The Merry Menopause Bookclub

In this episode, I meet Annie Auerbach for the second time since the first publication of Flex in 2019. To mark this year's publication of Flex in paperback Annie has added an extra chapter, Flex in Flux to deal with the assumption that working from home during a pandemic is Flex. It is not. Flex at its best is an ideology for a more inclusive future and better quality of life for everyone. Please join us we discuss, The aspiration of Flex and what it really means as a template for a better life.How the gender roles have played out during lockdown and the effect of Covid on women's progress it the workplace.Our mutual passion for Menstrual Cycle Syncing and how it opens up a new relationship for women and their bodies, the role it plays in Flex and how it could lead to a new era of workplace management and working.Girls and their periods. The Period Fairy, Period Parties and girls and the long term benefits of young girls and their participation in sport, not being thwarted by their periods. Why self-care is so much more than a bath bomb and a glass of wine.Uncoupling productivity from success.Finding ourselves in a ‘plastic moment' - a portal between the old world and the new world and how reinventing our attitude to Flex will lead to a happier life.Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode, I chat to Tracey Cox, author, psychologist and TV personality about sex and how to adapt to the changes as we age. Fifty-plus looks nothing like it used to. Many of us I hit half a century with little sign of slowing down, but like it or not, something happens to us sexually post 50. Please join us as we discuss:-Tracey's realisation and surprise that her full and active sex life was suddenly being affected by her menopause - she didn't think it would happen to her. Busting the myth that women have a lower libido than men, wrong, they just get bored with sex. The majority of women say ‘no' to sex because they are bored with having the same sex! Spontaneous arousal is down to our hormones, as they deplete we lose that spontaneity so we need to take responsibility for our own arousal and do the job our hormones used to do.Penetration and erection problems. Why an older vagina works well with an older penis.How women deal with their sexual issues as they age but how men struggle so much when they start to lose their erections.Communication, communication, communication.Being 50 and single and the untold benefits of meeting someone later in life. Recognising when a relationship is just not working and when to walk away.The best is yet to come.Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode I chat with Dr Annice Mukherjee top hormone consultant with over 30 years of experience helping women achieve hormone balance and renewed vitality before, during and after the menopause. Join as we discuss Dr Annices own personal journey following her breast cancer diagnosis at 41 and an induced chemical menopause.Why menopause is different in today's worldDr Annice's groundbreaking Toolkit and ‘The House of Menopause”The importance of educating younger women on the menopause so they can take control and put the lifestyle changes in place to minimise menopause symptoms. Why self care is not selfish, it's essentialSleep rituals and everyday mindfulness What is Perimenopause? Menopause? Postmenopause?The link between stress management, metabolism and weight management Beware the hidden sugars in foodAnd we almost forgot HRT!Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode I talk to one of the pioneers of natural menopause management Maryon Stewart. A font of knowledge and true expert in the field of hormones, PMS and Menopause. Her latest book is six week self coaching programming and I guarantee you after listening to this episode you will be informed, inspired and ready to take control of you wellbeing. Join us this episode we discussthe first science based recognition of natural menopause solutions and the start of Maryon's career Menopause in the workplace, how it is still such a problem but for many organisations and their employees  still without a solutionMaryon's collaboration with Virgin Health and Loughborough University to bring out an economic model to show much Menopause is costing businesses when they lose their female talent because they are not supporting them. Maryon's six week Mid Life Re-Fuel that is helping so many women to turn their lives aroundHow we can trick our brain into thinking we still have naturally occurring, circulating oestrogen and thus getting rid of many of the common symptoms of menopause The effect of being deficient in minerals that so many women are unaware ofHow easy it is to fill up our empty oestrogen receptors with naturally occurring oestrogen and can prevent fibroids, cysts, endometriosis and many Menopause symptoms.Supplementation, the do's and don'ts Menopause symptoms and mental healthHow important it is to nurture ourselves at this midlife crossroads, make the small adjustments to our lifestyle choices and kick start ourselves for a healthily and happy life during and beyond Menopause Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode, I talk to Ruth Devlin, Registered Nurse and founder of Let's Talk Menopause, which she set up in response to the conflicting advice she received during her Perimenopause. Ruth has gone on to raise awareness and provide accurate and helpful information on Menopause, through her courses, guest speaking at events and appearances on TV and Radio.Ruth has also written a book, Men…Let's Talk Menopause, and that is why I asked Ruth to be my guest so we can discuss this very important subject and open up the conversation around Men and Menopause. Join us as we discuss:-Why and how Ruth came to writing this essential guide Starting the conversation around Menopause at home and workWhy we shouldn't be underestimating the men in our lives and how much they want to know and understand Menopause. The impact of workplace awareness around Menopause and how the benefit of this will spill into personal relationships.The right and the wrong way for a man to approach the subject of hormonal health and how not to trigger a reaction!The male midlife change and how the lifestyle changes we need to make to support our Menopause they need to be making as wellThe importance of men doing their pelvic floor - “nuts to guts'!It's your body, and your quality of life depends on how you look after it. Why are we not educated in a more empowering way so we can learn just how much control we have over our health and wellbeing?HRT and its sensationalisation How to get the most out of an appointment with your GPThe 2010 equality act - how is your organisation supporting women and their Menopause?Ruth's Recommendations:- The Squeeze appBMS Society - The British Menopause Society Managing Hot Flushes and Night Sweats - Myra Hunter and Melanie Smith Living Well Through Menopause - Myra Hunter and Melanie SmithThe Happy Menopause - Jackie LynchFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode,  I am in conversation with Dr Philippa Kaye, GP and author. Philippa has a weekly column in Woman magazine and you may recognise her from her regular appearances on ITV's, This Morning. The M Word is a complete one-stop guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause, covering everything from understanding symptoms and managing relationships to figuring out which treatments really work.We have dedicated this episode to the complex and controversial subject of HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy).  Please join us as we discuss:-- Why Philippa felt compelled to write The M Word- Myth-busting the flawed study from 20 years ago that linked HRT to breast cancer- The risks and the benefits of HRT explained - When to start HRT and when to stop- Vaginal Oestrogen- Why HRT might not work be working for you- Side effects of HRT- Libido - it's not just hormones that could be affecting your sex drive- Looking at Menopause as a ‘long term oestrogen deficiency'- Why HRT is not one size fits all- How to get the most from your GP and your surgery- Complimentary therapies- Sequential and Continuous Combined HRT- Post Menopausal bleeding- Smears - the importance and how to make them a better experience- Don't think you are a candidate for HRT?  The importance of discussing your eligibility and your options with your GP- How do I know that I'm ready for HRT?- The first signs of Perimenopause- Premature MenopauseListen to the end for an empowering Menopause anecdote.Dr Philippa's personal book choicesEverything That Makes Us Human by Jay JayamohanThe Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie MackesFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode, I am joined by Jackie Lynch author of "The Happy Menopause" and host of The Happy Menopause Podcast. Jackie discovered the power of nutrition 15 years ago when she followed personalised nutritional advice and experienced first-hand the dramatic changes in her energy well being and performance. This led her to give up her senior corporate role and study at the Institute for Optimum Nutrition. As a Registered Nutritional Therapist, she founded the WellWellWell clinic providing expert advice and specialising in women's health and nutrition."The Happy Menopause" is a stress-busting, hormone balancing approach to Menopause. Join Jackie and me as we discuss:-- Why stress is the enemy of the Menopause- Why adrenal health is so vital- Nutrition 101 - How and why we need to keep our blood sugar balanced- insulin- Managing our  symptoms through diet- How to manage our weight- what we should be eating- refined, hidden sugars- our secret weapon balancing protein and fibre- The impact of alcohol- The way Menopause is experienced in different cultures due to their diet- Menopause friendly family meals-  Don't feel guilty about using frozen foods! Jackie's book choice - "The Age Well Plan by Susan Saunders"Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode, I have the pleasure of talking to Kim McCabe, author of ‘From Daughter to Woman' a guide to parenting girls safely through their teens.Kim is a child development expert and founder-director of the non-profit organisation Rites for Girls.She studied psychology at Cambridge University, before training as a counsellor for distressed teens and has spent thirty years working preventatively to make girls' journey through adolescence safer, kinder and better supported. A mother of three, Kim believes we can each make a difference; by creating community and circles of support, with adults taking responsibility for guiding tomorrow's women, a grounded revolution changing the world for everyone.Join Kim and me as we discuss:-The importance of the puberty rite of passage if we went to have happy, healthy young adults join our adult communities and the impact of not recognising this importance of this critical stage of life.Why we should be asking our young girls what they think about becoming women and listening to their answers.Why so many young girls don't name their mothers as future role models and what we can do about that.Children don't do what we say, they do what we do. Menarche, Pregnancy, Menopause - the three stages in a woman's life where she is called into action.Introducing the gift of the menstrual cycle to our girls to educate them and so alleviate any nervousness they may have around starting their periods.Our culture doesn't honour the cycle, but if we can menstruate well and have healthy and happy cycles we will enter into Menopause in a healthier wayMenopause and raising children.Consent. Why we need to teach our children to trust their feelings and their instinct rather than their thoughts and how this can help to keep them safe.The increase in anxiety amongst young girls and how that shows up in their behaviour.Why as adults we should not be ignoring feelings of unhappiness and what happens when we do.Our cycle Post Menopause.As a mother how you can co-create a Rite of Passage with your daughter Creating a ‘village' - the importance of adults in a young person's lifeKim's book choice - The Happy Manifesto - by Henry StewartFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode, I am joined by Sophie Fletcher clinical hypnotherapist and author of Mindful Menopause.Sophie specialises in women's wellbeing at transitional stages of their lives and her focus is the body and mind connection, exploring thoughts and feelings that may arise at times of vulnerability giving practical, everyday tools that make a difference.We are controlled by the challenging cultural narrative that surrounds Menopause and Perimenopause, join Sophie and me as we discuss how changing our perception and our mindset can have such a huge impact on our wellbeing.In this episode you will learn:-How to change your perception of MenopauseHow to take back control How learned behaviours are based on environmentHow to re-write your story and plan your MenopauseHow to re-frame thoughts and experiences so you can approach your symptoms in a more positive wayHow to manage anxietyWhy Menopause is an opportunity to learn about yourself in a deeper wayThe How… tackling those unconscious blocks that stop you doing what you know you should be doing How to be in control of your choices Why broadening your knowledge and understanding of Menopause is the key to a Merry MenopauseWhy mindset work is much simpler than you may thinkWhy our history and culture has re-written the reverence that comes with being an older womanMenopause can be a lonely time, why it's so important to find and connect with women who are having a similar experienceThe importance of seeking out those that are approaching their Menopause transition in a positive wayWhy you should plan your Menopause like you plan work and personal goalsHow do you want to be when you are in your 60s and 70s? Why we need to lay the foundations nowHair Loss - Sophie talks about her own experience and shares her advice. Sophie's Book ChoiceSum: Forty Tales from the Afterlives by David EaglemanYou can download 10 of Sophie's meditations for FREE here https://www.penguin.co.uk/articles/2021/may/mindfulmenopause.htmlhttps://sophiefletcher.co.ukFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

My guest on the penultimate episode of S2 is Emma Bardwell registered nutritionist and member of the British Menopause Society. Her evidence-based approach, coupled with an ongoing interest in Perimenopause and Menopause has made her one of the go-to names in women's health. Emma is deeply anti-fad and doesn't care for restriction, believing in positive rather than perfect nutrition and together with Dr Shahzadi Harper she has written today's book choice, The Perimenopause Solution.Join us as we discuss:Pro ageing and “Tweakments” - being unapologetic and acknowledging that our appearance does change as our collagen starts to deplete. Why saying ‘no' should be on prescription for Perimenopausal women. Stress - one of the main drivers behind our symptoms and how it can override the positive effects of HRT.The rise of eating disorders in midlife - the importance of knowing what to eat and how to exercise. Auditing our life - removing toxic habits and toxic people.Alcohol - the pros and the cons.Why our metabolism changes - the impact that has on what we eat and drink. The benefits of therapy and coaching - dealing with feelings that may surface and the changes that are happening.The next generation - we are setting the example for them, let's show today's young women how utterly brilliant we are.Understanding the gut/brain connection - how crucial this is in PerimenopauseListening to our bodies - being intuitive and picking up on the signals and clues we are being sent. Make change if it is calling but don't act on impulse! - the importance of talking things through with friends or seeking out a supportive community online. Emma's book choicesDr Lisa Mosconi - The XX BrainKimberly Wilson - How To Build A Healthy BrainFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

My last guest of Season 2 is the wonderful Sarah Chadwick author of The Sweetness of Venus -  A History of the Clitoris.Challenging today's definition of female sexuality, The Sweetness of Venus is a provocative, straight-talking and rigorously researched history exposing the denial, misunderstanding and brutality endured by this taboo body part.Sarah has a teaching background is currently a guest researcher at Chicago's LOYOLA University, splitting her life between the US and UK. She has been described as “an articulate and compassionate spokeswoman for a new generation of women”In her own words Sarah “Wanted her book to be pleasurable like good sex. For it to be friendly, funny, compassionate, inclusive of men and a bridge between academic research and knowledge. A book that people would pick up and have pleasure reading.” - I think she achieved it all. Join us as we discuss:- The historic shame around women's sexual pleasure The complicated and conflicting history of the clitorisThe Victorians - the fear and threat around women having sexual agency1844 - A breakthrough in Clitoral recognition!The tip of the Clitoral iceberg - do you really know what it looks like and just how big it is?Think you know the meaning of the world ‘frigid', think againFreud and his part in defining that there is a difference between a vaginal and Clitoral orgasm.Historically Dr's putting forward the idea that proper sexual function was through penetrative sex only and any other way was a treatable physiological disorderWhy we need to broaden the definition of what quantifies as sex to become more inclusive and healthier for everybodyToday's teenagers having more oral and anal sex than ever before in the name of ‘not having sex' The difference in sex education in the UK and the US and why we are still not teaching it right. The narrative that women are wired for reproduction and men are wired for sexShere Hite's groundbreaking survey in the 70s about women's sexual pleasure and desire. Sarah's own frustrating experience with three gynaecologists trying to get her orgasm back post menopauseThe effect that the dominant narrative that women's sexual function is purely for reproduction has on Menopausal women stepping into their sexual power How the taboo around reproduction vs pleasure has been so incredibly damaging to women in their 50s and beyondViagra - *eye roll * men haven't had to fight for their continued sexual function. Bicycle design, train travel, sewing machines and their connection to the female orgasm and masturbation!Sarah's book choicesInvisible Women - Caroline Crado PerezThe World's Wife - Carol Ann Duffy You can find more of Sarah on Instagram @its.PersonalgirlsFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

To kick off season three of The Merry Menopause Bookclub podcast I am delighted to be joined by Kimberley Wilson Chartered Psychologist and author of How to Build a Healthy Brain.  Kimberley believes the way we think about mental health – as separate from physical health – is flawed. Her philosophy of Whole Body Mental Health is a comprehensive approach to mental health care; integrating evidence-based nutrition and lifestyle factors with psychological therapy. Kimberley co-hosts the podcast Made of Stronger Stuff on BBC Radio 4 and her own podcast Stronger Minds and is often recognised as a former finalist on the Great British Bake Off! She has been the mental health expert on several Channel 4 documentaries and is a regular contributor to Lorraine on ITV.In this fascinating episode Kimberley reveals the shocking fact that depression is the leading cause of disability across the world and dementia and Alzheimer's are the leading cause of death in the UK, overtaking heart disease and diabetes. With this in mind, we need to start looking at an holistic and preventative approach to mental health, acknowledging the relationship between the brain and the body rather than thinking of the two as separate. We discuss the long term use of anti-depressants and why we should be reassessing the causes of depression. What is making people feel bad for so long? And the importance of diet, exercise, community, optimism and resilience on our short and long term brain health.This episode is a must-listen if you want to understand how important it is we look at our daily lives and how they impact our mental health. We forgot that our brain is an organ and we need to take care of it as much as we take care of our heart Kimberley's book choice Lisa Feldmen Barrett , Seven and a Half Lessons About the BrainFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

I think it is so important that those of us going through Perimenopause draw on the insights and experiences of women Post Menopause.  Hence, I was delighted to have as my guest Charlotte Bauer Journalist and Author of the funny and thought-provoking "How to Get Over Being Young."In this insightful and deeply personal episode, Charlotte shares with me her experience of Menopause and the seismic changes it bought. We discuss the importance, of giving our 'younger' selves a proper send-off, acknowledging that change is happening and welcoming in the next phase of our lives. How do we get rid of the old standard of Menopause? The stereotype of the middle-aged women hot flushing and forgetful. How do we educate the world to see Menopause as so much more in-depth, the urgent need for it to be taken seriously and with respect.  It is "complex and life-changing."We also manage to fit in the important relationships that have shaped Charlotte's life, her incredible role models when it comes to ageing - her mother and aunt. And the complicated but unconditional bond she has with her sisters. And let's not forget the benefits of designer trainers and why we all need a 'F**k It' List because we are way too young for a Bucket List. Charlotte's Book ChoiceRachel Kuchner The Mars Room  and The Hard CrowdFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

For this episode, I am joined by Dr Sara Gottfried Harvard-educated Physician-Scientist and New York Times bestselling author. In Her latest book Women, Food and Hormones, Dr Sara explains the science behind the relationship between weight loss and hormones and in doing so provides a revolutionary new plan that helps women balance their hormones so they can lose excess weight and feel better.Join us as we discuss:- The gender bias and the importance of recognising that dietary plans researched and tested on men work differently on women because of their hormones.The Importance of self-education. We need to step into our power and own and understand our hormonal changes, so we can get a sense of what is going on and what our hormones are telling us. Why addressing the 'root cause' rather than the 'symptoms' results in much more effective treatment.Millions of us are being offered anti-depressants when we are not depressed. Why are women are not getting their reality taken seriously or their symptoms validated?Cultural shifts. Saying ‘no' to the prescriptions for antidepressants, anti-anxiety medication, sedatives. Not accepting being dismissed, but asking for an alternative when we know that medication is not the right route to take or in line with how we are feeling. Why many women fail on the traditional Keto diet and the benefits of The Gottfried Protocol. It's not about diet culture, women being thinner, more obedient with their food or berating themselves, it's about metabolic health, which allows us to live disease-free as long as possible. The emerging and fascinating data and research into Psychedelics and how they can be used to treat trauma, a major root cause of hormonal imbalance. Dr Sara's book choiceHow to Change Your Mind by Michael PaulinFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

My guest from S2 Jackie Lynch author of The Happy Menopause  chose The Age Well Plan as her book choice, and so we have her to thank for this episode where I meet and talk to Susan Saunders Health Coach, Writer, TV producer and author and author of, The Age Well Plan. Susan has spent the last decade researching how to live a longer, healthier life and she's passionate about giving people clarity on what to do to age well and how that fits into a busy life and to stay motivated. The Age Well Plan draws on her extensive research into longevity and shows you simply and clearly how to make the changes, big and small, that support healthy ageing. Join us as Susan shares her story of being an only child, working full time, raising her own family and at the same time, caring for her mother with dementia. The diagnosis of which led Susan to research and learn how she could reduce her risk of developing a chronic disease of ageing. We discuss:Lifestyle choices, Cellular ageing, Genetic testing The hidden plastics and pollutants in our homes that can have a serious impact on our long-term health.And a topic close to my heart at the moment, foot pain and the importance of looking after our feet, the foundation of our mobility as we age. Susan's book choice - Lifespan by David SinclairFind out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In the penultimate episode of Series 3 I am joined by Josie Lloyd author of 15 bestselling novels (as both Josie Lloyd and Joanna Rees), including the number one hit Come Together, which she co-authored with her husband Emlyn Rees, and the bestselling parody We're Going On A Bar Hunt. But this episode is dedicated to her latest book The Cancer Ladies Running Club. A fictional tale, based on Josie's own experience of surviving Breast Cancer. 1 in 7 women are going to get Breast Cancer and 1 in 2 of us will develop Cancer in our lifetimes, and in Josie's own words ‘Cancer needs debunking and we need to talk about it more"In this episode, Josie talks openly about Receiving her diagnosis and coming face to face with her mortality.How journalling helped her to feel physically better. The cathartic process of getting all the unpleasant thoughts out of her head and onto paper. Why keeping fit is so important during cancer treatment and how she came to meet the real-life Cancer Ladies Running Club.The two types of breast cancer. Ductal, the most common and easiest to detect, and Lobular which doesn't show up on mammograms and counts for 15% of all breast cancer cases. How it took her cancer diagnosis to recognise the importance of self-care. Josie's mental commitment to being well. Letting go of fear takes constant work. Finding her tribe. The Cancer Ladies Running Club is also a book about female friendships and women supporting women. Being thrown into early Menopause. Unable to take HRT she grew to accept and make peace with her symptoms and how she managed her hot flushes with the Menopoised magnate and sea swimming - which became her salvation.Josie's Book ChoiceCaitlin Moran - More Than A Woman - I totally agree with Josie, this is a great read!Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

For the final episode of Season 4, I am joined by Dr Ginni Mansberg, a sought-after speaker and regular host and medical expert on Australian TV. A forerunner of the Menopause conversation in Australia, she is the author of today's book choice, The M Word: How to Thrive in the Menopause which offers sound advice for women going through Menopause, as well as a way to excel in this new stage of life. Ginni has been a GP for over 30 years and she is passionate about the importance of giving women what they need to help take agency of their Menopause, especially when it comes to vagina's, bladders and their sex lives. Join us for a straight-talking conversation about the importance of recognising and seeking help for any symptoms related to Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM) which affects the function of the bladder, vagina, rectum and uterus and the knock-on effects to sexual pleasure and desire. The importance of not delaying treatment If you notice any changes to your vagina and vulva that are you causing you pain, discomfort or distress, it will only get worse, not better. Urinary Tract Infections (UTI's) and Menopause - If you have just 3 UTI'S in a calendar year, that is classed as re-current and you need to look at preventative treatment. Sex and incontinence - Do you wee when you have an orgasm or at the point of penetration? You are very much not alone, do not let it become a block to having a healthy sex life, it can be easily treated. Constipation - do not ignore it.The need to insist on a Dr who will listen to you and examine you so you can get your health needs met. There is no magic supplement or medication. We know that Lifestyle advice is the best advice, we know it works, why don't we advocate it more?Hypo Sexual Desire Disorder - do you fulfil the criteria? Inability to orgasm? Lost interest in masturbation and sex? Hormonal Testosterone treatment could be the key. Australia may be behind us in the UK with the Menopause conversation and Menopause awareness, but they are way ahead with their compounded Testosterone therapy. Currently the only country in the world that has a compounded and licensed testosterone formulation specifically for women. The complexity of women's sexuality. Testosterone therapy isn't a panacea, it won't fix a broken relationship or make a poor relationship better. BUT for many women, it can be life-changing for their relationships and self-esteem.Why it's important that FIRST we fix any symptoms of Vaginal GSM and then we work on fixing our libido. Ginni's book choiceFreedom at Midnight by Larry Collins Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

I kick off Season 4 with journalist, editor, co-host of "Postcards from Midlife" podcast and mum of four Lorraine Candy. Formerly the editor in chief of the Sunday Times Style magazine, Elle and Cosmopolitan, Lorraine has been writing about parenting in national newspapers and magazines for more than a decade. In this episode, we talk about her family memoir “Mum What's wrong with you” 101 things only mothers of girls know. In the pages of her book  Lorraine is lighting the way for other mums facing life with teenage girls, just as they going through their own midlife unravelling.Join as we talk about:-The many parallels between the Teenage years and the Menopause and the negative narrative that surrounds both. The Perfect storm of parenting teens in your mid-40s.The reasons why Teenagers behave as they do, and the reasons we behave as we do.The importance of role modelling so our Teenagers can see us caring for ourselves and also dealing and coping with a range of emotions. How our issues and childhood experiences can affect our parentingThe pressure of parenting perfectionismHow to recognise and recover from those dreadful moments in parenting life and the importance of being able to say sorry and move forward. The immense brain changes that occur during the Teenage years.The loneliness and shame that can come with parenting Teens. You are not the only person getting it wrong. How to deal with messy bedrooms!The rise of adolescent mental healthReforming our identity in MidlifeThe importance of eye contact and putting down our phones.Why you mustn't be your child's best friend. Teenagers and phones - the power of The Digital SunsetMental health policies, sex education and female financial power in our schools How and why we experiencing “Living loss”“Meanagers” and “Moron Mum” Lorraine's book Choice Terra Incognita, Travels in Antarctica by Sara Wheeler also mentioned in the epsisode The Orchid and the Dandelion by W. Thomas BoyceShout85258 - free, confidential, 24/7 text-messaging support service for anyone who is struggling to cope. Find out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

My guest for this episode is Cara Wheatley-McGrain Hay House author, Mindset coach, and Educational Consultant. Cara founded The Mindful Gut project on a mission to inspire 1 million people to become the custodians of their gut microbiome and she joins me to talk about her book “Calm your gut, a mindful and compassionate guide to healing IBD and IBS.In this episode:Cara shares her story of living with Ulcerated Colitis, from her teenage years to almost losing her colon in her early 20s. How the shock of being so seriously ill led her to be curious about her colon and discover the changes she needed to make to prevent it from being cut out. Getting to know her gut, the science and the spirituality. Intuitive and mindful eatingHow our diet impacts our gut healthHow our gut bacteria are critical to our health and wellbeingThe many problems of a long-term Western diet The global impact of the Western diet1 in 5 women will have an issue with IBSThe symptoms of IBS and IBDThe increasing spread of IBS in TeensThe powerful political statements we make every time we go shoppingThe dark side of the food industry How we used to cook and eat vs how we cook and eat todayUnderstanding the importance of how we choose to prepare and cook food on our health and wellbeing The benefits of a kitchen disco.Honouring and becoming the caretakers and custodians of our inner and outer world. Cara's book choice Woman and Nature by Susan GriffinFind out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

In this episode, I am joined by Period preacher and author of “My Greatest Period Ever” Lucy Peach.Lucy has performed at TEDX and toured around the globe with multiple sell-out seasons of her hilarious and heartfelt show ‘My Greatest Period Ever.' In her own words, Lucy is changing the world “One Period at a time.”Join us as we discuss Why it's never too late to learn about your cycleDream, Do, Give and Take - the 4 phases of our cycle. Why other women are your alliesHow to support each other by playing to the strengths in our cycleStop banging on about the blood! Let's get into the real gifts of our cycleEducating young women and boys are in tune with Educating Men about menopause My experience of Perimenopause The Key to a Merry MenopauseHow my work is evolving as my Menopause is evolvingHow managing your cycle will help you understand your stress and stop you from burning out. Cyclical reading!Lucys' book  choice - Midnight's Children by Salman Rushdie Find out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

My guest today is Petra Coveney founder and creator of Menopause Yoga, the world's first Menopause specific yoga practice and fully accredited teacher training course. Petra is a member of the British Menopause Society and a senior teacher and trainer for the British Wheel of Yoga and Yoga Alliance Professionals. Petra joins me to talk about her book Menopause Yoga which supports her training course and is also designed to raise awareness and share knowledge of Yoga and how it can support women on their Menopause journey. In this episode we discuss:Yoga and PerimenopauseYoga and HRT - how East meets West in the treatment and management of Menopause symptoms. Why we need to take a holistic approach to MenopauseSeeing Menopause as a real opportunity to improve our health and wellbeing and to let go of habits and behaviours that don't serve us. Petra's Perimenopause journey, what she learnt and how she feels now Post MenopauseWhy Perimenopause can feel like a loss and time of grief. The research that shows that the highest rates of depression, suicide and divorce amongst women in the UK is between the ages of 45-55Questioning who we are and our role in lifeHow Yoga and be such a powerful part of a holistic approach to MenopauseAdapting our lifestyle to meet our mental and physical needs. The benefits of mediation and mindfulness - building the relationship with self and the wisdom deep inside that will you guide you through your menopause and tell you what you need. Every woman is completely different and needs different supportChanging and adapting our yoga practice as we ageYoga and Auyreveda - the doshasHow to use your Yoga practice to manage any symptoms. When Menopause was pathologised and made into a sickness.Tiredness and Menopause - our body is transforming on a cellular level as our oestrogen levels deplete, this takes up a lot of energy which is why we feel a deep need to rest.The benefits of lifting weights. Our Second Spring and the strong connection we have as women to mother nature.Petra's BookchoiceKate Codrington - Second SpringFind out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

My guest for this episode is Kate Muir, author of “Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause (but were too afraid to ask)”Kate is a writer, campaigner and documentary maker. She is the co-creator and producer of the revolutionary channel 4 documentary Sex, Myths and the Menopause and an activist for The Menopause Charity. Join us in conversation as we discuss:-The Revolution!! Why Menopause is a feminist issue.Why many of us are forced to look at our lives in a cold, new light at this time and suddenly realise, what about me?Kate's relatable honesty about her Perimenopause crash and how she couldn't 'hold it up anymore.'How being hormonally barren gave Kate clarity and led her to make some tough changes. Menopause, HRT and Alzheimer's - Kate's story and her mum Ella's story. Mental health can be attributed to hormonal healthKate asks with Menopause being a long term hormonal deficiency, “why wouldn't you take HRT?” Is the natural route not to replace your natural hormones?The protective benefits of Oestrogen for brain health and bone healthTwo-thirds of Alzheimer's patients are women getting diagnosed around the age of 70, with the Alzheimers decay starting 20 years previously. Why we should pay more attention to ‘brain fog' especially those daughters of Alzheimer'sThe Hormonal Glass CeilingWho's' on HRT and not talking about it?Is Menopause a new feminist party?The economic privilege of Menopause. Kate gives us an insight into her next C4 programme with Davina McCall out in May 2022.The HRT window of opportunityTaking HRT at 70How lucky we are compared to our American sisters when it comes to Menopause awareness and the availability of HRT.Kate's book choice - Shuggie Bain by Douglas StuartYou can follow Kate on IG and Twitter  @menoscandalFind out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com

Since she was little, Awen Clement has been fascinated by the magic of the moon and this led her to write and publish her book, Moon Wise.Awen is a healer and intuitive who works deeply with the land, the moon and the elements. She teaches on spiritual connection, healing and sacred leadership, and is the founder of The Earth House, a fledgling community for folk who walk an Earth-centred spiritual path. When she isn't working or teaching Awen is raising four awesome young humans and can often be found drinking tea in her sacred shed at the bottom of her garden in Birmingham. Join us as we discuss:-How we become Moon Wise and what living a Moon Wise life meansOur Natal moon phase and how this affects usWhat it means if you are born near a New Moon or Full Moon?That we are cyclical beings connected to nature and the impact on our wellbeing of not tuning into the seasonsOvulating on the Full Moon and bleeding on the New Moon - is this a thing?The traditional Pagan model of the three stages of a women's life and the modern addition of a fourth stage to honour our modern Menopausal phase. What happens to the energy we use to bleed when we stop our cycle and enter into Post Menopause?What if we don't fit into the typical archetype of child-bearer because we choose not to or can't have children?Menopause as a positive deep inner transformation, we are not broken. How can we use the moon Post Menopause to bring out the cyclical nature in us. Why we can have such different feelings from each other around a Full Moon. Awen's book choice - Burning Women by Lucy H PearceFind out more about Awen and get your copy of Moon Wise at https://awenclement.com@awen_healer

My guest for this episode is Dr Jenna Macciochi an expert immunologist who has spent over 20 years as a scientist researching the impact that lifestyle has on the immune system in health and disease. Her latest book “Your Blueprint for Strong Immunity”, is a guide to cultivating strong immune health from a voice of reason in a rising tide of pseudoscience and promises of quick fixes. The book encourages us to audit our lifestyle and identify key areas that might not be serving our health well, and as Dr Jenna said when we spoke, ‘I wrote the book that I needed to read.” Join us as we discuss:-The myth behind the term “Immune Boosting.”Why we need to ‘balance' rather than ‘boost' our immune system.How well were you before you got sick? How you go into an illness reflects how you will cope with it. The cyclical nature of our immune systems.Why our ‘immune age' doesn't necessarily match our chronological ageImmunity, the sex hormones and our Menstrual cycle. How our blood sugar response is so individualThe power of protein and fibre, the unsung hero of longterm healthWhy we shouldn't necessarily avoid the foods that make us bloated but work to increase our tolerance of them. Immunity and Menopause the impact of declining oestrogenMan Flu - the science to support it!The long game - how do you want to feel in your 70s and 80sThe importance of good liver function and how we support the processThe myths surrounding benefits of detoxes and sweatingAir pollution in our homes, household toxins and the stress of living in with clutter.The importance of spending time in nature and why we should limit the use of artificial fragrances. Dr Jenna's book choice - Oliver Burkeman Four Thousand Weeks You can find out more about Dr Jenna and her work here 

For the first time on The Merry Menopause Bookclub podcast, I've chosen a fiction book, Bonny and Read is the historical reimagining of two female pirates Anne Bonny and Mary Read. Author Julie Walker first came across this swashbuckling duo as a teenager when she was listening to the Adam Ant song Five Guns West.  She was instantly fascinated by their story and has meticulously researched them ever since. Bonny and Read has been longlisted for both the Mslexia First Novel Prize and the Bath Novel Award. Join Julie and I as we discuss what led her to write the story of Ann Bonny and Mary Read and the circumstances that led these two legendary women to meet, live and adapt to a life on board a pirate ship in the Caribbean in 1700's. How they became immortalised in a ballard, a book and achieved celebrity and mythical status.This is the story of two strong and resourceful women from very different backgrounds and parts of the world, who lived, loved and created history onboard a pirate ship named The Revenge.Bonny and Read is out on the 4th of August and is a perfect summer read.Julie's book choices Life and Loves of a She Devil Fay WeldonLessons in Chemistry by Bonnie GarmusYou can follow Julie on Twitter @NicerMarmot

I knew that Kate Codrington and I were destined to meet. Her name has been mentioned many times by past guests of the podcast so I was delighted when our friends at Harper Collins sent me a copy of her book Second Spring and Kate agreed to be my guest.Kate is a mentor, speaker, artist, writer and therapist, and host of the “Life - an inside job” podcast. And when she's not doing all these things you'll find her playing in her compost heaps at her home in Hertfordshire.Join us in conversation as we discuss:What is our Second Spring? How Perimenopause can be akin to being thrown around in the washing machine, the disorientation, but once the cycle has finished we get to see ourselves and the world with fresh eyes - that's the gift.The Four seasons of our life and the pain and the gifts that each one brings. The Menopausal adventure of finding out “Who Am I?”The conspiracy of “busyness” - why it's necessary for us to slow down and rest so we can be in a better relationship with ourselves.The whole new cycle of life that starts Post Menopause.The three phases of our Menopause transition - Separation, Surrender and Emergence.Why we must learn to be kind to ourselves.The exhausting effort of “holding it all together.”The importance of vulnerability and surrender during Perimenopause and Menopause.Kate's book choice - Angela Carter - Nights at the CircusFind out more about Kate at https://www.katecodrington.co.ukhttps://www.themerrymenopause.com/

Christie Watson's first novel, Tiny Sunbirds Far Away, won the Costa First Novel Award; her second, Where Women Are Kings, achieved international critical acclaim; and her nursing memoir, The Language of Kindness, was a number one bestseller. In 2020, during the first peak of the pandemic, she published The Courage to Care and briefly returned to clinical work. During this time Christie was shocked not only by the changing world, but her changing body, as her Perimenopause took hold. My book choice for this episode is her fifth book Quilt on Fire, the funny, honest and liberating account of her midlife journey.Christie writes about the joy of letting go and the pain of the morning after, of the unstoppable power of female friendship and the struggle to raise teenagers as a single parent. It lays bare the exhilaration, agony , wonder and fears of being a middle-aged woman with a wild heart, a changing body and a new set of challenges, and as her world takes on a different shape, there's something else she starts to feel.. the hot flush of possibility….If you have had, or are having a messy time with your Perimenopause this episode is for you. Not only a brilliant writer, Christie is also very, very funny and very, very honest! Join us for some deep truths and lots of LOL's as we discuss:-Christie's search for meaning. Who am I? What do I want from life?Why the book is called Quilt On Fire, its not what you think!The love story that is female friendships.How Christie coped with her “catastrophic breakdown” which resulted in her climbing into a supermarket freezer. How HRT sent Christie's libido through the roof.Midlife sexual awakening and midlife dating.How we are all connected by our vulnerabilities.Comparison - the perceived perception that every women has her s**t together and appears to be sailing through Perimenopause.Vulnerability- what happens when we share our mess. We are all struggling with something.Perfection isn't something we should be striving for.The messy turbulent side of Menopause. Falling apart so we can put ourselves back together. The Culture wars of HRT and how women are pitted against each other by the media. The cultural and anthropological side of Menopause.The funny side of internet dating.The chance to Re-evaluate our identity. Who am I? Am I happy with myself? Who do I want to become?The Pandemic and Perimenopause, two times of forced reckoning and how they spoke to each other. The benefits of collecting older women friends.Having a Hollywood! Christie finding a much needed sense of gratitude around Perimenopause.Christie's Book Choices Douglas Stuart - Young Mungo Nora Ephron - I Feel Bad About My NeckYou can find out more about Christie Watson here

To kick off Season 6 of The Merry Menopause Bookclub Podcast my wonderful  guest today is Naturopathic Doctor Lara Briden. A graduate of the Canadian College of Naturopathic Medicine, Lara practices in  Christchurch, New Zealand, treating women with symptoms of PCOS, PMS, endometriosis, Perimenopause, and many other hormone- and period-related health problems.Lara joins me to talk about the second of her two brilliant books Hormone Repair Manual which is about navigating and relieving the symptoms of Perimenopause and Menopause, but I urge you to also check out her first book Period Repair Manual.Join us as we discuss:-How our Periods play an integral part of our Perimenopause.Want to know if you are in Perimenopause?Perimenopuase and The PillThe 9 common symptoms of Perimenopause.Perimenopause and drivingLara defines MenopauseMenopause is part of our evolution, it's not an accident of living too long! It's important that we change the narrative and understand that we are meant to go through this!Early human groups wouldn't have survived without the survival tactics of it's Menopausal members. Why Perimenopause is a tipping point for our long term health. Insulin intolerance and sensitivityMetabolic healthThe importance of ovulationUsing your period as a barometer as to what is happening to your bodyWhy your 65 year old self will seriously thank you for the positive changes you make in your 40s.I ask Lara about the period I had after 450 days of being period free!Annovulatory Menstrual Cycles - why we all need to know about them . Why Lara calls Perimenopause Secondary PubertyAnd the 9th symptom is….. Onset of night sweats, in particular premenstruallyLara's book choice is the wonderful Circe by Madeline MillerFind out more about Lara here 

My guest for this episode to discuss her first adult book The Change is  feminist author in the Young Adult and children's space, Kirsten Miller.The Change is the story of three women in their Perimenopause who discover that the changes of reaching this age are also their Superpowers.Life has become so quiet for Nessa since her husband died and her daughters left home that she starts to hear the dead. Jo channels her rage and the heat of her hot flashes and makes them her strength and Harriet is undergoing a very spiritual metamorphosis. It's Menopausal Super Hero's to the rescue!I loved the The Change and the re-framing of the symptoms of Perimenopause. It show-cases this transition as a time when we truly step into our power.Join Kirsten and I as we discuss not only The Change but also:-Kirsten's Perimenopause and the Superpower she discovered, running.The Superpower of not giving a damn.The stories we have been told about Menopause, to keep us in our place!Kirsten's advertising background and the misogyny within the industry. The gender bias prompted by Kirsten's book choice Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez. Kirsten and her periods and an indicator of her PerimenopauseHow 'not giving a damn' is a real Superpower we should learn to harness. Kirsten's Book Choice - Invisible Women by Caroline Criado PerezFind out more about Kirsten and her work here Learn more about me and my coaching work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

My guest for this episode is Dr Sharon Blackie award-winning writer, Psychologist and Mythologist. Her highly acclaimed books, courses, lectures and workshops are focused on the development of the mythic imagination, and on the relevance of myth, fairy tales and folk traditions to the personal, cultural and environmental problems we face today.She joins me to discuss her new book Hagitude which explores how nine very different female archetypes chosen from myths and fairytales can help us to gain a better understanding of our Menopause transition and also create a map of how we want to be as we age.The key question at the heart of this book is how an exploration of the vividly wonderful and diverse archetypal characters in our fairytales and myths might help us to create a map of what it is to become a good elderJoin us as we discuss:How myths and folklore portray the older woman, compared to the modern perception of older women. The struggle to find positive examples of ageing women in literature that are seeing the second half of their life as an adventure rather than a decline. Women are looking for inspiration and different ways to envision why they might want to go on living for decades!Jung's perspective on ageing as a spiritual process, different from the action-orientated first half of our lives. As women we naturally turn inwards and start to ask the bigger questions as we age. Menopause as the time between stories Menopause as an alchemy, burning away the stuff that we are attached to in the first half of our life that won't serve us as we move forward, we need to make room for our new story. Sharon's Menopause journey - an accumulation of the rage which started in childhood as a child who had never been allowed to express her anger.Wrath vs anger, if we don't get rid of trapped anger it manifests itself within the body.The role of the Fates and the Furies in Greek mythology - two trios of Older women perceived to have the knowledge and stability strength to keep order and hold it together. One big lesson of Menopause is learning how not to hold on desperately to youth and staying young.When HRT is presented as a way to stay young and beautiful, that's wrong. Acceptance of ageing and cultural stereotypes.An increasing number of younger women are relating to the Hag or the Crone in fairytales rather than the beautiful princess character. Creating the archetype of our Elder selvesOur gift - every one of us is a unique expression of what it is to be human, that's our gift.How we find clues in our childhood as to our inner hag that we become in later life. Reclaiming the definition of “Hag”Sharon's dreams and her dream theory.The alchemy of Menopause. Sharon's book choice - DH Lawrence The RainbowLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer are the co-founders of Red School. Together they have spent over 10,000 hours researching and refining their radical new approach to health, creativity, leadership and spiritual life. And the best bit? It's rooted in the bloody, wild, radical power of the menstrual cycle and Menopause.They are the authors of two Hay House books Wild Power - which completely changed my life - and the book we are discussing in this epsiode the newly released Wise Power, which is all about discovering the liberating power of Menopause They say never meet your heroes but I have now met two of mine. It was a privilege to have Alexandra and Sjanie as my guests. Join as for this beautiful and empowering conversation, that will change the way you look at and experience your Menopuase forever. Alexandra explains the power of the Menstrual cycle and how Menopause is the final stage of the journey and shares her experience. Power! The difference in conscious and unconscious use of our power, how it shows up and how to navigate it. Alexandra talks about her early 50s and her personal experience of the impact of the Menopause process.It should be our birthright that we come into Menopause with some degree of connection with ourselves and knowing ourselves because we have been in touch with our body through cycle awareness. Rage and Tiredness - When we feel these without context or reason we can feel there is something wrong with us.The dignity of reclaiming our power - This is happening for a reason, this is what you are meant to be feeling.Why the preparatory phase of Menopause is so importantMenopause doesn't just happen in a vacuum its the culmination of our journeySo much that happens in our 40s is teaching us to care for ourselves and showing us what needs to be healed.The five phases of our Menopause initiationBetrayal - at Menopauise we are changing and at the beginning of any time of change there is phase of chaos. Repair - Rest is EVERYTHING.Revelation - Recognising yourself and the changes you've experienced.Visioning - Getting clarity about your vision and what lights you upEmergence - What happens next?!How Alexandra and Sjanie metHow Sjanie is preparing for her Menopause journey. Alexandra's book choice -  Becoming Supernatural  by Dr Joe Dispenza Sjanie's book choice - Mary Magdalene Revealed  by Meggan WattersonLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

Anniki Sommerville's specialist subjects include Perimenopause, parenting and work/life juggling. She has written for The Telegraph, The Guardian and Grazia and is the author of 5 books. In this episode, we talk about her latest book - The Big Quit  which is all about how to navigate work and find the right balance for you. My personal experience and that of friends, clients and The Merry Menopause community drew me to this book.  Perimenopause and Menopause can put a spotlight on our relationship with work and our careers. Join us as we discuss:-Anniki's experience of Perimenopause.'The reckoning' that comes up in our early 50s.Work ephiphanies.How did our ancestors feel about work? A brief history of female working life. The pressure we put on ourselves which leads to overachieving. Recognising that at times you may not have the stamina to keep pushing yourself to achieve - when you have young children and/or reach Perimenopause.The concept of ‘quiet quitting' - in your job doing the bare minimum Asking yourself the important questions - is work serving me? What are my options? Am I regularly feeling overwhelmed, frustrated angry? Get clear on what you don't want, the not-so-shit job!What would the ideal job look like?Comparison - comparing ourselves with others who we perceive to have ‘the dream job' without realising that everyone compromises. Toss away the idea that there is a perfect job - there is no such thingWe reminisce on the careers advice given, or not, to us in the late 80sAnniki's career aspirations as a 14 year old. Anniki's career path. The pressure of being the chief earner in a family. Have an open mind and a clear idea of what you want and you will spot the opportunities available to you. If you are in a negative spiral and you can't see any escape remember all situations are TEMPORARY.Mental health and Perimenopause Tools for re-assurance and self-confidence Boundaries and taking a break - work will take over if you allow it toActively manage your phone - think of it as a person. What kind of person would it be?Mis-interpreting Zoom calls and texts messagesOur life skills are valid and valuable in the workplace. Older women are being undervalued by themselves and their employers. You can't have it all - what are your priorities? How to move on - If you are not enjoying your job, know that it doesn't have to be foreverLIFE IS TOO SHORT - Anniki talks about losing her father and the shift in her perspectiveStop focusing on what you can't do and start focusing on what you can do.Alcohol and Perimenopause. Anniki's book choice - Love Your Sober Year by Kate Baily and Mandy Manners Learn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

What better way to finish off season six of The Merry Menopause Bookclub Podcast than with Bonnie Garmus author of The Sunday Times No 1 Bestseller “Lessons in Chemistry”Bonnie and I connected on Instagram where I was raving about Lessons in Chemistry, It is one of my favourite  reads this year so far and I was delighted Bonnie said yes to being my guest.Lessons In Chemistry is about a woman named Elizabeth Zott, a fictional chemist in late 50s early 60s America. She gets fired from her research job for the crime of being unwed and pregnant and as things get a little tight money wise she accepts a job as a TV cooking show host. Most of us would consider it a job to kill for, but Elizabeth Zott doesn't want the job at all. So instead of teaching straight-up cooking, she ends up teaching the nation chemistry - because cooking is chemistry. And as she does so she ends up teaching women what they are made of at a molecular level and she ends up changing a nation because of it.Join us as we discuss:- Sexual assault in the workplace - 1:6 American women experience it.How the character of Elizabeth Zott came into being.How a bad day at work inspired Bonnie to write the first chapter of Lessons in Chemistry.Bonnie dedicates the book to her incredible mum and I find out why.How the ‘The Average Housewives” of the 50s raised a generation of feminists.Why Elizabeth Zott is a role model for Bonnie and the joy of creating and writing her. Elizabeth Zott's rich backstory - depression and loneliness.How so many men are totally unaware of the misogyny and sexual assault that happens in the workplace.How can we make sure we have allies in men at work and at home.The awareness of women's rights issues that Lessons in Chemistry has raised amongst its male readers.A sneak preview of Bonnie's next book!Bonnie's Book Choices:-The Anthropocene - John GreenThe Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry - Rachel JoyceFind out more about Bonnie and her work hereLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

To kick off the NEW season of The Merry Menopause Bookclub Podcast, I am delighted to have as my guest Anya Bergman author of best selling novel The Witches of Vardø. In this episode, Anya shares her fascination with the real-life story of three women - Ana, Ingeborg, and Maren - who fought for survival during the brutal Witch trials of 1662 on the remote Norwegian island of Vardø.Anya's novel is a powerful and poignant blend of historical fact, folktales, and mythology that aims to reclaim the lost voices of the women of Vardø with sensitivity and inspire readers with a fierce sense of "F*** the patriarchy!" She discusses her research process, which involved living in Norway and studying the records of the Finmark Witch trials of 1662/1663 to gain a deeper understanding of what happened on Vardø at that time.Anya sheds light on the tensions in Norway and Denmark with much of the blame falling on the devil and his Witches for the economic situation and an explanation for violent and misogynistic behaviour. And we discuss how the cruelty towards 'Witches' came from the genuine belief and fear of the masses in the devil and Witches. How they were seen as agents of terror that needed to be eradicated.Anya also explains the link between Scotland and Norway - King James VI of Scotland and Christian IV of Denmark were brothers-in-law - which resulted in Scotland ‘exporting' Witch hunts to Denmark. Such was the brutality of the torture of women it led them to denounce each other to escape incarceration, unbearable pain and if they survived, being burnt alive. Anya challenges the Menopausal stereotype in her depiction of the fascinating Ana Rhodius. A complex and multifaceted character, Love her or hate her, you as the reader get to decide. Finally, Anya tells us about the remarkable memorial to the Witches built and funded by the Norwegian state on the execution site in Vardø. This episode is thought-provoking, offering insight into a dark chapter of history and the importance of reclaiming the voices of innocent women. Anya's book choiceDevotion by Hannah Kent You can find out more about Anya Bergman hereSupport the showLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

My guest today is Fran Littlewood author of the best-selling novel Amazing Grace Adams. A story of the rollercoaster ride of Perimenopause which explores love, loss, motherhood, female rage, shame, self-blame, and the societal pressure of perfection.Join myself and Fran, a former Times Journalist and mother of three teenage daughters as we discuss: The plot of Amazing Grace Adams and how it relates to the experiences of women who feel overwhelmed by their many roles and responsibilities. Fran shares her personal experience with perimenopause, including the "terrible itch" and the importance of advocating for oneself in medical settings.The clash of teenage and midlife hormones and the impossible standards women are expected to uphold. Fran talks about the almost "comedic clash" of these two hormonal stages and the societal pressure to be perfect.The grief and past trauma that can surface during perimenopause.The struggles of parenting a teenager caught between childhood and adulthood. Fran talks about the challenges of navigating this no man's land when your child suddenly becomes a stranger.Losing control or taking control? The differences in expectations for men and women and the legacy of our mothers.Fran's book choice is Wandering Souls by Cecil Pin which has been shortlisted for the Women's Prize for Fiction 2023.Want more Fran? You can follow her on TwitterIf you enjoy this episode please like and subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, it really does make a difference and helps other listeners to find me. Thank you, Jo.Support the showLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

My guests for this episode are the authors of You Me and The Space Between Us, married couple Matt and Sarah Davies .Matt is a marriage counsellor and psychosexual and relationship therapist, and Sarah is a movement and somatic coach.  Combing both their areas of expertise, You, Me and The Space Between Us is a blend of personal narrative and expert advice, written with empathy and warmth. It is a book for anyone who is struggling with their relationship. I LOVED IT and would highly recommend whatever your relationship status, I guarantee you will learn something to make your relationships better. Join us as we discuss:What is 'the space between us' and how working with it can improve our relationshipsHow the space between us, is about the ‘us' not the ‘you or me'Why relationships are difficultVulnerability in relationshipsWhen to ask ‘what does the relationship need” rather than what do I need?How we can lose sight of ‘we'How to stop an argument - play the game of 'switching sides'How to avoid your relationship becoming boring and sexlessWhy people have affairs and the role of the patriarchyHow to sustain a relationship after the honeymoon periodHow it's possible to have both freedom and longevity in a relationshipSimplifying attachment styles - The Octopus and The TurtleWhy good conflict is vital for a long-lasting relationshipStop looking for perfection - embrace the 80/20 rule Desire and sex in midlifeAre you a couple who has sex or a sexy couple?Matt and Sarah's book choice - Come as You Are by Emily NagoskiIf you enjoy this episode please like and subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, it really does make a difference and helps other listeners to find me. Thank you, Jo.Support the showLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

My guest for the final episode of S7 of the podcast is Kim Vopni aka @thevaginacoach. Kim is a speaker, women's health educator, coach and Menopause support practitioner. She is also the author of the bestselling book Your Pelvic Floor which was The Merry Menopause Bookclub pick in February. Menopause can bring several changes to the body, including pelvic health issues. Join us as we discuss:-The Importance of Pelvic Floor Health: Kim emphasises the importance of pelvic floor health and how it's often overlooked until something goes wrong. She encourages women to take a proactive approach to their pelvic health by seeking education and treatment early on.Signs of Pelvic Floor Dysfunction: Kim explains common signs of pelvic floor dysfunction, including incontinence, prolapse, and pain. She stresses that these issues are treatable and encourages women to seek help from a pelvic floor physiotherapist.The Link between Pelvic Health and Back Pain: Kim shares that 95% of women with lower back pain have a pelvic floor issue. She also shares her mother's journey with pelvic floor issues and how working with a physiotherapist at age 77 avoided surgery.Strategies for Proactive Pelvic Health: Kim suggests three strategies for proactive pelvic health during menopause: seeking treatment from a pelvic floor physiotherapist, doing pelvic floor exercises, and training the pelvic floor to respond to movement rather than static positions.Understanding Overactive Pelvic Floor: Kim explains that pelvic floor dysfunction can also result from an overactive pelvic floor, which can cause tightness rather than weakness. She notes that seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist can help women understand the status of their pelvic floor and develop appropriate treatment plans.Living a Pelvic-Centric Lifestyle: Kim provides practical tips for living a pelvic-centric lifestyle, including staying hydrated, avoiding bladder irritants, and understanding the importance of vaginal PH and its relationship to UTIs.Kim's Book Recommendation - Next Level   by Stacy Sims. You can find out more about Kim hereWishing you a Merry MenopauseJoSupport the showLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

I am joined for this episode by the fabulous Mel Schilling. Human behaviour and performance specialist and Married at First Sight relationship expert Mel Schilling talks to me about her new book The C* Word.Mel draws on her 20-year background in psychology, with this empowering and practical guide to making friends with our fear, tackling imposter syndrome and building the skills of confidence to enhance every aspect of our lives. Join us as we delve into:-How can we rebuild our confidence in midlife. Brain fog and hot flushes - two of the biggest reasons that so many of us lose our confidence. Mel openly shares her experience of both of these whilst filming live TV. How humour can be a great asset in re-building confidence Mel opens up about her own journey with brain fog and her decision to start hormone replacement therapy (HRT) to manage it.We discuss coaching techniques that can help overcome brain fog, anxiety, and hot flushes, particularly when dealing with presentations or public speaking.We explore self-worth in midlife and the feeling of invisibility that many of us experience during this phase of life. Addressing negative self-talk and techniques to re-wire our brains and be kinder to ourselves. Mel reveals how our body has an identical response to "I am scared" to "I am excited" and how to recognise these feelings and make them work to our advantage. Midlife dating advice from the expert! Mel gives me her expert advice on navigating midlife dating - which apps to use, getting clear on dating goals, recognising 'red flags', and the difference between 'deal breakers' for a relationship vs personal preferences. Are you dating un-cooked men too?!Mel shares her own experience of online dating, where she met her husband. Mel's Book recommendation - Great Sex Starts at 50 by Tracey Cox. Follow Mel on InstagramSupport the showLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group

For this episode I am joined by Kate Baily co-founder of the Love Sober platform and author of 'Love Your Sober Year.' Kate coaches women to feel empowered by their choice to stop drinking alcohol, harnessing their decision to go sober and pivot from surviving to thriving in all areas of their lives using a holistic approach to growth, mindset and wellbeing.Join Kate and me as we talk about both of our sober journeys during Perimenopause including:-Perimenopause and alcohol.The important distinction between 'what looks normal' socially vs 'what feels normal' to us. Alcohol and motherhood.Alcohol as a coping tool.The mental impact of alcohol.How we build better lives and get rid of alcohol if it's costing us more than money.Why  we need to be asking ourselves better questions so we can meet our own needs. The comparison between alcohol today and valium in the 60s.The stigmatism around women and alcohol, but not so much men and alcohol.JudgementThe marketing behind alcohol, it's not a coincidence, that next to the back-to-school promotion there will be a wine promotion. Calling out social BS -  to access our personal power, we need to call out the cultural narratives around us.Calling out brain fog! If you are struggling with alcohol you are not alone 25 billion people are also struggling with alcohol. What is sober curious?How the language around alcohol and addiction has changedGetting in touch with our values is the groundwork for a different relationship with alcohol.Kate's book choice  - If Women Rose Rooted, by Sharon BlackieYou can find out more about Kate hereSupport the showLearn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.comFollow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedINJoin my private Facebook group