Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast

Hey parents, is your daughter's social life running her or is she running her social life? Teenage girls come to me all the time feeling confused, hurt, and distraught by other people's behavior. When someone says or does something that's inconsistent with your perception of them, or different from how you believe they're supposed to behave, it creates internal conflict. And internal conflict turns around and creates anxiety.As you might imagine, I hear a lot about the daily lives of teenage girls in my 90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program. So, if you're not sure if your daughter's social life is running her or if she's running her social life, or why this is even important, stay tuned. For years my clients, teenage girls, have reported that their social scenarios consume 60% or more of their emotional bandwidth. Meaning, if there's something stirring within her tribe or there's a perceived social conflict, it's really hard to concentrate in class, or be fully present with you at home. The 3 Main Issues: Rank, Reputation and Rumors Wouldn't it be nice if social conflicts were less impactful or just disappeared altogether! I'm here to tell you, as strange as it may sound, that these conflicts offer an opportunity for your daughter to grow through what she's going through.  Yes, it's true. With the right tools, your daughter will cultivate her confidence, resilience, and integrity when she sees that she can handle and grow from any conflict.While there are a zillion social scenarios that can be anxiety provoking, there are three that I repeatedly hear about. Because when they're active, they turn a mild social conflict into a scary, intimidating one. The Entrance StrategyThe good news is, this episode introduces you to an effective, simple strategy your daughter can use anytime and anywhere!What's The Entrance Strategy?  The Entrance Strategy consists of 3 clarifying and empowering questions that will give your daughter what she needs to ‘grow through' what's she's going through.Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life's adventures!

Hey parents,Does your daughter's anxiety come from thinking about her future, or trying to control it?It's no mystery that uncertainty has the power to ignite the strongest human emotions – anxiety and fear.And if fear and anxiety are the ‘kryptonite' that are keeping your daughter from establishing the friendships she craves or developing a strong sense of self, stay tuned.This episode is designed to help you empower your teenage daughter so she's:·         ready to handle anything that comes her way·         and cultivate friendships that make her laugh until she cries (in a good way, of course!)Okay, I don't know about you, but I my relationship with anxiety and fear are definitely a work-in-progress.And as a parent and teen coach, my private coaching clients consistently share stories with me where fear is almost always the cause, or undercurrent, that's fueling their anxiety. If you think about how uneasy you feel when everything around you is unpredictable, it's human nature to seek control where you can - or - where you think you can. Welcome back to the cultivating resilient teens podcast where you can always find the show notes and resources on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.Podcast ResourcesEpisode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social ScenariosAnxiety Quote: “Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it” by Author Kahlil GibranBook: Enough As She Is by Rachel Simmons

Hey Parents,Is your teenage daughter feeling a bit overwhelmed by ‘all the things' right now?what's going on around her? how she fits into her world?and how to be okay with missing something?The fear of missing out and the fear of messing up are REAL for teenage girls.And seem to be a hot button issue right now.Thankfully we're back to in-person learning here in the US, though, like every new beginning, there are some residual pandemic issues that are still being ironed out. One of the issues I'm hearing a lot about from the teenage girls enrolled in my 90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Programis that even though they're surrounded by their peers, they are feeling socially disconnected and lonely.So, I was curious to learn more. Why, even though they are physically together again, and ready for new and deeper relationships, these girls are reporting: a lack of confidence as to how to take the next step and often feel stifled by the fear and uncertainty their efforts won't be reciprocatedWelcome back to the cultivating resilient teens podcast where you can find the full show notes and resources at cultivatingresilientteens.com.RecapOkay, let's quickly recap today's key points.If your daughter is like most teenage girls, she may be feeling socially disconnected and a bit lonely, even though she's back to in-person learning.The most effective way to begin to build the deeper connection she's ready for, is to simply be aware of if she's bringing her past wounds into her present environment and try the 3-2-1 strategy so she can redirect, reconnect and redesign her relationships.And, if seeing her struggle this triggering for you, simply recognize that's a natural response and try asking her what would be helpful in this situation.Lastly, please, please, please remember that when you approach ‘all the things' with the attitude that you're here to learn, you can't do this wrong.It's truly about learning and growing together. Until next time, here's to cultivating a more resilient teen.Podcast Resources:90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Programcultivatingresilientteens.comEp – 26 How to Support Your Daughter When Her Friendships Are Falling ApartEp – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter's Confidence

Hey parents,Have you ever heard the saying … ‘what you resist persists'?I mean, could it really be true that, in your daughter's attempt to push away all those unwanted things, she only attracts more unwanted things?The father of analytical psychology, Carl Jung, suggests that in your attempt to ‘resist' certain situations, by focusing on what you don't want, you actually cause those unwanted things to persist, or even grow.Welcome back the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast where I want to invite you and your daughter to try a quick brain game with me.You can close your eyes, or simply use your mind's eye to visualize something you desire … a giant scoop of ice cream, a beautiful sunset, or a fun event with friends.Now, DON'T imagine a giant pink elephant.Okay … did a giant pink elephant just photo bomb your image?This is just one small example of the power your daughter has over her mind.And why two key concepts play a huge role in her ability to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life's adventures.Find the complete show notes and the two key concepts on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.Podcast Resources:Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Ep – 37 How to Handle Your Daughter's Toughest Social Challenge90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching ProgramBeing Sensitive Can Be a Challenge … This Strategy Set Me Free!Episode #11 Help Your Daughter Stay Focused in a World Full of Distractions with a 3 Step Solution

Hey parents,I have a question for you … what throws your teenage daughter off more - her big emotions OR the after-effects that follow her reaction to her big emotions? Welcome back to the cultivating resilient teens podcast.If you're listening today, you probably recognize the value in understanding, and learning how to manage emotions capable of rocking your household and social circles.So, today's episode is offering you a ‘What to do When' Guide that's designed to help you and your daughter effectively handle the big emotions that stem from her toughest social challenges. And hopefully this guide is applicable with some of the other tough stuff too.Because with all the ‘gears in motion' during the adolescent years, having tools that minimize the guilt and guesswork are golden.(Remember, all the resources shared in the podcast, including the full show notes, can be found on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.)Thank YouBefore we get into the guide, I want to send a shout out to the parents who courageously shared their daughter's toughest social challenges with me.Even though your daughter's experiences were not easy for her - or you - it felt good to see each of you find an approach that moved the needle in a positive, feel-good direction. A Common ThemeAlthough each girl's ‘toughest social challenge' story felt unique, there was an obvious theme.When your daughter is lied to by friends she trusts and believes has her back - is clearly one of the hardest experiences to navigate for passionate, connection seeking teens.And, I'll be honest with you, I almost ditched this podcast idea.Maybe you can relate, because if you're like me, being lied to touches on a pretty tender place inside me that doesn't really enjoy, and certainly resists being poked at, if you know what I mean.The Power of Self-CompassionSo, rather than spending time dissecting why teenage girls lie to one another; a conversation that I believe is most productive between coach and client in a safe, co-creative environment – I want to introduce you to the work of Dr. Kristin Neff because navigating, healing, and supporting those tender places inside your daughter needs a solid dose of self-compassion.Find the Full Show Notes, including Your “What to do When' Guide, visit my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.Podcast Resources:Wikipedia, Self-CompassionFierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power to Thrive | Kristin Neff, Ph.D. Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Programhttps://thriveglobal.com/stories/how-to-raise-a-socially-intelligent-and-resilient-teenager/Episode #6 3 Simple Steps to Quiet Your Daughter's Inner Critic and Boost her Self-Confidence

Hey parents,I'm interrupting the regularly scheduled podcast to bring up a concerning issue I experienced, the clients enrolled in my 90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program are talking about, and maybe it's coming up for your daughter, too.As we're moving through the covid pandemic - a time that challenged us collectively and impacted each of us a little differently – there appears to be a heightened sense of awareness that's positive in some ways and a bit damaging, in others.What's HappeningAs you know, most teenage girls already feel like they're over scrutinized and judged.So, when your daughter feels a heightened sense of what other people may be thinking and saying, a chain reaction often occurs that looks something like … Overthinking or distorted thinking about comments / situationsSecond guessing herself and her role in the interactionsAnd unexplained fatigue or an overall lack of motivationI think we can all agree that now more than ever, your daughter needs and deserves to experience moments of joy and spontaneity to make up for all the missed opportunities.And, I wanted to say, that the next episode will be part three of the deep dive into your daughter's sense of self with the ‘What to do When' Guide.Because I think your shared experiences – thank you for trusting me with your personal stories - are definitely going to help other parents and teens realize they're not alone on this often-tumultuous journey.Actually, the ‘What to do When' Guide is morphing into a series of its own, so stay tuned as I break down the problems and solutions into smaller, more digestible pieces.Today's QuestionOkay, let's get into today's question … how many times has your daughter replayed a past situation in her head and wondered what would have happened if she responded or reacted differently?As I was reflecting on the situations my private coaching clients are experiencing, I wanted to invite you and your daughter to take a moment and assess what you're feeling and observing too.It seems the upside to the pandemic is that overall, people seem less tense and are more cordial.But the pandemic also seems to have opened the door to increased scrutiny of others.The intense feeling of being overly assessed by your peers or by strangers, usually doesn't feel good, and will certainly have an impact on your daughter's sense of self and her social scenarios.Tuning InPersonally speaking, as a parent and teen coach I really do my best to stay in tune with my thoughts and emotions and use effective tools and strategies to keep a clear mind so I can show up in the world in a way that feels good to me.But because I'm also a human, I'm not immune to the tough emotions that get triggered when I feel like I'm being judged or totally misunderstood.And last week, I got a taste for what my clients have been talking about.I think you'll enjoy hearing how my situation helped me understand, on a personal level, what my clients have been talking about.Find the full Show Notes on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.Podcast Resources:90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Hey parents, How much do your daughter's friendships influence HER attitude, mood and motivation?As a parent and teen coach I hear a lot of stories about how other people's actions and reactions seem to affect my client's well-being.Of course, it's natural for connection seeking teens to be influenced by their environment, especially their social scenarios.The hard part is, humans, not just teenage girls, are naturally fickle.So, if your daughter is always acting or reacting to what's happening in her external environment, in the moment, she may feel like she's constantly bouncing around like a ping pong ball … up one minute, down the next. And truth be told, even if her wild emotions give her a boost of energy, it's not a healthy habit she'll want to keep around. Heads UpWelcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens PodcastThis is the second podcast of a three-part series where we're diving deeper into what it looks like to develop your daughter's sense of self and how she can design social scenarios that align with who she truly is or who she desires to be. Find the complete show notes, resources, and links to previous episodes on my website, cultivating resilient teens.com.Before we get rolling today, I want to give you a little heads up that today's topic, if you're listing with your daughter, may evoke an eye roll before a head nod, and here's why.Most teenage girls have:·         beliefs·         hopes ·         and expectations that influence how they go about creating and keeping friendships.Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot of information or conversation about how those beliefs, hopes and expectations come to fruition.Though, they're often the result of their upbringing, environment, and past social experiences.So here's the hard part, if your daughter isn't aware of what her beliefs, hopes and expectations are - and how they influence her relationships - she's going to bounce.If she's getting the attention that meets her expectations, she'll bounce up.And when she doesn't get the reaction or response she wants, her mood will dip.ME and WEAs you might imagine, relying on other people to moderate her mood and motivation level is exhausting, and will leave her feeling pretty powerless. The good news is it doesn't have to be that way.When your daughter is clear with her core friendship values, she'll be able to establish a clear boundary between ME and WE.3 Red FlagsIn order to set clear boundaries, you'll want to be aware of a few situations, or red flags, that cause things to get messy. You can read about the 3 Red Flags and the Simple Solution to Raising a Socially Resilient Teen on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.Keeping in RealLike I've said before, ya all are what make this podcast REAL and meaningful.Thank you for being here, for spending the time to build this community, for sharing this podcast with your friends, for trusting me to work with you and your daughter and for coming together so we can collectively empower teenage girls to build confidence integrity and resilience for all of life's adventures.I look forward to talking with you about ‘What to do When …?' because when you have a guide to handle life's toughest social challenges with grace and ease, you'll feel good about your responses and eliminate the guilt and guesswork.Until next time my friends, know that I'm thinking of you!Podcast Resources:

Hey parents, I wanted to share a personal conversation I had with a dear friend I've known for over 30 years because she raised a great question that's relatable to anyone raising teens.  My girlfriend and I met when we were in the thick of our teenage years and now, we're both raising teens, so we naturally we found ourselves talking about all the social complexities teens experience, particularly when it comes to concept of defining your daughter's ideal “tribe.”I'm so grateful my girlfriend brought up this issue because, honestly, as a new podcaster, it's really easy to get caught up in what the experts say you're supposed to do to have a successful podcast. The Proverbial Box Between you and I, I've never thrived when I've had to operate inside the ‘proverbial' box. And when it comes to defining a tribe that feels good to your daughter – that doesn't fit inside a box either. Which may cause some confusion if she's comparing her interests to what she sees on her media platforms. Because the larger and fancier the group photo, the more she may think … huge tribe = happiness.  But deep down, we all know that what we think we need isn't always what we really need. The Million Dollar Question And that's why I'd like to ask you … how does YOUR daughter define her tribe? Find the full Podcast Episode, including what you can do as parents, at cultivatingresilientteens.comLastly, one of the best parts of this podcast is YOU. And our community is growing quickly.It's super cool to see you're listening across the globe because we all share this common trait – we're stronger when we feel connected to one another.So, if you'd take a moment and post one strategy you've found helpful on the iTunes podcast app, that would be awesome.Your interaction helps other parents, just like us, find the show.Okay, that's all for today.I look forward to connecting with you next time.Podcast Resources:Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social Scenarios

Hey Parents, does your teenage daughter doubt herself or feel like there’s something fundamentally wrong with her when things don’t work out?It’s so easy to weave the “Ugh, what’s wrong with ME?” narrative into an emotionally triggering situation.The Good NewsThe good news is, there’s an effective way for your daughter to deactivate doubt, get stronger and feel more self-confident. Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast where you can find the full show notes at cultivatingresilientteens.com.What’s Really Going On? So, as we move into the summer months, whether your daughter will be part of a new clubcampteam OR is planning to be more of a free-range chicken and in charge of her daily activities, it’s worth taking the time to continue to learn about her developing sense of self and how to design healthy social scenarios. Because, understanding how she sees herself, what she thinks about herself and how she talks to and about herself will give you the clues YOU NEED to empower her to build her confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures.The Figure it Out FormulaThe secret in the secret formula is this – it takes you right to the heart of the matter. And getting to the heart of the matter will help keep your daughter out of the weeds.The Figure it Out Formula goes like this … turn your left palm over so it’s facing upwards.Find the 5 Steps to the complete show notes, including The Figure it Out Formula on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/Podcast Resources:Ep – 27 3 Insights Every Teenage Girl Needs to Ace Tricky Social SituationsEp – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s ConfidenceEp 29 - A Bite-Sized Solution to Protect your Daughter’s Most Important Asset

Hey Parents,Does your teenage daughter have a plan to stay confident and mentally clear when she’s emotionally triggered?After making a very long list on a giant piece of paper, the teenage girls in my social media group just sat back with that deer-in-headlights look.I think they were more stunned than I was at the list they’d created.The task was to identify all the all the “parts” of social media they deal with on a daily basis.What confuses them.What makes them feel bad.And, what’s fun, too.We definitely didn’t want to forget about the fun stuff, because being able to instantly connect with your friends can be great.And seeing each other on the map is pretty cool, too. Well, except when it’s not.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.Having a PlanWhere today we’re going to offer your daughter a 3 Step Road Map to navigate the ups and downs of her media relationships so she can keep a strong sense of self and continue to design healthy social scenarios.Because as parents, you know, it’s a rough ride for everyone when your daughter:·         discovers her tribe has assembled without her ·         or someone she’s reached out to is active but not respondingWe obviously didn’t have these devices when you and I were teens.Though, that deep gut punching feeling you get when you’ve been betrayed by someone in your tribe hasn’t changed.And having the ability to manage all those big emotions doesn’t just magically happen.So, let’s give your daughter a step-by-step plan so she can interact on her social platforms while maintaining a strong sense of self and designing healthy social scenarios.Please take the time to share the 3 Step Road Map with your daughter, you'll be glad you did.Find the 3 Steps and the full Show Notes on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.comPodcast Resources:Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social ScenariosQuote from Oprah “You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Hey Parents,Have you ever asked your daughter how she’s doing and heard something like … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand!”As you’re working through the ‘letting go’ and ‘losing control’ part of raising a teenager (two of the toughest parts if you ask me), getting a non-answer when you’re trying to connect is tough because:it feels like it widens the divideand pulls heavily on your heartstringsAs a parent of teens, I get it.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast, it’s an honor to spend this time with you.If you’re feeling like you haven’t quite found a solution to how to empower your daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures, this episode is for you.And hopefully it’ll make it easier for you and your daughter to learn and grow together, too.Signature SystemAfter years of working with teens and their families, I think you’ll see that the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:Developing a strong sense of selfCreating meaningful educational experiencesDesigning healthy social scenariosFostering a connective family lifeNot only offer your daughter the tools she needs to step into her personal power, recognize when to lead and when to follow, and mitigate the negative effects of social media.They also help you learn how to navigate these teen rites of passage.If you’re not familiar with my signature system, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen, you’ll find more information and the full show notes for this podcast on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.What’s HappeningOkay, here’s the downlow on … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand.”The likelihood that these statements are true, is pretty high.It’s less about trying to drive you crazy or push you away, and more about your daughter feeling overwhelmed and confused herself.And as a caring, resourceful and hardworking parent, you likely encourage your daughter to be a critical thinker in order to solve her problems.Critical thinking is an essential life skill.But sometimes relationships are messy, and miscommunications happen - and there’s not a clear answer or approach.You may even see the wheels turning as your daughter attempts to figure out or fix her situation.And recognize that she's caught in a negative thought loop, which, as you know, isn’t helpful.If you’re not familiar with how negative thought loops influence your daughter’s mood and motivation, you may want to familiarize yourself with the top 6 thinking errors in Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.It's a DanceSo here you are, trying to connect with and support your daughter, but you’re not sure whether to step in or step back – a bit of a dance.Find out if a growth mindset will make life easier for your daughter, as well as, learn how to dance with agility and grace. Get the complete show notes on my website, Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast. Podcast ResourcesLife’s Random Bits | Parenting is Like Dancing | 9.7.2017Mindset: The New Psychology of Success | Carol Dweck5 Keys to the Right Mindset for Growth and Success | Bob Choat | 7.3.2015Episode #2 How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager

Hey Parents,Is your teenage daughter “freaking out” about what’s next?You’re probably noticing that spring fever is in the air, which undoubtedly signals one thing - transitions are on the horizon. Whether it’s her transition into middle school, high school, college or beyond, you’re likely seeing any number of behavioral changes in your daughter.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast, where you can always find the full Show Notes and resources for every podcast episode at cultivatingresilientteens.comThe ProblemAlthough we’re being kinda playful about your daughter “freaking out” about what’s next, we know you’ve been through some tough times, and that stress and anxiety are at an all-time high for teenagers.According to Dr. Sarah McKay, Author of The Women’s’ Brain Book: The Neuroscience of Health, Hormones and Happiness, “We all respond to stress in a variety of ways, and whether an event is a ‘stressor’ varies from person to person.” And Dr. McKay goes on to say that “We feel stressed when real or imagined pressures exceed or perceived ability to cope.”Everything You NeedSo, today we’re offering a simple Formula that will boost your daughter’s resilience by giving her what she needs to make calm, logical and confident decisions about her future.If you’ve been listening for a while, you’ve heard us lovingly nudge your daughter to devote some quality time to developing a strong sense of self.Because, as parents, you know that a strong sense of self will likely: - steer your daughter away from “iffy” or “risky” social situations- help her avoid iceberg beliefsthat can sabotage relationship- and help her create a path that promotes personal growthOkay, now … let’s imagine for a minute, that your daughter wakes up every morning READY for whatever comes her way - would it be worth it?Everyone wants to bounce back from life’s challenges and detours, and we bet your daughter feels that way, too.And, if you’re familiar with the saying that “worrying is like a rocking chair: it will give you something to do but you won’t get you anywhere.”Simple A-B-C FormulaYou’ll see that the three critical actions in the A-B-C Formula enable your daughter make calm, logical and confident decisions about her future – truly, the best way for her to bounce back!It’s easier than you may think so head over to my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com and get the three critical actions - and cultivate a more resilient teenager.Podcast Resources: Dr. Sara McKay |The Women’s’ Brain Book: The Neuroscience of Health, Hormones and Happiness Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence

Hey Parents, What’s your daughter most important asset?Welcome back the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.Today we’re diving in a little deeper to an issue we touched on in last week’s podcast, Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.Because, interestingly, even though your daughter may think she’s the only feeling one insecure or being left out, I promise you that no one is immune to those tricky thought errors we talked about last week.Thought Error #5Especially Thought Error #5, using “labels” to classify herself or others, can really be detrimental to your daughter’s growth.So, today we’re offering a bite-sized solution to protect your daughter’s most important asset – her sense of self.As we’ve talked about in previous episodes, developing a strong sense of self is one of the most important ways to empower your teenage daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of her adventures in life.Think About it This WayBecause when you think about it, every single thing she says and does – her attitude, her happiness, her motivation, her relationships, her success – all revolve around how your daughter:sees herselfwhat she thinks about herselfand how she talks TO and ABOUT herselfSo, building a solid personal foundation, or a strong sense of self, will enable her to understand critical thought habits and patterns.  4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient TeenAnd right now, your daughter’s life is primarily influenced by, what I refer to as, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:her sense of selfhow meaningful her educational experiences arethe nature of your parent / daughter connectionAnd her social network – the people she surrounds herselfSo, if your daughter’s life experiences and the people she’s around are throwing around labels, to classify her, or others, it’s going to influence how she sees herself and talks to and about herself.Due to the negative emotions “labeling” brings up, we’re focusing instead on how to equip your daughter with the GRIT and GUMPTION she needs to win this war-on-words.The Heart of the MatterSo, let’s get to the heart of the matter with two thoughtful questions ...Find the complete Show Notes on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/ Podcast ResourcesEp – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s ConfidenceEpisode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?90 Minutes to Clarity and Strategies that Work90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Hey parents,Is your teenage daughter a hard worker who gets frustrated and feels defeated when things don’t go her way?If mind management sounds like some type of voo-doo, though you see your daughter repeating the same behaviors over and over, but expects a different result, this podcast is for her.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast where you can find the full show notes on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.comToday’s episode is inspired by an incredibly ambitious, bright, and determined past client who knew exactly what she wanted.But there was just one ‘key element’ missing.And no matter how hard she tried, she continued to find herself back where she started.But let’s not be too hard on her because the key element that kept her stuck isn’t a core competency you learn in school.  And standardized testing dismisses it, too. However, this element definitely has an impact on your daughter’s performance.So today we’re going to introduce the 6 most common thinking errors that may wreck your daughter’s confidence.And, how to break free with 2 Strategies that work.Let’s start with the 6 thinking errors the teenage girls in my private coaching practice say are the hardest to handle.1.) Believing it’s always “All or Nothing”All or nothing sounds like:I’m never the one who gets picked to lead the project2.) “Catastrophizing” her situationsCatastrophizing sounds like:This is so stressful because if I don’t say the right thing, everyone’s going to think I’m weird3.) “Shoulding” all over herselfShoulding sounds like:I should eat lunch with those girls because if I don’t, they’ll think I’m rude Get information about the additional thought errors that wreck your daughter's confidence and 2 Strategies that Work on my website Cultivating Resilient Teens PodcastBecause if you take anything away from our conversation today, it’s that developing strong sense of self is one of the greatest gifts your daughter can give herself.And developing a strong sense of self begins with observing your thinking habits and patterns and the effect they have on your behavior, choices, relationships and mood.Podcast Resources: Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching ProgramEp – 24 How to Help Your Teenage Daughter Develop What Really MattersEpisode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?The Teenage Brain and COVID. Telling Stories Might Help | Dr. Sarah Mckay | March 25, 2021

Hey Parents,Does your teenage daughter feel like she has to choose between being liked or being respected?Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast where we’re going to offer a “Short, Sweet and Spot On” episode, as listener Me and Xoxo, shared in a recent iTunes podcast review.Thank you, Me and Xoxo, for taking the time to share your thoughts and for being part of the Cultivating Resilient Teens community!Okay, let’s get to it, because I want to clear up the myth that your daughter has to choose between being liked or respected.One of my clients shared that a ‘Who are You?’ style check list has been going around social media.The list had multiple boxes where you check off things you’ve done or that apply to you personally.And although it didn’t seem like that big of a deal at first, my client not only felt like she was pigeon-holing herself into a misconstrued persona, but there was a whole lot of judgment coming out of this seemingly harmless activity.My client understood that she had the choice to participate or pass, but she said the social pressure felt really intense. And one of her friends teased her by saying … “Just fill it out, I mean, what do you have to hide?Ah, I’m here to tell you, these tricky social situations aren’t easy to navigate for teenage girls.What You Can Do InsteadAs we talked about in last week’s podcast Ep – 26 How to Support Your Daughter When Her Friendships Are Falling ApartYour daughter’s style of communication matters:·         how she talks to and about herself ·         and how she talks to and about her friendsAnd, if your daughter’s put in a situation where she feels pressured to share personal information that that seems intrusive and downright uncomfortable, we want to equip her with the tools that’ll help her stay confident, in her integrity, and strengthen her resilience.3 Insights to Ace Tricky Social SituationsIn order to prevent or de-escalate the drama that comes from tricky social situations, we’re going to share 3 Insights that will help your daughter tap into her personal power.Because even though the “What do you have to hide?” situation seemed playful, my client didn’t want to pigeonhole herself into a certain persona or share information she considered personal. Feeling liked and respected is an inside job. Learning to say what you mean and mean what you say in a clear, respectful and assertive manner will keep your daughter out of unnecessary drama.Who your daughter wants to be, desires to become, and what she wants to share with the world is her choice, period. Yes, learning how to design healthy social scenarios is perhaps one of the most important rites-of-passage your daughter will encounter over the next few years.So, equipping her with effective navigation skills are worth her time and effort. Full Show Notes and Podcast Resources can be found at, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/Ep – 26 How to Support Your Daughter When Her Friendships Are Falling Apart How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager 5 Simple Questions That Will Set Your Teenager Up for Success

Hey Parents, is friendship drama causing major emotional distress for your teenage daughter?Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast where we’ve talked a lot about how teenage girls are passionate problem solvers. But, as you know, there’s another side to the coin. So, we’re going to bravely and compassionately explore what the other side looks and feels like because if your daughter feels emotionally wounded or is utterly confused and in tears by her friend’s behavior, we want to help you through this.It’s not unusual for my clients to talk about increased friend drama this time of year, as Springtime seems to invite a sense of newness, adventure and increased opportunities to socialize outside of school and home. Key ResourcesTricky social situations often cause teenage girls to be really hard on themselves, so in podcast Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social Scenarioswe tackle a topic that’s sometimes overwhelming and painful for teenage girls – how to build authentic, fun and healthy friendships. Because as Dr. Christine Carter shares in her book, The New Adolescence: Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction, “Connection is the most important predictor of happiness that we have. It’s the most consistent finding that we have in a hundred or so years of research. Our overall wellbeing is predicted by both the breadth and depth of our real-life connections.”A Better WayAnd, because it’s important for me to be transparent AND remind you that tough, humble situations can also offer deep personal opportunities to grow – when you’re ready – I want to share a quick story with you. Once upon a time I was asked to talk to a group of teens about the importance of creating a more cohesive group environment because, as Dr. Carter’s research shows, authentic connections help everyone thrive.  But I mistakenly assumed that because the coaches desired a more cohesive environment, the athletes did too.  Needless to say, it didn’t matter how well constructed my message was, there were two key ingredients missing: 1.    Readiness 2.    Trust So, before you guide your daughter through the tumultuous teen-girl-friendship-waters, pause and ask yourself ...Find the FULL podcast Show Notes on my website cultivatingresilientteens.com and give your daughter the support she needs to navigate these rough waters.Podcast Resources:Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social Scenarios Dr. Christine Carter shares in her book, The New Adolescence: Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Quote:  “These times can define us, diminish us, or develop us.” | Jim Kwik | Author of Limitless: Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, and Unlock Your Exceptional Life | Founder and CEO of Kwik Learning Quote: Assertive communication  Book: Fighting Invisible Tigers: A Stress Management Guide for Teens | Author Earl Hipp 

Hey parents,Is your daughter – or someone she knows – struggling right now? As a parent it can be hard to know when to step in and when to step back.But, staying silent may send the wrong message.So, what can you do when in those tricky moments when you’re just not sure?Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast where we’re going to share 4 Powerful Ways Your Teenage Daughter Can Help a Friend Who’s Struggling, because quite honestly, it’s not always easy or clear to know what to do or say.Especially because we’re all still weary from doing our best to get through the pandemic, that, as “one 16-year-old said of the generation’s pivotal moment: “Making history is way overrated.”According to a recent article in The New York Times, over five thousand young people wrote in to describe how the pandemic affected their lives and the collective sentiment was, well, consistent with what I saw in my private coaching practice.The Times states, “Being a teenager in the U.S. during the pandemic was lonely, disorienting, depressing and suffocating.”So, if your daughter or someone she knows is struggling, she’s not alone.And, although we’re making progress, we’re not out of the woods just yet.Healthy Relationships As we’ve talked about before, one of the beautiful qualities of teenage girls is, they are passionate about helping each other.The hard part is, sometimes, healthy boundaries get blurred in the process.When your daughter’s talking with a friend who’s struggling, she may:· Feel like she needs to “fix” her friend’s tough situation· Take on her friend’s stress because she believes that makes her a better friend· Struggle with her own thoughts and emotions about what’s happening· Indulge in or catastrophize the situation and create a mountain out of molehillBut, what’s most important for your daughter to understand is that healthy relationships are built on honesty, trust and being vulnerable together - NOT by taking on her friends’ problems OR feeling responsible for a solution. Be on the LookoutIf you notice a significant change in your daughter’s mood or appearance after she interacts with a friend who’s having trouble, it’s okay to recognize her effort and express your concern for your daughter’s well-being.You may say something like, “I admire your effort to be a good friend to Ella, though, I’m concerned about your well-being and how hard you may be taking this. Please let me know if YOU need someone to talk to.”Get the 4 Powerful Ways your daughter can help her friend and all of today's resources in the Show Notes on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.Podcast Resources:https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/14/briefing/one-year-in-a-pandemic.html?auth=linked-googleOne Year in a Pandemic: Your Weekend Briefing | A special edition looking at a yar of living with disruption and pain | By Remy Tumin and Jeremiah M. Bogert, Jr. | March 14, 2021Ep – 24 How to Help Your Teenage Daughter Develop What Really Matters

Hey Parents,What do the happiest teens have in common?We all have defining moments in life when we stop and think - seriously, what’s this all about?So, picture this … a line of 6th graders nervously perched in the front of the classroom. It’s time for the annual Spelling Bee.My name was called first.I gasped.The rest is a blur, well, except for laughter echoing around me.Which is why Jim Kwik, is one of my favorite resources because he reminds us, “These times can define us, diminish us, or develop us.”Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast, episode #24.Where we’re excited to give your daughter what she needs to develop her confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures, rather than feeling defined or diminished by the all the social influences, inequalities, and labels (ug, the labels!).In my private coaching practice, where I work with teenage girls from 12 years to twenty something, all over the US – there’s definitely pattern. Maybe you’re seeing this pattern too?It begins around the fifth grade; you see your daughter’s environment begin to infiltrate her sense of self and limit her potential. The Power of WordsIf you think about it like this … when your daughter hears things like:· “She deserved it” · “You’re so basic”· “Omg, that was an epic failure”It’s not easy to stand tall and design healthy social scenarios where she can thrive.Often times a concept referred to as Confirmation Bias sneaks in and offers evidence, albeit biased and irrational, to support any negative, self-defeating thoughts.And then, without really knowing – and maybe even without her consent – these thoughts become your daughters’ beliefs.A Better WaySo, I ask you, if your daughter knew how to take life’s defining moments and allow them to develop her confidence and resilience and heighten her integrity … would she be up for it?If you’re listening every week, you’re probably familiar with my Signature Coaching Program, 90 Days to a More Resilient Teen, where we tap into the four steps to cultivate a resilient teen.One of the most important steps for teenage girls is developing a strong sense of self.So if you’re a new listener, you may want to take a minute and grab the 3-2-1 Method in Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?For access to the FULL Show Notes, please visit my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/ You'll be glad you did, because when your daughter’s mind is clear, developing a strong sense of self is easy. And when it feels easy, it flows.And when it flows, it feels good.And when it feels good – it sticks.Focusing on what’s most important and then taking inspired action will stick.And that’s how you empower your teenage daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilient for all of life’s adventures. Until next week, remember, every experience you have is perfect for your growth.Podcast Resources:Book: Limitless; Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, and Unlock Your Exceptional Life | Author Jim Kwik | Founder and CEO of Kwik Learning

Hey Parents,Are you sometimes bewildered by your daughter’s friendships?This might be a little TMI, but as a sensitive teenage girl learning how to navigate the complexities of the teen girl social network, I discovered pretty quickly that there were certain people I wasn’t gonna let see ME sweat.Because being vulnerable was considered a weakness. But it turns out, that keeping certain things securely under lock and key weren’t quite as easy as I’d hoped. So, I ask you, what happens when your daughter’s toughest social challenge, her frenemy, is part of her tribe?Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast episode #23.Where we’re going to talk about two social pitfalls your daughter will want to avoid and the one simple skill that’ll keep her socially strong and steady. The FrenemyFirst, let’s touch on what a frenemy is and what it looks like for teenage girls.A ‘frenemy’ is defined as “a person that is friendly toward another because the relationship brings benefits, but harbors feelings of resentment or rivalry.” (Dictionary.com)Does this sound familiar to you? If it doesn’t, BUT, you see your daughter always trying to “fix” her social situations, you may want to share a popular article from my website, Cultivating Resilient Teens, titled, 4 Powerful Ways Your Teenage Daughter Can Help A Friend Who’s StrugglingBecause although teenage girls are passionate about helping each other, sometimes, even with the best intentions, helpful approaches can backfire. If you’re wondering …is my daughter experiencing a frenemy-like relationship, here are two examples that’ll help make sense of the frenemy dynamic.1. The frenemy is super nice when she wants to impress others, or the members in her tribe, because of the “perceived” social benefits. 2. But one-on-one or in a small group setting where there aren’t any “perceived” social benefits, the frenemy is often manipulative, overly critical, and sometimes downright verbally unkind.The hard part is this behavior is often the result of resentment or rivalry.The good news is, if you pull back the layers of resentment and rivalry, the emotions are there to help you learn and grow.That’s why we offer 3 Actionable Solutions to stop feeling jealous and create what you really want in Podcast Episode #21.Because for passionate, connection seeking teens, this is tough stuff. Find the full Show Notes on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/Although the teen girl world is complex, can be really confusing and sometimes get ugly, please remember there’s always an opportunity for your daughter to learn and grow by tuning in to her thoughts with compassion. Podcast Resources:4 Powerful Ways Your Teenage Daughter Can Help A Friend Who’s StrugglingEp -21 How to Stop Being Jealous and Teach Your Daughter to Create What She Really Wants with 3 Actionable SolutionsQuote: Eleanor Roosevelt “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”Quote: Dr. Kristin Neff “When we give ourselves compassion

Hey Parents,Have you heard?Last week’s podcast Episode #21 "How to Stop Being Jealous and Teach Your Daughter to Create What She Really Wants with 3 Actionable Solutions" seems to have let the cat out of the bag, so to speak.It sparked a lot of honest and vulnerable conversations because, as parents you know that:the painful emotions that come up around jealousy and the feelings of defeat that the comparison gremlins bring oncan be especially hard for teenage girls.But the good news is, your daughter doesn't have to feel debilitated by these big emotions.Today's podcast episode #22 will help your daughter see:she's not aloneand give her what SHE needs to feel confident enough to take inspired action.And, handle life's adversities and adventures with integrity.None of us are immune to feeling big emotions - especially the ANGST that comes from jealousy and comparison.That’s why we’re sharing the ANSWERS to the two key questions that came out of episode #21.Q: “What do you mean when you say, don’t be afraid of your emotions?”Q: “What can you do to stay calm the moment, when you feel super jealous?”Your daughter deserves to have simple, doable actions that will move her from stuck to clear minded to motivated.Watching your daughter bloom is one of the greatest gifts a parent gets to experience.Let’s make sure your daughter has what she needs.In this together,Shawna :)Did you miss Ep. 21? LISTEN IN: Ep -21 How to Stop Being Jealous and Teach Your Daughter to Create What She Really Wants with 3 Actionable SolutionsPodcast Resources:Ep -21 How to Stop Being Jealous and Teach Your Daughter to Create What She Really Wants with 3 Actionable Solutions90 Days to a More Resilient TeenEpisode #14 Your Top Question for 2020 Answered “How Can I Help My Teenage Daughter Feel More Confident?”Discover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures?

Hey Parents, Is it possible for your daughter to stop comparing herself and create what SHE really wants?Yes - that's the good news.However, I'm hearing A LOT from my private coaching clients that the vast majority of teenage girls are in need of simple, actionable solutions to create:a stronger sense of selfmore happiness with who she isand true connections with her peersBecause there's a detrimental combination going on ...comparison + assumptions = confidence killerAs parents, you know there's a natural curiosity to look around and assess yourself with others.The challenge here, is that so many teenage girls are comparing themselves so deeply that they're losing the ability to discover who they are and what makes them happy.And the excessive self-criticism and irrational thoughts are causing embarrassing, socially anxious symptoms, such as:upset stomachshaky voicedifficulty talkingblushingIf your daughter experiences a situation similar to this, chances are, she'll go back to looking for connection on-line, where the comparison trap re-starts this vicious cycle. And rather than telling your daughter, “you’re just as smart, pretty or athletic as so-and-so.”Grab the 3 Actionable Solutions, the work of two renowned authors and researchers, and give your daughter the tools she needs to create what SHE really wants.Podcast Resources:Dr. Susan David | Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change and Thrive in Work and LifeDr. John Media | Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home and SchoolYouTube Video | Marie Forleo with Catherine Collautt, Ph.D. | 4 Steps to Overcome a Devastating SetbackEpisode #20 Have You Figured Out Where Your Sweet Little Girl is Going? Two New Resources That’ll Help Ease Her Journey into Adulthood

Hey Parents, Have you figured out where your sweet little girl is going?That's not a trick question.But, I'll admit, it can be a little tricky to answer.When I recorded my first podcast, Episode #1 Are You Wondering Where Your Sweet Little Girl Went? 5 Hints to Solve the Mystery I wasn't sure anyone would even listen to it. Though, it seems to be a fan favorite, and I'm thinking it may be because as your daughter:begins to build her tribe outside the family and emphatically engages you in “discussions” regarding your parenting approachyou’re thinking, “oh boy, what now?”But I want to assure you that, just like the 5 hints in episode one helped you get a much-needed glimpse into your daughter's teen-girl world, the Two New Resources we’re offering today will help ease her transition into adulthood.If your daughter is like most teens, you’re likely seeing her: exploring her true identity trying out different personasand stretching (or retracting) her wings It’s no secret that the self-discovery road isn’t always smooth sailin.’ It certainly wasn’t for me.Though, as your daughter develops a strong sense of self, it’ll make it a little easier and safer to try out new friend groups and activitiesAnd because, simple tools that feel doable promote lasting growth, I'm excited to share today’s two new resources with you:Finding your FlowDitching Habitual AutopilotThey're designed to help your daughter gather all the great gems on her path to adulthood.Go ahead and head over to my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/ for the full Podcast and complete Show Notes.Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen,Shawna :)Podcast Resources:Episode #1 Are You Wondering Where Your Sweet Little Girl Went? 5 Hints to Solve the MysteryEpisode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Article in Vice.com | Why You Should Talk to Yourself in the Third Person | by Shayla Love | 12.28.2020 | YouTube Video | Marie Forleo with Catherine Collautt, Ph.D. | 4 Steps to Overcome a Devastating Setback

Hey Parents,If you were to describe your family in one word, what would it be?I still remember my nervous excitement the day I went in to talk with my doctor about my husband and I starting a family.And her response wasn’t what I expected.She said … “So, you’re ready to give up your 'sick days' for the rest of forever?”Oh, I hadn’t quite thought of it like that.Nor did I have any idea about how dynamic raising a family would be – especially the teenage years!Because, as you know, and you’ve probably heard this before … it’s exciting to watch your daughter grow into her own person, AND it’s hard to let go and lose control. Welcome back to Episode #19Today’s conversation wraps up my Signature Coaching System, 4 Steps to Cultivate Resilient Teens.If you haven’t yet listened to the 3 previous episodes:· Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social Scenarios· Episode #17 2 Key Tips Every Teen Needs to Create a Meaningful Educational Experience· Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?I think you’ll find them helpful because cultivating a resilient teen is a bit like solving a puzzle – and the previous episodes include pieces you’ll need.Fostering a Connective Family LifeOkay, today we’re inviting you to:· dust off your parenting superpowers - whether you’ve forgotten where they are or they’re covid fatigued· and reignite your mojo – those innate gifts that reside in your hard working, dedicated parenting heartBecause after years of doing this work, I’ve identified two core family values that, when present, foster a connective family life.1. Having a home environment where everyone can be themselves2. Learning how to find common ground (aka - learning how to peacefully navigate the endless differences of opinion)Getting stuck in the WeedsBut there are a few sticky points that are worth mentioning.Most people enter into a conversation thinking they’re right and the other person is wrong. So, naturally your daughter may think … if only you would see things the way she does, there’d be peace in the valley. And you think, if only she’d listen to you and see the bigger picture – she could save herself a lot of grief and potential pitfalls. And before you know it, words of disagreement are a flyin’ and emotions are a blazin’ – as you both try your best to change the other person’s perspective.And, if you’re like most families, you find yourselves stuck in the weeds and miles away from your key issue or a solution.3 Superpower’s You Need to Foster a Connective Family Life Believe me, I get it.As a parent I’ve made my fair share of mistakes – and I’m not immune to ups and downs.However, it’s not helpful or healthy to repeat the same mistakes. And you definitely don’t want to let anger or yelling become your knee-jerk reaction.So, let’s go over the 3 Superpower’s you need to Foster A Connective Family Life (spoiler alert: you already possess them!)Head over to my website, Cultivating Resili

Hey Parents,What’s the one thing your daughter has in common with millions of teenage girls around the world?Every morning when she reaches for her phone - she shares one unmistakable intention! In this weeks podcast, we tackle a topic that can sometimes feel overwhelming and painful for teeange girls (and their parents!)How to build authentic, fun, healthy friendships.As parents of teenage girls, you’re probably noticing that finding and keeping good friends IS the name of the game right now.Designing healthy social scenarios is one of the most important rites-of-passage your daughter will encounter over the next few years. And, the good news is, she CAN learn how to build friendships that feel safe and good to her. But first, she'll need to know what the two biggest elements that have the power to derail or create a great connection.Sorting facts from FictionBeing authentically youYou'll want to LISTEN IN > 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social ScenariosHere's to cultivating a more resilient teen,Shawna :)PS - Have you heard? “I love that the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast is short enough for busy parents to digest in bits. It’s so helpful to take in a smaller amount of information and apply it instead of feeling overwhelmed by hearing all about the things I should be doing and feeling incapacitated.”Podcast Resources:Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager5 Simple Questions That Will Set Your Teenager Up for SuccessCharles Schultz, “Be yourself, no one can say you’re doing it wrong.”Book: Steal the Show by New York Times Best-Selling author Michael PortYou'll find the full show notes on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/

Hey Parents,Is something really good about to happen for your teenage daughter?Welcome back to Episode #17Where we’re diving into part two, creating meaningful educational experiences, of the four-part series that addresses my signature coaching system, 4 steps to cultivating resilient teens.Because, as parents, how many times have you thought …I just want my daughter to be happy and live up to her greatest potential - I know she has what it takes!But creating a meaningful educational experience isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach.There are several variables that come into play, such as, your daughter’s … Learning environmentApproach or style of learningHer sense of self (the first of this series in case you missed it)And her past experiencesAnd the list goes on.But guess what?You’re right, your daughter has what it takes to reach her full academic potential.And we’re going to identify two blocks that get in the way for most teenagers and offer you 2 Key Tips to avoid them.Get the 2 Key Tips and find the full show notes at https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/Podcast Resources:Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?Episode #11 Help Your Daughter Stay Focused in a World Full of Distractions with a 3 Step SolutionThe New Psychology of Success, How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential by Carol Dweck, Ph.D.The Gifts of Imperfection, Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown

Hey Parents,Is it possible for your daughter to solve her problems with the same thinking she used when she created them?According to Albert Einstein, the answer is no.But could he be wrong?How about … we let your daughter decide?Welcome back to episode #16This is the first episode in a 4-part podcast series where we’re going to solve bite sized teen girl issues with my Signature Coaching System, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen.So, you and your daughter walk away with actionable, clear strategies and tips.Develop a Strong Sense of SelfThe first Step is Developing a Strong Sense of SelfIt’s an important place to start because if you think about it, every single thing your daughter says and does - her attitude, her happiness, her motivation, her success - all revolve around how she:· sees herself · what she thinks about herself· and how she talks to and about herselfAnd building a solid personal foundation will impact her personal power and the choices she makes as she creates a life she loves. It’s about your daughter taking the time to understand who she is and what she needs from the inside out.And the best way to do that is the 3-2-1 Method.Listen in to get the tips to the 3-2-1 Method and set your teenage daughter up for success by giving her the tools to develop a strong sense of self. Podcast Resources:Blog: You Want to Make a Change in Your Life? It Starts by Making a Different Choice | Posted 3.16.18 | blog.drjoedispenza.comDr. Joe Dispenza | Stress is Killing You | This is Why and What to Do | YouTubeEpisode #12 A Simpler Way for Your Teenage Daughter to Be Happier90-Minute Breakthrough Session90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program.

Hey Parents,Does your teenage daughter feel like life is just happening TO her?If she’s super spunky one minute and grouchy and grumbling the next, she may be riding this wild roller coaster.So today we’re going to offer you and your daughter, what I affectionately call the Mood Maintenance Toolkit.Because if your daughter is constantly responding with a fiery, knee-jerk reaction – especially in messy situations – you’ll want to guide her away from this habit.As parents, you’re probably well aware of how hard it is to know what to say because by the time you’ve come up with a thoughtful response, well, the situation’s already swinging in another direction. Here’s an example parents have shared with me, that may sound familiar to you … When my daughter gets a lot of likes, compliments, or invites - her mood is awesome – she’s playful and lighthearted.And then when someone doesn’t respond the way she hoped they would, if she’s not tagged in a post, or if she feels left out of a gathering - her mood is dreadful and she’s suddenly depressed and unresponsive to me.Ah, as humans it’s a natural response to feel great when someone praises you.And, on the flip side, it’s natural to feel disappointed and hurt when you don’t feel seen and heard.The hard part is, although the highs may be exhilarating in the moment, the downs instantly zap your daughter’s mood, wreck her motivation and leave her totally exhausted.And, I don’t know about you, but my clients tell me they’re sick of riding the emotional rollercoaster – especially when it comes to social media. So, if your daughter is like most teenagers, not only does the rollercoaster ride make her feel like she’s lost all control, but it can also lead to behaviors and responses that your daughter will later regret.The Mood Maintenance ToolkitSo, let’s equip your daughter with the Mood Maintenance Kit.Because when she’s able to maintain her mood and motivation – she’ll go from ‘meh’ to ‘heck ya’!The Kit contains:3 Questions 2 Mantra’s1 Key WordAnd it taps into the benefits social and emotional intelligence – giving your daughter the power to respond in a way that feels good and motivates her!Head over to my website Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast and listen to the full podcast or grab the show notes.Because, when your daughter takes the time to …Be honest about who she is making decisions for - and whyRecognize that she has a strong resiliency muscle inside herAnd when she truly EMBRACES her progress (and not someone else’s)She’ll begin to SEE that life IS happening FOR her.

Hey Parents, If you could "gift" your daughter anything right now, what would it be?I’m asking because, well, ‘tis the season for personal and spiritual growth as you celebrate the holidays that are meaningful to you and your family.As a parent and teen coach, I feel incredibly blessed with the gift of connecting with you in this way and to share your daughter’s ‘ah-ha’ moments and personal growth.But, as you know, with growth and expansion come challenging questions.And when you combine your daughter’s ever-changing adolescent landscape with the teen-girl rites of passage, it can be tough to find clarity and strategies that work.Welcome back to Episode #14Where today we’re going to focus on setting your daughter up for success by addressing your top question of 2020.And that question is … “How can I help my daughter feel more confident?”There are so many different scenarios where this question applies.I want to share a few that I’ve heard because they may sound familiar for you, too… “My daughter is going into high school; how can I help her be more self-confident?”“My daughter is trying out for the soccer team, how can I help build her confidence, so she walks in feeling ready?”“My daughter really wanted to join a certain club at school and didn’t get accepted - as you might imagine, this wrecked her confidence. What’s the best way to boost her back up so she can feel good about herself and keep going?”As you can see, these are REAL life experiences that’ll influence the choices and decisions your daughter makes going forward.So, what’s the best way to help your daughter feel more confident?Tune in to today's podcast and get the 3 Key Strategies that'll help your daughter's confidence soar!LISTEN IN: https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/Podcast Resources:https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/grit-your-daughters-new-superpower/GRIT The POWER of PASSION and PERSERVANCE | Angela DuckworthPost Traumatic GrowthRoot Word of the Dayhttps://membean.com/wrotds/fid-trust

Hey Parents,What’s the best way to support your daughter if she hasn’t found her “just right” tribe? As a caring, resourceful, and hard-working parent, if this question is keeping you up at night, you’re not alone.Welcome back to Episode #13Where we’re going to answer this question because it can be tough to know if …· It’s time to address certain friend or peer issues · or if it’s best to step back and give your daughter some spaceIn my private coaching practice, I’m often asked by parents, just like you, what’s the best way to support your daughter as she begins to spread her beautiful, independent wings, and establish a tribe outside the family.As you know, raising teenagers isn’t a one-size-fits-all kind of experience, though, over the years, I’ve noticed patterns emerge as teenage girls begin the tribe building rite-of-passage.And I want to share that information with you so you and your daughter can make the best decisions for her health and wellbeing.One of the first signs that your daughter is ready to discover who she is outside the family is she’ll begin to prioritize time with her friends, over family time.That’s why, ideally, her tribe will:share common interests, values, and goalsembrace each other’s uniquenessand encourage individual greatnessBut what if she doesn’t find a tribe that honors and appreciates her value?This can get a little tricky.So, let’s identify the 3 signs that may indicate your daughter hasn’t found her just right tribe yet and how to support her.You'll find the full show notes on my website https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/

Can one magical moment in time make your daughter happier?I believe it can! Welcome back to Episode #12Where we’re going to get a little personal for the sake of guiding your daughter around the proverbial dark hole – a life lesson that wasn’t exactly graceful for me. I’m going to begin by asking you kind of fiery question – and you’ll understand why once we get this conversation going.Is possible that your teenage daughter too stubborn to change?Well, I certainly was.And blurring the lines between loyalty and certainty didn’t help me, either. Because here’s the thing about growing up - sometimes we get stuck in our own thinking.We believe …I’m this or I’m that OR I’m good at this and terrible at that. In my case, my stubborn pride kept me thinking … I’m a loyal person.And loyal people stay in relationships and make them work.But, as you probably know, life and relationships don’t really work that way.And when things didn’t exactly go well, I did what so many teenagers do.I spent countless hours hoping, wishing, and thinking “if only” the circumstances were different, then I’d be happy. And “if only” this person would just see things my way, our relationship will work out.Well, it’s probably not surprising to hear this relationship was a complete roller coaster.Until one day, when my magical moment came along.Thankfully, one of my greatest mentors, my mom, shared a short story with me.It was Portia Nelson’s Autobiography in Five Short Chapters.I may have been more annoyed than grateful, but this little book was the catalyst that nudged me to:Take responsibility for the choices I’d been making in my relationshipAnd acknowledge it was time to change – change my behavior – you know, all the things that were frustrating me. So, if your teenage daughter is:Ignoring or short cutting her needsConstantly making excuses to justify some of her choicesOr lingering in a relationship where she feels disrespected and undervaluedYou’ll want to listen to this podcast together!Honestly, looking back, I’m not sure how many times I walked right into the deep hole before I finally decided to go around, and eventually, chose a completely different path.What I can tell you - is that once I realized, Even though being loyal is a lovely trait, my stubborn beliefs skewed the big picture.What I was craving was · a sense of certainty that things would work out· And that amazing feeling that comes with true love and connectionSo now, I ask you … what would you do?Is your daughter open to looking at habits that may be keeping her from what she truly wants and needs?If she’s ready, here’s some intel on what helps my clients create positive change.You'll find all the important details on my Website, Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.I’m excited to connect with you all again next Tuesday.

I’m so glad you’re here because today we’re going to talk about something your daughter’s probably doing every single day.I’m guilty of it and, honestly, you might be too.Welcome back to episode #11Where you and your daughter are going to need two things:· your sense of humor· and a dose of honest self-reflectionBecause it’s no secret that we live in a world full of distractions.And, well, sometimes, we get totally sucked into the noisy vortex without even realizing it.That’s why I want to introduce you to a concept call Continuous Partial Attention or CPA.The concept, continuous partial attention was coined in 1998, by a researcher named Linda Stone, who, while working for Microsoft, noticed that many people in the tech industry worked with a split focus.Meaning that, as they were working on an important task, they were also receiving partial input from a variety of other sources. Fast forward to 2020 and the introduction of full or part time at-home learning.A laptop or chrome book in front of your daughter several hours a day.She’s bored, she desperately misses her classmates, friends and teachersSoooo, she starts playing Among Us, while …· simultaneously Snap Chatting her buddies· scrolling through TiKTok or Instagram· finish up a bit of overlooked homework· googling something that wasn’t clear to her· daydreaming about all the fun things she misses about schoolAnd wa-la, her brain is receiving and processing input from several different sourcesSo, it no surprise that when it’s time to complete an assignmentShe thinks, “I can’t concentrate on this”And googles “Do I have ADD?”That's why I want to offer you and your daughter a 3 Step Solution so she can stay focused in a world full of distractions. Find the 3 Step Solution and the full Podcast on my website:https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/Podcast Resources:Podcast Episode #8 Put an End to the Teenage Comparison Trap and Build Rock Solid ResilienceSocial Buddy | How Much Time Do People Spend on Social Media?

Hey parents, welcome back to Episode #10 - today’s episode is short and sweet.And I’m doing something I’ve never done before, I’m bypassing the originally scheduled podcast for a couple reasons.First, it’s been a tough couple weeks for most teenagers.My clients, their families, our friends, my family, no one is immune from covid fatigue.And as much as I’m ready to deliver some good news, I feel the need to share something with you that’s incredibly important and especially relevant right now.Honestly, it hurts my heart that we even have to talk about this, but as I was making dinner the other night, the nightly news was playing in the background.And, my ears perked up when I heard them talking about the suicide of a young boy and I immediately recognized the father’s voice.It’s a heart wrenching video that’s had over a hundred million views - so maybe you’ve seen it, too?Not only did it catch my attention, but the statistics that followed, really pulled on my parental heart strings.Now, as a parent of teenagers, I can certainly understand that it’s tough to know what’s "developmentally normal” because of the nature of the adolescent landscape.The …intense feelingshormonal fluctuationsand all the other mental and emotional rites of passagecan definitely make it feel like a guessing game sometimes.However, NOW, more than ever, I want to encourage you to keep a keen eye on your teenager and not dismiss the ups and downs as “just a stage.”And here’s why…the statistics from the NBC nightly news on Tuesday, November 17th stated that “11 to 17-year-old’s have been more likely to experience symptoms of anxiety and depression during the pandemic.”So, if there was ever a time to have those hard conversations about anxiety, disappointment, sadness, suicide, or self-harm, it’s now.And, if you’re like most parents, it can be really challenging to know HOW to have one of those tough conversations.Try these 3 Easy Conversation Starters and help your daughter stay afloat during the covid-19 pandemic. Please remember, active listening is key.The 3 Conversation Starter question's are:1. When you think about everything that covid has changed for you, what’s the hardest or weirdest thing?2. What do your friends think about what’s going on?3. If you could change anything in your life right now, what would it be?Of course, it’s ideal to have an in-person conversation, though it’s not always realistic.And sometimes it may be easier to bring things up or get things started via text or an emailed note - find what works for you.And if you’re just not comfortable with this or just not sure what’s going on with your teenager, that’s okay.You’re definitely not alone.But DO find someone who can help and support you.Lastly, the experts at the Child Mind Institute, things you’ll want to be aware of are:behavioral and personality changesangsty, irritable or withdrawn behavioror if your teen talks about dying or deathAs we move into the holidays, especially the Thanksgiving holiday here in the United States, I want to say Thank You; I'm so grateful to each and every one of you for listening every week and sharing this podcast.Podcast Resources:Find the full descriptions and direct links on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/NBC Nightly News Broadcast | 11.17.2020 | America Under Pressure SeriesChild Mind Institute | Mental Health America / October 2020 |National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

Hey parents,Welcome back to episode #9Before we dive into today’s episode I wanted to take a minute to say thank so much for reaching out and letting me know how valuable episodes #7 and 8 were for you and your daughter.It’s not always easy to talk about the tough stuff, especially right now, with so many teenagers trying to navigate the back-and-forth-to-school and keeping their spirits up even though they’re missing out on so many important rites of passageThe upside is there’s definitely some solace in knowing that you’re not alone.We all struggle with what to do sometimes, but INDECISION can become an epidemic in the teenage years because there’s a lot at stake.Chances are, there’s been a time or two when you’ve had an interaction with your daughter that looks something like you asking … “why don’t you stop scrolling through your phone and make some plans with your friends? And then you either hear crickets, catch a sideways glance, or hear a muttered, “uh, I don’t know.”But, I think it’s important for you to know that “I don’t know” IS a real response.And it can mean many, many things, depending on if your daughter has been hurt by her friends in the pastor if her tribe is in the midst of some tribal unrestSo even though your daughter really wants that happy, connected feeling, taking a risk – socially and emotionally right now - may feel like too much.But the good news is, she CAN definitely learn to move through her “I don’t know” and confidently make a decision, no matter how difficult her situation may be.First, I’d like to encourage her to try the 3 Practical Approaches we talked about in Episode #5 How to Turn Your Daughter’s Fears into Opportunities to Grow.One of the best ways to bust through the walls of indecision and feel confident about her decisions is to combine the 3 Practical Approaches and to equip your daughter with-The Choice Tool. The Choice Tool helps your daughter get really clear about what her intentions arewhat she wantsand what she needsso she can make a decision that feels good to her.The Choice Tool is 3 Key Questions: How important this decision is to you?Who are you making this decision for?What will you do if things go exactly as planned OR don’t quite go the way you’d hoped they would?Head over to my website Cultivating Resilient Teens to learn how to put the 3 Key Questions into practice. You can also grab a complimentary Discovery Session.Or, I’m now offering a 90 Minute Strategy Session.And be sure to listen in next week because we’re going to offer you a few really important tips that’ll help your daughter stay focused in a world full of distractions.Podcast Resources:Episode #5 How to Turn Your Daughter’s Fears into Opportunities to GrowGrab a complimentary Discovery Session90 Minutes to Clarity and Strategies that Workwith Shawna Warner

Hey Parents,What happens when your teenage daughter “harmlessly” looks around her social media accounts?Today we’re going to talk about what the comparison trap looks like for teenage girls and how to put an end to this harmful habit. I’m not sure I know anyone who hasn’t gotten totally stuck in the comparison trap at least once. Because it’s totally natural to be curious about what life is like for other people.And my clients have shared that with all the covid restrictions still in place, the amount of time they spend looking around the internet has really increased.But here’s the hard part, if your daughter is consistently absorbing everyone else’s high points, without mindful supervision, all while she’s trying to find her place in this world, it can really muddle her sense of self and wreck her self-confidence. So, rather than always feeling like you’re always trying to ‘build yourself back up,' let’s give your daughter ONE SIMPLE STRATEGY that’ll help build rock-solid resilience.Recently, my clients say their screen time is way up.So, not surprisingly, it's causing all sorts of what feels like anxiety, depression and ADD.Ahhh, so if you’re wondering HOW one gets caught in the comparison trap – there’s your ANSWER.The mindless quest for one sweet little dose of dopamine. Unfortunately, rather than getting that dose of happiness she craves; she ends up absorbing… a zillion images of people who appear oh so happy, the way she wants to feeland a bunch of lovely places that, if she were just there, would make her feel betterI probably don’t have to tell you this is tough, even for confident teens.As Developmental Molecular Biologist, Dr. John Medina reminds us, “Most of us have no idea what’s really going on inside our heads.”That’s why it’s so important for your daughter to learn MINDFUL MONITORING.Mindful monitoring is the art of paying attention to the thoughts and feelings that are running through your daughter’s head while she’s taking in the images and happenings of the world around her.Dr. Susan David, the author of Emotionally Agility, “our raw feelings can be the messengers we need to teach us things about ourselves and can prompt insights into important life directions.”So, let’s make sure your daughter practices mindful monitoring and gathers her golden nuggets whenever she scrolls.You can also deepen your daughter's social and emotional skill set with this article, published in Thrive Global, “How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager 5 Simple Questions That Will Set Your Teenager Up for Success (https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/) Next week we'll help your daughter make confident decisions with one reliable tool.Podcast ResourcesDevelopmental Molecular Biologist | Dr. John Medina |Brain Rules, 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home and SchoolDr. Susan David | Emotional Agility Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager 5 Simple Questions That Will Set Your Teenager Up for Success

Hey parents,Are you raising a highly sensitive teenager?Welcome back to Episode #7 where we’re going to explore some of the characteristics of a highly sensitive person and offer you an antidote that cultivate her resiliency and empower even the most sensitive young lady to firmly advocate for herself. Let’s begin with a snapshot of what it means to be a highly sensitive person.Author and Researcher Elaine Aron coined the term “highly sensitive person” in the early 1990’s.And offers these initial questions so you can get a feel for if your daughter may be sensitive.Aaron asks … Do you get rattled when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?Do you make a point of avoiding violent movies and TV shows?Do you make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?When you were a child, did your parents or teachers see you as sensitive or shy?If these questions and scenarios sound familiar to you, you and your daughter may want to listen to this episode together.Because it’s important for her to recognize that you’re not alone and, sometimes life can send confusing messages, such as:· busy, stressed out people are often viewed as more productive or more successful· and constantly being on emotional overload is just part of the teenage landscapeAh, I probably don’t need to tell you that chronic stress and emotional overload don’t make you more productive or more successful.So, rather than your daughter feeling exhausted and overwhelmed and trying to self-soothe with food, alcohol or massive amounts of media, lets offer her an ANTIDOTE.The antidote is Self – K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E.Okay, let’s dive in by breaking down the word KNOWLEDGE.K – know that it is OKAY to for your daughter to say NO to requests that don’t fit her core values. N – never underestimate your ability to do anything – you can always combat your fear with courage.O – own the messages your instincts are telling you. W – wonder about which environment is most conducive to your learning style.L – love yourself wholeheartedly by recognizing you have many, many layers. E – explore your unique gifts with a sense of curiosity. D – discover where you can “find your people” or your tribe.G – get honest with yourself about what you need.E – enlist family and friends to support you.Here’s the deal, when your daughter is able to embrace who she is, she’ll feel more confident to:advocate for herselftackle difficult conversationswelcome life’s new adventuresAnd there are so many adventures ahead of her.

Hey Parents,What’s the relationship like between your teenage daughter and her pesky inner critic?Welcome back to Episode #6Where my inner critic is very much alive and well every time, I step up to my microphone. So I worked through the 3 simple steps I’m going to share with you today.Because when you’re feeling self-confident, you have the energy to successfully move through life’s daily challenges. I’d like to dive in by asking if you’ve heard the saying “be careful how you talk to yourself because you’re listening?”When I posted that quote on my Cultivating Resilient Teens Instagram feed, it got more likes than my puppy!So, if your daughter is wondering why she needs to understand her inner critic …Well, here’s why … it has a HUGE impact on how she thinks, feels, and responds to life’s ups and downs.The good news is your daughter can learn to COLLABORATE with her inner critic and build her self-confidence one step at a time.Find Episode 5 and the full show notes on my website cultivatingresilientteens.com

Are your daughter’s FEARS preventing her from reaching her true potential?Fear can be a powerful force – and rattle even the most confident teenager.As parents, you know that learning to navigate fear and uncertainty are just part of life – and 2020 just keeps on challenging and pushing us.That’s why, alongside all the covid related stuff, I’m noticing an uptick in breadth and depth fear is having on my clients.My clients are sharing that the everyday stuff feels heavier, like …Not living up to their parents’ standards or other people’s expectationsDisappointing herself by setting a goal and feeling like she failed to reach itBeing rejected by her peers, either at school or in sports or clubsMaking a stupid mistake in front of others (oh gosh, haven’t we all been there done that, I know I have, more than once!)And having a label put on her that she must live up to or defendSo, what happens when your daughter’s emotional plate is full or overflowing?It’s called emotional overload.That’s when her fight, flight or fear stress response takes control over her thoughts and behavior.Rather than allowing, dismissing, or overlooking all that she’s experiencing right now, let’s give her to 3 Practical Approaches she can easily practice anytime, any day to turn her fears into opportunities to grow.The first approach is to: Get QuietIt’s so easy to multi-task your day away, but that drains your energy pretty quickly.Give your body and brain a break by “closing all the tabs” you have open in your mind by focusing on one simple task for a few minutes.The Second Approach is to: Get CuriousIf you think of it this way, you fear is speaking to you, whether you want it to or not.So, what’s the best way to understand what’s happening inside your mind and body?To become a curious observer.Okay, the third approach is to: Get FunkyHere’s the thing, there’s likely something inside your daughter’s head that’s telling her, it’s time to do things differently.This may sound a little silly, though, have you heard unofficial definition of insanity?It’s doing the same thing over and over BUT expecting a different result.Anyhow, if you look at these 3 Practical Approaches – what do they have in common?They’re simple.So, don’t overthink them – but don’t underestimate them either. Show Notes:Episode #4 Why it’s Important to Make Your Daughter’s Mental Health a PriorityDiscover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures?

What’s the best way for your teenage daughter to hang on to her fierce emotions without losing her cool?Welcome back to Episode #4.Today we’re going to give you 3 simple, effective Tips that’ll help your teenage daughter keep her cool in the heat of the moment and feel really darn good about who she is.As you probably know by now, teenage girls are undoubtedly some of the most passionate people on earth.And it would almost be cruel to ask your daughter to water herself down because her fierce emotions are what allow her to deeply connect with the people that are most important to her.But WHAT HAPPENS when someone she deeply cares about; someone she trusts, lies to her or about her?Or what’s your daughter supposed to do if she feels like she’s been intentionally left out of a gathering?This is really tough stuff for connection seeking teens.And can leave your daughter feeling humiliated, betrayed -or worse -like she’s inhaled a bag of Flamin’ Hot Cheetos. You know that:…glowing red face…slight buzzing in the ears…churning stomachWe’ve all been there - when emotional overload strikes, and everything just shuts down.That’s why you need a plan of action so your daughter’s frontal lobe – the voice of logic and reason – can stay activated. Tune in today so you and your teenage daughter can start using the 3 Simple, Effective Tips today.

Is your teenage daughter’s lack of engagement right now making you feel like you’re at a bit of a loss?And not quite sure how to handle things? For many of my clients, and honestly myself included, that unsettling feeling you get when things feel out of control can really strike a loud emotional cord.Because when if your daughter isn’t really talking to you, it’s super easy to make assumptions.As parents, it’s a natural tendency to push, pull and plea, just to get a glimpse into her world.So, if you’re wondering …Yes, some of the rumors are true, parenting a teenage girl can make you feel like you’re balancing on the wobbly slope-of-uncertainty.Because she’s establishing her tribe outside the family and relying on her friends, rather than you, for advice.But, please - don’t be fooled by her aloof attitude, eye rolls or sass.And, don’t hand in your resignation just yet.It’s one hundred percent true that unraveling her behavior can be challenging.I want to offer you a tool that’ll give you some clarity.It’ll help you understand:· what’s developmentally normal · where your daughter’s thriving· and where she may want to raise her emotional awareness So, she can be as happy as she wants and deserves to be.You can find this tool on my websiteCultivatingresilientteens.comThe link to the Quiz is easy to find on my home page.Discover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures?

Does your teenage daughter avoid certain people or situations?Today we’re going to explore what it takes to raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager.And give you 5 questions that’ll help her confidently walk into any situation. Because, as you know, teenage girls are very social creatures. And, creating solid connections IS the name of the game.But sometimes it can be tough to…· reach out to prospective new friend · join a group activity · or insert yourself into a social situation.Especially if she feels she’s invisible or like they’re intentionally leaving her out Because if there’s one thing I hear from my clients regularly, it’s that even if she really wants to belong, it’s hard to constantly take that social and emotional risk and put yourself “out there.”Thankfully, with the introduction of Social and Emotional Intelligence in many schools, it’s gotten easier to talk about the importance of understanding your daughter’s internal operating system.You can find the full article titled, How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com or on Thrive Global and Medium, the publication.

Have you thought much about what’s it like to be a teenage girl these days?We're we’re going to dive into a 5-step Guide that going to help your daughter grasp the power of choice and influence she has over her life.· between the perception warping world of social media literally at their fingertips 24/7· an often-unsettling daily dose of pandemic uncertainty · and the makings of a new AmericaIt’s no wonder the stress and anxiety levels for teenagers are skyrocketing right now.Our society often sends young women really mixed messages like:· be bold yet respectful· be nice but not a pushover· be purposeful without sounding arrogantSO, what’s it going to take to break these barriers and make it easier for your daughter to · speak out and feel heard?· and find her place in the world?Well, let’s start with a SELF-ADVOCACY GUIDE that’ll teach your teenage daughter how to use her most powerful tool and set herself up for success.So, let’s give your daughter the tools to· Stand tall· Confidently deal with society’s mixed messages By using the most powerful tool she has – speaking her truth.To see the full Self-Advocacy Guide visit cultivatingresilientteens.com and click on Blogs.You'll also find it posted under: Your Teens Sense of Self

If you’re raising a teenage daughter, this podcast is for you. As you know, it’s truly exciting to watch your teenage daughter grow into her own person.And, it’s hard to let go and it’s hard to lose control.And at the same time, your daughter needs space to build her tribe outside the family.Because, honestly, that’s where she uncovers her unique gifts.With everything going on these days, Who doesn’t need a whole lot of resilience?Not only to navigate all the media platforms and shifting friend groups, but also to manage all the teen girl world rites of passage.That’s why this podcast will offer you a lot of practical guidance, tools and strategies. So, you can be the parent you want to be and help your teenage daughter easily navigate the everyday challenges that come with being a teenage girl these days.We’re going to cover it all … How to support her when she feels left out or hasn’t found her just right tribe.What to do when she won’t talk to you or everything’s an argument.And, what’s “normal” and when to be concerned.Because I want you to have the right tools for the task at hand.After years of working with teens, including raising our three teenagers.I’ve identified 4 Key Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen: · Developing a strong sense of self· Creating meaningful educational experiences· Fostering a connective family life· Designing healthy social scenariosSo each week we’re going to dive into a bite sized issue and give you doable tools – all in 15 minutes or less.I know you just want your daughter to be happy.But you’re busy and your time is valuable.Trust me, I get you.I’m Shawna Warner, the host of the cultivating resilient teens podcast.And a parent to three amazing, challenging, thoughtful and rapidly growing teenagersThrough my background in clinical social work (MSW) and plenty of parenting mistakes, I’ve come to realize that no matter how resourceful and loving you are it truly takes a village to raise confident, well-adjusted human beings. You can’t do it all on your own.Go to cultivatingresilientteens.comWhere you’ll find the show notes and blogs full of great tips, tools and strategies that you can put into practice today.