Podcasts about embrace who you are

Astro themes of October! (00:01:33) October 1st - 2nd: Correction.  The Sun Mercury cazimi and the Libra eclipse - Something is wrong. (00:02:42) October 3rd - 7th: Analysis.  Mercury square Mars creating challenge in decision making. (00:04:07) October 8th - 13th: Intuition Mercury in Libra trine Jupiter in Gemini - Manifesting time! (00:07:11) October 14th - 19th: The beginning of transformation Venus opposite Uranus - What or who is draining your wealth and energetic resources? (00:12:34) October 20th - 24th: Refinement Mercury trine Saturn rx - Get clear headed on things. (00:15:30) October 25th - 31st: Picking your battles Mars sextile Uranus - A boost of freedom Books!!! (00:18:19) Aries Book Picks: Purpose, destiny and evolution of networks. The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion by Elle Luna. The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference by Malcolm Gladwell. (00:19:05) Taurus Book Picks: Being unapologetically the self and evolution of your professional goals. Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown The Lean Startup: How Today's Entrepreneurs Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses by Eric Ries (00:19:50) Gemini Book Picks: Making your own luck and intense spiritual growth The Luck Factor: The Four Essential Principles by Richard Wiseman The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer (00:20:20) Cancer Book Picks: Innovative visions and or Financial transformation Creative Confidence: Unleashing the Creative Potential Within Us All by Tom Kelley and David Kelley You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero (00:21:07) Leo Book Picks: Rebirth in alliances and the evolution of connections with others. Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. by Brené Brown The Power of Connection: How Relationships Help Us Heal by Dr. David F. Drake (00:21:51) Virgo Book Picks: Deep focus on wellness and health regeneration. How Not to Die: Discover the Foods Scientifically Proven to Prevent and Reverse Disease by Dr. Michael Greger Lifeforce: How New Breakthroughs in Precision Medicine Can Transform the Quality of Your Life & Those You Love by Tony Robbins (00:22:53) Libra Book Picks: Taking a risk in making changes Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown The Art of Risk: The New Science of Courage, Caution, and Chance by Kayt Sukel (00:23:44) Scorpio Book Picks: Power struggles in work and/or family and rebirth of emotional foundations Family Ties That Bind: A Self-help Guide to Change Through Family of Origin Therapy by Dr. Ronald W. Richardson It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are by Mark Wolynn (00:24:20) Sagittarius Book Picks: Time is money and the evolution of managing your mindset Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel (00:25:05) Capricorn Book Picks: Control of wealth and developing motivated negotiations in partnerships  The Automatic Millionaire: A Powerful One-Step Plan to Live and Finish Rich by David Bachwhere Bach Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen (00:25:58) Aquarius Book Picks: Rebirth of identity and unconventional self-reinvention The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear (00:26:41) Pisces Book Picks: Letting go of the past and empowerment through surrender The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life* by Mark Manson

This week, Diana Hill invites us into a soothing space where we learn to embrace our uncomfortable feelings, much like finding shelter in a serene greenhouse while a storm rages outside. In this practice, guided by principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dr. Hill helps us turn toward our emotions—be it anxiety, stress, sadness, or anger—with the kind of tender attention you might give a fragile seedling needing nurture to grow. Diana is also offering 10 free copies of her new book The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: Let Go of Your Inner Critic and Embrace Who You Are with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to our listeners. If you'd like your own copy, head over to https://signups.mindful.org/book-giveaway-the-self-compassion-daily-journal-dr-diana-hill/ before May 15th to enter for a chance to win. Stay curious, stay inspired. Join our community by signing up for our free newsletter, where we share compelling insights and actionable ideas to enrich your everyday life. Connect with us at mindful.org/signup. Show Notes Find more from Diana Hill here: Diana Hill on Mindful.org Diana Hill's Website Diana Hill on Youtube   And more from Mindful here: More episodes of 12 Minute Meditation The Real Mindful Podcast   Let us know what you thought of this episode of 12 Minute Meditation by leaving a review or by emailing yourwords@mindful.org.  

This week, Diana Hill invites us into a soothing space where we learn to embrace our uncomfortable feelings, much like finding shelter in a serene greenhouse while a storm rages outside. In this practice, guided by principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dr. Hill helps us turn toward our emotions—be it anxiety, stress, sadness, or anger—with the kind of tender attention you might give a fragile seedling needing nurture to grow. Diana is also offering 10 free copies of her new book The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: Let Go of Your Inner Critic and Embrace Who You Are with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to our listeners. If you'd like your own copy, head over to https://signups.mindful.org/book-giveaway-the-self-compassion-daily-journal-dr-diana-hill/ before May 15th to enter for a chance to win. Stay curious, stay inspired. Join our community by signing up for our free newsletter, where we share compelling insights and actionable ideas to enrich your everyday life. Connect with us at mindful.org/signup. Show Notes Find more from Diana Hill here: Diana Hill on Mindful.org Diana Hill's Website Diana Hill on Youtube   And more from Mindful here: More episodes of 12 Minute Meditation The Real Mindful Podcast   Let us know what you thought of this episode of 12 Minute Meditation by leaving a review or by emailing yourwords@mindful.org.  

How often do you criticize yourself? Whether you torture yourself with negative thoughts about body image, career goals, or parenting, our conversation with guest and former cohost Diana Hill is sure to change that! Drawing from mindfulness, acceptance and commitment therapy, and compassion-focused therapy, Diana shows you how to liberate yourself from harmful self-criticism by cultivating forgiveness and kindness. We are grateful to Diana for her work in shifting the way people think about self-compassion, and we know you'll take a tonne of wisdom from this conversation and her latest book, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, to help you live a fulfilling and impactful life. Listen and Learn:  What is self-compassion?  How does the inner critic evolve within us? Why you might have fears of giving, receiving, or self-compassion and how these fears can interfere with your ability to cope and be resilient during difficult times How you can practice self-compassion   Is there a way to know which response is the most self-compassionate for yourself? The three half-truths of self-compassion  Turning self-compassion from a momentary thing to a lasting trait Resources:  Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more. The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: Let Go of Your Inner Critic and Embrace Who You Are with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Podcast: Wise Effort: Wise Effort Podcast  Website: drdianahill.com Instagram: @drdianahill Facebook:@drdianahill YouTube: @drdianahill LinkedIn: @drdianahill Email: diana@drdianahill.com Learn how to practice Process-based Therapy with Diana Hill, Joseph Ciarrochi, and Steven Hayes Mindful article: A Love Letter To Yourself Psychology Today: Three Half-Truths About Self-Compassion Self-Compassion and ACT Meditation with Diana on Insight Timer 3 Half-Truths About Self-Compassion About Diana Hill:  Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and author of ACT Daily Journal, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal and the upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. She is on the board for the Institute for Better Health, and blogs for Psychology Today and Mindful.org. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more. Related Episodes 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we talk all about how embracing who you really are (in my case, a total weirdo) can lead to living as the most happy, free version of yourself. Come along as I recap the last 5 years (in about 2 minutes and 20 seconds), the stress that was felt, the survival mode that was lived and how once I felt empowered and safe, the game changed. YOU deserve to live a happy, joyful life and if you're going through a period of overwhelming stress, I see you, and I want you to know that things change and life gets better. Join me on Zoom Wednesday, March 20th at 7:30 ET to learn more about the Enneagram (link to be shared in next week's episode) Let's connect on Instagram: @lovelaughlinds

Diet in burnout plays a critical role in both contributing to and recovering from this condition. In this video, host Angela Brown and expert guest Erica Wiederlight explore the strong connection between nutrition and avoiding burnout. They reveal how making simple changes to what you eat and drink can protect your mental health. Erica explains why self-care starts from the inside out. She also opens up about her own struggles with emotional eating and shares her tips on working with these urges. Don't miss this empowering conversation about healthy dietary strategies to keep your fire lit. By recognizing the vital role that diet plays in combating burnout, you'll gain valuable tools to enhance your overall well-being. What Role Does Diet Play in Burnout Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Erica Wiederlight  00:28 Unpacking the Role of Diet in Burnout  01:13 Exploring Mindful Movement and Nourishment for Burnout Recovery  04:19 The Importance of Hydration and Self-Care in Burnout Relief 04:40 Self-Care Strategies for Burnout RESOURCES ----------------- The 30 Day Abundance Challenge: Attract the Wealth You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3GZaMRW Self-Love Workbook for Women: Release Self-Doubt, Build Self-Compassion, and Embrace Who You Are - https://amzn.to/3NNviZU The Blue Zones Challenge: A 4-Week Plan for a Longer, Better Life - https://amzn.to/3TJfc76 Eat, Drink, and Be Healthy - https://amzn.to/3tFZQ92 Eat to Beat Disease: The New Science of How Your Body Can Heal Itself - https://amzn.to/3Sdj5Al (When available, we use affiliate links and as Amazon Associates, we earn a commission on qualifying purchases.) *** RATE THIS PODCAST ***  https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner  *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown  SOCIAL MEDIA --------------- *** CONNECT WITH ERICA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericawiederlight/ *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskAngelaBrown Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/AskAngelaBrown Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@askangelabrown Store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown URL: https://AngelaBrown.com NEED MORE CLEANING HELP? ------------- *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Please email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com  *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ------------------- Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown - https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review *** ADVERTISE WITH US ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the cleaning industry here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals *** SAVVY CLEANER BRANDS ***  SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com/join VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental  https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com  FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank-you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com  HOARDING WORLD - Helping you change your relationship with stuff https://HoardingWorld.com REALTY SUCCESS HUB - Helping you sell your home fast https://realtysuccesshub.com CREDITS -------------------------- Show Produced by: Savvy Cleaner: https://savvycleaner.com Show Host: Angela Brown Show Editor: Anna Nikitchuk Show Producer: Anna Nikitchuk

Making space for what truly matters can be a challenge. In this video, Angela Brown and coach Erica Wiederlight dive deep into the burnout phenomenon, specifically in businesses and high-stress professions such as the house cleaning industry. Angela and Erica create a roadmap for those feeling overwhelmed, explaining how to apply simple solutions and create personal protocols to avoid burnout. This involves carefully evaluating your time usage and investing in personal wellness activities such as gym workouts, journaling, or prayer. With planning and discipline, you can craft each day to include space for responsibilities and rejuvenation. Tune in to learn habits for maintaining mental and emotional well-being and combating burnout. Making Space in Your Day for What Matters Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Erica Wiederlight  01:10 Committing 14 Hours a Week to Self-Care  02:43 Overcoming Burnout and Feeling Fantastic 03:25 The Impact of Burnout in the Cleaning Industry 03:58 The Importance of Self-Validation and Resourcing RESOURCES ----------------- The 30 Day Abundance Challenge: Attract the Wealth You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3GZaMRW How to Start Your Own House Cleaning Company - https://amzn.to/3jHk4GL Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - https://amzn.to/3uXaFU9 Burnout Recovery: 15 techniques to overcome chronic stress - https://amzn.to/3uTeoCn The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are - https://amzn.to/3tit5ON (When available, we use affiliate links and as Amazon Associates, we earn a commission on qualifying purchases.) *** RATE THIS PODCAST ***  https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner  *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown  SOCIAL MEDIA --------------- *** CONNECT WITH ERICA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericawiederlight/ *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskAngelaBrown Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/AskAngelaBrown Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@askangelabrown Store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown URL: https://AngelaBrown.com NEED MORE CLEANING HELP? ------------- *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Please email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com  *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ------------------- Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown - https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review *** ADVERTISE WITH US ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the cleaning industry here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals *** SAVVY CLEANER BRANDS ***  SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com/join VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental  https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com  FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank-you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com  HOARDING WORLD - Helping you change your relationship with stuff https://HoardingWorld.com REALTY SUCCESS HUB - Helping you sell your home fast https://realtysuccesshub.com CREDITS -------------------------- Show Produced by: Savvy Cleaner: https://savvycleaner.com Show Host: Angela Brown Show Editor: Anna Nikitchuk Show Producer: Anna Nikitchuk

In today's episode, we're honored to host Lisa Mitzel, a former elite gymnast, four-time NCAA champion, and esteemed mental performance coach. Our conversation revolves around the critical theme of ensuring the safety of young gymnasts in this demanding sport, coupled with a deep dive into the complexities of mental performance.Lisa's journey in gymnastics, from her elite athlete days to coaching at Stanford, brings a wealth of firsthand experiences. Safety takes center stage in our discussion, where Lisa provides valuable insights into creating a secure training environment. From appropriate warm-ups to supervised practice, she advocates for a holistic approach that safeguards athletes and sets the groundwork for enduring success.Beyond physical safety, Lisa delves into the mental aspects of gymnastics. As a mental performance coach, she shares practical strategies for strengthening mental resilience, addressing everything from competition stress to overcoming setbacks. Her anecdotes and expertise illuminate the transformative impact of a robust mental game in gymnastics, offering a guiding light for athletes at all levels.In this episode, Coach Rebecca and Lisa Mitzel talk about: How to Transform Gymnastics Culture.Empowering Gymnasts Through Decision-Making and Learning from Mistakes.Mental Health Education for Coaches. Fostering Autonomy.Unlocking Confidence with Essential Mental and Emotional Tools.Exploring Mental Training, Emotional Intelligence, and Resources from Lisa Mitzel.“You can't tell what's going on, on the inside when we are only looking at it from the outside.” Lisa Mitzel.References:Lisa Mitzel website:https://zentigermind.com/Dr. Lisa Damour - The emotional lives of teens:https://drlisadamour.com/books/the-emotional-lives-of-teenagers/Brené Brown PhD, The Gifts of Imperfection Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are:https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Imperfection-Think-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X

Henna Pryor reframes awkwardness and shows how we can turn it into a superpower. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How not embracing awkwardness is hurting our performance. 2) How to work out your awkwardness muscles. 3) How to release the discomfort that follows awkward moments. Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep914 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT HENNA — Henna Pryor, PCC is 2x TEDx and Global Keynote Speaker, Workplace Performance Expert, Author, and Executive Coach. Her talks blend 2 decades of work with corporate leaders and teams, with a modern, science-based approach to taking more strategic risks and being braver in the work that we do. • Book: Good Awkward: How to Embrace the Embarrassing and Celebrate the Cringe to Become The Bravest You • Instagram: hennypryor • LinkedIn: Henna Pryor • Website: GoodAwkward.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Americanah: A novel by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie • Book: The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Chapter 1 What's The Gifts of ImperfectionThe book "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" by Brené Brown is a self-help and personal development book. It explores the concepts of vulnerability, courage, and worthiness, and encourages readers to let go of perfectionism and embrace their authentic selves. The author draws upon her research in shame, authenticity, and vulnerability to provide practical insights and strategies for cultivating self-compassion and wholehearted living. The book aims to guide readers in living a more fulfilling and authentic life.Chapter 2 Why is The Gifts of Imperfection Worth ReadThe Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown is worth reading for several reasons:1. Insightful exploration of vulnerability: Brown delves into the concept of vulnerability and its importance in our lives. She explains how embracing vulnerability can lead to greater connections with others and a more fulfilling life.2. Encouragement to embrace imperfections: Brown challenges the societal pressure to be perfect and provides advice for accepting our flaws and imperfections. This can be liberating for individuals who struggle with self-doubt or shame.3. Practical strategies for cultivating authenticity: The book offers practical exercises and strategies to help readers cultivate self-acceptance and authenticity. Brown shares methods for setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and building resilience.4. Engaging writing style: Brown's writing is accessible and engaging, making the book an enjoyable read. She incorporates personal anecdotes and relatable stories, which help to bring the concepts to life.5. Applicable to a wide range of readers: The messages in The Gifts of Imperfection can resonate with people from all walks of life. Whether you're struggling with self-esteem, relationships, or your professional life, Brown's insights can provide guidance and inspiration.Overall, The Gifts of Imperfection is worth reading because it offers a fresh perspective on embracing vulnerability, cultivating self-acceptance, and living an authentic life. It has the potential to empower and inspire individuals who are seeking personal growth and a deeper connection with themselves and others.Chapter 3 The Gifts of Imperfection Summary"The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brené Brown is a self-help book that explores the importance of embracing our imperfections and living a wholehearted life. Brown argues that society's expectations and pressures often lead us to strive for perfection, which ultimately leads to feelings of shame, worthlessness, and disconnection from ourselves and others.Brown introduces ten guideposts for cultivating a more authentic and fulfilling life. The guideposts include:1. Cultivating authenticity: Being true to ourselves and allowing others to see our true selves.2. Cultivating self-compassion: Extending kindness and understanding to ourselves, especially during difficult times.3. Cultivating resilience: Developing the ability to bounce back from setbacks and hardships.4. Cultivating gratitude and joy: Embracing the positive aspects of life and finding gratitude in everyday moments.5. Cultivating intuition and trusting faith: Using our intuition and embracing spirituality in order to make choices aligned with our true selves.6. Cultivating creativity: Allowing ourselves to be creative and express our unique gifts.7. Cultivating play and rest: Making time for activities that bring us joy and replenish our energy.8. Cultivating calm and stillness: Finding moments of quiet and stillness to recharge and reflect.9....

Nick Westergaard is an author, educator, and speaker. He's spent his career building standout brands at organizations of all sizes—from small businesses to Fortune 500 companies to President Obama's Jobs Council.  The Nice Podcast is brought to you by Futureforth.com. We teach leaders to improve employee retention, communication, and culture with the Nice Method™. What we talked about... Nick Westergaard's StoryLab program. Dave's guest appearance on Nick's podcast. Telling your story is foundational. The ability to craft, hone, and shape your story with others.  Stories that come from saying yes, saying no, and making mistakes. Story starter ideas. Storyworthy: Engage, Teach, Persuade, and Change Your Life through the Power of Storytelling by Matthew Dicks.  Generate stories by thinking of a theme. First _____ Last _____ Best _____ Worst _____ From blogging to books. Strategies for writing a book. Moth Storyslam. Advice for TEDx speakers.  Staging information. Talk Like TED: The 9 Public-Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds by Carmine Gallo. Summaries, scenes, and reflections. Personal vs. professional brand storytelling tips. Brand coaching. The value of mentors. Read The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown. Check out Nick's books. Contact Nick at nickwestergaard.com. We ❤️ Our Listeners. Please follow the show and leave a review wherever you subscribe to podcasts. Reviews and sharing the show are the nicest ways to support the podcast and are deeply appreciated. Thank you.

This episode features a conversation with Giselle Marzo Segura, a designer, teacher, mentor, writer and solutions thinker based in Miami, Florida, who is also the parent of a differently-wired daughter. As a result of her journey with her daughter, Giselle was moved to create a venture called Strength Clusters, which is all about helping people understand and connect with each other through the language of character strengths. I'll let Giselle tell you her whole story, because it's very inspiring and personal, but for now, I'll let you know that we're going to be talking about his idea of why current systems aimed at supporting differently-wired kids do so by focusing on the deficits. We'll also get into how truly transformational it can be, not just for the child but for the whole family, when we flip that on its head and focus on an individual's strengths.THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:The cost of not allowing differently-wired kids to hang out in their areas of strength for large chunks of the dayWhy Giselle believes differently-wired kids need the opportunity to express what's inside of themWhat the language of positive psychology and character strengths isWhat happens when the whole family views each other through the lens of character strengths and is on the same pageThe magic of looking at a child as a whole personThat there are other types of learning beyond cognitive learning, such as learning through the body and emotions RESOURCES MENTIONED:Strength Clusters (Giselle's website)Character Strenths are Virtues: A Handbook and Classification by Martin Seligman and Christopher PetersonVia Character Strengths SurveyBrene Brown's websiteThe Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene BrownPamela Slim's websiteSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

We've all seen it in movies and TV shows and books and in real life, sometimes in a lunch table or a tight-knit group of people who are popular-by-association, otherwise known as the cool kids. It might seem harmless, but it can be problematic and detrimental to personal growth and to our culture and community in schools, neighborhoods, churches, really everywhere.  Furthermore, it's a mirage. It's not even real! And that's the funny irony: the pursuit of being cool is the most un-real kind of connection you can make, an authenticity killer. Today Neil and I are going to talk about why the pursuit of being cool can stop your growth and keep you from some of the deepest and most meaningful relationships available in this life, and how to conquer this human-nature desire to be perceived as one of the cool kids. Time Stamps: [00:55] - Corrine and Neil talk about the pursuit of being cool. [03:01] - Corrine and Neil share thoughts on acting as a “cool kid” and what they remember from their school days. [09:24] - The pursuit of being cool can cause people to hold back their authenticity to avoid being rejected. [14:03] - The beauty of unlikely friends. Don't miss out on who you could meet. [19:01] - Beware of Pride. [23:02] - Corrine and Neil talk about building a healthier perspective of comparison. How does comparison influence the way we view ourselves and our lives? [27:50] - Are you worried about completely being accepted by others? [31:32] - Look for the humanity in others and see them as God sees them.  [34:49] - What example are we setting for children when we comment on the life of others? [38:10] - The coolest thing is to show love and appreciation to each other. Supporting Resources: Book by Brene Brown "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are." "Beware of Pride" Talk by Ezra Taft Benson "Am I Good Enough? Will I Make It?" Talk by J. Devn Cornish Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unapologetically You: Embracing Authenticity and Showing Up in the World is an 8-week series that will dig into how you can become more authentic and reveal the positive impacts it will have in your life. I mean, who doesn't want a transformative journey that leads to a more meaningful and empowered life?! Show Notes: How to be yourself and why it matters Stephen Joseph suggests asking yourself the following questions: Do you feel free to make your own choices? Do you feel free to express your own views and opinions? Do you feel you can be yourself ona day-to-day basis? If you answer “no” to any of the questions, reflect on one further question: Could it be that you are not being true to who you are? Authentic: How to be yourself and why it matters by Stephen Joseph | Goodreads Authentic Living: How to Be Real According to Psychology (positivepsychology.com) Brown, B. (2010). The Gifts of Imperfection: Letting Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to be and Embrace Who You Are. Centre City: MN, Hazelden --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/danielle-foulk/support

I have this fear that if I embrace my personal power and show up 100%, people will not like me and I will end up alone. This fear of rejection, abandonment and loneliness kept me playing small which actually made me feel more alone than ever. Tune into today's episode to learn how I worked through this fear.  ---------   Free Resources:  The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer From the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It by Dr. Valerie Young  ----------  Stay Connected  Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com  

Striving for perfection versus excellence can make all the difference in hitting goals and how you feel about them. Tune into today's episode to learn 4 proven techniques to replace your perfectionism with healthy striving.  ---------   Free Resources:  Book: The Gifts of Imperfection- Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown, PhD ----------  Stay Connected  Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com

Would you believe me if I tell you I still struggle with imposter syndrome? Despite graduating, getting my license, starting my own interior design business, and getting clients, it still affects my confidence. Honestly, it's a mindset issue that requires ongoing management. I wish it only happens in the beginning, you know? Like a right of passage, but no. It crops up at different points in my career as an interior designer. Good thing there are ways to help manage it. You have a talent, creative one, and you need to share it with your clients. So be confident about that because I know you can do it. Listen to this week's episode to learn how to deal with imposter syndrome and increase your confidence. Why you've got to check out today's episode: Know what imposter syndrome is and how it affects your confidence factor Identify the areas of your interior design career where imposter syndrome tends to show up Get effective tips for overcoming imposter syndrome before it breaks your confidence Check out the show notes >>> Is Imposter Syndrome Holding Back Your Interior Design Career? The Best Way to Deal With It FREE Resource: Episode 03: Scared to Start a Career in Interior Design? The Right Mindset That Can Help You Overcome Fear Check out these books and podcasts about dealing with Imposter Syndrome You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Cincero The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown Steps to Overcome Imposter Syndrome >>> drshannonirvine.com/what-do-you-believe-success-secret-4-with-dr-shannon-irvine/ What do you believe?: Success Secret #4 with Dr. Shannon Irvine >>> chalene.com/podcasts/overcome-imposter-syndrome/ Connect With Me: Website: rwarddesign.com Email Add: contact@rwarddesign.com IG: @rwarddesign

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Summary:  In this episode, we focus on how unresolved trauma undermines and sabotages both our capacity and our inclination to love well.  We explore how unresolved trauma impacts each of the five characteristics of love -- compromising our ability to love in an affective (emotional), affirming, responsive, unitive and steadfast way.  We also dive into how so trauma pulls us to focus inward, and to protect ourselves, undercutting the vulnerability and willingness to engage that are required for deep love and we discuss hope for change.   Lead-in  They say love is blind, but it's trauma that's blind. Love sees what is.“ — Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships And Neil Strauss is right on that.  Love connects with reality.  With God who is the ultimate realness, the ultimate being, the I AM.   Trauma is blind and it blinds us.  That's what we are talking about today.  Trauma and its impact on live.   Intro: Dear listener, You and I are together in the adventure of this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am thankful to be with you.   I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, Why are we here?  We are here together to bring you the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith. So we can have the best of both.  That's why.   Today, we're going to take a broad perspective, a bird's-eye view of trauma's destructive consequences to our capacity to love.  What is the effect of trauma on our capacity and inclination to love?  That is the question for us to explore together today.   So welcome to episode 95,  of Interior Integration for Catholics, titled Trauma's Devastating Impact on our Capacity to Love, released on July 4, 2022, Independency Day in the USA, This podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com.   Review Trauma.  We are in the midst of  whole series of episodes on trauma.  So just a brief thumbnail review.   Started with Episode 88 Trauma: Defining and Understanding the Experience  Really important to understand the inner experience of trauma -- so you can recognize it in your own life and recognize it an empathetic and attuned way in others' loves.  Part of loving them.   Episode 89 Your Trauma, Your Body: Protection vs. Connection --  a current understanding of how large a role our bodies have in our experience of trauma.  Our bodies.   Episode 90:  Your Well-Being: The Secular Experts Speak  we review how philosophers and modern secular psychologists understand mental health and well-being.  In this episode, we look at the attempts to define what make us happy, from the 4th century BC to the present day.  Aristippus, Aristotle, Descartes, Freud, Seligman, Porges, Schwartz, and two diagnostic systems.  We take a special look at how positive psychology and Internal Family Systems see well-being.   Episode 92:  Understanding and Healing your Mind through IPNB  neuropsychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel's Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) and what IPNB can show us about psychological health.  We review the triangle of well-being, the nature of secure attachments, and the basis for mental health from an IPNB perspective.  We examine the characteristics of a healthy mind and how it functions, and the two signs that reliable indicate all psychological symptoms and mental dysfunction.  We discuss the nine domains of integration Three inner experiential exercises in Episode 93 Episode 94:  The Primacy of Love  In this episode, I discuss the central importance of love as the marker of well-being from a Catholic perspective -- our capacity to live out  the two great commandments.  We explore how love is the distinguishing characteristics of Christians, and we discussed Catholic theologian Bernard Brady's five attributes or characteristics of love -- how love is affective, affirming, responsive, unitive and steadfast.  We discuss what is commonly missing from philosophical and theological approaches to love, and we briefly touch in the death of love and distortions of love.  So check those out if you haven't already.  This    Going to address love in general -- focusing on loving  In future episodes, will review  Tolerating being loved Brady quxote   Ordered self-love   The experience of trauma screws up our loves -- where we go to find good.  It screws up where we are seeking, how we seek to be loved and how we seek to love.   St. Augustine:   He lives in justice and sanctity who is an unprejudiced assessor of the intrinsic value of things.  He is a man who has an ordinate love: he neither loves what should not be loved nor fails to love what should be loved. On Christina Doctrine, I, 27 We need ordered love.  Why -- Bernard Brady put it -- Because we become like what we love.  Whatever we embrace in our love, we become like that person or that thing.   As Augustine considered the dissipation of this youth, he wrote "I loved beautiful things of a lower order, and I was going down to the depths."   Confessions.   So much of the problem with disordered love  comes from misdirected seeking to get your attachment needs meet.  That's the problem. We have legitimate attachment needs  Trauma strips away our sense of  A felt sense of Safety and security Feeling seen, heard, known and understood Feeling comforted, soothed, reassured Feeling cherished, treasured, delighted in Feel the other person wills my highest good.   All from Brown and Elliott 2016, Attachment disturbances in Adults Where do we find our safety and security?  In both the natural and spiritual realms, we find it in attachment security needs being met.  Five primary attachment security needs (Brown and Elliott)  A felt sense of safety and protection, a deep sense of security, felt in my bones It makes it so much easier to love when we feel safe and secure.    "People want to be safe, and comfortable. If safety and comfort is to be found in guns, then they will take up guns—of their own accord, in their own need. And when safety and comfort are found in libraries, then the guns rust.“ — Algis Budrys American writer  Source: Some Will Not Die (1961), Chapter 6 (p. 122)   Feeling seen, heard, known, and understood   I want, by understanding myself, to understand others.“ — Katherine Mansfield New Zealand author 1888 - 1923 Being comforted, soothed, and reassured Feeling valued, cherished, treasured, delighted in You are my sunshine published by Jimmie Davis and Charles Mitchell on January 30, 1940   You are my sunshineMy only sunshineYou make me happyWhen skies are grayYou'll never know, dearHow much I love youPlease don't take my sunshine away Feeling that the other person wills my highest good, the best for me We have to turn inward to find the road to God.   Etienne Gilson explained Augustine's approach to God as "a path leading from the exterior to the interior and from the interior to the superior."  Gilson, The Christian Philosophy of St. Augustine p. 20 Charles Taylor:  Sources of the Self: By going inward, I am drawn upward.  The Making of Modern Identity 134 Turning inward is the route to God, not God.  Brady, 120 Often resisted by Catholics as being selfish.   Edward Vacek:  Love, Human and Divine: The Heart of Christian Ethics.  The steps in loving and being loved.    (1) God affirms us; (2) God receives a; (3) we accept God's love; (4) we affirm God; (5) God forms community with us; (6) we cooperate with God in loving God in the world; and finally (7) we grow in a limited code responsibility with God. p.. 177 1 John 4:19 We love, because he first loved us.     Last episode -- Bernard Brady's description of the five characteristics of Love  Christian Love: How Christians through the Ages have Understood Love.-- drawing heavily from the work of phenomenologists  Jules Toner and Margaret Farley Love is affective, affirming, responsive, unitive and steadfast.  (repeat)  Five characteristics.  Five aspects.  Repeat.   We described and discussed these at length in the last episode, episode 94 of the IIC podcast, The Primacy of Love  We will briefly review each of them And then discuss how trauma impacts each of them, bringing in the effects or the sequelae of trauma from Episode 88 --  Trauma: Defining and Understanding the Experience.   Love is affective  Love is an emotion Love is a movement from your heart, your soul -- a movement from the innermost depths of your being.  From your core self.  St. Thomas Aquinas in the Summa:  Consequently the freezing or hardening of the heart is a disposition incompatible with love: while melting denotes a softening of the heart, whereby the heart shows itself to be ready for the entrance of the beloved.“ Love rejoices in the beloved  Love rejoices in the beloved -- Protestant Theologian R.H. Neibuhr writes in his 1977 book the Purpose of the Church and Its Ministry:  By love, we mean at least these attitudes and actions: rejoicing in the presence of the beloved, gratitude, reverence, and loyalty toward him.  p.35 „After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.“  Judith Herman Brené Brown US writer and professor 1965 Source: The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are  Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.  Misattributed to Sigmund Freud Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength. Brady:  Love is the directive and dominant center of emotions.  p. 267  Many emotions are associated with love Delight, Bliss, Happiness  A sense of fulfillment  Warmth  Grief  Sadness  Anxiety  Distress   If there is no emotion, there is no agape, no love.  The heart must be moved for love to be anything like complete.  We cannot love like a Vulcan, like Mr. Spock without emotion.  „Even the most elevated psychological understanding is not a loving understanding.“ — Karl Jaspers German psychiatrist and philosopher 1883 - 1969 Effects of trauma -- from episode 88, Trauma: Defining and Understanding the experience  Emotional and Psychological effects Emotional overwhelm  Shock  Shame as an emotion  Guilt  Irritability, anger, rage   Anxiety, fear, panic attacks, phobia, panic attacks, Fears of trauma repeating Jenny Han, book Always and Forever, Lara Jean  Being vulnerable, letting people in, getting hurt… it's all part of being in love.   Sadness, depression  Mood swings   Hopelessness, despair Emotional constriction, shutting down Difficulty experiencing positive emotions Anhedonia Apathy Brady 273.  Love does not die because of hate but because of apathy.   Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Alexithymia -- inability to recognize or describe one's own emotions -- can't put my feelings into words.   Can't conceptualize your feelings either Feelings in others could be overwhelming -- can't recognize what others are feeling Can't express my feelings well Can't connect affectively, emotionally. That takes vulnerability   Confusion, distraction  Spacing out with dissociation   Physical Effects of trauma -- preoccupation with the body   Behavioral Symptoms Relational apathy  Social withdrawal   Existential Symptoms Despair about humanity -- overgeneralized to the other person  Cynicism  Disillusionment   Identity issues -- shame.   I'm not worth you connecting emotionally with me What could I ever offer you emotionally? I'm such a downer. Strong self-criticism  Fragmentation Love is affirming Love affirms the other  Love says yes to the other person at the same time as love says yes to oneself.   "Agape is the simple yet profound recognition of the worthiness of and goodness in persons."  p. 268  Edward Vacek:  Love is an affective, affirming participation in the goodness of a being (or Being).… Love is an emotional, affirming participation the dynamic tendency of an object to realize its fullness.”  Brene Brown -- Rising Strong  Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.“   Affirmation happens at two levels One level is the basic level of human dignity shared by all persons.   Second level of affirmation is the uniqueness of the person.   When you love your neighbor you truly see the other as a person.   Jules Toner, SJ -- "I love you because you are you." We need to affirm at both levels.  The basic dignity of the person and the uniqueness of the person.   Affirmation implies acceptance of the other and knowledge of the other.    This is not an endorsement of the other's vices or bad habits, but a recognition of them and an acceptance of who the person is as an entire being.  Not picking and choosing the attractive bits.  Self-acceptance of the same things. Affirmation requires freedom -- freedom to get outside the self.   Effects of trauma  Emotional and Psychological effects  Turning inward -- self-protection. Connections vs. protection -- Episode 89 Where is the safety?   How can I escape the danger?  Not letting anyone in to love me.   Feeling disconnected or numb or detached -- dorsal vagal response.  Freeze response.  Deer in the headlights Bodily response Emotional Constriction, Shutdown   Shame -- what is my affirmation of you worth?  I'm not worth much, my affirmation isn't worth much.  Feeling very fragile, vulnerable -- not resilient enough --  I can't engage  Irritability, hostility,  Depression -- lethargy  Mood swings -- unpredictability, others can't trust me.   Emotional detachment, disconnection -- in relationships  Helplessness  Difficulty experiencing positive emotions  How can I reach out?  White knuckling. Feels very forced.  Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Racing thoughts -- so distracting, I can attend to you, I can't attune to you, I can't affirm you.  My house is on fire.   Extreme alertness - suspicion of you -- are you a threat?  Will you trigger me?   Physical Effects   Behavioral Symptoms Argumentative behavior  Social withdrawal and relational apathy.  Avoidance   Existential Symptoms Ruminating about evil in the world   Identity issues -- shame If I affirm you I will see myself in a bad light because of my shame  Affirmation involved a positive evaluation -- so tempting to see myself negatively.   Fragmentation  Lack of affirmation from the whole self Toner [Radical love] "is giving self; for it is myself who am in the loved one by my love, not merely by my possessions, or even my thoughts, my wit, my joy, my wisdom, my strength.  It is I myself."   Toner:  Loving someone in depth… Means loving from the lovers most personal self, with sincerity, intensity, endurance… To affectively affirm this unique person in a response informed by full, detailed knowledge, which catches the delicate shadings of his profoundest attitudes, moods, likes, and dislikes, ideals, fears, hopes, capabilities, weaknesses, etc.  The experience of love 160   Love is Responsive  Love is an active response for the well-being of the other.  This is where Brady includes benevolence.  It's about participating in the promotion of the highest good for the other, potential for the other's full humanity. How can I help you to flourish?  How can I help you toward your highest good?   This is where self-sacrifice comes in.   love will call for self-sacrifice.   Responsiveness implies an attunement to the other -- a resonance, and understanding.  The capacity to respond well.  It's not just any responsiveness.  The ability to be aware of and to respond effectively to the needs of my neighbor.  So there is a capacity about this.  It's not just an act of the will.  Attunement can be described as a kind of resonance.  Toner:  Radical love is experience as being in accord with the loved one, vibrating as it were, in harmony with the beloved's act of being and so with the whole melody of the beloved's life.  It is a welcoming of the loved one into the lover's self and his life-world, as fitting there, making a harmony with the lover's being and life.   But there must also be action:  "Let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action."  ` John 3:18. Parents "Doing the best they can"  Love bottled up inside.  -- Not expressed.  Then it's not love.  Love that is not shared, that is not relational is not love.   Brene Brown:  Of all the things trauma takes away from us, the worst is our willingness, or even our ability, to be vulnerable. There's a reclaiming that has to happen.  Rising Strong 2015 Madeleine L'Engle Walking on water (1980) When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability… To be alive is to be vulnerable.  To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken.“ — Clive Staples Lewis, book The Four Loves   The Letter of James 2:45-17.   What does it profit, my brethren, if a man says he has faith but has not works? Can his faith save him? If a brother or sister is ill-clad and in lack of daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what does it profit?  So faith by itself, if it has no works, is dead. Responsive to needs  Not just physical needs, but the emotional needs, psychological needs, relational needs   St. Bernard of Clairvaux:  We must remember that love reveals itself, not by words or phrases, but by actions and experience.  It is Love with speaks here, and if anyone wished to understand it, let him first love.   Effects of trauma  Emotional and Psychological effects Overwhelm  Shock  Shame  Irritability, anger, rage  Anxiety, fear, apprehension  Guilt  Sadness, depression, grief  Helplessness, despair  Mood swings -- swept away by our own experience  Anhedonia -- difficulty experiencing positive emotions.  Apathy   Protection vs. connection.  I'm on fire inside, I am frozen inside.  It's chaotic inside Intense self-preoccupation.  Not selfishness.  It's really hard to judge the moral quality of these things accurately.   When we are preoccupied with the intensity of our own experience, it's hard to be responsive to the other person.     Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking “When something reminds traumatized people of the past, their right brain reacts as if the traumatic event were happening in the present. But because their left brain is not working very well, they may not be aware that they are re-experiencing and reenacting the past - they are just furious, terrified, enraged, ashamed, or frozen.”  ― Bessel Van Der Kolk Difficulty concentrating, even focusing on the other person.  Confusion.  Others sense the disconnect.  Not attuned.    Guardedness -- protecting against vulnerability Questioning "Why me?" makes it hard to respond to you.     Physical Effects Behavioral Symptoms Startle responses   Argumentative behavior Social withdrawal and relational apathy.  Avoidance Reducing activity levels Existential Symptoms I am permanently damaged.  How could I ever be responsive in love.  Who would want me?  Can be unconscious.   Identity issues -- shame I am permanently damaged.   Fragmentation -- not a consistent, complete, unified response to the other -- partial responses that seem very incomplete, maybe insincere to the other person.  Love requires our whole being Fr. Jules Toner:  in the full concrete experience of love, our whole being, spirit and flesh, is involved: cognitive acts, feelings and affections, freedom, bodily reactions – all these are influencing each other and all are continually fluctuating in such a way as to change the structure and intensity of the experience. The experience of love. P. 65 Love is Unitive Brady:  The fruit of love is unity.  Love unites.  It is in the very nature of love to bring together.  p. 279  Brady:  When you love, you step out of yourself and experience the other.   There is still a separateness.  Not a blending or a fusion or a loss of identity.  But you are no longer just within yourself.  You've entered into the space of another.   And you've allow the other to enter into your space Loving an enemy -- you are like me.  We are similar on a fundamental human level -- No dehumanization.  Agape pulls for unity, even with strangers.   The mystics describe the unity we are called to in God -- Union with God.   Jules Toner: Radical love is not a tendency affection but a being affection by which I am in union with, am present with the loved one.   Effects of trauma -- Protection vs. Connection  Emotional and Psychological effects Emotional instability, inconsistency -- unpredictability.  Makes it hard for the other to trust you.   Preoccupation pulls you inside -- guilt, shame -- self protection. St. Augustine:  "..if [a man] loves himself on his own account, he does not turn himself toward God, but being turned toward himself, he does not care for anything immutable…."  On Christian Doctrine, Book 1, Chapter 22  And the why doesn't matter nearly so much as people think it does.   Evil comes from loving some good thing inordinately -- blog post on this -- check it out.  Dangerous love, from June 22, 2022 That good thing might be the means that parts of us are seeking to try to provide us with a sense of safety and security.   Fear of vulnerability When trust is lost, traumatized people feel that they belong more to the dead than to the living.“ — Judith Herman Trauma and Recovery  Love is a battlefield  -Pat Benatar 1983 -- music video about all the conflict with her father, and with others seeking to use her as a sexual object.   Fear of overwhelming suffering  Shutdown  Alexithymia   Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Distraction, rumination, racing thoughts interfere with capacity to attune, to unite  So much internal stimulation -- so much internal noise -- makes it difficult to resonate with the other person, to really understand the other -- to enter into the other's phenomenological world.   So much of that distraction is around finding safety and protection -- cognitive restlessness  Dissociation and disconnections are experienced as off-putting.  Have you ever been with someone who is spacing out when you are talking with them?   Physical Effects   Behavioral Symptoms Blaming  Discharging anger and aggression -- parts so want to be heard and healed.   Desperation can lead to boundary crossings and boundary violations.   Attempts to use the other person to meet intense needs -- not a conscious effort to exploit the other, but exploitation can happen anyway.   Existential Symptoms Shame -- feeling unworthy of connection  Not knowing who I am -- makes it really complicated to be in relationship.   Identity issues Fragmentation - which part of me is uniting with you right now? What are other parts doing.   The need for disconnects within in order to not be overwhelmed - inevitably leads to disconnects with other people You can't give what you don't have.   I'm not lovable, why would you want to be united with me?   Dissociation Identity alteration: The sense of being markedly different from another part of yourself  Identity confusion: A sense of confusion about who you really are   we will have a lot more to say about dissociation in future episodes, but for now -- disconnection. I need to know who I am and I need to know who you are to know who we are together, in relationship.  Love is steadfast God's love endures.  Psalm 891-2  I will sing of thy steadfast love, O Lord,[a] for ever;     with my mouth I will proclaim thy faithfulness to all generations.For thy steadfast love was established for ever,  It may not always be mutual or reciprocal People want predictability Steadfastness requires resilience, to roll with the punches in the relationship.  Any close relationship will have conflicts and difficulties. The fragility in the system that trauma imposes is a real obstacle to resilience necessary to be steadfast in relationship, to not quit and walk away from loving the other person.   Jules Toner:  "The lover is present to the loved one and has the loved one present to himself."   The experience of love, 117 Effects of trauma  Emotional and Psychological effects Mood swings -- effect of different parts, each with its own intense emotions  Helplessness -- despair -- can be intermittent  Emotional shutdown -- dorsal vagal response.   Being reactivated or triggered emotionally.   Disappointment in the other -- you are not helping me Can lead to frustration and rejection.   Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Intrusive thoughts, intrusive memories.   Dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, body, from memories or sense of identity. This disconnection is automatic and completely out of the person's control. Amnesia: Often described as "gaps" in memory that can range from minutes to years  Depersonalization: Feeling disconnected from your body or thoughts  Derealization: Feeling disconnected from the world around you   Physical Effects Impact of hyperarousal  Impact of hypoarousal   Behavioral Symptoms Withdrawal  Avoidance -- refusal of consistent vulnerability  Alcohol and drug use   „For me, vulnerability led to anxiety, which led to shame, which led to disconnection, which led to Bud Light.“ — Brené Brown US writer and professor 1965 Source: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead  Switching among parts Existential Symptoms Deep sense of not being loved, not being lovable  There is no love in the world.  At least not for me.  So why unite with anyone.  Loss of meaning and purpose.  Identity issues Fragmentation  Unstable identity makes it hard to be consistent in the loving   The death of love Brady 273.  Love does not die because of hate but because of apathy.  The death of love is often preceded by the denial of the basic dignity of the other.  The death of love happens when we reject instead of affirm the other's special personal and unique goodness.  The death of love is encouraged when we ignore the other's needs and wants while prioritizing our own wants.  The deal of love occurs when we pursue discord, division, disassociation, and distance in the place of unity.   That is sin.   Malice is not necessary for love to die.  Apathy doesn't have malice in it. In apathy, the other does not register in your consciousness.  He or she doesn't matter. He or she doesn't exist for you.   We don't have to active deny the basic dignity of the other.  We just have to not notice it.  Not attend to it We don't have to actively reject the other's special and unique goodness, we just have to not notice it, not attend to it.   We don't have to actively ignore the other's needs and wants -- we just have to be preoccupied with our own trauma and its effects.     Hope Romans 8:28 We know that in everything God works for good[a] with those who love him,[b] who are called according to his purpose.  Julian of Norwich:  And because of the tender love which our good Lord has for all who will be saved, he comforts readily and sweetly, meaning this: it is true that sin is the cause of all this pain, but all will be well, and every kind of thing will be well.   Widow's mite Luke 21:1-4  He looked up and saw rich people putting their gifts into the treasury; 2 he also saw a poor widow put in two small copper coins. 3 He said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put in more than all of them; 4 for all of them have contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in all she had to live on.”  Ratios   Martin Luther King:  Love even for enemies is the key to the solution of the problems of the world.  Strength to Love 47-48  Psychologist Peter Levine:  Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods.  Romans 5:20 ..where sin increased, grace abounded all the more,  1 John 3:1  See what love the Father has given us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.  Romans 8 35-39  Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?  As it is written, “For your sake we are being killed all day long; we are accounted as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.   Call to Action Kent Keith The Paradoxical Commandments -- Resilience.  Mother Theresa had pinned this up in one of her convents.    People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.   Love them anyway.If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.   Do good anyway.Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.   Be honest and frank anyway.What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.   Build anyway.People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.   Help people anyway.Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.   Give the world the best you have anyway.   Where we are going If you want to love, you have to first be loved and know you are loved.   Tolerating being loved -- many people assume that we just want to be loved -- that's not anything like entirely accurate.  1 John 4:19 We love, because he first loved us. Ordered self love.    Check out our blogs -- weekly email reflections  June 15 -- Seven ways to understand sin     Sin as breaking the law    Sin as a burden    Sin as a debt    Sin as “missing the mark”    Sin as a violating your conscience    Sin as breaking or harming relationships    Sin as the failure to love, or the “anti-love” June 22  Dangerous Love -- we really get into St. Augustine's description of sin as a disordered or misdirected love, and I share how when we that misdirected love is oriented toward getting our attachment needs met, it's not only misdirected love, it's a dangerous love.   June 29 Conflicting loves inside you -- we get into how to understand the conflicting loves inside of us -- from a parts perspective -- multiplicity and unity of the self.   Email me crisis@soulsandhearts.com  -- call my cell 317.567.9594 any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM Eastern time for conversation hours.   Let others know about this podcast.  Put the word out.  There's somebody you know dealing with trauma -- get them on board with the rest of us with the IIC podcast.  All the major podcast player -- Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Audible, Podbean, Podchaser, CastBox, Overcast, Podcast Addict, all of them, we're on all of them.  Soulsandhearts.com/iic You have until July 10.  The RCC -- Come with me on an adventure.  Come with me on an adventure of being loved and of loving.  That is what the Resilient Catholic Community is all about.  Check out the Resilient Catholics Community at soulsandhearts.com/RCC  The RCC is all about working through your human formation issues -- the ones that inhibit you from receiving the love you need and from loving God completely, with every fiber of your being, with your body,  with all your parts, with all your emotions, thoughts, all your inner experience with all of you, with no part of you left behind, no part of you left out.   It's all about learning to be gentle but firm with yourself -- it's all about integration.  It's all about resilience.   All about restoration -- recovering from being dominated by shame, fear, anger, sadness, pessimism, whatever your struggle is in the depths of your human formation And we do this work experientially -- so many experiential exercises -- this is not just intellectual knowledge, we're working with all of you. Informed by Internal Family Systems and the best of the rest of psychological and human formation resources  All grounded in a Catholic understanding of the human person  All focused on helping you to better accept love and to love more fully, to carry out the two great commandments of our Lord.   Are you up for the challenge?  Would you like to join me and the rest of the pioneers in this adventure?  Do you want to be a part of the community?   Are you ready to prevail over whatever hinders your human formation -- would you like to no longer be dominated by fear, anger, shame, sadness, pessimism?  And would you like to be with other like-minded Catholics on the journey -- If so join me.  Join all of us in the Resilient Catholics Community.  The RCC We are taking applications throughout until July 10 -- extended the deadline.   for our third cohort, those in that cohort will start their adventure in June and July by taking our Initial Measures Kits and be getting feedback on their parts in a personal Zoom session with me.  It's a great chance for us to get to know each other, really know each other at the level of parts.  You'll get a 5 or 6 page report on your internal system and then be eligible for our weekly company meetings and programming to begin in late August or early September.   Talk with me about it in conversation hours call my cell 317.567.9594 any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM Eastern time for conversation hours.   Patroness and Patron   

Vanity, one of the seven “sins”..... Right? Hmmmm…. My mind wanders.Why do you think vanity is one of the sins? Or why is it looked down upon?My gal Salome and I are back with 2 chicks & a mic with this interesting topic that we dig deep into. We discover the different ways that we ourselves show confidence and what is behind the true confidence.You might be a little confused but it's all good! We are questioning everything too! This conversation takes us to a whole new level! IN THIS EPISODE, I TALK ABOUT:Is too much confidence bad?Can confidence be silent?Conceded. Remember that word was used a lot as a bad thing to be?How can we be the invitation for others to be confident too? If you loved this episode, it would mean the world to me if you SUBSCRIBED to the podcast on your favorite podcast app and give it a 5 star review. I would be forever grateful! Thank you!!  ✅  CLASSES:“UNSTUCK YOUR MONEY” In-Person Workshop in Los Angeles: SUNDAY, JUNE 5TH: DM me on Instagram with the word: UNSTUCK and get the latest notices when my classes open up!  ​​ ✅  RESOURCES:Text: CREATE to 323-524-9857 to apply for my Get Up Girl Gang community If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating  and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser and Castbox. ✅  LET'S CONNECT:The Get Up GirlInstagramFacebookMonthly online fitness academy 

Unfortunately, many physician associates / physician assistants have experienced or will experience burnout. Meg Leddy, PA-C, went from experiencing burnout to teaching other PAs and other healthcare professionals about burnout and wellbeing. In this episode, Meg shares her burnout story, and also discusses why sleep and other elements of self-care are so important for helping with burnout. We also discuss how physician associate / physician assistant finances affect burnout. She is the host of the podcast called "Burnout: What I Have Learned So Far with Meg Leddy", so you definitely have to check out her show where she provides education as well as tips about treating and preventing burnout! Check out Meg's website: https://www.megleddy.com  Follow Meg on Instagram: @megleddy923  Books mentioned in this episode:  Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle  The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are  Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams     Enjoy the show? You can now support the PA the FI Way podcast through Buy Me a Coffee! Thank you for all of your support! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/pathefiway    Follow along on Instagram: @pathefiway   https://www.instagram.com/pathefiway/   Join the private Facebook group created for current and future PAs on their journey to financial independence: https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathefiway    Like the Facebook page to follow along for updates: https://www.facebook.com/pathefiway   Website to read blog posts: pathefiway.com   Prefer to pin the posts that you found informative? Follow along on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/pathefiway   

What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and more...If you want to become more vulnerable with men committed to curiosity and compassion, apply to join an upcoming Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/groupResources on vulnerability (including paid links):The Power Of Vulnerability (TED Talk) by Brené BrownDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Bréne BrownThe Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené BrownRefuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church Forever, by James Reeves

Chris Chandler is a Master Instructor with SoulCycle, Founding Instructor with Equinox Plus, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, & Regional Vice President with Arbonne International. What's unique about Chris is that a life-changing event, filled with grief, propelled him on a journey of self-exploration, and ultimately helped him find his truth, his dream job, and a lot more. In this episode, we dive deep into his intrapreneurial & entrepreneurial journey, the importance of building community & connection, how to succeed as a SoulCycle instructor, why he loves Arbonne so much, and so much more.  And make sure to listen to the end where Chris shares how we all have the ability to connect back to our own, unique greatness. That is our human potential! So whether you're interested in indoor cycling, joy & nutrition coaching, or how to live in a way that is authentically you, this episode is for you.   Episode links & resources: Chris Chandler || Website | Instagram Chris @ SoulCycle Institute For Integrative Nutrition Arbonne International Earnings.Arbonne B Corporation Azusa Pacific University (APU) lululemon Domain (North Austin, TX) Intrapreneur vs. Entrepreneur I Will Teach You To Be Rich (book by Ramit Sethi) I Will Teach You To Be Rich (Podcast by Ramit Sethi) Peloton Barry's Atlas Of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (book by Brené Brown) The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (book by Brené  Brown) Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (book by Brené  Brown) Brené Brown (website) George Kinder's Three Questions For Life Planning 11 Personal Finance Tips For Self-Employed Movement, Health, & Healing Professionals Human Potential Personal Finance

Megan Logan is a native of Annapolis, Maryland, and graduated from Florida State University with a Master's Degree in Clinical Work. She now resides in St. Augustine, Florida where she runs her own counseling practice. Megan values helping others and believes that she has a magic quality and energy that's meant to be shared with the world! She is also the author of a self-help book titled: “Self-Love Workbook for Women: Release Self-Doubt, Build Self-Compassion, and Embrace Who You Are'.' In this podcast, Megan shares how to recognize and take responsibility for your mental burnout and how to self-love unselfishly. 

This is not a pleasant topic at all, so I want to start out this post/podcast with the understanding that I know this isn't a pleasant topic. That doesn't make it something to avoid, however. Problems aren't solved by pretending they don't exist. For those of us who work with people with significant mental disabilities, fecal smearing, otherwise knows as “scatolia,” is a behavior we usually encounter among individuals with significant developmental disabilities and dementia. These behaviors often happen among these populations very frequently alongside other bowel-related health issues, such as constipation and encopresis. Simply put, constipation is poop not coming out and encopresis is poop not staying in. The function of most fecal smearing behaviors appears to be communicative, especially among individuals who are nonverbal or have limited verbal abilities. In verbal individuals who engage in these behaviors, other significant mental impairments are still present, whether its the loss of mental functioning due to dementia; the failure of mental maturity due to developmental disabilities, such as intellectual disabilities and/or autism; or some forms of mental illness. Fecal throwing and smearing can also be seen among other primates. It's a primitive, infantile behavior. When I was 20 years old, I worked in a nursing home providing hands-on care to medically fragile and/or mentally compromised elderly people. All of us knew who the poop-throwers were. The one on my wing was also an Evangelical Christian who would sing church hymns while throwing her poop at anyone passing by and accusing them of being the Devil. The exception was the visiting Evangelical pastor who would stop by to visit the patients every week, but he would come down the hallway singing a hymn at the top of his lungs so she would know it was him before he walked into her room, or he would get it, too. I encountered fecal smearing behaviors once again when I finished my undergraduate degree and started working as a job coach in the community with adults challenged by developmental disabilities. One of the young men on my caseload was a fairly capable individual with autism who, in spite of his many attributes that made him employable to bus tables, serve drinks, and perform general maintenance in a restaurant, would engage in fecal smearing whenever someone made him upset. What had started as a behavior when he was younger with less language abilities had become a deeply entrenched learned behavior that followed him into adulthood long after he had developed completely intact verbal communication skills. The differences between these two examples from my own life were important to note. In the nursing home, the woman on my wing with fecal throwing behaviors was kept on laxatives so that her feces wasn't solid enough to hold in her hand for throwing. Cleaning up bedpans was infinitely less work and trauma than jumping into the hazmat shower fully clothed and going home in scrubs from the supply closet because our own clothes had been ruined. By comparison, the young man who struggled to hold onto a job and a group home placement because of this behavior was successfully broken of the habit through Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and psychotropic medication management to address anxiety and depression. Because he was verbal, he was able to talk with his therapist about the feelings he was having when he engaged in these behaviors and we were able to come up with a plan that helped him deal with those feelings appropriately, eventually extinguishing the scatolia altogether. He's been employed every time I've encountered him since, mostly in the community eating at the restaurants where he has worked. What we discovered based on what he was telling us is that, historically, he had found himself in situations where he couldn't tell people what he was thinking for lack of language and, later, as the language started coming on, because he was afraid to complain about certain things for fear of retaliation or punishment. The degree to which he was correct in his perceptions about those past experiences is not as important as the fact that he was afraid to say anything with words, but he could express himself non-verbally through fecal smearing. Fecal smearing behaviors tend to orient around protest, disagreement, and retaliation, based on what little research has been conducted on the topic so far. Most of the available research comes from mental institutions and long-term care facilities. I could find no research about fecal smearing happening in the general community, though such research may exist and I just couldn't find it. So much of the research is hidden behind paywalls that it's not accessible to everyday people, which is a topic of discussion all to itself for another time. I brought this subject up in my book club last night (we're currently reading The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW). One of the other club members shared that her home had been broken into years ago and robbed. The robbers also pooped on her wooden floors, ruining the finish, and she had to wait for a year-and-a-half to have the time and money to refinish her floors, with the damaged spot where the poop had been, serving as a daily reminder of the sense of violation she had experienced. Now that I think about it, the same thing happened to my grandparents in the 1990s while they were on an RV trip, only the poop was on their walls. My book club friend stated the police officers who had responded to the call advised her that this was a common behavior witnessed among break-in robberies like hers. Law enforcement may be a better source of information about the prevalence of fecal smearing in the general community, which goes to the degree to which we have delegated the responsibilities of our mental health agencies to law enforcement. Behavioral researchers should look there for data about the frequency with which these incidents occur and how they are addressed. Needless to say, there was no scholarly research I could find that was specific to the fecal smearing behaviors that happened during the Insurrection of January 6, 2021, at the Capitol of the United States of America. Only official records from the government and reports in the media capture the incident. I'm quoting the Trial Memorandum of the U.S. House of Representatives from the second impeachment proceedings against the 45th president of the United States, here: Once inside, insurrectionists desecrated and vandalized the Capitol. They ransacked Congressional Leadership offices—breaking windows and furniture, and stealing electronics and other sensitive material. They left bullet marks in the walls, looted art, smeared feces in hallways,and destroyed monuments … [Emphasis added.] This has been bothering me ever since it was first reported shortly after the Insurrection that fecal smearing had occurred during this incident as well. Based on what I already know about fecal smearing behaviors, what that tells me is that at least one person with profound disabilities was among the Insurrectionists. Based on the other overt behaviors of the Insurrectionists, it's safe to say that America's mental health crisis reached an apex of sorts, though it isn't done showing itself, yet, based on the continuing domestic terrorism threats we all still face. It's an Extinction Burst of a sort, and one we cannot afford to reinforce. These individuals are seeking reinforcement for behaviors that were once rewarded and escalating their behaviors when the rewards are not forthcoming. I think they're all cries for help, but the behaviors are so off-putting to most other people that they are disinclined to help and eager to ostracize anyone engaging in them. I think ostracizing these people helps the rest of us avoid the unpleasantness of dealing with these behaviors, but it's not a democratic response, much less an ethical one, We need a plan as a people on how to solve these problems, not punish people for having them. I'm not saying that people who commit crimes shouldn't pay for them. I'm saying that the causes of criminal behaviors have to be addressed so they don't happen in the first place. There is way too much money being made on incarcerating Americans instead of helping them. The bigger concern for me, these days, though, is how many other people in positions of power actually understand the severity of our nation's mental health crisis and choose to exploit these individuals rather than meet their needs, such as the 45th president of the United States, for example. Protest, disagreement, and retaliation are the usual communicative functions of fecal smearing, and the Insurrection-related fecal smearing doesn't appear to be different in that regard. Everyone involved in the Insurrection was there to protest, disagree, and retaliate. What this specific form of communication tells us is that the people who engaged in it felt desperate enough to express their feelings through these actions rather than words, as if words had failed them and/or they didn't feel safe to use them. When people are mentally impaired and don't fully understand everything going on around them, they can easily become confused, misled, and manipulated by others. They are often aware when others are mistreating them even if they don't fully understand the hows and whys. They know when they find themselves in a disadvantaged situation and will harbor valid resentments about it, but they often don't know who did what to make it happen, much less what to do to make things better. When you have a right to be angry but you don't know how to get out of the situation, and no one is stepping up to help you, it's easy to become angry at everyone. You feel like the whole world is against you and there's nothing you can do. At that point, you default to the highest stage of social emotional development you've completely mastered, which may be well below your chronological age depending on the degree to which your social emotional development was healthy or not. Once someone becomes so overwhelmed emotionally in the absence of a solution that they start freaking out, very childlike – even infantile – behaviors are likely to ensue. In the name of “liberty” and “freedom,” we've absolved ourselves of any responsibilities for the welfare of our neighbors. Personal liberty becomes confused with narcissism. People pay lip service to the ideals of the Constitution while exploiting their neighbors for financial gain. Money is an imaginary construct that many people value more than human life. Many of these same people claim to be true believers in Christ, effectively singing church hymns as they sling their poo at everyone else. I don't recall any part of the New Testament encouraging that kind of behavior, but religious scholars who have studied the texts more closely than I have are welcome to correct me if I'm wrong. Most of us understand that the people who got sucked into the 45th president's own mental health crisis are also not well, but they also account for approximately one-third of our population. That makes them a dangerous minority that has now grown into a domestic terrorism problem. It puts the assertions by the majority of Muslims around the world that Islam is not a religion of violence into context, now that we've got our own violent religious radicals here at home calling themselves Christians. The inextricable intertwining of religion and mental health problems in societies is yet another topic for a separate conversation, but I have to point out that there are many responsible faith leaders struggling to lead as many of their congregationalists abandon the teachings of Christ to follow every wolf in sheep's clothing that steps into their path. American commercialism and its own brand of capitalism have created a competitive mindset about everything in our culture. It's “My high school football team is going to crush your high school football team.” It's, “My church is made up of the chosen and all the other churches are full of people going to Hell.” It's, “My neighborhood is the best and everyone else lives in a dump.” Where is this narcissistic drive to be “better” than everyone else coming from in a society that's supposed to be democratic? Why do we feel driven to create a caste of “losers” to make ourselves feel like “winners”? How does hurting other people make someone a “winner”? People have developed brand loyalties around things that aren't actually brands. American consumerism and its obscene obsession with the pursuit of material wealth has grossly undermined the uniform message of every great faith. Wanting more than what one needs while others go without contradicts every pious teaching of every great religious leader the world has ever remembered. We're all supposed to be collaborating with each other, not competing with each other, to survive as a species. Raising children from birth under conditions that deprive them of developmentally necessary opportunities to reach adulthood physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually intact, is an uphill battle. The science is clear that the type of family support system an individual has is irrelevant; what matters is whether they have any type of support system at all. Children growing up in homeless shelters with after school tutoring, social services, higher education and job placement services for parents, etc., remain as academically intrinsically motivated as children living in traditional family homes with access to resources. The gender identity and sexual orientations of parents have zero bearing on the quality of their parenting. Parenting becomes poor when it fails to nurture childhood development, regardless of the gender or orientation of the parent. What we can safely deduce from witnessing current events as it relates to the known science is that being raised in economic extremes, whether extreme poverty or extreme wealth, deprives children of developmental opportunities that undermine their mental, emotional, and communicative growth. Extremely wealthy children are at risk of never learning how to do anything for themselves and will implode the minute they have to deal with serious life challenges. Extremely poor children are at risk of malnutrition, homelessness, and other hardships that make mere survival the priority without the opportunities to work on any other part of their development. As the middle class in America continues to disappear, we're at risk of more and more people ending up at one economic extreme or the other and their children growing up thinking that humanity is truly divided as a matter of nature into two classes: the “haves” and the “have nots.” If that's all they see growing up, the divide becomes a hard and fast expected part of society. What do you think happens to a society that is made up entirely of people who failed to reach developmental maturity? It goes Lord of the Flies pretty quickly, after that. In my ever-worried imagination, under such circumstances, humans will return to the trees if we survive as a species at all. I keep thinking, “Maybe the bonobos will have a better go at sentience than we did.” It makes me want to teach them sign language just so I can tell them all the mistakes we've made and what to avoid. The first thing I'll teach them is, “Use your words, not your poop.” Returning the present issue of poop-smeared threats to our democracy wrapped in Confederate flags, I have a theory about one particular aspect of the problem that I haven't seen discussed in the news about the Select Committee's investigation into the Insurrection of January 6, 2021. In my line of work, the Americans with Disabilities Act and Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act come up quite frequently. When I see things that do not appear to conform with their requirements, they jump out at me. Given that were clearly dealing with people struggling with mental disabilities of one type or another, and given that social media has been instrumental in feeding them misinformation while giving them the tools to organize, it appears to me that the social media algorithms are not coded in a manner that reasonably accommodates users with the types of mental disabilities that make them vulnerable to misinformation and recruiting tactics of foreign adversaries and domestic terrorists. If anything, social media's absence of reasonable accommodations in its coding for users with these types of mental issues is creating more domestic terrorists than we already had in the first place, suddenly taking them from the fringes of our society to a sizable, dangerous minority of violent people bent on overthrowing the government. In the absence of effective mental health interventions, the manipulators swooped in and weaponized our own neglected mentally impaired citizens against us. What we don't take care of will take care of us. That's the whole reason that “being careful” is so important. “Being careful” isn't about avoiding problems, it's about being full of care. Being caring means being responsible for your community as well as yourself and your immediate loved ones. It takes a village, as they say, but if you neglect your village, you cease to be part of it. We're all different for a reason. Whether you're a person of faith and see it as a component of our Creator's Great Plan or you're a secularist who sees it as a function of nature and evolution, or you're like me and think that nature and evolution are parts of the Creator's Great Plan, it's an obvious fact that we're all meant to be different by design. The failure to appreciate the role that diversity serves for the balance of everything has led to efforts by a few unstable individuals who manage to acquire power and try to remake humanity over into a monolith, casting out those who, by design, cannot conform to their invented social hierarchies. This is the essence of discrimination. It's what causes people with disabilities to be regarded as less than human. Anyone who is discriminated against for any other reason should be empathetic to the discrimination experienced by people with mental disabilities that affect their behaviors, but our knee-jerk reaction is to be repulsed by the most extreme behaviors in which we see these people behave. These behaviors, while often intolerable and highly inappropriate, are still cries for help, we need to see them that way, and we need to collectively demand our elected officials to enforce the ADA and Section 504 when it comes to social media algorithms. My theory is that, if we use the existing language of the ADA and, where applicable, Section 504, to compel social media platforms to stop preying on the weakest minds among us, it will not only create jobs for coders knowledgeable of the law, but also enforcement officials knowledgeable of the code. Rather than looking at the daunting task of coding the Code into social media platforms as an insurmountable challenge, it should be seen as a significant step towards true democracy that creates desperately needed jobs. The solution would solve more than one significant problem in this country and serve as an example of adult-level problem-solving for the rest of the world. Marketing research tells us that customer loyalty is greater after a vendor has had to work with a customer to solve a problem than if there was never any problem at all. It's not a source of shame for America to trip over its own feet and experience growing pains as it sheds the hypocrisy and anti-democratic practices of the past; what makes it shameful or not is how we respond. If we can bounce back from the threats our democracy if facing right now with science across the board in every domain of need, including our nation's ongoing mental health crisis, and enforce the ADA and, where appropriate, Section 504, on social media platforms, no additional regulations are necessarily needed. If any other regulations of social media become necessary above and beyond that, so long as the First Amendment is still protected while also preventing troubled people from getting sucked down the rabbit holes of conspiracy theories, we'll redeem ourselves in the eyes of the world. At least, that's my theory.

Megan Logan is a native of Annapolis, Maryland, and graduated from Florida State University with a Master's Degree in Clinical Work. She now resides in St. Augustine, Florida where she runs her own counseling practice. Megan values helping others and believes that she has a magic quality and energy that's meant to be shared with the world! She is also the author of a self-help book titled: “Self-Love Workbook for Women: Release Self-Doubt, Build Self-Compassion, and Embrace Who You Are'.' In this podcast, Megan shares how to recognize and take responsibility for your mental burnout and how to self-love unselfishly.

Happy Birthday to Ellen DeGeneres who lives by this motto: EMBRACE WHO YOU ARE! My Daily Phone Message is always complete with some fact and an invitation and sometimes a song. Take a listen every morning. In under a minute, you've got yourself a TOOL to position yourself for success as the curtain rises and you dive into Act 1-your business life. #youonyourbestday #goforit #livewithgusto

Tune in, and open up, to meet the Goddess of unconditional positive regard, Morgana Mueser! Morgana grew up in North Carolina and attended UNC Chapel Hill twice. She has been a physical therapist for 23 years and a massage therapist for 6 years. She currently resides in Apex, North Carolina with her furchildren, 2 dogs and a cat. She has a fabulous 20 year old daughter who is off at college in NYC. Back in April 2021, after doing a variety of things over the worst of the pandemic when she didn't feel like massage was a good idea, she reopened her private practice, Triple Spiral, which includes massage, physical therapy, and ergonomic consulting. In her spare time she enjoys gardening, beekeeping, yoga, spending time with friends, family, and pets. She is interested in fostering connections and a feeling of support, compassion, and community.Morgana's most influential book(s): The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, and Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown; and Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life, and Stop Doing That Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back by Gary John Bishop Morgana's website: https://www.triplespiralllc.com Morgana on Facebook: @triplespiralllcMorgana on Instagram: @triplespiralllcMention in the show: https://brenebrown.com #selfcare #love #mentalhealth Subscribe To and Watch The Voices of The Goddess with Julietta Wenzel and Allyson Mancini on Youtube HERE:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJkusUQRFjoRa0oDQpCLAbA/videos Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Voices-of-the-Goddess-356165865475415Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/voicesofthegoddess/ Voices of The Goddess with Julietta the Magical PT and Allyson the Holistic Nutritionist is a show that  supports modern day goddesses in developing their super powers and acquiring the tools they need to achieve all their desires. Join us each week as we interview amazing women in the community who share their insights and how they use their tools to make their dreams a reality. Allyson, a Michigander, moved to South Florida in 1993 with her fiancé, Nick. Married for 27 years with two children, Nicholas 24 and Lexi  21.  A SAHM for 24 years and now an empty nester, she has found her true passion as a Holistic Nutritionist. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthylifestyleinandoutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/allysonkmancini/?hl=en Julietta grew up in Wisconsin and graduated with a Physical Therapy degree from University of Wisconsin-Madison.  When not busy treating patients or teaching Voila Method in the US and internationally, she is making healing crystal art and jewelry, creating spiritual/healing paintings, or planning underground dining experiences. A contributing author in the best-selling book UNSTOPPABLE: Leverage Life Setbacks To Rebuild Resilience For Success. https://bodyandsoul-pt.com/   http://julietta.love/ https://soulcandycrystals.com/ https://www.facebook.com/TheMagicalPThttps://www.facebook.com/soulcandybyjuliettahttps://www.facebook.com/Juliettalove-108449684234840https://www.instagram.com/themagicalpt/https://www.instagram.com/soul_candy_/https://www.instagram.com/juliettadotlove/

Join us this week for an empowering and helpful talk with Dr. Ellen, The Midlife Whisperer. Dr. Ellen is a registered dietician, a Ph.D. psychologist, and a mindful/self-compassion coach. She has a new book: Rock Your Midlife: 7 Steps to Transform Yourself and Make Your Next Chapter Your Best Chapter.We tackle the difficult subject of the 'psychology of food.' Dr. Ellen explains how psychology - the study of mind and behavior affects the body and how food impacts psychology. 'We are made of cells, and those cells are made of the food we eat.' - Dr. Ellen.To help change behaviors about food, you need to understand what's driving the behavior. Food choices are rarely about the food itself. What's the biggest challenge??(We must) embrace who we are and to love ourselves exactly as we are. -Dr. EllenIt's hard to change a body we hate, so we tend to medicate with food. This creates a vicious cycle involving shame and hiding. Who wants to do something that makes you feel like you're losing? This is what drives the multi-million dollar 'diet culture', which rarely imparts lasting change. Join us as we teach you how to really change, how to tap into your caring and compassion hormone - oxytocin, which is more likely to help you create lasting change, rather than relying on your pleasure receptor - dopamine.Dr. Ellen is a wealth of knowledge. Her energy is fantastic - you can hear the joy in her voice. Dr. Ellen has been helping women find joy and health while not feeling deprived, but by tapping into their true life force. We know you'll love her as much as we do.Resources:https://drellenalbertson.comThe Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are  by Dr. Brene Brown If this episode helped you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening and post it to your Instagram stories, and tag us, @thehelpfulplate, @heymomma_cam, @midlife.mommas.Join us on the midlife journey!Websites: www.camoyler.com and www.thehelpfulplate.comInstagram: www.Instagram.com/midlife.mommasFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/midlifemusclewithcam

We are live on #LifeisaSacredJourney with Megan Logan, a licensed clinical social worker and the author of the "Self-Love Workbook for Women: Release Self-Doubt, Build Self-Compassion, and Embrace Who You Are." Join the conversation.

Danielle Reed and I spoke about one of my favorite topics - values. Last year, as we entered the pandemic, I *finally* made time to do a “values exercise”. It was an extension of a smaller values list I had done before. This one, I took the time to think, considering fully the definitions and etymology of each word… I made a lot of word discoveries and discoveries about myself.    I would love to invite you to listen in and consider if maybe it's time for you to make time to discover your core values - and experience the clarity, peace and impact of that on your life! **   “When something is off, pause and go through your values. You'll find the one that is off and all you gotta do in that moment is say, how can I step more towards this right now, right in this moment. We get our power back when we realize that we are in control of this, that I can step back on my path, in any moment. It's not always easy, but it's possible.” - Danielle Reed Connect with Danielle Reed:   https://coachonthego.net/   https://www.fitfierce.ca/   https://coachonthego.net/one-day-workshops/   https://coachonthego.net/the-daring-way-4/   https://coachonthego.net/a-year-of-joy/   https://coachonthego.net/rising-strong/     https://coachonthego.net/shop/   https://www.facebook.com/coachonthego.net   https://www.instagram.com/coach_onthego/ Mentioned in interview:   **As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases**   Danielle Reed: It's Time to Stop Making Bagels: A Journey Towards Embracing Imperfection Paperback https://amzn.to/3yVRneV   Danielle Reed: 30 Days to What Matters (Full Colour): A Values Journal Paperback   https://amzn.to/36ytQnS   Danielle Reed: What Matters?: Find Your Values, Live Your Values, Give Others Permission to do the Same Paperback   https://amzn.to/3r3BzUq   Don Miguel Ruiz: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom https://amzn.to/3wALEJN   Don Miguel Ruiz: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) Kindle Edition   https://amzn.to/3yTj7Au   Caroline Myss: Sacred Contracts: Awakening Your Divine Potential   https://amzn.to/3r3zU1j   Caroline Myss: Sacred Contracts: Awakening Your Divine Potential Kindle Edition https://amzn.to/3AV8hvH   Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler: Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High https://amzn.to/3AXDcaM   Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler: Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Second Edition Kindle Edition   https://amzn.to/3xABQ3G   Brene Brown - Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Love, Parent & Lead   https://amzn.to/3kp33Tt   Brene Brown - Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Kindle Edition https://amzn.to/3wDzakB Brene Brown - Gifts of Imperfection, The: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are  https://amzn.to/3AXJ4B2 Brene Brown - The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are Kindle Edition https://amzn.to/3yTlnHY Tarana Burke and Brene Brown - You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience Kindle Edition https://amzn.to/3xE8KjX   Tarana Burke and Brene Brown - You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience https://amzn.to/2UIiHy8   Brene Brown: Dare to Lead https://amzn.to/3yQu1Hr   Brene Brown: Dare to Lead: Brave Work. 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(Elsie De Wolfe) This quote is my subtle mission in life...    I'm a mom to an amazing little girl, girlfriend to an amazing man, a social marketer with an amazing online values driven company, podcaster, thought leader, and the Editor-in-Chief of an online publication. I find a ton of my life's joy in connecting people, to other people, places and things.   I love speaking, writing, creating, traveling and connecting. A natural leader and disruptor, I have a passion for helping men and women to trust the niggle (trust themselves), tell the truth (boundaries are an amazing thing) and speak, even when their voice shakes. I'm a champion for the underdog, can't doesn't exist in my vocabulary and I believe that taking radical responsibility in your life changes everything.   Curious to know more? https://linktr.ee/CandiceSmiley   Modere.com or Modere.ca : 5579027 BIOCELL LIFE SAVE $10.00 CODE: https://www.modere.ca/ProductDetail/liquidbiocell-life-ca/?referralCode=5579027     DISCLOSURE: I USE MY WEBSITE, MAGAZINE AND SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS TO CREATE THE INCOME THAT SUPPORTS MY LIFESTYLE. WHEN YOU FOLLOW ME POSTS/ARTICLES/PAGES/ESSAYS  MAY CONTAIN AFFILIATE LINKS, MEANING I GET A COMMISSION IF YOU DECIDE TO MAKE A PURCHASE THROUGH MY LINKS, AT NO COST TO YOU. PLEASE READ MY DISCLOSURE FOR MORE INFO Musique credit Tiffany Sparrow and Chinmaya Dunster www.tiffanysparrow.com www.sparrowharmonix.com/#music   Special thank you to Angel Carrola Hennig for making this podcast happen   @faithinsmallhands  

Today's episode is about good communicators, what makes them good and how we can use that information to improve our own performance. However, I'm not looking at politicians or performers, the people you usually expect to be great communicators; no, I'm looking at an economist, a professor of particle physicist and a clinical social worker. What do they do that we can copy? Simple! Referenced in this episode:https://play.acast.com/s/the-david-mcwilliams-podcasthttp://www.davidmcwilliams.ie/festivals/https://royalsociety.org/people/brian-cox-12855/https://www.ted.com/speakers/brene_brownhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Pope%27s_Childrenhttps://www.janicefogarty.com/dont-waste-your-breath-get-your-best-message-acrossRecommended Reading:I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" by Brene Brown (https://amzn.to/3nZgzwL)Gifts of Imperfection, The: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown (https://amzn.to/3uKDrCs)The Generation Game by David McWilliams (https://amzn.to/3yJp578)The Pope's Children by David McWilliams - where we meet Breakfast Roll Man - (https://amzn.to/3hZxcpf)*Please note that these are my Amazon affiliate links and if you use one to purchase the products I recommend or anything else, your price won't change but I will receive a small commission. Thank you for your support.My Products:Don't Waste Your Breath guide on messaging (https://janicefogarty.podia.com/dont-waste-your-breath-get-your-best-message-across)How to be an Amazing Podcast Guest checklist (https://www.janicefogarty.com/how-to-be-an-amazing-podcast-guest)10 Places to get Publicity, Even with Zero Budget (https://www.janicefogarty.com/discover-10-places-to-get-free-publicity-even-though-you-have-zero-budget)Let's Connect!✔Join me on Pinterest

Join us as we explore, Brene Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think Your Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Together we go in deep into courage, compassion, and connection. By tapping into our courage and doing even the scary and hard things we are embracing our imperfections. With the help of compassion, we explore self-compassion and with Brene's deep work and research, we learn how we can move into connection. This piece comes not only from having courage and allowing ourselves permission to have compassion not only for others but ourselves. Brene's work with shame and guilt transforms from book to book. Here inside of The Gifts of Imperfection, we learn how guilt can be helpful. Guilt is found in action from mistakes we make, whereas shame is deep-seated into who we think and believe we are. This book helps us better explore the possibilities of owning our imperfections and stepping into them with vulnerability. Short Bio: Brene Brown is a storyteller, writer, American professor, lecturer, mother, wife, and podcast host. Her work with shame and guilt has allowed vulnerability at new levels and believes we all are capable of shame resilience. Thank you Brene for the deep work you put into the world! Intro and outro muisc Sarah Caton originals

Why is it so hard to communicate like ourself? Things are changing around us which means we, too, are changing. Sometimes out of choice, sometimes out of necessity; sometimes it's conscious and often it's happening without our realizing. But we are changing and when that realization hits, how to do we communicate authentically? Especially when you don't exactly know who you are being authentic to?Recommended Reading:I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" by Brene Brown (https://amzn.to/3nZgzwL)Gifts of Imperfection, The: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown (https://amzn.to/3uKDrCs)Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking by Malcolm Gladwell (really, anything by Malcolm Gladwell - in this book he looks at how some people do amazing things by following their intuition, what their gut tells them to do before they can blink. It helped me think about just trusting and going with my gut reaction and is just a great read for entertainment, too!) (https://amzn.to/3vTQKkg)

There are still a lot of inequalities that women face with regards to finances like the gender wage gap and the gender investing gap. In this episode, learn how Miracle Olatunji is bridging those gaps and advocating for financial equality among women. Miracle is an amazing college student, entrepreneur, speaker, and author. At 17, she founded OpportuniMe, a digital media and education company which empowers the next generation of leaders to develop life, leadership, and career skills. We talked about financial feminism, navigating college debt-free as well as money mindset. We also touched on the importance of investing, building generational wealth, and why self-trust is a form of self-love. Listen in to hear her story and get some great tips.  “When I think about wealth and finances, it's not really just about the money, it's more of the freedom and what you can get with the money.” - Miracle Olatunji   Timestamps 2:37 - Miracle's personal finance story and how she became a financial feminist 6:08 - How Miracle managed to go to school in Boston, earn money while studying, and soon graduate debt-free 12:00 - The mindset shift in investing and financial anxiety that Miracle had to make to survive being an immigrant in America 15:05 - What you need to know about investing, why it is so important, and how to handle money mistakes 24:20 - How Miracle is continuously building generational wealth and why she thinks it's so important 28:20 - What is self-love and why investing is an act of self-love 33:04 - Miracle's ongoing therapy for self-love and Melanie's self-love journey 38:30 - Normalizing the slow progress in therapy and healing journey 45:46 - The importance of financial wellness, taking small actions/steps to change your life plus other tips to achieve financial wellness Resources and People Mentioned OpportuniMe Purpose: How To Live and Lead With Impact by Miracle Olatunji Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not! by Robert Kiyosaki Interview with Erin Lowry Robert Farrington The College Investor Interview with Ken Honda Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace With Your Money by Ken Honda Backstage Capital Self-Love Workbook for Women: Release Self-Doubt, Build Self-Compassion, and Embrace Who You Are by Megan Logan Interview with Emily Guy Birken Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear Connect with Miracle Instagram Twitter Connect with Melanie mentalhealthandwealth.com melanielockert.com Instagram Contact: mentalhealthandwealthshow@gmail.com Attend our next Money Management Check-in Party   Want more content and support?  Sign up for the Mental Hump Newsletter and get our free Mental Health and Money inventory worksheet. You can sign up at MentalHealthandWealth.com.  Also, we host a Mental Health and Wealth Hangout every other Thursday over Zoom at 5 pm PT to chat about all things money and mental health. Join here!   If you'd like to support the podcast, you can do so here: https://ko-fi.com/melanielockert  

Because life can be a bit demanding, finding the time, energy and resources to take care of ourselves can truly feel impossible at times. And when life gets tricky like this, we could all use a little extra help. In today's episode we're going to discuss the fifth and final key to creating self care independence; support.Also, if you need a professional to talk to, check out Talkspace.Or, if you're in crisis, visit THIS LINK. SHOW NOTES:Patreon Perk: FreebieDigital Download: Snag itNewsletter: Sign UpWebsite: crystalmclaincreative.comMembership: ExploreInstagram: @crystalmclaincreativeSupport My Work: PayPalBuzzsprout: Check it outCarol Dweck's Mindset TED TalkMentioned in this episode: "Emotional Intelligence 2.0”, by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves“The Gifts of Imperfection: Let go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" by Brené Brown"You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable" by Jen SinceroSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/crystalmclaincreative?fan_landing=true)

This episode is released to commemorate My Best Life Now's 1st anniversary! Wow, this year has gone by so fast! ------- This month's focus is on "Relationships That Thrive", so I invited relationship coach Robyn Zaval, from Raising Greatness Coaching. She is also the creator of OnlyTheInspired.com coaching platform which was launched in September 2020. She shares her journey as she discovered her life purpose, realized the value of coaching, saw the vision for OnlyTheInspired.com and her passion for coaching. She also shares some relationship lessons she learned along the way. Sit back and enjoy the conversation! REIGNITE your life! Take action to serve your dreams. A 5 minute baby step moves you one step closer to the life of your dreams! Today is the a beautiful day to live your best life now! --------- Robyn's Gift: OnlyTheInspired Offer: Sign Up To Get A Free 30 Day Membership https://onlytheinspired.com/life-reignited/ --------- Robyn's Favorite Song: "If Today Was Your Last Day" by Nickelback Robyn's Favorite Books: "Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action" by Simon Sinek "Blue Ocean Strategy, Expanded Edition: How to Create Uncontested Market Space and Make the Competition Irrelevant" by W. Chan Kim and Renée Mauborgne "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts" by Gary Chapman Robyn loves all things Brené Brown. Brené's books include "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are", "I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough"", "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" and "Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts." https://brenebrown.com/downloads/ Robyn's Favorite Healthy Snack: Jennie's Organic Coconut Bites with Cranberries, Chia Seeds, Goji Berries & Chocolate -------- Life REIGNITED Spotify Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1OvhxpUTgRroYSRQM60llt -------- Happy 1st Anniversary My Best Life Now!

In my book AfterLIFE I spoke very openly about my experience with therapy because of the profound importance it played in my healing and growth. I didn't access this tool for many years in my life, because I thought doing so was “giving up” or “being weak”. No one in my world ever discussed what it was or the benefits they received from. I believed that I could positive affirmation may way through anything in life. That plus a combination of physical exercise that helped me burn through anxiety until several crisis hit me at once and I finally reached out for help. See my book for the complete story :) I've been open about my experience so others will maybe reach out sooner than I did, but I could only speak from layman's perspective, and my experience so I wanted to bring an expert on to have general conversation about therapy, what it is, how one finds a therapist, different ways to access it on various budgets and more! As a practicing Licensed Professional Counselor, Janelle brings all that and more to this great conversation. I learned so much and hope you do to! Please like and subscribe to my podcast where ever you listen to it, share it with the world and leave a kind word wherever you can! Thank you for joining me, and enjoy your Journey! Resources Mentioned in this Podcast: To reach Janelle: Janelle@avenuescounselingcenter.org Great Therapy an finding a therapist resource: Psychology Today Books Discussed: Letters to a Young Poet, Rainer Maria Rilke The Gift of Therapy, Dr. Irvin D. Yalom The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, Brené Brown The Untethered Soul, Michael A. Singer The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle Anything by Ken Wilber --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/carlopodcast/support

Have a kid? Know a kid? Were a kid? This final episode of 2020 is a must listen! Honored to have publishing powerhouse Namrata Tripathi (founder and publisher of Kokila Books) join me in this wonderful chat where she talks about the power of representation in children's literature, how her international upbringing has shaped her, and what it's like to create a picture book with His Holiness The Dalai Lama!SHOWNOTES FOR EPISODE 43:Kokila Books on the web and instagramGuardian article (that I misquoted!) about the UK survey from the Centre for Literacy in Primary Education, which found that the proportion of British children's books featuring a black, Asian or minority ethnic main character had increased to 5% in 2019, from just 1% in 2017. Namrata's Turban Talk for Ignite @ KickstarterKOKILA BOOKS (Namrata shared how some of these gems were created):Fauja Singh Keeps Going: The True Story of the Oldest Person to Ever Run a Marathon by Simran Jeet SinghThe Seed of Compassion: Lessons from the Life and Teachings of His Holiness the Dalai Lama by His Holiness the Dalai Lama, illustrated by Bao Luu Patron Saints of Nothing by Randy RibayAntiracist Baby by Ibram X. Kendi and illustrated by Ashley LukashevskyThe Ocean Calls: A Haenyeo Mermaid Story by Tina Cho, illustrated by Jess X. Snow My Rainbow by DeShanna Neal and Trinity Neal, illustrated by Art TwinkThe Night Diary by Veera Hiranandani PRE-ORDER:Fatima's Great Outdoors by Ambreen Tariq , illustrated by Stevie Lewis Laxmi's Mooch by Shelly Anand, illustrated by Nabi H. Ali OTHER BOOKS WE DISCUSSED:Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates Begin Again: James Baldwin's America and Its Urgent Lessons for Our Own by Eddie S. GlaudeThe Undocumented Americans by Karla Cornejo VillavicencioThe Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené BrownHood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall The Light of the World: A Memoir by Elizabeth AlexanderFollow us on Instagram for more on Namrata, Kokila, and everything we mentioned in this episode! Special thanks to Varun Dhabe, Aman Moroney and the team @ Boon Castle / Flying Carpet Productions for audio post-production engineering!

Thank you so much for checking out this episode! This week Chris and Debbie sit down for a chat about worthiness. They answer the following questions, from their personal experience, plus much more:What's the difference between internal and external worthiness?How do feelings of unworthiness show up in everyday life?What are some drawbacks to striving for worthiness externally?Can you ever find worthiness through something external?What leads to feelings of unworthiness?What might be some ways to work toward feelings of worthiness?What are some tools and resources that could help with understanding and increasing internal worthiness?Resources mentioned in this episode:Don't Keep Your Day Job episode with David LynchThe Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene BrownI Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" by Brene BrownYOU: A Guide to Deeper Connection, a Lifestyle of Ease, and Massive Results by Brandon HawkThis quote by Alexandra Elle:"We can't be so desperate for love that we forget where we can always find it, within."Get your free "Stop the Drift" workbook HERE.

Astrologer Colin Bedell and I discuss the Relational Houses (Houses 4-8) in Astrology. How to have healthy relationships based on what the signs of these houses need! Who rules your relational house and what are they looking for? BOOKS FROM THE SESSION LITERATURE "Attached" The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love. (2010) by Amir Levine, Rachel S.F. Heller "The Intentional Family: How To Build Family Ties In Our Modern World" (1999) by William H. Doherty The Gottman Institute "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" (2010). Brene Brown. "Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence: (2006). Esther Perel 1."Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love." (2019). John and Julie Gottman. 2. "Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You've Always Wanted" (2014) Marcia Naomi Berger 1."Getting the Love You Want: A Guide questions like who, what, for Couples." (2007). Dr. Harville when, where, why and how. Hendrix. 2. "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships. (2015) Marshall Rosenberg CHECK OUT COLIN: https://www.queercosmos.com/ Bio: Colin Bedell is a queer Gemini Twin from Long Island, New York. He's a passionate student of secular personal-growth systems, and the universal spiritual themes explored in A Course in Miracles. Well & Good Magazine listed Colin as one of the most influential people in the wellness industry and as a 2020 Innovator. Complementing his work with QueerCosmos, Colin's the weekly horoscope writer for Cosmopolitan.com. His bestselling first book A Little Bit of Astrology from Sterling Publishers debuted November ‘18, his second book Queer Cosmos: The Astrology of Queer Identities & Relationships which launched last November was ranked the #1 Astrology book for beginners by the DailyDot magazine, and his third book Gemini by Sterling debuted January 2020. HOW TO FIND PLANETS IN YOUR CHART: https://youtu.be/EUgvbq-17sQ SOLSTICE GIFTS:https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11465551&appointmentType=15038734 CHECK OUT THE EAT & GREET COLLABORATIONS: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwL0zDMT3qCA8eEDFVfXZCBDik4OZ0jT7 FULL NATAL CHART-https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=167635 READY FOR A READING: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11465551&appointmentType=category:READINGS+%28LOOKING+AT+ONLY+1+PERSON%27S+CHART%29 BIRTHDAY (SOLAR RETURN) REPORT: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=58786 FULL CHART ANALYSIS BY VIDEO: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=248187 EMAIL READING- https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=144274 MONTH BY MONTH PERSONAL BREAKDOWN VIDEO-https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=169746 FACEBOOK-https://www.facebook.com/pages/Stormie-Grace/138693799515065?ref=hl FIND YOUR TRIBE GROUP ON FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/232632710465654/ https://twitter.com/StormieGrace08 All my love everyone --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/stormie-grace/support

E12 مع ريم فلبي عن رعاية الذات والطبيعة  موضوع الحلقة  اهمية رعاية الذات حتى نستطيع ان نعطي و نقوم بدورنا تجاه الآخرين  في الحلقة كيف اعرف ايش يملي كوبي؟ رعاية الذات كأسلوب حياة وليس رفاهية، الطبيعة و كيف اصغر الأمور تعمل فرق كبير، كيف ما نحتاج اشياء كتير حتى نكون سعيدين، كيف كل شخص مختلف و حتى احنا نختلف من وقت آخر و اهمية انه نعرف ايش اللي يفيدنا الآن.  مذكور في الحلقة  كتب  Life Is What You Make It: Find Your Own Path to Fulfillment  The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself ضيفة الحلقة  ريم فلبي  امرأة سعودية لديها اولويات تحرص على جعلها نمط حياة، محبة جدا للطبيعة والإكتشاف و تعلم مهارات جديدة. أم لطفلين و حريصة على ان تعطي نفسها وعائلتها الصغيرة تجارب و فرص لإكتشاف العالم  شكرا  للتواصل Contact info  منال الدباغ Manal Aldabbagh  IG @manal.aldabbagh manal@manalaldabbagh.com  www.manalaldabbagh.com   تصميم الشعار Logo Design GraPhi  التدقيق الصوتي Sound Editing  عبدالله غانم  www.arcast.fm  Email: a.ghanem@arcast.fm

Welcome to The New Leader Podcast. I'm your host, Ian Daley. Today we're going to answer the question: How do you know you're ready for management? This episode is geared towards those who aspire to leadership roles but are not there yet, and are curious to know – how do you know when you're ready for that first management role? Today's guest is Catherine Rice, Vice President of Sales at Roche Pharmaceuticals, who has a great wealth of experience and knowledge in this topic. She is a highly effective and motivational leader who inspires improvement at district, regional, and national levels by driving performance and change management through tenets of simplicity, focus, and competitiveness. In this episode, we look at: Catherine's biggest failure and success as a leader How to know you're ready for management Going from “I” to “We” Being open to criticism, and a lot more. I hope you enjoy this one.   Biggest Failure As a people manager, it's natural to want something for someone, but they don't necessarily want that for themselves. You can see potential in them, and you try to push, and you try to get them there, there's a lot of advice giving, but nothing's happening because they're not there yet. They may not have the self-awareness nor the desire to want what you potentially want for them. If you ask me the reverse question, what some of my greatest successes were was helping people grow and develop and get those promotions. The failures were not recognizing when someone had the roadblock up and didn't want it for themselves, or they just weren't there ready to change, but I was pushing them to do it when they weren't there yet. It was really hard, and I had to learn not to get frustrated. I would resort into becoming too much of an advice giver. “You should do this. How about you try this?” versus “What is it you want, and how can I help you get there?” From “I” to “We” For me, the number one thing is, “Are they ready to make that transition from it's all about me to it actually has absolutely nothing to do with me?” That's a key distinction if you're going to be a strong people manager. It's tough, especially in sales when you have high performers. I've done a lot of reading in this area, and if you look at any group, those who tend to be promoted and put into management positions are the people who are super strong, key contributors, or individual contributors. These are your top sales person, your best physician, your best office worker. If they're really good at their task, they tend to get promoted. However, do they have the skills necessary to be a great people manager, and can they make that transition from “it's all about me and my results” to “it actually is about the team and the team's results”? That's a key distinction, and people have to have an awareness of that. Being Open to Criticism If you find yourself being open to people being critical of you, then you're ready to be a people manager. As a manager, it's not just about you giving feedback – you're going to get it yourself, and sometimes you don't necessarily like what people have to say about you as a person. You're in a spotlight role as a people manager; you can't hide. So you have to be open to that. And some people are, and some people aren't. Links and Resources Connect with Catherine: LinkedIn Visit their website: https://www.roche.com/ The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time by Susan Scott Brené Brown The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown

Molly and Sara have a candid discussion about their own experiences of inner strength. They go in-depth about how we need to support our own selves, be our own rock, and what that looks like. They pose some important questions such as: Do you support your own self? Are you lifting your own self up […] The post BK27: Are You Your Own Rock? appeared first on Soul Searching Zone- Intuitive Life Caoch- Kelly T. Smith.

We all rely on 3 levels of connection when it comes to meeting people -- but what are they, do we have to follow them in order, and how do we know what level we're on with someone?WHAT TO LISTEN FORWhat are the 3 levels of connection and why is it important to follow them in order?Is it possible to form a deeper bond with a stranger in 45 minutes than the bond you have with your closest friend?What mistake do many of us make when first getting to know someone and why can it cause a connection to fall apart in seconds?How do we encourage vulnerability from other people so that we can strengthen our relationships?What types of questions should you ask in order to build strong connections?What is the primary driving force behind building connections and being vulnerable?How does comfort with shame and embarrassment build deeper connections?Building great connections with new people can seem like navigating a maze if you don't understand how connections are built in the first place. When you're in a maze you can't see where you started, you can't see where the exit is, and every turn you take looks like the last one.Once you understand the 3 levels of connection, however, you go from being stuck in the maze to looking down on it. Connection is directly related to vulnerability, and when you're comfortable being vulnerable at each level you're able to confidently guide the other person through the maze as you learn more about each other and develop a solid bond.PLEASE SCROLL DOWN FOR FULL SHOW NOTES AND FEATURED RESOURCESShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!https://theartofcharm.com/challenge/A WORD FROM OUR SPONSORSProblems hiring? ZipRecruiter is the highest-rated hiring site in America. Try for FREE at ziprecruiter.com/charm where ZipRecruiter will send your job to 100+ of the web's leading job boards.Calm includes guided meditations and Sleep Stories to help you reduce anxiety, lower stress and sleep better. AoC listeners can get 25% off a Calm Premium subscription at calm.com/charm. Get started today at calm.com/charm.Great protection. Fair prices. Easy to use. SimpliSafe is the right way to protect your home. Go today to SimpliSafe.com/AOC to get your system today!MORE ABOUT THIS SHOWThink of the 3 levels of connection like a roadmap. If you were in the passenger seat of a car and you were telling the driver how to get from point A to point B, where would you start?Ideally, you'd find your current location, point A, on the map and start giving directions from there (or pull out your smartphone because this isn't 1999, type the destination in, and hit enter, but stick with me). If you tried to give directions starting from point B, or somewhere in between points A and B, you wouldn't go anywhere, the driver would look at you confused, and she might just get out of the car and let you figure it out on your own.YOU HAD ONE JOB!Anyway, the same goes for the 3 levels of connection.If you're going to start building a connection you must start at the beginning: the first level.Light Disclosure“In order for vulnerability to happen there's gonna have to be some risk involved,” Johnny states, “and that's what's scary about all this. So, the first level that we're discussing is lighthearted, fun, amusing anecdotes about yourself and the world around you.”Think of an embarrassing story from when you were younger.Maybe you were running a mile in PE (physical education) and tripped in front of the whole class and everyone laughed at you. Maybe you tried to cut your hair and you didn't realize how bad it was until you walked into class the next day and everybody laughed at you. Or maybe on your driver's license exam you hit a parked car because you forgot which was the brake pedal… and everybody laughed at you.The point is if you have an embarrassing story from your past that you can laugh at now, you can consider that light disclosure.The person you're telling the story to might not be able to relate to the exact events, but he will be able to relate to the emotional bids, such as being embarrassed, or caught off guard, or feeling humiliated in front of his classmates.You can be vulnerable in telling a story like that, people can connect with you via the emotions conveyed, and there's little risk because of the amount of time that's passed and you've moved on (hopefully).AJ put it simply, “We're pulling a piece of our past that shows a little imperfection.”And before we move onto the second level, keep in mind that these stories are not about the facts (location, color of the chalkboard, number of students that laughed their faces off, etc), but the emotions you felt in the story (embarrassment, frustration, anger, sadness, humiliation, etc).We connect through emotions, not facts.Medium DisclosureJohnny goes on to preface level 2, “Once both people have conveyed those stories, and are feeling matched, you are now at a point where if you want to go further then both parties can feel good about it. And what comes next is level 2, medium disclosure, which is beliefs, opinions, feelings, and ideas about yourself and the world around you.”Johnny also puts that last thought another way, “How you see things coming together, and that has been colored and put together through your sheer experiences in life. Which means that mine are going to be different than yours.”What are some examples of medium disclosure?Well, if light disclosure had to do with something from your past that you can laugh at, medium disclosure is going to be something more related to your present self. Maybe even something in your recent past (the last few years) that still has a hold on you or left a significant impact on how you perceive yourself and the world around you.AJ gives the example of imposter syndrome and feeling like he was a failure. Maybe you went through a bad breakup and it crushed your self-confidence. Maybe you got let go from a job you loved and it made you question your knowledge and abilities and possibly your career choice.The examples above are in a higher risk category than level 1 because someone could use your vulnerability against you, either to manipulate you or just hurt you.In addition, because two people are going to see the world through different lenses, sharing something in the medium disclosure level can invite judgment from the other person as their perception of you and the world is different. Heavy Disclosure“Heavy disclosure is the understandable human weakness, “Johnny continues, “Your fears and insecurities about yourself and the world around you. Now, that is a big one because most people don't want to have to admit they have fears and insecurities because that leaves them feeling vulnerable which leads them to feel unsafe.”AJ later chimes in, “Now, when we hear heavy disclosure, many of us are not anticipating trust, respect, kindness, or affection. We're expecting the worst, like ‘Oh my God now I'm going to be so judged, so vulnerable that this person can't possibly like or love me.' But in these moments when we progress through the light, we are now dropping our guard, moving to medium [disclosure] where we're starting to explain our worldview and share that, and then we move to heavy [disclosure] - now we're actually on the road to real connection!”Heavy disclosure is the final level in this roadmap for connection, but it doesn't mean you have to get there with everyone you meet. Heavy disclosure should be reserved for those who earn it.Why?Well, if you just go around telling everyone your deepest darkest secrets it tells people you will allow anyone in without knowing anything about them (not to mention those secrets are no longer deep, dark, or secret).As Johnny puts it, “By being selective on who gets that information, it allows that other person to feel special for knowing you in such a state.”SHOW NOTESWe kick things off with the 1997 study by Arthur Aron that sparked the 36 Questions That Lead To Lovewww.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.htmlWhy was it so easy for us to make friends as kids?And why does it get harder to make friends as we get older?What is vulnerability and why does the thought of being vulnerable in today's world lead to feelings of fear and anxiety?Johnny touches on why vulnerability allows people to connect with us so quicklyWhat goes on behind the scenes of the “perfect” lives we see on social media?The first level of connectionAJ explains what you should focus on when telling a lighthearted storyThe second level of connectionJohnny and AJ talk about their experience with imposter syndromeWhat mistake do many of us make when first getting to know someone and why can it cause a connection to fall apart in seconds?The third level of connection (aka the big one)Why heavy disclosure is NOT for everyoneHow are vulnerability and the victim mentality related?AJ breaks down how to know when the person you're talking to is ready for heavy disclosureWhy is it important to be comfortable with our own vulnerabilities before trying to get other people to open up about theirs?How do we encourage other people to be vulnerable?Johnny and AJ break down a common trait many people exhibit that prevents those around them from even wanting to be vulnerableWhat red flag should you look for in others when you start opening up?AJ emphasizes what happens when we don't follow the connection roadmapWhat questions should you focus on if you want to build strong connections?Why are emotions such a challenging subject for many of us to talk about?Johnny explains the barriers to vulnerability many men in today's day and age deal withAJ and Johnny discuss how vulnerability and shame are so tightly connectedWhat is the primary driving force under building connections and being vulnerable?What do you have to work on that will allow other people to be more comfortable being themselves around you?Johnny explains the importance of play as described by Brene Brown (https://brenebrown.com/)Why is it so important to talk about shame?Final thoughtsResources from this EpisodeThe Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings by Arthur Aron(http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0146167297234003)The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown(https://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Imperfection-Think-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1538231021&sr=1-1&keywords=the+gifts+of+imperfection)Applied Empathy by Michael Ventura (https://www.amazon.com/Applied-Empathy-New-Language-Leadership/dp/1501182854)Check in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ajharbingerJohnny on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny/Quotes:“We feel strongly connected to those that we feel comfortable enough being vulnerable around.” - AJ“If we want other people to be vulnerable around us, then we're going to have to be vulnerable ourselves.” - Johnny“The less we talk about shame the more we feel it.” - AJ“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” - Carl Jung

Sheila K. Collins and Christine Gautreaux join Ade for a conversation on "Self-Care." Caregiving is not a job for one person. Caregiving is the work of the community. As caregivers, it vital to ask for help and take time out for your own health and wellbeing or else, you can be in danger of hurting yourself. #TuneIn #Listen and #BeTransformation Check out Sheila K. Collins' site https://sheilakcollins.com/ and Christine Gautreaux site's https://www.christinegautreaux.com/ Also check out Ade's site: https://www.lifecoachade.com/ Also, connect with Ade on 12Listen.com - https://www.12listen.com/index.cfm?advisor=250#top Brené Brown's quote: “Until we can receive with an open heart, we're never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.” ~ Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

Molly discusses what it really means to be yourself. She delves into what the phrase, "I Am Who I Am, take me or leave me" really means and offers insight into some ways we can continue to grow, and love and honor who we really are. Molly offers two possible meanings to the phrase "I […] The post BK19: I Am Who I Am appeared first on Soul Searching Zone- Intuitive Life Caoch- Kelly T. Smith.

You've been there, haven't you? Your child strikes out at a baseball game, bombs a test or messes up at her dance recital and acts like it's the end of the world. It seems in today's world, moving away from the limelight for even a second can stroke fear in kids. The self-esteem movement took our culture by storm in the 1990s. Now experts realize this movement had some serious holes in it. We are finding out that striving to “be our best” 24/7 is not only exhausting but ultimately robs kids and adults of living authentic and healthy lives. The antidote to the shortcomings of self-esteem is self-compassion. Like self-esteem, self-compassion generates a positive feeling about oneself but it has nothing to do with performance. It's about being kind to yourself no matter what -- especially when things don't go well. Teaching self-compassion is a must in today's world of ultra comparison-itis and competition. Plus, research shows its really good for us. It's one of those tools like gratitude, that boosts emotional health and well being. On episode 19 of The Healthy Family Podcast Karen Bluth, Ph.D. explains the benefits of teaching self-compassion to adolescents. She is Assistant Professor at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and a certified instructor of Mindful Self-Compassion. Karen has been a mindfulness practitioner for almost 40 years and frequently gives talks, conducts workshops, and teaches classes in self-compassion in educational settings and in the community. She is co-creator of the curriculum Making Friends with Yourself: A Mindful Self-Compassion Program for Teens, and author of the book The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Criticism and Embrace Who You Are.