Regulate & Rewire: An Anxiety & Depression Podcast

This is a simplified version of the conversation we had last week about how it's common for trauma survivors to feel anxious or scared when they finally experience moments of calm or regulation. This episode explores why this paradoxical response happens and offers gentle ways to help your nervous system learn that regulation doesn't have to mean danger. We dive into the "safety-danger equation" and how to build your capacity for feeling safe, one small moment at a time.In this episode, you'll learn:Why your nervous system might interpret safety as a threat after trauma.How past experiences can make you feel like you've "lost your ability to protect yourself" when you relax.Practical strategies to start feeling safer with regulation, even when it's uncomfortable.3 Takeaways:Feeling anxious when calm isn't a sign you're broken; it's a learned protective response from past trauma.Your nervous system is always balancing "cues of safety" against "cues of danger"—trauma can make safety feel unfamiliar and thus threatening.You can teach your nervous system that safety is okay by starting with small, anchored moments of regulation and validating your protective instincts.—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Have you ever felt anxious about not feeling so anxious? Or had a moment of regulation trigger anxiety? In this follow-up we explore a counterintuitive but common phenomenon in trauma recovery: when finding safety and regulation actually triggers fear and anxiety. Drawing from research by Bessel van der Kolk, Stephen Porges, and Deb Dana, we examine why the regulated "green zone" can feel threatening to trauma survivors.In this episode, you'll learn:→ Why trauma survivors often feel most vulnerable when regulated→ How to identify what specific cues of safety and danger influence your nervous system→ Techniques for building regulation capacity without triggering protective responses→ The importance of "both/and" thinking: maintaining protection while exploring regulationThree Takeaways:Regulation happens when cues of safety outweigh cues of danger—but trauma rewires this equation, making the nervous system hypersensitive to potential threats and misinterpreting safety cues.The fear of regulation isn't a failure or resistance—it's an intelligent adaptation that protected you in the past and deserves respect even as you work to expand your capacity.Recovery isn't about eliminating protective responses but gradually creating reliable "islands of safety" that demonstrate regulation is survivable and eventually beneficial.—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, we tackle the challenging but vital question: How can we support nervous system regulation when someone isn't in a safe environment? Drawing from Deb Dana's Polyvagal Theory expertise and current research, we explore practical strategies for both practitioners and individuals navigating unsafe circumstances.In this episode you'll learn:How to identify small touch points that can activate brief ventral vagal statesSpecific techniques practitioners & individuals can use to support clients/themselves in unsafe environmentsMicro-practices for self-regulation during ongoing stress or threatThree Takeaways:Even in unsafe environments, small "safety or regulating anchors" (objects, memories, connections) can provide crucial moments of regulation. The goal isn't permanent regulation in unsafe circumstances, but creating brief reminders that another state exists.Oftentimes the first step in healing is acknowledging the reality of one's situation, not minimizing or denying it. Whether you're a practitioner or the individual going through it, remember that your struggle makes sense, your survival responses make sense.Recognizing and savoring these micro-moments of "safe enough" builds neural pathways that support resilience over time.Resources/Citations:National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233"Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection" by Deb Dana"Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory" by Deb DanaLevine, P. A. (1997). Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. North Atlantic Books.Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.Kearney, D. J., McDermott, K., Malte, C., Martinez, M., & Simpson, T. L. (2012). Association of participation in a mindfulness program with measures of PTSD, depression and quality of life in a veteran sample. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 68(1), 101-116.Price, M., Spinazzola, J., Musicaro, R., Turner, J., Suvak, M., Emerson, D., & van der Kolk, B. (2017). Effectiveness of an 8-week yoga program for women with chronic PTSD. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 30(2), 173-180.West, J., Liang, B., & Spinazzola, J. (2017). Trauma sensitive yoga as a complementary treatment for posttraumatic stress disorder: A qualitative descriptive analysis. International Journal of Stress Management, 24(2), 173–195.Brom, D., Stokar, Y., Lawi, C., Nuriel-Porat, V., Ziv, Y., Lerner, K., & Ross, G. (2017). Somatic Experiencing for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Randomized Controlled Outcome Study. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 30(3), 304-312.Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and-build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218–226.Perry, B. D. (2006). The Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics: Applying principles of neuroscience to clinical work with traumatized and maltreated children. In N. B. Webb (Ed.), Working with traumatized youth in child welfare (pp. 27–52). The Guilford Press.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Can anxiety start... in your gut? Triggered by a listener's experience linking a gut cleanse to panic attacks, this episode dives deep into the powerful gut-brain connection. Discover how physiological issues—from microbiome imbalances to inflammation—can ignite anxiety symptoms from the "bottom-up," often before any anxious thought occurs. Learn why this happens and gentle strategies to support both your gut and brain health for better mental wellbeing.In this episode, you'll learn:How the gut and brain communicate through the nervous systemHow gut disruptions can lead to anxiety or panicWhy anxiety often begins in the body (and how to reframe it as information)Practical ways to support your gut and mental health together3 Takeaways:Anxiety Can Start "Bottom-Up": Gut disruptions can directly cause anxiety symptoms, not just thoughts.Gut Health Matters for Mental Health: Gentle, consistent support is often key, be cautious with harsh cleanses.Reframe Anxiety as Information: View symptoms as signals of an underlying imbalance needing support.Resources Mentioned:Healing Through the Vagus Nerve (see pages 40-41 for the gut-brain connection)—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, Amanda shares a personal story about her shift from running to walking—and eventually walking with a weighted vest—and how this physical adaptation revealed powerful lessons about nervous system regulation, healing, and mental health. She explores what happens when the tools that once worked no longer serve us, why slowing down is often exactly what our bodies need, and how to adapt our regulation practices to match our current season of life. Whether you're carrying too much or moving too fast, this episode invites you to move slower, carry less, and get curious about what's next.In this episode, you'll learn:Why we sometimes freeze when familiar coping tools disappear.The science-backed benefits of walking for stress and brain processing.Getting creative to find the "next best thing" for regulation when resources change (like losing access to sunlight in winter).The powerful principle: If you want life to feel easier, move slower and decrease the weight.Practical ways to apply this principle to reduce stress and overwhelm.3 Takeaways:Adaptation is a key part of regulation.Slowing down isn't failure—it's often the medicine we need."If you want life to feel easier, move slower and decrease the weight." Practical Application: This week, choose one area of your life where you're feeling pressure or stress and experiment with the formula: move slower, decrease the weight. Notice how your body responds, how your breathing changes, and how your thoughts shift.—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Ever felt like the world around you suddenly turned foggy, distant, or dreamlike? That's derealization—and while it can feel disorienting, it's actually a protective response from your nervous system. In this episode, we explore what derealization is, why it happens, how it relates to depersonalization and trauma, and what you can do to support yourself or a loved one when it shows up.In this episode, you'll learn:What derealization is, how it feels, and why it's a nervous system protective response.The common links between derealization, stress, anxiety, and trauma.Practical coping strategies (like grounding & breathwork) and lifestyle tips for self-management.How to support loved ones experiencing it and when professional help is beneficial.3 Takeaways: Derealization is Your Nervous System's Protective Strategy: It's not a sign you're broken or "going crazy," but rather your brain's attempt to shield you from overwhelming stress, intense input, or trauma triggers by creating a sense of distance from the outside world.You can support your system by creating cues of safety. Grounding techniques, gentle movement, breathwork, routine, and co-regulation are all ways to signal to your body that it's okay to come back to the present.Self-Compassion and Connection are Key: Understanding derealization often involves recognizing its link to anxiety or past trauma (as an adaptation). Approaching it with self-compassion, curiosity, and seeking connection (with yourself, safe others, or professionals) is crucial for managing it and fostering healing.Whether you've experienced this yourself or want to better support someone who has, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and actionable insight.—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this final episode of our Back to the Basics series, we bring together all the key concepts we've explored over the past eight episodes. From understanding your nervous system to creating a personalized path to healing, this episode serves as both a review and a roadmap for moving forward with confidence and clarity.In this episode, you'll learn:How all the pieces of the nervous system puzzle fit togetherThe ultimate framework for understanding and approaching anxiety and depressionPractical ways to apply this knowledge in your daily lifeHow to create a personalized, sustainable path to healing3 Takeaways (& their reflection questions):Whole-Human Approach: True healing comes from integrating both physiology and psychology - one that explores and acknowledges how your body, mind, relationships, and environment all interconnect in your mental health. Understanding the interplay between your nervous system, stress bucket, reactive and proactive regulation creates a comprehensive framework for healing that honors your unique experiences and needs. If you've been feeling stuck in your healing…Which area of your life (physical, mental, relational, or environmental) feels most neglected in your current healing approach, and what small step could you take to address it?Your Symptoms Likely Make Sense: Your symptoms make perfect sense given your past lived experiences and current life circumstances—they're not signs of brokenness but messages from a system trying to protect you and understanding this helps you shift from self-blame to self-compassion.How might your perspective shift if you approached your symptoms with curiosity rather than judgment, asking "what happened to me?" instead of "what's wrong with me?"If you were to apply the equation 'Current Nervous System State = Past Lived Experiences + Current Life Circumstances' to your own experience, what's one key insight you gain about why you might be struggling the way you are?Strategic Path Forward: Real healing comes from a balanced approach that includes both in-the-moment tools and deeper, proactive changes that address the root causes of dysregulation. The journey of healing, viewed through a nervous system lens, is ultimately about reconnecting with your authentic self, accessing your inner resources, and creating a life where you feel safe, resilient, and whole.What's one reactive tool you can practice this week when you notice dysregulation, and one proactive change you feel ready to explore to address something in your stress bucket?"What does 'coming home to yourself' mean to you, and what's one small practice or action you could incorporate into your daily life to cultivate a stronger sense of connection with yourself?"Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, we're continuing with Part 8 of the Back to the Basics series by exploring the vital role that comprehensive lab work plays in healing anxiety and depression. I break down why we take a physiology-first—but not physiology-only—approach, the truth behind the outdated “chemical imbalance” theory, and how functional labs can uncover real root causes that are often missed in standard care.In this episode, you'll learn:Why focusing on your body is often the missing piece in mental health treatmentHow the “chemical imbalance” theory got started—and why it doesn't hold upWhat's often missing from standard lab work and how comprehensive blood testing can uncover hidden drivers of anxiety or depressionWhat markers we include in our custom lab panel and whyHow optimizing your biology creates capacity for deeper healing3 Key Takeaways:Physiology First, Not Only: There's an interplay between physiology and psychology but if your body is depleted or stressed, it changes how your brain functions. You can't mindset your way out of a nervous system stuck in survival mode.The Chemical Imbalance Theory is outdated and debunked. This oversimplified narrative can prevent people from exploring the root causes of their symptoms and keeps many stuck in medication-only treatment plans that don't fully support their healing.Comprehensive Lab Work can take out some of the guesswork. It helps uncover hidden imbalances—like nutrient deficiencies or hormone issues—that may be driving anxiety or depression. It gives you clear, personalized data to support your healing.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.**Referenced Sources: Moncrieff, J., Cooper, R. E., Stockmann, T., Amendola, S., Hengartner, M. P., & Horowitz, M. A. (2022). The serotonin theory of depression: A systematic umbrella review of the evidence. Molecular Psychiatry, 28(8), 1–14. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41380-022-01661-0Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In Part 7 of our Back to Basics series, we explore proactive regulation as the long-term approach to healing anxiety and depression through a nervous system lens. Building on our previous discussion of reactive tools, this episode examines how to address the root causes of your symptoms.Episode Highlights:Understanding regulated living as a strategic approach to getting out of chronic survival modeThe importance of identifying your unique stress contributors through a comprehensive assessmentHow to create a personalized healing plan based on what feels meaningful and accessibleKey areas to evaluate: physical health, connection, environment, mindset, and daily stressorsWhy small, consistent 1% changes create sustainable transformation over time3 Key Takeaways:Proactive regulation is essential for long-term healing: It involves creating sustainable habits and addressing underlying causes to break free from chronic survival mode, moving beyond in-the-moment reactive tools.The most effective healing path is personalized and structured, focusing on what feels meaningful and accessible for you to change nextSmall, consistent changes (those 1% improvements) layered over time create the most sustainable transformation when supported by the right guidance and communityNext Episode Preview: Join me for part 7 where we'll discuss lab work, what it is, why it matters, and why I consider it a key piece of healing.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

This morning I wanted to flush my kid down the toilet, it was just one of those mornings. It made me realize that while last week we had a great chat about reactive regulation, it was a bit heavy on the theory vs practical application. I'm extending that conversation today to share some real life examples of how I use these tools in my everyday life, how I used them this morning with my son. So, here's Part 6 of my Back to the Basics Series.In this episode, you'll learn:How a challenging morning with a 4-year-old demonstrates simple regulation techniques that prevent reactive parentingUsing activating breathwork to overcome the 2pm energy slump instead of reaching for caffeineNavigating grief with grounding techniques that help process emotions without becoming overwhelmedThe three ways reactive regulation tools support us: physiologically shifting our state, creating awareness and pause, and building confidence and agency3 Takeaways (about why reactive tools work). It's because…They can directly impact your physiology - Breath work, movement, temperature changes, and vision exercises actually shift your autonomic nervous system state. They help us create awareness and pause - Even if you don't shift states completely, the simple act of noticing and pausing creates space between stimulus and response. That morning with my child, I still felt frustrated, but the pause allowed me to respond intentionally rather than react automatically.They build confidence and agency - Having these tools counters the helplessness that often comes with dysregulation. Instead of "I don't know what to do," you begin to think, "I have tools I can try." This builds a sense of agency over time.Next Episode Preview: Next week, we will move on to proactive regulation and explore how creating a more regulated life sets the stage for long-term healing and well-being.-Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In part 5 of our Back to Basics series, we explore reactive regulation, a powerful approach to managing your nervous system in moments of anxiety, overwhelm, or shutdown. Learn how to use your body's natural stress responses to create a personalized toolkit for finding more calm and intentionality amidst life's challenges.*click here to view the impala video I referenced in the episodeIn this episode, you'll learn:Understanding reactive regulation as a "first-aid kit" for your nervous system during moments of anxiety, overwhelm, or shutdownHow to complete natural stress cycles that often get interrupted in modern lifeThe importance of "meeting your nervous system where it is" rather than forcing calm or energyTool layering: matching intervention intensity to your current state, then gradually shifting toward regulationExamples of reactive regulation tools for different nervous system statesWhy practicing regulation tools proactively makes them more accessible during difficult momentsKey Takeaways:Reactive Resourcing: Reactive regulation is like a first-aid kit for your nervous system - a set of tools that provide temporary safety cues to help you bridge the gap between stress and regulation in moments of dysregulation.Meet Your System: The principle of "meeting your nervous system where it is" and "tool layering" is essential - rather than forcing calm when activated or high energy when shut down, acknowledge your current state first and then incrementally guide yourself toward regulation.Proactive Practice: Proactively practicing your reactive regulation tools in low-stress situations makes them more accessible and effective when you're facing bigger challenges.Next Episode Preview: Join me for part 6 where we'll explore proactive regulation - the inner work, lifestyle, relational, and environmental choices that set the stage for more regulated living.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In part 4 of our Back to Basics series, we explore the "stress bucket" analogy to help you understand why you might be feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed. Learn how to assess your unique stress load and discover personalized pathways to healing.In this episode, you'll learn:How to visualize your nervous system as a bucket with limited capacityThe difference between baseline stressors and daily stressorsWhy symptoms appear when your stress bucket overflowsHow to identify your personal stress load to create strategic and meaningful changeKey Takeaways:Stress Capacity: Everyone has a unique "stress bucket" with limited capacity - when it overflows, we experience symptoms of dysregulation like anxiety and depression.Identify Your Stressors: Two types of stressors fill your bucket: baseline stressors (chronic conditions, patterns, or circumstances you wake up with daily) and daily stressors (daily tasks, events, interactions or experiences you face).Strategic Healing: Healing isn't about eliminating all stress but finding balance - either by reducing your stress load or increasing your supports or carrying capacity through skills, resourcing, and lifestyle changes.Next Episode Preview: Join me for part 5 where we'll discuss reactive regulation strategies to help manage your stress bucket in the moments you need it most.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In part 3 of our Back to Basics series, we explore why we get stuck in states of dysregulation and why anxiety and depression persist. Learn how modern living patterns and past experiences shape our nervous system responses, and discover a compassionate approach to understanding your symptoms.In this episode, you'll learn:Why anxiety and depression are normal responses to abnormal circumstancesThe two main reasons we get stuck in dysregulationHow our "parts" develop to protect us but can keep us stuck in old patternsWhy your nervous system might favor familiar discomfort over unfamiliar regulationThe connection between your current nervous system state, past lived experiences, and current life circumstancesKey Takeaways:Your Symptoms Make Sense: You're not broken. Your symptoms make perfect sense given your experiences and circumstances.Lifestyle Matters: Dysregulation happens when we live in biologically unsupportive ways or when our nervous system misinterprets situations based on past patterns.Perception vs. Reality: Your nervous system might be misinterpreting safety due to past trauma or current high stress. Healing comes from understanding your protective parts and working with them, not against them.Next Episode Preview: Join me next week as we explore the concept of your "stress bucket" and how to create better balance between stressors and supportive factors in your life.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Hey friend! This week is a short and sweet check in to let you know I was at deaths doorstep the last couple weeks with the flu and just didn't have it in me to record the next "Back to the Basics" episode (which I'm really looking forward to and will be out next week). Hit play for a little check-in chat and a reminder that there's usually an option between "all" and "nothing"Sending hope & healing your way!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this second episode of the "Back to Basics" series, we explore the six nervous system states and how understanding them can transform your approach to anxiety and depression healing.You'll learn:→ The three primary states (Regulation, Activation, Shutdown)→ The three mixed states (Play, Stillness, Freeze)→ How to identify your current state through sensations, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors→ Why "your state determines your story" and shapes your perception of eventsKey Takeaways:Your nervous system has both regulated states (Green Zone, Play, Stillness) and protective states (Yellow Zone, Red Zone, Freeze). None are "bad"—it's about finding appropriate balance and flexibility between them.Understanding your unique nervous system "blueprint" through sensations, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors helps you navigate states with more awareness and choice.The goal isn't to stay permanently regulated, but to make regulation your "home base" you can return to after natural cycles of activation and rest.Practical Application: Start mapping your own nervous system states by placing a reminder asking "What state am I in right now? How do I know?" somewhere visible in your daily routine.Note: This episode builds on the foundations laid in Part 1, offering deeper context for how our nervous systems respond to safety and danger signals in our lives.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this first episode of the “Back to Basics” series, where I dive into the core of what drives anxiety and depression: your nervous system. When you better understand how this mind-body system works you can work with it towards healing.You'll learn:→ What the nervous system is and how it functions→ The difference between regulation and dysregulation→ How stress and past experiences shape your responses→ A simple framework (the nervous system ladder) to understand anxiety, depression, and survival statesKey Takeaways:Your nervous system isn't working against you—it's trying to protect you. Your symptoms are messages, they're protective.When you understand your nervous system, you can move from self-blame to self-compassion, realizing that everything you experience makes sense.Take a moment to reflect—what stressors, past or present, are weighing down your system? Does where you find yourself on that nervous system ladder most often make more sense when that comes into view?By the end of this episode, my hope is that you walk away with a deeper understanding of why your symptoms make sense—and with a new glimmer of hope for healing.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Celebrating 100 Episodes of Regulate & RewireFriends, welcome to the 100th episode of Regulate & Rewire! Today's episode is a heartfelt celebration of this milestone and a deep dive into gratitude, reflection, and exciting plans for the future. And to mark this milestone, I share a special offer towards the end of the episode.This podcast exists because of you—your downloads, shares, reviews, and kind messages. You've made Regulate & Rewire a top resource for healing anxiety & depression through a nervous system lens. Thank you for being here.In this episode:A look back at the podcast's origin story and how it all started with a simple desire to educate beyond social media time limits.The top 5 most downloaded episodes:E49: How to Come Out of a Shut Down StateE2: Understanding Anxiety & Depression Through a Nervous System LensE8: How to Build NS Regulation Into Your Daily LifeE4: Anxiety Through a NS LensE7: How to Stop OverthinkingA sneak peek into what's coming nextAn invitation to explore deeper healing with RESTORE, our 1:1 coaching program, now eligible for HSA/FSA and including comprehensive bloodwork.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

I'm dysregulated, now what? This episode dives into two powerful approaches you can use when you notice anxiety, depression, or other challenging emotions arising: leaning in, or changing course. We'll explore what each of these options look like, as well as, how to best use them, by understanding your nervous system's various states and how they inform your approach to regulation.Three Takeaways:You Have a Choice: When dysregulated, you can choose to either lean into and support the experience or change course to move towards regulation. Neither is inherently better, but each offers different benefits and tools.Leaning in vs. Changing Course: Leaning in builds your capacity to be with challenging feelings; while changing course involves utilizing tools to directly shift your physiological state. Both strategies can help you to feel more in control and more stable in your healing journey.Build Your Toolkit: Knowing what to do in the moment when dysregulated is key to breaking free from spiraling. Today we talk about tools to meet yourself where you're at and build the capacity to heal.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode of Regulate & Rewire, we explore how to navigate collective trauma and maintain mental health in a world that feels increasingly chaotic. From California wildfires to global conflicts, we discuss why our ancient nervous systems struggle with modern information overload and offer practical strategies for staying regulated while staying informed. Learn about the concept of "conscious oscillation," tips for healthy information consumption, and why finding moments of joy isn't just allowed - it's necessary for sustained resilience and impact.Three Takeaways:Our nervous systems evolved for a world of immediate, local threats - not the constant stream of global catastrophes we now face through modern technology. Understanding this mismatch helps explain why we feel overwhelmed and gives us permission to set boundaries.Balance Information and Regulation: Limit news consumption, take meaningful action when you can, and prioritize rest and joy to keep your nervous system balanced.Finding joy and allowing moments of lightness during dark times isn't privilege or denial - it's a biological necessity for nervous system regulation. Conscious oscillation between engagement and rest helps us stay resilient and effective.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

As we close out the year, this episode focuses on 5 foundational habits for a more regulated 2025: sleep, movement, nutrition, stress management, and community. These habits are simple yet powerful tools for creating a foundation of nervous system health and emotional well-being.Inside this episode, I share why these pillars matter, how to approach them, and why starting small is the key to lasting change.Three Takeaways:Focus on the Foundations of Health. Sleep, movement, nutrition, stress management, and community support your nervous system and overall healing.Start Small and Build Gradually. Sustainable change happens with small, intentional shifts over time.Healing Happens in Community. Connection and belonging are essential for nervous system regulation and resilience.If you're ready to take these habits deeper, I'd love to invite you to join my membership, RISE, where we'll focus on these habits together—one at a time—throughout the year.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Sign up for the NYE Circle – Sunday, December 29th at 8 PM ETIn today's episode is a guided practice for Regulated Reflection. I'm intentionally keeping episodes shorter this month as this time of year is busy and I want to offer you a resource that fits into those smaller pockets of time.This episode has two purposes:To invite you to join my NYE Circle this Sunday, December 29th, at 8 PM ET—a free, 90-minute virtual event to pause, reflect, and set meaningful intentions for 2025.To guide you through a shorter, calming practice to help you regulate your nervous system, reflect on the past year, and plant seeds of intention for the year ahead.Take a moment to pause and care for yourself in the midst of the holiday season. If you enjoy this practice, I'd love to have you join us for the full NYE Circle experience. You'll find all the details and the sign-up link in the show notes.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Sign up for the NYE Circle – Sunday, December 29th at 8 PM ETAs the year comes to a close, this episode invites you to reflect on the past year with curiosity and compassion—not judgment. I'll guide you through a simple process to look back on meaningful moments, notice patterns, and set intentions for the year ahead.You'll also hear about my NYE Circle happening this Sunday, December 29th, at 8 PM ET—a free, 90-minute virtual event to help you regulate, reflect, release, and step into 2025 with clarity and purpose.In this episode, you'll learn:Why reflection is a powerful tool for healing and growth.Seven prompts to guide your reflection and intention-setting.How to join my NYE Circle and make space for meaningful change in 2025.Here's the 3 takeaways:Reflection is a tool for growth, not judgment.Like watching the "game film" of your life, reflecting on the past year with curiosity and compassion—not criticism—helps you learn, grow, and move forward with clarity.Focus on what supported you.Identify the tools, habits, or practices that helped regulate your nervous system this year. Carry those forward into the new year to build a foundation for healing and resilience.Want support? Join me on December 29th for a free, virtual, community event! CLICK HERELooking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, we dive into the second part of a listener's heartfelt question about parenting and anxiety. After a big emotional release, she found herself overwhelmed by guilt-ridden thoughts:"I'm a bad mom. Did I do this to him?”We explore the complex relationship between a parent's healing journey and their child's emotional well-being, examining how patterns like emotional availability, modeling calm, and creating balanced lifestyles can influence anxiety in children. Together, we'll reframe guilt into growth, reflect on how healing impacts family dynamics, and discuss practical steps to break cycles and foster resilience—for both parents and kids.*CLICK HERE to download a PDF of the reflection questions*3 Takeaways:Your healing positively impacts your children, teaching them resilience and how to navigate emotions.Reflection fosters growth—guilt doesn't. Asking compassionate questions can help break cycles.Regulated living is a family affair—intentional choices around lifestyle, boundaries, and connection benefit everyone.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from hearing this!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, we explore whether intense emotional moments—like panic attacks or big cries—are setbacks or signs of progress. Learn what happens in your nervous system during big emotional releases, why healing can feel harder before it gets better, and how to support yourself through these experiences.Click here to see the photo of story #3 moments before my friend helped get my shoulder back in place.Takeaways:What feels like a setback might actually be progress - when you begin regulation work, intense emotional releases often mean your system finally feels safe enough to process stored tension.Healing doesn't have to feel overwhelming & it's often not when you have context (understanding what's happening), choice (the ability to engage at your own pace), and connection (support from others or yourself).Regulation and resourcing is a skill that gets easier over time. Just like learning to reset my dislocated shoulder became easier with experience, navigating emotional releases becomes more manageable as you practice supporting yourself and build your capacity for regulation.Next Week:We'll explore the connection between a parent's healing and their child's emotional well-being, tackling parental guilt and co-regulation.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from hearing this!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

The holiday season can be a mix of joy and stress—family dynamics, packed schedules, financial pressures, and unspoken expectations can take a toll on your mental health. In this episode, I share practical tips to help you stay regulated and set healthy boundaries.You'll learn:Why the holidays can feel overwhelming and how to understand your stress responses.Simple tools to regulate your nervous system amidst the chaos.Practical scripts for setting boundaries with confidence.How to approach the season with more self-compassion and intention.Key Takeaways:Self-Compassion might be the best holiday tip.Sometimes the most practical regulation tools are the ones that can go unnoticed. Setting boundaries is how you take care of yourself. If needed, when setting boundaries, use simple repetition to reinforce them and remember it's not your job to manage other people's reactions to your boundaries.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from hearing this!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, I share a personal (and slightly unconventional) parenting story about letting my 4-year-old son practice walking on our roof. As risky as it might sound, the experience brought three profound lessons about healing: the importance of practice, the power of pacing, and the value of having support.Join me as we explore how these lessons apply to your journey of emotional regulation and self-healing, especially if you didn't grow up with the tools or guidance to navigate your emotions. Together, we'll uncover a framework for building self-compassion and moving forward in a way that feels intentional and supportive.Key Takeaways:It's okay to practice. Let yourself be bad until you're not anymore.It's okay to go slow. There's no rush to get it “right.” Moving at a pace that feels safe and manageable is how real, lasting change happens.It's okay to ask for support. It's actually essential – we're here for you.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from hearing this!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Today I explore the question "Is it possible to cycle through all nervous system states within the same day?" Spoiler alert—yes, *to an extent* — in this conversation we explore the considerations around this and I offer practical suggestions on how you can shift thorough these states with more ease. We'll talk about why these shifts happen, how to recognize them, and what it means for our mental and physical health. Hit play to hear more!Key Takeaways:Daily nervous system shifts are normal and adaptive.If your state shifts feel intense or disruptive, or you spend more time in dysregulation than regulation, it may signal that your stress load is exceeding your stress management capacity.Building nervous system awareness is the first step to creating positive changeLooking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from hearing this!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In today's episode, I invite you into a personal journey as I navigate the grief of losing my soul-dog, Cooper. This episode is both a tribute to him and a raw, heartfelt look at how I'm supporting myself and my young son through this painful experience.The first half of the episode is a snapshot of our story. In the second half, I discuss how I'm helping my 4-year-old son process his first significant loss. I dive into the importance of role-modeling grief for children and offer some tips on how to do so in a way that helps them build resilience in the face of loss.Trigger Warning: This episode includes emotional content around loss and grief. Please feel free to skip or pause if needed.Key Takeaways:Kids process grief through play - support their journey by providing creative outlets and simple, honest explanations.You can't regulate your child's emotions if you can't regulate your own - build your support system first.Don't shield kids from grief - teach them how to move through it.If this (or any) episode felt supportive for you, I'd love to hear from you! DM, email, carrier pigeon - I love hearing from you.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, we're shifting from learning to experiencing. Last week, we discussed the techniques of resourcing, titration, and pendulation and their importance in trauma healing. Today, I'll guide you through a guided practice, allowing you to feel and embody these practices within your own systel..This gentle, 15-minute practice will help you connect to a sense of safety, ease into challenging sensations, and learn to move between states of comfort and discomfort. By engaging your nervous system in this way, you show your system experientially that it doesn't have to stay stuck in moments of discomfort or activation.Find a quiet, comfortable space, and hit play.If today's session resonates with you, remember that this kind of support is available in our membership and 1:1 coaching programs.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, we dive into the concept of pendulation, a foundational process in trauma healing, particularly within Somatic Experiencing. We explore how pendulation involves oscillating between states of distress (activation) and calm (regulation), allowing the nervous system to release stored tension without getting stuck.We also discuss two essential techniques that support pendulation:Resourcing: Developing internal or external anchors that evoke safety and calm, serving as a foundation for navigating trauma.Titration: Processing trauma in small, manageable doses to prevent overwhelm and build resilience.Pendulation, the movement between activation and deactivation, teaches the nervous system to flow between stress and calm, helping to reduce hypersensitivity to triggers. It's a practice that rewires the brain and body for greater resilience.Key Takeaways:Retelling trauma without these techniques can be retraumatizing.Reflect on your existing resources that bring comfort and safety.Pendulation allows for processing emotions without getting stuck.For more personalized support, explore our 1:1 coaching program or look for somatic or trauma-trained practitioners familiar with these techniques.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from hearing this!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Did you know that there a sequential order to healing? In this episode of Regulate & Rewire, we explore "The Pyramid of Healing," and it's 4-phases that support your healing journey. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or like your healing efforts aren't working, it might be because things are happening out of order. Discover the four phases of healing—Education & Awareness, Regulation, Rewiring, and Resourcing—and learn how following this sequence can create lasting change.Key Takeaways:Healing happens in phases—trying to skip ahead can make things harder.Build a strong foundation of regulation before diving into deeper healing work.Healing is cyclical—each time you revisit the phases, you'll find more resilience and ease.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from hearing this!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, we dive into the common phrase “releasing trauma” and what it really means. While many people think trauma can be pushed out of the body, healing is much more about creating safety within the body so it can transform naturally. We explore the layers of trauma healing—physical, emotional, psychological, and relational—and why true healing requires a holistic approach.Here's the 3 takeaways:Trauma isn't something you can force out – Healing is not about "releasing" or "getting rid" of trauma, but creating safety in the body so it can naturally transform.Trauma healing happens in layers – It affects the physical, emotional, psychological, and relational aspects of your life, so healing requires a multi-faceted approach.Healing is about building capacity – The goal is to increase your ability to be with difficult emotions and sensations, rather than trying to push them away.Looking for a new way of healing? Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Other ways to get more support —Click here to join this month's RELEASE ClassJoin me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In today's shorter episode, I want to offer you a gentle reminder: it's okay to do less. When you have less to give, it's important to honor that and adjust your commitments accordingly. This week, instead of pushing myself to create a longer, more researched episode, I'm giving myself permission to record a shorter one – and I'm encouraging you to do the same in your life.Far too often, we get caught up in the cycle of doing more, but healing happens when we make space for it. If your load feels heavy right now, take a moment to assess what you can let go of – whether it's tasks, internal expectations, or the pressure to be constantly productive.If you're struggling to figure out how to make space for rest, healing, or anything else important in your life, my team and I are here to support you. Through our RESTORE 1:1 coaching program, we help clients audit their stress loads and strategically make room for healing.If you're curious about how this approach could help you, I'd love to invite you to book a pressure-free discovery call. We'll explore if this is the right step for you, and if not, I'll try to help you find your path forward.Link to book a discovery call: CLICK HEREWebsite: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Do you ever find yourself tense or anxious when dealing with new situations? This could be traveling to a new place, interviewing for a job, or simply a changing seasons in your life. This is often referred to as situational anxiety, which is a form of anxiety that happens in response to a new, unfamiliar, or stressful (to you) situation. Today I'm going to offer a nervous system reframe and other tools to help you navigate this better. Hit play to listen!Here's the 3 takeaways:Reframing Anxiety: Labeling experiences as "activation" rather than "anxiety" can reduce overwhelm and foster self-compassion. Understanding that your nervous system is responding naturally to new or unfamiliar situations helps shift from helplessness to curiosity.Self-Compassion: Normalizing your experience, especially during life changes, is crucial. Your body's heightened response is often a reasonable reaction to uncertainty or shifts, and you're not wrong for feeling it.Support & Regulation: Regulating your nervous system with grounding techniques, breathwork, and movement, along with seeking support, can help ease situational and anticipatory anxiety, allowing you to navigate life's transitions with more clarity and calm.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

One of the most overlooked but important steps in healing anxiety, depression, or trauma is learning to not be afraid of your symptoms. Hit play for a conversation about symptoms and how the way we understand or perceive them can intensify or de-intensify them.Here's the 3 takeaways:Symptoms are Messengers, not problems: Whether physiological or psychological, your symptoms are communicating that something in your system is out of balance. Instead of fearing or avoiding them, get curious about what they are trying to tell you.Psychological and Physiological Symptoms are Connected: Thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations often overlap. For example, spiraling thoughts or catastrophizing may be both a mental pattern and a physiological response to a stressed nervous system.Reframing Your Relationship with Symptoms Reduces Their Intensity: By learning to observe and accept your symptoms instead of resisting or judging them, you can reduce their intensity and begin to heal more effectively. This shift in mindset helps break the cycle of fear, shame, and frustration that often worsens symptoms.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Today let's talk about the anxiety attack I *almost* had at the airport earlier this summer. Warning I'm going to take you on this journey with me detail by detail, so if you're already feeling a little worked up today, maybe come back to this episode later when my airport stress won't increase your stress but can instead be simply a chaotic story you get to listen to for your education & entertainment purposes. Hit play for the full convo!Here's the 3 takeaways:When you experience the same situations differently than someone else, that doesn't have to mean you or they are wrong for the way it is experiencedWhen we're stuck in states of dysregulation that changes the way we view and interpret situations in our life. The next time you find yourself ranting, spiraling out about, or even simply retelling an experience can you pause to reflect on whether this story is being filtered through a lens of regulation or dysregulation? If this would have happened a few years ago, I would have had a meltdown equivalent to my toddler's and it likely would have thrown me off for days. I didn't match his meltdown and I was mostly reset before the plane took off. This is just a testament that you can in fact increase your capacity for stress; there are tangible tools that work to help you regulate your nervous system; you can soften the parts of you or beliefs you have about being too much, not enough, needing to control, etc… that make situations in our lives feel bigger than they need to & this is the work we support clients with every day.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Today, we're talking about something that might surprise you—we're going to talk about Botox.  If you're asking, “Why are we discussing Botox on a podcast focused on mental health?” Another centerpiece to this podcast is talking about ways to support, heal and regulation your nervous systems, in that it's important to consider how everything we do—including something as common as a Botox—could play a role. Today we'll talk about both the cosmetic & medical uses of Botox as we talk through it's benefits and it's potential impact on your nervous system, brain, and emotional regulation (potentially of you and your kids). Hit play to learn more!Here's the 3 takeaways:Botox is a neurotoxin. It is used both medically & cosmetically. Most of the research show's it's more safe than not but that doesn't mean there aren't risks and side effects. Do you feel aligned with how or why you choose Botox? Does it improve that quality of your life in a way that outweighs potential costs?Potential costs of botox include muscle atrophy, changes in brain activity, and emotional regulation - with potential implication for both you and your children's emotional literacy.Long-term effects of Botox are not fully understood.Sources mentioned:Stark, S., Stark, C., Wong, B. et al. Modulation of amygdala activity for emotional faces due to botulinum toxin type A injections that prevent frowning. Sci Rep 13, 3333 (2023). Davis JI, Senghas A, Brandt F, Ochsner KN. The effects of BOTOX injections on emotional experience. Emotion. 2010 Jun;10(3):433-40. doi: 10.1037/a0018690. PMID: 20515231; PMCID: PMC2880828.Weise D, Weise CM, Naumann M. Central Effects of Botulinum Neurotoxin-Evidence from Human Studies. Toxins (Basel). 2019 Jan 6;11(1):21. doi: 10.3390/toxins11010021. PMID: 30621330; PMCID: PMC6356587.BBC Article: Are there long-term health risks to using Botox?Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

If you're new here, my "good enough" episodes typically happen as a result of me getting behind on recording podcasts. They happen when I realize on a Monday night that I don't have anything recorded for tomorrow's podcast episode and I don't have the time, energy, or capacity to do the full outlining, researching, or scripting that other podcast get. Instead I just talk more candidly from the heart - today that conversation is about the "A-lot-ness" in my life right now and how I'm navigating in very differently than I would have years ago.I share 3 things that are really helping me as I fall into my default patterns of urgency and "just get it done" and end chatting through how easy it is to label natural physiological responses as "disorders" when you don't understand the nervous system.Two spoilers - (1) We'll be opening up a handful of spots for our new labs offering before the end of the year, want first dibs on detail & those spots? CLICK HERE to get on the waitlist(2) I'm looking to update my branding & redesign my website - do you or someone you know do aMaZiNg modern websites? Email me, please.My final ask of the podcast is that I'd LOVE to hear from you. If you hit play today, send me an email or DM and let me know what from today's conversation impacted you most!Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 78Ever feel at war with yourself? Ever find yourself frustrated that you overreacted or that you've again turned to a less than ideal way of coping? In IFS this is called being "blended" - this is when a particular part (usually a younger wounded or protective part) of you has taken over, influencing your thoughts, emotions, and actions, so much so that it feels as if you are that part. Today we're talking about how to "unblend" to put your regulated self back in the driver seat of your mind, body and life. Today's conversation builds on last week's part 1 of our Parts Work conversation. Hit play to learn more!Here's the 3 takeaways:Our parts are often the coping strategies we've developed in response to difficult experiences. They are a welcomed part of our internal system, we just don't want them running the show.Unblending is the process of separating our authentic self from these reactive parts, allowing you to respond to situations with more clarity and compassion. Unburdening involves helping these parts release the heavy emotions or beliefs they carry, creating more harmony and flexibility in your internal system.Successful healing requires an integrated approach, mind and body, psychology and physiology. If you're looking for this kind of support, I'd love to hear from you.Want to learn more about parts work/IFS? Here's some other introductory resources:What is IFS Therapy? | Intro to Internal Family Systems w/ Dr. Tori OldsIFS Explained by Lewis PsychologyWhat is "parts" therapy? | Integrative Psychotherapy BlogLooking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 77Have you ever felt like a part of you wanted one thing and a part of you wanted something else? Or maybe on your healing journey you've started to notice these seemingly problematic beliefs or behaviors, things like perfectionism, emotional eating, doom scrolling, etc... — each of these can be labeled as one of our "parts."Today we're diving into a healing modality called parts work, or internal family systems (IFS), and the role it can plays in healing anxiety & depression. I'll also talk through how it overlaps with nervous system regulations so beautifully and why this modality has felt so helpful to so many of our clients.Here's the 3 takeaways:We all have parts, each of these parts are well intentioned AND their mechanisms for handling situations may no longer be the best options for you.An invitation to try to identify some of your wounded or protector parts and decide which one, if any, you feel ready to work with.A second invitation to do that work, you can do it through journaling, a quick google search of “journaling prompts for parts work” or find a therapist or coach trained in IFS. As always an invitation to join one of my coaching programs if it feels like a good fit, but we are just a few of many incredible practitioners out there who can support you in this modality.Want to learn more about parts work/IFS? Here's some other introductory resources:What is IFS Therapy? | Intro to Internal Family Systems w/ Dr. Tori OldsIFS Explained by Lewis PsychologyWhat is "parts" therapy? | Integrative Psychotherapy BlogLooking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Ever feel like your feelings get so big so fast and you're not sure how to handle them? This week I'm sharing a lesson I taught about emotional fitness (aka emotional regulation). Hit play for the full conversation! Watch to watch the video module instead? CLICK HEREEmotional Fitness Worksheets: CLICK HERELooking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

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This is the first part of a two-part series that's all about healing reframes. I'll break down the first of four super helpful reframes, or mantras, that can totally change how you look at your healing journey.In this episode, we'll take a deeper look at how these reframes—originally shared in a parenting context—can be applied to all of us trying to live more regulated lives. We'll explore how understanding your past can shine a light on your present behaviors and, most importantly, figure out what you can actually do about it with our "So now what?" approach. Trust me, you won't want to miss out on these insights and practical steps to start making some real changes.Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Here's the 3 takeaways: This healing reframe of "how appropriate of me to [INSERT A GIVEN BEHAVIOR OR TENDENCY YOU HAVE THAT FEELS ANNOYING OR UNHELPFUL] Given that I [INSERT THE CONTEXT HERE]" When you're ready, add to the end of that reframe statement "So now what?" An invitation to join us in our Regulated Living Membership if you're looking for support in this work.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontheriseWebsite: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 73Today's conversation is a direct response to the following listener request:"I am a parent to 4 young kids (one with special needs and another with some extra needs). I struggle immensely with keeping myself regulated and calm with their big emotions. I wondered if you might explore in further episodes about how to let go of the need for control as a parent and how that need for control influences feeling dysregulated when the kids are rough housing and noisy/chaotic. I struggle so much to just relax into parenting, I constantly try to control things to avoid big emotions and meltdowns. If you might also touch on the topic of hypervigilance and the need to control as a trauma response? I'd love to learn how we can sit with life happening without trying to micromanage it as a way to avoid something unexpected happening, kid meltdowns, chaos, etc…I'm struggling so much with this right now as a mom, but really it's been a theme for much longer than that. I realize the work ahead for me as I am learning your tools to regulate my nervous system."What I'll share doesn't just apply to regulated parenting, but in how we all approach these things in our healing. Hit play for the full conversation!Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 72If you feel like you can't rest until everything is done - this conversation is for you. I also talk about functional freeze and how this do do do without knowing how or when to allow yourself proactive rest creates overwhelm and overloads the system into a state of freeze. Hit play for more!Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Here's the 3 takeaways: Catch: Notice this week the urge to do more, when you decline your brain or body's request for rest because you feel like you can't until you get it "all" done. Challenge: Notice the urge of, "I can't sit down until X, Y, Z is done" and respond with, "but what if I can? What if I can take a moment to rest and just be?" & if you're feeling spicy - "what if I can just leave that task undone? Or at least undone until tomorrow?" Change: Do differently, take that 1 or 10 or 15 minutes to rest & let yourself be uncomfortable in that rest.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 71Have you ever found yourself rushing to do something or rushing get somewhere when you really didn't actually need to rush? You weren't running late, there wasn't a timeline, no one was waiting on you and yet you felt this urgent need to move faster. If so, this episode is for you. We all have default patterns, default ways of responding to the world around us because of our past lived experiences. Join me for a conversation about why these patterns take hold, but more importantly what it looks like to begin to rewire and repattern these default responses if they're no longer serving you. Hit play to learn more! Here's the 3 takeaways: Catch: Notice this week anytime you feel rushed when you might not need to be? Challenge: Pause, and ask “can I slow down?” (& know that your brain will immediately scream "NO!"at you, pause again, maybe asking, "but what if we just try?") Change: Do differently. Maybe you keep driving, doing the dishes, or walking but can you do  just 1% slower, with 1% less urgency, 1% less tension. If you do differently enough times, and things work out, you reset your baseline responses.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 70If you've ever felt frustrated by a therapist or coach responding to your request for tools with something like, "Well, what do you think a helpful tool would be?" then today's chat is for you. in this episode I share what I learned in attending my first ever ecstatic dance class and how it demonstrated for me the importance of suggestions in our healing journeys. When you've lived so much of your life inside a specific box, it can be really hard to see anything else. Join me as I discuss the balance between being client-led and offering guidance in therapeutic practices, emphasizing the importance of context, choice, and connection for creating a sense of safety; and as I reflect on my desire (and maybe yours too) to feel more free.Here's the 3 takeaways:If you, like me, don't have a practice of moving your body, of dancing freely, here's my invitation to start. Remember, "the weirder I move my body, the more I fit in."Healing requires action and changes in daily living. Seek out practitioners and spaces that offer practical tools and suggestions to support your journey.I'm sending you my love and support as you also figure out how to learn to feel more free. As always, we would love to support you. My calendar is open for those of you interested in booking a discovery call to learn more about our 1:1 coaching program, doors to the membership are always open, as is my inbox (amanda@riseaswe.com). I love love love hearing from you.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 69One of my deepest beliefs is that “I'm too much” – I'm too loud, I'm too energetic, I ask too much, need too much, my idea's or dreams or plans are all too much, my pace is too much, etc… It's a wound that gets triggered a lot in my friendships, entrepreneurship, and especially in my marriage. It's also a belief that holds me back from fully showing up in a lot of areas of my life.Join me for a conversation about how all our beliefs, while well-meaning and self-protective at one point, may no longer serving us anymore and when left unchecked they'll hold you back in your healing journey and keep you stuck in patterns you don't want anymore.Here's the 3 takeaways:If you're feeling stuck in your healing, it might be happening out of order. Reflect on my  pyramid of healing (pg 85 in my book Healing Through the Vagus Nerve) and ask yourself if you maybe skipped a step? Often times before we can do the deeper healing and rewiring work, we need to first stabilize and regulate our nervous system.As long as I believe it to be true, that I'm too much and people prefer a muted version of me, I'll filter everything through that. What belief do you currently have as a filter that are no longer serving where you'd like to go?If you can identify a belief, spend some time with these final two questions: “What do I risk if I stop doing or believing X?” and “What do I gain if I stop doing or believing X?”Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 68When you're not sleeping, eating, breathing, moving, resting, playing, or connecting enough — you should expect to be sick, your mental health will suffer because your brain and overall health are suffering. When we, or life, expects us to sacrifice the very habits that nurture our nature of being human — we suffer and there's no amount of talk therapy or meds (while possibly helpful) that heals symptoms caused by a dysregulated nervous system or daily habits that rob you of general health.You cannot heal when continuing to live in chronic stress.So, what is regulated living? It's about living with routines, habits, and practices that support a regulated nervous system, habits that support healthy mental, physical, emotional, and relational health. It involves the habits that make up your daily life as well as cultivating the skills necessary to effectively self-regulate and manage stress.Today's conversation acts like a wrap up to the 8 episode Essential 8 series, providing moments of invitation and reflection to step into some aspect of more regulated living.Here's the 3 takeaways:Regulated living isn't a perfect protocol to follow but a way of living based in understanding your psychology and physiology enough to meet their needs. It's a general way of living that prioritizes health,  stress & emotional management, and social connections in a way that regulates your nervous system and supports healing from anxiety & depression. As you do this, your systems will do what they naturally do which is to trend towards healing. There's often deeper work to do, but it can be helpful to stabilize and create capacity within your system as a whole before diving in.A nudge to join us inside the newly-named Regulated Living Membership (or if you want more personalized support to book a discovery call with me to learn more about RESTORE our 1:1 coaching program). Working through our programs, healing in this way isn't a quick fix – it'll invite you over and over again into an assessing and editing your life to step into more sustainable and regulated living. It would be our honor to support you.Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 67 - Essential 8 Series (Part 8)Do you struggle to feel connected or at home in your body? Do you often feel ungrounded? Do you have anxiety or lack self awareness? When someone is having a hard time are you overly empathetic - is it almost like you absorb their hard emotions? Do you struggle to easily feel when you're hungry or full? These are all signs of low or impaired interoceptive awareness.Interoception is the ability to fell and understand what's happening on the inside of your body and it is a foundational skill to somatic healing. Hit play to join me for a longer conversation on what it is, why it matters, and how to cultivated stronger interocetion. Resources:

Episode 65 - Essential 8 Series (Part 6)Today we're chatting about nutrition and its impact on mental health, specifically anxiety, depression. Treat today's episode sort of like you and I were casually chatting and I said, “Hey, did you know…”"Did you know that blood sugar regulation (or lack there of) has been linked to anxiety and depression?""Did you know your gut is often referred to as your “second brain” and that research shows that emotions play out in your gut and gut issues can create mental health symptoms?""Did you know that the quality and quantity of food we eat matter?  If you're under-eating or under-nourishing yourself then you're likely nutrient deficient and those deficiencies stress out the nervous system contributing to living in survival mode?"To which, you'd look at me with awe and wonder and reply, “OMG Amanda, I didn't know that - tell me more?”Wonderful, that's the conversation we're having here - let's chat through blood sugar, mind-gut connection, and nutrients needs that can impact your mental health.Resources: