Podcasts about Lane Smith

Blamison are back with a new regular episode where we cover 1987's Prison starring Lane Smith and Viggo Mortensen. We talk about Mortensen's dialect choice for the film, some of the background behind the making of the film and how this film is kind of a low-key favorite of ours. The boys go down to the execution chair to get haunted on this episode. Join us if you dare!Other topics discussed: camping, being sort of sick, To Catch a PredatorClip: “Poltergeist - Go Into the Light” Super CutSound engineer: Justin Wiechec

He did everything right. Stayed loyal. Showed up for his family. And one day in Florida he found out his wife had been having an affair. That was the moment everything he thought he knew about himself collapsed. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Ralph Brewer, author of The Dead Bedroom Fix and founder of Dad Starting Over, to break down what actually happens to a man after infidelity and divorce, why so many men get stuck trying to recover alone, and what the woman who loves a divorced man needs to understand about the fear he is still carrying. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why discovering infidelity destroys a man's existential safety at the deepest level  2- Why so many men attach themselves to the wrong woman and ignore red flags for years without knowing why  3- Why a man who hates his wife still tries to pursue her and what he is actually looking for  4- Why the divorced man is hesitant to commit again and what his hesitation is really about  5- What the woman dating a divorced man needs to know about the wounds he is still carrying 6- Why men try to recover alone and why that almost always makes things worse  7- What the single most important thing is a man in a dark place after divorce can do right now 8- Why the lone wolf mentality is one of the most dangerous lies men tell themselves If you love a man who has been through divorce and cannot figure out why he keeps holding back, this conversation will show you exactly what he is carrying and what he actually needs from you. Connect with me on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro   X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith

Money is in the top three reasons for divorce in America. But most couples fighting about money are not actually fighting about money. They are fighting about safety, worth, and trust. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Rachel Cruze, financial expert and bestselling author, to break down why money fights are almost never about money, what your attachment style is doing to your finances, and how to finally get on the same page with your partner before the fight becomes a crisis. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why avoidant people hoard money and anxious people overspend and why both come from the same wound  2- Why joint accounts get more hate on social media than any other financial advice and what that reaction actually reveals  3- Why the prenup conversation is not about divorce but about whether you are building a team  4- Why four generations of women were told men cannot be trusted and how that is running marriages today  5- Why money fights are marriage problems in disguise  6- Why the man who earns more and still feels worthless is an attachment problem not a financial one  7- Why working together to pay off debt improves marriages even when nobody taught a marriage class  8- What to do when one partner is a saver and one is a spender and neither can understand the other  9- Why 49 percent of Gen Z women say having children is no longer important and what is underneath that number If money has been a source of fighting, hiding, or distance in your relationship, the problem probably started long before the bank account did.

In this episode, I review a conversation between Lila Rose and Adam Lane Smith on having a vision for your marriage and the forgotten christian virtue of hospitality as a scriptural command. To access the sources for this episode, visit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=96HSQtdIg80To become a subscriber of this podcast, visit:⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/seth-hensley/subscribe⁠

She is exhausted, overwhelmed, and carrying a running list in her head that never stops. And he has no idea it exists. Not because he does not care. Because nobody ever showed him what it actually is or what it is costing her. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Dr. Morgan Cutlip, the world's leading expert on the mental load, to break down exactly what the mental load is, why most men completely miss it, and what it actually takes to fix it without destroying the marriage in the process. This is not a lecture about fairness. It is an attachment science and relationship psychology breakdown of why the invisible labor of home and family life is quietly building resentment in millions of marriages and what both partners can do about it right now. What you will learn in this video: 1- What the mental load actually is and why most men only see one third of what their wife is actually carrying 2- The triple threat of physical mental and emotional labor and why one item on a to do list unpacks into something enormous 3- Why the mental load crowds out the mental real estate required for desire and what that means for your sex life 4- Why men change for pain and consequences not for love and what that means for this conversation 5- Why resentment builds silently for years before it explodes as divorce 6- The exact words a man can say to a wife who has felt dismissed for years that will not blow the whole thing up 7- Why the weekly check-in changes everything and what it actually looks like in practice 8- What women need to get clear on before they can ever communicate what they need 9- Why running your marriage like a business and treating your wife like talent you cannot afford to lose changes the dynamic overnight If she is carrying everything and he does not know where to start, this conversation will show both of you exactly what to do next.

This might be one of the most important conversations we've had about modern dating. Global attachment expert + bestselling author Adam Lane Smith joins Krista to explain why so many people feel insecure, overwhelmed, and disconnected in relationships—and what it actually takes to build lasting trust + emotional safety. Adam challenges some of the biggest myths we've been taught about attraction + relationships, explaining why chemistry isn't always compatibility, and why emotional safety is the foundation of lasting love. If you've ever found yourself overthinking a text, staying in the wrong relationship, or wondering why love feels harder than it should, don't miss this episode. We also talk about: The four levels of safety women need How childhood wounds shape adult relationships Why dating apps create emotional disconnection Communication mistakes couples constantly make Rebuilding trust after betrayal + cheating Oxytocin, cortisol + the science of attachment Resources: Get 10% off Adam's courses and products with code ALMOST30: ⁠https://circle.adamlanesmith.com/free-sign-up⁠ Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/about TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro?lang=en X: https://x.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Sponsors: Naturium | Give your skin the affordable, luxurious glow up it deserves. Go to https://Naturium.com/ALMOST30 for 10% off your first purchase today. Ka'Chava | Go to https://www.kachava.com and use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your first order. Hero Bread | Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to https://hero.co and use code A30POD at checkout. The Absorption Company | Start taking supplements your body can actually absorb. Go to https://absorbmore.com and enter ALMOST30 at checkout for up to 35% off your first order.  BetterHelp | This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. You don't have to say yes to everything this summer. Find support in therapy. Sign up and get 10% off at https://BetterHelp.com/almost30. To advertise on this podcast please email: partnerships@almost30.com. Learn More: Get your copy of Almost 30, A definitive guide to a life you love for the next decade and beyond. https://almost30.com/book Listen to Morning Microdose! A quick trip into higher consciousness - https://almost30.com/morning-microdose Watch on YouTube - https://youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Join our community - https://www.facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups Follow: https://instagram.com/almost30podcast https://tiktok.com/@almost30podcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most women have been trying to understand men the same way they understand other women. And it has never worked. Not because men are broken, but because nobody ever showed her how they actually work. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alison Armstrong, one of the world's leading experts on understanding men and the author of The Queen's Code, for a conversation years in the making. Together they break down why men and women keep missing each other, what women get catastrophically wrong about men, and what changes everything when a woman finally learns to see a man for what he actually is. Join the Secure Circle: FREE Community: https://circle.adamlanesmith.com/free-sign-up?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/4 What you will learn in this video: 1- Why men are actually more naturally committal than women and what is getting in the way of that commitment 2- Why the testosterone soaked brain is built for focus and why interrupting that focus is not just annoying but genuinely disruptive to his peace 3- Why a man working 16 hour days and giving everything he has can still hear that he is not enough 4- Why men concealing things from their partners is not dishonesty and what it actually is 5- Why respect matters more to most men than love and why women resist saying it even when they feel it 6- Why a man cannot commit to something he believes he cannot win at and what that means for marriage 7- Why 95 percent of a woman's happiness depends on herself and not on him and why that is actually good news 8- Why men scan for complementary strengths in a partner and why women compete instead of complement If you have ever felt misunderstood by the man in your life, or if you are a woman who cannot figure out why nothing you try is working, this conversation will show you exactly what has been missing.

Two thirds of millennials are experiencing depression symptoms from loneliness. Everyone is walking around wishing someone would talk to them. And nobody is starting. Not because they do not want connection. Because they are terrified of looking like they only want something. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Jordan Harbinger, one of the world's leading experts on human connection and authentic relationship building, to break down exactly why people stay isolated, what the difference is between networking and genuine bonding, and how to start building real human relationships even if you have no one right now. This is not a social skills video. It is an attachment science and behavioral psychology breakdown of why the loneliest people are often the kindest ones, and what they have been getting wrong without knowing it. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why the nicest people in the room are the ones staying silent and how that is making the loneliness epidemic worse 2- The number one mistake people make when trying to build relationships and why it poisons everything before it starts 3- Why covert contracts are quietly destroying friendships you thought were solid 4- The difference between ABC always be closing and ABG always be generous and why one builds real loyalty and the other destroys it 5- Why 65 percent of adult Americans are running a feelings and services mentality without knowing it 6- How secure attachment and Jordan's abundance networking model are describing the exact same thing from two different fields 7- Why keeping score in relationships is a losing battle even when you think you are being fair 8- How to be interesting if you do not think you are and what the most genuinely magnetic people do instead 9- What to actually do if you are new to a city, isolated, and have no idea where to begin 10- Why the only currency that survives everything is real human relationships and how to start building them today If you have been waiting for someone else to reach out first, this conversation is for you.

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Why would a man embrace marriage and fatherhood in 2026? Most men are not asking that question with curiosity. They are asking it with exhaustion. They have heard a thousand reasons why marriage is a trap, why fatherhood is a burden, and why the risk is not worth the reward. And almost nobody is giving them a reason to say yes. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Devin Schadt, Executive Director of Fathers of Saint Joseph, for a conversation about what fatherhood actually is, why men are starving for it without knowing it, and why the crisis at the center of every social, financial, and cultural problem in America traces back to one thing: the absence of fathers. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why masculinity finds its fulfillment in spiritual fatherhood and what that means for men who have never heard it framed that way 2- What the statistics on fatherless homes actually show and why every major social crisis connects back to this one root 3- Why men are wired for mission and what happens to a man's nervous system when that mission is denied or never given to him 4- Why living in relationship is the hardest and most necessary thing a man can do and why his instinct to solve and complete works against him 5- Why trust in God the Father is the foundation of becoming a father worth trusting and what that looks like in daily life 6- How a man leads his wife in a way that she follows eagerly and why most men have never been shown what that actually looks like 7- Why loneliness precedes depression in men and what the research says about isolation versus solitude 8- The five practical steps for building real brotherhood with other men and why most men's groups fail before they start 9- Why the mission of fatherhood is the one thing that can unite men across every political, cultural, and ideological divide If you are a man wondering whether marriage and fatherhood are worth it, or a father who is already in it and not sure he is doing it right, this conversation is going to give you something the culture has stopped offering: a reason to say yes.

There's a reason your home feels harder than it should.Today we're getting honest about the attachment patterns affecting your marriage, your parenting, and your peace. This conversation will help you see what's really going on beneath the surface—and what it looks like to rebuild trust, connection, and stability in your family.Shop MyFreedomCart for trusted, American-made products that support your values.http://myfreedomcart.com/heidiShow mentions: http://heidistjohn.com/mentionsWebsite | heidistjohn.comSupport the show! | donorbox.org/donation-827Rumble | rumble.com/user/HeidiStJohnYoutube | youtube.com/@HeidiStJohnPodcastInstagram | @‌heidistjohnFacebook | Heidi St. JohnX | @‌heidistjohnFaith That Speaks Online CommunitySubmit your questions for Fan Mail Friday | http://heidistjohn.com/fanmailfriday

Most men today are doing everything they have been told to do to attract a woman. They are being kind, accommodating, agreeable, and endlessly pleasing. And it is working against them every single time. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Marni Kinrys, dating coach and wing girl to men for over 22 years, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about what women actually feel on a date, why nice guys keep finishing last, and what the science says about why the very thing men think is working is exactly what is destroying their chances. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why a woman's attraction can completely reverse within minutes of a first impression and what actually changes it 2- The four S's that create attraction in women and why most men are accidentally hitting zero of them 3- Why a nervous man does not just fail to attract a woman but actively makes her feel unsafe and what her nervous system does as a result 4- Why a woman who soothes a nervous man on a first date has already decided she will never sleep with him 5- Why nice guys are training women to see them as employees instead of leaders and what that costs them in every relationship 6- Why avoidant men are not just born that way and how anxious men are actually creating avoidant women without knowing it 7- What vasopressin bonding is why men can only get it from other men and what happens when they never do 8- Why the CEO and COO model of marriage is the only dynamic that actually makes both people happy 9- What Marni's husband finally understood after she sent him ten Instagram posts that changed everything between them If you are a man who has been working hard to make women happy and wondering why it never seems to work, or a woman who wants to finally understand why the men she loves keep getting it wrong, this conversation will give you both the answer and the path forward.

Most young men today have never had a real conversation about relationships with another man who actually knows what he is talking about. This episode is that conversation. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Franco Fernandez, a 24 year old Catholic content creator with a large social media following, for one of the most raw and honest coaching sessions the show has ever done. Franco came in thinking he was just anxiously attached. What came out was something much more layered, much more human, and much more relatable than either of them expected. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why young men today are trying to reverse engineer something they were never shown from the inside and why that is not their fault 2- How anxious and avoidant tendencies pull in opposite directions at the same time and what that looks like in real dating situations Why performing to make someone like you is the exact thing that prevents real connection from ever forming 4- Why chasing the hardest to get woman is not always confidence and what it might actually be rooted in 5- The difference between a feelings based relationship and a real one and why feelings alone will always leave you in the airport alone 6- Why asking questions with context is the single most powerful tool for building intimacy and how most men never learn to do it 7- What it actually looks like to stop performing and start being a human being with another human being 8- Why the men and women who want the same things keep completely missing each other and what is actually in the way 9- What it means to need proof that people can love you when you are not performing and why almost every young person needs that proof right now If you are a young man trying to figure out how relationships actually work without anyone to show you, this conversation will give you more clarity than years of trying to figure it out alone.

Are you tired of going on endless first dates that go nowhere? Sick of swiping through apps that seem to get more exhausting and less satisfying every year? You are not alone, and this conversation is going to change the way you think about finding a partner entirely. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alessandra Conti, celebrity matchmaker and founder of Matchmakers in the City, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about modern dating you will find anywhere. With nearly 14 years of experience working with celebrities, royals, and high profile clients, Alessandra has seen every pattern, every mistake, and every thing that actually works when it comes to finding the right person. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why dating apps are not the problem but the way almost everyone uses them is 2- What matchmaking actually is and why guided courtship has worked for all of human history while modern dating has been failing for 100 years 3- Why building female community before dating men is one of the most important things a single woman can do and why so many women resist it 4- Why no sex until monogamy is not just a values decision but a strategic one that protects your heart, your judgment, and your future 5- How good men actually respond when a woman holds her boundaries and what it tells you immediately about whether he is worth your time 6- The most destructive thing women think they are looking for in a man and what they actually need instead 7- Why men with a plan are the most attractive men in any room and what that means in practice 8- What women should never do on a first date if they actually like the man and the surprising thing they should do if they do not 9- Why both men and women are walking around wanting the same thing and completely failing to find each other and what to do about it If you have ever felt like the modern dating world was designed to keep you single, this conversation will show you exactly why that feeling is right and what the alternative actually looks like.

Many parents want to raise securely attached children — but worry that one mistake, one meltdown, or one bad day could cause lasting harm. In this episode of the Mindful Mama Podcast, Hunter Clarke-Fields speaks with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, about what secure attachment actually looks like in real life — not theory, not perfection, but everyday moments of regulation, repair, and connection. Adam shares his personal journey into attachment work and explains why secure attachment isn't built through getting it right all the time — but through being present, responsive, and willing to repair when things go wrong. He breaks down how a parent's own attachment style tends to show up under stress, why boundaries don't harm attachment (they actually support it), and how discipline can become a tool for teaching rather than punishment. This conversation offers deep reassurance for parents who didn't experience secure attachment themselves: healing is possible at any age, and secure parenting begins with awareness, collaboration, and nervous-system regulation — not guilt. If you've ever wondered whether you're doing enough, this episode will help you focus on what truly matters most. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MindfulMamaMentor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠/mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most couples you see online are either performing for the camera or fighting for the clicks. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu, co-founders of Quest Nutrition and hosts of Impact Theory and Women of Impact, for one of the most honest conversations about marriage you'll find anywhere on the internet. No highlight reel. No performance. Just two people who have been building a life together for 25 years, and are willing to show you exactly what that has looked like, the hard parts included. What you'll learn in this conversation: 1- Why happy couples are invisible online and what that's doing to everyone's idea of what love is supposed to look like 2- How Tom and Lisa met, why they both assumed it wouldn't last, and the moment that changed everything 3- Why Lisa stayed silent for eight years and the one sentence she finally said that pivoted their entire lives 4- The CEO and COO model of marriage and why treating your relationship like a business might actually save it 5- What happened when Lisa became the boss of 40 ex-convicts and accidentally brought that energy home to her husband 6- What Tom actually needed after working 120-hour weeks that Lisa didn't know how to give him and how they figured it out 7- The post-it note system they built so Tom always knows what Lisa needs when she comes to him with a problem 8- Why the most dangerous moment in a marriage is when one partner starts outgrowing the dynamic and what to do before it breaks you 9- What legacy actually means when you strip away the ego and why Tom thinks most people are quietly fooling themselves about being remembered If you've ever wondered what it looks like when two people genuinely love each other, fight for each other, and keep choosing each other through the hard stuff, this is that conversation.

Most people online will tell you your partner is a narcissist because he didn't text back fast enough. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Leslie Dobson, forensic psychologist and court-appointed expert who has spent her career inside prisons, jails, and psych hospitals assessing the most dangerous individuals in the system, to give you a reality-based answer to the question so many people are afraid to ask: am I actually in danger? What you'll learn in this conversation: 1- Why true narcissistic personality disorder is rare and why misusing the term puts people at real risk 2- What coercive control actually is, and why a federal judge needed to hear that it's more dangerous than physical violence 3- How to tell the difference between an avoidant partner and an actual predator 4- What narcissists are scanning for in a potential target and why certain attachment wounds make you more visible to them 5- Why the 10% good moments in a toxic relationship are not evidence that things can change 6- How isolation works, why it happens so gradually, and what it takes to reconnect with the people who knew you before 7- What forensic journaling looks like and why it might be the most important thing you do if you're not sure yet 8- Why building community is the only real protection against narcissistic predators and the science behind why 9- If you've been questioning whether your relationship is unhealthy or whether you're overreacting, this episode will give you the clarity you've been looking for. If you've been questioning whether your relationship is unhealthy or whether you're overreacting, this episode will give you the clarity you've been looking for.

Most people have been sold a version of marriage that's either a power grab or a slow sacrifice into nothing. This conversation dismantles both. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Jonathan Pageau, symbolic artist, Orthodox Christian thinker, and author, to go deep on what Biblical marriage actually asks of a man, what it gives a woman, and why the model most people are running has nothing to do with Christianity. What you'll learn in this conversation: → Why hierarchy in a Christian marriage looks nothing like the Roman model most people are reacting against → What it actually means for a husband to "die to self" and why it's not what you think → The covenant framework God uses with Israel and what it reveals about secure attachment in marriage → How oxytocin, the nervous system, and masculine sacrifice are biologically connected → Why women become contemptuous of men who collapse into the home and what a wife actually needs → The undervalued power of the feminine private sphere and why dismissing it is destroying families → What repair looks like inside a covenant and why so many Christians don't believe it's available to them → How the seasons of a woman's life create a different kind of contribution than a man's and why that's worth honoring If you've been told that submission means suffering, or that self-sacrifice means disappearing, this conversation will give you a language for something you've felt but couldn't name.

You stumbled into a show of some kind… and this is your official Johnny Spoiler movie reaction to Night Game (1989) — the forgotten serial killer baseball thriller starring Roy Scheider.This week on the podcast, Johnny dives into the sultry saxophone-soaked crime procedural where a detective investigates a string of murders tied to a local baseball team's winning streak. The cast is stacked: Karen Young, Lane Smith, Paul Gleason, and more. We break down the killer's pattern, the police work (pre-Law & Order era), and that tense final showdown at the historic Balinese Room in Galveston.Plus in Home Video Headlines:Johnny reacts to Scream 7 and what went wrong with Sidney Prescott's return.Thoughts on celebrity mental health, creative chaos, and honoring the late Robert Carradine.Is Jim Carrey okay? Let's talk.Bonus Physical Media Pick: We spotlight Vampires directed by John Carpenter — now in Limited Edition 4K Steelbook. Mercenary vampire slayers, practical effects, and peak ‘90s grit. Starring James Woods and Thomas Ian Griffith.Staff Pick: 8 Heads in a Duffel Bag — a chaotic crime comedy with Joe Pesci and David Spade that might be too zany for its own good.Rating System: Is Night Game a Binge Now, Binge Later, or Never? Johnny gives it a surprising BINGE NOW — better than expected and way more suspenseful than it has any right to be.If you love movie reactions, 80s thrillers, horror, baseball crime dramas, 4K collector talk, and a little sentimental chaos — stick around.I'm Johnny Spoiler… and I only spoil the movies I love.Vampires Limited Edition 4Khttps://amzn.to/40EuEUk 

Adam Lane Smith is a former Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, bestselling author, and global attachment expert on a mission to help 1 billion people build secure, lasting relationships. After working directly with thousands of couples and individuals, Adam created methods that go beyond traditional therapy to help create change in months rather than years. His work has reached millions through major media platforms. He's been featured on major media outlets and endorsed by celebrities, with a rapidly growing online education platform that serves thousands of students worldwide. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Episode 294 dives into the grit and heart behind Lane Smith's music. Lane joins the show to talk about his deep love for rodeo life and how growing up around the arena shaped both his sound and his storytelling. We also get into his brand-new duet with Ashley Walls, “Someone You Don't Wanna Know”. Check it out!Lane's Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lanesmithmusic/Our Insta: https://www.instagram.com/rcm_podcast/

On this week's episode we check out an early effort from director Renny Harlin. Get ready for 1987's Prison. It stars Lane Smith and Viggo Mortensen in an early role. Of course, if we're going to talk about a Renny Harlin film, our guest has to be the host of Deep Blue Sea the Podcast Jay Cluitt! We also have our usual movie recommendations, and our trivia game...which includes a surprise from our guest, who has apparently been keeping score all year.

Can relationship stress literally make someone sick? From cortisol spikes to blood sugar dysregulation, this discussion reveals how emotional conflict is processed by the body as a survival threat.  Topics Covered:

Welcome back to purgatory bbbbbbbuuuuuuudddddy & happy holidays!!! This week the boys get together to talk about the comedy classic Son in Law from 1993 directed by Steve Rash and written by Patrick . Clifton, Susan McMartin and Peter M. Lenkov. The film stars Pauly Shore, Carla Gugino, Lane Smith, Cindy Pickett, Mason Adams, Patrick Renna, Dennis Burkley, Tiffany Thiessen, Dan Gauthier, Ria Pavia, Lisa Lawrence, Graham Jarvis and Ernie Kinney!!! Thanks for checkin us out!!! You can find our past and most recent episodes on Podbean. com and where most other podcasts are found. Outro & Intro track from the Son in Law soundtrack 1. Richard Gibbs-Son in Law Main Theme https://youtu.be/krUjBRA-wv4?si=rJBuL7sJa-6mPozU 2. John Denver- Thank god I'm a country boy https://youtu.be/zApQB6erkd8?si=6GIKG6PgfAnx5a2Q    

“Write it down, make it plain.” That's how Cornetta Lane Smith steps into the Detroit is Different studio—rooted, ready, and carrying her grandmother's legacy with her. Across this powerful conversation, Cornetta drops stories that pull you straight into the heart of Black Detroit lineage: her grandmother migrating from “two blocks of Grand Junction, Tennessee” to Greenlawn; discovering their sharecropper past through census records; and standing on the road where the plantation her ancestors survived once sat—“We realized the street changed from Plantation Road to Elliot Road. I said, this has to be it.” She shares how grief, curiosity, and faith led her to create Recipes of Resistance, a docu-series blending food, memory, and truth-telling, because “the role of the storyteller is to humanize people—especially now, when trust is disappearing.” Cornetta opens up about love, loss, religion, politics, Arab–Black Detroit relationships, and why understanding where we come from is essential to shaping where we go as Black Detroiters. This is an episode that stitches together the past and future of Legacy Black Detroit with the tenderness of a family recipe and the urgency of a people reclaiming their story. Detroit is Different is a podcast hosted by Khary Frazier covering people adding to the culture of an American Classic city. Visit www.detroitisdifferent.com to hear, see and experience more of what makes Detroit different. Follow, like, share, and subscribe to the Podcast on iTunes, Google Play, and Sticher. Comment, suggest and connect with the podcast by emailing info@detroitisdifferent.com

Wondering why your wife stopped wanting sex? Discover the real reasons sexual desire fades in marriage and how emotional connection, hormones, and communication play a role. Topics Covered:

Ever wonder what Porn really does to your brain? Dr. Trish Leigh explains how it hijacks dopamine, damages intimacy, and undermines trust and emotional safety in relationships. Topics Covered:

In Part 2 of the transformative conversation on Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and guest Adam Lane Smith move from the science of intimacy into the step-by-step tactics for building indestructible relationships. Adam, a sought-after relationship coach and author, returns to break down the four levels of peace a woman brings to a healthy partnership… and why executive partnership is the secret weapon for thriving marriages. This half tackles tough questions on how to spot manipulators, narcissists, and avoidant partners, dissecting the behavioral clues before you get emotionally invested. Lisa and Adam also face controversial truths around infidelity, parenthood, and why major life changes like having a baby push couples to their breaking point. Expect candid insights, role-playing real scenarios, and practical scripts to use in your own relationship. Adam's methodology empowers women to ask for what they need, set boundaries, and choose partners who offer mutual respect and trust without compromise. SHOWNOTES Why Do Men Cheat After Pregnancy? Building Agreements to Prevent Loneliness & Infidelity Hard Truths About Male Psychology & Intimacy The Need for Touch: Why Men Are Starved for Affection Do Emotional Affairs Hurt Women More? The Real Gender Divide Why Men's Sexual Needs Must Be Understood Communication Styles: Emotional Processing vs. Solutions Scripts for Explaining Emotional Needs to Men “I Respect You”—The Most Powerful Words to Say How Respect Differs from Love & Why Men Need to Hear It The Cost of Withholding Respect Women of Impact listeners get a 10% discount on Adam's programs at bundle.adamlanesmith.com with code: IMPACT10. Thank you to our sponsors: OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Upgrade your wardrobe at https://trueclassic.com/impact Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa   Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Follow Adam Lane Smith: Website: https://adamlanesmith.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentadam  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In Part 2 of the transformative conversation on Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and guest Adam Lane Smith move from the science of intimacy into the step-by-step tactics for building indestructible relationships. Adam, a sought-after relationship coach and author, returns to break down the four levels of peace a woman brings to a healthy partnership… and why executive partnership is the secret weapon for thriving marriages. This half tackles tough questions on how to spot manipulators, narcissists, and avoidant partners, dissecting the behavioral clues before you get emotionally invested. Lisa and Adam also face controversial truths around infidelity, parenthood, and why major life changes like having a baby push couples to their breaking point. Expect candid insights, role-playing real scenarios, and practical scripts to use in your own relationship. Adam's methodology empowers women to ask for what they need, set boundaries, and choose partners who offer mutual respect and trust without compromise. SHOWNOTES Why Do Men Cheat After Pregnancy? Building Agreements to Prevent Loneliness & Infidelity Hard Truths About Male Psychology & Intimacy The Need for Touch: Why Men Are Starved for Affection Do Emotional Affairs Hurt Women More? The Real Gender Divide Why Men's Sexual Needs Must Be Understood Communication Styles: Emotional Processing vs. Solutions Scripts for Explaining Emotional Needs to Men “I Respect You”—The Most Powerful Words to Say How Respect Differs from Love & Why Men Need to Hear It The Cost of Withholding Respect Women of Impact listeners get a 10% discount on Adam's programs at bundle.adamlanesmith.com with code: IMPACT10. Thank you to our sponsors: OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Upgrade your wardrobe at https://trueclassic.com/impact Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa   Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Follow Adam Lane Smith: Website: https://adamlanesmith.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentadam  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to a powerful edition of Women of Impact with host Lisa Bilyeu, joined by renowned couples therapist and attachment expert, Adam Lane Smith. Adam has spent over fifteen years helping thousands of couples and individuals overcome barriers to deep, meaningful connection… and today, he's here to unravel the hidden truths behind intimacy, sex, and relationship dynamics that most women have never been taught. In this first half, Adam and Lisa cut through popular misconceptions about intimacy, exploring why men and women seem to speak different emotional languages, especially when it comes to sex and bonding. They dive into the science of attachment, hormones, and brain chemistry, revealing practical strategies for triggering true emotional connection with men… both inside and outside of the bedroom. Whether you're single, dating, or committed, this episode will challenge the myths holding you back and give you the tools to build trust, safety, and lasting partnership. Tune in for actionable advice, relatable stories, and an honest look at the pitfalls of modern dating. Show Notes Why Men and Women Don't Speak the Same Language in Sex The Science Behind Sex, Trust, and Emotional Bonding Three Ways to Create Emotional Bonding During Sex The Four Levels of Male Safety Every Woman Needs Four Levels of Peace Women Bring to Relationships How to Spot Manipulative vs. Avoidant Men Narcissism, Contempt, and Behavioral Red Flags Excessive Need for Control: Avoidant vs. Manipulative Dynamics Shifting Blame: Insecurity vs. Deliberate Manipulation Boundaries: Violated Ethics and Core Goals When Men See You as an Object, Not a Partner Women of Impact listeners get a 10% discount on Adam's programs at bundle.adamlanesmith.com with code: IMPACT10. Thank you to our sponsors: OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Upgrade your wardrobe at https://trueclassic.com/impact Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa   Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Follow Adam Lane Smith: Website: https://adamlanesmith.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentadam  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to a powerful edition of Women of Impact with host Lisa Bilyeu, joined by renowned couples therapist and attachment expert, Adam Lane Smith. Adam has spent over fifteen years helping thousands of couples and individuals overcome barriers to deep, meaningful connection… and today, he's here to unravel the hidden truths behind intimacy, sex, and relationship dynamics that most women have never been taught. In this first half, Adam and Lisa cut through popular misconceptions about intimacy, exploring why men and women seem to speak different emotional languages, especially when it comes to sex and bonding. They dive into the science of attachment, hormones, and brain chemistry, revealing practical strategies for triggering true emotional connection with men… both inside and outside of the bedroom. Whether you're single, dating, or committed, this episode will challenge the myths holding you back and give you the tools to build trust, safety, and lasting partnership. Tune in for actionable advice, relatable stories, and an honest look at the pitfalls of modern dating. Show Notes Why Men and Women Don't Speak the Same Language in Sex The Science Behind Sex, Trust, and Emotional Bonding Three Ways to Create Emotional Bonding During Sex The Four Levels of Male Safety Every Woman Needs Four Levels of Peace Women Bring to Relationships How to Spot Manipulative vs. Avoidant Men Narcissism, Contempt, and Behavioral Red Flags Excessive Need for Control: Avoidant vs. Manipulative Dynamics Shifting Blame: Insecurity vs. Deliberate Manipulation Boundaries: Violated Ethics and Core Goals When Men See You as an Object, Not a Partner Women of Impact listeners get a 10% discount on Adam's programs at bundle.adamlanesmith.com with code: IMPACT10. Thank you to our sponsors: OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Upgrade your wardrobe at https://trueclassic.com/impact Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa   Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Follow Adam Lane Smith: Website: https://adamlanesmith.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentadam  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when high-performing moms carry hidden pain no one sees? This episode exposes the emotional cost of perfection, attachment wounds, and the struggle to feel safe in love and motherhood. Topics Covered

What's really holding you back from the family life you dream of?It's not your schedule, your income, or your intentions. It's the quiet belief that it simply isn't possible. Relationship expert Adam Lane Smith returns to the show to help us understand where we are falling short and how to close those gaps with practical, learnable skills. He shares how to make your time with your kids truly count, how to teach them to ask for what they need, and how to build the emotional security they will carry into adulthood. This episode is your blueprint for a thriving home life.Adam's channel: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam/Adam's website: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/ (use code LILAROSE10 for 10% off any courses)Join our new Patreon community! https://patreon.com/lilaroseshow - We'll have BTS footage, ad-free episodes, and early access to our upcoming guests.A big thanks to our partner, EWTN, the world's leading Catholic network! Discover news, entertainment and more at https://www.ewtn.com/ Check out our Sponsors:-Hallow: https://www.hallow.com/lila Enter into prayer more deeply this season with the Hallow App, get 3 months free by using this link to sign up! -Presidio Healthcare: Healthcare and doctors who share your values. If you're in TEXAS visit: https://www.presidiocare.com/ If you're not in Texas, visit: https://www.prolifeproviders.com/-Angel Studios: https://angel.com/lila Join the Guild to vote on future blockbuster films, access all of Angel's films and shows, and even get free tickets to upcoming releases. -Good Ranchers: https://go.goodranchers.com/lila Purchase your American Meat Delivered subscription today and get a free add-on of beef, chicken, or salmon! Use code LILA for $40 off!

What happens when toxic attachment feels like love? Maggie opens up about an 11-year relationship marked by addiction and emotional chaos, uncovering how her father's betrayal shaped her patterns and need to rescue others. ✨ Topics Covered ✨

What happens when toxic attachment feels like love? Maggie opens up about an 11-year relationship marked by addiction and emotional chaos, uncovering how her father's betrayal shaped her patterns and need to rescue others. ✨ Topics Covered ✨

If you can crush it at work but feel lost at home, this episode is your blueprint to restore emotional safety in marriage—fast.Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith joins host Greg Denning to decode why so many driven men struggle with intimacy, connection, and calm at home. You'll learn how early attachment patterns wire your nervous system for constant cortisol and how to retrain it so your wife and kids finally feel safe with you. Adam lays out the four levels of safety every husband must provide (physical, resource, emotional, bonding) and the four levels of peace a wife can return (calm, gentle speech, loyal partnership, executive co-leadership). You'll discover practical, science-backed tools—co-regulation, oxytocin/vasopressin bonding, and negotiation frameworks—that turn conflict into teamwork and stress into stability.Whether you're an entrepreneur or a busy professional, you'll walk away with step-by-step tactics to regulate your nervous system, communicate like a CEO/COO team with your spouse, and build a legacy your kids will carry for generations. If “being present,” “bonding,” and “feeling close” have felt vague or unreachable, this conversation makes them actionable.Key Takeaways✅ Attachment styles significantly influence how we connect with others.✅ Men often struggle with emotional safety due to their upbringing.✅ Emotional safety is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.✅ Men must provide four levels of safety for their partners.✅ Women need to feel safe to express their emotions and concerns.✅ Building a legacy starts with creating a secure family environment.✅ Personal sovereignty is essential for mature masculinity.✅ Nervous system regulation is key to emotional health.✅ Healthy relationships require effort and intentionality from both partners.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory02:24 Understanding Attachment Styles06:02 The Importance of Emotional Connection09:15 Actionable Steps for Men10:52 Four Levels of Safety for Relationships21:48 The Role of Women in Emotional Safety29:42 Navigating Chaos Together30:12 The Power of Physical Connection32:16 The Four Levels of Peace in Relationships35:40 The Role of Fathers in Building Trust37:20 Executive Partnership in Marriage39:54 The Legacy of Family Dynamics42:39 The Importance of Healthy Family Structures44:33 The Reality of Big Families48:49 The Path to Personal Sovereignty58:09 Mature Masculinity and Legacy BuildingResources for Adam:Use Code: BETHEMAN10 for 10% off!Homepage: https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=betheman&utm_____medium=affiliate&utm_medium=affiliateCourses:https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-build-a-secure-marriage/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateCoaching:https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/group-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateRESOURCES FOR GREG:Let me help you in your journey to becoming a more Purpose Driven Leader:Free course! Adventuring With Your ChildrenFree! Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Get Greg's NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Join Greg's  90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Podcast: The Formidable Family Man PodcastCheck out this podcast for families Extraordinary Family Life PodcastJoin the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and Tribe⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠@greg.denning⁠Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/greghdenning Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

What happens when Quiet Disorganized Attachment makes love feel unsafe but loneliness unbearable? Adam reveals how this hidden attachment style forms, why it's so misunderstood, and how healing begins. Topics Covered: 

Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby's personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece  The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/)  Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women's retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take to shift from avoidant attachment to secure, engaged connection in just eight weeks? In this episode, Adam talks with a client who shares her powerful story of breaking free from lifelong avoidance and building safety in love. Topics Covered:

Adam Lane Smith has coached clients through his Attachment Method for years. He's helped clients with a variety of backgrounds, from regular families with marital troubles to millionaire CEOs looking for dating help. Anyone looking to fix their dating life, marriage, or overall relationship health. Today on the show we discuss: why passion always dies and how to rebuild it, the difference between being “nice” and “kind,” why chasing validation destroys relationships, why the spark is often a curse, how to communicate effectively in relationships, why conflict is the key to bonding and building trust and much more.  ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you've consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do some mothers struggle to bond with their babies and slip into depression? What can you do when the romance has faded and your significant other withdraws every time you try to express your needs or connect? And why does premarital sex often sabotage long-term love?Surprisingly, these issues share the same root and the same solution. Enter Adam Lane Smith, former therapist, relationship coach, and pioneer in applying attachment theory to everyday relationships. His mission is to help one billion people become securely attached, starting with you.Adam explains why so many people have trouble forming deep, lasting bonds. He breaks down the biochemical forces that drive connection, with oxytocin and vasopressin as the key players, and shows you how to work with them for stronger relationships. He also helps you develop compassion for those whose childhood wounds make intimacy difficult and gives practical steps to rekindle passion and trust. Watch this episode for eye-opening insights that will take all your relationships to the next level.Adam's website: https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=lilarose&utm_medium=affiliate **Get 10% off his courses with code LILAROSE10NEW: Join our exclusive Rose Report community! https://lilaroseshow.supercast.com - We'll have BTS footage, ad-free episodes, monthly AMA, and early access to our upcoming guests.A big thanks to our partner, EWTN, the world's leading Catholic network! Discover news, entertainment and more at https://www.ewtn.com/ Check out our Sponsors:-Seven Weeks Coffee: https://www.sevenweekscoffee.com Buy your pro-life coffee with code LILA and get up to 25% off!-Covenant Eyes: http://covenanteyes.sjv.io/Kjngb9 Sign up to grow in purity and gain traction over sexual addiction: use code “LILA” for a free month!-ProLife Providers: Discover doctors who share and respect your values at https://www.prolifeproviders.com/

Why can't women just understand men? Why can't men just understand women? The short answer is, “we're not supposed to.” If we were, we wouldn't really have any need for each other, would we? My guest today, Adam Lane Smith, has made it his life's work to get closer to helping men understand women and help us understand our own natural tendencies in relationships. Today, Adam and I talk about emotional starvation, the concept of CEO/COO between men and women, the ‘red flags' that your marriage is struggling, what men and women do to cause each other pain, and how men can lead in their relationships much more effectively. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Finding Purpose and Chasing It 00:59 – Building a 200-Year Family System 02:51 – Two Worlds: Secure vs Insecure Attachment 05:55 – Teaching People Safety vs Creating Secure Attachment 07:27 – Maslow's Hierarchy and Emotional Safety 10:46 – Safety for Men as Peace 14:19 – Security Starts Outside the Relationship 17:38 – Rebuilding a Marriage After Decades 20:53 – Invalidation and Dismissal in Relationships 22:23 – Venting vs Bringing Concerns 27:18 – The Purpose of Female Feelings as Data 29:36 – Men and Women's Brains Are Meant to Interlink 32:05 – The Ancient Fear of Not Being Believed 37:25 – Emotional Starvation in Relationships 40:38 – Signs She's Thriving or Starving Emotionally 45:13 – Four Levels of Safety Women Need 48:24 – Level 1: Physical Safety 50:07 – Level 2: Resource Safety 52:00 – Choosing the Right Woman for Your Circle 55:08 – Defining Masculine and Feminine Roles 58:32 – How Men Decide and Women Refine 01:02:05 – Level 3: Emotional Safety 01:04:29 – Level 4: Bonding Safety Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Dan, Manny, & Billy put the 1992 comedy classic My Cousin Vinny to the ultimate test—THE NOSTALGIA TEST! “[My Cousin Vinny] is a Thanksgiving movie. -Manny This is an absolute lovefest of an episode with My Cousin Vinny quotes flying all over the place. From the start to the end there's nothing but amazing things to say about the dialogue, the comedic timing of Joe Pesci, Marisa Tomei, Ralph Macchio, the late great Fred Gwynne, Mitchell Whitfield, Lane Smith, and Austin Pendleton. The boys try to find plot holes and come up empty, except for their star audience member Long Island artist Andrew Breen (@rocktapusjones_art) who finds one very minor issue. Manny does an amazing reenactment of Marisa Tomei's “Hunting” monologue, they go through the hilarious prison scene with Joe Pesci and Mitchell Whitfield, and the perfectly ridiculous NY character names. In the end, they determine whether this movie passes The Nostalgia Test and discuss why My Cousin Vinny is a perfect Thanksgiving movie. Get ready for a nostalgic trip with these three yutes through possibly one of the best comedies of all time. Email us (thenostalgiatest@gmail.com) your thoughts, opinions, and questions about this episode or anything else nostalgic on your mind and we'll read it for next time on the pod!   APPROXIMATE RUN OF SHOW: 00:00 Introduction and Sponsor Shoutout 00:12 Nostalgia Test: My Cousin Vinny 01:02 Audience Engagement and Podcast Updates 02:00 Danny Facts: My Cousin Vinny Overview 03:14 Movie Analysis: Plot and Characters 05:41 Iconic Scenes and Personal Memories 10:06 Writing and Direction Excellence 31:31 Joe Pesci's Versatility and Career 36:39 Final Thoughts and Audience Interaction 41:59 Nostalgic Movie Reboots and Sequels 42:11 The Pop Culture Sphere and Cobra Kai 43:53 Uncle Ben's Rice and Random Movie Trivia 44:37 Friends Trivia and Iconic Actors 46:21 C-Grade Movies and HBO Nostalgia 48:38 My Cousin Vinny: A Deep Dive 50:30 New York Accents and Family Dynamics 01:10:30 Thanksgiving Movies and Final Thoughts   Suggest Our Next Test & Be Our Guest! We're always looking for a fun new topic for The Nostalgia Test. Hit the link above, tell us what you'd like to see tested, and be our guest for that episode! Join the Audience Tuesday August 19th for Nostalgia Test News! & Tuesday August 26th for Happy Gilmore Franchise! Be in the Zoom audience for some pop-culture fun Tuesday August 19th for Nostalgia Test News Episode recording. We'll discuss some hard-hitting passings in pop-culture, insane pop-culture stories, movie announcements. and so much more! Join us in the Zoom audience on Tuesday August 26th when we put Happy Gilmore 1 and 2 to the ultimate test--THE NOSTALGIA TEST! We want you to be there, share your questions, thoughts, and favorite Happy Gilmore scenes and quotes! These episodes will be recorded art 530pmPST/ 830pmEST and will be around 1-2 hours long. Grab a drink and some snacks and join the fun!   Book The Nostalgia Test Podcast Bring The Nostalgia Test Podcast's high energy fun and comedy on your podcast, to host your themed parties & special events!  The Nostalgia Test Podcast will create an unforgettable Nostalgic experience for any occasion because we are the party! We bring it 100% of the time! Email us at thenostalgiatest@gmail.com or fill out the form at this link. LET'S GET NOSTALGIC!     Keep up with all things The Nostalgia Test Podcast on Instagram | Substack | Discord | TikTok | Bluesky | YouTube | Facebook   The intro and outro music ('Neon Attack 80s') is by Emanmusic. The Lithology Brewing ad music ("Red, White, Black, & Blue") is by PEG and the Rejected  

Adam Lane Smith is a psychotherapist and an author. Are men the problem? In a time when blame is easily assigned, it's worth asking whether men need to re-examine how they show up in the world, including their values, behavior, & accountability. In doing so, they might uncover surprising ways to help heal much of what's broken. Expect to learn why so many high performing men have avoidant attachment styles, why choosing the wrong women is one of the most important decisions you can make in your life, what the biggest issues with modern dating are, why validation might be more important than love in a relationship, how to break out of the friendzone, why we need to stop comforting men to death, and much more… Sponsors: See me on tour in America: ⁠https://chriswilliamson.live⁠ See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D, and more from AG1 at https://ag1.info/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom Timestamps: (0:00) - What Choosing the Wrong Woman Looks Like (7:25) - What is Happening with Oxytocin in Modern Men? (11:16) - Why Successful Men are Failing in Relationships (17:05) - How Masculinity is Changing (30:40) - Why Validation Makes Men Feel Shame (40:23) - Masculine Role Models are a Double-Edged Sword (46:27) - Why Do Women Choose Jerks Over Nice Guys? (52:18) - Men are Trying to Protect Knowledge on Masculinity (01:01:34) - Why are Men Running From Themselves? (01:09:25) - Why Marriages Need a Purpose (01:15:03) - We Need to Be More Serious and Earnest (01:21:44) - Find Out More About Adam Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: https://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: https://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this profound conversation, Dr. Anthony Balduzzi welcomes attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to unpack how our early childhood experiences wire our nervous systems—and how that wiring can shape everything from our health to our marriages. Adam explains the science and psychology of attachment theory, revealing why so many high-achieving parents silently suffer from emotional disconnection, loneliness, and self-sabotaging health behaviors.Listeners will learn about the three main insecure attachment styles—avoidant, anxious, and mixed—and how they show up in relationships, parenting, and health choices. Adam provides a visceral, relatable description of how these patterns develop, the havoc they can wreak, and how they can be completely healed through conscious effort, safe relationships, and nervous system regulation.But this episode isn't just theoretical. Dr. Balduzzi and Adam dive deep into the practical side: how men can build secure attachment through small, consistent steps, how fitness plays a critical role in rewiring the brain for connection, and how parents can start creating transformational moments with their kids—without needing to be perfect.This episode will resonate with anyone who's ever felt disconnected despite doing everything “right.” It's a wake-up call for high performers, a roadmap for parents, and a love letter to those willing to do the inner work. Don't miss the insights that could quite literally transform your relationships—and your life.Key Takeaways:Early trauma wires nervous system dysfunctionAvoidant = survival mode, overwork, disconnectedAnxious = approval seeking, learned helplessnessSecure = calm, connected, honest communicationAttachment issues crush hormone balanceMost divorces = anxious woman + avoidant manHigh performers often hide deep lonelinessNervous system dysregulation blocks oxytocinHealing begins with awareness and self-reflectionFixing attachment transforms your physiologyParents must become self-correcting, not perfectFitness supports nervous system healingKids model what they see, not what you sayTransparency + feedback = secure relationshipsYour health habits are also love habitsLearn More about Adam Lane Smith:Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbggX: https://x.com/adamlanesmithTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/Podcast: I Wish You Knew Podcast https://iwishyouknew.show/Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadamBiographical Information on Adam Lane Smith:Adam Lane Smith, MA Psych, is recognized globally for his groundbreaking work in applied attachment psychology. Over the past 15 years, he has guided more than 1,600 private clients (including top executives, Hollywood A-listers, and management professionals) towards building resilient and effective relationships, both at...

Why do avoidant men run from intimacy, and how can you get them to bond without chasing? In this powerful conversation, Adam Lane Smith breaks down the core fears driving avoidant attachment styles and shares actionable tips to flip the script — so he starts chasing you. We talk about the emotional triggers that make men commit, the biggest mistakes women make when dating avoidants, and how to create deep, lasting bonds (without sacrificing your self-worth).