons of Self Discovery to help you get the love you want. And you have a big following on Instagram and everyone needs to go check out Dr. Alexandra Solomon on IG.

Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast: the Self-Love Podcast for Women
#128: Making Your Relationship Last with Dr. Alexandra

Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2022 49:43


Since Mary is getting married soon, it's only fitting that she talks to renowned relationship psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon. You will learn... which green flags to look out for in your relationship how to navigate feeling like you're carrying the “emotional burden” of your relationship what it means when you say “I love you but I'm not in love with you” the key to making a relationship last long-term Follow Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Learn more about Alexandra here: www.dralexandrasolomon.com And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today, the creator and host of the Reimagining Love podcast, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. Mentioned In This Episode... Dr. Alexandra's podcast episode with her husband Todd: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/

Drink It In
Dr. Alexandra Solomon - Bonus Round

Drink It In

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2022 30:53


Meet Dr. Alexandra Solomon; author of two best selling books and over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. It was an honor and a pleasure to interview Dr. Solomon and I am confident you will enjoy her insights and wisdom that she shares in this episode. https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ @dr.alexandra.solomon Thinking about starting a podcast of your own? www.maverickpodcasting.com

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Over It And On With It
CC: Relational Awareness with Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon

Over It And On With It

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2021 58:58


This is such a rich conversation about relationships, sex and sexuality, monogamy and love. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in theDepartment of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University,  and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own YourSexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; NewHarbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the LoveYou Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents.  She is also a strong,positive resource on Instagram, where she has earned more than 160K followers to date.   Her website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

Starve the Ego Feed the Soul
Why You Need Relational Self-Awareness - Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Starve the Ego Feed the Soul

Play Episode Play 60 sec Highlight Listen Later Oct 13, 2021 56:14


Welcome back Starve the Ego Feed the Soul fam! Donorbox link to show your support for the show or buy me a coffee https://donorbox.org/nico-barrazaOver the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.In this episode Dr. Solomon and I dive deeper into her ideas around building relational self-awareness (RSA) and why this is the most important thing we can be working on to live more fulfilling and joyous lives. If you have followed me for a while you know I am consistently reverting back to building self-awareness as the nexus of being better humans, partners, parents, lovers, friends, and so on. Dr. Solomon brings her amazing background as a clinical psychologist and expands on this with me in an hour long conversation that is filled with so much insight.A link to Dr. Solomon's new podcast launching this month https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcast/Links to Dr. Solomon's E-course and books: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/train-with-alexandra/And last but not least...her social media links are belowInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/Twitter: https://twitter.com/ahsolomonFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/alexandrahs1

Single Minded
Our Dating Tips To Make Every Date An "Experience" with Emmy Pens

Single Minded

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2021 59:24


The Budget Bachelorette is back for another episode! Emmy Pens is joining me again to chat our top dating tips.  Remember...  A first date is not an interview. It's not a performance. It's not a test. ⁣A first date is an experience.⁣(via Dr Alexandra H. Solomon). Follow Emmy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmypens/

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Unconditionally Worthy Podcast
Self-Worth, Relationships and Sex Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon

Unconditionally Worthy Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2021 50:16


Licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon talks about her framework of relational self-awareness, detailing how your relationship with yourself sets the foundation for you to have healthy romantic relationships. She also shares powerful techniques for improving your sexual relationship(s), highlighting the intersections between self-worth, sex, and sexuality.IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…Dr. Alexandra's journey with self-worthHow to have a healthy relationship with yourselfStrategies for resolving conflict and getting your needs metHow challenges with low self-worth show up in relationships (and in couple's therapy)The role of trust, shame, and blame in unhealthy, unstable relationshipsWhy self-exploration matters & Ways to have better sex with your partnerTake the Which Date Night Are You? quiz here:  www.dradiagooden.com/datenightquiz  & share your results with me by sharing them on social media and tagging me!Stream & Download The Unconditionally Worthy Podcast NOW for FREE on Apple Podcast, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, and Spotify!To connect further with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Visit her website: www.dralexandrasolomon.comFollow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon To connect further with me:Visit my website: www.dradiagooden.com Connect with me on Facebook: www.facebook.com/dradiagooden Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dradiagooden Connect with me on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/adia-gooden-4b26751b 

The Viall Files
E301 Dr. Alexandra Solomon - A Clinical Look At The Break - Up of Katie & Greg

The Viall Files

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2021 81:01


Welcome to a bonus episode of The Viall Files. Today we are joined by Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.   On this episode Dr. Soloman clinically breaks down the fight between Katie and Greg, while discussing gaslighting and emotional abuse. She helps us to understand whether we saw these actions on screen and why it might be triggering to so many watching at home.  Please make sure to subscribe so you don't miss an episode and as always send in your relationship questions to asknick@kastmedia.com to be a part of our Monday episodes.  For merch please visit www.viallfiles.com today! Episode Socials:  @viallfiles @nickviall @dr.alexandra.solomon See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Doing It Different
046: The Secrets to Lasting Marriage and Having the Love You Really Want with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD

Doing It Different

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 6, 2021 56:44


Love can be life-changing or it can be lackluster - it’s up to you to decide. Here to help you have the love you really want is Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Dr. Solomon is a relationship therapist, teacher, author, and sought-after speaker who is passionate about translating research and clinical wisdom into practical tools that people can use to level up their relationships. In this episode, she brings so many tools to the table that are great for singles or couples to have in their back pocket. Stay tuned as we discuss what relational self-awareness is and how to increase yours, how to have a deeper emotional connection with a male partner, and the art of pausing during conflict. Dr. Solomon also shares the keys to reigniting your sexual expression, four relationship killers, and when it’s time to walk away.  Enjoy! Episode Highlights:  3:26 Dr. Solomon’s work at Northwestern and in her practice  5:43 What relational self-awareness is 8:42 Discovering your own relational self-awareness rating 12:27 Dr. Solomon’s two books for your reading list 15:00 How to increase your relational self-awareness  17:19 Why learning to pause and taking a sacred timeout can work wonders during conflict 20:07 The four horseman of a relationship apocalypse  23:58 Why men are conditioned to have trouble communicating 27:24 How a female can support her male partner in emotional connection 29:40 Tips for a man to explore being more emotionally expressed 35:14 Why sex is an important part of a lasting partnership 40:44 How to reignite your sexual expression 47:40 When it’s time to leave a relationship 52:53 What integration means and how to know if you’re ready for a new relationship Links and Resources:  Dr. Alexandra Solomon Loving Bravely Taking Sexy Back The Mankind Project Becoming Cliterate Podcast 017: How to Turn Relationship Conflict Into Connection with Annie Lalla Podcast 004: How to Have an Awesome Marriage with Adee and Michael Cazayoux Podcast 035: Have More Orgasms, Debunk Society’s Sex Myths, and Become Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz Guest Bio: Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world.  Dr. Solomon is a faculty member in the School of Education and Social Policy (SESP) at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Did you enjoy this episode? Please drop a comment below or leave a review on iTunes to let me know! I love hearing what you think and it helps others who want to Do It Different find the podcast as well.

The Viall Files
E226 Breaking Down Marriage 101 With Dr. Alexandra Solomon

The Viall Files

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2021 79:12


Today we are joined but Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Solomon is a faculty member in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Nick and Dr. Solomon dive into a bunch of relationship topics including, how to handle a relationship in a “rut”, hook up culture, porn in a relationship, expectations of men in the bedroom, how to speak to your partner without judgement , and making sure you know your body so you can communicate to your partner what works for you sexually.  “ If there is one thing I have learned from 20 years of couples therapy, what matters so much to a man is how he looks in his partners eyes.” Please make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode and as always send in your relationship questions to asknick@kastmedia.com to be a part of our Monday episodes.  THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: Headspace: http://www.headspace.com/VIALL for a free one month trial.  Upstart: http://www.upstart.com/VIALL to find out how you can lower your monthly payments.  HighKey: http://www.highkey.com/FILES to get 15% off you order  Article: http://www.article.com/VIALL for $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more  Episode Socials:  @viallfiles @nickviall @dr.alexandra.solomon See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Love Intently Podcast with Sophie Kwok
Taking Sexy Back with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Love Intently Podcast with Sophie Kwok

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2020 62:15


Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She has written many books on marriage and family. Her most popular books are "Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want" and "Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want." Dr. Alexandra also does speaking events for groups like United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. In these groups, she is frequently asked to talk about Love, sex, and marriage. She has also been on media outlets such as, The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. Today, we have Dr. Alexandra on our show to discuss various areas of a relationship, such as the topics listed below. Key Topics Discussed Why we apologize and why it's difficult to admit we're weak. The definition of what Relational Self- Awareness is and how we can be aware of it. "The idea of relational self-awareness, which is the idea that in order to create a healthy, intimate relationship, the tools and the strategies are important, that's for sure, but it starts with my relationship with me and my willingness to be on an ongoing journey that is guided by compassionate curiosity about looking at what my intimate partnership stirs up awakens. And reflect back to me about myself. " What does it mean to have Interdependent Relationships? What is the golden equation of Love? "The golden question of Love is 'My stuff, plus your stuff, equals our stuff in order to understand any pain point in the relationship, whether it's something big, like an infidelity or something, little like a fight about the toilet paper roll. We have to be willing to look at how my stuff, plus your stuff equals our stuff because otherwise what we end up doing is getting stuck the way we know we're not. Using the golden equation of Love is when we get stuck in either blame or shame." How to identify what seven traps and seven reaches look like and how to build more reaches for a healthy relationship. What does it mean to listen with our third ear and how does that help with building relationships? "Listening with the third ear is really about holding space, like becoming the bowl, the container for our partner's words and our partner's experiences. It's really trying to understand it from their perspective, leaving out and try as best we can to leave out the filters that we bring in and to leave out the desire to formulate what we're going to say next while our partner is saying what they're saying" Explaining more of how the process goes for "name, connect, and choose" within rational self-awareness or sexual self-awareness. How do we call a truce to end the war with our bodies and how we feel about them during intimacy. "The way we end the war is with some pushback and no more. Like, no more. And no more doesn't mean, 'I'm not ever going to have the thought again', but no more means, 'I'm going to commit that when those thoughts start to come up, I'm going to meet those thoughts with compassion, resistance, redirection, and entitlement, entitlements, or pleasure, entitlement to comfort, entitlement, to joy'." The nine areas in the map of sexual or sexual self-awareness. Alexandra's Three truths about Love that she lives by It's okay to not know. Things are hard because they're hard, not because we're broken or dumb or silly There are things we can't see or figure out all right now. Dr. Alexandra's best relationship advice. "In terms of a guiding principle to me is that the two of you aren't always going to like each other at the exact same amount at all times. There can be fear in both spots. If I'm aware that I'm more into you than you are into me, that can create tremendous vulnerability in name. And it can be really frightening and anxiety-provoking. If I'm aware, then a bit less into you right now than you are into me, that can create similar feelings of resentment and questioning, but that's normal." What does Love Intently mean to Dr. Alexandra? "Just knowing that it's work and it's absolutely the best work. The research though, is the thing that matters most in the quality of our lives is the quality of our relationships, specifically our intimate relationships. And so, when we love intently, by learning and by practicing, it's the most important work we can do."

They Never Taught Us This
When Heartbreak Changes You with Caroline McKenna

They Never Taught Us This

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2020 52:59


Trigger warning: This episode contains explicit and ongoing references to suicide, depression STI's, and consent. In episode six, Alexandra and Caroline McKenna have a heart-to-heart about her journey of heartbreak after a relationship ending. Caroline opens up about what heartbreak has taught her & how it has changed her. They also chat about Caroline's experience of mental health in Ireland and life abroad in Australia. Caroline is also the host of her own podcast, A County Down Under.Find us at @theynevertaughtusthis. Get to know the hosts @alexandraemmamiller & @sophiaccevans and our guest @CarolineMckenna. Music by @lilaphra. Logo & branding by @sugarbranded. Podcast Editing & shownotes by @sassysnowflakesayshi.In this episode we discuss:00:52 Alexandra and Emma talk about their latest 'They Never Taught Us This' .13:15 Alexandra and Caroline chat about heartbreak & life abroad.Books, TV, videos and apps:8:06 Sex Education - Netflix.8:40 Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want - Alexandra H. Solomon PhD.22:10 Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope - Johann Hari.40:45 Headspace App43:34 Behind the Mask: My Autobiography - Tyson Fury.43:37 The Four Agreements: Practical Guide to Personal Freedom - Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills.43:42 The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment - Eckhart Tolle.43:45 Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Joe Dispenza 44:14 Tony RobbinsMental health references and resources:6:50 NHS local testing branches OR free home STI testing kit (UK)14:35 TW: Discussion of suicide - support here.20:10 Lightball Committee Ireland & Sydney raise money and awareness for suicide. 20:55 Pieta House supports issues around suicide & self-harm (Ireland).ResourcesClick here for a list of mental health charities & support services - UK.Click here for a list of mental health charities & support services - Ireland.Click here for a list of mental health charities & support services - Australia.

The Learn to Love Podcast
Ep 18: Taking Sexy Back with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

The Learn to Love Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2020 46:28


What does science have to say about the connection between love and sex? What is the golden equation of love? How do we better our sexual self-awareness? Learn the answer to these questions and more in this in this week's episode of the Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews professor, clinical psychologist, writer, and author, Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Learn more about your guest below: Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, which was featured on the TODAY show. Learn more at * http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ * https://www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon/ * https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ * https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandra-solomon-94706b37/ * https://twitter.com/ahsolomon * https://www.youtube.com/user/alexandrahs1 Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com Like us on Facebook: facebook.com/learntolovenow Join the Community group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/

Talking Beats with Daniel Lelchuk
Ep. 16: Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Talking Beats with Daniel Lelchuk

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2020 35:48


Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. The author of numerous books, her work has been featured on The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. On this episode, she discusses her practice with Daniel and the toll the global pandemic is taking on families and relationships.

Badass Confidence Coach
017. Love In The Time of Corona

Badass Confidence Coach

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2020 45:28


This week's episode is about love and relationships in the midst of Coronavirus.  We're all staying at home a lot more.  And our most intimate relationships can be feeling the strain of our current life stressors.  How do we move through, and thrive, during this time, with our spouses and intimate partners? Enter my expert guest: Dr. Solomon.  Dr. Solomon gives some great tips for how to cope with and relate well to our partners as we are all with each other so much more these days.   Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD. Dr. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University; as well she is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University.  Dr. Solomon is also a regular contributor to Psychology Today magazine and the author of two books:  Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger) This book was featured on the Today Show! Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Creat the Relationships You Want (Feb. 2, 2020; New Harbinger) Dr. Solomon is also an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents.  You can find her online at: www.DrAlexandraSolomon.com    

dhaani
"We need to do some re-parenting of ourselves" - Dr. Alexandra Solomon - Episode 60

dhaani

Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2020 33:44


Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents. In this podcast we talk about : - How our developmental years play out in our adult lives - The un-met childhood needs - The un-parented traumas that we carry with ourselves - How we can manage our childhood traumas Dr. Solomon's Social Media Handles: Website: dralexandrasolomon.com Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Facebook: @dralexandrasolomon Twitter: @ahsolomon LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandra-solomon-94706b37/

Life Can Change In A Moment
Understanding Your Sexual Health Panel Discussion, With Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD and Dr. Pari Ghodsi, MD

Life Can Change In A Moment

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2020 61:13


oday we have two special guests in studio. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, will be published in February 2020. MD Dr. Pari Ghodsi, MD is an obstetrics & gynecology specialist in Northridge, CA. She is a board certified and active Fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology.Dr. Pari loves to write and speak about women’s health and issues in a relatable way. She brings a unique touch when educating, often sharing her own experiences as a woman.   We talk through a variety of mens and womens sexual health issues and try to find a common ground for the battle of the sexes.         

Life Can Change In A Moment
Saying Goodbye to Dad, and Taking Your Sexy Back, with Dr Alexandra Solomon PHD

Life Can Change In A Moment

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2020 74:03


Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, will be published in February 2020. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups like United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.

TRUST & THRIVE with Tara Mont
68: Sexual Self-Awareness & Owning Your Sexuality - with Alexandra Solomon, Ph.D., Author of Taking Sexy Back

TRUST & THRIVE with Tara Mont

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2020 56:52


Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. Alexandra lives in the greater Chicago area, where she is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University. She is also a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today and an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on five continents. In this episode, we touch on sexual self-awareness, sexual curiosity, understanding the messages and gendered stories we've been taught, the difference between gender vs. sex assigned at birth, self-compassion, letting go of sexual shame and past narratives, gender neutral parenting, and much more.FOLLOW ALEXANDRA:INSTA: @dr.alexandra.solomonWEBSITE: www.dralexandrasolomon.comTEDx TALK: Relational Self-Awareness: The Key to Navigating Modern LoveCONTACT TARA:INSTA: @tara.mont / @trustandthriveYOUTUBE: Tara MontFACEBOOK: bit.ly/FBtaramontWEBSITE: www.tara-mont.comEMAIL: tara@tara-mont.com

Hashtag Single
EP 21: TAKING SEXY BACK

Hashtag Single

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2020 43:53


Happy Tuesday, singles!  We have an incredible guest expert episode for your February blahs.  Whether Valentine's Day has found you getting your groove on or Netflix-and-chillin' solo, renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon is here to share her uplifting and profound wisdom on reclaiming your sexuality as a thing of value and cultivating it in a way that feels authentic and aligned to you.   We are honored to have Dr. Solomon join us to talk about her new book Taking Sexy Back (a companion book to her acclaimed Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want) which sets out to dismantle the often conflicting, shame-inducing, and disempowering messages about sex instilled in us from birth in a patriarchal system.  Instead, Dr. Solomon encourages us to connect with our true sexual selves by taking "sexy" as an adjective and turning it into a noun, something you own that is yours.   From incomplete sex educations, why women fake orgasms, sexual shame for men, and non-relationship hookup sex, we cover a ton of ground to investigate how the broken parts of our culture prove a disservice to the beauty that is your gorgeous, sexual self.  Get ready for a deep dive look into your sexual story.     Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is on faculty in the Weinberg College of Arts and Sciences, and the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University. She is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and is on faculty at The Omega Institute. Her first book, Loving Bravely, was featured on The Today Show. She writes articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family. She maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups like the United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. She is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage for media outlets like O, The Oprah Magazine; The Atlantic; Vogue; NPR; and Scientific American. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on five continents. She lives in the Greater Chicago Area.   Buy Dr. Solomon's phenomenal book here!

ManTalks Podcast
Dr. Alexandra Solomon - Taking Sexy Back, How to Own Your Sexuality

ManTalks Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2020 50:29


Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is the author of the books TAKING SEXY BACK: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. She is  a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a lecturer in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups including the United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with such media outlets as The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.   Taking Sexy Back - http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/book/   Connect with Alexandra Website: www.dralexandrasolomon.com Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Facebook: www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon Twitter: @ahsolomon Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The Tech

The Couples Therapist Couch
114: Alexandra Solomon on Taking Sexy Back

The Couples Therapist Couch

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2020 48:21


Women are expected to be sexy, but not sexual. We’re bombarded with conflicting, shame-inducing, and disempowering messages about sex, instead of being encouraged to connect with our true sexual selves. Sexy gets reduced to a performance, leaving us with little to no space to reckon with the complexities of sexuality. In a culture intent on telling you who and how to be, standing in your truth is revolutionary. (from the Amazon book description for Taking Sexy Back) Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist. She is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, was published in February 2020. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Find out more at dralexandrasolomon.com The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Click here for more information on the Couples Therapist Inner Circle. Get your free course called Working with Couples 101 Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group Today's Sponsor I've partnered with the Psychotherapy Networker to give you this free resource from Esther Perel. She's put together her 125 best "sexuality conversation starters." Get it today at psychotherapynetworker.org/shane

Find Your Feminine Fire
Sexual Self Awareness and Taking Sexy Back with Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon

Find Your Feminine Fire

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2020 36:40


What does it mean to be sexually self-aware?  Tune into this week's episode as I talk with Dr. Alexandra Solomon about how to own your sexuality and create the relationships you want. 

Journey Forward with Joree Rose
Are you ready to take sexy back?

Journey Forward with Joree Rose

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2020 50:52


Alright ladies - this one is for you! I could have talked to Alexandra Solomon for hours - no wait, make that days!! We cover so much juiciness in this episode about all things relationships, sex, and even how to talk to your kids about sex. I absolutely love when I come across brilliant people, putting forth amazing work, in a relatable and attainable way, and Alexandra is the real deal! Highlighting her new book, Taking Sexy Back, we focus a lot of how women can embrace themselves and their sexuality in a healthy, positive, and fun way. And teaser...you’ll want to listen all the way through to the end...there’s talk about the clitoris that I promise you, you won’t want to miss!   Alexandra’s bio: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger; February 2, 2020)  and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017), as well as the author of articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family. She is  a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a lecturer in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups including the United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with such media outlets as The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.       IG: @dr.alexandra.solomon FB: Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Relationship Advice
198: #RelationshipGoals Getting In The Way Of Your #SquadGoals?

Relationship Advice

Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2019 45:30


The connection we have with our friends can be just as important as our connection with a partner. However, balancing our friendships with our romantic relationships can be difficult. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with all parties and balance our friendships with our romantic relationships.    In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How are friendships can change as we enter new stages of life and how to deal with this.  Stepping away from your romantic relationship for restoration and time to nurture friendships.  Balancing the guilt about being away from your romantic partner and/or kids.  Friendships with other couples.  And much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/198 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors ForHers: Get you first month of birth control for just $5 right now while supplies last (and subject to doctor approval). See website for full details. Go to ForHers.com/ido. Restrictions apply, see website for full details and safety information. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Relationships 2.0 With Dr. Michelle Skeen
Guest: Alexandra Solomon PhD author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want

Relationships 2.0 With Dr. Michelle Skeen

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2017 60:05


This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Alexandra Solomon, PhD author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want About the book: Real love starts with you. In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. This book offers twenty invaluable lessons that will help you explore and commit to your own emotional and psychological well-being so you can be ready, resilient, and confident in love. Many of us enter into romantic relationships full of expectation and hope, only to be sorely disappointed by the realization that the partner we’ve selected is a flawed human being with their own neuroses, history, and desires. Most relationships end because one or both people haven’t done the internal work necessary to develop self-awareness and take responsibility for their own experiences. We’ve all heard “You can’t love anyone unless you love yourself,” but amid life’s distractions and the myth of perfect, romantic love, how exactly do you do that? In Loving Bravely, psychologist, professor and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon introduces the idea of relational self-awareness, encouraging you to explore your personal history to gain an understanding of your own relational patterns, as well as your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. By doing so, you’ll learn what relationships actually require, beyond the fairytale notions of romance. And by maintaining a steady but gentle focus on yourself, you’ll build the best possible foundation for making a loving connection. By understanding your past relationship experiences, cultivating a strong sense of self-awareness, and determining what it is you really want in a romantic partner—you’ll be ready to find the healthy, lasting love your heart desires. About the author: Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is staff clinical psychologist, member of the teaching faculty in the marriage and family therapy graduate program, and clinical assistant professor of psychology at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to her clinical work with couples and individuals, Solomon teaches graduate and undergraduate students. One of her courses is Northwestern University’s internationally renowned “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101,” which combines traditional and experiential learning to educate students about key relational issues like intimacy, sex, conflict, acceptance, and forgiveness. Solomon’s work has been widely cited, and her articles on love and marriage have appeared in The Handbook of Clinical Psychology, The Handbook of Couple Therapy, Family Process, Psychotherapy Networker, and other top publications in psychology. Her work also appears in O Magazine and The Huffington Post, and she is a frequent interviewee and contributor for the Oprah Winfrey Network, Yahoo! Health, The Atlantic, CBS Early Show, NPR, Psychology Today, and WGN Morning News. She is a sought-after speaker for corporate, collegiate, and professional audiences on topics related to modern love. Solomon lives in Highland Park, IL, with her husband, Todd, and their two children, Brian and Courtney.

Sexology
EP359 - Discover the Foundation for Thriving Long-Term Relationships with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Sexology

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 38:55


Welcome to episode 359 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Alexandra Solomon. In this episode, we discuss how sexual self-awareness involves understanding societal messages, the evolving nature of sexuality in long-term relationships and the need to break free from narrow sexual scripts.  Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world.  Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.  In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.    In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of relational self-awareness in a healthy relationship Relational self-awareness involves looking at one's own behavior in a relationship How sexual self-awareness involves understanding societal messages  The importance of unlearning and relearning about one's sexuality How different sexual scripts can affect relationships The evolving nature of sexuality in long-term relationships Reminiscing can be a way to connect and maintain desire in a relationship Encouraging men to move away from performance-based sex  The need to break free from narrow sexual scripts  Cozy Earth This week's episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sexology
EP327 - The Connection Between Love and Sex in Healthy Relationships with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Sexology

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1970 30:13


Welcome to episode 327 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Alexandra Solomon. In this episode, we discuss maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship, boosting your sexual confidence and learning to step into your erotic self.  Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world.   Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back.   Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.  In this episode, you will hear:   Maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship Understanding the dynamics of sex and intimacy  Cultivating self-awareness and relational safety  How you can repair damaged parts of your sex life Ways in which you can boost your sexual confidence Tools you can use to better communicate with your partner Cultivating the positive aspects of your relationship inside and outside the bedroom Learning to step into your erotic self   Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy