TendHER Wild Podcast

In today's episode we explore toxic relationships. We've all had them whether they are with partners, friends, social media, food, substances, or even our government.  We seek to understand the hallmarks of them, what to do about it once you see the truth, why we get in them in the first place, and the parts of self we need to own that might be attracting in such relationships. We talk about: Toxic behaviors and the signs that we are definitely caught in a toxic relationship. Why we are drawn to them, and why they are so confusing. Do we break up or let it fade away? The work we may need to do to understand the patterns that allow such toxicity into our life. Dr Clarissa Pinkola Este's take on how to fend off toxic ideas, people and groups using the symbolism of the butterfly. Other Episodes You Might Like:  Episode 197: Connecting To & Healing Your Inner Child Episode 183: Anger: Still Channeling the Fire Episode 174: Codependent No More Episode 161: Intergenerational Trauma Episode 150: Healing The 3 Feminine Wounds Episode 66: Therapy Anyone? Today's Episode sponsored by: Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to do coaching work with Kate or mind-body psychotherapy with Betsy?  Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Mexico in February May 20-27, 2027 on retreat?  This beautiful retreat center in the nourishing haven of Playa Chacala on the Pacific Ocean will the home for a week of deep self-care.  Teaching retreat is one of Betsy's favorite jobs as it gives her a chance to move into deeper realms with people over an extended period of time using the tools of yoga, meditation, hypnosis, energy work, and self-inquiry.  People typically observe deep shifts and quantum leaps forward on such retreats.   All the details here! – Interested in Rewilding this Summer with Kate & Betsy? Join us for a 4-week LIVE online course starting July 7-28, 2026.  The course includes 4 90-minute live classes with Betsy & Kate, 8 online yoga classes with a Rewilding Box that includes items to support your journey. Registration opens 6/16. Stay tuned! Source

In this deeply intimate conversation, we sit down with Annalise Nelson as she shares her story of motherhood, identity, loss, and rebuilding life after the death of her 7-year-old daughter, Ann-Marie. Now parenting a newborn son, Leo, Annalise reflects on how grief has reshaped everything she thought she knew about love, time, and meaning—while also revealing unexpected moments of beauty, connection, and grace. Annalise begins by sharing her early life in Michigan's Upper Peninsula, growing up as the youngest of four children in a home led by a strong single mother after the loss of her father. She reflects on how her mother modeled resilience, independence, and the importance of community—values that deeply shaped her path into teaching and later motherhood. She speaks candidly about the sudden medical crisis that led to Ann-Marie's passing, and the devastating yet clarifying experience of receiving answers in the hospital. In the midst of unimaginable grief, she describes holding multiple truths at once: heartbreak, gratitude for medical staff, and a strange sense of grounding in understanding what had happened. A central thread of the conversation is how community carried her: Friends, neighbors, and even strangers showed up in profound ways An 8.5-hour visitation revealed the depth of collective love Small gestures—like a stranger giving her a purple stone—became symbols of care A lifelong mentor reminded her: “The reason it hurts so much is because there's so much love.” We explore how grief is not something to “get over,” but something that reshapes identity. Annalise reflects on: Learning that grief is love with nowhere to go How time becomes nonlinear after loss The importance of letting grief move through the body rather than avoiding it How she and her husband grieved differently, yet both authentically The role of writing, walking, and trusted relationships in processing pain She shares deeply personal and beautiful ways she continues to honor Ann-Marie: Weekly writing with a local writer to preserve memories Designing a headstone that reflects her daughter's artistic, joyful spirit A cartwheeling mermaid with fishnet tights—symbolizing her daughter's wild authenticity Continuing traditions like birthday celebrations even after loss Receiving unexpected signs and meaning in everyday life Annalise also reflects on becoming a mother again through IVF and the arrival of baby Leo. She shares the emotional synchronicities surrounding his conception and birth, and how his name—Leo—feels connected to Ann-Marie in meaningful, symbolic ways. Rather than replacing grief, this new life exists alongside it. At the heart of the conversation is a powerful truth: You can hold joy and sorrow at the same time Life does not require choosing one or the other Healing is not linear, but deeply relational and embodied Love does not end—it changes form She closes with a reflection on what it means to live fully human: Those who struggle most are often those who resist holding multiple truths Beauty and tragedy will always coexist in a full life Feeling joy fully is just as important as allowing grief in This episode is a tender exploration of love, loss, and the enduring connection between a mother and her daughter—an invitation to stay open to the fullness of life, even when it hurts. Past Episodes You Might Like About Grief, Loss, and Motherhood: Episode 30:  Grief: It's Complicated Episode 122:  Nina Lohman: The Body Alone: A Lyrical Articulation of Pain Episode 192:  Anne Marie Nest-Pinero & Kristin Marrs: Performance Art that Educates About Infertility & Miscarriage  Today's Episode sponsored by: Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Source

What severs women from their wild, instinctual selves? Or maybe the better question is: when did we become disconnected in the first place? In this episode, we explore the concept of “Wild Severance” — the gradual disconnection many women experience from their intuition, instincts, bodies, power, and truth. Inspired by the work of Clarissa Pinkola Estés, we unpack the systems, experiences, and conditioning that teach women to override themselves in order to belong, perform, and stay safe. We talk about the subtle and overt ways women are taught to disconnect from their natural essence — and what it means to begin rewilding ourselves back into wholeness. In This Episode We Discuss: How patriarchal systems condition women to perform rather than trust themselves Kate's early experience interviewing for a law job and being told not to wear her wedding ring Betsy's story of religious conditioning that taught her the body was sinful and untrustworthy The lasting impact of Victoria’s Secret and cultural messaging around women's bodies Why systems of control benefit when women are disconnected from community, intuition, and each other The tension many women felt around taking their husband's last name — and ignoring the instinct that questioned it How trauma disconnects women from instinct and intuition Dr. Estés' insight that wounded women can become more vulnerable to promises of safety, ease, and approval Betsy's story of early trauma and how it severed her connection to herself The danger of teaching girls to always “be nice” Why compliance and people-pleasing often require women to override their intuition The truth that a mother wolf would never teach her cubs to ignore danger signals Teaching daughters to trust themselves instead of abandoning themselves for approval Dr. Estés' question: “Why do women keep bending and folding themselves into shapes that aren't theirs?” The fear many women have of their own power Betsy's retreat experience of standing fully in her power — and how terrifying that felt Why fear itself isn't the problem unless it stops us from using our gifts in the world Spring and summer as natural seasons for rewilding and reconnection Key Takeaway Rewilding begins with awareness. The first step is acknowledging where you have been severed from yourself — your body, intuition, instincts, voice, desires, or power. From there, healing becomes a return. Not becoming someone new, but remembering who you were before the disconnection. Books & References Mentioned Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés Coming Soon an online course for Rewilding will begin in July! Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to do coaching work with Kate or mind-body psychotherapy with Betsy? Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Source

In this heartfelt Mother's Day episode, Kate sits down with her mom, Carolyn Warner Elwood, for a deeply personal conversation about motherhood, family, resilience, and the threads of love that carry through generations. Carolyn reflects on her upbringing, her career journey, raising three daughters, and the values that shaped the family culture they still carry today. From farm adventures and Vietnam-era activism to motherhood, puppies, board meetings, and Wednesday afternoons helping with grandchildren, this episode is a beautiful reminder that mothering is never really finished — it simply evolves. In This Episode Carolyn's Early Years Growing up on a farm in a three-story white farmhouse Raised in a multigenerational home alongside her parents and younger brother Farm adventures and outdoor play as a self-described “tomboy” Sweet memories of her grandfather rocking her on the porch and calling her “Posy” Education & Finding Her Path First in her family to attend college Attended Cornell College and worked as a student assistant in the sociology department Majored in sociology and psychology, inspired by her Aunt Fern, a social worker Earned her Master's in Social Work from University of Iowa Living in Iowa City during the Vietnam War protests and social unrest Love Story & Unexpected Turns Planned to move west to Seattle with a friend Met her future husband twice at a small bar in Webster, Iowa Married just seven months later “Never left Iowa after that” Career & Motherhood First job at the Child Psychiatry Clinic at the University of Iowa Becoming pregnant with Kate and making the difficult decision to stay home Reflections on early motherhood and the pull to remain present with her children What Kate Was Like as a Child “Precocious and loving” Favorite phrase: “Oh happy day!” Climbed fences, escaped her crib, and made her own breakfast A nurturing older sister to her two younger sisters Memories of moving to a small town and building community Community, Service & Family Culture Carolyn's volunteer work and involvement in the community Kate attending her first board meeting at just 3 years old Stories of raising three girls, beloved puppies, and the heartbreaking loss of their first dog and 10 puppies Returning to her professional career once the girls were older and thriving Helping Kate raise her own children by caring for them on Wednesdays so Kate could pursue her career Legacy & What Matters Most Carolyn reflects on being most proud of the family relationships and culture they created together The importance of giving back, caring for others, and modeling compassion across generations How the values passed down from her parents continue to live on through her daughters and grandchildren Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to do coaching work with Kate or mind-body psychotherapy with Betsy? Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Source

It's hard to fathom that this podcast has lasted this long — and even more incredible that the energy surrounding it only seems to be getting stronger. What continues to emerge through these conversations is a deep collective longing: to understand ourselves more fully, to reclaim forgotten parts of ourselves, and to return to something ancient and true. Again and again, we find ourselves circling back to the essence of the Wild Woman archetype — woman's deepest nature. In a culture where the modern woman is often a blur of activity, pressured to be everything to everyone, these conversations remind us that the old knowing is long overdue. The episodes and guests below left a lasting imprint on us — conversations that challenged us, expanded us, comforted us, and called us closer to ourselves. Highlights for Kate & Betsy Episode 172 — Sarah Goettsch Sarah is a fierce advocate for social justice and an unapologetic ally of the LGBTQIA+ community. She brings both fire and empathy to her ministry, shaped by resilience, courage, and a deep commitment to those on the margins. Her story of navigating divorce as a pastor — while feeling the judgment of her congregation — was deeply impactful. She spoke openly about people harmed by religion and shared that her husband is an atheist, emphasizing that faith is deeply personal: it is between us and our God.  Her willingness to “go to the edge” challenged us to rethink the role of church and organized religion. She reminded us that while traditional religion may not be necessary for everyone, spiritual wrestling — with love, existence, meaning, and eternity — still matters profoundly. Highlights for Betsy Sasha Boros — Episode 29 Sasha spoke about no longer sacrificing connection to herself. She described feeling something within her urging her forward — pushing her toward change, even when it felt terrifying. One of the most memorable reflections: “The Universe will push you to the edge of the cliff and encourage you to jump.” Her honesty about standing in the free fall — where life feels exciting, terrifying, hopeful, and unknown all at once — captured something many women quietly experience when stepping into authenticity. Lyz Lenz — Episode 103 Lyz's unapologetic honesty left a profound impression. She spoke about the foundation of Western marriage as a political institution — one historically rooted in inequality rather than happiness. She shared how many women believe they are the problem inside unhappy marriages, and how it takes radical imagination to envision entirely different ways of loving and living. Her reflections on freedom were unforgettable. Nina Lohman — Episode 122 Nina's story carried tenderness and deep respect. One moment especially stayed with us: “We are going to have two houses now. We're going to be one of those families that has two houses now.” Her approach modeled dignity, compassion, and care even through enormous life transitions. Highlight for Kate Episode 173 — Maddie Corman — Accidentally Brave Hearing Maddie's personal story — and the resistance she faced trying to get her project picked up — was incredibly powerful. She spoke about how betrayal stories where women stay are rarely told. The cultural narrative often only makes room for women who leave dramatically. Because of that, many women navigating complicated realities feel isolated and unsupported. Her work created space for those untold stories. Highlight for Betsy Episode 154 — Kristin Hanggi Betsy reflected on the synchronicity and fate surrounding Kristin's entrance into her studio and life. Their conversation explored creativity, the heroine's journey, and the deep spiritual dimensions of artistic work. Highlight for Kate  Episode 186 — Live Podcast Event with Dani Worrell This live event explored how connection with loved ones does not necessarily end after death, and how remaining open to signs and synchronicities can keep that connection alive. Witnessing women receive messages that deeply moved them — and seeing tears, healing, and relief in the room — was unforgettable. Ren Stinson — Episode 188 Ren's wisdom around masculinity deeply resonated. He shared stories from his first ten years growing up in Japan and explained the meaning behind his name, Ren, meaning “Lotus.” His mother intentionally chose the name despite resistance, eventually helping normalize it in Japanese culture. Rather than redefining masculinity, Ren speaks about expanding it: giving men permission to feel, modeling emotional honesty, supporting vulnerability, and encouraging men to live beyond restrictive norms. His perspective felt both grounded and hopeful. Highlights for Betsy  Episode 180 — Ginette Biro Ginette's story about hearing a voice say: “Ginette, look down the hall.” —and then seeing her cat staring at a spirit guide — left a profound impression. Her discussion of the “blueprint” theory — that our lives hold certain destined experiences and turning points — opened a conversation about fate, guidance, and spiritual design. Episodes 16 & 94 — Marianne Williamson Having Marianne on the podcast twice was deeply meaningful. Beyond her public image — author, activist, presidential candidate — what stood out most was her humanity. Petite in stature, yet carrying enormous fire, fearlessness, and conviction. Her words about women, power, and courage continue to echo: “Nothing is more of a trigger to the patriarchy than a confident woman.” She challenged women to confront the ways we silence ourselves out of fear of rejection or disapproval. She spoke about moral outrage not as hatred, but as love in action. Her reminder was clear: There is a fierceness required of women now. And the goddess is fierce. Episode 187 — Love and Solidarity: Stories from Minneapolis This conversation explored what it means to embody the Wild Woman archetype during times of collective pain and uncertainty. The episode held heartbreak and humanity together at once: courage in real time, love under pressure, grief, community care, and women choosing presence over paralysis. Inspired by the teachings of Clarissa Pinkola Estés, the conversation reflected on how cultures heal — and what becomes possible when communities become “a family within a family,” tending one another through fear and fierce love. Thank you to our listeners and to all who make this podcast possible. Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to do coaching work with Kate or mind-body psychotherapy with Betsy? Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Source

In today's episode we speak with Jaime Ehrenberg, an intuitive and spiritual guide whose gift is listening to and communicating with the land.  We have an eye opening conversation about what we can all do to energetically care for our own back yard, and the healing that can ripple out when we do this. We talk about: Jaime's early years being raised by a single Dad, her draw toward environmentalism and education, and the winding career path that led her to what she is now doing. When Jaime and Betsy met at a rewilding retreat in Spain, and Betsy's first impression of Jaime. How the retreat in Spain unlocked a new awareness in Jaime that she was meant to intuitively work with the land. The 80 acres in the foothills of the Appalachian mountains that Jaime and her husband Christina bought that they named Idylwild, and their plans to create a healing retreat/temple space. The way the land first began to speak to Jaime, and it's revelatory message that it needed Jaime's help to clear the toxic masculine energy on the land from the years of extraction and misuse by previous owners. What Jaime has learned about communing with the land, and how one of the most powerful things we can do is to look at everything, notice all the details of nature and speak to the land about the beauty you observe. Bio: Jaime Ehrenberg is an Intuitive, Embodiment & Spiritual guide trained as a priestess, reiki, and embodiment coach. Her work bridges somatic awareness, intuitive guidance, and energetic attunement—creating a sacred space where body, mind, and spirit can come into coherence. With over 25 years of experience in group leadership and transformational spaces, she weaves structure and intuition into every container she holds. Jaime holds a Master's degree in Education and an undergraduate degree in Environmental Education, grounding her spiritual work in a foundation of facilitation, pedagogy, and deep reverence for the natural world. Jaime's website:  https://idylwildretreatstn.com Other Episodes You Might Like:  Episode 166: Dropping Into Radiant Rest with Tracee Stanley Episode 115: Dr Arielle Schwartz: Awakening the Spiritual Heart Episode 105: Kate O'Donnell: Ayurveda for Women's Health Episode 90: Michaela Boehm: The Wild Woman's Way to Embodiment Episode 66: Therapy Anyone? Episode 27: Connecting to Our True Selves with Narrative Therapist, Andrea Wilson Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to do coaching work with Kate or mind-body psychotherapy with Betsy?  Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

In today's episode we speak with Dr. Juliana Hauser whose work is about holistic sexuality.  She talks today about how sex saved her life multiple times, and the importance of understanding how sexuality is intricately connected to all areas of our life.  We loved how Dr. Juliana balances openness and vulnerability with grounded theory and research.  We definitely learned new things in this conversation! We talk about: Dr Juliana's childhood as a wild, free spirited child who loved to hang from trees that then shifted in middle school when she began to follow rules and move toward achievement. Her short stint as an actress in LA and the seminal moment when she had to seduce someone in an acting class that revealed to her the disconnect she had with her own sexuality and a newfound drive to understand this. How our culture fears sexually confident women. The 9 pillars of holistic sexuality that Dr Juliana created through her research and the importance of exploring who you are as a sexual being. The pillar of pleasure, using our 5 senses, our fears of pleasure and why she talks about self-pleasure vs masturbation. The pillar of desire, and how desire, or vitality as she often defines it, can often came back even when we think it is completely gone in our lives. Bio: Dr Juliana Hauser is a licensed marriage and family therapist and has a Phd in Counseling Education.  Her mission is to connect people with their essence – their truest self – through uncovering, demystifying, and reclaiming their unique sexuality. She is here to evolve sexual education so we can enter the final frontier of personal development.  Her recent book, “A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Pleasure and Authenticity” has been called “a liberating and evidence-informed path forward” and a “must read for anyone longing to bring more truth, vitality, and presence into the erotic life”. Check out Dr. Juliana's book: A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Pleasure, and Authenticity Dr. Juliana's Website: https://dr-juliana.com Join Dr. Juliana at Omega Institute:  “The Embodied Yes Retreat: A Transformational Guide to Holistic Sexuality” May 22-25 Other Episodes about Embodiment You Might Like:  Episode 166: Dropping Into Radiant Rest with Tracee Stanley Episode 115: Dr Arielle Schwartz: Awakening the Spiritual Heart Episode 105: Kate O'Donnell: Ayurveda for Women's Health Episode 90: Michaela Boehm: The Wild Woman's Way to Embodiment Episode 66: Therapy Anyone? Episode 27: Connecting to Our True Selves with Narrative Therapist, Andrea Wilson Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to do coaching work with Kate or mind-body psychotherapy with Betsy?  Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

Today we explore the concept of the inner child, or the parts of self from childhood that may be subconsciously influencing our life as an adult.  The inner child carries both positive traits like creativity and playfulness, as well as negative unresolved traumas, fears, or unmet needs.  Today's conversation ends with a guided inner child exercise with Dr. Betsy. What We Cover in This Episode: The common question of why dredge up memories or feelings from childhood when it is in the past. Whether it is necessary to work with inner child if you have few memories from that time period or if you had a “relatively” happy childhood. The major signs that your inner child is in the driver's seat. The 7 inner child archetypes: The Caretaker, The Overachiever, The Underachiever, The Rescuer/Protector, The Life of the Party, The Yes Person, The Hero Worshipper. A tool for reparenting yourself. A guided inner child exploration with Dr. Betsy to help you observe and understand your inner child pattern. If you want more Content on Inner Child Check Out Dr. Betsy's Wisdom Wednesday: https://youtu.be/JrzFUIj0b5A Other Episodes with Therapeutic Content You Might Like:  Episode 177: Are You Dysregulated? Episode 174: Codependent No More Episode 161: Intergenerational Trauma Episode 124: Shadow Work Episode 72: The Power of Hypnosis: Debunking Myths and Understanding How it Work Episode 66: Therapy Anyone? Episode 51: Dreams: Tap Into the Power Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to do coaching work with Kate or mind-body psychotherapy with Betsy?  Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

In this special live episode of the Tend HER Wild Podcast, recorded at the James Theatre with the Water Bearer Collective, four remarkable women share stories and insights gathered across decades of life. Together they reflect on courage, friendship, aging, and the power of crone wisdom—showing how experience deepens our capacity to lead, love, and keep evolving. Guests Marcia Akin – Educator and Psychotherapist Connie Benton Wolfe – Social Entrepreneur and Innovative Leader Peg Burke – Former University of Iowa professor and former president of the Association for Intercollegiate Athletics for Women Lark Birdsong – First women's basketball coach at the University of Iowa, leader, artist, and lifelong learner Marcia Akin & Connie Benton Wolfe Early Years & Self-Discovery Both Marcia and Connie describe themselves as shy girls who eventually stepped beyond their comfort zones to share their gifts. Marcia reflects on the influence of strong Quaker women and pursuing advanced degrees in education and social work. Connie recalls being excluded from a school play because of her shyness, but credits her grandmother's encouragement to trust herself and stay open to life's unfolding path. Courage Marcia shares how her colon cancer diagnosis at 49—after losing her father to the same disease—revealed the strength of family and community support. Connie believes courage begins with trusting your gifts and allowing them to be visible, noting that courage grows when women support one another. Love & Friendship Both women emphasize the importance of lifelong women's friendships. Marcia speaks about the grounding power of love and humor, while Connie offers simple wisdom: never abandon your women friends for a partner. Aging & Wisdom Marcia reflects that turning 80 has deepened her self-understanding and reminds us that growth never stops. Connie, who spent much of her career working in aging communities, continues to advocate for dignity and meaningful engagement for older adults. Rapid Reflections One truth about life: Marcia – Love relentlessly. | Connie – Start fresh every day. Stop worrying about: Marcia – Tomorrow. | Connie – Naysayers. Start doing earlier: Marcia – Listen to your body. | Connie – Understand money. Word for this season: Marcia – Deepening | Connie – Perplexing Still curious about: Marcia – People's stories | Connie – Younger generations Peg Burke & Lark Birdsong Early Years Peg grew up in rural Kentucky during the Great Depression, walking or riding a mule to school and facing limited opportunities for women. Lark moved frequently during childhood and grew up adventurous and energetic. Pioneers in Women's Sports Peg discovered physical education in college after receiving a small scholarship—an opportunity that shaped her lifelong advocacy for women in athletics. Lark was recruited by pioneering athletic director Christine Grant to help coach the first women's basketball team at the University of Iowa, where early teams had no uniforms or locker rooms. Courage & Justice Peg shares how witnessing inequality in women's sports fueled her activism, emphasizing that once you see injustice, you cannot ignore it. Lark describes courage through personal challenges like adopting her daughter from Peru and completing endurance cycling events such as Race Across America. Friendship & Collective Power Peg describes women's friendships as “a fire with three logs—it burns stronger together.” Lifelong collaboration among women leaders helped expand opportunities for future generations. Rapid Reflections One truth about life: Peg – Life is full of surprises. | Lark – Align what you think, say, and do. Stop worrying about: Peg – Appearance | Lark – Worry itself Start doing earlier: Peg – Be yourself | Lark – Build wealth and friendships Word for this season: Peg – Independence | Lark – Scarce Still curious about: Peg – Everything | Lark – Glass art and government balance Key Takeaway Seasoned Wisdom reminds us that aging is not an ending but a deepening. Through courage, friendship, curiosity, and advocacy, these women show how wisdom grows richer when shared across generations. Home waterbearercollective.com Other episodes you might enjoy: Episode 53: Exploring the Three Phases of Womanhood Episode 129: Dr. Sharon Blackie – Hagitude Episode 117:Roxanne Erdahl – Passion & Purpose Episode 179: Heroine's Journey: Descent to the Goddess Episode 150:  Healing the 3 Feminine Wounds Episode 143: Dropping Into Radiant Rest (Tracee Stanley) Episode 163: Rage as Teacher  Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! 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Sarah Van Cleve is a somatic practitioner, facilitator, death doula, mother, gardener, devoted life-lover, and future ancestor. She is the founder of Soul House Wellness, where she weaves together yoga, sound healing, somatic practice, and leadership development to support people in reconnecting with their bodies and their truth. A self-described Black radical and professional agitator, Sarah's work is rooted in a deep commitment to social justice, accessibility, and the kind of healing that tells the truth. Through her work, she creates spaces where people can find safety within themselves, tend to what is honest, and practice more courageous ways of being in community. In this conversation, Sarah shares how her early life experiences shaped her understanding of identity, belonging, and community. Adopted and raised as a biracial child in a loving white family and predominantly white environment, she reflects on the complexities of navigating identity, proximity to whiteness, and the ways those experiences and micro aggression shaped her path toward embodied healing and justice-centered wellness work. Sarah also speaks about the importance of creating intentional spaces for people of color in wellness, including her work with Return (formerly Yoga for People of Color), and why race, power, and community must be part of the conversation if healing spaces are to be truly inclusive. Together, we explore what wellness spaces often miss, the ongoing practice of unlearning, and what it means to build communities that are brave enough to tell the truth. In this episode we discuss: How adoption shaped Sarah's understanding of identity, belonging, loss, and connection Growing up biracial in a predominantly white family and community Her reunion with her 8 biological siblings The difference between safety and belonging in wellness spaces Why Sarah created healing spaces specifically for people of color What wellness culture often misses when it ignores race, community, and power The role of somatic practice in healing and embodied leadership What Sarah, Betsy and Kate are currently unlearning in their lives and work This conversation invites us to consider how healing is not only personal, but collective—and how creating spaces rooted in honesty, embodiment, and justice can open the door to deeper belonging for all. Where listeners can find Sarah @soulhouse_wellness www.soulhousewellnessllc.com Breathing Room Yoga- weekly classes Return (Yoga for POC) monthly in both Cedar Rapids and soon Des Moines Register for her upcoming workshop at Heartland Yoga on April 12th https://heartlandyoga.com/radical-wellness-august-16th-1130/ Episode 188 Lotus, Liberation, and Expanding Masculinity   Episode 187 Love and Solidarity: Stories from Minneapolis  Episode 163 Rage as Teacher  Episode 124 Shadow Work  Episode 131 Life Quakes. Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

We sit down today with return guest Sasha Boros to talk about her newly inspired collaboration with women called The Water Bearer Collective.  When we last spoke to Sasha in Episode 29, she was leaving a marriage and adjusting to all the transformational shifts in her life this ending brought.  She spoke of a dream she had back in 2020 about women, empowerment, and the importance of women being healthy so they can be the change the world needs. Today we talked about the manifestation of Sasha's dream. What We Cover in This Episode: Sasha's adjustment period post divorce. The seeding of a dream to bring women together and the 5 years that passed until she was ready to birth it thanks to a nudge from Kate. The women who make up the Water Bearer Collective and the gifts each of them bring. The vision for this collective and their desire to empower women. The first event that the Water Bearer Collective offered and how it sold it! An upcoming event that the Water Bearer Collective is co-hosting with the Tend Her Wild podcast called Seasoned Wisdom on April 1. Seasoned Wisdom: Date: April 1st, 11am – 1pm Come soak up the wisdom that only comes from age…A signature event of the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with the Tend HER Wild Podcast. Join the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with Tend HER Wild Podcast hosts Dr. Betsy Rippentrop and Kate Moreland, for a special live podcast event, “Seasoned Wisdom.” This intimate and powerful conversation will feature 4 legendary older women who are overflowing with unapologetic authenticity, hard-won insight, and deep self-trust and wisdom that only comes with age. Event Details: This event will be held at the James Theatre, Iowa City on April 1st from 11am – 1pm. A light lunch will be served and time to network will follow the recording. REGISTER HERE Water Bearer Collective: https://waterbearercollective.com Other Episodes You Might Like About Female Empowerment: Episode 29: How to Champion Ourselves: A Conversation with UI Tennis Coach Sasha Schmid Episode 65: Suzi Lula: Permission to Thrive Episode 103: Lyz Lenz: This American Ex-Wife  Episode 107: Jocelyn Davis: Insubordinate  Episode 129: Dr Sharon Blackie: Hagitude Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

In this deeply honest and expansive conversation, Megan shares her journey from a highly sensitive child who learned to shut parts of herself down—to a therapist helping others reconnect with their inner intelligence for healing. We explore how early life experiences shaped her path, the moment yoga reawakened her sensitivity, and how her work has evolved to include innovative therapeutic modalities like ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. This episode offers a grounded, nuanced look at both the promise and responsibility of working with ketamine in mental health care—along with powerful reflections on healing, integration, and the wisdom within. What We Cover in This Episode: Megan's early years as a highly sensitive child—and how she learned to suppress parts of herself Her role as a “conflict manager” in childhood and early signs of becoming a therapist How yoga,  years ago, reawakened her emotional and intuitive sensitivity Her path into becoming a therapist and how her practice has evolved The integration of ketamine into her psychotherapeutic work Ketamine & Mental Health: How ketamine is used therapeutically to treat depression and other mental health challenges The science behind ketamine—how it opens new neural pathways in the brain Its historical use as an anesthetic, particularly in reducing anxiety and suppressing memory Megan's personal experience using ketamine as part of her own healing and spiritual exploration A Thoughtful Approach to Ketamine Therapy: Why psychotherapy-led ketamine work is essential (vs. clinic-only experiences) The importance of support, intention, and integration in the healing process How ketamine can help people reconnect with their inner intelligence Important Considerations & Risks: The dangers of unmonitored or improperly guided ketamine use Who may not be a good candidate (including those with high blood pressure or a family history of bipolar disorder due to potential manic activation) Why ketamine is not a “magic bullet,” but one tool within a broader healing journey Healing doesn't come from outside of us—it comes from reconnecting with what's already within. With the right support, intention, and care, powerful tools like ketamine can help illuminate that path. Other Episodes: Hypnosis episode (Ep. 72) Unraveling to Heal (Ep. 164 Are You Dysregulated? (Ep. 177) Contact information: https://www.innatepathway.com https://www.instagram.com/carnahan_counseling/ Resources: “How to Change your Mind” Michael Pollan Seasoned Wisdom: Date: April 1st, 11am – 1pm Come soak up the wisdom that only comes from age…A signature event of the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with the Tend HER Wild Podcast. Join the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with Tend HER Wild Podcast hosts Dr. Betsy Rippentrop and Kate Moreland, for a special live podcast event, “Seasoned Wisdom.” This intimate and powerful conversation will feature 4 legendary older women who are overflowing with unapologetic authenticity, hard-won insight, and deep self-trust and wisdom that only comes with age. Event Details: This event will be held at the James Theatre, Iowa City on April 1st from 11am – 1pm. A light lunch will be served and time to network will follow the recording. REGISTER HERE Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

Today is an update on 2 of our brilliant guests and the powerful art they are putting out into the world. In episode 128 we interviewed Kristin Marrs and Anne Marie Nest about a theatre/dance piece they created called Chalk, which is about both of their journeys through miscarriage and infertility. These amazing women have been busy in the last year because they developed the piece into a full length show that opened in Denver last weekend, and will open in Iowa City for 4 shows at the James next weekend, March 21-24. Tickets can be found at http://www.thejamesic.com. In today's episode we: Hear about how Anne Marie & Kristin met during their challenges with infertility and multiple miscarriages, and how this eventually led to creative collaboration and birthing of a new piece of art. The process of creating this piece, and the magic of how it all came together when they set the intention of “this can be easy”. Ancestral patterning, and stories of women that came before Anne Marie and Kristin that had challenges with child bearing. The infertility journey that both women experienced,  including all the ups and downs, the limits of the medical system, and the deep, hidden grief and shame. Why the topic of infertility and miscarriage has been so  “silenced” in our culture. Why we need these stories more than ever in our current political arena when so many women are having challenges receiving the health care they need. Bios: Iowa native Kristin Marrs is a dancer, choreographer, and movement teacher. She is an Associate Professor of Instruction and Director of Graduate Studies at the University of Iowa Department of Dance, where she teaches a wide variety of courses across the dance and somatic curriculum. She is also a certified Alexander Technique teacher, and has a private studio in Iowa City where she works with students of all ages and abilities in improving alignment, breathing, postural tone, and ease of movement. She is a proud mama of two kids.  www.kristinmarrs.com Anne Marie Nest-Pinero met Kristin at the University of Iowa while she was professor of voice and speech in the Theater Department. Prior to her career in academia, Anne Marie was a professional actor, working primarily in regional theaters and Shakespeare Festivals.  Anne Marie now works as an executive coach and communications consultant for the Fortune 500 and AM Law 200.  She is an Associate Teacher of Fitzmaurice Voicework, trained mediator through Columbia University, and certified CTI coach. www.annemarienest.com Past Episodes You Might Like About Women's Health, Medical Systems & Well-Being   Episode 122:  Nina Lohman: The Body Alone: A Lyrical Articulation of Pain Episode 105: Kate O'Donnell: Ayurveda for Women's Health Episode 99: Cate Stillman: The Witch's Cancer Journal  Episode 88: Sam Ferm-LeClere: Healing with Chronic Illness Episode 37: Can We Trust Other Women and Their Bodily Autonomy Seasoned Wisdom Date: April 1st, 11am – 1pm Come soak up the wisdom that only comes from age…A signature event of the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with the Tend HER Wild Podcast. Join the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with Tend HER Wild Podcast hosts Dr. Betsy Rippentrop and Kate Moreland, for a special live podcast event, “Seasoned Wisdom.” This intimate and powerful conversation will feature 4 legendary older women who are overflowing with unapologetic authenticity, hard-won insight, and deep self-trust and wisdom that only comes with age. Event Details: This event will be held at the James Theatre, Iowa City on April 1st from 11am – 1pm. A light lunch will be served and time to network will follow the recording. REGISTER HERE Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

Words have a way of finding us exactly when we need them. In this episode, we share 22 quotes that have inspired, grounded, and guided us through different seasons of life. This conversation was sparked by a listener who asked us: What are the quotes you return to again and again? So we gathered the words that have stayed with us—and the meaning behind them. We'd love to know: what quotes have shaped your life? Quotes: “The women I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong and they handled it. They handled it a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.” -Elizabeth Gilbert “The more scared we are of a work or calling , the more sure we can be that we have to do it.  Resistance is experienced as fear. The degree of fear equates to the strength of resistance.  Therefore the more fear we feel about a specific enterprise the more certain we can be that  enterprise is important to us and the growth of our soul. “ Stephen Pressfield from “War of Art” “The wound is the place where the light enters you. “ Rumi “Love is the most powerful force in the world. If people tell you the opposite of love is fear, it is not so. Love just is. Love has no opposite, it's the answer to everything, everything. Where there is disharmony, wherever there's pain, whoever there's hunger or wherever there is sorrow. Just send love. Not only to humanity, but to all of life. To the rivers, the oceans, the forest, to the animals the birds, the bees to air you breathe. To the whole cosmos because you are part of the one, we are all part of the one. There is no separation. “ -Delores Cannon “Let your heart break, so your spirit doesn't.” – Andrea Gibson “Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act , just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”   -Rainer Maria Rilke “Letters to a Young Poet” “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you do, but they will never forget the way you made them feel”. Maya Angelou “To strive for perfection is to kill love, because perfection does not recognize humanity.”  -Marianne Woodman “How to do the thing you are afraid to do. Grab fears by the hand, grab hope by the hand and start walking.” -Cleo Wade “Nothing has as strong of influence psychologically on your environment, and especially on your children, than the un-lived life of the parent.”  Carl Yung “Of course I've changed darling, I've grown.” -Cleo Wade “Aging is no accident. It is necessary to the human condition, intended by the soul. We become more characteristic of who we are simply by lasting into later years; the older we become, the more our true natures emerge. Thus the final years have a very important purpose: the fulfillment and confirmation of one's character.” – James Hillman “You are the sky, everything else is the weather.” – Pema “If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And if I'm only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when? -Hillel “The best thing to hold onto in life, is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn “Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It's going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction. It's going to cost you relationships and friends. It's going to cost you being liked and understood. It doesn't matter. The people who are meant for you are going to meet you on the other side. You're going to build a new comfort zone around the things that actually move you forward. Instead of being liked, you're going to be loved. Instead of being understood, you're going to be seen. All you're going to lose is what was built for a person you no longer are.” – Brianna Wiest “I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.” – Audrey Hepburn “She knows that she'll get her butt kicked if she chooses aliveness , her light will blind others, her darkness will not let her fit in, her success will provoke conflict, her ways of healing will be judged, her enemies will want her to cower, and fear will do it's best to take her down. So she draws a circle around herself and keeps opening up, because aliveness is freedom. She's embracing the risk to bypass the ordinary and she's exactly what the world needs right now.” -Tanya Markul She Book  “Strong back, soft front, wild heart.” – Joan Hallifax / Brene' Brown Past Episodes You Might Like with Kate & Betsy: Episode 100:  The Upper Limit: Living In Your Full Potential Episode 80: Self Compassion: The Secret Sauce of Life Episode 153: Connecting to Soul as a Path to Abundance Episode 55: Boundaries & Self Sabotage LIVE PODCAST EVENT Seasoned Wisdom Date: April 1st, 11am – 1pm Come soak up the wisdom that only comes from age…A signature event of the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with the Tend HER Wild Podcast. Join the Water Bearer Collective in partnership with Tend HER Wild Podcast hosts Dr. Betsy Rippentrop and Kate Moreland, for a special live podcast event, “Seasoned Wisdom.” This intimate and powerful conversation will feature 4 legendary older women who are overflowing with unapologetic authenticity, hard-won insight, and deep self-trust and wisdom that only comes with age. Event Details: This event will be held at the James Theatre, Iowa City on April 1st from 11am – 1pm. A light lunch will be served and time to network will follow the recording. REGISTER HERE Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here! Source

Kate and Betsy speak with Elizabeth Marner, the founder and CEO of “The Be A Light Project” for brain health and suicide prevention for rural communities.  Her nonprofit was born out of personal pain following her son's suicide attempt and their frustrations getting the help he needed. In today's Episode we discuss: Elizabeth's experience of growing up and continuing to live in a rural small town. Elizabeth's painful story of her son's suicide attempt, and his struggle getting help in a rural community. Elizabeth's own mental health journey. How her son Mason feels about her work. Her passion for rural communities, blue collar workers, and her deep desire to change the culture of how such communities view mental health. Elizabeth's Book “EmpowerHER”. Podcast Elizabeth Recorded for the book: https://youtu.be/xiHuVKJ3tTI?si=nuXIXoSM4cEpMvg9 Elizabeth's Nonprofit: https://www.bealightproject.org/our-mission Documentary that Elizabeth and her son Appear In: https://mtyc.co/zzxq0f Past Episodes about Mental Health that you Might Enjoy:    Episode 177: Are You Dysregulated? Episode 170: Renee Zukin: Everyday I'm Brave Episode 167: Dr. Jackie Kamradt: Being A Mother is the Best Thing for my OCD Episode 164: Christina Woods: Unraveling to Heal Episode 161: Intergenerational Trauma Episode 133: Domestic Abuse: Wisdom From A Survivor, Dr. Lauren Welter  Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here!  Here is the episode with Kristin –  154. The Multi-Hyphenate Wonder that is Kristin Hanggi Source

Kate and Betsy dive into the topic of feminism after an article came out in the New York Times in November 2025 entitled “Are women ruining the workplace?”.  In this episode we seek to understand the real meaning of feminism, the different waves it has gone through, and what the wild woman archetype says about these times. In today's Episode we discuss: The fire that Kate felt after reading this article, and why we've gotten to a point where feminism has become a bad word. The actual definition of feminism, and the history of the feminist movement through 4 different waves. Wisdom from Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes in “Women Who Run with the Wolves” about feminism. Past Episodes that you Might Enjoy:    Episode 179: The Heroine's Journey: Descent to the Goddess Episode 163: Rage As Teacher Episode 148: Reflections on the Wild Woman Archetype and What She Can Teach us In These Divisive Times Episode 135: Mandy Fabian: Fiercely Feminine Film Director Episode 121: A New Feminine Energy is Rising Episode 114: Use Your Voice Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 11-18 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you connect with your inner healer using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and creativity?  At this retreat, broadway director Kristin Hanggi is joining to lead on the power of creativity to move us through our collective and personal anxiety.   All the details here!  Here is the episode with Kristin –  154. The Multi-Hyphenate Wonder that is Kristin Hanggi Source

In this deeply moving and thoughtful conversation, Dr. Ren shares the personal, cultural, and professional journey that shaped his life and work. Origins & Identity Ren begins by telling the story of his first ten years growing up in Japan and the powerful meaning behind his name. Ren, which means “Lotus,” was intentionally chosen by his mother — a decision so unusual at the time that she had to seek special permission to have it officially recognized. She even had his name added to an approved registry so he would not be treated as a foreigner. Years later, the name would rise to become one of the most popular in Japan. A Childhood Rooted in Activism & Spirituality Ren reflects on the profound influence of his mother — a self-described “wild woman” and feminine activist — and a family culture steeped in both social justice and spirituality. As a child, he participated in nuclear peace marches and was even featured in the news as a baby alongside Buddhist monks. Raised in a bi-racial family in the Bay Area, Ren navigated a unique spiritual landscape: ·       A father who was a Christian minister ·       A mother who practiced Buddhism ·       Exposure to Japan's polytheistic cultural traditions His parents fostered an environment of freedom, creativity, and deep acceptance. Masculinity, Culture, and Formation Ren shares how hockey culture played a significant role in shaping his early understanding of masculinity — including its strengths, pressures, and emotional limitations. These experiences ultimately led him to pursue psychology, where his multicultural upbringing and feminist influences deeply inform his clinical perspective. Understanding Men: Shame, Anger, and Social Expectations Ren discusses his work in homeless shelters, his research on masculinity and economics, and how systemic pressures shape men's emotional lives. He explains: ·       Why anger is often more socially acceptable for men than shame ·       How economic expectations and social norms intensify male distress ·       The hidden emotional costs of trying to live up to an impossible masculine image Changing Rape Culture & Supporting Men's Healing As the first male staff member at a women's resource center, Ren facilitated men's groups focused on sexual assault prevention and accountability. He shares insights about: ·       How patriarchal systems harm men as well as women ·       The “man box” exercise he uses to help men examine rigid gender expectations ·       How younger generations are showing greater emotional openness Expanding Masculinity (Not Redefining It) Rather than replacing masculinity, Ren advocates for expanding it — pushing the edges outward so men can live more fully and authentically. He speaks about: ·       The importance of permission-giving among men ·       Modeling vulnerability and emotional honesty ·       Supporting men to step outside restrictive norms The Role of Feminist Psychotherapy Ren highlights how feminist therapy frameworks help men develop self-compassion by understanding systemic influences rather than internalizing blame. This is especially vital for men who have experienced trauma or violence.  Harnessing Justified Anger for Change A powerful theme of the episode is how justified anger can become a force for healing and social transformation when channeled constructively. Hope for the Future Ren closes by sharing what keeps him hopeful: his direct connection to people's real lives and stories. He reminds us that healing — individually and collectively — requires a return to genuine human connection and conversation. Check out Dr Ren’s Upcoming Workshops at Heartland Yoga (and online) Check out Dr. Ren’s Therapy Practice Today's Episode sponsored by: Kate Moreland Coaching Dr Yoga Momma Heartland Yoga Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you reorganize your inner space using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and hypnosis?  All the details here! Source

Season 4 of Tend Her Wild opens with a refusal to play small. In this episode, we bear witness to what is unfolding in Minneapolis—and across our country—through the lens of the Wild Woman archetype. This conversation is about courage in real time, love under pressure, and what it looks like when women choose presence over paralysis. We ask the question Clarissa Pinkola Estés reminds us of how a culture heals, and we explore what happens when a community becomes “a family within a family,” tending one another through fear, grief, and fierce love. This episode holds pain and power, heartbreak and humanity, and a deep reminder that the wild woman rises precisely in times like these. What the Wild Woman Is Teaching Us Right Now What it means to not play small in moments of cultural rupture How the wild woman archetype shows up as truth-telling, action, and solidarity Why these times are calling women to step forward—even when scared Guest 1: A Minnesota Neighbor & Artist — Bearing Witness Through Action Our first guest is a local neighbor and artist from Minnesota who shares what it is like to live inside the unfolding events in Minneapolis. She reminds us that this is not the time to be quiet, even when fear is present—and that fear is not a reason to disengage. Key reflections from her story: The unique strength and resilience of Minnesotans The truth that we are all immigrants—and how civil liberties are being threatened What it means to live where you cannot step outside without witnessing history How COVID quietly prepared communities by strengthening relationships Neighbors delivering food, showing up, and caring for one another Using personal gifts—art, presence, nourishment—as acts of resistance The power of art as a kind of spell cast outward, carrying love and truth She speaks honestly about the emotional roller coaster of these days, while holding faith that this community is modeling something vital for the rest of the country. Guest 2: An Immigrant's Perspective from Downtown Minneapolis Our second guest is an immigrant who has lived in the United States for nearly 30 years and currently resides in downtown Minneapolis. She shares the disorientation of desolate streets, the fear of leaving home, and the haunting familiarity of carrying papers—echoing memories of wartime survival. Her reflections include: Living with heightened vigilance and fear Recognizing that acts of oppression often stem from fear How community connection becomes harder when people are afraid to be seen The grief of reliving the past Why generosity cannot be taught—but must be practiced “Stay safe” becoming the new greeting She reminds us that anything rooted in fear, greed, or selfishness cannot last—and that when justice is destroyed, it will be reborn. We hold deep gratitude for these two women who chose to bear witness, sharing their stories with honesty and heart. They embody both courage and pain, reminding us that the wild woman does not numb—she stays present, rooted in love, and committed to life. Follow Tend Her Wild https://www.instagram.com/tendherwild/?hl=en If this episode moved you: Share it with someone who needs to remember they are not alone. Leave a review to help these stories reach further. And ask yourself: How am I being called to show up, with what I have, right now? Link to Sabrina Video  How to help Minnesotans Rent and utilities are a priority right now, as many people cannot leave their homes to go to work. Phillips neighborhood has been hardest hit in the whole city of Minneapolis Powderhorn Rent Relief, covers rent and household bills for folks sheltering in place in powderhorn neighborhood.  venmo @SouthsideNeeds directly to support buying and delivering food and basic needs items to families in Powderhorn and Phillips Childhood Families in Columbia Heights MN Somali run org in Saint cloud Latinx run org in Saint Cloud Past Episodes You Might Like with Kate & Betsy:  Episode 163: Rage As Teacher Episode 131: Life Quakes Episode 124: Shadow WorkEpisode 98: Shake if Off: Facing the Criticism and Embracing Your Light Episode 76: Women Finding Their Voice Today's Episode sponsored by: Kate Moreland Coaching Dr Yoga Momma Heartland Yoga Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you reorganize your inner space using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and hypnosis?  All the details here! Source

In today's episode we review this past year and all that unfolded in the podcast and in our personal lives. We talk about the highs and lows, the practices that sustained us, and we reveal our theme for Season 4 that begins February 2026. In today's episode we explore: Reflections on the year of the snake, 2025, and all the shedding that we did. The guests we interviewed in this last year that really made an impact. How the wild woman archetype worked with each of us in the last year, and our realization that reawakening our inner wild is a process that takes us deeper into our soul. The highs and lows we personally endured (death, divorce, loss, grief) and how the highs and lows seem so entwined. The practices that have helped us this last year. Our excitement for Season 4, and our theme “No More Playing Small”. Past Episodes from Season 3 that We Mentioned:    180. Ginette Biro: A Near Death Experience & Divine Connection to the Other Side 173. Maddie Corman: Accidentally Brave 172. Reverend Sarah Goettsch: Unapologetic 170. Renee Zukin: Every Day, I'm Brave 165. Hope for the Future:  Meet The Sons Jack Moreland & Pieter Rippentrop 163. Rage as Teacher 154. The Multi-Hyphenate Wonder that is Kristin Hanggi Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub (https://thelocalhub-ic.com/) Kate Moreland Coaching (https://www.katemorelandcoaching.com/) Dr Yoga Momma (https://dryogamomma.com/) Heartland Yoga (https://heartlandyoga.com/) Join Kate in person at the Winter Gathering at the Well on Sunday, January 11th from 1-5pm  Find Registration info here Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you reorganize your inner space using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and hypnosis?  All the details here! Today's Episode sponsored by: The Local Hub Kate Moreland Coaching Dr Yoga Momma Heartland Yoga Want to go on retreat?  Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you reorganize your inner space using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and hypnosis?  All the details here! To join the Tend Her 4.0 Course on Hope (It's Free!), visit here: https://dryogamomma.com/tend-her-4-0-hope/ Source

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In today's joyful episode, we dig into our “magic bags” and surprise each other with our current favorite things. We share our top 10 unique items, shows, apps, and little ...

“There is an aspect that women need to master if you're going to be a wild woman and that is dealing with what can only be called women's rage.  The release ...

In today's episode, we dive into a rich and inspiring conversation with yoga teacher Uma Subramaniam. Uma shares her journey from growing up in India—where yoga was a natural part of ...

At the start of Season 3 on Tend Her Wild, astrologer and coach Cathy Pagano talked about 2025 as a year of endings and beginnings.  Today Kate and Betsy get ...

Today's interview was both eye opening and fascinating as we interviewed Ginette Biro, a medium (someone who can see, hear, and communicate with spirits on the other side).  We hear ...

We reviewed the Heroine's Journey that we talked about in Episode 60, and took it a little deeper today after exploring this beautiful methodology for a full week on a ...

In today's episode, we dive into The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz—a timeless guide to personal freedom and transformation. As we prepare for our upcoming retreat in Greece with 44 incredible ...

It really is a time for us to step up and take some responsibility for our own nervous system, so for today's episode we revisit the topic of nervous system ...

In today's episode, we sit down with actress Carmen Serano-Gingles, who shares a powerful story of healing, resilience, and transformation. Carmen opens up about navigating her own “dark night of ...

In today's episode we interview Tracy Trittle about her year living everywhere and nowhere at once in an old VW camper van.  At the age of 55, Tracy found herself ...

This is a theme that we have been wanting to explore on the podcast for months, but have been dragging our feet. (Perhaps because we both identify closely with this ...

In today's episode we interview Maddie Corman, an actress with a powerful story of betrayal trauma, how she managed the darkest chapter of her life, and the hope and support ...

In this episode, we sit down with Reverend Sarah Goettsch, a Lutheran pastor whose preaching has inspired communities for over 20 years. A fierce advocate for social justice and an ...

Dani Worrell is an intuitive medium and professional organizer who helps people clear their heads and hearts.  She began fully using her gifts of intuition after alcoholism nearly took her ...

In today's episode we interview author Renee Zukin.  In her new book “Everyday I'm Brave” Renee shares her story of her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and her journey of conquering ...

This is part 2 of our interview with Brenda Crawford about her journey through cancer treatment and her perspectives on living and dying 5 years into her journey. The shift ...

Brenda Crawford is the first guest we've interviewed that didn't have a bio for us to read, and she explained that what she would have had us read in years ...

In today's episode we interview Dr. Jackie, a psychologist who has learned the power of self-disclosure when she began to speak openly about her relationship to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) ...

Hello tend her wild podcast listeners. Today we are re-releasing one of our favorite episodes with Tracee Stanley Tracee is a gifted yoga niddra teacher and the author of the ...

In today's episode we have a delightful talk with Kate & Betsy's 19-year-old sons who just completed their first year of college and are home for the summer.  We had ...

In today's episode we talk with Christina Woods an internationally recognized Clinical Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformational therapist, Empowerment Coach and Reiki Master who leads women to realize their worth, shed old ...

In today's episode we return to the book “Women Who Run with the Wolves” for inspiration and discuss the teachings around the concept of rage.  We explore the idea that ...

In today's episode we talk with Betsy's older sister Jennifer and the pivotal impact she has had on Betsy, as well as her part in helping create the Tend Her ...

In today's episode we explore how the trauma can extend from one generation to the next through the intersection of our biology and our psychology.  This topic was briefly touched ...

In today's episode we explore the topic of nervous system dysregulation and how most of us are likely dysregulated due to the stressors of modern day life.  We reveal our ...

In today's episode we speak with the “1 Year 1 Fear” Podcaster Cara Flynn who is an open book dynamo conquering her own fear by bringing women together for life ...

In today's episode we speak with singer/songwriter Mary Jane Knight. Her life's journey involves growing up in the church, with a father who was a pastor.  It was in the ...

In today's episode we speak with Stefanie Munsterman who has spent a life supporting human rights.  Her journey from growing up in Kansas City where as a child she noticed ...

In today's episode we speak with Sheila Davisson , a seasoned entrepreneur and fashion enthusiast with a heart of gold.  Sheila's story is as inspiring and bold, as is her advocacy ...

In today's episode we speak with Lyndsey Scott, a multimedia artist, song leader, song writer, and ritualist committed to exploring community singing as a technology of belonging and a strategy ...