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#751: The belief that's quietly sabotaging your progress might not even be true. Free worksheet to question it: https://affordanything.com/turn-it-around Two people can grow up with the exact same test scores — and as adults, one of them ends up earning double the other. Psychologist Marisa Franco says the deciding factor isn't intelligence, and it isn't luck. It's whether you actually believe good things are allowed to happen to you. Dr. Marisa Franco is a psychologist and professor at the University of Maryland, and the New York Times bestselling author of Platonic. She's back to talk about her new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment. In this episode, we discuss: How self-worth — not intelligence or family income — predicts how much you'll earn as an adult Why some people quietly sabotage their own portfolio right before they hit financial independence The difference between "good" and "bad" high self-esteem, and why one of them wrecks relationships Why getting more love or praise than you expect can make you pull away instead of lean in How to actually process a hard emotion instead of shoving it down Why hitting a big financial goal can leave you feeling strangely empty once you get there How to rebuild your sense of self after losing an identity you were attached to Whether you've ever undermined your own progress right before a finish line, or wondered why reaching a goal didn't feel the way you thought it would, this episode gives you a framework for understanding — and changing — that pattern. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS Note: Timestamps may vary slightly depending on dynamic ad placements. (02:05) The two very different types of high self-esteem (04:36) Self-esteem vs. self-worth: the real difference (05:37) Why self-worth predicts income more than SAT scores (12:21) Sabotaging your own portfolio right before you hit FI (14:15) The self-fulfilling prophecy behind financial fear (23:36) Why too much love can make you pull away (25:05) How low self-worth blocks promotions and job offers (36:13) The memory trick that can change your brain (46:19) Why self-worth matters most in a bad market (1:06:10) Does self-worth actually drive your net worth?

Description:Dr. Marisa G. Franco is back — and this time, she's turning the lens inward. Marisa is the New York Times bestselling author of Platonic and a psychologist at the University of Maryland, and her brand new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, might just be the most important thing she's ever written. It is tender, personal, and research-backed in equal measure — and friend, it will find you.In this conversation, Marisa and Jen dig into the central argument of the book: that trying to become a "secure" person — calm, confident, regulated, healed — is one of the most efficient ways to stay stuck. The goal, Marisa says, is not security. It's being secure-ish. That means making room for the anxious parts and the avoidant parts, the shame and the neediness and the grief, and offering those parts the care they never got instead of running from them one more time.In this discussion, you'll also hear:Why the goal was never to be fully "secure" — and what it means to be secure-ish insteadWhy your insecurities are messengers, not enemies — and how to stop whack-a-moleing them into silenceThe memories that are keeping you stuck — and the science that proves you can actually change how they live in youThe messages installed in us by the wider world — faith, bodies, marriage, worth — and what it looks like to do this work when those messages came from somewhere we once considered holyAnd Marisa shares her own story, the one that cracked her open: a hike, a relationship unraveling, and the moment she finally stopped performing calm long enough to say the true thing out loud.This is a conversation for anyone who has been trying to be better than they are instead of being who they are. Which is to say — it's for all of us.Thought-provoking Quotes:“The struggle of not feeling worthy is that you're stuck in the same sense of reality. You're trapped and you don't know how to get out. People are loving you but you don't feel loved. The beauties of life slide off of you. I just want people to get free of that.” - Dr. Marisa G. Franco“We have to start with allowing what is, with the truth. So many of us don't think we can because we have to be something different than we are. But being where you are, that's where the healing happens.” - Dr. Marisa G. Franco“I'm still learning for my first reaction to no longer be, what am I allowed to feel according to other people? What am I allowed to look like according to other people? And for my first question to be what expresses who I am and how I actually feel, even if that violates all of the rules as to how I should feel or how I should present myself? That's where I need to begin, in the truth.” - Dr. Marisa G. FrancoResources Mentioned in This Episode:Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment by Dr. Marisa Franco - https://amzn.to/42N2MyEPlatonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Dr. Marisa Franco - https://amzn.to/4dph3rmFriendship MeCourse - https://shop.jenhatmaker.com/products/friendship-for-the-rest-of-us

Dr. Marisa Franco is back, and this time she's turning her attention from friendship to something underneath it: self-worth. Her new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, starts with a confession. While her relationship was falling apart, she was performing security, saying all the right things, staying calm, doing everything the books tell you to do, while quietly abandoning what she actually felt. She and Dr. Joy talk through why that kind of self-abandonment is so familiar to Black women in particular, and what it costs us. The conversation moves through what Dr. Franco calls the difference between the good twin and the bad twin of high self-esteem, both of whom say they feel good about themselves, but only one of whom can sit with a hard feeling instead of pushing it away. She explains why insecurity isn't a flaw so much as a coping strategy our brains developed to protect us from repeat harm, and introduces memory reconsolidation, the idea that revisiting an old memory with care can actually change its emotional charge and help you feel safer moving forward. They also dig into stigma, identity stretching, and what happens when we spend our lives chronically evaluating ourselves against an ideal we didn't choose. Dr. Franco talks about raising kids with real self-worth instead of just confidence, why chasing achievement often keeps us from feeling anything at all, and what it means to aim for secure-ish instead of secure. Resources & Announcements Want to reflect on this conversation in community? Join us inside our Patreon community where we’re unpacking this episode together. You can now catch episodes of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast on YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to get new episodes every week. Did you know you can leave us a voice note with your questions for the podcast? If you have a question you'd like some feedback on, topics you'd like to hear covered, or want to suggest movies or books for us to review, drop us a message at memo.fm/therapyforblackgirls and let us know what’s on your mind. We just might share it on the podcast. Grab your copy of Sisterhood Heals. Where to Find Our Guest Grab your copy of Worth Instagram: @drmarisagfranco Website: drmarisagfranco.com Newsletter: Attached (on Substack) Stay Connected​ Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Submit it at therapyforblackgirls.com/mailbox. If you're looking for a therapist in your area, check out the directory at https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/directory. Grab your copy of our guided affirmation and other TBG Merch at therapyforblackgirls.com/shop. The hashtag for the podcast is #TBGinSession. Make sure to follow us on social media: Instagram: @therapyforblackgirls Facebook: @therapyforblackgirls Our Production Team Executive Producers: Dennison Bradford & Gabrielle Collins Director of Podcast & Digital Content: Ellice Ellis Producer: Ndeye Thioubou Production Assistant: Bria MosleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you believe it when other people say, “You're worthy just because you exist,” or do you simply grimace, pretend you agree, and move forward? It can be difficult to have a real sense of self-worth. Not the kind that we advertise on social media with our highlight reels, but the genuine sense of self-worth: the way you treat yourself and, in turn, how you treat others. If you're a member of our community, you probably understand this feeling – maybe you've suffered grief, loss, tragedy, anxiety, depression, etc… Digging past the performative self-esteem and accessing true understanding of your own self-worth can feel – let's face it – impossible, especially when you're trying to just keep your head above water. Today, Nora is joined by Dr. Marisa Franco to help us all understand what self-worth and self-esteem truly are and how we can access them authentically to show up for ourselves and the people around us. If you have any questions for Nora and Marisa, call/text us at 612.568.441. You can get a copy of Marisa's most recent book, Worth, on Bookshop or Amazon. Watch us on YouTube here! Listen to Geoffrey's album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora's books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That's F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠Monarch.com⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Memories from your past can affect your self worth in the present. Marisa Franco, psychologist and author of the book Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, shares a memory-updating technique you can use daily to boost your self-esteem and feel more secure.Follow us on Instagram: @nprlifekitSign up for our newsletter here.Have an episode idea or feedback you want to share? Email us at lifekit@npr.orgSupport public media with NPR+ and enjoy perks for over 25 podcasts like this one. This show's perks include sponsor-free listening and convenient playlists of popular help topics like personal finance, getting healthy, and more. Learn more at plus.npr.org.See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for sponsorship and to manage your podcast sponsorship preferences.NPR Privacy Policy

What if low self-worth isn't something wrong with you—but your mind protecting you from being hurt again? AJ sits down with psychologist Dr. Marisa G. Franco to explore how past experiences shape the way we see ourselves, receive love, and react in relationships. They unpack why compliments can actually feel threatening, how unresolved “open memories” keep the past alive in the present, and why chasing confidence through achievement, validation, or attachment labels rarely heals the deeper issue. You'll learn a practical exercise for changing how painful memories live inside you, what to do when your body is triggered by something you can't consciously remember, and why acknowledging insecurity can actually be a sign of healthy self-worth. The goal isn't to eliminate difficult emotions—it's to stop abandoning yourself when they appear. Episode Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Worth-Science-Self-Esteem-Secure-Attachment/dp/B0GGNPKM6S/ Chapters 00:00 – Why compliments can feel threatening03:18 – What self-worth actually means05:03 – How unresolved memories shape your self-esteem08:12 – Can you change how the past affects you?13:12 – A practical exercise for rewriting painful memories20:20 – Stop abandoning yourself when emotions appear24:55 – The problem with trying to become “secure”30:32 – Why positive affirmations can backfire33:12 – The arrival fallacy: success won't heal your self-worth38:00 – What to do when your body remembers what you don't43:29 – How to handle emotional triggers in relationships48:16 – The problem with attachment labels51:03 – A daily practice for building real self-worth53:46 – Stop living in the past and start living in the present A Word From Our Sponsors Get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers by using promo code CHARM at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Shopify is where you go to start your business, and everything you need to sell is already there from day one. Start your free trial by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOPIFY.COM/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with top talent ready to help your business grow by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UPWORK.COM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Keywords self worth, self esteem, confidence, emotional healing, memory reconsolidation, childhood memories, attachment theory, secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, emotional regulation, insecurity, self compassion, relationships, trauma, people pleasing, external validation, affirmations, emotional triggers, personal growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever finally gotten something that you thought would make you feel worthy, like a degree or a promotion, and you still felt like you weren't good enough? Or maybe when someone gives you a genuine compliment, you feel worse instead of better. My guest is Dr. Marisa Franco, a psychologist, professor at the University of Maryland, and New York Times bestselling author. And she says we've been lied to about what really builds self-worth. But the good news is, once we learn the truth, we can all increase our self-worth without achieving more. Some of the things we discuss are: Why compliments and success can actually feel threatening when you're struggling with self-worth The difference between the two kinds of high self-esteem (and how to tell which one you actually have) Why "I only date secure people" misses how humans actually work — and the case for being "secure-ish" instead Why memories are the "database of self-esteem" — and how the brain uses your past to predict your future How to go back to a painful memory and give your younger self exactly what they needed Why you don't have to remember what happened to heal past wounds The three-step framework to try the next time you feel bad about yourself Healthy ways to handle hard feelings The Therapist's Take: My top three strategies for building real self-worth starting today Related Episodes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠219 — Stop Hating Yourself: A Step-by-Step Guide to Reclaiming Your Worth with Dr. Blaise Aguirre⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 104 — What Your Sentimental Keepsakes Reveal About Your Self-Worth Links & Resources ⁠Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment Connect with the Show Buy a copy of⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Amy on Instagram —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AmyMorinAuthor⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign Up for My Newsletter —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amymorinlcsw.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sponsors AG1 — Save 20% on your first subscription order of AG1 Next Gen or AG1 Pro at ⁠DrinkAG1.com/mentallystronger⁠. Lola Blankets — Head to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LolaBlankets.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code STRONGER to get 40% OFF your order. AirDoctor — Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code STRONGER to get UP TO $300 off today! One Skin — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneskin.co/STRONGER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code stronger to get up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders Quince — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/stronger⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns! Square — Get up to $200 off Square hardware at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠square.com/go/STRONGER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mentally Stronger Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for exclusive content like weekly bonus episodes, mental strength challenges, and office hours with me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the things we chase to feel worthy—success, achievement, appearance, approval—can't actually give us the worth we're looking for? Ginny sits down with psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Marisa Franco to explore the ideas behind her new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment. Dr. Franco explains why true self-worth isn't something we earn and why affirmations, compliments, and accomplishments can sometimes make people with low self-esteem feel even worse. They dive into the fascinating science of memory reconsolidation and how painful “open memories” from childhood and adulthood can continue shaping our relationships, emotions, and sense of self long after the event has passed. Dr. Franco shares practical ways to process those memories, work with emotions stored in the body, and become not perfectly secure—but “secure-ish.” They also explore parenting, attachment, trauma, friendship, and how technology can keep us from sitting with the very emotions that may be pointing us toward healing and deeper human connection. Grab Marisa's book here! ** A huge thank you to our sponsors! Check them out below:  My Green Mattress: Visit www.mygreenmattress.com  and save 15% on your order during  their Labor Day Sale. Plus, use code 1000hours for an additional $10 off your cart total when you purchase any mattress. BetterHelp: Visit  www.BetterHelp.com/1000HOURS  today to get 10% off your first month. Quince - Visit www.quince.com/outside and get free shipping and 365 day returns IXL Learning - Head to www.ixl.com/1000hours to get an exclusive 20% savings on your membership Whisker - Take care of your cats while taking an additional $50 off bundles with code 1000HOURS when you shop www.whisker.com/1000HOURS  Looking for guided adventures that will blow you away with their attention to detail? Head to www.exploreworldwide.com and tell them 1KHO sent you! Muzzle Sleep Tape - Go to MuzzleSleep.com and use code 1000HOURS for 10% off.  Zenni Optical- Go to www.zenni.com/podcast  and use code PODCAST15 for 15% off your first order, plus free shipping on all U.S. orders over $65. Active Skin Repair - Don't forget to put this in your first aid kit! Visit ActiveSkinRepair.com and use the code 1000HOURS to save 20% on all Active Skin Repair products. Boll & Branch - Get 15% off your first order plus free shipping at BollAndBranch.com/1000hours  with code 1000hours Ka'Chava - Go to https://kachava.com and use code 1000HOURS for 15% off your first order. Hey Polo - Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to heypolo.com/1000hours or use code 1000HOURS and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If love makes you suspicious, compliments make you uncomfortable, and happiness makes you wait for something bad to happen…this episode might explain your entire life. Because what if your insecurity isn't a personality flaw? What if your brain learned, somewhere along the way, that feeling good about yourself is dangerous? Psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Marisa Franco is back with fascinating new science about why insecurity can survive years of therapy, affirmations, self-help, and “working on yourself” (and what can finally begin to change it). Here's the mind-bending part: Your memories don't just record your past. They predict your future. And when your brain expects rejection, humiliation, or abandonment, even love and success can feel threatening. But those old memories aren't necessarily fixed. Dr. Franco explains how the science of memory reconsolidation may help change the way the past continues to live inside you. You'll learn: Why compliments, love, and success can actually make you feel worse Why you can feel deeply insecure even when you can't explain why How old memories can quietly shape what you expect from yourself and others How memory reconsolidation can begin changing the emotional impact of the past Why affirmations sometimes backfire when you have low self-worth How to recognize when deeper support may be the right next step If you've spent years trying to “love yourself” and wondering why nothing seems to stick, you need to hear this. You may not need another pep talk. You may finally need to understand what your brain has been trying to protect you from. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self P.S. Ready to stop letting old insecurities run the show? Book a free consultation with a Growing Self clinician and get matched with the right person to help you do this deeper work. Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs

Are you low on self-esteem lately? We are so excited to have Dr. Marisa Franco back on the podcast! In today's episode of The Thick Thighs Save Lives Podcast, we get into why success, love, compliments, and connection can actually feel threatening when you struggle with self-worth; why positive affirmations sometimes make you feel worse; and how old experiences can continue influencing your reactions even when you don't consciously remember them.Marisa is a psychologist, international speaker, New York Times bestselling author of Platonic, and author of the new book Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment.Marisa also walks us through her Feel, Heal, Do practice for navigating insecurity in real time and explains why trying not to feel anger, jealousy, rejection, shame, or hurt can actually make those emotions louder.Healing isn't about becoming so “secure” that you never feel insecure again.It's about learning not to abandon yourself when you do.This conversation is science-backed, compassionate, practical, and packed with moments that will completely change the way you understand yourself.Dr. Marisa Franco's Links: Books: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends and Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure AttachmentInstagram: DrMarisaGFrancoLinkedIn: Dr. Marisa G. FrancoWebsite: www.DrMarisaGFranco.com(00:00:54) Welcome back Dr. Marisa Franco and introducing Worth(00:05:17) Why trying to “act secure” can actually make us more insecure(00:09:50) Self-sabotage: Why success and happiness can feel threatening(00:14:17) How to recognize insecurity in the moment and in the past(00:17:50) Why positive affirmations don't always work(00:24:10) How memories shape self-worth and how we can change their impact(00:29:19) Trauma, implicit memories, and feelings you can't explain(00:35:00) Why women invalidate their own emotions to protect other people(00:39:15) The suppression/rumination cycle(00:47:13) What if feeling worthy seems impossible?(00:53:10) A red flag you shouldn't ignore.Want to leave the TTSL Podcast a voicemail? We love your questions and adore hearing from you. https://www.speakpipe.com/TheThickThighsSaveLivesPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The CVG Nation app, for ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠iPhone⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The CVG Nation app, for Android⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Fitness FB Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thick Thighs Save Lives Workout Programs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Constantly Varied Gear's ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Workout Leggings⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. The views expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be used as a substitute for professional medical diagnosis, treatment, or advice. Always consult your physician or qualified healthcare provider before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medications, supplements, or healthcare plan.

So much of the self-help world teaches us that the solution to our problems is to become a better, more healed, more secure version of ourselves. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Marisa G. Franco, author of Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, to challenge that idea and talk about why self-worth starts with acknowledging who you actually are, not trying to erase the parts of yourself you do not like.Dr. Franco and I talk about why insecurities are not proof that something is wrong with you, how striving to be “securely attached” can become another form of self-rejection, and why acknowledging your full internal experience is the first step toward change. Listen in to learn why healing is not about becoming someone else, but about creating a relationship with yourself where you can acknowledge the full truth of who you are and still know you are worthy.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/524Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoachingFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Learn more about Dr. Franco's books and work: https://drmarisagfranco.com/Mentioned in this episode:We're Hiring a Marketing ManagerGo to unfuckyourbrain.com/hiring to learn more.FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: The One Big AskIn one free hour, find the ask most worth making, assess exactly what's blocking you, and learn what it takes to speak up anyway. September 9, 2026 · 12 p.m. to 1 p.m. ETSign up for The One Big Ask Workshop here

Description:For twenty years, one question has followed Jen everywhere she goes: what am I supposed to be doing with my life? It comes in the comments, the voicemails, the line after every event. And for a long time, Jen answered it like a career question, as if somewhere out there was a slot with her name on it and her only job was to find it and climb inside.In this solo episode, she puts down the word calling and picks up a different one: assignment. Not the thing waiting for you in the future, but the work already in your hands, in this season, on this street, with these people. Jen untangles work from worth, names the theology a lot of us absorbed that rewarded us for burning out, and shares the questions she uses to tell the difference between an assignment that is actually hers and one that is simply available. She also talks about the assignments that end, and why finishing one well is its own sacred work.Ordinary, faithful, unglamorous work is not the consolation prize for people who never found their capital C calling. It is the actual thing.This episode kicks off September's theme, Sacred Work, here on the show and over in the AWAKE Collective.Thought-provoking Quotes:"I have stopped asking what my calling is altogether. I started asking what my assignment is." - Jen Hatmaker"Sacred work is not a waiting room for a more important life that hasn't started yet." - Jen Hatmaker"The paycheck is not the assignment. The paycheck funds the life where the assignment happens." - Jen Hatmaker"Burnout is not evidence that you are on assignment. More likely it is evidence that you have taken on someone else's assignment." - Jen Hatmaker"A real assignment will cost you something. But an obligation costs you yourself. That's not the same bill." - Jen Hatmaker"Something does not have to be bad for it to be over." - Jen HatmakerResources Mentioned in This Episode:This month's Sacred Work lineup: Priya Parker, Dr. Marisa Franco, Zibby Owens, plus encore conversations with Barbara Brown Taylor and Mary PipherWorth by Dr. Marisa FrancoThe AWAKE Collective monthly reflection guide. September's writing prompt: The work that is mine right now is...Your challenge this week: name one assignment you are actually on, then do the very next small thing it requiresLeave Jen a voicemail: https://jenhatmaker.com/podcastTake the AWAKE Quiz: JenHatmaker.com/quizConnect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube -

Every person in your life is telling you the truth about themselves right now, just not with their mouth. That is the filter I open this weekend mashup with, and it is why I brought together some of the sharpest minds I know on reading people, building real confidence and telling the difference between someone who loves you and someone who is just good at saying it. Dr. Marisa Franco is breaking down the actual research on why some friendships take root and others fade. Brendon Burchard and I get into the two small promises I started keeping to myself and how the habit of keeping tiny commitments directly relates to whether you can trust a person or not. Then you hear the raw truth from a man who finished Navy SEAL training, Army Ranger School and Air Force tech school in one lifetime, David Goggins, describing the 19 hours that broke him down and rebuilt him at the same time. What he says about the people from his old life who still want to pull him back will stick with you. Here's what you'll walk away with: Filter test: the exact shift in how you watch people that tells you instantly who is real. Friendship science: why the group you show up to again and again matters more than how the first meeting felt. Confidence rebuild: the two tiny promises that pulled me out of my lowest point. The cookie jar: how to reach for proof of your own toughness when your body wants to quit. The lens flip: one question that will change how every person in your life experiences you. I have spent the past few years listening less and watching more, and every relationship in my life is better for it. Watch the people around you this week instead of just listening to them, and you will already understand more about your life than you did yesterday.  

We're so excited to welcome Dr. Marisa Franco back to the podcast for the third time to talk about something so many of us struggle with: feeling worthy. We're diving into why simply telling ourselves to “love ourselves” doesn't always work, how our past experiences continue to shape the way we see ourselves today, and what it can look like to meet ourselves with more understanding instead of trying to force ourselves to feel differently. We also talk about how our own self-worth impacts the way we show up for our kids and how we can help the next generation build a healthier relationship with themselves.Key Topics CoveredWhy insecurity can actually be an adaptive responseHow attachment theory can become another form of perfectionismWhy some people struggle to receive complimentsThe connection between self-worth, memories, and our emotional responsesHow to recognize, regulate, and respond to difficult emotionsCONNECT WITH DR. MARISA FRANCO:Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Check out her website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/ Pre-order Marisa's new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment here: https://amzlink.to/az0RRIqPA4gxbListen to her past episodes on HERself: 59. The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000505703230 314. Attachment Styles in Adult Friendships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000739104904 LINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF SITKA SEAFOOD: Visit https://sitkaseafoodmarket.com/pages/herself for $35 Off + free salmon burgers for a year with a continuous subscription. The code HERSELF25 should auto-apply when using this linkLet's connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

I sit down with psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Marisa Franco to break down the crucial differences between fragile self-esteem and true, lasting self-worth. We explore why traditional self-help advice often backfires, how unresolved "open" memories quietly drive present-day reactivity, and why healing requires loving self-acceptance rather than trying to eradicate your flaws. Dr. Franco also shares practical, science-backed tools - including memory reconsolidation and somatic exercises - to help you build a grounded foundation of internal security.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00:00 - Introduction & Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem00:03:03 - Why Positive Self-Talk Can Backfire00:04:40 - Open Memories: The Database of Self-Esteem00:07:00 - Moving Past Self-Evaluation to Authenticity00:09:23 - Rethinking Attachment Theory and the "Secure" Ideal00:13:40 - Why You Can't Coerce Yourself Into Healing00:18:07 - Memory Reconsolidation and Updating the Past00:28:46 - Implicit Memory, the Amygdala, and Somatic Triggers00:35:36 - Separating Personhood and Self-Worth from Performance00:43:49 - Deep Exploration vs. Superficial Acceptance00:46:46 - Relational Expressions of Low Self-Worth00:53:00 - Working Memory Theory, Tetris, and Somatic Tools***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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In this month's Remember When episode, I take a deep dive into the unforgettable year of 2022. Amidst global headlines I navigated personal challenges, including an intense pregnancy and significant shifts in my podcasting journey. Reflecting on these events, I've learned how embracing fun and resilience has been crucial for my family healing and personal growth. Join me as I explore professional struggles and breakthroughs, such as transitioning to a new ad network and revising podcast formats. This episode reveals how disappointments often pave the way for unexpected successes. Your support has been invaluable, and I look forward to many more years of growth with About Progress. Interviews with Eve Rodsky, Greg McKeown, Catherine Price, Mia Hemstad, Jody Moore, Kendra Adachi, Amelia Nagoski, Dr. Marisa Franco, and solo episode, How everything changed when I accepted my limitations. ⁠Preorder Sticky Habits ⁠book today! Get the Best Summer Ever Workshop at half-off old pricing!  ⁠Leave a rating and review⁠ Get the free DSL Training. Follow About Progress on ⁠YOUTUBE⁠! Get your teen Knix with code “PROGRESS.” Go to Quince for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*Content Warning:  neglect, rejection, friendship betrayal, betrayal, and infidelity.Free + Confidential Resources + Safety Tips: somethingwaswrong.com/resources   SWW Sticker Shop!: https://brokencyclemedia.com/sticker-shop SWW S26 Theme Song & Artwork: The S26 cover art is by the Amazing Sara Stewart instagram.com/okaynotgreat/  Follow Something Was Wrong: Website: somethingwaswrong.com  IG: instagram.com/somethingwaswrongpodcast TikTok: tiktok.com/@somethingwaswrongpodcast  Follow Tiffany Reese: Website: tiffanyreese.me  IG: instagram.com/lookieboo Follow Dr. Marisa G. Franco: Website - https://www.drmarisagfranco.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Platonic, How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make - and Keep - Friends - https://drmarisagfranco.com/platonic-the-book/ Worth, The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment: https://drmarisagfranco.com/worth-the-book/ *Sources:  Almaatouq, Abdullah, et al. "Are You Your Friends' Friend? Poor Perception of Friendship Ties Limits the Ability to Promote Behavioral Change." PLOS ONE, vol. 11, no. 3, 2016, article e0151588, https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0151588 Center for the Study of Traumatic Stress. When Losses of Loved Ones Are Not Acknowledged: Understanding Disenfranchised Grief. Department of Psychiatry, Uniformed Services University, n.d., https://www.cstsonline.org/assets/media/documents/CSTS_FS_When_Losses_of_Loved_Ones_Are_Not_Acknowledged_Understanding_Disenfranchised_Grief.pdf Dodson, William W., et al. "Rejection sensitivity dysphoria in attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: A case series." Neurology 7 (2024): 23-30.  Franco, Marisa G. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. Penguin Random House, 6 Sept. 2022 https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/ Franco, Marisa G. Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment. G.P. Putnam's Sons, 15 Sept. 2026, Penguin Random House,https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/784327/worth-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/ Gobin, Robyn L., and Jennifer J. Freyd. "The impact of betrayal trauma on the tendency to trust." Psychological Trauma: Theory, Research, Practice, and Policy 6.5 (2014): 505. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2013-24397-001 Guy-Evans, Olivia. “Self-Verification Theory.” Simply Psychology, 11 May 2026, https://www.simplypsychology.org/self-verification-theory.html Here & Now Newsroom. “Research Shows We Replace Half Our Friends Every 7 Years. Here's How to Make New Ones.” NPR Illinois, 23 June 2025, https://www.nprillinois.org/2025-06-23/research-shows-we-replace-half-our-friends-every-7-years-heres-how-to-make-new-ones Hillman, James. "Betrayal." Loose Ends: Primary Papers in Archetypal Psychology, Spring Publications, 1975, pp. 63–79. Jarrett, Christian. "The Liking Gap: We Usually Think People Like Us Less Than They Actually Do." Research Digest, British Psychological Society, 13 Sept. 2018, https://www.bps.org.uk/research-digest/liking-gap Kenny, Serafina. "Having Friends Is as Important as Diet and Exercise for Living Longer, a Longevity Expert Says." Business Insider, 22 Sept. 2023, https://www.businessinsider.com/longevity-antiaging-friendship-social-interaction-relationships-2023-9 Nader, Karim. “Reconsolidation and the Dynamic Nature of Memory.” Cold Spring Harbor perspectives in biology vol. 7,10 a021782. 9 Sep. 2015, doi:10.1101/cshperspect.a021782, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26354895/ Nussbaum, Ben. "FRIENDSHIP FLATTENS HILLS: It's time to put connections at the center of wellbeing, says relationship expert Marisa Franco." Spirituality & Health Magazine, vol. 25, no. 5, Sept.-Oct. 2022, pp. 46+. Gale Academic OneFile link.gale.com/apps/doc/A763799199/AONE?u=anon~858b38f4&sid=googleScholar&xid=6b08179d One Another. Directed by Amber Love, produced by Andrea Raby, Joycie Films, 2026. World premiere, SXSW Film & TV Festival, Austin, TX, 12 Mar. 2026. https://schedule.sxsw.com/2026/films/2249924 Romm, Cari. "Half of Your Friends Probably Don't Think of You as a Friend." The Cut, 9 May 2016, https://www.thecut.com/2016/05/half-of-your-friends-probably-dont-think-of-you-as-a-friend.html Thompson, Sophia, Kaitlyn Deaner, and Marisa G. Franco. "How to Help Clients Make Friends." Journal of Health Service Psychology 49.2 (2023): 77-85 https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s42843-023-00085-w Wallace, Anna Kodé. "Why Friendship Betrayal Feels Impossible to Get Over." The Cut, 22 Apr. 2026, https://www.thecut.com/article/friendship-betrayal-explained-psychology-summer-house.html

If your fear of rejection has ever stopped you from reaching out, starting a conversation, or putting yourself out there… this episode is going to challenge everything you think you know.In this episode, I break down the science behind rejection and why you're actually not getting rejected nearly as much as you think. Using research from Stanford, insights from the Gottman Institute, and the work of friendship expert Marisa Franco, you'll see how your brain is exaggerating the risk of rejection—and how that fear is quietly holding you back from the friendships you actually want.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email contact@accidentallyintentional.com (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Many of us tend to prioritize our romantic and familial relationships over friendships — and that could be harming our wellbeing and health. In this special episode from our friends at A Slight Change of Plans, cognitive behavioral scientist and bestselling author Dr. Maya Shankar looks at how friendships expand our sense of self. Maya is joined by psychologist Dr. Marisa Franco, who offers research-based strategies to make new friends and deepen our existing friendships, including helpful concepts like mutuality and the mere-exposure effect. Marisa and Maya also discuss how to stay friends through big life changes, why fighting could make your friendship stronger, and how to break up with a friend with clarity and kindness.On A Slight Change of Plans, Maya explores how we experience change and provides strategies we can use to better navigate moments of upheaval. Find A Slight Change of Plans wherever you get podcasts.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscriptsLearn more about our flagship conference happening this April at attend.ted.com/podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Many of us struggle to maintain our friendships as careers, romance, and children take over. And making new friends as an adult can be downright impossible. But it doesn't have to be that way. There are concrete actions you can take to cultivate friendship at whatever stage of life you're in. Marisa Franco explains how.

As an adult, making new friends—and maintaining old friendships—can be tough. Life is busy and friends end up taking a backseat to other relationships and responsibilities. Marisa Franco, PhD, psychologist and friendship expert, talks about how to make new friends and strengthen and rekindle old friendship ties, why Americans' friendship networks are shrinking, the differences between men's and women's friendships, and more. Please take our listener survey at http://at.apa.org/SoPSurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fear of rejection may be holding you back from real connection. In today's episode, Dr. Marisa Franco reveals the surprising psychology behind friendship, including how self-protection can sabotage relationships. Learn how assuming people like you—and showing that you like them—can transform your social life.Source: 4 Minutes to Better FriendshipsHosted by Sean CroxtonFollow me on Instagram Check out the NEW Black Excellence Daily podcast. Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Pandora, and Amazon.

In stressful times, what if the key to mental and emotional well-being was not a mystery, but a set of daily, accessible practices that you could start today? In this special compilation episode we've curated guidance from some of the world's leading voices in the science of wellbeing—including Dacher Keltner, Kristin Neff, Robert Waldinger, Marc Schulz, Judith Moskowitz, Marisa Franco, Amishi Jha, and Oliver Burkeman—to explore how awe, self-compassion, relationships and mindfulness shape our lives and minds. You'll learn how experiences of awe can dramatically improve immune health and reduce anxiety; why self-compassion trumps self-esteem for lasting mental strength; how healthy relationships are not only the greatest predictor of happiness but even protect against physical illness; and how intentional mindfulness combats stress and boosts attention. Through science and lived experience, this episode offers a toolkit for building a more connected, reflective, and flourishing life of greater mental well-being. Show Notes Similar Episodes: Kristin Neff Curt Thompson Meghan Sullivan Heather Holleman Kelly Corrigan Transcript Want more NSE? Join NSE+ Today! Our subscriber only community with bonus episodes designed specifically to help you live a good life, ad-free listening, and early access to tickets to our live shows. Great Feeling Studios, the team behind No Small Endeavor and other award-winning podcasts, helps nonprofits and brands tell stories that inspire action. If your organization has a message that deserves to be heard, start your podcast at helpmemakeapodcast.com. Subscribe to episodes: Apple | Spotify | Amazon | Google | YouTubeFollow Us: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTubeFollow Lee: Instagram | TwitterJoin our Email List: nosmallendeavor.com See Privacy Policy: Privacy Policy Amazon Affiliate Disclosure: Tokens Media, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program desi… Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

Scott breaks down the Bengals and Hamilton County requesting state funding for Paycor Stadium with Ohio Senator Bill Blessing. Also Brian Moody explains what the Trump tariff pause means for vehicle prices, the team from Wawa stops by to preview their grand opening tomorrow, and Marisa Franco explains how to make new friends as an adult.

Scott breaks down the Bengals and Hamilton County requesting state funding for Paycor Stadium with Ohio Senator Bill Blessing. Also Brian Moody explains what the Trump tariff pause means for vehicle prices, the team from Wawa stops by to preview their grand opening tomorrow, and Marisa Franco explains how to make new friends as an adult.

This is our unabridged interview with Marisa Franco. How important is it to have friends? Loneliness has reached epidemic levels in many countries, with research suggesting that it's harder than ever for us to make and keep friends. And according to Marisa Franco, the issue isn't trivial. “ Loneliness is as toxic for our bodies as smoking 15 cigarettes a day,” she says. “We are fundamentally social creatures… it's okay that you really want friends.” In this episode, she explains why friendship is a crucial aspect of a flourishing life, and gives helpful advice for those looking to make and keep friends. Show Notes Resources: “Platonic” by Marisa Franco The US Surgeon General's Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community Similar NSE episodes: Alexandra Solomon: How to Have Flourishing Relationships Kristin Neff: The Power of Self-Compassion Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz: The Good Life - Lessons from the World's Longest Study on Happiness Kelly Corrigan: How Vulnerability Leads to Connection PDF of Lee's Interview Notes Transcript Want more NSE? JOIN NSE+ Today! Our subscriber only community with bonus episodes designed specifically to help you live a good life, ad-free listening, and discounts on live shows Great Feeling Studios, the team behind No Small Endeavor and other award-winning podcasts, helps nonprofits and brands tell stories that inspire action. If your organization has a message that deserves to be heard, start your podcast at helpmemakeapodcast.com. Subscribe to episodes: Apple | Spotify | Amazon | Google | YouTubeFollow Us: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTubeFollow Lee: Instagram | TwitterJoin our Email List: nosmallendeavor.com See Privacy Policy: Privacy Policy Amazon Affiliate Disclosure: Tokens Media, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to pro… Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

How important is it to have friends? Loneliness has reached epidemic levels in many countries, with research suggesting that it's harder than ever for us to make and keep friends. And according to Marisa Franco, the issue isn't trivial. “ Loneliness is as toxic for our bodies as smoking 15 cigarettes a day,” she says. “We are fundamentally social creatures… it's okay that you really want friends.” In this episode, she explains why friendship is a crucial aspect of a flourishing life, and gives helpful advice for those looking to make and keep friends. Show Notes Resources: “Platonic” by Marisa Franco The US Surgeon General's Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community Similar NSE episodes: Alexandra Solomon: How to Have Flourishing Relationships Kristin Neff: The Power of Self-Compassion Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz: The Good Life - Lessons from the World's Longest Study on Happiness Kelly Corrigan: How Vulnerability Leads to Connection PDF of Lee's Interview Notes Transcription Link Want more NSE? JOIN NSE+ Today! Our subscriber only community with bonus episodes designed specifically to help you live a good life, ad-free listening, and discounts on live shows Great Feeling Studios, the team behind No Small Endeavor and other award-winning podcasts, helps nonprofits and brands tell stories that inspire action. If your organization has a message that deserves to be heard, start your podcast at helpmemakeapodcast.com. Subscribe to episodes: Apple | Spotify | Amazon | Google | YouTubeFollow Us: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTubeFollow Lee: Instagram | TwitterJoin our Email List: nosmallendeavor.com See Privacy Policy: Privacy Policy Amazon Affiliate Disclosure: Tokens Media, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising a… Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

It's the finale of friendship month, and Doree and Elise speak with return friendship expert Dr. Marisa Franco (author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends).They discuss how as you get older you raise the bar for friendship and focus on quality over quantity, giving your friends the chance to say “no” to you, navigating turmoil in your friendships by starting with curiosity, and why your friendships will really blossom when you stop predicting and start experiencing.To leave a voicemail or text for a future episode, reach Doree & Elise at 781-591-0390. You can also email the podcast at forever35podcast@gmail.com.Visit forever35podcast.com for links to everything they mention on the show or visit shopmyshelf.us/forever35.Follow the podcast on Instagram (@Forever35Podcast) and sign up for the newsletter at forever35podcast.com/newsletter. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all have twenty four hours in a day. And when your plate is full with things like a romantic relationship, kids, a career, keeping up your home and taking care of pets, friends, and other obligations, every piece on that plate gets a designated amount of your time. Some seasons of life, the time you have for friends is plentiful - thinking back to our youth with school friends, college friends, and friends at your first job. Friendships came easily then because you had the time to pour into them. Now as adults, it can be hard to find the time to create new and meaningful friendships or keep existing friendships going. Today on the podcast, we are sitting down to have a conversation about our experiences with friendships through our seasons of life. We share the concept about friendship “tiers” and how that relates to our new and existing relationships, our most important values in friendship, and what we feel about friendships with the opposite sex. Our goal is that after listening to today's episode, you feel hopeful that whether your friendship cup is big or small for your current season of life, that your cup can be full!Links & Resources:Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF'20% off your first purchase of Vuori ClothingCheck out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF'Episode “59: HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on the Challenges and Triumphs of Adult Friendships”KU Med professor, J. A. Hall's article, “How many hours does it take to make a friend?”Let's connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

I can't imagine anyone who wants to receive MORE emails. Most of us would prefer to get far fewer. That's why this episode begins with some quick and effective ideas to reduce the number of emails flowing into your inbox every day. Source: Kaitlin Sherwood author of Overcome Email Overload (https://amzn.to/3RBsKNW) Having friends is important for a lot of reasons. Still, people today report having fewer friends than in the past while some people say they don't have anyone they could call a real friend. Well, here with some help is Dr. Marisa Franco. She is a recognized expert on finding, making and keeping friends. Her work has appeared in Psychology Today, The New York Times and Scientific American. She is author of the book Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Make and Keep Friends (https://amzn.to/3RuMm60) Marisa's website is : https://drmarisagfranco.com/ Even people who speak English have a lot of questions about it. For instance: Is it further or farther? Do you lay down or lie down? When do you use effect or affect? Here with some help and to explore other interesting quirks of our language is Ellen Jovin. She has studied twenty-five languages, and she is the author of the book, Rebel With A Clause: Tales and Tips from a Roving Grammarian (https://amzn.to/3cKpzo9) Ellen's website is: https://www.ellenjovin.com/ Here is an interesting little fact - overweight people tend to chew their food differently than people who are slim. Listen as I reveal how chewing food differently could help you lose weight. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/chewing-more-helps-people-eat-less-study-says/ PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! INDEED:  Get a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to get your jobs more visibility at https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING  Support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on this podcast.  Terms and conditions apply. SHOPIFY:  Sign up for a $1 per-month trial period at https://Shopify.com/sysk . Go to SHOPIFY.com/sysk to grow your business – no matter what stage you're in! MINT MOBILE: Cut your wireless bill to $15 a month at https://MintMobile.com/something! $45 upfront payment required (equivalent to $15/mo.).  New customers on first 3 month plan only. Additional taxes, fees, & restrictions apply. HERS: Hers is changing women's healthcare by providing access to GLP-1 weekly injections with the same active ingredient as Ozempic and Wegovy, as well as oral medication kits. Start your free online visit today at https://forhers.com/sysk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are your friendships more important than your relationship with your significant other?! In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Marisa Franco, a psychologist and expert on friendships. Dr. Franco shares helpful and eye-opening advice on building stronger connections in our lives. We dive into practical tips for making friends as adults, nurturing the friendships we already have, and creating a real sense of community. Whether you're looking to meet new people or deepen your current friendships, Dr. Franco offers guidance to make it feel easier and more meaningful.   Learn more about Dr. Marisa Franco here: https://drmarisagfranco.com/ Order her book Platonic here: https://drmarisagfranco.com/platonic-the-book/     You can find more Clutterbug content here: Website: http://www.clutterbug.me YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@clutterbug TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@clutterbug_me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Clutterbug.Me/   #clutterbug #podcast #friendships

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining our Patreon to listen to the rest of the episode(or watch the episode!), get additional bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) _ Have you thought at some point in your adult life, I wish I had more friends?  Maybe you moved to a new city, saw your social life dwindle after having kids, or spent all your time and energy on your romantic relationships. No matter how you got there, trying to make friends as an adult is a really hard task! To try and help us all be better friends, we called in an expert:  Marisa Franco is a professor and studies and writes about friendship and human connection. She is the author of Platonic: How the science of attachment can help you make- and keep- friends. Marisa and Nora discuss how important friendships are to our mental health and how we can all strengthen our friendships.   Please send us your questions and comments about this episode or any other! You can email us at ttfapremium@feelingsand.co or leave us a voicemail at 612-568-4441.  — Check us out on YouTube. Find all our shows and more at feelingsand.co

Ever feel like your friendship is taking more out of you than it gives? If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that feels draining, toxic, or just plain bad, you're in the right place. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I'm sitting down with Dr. Marisa Franco, a brilliant psychologist and bestselling author of Platonic, to talk about one of the toughest aspects of relationships—knowing when a friendship is no longer serving you. Together, we'll dive into the signs of toxic friends, how attachment styles play a role in our friendships, and whether or not these kinds of relationships can be saved. You'll learn practical strategies to spot the red flags, approach difficult conversations with kindness and clarity, and—if it comes to it—find the courage to end friendships that have run their course. Here's what we cover: [00:00] The Friendship Trap: Why difficult friendships are harder to leave than romantic ones. [03:57] Attachment Styles in Friendships: How your past impacts your present friendships. [11:40] Making Positive Changes: How to recognize toxic patterns and start healing. [17:34] Conflict or Goodbye? How to assess if this friendship can be saved. [28:21] Deciding to End a Friendship: When enough is enough, and how to let go with grace. If you've ever wondered whether a friendship is worth fighting for or it's time to walk away, this episode is for you. Ready to dig deeper? Take my free self-esteem quiz to see how your self-worth might be impacting your relationships: How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? Also, I'd love for you to join me for this week's YouTube Livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT, where we'll talk even more about navigating toxic friendships. Submit an anonymous question in advance right here: Dear Lisa. I'll see you there! — Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

How does the patriarchy shape women's thoughts and actions, often without them realizing it? In this episode, Gabe Howard sits down with feminist thought leader Kara Loewentheil to discuss how patriarchal conditioning impacts women, both at work and at home. Kara explains the concept of the “brain gap” — the internal conflict between societal expectations and personal beliefs — and how women can work toward overcoming it. Through practical tools like her “10% Less (Crappy) Thought” technique, she helps listeners begin the journey of unlearning toxic thought patterns. This conversation digs into the subtle, often unnoticed ways sexism shapes women's everyday lives and offers actionable advice on how to reclaim their mental freedom and build stronger mental health. Listen now! “​​We're all making a deal with the devil to some extent, like I think beauty norms are patriarchal and oppressive. And also I'm about to go on a book tour, so I'm going to get a lash lift, like, because I'm going to have a lot of photos taken and I don't actually like to do makeup. And yet I want my eyes to stand out in photos. I think people assume that if you're a feminist, you are like a kind of purist ideologue. And that is not the case for me or most of the women I work with.” ~Kara Loewentheil To learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the official episode page. Our guest, Kara Loewentheil, J.D., is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought, and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone (50 million downloads and counting!).  Her first book, Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher's Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap.  A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a seven-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out.  Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the new Mental Health Minis series! Every other Monday, we will feature a 5-minute mini-episode with content from a past She Persisted episode. This week's guest is Dr. Marisa Franco— a psychologist, author, professor, and friendship expert. In this mini-episode, you'll learn how to conquer your social anxiety and make new friends! To listen to the full episode, click HERE!SHOP GUEST RECOMMENDATIONS: https://amzn.to/3A69GOCLET'S CONNECT+ Instagram (@shepersistedpodcast)+ Website (shepersistedpodcast.com)+ YouTube (Sadie Sutton: She Persisted Podcast)+ Twitter (@persistpodcast)+ Facebook (@shepersistedpodcast)+ TikTok (@shepersistedpodcast)+ inquiries@shepersistedpodcast.com© 2020 She Persisted LLC. This podcast is copyrighted subject matter owned by She Persisted LLC and She Persisted LLC reserves all rights in and to the podcast. Any use without She Persisted LLC's express prior written consent is prohibited.

Talking points: isolation, culture, relationships, friendship, anger, connection Every now and I then, my team and I like to compile some of the greatest insights from our guests and center them around a theme. This week, we're going hard on connection. The importance and nuance of it, the consequences of being without it, and the ways connection manifests. These days, connection isn't easy, but it's more important than ever. Listen in some highly distilled wisdom. (00:00:00) - Doug McKinley on isolation, passing down wisdom, self-leadership, working weaknesses, and adding value to you and your world (00:21:51) - Nedra Tawwab on developing satisfying friendships and how to navigate tough conversations  (00:35:26) - Marisa Franco on how men and women build friendship differently, “friendship minus mission”, how camaraderie has changed over the years, and the impacts of NOT having friends (00:50:56) - Angus Fletcher on changing your internal story and your relationship to yourself, cultivating inner antifragility, and relating differently to your own anger *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loneliness can be just as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day — which means that having friends might literally save your life. But often, we don't pay friendships the respect they deserve compared to romantic or familial relationships. In this episode, reporter Kavitha George talks with psychologist and friendship expert Marisa Franco about how to make more friends and deepen our preexisting friendships. This episode was originally published Sept. 13, 2022.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

In this episode, Marisa Franco shares how to overcome loneliness through platonic friendships. Through her work and personal experience, she discovered the importance and power of platonic love, challenging societal assumptions about the hierarchy of relationships. Delving into the historical roots of platonic love, she explores the transformative impact of friendship in navigating loneliness and the need to reevaluate cultural norms surrounding love and companionship. In this episode, you will be able to: Discover the key to overcoming loneliness through the power of friendship Uncover the lesser-known benefits of platonic relationships in your life Learn effective strategies for making meaningful adult friendships Explore how your attachment style impacts your ability to form and maintain friendships Find ways to handle friendship rejection and embrace acceptance for a more fulfilling social life To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

According to a survey of 2000 adults, the average American hasn't made a new friend in the last five years, and yet, 45% of people would go out of their way to make a new friend if they only knew how. Marisa Franco is here to help you not be a part of these statistics. Armed with the best of psychology and the science of attachment, she provides us with an easily digestible solution to making (and keeping) new friends. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns. You will learn... what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms why “positive thinking” usually doesn't work long-term (and what helps instead) how our sexist socializations project onto the women around us Toward the end, Kara coaches Mary on some of the conflicting thoughts she's having about her career. Remember: the only way to stop caring about what other people think about you is to start caring more about what YOU think about you. Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought, and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone (50 million downloads and counting!). Her first book, Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher's Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap. A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a multiple-7-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out. Follow Kara on Instagram: @karaloewentheil Get Kara's book, Take Back Your Brain here: https://amzn.to/3Wo3W1g And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @karaloewentheil Mentioned in this episode… Ep. 36: Feminism, Body-Image, and Unfcking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mi1O4iimYDJ2oT6PlY0nG?si=6a093c1379304c30

Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought, and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone (50 million downloads and counting!).  Her first book, Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher's Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap.    This Week on the Get Paid Podcast: Kara's career journey from Ivy League lawyer to life coach The development of Kara's body of work and coaching niche focusing on high-achieving women The influence of socialization and how society teaches people to think about themselves Kara's book "Take Back Your Brain" and the arguments it makes Challenges women face with money mindsets and seeing themselves as authorities Kara's business growth journey and trying different business models The work required to launch and promote a book Mentioned in this podcast: Kara's book, now available:  https://takebackyourbrainbook.com Kara's podcast: UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone The School of New Feminist Thought: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com Kara's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karaloewentheil   Now it's time to GET PAID Thanks for tuning into the Get Paid Podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe, rate, and leave your honest review. Connect with me on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram, visit my website for even more detailed strategies, and be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media. Now, it's time to go get yourself paid!

We're bringing you an episode of A Slight Change of Plans from our friends at Pushkin. Named by Apple as the Best Show of the Year 2021, host Dr. Maya Shankar blends compassionate storytelling with the science of human behavior to help us understand who we are, and who we become, in the face of a big change. In this episode, psychologist Dr. Marisa Franco argues that it's a mistake to prioritize romantic and familial relationships over friendships. Strong, supportive friendships expand our sense of self, she says, and are associated with greater well-being and health. Marisa offers research-based strategies to make new friends and deepen our existing friendships, including helpful concepts like mutuality and the mere-exposure effect. Marisa and Maya also discuss how to stay friends through big life changes, why fighting could make your friendship stronger, and how to break up with a friend with clarity and kindness. Follow A Slight Change of Plans to never miss an episode: https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/a-slight-change-of-plans Keep up with Samantha Bee @realsambee on Instagram and X. And stay up to date with us @LemonadaMedia on X, Facebook, and Instagram. For a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this and every other Lemonada show, go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors. Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In our disconnected world, are you longing for deeper bonds and a true sense of belonging? Discover how to cultivate extraordinary friendships, nurture healing communities, and transform the way you show up in relationships. This powerful episode brings together three trailblazers - Mia Birdsong on reimagining family beyond the nuclear model, Dr. Marisa Franco sharing the science of making profound platonic connections, and Dr. Joy Harden Bradford illuminating the restorative magic of women's circles and sisterhoods. Through candid stories and research-backed insights, you'll gain practical tools for initiating authentic friendships, resolving conflict with empathy, and creating safe spaces to be truly seen and supported. Whether you crave more intimacy, community, or platonic love, this conversation will inspire you to invest in the meaningful relationships that allow you to thrive.Episode TranscriptYou can find Mia at: Website | Instagram | Listen to Our Full-Length Convo with MiaYou can find Marisa at: Website | Instagram | Listen to Our Full-Length Convo with MarisaYou can find Joy at: Website | Instagram | Therapy for Black Girls podcast | Listen to Our Full-Length Convo with JoyCheck out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Calling all the girlies who want to level up this year– you have been officially summoned. It's time to enter into your successful era!The successful era is all about recommitting to the habits, routines, and lifestyles that make you feel happy, healthy, thriving, and most importantly, like the best version of you!From wellness to finances, I'm helping you map out your year of success and make growth your new best friend.I also talk about…How to create your own definition of successKey ways to maintain successThe relationship between success and consumerismPersonal branding and living up to your fullest potentialNot focusing on goals, but on the attributes you haveResourcesListen to my episode with Jodie Taylor called “The Ultimate Glow Up: How to Level Up in Your Career and Life”Listen to my episode with Dr. Marisa Franco called "Intimacy in Friendships: Having Healthier Friendships and Making Friends As An Adult”Read “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends” by Dr. Marisa FrancoRead “Reach Out**:** The Simple Strategy You Need to Expand Your Network and Increase Your Influence” by Molly BeckDownload the Copilot app to track your financesWatch The Wealth Planner with Katie hereHave a question you want answered on an upcoming episode? You can share them anonymously with me here.What are you focusing on in your successful era? Leave a comment under my latest Instagram post!Keep in touch with Balanced Black Girl:Follow on IG: @balancedles @balancedblackgirlpodcastFollow on TikTok @balancedlesVisit our website at balancedblackgirl.comSubscribe to our newsletter, Mirror NotesSponsorsOpen | Get 30 days of free meditation, breathwork, and movement classes with Open. Visit www.withopen.com/balancedlesElastique Athletics offers self-care you can wear. Visit elastique.co and use code “BALANCEDLES” for 20% off your first order.Thrive Market offers affordable healthy grocery items and supplements at the best prices. Visit thrivemarket.com/balancedles for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do friendships change as we get older? Should you join a bowling league? And also: how does a cook become a chef? RESOURCES:“Social Support From Weak Ties: Insight From the Literature on Minimal Social Interactions,” by Joshua Moreton, Caitlin S. Kelly, and Gillian Sandstrom (Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 2023).Join or Die, documentary (2023).“I Tried Bumble BFF for 30 Days — Here's What Happened,” by Beth Gillette (The Everygirl, 2022).Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends, by Marisa Franco (2022).“Grocery Store Opens ‘Chat Registers' for Lonely Customers,” by Gabriel Geiger (Vice, 2021).“The State of American Friendship: Change, Challenges, and Loss,” by Daniel A. Cox (Survey Center on American Life, 2021).“Number of Close Friends Had by Adults in the United States in 1990 and 2021,” by Michele Majidi (Survey Center on American Life, 2021).“You're Not Uncool. Making Friends as an Adult Is Just Hard,” by Peter O'Dowd and Kalyani Saxena (WBUR, 2021)."My Restaurant Was My Life for 20 Years. Does the World Need It Anymore?" by Gabrielle Hamilton (The New York Times Magazine, 2020).“Why You Miss Those Casual Friends So Much,” by Gillian Sandstrom and Ashley Whillans (Harvard Business Review, 2020).“The Bros Who Met Their BFFs on Bumble,” by Rebecca Nelson (GQ, 2016).“Sex Differences in Social Focus Across the Life Cycle in Humans,” by Kunal Bhattacharya, Asim Ghosh, Daniel Monsivais, Robin I. M. Dunbar, and Kimmo Kaski (Royal Society Open Science, 2016).Blood, Bones & Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef, by Gabrielle Hamilton (2011).“Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review,” by Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Timothy B. Smith, and J. Bradley Layton (PLoS Medicine, 2010).Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community, by Robert Putnam (2000).The Great Good Place: Cafes, Coffee Shops, Bookstores, Bars, Hair Salons, and Other Hangouts at the Heart of a Community, by Ray Oldenburg (1999).Character Lab.EXTRAS:“How Much Are the Right Friends Worth?” by People I (Mostly) Admire (2022).“Is It Weird for Adults to Have Imaginary Friends?” by No Stupid Questions (2022).“How Much Do Your Friends Affect Your Future?” by No Stupid Questions (2020).“Is There Really a ‘Loneliness Epidemic'?” by Freakonomics Radio (2020).Tell Me Something I Don't Know (2017).

Hey friends, we are back with another episode in our For the Love of Community & Friendships, and we happen to have a true friend of the show returning to lay down some expertise about what it means to make and keep friends. We're delighted to have Dr. Marisa Franco, (who also partnered with Jen to create a MeCourse on Friendship) who delves into the fascinating world of friendship attachment styles. Dr. Franco shares her extensive knowledge and insights on how our attachment styles, often formed during our early years, can significantly influence the type of friendships we form as adults. She discusses the three main types of attachment styles—secure, avoidant, and anxious—and explains how understanding our own style can help us navigate our friendships more effectively. Jen and Marisa touch on: How the three main types of attachment styles can change over time as we typically become more secure as we mature How, when we're younger, we tend to have more friends (and friends who are very similar to us) as we look to expand our identity, and when we become more solid in our identity, we're more open to be friends with people who are different from us Why friendship doesn't just typically “happen,”--it takes effort, and some ways you can put yourself out there to make new friends, and how to do the work to keep the friends you already have How to approach conflict in friendship where we kindly share our needs with a spirit of reconciliation over an attitude of defensiveness  * * * Thank you to our sponsors! Chime | Visit chime.com/forthelove to learn how you can benefit from using Chime! FOCL | Visit https://focl.com/ and use code FORTHELOVE at checkout for 20% off of your purchase Jen Hatmaker BookClub | Visit jenhatmakerbookclub.com and use code READ at checkout $5 off your purchase!   Thought-Provoking Quotes: “If you don't understand your attachment style, you think that the world is just mean and cruel and people are gonna reject you or people are going to betray you. If you're more avoidant and you don't have any power, you don't have any agency because all the issues are out in the world.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “I think if we can understand our attachment styles, we have more agency, we have more control, we can shift our behaviors and we can find the relationships that we really want.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “People are a lot more likely to be friends with people that are similar to them. It's called homophily. The value of these similar relationships is they do make us feel very safe.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “We see in the research that people who see friendship as happening without effort are more likely to be lonely five years later. People that see it as requiring effort are less likely to be lonely five years later.” - Dr. Marisa Franco “What we see in the research is that when people try to reconnect with someone, that person is happier to receive that reconnection than we predict.” - Dr. Marisa Franco  “In a healthy conflict, I think of; what does this conflict look like without blame? What if I go into here not trying to blame this person, not trying to even assume that they were trying to intentionally hurt me. So then, how do I navigate it with that being what's going on in my head?” - Dr. Marisa Franco Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Platonic How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends a book by Dr. Marisa Franco Guest's Links: Dr. Franco's Website  Dr. Franco's Instagram  Dr. Franco's Facebook Dr. Franco's Twitter Dr. Franco's Psychology Today Connect with Jen! Jen's website Jen's InstagramJen's Twitter Jen's FacebookJen's YouTube

In this episode, you are going to learn why you struggle in certain relationships and how to let more love in. Whether you struggle in your friendships or your romantic relationships, or you don't feel connected to your family or the community where you live, today's conversation will give you the insight and tools that you need to create better and more loving relationships everywhere. Dr. Marisa Franco is a NYT bestselling author, award-winning therapist, and professor of psychology at The University of Maryland. She dedicated her professional practice to the study of connections and systemic loneliness. What will really catch your attention is her research on attachment styles and what they look like in real time, which has been an incredible game changer for me and my personal relationships, particularly with my husband. Attachment style theory goes way beyond "love languages," and once you know yours, you'll be less triggered by others around you. Understand the attachment styles of others, and you'll take things less personally. In today's episode, you're getting a complete guide to: What attachment styles are and how they look in real life.The questions to ask yourself to figure out what your style is.How to tell if you're hanging out with the right people.The one thing avoidant attachment people have a really hard time doing.How your attachment style determines who you're attracted to.Why you might be confusing being triggered with being in love.Key strategies to start developing a secure attachment style yourself. After listening to this episode, you'll see the people in your life through an entirely new lens and with an abundance of compassion. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn:4:00: Let's begin with the first style. What is a secure attachment style?5:10: What does anxious attachment look like?6:00: Avoidant attachment-type people have a hard time trusting.6:30: Those who experienced high-trauma situations are more likely to have this style.8:00: What do these attachment styles look like in real life?11:45: Is it easier to identify attachment styles in yourself or others?17:20: How do you have a relationship with someone who has an avoidant style?20:30: Can you have more than one attachment style?22:00: How can you develop a more secure attachment?26:00: Avoidantly attached people actually do have an underlying need for connection.31:30: These physical symptoms can be a result of your attachment style.35:45: These activities will help you start connecting with your body again.38:20: Here's how you can create a ‘safe' space for someone with avoidant attachment.47:50: Why do we always seem to date the same kind of people?49:40: Do you confuse being triggered with being in love?54:45: So how do you find securely attached people to hang out with?57:45: Do this one hack every day to start developing a secure attachment yourself.59:00: This is why understanding attachment styles has been a game changer. Disclaimer