Mojo for the Modern Man

I sat down with Alex Terranova, whose journey from emotionally disconnected bar manager in Venice Beach to thoughtful men's work facilitator really struck me. Growing up in 1980s LA, Alex absorbed impossible masculine ideals from action heroes and magazine covers—he admits to getting a Hulk Hogan workout set at eight years old, thinking he needed to bulk up to become a man. What hit me most was his honesty about the emotional flatlining that followed heartbreak in his twenties, where his family genuinely wondered if he cared about anything anymore. His breakthrough came unexpectedly during a family dinner in Costa Rica, when a simple gratitude exercise completely cracked him open and left him sobbing in front of confused relatives. From there, he dove into intensive coaching training—what he calls a complete firmware update. Our conversation about cold plunging was fascinating; Alex discovered that learning to regulate his nervous system in freezing water translated directly to staying grounded when life gets chaotic. His perspective on taking full responsibility while rejecting the lone wolf mythology really resonated with me. We all know adversity is coming, but Alex's story illustrates something crucial: some people actually develop the tools to remain present and steady when the waves inevitably hit.Website

In today's episode, I dive into the rich tapestry of Aaron Johnson's life journey from the "sexy town" of Phelan, California to his transformative work addressing touch deprivation among Black men. Aaron's storytelling is magnetic as he recounts discovering the sacredness of his desert homeland through acapella singing with his siblings, navigating dyslexia and special education, and finding his way to CalArts despite the odds. What strikes me most is Aaron's profound concept of "magic" – that ineffable quality statistics can't measure but that fuels human potential beyond paper predictions. His candid revelation about the creation of his Chronically Under-Touched Project hits like lightning; when he asked a young Black mentee "When was the last time you received three minutes of thoughtful platonic touch?" and discovered it had been fifteen years, Aaron unearthed an urgent and overlooked epidemic. His work now challenges the violent touch narratives dominating Black male experience while offering healing alternatives, reminding us that sometimes transformative work begins with the simplest question nobody thought to ask.Bio: Aaron Johnson is a public speaker, facilitator, and touch activist, fostering environments where Black-bodied individuals can express their full selves. As a founder of Holistic Resistance, Grief to Action and The Chronically UnderTouched Project, Aaron takes the time to hold the stories of Black people around homophobia, transphobia, and internalized racism. Aaron's journey began, as it does for many Black men, with lack of loving and platonic touch. Now, Aaron assists other Black men in developing holistic touch practices to move from a Chronically UnderTouched state into touch balance. Aaron aims to create spaces for Black people and People of the Global Majority (PGM/BIPOC) to connect with each other and the earth. He and his team are establishing retreats and workshops on Black-owned land in the Mojave Desert and beyond to promote emotional and physical tenderness, platonic connection, and singing, which enhances the healing process for those overlooked by mainstream society. Website

In today's episode of Mojo for the Modern Man, I had a powerful conversation with Steven Wolt, whose journey from childhood trauma to redemption offers a masterclass in masculine transformation. Growing up near New York City with a physically violent father, Steven masked his inner turmoil behind athletic achievements and later financial success, becoming a high-flying executive while secretly battling depression and disconnection. What fascinated me was how his seven-figure income and outward success actually intensified his inner emptiness, driving him deeper into alcohol, drugs, and porn addiction until his spectacular professional implosion in 2008. The turning point came through a treatment program specifically addressing sex addiction and childhood trauma, leading to a recovery path that challenged everything he thought he knew about being a man. Now heading Valor Recovery, Steven helps others trapped in similar cycles, particularly around porn addiction and intimacy issues. His redefinition of masculinity – prioritizing vulnerability, honor and genuine connection over conquest and toughness – resonated deeply with me, especially his insight that "men need other men to become better men." The conversation left me reflecting on how many of us are still living by outdated masculine scripts that promise strength but deliver isolation instead.Website: 

I sat down with Glenn Sandifer, who went from being a self-proclaimed "introverted only child" to a corporate leader with some fascinating stops along the way – including a stint at Samsung back when they were the "Dynex of their day" (his words, and if you're too young to get that reference, count yourself lucky). We dove into how growing up ping-ponging between family members and entertaining himself with video games and comics inadvertently prepared him for leadership. Glenn had me chuckling with his story of becoming a tech expert by practically living in libraries, learning the difference between plasma and LCD displays when most of us were just hoping our TVs would turn on. But what really got me was his take on modern masculinity and leadership – turns out there's a world of difference between being a manager who just keeps the ship afloat and a leader who actually steers it somewhere worthwhile. His insights on male friendship and community hit especially hard in our age of LinkedIn connections but real-world disconnection. Between his corporate wisdom and spiritual groundedness, Glenn makes a compelling case for measuring success not by the size of your PowerPoint deck (he's down to two slides now), but by how many people you help climb the ladder with you.About Glenn: Founder Glenn Sandifer has the current privilege of leading the world class Inside Sales and Client Sucess group at the second largest Global Security provider.  His strategic leadership and client-centric approach, lead to consistent conversion of inbound and outbound contacts, envied by the competition.  Glenn provides strategic support within the Global Marketing Team with a heavy focus on North American Markets. Whether it is supporting the Sales Operations components of the business or providing support to the Operations group, Glenn ensures value for the organization stays top of mind.  In 2018, Glenn Founded Glenn Sandifer Consulting with the aim of supporting SME and Local Enterprise Organizations in their efforts around Demand Generation, Lead Qualification, Lead Nurture and Client Success practices. Most clients were in the Home Service Verticals and enjoyed unprecedented growth during this time.  He is currenlty a member of Emblaze (formerly AA-ISP)  Wilson County and Nashville Black Chambers of Commerce. Glenn is also a proud member of the Gamma Phi Chapter of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc. Glenn is from Indiana, but currently resides in Nashville, Tennessee with his wife and two children. WebsiteLinkedInFaceBookInstagram

On this episode of Mojo for the Modern Man, I had the privilege of chatting with Donald Bialkowski, who might just be one of the most refreshingly honest therapists I've ever met – and believe me, I've met quite a few. Donald grew up in the quiet countryside of Green Bay, found himself teaching meditation while secretly perfecting what he calls "sophisticated substance use," until life finally caught up with him at 40 and cracked him wide open. The beauty of Donald's story isn't just in the transformation (though that's pretty remarkable), but in how he weaves together his own journey with this broader understanding of what keeps us men stuck – particularly this sneaky little thing he calls "the master emotion" of shame, which apparently loves nothing more than a good dose of isolation to really dig its heels in. What really got me thinking was how Donald went from performing compassion as a young therapist to actually embodying it through his own messy process of growth. These days, he's helping other men navigate the murky waters of uncertainty and complexity, all while cheerfully dismantling the myth that we should somehow have it all figured out on our own. The whole conversation left me wondering about this sort of masculine paradox – how we're all trying to prove we don't need anyone, while secretly knowing that's exactly what we need most.Website: www.onpurposementoring.com

I had a deeply moving conversation with Stephen Campolo, whose transformation from an overweight teenager to a fitness coach reveals layers of complexity that most weight loss stories gloss over. With remarkable candor, Stephen shared his journey through restrictive dieting, competitive bodybuilding at 17, and his ongoing dance with binge eating - including a sobering wake-up call when his gallbladder nearly ruptured at 30. What struck me most was Stephen's ability to hold seemingly contradictory truths: the discipline required for physical transformation alongside the persistent challenge of food addiction. His evolution from chasing six-pack abs to advocating for holistic health was catalyzed by losing his mother to cancer at 52, redirecting his mission toward helping others avoid preventable health crises. Stephen's willingness to shatter the fitness industry's façade of perfection by openly discussing his struggles makes this conversation particularly powerful, offering a roadmap for anyone wrestling with their own relationship with food, body image, and self-acceptance.Website: https://www.flxbodyfitness.com/flx-body-type-blueprint-1

Act two with Jake Kaufman delves into the challenging terrain of genuine transformation and healing. We explore how surface-level changes often mask deeper patterns, illustrated by Jake's transition from chaotic restaurant work to a tech startup, where familiar dysfunction followed him. The conversation expands into broader themes of collective healing, examining why men's personal development spaces often remain underpopulated despite critical need. Jake's experience launching a men's group and writing his book reveals how healing moves from individual work through community support to broader social impact. His mission to help men break their silence around trauma highlights a crucial insight: isolation perpetuates suffering, while community creates pathways to authentic growth and connection.Bio:Jake Kauffman is an Executive Producer and Founder of Transient Productions. He completely gave up his corporate career to move to Los Angeles and pursue his dream of producing original films that are both inspirational and compelling. He is currently wrapping production on my first feature entitled “I'm So Good I'm Embarrassed,” a documentary chronicling the last year in the life of his 93-year-old grandfather. His intention is to empower others to prioritize making intimate and lasting connections in their relationships.

In this first act with Jake Kaufman, we explore the profound impact of childhood environments on adult behavior patterns. Growing up in small-town Michigan where vulnerability was discouraged, Jake developed protective masks of perfectionism after experiencing sexual assault at age twelve. Drawing from Rumi and Jung, we examine how early trauma shapes our unconscious behaviors, particularly in men who often lack the tools or permission for emotional expression. The discussion weaves through the neuroscience of early childhood development, the power of proper mirroring, and why even accomplished individuals need guides for growth. Jake's journey illuminates a central truth about transformation: our primary task isn't pursuing success, but discovering and dismantling the internal barriers that stand against it.Bio:Jake Kauffman is an Executive Producer and Founder of Transient Productions. He completely gave up his corporate career to move to Los Angeles and pursue his dream of producing original films that are both inspirational and compelling. He is currently wrapping production on my first feature entitled “I'm So Good I'm Embarrassed,” a documentary chronicling the last year in the life of his 93-year-old grandfather. His intention is to empower others to prioritize making intimate and lasting connections in their relationships.Book: 

In the captivating second half of our conversation, Damon Lembi takes us on a rollercoaster ride from his dashed baseball dreams to becoming CEO of LearnIt. He shares invaluable insights on finding joy in work, balancing healthy competition with compassion, and the humbling journey of building a business. Damon's candid reflections on identity beyond career and heartwarming stories about his father's kindness to parking attendants remind us of the importance of integrity and treating everyone with respect. As we explore the entrepreneurial spirit of his family and the ups and downs of their business ventures, Damon's resilience shines through. He leaves us with a powerful message from his book "The Learn It All Leader": great leaders are continuously in the making, emphasizing the importance of lifelong learning and growth, regardless of background or current success.Bio: After dedicating the initial 22 years of his life to the pursuit of becoming a Major League Baseball player, Damon pivoted in 1995 to help his father (Walt Lembi, Founder of Learnit) by investing his heart and soul in Learnit to help individuals gain the knowledge and confidence they need in attaining their professional goals through the value of education. Damon has a deep commitment to the Learnit team past and present and the San Francisco Bay Area community as a whole, where he was born and raised. Damon attributes Learnit's longevity and success to the ability to surround himself with "A" players and taking advantage of learning / evolving through past mistakes. Outside of Learnit, Damon is an avid reader, moviegoer, and live music fanatic. Most of all, Damon loves spending time with his wife, children—Lucy and Wally, and his dog.WebsiteLinkedInFaceBookInstagram

In today's episode, I sat down with Damon Lembi, whose journey from baseball prodigy to business leader is a masterclass in personal growth and resilience. We dive into Damon's sports-centric childhood, his battles with imposter syndrome in college baseball, and the pivotal moment when a coach's challenge became a lifelong lesson in self-belief. Damon shares his three-step formula for conquering self-doubt – work hard, focus deliberately, and learn and let go – which has shaped his approach to leadership and mentoring. We also challenge the conventional wisdom of always climbing the corporate ladder, with Damon offering refreshing insights on finding the right fit for one's skills and passions. From the baseball diamond to the boardroom, Damon's story is a home run of perseverance, self-reflection, and embracing challenges, served up with a side of humor and heart.Bio: After dedicating the initial 22 years of his life to the pursuit of becoming a Major League Baseball player, Damon pivoted in 1995 to help his father (Walt Lembi, Founder of Learnit) by investing his heart and soul in Learnit to help individuals gain the knowledge and confidence they need in attaining their professional goals through the value of education. Damon has a deep commitment to the Learnit team past and present and the San Francisco Bay Area community as a whole, where he was born and raised. Damon attributes Learnit's longevity and success to the ability to surround himself with "A" players and taking advantage of learning / evolving through past mistakes. Outside of Learnit, Damon is an avid reader, moviegoer, and live music fanatic. Most of all, Damon loves spending time with his wife, children—Lucy and Wally, and his dog.WebsiteLinkedInFaceBookInstagram

In this installment, I plunged into James Dewberry's colorful past, unearthing the bedrock of his disciplined mindset. James regaled us with uproarious tales from his youth – think DIY explosives – that showcased his unbridled curiosity. We explored his voyage into medical Qigong, ignited by a quest for healing alternatives. James's zeal for this time-honored practice was palpable as he unpacked its core tenets. Our dialogue then embarked on a globe-trotting adventure, with James emphasizing the transformative power of embracing new cultures. We capped off our chat with a thought-provoking exploration of love, where James challenged societal norms. Throughout, James's blend of scientific inquisitiveness, spiritual depth, and wanderlust left me musing: How might we all infuse our lives with such receptivity and passion?Bio:My journey into energetic healing, health and wellness, and coaching began over twenty years ago. After watching several friends and family members battle disease and injury, without any permanent resolution, I began an in-depth exploration of alternative healing modalities. Through dedicated practice and the pursuit of knowledge, on how to assist individuals in their healing journey (physically, emotionally, and spiritually), Medical Qigong, Qigong for health, Reiki, and Coaching were discovered.   I have been awarded my Masters of Medical Qigong,  Insight Qigong Teacher Certification, and Reiki Master Certification.  Complimenting my Alternative Health Practice, is my work as a Transformational Coach, focusing on Mental Fitness in conjunction with Health and Wellness.Medical Qigong, Chinese Energetic Medicine, is the oldest branch of Traditional Chinese Medicine. Qigong has been used to create, improve, and sustain health for over 5,000 years. Through Medical Qigong sessions and prescription exercises, individuals are assisted in the purging of physical, emotional, and spiritual trauma. The body is then strengthened and brought back into balance, allowing its natural healing abilities to reassert themselves.Sessions are designed to integrate and balance all elements of an individual, leading to greater health and well-being. Medical Qigong can be done in person or through distance sessions in a safe, peaceful, and healthy environment. My coaching is centered upon assisting each individual in moving towards a balanced and healthy life through personal transformation.  This work is for everyone and I work with individuals from wide and diverse backgrounds. My passion and specialty is in working with individuals who are over 35, single, and without children. 

In this episode, I dove deeper into James Dewberry's fascinating journey, exploring the roots of his disciplined approach to life and his penchant for self-reflection. James shared hilarious and hair-raising stories from his youth, including basement chemistry experiments gone awry and homemade "napalm" mishaps, illustrating his early curiosity and fearlessness. We delved into his path to becoming a practitioner of medical Qigong, sparked by a desire to find holistic solutions beyond Western medicine. James's passion for this ancient healing art shone through as he explained its principles and how it differs from other energy practices. Our conversation took a global turn as James recounted his extensive travels, emphasizing the importance of openness and fearlessness in exploring new cultures. We wrapped up with a profound discussion on love, with James challenging conventional notions and advocating for a universal, undiminished love for all. Throughout, James's unique blend of scientific curiosity, spiritual depth, and adventurous spirit left me pondering: How might we all approach life with such openness and intensity?Bio:My journey into energetic healing, health and wellness, and coaching began over twenty years ago. After watching several friends and family members battle disease and injury, without any permanent resolution, I began an in-depth exploration of alternative healing modalities. Through dedicated practice and the pursuit of knowledge, on how to assist individuals in their healing journey (physically, emotionally, and spiritually), Medical Qigong, Qigong for health, Reiki, and Coaching were discovered.   I have been awarded my Masters of Medical Qigong,  Insight Qigong Teacher Certification, and Reiki Master Certification.  Complimenting my Alternative Health Practice, is my work as a Transformational Coach, focusing on Mental Fitness in conjunction with Health and Wellness.Medical Qigong, Chinese Energetic Medicine, is the oldest branch of Traditional Chinese Medicine. Qigong has been used to create, improve, and sustain health for over 5,000 years. Through Medical Qigong sessions and prescription exercises, individuals are assisted in the purging of physical, emotional, and spiritual trauma. The body is then strengthened and brought back into balance, allowing its natural healing abilities to reassert themselves.Sessions are designed to integrate and balance all elements of an individual, leading to greater health and well-being. Medical Qigong can be done in person or through distance sessions in a safe, peaceful, and healthy environment. My coaching is centered upon assisting each individual in moving towards a balanced and healthy life through personal transformation.  This work is for everyone and I work with individuals from wide and diverse backgrounds. My passion and specialty is in working with individuals who are over 35, single, and without children. 

In Act 2, Kip Ioane takes us deeper into his journey as a father, coach, and advocate for reimagining masculinity. We explore the unique challenges he faces raising three children with diverse needs, and how his own upbringing influences his parenting. Kip candidly shares the behaviors he hopes his children won't inherit, particularly his tendency to weaponize his voice. The conversation then shifts to his transformative work with Teams of Men, born from a crisis that forced him to confront the inadequacies in how he was developing young athletes. Kip's passion is palpable as he describes his mission to make emotional literacy, consent education, and healthy relationship skills mandatory for coaches. His insights on the "man box" and the power of sports to shape young men's character are both sobering and inspiring. As we wrap up, I'm left pondering the immense potential for positive change when we challenge traditional notions of masculinity in the spaces where young men are most receptive to growth.Bio: Kip Ioane ("eye-own") is the founder and lead facilitator of #TeamsOfMen, an organization that exists to empower coaches of male athletes to enlighten their players to the potential of a reimagined manhood. Based on his own work over a 22 year career as a basketball coach at the NCAA D3 level, TeamsOfMen provides players and coaches with in person workshops, course curriculum, discussion prompts, and conversation prompts to engage men in breaking free from the manbox, embracing emotional fluency and preventing gender violence and oppression. Working with middle school through collegiate level teams (mainly in football and basketball), Kip's vision is a new normal of all coaches prepping male athletes to take their platform of influence with the toolkits needed to spread positive masculinity to the next generation of young men.Website

In this episode, I sat down with Kip Ioane, whose journey from Polynesian kid in Montana to college athlete and coach offers a fascinating lens on masculinity, sports culture, and fatherhood. Kip's story is a potent mix of cultural contrasts, high expectations, and the weight of family legacy. We dove into the complexities of father-son relationships, exploring how a single moment of vulnerability transformed their dynamic. Kip's candid reflections on using humor as a shield and "exploiting others' pain" struck a chord, highlighting the often unspoken insecurities young men face. But it's his evolution – from pressure-cooker athlete to thoughtful father – that really got me thinking. Kip's insights on redefining success for the next generation and the importance of letting kids find their own path in sports left me pondering: How can we foster resilience and ambition in our youth without sacrificing emotional well-being? It's a balancing act we're all still learning to master.Bio: Kip Ioane ("eye-own") is the founder and lead facilitator of #TeamsOfMen, an organization that exists to empower coaches of male athletes to enlighten their players to the potential of a reimagined manhood. Based on his own work over a 22 year career as a basketball coach at the NCAA D3 level, TeamsOfMen provides players and coaches with in person workshops, course curriculum, discussion prompts, and conversation prompts to engage men in breaking free from the manbox, embracing emotional fluency and preventing gender violence and oppression. Working with middle school through collegiate level teams (mainly in football and basketball), Kip's vision is a new normal of all coaches prepping male athletes to take their platform of influence with the toolkits needed to spread positive masculinity to the next generation of young men.Website

I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Matthew Sloane, an artist, writer, and father whose journey from emotional disconnection to self-awareness is both touching and inspiring. We explored Matthew's childhood experiences of loneliness and bullying, his artistic pursuits, and his transformative path through men's work and relationships. Matthew shared candidly about his struggles with perfectionism, putting women on pedestals, and learning to integrate different aspects of himself. His story of creating "The Hiding Inside a Man," a book blending illustrations and personal insights, resonated deeply with me. We delved into the healing power of men's groups, the importance of playfulness in personal growth, and the ongoing practice of maintaining a healthy marriage while navigating parenthood. Matthew's reflections on fatherhood and his mission to give voice to men's inner worlds left me pondering the vital role of creative expression in our journey towards authenticity and connection.Bio:Matthew Sloane, a devoted father and husband for over a decade, brings a wealth of experience as an Integral Coach from New Ventures West. Co-founder and host of the podcast series Project Rad Dad, he fosters candid conversations among fathers. Recognized for his soulful book on masculinity, Hiding Inside a Man (available November 2024), Matthew is currently crafting his second book—an illustrated story for mindful fathers raising spirited daughters. As the creative force behind Fatherhood Dojo, his newsletter and podcast empowers fathers on their journey to authenticity and deeper connections with their true selves, fostering a community of support and growth.Website

In today's episode, I sat down with Braxton Wood, a homeschooled maverick who's rewriting the rulebook on education and career success. Without a high school diploma or college degree, Braxton shared how he climbed from recession-era collections work to a coveted tech company gig, all by "betting on himself." We dove into his DIY approach to learning – think marketing seminars in libraries with four attendees and an iMac for a projector – and how it shaped his "fail fast, fail cheap" philosophy. Braxton's take on the industrial roots of our education system had me rethinking everything I thought I knew about schooling. Between chuckles over his oil field mishaps and insights on embracing ambition, I couldn't help but wonder: could Braxton's unconventional wisdom spark a revolution in how we approach personal and professional growth?Bio: After going from a homeschool background with zero formal education to a prestigious role at a techgiant, I developed a framework for The Perfect Job Hunt. My career method has helped professionalssecure interviews with 80% of the companies they apply to, and I've successfully guided clients suchas Hollywood Producers, Vice Presidents, and Chief Officers to land positions making gobs moremoney and even work from home.Website

In today's episode, I had the pleasure of diving into the fascinating world of homeschooling with Braxton Wood, a self-proclaimed "homeschool dropout" turned successful entrepreneur. Braxton's journey from the mountains of Utah to the deserts of Arizona is peppered with unique insights and unconventional wisdom. We explored how his homeschooling experience shaped his work ethic, social skills, and entrepreneurial spirit. Braxton's candid reflections on breaking stereotypes, navigating full-time work as a teenager, and the unexpected perks of being "the pool guy" in high school had me chuckling. But it was his passionate critique of the traditional education system and his belief in the power of ambition that really got me thinking. As we wrapped up our chat, I couldn't help but wonder: are we doing our kids a disservice by clinging too tightly to outdated educational paradigms?Bio: After going from a homeschool background with zero formal education to a prestigious role at a techgiant, I developed a framework for The Perfect Job Hunt. My career method has helped professionalssecure interviews with 80% of the companies they apply to, and I've successfully guided clients suchas Hollywood Producers, Vice Presidents, and Chief Officers to land positions making gobs moremoney and even work from home.Website

In the second half of our conversation, Eric Fitzmedrud and I explore the intricate terrain of personal growth, relationships, and sexuality. Eric shares his journey of writing a book born from his own experiences, aimed at guiding men through the complexities of desire and intimacy. We discuss the crucial, yet often overlooked, importance of self-care for men, and the challenges of prioritizing our own well-being. Eric offers valuable insights on finding supportive men's groups that foster genuine growth rather than reinforcing outdated notions of masculinity. His perspectives on sexuality and relationships provide a fresh, nuanced take on topics many men struggle with. We conclude with a thought-provoking question that resonates long after our chat: Who would we be without our traumas, and how can we embody that person now?Bio: Therapy is always about the client. Sometimes though it is nice to know a little bit about the person you are considering to be your therapist.My identities:Cisgender male. My pronouns are he/him.My ancestries are northern European, including German, Norwegian, and Irish, and I grew up in Minnesota.Polyamorous and I have two committed long-term relationships.Bisexual/Pansexual. Though, like most bisexual people, I tend to partner with one gender, in my case, women.I grew up in Minneapolis, where the diversity around me ignited my passion for diversity issues. After high school, I lived in India for a year while in the Rotary International Youth Exchange Program. I went to college in Colorado, where I met my wife. During college, I experienced a larger view of the world on Semester at Sea. I moved to the Bay Area in 2002 to begin my Ph.D. program in Clinical Psychology. My family and I are now settled in this area for good.I became a licensed psychologist (PSY23669) through a circuitous route. I began with a strong interest in spirituality and human development during my undergraduate major in Religious Studies. I considered a more academic career but I realized that what I really felt called to do was work with people one-on-one. I took some prerequisite courses for a year at Loyola University in Chicago and then began my Ph.D. in 2002. I earned my Clinical Psychology Ph.D. in 2008.I love my job. I am honored that I get to do work that I enjoy, that is meaningful, and which helps others live meaningful, connected lives. Below you will find a brief list of different positions that I have held during my career and little further down, a brief description of my therapeutic style.

Eric FitzMedrud joins me today for a fascinating conversation about the intricate dance of healing, growth, and modern masculinity. From unpacking the multi-generational nature of trauma to exploring the nuances of accountability and self-forgiveness, Eric's journey offers a compelling lens for examining our own paths to becoming better men. We wrestle with the challenge of integrating our 'shadow' selves and the ongoing work of personal development. Our conversation touches on the power of mentorship and the delicate balance of boundaries, leaving me pondering the complexities of guiding the next generation. Ultimately, Eric's insights remind us that growth is a continuous, often messy process, but one that's crucial for fostering healthier relationships and a more conscious approach to masculinity.Bio: Therapy is always about the client. Sometimes though it is nice to know a little bit about the person you are considering to be your therapist.My identities:Cisgender male. My pronouns are he/him.My ancestries are northern European, including German, Norwegian, and Irish, and I grew up in Minnesota.Polyamorous and I have two committed long-term relationships.Bisexual/Pansexual. Though, like most bisexual people, I tend to partner with one gender, in my case, women.I grew up in Minneapolis, where the diversity around me ignited my passion for diversity issues. After high school, I lived in India for a year while in the Rotary International Youth Exchange Program. I went to college in Colorado, where I met my wife. During college, I experienced a larger view of the world on Semester at Sea. I moved to the Bay Area in 2002 to begin my Ph.D. program in Clinical Psychology. My family and I are now settled in this area for good.I became a licensed psychologist (PSY23669) through a circuitous route. I began with a strong interest in spirituality and human development during my undergraduate major in Religious Studies. I considered a more academic career but I realized that what I really felt called to do was work with people one-on-one. I took some prerequisite courses for a year at Loyola University in Chicago and then began my Ph.D. in 2002. I earned my Clinical Psychology Ph.D. in 2008.I love my job. I am honored that I get to do work that I enjoy, that is meaningful, and which helps others live meaningful, connected lives. Below you will find a brief list of different positions that I have held during my career and little further down, a brief description of my therapeutic style.

In this profound second act of my conversation with Shawn Lesser, we explore the transformative power of vulnerability and human connection in the face of mental health challenges. Our conversation delves into the often-overlooked struggles men face when confronting their inner demons, highlighting the critical importance of breaking down stigmas surrounding mental health. Shawn's journey from a successful finance professional to mental health advocate serves as a fantastic backdrop for discussing the broader themes of identity, resilience, and the healing power of community. Throughout our discussion, we continually circle back to the core idea that true strength often lies in the courage to be vulnerable and the willingness to lean on others, something that is central to our transformation as better men.BIO: At 54, Shawn Lesser isn't just a father of two and a seasoned business leader; he's also a survivor. His recent struggles with anxiety and depression took him through two treatment centers in early 2023, where he was nicknamed "Shaky." Instead of letting the experience defeat him, Shawn used his inherent resilience and humor to overcome it. Now, he's committed to sharing his journey to inspire and help other men facing similar challenges.Professional Track Record:Before pivoting to mental health advocacy, Shawn had already made a significant impact in the finance world. With over three decades in finance, he co-founded the industry's first Impact Investing Investment Bank for 16 years. Big Path Capital earned Barrons' description as "Impact Investing's Investment Bank." As a trusted advisor and placement agent, Shawn has collaborated with more than 200 Impact Funds and over 1,000 Limited Partners and put on over 50 investment convenings in the US and Europe.The REAL Deal:Shawn is the founder of THE REAL Mental Health Foundation, which has a focused objective: to significantly improve the mental health of men and their families. Leveraging his personal experiences, Shawn aims to challenge societal norms, create environments for open dialogue, and encourage authentic peer connections. Visit THE REAL Website for more information.WebsiteFacebookXInstagramYoutubeTikTok

What a pleasure to be joined by Shawn Lesser, whose transformation from a shy Long Island kid to a confident international finance pro exemplifies the power of personal growth. Act 1 of our conversation begins with Shawn's candid reflections on navigating divorced parents and two father figures reveal how these experiences shaped his core values, particularly his commitment to honesty and follow-through. The game-changer in Shawn's story was the Dale Carnegie course, which not only helped him overcome his shyness but also equipped him with relationship-building skills that became his professional superpower. Shawn's wild entry into Wall Street - complete with 4 AM starts and a vanishing boss - showcases the unpredictability of career paths and the importance of resilience. What truly resonated with me was Shawn's philosophy: "You just make friends, then if you happen to do business, you do business" - a powerful approach that extends beyond finance to offer a blueprint for life.BIO: At 54, Shawn Lesser isn't just a father of two and a seasoned business leader; he's also a survivor. His recent struggles with anxiety and depression took him through two treatment centers in early 2023, where he was nicknamed "Shaky." Instead of letting the experience defeat him, Shawn used his inherent resilience and humor to overcome it. Now, he's committed to sharing his journey to inspire and help other men facing similar challenges.Professional Track Record:Before pivoting to mental health advocacy, Shawn had already made a significant impact in the finance world. With over three decades in finance, he co-founded the industry's first Impact Investing Investment Bank for 16 years. Big Path Capital earned Barrons' description as "Impact Investing's Investment Bank." As a trusted advisor and placement agent, Shawn has collaborated with more than 200 Impact Funds and over 1,000 Limited Partners and put on over 50 investment convenings in the US and Europe.The REAL Deal:Shawn is the founder of THE REAL Mental Health Foundation, which has a focused objective: to significantly improve the mental health of men and their families. Leveraging his personal experiences, Shawn aims to challenge societal norms, create environments for open dialogue, and encourage authentic peer connections. Visit THE REAL Website for more information.WebsiteFacebookXInstagramYoutubeTikTok

In round two with Anson Whitmer, we dive deep into the murky waters of men's mental health, which was quite the journey. Anson opens up about his own battles with loss and emotional suppression, leading us to a fascinating chat about how men cope - turns out, it's not great! We tackle the sneaky ways depression disguises itself in men versus women, and why the mental health world needs to step up its game. Anson then unveils his brainchild, the Mental app, which is basically a Swiss Army knife for the male psyche. From cold shower challenges (brrr!) to AI life coaches, it's all about meeting men where they're at, and challenging us to think and behave in ways we may never have before. As we wrap up, Anson leaves us with some potent wisdom: the power of doing absolutely nothing. In our world of constant pings and swipes, it might just be the most radical act of self-care yet.Bio by Anson: I have a PhD in neuroscience with a focus on mental health (depression, anxiety, etc; ex-Stanford). I was a founding team member of the first mental health app to become a unicorn - Calm. At Calm, we realized we were not getting through to guys - that nobody is. This is a problem. Men are 80% of suicides. And this matters to me. My whole career has been motivated by the loss of two close male relatives to suicide. So I created Mental - the first mental health app built for men. I'm CEO and co-founder along with Calm's founding engineer.

In this episode, I sat down with Anson Whitmer, whose diverse life experiences span from a split childhood between Chicago and England to daring solo adventures across the globe. Anson's tales of culture shock, jungle expeditions, and academic pursuits paint a vivid picture of a life driven by curiosity and resilience. We explored how his travels fostered a unique perspective on human connection and empathy, particularly towards those different from ourselves. Anson's journey from globetrotter to neuroscientist offers fascinating insights into personal growth and understanding the human mind. Our conversation touched on everything from the impact of technology on our sense of time to the challenges of rumination and mental health, drawing from both Anson's personal experiences and scientific background. His story serves as a compelling reminder of how embracing the unknown can shape our approach to life's challenges, whether in academia, entrepreneurship, or personal growth.Bio by Anson: I have a PhD in neuroscience with a focus on mental health (depression, anxiety, etc; ex-Stanford). I was a founding team member of the first mental health app to become a unicorn - Calm. At Calm, we realized we were not getting through to guys - that nobody is. This is a problem. Men are 80% of suicides. And this matters to me. My whole career has been motivated by the loss of two close male relatives to suicide. So I created Mental - the first mental health app built for men. I'm CEO and co-founder along with Calm's founding engineer.

In this captivating second act with Mike Sweeney, I was treated to a treasure trove of hard-earned wisdom. Mike's journey from Army officer to corporate leader, and through the choppy waters of divorce and fatherhood, is nothing short of remarkable. I couldn't help but chuckle as he recounted how a forklift driver's casual "Oh well" became a pivotal moment in his leadership philosophy. It's fascinating how Mike evolved from a command-and-conquer approach to one of connection and inspiration, showcasing the power of emotional intelligence in both professional and personal spheres. As we delved into his experiences with divorce and co-parenting, I was struck by Mike's candid reflections on balancing societal expectations with personal growth. Our conversation was a rich exploration of leadership, fatherhood, and self-discovery that left me pondering the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine energies. Mike's parting wisdom? Sometimes, when life throws you a curveball, it's okay to just say "Oh well" and roll with it.Bio by Mike: In my career, I've applied my love of learning to coaching leaders, accelerating organizational change, and building high performing teams – often through digital learning. I enjoy the challenge of new industries so I can discover techniques that work everywhere.• Digital learning – I started with flip phone videos to help employees make label changes easier. This grew to personalized learning experience platforms, virtual facilitation, social learning, xAPI learning analytics, and content development in eLearning, video, simulation, and all the fun formats.• Coaching leaders – I've developed coaching skills through a Master's in organizational psychology, courses on positive psychology and appreciative inquiry, and the full curriculum from the Co-Active Training Institute. Nothing thrills me more than supporting people as they learn the craft of leadership. • Accelerating organizational change – I have experience leading large transformational change efforts – mixing new technology with behavior change. After years of studying change, I've found ways to weave the people side of change into projects. The outcomes have been higher engagement, faster change, and better results.• Building high performing teams – Working with a diverse group of people is where the magic happens. I know my strengths (and where I'm less good) and look for complementary all-stars to do great work together. My point of view on teams has evolved, but elements I learned as a platoon leader in the U.S. Cavalry still resonate – leader as servant, aligned ambition, and mutual respect.Outside of work, I learn from my three wonderful daughters, get outside to stay centered, and run often. I am enjoying watching my two oldest daughters run XC without being too involved. As a certified distance running coach, I often bite my lip. I ride the PMC to raise money for cancer research. LinkedInWebsite

Today I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Mike Sweeney, a Boston-born "country mouse," Army veteran, and father. Our conversation traced Mike's remarkable journey from an emotionally limited young man to a more self-aware adult. We explored his privileged yet conflicted childhood, delved into his transformative military experience, and discussed the profound impact fatherhood has had on his life and perspective. Mike's story illuminates the challenges and rewards of emotional growth, leadership, and finding purpose; from learning hard lessons in the Army to discovering new depths of empathy as a father to daughters, Mike's experiences offer valuable insights for any man grappling with personal development. Mike's ability to blend raw honesty, practical wisdom, and thought-provoking reflection is a powerful one, and I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did. Looking forward to Act 2, Mike!Bio by Mike: In my career, I've applied my love of learning to coaching leaders, accelerating organizational change, and building high performing teams – often through digital learning. I enjoy the challenge of new industries so I can discover techniques that work everywhere.• Digital learning – I started with flip phone videos to help employees make label changes easier. This grew to personalized learning experience platforms, virtual facilitation, social learning, xAPI learning analytics, and content development in eLearning, video, simulation, and all the fun formats.• Coaching leaders – I've developed coaching skills through a Master's in organizational psychology, courses on positive psychology and appreciative inquiry, and the full curriculum from the Co-Active Training Institute. Nothing thrills me more than supporting people as they learn the craft of leadership. • Accelerating organizational change – I have experience leading large transformational change efforts – mixing new technology with behavior change. After years of studying change, I've found ways to weave the people side of change into projects. The outcomes have been higher engagement, faster change, and better results.• Building high performing teams – Working with a diverse group of people is where the magic happens. I know my strengths (and where I'm less good) and look for complementary all-stars to do great work together. My point of view on teams has evolved, but elements I learned as a platoon leader in the U.S. Cavalry still resonate – leader as servant, aligned ambition, and mutual respect.Outside of work, I learn from my three wonderful daughters, get outside to stay centered, and run often. I am enjoying watching my two oldest daughters run XC without being too involved. As a certified distance running coach, I often bite my lip. I ride the PMC to raise money for cancer research. LinkedInWebsite

In the second half of our conversation, Brian Anderson continues to captivate with his heartfelt reflections on fatherhood and personal growth. With disarming honesty, Brian shares pivotal moments from his journey as a father - from early missteps to profound realizations about unconditional love. His story of founding Fathering Together emerges as a powerful testament to turning personal challenges into a force for collective good, and his passionate advocacy for 'servant leadership' in fatherhood offers a refreshing perspective on modern masculinity. Brian leaves us with practical wisdom for fathers, emphasizing open communication and joyful engagement, resonating with a deep commitment to nurturing a new generation of compassionate, self-aware fathers.BioBrian Anderson is a husband, father, and gender equity advocate. In his professional life, he's the Director of Foundation Relations for i.c.stars. His side hustles and projects include being the Co-Founder and Board President of Fathering Together where he writes and speaks on the importance of dads living connected lives. He's worked with dozens of companies and hundreds of dads to translate their professional skills into home-life strategies. In his personal life, you can find him building Lego structures, cooking, and writing stories with his two daughters. In September 2022, he published his first book, Fathering Together: Living a Connected Dad Life, which lays out servant leadership as a model for fatherhood.WebsiteInstagramX

In today's episode, I'm thrilled to be joined by Brian Anderson, who generously shares his remarkable journey of resilience, service, and redefining modern masculinity. With raw candor and infectious humor, Brian recounts pivotal moments from his Hoosier roots to the front lines of social work in Anchorage - from the heartbreak of losing two close friends at a young age to discovering his passion for servant leadership. I'm struck by the profound impact of Brian's father, whose steady presence and unconditional love laid the foundation for Brian's own evolution as a compassionate change-maker unafraid to step through the "open door" of adversity. Brian's hard-earned wisdom shines through as he reflects on the perils of burnout and the sustaining power of friendship. He leaves us with a poignant reminder to pace ourselves, seek out mentors, and always nurture the bonds that carry us through life's trials.BioBrian Anderson is a husband, father, and gender equity advocate. In his professional life, he's the Director of Foundation Relations for i.c.stars. His side hustles and projects include being the Co-Founder and Board President of Fathering Together where he writes and speaks on the importance of dads living connected lives. He's worked with dozens of companies and hundreds of dads to translate their professional skills into home-life strategies. In his personal life, you can find him building Lego structures, cooking, and writing stories with his two daughters. In September 2022, he published his first book, Fathering Together: Living a Connected Dad Life, which lays out servant leadership as a model for fatherhood.WebsiteInstagramX

Matt Englar-Carlson is back for part two of our conversation - an introspective journey into healthy masculinity where Matt shares hard-earned wisdom on navigating the changing landscape of modern manhood. With humor and heart, he recounts how confronting rigid notions of masculinity in his work as a therapist sparked a personal quest to redefine what it means to be a good man. Matt and I dig into the transformative power of deep male friendships, the myth of the lone cowboy, and why we must teach boys to embrace their full range of emotions. I'm moved by Matt's vision of a future where men break free from the confines of traditional gender roles to live richer, more connected lives, and he leaves us with a powerful call to action - take the first step, however small, toward building your tribe and showing up as your most authentic self.Bio:Dr. Matt Englar-Carlson is Professor of counseling at the California State University at Fullerton. He is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association (Division 51: Society for Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity). As a scholar, teacher, and clinician, Dr. Englar-Carlson is passionate about training and teaching care providers to work more effectively with their male clients. He has over 35 publications and 60 national and international presentations, most of which are focused on men and masculinity and diversity issues in psychological training and practice. Dr. Englar-Carlson co-edited the books In the Room With Men: A Casebook of Therapeutic Change, Counseling Troubled Boys: A Guidebook for Professionals, and the forthcoming A Counselor's Guide to Working With Men. He was featured as the guest expert in the 2010 APA-produced DVD Engaging Men in Psychotherapy. He is also the co-editor of the 24-volume monograph series Theories of Psychotherapy (APA) that features the world's leading authorities on various theoretical approached to psychotherapy. In 2007 he was named the Researcher of the Year by the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity. His editorial board service includes being an editorial board member for the Psychology of Men and Masculinity (2006-2011), the Journal of Social Action (2008- current), The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families (1994- 2005), a board member for The Journal of Individual Psychology(1994-2000) and a contributing editor (2000-2007), an advisory board member for Counseling and Human Development (2006-2008), and a board member on the Advisory Board for the Men and Masculinity Series, Routledge Press.  He was also selected to the ACA Task Force on Sexual Minority Youth in Schools from 2004-2006. He is also a member of the APA Working Group to Develop Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men. As a clinician, he has worked children, adults, and families in school, community, and university mental health settings.LinkedInInstagram

Today I am thrilled to be joined by Matt Englar-Carlson who takes us on an introspective journey exploring the roots of his profound resilience as we begin our conversation. With candor, wit and a few laughs, Matt vividly recounts how an itinerant childhood and the grounding example of his marathon-running psychologist father instilled the tenacity to persevere through life's inevitable challenges. Whether sticking it out solo during a harrowing outward bound trip or finding solace in meaningful conversations with fellow runners, Matt's experiences reveal deep truths about healthy masculinity. I'm struck by his wisdom on the gift of loyal friendship during dark times and the healing power of simply showing up for others when they suffer. Matt leaves us with powerful advice - when facing life's difficulties, embrace the struggle, envision the light ahead, and trust that this too shall pass, but not alone.Bio:Dr. Matt Englar-Carlson is Professor of counseling at the California State University at Fullerton. He is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association (Division 51: Society for Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity). As a scholar, teacher, and clinician, Dr. Englar-Carlson is passionate about training and teaching care providers to work more effectively with their male clients. He has over 35 publications and 60 national and international presentations, most of which are focused on men and masculinity and diversity issues in psychological training and practice. Dr. Englar-Carlson co-edited the books In the Room With Men: A Casebook of Therapeutic Change, Counseling Troubled Boys: A Guidebook for Professionals, and the forthcoming A Counselor's Guide to Working With Men. He was featured as the guest expert in the 2010 APA-produced DVD Engaging Men in Psychotherapy. He is also the co-editor of the 24-volume monograph series Theories of Psychotherapy (APA) that features the world's leading authorities on various theoretical approached to psychotherapy. In 2007 he was named the Researcher of the Year by the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity. His editorial board service includes being an editorial board member for the Psychology of Men and Masculinity (2006-2011), the Journal of Social Action (2008- current), The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families (1994- 2005), a board member for The Journal of Individual Psychology(1994-2000) and a contributing editor (2000-2007), an advisory board member for Counseling and Human Development (2006-2008), and a board member on the Advisory Board for the Men and Masculinity Series, Routledge Press.  He was also selected to the ACA Task Force on Sexual Minority Youth in Schools from 2004-2006. He is also a member of the APA Working Group to Develop Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men. As a clinician, he has worked children, adults, and families in school, community, and university mental health settings.LinkedInInstagram

What does it mean for a man to embody the "warrior" archetype in a healthy, life-giving way? That's what I explore with my guest Josh Wilson today in Act Two of our conversation, as he opens up about his ingrained drive to battle injustice and protect the defenseless - forged from having a Vietnam vet father and getting into constant fights as a kid. We dive into the complexity of channeling this intense masculine energy, without descending into destructive violence or completely dismissing traditional ideals of protectiveness and assertion. Josh gets disarmingly candid about seeking out confrontations in his youth, always looking for the next "bad guy" to take down. Ultimately though, his story points to the warrior's true purpose - courageously fighting not just for abstract justice, but for the defense of beauty, love, and the sacred itself. It's a nuanced, thought-provoking dialogue on embodying the deepest callings of masculine spirituality.Bio: Josh is an accomplished podcast host, renowned for his contributions to developing top-tier media brands. He has skillfully produced more than two thousand interviews, featuring guests including investors, CEOs, and globally recognized thought leaders.His extensive experience in media has not only honed his expertise but also cultivated an expansive network and solidified robust alliances in the business world. This wealth of connections and insights positions Josh uniquely in the industry.Josh serves as a Capital Market Advisor and member of the IPO team at Greentree Financial Group, Inc. We are a family office based on the belief that the U.S. capital markets are the best and most efficient in the world, Greentree leverages its expertise to assist high-growth companies in accessing the U.S. capital markets through a public listing. In addition to navigating clients through the complexities of a public listing, Greentree also assists numerous public companies with its ongoing periodic compliance filing needs.LinkedinWebsite

What does it mean to truly receive - not just gifts or compliments, but grace, love, and acceptance itself? In this powerful conversation, my guest Josh Wilson opens up about the profound woundings and mixed messages he received growing up, which left him grasping for his identity as a man. We explore how the expectations of masculinity can breed deep insecurities, and Josh's brutally honest recounting of hitting rock bottom on a bridge provides a powerful wake-up call. Ultimately, his story points to the reality that before we can fully receive from others, we must first receive ourselves through radical self-acceptance and self-compassion. It's some raw, insightful stuff any man can relate to.

In the second act of my chat with Hawi James Ouma, we dive into his incredible journey from being wrongfully arrested to becoming a role model for young boys in Kenya's juvenile system. It all started with eight days in a police station that left him with a new perspective on life: find the treasure in your troubles. Now, Hawi is the driving force behind Life Song Kenya, where he mentors boys who are often stigmatized by society. Hawi's story story is both heartwarming and jaw-dropping, and his parting words challenge us all to focus on what we have, instead of what we lack – inspiring, to say the least!Bio:About 1 in every 4 boys in Kenya is unfathered, underfathered or misfathered.Growing up without a father or a father-figure causes a boy to feel unappreciated, unloved and unprotected. Therefore, they become more vulnerable to juvenile delinquency, gender based violence, sexual assault, bullying, crime and conflict. They also become prone to dropping out of school, lacking an appetite for life or lacking respect for their mothers or the authority.Through my work, I help create an ideal environment where boys become more aware of who they really are. Together as a co-partners, I'm the catalyst that helps to remind boys and young men of the infinite treasure they possess. When I was being interviewed for a TV Production job, which I wasn't qualified for, I said that life becomes a beautiful lifesong.LinkedINFaceBookInstagramXYouTube

Today I am so thrilled to be joined by Hawi James Ouma, an incredible man who survived some of the most turbulent times in Uganda, only to move back to rural Kenya after his father passed away. Hawi's journey is a cocktail of adventure, confusion, and raw emotion, though despite facing ostracism from his community and a stint in police custody, he found a guiding light in reading and storytelling. Through Shakespeare and Ben Carson, he learned to turn his focus from what he lacked to what he was great at—writing and storytelling. It was the key that unlocked a new perspective on life. Hawi's parting wisdom? Focus on your one thing, the one skill or passion that makes you, well, you – you never know what doors it might open. Stay tuned for Act 2 of our conversation next week!Bio:About 1 in every 4 boys in Kenya is unfathered, underfathered or misfathered.Growing up without a father or a father-figure causes a boy to feel unappreciated, unloved and unprotected. Therefore, they become more vulnerable to juvenile delinquency, gender based violence, sexual assault, bullying, crime and conflict. They also become prone to dropping out of school, lacking an appetite for life or lacking respect for their mothers or the authority.Through my work, I help create an ideal environment where boys become more aware of who they really are. Together as a co-partners, I'm the catalyst that helps to remind boys and young men of the infinite treasure they possess. When I was being interviewed for a TV Production job, which I wasn't qualified for, I said that life becomes a beautiful lifesong.LinkedINFaceBookInstagramXYouTube

In today's episode, I welcomed back David Jurasek for Act 2 of our conversation, starting with his journey from feeling fragmented to achieving a more integrated and balanced self. He shared his mission to help men find their inner strength and navigate the complexities of modern masculinity. Through candid stories and reflections, we discussed the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies. As we wrapped up, David spoke about his efforts to bridge the gap between men and women, promoting healing and understanding. His fresh perspective on eldership encourages us to recognize and embrace all aspects of ourselves as we continue to grow.Bio: INTEGRITY Therapy is run by David Jurasek, a father, husband, Sensei and Registered Psychotherapist (RP) with 25 years experience helping boys and men of all ages.LinkedInWebsite

David Jurasek joins me today to share his profound insights on navigating shame, embracing authenticity, and embarking on the transformative journey towards self-discovery. Through heartfelt anecdotes and candid reflections, David illuminates the importance of confronting his inner demons of shame and self-doubt, which ultimately aided him in cultivating more genuine connections with others. As we explore the depths of human experience, David leaves us with a powerful reminder: "I want to live in the truth now," beckoning us all to strip away what's unimportant and doesn't truly serve us in the pursuit of a genuine life.Bio: INTEGRITY Therapy is run by David Jurasek, a father, husband, Sensei and Registered Psychotherapist (RP) with 25 years experience helping boys and men of all ages.LinkedInWebsite

I hope that you're as excited as I am to welcome back Don Angelo Bivens for a captivating Act 2 of our conversation. Together, we navigate the intricate landscape of modern living, delving into the pressures of capitalism and the invaluable art of slowing down to foster genuine connections. Seeking answers amidst today's complexities, Don Angelo imparts profound insights on the power of self-awareness and the transformative journey toward authenticity, ultimately leaving us with a message of love, self-leadership, and the imperative of crafting a legacy rooted in integrity.Bio: Don'Angelo Bivens is a Certified Executive Coach, a Leadership Facilitator, and Speaker with a heart for humanity. While the bottom line in business is profit, how we attain that profit is key. Don'Angelo has both a deep understanding of what drives human behavior and the innate ability to produce results that are of great importance to leaders: meaningful, effective, and lasting solutions to obstacles that arise regularly. For this reason, Don'Angelo is highly sought after as a facilitator and coach who cuts through the noise.WebsiteLinkedIn

Today I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with Don'Angelo Bivens, delving into his fascinating upbringing in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. From navigating the challenges of poverty and discrimination to embracing his identity as a gay Black man, Don'Angelo's journey is nothing short of inspiring. He has this inspiring aura of resilience and self-acceptance, and throughout our conversation, he emphasized the importance of grounding oneself amidst life's chaos and seeking support from genuine, agenda-free sources. It was a much needed reminder that authenticity and self-discovery go hand in hand, leaving me with a newfound appreciation for the power of embracing one's true self.Bio: Don'Angelo Bivens is a Certified Executive Coach, a Leadership Facilitator, and Speaker with a heart for humanity. While the bottom line in business is profit, how we attain that profit is key. Don'Angelo has both a deep understanding of what drives human behavior and the innate ability to produce results that are of great importance to leaders: meaningful, effective, and lasting solutions to obstacles that arise regularly. For this reason, Don'Angelo is highly sought after as a facilitator and coach who cuts through the noise.WebsiteLinkedIn

Today I am joined once again  by Dxter Spitz, the visionary behind the "How Men Cry,"  movement, revolutionizing men's mental health. We delve into the complexities of masculinity, exploring themes of compassion and authenticity, and Dxter's refreshing perspective challenges conventional stereotypes, emphasizing the strength found in vulnerability. Before wrapping up, Dxter leaves us with some sage advice;  "Vulnerability can be your greatest asset." Bio: Jordan “Dxtr Spits” Holmes was raised in Prince George's county Maryland, a suburb of Washington D.C. His curious mind led him to become a jack of all trades as a scientist/engineer, musician, spoken word artist, and entrepreneur.  Holmes relocated to Chicago in 2014 after graduating from Virginia Tech where he got his degree as a Materials Science Engineer and met his mentor Dr. Nikki Giovanni.He began the pursuit of his music career as Dxtr Spits, a witty, impactful, and energized lyricist. Holmes is the Founder and CEO of “Onli Packs”, an apparel and backpack brand that utilizes art from local artists. He prioritizes community reinvestment and creates community support initiatives utilizing his company and brands. His versatility and hustle has landed him attention locally and nationally including: NPR, The Chicago Tribune, Vocalo Radio, Voyage Chicago, & These Days News.WebsiteLinkedInFaceBookInstagramYouTube

In the latest episode of Mojo for the Modern Man, I had the pleasure of chatting with Dexter Spitz, a man who's as deep as he is insightful. Hailing from PG County, Maryland, Dexter opened up about his journey growing up in a whirlwind of family dynamics, divorces, and remarriages. We dove into his coping mechanisms, from creative outlets to the classic trio of sex, drugs, and rock 'n' roll. Dexter didn't hold back, sharing how his sensitivity often left him feeling overwhelmed and seeking escape. As we wrapped up, Dexter left us with a challenge: to cultivate mindfulness and compassion as tools for navigating life's twists and turns. 

I am back today with Luke Iorio and we kick off Act 2 by diving headfirst into the deep end of personal growth and manhood. Luke, a seasoned veteran in the world of personal development, dishes out some serious wisdom on vulnerability, transformation, and the art of men's work. Together, we uncover the magic of genuine connections and the transformative power of what Luke calls "soul ships" - those relationships that don't let us off the hook easily. As we wrap up, Luke leaves us with a gem: the journey to true freedom and authenticity is paved with friendships that challenge and uplift us.Bio: Luke is a dad, a husband, an entrepreneur, sought-after coach, and adventurer – of this great land and of the human spirit (especially his own). His journey has included working for his own father, starting and running his own small consulting practice, and then going on to join, build, and lead as CEO one of the largest and most prestigious coach training organizations in the world, iPEC.Since iPEC, Luke's personal work – when he's not with his family or with a private client – led him beyond the modern practice, science and research that drove his work in coaching, to exploring various wisdom, spiritual, and indigenous traditions as he sought to re-connect to his passion, a deeper purpose and calling, and grow himself to be of more service.Chronicled on the podcast series On This Walk with Luke Iorio, this path after several years led Luke to his current business partner and the organization, Man on Fire Rising. Man on Fire is a men's personal growth organization focused on helping men rise with passion, power, and purpose. We know that the last breath every man wants is the breath of Freedom – which will be filled with fulfillment, joy, and the knowing that you loved, lived, and gave fully to this life.InstagramLinkedInXFaceBook

In today's episode, I am joined by Luke Iorio, who brings us on a journey through his roots in New Jersey and shares some fascinating family tales, including a surprising brush with Prohibition-era bootlegging. With a mix of humor and introspection, Luke opens up about pivotal moments in his life, including the profound impact of witnessing 9/11 firsthand. Throughout our conversation, Luke emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and reconnecting with our true selves, urging us to take a closer look in the mirror and ask the tough questions about our identity and purpose. As the episode wraps up, Luke leaves us with invaluable advice: to embrace authenticity and delve deep into our innermost truths, guiding us toward a path of fulfillment and self-discovery.Bio: Luke is a dad, a husband, an entrepreneur, sought-after coach, and adventurer – of this great land and of the human spirit (especially his own). His journey has included working for his own father, starting and running his own small consulting practice, and then going on to join, build, and lead as CEO one of the largest and most prestigious coach training organizations in the world, iPEC.Since iPEC, Luke's personal work – when he's not with his family or with a private client – led him beyond the modern practice, science and research that drove his work in coaching, to exploring various wisdom, spiritual, and indigenous traditions as he sought to re-connect to his passion, a deeper purpose and calling, and grow himself to be of more service.Chronicled on the podcast series On This Walk with Luke Iorio, this path after several years led Luke to his current business partner and the organization, Man on Fire Rising. Man on Fire is a men's personal growth organization focused on helping men rise with passion, power, and purpose. We know that the last breath every man wants is the breath of Freedom – which will be filled with fulfillment, joy, and the knowing that you loved, lived, and gave fully to this life.InstagramLinkedInXFaceBook

David Peralta joins me once again, and together we delve into a conversation of  personal growth, self-discovery, and interconnectedness. Throughout our conversation, David emphasized the importance of asking ourselves what we truly want and transforming our desires into a clear, crystallized vision for our lives. He shared a meditation technique called the deathbed meditation, encouraging us to envision ourselves at the end of our lives having fulfilled our purposes. Throughout our conversation, we explored the idea of living in a state of oneness with life and the significance of embracing vulnerability as a pathway to authenticity and transformation. David highlighted the role of community, relationships, and seeking support in our journey of self-discovery. Ultimately, our discussion underscored the power of listening to our intuition, embracing life's experiences with an open heart, and aligning with a vision that brings fulfillment and upliftment to ourselves and others.About David: I am a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) by the International Coaching Federation.Specialised in personal and executive coaching and coaching for musicians, I accompany you to achieve your goals with creativity and professional rigour.Maximize your potential and discover your hidden talents with the powerful tool for change that is coaching. Conveniently through the Internet.WebsiteLinkedInFaceBook InstagramX

In today's episode, I am joined by David Peralta, and we delve into the highs and lows of life's journey, offering profound insights along the way. From childhood hardships to transformative spiritual awakenings, David's story was a whirlwind of emotions and growth. Through his experiences, he emphasized the importance of introspection, urging us to ponder, "What do I truly desire?" as a compass for authentic living. David's candidness underscored the value of embracing our authentic selves, paving the path to profound fulfillment and meaningful relationships. As we bring our discussion to a close, David leaves us with some wise words about the importance of turning suffering into meaning. His words inspire us to embark on our individual journeys towards fulfillment, encouraging us to seek out ways to create positive change in our lives and communities.About David: I am a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) by the International Coaching Federation.Specialised in personal and executive coaching and coaching for musicians, I accompany you to achieve your goals with creativity and professional rigour.Maximize your potential and discover your hidden talents with the powerful tool for change that is coaching. Conveniently through the Internet.WebsiteLinkedInFaceBook InstagramX

Today I have the pleasure of welcoming back Bryce Kenny, the Mohawk Warrior, and we dive right into discussions of purpose, resilience, and personal growth. Bryce shares his journey of overcoming challenges as a driver, reflecting on the pressures of performance and the importance of identity-driven goals. Through anecdotes and insights, Bryce emphasizes the distinction between pursuing happiness and finding purpose, urging us to uncover our passions and embrace resilience in the face of adversity. Before we wrap up our conversation, Bryce shares some sage words on the importance of turning suffering into meaning, inspiring us to discover our unique paths to fulfillment and how we can achieve positive impacts in our lives and communities.Bio: Bryce Kenny is a professional Monster Jam driver as the Great Clips Mohawk Warrior. Since his 2016 debut, Bryce has earned multiple awards including the 2021 Outreach Award for his work helping those in need and making positive contributions to the community. He also set a Guinness World Record in 2021 for the fastest speed in a monster truck and was the first driver to hit triple mile per hour digits in the sport. In recent years, Bryce has become an inspirational speaker and travels the country speaking to audiences of all ages about finding the courage to chase your dreams and overcome fear. His newest book, Geared for Life (Dexterity, 2023), guides readers to become unstuck in life and shift into the next gear to make a lasting impact on the world. Bryce also participates in national conferences and corporate events through his sponsorship with the international hair salon chain, Great Clips. Official site: www.brycekenny.comFacebook: @warriorbryceInstagram: @warriorbryceTikTok: @warriorbryceYouTube: @brycekennyBook order: www.amazon.com/Geared-Life-Making-Shift-Potential/dp/1947297783

Today I am joined by Bryce Kenny, the Mohawk Warrior of Monster Jam, who takes us on a journey through his life, touching upon childhood adventures, early experiences with motorsports, and the crucial decision to prioritize relationships over a racing dream. Bryce shares powerful stories of his grandfather's influence, highlighting principles, sacrifice, and the profound impact of choices. We delve into the intricacies of balancing passion with personal connections, ultimately revealing a valuable lesson: true success lies not just in the pursuit of dreams but in the relationships we nurture. Bryce's advice resonates as he encourages listeners to get their "house in order" and prioritize what truly matters in life.Bio: Bryce Kenny is a professional Monster Jam driver as the Great Clips Mohawk Warrior. Since his 2016 debut, Bryce has earned multiple awards including the 2021 Outreach Award for his work helping those in need and making positive contributions to the community. He also set a Guinness World Record in 2021 for the fastest speed in a monster truck and was the first driver to hit triple mile per hour digits in the sport. In recent years, Bryce has become an inspirational speaker and travels the country speaking to audiences of all ages about finding the courage to chase your dreams and overcome fear. His newest book, Geared for Life (Dexterity, 2023), guides readers to become unstuck in life and shift into the next gear to make a lasting impact on the world. Bryce also participates in national conferences and corporate events through his sponsorship with the international hair salon chain, Great Clips. Official site: www.brycekenny.comFacebook: @warriorbryceInstagram: @warriorbryceTikTok: @warriorbryceYouTube: @brycekennyBook order: www.amazon.com/Geared-Life-Making-Shift-Potential/dp/1947297783

In Act 2 of my discussion with Keith Edwards, our discussion unfolds around the complexities of masculinity, the influence of socialization, and the journey towards authentic living. Keith shares anecdotes, including a story about a man questioning his love for football, illustrating the profound impact of socialization on identity. We move through the mazes of masculinity, both toxic and healthy, and we explore the idea of authentic masculinity, emphasizing the significance of curiosity, unlearning, and self-awareness in personal development. Before we wrap up, Keith muses about agency, choice, and conscious decision-making, ultimately highlighting the challenges of early socialization, the ongoing quest for authenticity, and how we, as men, can benefit from the practice of self-reflection.Keith's Bio:Keith helps leaders and organizations make transformational change for leadership, learning, and equity. His expertise includes curricular approaches to learning beyond the classroom, allyship and equity, leadership and coaching, authentic masculinity, and sexual violence prevention. He is an authentic educator, trusted leader, and unconventional scholar. Keith has consulted with more than 300 organizations, written more than 25 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, and has more than 1,000 hours as a certified leadership and executive coach.He is the author of the book Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity. He co-authored The Curricular Approach to Student Affairs and co-edited Addressing Sexual Violence in Higher Education.His TEDx Talk on preventing sexual violence has been viewed around the world. He is co-host of Student Affairs NOW, the premier podcast for student affairs.WebsiteLinkedIn

Today I am lucky enough to sit down and have a conversation with Keith Edwards, delving into his upbringing in a small Wisconsin town, the challenges of bullying, and the key moments that shaped his journey to self-confidence. Keith shares his deliberate choice to embrace a "fake it till you make it" mindset in college, deciding to believe in himself despite past difficulties. We explore his experiences as a camp counselor, the impact of external validation, and his evolving perspectives on men's roles in preventing sexual violence. The episode wraps up with a sneak peek into Act 2, promising a deeper dive into the concept of men's enoughness and the role of the inner critic. Stay tuned for more insights from Keith in the next installment.Keith's Bio:Keith helps leaders and organizations make transformational change for leadership, learning, and equity. His expertise includes curricular approaches to learning beyond the classroom, allyship and equity, leadership and coaching, authentic masculinity, and sexual violence prevention. He is an authentic educator, trusted leader, and unconventional scholar. Keith has consulted with more than 300 organizations, written more than 25 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, and has more than 1,000 hours as a certified leadership and executive coach.He is the author of the book Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity. He co-authored The Curricular Approach to Student Affairs and co-edited Addressing Sexual Violence in Higher Education.His TEDx Talk on preventing sexual violence has been viewed around the world. He is co-host of Student Affairs NOW, the premier podcast for student affairs.WebsiteLinkedIn

For this special episode I am joined by Stephen Shedletzky, and our conversation begins by unraveling the core themes of his new book, "Speak Up Culture: When Leaders Truly Listen, People Speak Up." Stephen expands on the book's title - delving into the vital role of vulnerability, curiosity, and grounded optimism in fostering environments where voices are heard. We explore the nuances of emotional agility, discuss stories from the book illustrating the impact of authentic leadership, and reflect on the personal growth that emerges when leaders embrace genuine communication. Join us for a heartfelt conversation on the power of creating spaces where individuals feel empowered to speak up, whether in corporate settings or family dynamics.Bio:Stephen Shedletzky — or “Shed” to his friends —  helps leaders make it safe and worth it for people to speak  up. He supports humble leaders — those who know they  are both a part of the problems they experience and the  solutions they can create — as they put their people and  purpose first.  A sought-after speaker, coach, and advisor, Shed has led  hundreds of keynote presentations, workshops, and  leadership development programs around the world. As a  thought leader on psychological safety in the workplace, he supports leaders and  organizations in all industries where human beings work. He is the author of Speak Up Culture: When Leaders Truly Listen, People Step Up (October 2023).  After years on a corporate track, Shed was introduced to and inspired by the work  of Simon Sinek and, soon after meeting him, became the fourth person to join his  team. For more than a decade, Shed has contributed at Simon Sinek, Inc., where, as  Chief of Staff and Head of Brand Experience, Training & Development, he headed a  global team of speakers and facilitators. Shed continues to speak and facilitate with  Simon Sinek helping to create a more inspired, safe, and fulfilled world.  Shed graduated from the Richard Ivey School of Business with a focus on  leadership, communication, and strategy. He also received his coaching certification  from The Co-Active Training Institute. He lives in Toronto with his wife and two  young children. Website: https://www.shedinspires.com/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephenshedletzky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shedinspires/Twitter: https://twitter.com/shedinspiresYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqS1_nB34wWVIOSK3ZxvrnA

I am joined once again by Jerome Green, and we continue our conversation by diving right into what makes working with challenging individuals so rewarding for Jerome. He speaks about his journey of addiction, reflecting on pivotal moments, and finding clarity through spirituality. That journey led Jerome from university work to a distinctive career, Jerome shares insights into his passion for working with “assholes” and his commitment to understanding the unique complexities of each person. We take some time to reflect on the pandemic's impact, the importance of empathy, and the pursuit of excellence over perfection. Before wrapping up our conversation, Jerome imparts insightful words of wisdom, providing a thoughtful send-off that resonates beyond the realm of personal development.Bio by Jerome: I spent 24 years working in higher education, university management, leadership development, and human resources, and just as many years in the pressurized sports world running a youth sports basketball business, coaching young adults, and consulting coaches and athletes both on and off the court. All of my experience, education, and training have helped me build quite a collection of tools and methods to support those I work with and open their doors to discovery. My background translates beautifully to my business today and all aspects of my life. It helped me through what was perhaps my most difficult year, as it was for many, 2020. What I thought was once simple, I no longer take for granted. By embracing a growth mindset and gaining new personal and professional insights, I am now doing some of the best work of my career.Website: https://jeromegreencoaching.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeromegreencoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerome-green-3173b012/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/IcanwinnowYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChez2vl-MVIoHJ9vbJwxScg

Today I am lucky enough to have a conversation with Jerome Green, whose path towards a career in counseling and university leadership roles was paved with moments of self-discovery. He begins by unfolding the story of his youth, detailing the influence of Mr. Miller, a mentor who played a pivotal role in steering him from compliance to rebellion to the complexities of identity and the ongoing process of self-discovery. With a keen focus on heart-centered living, Jerome encourages us to embrace curiosity and face the shadows within and before wrapping up Act 1, Jerome imparts a powerful piece of advice: find your frequency, discover your identity, and remember that all is well.Bio by Jerome: I spent 24 years working in higher education, university management, leadership development, and human resources, and just as many years in the pressurized sports world running a youth sports basketball business, coaching young adults, and consulting coaches and athletes both on and off the court. All of my experience, education, and training have helped me build quite a collection of tools and methods to support those I work with and open their doors to discovery. My background translates beautifully to my business today and all aspects of my life. It helped me through what was perhaps my most difficult year, as it was for many, 2020. What I thought was once simple, I no longer take for granted. By embracing a growth mindset and gaining new personal and professional insights, I am now doing some of the best work of my career.Website: https://jeromegreencoaching.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeromegreencoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerome-green-3173b012/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/IcanwinnowYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChez2vl-MVIoHJ9vbJwxScg 

 Today I am joined by Charlie Savill once again, and we dive right into Act 2 of our conversation by delving into the intricate realms of artificial intelligence, its societal impacts, and the ethical considerations that accompany its rapid evolution. Charlie takes time to discuss the balance between technological advancement and ethical responsibility, contemplating the potential consequences of our increasingly interconnected world. From the ethical implications of AI in healthcare to the broader societal implications, Charlie leaves us with insights that challenge societal preconceptions and spark contemplation about the future we are collectively shaping.