Podcasts about attachment specialist

Why is dating broken?  Why are young men flooding back to church?  In this conversation, I sit down with Patrick Coffin: Catholic broadcaster, close-up magician, and host of The Patrick Coffin Show. We go deep on the real reasons relationships are falling apart: and it goes back further than you think. We cover:  → Why dating is a failed concept (and what humans actually need)  → The 3 "divorces" that broke Western civilization  → How your image of God shapes your attachment style  → Why empaths and narcissists can't stop finding each other  → The difference between emotional permanence and emotional impermanence  → What the Traditional Latin Mass has to do with secure attachment  → Why "spiritual but not religious" is code for "I don't want to be challenged"  → The biochemistry of feeling loved (oxytocin, vasopressin, and cortisol)  → How to repair after conflict: the skill most families lost 120 years ago Plus: Patrick performs a live magic trick that lands. This is the intersection of faith, neuroscience, and attachment theory: the stuff that actually changes how you bond.

In this episode, we explore what it means to stay human in a time of collective trauma. We talk about messiness as a core part of being alive, how purity culture and rigid systems disconnect us from our bodies, and why agency, consent, and clear yeses and nos are essential forms of resistance. Together, we unpack how supremacy shapes therapy, relationships, and identity — especially through individualism, whiteness, and disembodiment — and imagine more liberating ways of practicing care, connection, and community. The conversation weaves personal reflection, cultural critique, and somatic wisdom, inviting listeners back into their bodies, their grief, and their shared humanity.Subverting Supremacy Culture in our Practice: Part 2Friday, January 30, 20262:00 PM  4:00 PMVIRTUALhttps://www.shelterwoodcollective.com/events/subverting-supremacy-culture-in-our-practice-part-2Working with people means navigating power, race, and trauma.This workshop will help you notice supremacy culture in the room and resist it. Due to the way Christian nationalism works in the US we create space to engage Christian supremacy and its manifestations of racialized heteronormativity that affects all bodies — regardless of religious or non-religious status. You will learn embodied, relational tools to strengthen your practice and reduce harm. Danielle S. Rueb Castillejo (she/her), Psychotherapist, Activist, Community Organizer; Jenny McGrath (she/her), Psychotherapist Writer, Author, Body Movement Worker; Abby Wong-Heffter, (she/her), Psychotherapist Teacher, Attachment Specialist; Tamice Spencer-Helms, (she/they), Author, Theoactivist, Non-Profit Leader are collaborating to create a generative learning space for therapists, social workers, educators, organizers, spiritual leaders, healthcare providers, and community practitioners. Together we will work with the ways supremacy culture shows up somatically, relationally, and structurally in helping professions. We will examine how dissociation, fragmentation, and inherited oppression narratives shape our work, and develop practices to interrupt these patterns.This workshop addresses diversity and cultural competence by:Examining how supremacy culture impacts Black, Indigenous, and People of Color differently than white-bodied practitioners. Naming cultural, historical, and intergenerational forces that shape power dynamics in clinical and community settings. Offering embodied, relational, and trauma-informed tools to practitioners working across racial, ethnic, cultural, and linguistic differences. Developing the capacity to recognize and intervene in oppression harm while maintaining therapeutic integrity and accountability. Participants will engage in reflective dialogue, somatic exercises, case-based examples, and guided exploration of their own positionality. The intent is not perfection but deepening collective responsibility and expanding our capacity to resist supremacy culture inside our practice and in ourselves. The workshop is designed to meet the Washington Department of Health requirement for two hours of health equity continuing education (WAC 246-12-820).The Blackfoot Wisdom that Inspired Maslow's HierarchyBy Teju Ravilochan, originally published by Esperanza Projecthttps://www.resilience.org/stories/2021-06-18/the-blackfoot-wisdom-that-inspired-maslows-hierarchy/ Danielle (00:05):Be with you. Yeah. Well, it seems like from week to week, something drastically changes or some new trauma happens. It reminds me a lot of 2020.Jenny  (00:15):Yeah. Yeah, it really does. I do feel like the positive in that is that similar to 2020, it seems like people are really looking for points of connection with one another, and I feel like there was this lull on Zoom calls or trainings or things like that for a while. People were just burned out and now people are like, okay, where in the world can I connect with people that are similar to me? And sometimes that means neighbors, but sadly, I think a lot of times that means people in other states, a lot of people that can feel kind of siloed in where they are and how they're doing right now.Danielle (00:56):Yeah, I was just thinking about how even I have become resistant to zoom or kind of tired and fed up and then all of a sudden meeting online or texting or whatever feels safer. Okay. Again.About? Just all the shit and then you go out in the real world and do I messed that up? I messed that up. I messed that up. I think that's part of it though, not living in perfection, being willing to be really messy. And how does that play out? How does that play out in our therapeutic practices?Jenny (01:50):Yeah, totally. I've been thinking a lot about messiness lately and how we actually come into the world. I think reveling often in messiness for anyone that's tried to feed a young child or a toddler and they just have spaghetti in their hair and everything's everywhere. And then we work so hard to tell kids, don't be messy. Don't be messy. And I'm like, how much of this is this infusion of purity culture and this idea that things should be clean and tidy? That's really actually antithetical to the human experience, which is really messy and nuanced and complicated. But we've tried to force these really binary, rigid, clean systems or ways of relating so that when things inevitably become messy, it feels like relationships just snap, rather than having the fluidity to move through and navigate,Danielle (02:57):It becomes points of stop or I can't be in contact with you. And of course, there's situations where that is appropriate and there might be ways I can connect with this person in this way, but maybe not on social media for instance. That's a way that there's a number of people I don't connect with on social media intentionally, but am willing to connect with them offline. So yeah, so I think there's a number of ways to think about that. I think just in subverting supremacy, Abby and I talked a lot about consent and how also bringing your own agency and acknowledging your yeses and your nos and being forthcoming. Yeah, those are some of the things, but what are you and Tamis going to touch on?Jenny (03:47):I'd be curious to hear what you think inhibits somebody's agency and why? Because I thought that was so great. How much you talked about consent and if you were to talk about why you think that that is absent or missing or not as robust as it could be, what are your thoughts on that?Danielle (04:06):Well, sometimes I think we look in our society to people in power to kind of play out fantasies. So we look for them to keep checking in with us and it, it goes along with maybe just the way the country was formed. I talked a little bit about that this week. It was formed for white men in power, so there was obviously going to be hierarchical caste system down from there. And in each cast you're checking with the powerful person up. So I think we forget that that plays out in our day-to-day relationships too.(04:44):And I think it's a hard thing to acknowledge like, oh, I might have power as a professional in this realm, but I might enter this other realm where then I don't have power and I'm deferring to someone else. And in some ways those differences and those hierarchies serve what we're doing and they're good. And in other ways I think it inhibits us actually bringing our own agency. It's like a social conditioning against it, along with there's trauma and there's a lot of childhood sexual abuse in our country a lot. And it's odd that it gets pinned on immigrants when where's the pedophiles? We know where some of them are, but they're not being pursued. So I think all of these dynamics are at play. What do you think about thatJenny (05:32):When you talk? It makes me think about something I've just learned in the last couple years, which is like Maslow's hierarchy of needs, which has been turned into this pyramid that says you need all of these things before you can be self-actualizing. What is actually interesting is that Mazo sort of misappropriated that way of thinking from the Blackfoot nation that he had been living and researching, and the Blackfoot people were saying and have been saying and do say that they believe we come into the world as self-actualized. And so the culture and the community is designed to help that sovereign being come into their full selves.(06:20):And so actually the way that the pyramid was created was sort of the antithesis of what the Blackfoot people were trying to communicate and how they were living. But unfortunately, white psychology said, well, we can't acknowledge that this was from indigenous people, so we're going to whitewash it. We're going to say that Maslow created it and it's going to be wrong, basically. And I'm just thinking about the shift of if we view people and water and plants and animals and planets as sovereign, as beings that have self-actualizing agency, then of course we're going to probably want to practice consent and honoring them. Whereas if we view the world and people as these extractive things and objects, we're going to feel entitled to take what we want or what we feel like we deserve.Danielle (07:32):I'm not surprised though that we've extracted that hierarchy of needs from somewhere because as I write about, I've been writing a lot as I think about moral injury and what's happened to our society and how trauma's become a weapon, like a tool of empire in white bodies to use them as machinery, as weapons. One of the things I've thought a lot about is just this idea that we're not bodies, we're just part of the machine.(08:03):So then it would make sense to make a form, here's your needs, get this shit done so you can keep moving.Jenny (08:12):Totally. We just started watching Pluribus last night. Do you know what this is?(08:24):Is this really interesting show where there's this virus that comes from outer space and it makes everyone in the world basically a hive mind. And so there's immediately no wars, no genocide, nothing bad is going on,(08:43):Nobody is thinking for themselves except for this one woman who for whatever reason was not infected with the virus.(08:52):And it's so interesting and it's kind of playing with this idea of she is this white woman from America that's like, well, we should be able to think for ourselves. And everyone else is like, but wars are gone. And it's really interesting. I don't know where the show's going to actually go, but it's playing with this idea of this capitalistic individuation. I'm my own self, so I should be able to do that. And I know this, it's this place of tension with I am a sovereign being and I am deeply interconnected to all other beings. And so what does agency look like with being responsible to the people I'm in relationship with, whether I know them or not,Danielle (09:42):What is agency? I think we honor other people by keeping short accounts. I don't think I've done a good job of that much in my life. I think it's more recent that I've done that. I think we honor other people by letting them know when we're actually find something joyful about what our encounter with them or pointing out something loving. And I think we honor our community when we make a clear yes or clear no or say I can't say yes or no. Why can I tell you yes or no at a later date when we speak for ourselves, I think we give into our community, we build a pattern of agency. And I think as therapists, I think sometimes we build the system where instead of promoting agency, we've taken it away.Jenny (10:35):Yeah, I agree. I agree. I think I was just having a conversation with a supervisee about this recently. I who has heard a lot of people say, you shouldn't give your clients psychoeducation. You shouldn't give them these moments of information. And I was like, well, how gatekeeping is that? And they were having a hard time with, I've heard this, but this doesn't actually feel right. And I do think a lot of times this therapist, it's like this idea that I'm the professional, and so I'm going to keep all of this information siloed from you where I think it's ethical responsibility if we have information that would help things make more sense for our clients to educate them. And I often tell my clients in our first session, my job is to work myself out of a job. And unfortunately, I think that there's a lot in a lot of people in the therapy world who think it's their job to be someone's therapist forever. And I think I'm like, how do we start with, again, believing in someone's agency and ability to self-actualize and we just get to sort of steward that process and then let them go do whatever they're going to do.Danielle (11:54):I think that also speaks to can therapy change? I think the model I learned in graduate school has revolved a lot around childhood trauma, which is good. So glad I've been able to grow and learn some of those skills that might help me engage someone. I also think there's aspects I think of our society that are just missing in general, that feel necessary in a therapeutic relationship like coaching or talking from your own personal experience, being clear about it, but also saying like, Hey, in these years this has happened. I'm not prescribing this for you, but this is another experience. I think on one hand in grad school, you're invited to tell your story and know your story and deal with counter transference and transference and try to disseminate that in some sort of a blank way. That's not possible. We're coming in with our entire identity front and center. Yeah, those are just thoughts I have.Jenny (12:59):Yeah, I think that's so good. And it makes me think about what whiteness does to people, and I think a lot of times it puts on this cloak or this veneer of not our fullest truest selves. And I don't even think that white people are often conscious that that's what we're doing. I remember I am in this group where we're practicing what does it look like to be in our bodies in cross-racial experiences? And there's a black woman in my cohort that said, do you ever feel separate from your whiteness? Can you ever get a little bit of space from your whiteness? And I was like, honestly, I don't feel like I can. I feel like I'm like Jim Carrey in the mask, where the more I try to pull it off, the more it snaps back and it's like this crustacean that has encapsulated us. And so how do we break through with our humanity, with our messiness to these constraints that whiteness has put on us?(14:20):Oh, tomorrow. Oh my gosh. So I'm going to do a little bit of a timeline of Jenny's timeline, my emotional support timeline. I told Tamis, I was like, I can get rid of this if you don't think it's important, but I will tell you these are my emotional support timelines. And they were like, no, you can talk about 'em. So I'm just doing two slides on the timeline. I have dozens of slides as Danielle, but I'm just going to do two really looking at post civil rights movement through the early two thousands and what purity culture and Christian nationalism did to continue. What I'm talking about is the trope of white womanhood and how disembodied that is from this visceral self and organism that is our body. And to me is going to talk about essentially how hatred and fear and disgust of the black queer body is this projection of those feelings of fear, of shame, of guilt, of all of those things that are ugly or disavowed within the system of Christian nationalism, that it gets projected and put on to black bodies. And so how do we then engage the impact of our bodies from these systems in our different gendered and sexual and racial locations and socioeconomic locations and a million other intersectional ways? As you and Abby talked about the power flower and how many different parts of our identity are touched by systems of oppression and power(16:11):And how when we learn to move beyond binary and really make space for our own anger, our own fear, our own disgust, our own fill in the blank, then we are less likely to enable systems that project that on to other bodies. That's what we're going to be talking about, and I'm so excited.Danielle (16:32):Just that, just that NBD, how do you think about being in your body then on a screen? There's been a lot of debate about it after the pandemic. How do you think about that? Talking about something that's so intimate on a screen? How are you thinking about it?Jenny (16:52):Totally. I mean, we are on a screen, but we're never not in our bodies. And so I do think that there is something that is different about being in a room with other bodies. And I'm not going to pretend I know anything about energy or the relational field, but I know that I have had somatic work done on the screen where literally my practitioner will be like, okay, I'm touching your kidney right now and I will feel a hand on my kidney. And it's so wild. That probably sounds so bizarre, and I get it. It sounds bizarre to me too, but I've experienced that time and space really are relative, I think. And so there is something that we can still do in our shared relational space even if we're not in the same physical space.(17:48):I do think that for some bodies, that actually creates a little bit more safety where I can be with you, but I'm not with you. And so I know I can slam my computer shut, I can walk out of the room, I can do whatever I need to do, whether I actually do that or not. I think there sometimes can be a little bit of mobility that being on the screen gives us that our bodies might not feel if we are in a shared physical space together. And so I think there's value and there's difference to both. What about you?Danielle (18:25):Well, I used it a lot because I started working during the pandemic. So it was a lifeline to get clients and to work with clients. I have to remind myself to slow down a lot when I'm on the screen. I think it's easier to be more talkative or say more, et cetera, et cetera. So I think pacing, sometimes I take breaks to breathe. I used to have self-hate for that or self-criticism or the super ego SmackDown get body slammed. But no, I mean, I try to be down to earth who I would prefer to be and not to be different on screen. I don't know that that's a strategy, but it's the way I'm thinking about it.Jenny (19:20):As someone who has co-lead therapy spaces with you in person, I can say, I really appreciate your, and these things that feel unrushed and you just in the moment for me, a lot of times I'm like, oh yeah, we're just here. We don't have to rush to what's next. I think that's been such a really powerful thing I've gleaned from co-facilitating and holding space with you.Danielle (19:51):Oh, that's a sweet thing to say. So when you think about subverting supremacy in our practices, us as therapists or just in the world we are in, what's an area that you find yourself stuck in often if you're willing to share?Jenny (20:12):I think for me and a lot of the clients that I work with, it is that place of individualism. And this is, I think again, the therapy model is you come in, you talk about your story, talk about your family of origin, talk about your current relationships, and it becomes so insular. And there is of course things that we can talk about in our relationships, in our family, in our story. And it's not like those things happen in a, and I think it does a disservice, and especially for white female clients, I think it enables a real sense of agency when it's like, I'm going through the hardest thing that anyone's ever gone through. And it's like, open your eyes. Look at what the world is going through you, and we and us are so much more capable than white womanhood would want you to assume that you are. And so I think that a lot of times for white women, for a lot of my work is growing their capacity to feel their agency because I think that white patriarchal Christian capitalistic supremacy only progresses so long as white women perform being these damsels that need rescue and need help. And if we really truly owned our self-actualizing power, it would really topple the system, I believe.Danielle (21:53):Yeah, I mean, you see the shaking of the system with Renee, Nicole Goode. People don't know what to do with her. Of course, some people want to make her all bad, or the contortions they do to try to manipulate that video to say what they wanted to say. But the rattling for people that I've heard everywhere around her death and her murder, I think she was murdered in defense of her neighbors. And that's both terror inducing. And it's also like, wow, she believed in that she died for something she actually believed in.Jenny (22:54):Yeah. And I were talking about this as well in that of course we don't know, but I don't know that things would've played out the same way they played out if she wasn't clearly with a female partner. And I do think that heteronormativity had a part to play in that she was already subverting what she should be doing as a white woman by being with another woman. And I think that that is a really important conversation as well as where is queerness playing into these systems of oppression and these binary heteronormative systems. And this is my own theory with Renee, Nicole. Good. And with Alex, there is something about their final words where Nicole says, I'm not mad at you. And Alex says, are you okay? And my theory is that that is actually the moment where something snapped for these ice agents because they had their own projection on what these race traders were, and they probably dehumanized them. And so in this moment of their humanity intersecting with the projection that these agents had, I think that induced violence, not that they caused it or it was their(24:33):But I think that when our dehumanizing projections of people are interrupted with their humanity, we have a choice where we go, wait, you are not what I thought you were. Or we double down on the dehumanization. And I think that these were two examples of that collision of humanity and projection, and then the doubling down of violence and dehumanization(25:07):Yeah. It makes me think of, have you seen the sound of music?(25:13):So the young girl, she has this boyfriend that turns into a Nazi. There's this interaction towards the end of the film where he sees the family. He has this moment facing the dad, and he hasn't yet called in the other Nazis. And the dad says to him, you'll never be one of them.(25:36):And that was the moment that he snapped. And he called in the other guards. And I think it's making a point that there's something in these moments of humanity, calling to humanity is a really pivotal moment of are you going to let yourself be a human or are you going to double down in your allegiance to the systems of oppression? And so I think that what we're trying to invite with subverting supremacy is when we come to those moments, how do we choose humanity? How do we choose empathy? How do we choose kindness? And wait, I had this all wrong rather than a doubling down of violence. I don't know. Those are my thoughts. What do you think? Well,Danielle (26:27):I hadn't thought about that, but I do know that moment in sound of music, and that feels true to me, or it feels like, where do you belong? A question of where do you belong? And in the case of Alex and Nicole, I mean, in some sense the agents already knew they didn't belong with them, but to change this. But on the other hand, it feels like, yeah, maybe it is true. It just set off those alarm bells or just said like, oh, they're not one of us. Something like that.(27:19):It's a pretty intense thought. Yeah. My friend that's a pastor there in Minneapolis put out a video with Jen Hatmaker yesterday, and I watched the Instagram live of it this morning, and she talked about how she came home from the protest, and there were men all over her yard, in the neighbor's yard with machine guns. And she said they were trying to block her in, and they came up to her car and they had taken a picture of her license plate, and they're like, roll down your window. And she's like, why? And they're like, I gave you an order. She's like, but why? And then they took a picture of her face and they're like, now you have us in your database. And she's like, I'm not rolling down my window. Because when the last person did that, you shot him in the face(28:03):And she said they got out of their car and parked. And the neighbor who, I dunno why they were harassing her neighbor, she described him as a white male, but he was standing there and he was yelling at them to leave. And she said, at this time, there was like 50 neighbors out, like 50 people out on the street. And the ice van stopped, ran back, tackled him, slammed his face into the ice, beat him up, and then threw him in the back of the car and then dropped him off at the hospital or released him or something. And he had to go get wound care. And I guess just thinking about that, just the mere presence of white people that don't fit. I wonder if it's just the mere presence.Jenny (28:59):Yeah, yeah. Well, I think part of it is exposing the illusion of whiteness and this counterfeit collaboration that is supposed to mean based on melanin, that if you have this lack of melanin, this is how you're supposed to perform. And I'm really grateful that we have people with less melanin going, no, I would not that we want to die, but if my choice is to die or to give up my soul, I don't want to give up my soul.(29:50):I feel my heart pounding. It's scary. And I think there's also grief in the people I love that are choosing to not have a soul right now, to not allow space for their soul that are choosing to go into numbness and to bearing their head in the sand and to saying, we just need to have law and order. And I believe that they were made for so much more than that.(30:46):It is painful. I mean, it doesn't go(30:55):No, no. I've been watching a lot of sad movies lately because they helped me cry. One of the things that I loved when I was in Uganda was there was people who were professional whalers(31:12):They would be hired to come into funerals or ceremonies and just wail and grieve and move the group into a collective catharsis. And I really think our bodies need catharsis right now because there's so much we're taking in. There's so much we're moving through. And I think this is part of the system of white Christian supremacy, is that it has removed us from cultural practices of making guttural sounds together, of riving together, of dancing and shaking and screaming, and these things that I think our bodies really need individually and collectively. What are you doing in your body that feels even like 2% supportive with what we're navigating?Danielle (32:08):I don't know. I honestly, I've had a bad week or bad couple weeks, but I think I try to eat food that I know will taste good. That seems really silly, but I'm not eating anything I don't like.(32:27):That. Yeah, that's one thing. Yesterday I had a chance to go work out at 12 like I do every day, and I just noticed I was too fatigued, and so I just canceled. I called it in and ate lunch with someone and just, I didn't talk much, but they had a lot to say. So that was fine with me, hung out with someone. So I think, I don't know, I guess it was a hitting two needs for me, human face-to-face connection and also just actual food that tastes good to me.(33:09):Yeah. Well, so you're going to put that Maslow resource need in the chat or in the comments. Are you going to send it to me so I can put it in the(33:21):And then if people want to sign up for tomorrow and listen to you and Tamis, is that still a possibility?Jenny (33:26):It is, yeah. They can sign up, I think, until it's starting. So I don't know for sure. You should sign up for today, just by today, just in case. Yeah, I'll send you that link too.   Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

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Quiet disorganized attachment can make modern women feel invisible—shutting down out of fear of being “too much,” even when all they want is to be seen and loved. In this episode, Dawn Dubelbeis opens up about the impact of childhood trauma and how her attachment style shaped her adult relationships. Alongside Adam, they unpack the path of how to build connection from a place of safety, not survival. Topics Covered 

In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with Chad and Brittany to explore why love alone isn't enough to sustain a relationship. Whether you're in a struggling relationship or trying to understand your partner better, this conversation will challenge the way you see emotional safety, communication, and connection. Topics Covered:

In this episode, Andrey and Adam dive deep into the foundations of trust-based communication in both professional and personal relationships. They unpack the dangers of transactional thinking, explore how poor communication sabotages connection, and offer practical insight into building relationships rooted in mutual respect rather than leverage. Topics Covered:

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, navigates the challenges of a toxic marriage. Through raw and honest conversations, Adam uncovers the root causes of their struggles and offers practical guidance to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection. Whether you're facing similar issues or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with insights and advice that can make a real difference. Topics Covered:

In this episode, we dive into the growing divide between men and women in modern society. Our guest, HTH, joins the conversation to explore the cultural and psychological shifts affecting relationships, attachment dynamics, and societal structures. Topics Covered:

Alyssa shares how growing up in an environment that discouraged emotional expression led to survival-mode thinking. She describes the intense stress it placed on her nervous system and the difficulty of accessing emotional regulation. ✨  Main Topics Covered ✨ 

Many women find themselves in relationships that look perfect on paper but leave them feeling unfulfilled. In this episode, dating expert Julia Mazur shares her personal journey of settling in relationships and how she finally broke free. She discusses societal expectations, personal struggles, and the key mindset shifts needed to prioritize yourself in love and life. ✨ Main Topics Covered ✨

Adam Lane Smith is a renowned Attachment Specialist with over 15 years of experience in psychology and relationships. Formerly a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, he has dedicated his career to helping individuals and couples overcome attachment issues and build secure, meaningful connections. Adam has worked with a diverse clientele, including death row inmates and Fortune 500 executives. Adam has his own podcast and youtube channel with over 100k subscribers, though which he aims to educate as many people as possible about the art and science of attachment. Today we discuss:Some of his more recent Tweets about the limits of self-love, the importance of health aggression and the danger of repeating unconcious childhood patterns in adulthood. Common attachment patterns and their fascinating underlying biology. The right and wrong reasons to pursue content creation, and how to ethically pursue content creation to augment your business. Interviewed by Dr. Alex Curmi. Dr. Alex is a consultant psychiatrist and a UKCP registered psychotherapist in-training.If you would like to invite Alex to speak at your organisation please email alexcurmitherapy@gmail.com with "Speaking Enquiry" in the subject line.Alex is not currently taking on new psychotherapy clients, if you are interested in working with Alex for focused behaviour change coaching , you can email - alexcurmitherapy@gmail.com with "Coaching" in the subject line. Give feedback here - thinkingmindpodcast@gmail.com - Follow us here: Twitter @thinkingmindpod Instagram @thinkingmindpodcast

2-1-25 A Chat With 'The Attachment Specialist' Adam Lane Smith - How To Overcome Our Attachment Issues! Find Adam Lane Smith here: linktr.ee/AdamLaneSmithgo to patreon.com/daveneal for more bonus content!

Send us a textMy guest on this week's episode is the completely gorgeous Sami Reed Cleaver.Sami is a certified relationship and self-love coach who specialises in healing anxious attachment and codependency by helping her clients to reprogram their fear-based beliefs, and to connect more deeply with themselves. She helps people heal anxious attachment patterns, and develop self-acceptance, confidence, and self-trust, so they can achieve emotional freedom and inner peace.She is originally from Wales, but lives in Thailand, and is currently single and childfree. Topics that we cover are:Sami's life in Chiang Mai, Thailand, and how much she loves it;being the love and light in our own lives, and what that means to Sami;what attachment is, and the different styles of attachment;how much our parents and childhood impact our attachment style;the difference between anxious and avoidant attachment;what it means to be fearful-avoidant;codependency, what it is, and what it looks like in a relationship;how and why we always go for people who make us feel familiar, ‘safe' emotions, even if they're bad news;how important it is for us to listen to our intuition;why we need to make rejection and abandonment feel safe;expanding our tolerance of negative emotions;Sami's previous feelings of unworthiness and how they affected her relationships;how she used cooking for herself as a way of building up her self worth;how important it is to find your tribe, whether online or in person;why we need to embody the higher version of ourselves, even if it feels silly;choosing ourselves, instead of waiting to be chosen;boundaries, and why we struggle with them.Take Sami's free Relationship Archetype Quiz:https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/archetype-quizFollow Sami on Instagram:@the.relationship.rehabCheck out Sami's website:https://www.samireedcoaching.com/ Get £100 any trip with Explore at:https://www.explore.co.uk/offers/current-offers/hood To try out the amazing deal with Republic of Cats, go to:https://www.republicofcats.com/catlady/  Support the showCheck out my YouTube Channel:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSuCiCzcPlAvxzQyHDrLoag Book a FREE 30 minute coaching 'taster' session HERE: https://calendly.com/lucymeggeson/30minute Fancy getting your hands on my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Head over to: www.lucymeggeson.com Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: @spinsterhoodreimagined Follow me on Twitter: @LucyMeggeson Follow me on LinkedIn: Lucy Meggeson Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!!!

Adam Lane Smith, licensed psychotherapist and Attachment Specialist, transforms relationships from blue-collar families to CEOs. With his Attachment Bootcamp and personalized coaching, he guides clients on a transformative journey to authentic connections and fulfilling relationships. In this episode Adam and Sathiya discuss: [01:02] Attachment through a neurobiological lens [07:57] The impact of dopamine and addiction [09:42] Oxytocin addiction and its social component [12:17] The importance of security and psychological safety [14:57] Challenges in modeling healthy relationships [16:46] The Smell of Family [17:41] Anxious Attachment [18:28] Rising Loneliness [19:27] Men's Loneliness [20:18] Impact of Upbringing [21:51] Vasopressin Bonding [23:09] Teaching and Bonding [24:00] Male Solution Network [26:22] Balancing Bonding [27:15] Renewing Bonds [30:33] Addressing Affairs [32:55] Fighting Dopamine Dependency [33:21] The porn issue [34:12] Effects of porn addiction [35:05] Erectile dysfunction and porn addiction [36:45] Building healthy relationships [38:17] Vasopressin and oxytocin in relationships [40:39] Micro cheating and its impact [44:45] Roots of attachment theory interest [48:44] Instilling secure attachment in children Check out the Bootcamp Course of Adam Follow Adam Lane Smith on Instagram and also on Youtube Book A Call With Sathiya's Team For more Free Resources, check this out Follow Sathiya on Instagram

In episode 259 of The Super Human Life, host Frank Rich interviews Attachment Specialist, Adam Lane Smith. The conversation explores the concepts of anxious and avoidant attachment styles and how they impact relationships. Adam emphasizes the importance of personal sovereignty and emotional regulation for achieving secure attachment. He also discusses the role of faith and spirituality in finding purpose and meaning in life. The conversation provides practical steps for individuals with anxious and avoidant attachment styles to move towards secure attachment.   Attachment theory explains why people are losing the ability to connect with others. It is based on the idea that our early experiences with caregivers shape our attachment style. Secure attachment is characterized by collaboration and trust, while insecure attachment can be avoidant or anxious. The rise of insecure attachment is attributed to factors such as the breakdown of the nuclear family, the impact of war, and societal changes. The Red Pill community promotes a toxic view of relationships, treating women as objects and perpetuating juvenile masculinity.    Takeaways Attachment theory explains how early experiences shape our ability to connect with others.   Insecure attachment is becoming more prevalent, with avoidant and anxious attachment styles on the rise.   Factors such as the breakdown of the nuclear family and societal changes contribute to the increase in insecure attachment.   The Red Pill community promotes toxic views of relationships and perpetuates juvenile masculinity. Personal sovereignty and emotional regulation are essential for achieving secure attachment.   Faith and spirituality can provide a sense of purpose and meaning in life.   Anxious attachment can be addressed by learning to regulate emotions and defining and living by a personal code of conduct.   Avoidant attachment can be addressed by recognizing that there is a different way to live and learning the four levels of trust.   Building secure attachment requires forming meaningful and authentic relationships.  

Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 650 How does every moment provide you with an option to either choose fear or to choose love? Adam Lane Smith + Andrey Korikov join Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 650, to discuss why pain is the strongest motivational force, how guilt comes from fear, what happens when you don't know who you truly are, and why pity is detrimental to men. "We have to have pain, it's fundamental. We form this idea that pain is bad. It's scary and it hurts, but we believe that all pain is going to kill us and that's wrong. Pain can make you grow." - Adam Lane Smith

Avoidant attachment created the Girlboss movement, daycare fostered a radioactive culture, and over 50% of Americans have an unhealthy attachment style - but it doesn't have to stay that way! Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith addresses how to heal a broken attachment style and his concerns for Gen Alpha's lack of secure attachments. Learn why the four attachment styles develop and how they affect your personal, work, and romantic relationships.Sign up for the Attachment Bootcamp Course and take 50% OFF with code Alex50https://adam-smith.mykajabi.com/a/2147518127/todYsYXwWebsite: AdamLaneSmith.comTwitter: @AdamLaneSmithYoutube: @AttachmentAdamInstagram: @AttachmentAdamTikTok: @AttachmentBro. Secure your spot at Turning Point USA's Young Women's Leadership Summit using code ALEX for 25% at www.ywls.com.Support American farms and shop GOOD RANCHERS for FREE HAM with code CLARK. https://www.goodranchers.com/ Ditch artificial fragrances for your family by switching to ALEAVIA organic prebiotic body wash and use code: ALEX15 for 15% off. https://www.aleavia.com/Elevate your skincare routine with NIMI SKINCARE! Go to https://www.nimiskincare.com/ and use promo code ALEXCLARK to get 10% off your order..Looking for like-minded friends? Join the Cuteservative Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1234544066933796/ Listen at 9 PM PST/ MIDNIGHT EASTERN every Thursday by subscribing to ‘The Spillover' on Apple Podcasts and Spotify ☕️✨Support the show

How long does it take to get over a breakup? We sit down with relationship coach and therapist, Christina Abood, to discuss when to know to end it, how to get closure when you leave a relationship, recognize your dating patterns, get back out there without dating apps, and the do's and don'ts for leaning on your community.Mentioned in this episode: Signs It's Time To Let Go Of A RelationshipMore about Christina:Christina Abood, MSW, LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Therapist, Trauma & Attachment Specialist, Relationship Coach, Podcast Host and Speaker. She has worked for years with individuals and couples on their relationships and is the founder and owner of Beyond Thought Therapy. She is passionate about helping people to create healthy lasting love for themselves and in their romantic lives. She works with her clients to heal past wounds and limiting beliefs, teaches them how to foster self-confidence and self-trust and how to find and maintain healthy love. She runs an Instagram account where she shares dating tips, relationship advice and practices and tools for creating an epic, fulfilling life. Christina also hosts the podcast Becoming The One where she goes in depth about love, relationship and becoming the person who has it all-self-love, confidence, juicy relationships and so much more.Stay Connected with Christina: Visit her website, follow her on Instagram @christinaabood, and check out her show, Becoming The One on Apple and Spotify. Stay Connected with Sam & ElliotVisit our website and stay in touch with us on Instagram @somethingmorehuman and TikTok @somethingmorehuman.Want us to answer your question, address a special topic, or discuss a story of yours? Your input will be an integral part of our future episodes! Submit your question, topic request, or personal stories HERE.JOIN US IN PERSON ON APRIL 19! Return to Real Life promises to be a celebration of community, friendship, and shared experiences without digital distractions. You'll have the opportunity to enjoy craft drinks, snacks, and laughs from local vendors and comedians—all included with your ticket—and make some new friends along the way!

Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 610 How can you and your partner become a team and make your differences complement each other? Adam Lane Smith, Attachment Specialist, joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 610, to share how attachment styles are formed in your early childhood, why men and women are designed to work as a team, and how love transforms your life. "Male and female brains are designed to work together as a system. They must or everything falls apart. They're not meant to work individually. Men go forward and build and expand. Women follow afterward and they fill the space that men have built. They're the ones that make the structures that men create so much richer and better, but they rely upon men to build those structures in the first place to build safety and prioritize that as men push outward." - Adam Lane Smith Live Life Well from Sunrise to Sunset Save 20% with code "WELLNESSFORCE" on everyone's favorite Superfoods brand, ORGANIFI, including their Sunrise to Sunset Bundle and their Women's Power Stack that includes HARMONY + GLOW for true hormonal balance and great health radiating through your beautiful skin. Click HERE to order your Organifi today. Are You Stressed Out Lately? Take a deep breath with the M21™ wellness guide: a simple yet powerful 21 minute morning system that melts stress and gives you more energy through 6 science-backed practices and breathwork. Click HERE to download for free. 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This course will show you how to: • Address attachment issues at their core • Overcome your fears of rejection, abandonment, and vulnerability • Learn to respect yourself • Repel toxic people • Attract loving friends and partners • Create trusting bonds with your loved ones • Build relationships based on mutual fulfillment • Stop worrying about what others think of you 50% off with code "JOSH" This is your chance to build trust in yourself, overcome loneliness, bond with others, improve your dating game, find peace in marriage, and build a lasting love. If you want to end your fear cycles and take control of your relationships with simple steps, this course will teach you how. In This Episode, Adam Lane Smith Uncovers: [01:30] Men Are Problem Solvers Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Bootcamp Course - 50% off with code "JOSH" Mind Pump Media The Map of Consciousness Explained: A Proven Energy Scale to Actualize Your Ultimate Potential by David Hawkins Why people living in the middle of California suffer with a lot of depression and family problems. What motivated Adam to help people. Men's brain works differently than women's brain. Why men always search for solutions. [07:05] Men VS Women 512 Alison Armstrong: Unconscious Emasculation, What Women Don't Understand About Men + How To Get The Love You Want Why men build and expand, while women improve the structures. Male and female brains are designed to work together. 533 SOLOCAST | Feminism Unwrapped: How The PSYOP of a Century Brainwashed Modern Women (and Men) 543 Kelly Brogan MD | How to Love ALL Your Parts + Be Self-Sovereign The psychology behind hate against different groups. Why men and women see each other as a threat. [11:10] Attachment Theory How Adam teaches his clients about the attachment theory. People judge based on their own fears. Why men seek sex to get approval. 50% of American adults have an attachment issue. Why we need to make our children feel loved and seen. How parents' behavior towards their children makes the children create transactional relationships with others. [19:20] Love Transforms Your Life If you've never felt love, your life will be more fearful than it should be. How romantic relationships change your life. The absence of love makes it harder for people to believe in God. How Adam helps people find out what's missing in their lives. The importance of having models to see what is possible and how to achieve it. Finding experiences that will prove your childhood beliefs are not true. [25:30] Feelings Are Information Stopping one behavior doesn't create a transformation unless you replace it with a new behavior. B. F. Skinner Pain is only information. How you can use your feelings as data for healing. Feelings are not always right. [32:00] Women + Relationships How feelings guide women. Why we need to remember that we are a team as a man and woman. How men shut off the value women bring to the relationship. Why relationships and resources define female status. Healthy women form family structures that create intimacy. [37:35] The Truth About Venting 435 Dr. John Gray | Wellness In Relationships: Testosterone, Estrogen, Semen Retention & Sexual Polarity The problem with complaining about your partner. How solution-problem venting can help your relationship. 595 Relationship Death + Rebirth: How to Let Love Lead Again + Let Go of The Anxious-Avoidant Dance (Margo Running + Carrie Michelle) Johnny Blackburn 538 John Wineland | A New Masculine Paradigm: Leading With Love, Living Your Truth + Healing The World The importance of understanding how the two sides of the brain work. Why men can't solve all problems on their own. [45:30] The Roots of Racism + Men's Search for Affection Racism is learned in early childhood. How emotional reactions are perceived by children. Why some people get angry at Adam's social media posts. How some men think Adam is not the right man who can provide relationship advice based on his appearance. Why many men are searching for affection but don't know how to get it. [52:35] The Dysfunction of The Tough Guy Andrew Tate David Goggins Why warrior cultures have an avoidant attachment style. A study proved that oxytocin increases a father's affection towards his children. How low oxytocin makes men more tough and less affectionate. Why anger is more powerful than despair. [55:45] The Warrior Gene + Rebirth of Masculinity Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life by Arnold Schwarzenegger The warrior gene (MAO-A) blocks re-uptake of dopamine when you're angry, causing anger to make you feel better. How the Vikings spread the MAO-A gene throughout Europe. Why masculinity nearly died off in the West and women took over. Why men need to master total personal sovereignty and responsibility to reconnect with their masculine energy. 293 Dr. Jade Teta: How To Be A Next Level Human Why masculinity needs to serve a purpose to have a meaning. [01:04:55] Porn Addiction Josh's journey of porn addiction. Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson Porn addiction is only a symptom. The role of hormones in attachment. Why hormones are not released properly if you have an attachment issue. How porn replaces dopamine that you should get from human interaction. [01:11:30] Attachment Styles How Josh's children and partner are teaching him what love is. People who have anxious attachment were withdrawn love and believe something is wrong with them. Why avoidant attachment didn't receive enough love and often try to manipulate people into loving them. How can one person switch between anxious and avoidant attachment. [01:17:40] Secure Attachment in Relationships Attachment style is not a sentence, it can be changed. Only 35% of people have a secure attachment style. Why Adam chooses to talk with his children instead of yelling and controlling them. What secure attachment looks like in relationships. [01:20:30] Healing Attachment During Conflict How to know if a person is right for us. Learning to navigate conflict in order to heal your attachment together with your partner. The importance of collaboration during conflict. No case is hopeless if you are willing to do the work. Why humans need to collectively solve problems. Leave Wellness + Wisdom a Review on Apple Podcasts Power Quotes From The Show Vasopressin Hormone "One of the biggest indicators of a long-term, healthy, stable marriage is vasopressin. Vasopressin is a hormone released when we solve and overcome problems together and work as a team. Women detect that through feelings. They intuitively safeguard their relationships. That is why wives crave to be listened to, trusted, and have their feelings mean something to their husband." - Adam Lane Smith Men's Brain Works Differently Than Women's Brain "When a man is in a conversation with a woman and she's sharing her feelings, he's observing and then he jumps to a solution to fix her problems. He's shutting her up. The message she's getting is: I don't care. I don't want to listen." - Adam Lane Smith Love Is Everything "Love is everything. When you discover what real love is and you experience it with one human being, whether that's a friend or a partner, it changes everything because the world has 10 new colors in it, 10 new smells, 10 new realities. Everything opens up in a way that never existed before and suddenly things start to make sense and there is suddenly joy and hope." - Adam Lane Smith Links From Today's Show  Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Bootcamp Course - 50% off with code "JOSH" Mind Pump Media The Map of Consciousness Explained: A Proven Energy Scale to Actualize Your Ultimate Potential by David Hawkins 512 Alison Armstrong: Unconscious Emasculation, What Women Don't Understand About Men + How To Get The Love You Want 533 SOLOCAST | Feminism Unwrapped: How The PSYOP of a Century Brainwashed Modern Women (and Men) 543 Kelly Brogan MD | How to Love ALL Your Parts + Be Self-Sovereign B. F. 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Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist into a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. From regular families hoping to mend marital troubles. to high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, to millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating, Adam's profound insight and advice have proven invaluable time and again. Website Instagram TikTok Twitter YouTube Listen To The Latest Episodes... Don't Miss New Episodes: Follow Wellness + Wisdom on Spotify  

Adam Lane Smith, licensed psychotherapist and Attachment Specialist, transforms relationships from blue-collar families to CEOs. With his Attachment Bootcamp and personalized coaching, he guides clients on a transformative journey to authentic connections and fulfilling relationships. In this episode Adam and Sathiya discuss: [01:02] Attachment through a neurobiological lens [07:57] The impact of dopamine and addiction [09:42] Oxytocin addiction and its social component [12:17] The importance of security and psychological safety [14:57] Challenges in modeling healthy relationships [16:46] The Smell of Family [17:41] Anxious Attachment [18:28] Rising Loneliness [19:27] Men's Loneliness [20:18] Impact of Upbringing [21:51] Vasopressin Bonding [23:09] Teaching and Bonding [24:00] Male Solution Network [26:22] Balancing Bonding [27:15] Renewing Bonds [30:33] Addressing Affairs [32:55] Fighting Dopamine Dependency [33:21] The porn issue [34:12] Effects of porn addiction [35:05] Erectile dysfunction and porn addiction [36:45] Building healthy relationships [38:17] Vasopressin and oxytocin in relationships [40:39] Micro cheating and its impact [44:45] Roots of attachment theory interest [48:44] Instilling secure attachment in children Check out the Bootcamp Course of AdamFollow Adam Lane Smith on Instagram and also on YoutubeBook A Call With Sathiya's TeamFor more Free Resources, check this outFollow Sathiya on Instagram

Adam Lane Smith, licensed psychotherapist and Attachment Specialist, transforms relationships from blue-collar families to CEOs. With his Attachment Bootcamp and personalized coaching, he guides clients on a transformative journey to authentic connections and fulfilling relationships.In this episode Adam and Sathiya discuss:[03:50] Oxytocin and Attachment[04:27] Brain Chemicals and Attachment[08:33] Impact of Dopamine[11:05] Oxytocin Addiction[12:21] Psychological Safety and Attachment[16:10] Impact of Family Dynamics[16:46] The impact of early adoption trauma[18:27] The epidemic of loneliness among men[20:17] The crisis of masculinity and male bonding[23:08] The power of teaching and vasopressin bonding[30:33] The impact of dopamine and the challenge of fidelity[33:21] The porn issue and its impact[34:12] Physiological aspects of attachment and pornography[35:05] Erectile dysfunction and attachment issues[36:44] Improving attachment through foreplay[38:16] Vasopressin and oxytocin in relationships[40:38] Micro cheating and its consequences[44:45] Adam Lane Smith's journey into attachment theory[48:44] Recommendations for instilling secure attachment in children[50:00] Introducing the Podcast[50:23] Connecting with Other Podcast Hosts[51:01] Discussing Potential Podcast Guests Check out the Bootcamp Course of AdamFollow Adam Lane Smith on Instagram and also on YoutubeBook A Call With Sathiya's TeamFor more Free Resources, check this outFollow Sathiya on Instagram

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Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. He's Leveraged years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist into becoming a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. His clients includeregular families hoping to mend marital troubles. high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating and more.  Today on the show we discuss in depth 7 relationship lessons that most people learn too late and much more. Connect with Adam: Instagram Website Podcast ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you've consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode reprise is #8 of the Top 10 Most Listened-to in 2023. Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith joined me on this episode, Adam is a licensed psychotherapist and an Attachment Specialist who guides individuals, helping them address their attachment issues head-on to transform their relationships in all areas of life, whether it's marriage, dating, work, friendship, or family. For more information on Adam, check out his website: ⁠https://adamlanesmith.com/⁠ On social: IG @attachmentad and Tiktok: attachmentbro ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Live Better Now Run Club⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREE Whoop Strap: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://join.whoop.com/zachrance⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get my book "Live Better Now" on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/8zFqZXD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Follow my daily entrepreneurial journey on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/zachrance/message

Talking points: redpill, dating, relationships, mindset, culture, attachment Adam's been making waves recently with his no-nonsense yet deeply considerate approach to the insanity that is modern relationships. This convo was centered around Adam's expertise in attachment theory—aka the way you as a child learn to get safety and love. You can probably guess that it's kind of a big deal. Dig in, team. (00:00:00) - Intro and Adam's defining moment(00:03:07) - What drew Adam to attachment theory(00:06:16) - Adam's definition of attachment, and why it's important for individuals(00:10:10) - The signs of secure attachment in men and women (00:16:34) - More insight on anxious and avoidant attachment styles(00:19:42) - Where do Nice Guys fit on the attachment spectrum, and how do they move towards secure attachment?(00:29:47) - The sad and dysfunctional truth about how some men get out of anxious attachment(00:36:33) - The mess that is modern dating, seen through the attachment lens(00:44:19) - MGTOW and avoidant attachment, and “clear pill” (00:52:11) - The loss of mature masculinity goes way, way back(00:59:38) - The contributing factors to mature masculinity  Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. From hardworking blue-collar families seeking to mend marital discord, to high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, to millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating, Adam's profound insights and advice have proven invaluable time and again. Connect with Adam -Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg -Courses: https://adamlanesmith.com/courses/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you have lived with insecurity, it can be challenge to imagine what a good relationship could be like. A good relationship can be so foreign, you might even reject it.It's so important to understand what secure bonds look and feel because that can give us the perspective to turn around what's not working and to strengthen what is working.That's the topic of my conversation with relationship expert Adam Lane Smith:What does secure behavior look like?What behavior leads to mutually fulfilling relationships that are sustainable, and enjoyable?Adam Lane Smith is The Attachment Specialist with over 450,000 followers across his social media platforms. He consults internationally with CEOs, investors, entrepreneurs, executives, military veterans, and engineers to solve their attachment issues and improve their relationships. He also has appeared on numerous podcasts discussing generational attachment issues, recovering from trauma, and raising global awareness of attachment. Expect to hear in this episode:The importance of bodywork to do mental health work.We attract what we expect.How insecurity pushes away healthy peopleOur perception doesn't make things realThe straightforward clarity of secure communication: "How would a 5year phrase this?"The Exchanging of Needs to fulfill each needs.Why secure people work toward  mutually fulfilling relationships.Clarify and Collaborate. You need to clarify in order to work with others.Hi, I'm Jeffrey. As a Feldenkrais and somatic movement practitioner I help you get in touch with your body so you can unravel old sticky patterns and make way for greater creativity, power and joyful play.Want to put the ideas in this podcast to work?You can book a free 20 minute consult call to find out if we're a good fit for 1:1 coaching. Learn more here.Join the newsletter to be the first to hear about future opportunities to work with me.Download my free lesson: Effortless Freedom in MovingDownload my free guide: 9 Surprising Benefits of the Feldenkrais MethodGet Your Questions Answered!Submit your questions! I will answer them on a future episode of the podcast.I'm directing a documentary film about Feldenkrais.Check out the Teaser Trailer. Follow me on Instagram: @expandyourabilityHad an Aha? Let me know: jeffrey@expandyourability.comStay connected and subscribe to the podcast. 

Adam Lane Smith is “The Attachment Specialist”, helping people heal, connect, and build relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. He has helped people from a variety of lifestyles, from blue collar families with marital troubles to millionaire CEOs looking for dating help, or anyone looking to fix their dating life, marriage, or overall health of all relationships.  In this episode, Larry Hagner and guest Adam Lane Smith discuss the topic of attachment and its impact on relationships and marriages. They delve into their personal backgrounds and how their upbringing shaped their attachment styles. They also highlight the prevalence of attachment issues in today's society, with research showing that a significant majority of adults in America struggle with attachment. Attachment shapes our relationships in profound ways. It is the way we connect with other human beings, giving and receiving love. Our attachment style is learned from our caregivers, primarily our parents, and it forms the foundation for how we relate to others throughout our lives. Adam Lane Smith further explains that attachment issues can stem from various factors, including neglect, abuse, absent parents, or inconsistent caregiving. When children experience these adverse circumstances, their brains often internalize the belief that something is wrong with them or with others. This belief shapes their attachment style and influences how they connect with others. Recognizing and understanding our attachment style is crucial for personal growth and building healthier relationships. Therapy and self-reflection can help individuals address and heal from attachment wounds. By gaining insight into our attachment patterns, we can work towards developing more secure and fulfilling connections with others. www.thedadedge.com/450 www.thedadedge.com/alliance  www.adamlanesmith.com/courses  

In this episode, licensed psychotherapist and highly sought-after Attachment Specialist, Adam Lane Smith, provides actionable insight on how to reclaim respect and care for yourself to improve your life and your relationships.

In today's episode, I spoke with Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist and personal coach emphasizing the important role of attachment for our well-being and relationships. We talked about how attachment issues are at the core of many common mental issues, such as depression and anxiety. We spoke about modern dating and apps, hookup culture and how it preys on anxiously attached individuals - especially women, and how we can optimize our dating lives to find a committed partner who is aligned with our values and long-term life goals. We also spoke a few important differences between men and women, such as how modern therapy is better geared towards helping women - and what men actually need when seeking therapy,  as well as the differences between how men and women bond - and the important role that the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin play in this regard.  For more information on Adam's coaching services and online courses: https://adamlanesmith.com/For Adam's book 'Slaying Your Fear': https://adamlanesmith.com/books/@YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheBiggerPicturePodcast@Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biggerpicturepodbyroni/@Website: https://thebiggerpicturepod.com/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebiggerpicturepod.substack.com

This is an Operation Podcast production, connect with us @operationpodcast. Ever wonder how our life experiences can shape our paths and understanding of love and relationships? Join us as we journey alongside Adam Lane Smith, a renowned attachment specialist, as he uncovers his path from a childhood of abuse and neglect to becoming a beacon of understanding and empathy in the field of attachment therapy. Adam's candid narrative offers a compelling look into the power of conscious choices and the courage necessary to confront our deepest fears. Adam joins Ruben to dive deep into modern masculinity, societal pressures, and the unique challenges faced by men in our contemporary society. We champion the importance of supporting one another, establishing male communities, and fostering mutual acceptance. Adam's wisdom shines as we explore the transformative power of honest communication, self-reflection, and love, and the incredible changes they can bring about in our lives and relationships. We then dive deeper into the concept of love as an action and not merely a feeling, and how a balanced relationship with fear can serve as a tool for protection and growth. Adam shares his insights on how individuals can evolve into better versions of themselves by seeking feedback and allowing their partners to express freely. This conversation will leave you reflecting on the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and the significance of consistently checking in with our partners. Join us for this thought-provoking exploration of love, fear, and personal growth! How does Adam live through love? “It is being honest with yourself in each situation about what your fear is driving you to do and then choosing to ask what is best for each person, including yourself, and DOING IT.” "There was a time when I, like many, just thought love and attachment were the same thing - a simplistic equation that didn't need dissecting… We are designed to know what love is, even if we don't get it.” - Adam Lane Smith ----- In this episode, you will learn… Love and attachment are complex interplays of emotions and not simply interchangeable terms. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding these complexities and the power they hold in shaping our relationships and interactions.  Building strong support systems and fostering mutual acceptance and understanding, particularly for men, can significantly impact societal pressures that often leave men feeling emasculated and ashamed.  Love is an action, not just a feeling. Setting boundaries, allowing partners to express freely, and consistently checking in with our partners are crucial in creating healthier relationships.  Fear can be a tool for protection when balanced with love. Recognizing and understanding this balance can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-discovery.  Honest communication and active listening are vital for improving relationships. By setting guidelines and allowing partners to express themselves, relationships can become stronger and more meaningful. ----- "Find that hero in your story and make yourself that hero.” - Adam Lane Smith About the guest: Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. Follow Adam @attachmentadam ----- Follow Ruben on Instagram Watch and subscribe to Live Through Love on YouTube  

A FRAUDULENT DIAGNOSIS is a powerful, in-depth conversation with my guest Laurie A. Couture, a Childhood Developmental Trauma and Attachment Specialist. Laurie is a licensed mental health counselor and the author of 'Instead of Medicating and Punishing' and the best seller, 'Nurturing and Empowering Our Sons'. She is developing The Couture Protocol, an evidence-based, whole-child program of treating developmental and generational trauma in children, youths, and their families. Laurie provides consulting, presentations, training, and research reports to industries, agencies, and programs that directly serve children, youths, and families. Laurie discovered early in her professional career that our society's institutions are out of alignment with nature's intent for children's developmental and attachment needs. What concerned her most was that the institutions in which she worked--behavioral healthcare, education, social services, and juvenile justice--generally reacted to children's alarm signals with labels and behavioral/biochemical interventions that caused more developmental distress. She observed that boys especially suffered and withered in these institutions, as their needs and natural alarm signals were met with denial, hostility, or punishment. For more information on Laurie's work, visit https://laurieacouture.com Her books are available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Instead-Medicating-Punishing-Childrens-Acting-Out/dp/1932279970/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 https://www.amazon.com/Nurturing-Empowering-Sons-Laurie-Couture-ebook/dp/B0BZ1F9SK2/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1679945003&sr=1-3 Quotes mentioned by Laurie during our interview: “I want to sell drugs to everyone. I want to sell drugs to healthy people. I want drugs to sell like chewing gum.” —Henry Gadsden, former CEO of Merck, Fortune magazine, 1976 “The way to sell drugs is to sell psychiatric illness.” —Carl Elliot, University of Minnesota Bioethicist (In Shankar Vedantam, July 16, 2001, The Washington Post) For more information on this podcast, please visit www.adhdisover.com

This episode is brought to you by JoyMode's Sexual Performance Booster and Legacy's For Today male fertility test kit. Step into an exploration of masculinity and personal identity that promises to challenge your perception and expand your understanding of what it means to be a provider, a respected community member, and a modern man. My conversation with Adam Lane Smith promises to uncover the societal and personal rules that define us as men and investigates the struggle of staying authentic amidst external influences.  Adam is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. From hardworking blue-collar families seeking to mend marital discord, to high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, to millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating, Adam's profound insights and advice have proven invaluable time and again.   Follow Adam on Instagram @attachmentadam Follow him on TikTok @attahmentbro Follow Chase on Instagram @chase_chewning Follow Chase on TikTok @chasechewning ----- In this episode, you will learn... The importance of exploring and understanding personal masculinity, including how external influences, such as fashion, can communicate our identity. The significance of male bonding, the role it plays in shaping individual identity, and the consequences of its absence such as feelings of loneliness and isolation. An insight into gender roles, relationships, and the often misconstrued concept of 'mansplaining', as well as a historical overview of the roles men and women have adopted in society. The role of masculine and feminine energies in society and how a man needs to abide by his morals and values to maintain relationships. The importance of accountability in cultivating strong relationships, the transformative power of fatherhood, and how to break free from the 'Nice Guy Syndrome'. ----- Episode resources: Watch and subscribe on YouTube Save 20% on Sexual Performance Booster with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.UseJoyMode.com/everforward Save 20% on your entire first purchase of Legion Athletics with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.LegionAthletics.com Save $20 on the For Today male fertility test kit with code EVERFORWARD at https://www.TestLegacy.com/everforward 

What do we mean by attachment styles and how do they affect our relationships? Could it be that a challenge that we are experiencing (or maybe having experienced several times) are connected to our attachment style or that of our partner. What are the 5 breakthroughs that can lead us to experience success in our relationship, rather than just more frustration? Today we are joined by Sami Reed Cleaver who is a Relationships Coach and Attachment Specialist from Wales based in Thailand. She is the founder of the Relationship Rehab - and she works with individuals to heal insecure attachment patterns that come up when in relationships and becoming more secure in themselves. We are going to be looking at: - What do we mean by attachment styles and where does OUR attachment style come from? - How attachment styles play out in our relationship and how they can give us challenges if we are unaware of them. - The most common coping mechanisms when we are not getting our needs met or feeling under threat and how they can cost us in our relationships - What might be happening when our partner withdraws or looks for space in the relationship and how to deal with that - How to recover and heal from an anxious pattern to developing a more secure style so that we can get what we want in relationship Find out more about Sami's work at: https://www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab/ And… https://www.samireedcoaching.com/

Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. From hardworking blue-collar families seeking to mend marital discord to high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, to millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating, Adam's profound insights and advice have proven invaluable time and again. LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IF: You want to improve your relationships You grapple with insecurity You yearn for a relationship that gives you joy, fulfillment, and authentic intimacy You want to learn more about Attachment Styles and how they influence relationships Links to Adam's social media accounts: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith https://twitter.com/TheBrometheus https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam

What is attachment, and how does it relate to ghosting in friendships and dating? How can I learn my attachment style? How can I heal relational trauma? In this episode, Relationship Expert and Attachment Specialist, Rose Viggiano, answers these questions and more! Rose shares how she knew she was healing her relational trauma, including how she began choosing people based on how they showed up, stopped taking every rejection as a sign that she was unlovable, and started speaking the truth lovingly and firmly. Whether you've been ghosted in romance or by a friend, this show provides valuable information to help you reflect and make healthy changes in your relationships. Connect With Rose:Sign Up for Rose's Building Secure Attachment 4-Week Masterclass starting 7/12Instagram FacebookRose's Website Connect with Gretta:New! Take Your Power Back WorkshopFree Guide: What to Say To Your GhostFree Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.comMusic: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. Are you ready to move forward after being ghosted? Are you tired of worrying, stressing, and struggling to find answers? If you want to regain control of your thoughts and feel more at peace, there's a solution for you. For less than the cost of one coaching session, you can download the new Take Your Power Back Workshop. In it, Gretta and Coach Estee K. will help you better understand why ghosting happens, ways to feel better now, and actionable steps to take your power back. Your purchase will help support this podcast, so it's a win-win! Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages).When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

In today's episode Ted talks to Adam Lane Smit, a renowned Attachment Specialist and personal coach who helps people heal, connect, and build lasting relationships. They delve into the profound influence of attachment styles on our mental and physical health. Listen now to discover how addressing attachment patterns can pave the way for more fulfilling relationships and overall health! 

Attachment specialist, Adam Lane Smith called in to talk all about why women's sex drive goes down and how to get it back up. When do female sex drive problems show up? Why do they show up? And, what can you do about it? Tune in to hear all the details including how intimacy issues are attached to attachment issues, the classic signs that there is an issue to begin with, how men can open up to women without looking weak, how and why opening up will get a woman's sex drive back up, how oxytocin plays a role and what to do about it, how avoidant and anxious attachments are created, the anxious and avoidant dance, how and why having kids negatively effects a woman's sex drive, the four steps a man can use to be open to wife without feeling pathetic, how and why the solution focused approach works, what specifically you can ask women for that will make her hornier, why a lot of therapists don't deal with attachment issues and why they should, why people sabotage and how they can stop it, how the belief that you're not good enough makes people sabotage inn every area of their lives and how to stop it plus a whole lot more. For 50% off Adam's Attachment Bootcamp use code: KATHY7729 here: https://adam-smith.mykajabi.com/a/2147518127/iwmiGD4K **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + gain access to my PRIVATE Discord channel where people get super naughty + get early access to all episodes + hear anonymous confessions, + gain access to my Discord channel, join my Patreon. It's only $5 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast Want to be on the show? Email me at strictlyanonymouspodcast@gmail.com or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss? Call the hotline at 347-420-3579. Want a private convo with me that won't be aired on the show? All calls are private, confidential and anonymous. Click here: https://calendly.com/strictlyanonymouspodcast/45min Sponsors: Get a generous sign-up bonus at MyBookie Casino https://mybookie.website/StrictlyAnonymous Want to have better S-E-X?! Who doesn't?! Use Promescent! https://promescent.com/strictlyanon Hear the hottest stories on Dipsea! 30 day FREE TRIAL https://www.dipseastories.com/strictlyanon Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/StrictlyAnonymouspodcast Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adam Lane Smith brings his eloquence and extensive expertise to talk families, relationships, male and female attachment tendencies; including how shared experiences build trust and commoraderie as well as shared goals creating long-term healthy affiliations. Traversing a quick fire WW1 generation all the way to the present 'Alpha' trauma-bing, just for fun! Before coming to the present day and why has it all got so crazy? Is there a solution? And, how can attachment play a major part in the future the generation's ability to stay connected by learning to collaborate admist conflict. Do not miss this one! More embodiment at www.embodimentunlimited.com  About Adam Lane Smith: Adam is an Attachment Specialist with more than 14 years as a mental health professional. Many of those years were spent as a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He has created communities on his social media accounts making attachment help accessible to thousands of his account's followers. adamlanesmith.com Social media accounts: TikTok, Youtube, Twitter, Instagram Articles / book links:  - New York Post Article: We must stop using a female model to treat men's mental health  - Daily Mail Article: Genius Life Hack  - Book: Slaying Your Fear      

This week I had the pleasure of talking to attachment specialist Adam Smith. In this episode we talk about the different attachment styles, are twin flames real, why people cheat and have affairs, why does the honeymoon phase disappear, how men and women bond and is marriage worth it. If you are single or in a relationship, this episode is going to completely change your mindset on how humans connect on a biological level. As always let me know if you enjoyed this episode by rating, reviewing and subscribing!!  This Episode is sponsored by Betterhelp! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/onlyalchemy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist today! This Episode is sponsored by MUDWTR! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mudwtr.superfiliate.com/ALCHEMY ⁠⁠⁠for 15% off use code ALCHEMY at checkout! This Episode is also sponsored by HigherDOSE! For 15% site wide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use code ALCHEMY at checkout! About Adam:  Adam worked for years as a licensed psychotherapist and now focuses his specialty as an Attachment Specialist. Through his new role, Adam helps people build a new foundation for their life. Fixing attachment issues as their core means you can transform your relationships in marriage, dating, work, friendship, and family. By showing his clients how to repair their attachment wounds, Adam teaches people to open up to others, find their voice, receive the love they've always wanted, and live without fear. Adam's Digital Products Adam's Social Media: Instagram TikTok YouTube

Elle Russ chats with Adam Lane Smith — he worked for years as a licensed psychotherapist and now focuses his specialty as an Attachment Specialist. Through his new role, Adam helps people build a new foundation for their life. Fixing attachment issues at their core means you can transform your relationships in marriage, dating, work, friendship, and family. By showing his clients how to repair their attachment wounds, Adam teaches people to open up to others, find their voice, receive the love they've always wanted, and live without fear.  Learn more at: https://adamlanesmith.com/   SELECTED LINKS: ElleRuss.com AdamLaneSmith.com

On today's show, I have Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith. Adam is a licensed psychotherapist with a wealth of experience under his belt. As an Attachment Specialist, Adam guides individuals, helping them address their attachment issues head-on to transform their relationships in all areas of life, whether it's marriage, dating, work, friendship, and family. By teaching clients how to repair their attachment wounds, Adam empowers them to embrace vulnerability, find their voice, receive the love they desire, and live a life free from fear. Loved this chat with Adam! For more information on Adam, check out his website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ On social: IG @attachmentad and Tiktok: attachmentbro My new book, "Live Better Now" is out now on Amazon: amzn.to/3csfVGw Zach Rance, Certified Life Coach | Certified Nutritionist Questions, Comments, or Business Inquiries Visit: LifeCoachZach.com Find me on Instagram: @zachrancey --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/zachrance/message

Adam Lane Smith is an attachment specialist who helps people to heal, connect, and build. Adam worked for years as a licensed psychotherapist and now focuses on his specialty as an Attachment Specialist. He helps people build a new foundation for their life. Fixing attachment issues at their core means they can transform their relationships in marriage, dating, work, friendship, and family. In this episode, we talk about "Can Men and Women be Friends", "How can Men or Women attract the right partners", "Why Couples Cheat in their Relationships", and "What can people do to reignite their relationship and make their lives better", and many more. Interview Breakdown: 1.00 min - Who is Adan Lane Smith and Why should you listen to him? 1.50 min - Can men and women be friends? 3.33 min - How should Men communicate with the women they love? 5.00 min - Love, Friendship, and when to walk out. 6.55 min - Do women actually like NICE GUYS? 8.55 min - How to become more attractive and confident? 11.17 min - If your partner has these RED FLAGS Beware. 13.00 min - How do you build a better relationship with your partner? 19.50 min - Top Reasons why Partners cheat in a relationship. 23.05 min - How to repair your relationship and reignite the spark. 25.39 min - Can people cheat by accident? 28.40 min - Are Divorce Rates Rising and How Arrange Marriages better than Love Marriages? 33.35 min - How are the culture of Hookups, Sex, and No commitment impacting the future and seems like a doomsday 36.58 min - How to heal yourself if you didn't get love in your childhood and how can you break this pattern to create a better society 40.46 min - How do researchers predict having working parents impacts the upbringing of their kids and Should Women Stay at Home? 47.57 min - Lies that society is feeding which the mass audience is believing 50.40 min - Message to all the Women out there who can help us make a better world. Follow us to find daily updates and success hacks on The Growth Mindset Page below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/silawathirshad/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silawath_irshad/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/silawathirshad/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheGrowthMindsetwithSilawathIrshad You can find Adam Lane Smith here: Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ TikTok: @AttachmentBro Instagram: @AttachmentAdam Twitter: @TheBrometheus Facebook: @AdamLaneSmith Youtube: @AdamLaneSmith A few Research Studies spoke about during the Interview: https://www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2012/09/12/is-opting-out-the-new-american-dream-for-working-women/?sh=3a785e1c623a https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/

Adam worked for years as a licensed psychotherapist and now focuses his specialty as an Attachment Specialist. Through his new role, Adam helps men and women build a new foundation for their life by addressing the unique attachment wounds that are common to each. According to Adam, attachment issues as their core means you can transform your relationships in marriage, dating, work, friendship, and family. By showing his clients how to repair their attachment wounds, Adam teaches people to open up to others, find their voice, receive the love they've always wanted, and live with confidence.     Find him at https://adamlanesmith.com — on YouTube at @attachmentadam — on Twitter @Brometheus

Have you ever been really into your relationship and feeling really connected to your partner, even picturing a happy life together but then found a problem… that your partner isn't at the same level of connection or commitment that you are at, and that they are potentially envisaging something quite different? How do you bridge that gap and get onto the same page again? Today we're going to be looking at how we bond together, and specifically how men and women bond differently. - Why our bonding style is so important when figuring out what may not be working in our relationship, and where they come from. - How a lack of commitment and long term goals can be a symptom of underlying attachment issues. - The secrets to recognizing our own attachment style and they types of issues that we might continue to experience in our relationship. - How to tell whether you have attachment issues in your relationship and what to do about it. - How our upbringing can feed into our attachment styles, and impact on relationships much later in life. - The role of oxytocin and vasopressin in our neuro-chemistry and why men and women bond differently! - How to avoid the conflicts that can arise from our different communication styles and solution-focus! - You can find out more about what Adam does through his website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ We'll see you next time!

Today, we've got the incredible Flora Ong. She is a Dating and Relationship Coach as well an Integrated Attachment Specialist.  Ong is a certified Health and Life Coach, Flora put all her focus on working with men and women, helping them identify their blocks around dating. Her purpose is not only to find them what they want but to make sure they experience inner peace in the process. "You need to know yourself to be in a relationship." ~ Flora Ong. Today's conversation highlights the importance of understanding yourself. You need to find THE ONE, and, spoiler alert, that is YOU! We dive into the various attachment styles and how to work with those to have a healthy relationship. Thank you, Flora, for joining me and sharing your wisdom. I appreciate you; this discussion was requested by my audience, so I'm so excited to share this with them. Peace, love, and truth, xo j Find Flora here Get a copy of my NEW BOOK! Midlife Priceless: A Dating Coach's Guide to *Finally* Doing Relationships Right HERE!  Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!   You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/ Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Adam worked for years as a licensed psychotherapist and now focuses his specialty as an Attachment Specialist. Through his new role, Adam helps people build a new foundation for their life. Fixing attachment issues as their core means you can transform your relationships in marriage, dating, work, friendship, and family. By showing his clients how to repair their attachment wounds, Adam teaches people to open up to others, find their voice, receive the love they've always wanted, and live without fear.Follow Zuby - https://twitter.com/zubymusic Follow Adam - https://twitter.com/TheBrometheusSubscribe to the 'Real Talk With Zuby' podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify & more - https://fanlink.to/zubypodcast Support Zuby on Locals - https://teamzuby.locals.com Support Zuby on Patreon - https://patreon.com/zubymusic Special thanks to GOLD TIER Patreon members: Matt Gallagher, Libbie Richardson, Edwin Chiang, Paul Pugh, Todd Weyl, Destiny Hillhouse & OnlineBookClub.org Get Zuby's children's book 'The Candy Calamity' - http://candycalamity.com Get Zuby's fitness book 'Strong Advice: Zuby's Guide to Fitness For Everybody' - https://teamzuby.com/products/strong-advice-zubys-guide-to-fitness-for-everybody Website - https://zubymusic.com Online Store - https://teamzuby.com

JonMarc and Teresa invite Attachment Specialist, Adam Lane Smith to discuss family relationships, building a self-correcting family system, the connections between human relationships and our relationship with God, and ways to deal with stress & anxiety so that husbands and wives can better “show up” for each other and their kids. Episode 56 Show Hosts: JonMarc and Teresa Grodi This episode is Sponsored by ROB HOHLER with KEY REALTY Looking for a NEW HOME in Northwest OH? Check out his website and listings: https://robhohler.ikeyrealty.com Become a PATRON and SUPPORT our show! Join the "Manor at St. Annes" Go to elevate ordinary.com Adam Lane Smith's website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ Twitter: Twitter.com/TheBrometheus Show Notes: https://www.awakencatholic.org/elevate-ordinary/attachment-family-dynamics-and-learning-how-to-be-a-team-w-adam-lane-smith Download the official AWAKEN App: http://theawakenapp.io

In this episode we sat down with Jeff Wherley at the Indiana farm Show. If you do not already know Jeff, it is likely you have talked to him on the phone. for 32 years Jeff has been the frontline man when it comes to Yetter equipment East of the Mississippi. Being Territory manager of such a large region Jeff is seasoned, knows his stuff and we are fortunate to have him on our side. From Macomb, Illinois Jeff has worked with farmers mainly over the phone, and due to covid, now from the comfort of his home. This was a very fun episode and we cover a lot!

What is attachment theory? How can I help my child develop secure attachment? What if I don’t have a secure attachment style, myself? Today, I talk to Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Attachment Specialist, Paula Sacks. We discuss the importance of secure attachment and how the attachment a child develops with their primary caregiver sets the foundation for all future relationships. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to  Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Takeaways: What are the three styles of attachment? The five primary conditions needed for secure attachment. Why we need to be intentional in our interactions with our children. Paula Sacks is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Attachment Specialist. She is an award-winning author and is passionate about developing secure attachment in children. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we’re over 25 thousand strong!  Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out these deals from this week’s sponsors: Get 10% off your first order with my promo code MINDFUL at OSEAmalibu.com. ShesBirdie is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase when you go to ShesBirdie.com/HUNTER. Get 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line with code HUNTER at kiwico.com.

In this episode we talk to Cathi about resilience and living in the moment. You can find out more about Cathi and what she offers at https://rrhcounseling.com

This week we are going to geek out on Attachment Theory! Attachment is an emotional bond that forms in early childhood and if this is not met, our child develops attachment disturbances growing up. These disturbances make it difficult for them to have secure relationships. May it be in school with their peers, their families, and in their work as adults. (We will also spend a bit of time discussing how Attachment Theory and Attachment Parenting are different- they aren't related AT ALL!)I know for many of us that one of our deepest wishes for our children is that we form a lasting, healthy connection, a secure attachment with them. That is why I'm bringing in my new friend and colleague, Paula Sacks. She's a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Attachment Specialist. She's also the author of a beautiful book called "Love Rays". With her expertise, we are going to dig deep into how to foster a healthy attachment, while also giving ourselves permission to be wonderfully imperfect! We are also doing our first ever BOOK GIVEAWAY for this episode. So, one lucky listener will get a chance to win BOTH of Paula's books! See my IG for information!For more resources, you can visit her websites www.paulasacks.com and www.paulasackslicsw.com. To learn more about attachment and get the help you need, you can find courses here TheAttachmentProject.com Find show notes for this episode here: www.laurafroyen.com/podcast