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We got a question in for our American Mamas...Dear Mamas, I heard you talk about dealing with Daughters-in-Law, but what about the other way around? Any suggestions for dealing with a difficult Mother-in-Law?
What To Say At Her Funeral Book: You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters #2 The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal #3 Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me: Choose Your Own Adventure! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters #2 The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal #3 Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me: Choose Your Own Adventure! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters #2 The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal #3 Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me: Choose Your Own Adventure! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters #2 The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal #3 Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
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Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters #2 The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal #3 Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters #2 The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal #3 Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
Here are the things to expect in the episode:Dealing with the expectation that you're supposed to “celebrate” Mother's Day.Karen on ending her relationship with her mom.The importance of setting boundaries. It's creating safety and identity!Recognizing when your body is showing survival responses under negative energy. Your body has wisdom!Things you can do to manage your emotions. And much more! About Karen C.L. Anderson:Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author specializing in shame, healthy boundaries, and difficult mother-daughter relationships. Using a feminist, trauma-conscious approach, she helps smart, creative women change the way they experience their mother-daughter relationship, and to take care of themselves in that relationship.She is the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and host of the Dear Adult Daughter podcast.Website: https://www.kclanderson.com/ Connect with me, Jeanne Andrus!Website: https://menopausematterspodcast.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Menopause.Matters.The.PodcastTalk with Me: https://mg.menopause.guru/book-invitationFind out how you can take control of your menopause journey!Schedule your FREE consultation now at menopause.guru/consult
Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, who want to experience that relationship differently, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Experience coaching with me. The Mother Lode is a safe, personalized, nurturing coaching container to get support in taking better care of yourself in the relationship you have with your mother. To reconnect you to the parts of yourself that you may disconnected from. To love and trust yourself more. Along the way you will cultivate an inner command over how you feel and react, no matter what she's doing or saying. You will maintain the boundaries you set, and not override them. You will feel safer when expressing anger. You will be able to separate yourself emotionally from her so you know where she ends and you begin. You will find yourself able to be with and process feelings like guilt, regret, shame, and fear. Your mother will no longer be the subject the sucks the life out of you. You will know what to do in the moment "when your mom is going loco on you." You will become the leader in the relationship. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. The Mother Lode is a safe, personalized, nurturing coaching container to get support in taking better care of yourself in the relationship you have with your mother. To reconnect you to the parts of yourself that you may disconnected from. To love and trust yourself more. Along the way you will cultivate an inner command over how you feel and react, no matter what she's doing or saying. You will maintain the boundaries you set, and not override them. You will feel safer when expressing anger. You will be able to separate yourself emotionally from her so you know where she ends and you begin. You will find yourself able to be with and process feelings like guilt, regret, shame, and fear. Your mother will no longer be the subject the sucks the life out of you. You will know what to do in the moment "when your mom is going loco on you." You will become the leader in the relationship. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Indulge me as I talk a little bit about Bella the cat, whom, if you've listened to this podcast before, you've probably heard. My husband and I helped her die last Sunday. Click here to see her photos. ~~~ You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Here are the things to expect in the episode:Dealing with a difficult mother-daughter relationshipsHow relationship issues affect body image and relationship with foodThe evolution of shame in women Karen's new book about shameAnd much more! About Karen C.L. Anderson:Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who want to take care of themselves in the troubled relationship they have with their mothers and/or change the way they experience that relationship. She is the author of several books, including Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration, and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relations Journal.Connect with Karen C.L. Anderson!Website: http://kclanderson.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/KCLAndersonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kclanderson/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kclanderson About Jeanne:Jeanne has been studying, speaking, writing, and coaching about menopause and women's Menopause Journeys for over a decade. She is the acclaimed author of 5 books about menopause, including her international bestseller, I Just Want to Be ME Again!, now in its Second Edition. Jeanne is a certified health coach and personal trainer. Connect with Jeanne Andrus!Talk with Me: https://mg.menopause.guru/book-invitationWebsite: https://menopausematterspodcast.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Menopause.Matters.The.PodcastFree Sleep tips: https://menopausematterspodcast.com/sleepFind out how you can take control of your menopause journey!Schedule your FREE consultation now at menopause.guru/consult
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Word Of The Year Mini-Workshop (a live, in-person event in Southeastern Connecticut) You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. I offer 1:1 coaching ONLY at various price points. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have three spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have three spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have three spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have four spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Register for the Healthy Boundaries Workshop, taking place Saturday, November 12. Want to spend a day with me 1:1? Mother Lode Intensives! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have four spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Register for the Healthy Boundaries Workshop, taking place Saturday, November 12. Want to spend a day with me 1:1? Mother Lode Intensives! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have four spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Books on sale! Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration; The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal; and Overcoming Creative Anxiety are part of Amazon's Prime Early Access Sale, which starts October 11 and runs through October 12. Healthy Boundaries Workshop: click here to learn more Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for those who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson, author of “Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters”, talks about her work with complicated mother-daughter relationships, and shares her American mom Cynthia's lessons on being bold, spirited, unexpected, and getting what you want; not being afraid of traveling by yourself; being adventurous with food and cooking; and hating one's body and shaming oneself. Karen talks about wishing her mother taught her that women have been socialized to believe that there's something wrong with them because it protects them in a culture that doesn't value women equally, and punishes women when they don't conform to the norms of said culture - the shame as borne of "protecting." To learn more about Karen, please visit her website. You can find Karen's book on Amazon. To contact Ana, please send your mail to: info@thankyoumama.net For more about “Thank You, Mama" and to subscribe to the newsletter, please visit: http://www.thankyoumama.net To connect with Ana on social media: https://www.instagram.com/anatajder/ https://www.facebook.com/ana.tajder https://www.linkedin.com/in/anatajder/ https://twitter.com/tajder
Have you read the book “difficult mothers: understanding and overcoming their power” by Terri Apter. Lami shares her viewpoints on the book digest podcast. If you have any comments email us at somesayers@gmail.com Supported by Afrique visions Contact Afrique visions on +233 0268119393/ +15167252469 or visit https://www.instagram.com/afriquevisions/?hl=en Editor :Lilian Moro Music:adobestock.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/somesayers/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/somesayers/support
Caregiving is inherently difficult, but navigating care for an estranged parent, or even one who challenges your boundaries, adds more layers of stress and emotional turmoil. Today my conversation is with two people who understand this. Laura Davis is an author of 6 books, including I thought we'd never speak again, the road from estrangement to reconciliation and her first memoir The Burning Light of Two Stars: A Mother-Daughter Story which tells the story of her traumatic and tumultuous relationship with her mother which includes her caring for her at the end of her life. Karen Anderson is a life coach and the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation and Inspiration. We discuss not only the challenges that accompany these relationships but how you can find peace in the midst of it.
Clarification: it wasn't the previous episode in which I mentioned the three truths, it was this episode: Being Sensitive Isn't A Problem Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Book mentioned: The MindBody Code by Dr. Mario Martinez Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Caregiving is inherently difficult, but navigating care for an estranged parent, or even one who challenges your boundaries, adds more layers of stress and emotional turmoil. Today my conversation is with two people who understand this. Laura Davis is an author of 6 books, including I thought we'd never speak again, the road from estrangement to reconciliation and her first memoir The Burning Light of Two Stars: A Mother-Daughter Story which tells the story of her traumatic and tumultuous relationship with her mother which includes her caring for her at the end of her life. Karen Anderson is a life coach and the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide for Separation, Liberation and Inspiration. We discuss not only the challenges that accompany these relationships but how you can find peace in the midst of it. Click HERE for Show Notes
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
No-one envisions a life where they are estranged from their mother, right? What happens if you do find yourself in that situation? In this episode we talk to Karen C.L. Anderson, a master-certified life coach and author in service to smart, creative women who are healing the Mother Wound. In addition to helping women use the difficult relationship they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth, Karen has written a number of books related to healing the mother wound, total self-acceptance and overcoming creative anxiety. Her book , “Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration” is an international bestseller.Today, we'll discuss:
I will be a speaker at this year's Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit. This is a free online 4-day event taking place between March 2nd-5th, and includes 25 other experts in the fields of family relationship struggles, trauma, loss and overcoming adversity. Click here to register. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers (or daughters)…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
(in which I revisit everything I've ever written about boundaries, add some new information, and put it one place...because boundaries are the #1 subject you ask about...to get the written version of this guide, with the nervous system regulating practices, send me an email: karen@kclanderson.com) Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
(in which I revisit everything I've ever written about boundaries, add some new information, and put it one place...because boundaries are the #1 subject you ask about) Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
The podcast has it's first guest, KCL Anderson, author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters as Lauren and Rebecca discuss emotionally immature parents. Being born feeling everything that is forbidden in the family, the dream that one day our parents will magically become different people, role reversal, and remembering that not everyone wants to be happy. On patreon they discuss the toxic dynamics of the family group chat. https://kclanderson.com/ Patreon Sponsored by Curious Elixers
In today's show, Master Coach and author Karen CL Anderson and I share a discussion around being daughters of difficult mothers. Karen's work is to help adult daughters of difficult mothers use their relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity and wisdom. When it comes to fielding the actions and words a difficult mother offers us as her daughter, it most certainly does feel personal. It's meant as personal. I love how our conversation evolves around that, and how we've each come to claim and stand in our own individual truths in relations to it. Read Karen's Love Note "It's Not Always a Matter of Not Taking It Personally" that inspired this conversationKaren's bio:Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom.Find Karen at her websiteGet Karen's Love Letters - you'll be glad you did.Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal(January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic(June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective.Karen recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women.She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.She was featured as a subject matter expert in the New York Times: Remember, It's Okay To Set Boundaries!
Today's interview is with Karen C.L. Anderson.Karen shares about the journey that lead her to do this work and how the relationship with your mother (or daughter) reaches far beyond what you may think. She speaks about the importance of a strong self-concept(and shares some of hers) and how you are not only freeing yourself in this process, you are also freeing your parent. Karen serves smart, creative women in using the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Karen is the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal(January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic(June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program.You can read more about Karen and her services by visiting her WEBSITE.
Brooke and Pam are back again to dig into more confessionals! They tackle topics about mothers who aren't easy to please and exes who are keeping secrets. They also discuss some creative ways for couples who've had to reschedule their weddings to celebrate their original wedding dates. If you like grumpy mothers or Covid-era wedding delays, this episode is for you! -- SHOW NOTES: The article we read was "5 Ways To Celebrate Your Original Wedding Date" from Southern Bride. -- BRIDAL BREAKS: Berry Wine Slushies: A frozen treat, perfect for the end of summer! Created by diethood.com. (Suggested by Pam) Murder, She Wrote: An 80s murder mystery TV series that is oddly soothing. Available on Amazon Prime. (Suggested by Brooke) Pink Pony Club: A sweet stripper song that will make you shake your booty (clothing optional). By Chappell Roan. (Suggested by Brooke) -- WEDDING CONFESSIONALS LINKS: www.weddingconfessionals.com Instagram Facebook Twitter Pinterest -- Have a story to tell us? Need some advice about your own wedding drama? Email us: weddingconfessionals@gmail.com Call us: 434-933-2663 Click here to send us a message with no personal information needed! We promise to never reveal the names in order to protect the innocent...and the annoyed. Your secret's safe with us! -- Logo by David Kantrowitz Theme song by Andy Schrier
This week on the #RemarriageClub I interviewed Karen Anderson on how she conquered her past trauma and early difficult relationships and divorce. Karen has been happily remarried for 23 years. She shares with what it took to overcome desperation, leave a toxic marriage, and learn how to set boundaries.Karen C.L. Anderson is an author and master-certified life coach who helps women take better care of themselves in difficult relationships with their mothers and express their authentic selves. She is the author of three books: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration; The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic.Listen in as Karen tells us her compelling story on healing and developing herself led to the successful woman she is today. Karen supports creative women all over the world who are hesitate to share their work with the world because of shame. Here's What You Will Learn: How Karen began her coaching journey What contributed to her breakthrough to leave an unhealthy marriage How a personal ad led to a successful 23-year marriageLearning how to create your own options when datingHow having your own life is crucial to growth within a relationship Connect with Karen:Website Instagram TwitterFacebookWork with Sade:Get Sade's Free Training: How to Know When He's the OneBook A Consult Call: Sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment
Karen C. L. Anderson, Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration, speaks to women who wish to use the difficult relationship they have with their mothers as a catalyst for personal growth and healing.
Mentioned in this episode: When A Good Daughter Hates Caring For Her Aging Mother ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped thousands of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to answer a few questions and she will be in touch! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped thousands of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to answer a few questions and she will be in touch! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018), The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020), Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June, 2020) and Dear Adult Daughter, With The Emphasis on “Adult” (July 2020). She lives in Southeastern Connecticut.You can find Karen and learn more about her coaching program, The Mother Lode here: www.kclanderson.comInstagramFacebookVisit my website: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletterShow webpage: https://christinebongiovanni.com/healing-the-mother-daughter-relationship-with-karen-c-anderson/
Mentioned in this episode: The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Why Rehashing The Past Doesn't Work Anti-Anxiety practice Move the Energy practice ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped thousands of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to answer a few questions and she will be in touch! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped thousands of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to answer a few questions and she will be in touch! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Victim Consciousness by Lynne Forrest ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped thousands of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to answer a few questions and she will be in touch! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Mentioned in this episode: Why Re-hashing the Past Doesn't Work How We Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn in Difficult Conversations: Adapting A Learning Mindset ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Book your free clarity call by clicking here. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Book your free clarity call by clicking here. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Click to send me a message and I will send you the two worksheets I mention in this episode. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Mentioned in this episode: Sophie Sabbage's brilliant TEDx talk: How Grief Can Help Us Win ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
This episode in response to questions asked about this episode: When you're accused of the thing you're most afraid of being accused of. Mentioned: The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris ~~~ My name is Karen C.L. Anderson and I am an adult daughter, with the emphasis on adult. I am also the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns. In this podcast I answer questions from readers, tell stories, give advice, and share the tools and processes I've used to heal my relationship with my mother. What started out as one of the most painful aspects of my life, something I saw as permanent and forever limiting, has turned into the greatest catalyst for my growth, wisdom, creativity, and joy. I did that. I do it every day. And so can you. ~~~ On the surface, you think it's about your mother. Underneath, where it counts, it's about you and your self-respect, self-trust, self-agency, and self-expression. Your grown-ass-womanhood. Your power, your choice, your creativity. When you own that (and owning it is a life-long process . . . not a one-and-done-flip-of-a-switch), you will realize that no matter what the status of relationship with her, your relationship with yourself will change in ways you can't even imagine. Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
My name is Karen C.L. Anderson and I am an adult daughter, with the emphasis on adult. I am also the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns. In this podcast I answer questions from readers, tell stories, give advice, and share the tools and processes I've used to heal my relationship with my mother. What started out as one of the most painful aspects of my life, something I saw as permanent and forever limiting, has turned into the greatest catalyst for my growth, wisdom, creativity, and joy. I did that. I do it every day. And so can you. ~~~ On the surface, you think it's about your mother. Underneath, where it counts, it's about you and your self-respect, self-trust, self-agency, and self-expression. Your grown-ass-womanhood. Your power, your choice, your creativity. When you own that (and owning it is a life-long process . . . not a one-and-done-flip-of-a-switch), you will realize that no matter what the status of relationship with her, your relationship with yourself will change in ways you can't even imagine. Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Mentioned in this podcast: 11 Signs Your Mom Might Have Jealous Issues. Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration. Also check out Karen's Eight-Week Boundaries Intensive: Boundaries For Life. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
In this episode we explore the difference between healthy boundaries, requests, and demands/expectations. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: :: After (The Before & After) (2011) :: The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) :: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) :: The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) :: Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) :: Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (July 2020) Karen is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
"The beauty of anti-racism is that you don't have to pretend to be free of racism to be an anti-racist. Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it's the only way forward." ~ Ijeoma Oluo Free five-part course from Resmaa Menakem: Racialized Trauma For a deeper dive: My Grandmother's Hands A Letter To My White Male Friends Of A Certain Age Other resources can be found at the end of this blog post: Stamina And Humility ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: :: After (The Before & After) (2011) :: The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) :: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) :: The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) :: Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) :: Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (July 2020) Karen is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Learn more about and sign up for The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity here. Learn more about and sign up for the Overcoming Creative Anxiety book club here. ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Read my essay in O Magazine about the lessons I learned from my stepchildren's mother as she was dying ~~~ I am hosting a special community project in the month of June. The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity is a free month-long event in which 20 women will share their stories about what they've learned (or didn't learn) from their mothers about emotion, power, and creativity, and how they use what they learned in support of their work in the world. Learn more and join us by subscribing here. ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen Anderson is leading the conversation about healing the generational wounds between mothers and daughters and using this challenging relationship as an opportunity and a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. Karen challenges the current patriarchal definitions of these energies and notes that for millennia, women have been burnt at the stake (literally and metaphorically) when we wield our emotions, power, and creativity intentionally. She acknowledges the many women in our maternal lineages that have suffered mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically as a result of the unexpressed emotion, the unused power, and the untapped creativity within them. Karen hopes to disrupt these generational patterns through a project she calls The Motherlode. In it, she will be highlighting twenty creative women who have learned from their difficult relationship to their mothers, specifically around power, emotion, and creativity, and how to alchemize these energies in service to their leadership, relationships, and work, and why it matters. Listen in as Karen and I unpack the importance of revealing and healing these generational wounds and why they are such a rich source of insight for our leadership with other women. If you would like to participate in The Mother Lode, simply visit Karen’s website. Karen is the author of several books, most notably: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters - A Guide For Separation, Liberation, & Inspiration (https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Mothers-Adult-Daughters-Inspiration-ebook/dp/B0779DB2C4/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&qid=1523640452&sr=8-2&keywords=difficult+mothers+adult+daughters&linkCode=ll1&tag=revelationpro-20&linkId=ba3c143b4af046dd50d0eb7da825b5a7) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal - A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Mother-Daughter-Relationship-Journal-Generational-ebook/dp/B07TS81PW5/ref=as_li_ss_tl?dchild=1&keywords=The+Difficult+Mother-Daughter+Relationship+Journal:+A+Guide+For+Revealing+&+Healing+Toxic+Generational&qid=1589904590&sr=8-1&linkCode=ll1&tag=revelationpro-20&linkId=ff9d250d5f44a5b5f7e8bd262306c1b7) “From the time you were born, and even when you were in the womb, your relationship with your mother served as a blueprint for your relationship with yourself. Your mother's beliefs were the basis for your own. You learned to treat yourself the way your mother treated herself, and the way she treated you. This is generally an unconscious process.” ~ Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration Show notes: * The term “motherlode“ refers to the source of gold from which small nuggets originated, a principal source or supply. * Sometimes women are left out of the conversation about the divine feminine if they don't identify with terms like ”goddess." * Our relationships with our mothers can serve as a blueprint for our relationships with ourselves. * Many of us have been our mothers’ “student” for decades and may have been handed beliefs and values about our bodies, identity sexuality, gender, etc. * A deeper examination of what our mothers taught us about emotion, power, and creativity can be a valuable source of insight and revelation as it relates to our own personal leadership. * If women are to have more say in the world, more of us need to understand and teach, directly and explicitly, and by consciously modeling the true nature of emotion, power, and creativity, not the current patriarchal definitions. * Many of us have been taught that emotion is weak vs. a powerful source of energy to summon.
I am hosting a special community project in the month of June. The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity is a free month-long event in which 20 women will share their stories about what they've learned (or didn't learn) from their mothers about emotion, power, and creativity, and how they use what they learned in support of their work in the world. Learn more and join us by subscribing here. ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Karen C.L. Anderson helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity.In our conversation she shares her current exploration on the connection between Power, Emotion and Creativity - including this gem:‘Creativity is the ability to summon emotions to be able to do what we want to do.'We dive into how she has been able to work with her own difficult relationship with her mother to grow and explore what it means to be a woman and, 'the pain of being a woman in a culture that does not value women equally.'Karen's work is deep and wise and never flinches from the unvarnished, sometimes difficult and always insightful truth of being a woman. I've learned so much from her over the years and I'm thrilled to be able to share this conversation with you.She is the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018), The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020), Dear Adult Daughter, With The Emphasis on “Adult”, (May 2020), and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020).Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have.“I offer a process that shows women how to summon feelings in their bodies on purpose so they can wield them intentionally in service to what they say they want. This is the essence of creativity.“ Links to Karen and her work WebsiteFacebookTwitterInstagram
What stops you from being willing to love yourself unconditionally? What are the conditions (if any) under which you allow yourself to love yourself? What would it take to love yourself unconditionally, not "in spite of" or "no matter what" or "even though" but simply because of who you are and because you deserve your own unconditional love? Make yourself an "I love myself BECAUSE..." list but instead of listing positive things….the things you think make you worthy of love, include all the things you would normally say "I am ashamed of myself because..." or "I feel guilty because..." or "I am bad because…"). ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
On this throw back episode of The OH Hell No Podcast K. Nicole talks to author Karen C.L. Anderson about her book Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation Liberation and Inspiration. Karen shares her story about how her difficult relationship with her mother led to a co-dependent and unhealthy relationship with her mom. Karen talks about how during a life coaching course she discovered the help she needed to heal herself and set healthy boundaries. As an entrepreneur, Karen shares how she figured out what she loves and doesn't love to do, and that sometimes what you actually like doing and are good at will be different from what you imagined and that's ok. Karen explains what a Patreon account is and how she is using hers to help people. If you have had a difficult relationship with your mom, parents, or anyone at all, this is a great book with some life changing concepts. Check out Karen's website www.kclanderson.com and pick up her book anywhere books are sold. Shop Vasayo line of supplements at https://buy.vasayo.com/337151Subscribe to The Oh Hell No Podcast & get the information you need to live your best life!https://campsite.bio/theohhellnopodcast
Debunking Myths About Estrangement ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
We choose to acknowledge that, at one time, we were victims. We suffered. We choose not to blame ourselves and we remind ourselves that our mothers were the responsible adults at the time. Chances are our mothers were not able to take responsibility then, for a variety of reasons, and nor will they want to do so now, but that doesn't mean we can't stop blaming ourselves. We choose now to be responsible for our own healing (which will make it easier to be accountable for our own actions). This is compassionate accountability. It is a felt experience not just an intellectual exercise. And it doesn't require forgiveness. ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
The movie I mentioned: The Hollars ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
11 Signs Your Mother Might Have Jealousy Issues (P.S. I disagree with this: "The best thing you can do is support her, point out her accomplishments") ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
I shed my guilt (of cutting family ties) when I accepted my decision on its own terms, without endlessly prosecuting old grievances, without weighing his sins against mine. Without thinking of my father I learned to accept my decision for its own sake, because of me not because of him, because I needed it not because he deserved it. It was the only way I could love him. ~ Tara Westover in her memoir, Educated ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
My name is Karen C.L. Anderson and I am an adult daughter, with the emphasis on adult. I am also the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns. In this podcast I answer questions from readers, tell stories, give advice, and share the tools and processes I've used to heal my relationship with my mother. What started out as one of the most painful aspects of my life, something I saw as permanent and forever limiting, has turned into the greatest catalyst for my growth, wisdom, creativity, and joy. I did that. I do it every day. And so can you. ~~~ On the surface, you think it's about your mother. Underneath, where it counts, it's about you and your self-respect, self-trust, self-agency, and self-expression. Your grown-ass-womanhood. Your power, your choice, your creativity. When you own that (and owning it is a life-long process . . . not a one-and-done-flip-of-a-switch), you will realize that no matter what the status of relationship with her, your relationship with yourself will change in ways you can't even imagine. Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
“If you have to act in a particular way to avoid being something you don't like, you're trapped.” ~ Debbie Ford, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
“no might make them angry but it will make you free. - if no one has ever told you, your freedom is more important than their anger.” ~ Nayyirah Waheed, Salt ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Victim Consciousness, by Lynne Forrest ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
...and why I bother ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter's Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kclanderson/message
Got a mother? Or a daughter? Then you will not want to miss this episode in which Abs and Mags chat with Karen C. L. Anderson, author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and the forthcoming The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020). Listen in as we discuss why the mother-daughter relationship can be so challenging as well as how to manage the anxiety that often accompanies challenging relationships. We also talk about the path to healing and a new definition of forgiveness.
On this special Mother's Day episode of The OH Hell No Podcast Nicole talks to author Karen C.L. Anderson about her book Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughter: A Guide For Separation Liberation & Inspiration. Karen shares her story about how her difficult relationship with her mother led to a co-dependent and unhealthy relationship with her mom. Karen talks about how during a life coaching course she discovered the help she needed to heal herself and set healthy boundaries. As an entrepreneur, Karen shares how she figured out what she loves and doesn't love to do, and that sometimes what you actually like doing and are good at will be different from what you imagined and that's ok. Karen explains what a Patreon account is and how she is using hers to help people. If you have had a difficult relationship with your mom, parents, or anyone at all, this is a great book with some life changing concepts. Check out Karen's website www.kclanderson.com and pick up her book anywhere books are sold. Follow @theohhellnopodcast and check out my website www.ohhellnopodcast.com and don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave a rating.