I Wish You Knew

In this powerful episode, attachment expert Jessica Baum joins Adam Lane Smith to unpack one of the most essential yet misunderstood pillars of a healthy relationship: emotional safety. Together, they explore why safety isn't just a “nice to have” in love, but a biological and psychological necessity that shapes the way we connect, heal, and grow. Whether you've struggled with abandonment wounds, anxious or avoidant patterns, or felt unseen in your relationships, this conversation offers deep clarity and actionable insights. Topics Covered:

In this episode, Andrey and Adam dive deep into the foundations of trust-based communication in both professional and personal relationships. They unpack the dangers of transactional thinking, explore how poor communication sabotages connection, and offer practical insight into building relationships rooted in mutual respect rather than leverage. Topics Covered:

In this episode, Kelly Chase from Love Is Blind (Season 1) opens up about her journey from heartbreak and self-abandonment to healing, boundaries, and self-love. She shares what led her to go on the show, what she learned from the experience, and what she's looking for now in love, life, and relationships. ✨ Topics Covered:

In this episode, Aurora Culpo returns with a candid and emotionally honest update about her personal life. She opens up about the complexity of dating after heartbreak, the internal battles of self-worth, and how she's navigating a new relationship under the scrutiny of public attention. From emotional triggers and attachment patterns to navigating jealousy and miscommunication, Aurora invites listeners into the real, often messy, human experience of love and healing. Whether you're single, dating, or rebuilding after pain, her vulnerability offers comfort, wisdom, and perspective. ✨ Key Topics Covered:

In this deep and vulnerable conversation, Kyle Cease opens up about his personal journey—from using comedy as a defense mechanism to confronting childhood trauma and stepping into authentic healing. He explores how false identities are formed through pain and how real transformation happens when we face the hidden parts of ourselves. With insights on attachment, inner work, spirituality, and the power of humor, this episode is both heart-opening and thought-provoking.  Topics Covered:

In this insightful episode, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned psychologist and expert on relationships and intimacy, joins attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to answer one of the hardest questions couples face: Can a relationship ever truly recover after an affair? Whether you've experienced betrayal or fear it might happen, this episode offers honest answers and real hope. Topics Covered

In this episode, Andrey and Adam unpack the deep connection between attachment styles and personality disorders. Together, they explore how childhood trauma, neurological stress, and emotional dysregulation contribute to avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment—and how these patterns can evolve into more severe conditions like borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and even schizophrenia. Adam challenges the medical model, offering hopeful insights on healing, brain health, and the possibility of recovery without relying solely on medication. ✨ Topics Covered ✨

In this episode, Evan Marc Katz joins Adam Lane Smith for a fiery and thought-provoking debate on one of the most challenging questions in relationships: Can we truly change our partner—or is it all about accepting them as they are? From practical dating strategies to deeper emotional dynamics, this conversation dives into the complexities of modern love and long-term compatibility. ✨ Key Topics Covered:

Brandon Doerkse opens up about how he nearly lost his marriage due to emotional numbness, distraction, and addiction. For years, he struggled with avoidance, failing to recognize how his actions were eroding the trust and intimacy in his relationship. It wasn't until he hit rock bottom that he realized the painful truth—his marriage was falling apart, and he was the one responsible. Topics Covered:

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, navigates the challenges of a toxic marriage. Through raw and honest conversations, Adam uncovers the root causes of their struggles and offers practical guidance to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection. Whether you're facing similar issues or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with insights and advice that can make a real difference. Topics Covered:

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith and Shallon Lester expose the hidden red flags of avoidant attachment and why trusting words alone can lead to heartbreak. They break down the toxic dating patterns that leave women feeling unworthy, discuss why men rarely change without consequences, and share practical strategies to build secure, lasting relationships. Topics Covered:

In this episode, we dive into the growing divide between men and women in modern society. Our guest, HTH, joins the conversation to explore the cultural and psychological shifts affecting relationships, attachment dynamics, and societal structures. Topics Covered:

Alyssa shares how growing up in an environment that discouraged emotional expression led to survival-mode thinking. She describes the intense stress it placed on her nervous system and the difficulty of accessing emotional regulation. ✨  Main Topics Covered ✨ 

Many women find themselves in relationships that look perfect on paper but leave them feeling unfulfilled. In this episode, dating expert Julia Mazur shares her personal journey of settling in relationships and how she finally broke free. She discusses societal expectations, personal struggles, and the key mindset shifts needed to prioritize yourself in love and life. ✨ Main Topics Covered ✨

This week's episode features Jessica Preston who dives into the complexities of avoidant attachment in women, exploring personal experiences, emotional patterns, and the impact of past relationships. 

In this heartfelt and insightful interview, Kenzie Carter shares her journey from dating to engagement, revealing the secrets to building a deep, fulfilling relationship that stands the test of time. From early conversations about values to navigating conflicts with love and respect, Kenzie discusses what truly matters in a partnership. She offers her perspective on why so many relationships struggle, the importance of open communication, and how she and her fiancé foster mutual trust, respect, and affection.   Throughout, Kenzie opens up about how she knew her fiancé was "the one," the crucial role of a shared belief system, and the power of consistency in love. We also explore why more young women should express respect and admiration for their partners, and why showing appreciation matters in both big and small moments.   Join us for an in-depth look at creating authentic love, bridging generational gaps in understanding relationships, and finding joy and support in the journey of life together. Whether you're looking for relationship advice, inspiration, or just want to see real love in action, this conversation with Kenzie will leave you moved and inspired.   If you enjoyed this episode, you would probably love our episode on Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/yqnQ4vCsOAY    A special thanks to our sponsor Rugged Legacy Grooming Supply.   Look, Feel, and Be your best with personal hair, beard, and grooming products recommended by top relationship and style specialists. And, unlike other brands, Rugged Legacy designs its products with all-natural oils and scents, made right here in the USA.    Use code: IWYK20 for a 20% Exclusive I Wish You Knew Discount  https://ruggedlegacygrooming.com/ Want to become one of the 2% of content creators who make over a million dollars a year? Veritas Creative Academy offers exclusive access to resources from industry experts. Master the latest trends, learn proven strategies that work, finally hit the 7-figure mark, and become internationally recognized and celebrated: https://veritascreative.media/creator-academy/  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/   Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow   Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod    Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod   Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI   Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809     -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website:      https://adamlanesmith.com/   Youtube:     https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   Twitter /X:  https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith   Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro     -------------------------------------------------- Follow Kenzie Carter:   -------------------------------------------------- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thekenziecarter/reels/?hl=en  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_lilheat_   YouTube:  @TheKenzieCarter   The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.