Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

I'm coming in hot with a truth bomb that might just flip your parenting, your self-awareness, and your whole emotional vibe on its head.Who's heard that we must learn to “control our emotions”? ME. A million times...Newsflash: This is TERRIBLE advice.Yep, I said it. So if you've ever gritted your teeth, stuffed your feelings down, or told your kid to “just calm down”, you're not alone.We've all been fed this myth that emotional intelligence means being cool, calm, and collected 24/7. Like some sort of emotionless robot with a gratitude journal?! Ok then.But here's the thing: emotions aren't meant to be controlled, they're meant to be understood.Every feeling you have is like a little post-it note from your inner world.Anger? “Hey, your boundary just got steamrolled.”Anxiety? “Something feels off, look closer.”Disappointment? “You were hoping for something, and it didn't land.”Emotions aren't interruptions. They're INTEL.So today, I'm diving into how emotional intelligence is actually about tuning in, not shutting down. I'll show you how to listen to your emotions (without getting stuck in them), use them to guide better decisions, and teach your kids to do the same.Because once you stop shoving emotions aside and start decoding what they're telling you?Everything. Gets. Easier.

Ever been told that "kids just need some good ol' fashioned discipline" to learn their lesson?Yeah... let's talk about why that advice needs to go straight to the recycling bin.I'm pulling back the curtain on the real difference between discipline and punishment — and why confusing the two can seriously mess with your child's emotional growth (and your relationship with them).Spoiler: Discipline isn't about being "soft." It's about being SMART.You'll learn: ✨ Why discipline teaches and punishment backfires ✨ How discipline builds future behaviour, while punishment keeps kids stuck in shame ✨ Why connection and guidance will always beat blame and fear ✨ How real discipline actually boosts emotional intelligence (and no, yelling doesn't count)

What if the secret to raising calm, confident, and connected kids has been quietly thriving in Denmark this whole time?? (It's been ranked in the top 5 happiest countries for over 40 years!)Not in a high-tech lab. Not in a parenting trend. But in a culture that consistently tops the charts as the happiest in the world.This week on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, we're diving into The Danish Way with bestselling author and cultural researcher Jessica Joelle Alexander.If you've ever wished parenting could feel more peaceful, less like a power struggle, and more like a partnership—this episode is your warm, welcoming invitation.And guess what? Her brand-new book The Danish Way Everyday is out THIS week! So if you're into calm, connected parenting (I know you are), go preorder your copy right after you finish this episode.

Have you ever found yourself snapping at your kids and then sinking into a wave of guilt, thinking, “I swore I'd be different!!!”

Messing up as a parent: It's not IF, it's WHEN.

Hi all, today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast I'm diving deep into a game-changing topic that will profoundly shift the way you view your child's behaviour: HIDDEN TRIGGERS.Have you ever had a moment when your child or teen suddenly melts down over what seems like nothing? One moment they're fine, but the next, it's chaos over the "wrong" snack, the innocent question you asked, or a change in plans. You're left wondering, "What the heck just happened?!" Yep. I've been there too.So today, I'm letting you in on the truth: your kids aren't being difficult; they're responding to unseen triggers that their brains and nervous systems register long before they can articulate their feelings. Imagine if you could spot these triggers before they escalate into emotional blow-ups?! That's the power of emotional intelligence in parenting! Trust me.Today I've got 11 hidden triggers that can sneakily and instantly impact your child's emotions and behaviour, along with a few practical solutions for each that you can implement right away to support them in a more emotionally intelligent way. I explore everything from sensory overload and hunger to the effects of parental stress and overwhelming expectations.You'll hear about:Overstimulation and sensory sensitivities"Hangry” meltdownsKeeping your kids hydrated (seriously!)Creating a supportive emotional climate that models self-regulationHow to create smoother transitions between activitiesPerceived injustices (definitely a hidden trigger for many kids!)Physical discomforts and pain that you can't seeAdjusting your expectations to fit their developmental level (NOT age)Conflict exposureAnd the last one I'll keep a secret cause it's my ultimate favourite - sorry not sorry! Here's where you can really deepen your emotional intelligence and see the results... less conflict, fewer arguments, reduced yelling - seriously! And more calm, connection, and understanding.Tune in and let me give you a few more tools to navigate your kids' big emotions with grace and emotional intelligence.

Ever hear people throw around terms like “fight, flight, freeze,” “nervous system,” or “relational safety” and think… what are they actually talking about? Yep, me too.As a parent (and someone who works with families), I didn't really understand what those phrases meant... until I came across Mona Delahooke's work. And let me tell you, once I did, everything about my kids' behaviour suddenly made a LOT more sense!In this special re-release of our 2022 interview, Mona - who's a clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience - breaks down the science behind those frustrating, baffling behaviours our kids send our way.But this isn't just theory—Mona shares practical, real-life strategies to help you stay calm and support your child when they're overwhelmed.This conversation feels even more meaningful today because, in 2023, Mona survived a brain aneurysm—an experience that's led her to slow down and prioritize her health. I feel so lucky we still have her voice and wisdom to learn from, and I'm beyond grateful to share this life-changing conversation with you.In this episode, we dive into:✅ Why your child's “bad behaviour” is often a sign their nervous system is in distress✅ How understanding the brain makes parenting so much easier (and less stressful!)✅ Simple, effective ways to respond without yelling, punishing, or losing your coolIf you're ready to stop feeling frustrated and start feeling empowered, this one's for you.

What if parenting didn't have to be a battle of wills? And wouldn't it be nice to welcome your child's "no!" instead of it igniting a power struggle?! I feel you.Today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Vivek Patel, founder of Meaningful Ideas, to explore what some call a radical yet deeply effective approach—Noncoercive Collaborative Parenting.Vivek shares why kids resist us more when they trust us less - and how the common fallback to coercion damages that trust.But instead of simply telling us what not to do, Vivek offers clear, practical steps for building a relationship where cooperation flows naturally.We dive into:✨ The "Model, Guide, Friend" framework and how it can transform your parenting.✨ Why hearing “no” from our kids feels so triggering and how to embrace it as a gift.✨ How to teach kids to set boundaries and resist peer pressure, without controlling them.✨ Debunking the myth that noncoercive parenting raises “soft snowflakes” or kids who walk all over us.✨ Inspiring through values—and the importance of knowing and living your own.Vivek also shares his personal journey of raising his now-28-year-old daughter this way—despite being raised in a home filled with control and coercion. His insights are powerful, practical, and guaranteed to shift the way you think about guiding your child.

This week, I'm joined by the incredible Marissa Taylor, an Aussie, a passionate advocate for neurodivergent children and a mum to five neurodivergent kiddos.She shares how emotional intelligence has completely changed her parenting and why so many neurodivergent children are being missed, dismissed, or even punished in schools - simply for being themselves.We also dive into:✨ The lens shift parents and teachers need to truly support neurodivergent kids (hello, Dr. Ross Greene!)✨ Why the mainstream school system often fails kids emotionally and academically✨ Why so many parents are turning to homeschooling (and whether it might be right for you)✨ PDA: Pathological Demand Avoidance (or Persistent Drive for Autonomy!), what it is and how to parent a PDA kiddo✨ How Marissa courageously navigates burnout as an ND family - such profound message in there.This episode is packed with insights, eye-openers, and of course emotional intelligence at the heart of it all. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or just someone who wants to understand neurodiversity better, you neeeed this conversation in your life.

Ok - big moment you guys. I'm excited (and somewhat embarrassed!) to share this special conversation with you—one that originally aired back in 2022 in my Facebook community Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids.Looking back, I can't help but cringe! I was SO nervous and excited to be speaking with the universal expert on parenting, education, and human behaviour: Alfie Kohn.Let's just say I wasn't as polished or professional as I am now… but the insights and wisdom? They're just as powerful today as they were then.Alfie Kohn, renowned author of Punished by Rewards, No Contest, The Homework Myth, and my personal favourite, Unconditional Parenting, (plus many others!) brings his groundbreaking research and passion for progressive education to this chat.In this episode, we dive into:

Are We Training Kids to Perform? The Truth About Rewards, Behaviour & Connection with Megg Thompson.We've all used them—sticker charts, gold stars, rewards for good behaviour. But what if these systems aren't actually helping kids grow? What if they're just training them to comply? (And then when we're not around, they stop "performing" because the motivation was never really theirs to begin with...)In this episode, I sit down with Megg Thompson, a former Kindergarten teacher turned neuro-affirming Certified Behavior Consultant and Life Coach, to unpack the real impact of rewards and compliance-based parenting and teaching.We dive into:✨ Why kids "hold it together" at school but melt down at home✨ The hidden problems with reward charts and behavior incentives✨ Why compliance shouldn't be the goal—and what to focus on instead✨ How traditional discipline alienates neurodivergent and struggling kids✨ What actually works to build cooperation, trust, and connectionMegg brings her signature humour and deep insight to a conversation that will challenge what you think you know about kids' behaviour.Also, she made me keep in the drunk-squirrel moments she and I had around 22-23 min mark - enjoy listening to us rack our brains when she lost her train of thought!If you're ready to shift from power-over to partnership, ditch the rewards, and start building real, lasting connection with your kids—this episode is a must-listen.Find Megg Thompson here:http://www.instagram.com/meggthompsonbehaviorhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn5Q6ZPasX6ebCZ59ClM4qwhttps://meggthompson.com/*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community!

We all want our kids to be emotionally intelligent, right? Buuut are we actually teaching it in a way that helps them thrive?In this episode, I let loose a mini-rant (sorry not sorry) about some common myths and misconceptions that are sending mixed messages about emotions to our kids - without us even realising it.

Parenting is always challenging, but doing it solo comes with its own set of unique hurdles that can feel utterly overwhelming at times. In this episode, I chat with the amazing Dr. Gila - a single parent coach, psychologist, neuropsychologist, and a single mum who's been through it all.We dig into why single parents need supportive spaces (no one should have to do this alone) and explore the unique challenges and unexpected joys of raising kids solo.Dr. Gila gets real about the pressure to be perfect and why letting go of that myth can be one of the best gifts you give yourself and your kids.And let's get into the buzzword of the moment: self-care. Dr. Gila introduces her practical “sink model” for managing emotions, showing us why it's not about the one drop that overflows but the build-up that leads to it.Learn how to spot when your sink is filling up and what true self-care looks like when you're already stretched thin.If you're a single parent or know someone who is, this episode is packed with insights, practical tips, and the reassurance that you're not in this alone.We can tackle the messy, beautiful chaos of single parenting—together.

Most of us were never taught how to handle our emotions... we were just told to "calm down" or "stop overreacting."But here's the truth: all emotions are okay, not all behaviour is. And as parents, the way we handle our emotions directly shapes how our kids learn to manage theirs.Today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast, I'm sharing 10 powerful lessons about emotions:How to work with them instead of against them, how to stop stress from taking over, and how to develop the emotional intelligence you need to parent with confidence, calm, and connection. Stop taking things personally, stop believing there are bad emotions, and stop thinking your kids' emotions are out of control (even when it really seems like they are!)Because let's be real... if we don't learn to handle our emotions, they'll handle us.

Is emotional intelligence making kids “soft”? Or is it actually the secret to raising strong, resilient humans?

Today I'm sharing the hard-earned lessons that have completely transformed my parenting, marriage, and overall outlook on life. If you've ever felt like emotional intelligence is valuable but complicated or time-consuming to master, this episode is for you!I share with you some pretty personal (and profound) shifts:✅ The things I've stopped stressing over—like perfectionism, guilt, and control—and how this shift has freed up my energy for what truly matters.✅ How I've tackled my anxiety head-on and the tools I use to stay calm in high-stress moments.✅ The conflicts I no longer have in parenting and marriage, thanks to replacing blame with curiosity and knowing when to pick my battles.✅ A fresh perspective on parenting—seeing big emotions as opportunities to connect, not punish, and embracing the messy, imperfect moments.✅ How I see my husband through a new lens, respecting his "blueprint" and working as a team without forcing change or taking things personally.Plus, I'll share the mindset shifts and practical strategies that have fast-tracked my emotional intelligence, so you can skip the trial-and-error and start building stronger, more connected relationships today.Whether you're navigating tantrums, tackling disagreements, or trying to stop spiraling into guilt, this episode is packed with insights and tools to help you thrive.

Today I'm sharing about the fascinating (and sometimes baffling) world of early warning signs of dysregulation in kids. Have you ever noticed your child getting overly silly, suddenly antagonizing their sibling, or making strange noises like growling or hissing? These little quirks aren't random. They're often signs that your child is beginning to feel emotionally overwhelmed or out of sync. When you learn to recognise these subtle cues, you can step in with calm and supportive strategies that help prevent meltdowns, build connection, and teach emotional resilience.Plus, a special guest makes an unexpected appearance! My daughter video-bombs the intro with some dance moves and plenty of giggles, so if you're watching on YouTube, you're in for a treat. You're welcome ;)(Watch at youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto)Tune in to learn the signs of emotional overwhelm by finding clues in your child's (frustrating) behaviour.*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community!

Does your child or teen ever lash out, shut down, or completely refuse to listen? Maybe you've tried timeouts, threats, or punishments, but they just don't work—or worse, they seem to make things even harder. Sound familiar? Here's the thing: those big emotional outbursts are NOT about being “naughty” or “willful.” There's so much more happening under the surface, in their brain and body, and that's exactly what we're diving into today. Today I'll help you understand what's *really* going on when your child is argumentative, explosive, or just plain "rude", why some of those old-school parenting tactics aren't helpful, and, most importantly, how you can use positive strategies to co-regulate with them to bring their emotions back in balance and support their behaviour. If you're ready to feel less overwhelmed and more connected to your child, you're in the right place.And as I mentioned in the episode, I created a course specifically for this topic and these challenges. It's called Defusing and Decoding Challenging Behaviour, and it covers how understanding the nervous system of your child gives you the tools you need to navigate (and even often avoid) really challenging/disruptive behaviours. One parent who took the course emailed me within minutes of finishing the course saying: "STEPH. This is by far the BEST course I have taken, I finally get why my son erupts and goes off, and I feel like I have a whole bag of tools to deal with it! Thank you so so much. I'm recommending it to all my friends!"Find the course at https://www.stephaniepinto.com/courses *** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community!

YAY! The kids are home for 6 WEEKS STRAIGHT for the summer school holidays! (For us in the southern hemisphere at least)

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Dr. Catherine Kizana—doctor, parent coach, and advocate for helping parents thrive—to talk about what it truly means to be a “good enough” parent. Drawing on attachment research and her coaching experience, Catherine reminds us that parenting isn't about being flawless. It's about being present, embracing the power of repair when we make mistakes, and meeting our children's real needs—not the ones we think we should meet.We also tackle one of the biggest traps parents fall into: comparison. Catherine shares how to stop comparing your inner struggles to the perfect-looking lives of others on social media and start focusing on what really matters in your family.If you're tired of the constant pressure to do more, be more, and keep up, this episode will help you step back, breathe, and parent from a place of connection and confidence.Tune in now to take the first step in letting go of comparison and embracing the messy, beautiful journey of being “good enough". Yesss.Find Catherine on Instagram at @abc_parenting_coachOr check out her website at www.abcparenting.com.auMY COURSES ARE 50% OFF! 1. From Reactive to Responsive Parenting (How to end the yelling and overcome your triggers!)2. From Blowups to Balance (Supporting ADHD Kids at home or in the classroom!)Access them at www.stephaniepinto.com/courses*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community!

This episode is inspired by a really thoughtful comment from a listener on our last episode over on YouTube.They asked about one of the toughest parenting challenges: how to handle meltdowns when your child gets physically aggressive—hitting, kicking, or even breaking things.Parenting through aggression and meltdowns is arguably the hardest thing we face.Alex (the husband's back!) and I dive into the question from a listener: How do you handle it when a child melts down and gets physically aggressive?We're sharing our own experiences with this, including how we've navigated hitting, kicking, and even destructive behaviour using emotional intelligence and compassion. We go through step-by-step strategies for handling those tough moments—like during transitions or when switching off a device—while holding firm boundaries around unsafe or hurtful actions.We also clear up some big confusion around consequences: when they're helpful, when they're not, and why punishments and holding a grudge can actually backfire. If you've ever struggled to keep your cool during your child's meltdowns, this episode is full of relatable insights and practical tips to help you feel more calm and in control.Have you seen my 5 new online self-paced courses on Emotional Intelligence and parenting?! They're all 50-89% off right now!!!Introduction to Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsFrom Reactive To Responsive Parenting: End The Yelling With Emotional IntelligenceSupporting Anxious and Sensitive KidsDecoding and Defusing Challenging BehaviourEFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques)Find them at stephaniepinto.com***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community!

The one idea that was REVOLUTIONARY in my marriage and parenting - how to not take behaviour personally, how to avoid conflict and resentment, how to let go of feeling like your partner is being lazy... and so much more.If you've ever felt like you're running on empty, or wonder why your kids hit a wall in the afternoons... tune into this episode of The Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast. I'm digging into Spoon Theory - a simple yet powerful way to understand and manage our energy and capacity.We'll talk about how you and your partner can support each other on those low-energy days, how to help your kids recognise their limits, and why this metaphor can make a big difference in your family's day-to-day life. If you've ever wished for a better way to explain why everyone needs a break sometimes, this one's for you!Psst! Looking for more tools to thrive as a parent?My self-paced online courses are here to help! From raising emotionally intelligent kids to decoding challenging behaviours, they're packed with practical strategies to make parenting easier.Courses include:Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsDecoding and Defusing Challenging BehavioursSupporting Anxious and Sensitive KidsEFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques)From Reactive to Responsive Parenting (aka How to Stop Shouting at Your Kids)Right now they're a massive 50–89% off, so grab them while they're hot!Check them out on the Course page at www.stephaniepinto.com*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community!

In this episode, I'm joined by parenting expert and author Michelle Mitchell to talk all things parenting tweens and teens!!

Welcome back, everyone! This week, we're diving into a topic that hits home for so many of us: how we talk about food with our kids (and perhaps even around them when we think they're not listening). I'm joined by the fabulous Fiona Kane, an award-winning Nutritional Medicine Practitioner and Mind Body Eating Coach, and we explored how our words and attitudes around food can set the stage for our kids' relationship with eating (and emotions!) - and yes, how we can keep it healthy too.We'll chat about the accidental ways we nudge our kids toward emotional eating (who knew?), how our own beliefs about food can rub off on them, and why asking open-ended questions can be a game-changer for a more mindful approach. Fiona, who's been all over Sky News Australia, 9 News, and ABC Radio, brings her practical tips on breaking habits like boredom eating and finding joy outside of food—for both us and the kids.So, if you're looking to raise happy, healthy eaters (or tackle a few food habits of your own), plug in! This episode is packed with aha moments and doable steps to help the whole family enjoy a balanced relationship with food. I loved our conversation and I know you will too.***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

Today, we're pulling back the curtain on our parenting - and let's just say, it wasn't all sunshine and Instagram-worthy moments. This is a bunch of things we wish we knew when we first became parents...With Alex's childhood blueprint and programming the *polar opposite* of mine, we had a lot to unlearn (and re-learn) when it came to navigating the chaos of parenthood together. We talk about: - How giving each other space saved us from spiralling arguments. - Why you should never take your kids' words, or your partner's emotions, personally. - Alex's journey to taking accountability and breaking the cycle of reactive behaviour. - My struggle to ask for help and express my feelings (spoiler: it wasn't pretty). - The power of understanding emotional hijacks and knowing when to step out of the situation- How to “strike when the iron is cold.” to prevent shame, blame and basically more conflict.We'll also explore how his upbringing (where emotions basically didn't exist) impacted our dynamic and how we've worked to defuse problems before they explode into snapping and snowballing. It's real, raw, and maybe even a little uncomfortable—but if you've ever felt like you're failing as a parent or partner, trust us, you're not alone. Tune in for honest lessons, practical tips, and a whole lot of heart.Hope you guys enjoy.(Please ask us questions! Send us your feedback! We need more content

Today I'm sharing an episode where I was the guest – being interviewed by JoAnn Crohn and Brie Tucker on the No Guilt Mom podcast. So, you've decided you want a happier, calmer, and more connected family, eh? Well, friend, welcome to the rollercoaster ride known as “parenting with emotional intelligence.” Parenting often involves navigating different styles, which, being 100% honest, can sometimes feel like you and your partner are in a three-legged race…on ice. Emotional intelligence helps you understand each other's perspectives and find common ground. Just imagine your kid having the ability to understand and manage their emotions while empathizing with others. Sounds like a dream, right? By nurturing emotional intelligence, you're not just preparing them for playground politics but equipping them for life's bigger challenges. Plus, who wouldn't want a kid who can articulate their feelings instead of falling apart or throwing things in fits of anger? So, if you're dreaming of a happier, calmer, and more connected family, emotional intelligence is your secret weapon. Trust me, the journey might be bumpy, but the destination is oh-so-worth it. Who knows, you might even become that zen parent who handles those spaghetti-throwing incidents with a smile. Now, that's emotional intelligence at work! Podcast: https://www.noguiltmom.com/podcast-2/Transcript: https://www.noguiltmom.com/how-to-get-the-happier-calmer-and-connected-family/YT: https://www.youtube.com/c/NoGuiltMom Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I'm pulling back the curtain on my own experience with anxiety and how I overcame it with Emotional Intelligence. From my early years as a shy, anxious kid to the struggles it brought me as a teen and adult — especially when it came to school, confidence, and building my career — I'm sharing it all. Why? Because I know so many of you, whether as parents or individuals, are grappling with anxiety, too.I explore the different types of anxiety disorders (yes, there's more than one!) and dig into the problematic thinking patterns that underpin and fuel anxiety. This gives you such a clear window into seeing how an anxious child thinks and perceives the world around them.Whether you've experienced anxiety yourself or you want to understand your kids through it, this episode is packed with insights, personal stories, and practical advice to help you build a life of calm and confidence.*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community!

Have you ever wondered how to transition from managing your kids to supporting them as they grow into adults?In this episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I chat with Amy Sargent, SEI Coach and Executive Director of the Institute for Social and Emotional Intelligence. Amy shares how she used emotional intelligence with her older kids—owning her own feelings, creating space for their emotions, and still holding them accountable.This conversation is packed with valuable insights for parents of both teens and tweens, as we explore how parenting roles shift and how emotional intelligence can help you become a supportive coach instead of a manager.Tune in for practical tips on building strong relationships with your kids, cultivating empathy, and remembering that we're not responsible for their emotions. Whether you're parenting toddlers or preparing to launch your kids into adulthood, this episode is full of wisdom you won't want to miss!*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 125,000 parents in the community!

Alex (the husband!) and I are getting real about the rollercoaster of raising kids in a world full of online games, social media, and YouTube. We know the internet isn't going anywhere, so instead of banning it all, we talk about finding that balance between letting our kids enjoy the digital world and keeping them safe.We did make the decision to remove YouTube from our home, and we share why we chose to do it. But our kids do have access to computer games, Minecraft, Roblox, and so on.Alex - who's a big-time gamer - talks about setting smart boundaries for our kids on things like YouTube Kids and online games. His perspective as a gamer really adds a fresh angle, and he's seriously got some solid tips.Oh, and there's a wild story from Alex about how our son decided to jump off the roof (yes, you read that right!). It was a reminder of why staying aware and tuned in is so important, no matter what your kids are up to.We also tackle the tougher topic of online dangers, like predators, and how to talk to kids about staying safe. You absolutely NEED to give your kids the knowledge, without scaring them.Tune in for our take on raising tech-savvy kids safely—without saying “no” to everything fun.***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

Are you a teacher, or do your kids attend school? Excellent. You're in the right place today because in this episode, I'm sharing how you can bring emotional intelligence (EI) into the classroom, creating a warm, supportive, and resilient space for learning. I'll explore simple yet powerful ways to connect with students, build emotional awareness and regulation strategies, and foster a positive classroom culture where everyone feels seen and valued. This episode isn't just for teachers! If you're a parent, grandparent, or simply curious about EI, you'll find valuable insights that apply to every relationship. Join me as we discover strategies to nurture emotional growth and create lasting impacts that extend well beyond the classroom

Guys my husband is joining me on the channel again!!

Welcome to Season 2 of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast!!I'm kicking off this new season by diving into the powerful and transformative impact of emotional intelligence (EI) in ALL areas of life - not just in the parent-child relationship.There are still many myths, misconceptions, and confusion about what emotional intelligence truly is, so today I break down 10 essential components of EI, from self-awareness to empathy and conflict resolution, and clear up some of these misunderstandings along the way.I share real-life examples from my interactions with my kids and husband (sorry guys), extended family, and colleagues, showing just how universal and impactful these skills can be.Tune in to learn how EI can help you deepen connections, stay grounded in tough moments, and build healthier, more resilient relationships with everyone around you.Andddd thank you to each of you who have listened, shared, and supported the podcast over the past year. Your support and encouragement mean the world to me, and I'm so grateful to continue this journey with you into Season 2!*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

My husband's first time on the podcast you guys!!Ever wondered what happens when two very different upbringings collide in a parenting moment? In this special episode, I'm thrilled to welcome my husband onto the podcast for the very first time.We dive deep into our journey dealing with a neighborhood influence that wasn't so positive for our kids and reveal why my husband's protective instincts kicked in full force. Curious to know how a previously hot-headed, short-tempered guy from a different culture transformed into a calmer, more responsive, emotionally intelligent dad? Join us as we unpack our different perspectives on boundaries, discuss how we balance them as a team, and share our approach to navigating this tricky situation. Tune in to hear how our family has grown stronger together as a team because of emotional intelligence.Steph.***Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 125,000 parents in the community!

In this episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I'm sharing a personal story from my own home - a REALLY challenging situation with my kids and a new “friend” in our neighbourhood who hasn't been the best influence.It started out innocently but went from dishonesty and aggressive behaviour to stealing... eek! So we recently faced some difficult moments as a family and had to figure out how to respond with both compassion and clear boundaries... not easy but necessary.I'll take you through how we approached the situation without resorting to punishment or blame, all while keeping the connection with our kids intact.I know you'll find it valuable to hear how you can guide your children through tough friendships, help them understand right from wrong, and build their emotional intelligence in the process.If you've ever struggled with your child's behaviour being influenced by others, this episode is for you. Let's turn these moments into powerful teaching opportunities.***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

In today's episode, I dive deep into the world of online safety with Fareedah Shaheed, an award-winning Internet Safety Expert and Forbes 30 Under 30 Honoree. Fareedah, whose work has been featured in NBC, CNN, The Wall Street Journal, and more, brings her expertise in cybersecurity awareness, threat intelligence, and online gaming to help parents keep their kids safe online - without needing to be tech-savvy.We cover some eye-opening topics, including:1. How to protect your kids on social media and online gaming without being a tech expert.2. The surprising link between inner healing and protecting your children from online threats.3. Tips to normalize conversations about predators so your kids are prepared, not scared.4. Simple strategies like turning off chat features and spending time gaming with your kids to enhance safety.5. Whether there are apps and games you should NEVER let your children access - and why.This is a must-listen episode for any parent who wants to feel more confident navigating the online world with their children. Don't miss out on Fareedah's invaluable insights that will empower you to safeguard your kids (no matter their age) with ease.If you loved this episode, find out more and follow Fareedah on socials, check out her membership and download her free guides for parents.https://www.cyberfareedah.com/***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

In this solo episode, I'm talking about Kids and Big Emotions: How to Dial Up Your Emotional Intelligence and Respond Calmly.Here's the thing—before we can help our kids manage their emotions, we have to accept that they HAVE emotions. Emotions that are normal. Healthy. Natural. Supposed to be.Remember when your child was learning to walk, read, or ride a bike? Did you step in and do it for them, rush them, or get annoyed when they didn't get it right away? Or did you give them time, stay patient, and let them figure it out?!It's the same with emotions! Kids need to feel their way through them in order to learn how to handle them. But we often jump in too quickly because it's uncomfortable or inconvenient to let them ride the emotional wave. The truth is, when we allow them to go through those messy feelings, we're giving them the tools for self-regulation.I'll tell you the one thing you can do that will completely shift how you handle things the next time your child is crying, stomping, or having a meltdown.I'll also be sharing a viral quote of mine that really hit home for so many parents. Ready to approach those big emotions with more calm and confidence? Let's get into it!***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 125,000 parents in the community!

Talking to our kids about sex and sexuality can feel really uncomfortable, but it's a conversation we need to have (especially in this age of the INTERNET). Eek.In this episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I'm joined by Vanessa Hamilton, a sexuality educator with over 25 years of experience and founder of Talking the Talk Sexuality Education. We dive into all the tricky topics—when to start the conversation, how much to share, how to explain consent and boundaries, and even how to approach tough subjects like pornography.We'll also talk about gender differences, teaching kids the correct terminology (which can often feel confusing!), and what to say when your child doesn't want to talk because it feels awkward. Vanessa has some fantastic, practical tips that will help make these conversations feel more natural and comfortable, no matter where you're starting from. If you've been avoiding 'The Talk,' this episode will give you the confidence and tools to get started. You won't want to miss this one!Find Vanessa's Books:Talking Sex A Conversation Guide For Parentshttps://ambapress.com.au/products/talking-sexKit and Arlo Find a Way Teaching Consent to 8 - 12-year-oldshttps://shop.acer.org/kit-and-arlo-find-a-way.htmlVirtual Classroom Education for Schools:https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/talking-the-talk-virtual-classroomFind Vanessa on the socials:https://www.facebook.com/talkingthetalkeducationhttps://www.instagram.com/talkingthetalk/https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-hamilton-943495102/***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 125,000 parents in the community!

What would you do if your child accidentally damaged something precious to you?In this solo episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast, I share a recent incident where one of my kids messed up big time - and my unexpected response. Spoiler: there was no yelling, arguing or punishment.I reveal how I turned this moment into an opportunity for teaching life-long skills like honesty, responsibility, and making amends, all without shame or embarrassment. If you're curious about how to handle these situations in a way that fosters connection and emotional intelligence, this episode is for you. Ready to discover a new approach to parenting? Tune in to find out!***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

In this episode, I sit down with Sarah and Kyle from The Art of Raising Humans to dive into one of the biggest challenges parents face - being on the same page with your partner.Do you and your partner ever disagree about how to handle situations with the kids? Ever feel undermined or unsure how to stay aligned?We explore real solutions to these struggles and share practical steps to create a more united parenting front.From understanding each other's differences to scheduling regular check-ins, this conversation is packed with insights that will help you and your partner parent together with confidence and harmony.Don't miss this one... even if you know your partner will never listen to this episode - it will give you great tools and insights for your own parenting.Find The Art of Raising Humans Podcast, and the hosts Sarah and Kyle at:The Art of Raising Humans Podcast Link - The Art of Raising Humans Podcast | Parenting LegacyFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@artofraisinghumans ***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 125,000 parents in the community!

In this fascinating episode, join me and ADHD expert Rebecca Challoner for a conversation packed with eye-opening insights into neurodivergence, big emotions and particularly ADHD. Rebecca reveals why teaching kids “not to hit” doesn't work - and what truly does. She also sheds light on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, explaining how parents can support their kids who experience this.From managing defiance and demand avoidance to School Can't (aka school refusal), this episode is full of practical, game-changing strategies.Even if your child is not neurodivergent, these tips are a must-hear for raising emotionally resilient, confident, and kind kids. Don't miss it!Rebecca's "ADHD and Defiance Masterclass” is on 24 September online, secure your spot at:https://www.myspiritedchild.com/adhd-and-defiance-online/ Find more about her work at www.myspiritedchild.com and follow her on all the socials, under Rebecca Challoner and My Spirited Child.***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

Get ready! Today we sit down with Eli Harwood, the brilliant mind (and heart) behind Instagram's hugely popular Attachment Nerd account.Ever wondered if you are doing this parenting thing right? If you're too soft or permissive, too harsh and controlling, or doing okay? Even I swing between these like a pendulum sometimes!Eli and I break down the different attachment styles and discuss how they show up in both children and adults.She helps clear up common misconceptions about attachment theory and shares how emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in fostering secure attachments.I love that we tackled the challenges of setting boundaries around technology and screen time. And here's some good news: parents don't have to be perfectly attuned to their kids 100% of the time.This episode is packed with comforting truths and practical tips to help you raise emotionally resilient, confident, and kind children.Eli's book, Raising A Securely Attached Child is out this week! (Tues 3 Sept 2024). Find it here:https://attachmentnerd.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerd/https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWUY-2dpPEbeetSUhT2q-7Q

In this heart-warming and insightful episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast, I welcome Kristina Manning from Calm Minds Parenting.We dive deep into a topic every parent can relate to -YELLING. Ugh! Why do we often find ourselves raising our voices at our kids? And what impact does it really have on them? Kristina shares practical strategies to stop yelling and find more effective ways to gain cooperation.We also talked on the power of celebrating mistakes to prevent perfectionism, plus learn how to take a "mom-pause" when emotions run high.Mindfulness isn't just for meditation—it's a powerful tool for parenting too. Kristina and I also explored the importance of understanding kids' brain development and how staying calm and regulated can transform your parenting.Tune in to gain practical tips, enjoy a few laughs, and feel empowered on your parenting journey.Find Kristina Manning and Calm Minds Parenting on Insta under @calm__minds (two underscores!) and her links: https://linktr.ee/calm__minds***

In this solo episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I dive into a recent bedtime meltdown with one of our kids that could have gone COMPLETELY off the rails. And a few years ago, it totally would have. But, instead of losing my cool or resorting to punishing her for yelling and being "rude", I chose a different approach - one rooted in patience, empathy, and emotional intelligence. I take you through exactly how I managed to stay calm (wasn't easy), change my perspective on her behaviour (super helpful), and co-regulate with her until we both found our way back to peace.... and her into bed! I also share practical tips and strategies you can use when your child is having a tough, emotionally charged moment. I like to think this episode is a heartfelt reminder that even in the most challenging times, we have the power to be the parents our children need. Enjoy! Steph.***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

This week I had the incredible opportunity to sit down with Noble Gibbens: the founder of EQ Boss, an Emotional Intelligence (EI) executive coach, devoted dad, loving husband, and all-around great guy.Together, we delved into what it means to be an emotionally intelligent father and husband, and Noble shared heartfelt stories and transformative insights for both mums and dads.Noble, having lived many years as an "emotionally unintelligent" dad and West Point grad, opened up about an earth-shattering moment with his wife that set him on his emotional intelligence journey.He shared how he compassionately handles his daughter's emotions while maintaining boundaries, offering invaluable advice for all parents. One of the thought-provoking quotes he left me with was, "What you DO speaks so loudly I can't hear what you SAY".Plus, Noble introduced a powerful EI exercise for parents, perfect for getting started on shifting your family culture right away.Ready to elevate your parenting game? Tune in now and transform your family's emotional landscape.Follow Noble on all the places online...LinkedIn: Noble GibbensFacebook: Noble GibbensInstagram: @eqgangster7840YouTube: youtube.com/@NobleG***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

Get ready to uncover the secrets behind Executive Function skills in this eye-opening episode! Seth Perler, Executive Function Guru (ok I just made that up, but he's top level in the EF world) is my guest today, and we dive into what EF skills are and why they're crucial for kids (and adults) in navigating daily life. We discover how these hidden challenges impact kids' social skills, emotional regulation, organization, and motivation. We spoke about why neurodivergent children in particular often struggle with executive function and Seth shared powerful, practical tips to support your child right away. Plus, he revealed his top secret tip for managing executive function difficulties. Don't miss out on these game-changing insights that can transform your parenting and your child's life.I mentioned Seth's global Executive Function Summit, TEFOS, in which I'm one of the guest speakers! It's Aug 9-12, 2024 and tickets are completely free. Grab your spot at https://executivefunctionsummit.com/?affiliate=steph3***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

Ever catch yourself thinking, "My kids NEVER listen," or "I'm ALWAYS the one tidying up around here"? Statements like these share a common thread that, once recognized, can TRANSFORM your family life. Welcome to an enlightening episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, where I delve into the brain habit known as Confirmation Bias. I share with you how understanding this concept can instantly reduce conflicts with your kids and partner, leading to a smoother, more joyful household. Yassss. Learn how this simple shift in perspective has calmed the chaos in my own life (get ready for embarrassing stories) and can do the same for you. Curious about how to notice and overcome this habit we all have? Tune in and find out how it can make home life a lot calmer today.DON'T FORGET! My Second Annual Chaos to Connection Parenting Conference is happening online, starting July 22, 2024. This free event is designed to equip parents just like you with tools and insights to strengthen family bonds and nurture your children's mental health. Tickets are now available at www.chaos2connectionconference.com (If you listen to this after the conference week ends, email my team and we can give you access! Ask us: hello@stephaniepinto.com)***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

Join me in this week's episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, as we dive into the transformative concept of "Respond, Don't React" for parents (and couples!). In this episode, I'll guide you through the simple ideas of this concept: using thoughtful and measured actions over impulsive (and often damaging) ones. Like when you feel like yelling or spanking but instead you problem-solve and communicate clearly so the behaviour is NOT acceptable. I share about the importance of recognizing emotions, identifying triggers, and taking a moment to pause and reflect. Learn how to choose a constructive response, communicate effectively, and practice empathy for smoother, more cooperative interactions. Whether it's parenting or marital challenges, by starting to focus on responding, you'll be able to manage emotions better, improve relationships, and make wiser decisions in the heat of the moment. Yesss!DON'T FORGET! My Second Annual Chaos to Connection Parenting Conference is happening online, starting July 22, 2024. This free event is designed to equip parents just like you with tools and insights to strengthen family bonds and nurture your children's mental health. Tickets are now available at www.chaos2connectionconference.com***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

Ever tried to empathise when your child is upset and it completely backfires? Today I dive deep into the power - and downsides - of validating your children's emotions.Here's what I share about in this episode:Why Validating Emotions Matters: Understanding why acknowledging your children's feelings is vital for their emotional development and overall wellbeing.When Validation Doesn't Seem to Work: Exploring why some children really don't respond well to emotional validation!What to Do Instead: Practical tips and phrases to use when traditional validation methods aren't effective, so you can still support your child in the best way possible.Real-Life Examples: I share relatable scenarios and simple adjustments you can make to help your child feel understood and calm.And don't forget! My Second Annual Chaos to Connection Parenting Conference is happening online, starting July 22, 2024. This free event is designed to equip parents just like you with tools and insights to strengthen family bonds and nurture your children's mental health. Tickets are now available at www.chaos2connectionconference.com***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 120,000 parents in the community!

In another solo episode, I answer a parent's question about their child not listening when riding outside near the road. This mum shared her fear and frustration over her son's habit of riding close to the road despite repeated warnings, in a message on my social media. Do you know why young children struggle to listen, and for that matter, is it even listening that is the problem? I share how to hold boundaries calmly yet firmly, and effective communication techniques, no matter your child's age. I also hone in on the struggle this parent had to keep calm and manage their emotions, to stop things from escalating. Tune in for practical advice to help your kids cooperate with your requests whilst maintaining your calm.If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are almost 120,000 parents in the community!