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Attacks on civil rights, economic anxiety, war abroad — the same things that worry Chicagoans today were also on people's minds in the 1960s. That's what emerges from Studs Terkel's seminal oral history “Division Street: America.” The podcast “Division Street: Revisited” takes us back through those interviews and checks in with the subjects and their families 60 years later. Two of the show's team members, Mary Schmich and Bill Healy, talk with host Jacoby Cochran about who Studs Terkel was and why these interviews still resonate. Want some more City Cast Chicago news? Then make sure to sign up for our Hey Chicago newsletter. Follow us @citycastchicago You can also text us or leave a voicemail at: 773 780-0246 Learn more about the sponsors of this February 20th episode: TimeLine Theatre Company Griffin Museum of Science and Industry Babbel — Get up to 60% off at Babbel.com/CITYCAST Steppenwolf Theatre Become a member of City Cast Chicago. Interested in advertising with City Cast? Find more info HERE
Former Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich joins Bob Sirott to talk about her career writing for the Chicago Tribune and the book by Studs Terkel that influenced the “Division Street Revisited” podcast. She talks about working with executive producer, Melissa Harris, and how they got the idea to create the podcast.
Studs Terkel's 1967 book Division Street: America was an oral history chronicling Chicago life at the time, with a cross-section of residents sharing their thoughts, feelings, dreams and fears. A new seven-part podcast series now revisits Terkel's Division Street, to answer the question: “What happened to those people and their hopes and dreams?” Through interviews with the descendants of some of the 71 Chicagoans Terkel highlighted, Division Street, Revisited picks up the baton of Terkel's audio storytelling legacy. Reset sits down with the creators of the podcast Mary Schmich and Melissa Harris to find out more. For a full archive of Reset interviews, head over to wbez.org/reset.
Mary Theresa Schmich (1953) colunista de jornal americano, escreveu esse texto como se fosse um discurso para formandos de um curso universitário, com as principais preocupações, cuidados e afetos que devemos ter em nossas vidas, não só na fase adulta, mas na juventude também. Escute o episódio da semana. Obrigado.
Quale consiglio daresti alla versione più giovane di te? "Advice, Like Youth, Probably Just Wasted on the Young," "I consigli, come la giovinezza, probabilmente sono solo sprecati per i giovani", comunemente noto con il titolo "Wear Sunscreen" (Indossa la protezione solare) è un saggio scritto come un ipotetico discorso di laurea dall'editorialista Mary Schmich, pubblicato originariamente il primo giugno 1997 sul Chicago Tribune. - Questo episodio è sponsorizzato da Serenis: con il codice UNPASSOALGIORNO7 puoi iniziare un percorso su Serenis per prenderti cura del tuo benessere mentale a un prezzo convenzionato. Scopri di più su https://www.serenis.it/influencer/un-passo-al-giorno?utm_source=influencer&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_cam paign=un passo al giorno&utm_content=podcast&utm_term=host read - Sono Stefania Brucini, Productivity Coach e founder di Simple Tiny Shifts®, il metodo dei piccoli e semplici cambiamenti per smettere di procrastinare.
Eric Zorn, Publisher of The Picayune Sentinel, joins John Williams to talk about the migrant challenge the city is facing as winter draws closer and some ideas to make football games shorter. And, it's still not too late to get tickets for the upcoming “Songs of Good Cheer” caroling party with Eric, Mary Schmich, and a […]
Eric Zorn, Publisher of The Picayune Sentinel, joins John Williams to talk about the migrant challenge the city is facing as winter draws closer and some ideas to make football games shorter. And, it's still not too late to get tickets for the upcoming “Songs of Good Cheer” caroling party with Eric, Mary Schmich, and a […]
Eric Zorn, Publisher of The Picayune Sentinel, joins John Williams to talk about the migrant challenge the city is facing as winter draws closer and some ideas to make football games shorter. And, it's still not too late to get tickets for the upcoming “Songs of Good Cheer” caroling party with Eric, Mary Schmich, and a […]
Eric Zorn, Publisher of The Picayune Sentinel, joins John Williams to talk about Robert Crimo III, the suspect in the Highland Park 4th of July massacre, not testifying at his father’s upcoming trial, and the difficulty he is having talking about the Israel-Hamas war. The great Mary Schmich also joins John and Eric to talk about […]
Eric Zorn, Publisher of The Picayune Sentinel, joins John Williams to talk about Robert Crimo III, the suspect in the Highland Park 4th of July massacre, not testifying at his father’s upcoming trial, and the difficulty he is having talking about the Israel-Hamas war. The great Mary Schmich also joins John and Eric to talk about […]
Eric Zorn, Publisher of The Picayune Sentinel, joins John Williams to talk about Robert Crimo III, the suspect in the Highland Park 4th of July massacre, not testifying at his father’s upcoming trial, and the difficulty he is having talking about the Israel-Hamas war. The great Mary Schmich also joins John and Eric to talk about […]
(NOTAS COMPLETAS Y ENLACES DEL CAPÍTULO AQUÍ: https://www.jaimerodriguezdesantiago.com/kaizen/176-la-importancia-de-lo-suficiente-ratones-sumas-y-protector-solar/)Te he hablado alguna vez de Kurt Vonnegut en el podcast. Fue el autor de la maravillosa novela Slaughterhouse 5 (Matadero cinco) y un tipo genial que dejó innumerables anécdotas a lo largo de su vida. De entre todas ellas, una de mis favoritas no la protagonizó Vonnegut, sino su amigo Joseph Heller, otro escritor, autor de la que creo que es otra maravillosa novela, Catch 22 (Trampa 22), pero que todavía no he leído.En cierta ocasión, les invitaron a ambos a una fiesta en la casa de un multimillonario. Vonnegut empezó a provocar a Heller y le dijo:- El multimillonario dueño de esta casa ganó más dinero la semana pasada de lo que ganarás tú con tu libro en toda tu vidaHeller no se cortó y respondió:- Pero yo tengo algo que él nunca podrá tener- ¿Ah, si? ¿Y qué es eso?- Suficiente.Una de mis ideas más recurrentes, que ya he mencionado varias veces en este podcast, es precisamente esa: la importancia de la suficiente. De hecho, la tratamos desde el punto de vista del éxito en el capítulo 145 y ha salido en alguno más. Pero hasta ahora no ha tenido capítulo propio y eso, aunque suene paradójico, no me parece suficiente. Así que hoy vamos a tratarlo en más profundidad.Aunque, sinceramente, no sé qué va a salir, porque más que un tema concreto, tengo un montón de ideas sueltas que he ido encontrando con los años y que vamos a ver si soy capaz de hilvanar.¡Vamos a por ello!
The podcast returns December 10 but today, the first season ends with a list of lessons I've learned since my spouse came out almost two years ago. Thank you for listening, reaching out, and taking time out of your day to share this journey with me. I hope you find these helpful: Be kind to yourself Take your time making decisions Find empathy Allow yourself to grieve Find a great therapist for yourself and with your loved one Test out support groups, sometimes the best fit isn't the first one Call out or be honest with family and friends making negative, transphobic comments Set boundaries Be true to yourself Find your new happy Mentioned in this episode: Mary Schmich, Chicago Tribune: Advice, Like Youth, Probably Just Wasted on the Young Interview with the voice actor behind the Sunscreen Song: Lee Perry YouTube: The Sunscreen Song Other stories with spouses or family members of a transgender person: The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman YouTube Channel: The Rage Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally (PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People National Center for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee
In which I offer my graduation speech and yeah I was a lil shwasted but I commenceMENT everything I said. Read the great Mary Schmich and here's the piece I mention. I'll be LIVE at Kulak's Woodshed July 29th and tickets are goin fast so get on it! Recorded LIVE at Chicago's Historic Green Mill Lounge on June 3rd 2023 courtesy of Jeppson's Malört: The Official Drink of the Apocalypse Come find me in all your favorite places including my Discord! Featuring “Promises” by the Barrerracudas and a snippy of “The Wasteland” courtesy of Ross Bugden Twitter: Instagram For commissions/scores: bugdenross@gmail.comPLEASE RATE AND REVIEW and as aways: BLACK LIVES MATTER, MASK, VAX and BOOST, eat the rich and save me some sides.
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Mary Theresa Schmich é uma colunista do Chicago Tribune. Escreveu em sua coluna no ano de 1997 o famoso texto Wear Sunscreen. Recebeu o Prémio Pulitzer de Comentário em 2012. Wikipédia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/josemar-barboza-da-costa/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/josemar-barboza-da-costa/support
In 1999 filmmaker Baz Luhrmann released the song “Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen,” a 7-minute-long graduation speech set to downtempo electronic music. It was a highly unlikely hit that made its way across continents and eventually into the ears of a young Avery Trufelman via the album NOW That's What I Call Music Volume 2. For over 20 years, Trufelman has applied the song's advice to her daily life: “wear sunscreen… be nice to your siblings… do one thing every day that scares you.” This unusual song has left a lasting impression, and yet for Trufelman, it makes no sense that “The Sunscreen Song” was commercially successful. We investigate the song's many architects — novelist Kurt Vonnegut, Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich and Baz Luhrmann himself — to unpack one of the internet's first conspiracy theories that turned into Billboard's greatest outlier. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
One year ago this week, writers and the Substack team started gathering in weekly Office Hours discussion threads together for the first time. In 38 threads with tens of thousands of comments, writers shared bold ambitions for publishing on Substack, swapped sharp insights on growing an engaged email list, and celebrated milestones like going paid.A year in and the discussion threads continue, with writers learning and navigating a new chapter for online publishing. Together through Office Hours, Substack writers have authored advice for the future.In 1997, Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich wrote an essay as a hypothetical commencement speech entitled “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young.” Going viral, the essay was adapted and shared as a spoken word song by Baz Luhrmann. “Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)” was an instant hit. Today, we bring you Substack’s remix from lessons and advice writers have shared over the past year in Office Hours read by Jackie Dana, one of the generous Office Hours stewards.Everybody’s free (to connect with each other)Writers and readers of the class of '22:Connect with each other. If we could offer you only one tip for the future, connecting with each other would be it. The long term effects of engaging have been proved by data scientists whereas the rest of our advice has no basis more reliable than our own meandering experience. On behalf of the writers of Substack, we will dispense this advice now:Don't wait for your writing to be perfect, or the time to be just right. Neither will happen. Your publication will likely be quiet for a while. Keep going anyway. Building something good takes time. The only real short cut is luck, and that’s no real strategy. Don't try to do this alone. The actual writing part usually has to be done alone, with distractions turned off and a faintly unhealthy supply of coffee to hand. There's usually no getting around that. But the part where you're coming up with ideas, or trying to think bigger and bolstering your confidence and hopes...don't try to do that just by sitting by yourself. If you need the door closed when you're writing, try flinging it open when you're not. Learn wildly. Connect madly. Allow yourself to be corrected. Being gracious in the face of criticism is a good way to take the venom out of it. And make lots of good friends who are doing something like what you're doing. As writers, we are all in this together so we need to do our best to help each other grow and succeed. Slow and steady is entirely normal growth. Some people come to Substack with an enormous platform already. Some people grow very quickly for a variety of reasons (very few of which are actually controllable). The vast majority of us just plug along, trying different things, without ever having insane overnight success. Doesn't mean you can't be successful, it just means "slow and steady" is entirely normal growth, and success is subjective and depends on your own personal newsletter and goals.Extra slow days shall pass. It's hard but just keep writing good copy during the plateaus. They too will end.Dive deep into your niche. The average person on the street may not understand the appeal of your Substack, but you'll gain loyal subscribers and face less competition than if you go mainstream. Don't feed trolls. Don't allow them to ruin your day. Just block them and move on.Celebrate at milsteones. Exclaim: Bravo!!!!! This is awesome! Way to go! That's huge - congrats!!!Remember: engagement is not just likes and comments, but also conversations between you and your reader in their inbox. Ask questions. Propose ideas. Agree. Disagree. Agree to disagree.Be careful with the advice you take to heart and put in practice. You might find yourself saying, “I actually didn't follow that advice, and I'm happy I didn't.”But trust us on connecting with others.We also want to take a moment to pause and say thank you to the writers who have made helping other writers at Office Hours this year a central rhythm in their week by attending the majority of sessions, and generously answering other writers questions. We hope you'll join us in giving the following writers a virtual applause. Jackie Dana, Cole Noble, Sarah Miller, Alison Acheson, Elizabeth Held, Michael Fritzell, Geoffrey Golden, Mike Sowden, E. Jean Carroll, Melanie Newfield, YouTopian Journey, Paul Macko, Joan Demartin, Chevanne, Lloyd Lemons, Karen Hoffman, moviewise, Петър, Emily Miller, Heather Johnston Brebaugh, Linda Tapp, Rishikesh Sreehari, and Asha Sanaker.Join us for Office Hours today Each week on Thursdays, we gather the writer community and members of our Community, Product, and Writer Development teams together in a written discussion thread like this one to answer writer questions for an hour. Whether you are returning to the thread to celebrate one year of Office Hours or joining for the first time, we hope to see you today. Together we will answer your questions on publishing, growing, or going paid on Substack.Do you have a favorite memory from Office Hours? A sharp insight that you learned that you’ve taken with you? Someone you met in the discussion threads that you’ve stayed in touch with? We’d love to hear about it in celebration of one years of hosting Office Hours. This is a public episode. 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One year ago this week, writers and the Substack team started gathering in weekly Office Hours discussion threads together for the first time. In 38 threads with tens of thousands of comments, writers shared bold ambitions for publishing on Substack, swapped sharp insights on growing an engaged email list, and celebrated milestones like going paid.A year in and the discussion threads continue, with writers learning and navigating a new chapter for online publishing. Together through Office Hours, Substack writers have authored advice for the future.In 1997, Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich wrote an essay as a hypothetical commencement speech entitled “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young.” Going viral, the essay was adapted and shared as a spoken word song by Baz Luhrmann. “Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)” was an instant hit. Today, we bring you Substack's remix from lessons and advice writers have shared over the past year in Office Hours read by Jackie Dana, one of the generous Office Hours stewards.Everybody's free (to connect with each other)Writers and readers of the class of '22:Connect with each other. If we could offer you only one tip for the future, connecting with each other would be it. The long term effects of engaging have been proved by data scientists whereas the rest of our advice has no basis more reliable than our own meandering experience. On behalf of the writers of Substack, we will dispense this advice now:Don't wait for your writing to be perfect, or the time to be just right. Neither will happen. Your publication will likely be quiet for a while. Keep going anyway. Building something good takes time. The only real short cut is luck, and that's no real strategy. Don't try to do this alone. The actual writing part usually has to be done alone, with distractions turned off and a faintly unhealthy supply of coffee to hand. There's usually no getting around that. But the part where you're coming up with ideas, or trying to think bigger and bolstering your confidence and hopes...don't try to do that just by sitting by yourself. If you need the door closed when you're writing, try flinging it open when you're not. Learn wildly. Connect madly. Allow yourself to be corrected. Being gracious in the face of criticism is a good way to take the venom out of it. And make lots of good friends who are doing something like what you're doing. As writers, we are all in this together so we need to do our best to help each other grow and succeed. Slow and steady is entirely normal growth. Some people come to Substack with an enormous platform already. Some people grow very quickly for a variety of reasons (very few of which are actually controllable). The vast majority of us just plug along, trying different things, without ever having insane overnight success. Doesn't mean you can't be successful, it just means "slow and steady" is entirely normal growth, and success is subjective and depends on your own personal newsletter and goals.Extra slow days shall pass. It's hard but just keep writing good copy during the plateaus. They too will end.Dive deep into your niche. The average person on the street may not understand the appeal of your Substack, but you'll gain loyal subscribers and face less competition than if you go mainstream. Don't feed trolls. Don't allow them to ruin your day. Just block them and move on.Celebrate at milsteones. Exclaim: Bravo!!!!! This is awesome! Way to go! That's huge - congrats!!!Remember: engagement is not just likes and comments, but also conversations between you and your reader in their inbox. Ask questions. Propose ideas. Agree. Disagree. Agree to disagree.Be careful with the advice you take to heart and put in practice. You might find yourself saying, “I actually didn't follow that advice, and I'm happy I didn't.”But trust us on connecting with others.We also want to take a moment to pause and say thank you to the writers who have made helping other writers at Office Hours this year a central rhythm in their week by attending the majority of sessions, and generously answering other writers questions. We hope you'll join us in giving the following writers a virtual applause. Jackie Dana, Cole Noble, Sarah Miller, Alison Acheson, Elizabeth Held, Michael Fritzell, Geoffrey Golden, Mike Sowden, E. Jean Carroll, Melanie Newfield, YouTopian Journey, Paul Macko, Joan Demartin, Chevanne, Lloyd Lemons, Karen Hoffman, moviewise, Петър, Emily Miller, Heather Johnston Brebaugh, Linda Tapp, Rishikesh Sreehari, and Asha Sanaker.Join us for Office Hours today Each week on Thursdays, we gather the writer community and members of our Community, Product, and Writer Development teams together in a written discussion thread like this one to answer writer questions for an hour. Whether you are returning to the thread to celebrate one year of Office Hours or joining for the first time, we hope to see you today. Together we will answer your questions on publishing, growing, or going paid on Substack.Do you have a favorite memory from Office Hours? A sharp insight that you learned that you've taken with you? Someone you met in the discussion threads that you've stayed in touch with? We'd love to hear about it in celebration of one years of hosting Office Hours. Thank you for subscribing. 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Former Chicago Tribune columnists Eric Zorn and Mary Schmich will produce and perform on stage for the first time in two years, in their Songs of Good Cheer holiday sing-along in December. And even John himself will make an appearance…get your tickets before they sell out again and listen here for what Eric and Mary […]
Former Chicago Tribune columnists Eric Zorn and Mary Schmich will produce and perform on stage for the first time in two years, in their Songs of Good Cheer holiday sing-along in December. And even John himself will make an appearance…get your tickets before they sell out again and listen here for what Eric and Mary […]
We're back for part 3 with audio engineer John Michael Caldwell. In this episode we are talking about The pitfalls of social media and John shares a little about the projects he is working on right now. And we just can't help it, there is some more tech talk about the massive scale of these film score mixing sessions that John prepares. There is so much audio data to manage they are networking multiple Mac Pros with maxed out specs just handle the playback and processing. And John leaves us with some advice. The music video John mentions was actually an essay titled "Wear Sunscreen" published in the Chicago Tribune by Mary Schmich in 1997. It contains some of the most widely quoted lines in modern culture. It was later published as book which is still available: https://www.amazon.com/Wear-Sunscreen-Primer-Real-Life/dp/0740777173 As a music producer, Baz Luhrmann is credited with "Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)", a successful spoken word song in which he reads aloud Mary Schmich's essay with her permission. The two split the royalties according to wikipedia. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onmyowndime/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/onmyowndime/support
When Mary Schmich started writing columns for the Chicago Tribune, she made a vow: five years and move on. Today, she leaves the paper after 29 years as a columnist. Reset talks to the Pulitzer Prize winner about her time with the paper and lessons she learned from four decades in the industry.
After decade-and-a-half in the Chicago Tribune newsroom, columnist Phil Rosenthal accepted a buyout offered by the paper. He joined a list of supremely talented writers including John Kass, Heidi Stevens, Eric Zorn, and Mary Schmich. Phil joined Bob Sirott to talk about the decision to accept the buyout, what he has planned for the future, […]
Mary Schmich has written for the Chicago Tribune for 29 years, but is taking a buyout with the acquisition of the Tribune by Alden Global Capital. She says farewell for now to John as a columnist for the iconic paper and a few of her devoted readers as they call into the show.
Mary Schmich has written for the Chicago Tribune for 29 years, but is taking a buyout with the acquisition of the Tribune by Alden Global Capital. She says farewell for now to John as a columnist for the iconic paper and a few of her devoted readers as they call into the show.
Chicago Tribune Columnist Eric Zorn joins John Williams to share why he decided to take a buyout, following Heidi Stevens, Mary Schmich, Blair Kamin, Phil Vettel and several more.
Chicago Tribune Columnist Eric Zorn joins John Williams to share why he decided to take a buyout, following Heidi Stevens, Mary Schmich, Blair Kamin, Phil Vettel and several more.
Congratulations to the Class of 2021! We play the classic Baz Luhrmann graduation speech from 1999. It was actually written by Mary Schmich from the Chicago Tribune. https://www.chicagotribune.com/columns/chi-schmich-sunscreen-column-column.html All this and more on the ROR Morning Show with Bob Bronson, LBF, and Brian Podcast. Find more great podcasts at bPodStudios…The Place To Be For Podcast Discovery See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
"Wear Sunscreen" is an essay turned into a commencement speech & is one of my favorites - My psilocybin experiences have helped me understand these words all the more.I hope these words in my voice share the beauty of it all.Author: Mary SchmichVideo Producer: Baz Luhrmann
Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich joins John Williams to weigh in on cancel culture and Dr. Seuss Enterprises’ decision to pull six books from the Dr. Seuss collection.
Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich joins John Williams to weigh in on cancel culture and Dr. Seuss Enterprises’ decision to pull six books from the Dr. Seuss collection.
Classics You Slept Through: Episode 54 - A Princess of Mars Wrap-up We've finished our time upon Barsoom, but have we really learned anything? We'll break down our thoughts on the book and reveal our next title. If you're interested in the idea of the how we use our individual tools to process race in America (especially with regard to Christianity), the book I mentioned is Divided by Faith, by Christian Smith and Michael Emerson. Also, I'm very chagrined that the 'commencement speech' by Vonnegut that I referenced is neither a speech nor by Vonnegut. It's actually a column in the Chicago Tribune, by Mary Schmich. It gained internet life (and the Vonnegut connection) as an email forward in the late 90s. So, yes, I was taken in by an email your grandmother would post on Facebook. (Though, in my defense, Vonnegut is on record as saying he'd be proud to have written it). Don't forget to follow us on social media and subscribe to the new YouTube channel, where these discussion episodes will be up in video form as well! (Reading pods are audio only, but also available on YouTube!) YouTube Twitter Facebook Instagram Twitch Email: CYSTPod@gmail.com Next episode: The first three chapters of A Picture of Dorian Gray
As we say goodbye to this year, I wanted to leave you with something short, sweet, and to the point. This spoken word song made a lasting impression on me many years ago and guided me through my tumultuous 20's. First written by Mary Schmich in the Chicago Tribune in 1997, and then turned into spoken word by filmmaker Baz Luhrmann in 1999. Enjoy it. Hear it. Remember these words.Happy New Year...maybe? Hopefully? We will be cautiously optimistic on this one. See you in 2021.To find out more about LeAnna and Curating the Curious, head to:Instagram: @curating.the.curious @leanna_azzolini_photographyLeAnna's Course on Cultivating Creativity:Phlock+Website:leannaazzoliniphoto.com
For this year's C# Advent, I decided to finally implement an idea that I've been kicking around for a couple of years now. It's a parody of Baz Luhrmann's Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen) track from 1997. The "lyrics" are from a Chicago Tribune column written by Mary Schmich, entitled "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young". Much of the advice in the original song has stuck with me over the years, and it continues to be relevant and entertaining. I thought that a version created just for developers, programmers, coders, engineers would be fun. I commissioned the help of voice actor Noah Jenkins (on Twitter @GeekyVoices) to bring a voice to my writing, and I laid his voice over a karaoke version of the song. (By the way, if you need voicework, I can highly recommend him!) Please enjoy! Make sure to check out all the other great entries into this year's C# Advent. I look forward to doing it again next year. Lyrics: Coders, developers, software engineers, and programmers in the year of 2020Write unit testsIf I could offer you only one tip for the futureUnit tests would be it The long term benefits of unit tests have been proven by studiesWhereas the rest of my adviceHas no basis more reliable than my ownMeandering, flawed experienceI will dispense this advice...now. Enjoy the power and beauty of your codeBut, never mindYou'll look back on your code in 6 months and wonder who let you near a keyboard.But trust me, this means you're improving.Seeing your past code as flawed just means that you are learning.You are not as bad a coder as you imagine. Don't worry about the futureOr worryBut know that worrying is as effective as trying to write the next Facebook on a TRS-80.The real troubles in your career are apt to be things that you never learned in college or boot camp.The kind where your team decides to deploy to production on Friday at 5pm. Do something everyday that challenges you. Draw. Don't judge other people harshly in code review.Don't put up with people who harshly judge yours. Write docs. Don't waste time on jealousy.Some days you're killing it, some days you aren't.The race is longAnd in the end, it's only with yourself. Remember the compliments, put them in a special folder.Forget YouTube comments.If you succeed in doing this, tell me how Keep your old code in an open source repositoryThrow away your unused domain names. Take days off. Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your careerThe most interesting people I know aren't doing at 40 what they thought they wanted to do at 22.And many of them say they still don't know what they're doing. Get plenty of C# Be kind to your wristsYou'll miss them when they're gone Maybe you'll start a company, maybe you won't Maybe you'll get stock options and bonuses, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll go into management. Maybe you'll give up on computers completely and open a boutique when you turn 50 Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself eitherYour choices are at least partially chance, and so are everybody else's Use your bodyUse it on something manual and analogDon't be afraid of stepping away from the computer, and what you might miss on TwitterHonest labor will let your mind rest Learn. Even if your boss isn't going to pay for itRead blog posts, even if you don't agree with themGo to conferences, even if you spend more time in the hallway than the sessionsEducation is not something you can ever finish.DO NOT read the comments on Hacker News and Reddit, they will only make you feel terrible (chorus) Get to know your familyYou never know when they'll be gone for good Be nice to your siblingsThey are your best link to your pastAnd the people most likely to stick with you in the futureSend a Snopes link if you mustBut don't argue with their political views in public on Facebook Understand that teammates come and goBut for the precious few you should hold on toWork hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyleBecause the older you get, the more you need the people that knew you when you were young Work for a government agency onceBut leave before it makes you grumpyWork for a silicon valley startup onceBut leave before it turns you into an insufferable hipster Travel Accept certain inalienable truthsDevelopers get distracted by newer frameworksBugs will always be aroundYou too will get oldAnd when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were youngNew frameworks were always betterThere weren't so many bugsCertifications were importantAnd junior developers respected their seniors Respect YOUR seniors Don't expect anyone to hand you anythingMaybe you'll have stock optionsMaybe you'll get V.C. fundingBut you never know when either might run out Don't be cocky about any once piece of technologyOr by the time you're 50, you'll be known as "that Windows Phone guy" Be careful whose mentorship you seekBut be patient with anyone who supplies mentoringAdvice is a form of nostalgiaDispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the garbage, wiping it offSmoothing over the ugly parts and redeeming it for more than it's worth But trust me on the unit tests (chorus)
American journalist, Chicago Tribune columnist and Pulitzer Prize winner Mary Schmich has a quote that I live by… “Do One Thing Every Day That Scares You.” I absolutely LOVE this quote! Doing something that scares you each day means you’re growing since we’re often fearful of things we haven’t done or things that stretch us. Being open to new things and change by welcoming one of these a day means we grow our ability to adapt, our risk tolerance and ourselves. BUT I want to let you know that I believe now could be the time to pull back on implementing this way of life. And maybe this is true for you. This shows’ host, Diane Rolston, is called THE Expert on Being Dynamic and living a Dynamic Life. After leading hundreds of events and programs in her two businesses, speaking on international stages, being a published author while raising two young children, Diane Rolston knows all about work/life balance and getting things done! As an Award-Winning Coach and the CEO and founder of Dynamic Women®, a global community of women, her purpose is to unlock the greatness in others. Diane works with professionals all over the world to provide clarity, confidence and action. www.dianerolston.com Connect with me on your favorite social platform: https://www.facebook.com/DianeRolston/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/dianercoaching/ https://twitter.com/DianeRCoaching https://www.instagram.com/coachdianerolston/ https://www.youtube.com/user/DianeRolstonCoaching Diane believes we are not defined by our titles or our roles, instead we are more powerful and happy when we can be who we are. This brought out her book Dynamic You™, based on a successful program, where she reveals the secret code to confident, wealthy and successful women and leads women to unleash the Dynamic Woman™ in them! Get your copy or join the program at www.dianerolston.com/DYouBook and with this link you’ll receive a special discount. Sign Up for my WEEKLY NEWSLETTER and you'll get FREE tips on how to live a dynamic life www.dianerolston.com! Dynamic Women® is an international community of success-oriented women who take action to develop skills, increase results and are focused on supporting each other to be DYNAMIC in every area of life! Our members get access to success coaching, additional online educational activities, and the invaluable networking connections they need to reach their personal or professional goals. Dynamic Women® is the brainchild of Diane Rolston, a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with over 20 years of experience teaching and training. Her vision is to hold space for professionals, small business owners and all women to experience high-value, actionable coaching and build a thriving community of motivated, confident, and supportive women. In the Dynamic Women® Global Club your network will grow, your confidence will be boosted with the Coaching in Action©, and you’ll reach your goals faster though our trainings, coaching, and networking opportunities. Learn more about Dynamic Women® at www.dynamicwomenclub.com https://www.facebook.com/DynamicWomenGlobalClub/ Join our awesome Dynamic Women® Club on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DynamicWomenGlobalClub Thanks for listening! It means so much to us that you listened to our podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with us, head on over to our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/DynamicWomenGlobalClub With this podcast, we are building an international community of Dynamic Women® that we hope to inspire more women to unleash their dynamic selves and boost their lives in all areas especially business. If you know someone who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us a review We appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from our listeners not only help us improve, but also help others find us in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!
Venha junto com a gente e o Bruno Motta descobrir como o padre bateu o carro, quem é Gabriel, se ele já pegou na mão da pessoa errada, se prefere netflix ou carnaval, qual a pior ressaca, o melhor jeito de cagar e como ele limpa a bunda! (Download) Participantes Batata, Shelly Poison, Kamila, e Bruno Motta! Capa: Batata Edição: FellipeC Decupagem: Lucas, O Fofo Veja Também Só uma pessoa com riso frouxo vai rir de pelo menos 10 dessas piadas https://www.buzzfeed.com/br/gabrielsukita/so-uma-pessoa-muito-feliz-vai-rir-desses-trocadilhos-piadas Quantas vezes você já pagou de louco em público? https://www.buzzfeed.com/br/clarissapassos/sera-que-voce-parece-louco Pelo jeito o mundo vai acabar se você não der a sua opinião sobre estas questões https://www.buzzfeed.com/br/ramosaline/teste-enquete-opinioes-polemicas Pedro Bial – Filtro Solar Curiosidade: O vídeo original foi produzido pelo cineasta australiano Baz Luhrmann (Produtor do filme Romeu e Julieta) e narrado pelo DJ também australiano Lee “Scratch” Perry, com o som “Everybody’s Free” (Música original da cantora africana Rozalla), ao fundo cantado por Quindon Tarver e ganhou enorme sucesso pelo mundo, assim que gravada em 1997. O texto foi produzido pela colunista do Chicago Tribune, Mary Schmich, que afirmou que certo dia andava pelo Central Park e vendo as pessoas tomando sol perguntava à si mesma se aquelas pessoas utilizavam Filtro Solar e nisso, criou uma série de pensamentos internos, dando inspiração ao texto. O vídeo ganhou versão no Brasil em 2003 e foi apresentado no final do ano no programa “Fantástico” da Globo, intitulado como “Filtro Solar”. Foi narrado pelo apresentador brasileiro Pedro Bial e adaptado por Fernando Castro e ganhou fama enorme no país. Você não pode dormir hoje sem dar a sua opinião nestes assuntos https://www.buzzfeed.com/br/ramosaline/teste-enquete-opinioes Agradecemos o apoio de Bruno Martins, Matheus Alesio, Inaldo, Renato, Charles Rodrigues, Magnun, Paula, @Apenas_Um_Bardo, @KlinMarcelo, @VinoDelicinha, @Cleislafalcao_, @Steefanye, @wellgpx, @CanisMagnus, @fada_do_dente, @marcelofs1, @paopixel, @ornitolincom, @romin_brito, @navemaetoaqui, @direitoemedicos, @diego_pindaiba, @o_almaia, @_digo_silva, @faustchulhu, @adorablewitch_, @theblovedwizard, @sansquer, @socaporva_br, @Oliver_woj_br, @DidiDalmolin, @PedroTanisho, @thedmmatt, @indeferido! Contribua com o Pod Isso! Você pode nos ajudar assinando um apoio mensal: Acesse → apoia.se/podisso ou picpay.me/podissomensal Ou com uma gorjetinha: Clique aqui → picpay.me/podisso ou busque por @podisso em seu app Email para contato: contato@podisso.com Trilha Sonora Katy Perry – Hot N Cold Fagner – Borbulhas de Amor Journey – Don’t Stop Believin’ Tubthumping – Chumbawamba Shakira – She Wolf Ace Of Base – Always Have, Always Will P!nk – So What The Saturdays – Just Can’t Get Enough Lady Gaga – Poker Face The Cure – High AC/DC – Shoot to Thrill Bee Geens – Stayin’ Alive Brian Adams – Cuts Like A Knife Chic – Le Freak O post 117 – Claro, sou um adulto. Pod Isso? apareceu primeiro em Pode Isso Podcast.
The current state of things has made us face so many things, including MANY new decisions for our health and well-being. In this episode we talk with the brilliant Kathy Moulton (a Newfoundlander living in Milan, Italy) about being a woman and mom in the pandemic while keeping her business going. Kathy is a lawyer, Yoga instructor, birth doula and founder of Kalila Community - a centre for women. This episode is part of our “Call Your Girlfriend” series where we have REAL conversations to help each other through! As we say, no woman is an island. We got this together. Here’s Kathy’s link for Kalila - follow her for awesome mommahood stuff and more: https://kalila.co.uk/ For daily inspiration and motivation follow Strong Women Co on facebook and Instagram: www.facebook.com/StrongWomenCo www.instagram.com/strongwomenco To join our FREE online Tribe: www.facebook.com/groups/SWCTribe Check out our website for our programs and kits: https://strongwomenco.com Featured song: “Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen” by Baz Luhrmann (written by Mary Schmich) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI
Today we are talking to Ms. Jessica Johnson of Michigan, USA. We talk about her 3rd DUI, her arrest, and the road to greatness she has taken since that all happened. She opens up and shares her newfound appreciation for the little things and her awareness of daily gratitude that has changed her life. The blissful moments in her little village have helped her find what the alcohol couldn't... Some resources from today's show... "Wear Sunscreen" written by: Mary Schmich for the Chicago Tribune; Pub: June 1997. Mary was inspired to write this article on a walk. She wrote the article in four hours. Later to be recorded, with music, by Australian Director, Baz Luhrmann. For years, mainstream media was unaware that she wrote the article, actually being accused of plagiarism. Find The Bliss Broker Instagram: @theblissbroker Twitter: @theblissbroker FB: www.facebook.com/theblissbroker LinkedIN: @theblissbroker YouTUBE NOW!! www.Theblissbroker.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theblissbroker/support
NOTE: We recorded this episode back in January before Coronavirus became A Thing. I hope this episode brings you joy and a little bit of a break from all of the news. Stay safe and sanitized. Love you guys.We’re talking JEANS and GENES and SUNSCREENS with my gal, Lisa Tozzi aka Tozzi. Not only is she the managing editor for news and operations at The Markup (https://themarkup.org/), she’s also just...the best? We love Tozzi. OH WAIT BEFORE WE GO FURTHER—Follow along with recs (and share your own via DM) on the “Gee Thanks, Just Bought It!” Instagram: www.instagram.com/geethanksjustboughtitpodOkay so we’re talking about JEANS first. We both love a Madewell jean and I talk about my newfound dupe for $150 Madewell jeans but there’s a caveat to the dupe, and I give you some tips about dealing with that caveat in this episode. (Also did you know I married the HEIR to Madewell? Okay that’s not technically true, there is no money involved and I don’t get a discount (boo) but it’s also kind of true. See here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/dannosowitz/how-madewell-bought-and-sold-my-familys-history). Other things Tozzi and I get to in this episode: the deep lines on my neck that I swear to G appeared on New Year’s Day out of nowhere (at the time I hadn’t found a good product to help those lines out but those of you who follow the pod on Insta know I have recently found one!), Tozzi’s hatred of taking pics of herself, the $50 miracle for raw winter skin, and so so much more. This is also the first episode where our awesome editor Veronica was able to insert a song so please enjoy that moment. WE ALSO TALK ABOUT SUNSCREEN. ALL CAPS!! SUNSCREEN.HAVE YOU CALLED ME YET? We have a phone number! Call it! You may be featured on an upcoming special listeners-only ep of the podcast: 424-245-0736.Mentioned On This Episode!Old Navy Jeans: https://fave.co/39idVt9 Madewell Jeans: https://fave.co/2SrZWKL Murad Neck Firming Cream: https://amzn.to/2TUBv9l Biologique Recherche BioKiss Lip and Face Balm: https://www.shoprescuespa.com/biokiss-lip-balm.html MixBook for Photo Albums: https://fave.co/2vMONNr Elta MD Sunscreen (SPF 46!): https://amzn.to/2xtDgmv Coola Sunscreen: https://amzn.to/2W8EuxX The Lyrics to “Wear Sunscreen” by Chicago Tribune columnist Mary Schmich (who NEVER gets credit. Baz always gets the credit! WTF!): https://www.chicagotribune.com/columns/chi-schmich-sunscreen-column-column.htmlAre you reading The Markup yet? It is fantastic: https://themarkup.org/Follow Tozzi on Twitter:
Hoy en Escuchandoando, (Everybody’s Free (to wear sunscreen) .- Todo el mundo es libre (de usar protector solar).-Jerson Ramirez nos presenta una versión que, realizó el director australiano Baz Luhrmann (Moulin Rouge, Romeo y Julieta), en 1997. Me gusta la estética de sus trabajos, me encanta sobre todo su maestría en el montaje. Este tema apareció en un álbum de EMI Music Australia. El disco se llama “Something for Everybody”. También forma parte de la banda sonora de “Romeo y Julieta”. Creo que hasta ahora nadie había hecho la traducción al castellano y, para los que no entiendan inglés, es una oportunidad de conocer el texto. La letra de la canción se tomó de un ensayo “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young” que tiene la forma de discurso de graduación escrito por la periodista Mary Schmich del Chicago Tribune.El texto, con apariencia de poema, es frecuentemente comparado con el poema de Max Ehrmann, “Desiderata“, que también fue objeto de otra leyenda urbana que contaba que era un anónimo encontrado entre los legajos de una catedral.Me siento identificado con todos los consejos que se escuchan en esta canción…Si sólo te pudiera ofrecer una pista para su futuro, ESA debiera ser el uso de la crema con filtro solar.Los amplios beneficios de las cremas con filtro solar han sido probados por los científicos, mientras que el resto de mis recomendaciones no tienen más fundamento que mi propia y errática existencia.Ahora voy a ofrecer este consejo.Disfruta del poder y de la belleza de tu juventud. No te preocupes. Tu no entenderás el poder y la belleza de tu juventud hasta que se desvanezcan. Pero, confía en mi, dentro de veinte años mirarás a tus fotos antiguas y te traerán tales recuerdos que no podrás por menos que afirmar cuantas posibilidades tuviste y que maravilloso lucías en esa época.NO estás tan gordo como imaginas.No te preocupes por el futuro; o preocúpate, pero advierte que esa preocupación es tan efectiva como intentar resolver una ecuación algebraica masticando chicle. Y es cierto que los problemas realmente importantes en su vida son los que jamás se le pasarán por la mente, del tipo de los que ocupan tu cabeza a las cuatro de la tarde en un martes ocioso.Haz todos los días una cosa que te asuste.Canta.No trates los sentimientos ajenos de forma irresponsable. No toleres que la gente trate tus sentimientos de forma irresponsable.Relájate.No pierdas el tiempo con la envidia: algunas veces ganas, algunas veces pierdes. La carrera es larga, y en el fondo, es sólo una carrera contra ti mismo.Recordad los halagos que recibáis, olvidad los insultos; (si tienes éxito haciendo eso, dime cómo lo has conseguido).Guardad las viejas cartas de amor, tirad los viejos recibos del banco.Estiraros.No os sentáis culpables si no sabéis que hacer con la vida. Lo gente más interesante que he conocido no lo sabían a los 22 , algunos de los más interesantes tampoco a los cuarenta Toma bastante calcio.Se amable con tus rodillas, las echarás de menos cuando ya no te funcionen.Tal vez te cases, tal vez no, Quizá tengas hijos, tal vez no, tal vez te divorcies a los cuarenta, tal vez bailes el baile de los pajaritos en tu 75 aniversario. Hagas lo que hagas no te enorgullezcas demasiado ni os censuréis mucho. Tus decisiones están dictadas en un 50 por ciento por el azar. Disfrutad de vuestro cuerpo, usadlo de todas las maneras posibles No os cortéis por eso, o por lo que otra gente piense de eso, el cuerpo es el instrumento más grande que jamás poseeréis. Baila. Incluso si no tienes otro sitio para hacerlo que tu habitación.Leed las instrucciones, aunque no las sigáis.NO leas revistas de belleza, sólo conseguirán hacerte sentir feo.Conoced a fondo a vuestros padres, nunca sabréis cuando se irán.Quered a vuestros hermanas, son el mejor vínculo con el pasado y probablemente la gente que más cercana estará a vosotros en el futuro.Comprended que los amigos vienen y van, salvo un puñado de fieles que tenéis que guardar con cariño, Trabaja duro para evitar los obstáculos de la distancia o del estilo de vida porque, cuanto más viejo os hagáis, más necesitaréis de la gente que conocisteis cuando eráis jóvenes.Vivid en Nueva York alguna vez, pero dejadlo cuando se vuelva demasiado duro, vivid en el Norte de California alguna vez, pero dejadlo cuando sea demasiado blando.Viaja.Acepta algunas verdades inmutables, los precios subirán, los políticos son todos unos mangantes, tu también envejecerás y cuando lo hagas, fantasearás que, cuando tu eras joven, los precios eran razonables, los políticos eran nobles y los niños respetaban a sus mayores.Respeta a tus mayores.No esperéis que nadie os apoye. Tal vez tengáis una herencia jugosa, tal os caséis con alguien millonario, pero no sabéis cuando se pueden esfumar.No os hagáis demasiadas cosas en el pelo, pues cuando lleguéis a los 40 pareceréis de 85Tened cuidado a quine le pedís de consejos, pero sed paciente con ellos. El consejo es una forma de nostalgia, proporcionarlo es una manera de rescatar el pasado de la basura, limpiarlo, pintar las partes feas y reciclarlo para venderlo por más de lo que vale.Y confiad en mi cuando hablo de lo del protector solar.este episodio fue una creacion de Jerson Ramirez para su hija Bella Mariana Di Jeshua Este episodio está patrocinado por: Chrys Grass, original de crianza orgánica, una red global que busca impactar el desarrollo económico local, transformando emprendedores en emprendedores emprendedores exitosos. Si está pensando en emprender, Chrys Grass es una planta captadora de CO2 que crece entre los 0 y 2.500 metros de altura, es ecológica, sostenible y con múltiples usos y beneficios, ve en los espacios mínimos de una actividad, su tiempo promedio de Hasta La etapa comercial es de apenas 12 meses. Sembrando Chrys Grass está ayudando a combatir el calentamiento global, generando un aire más limpio para el planeta y para producir una finca con un negocio verde. Conoce más en www.chrysbioplant.com o llamando al 57 3203394114.Este episodio está patrocinado por Duplo Construction es patrocinador de Escuchando Ando. Su tecnología modular reduce los tiempos de instalación, mantiene su proyecto con una visión eco-sostenible y se adapta eficientemente a todas sus necesidades. Llega al limite de la creatividad en tus construcciones. Duplo Construction proporciona la solución más efectiva para la industria de la asepsia, la resistencia, la sostenibilidad y la economía. Duplo Construction, la mano de su grupo de profesionales de diseño, entrega e instalación de su proyecto moderno, bello y modular, en el lugar que siempre lo soñaste. Su novedoso sistema de módulos nos permite adjuntar piezas creando patrones visualmente únicos.Construye tu casa en el lugar donde las imágenes o la escuela a todos los lugares que quieras con una vivienda móvil. Visítanos en www.duploconstruction.com
Hoy en Escuchandoando, (Everybody’s Free (to wear sunscreen) .- Todo el mundo es libre (de usar protector solar).-Jerson Ramirez nos presenta una vercion que, realizó el director australiano Baz Luhrmann (Moulin Rouge, Romeo y Julieta), en 1997. Me gusta la estética de sus trabajos, me encanta sobre todo su maestría en el montaje. Este tema apareció en un álbum de EMI Music Australia. El disco se llama “Something for Everybody”. También forma parte de la banda sonora de “Romeo y Julieta”. Creo que hasta ahora nadie había hecho la traducción al castellano y, para los que no entiendan inglés, es una oportunidad de conocer el texto. La letra de la canción se tomó de un ensayo “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young” que tiene la forma de discurso de graduación escrito por la periodista Mary Schmich del Chicago Tribune.El texto, con apariencia de poema, es frecuentemente comparado con el poema de Max Ehrmann, “Desiderata“, que también fue objeto de otra leyenda urbana que contaba que era un anónimo encontrado entre los legajos de una catedral.Me siento identificado con todos los consejos que se escuchan en esta canción…Si sólo te pudiera ofrecer una pista para su futuro, ESA debiera ser el uso de la crema con filtro solar.Los amplios beneficios de las cremas con filtro solar han sido probados por los científicos, mientras que el resto de mis recomendaciones no tienen más fundamento que mi propia y errática existencia.Ahora voy a ofrecer este consejo.Disfruta del poder y de la belleza de tu juventud. No te preocupes. Tu no entenderás el poder y la belleza de tu juventud hasta que se desvanezcan. Pero, confía en mi, dentro de veinte años mirarás a tus fotos antiguas y te traerán tales recuerdos que no podrás por menos que afirmar cuantas posibilidades tuviste y que maravilloso lucías en esa época.NO estás tan gordo como imaginas.No te preocupes por el futuro; o preocúpate, pero advierte que esa preocupación es tan efectiva como intentar resolver una ecuación algebraica masticando chicle. Y es cierto que los problemas realmente importantes en su vida son los que jamás se le pasarán por la mente, del tipo de los que ocupan tu cabeza a las cuatro de la tarde en un martes ocioso.Haz todos los días una cosa que te asuste.Canta.No trates los sentimientos ajenos de forma irresponsable. No toleres que la gente trate tus sentimientos de forma irresponsable.Relájate.No pierdas el tiempo con la envidia: algunas veces ganas, algunas veces pierdes. La carrera es larga, y en el fondo, es sólo una carrera contra ti mismo.Recordad los halagos que recibáis, olvidad los insultos; (si tienes éxito haciendo eso, dime cómo lo has conseguido).Guardad las viejas cartas de amor, tirad los viejos recibos del banco.Estiraros.No os sentáis culpables si no sabéis que hacer con la vida. Lo gente más interesante que he conocido no lo sabían a los 22 , algunos de los más interesantes tampoco a los cuarenta Toma bastante calcio.Se amable con tus rodillas, las echarás de menos cuando ya no te funcionen.Tal vez te cases, tal vez no, Quizá tengas hijos, tal vez no, tal vez te divorcies a los cuarenta, tal vez bailes el baile de los pajaritos en tu 75 aniversario. Hagas lo que hagas no te enorgullezcas demasiado ni os censuréis mucho. Tus decisiones están dictadas en un 50 por ciento por el azar. Disfrutad de vuestro cuerpo, usadlo de todas las maneras posibles No os cortéis por eso, o por lo que otra gente piense de eso, el cuerpo es el instrumento más grande que jamás poseeréis. Baila. Incluso si no tienes otro sitio para hacerlo que tu habitación.Leed las instrucciones, aunque no las sigáis.NO leas revistas de belleza, sólo conseguirán hacerte sentir feo.Conoced a fondo a vuestros padres, nunca sabréis cuando se irán.Quered a vuestros hermanas, son el mejor vínculo con el pasado y probablemente la gente que más cercana estará a vosotros en el futuro.Comprended que los amigos vienen y van, salvo un puñado de fieles que tenéis que guardar con cariño, Trabaja duro para evitar los obstáculos de la distancia o del estilo de vida porque, cuanto más viejo os hagáis, más necesitaréis de la gente que conocisteis cuando eráis jóvenes.Vivid en Nueva York alguna vez, pero dejadlo cuando se vuelva demasiado duro, vivid en el Norte de California alguna vez, pero dejadlo cuando sea demasiado blando.Viaja.Acepta algunas verdades inmutables, los precios subirán, los políticos son todos unos mangantes, tu también envejecerás y cuando lo hagas, fantasearás que, cuando tu eras joven, los precios eran razonables, los políticos eran nobles y los niños respetaban a sus mayores.Respeta a tus mayores.No esperéis que nadie os apoye. Tal vez tengáis una herencia jugosa, tal os caséis con alguien millonario, pero no sabéis cuando se pueden esfumar.No os hagáis demasiadas cosas en el pelo, pues cuando lleguéis a los 40 pareceréis de 85Tened cuidado a quine le pedís de consejos, pero sed paciente con ellos. El consejo es una forma de nostalgia, proporcionarlo es una manera de rescatar el pasado de la basura, limpiarlo, pintar las partes feas y reciclarlo para venderlo por más de lo que vale.Y confiad en mi cuando hablo de lo del protector solar.este episodio fue una creacion de Jerson Ramirez para su hija Bella Mariana Di Jeshua Este episodio está patrocinado por: Chrys Grass, original de crianza orgánica, una red global que busca impactar el desarrollo económico local, transformando emprendedores en emprendedores emprendedores exitosos. Si está pensando en emprender, Chrys Grass es una planta captadora de CO2 que crece entre los 0 y 2.500 metros de altura, es ecológica, sostenible y con múltiples usos y beneficios, ve en los espacios mínimos de una actividad, su tiempo promedio de Hasta La etapa comercial es de apenas 12 meses. Sembrando Chrys Grass está ayudando a combatir el calentamiento global, generando un aire más limpio para el planeta y para producir una finca con un negocio verde. Conoce más en www.chrysbioplant.com o llamando al 57 3203394114.Este episodio está patrocinado por Duplo Construction es patrocinador de Escuchando Ando. Su tecnología modular reduce los tiempos de instalación, mantiene su proyecto con una visión eco-sostenible y se adapta eficientemente a todas sus necesidades. Llega al limite de la creatividad en tus construcciones. Duplo Construction proporciona la solución más efectiva para la industria de la asepsia, la resistencia, la sostenibilidad y la economía. 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In todays episode of Join Up Dots we look at Motivation and how to keep it, after a recent listener asked "David how do you keep motivated? I have many business failures which i started and then stopped. I just lose the motivation to keep going. Do you have any tips. Well here is what we consider are the best ways to keep yourself motivated, when the motivation is starting to depart. 1: Remind yourself of your goals. Usually before devoting time to any specific endeavor, we tend to make short- and long-term goals. Remember to keep your goals realistic, that way you wont be disheartened if you don't reach them. That doesn't mean you can't push and challenge yourself though, if you don't challenge yourself, then it's not really a goal. If you start to lose sight of your goals, then you may be less motivated than if you were always checking to see how much closer you are getting throughout the whole process. Keeping track of your goals and checking your progress can help keep you motivated day in and day out. 2: Make weekly checkpoints to track your progress. Everyone needs to see how they are keeping up with their goals if they want to stay motivated. If you see that you are on track or even excelling every time you check your progress, you will be motivated and happy that you are getting there. If you see that you are lagging on your goals, it may be the kick start you need to help get you back on track. 3: Make sure to reward yourself every time you achieve your weekly goals. This could be as simple as a bowl of ice cream after a long, hard week of working out or as rewarding as a trip to the spa for all your hard work. Whatever rewards will keep you going are the ones you should be giving yourself. 4: Give yourself breaks. Sometimes even the most determined people get overwhelmed. You may be burning yourself out, and a much-needed break might be just what you need. If it is a fitness goal, maybe take a three- or four-day rest instead of your normal one- or two-day rest. If it is at school, don't try to do all your work in one sitting, but stretch it out over the course of the day or week, if possible. 5: Don't be too hard on yourself. Everyone falls short sometimes. If you fail to meet your goals for the week, take it as a lesson. Try to complete your next target before time, so that you can use the saved time to complete the pending work. This way you stay right on schedule even if you have taken a hit. It's not always about how hard you hit, but how well you can take a hard hit and keep moving on. Don't dwell on failure; just accept it as a human occurrence, and continue working towards your goals. 6:Watch and read motivational stories or speeches. Everyone deserves a great pep talk every once in a while. Stay elevated by watching YouTube videos of inspirational moments so you can suddenly feel a new sense of motivation to keep striving. Here are just a few example of easily-found inspirational media: Mary Schmich's famous "Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)" speech. Almost any Hollywood sports movie. Much rap music - "rags to riches" is a common lyrical theme. Historical stories of bravery or courage (see: Jack Churchill, Audie Murphy, etc.)
We've officially dropped our first highly anticipated (kind of) song. If you're graduating this year, have ever graduated, or plan to one day graduate, we have some words of wisdom for you! Christie and Nicole discuss the interesting story behind the "Sunscreen" song, its author, Mary Schmich, and provide their own version with advice they've learned along the way. Be sure to stay Underwhelmed but in the loop by liking us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/underwhelmedpodcast/ and following us on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/underwhelmedpodcast. We have also been recently persuaded to go to the dark side for the good of the podcast and can be found on Twitter at www.twitter.com/underwhelmedpod. Christie can be found on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/realchristiewheeler and Nicole can be found at https://www.instagram.com/realnicolekokinos. Be sure to email us at info@underwhelmedpodcast.com with your questions and suggestions!
"The one with the hair" is a moniker she's come to embrace. In 2015, Heidi Stevens considered her then-new photo for her Chicago Tribune column "Balancing Act" unremarkable - until her inbox flooded with commentary from her readers. She shared a few in a piece for the Chicago Tribune, with gems like. "For heaven sake, comb your hair." "My neighbors and I give you permission to shoot your hairdresser." While Stevens was taken aback by this overwhelming response to a style that is arguably on-trend and beach-y, she took it in-stride and sought to learn why readers were so quick to comment on her appearance along with that of her female colleagues. She wrote this of the surprising responses: "Each one takes me aback. Not because my hair is above reproach, but because my hair is completely beside the point. It's unremarkable in appearance (not dyed fuchsia, not shaved on one side) and has no relevance to my job: I'm not a model; I'm not selling hair products; I don't work at a salon." She continued, "Is this really where we're stuck as a culture? At a place where we drown out women's voices with critiques of their hair?" It was this delightful refusal to be put into an Instagram filter that caught national attention - Today.com, NY Daily News, and AOL - and landed Stevens squarely in my Facebook news feed. She quickly became one of my feminist icons and her column a must-read. She's written about numerous topics besides her hair (like parenting, the #MeToo movement, health and her reactions to what's happening in the world around her), but people like me keep bringing up the hair incident. And through her writing, I feel like she and I are on grab-a-coffee terms, but I've never gotten to ask her the most pressing question we have around aSweatLife: What are her big goals? This week on the #WeGotGoals podcast, Stevens popped by to answer that and she shared her 20-year journey with the Chicago Tribune, working across the publication - from an intern to a section editor to a columnist. As we talked through her tenure, she shared that landing her column was the goal that made her the proudest. "I found myself really called ... to help other people and women especially feel less alone in whatever they were going through," she explained why it means to much to connect with readers week after week. With an extraordinary tenure, Stevens clearly loves the Chicago Tribune and the field of journalism. It struck me that this was the tone as I talked to Stevens just before she and 45 other Chicago Tribune Journalists announced they were forming a union, The Chicago Tribune Guild. It's a brave move that has been historically unsupported by a consolidating journalism industry - at least leading to the sale of a publication (the Los Angeles Times) and at-worst the scrubbing of the web of any trace that the publication ever existed (Gothamist/DNA Info). Listen to this week's episode of #WeGotGoals, and follow @HeidiStevens13 to feel more connected and @CTGuild to support Stevens' brand of journalism. ---- Episode transcript: JAC:Welcome to #WeGotGoals, a podcast by aSweatLife.com. I'm Jeana Anderson Cohen and with me I have Maggie Umberger and Kristen Geil. MU: Good morning, Jeana. KG: Hi Jeana. JAC: Hello KG: Jeana, this week you spoke with Heidi Stevens. JAC: I did. I spoke with Heidi Stevens, who's been someone I've looked to for advice, for guidance, but she just didn't know it until recently. She has a column in the Chicago Tribune. MU: nd can you talk a little bit about what that column is because it's incredibly interesting for us at aSweatLife and really for women in general. JAC: Heidi's column is called Balancing Act and it is a daily column, but she has a few online days and then two print days in the Chicago Tribune. She talks about everything from parenting to feminism to her reactions to news. And it's been incredible to sort of watch her along the way. I started reading her column about three years ago after I caught wind of it when she had this interesting incident with her hair of all things and her readers’ reaction to her hair, but she's been writing the column specifically for five years and she's been a writer in some capacity or working with the Chicago Tribune from for 20. KG: And Heidi is somewhat of a veteran in the industry. She's seen journalism go through so many major changes over the past several years. How has she adjusted to those changes? What changes has she seen as the most impactful? What in general did she have to say about how journalism has changed? JAC: Heidi has been a part of the Tribune in some capacity for 20 years. She started as an intern is done everything from copy editor. She said something about being on the mail room at a certain point all the way up to columnist with a daily column, which was her dream that you'll hear about. So she on the inside has seen a lot of changes and she's become a sort of ninja within journalism in that she's able to respond to changes. She's able to adapt to them. She's now producing online content. She has incredible editorial skills, but after our interview, Heidi was part of the organizing committee that announced a guild within the Chicago Tribune, which is another word for a union, so I think she's seen a lot of changes within journalism and she's probably bracing or is embracing more changes as a part of this group as well in the future. MU: We're thrilled to have Heidi on the podcast. So here is Jeana with Heidi. JAC:I am Jeana Anderson Cohen on the #WeGotGoals podcast and I'm here with Heidi Stevens of the Chicago Tribune. Thank you for joining me, Heidi. HS: Thank you for inviting me. JAC: I have known you through your column for as long as I've been reading it and I've been reading it since I think someone posted to my news feed a few years ago, probably related to the hair incident and I've been following you closely ever since. So I'm excited to talk to you about your, about your goals. So can you first tell us sort of how you spend your days and where readers can find you? HS: I am at the Chicago Tribune as a full time staff columnist. I write five days a week on ChicagoTribune.com, the digital version of the newspaper and then you'll find me in the Sunday print edition and the life and style section and the Wednesday print edition in health and family. HS:Those are sort of the two guaranteed print appearances now throughout the week I might here and there show up in arts and entertainment or metro or the Op Ed page, but I'm consistently on the website five, five days a week and then in print at least two days a week. I’m on twitter of course @heidistevens13, I'm on Facebook. I'm a pretty pretty big fan and avid user of social media because I feel like it keeps me really connected to readers and stories and just kind of what people are talking about in that moment. JAC: And you have been at the tribune since 1998, is that right? HS: I have, I’ve been here forever and ever and ever in journalism years. That’s, like, centuries. Yeah, I started here as a 23 year old intern, it was a year long internship and when it ended they hired me on full time and I never left, so I've done a little bit of everything from like page design to working over in the paste up room when we used to have one at our printing plants and then freedom center to copy editing. HS:I ran a section for awhile called on the town and the column that I write now has been my favorite gig. I've been doing this for five years but. But yeah, at the trip for 20. JAC: And before we jump into the first big question, I guess we should pay off the hair incident. So about three years ago and I'm sure that you're not sick at all of answering questions related to this. HS: I’m actually not. I promise. JAC: Good. Because I never tire of telling people why I love you and this is why. About three years ago, I know I caught wind of you because a certain photo of you went viral. Can you take it from there? HS:Oh sure. Yeah, I had a column photo. You know all columnists at the Tribune have their photos run with their reports, with their columns. I had one that was apparently not at all controversial. I really never heard much at all about how I looked in it, so I don’t know if people thought I looked good or bad or just not remarkable enough to decide. We all as a staff got new column photos. My hair was shorter in my second column photo, it was, I don't know, like beach wavy curls is how I would have described it on a positive note. That’s what I was going for anyway and I mean the hate mail like just started flooding in about how awful I looked in this photo, I had this terrible hair. I looked like I rolled out of bed and came to work and I looked like a messy greasy tramp and you know, what sort of pride did I have in my appearance that I would dare to come to work looking like that, let alone have my photo taken looking like that. HS:There was just a whole bunch of hate mail from men, from women, from young people, from old people. And I, you know, I, I started asking some other columnists, it's like, do you ever get hate mail about your hair? And to a one, all the women said, oh, sure, yeah, all the time. And all the men said, uh, no. Uh, no. Chris Borelli, a columnist, a features report here at the Tribune who had his photo in the paper for awhile, said, he had a baseball cap on, in his photo. He said, sometimes I get people telling me I should wear a Cubs hat instead of a Red Sox hat, but that's about it. Mary Schmich, you know, Pulitzer Prize winning columnist. Said, oh, that's the majority of my mail is for sure about my hair. So then I was like, you know, I'm going to go ahead and write about this because I think that's interesting. HS:I interviewed like a gender studies professor at DePaul about, you know, just what our hair kind of represents in this culture sort of appearance-obsessed culture. And I thought she had interesting stuff to say about it. So I wrote a column about it and that just sort of took on a life of its own and I, you know, I got interviewed by Huffington Post and the New York Daily News and today.com and I was on TV and I was on the radio and everybody wanted to talk about this hair hate mail and in a way, you know, and you even made reference to it like, you know, it seems like something you'd quickly grow tired of or find to be a little frivolous. It has been fascinating to me, I would say even three years later, mostly because of what different people bring to that conversation. So somebody might feel ostracized or othered to rely on a little bit of a cliché because of their skin color or because of the shape of their body or the way their, the way they choose to dress or the way they present their gender. HS:You know, there are just a million different ways in which people feel judged and written off based on the way they look. And so all of those sorts of conversations were coming up from, from readers that I was hearing from and callers and so I just found it to be kind of endlessly interesting to talk about and I was grateful that the Tribune let me kind of go there, about something as seemingly trivial as hair. I still get the, I still got the notes. I still have readers who like literally take the time to cut out my photo. I have a new photo now, it's not that same one, but it's sort of now I've sort of become, you know, the one with the hair so people will cut my photo out and send it to me, get a haircut, you know, why can't you do your hair like Ask Amy? A lot of advice. JAC:Well, isn't that nice of them? HS: It's so nice. I know to take the time out of their busy lives. JAC: Well I know, I know that you, you write about so many things from parenting from a feminist perspective to just commentary on what's happening in the world. But I want to get to your goals and how they've come to life to before I go too off track about hair and my feelings on it. So can you tell me about a big goal that you've accomplished and how you got there? HS: Yeah, for sure. I, you know, I would say that having, having a column at the Chicago Tribune has been a goal of mine since college and I've always loved to tell stories, you know, true stories, either my own or other people's. That's what I wanted to do more than anything. HS:When I decided to pursue journalism. At the same time I found myself really called, I would say in my mid- to late thirties really called to help other people and women especially feel less alone in whatever they were going through. And at the time I was going through, you know, I went through a divorce, single mom with two little kids and I'm trying to work full time and pursue this career that I loved and felt lucky to have and live in this crazy city that I love but can sometimes feel a little broken. Navigate the Chicago public school system, just a lot of things that can seem a little daunting to go through and I was going through all of them at once and my editor at the time, thank goodness said, you know, why don't you write about that once a week in a column? And I started to, and it was kind of this perfect marriage of two goals which, you know, were to tell stories, mine and other people's. HS:And make people feel less alone by telling those stories and, and so that's kind of both my mission and my goal I guess if those aren't exactly the thing. JAC: And what's interesting as I read your columns, there are a few that sort of stick out to me. I don't have kids, but I know that you have two children and a stepchild and when I read the columns you write about being a mom or even the one you wrote on your birthday. I feel like I'm experiencing a piece of parenting that's almost like, I feel jealous to put it in the best way. I feel like you’re savoring parenting in this way that I don't think I could fathom unless I read your column and it's so interesting to me even what you just wrote about going on the road trip with your son. So do you see it from that perspective? HS:Well, first of all, thank you so much. That's just a beautiful thing to say. Second, you know, yeah, I, a lot of people who I hear from are not parents or they're done with the kind of day to day work of parenting, their kids are grown or you know. But, but not, not everyone who writes me about my parents had columns in the thick of it the way I am, kids 8, 12 and 17. My stepson’s 17. And I just think that, you know, there's a lot of commonality in the way I kind of struggled to find the best way to relate to my kids that's not so different from the way we all struggle or take joy from or you know, find meaning in the relationships we have with our partners and our siblings and our dearest friends and our parents. And I just think, you know, there's, there's a way of relating to other people that really makes life rich and worth living and for some people that's kids and for some people it's not. HS:And, and still we all, we all want to feel a connection to other humans, you know? And so I don’t know, I hope that when I'm writing about some of my adventures and fears and triumphs with my kids, people can see themselves in those adventures and, and trials and triumphs—is there a plural for triumphs? Triumphs? That’s a hard word to say. You know, in their own lives with, with other, with other humans that aren't necessarily children. Yeah. JAC: And what I love is now, even though you're totally opening—I’m sure you're not opening your life up totally, but you are revealing these sort of raw moments, your divorce, moments with your children and people look to you for advice. I know I saw you on a local TV show here in Chicago after the most recent school shooting and people look to you for those moments to just sort of see what another parent is thinking, and what they're counseling their kids to do. Do you feel like you're an expert? HS: Yeah, that's such a good question. I, you know, I always shy away from that title because I'm like, ah, I don't have any sort of particular degree or license in anything that would make me qualified to give out child psychology level advice. I think I'm happy, willing and happy to talk about what I try, what I've read, what I've tried, what has worked, what hasn't worked. I'm equally, if not more willing to say here's this thing I tried that really spectacularly failed, including, you know, my first marriage. I just, I don't see any. I suppose it’s naive to say I don't see any stigma. I don't think there should be any stigma. I would prefer to push back against the stigma in you know, trying something and having a network when that comes to parenting, working out, marriage, you name it. You know, try it and if it doesn't work, try a different way. HS:And so I'm always happy to say here's the thing I just read about it in a book by so and so, and maybe you could try that. Or here's a thing that occurred to me the last time, one of my kids was going through that and here's what I tried and here's how that went. And so I, you know, I very much hope to position myself as somebody who's sort of down in the trenches trying this stuff with you rather than handing advice down to you. Does that make sense? JAC: Absolutely. And I think that's why you're so approachable and why I think I gravitate towards your writing is because when I read it, I feel like I could one day had children or I could one day navigate these, these hurdles that everyone faces. And that's, that's honestly why I wanted to talk to you. HS: Well thank you. HAC:So let's talk about the future. Is there a big goal that you want to accomplish in the future and how do you plan to get there? HS: Yeah, I, you know, I really want to write books. I think that's, that's a pursuit. I would really enjoy doing, the physical writing of it and I also just love the idea of reaching a totally different audience, not necessarily a newspaper reading or website reading audience. And then engaging in a dialogue with that audience. I mean that, that to me is half the fun of this work is hearing from the people who have read something and then getting their questions or even their criticism. I just, I like that dialogue. I like hearing what, what you related to and what you couldn't at all relate to and I think that would be really fun on a book tour or you know, long after the book is released and people are, you know, hopefully buying and reading it. HS:You don't want to write a book that no one reads. You know, to be able to share my stories and stories of, of people who I've been inspired by and learned from. Um, and a book is something I, I really hope to do. How am I getting there? That's a great question. I have a little word document file on my laptop that I, you know, go to and jot down notes. And, you know, I have sort of a loose introduction to a book and I'm at this point, I'm in the note taking phase, that note-taking phase might last a decade. I, you know, I don't know, I, I have a pretty, pretty specific way that I want to parent my kids and that requires me to be around and present with them a lot. And I, you know, I just don't, I don't want to hole myself up in my room and write while they're 8 and 12] and want me around and want to play with me in the basement and want me to come to all their lessons and I want to do that stuff. HS:So, so I don't think it's something I'm going to get to in the next couple years because my kids, they're just the ages that, you know, they need, they need me around a lot. They want me around a lot and I want to be there. But down the road I think I'll collect all those notes and all these life experiences and put them in a book, you know. And it's um, well it's a balancing act to quote the name of my column. To decide what is fair game for me to write about and what is not fair game in terms of like, you know, my kids’ experiences and their right to a private life and, and, and it's not so much like, oh, what stories should I tell and not tell about them because I think I have a pretty good sense of that already. I don’t—I don't tell anything about them. I don't write anything about them that I wouldn't say out loud in front of them to like company in our kitchen, you know what I mean? HS:I'm not telling stories about bed wetting or crushes or puberty year things that they would be like, oh my God, how could you. I would never do that to them. But there are stories about my first marriage, about dating as a single mom about, you know, things like that, that, that feel very much like my stories. But, but once they're out there for people to read, you know, then there are also stories about June and Will's mom and, and so that's a, that's a tricky thing to navigate and I want to make sure I do that well. And that means not doing it like rushed, you know. JAC: So I, I know that I read, I've read several column in which you've mentioned your ex husband, the two of you are co parenting, correct? HS: Um, to a degree. Yeah. I mean he, yeah, he lives in Valparaiso, Indiana. So he's two hours away. It makes the day to day co parenting. Not really possible. He doesn't, he's not, he's not around physically to co-parent, but we share custody of them, and you know, talk through decisions and stuff like that. JAC: And as, and as you write about him in that divorce, is that something that you're sort of comfortable sharing or are there sort of boundaries that you don't cross it with that? HS: Yeah, there are mostly because I'm really protective of my kids’ relationship with him, you know. I just, I want them to have the opportunity to develop their own relationship with their dad that's not colored by something I've written about him or said about him in public. I don't ever want them to feel like they have to choose which parent to be loyal to. I just sort of, I don't say much about my relationship with him other than kind of the broadest terms that the kids already know. HS:You know, that we, we struggled on division of labor at home, it always felt a little—more than a little, awfully unfair to me. My kids know that, so I'm happy to say that. And I like his new wife a lot. I've written about that. That is something that I think people should feel like they have permission to do and to talk about, you know, liking their ex's new partner. I think that if you can work on doing that, it's really good for your kids. So I’m happy to talk about that. I just, yeah, I just haven't felt like it's right to bash him or, or going to a whole lot of detail about, you know, what, what drove me to end that marriage for, you know, for my kids’ sake. JAC: So in lieu of advice. So if someone were to ask you what is one question you should ask someone who is going through a divorce, what piece of advice would you give to them? HS:So, so your friend is going through a divorce, what should you say to them? JAC: Yeah, because I feel like people struggle with how to have conversation with someone who's going through a hard time, whether that's divorced or whether that's losing a parent. And when, when people say nothing, it can often just still feel like they're alone. You're, you're sort of sharing your story and people are feeling less alone through you sharing, but how can I help my friend or what can I talk to my friend about who is going through a divorce for example? HS: Yeah, that's such a good question. I remember when I was first starting to open up to a couple of friends, you know, I did that thing that a lot of us do for a long time where I put, you know, a really happy face on it. Or, it wasn’t a really happy face—I tried to make it look really happy. A false happy face on and everything and I wasn't talking to anybody about what I was struggling with. HS:And then once I started I had a few friends who would sort of talk me out of what I was saying I was feeling or sort of try to make it seem not that bad. Well, like I'm sure what he meant was blah blah blah. And it took a friend of mine who was just really candid to say like, you know, this is bullshit, you know, you deserve better than this. And it's hard to know what your friend needs or wants to hear. I'm a big fan of asking really directly. Do you want me to listen right now or do you want me to try to coach you right now? That's like one of those management books things, but I think it's really good advice in a friendship, in any relationship really to let, to be clear about what the person wants. Do they just want a sounding board? Do they just want someone to listen and commiserate? Or do they want someone to offer them some advice and some real steps to take. HS:So I liked, I liked doing that and conversations like, Hey, do you want, do you want me to just sit here and listen or do or do you want me to kind of coach. You tell me I'm happy to do the thing you need right now. I don't think that comes across as really like contrived or phony. Especially if you mean it. And then I would say the second thing is to not, not receive it like terrible news. I mean, if someone's presenting it to you as terrible news, like I'm devastated, my husband called off the marriage or I'm devastated this is happening, you know? I don't think it's OK to say like, that's not devastating. That's wonderful. But I think if you, if you haven't been given the very clear signal from your friend, that this is a terrible thing, don't assume it is. I mean, I wrote about this, but when I went to Chase the bank one day to get a cashier's check for a closing, I was selling the townhouse we lived on together. HS:The nice little person handling the cashier's check said, oh, are you moving? And I said, yeah. And she said, you’re moving to the suburbs? And I said, no, I'm getting divorced. And she was like, oh, congratulations. And I was like, wow, I haven't had someone say congratulations to me before. And she was like, well, it usually means a better life is ahead. And I was like, oh my God, I loved that. Maybe other people wouldn't. But I loved it because a better life very much was ahead for me. And even if I didn't know it in that moment, it really helps to hear someone believe that and say that out loud to me. So I think to not spin it as like, wow, this is the worst thing that could ever happen to a person. I'm so sorry for you to not have that kind of, you know, in the air is good, you know, to, to be able to say like, I think this, this could end up being really good for you. HS:This is probably going to bring some peace into your life that you haven't had for a while or, or maybe this is a chance to feel like your life is a little bit more like authentic or a little bit more yours. I think a lot of, I think a lot of good can come from divorce. I mean that's kind of a controversial thing to say. I wouldn't like you go around trying to cause divorces, but I don't, I don't think they're universally, you know, a terrible, terrible thing for someone to go through. I think, I think it can be the beginning of a better life. Like that woman at Chase told me. JAC: That’s, I actually spit out a little bit of water as you expressed that because it was so surprising, but the sentiment is really lovely. So I guess as as we wrap this up, is there anything that you've sort of learned over the years with Balancing Act that you could condense into a parting phrase? HS: A parting phrase. I would say shut up and listen is that good? I think in almost every one of my relationships when I've learned to shut up and listen, the relationship has improved and I've improved and I've become a better person, a more understanding person, a more empathic person by listening to other people instead of kind of waiting my turn to talk and you know, that's what you want is to go through life, always getting you know, a little bit better at it. JAC:That's wonderful. I'm so happy that I got the chance to chat with you and I'm excited to see what that book turns into and to continue reading your column. Thank you for joining me, Heidi Stevens. HS: It was my pleasure. Thanks so much for having me. CK:This podcast was produced by me, Cindy Kuzma, and it's another thing that's better with friends, so please share it with yours. You can subscribe wherever you get your podcasts, and if you get a chance to leave us a rating or review, we would really appreciate it. Special thanks to J. Mano for our theme music; to our guest this week, Heidi Stevens; and to TechNexus for the recording studio.
Las letras son tomadas de un famoso essay, escrito en 1997 por Mary Schmich, columnista del Chicago Tribune. Luego se convirtio en un famoso video viral en Youtube. #sunscreenspeech #Spanish #graduados #graduates #consejos #advise #life #lessons #lecciones #escritora #buenconsejo
Episode 23: One of my biggest things to preach to anyone who will listen is the value of sunscreen and protecting your skin. Since the weather is turning around and we are all heading outside, I thought I would throw a quick sermon on sunscreen! Oh joy! Notable links: Mary Schmich’s excellent article: http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/columnists/chi-schmich-sunscreen-column-column.html “Everyone is … Continue reading 023 Wear Sunscreen →
On a beautiful summer afternoon, Mary Schmich and I sat near the top of Tribune Tower and talked about her life in journalism:Mary’s discovery, at an early age, that you could have fun with words (“Fuse confusion”). Her memories of working at the LA Times, where she worked on a typewriter in the fog of cigarette smoke and learned to write for newspapers by going through copy sheets. Why she believes being a journalist is being “in the business of connecting people to each other.”We talk about returning to the South, where she grew up, as a Tribune national correspondent, her time covering Jim Bakker’s trial and Tammy Fay Bakker, and her earliest days writing a column in Orlando. “Never be afraid to look stupid.” A fun talk with a great newswoman.
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