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Rebecca Zahler hosts the pop culture-meets-pussy power podcast. Sex-positve social anthropology. Dismantling the patriarchy + collecting dick pics. Feminist AF. Email: dontwasteyourpretty@gmail.com Twitter: @wastedprettypod Instagram: @dontwasteyourpretty_ Produced by: Angie Vroom Artwork by: Krys…

Rebecca Zahler


    • Oct 30, 2019 LATEST EPISODE
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    The Veil is Thin w/ Candace Marie Looft

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2019 53:17


    It’s All Hallow’s Eve, Mercury is going into retrograde, and California is on fire so thank the stars we have astrologer Candace Marie Looft here to put it all in perspective! She’s got serious thoughts about Instagram astrology and spiritual capitalism plus insights into Beyoncé’s star chart and a horoscope for the United States as a whole. Plus, how can we use spiritual and metaphysical practices to understand chaotic times (and still maintain a healthy skepticism) and what can his horoscope tell us about the President’s mental breakdown?   Candace: Website: http://www.beyondtheveiltarot.com   Insta: https://www.instagram.com/p/B4K9PsvFAbF/   twitter: https://twitter.com/beyondtheveil__

    WITCH HUNT!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2019 34:35


    It’s the witching season and we’re celebrating by going deep into the history of witches and the church and state-inflicted terrors of centuries of witch hunting and witch trials! From the  Inquisition to Salem to the unhinged claims of the President today- spoiler! one of these things is not like the others!- what seems like ancient history has direct effects on our lives today. We’ve got ideas about what it means to be the daughters of the women they didn’t burn...

    Red Flags w/ Jessie Lee Kelly

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2019 38:54


    Emotional abuse is scarily common in intimate relationships, but it can be so hard to recognize. Actress Jessie Lee Kelly join us to talk about red flags in dating, what emotional abuse looks and feels like, why so many women stay, and how to set boundaries and break patterns.    If you recognize signs of abuse or need help, you’re not alone!   Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/   Break the Cycle: https://www.breakthecycle.org   Jessie on insta: @jessieleekelly

    Domestic Labor

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 35:45


    Domestic labor- traditionally feminine and unpaid or undervalued-  has increased even as other markers of gender-based equality have (slowly) improved in the United States. Why is this? Why do gender roles and expectations persist so strongly in cis-het households, and for single women? And what are the individual and systemic ways we can work toward more equality? We’re breaking down the ways we fall into the time suck of domestic labor and how we can value and divide it differently.   Find out how much your domestic labor is worth! https://qz.com/work/1083411/this-calculator-makes-the-unpaid-work-women-do-visible/

    The Vagina Bible

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2019 63:08


    This week we’re turning to our bible- The Vagina Bible! Dr. Jen Gunter has written a must-have encyclopedia of all things vagina-related- from basic anatomy to the myths and misinformation that are still common, and how education and science can be a source of empowerment and more pleasure for anyone with a vagina!   https://twitter.com/DrJenGunter   https://drjengunter.com   https://www.nlm.nih.gov/portals/public.html#find

    Untouchable

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2019 36:21


    It’s been almost two years since sexual assault allegations against Harvey Weinstein incited the cultural reckoning of the #metoo movement. Ursula Macfarlane’s documentary Untouchable (streaming on Hulu) and Jodi Kantor and Meghan Tuohey’s new book She Said both provide new information and context on the Weinstein story and what it reveals about patriarchy and power. We’re talking about both this week-  wondering what’s changed in the last two years, whether we’ll see consequences, and why cancel culture isn’t a thing. 

    Teach & Transform w/ Liz Kleinrock

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2019 40:58


    Social justice and anti-bias educator Liz Kleinrock is a star in the progressive education movement. She joins us to talk about how she approaches working with elementary age kids to understand and confront racism and misogyny— and how to deal with adults who think she’s going too far. From her childhood as a Korean adoptee raised by white parents to going viral teaching kids about consent during the Kavanaugh hearings Liz has deep knowledge and practical tips about how to learn the language that helps all of us understand the complexities of identity and power in a system of founded on oppression. Plus, deep thoughts on #FreeBritney!    Liz’s TED Talk https://youtu.be/G9-urSR19SI https://www.teachandtransform.org/ @teachandtransform   Consent story: https://www.google.com/amp/s/beta.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2018/10/10/can-i-give-you-a-big-big-hug-third-grade-class-in-l-a-learns-all-about-consent/%3foutputType=amp   Other resources: https://www.tolerance.org/ https://www.theconsciouskid.org/

    The Shame Cycle w/ Amy K. Harmon

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2019 48:26


    Actor, director and sommelier, Amy K Harmon joins us for a wide reaching conversation on the glam world of wine and the not-so-glam reality of gender dynamics in the restaurant world and also gets personal about her experiences living with eating disorders and the lifelong process of recovery. We talk about vocal code switching and why diet culture is a tool of the patriarchy. And of course Amy has some hot wine tips and trends!

    Good Trouble w/ Nicole Lynn Evans

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2019 34:26


    This week Nicole Lynn Evans, currently on Freeform’s Good Trouble, is here to talk about the powerful experience of working on one of television’s most inclusive shows. As an actor, writer, and activist Nicole shares her experiences and insights about living in the world as a person with a disability, the day to day reality of a world saturated with ableism and why true representation- from writers rooms to Halloween costumes- makes all of our lives richer.   Wheelchair Mission: https://www.freewheelchairmission.org/

    The Real Princesses of Dubai

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2019 38:22


    This week we’re stepping beyond the glossy surface and extreme wealth of Dubai to uncover the gilded cage reality and extreme escapes of two of its royal princesses- Latifah and Heya. What’s the reality for women in one of the wealthiest countries in the world? How are luxury amenities and social media messaging used to manipulate global relationships? What does oil and climate justice have to do with the fight for gender equity? And how is that the men in charge of it all, whether white and Christian or Arab and Islamic, seem to have so many shared ideas about how women should be controlled?    https://www.amnesty.org/en/countries/middle-east-and-north-africa/united-arab-emirates/

    Handmaid of the Patriarchy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2019 54:14


    It’s hotter than a fresh NXIUM brand outside and we’re here to melt your minds with a deep dive into the world of cults and the (mostly short) men who run them. As we approach  the 50th anniversary of the Manson murders we want to know what still drives so many women to cult life, why does LA breed so many cults and whether Keith Ranniere is Charles Manson’s long lost son. From the Manson family to NXIUM to Tony Robbins to Landmark to MAGA we break down how they perpetuate patriarchy and try to make sense of our own cultish tendencies. 

    #squadgoals

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2019 42:14


    The full moon, fascism, and our own bleeding bodies have us all fired up for a recap of the weeks highs (jk there’s only one and it’s most-important-film-of-the-year Midsommar!) and lows- so much racism! We’ve got a rundown on the week’s news— from the president’s hate rallies and war-mongering to his connections to Jeffrey Epstein-- and why it matters that we keep paying attention so we can figure out how to fight back. Also, watch out for farmers market hippies and was Hitler a vegetarian?

    Jeffrey Epstein & The Nature of The Patriarchy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2019 40:02


    This week we’re covering the Jeffrey Epstein story and what it reveals about the monstrous men who control the world. We reminisce about our own questionable teenage years and break down the history of the Epstein case, his connections to some of the world’s most powerful men, and how we can fight back against the violence of the patriarchy. Plus a little self-care distraction from the sexual reality dystopia of Love Island!

    The Myth of The Fourth of July

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2019 21:16


    It’s the 4th of July and the revolutionary vibes are real! In honor of the holiday we’re breaking down the complicated mythology of the United States and how a more honest understanding of history can help us better fight inequality and injustice now. Plus, we finally found the first male voice worthy of featuring on the show!      Donate:  http://raicestexas.org/ http://alotrolado.org/   Fight back: https://indivisible.org/ https://resist.bot/

    Jenacide w/ Jena Friedman

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2019 52:36


    Jena Friedman, comedian, writer and host/creator of Adult Swim’s Soft Focus is our guest this week and together we’re trying to figure out how to use our free speech to fight fascism before it’s too late! Jena regales us with tales of getting Republicans fired while working on the Daily Show and her summer camp cult leader tendencies. Plus aliens, trench foot and making peace with Elizabeth Warren’s Republican past.Stream Soft Focus:    Watch Jena https://www.adultswim.com/videos/soft-focus-with-jena-friedman/soft-focus-with-jena-friedman-2 Listen to The Indignities of Being a Woman https://www.amazon.com/Indignities-Being-Woman/dp/B07GDRX9B2

    Murder Shows

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2019 34:10


    What is it about true crime shows that’s so addictive and why are so many women hooked? Why do some people find serial killers sexy? Can watching Dateline help us find catharsis and comfort in a world of violent patriarchy? We’re trying to understand why we love murder stories and how they prepare us for and distract us from the realities of the world. Plus, we’re both bleeding, are you???

    When They See Us

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2019 36:50


    This week we’re covering Ava DuVernay’s Netflix mini-series When They See Us and the legacy of the wrongfully accused Central Park Five. From the history of white women making false accusations against Black men to the dehumanizing language used by the press (and the current president) we want more white people to wake up to the reality of the racist carceral state, how it continues, and why we should all be prison abolitionists.    - Get educated about prison abolition with Mariame Kaba interviewed by Chris Hayes: https://www.innocenceproject.org/ (and follow her on Twitter @prisonculture) - Support the wrongfully accused: https://innocencenetwork.org/about/

    xoxo, Gossip Girl

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2019 29:33


    Pssst! This week is all about gossip- the secrets we share and who and what we talk about when no one else is around. We want to know why gossip is considered something women do and if so, what exactly are men spending time talking about? When is gossip harmful and how does it keep us safe and connected? Is it possible that gossip is part of what got us the terrible president we have and maybe just maybe can it save us from him and all the awfulness he embodies? Or are we JUST BITCHING? 

    ...But His Bed Is On The Floor w/ Lindsay Stidham

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2019 52:31


    This week Lindsay Stidham, filmmaker and feminist extraordinaire is back for a round up of some of the major recent events in life in the patriarchy. From dating in LA to supporting migrants in Tijuana, and emotional labor in relationships to the role unconscious bias plays when we talk about our 2020 election faves— get ready because we’ve got a little wine, a lot of feelings, and a slumber party game or two... 

    The Illusion of Choice

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2019 26:05


    Does the color pink cost more? This week we take a quick but deep look at the Pink Tax- the name given to the fact that products marketed to women are priced on average 7% higher than those for men. From haircuts to birth control to tampons we look at the specific ways women pay more and how we can fight back. https://www.thecut.com/2019/04/new-study-reveals-how-kavanaugh-hearings-changed-americans.html https://www.amazon.com/BIC-Fashion-Retractable-Assorted-Fashion-FHAP21-ASST/dp/B005YGLA5Y https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nXR7MvMXTxk   Find us on social media: Twitter: @wastedprettypod Instagram: @dontwasteurpretty Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dontwasteyourprettypod/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/dwyp Email us: dontwasteyourpretty@gmail.com        

    Back Pages w/ Rebecca Leib

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2019 34:01


    This week it’s a special “after dark” episode with Rebecca Leib, a writer, comedian and host of the podcast Ghost Town. Rebecca is about to go on a third date and we’re harnessing that sexual energy to talk about revolution! We’ve got tales of learning to shoot and hunting D in the Alaskan wilderness and dirty talk tips from Rebecca’s time as a phone sex operator. Plus, theories about what a reality show president says about the rest of us! Ghost Town Podcast https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/exknvj/are-some-kinds-of-sex-work-better-than-others

    I Thought It Was Just Me w/ Erynn Brook

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2019 46:28


    Our twitter crush Erynn Brook is back to talk about neurodivergence and what it’s like to have ADHD as a woman. From feeling like a messy person or a failure to experiencing anxiety and depression- how does ADHD present differently than the stereotype of the hyperactive child? Why are women under-diagnosed compared to men? How does the data gap make the world more dangerous for women? And what can we do to change it. As usual Erynn has brilliant strategies...    www.ErynnBrook.com 

    The Inventor

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2019 42:25


    This week we’re covering the saga of medical tech scammer Elizabeth Holmes and HBO's new documentary The Inventor. From Holmes’ bizarre falsely lowered voice to the genius of her black turtleneck uniform we break down the ways this maybe-sociopath manipulated the already corrupt system of Silicon Valley and raised-  then lost - 9 billion dollars. Plus why was every evil white man of the last 50 years on the Theranos board of directors? Why are billionaire investors so gullible? And what would your uniform be?   Background Reading:   https://www.vanityfair.com/news/2019/02/inside-elizabeth-holmess-final-months-at-theranos   https://www.vanityfair.com/news/2019/02/as-theranos-burned-elizabeth-holmes-was-partyingat-burning-man

    Soft Power

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2019 37:08


    This week we’re talking about soft power and a few of the women who wield it- from this week's college admissions scandal to media powerbroker/matchmaker-to-the stars (and rumored Putin girlfriend) Wendi Deng Murdoch, to the mysterious past of Melania Trump. What’s the difference between sleeping your way to the top as a high-level escort, and parleying your business relationship into the billionaire’s second wives club? What about building Yale a library so your C-student can join Skull and Bones versus paying someone to photoshop your instagram influencer club kid’s face onto an elite water polo player’s body to get a recruitment spot at Stanford? We have theories.   Wanna read all the gossip on Wendi? https://splinternews.com/meet-wendi-deng-the-evil-genius-who-hangs-with-ivanka-1793861207   https://gawker.com/5926705/it-was-like-a-war-zone-a-former-nanny-for-rupert-murdoch-and-wendi-deng-speaks-out   https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2014/03/wendi-deng-note-tony-blair

    Leaving Neverland

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2019 33:06


    This week we're covering HBO's new documentary Finding Neverland, and it's depiction of the phenomenon of Michal Jackson and his pattern of sexually abusing young boys. Hearing his accusers stories reveals the way abusers groom victims and entire families and illuminates the patterns that we should all be paying attention to and talking about to prevent more victims throughout society. Plus, a follow-up to the R Kelly story and why we have to stop giving platforms to abusers.  CONTENT WARNING: Child sex abuse, Michael Jackson, R Kelly  Need Help?  https://1in6.org/ https://ww.rainn.org/

    Because We're Witches w/ Stasha Washburn

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2019 63:29


    The Period Coach Stasha Washburn is back to talk all things bloody and body related- helping us understand  the dynamics of the fertility cycle and how to use each phase to our advantage. We talk about weed creams, food therapy, and using devices like Livia to zap period pain  and how to get to the root issue of confronting menstrual stigma and the ways the patriarchy uses body to oppress women. Plus we wonder about Meghan Markle and royal tampons…   Help girls in the developing world get access to menstrual products: https://www.daysforgirls.org/     Connect with Stasha: theperiodcoach.com facebook.com/stashawashburn

    Nevertheless w/ Heather Arnett & Tanya Chianese

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2019 39:29


    This week we’re talking about transforming street harassment into radical art with choreographer Tanya Chianese and the creator of Cat Call Choir, Heather Arnett. We talk about real life experiences with street harassment, how we deal with it, and how they’re using music and dance to confront these dynamics. Plus, find out which 2020 Presidential candidate sent them fan mail! Throughout the show you’ll hear pieces of their original compositions and if you’re in the Bay Area you can check out the full piece, Nevertheless, March 7-10- tickets: http://www.zspace.org/nevertheless?spektrix_bounce=true   https://www.kaneisee.org/ https://www.catcallchoir.com/ https://www.instagram.com/catcallchoir/ https://www.instagram.com/kaneisee/?hl=en

    This Is Plan B w/ Dixie Perkinson

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2019 55:09


    One of our favorite funny ladies, actor/writer Dixie Perkinson joins us this week to talk about freezing her eggs and freeing herself (and her career) from the pressure of a ticking biological clock! We get into the nitty gritty of the process- from dildo cameras to self-injections to cost- while considering the culture of shame and fear around fertility and the choice to have kids or not. Plus, vasectomies, cupping, psychics and other under-appreciated approaches to living one's best life! Dixie's blog: https://www.eatmyprune.com

    Surviving R Kelly w/ Lavetta Cannon

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2019 52:16


    Friend of the pod/ host of Notorious Women Podcast Lavetta Cannon is here to go deep into Surviving R Kelly and what we’ve learned about hip hop’s biggest predator. We talk about how young girls— especially young Black girls—  are over-sexualized and the ways predators take advantage and are enabled when they’re also considered creative geniuses. How do men like this get away with so much for so long? How does internalized misogyny play a role? How can we all do better by believing victims and once and for all #muteRKelly? https://www.muterkelly.org http://www.erynnbrook.com/stockholm-syndrome-emotional-abuse-part-i/ http://www.erynnbrook.com/stockholm-syndrome-emotional-abuse-part-ii/  

    A Minority Among Minorities w/ Shaina Ghuraya & Nicole Evans

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2019 49:26


    This week filmmaker Shaina Ghuraya and actress Nicole Evans talk about navigating the world as a person with physical disabilities. Often overlooked by both the mainstream and in activist circles- people with disabilities are the only marginalized group which any of us could join at any time via accident, illness, or aging. We talk about the prevalence of ableism, Mattel’s failed attempt to introduce a Barbie with a disability, and all the reasons representation matters.

    The Feminist Bride w/ Katrina Majkut

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2018 42:07


    Did you know that it’s not just THE HOLIDAYS?? It’s also ENGAGEMENT SEASON and there’s no better way to celebrate than breaking down the patriarchal roots of our western wedding traditions with author of The Feminist Bride, writer/artist Katrina Majkut. From Disney dreams and ring fantasies to dowries and 90 Day Fiancé, we’re breaking down the marriage industrial complex and trying to figure out how to make more meaningful rituals (and avoid having garters removed in front of creepy uncles!).   Read Katrina’s book! https://katrinamajkut.format.com/5022355-book https://www.indiebound.org/search/book?keys=Katrina+Majkut

    Not Just Words w/ Sarey Ruden

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2018 42:22


    This week artist and graphic designer Sarey Ruden talks with us about turning the shocking-but-casual misogyny of online dating messaging into subversive, sexy art. From the early days of JDate to omnipresent swipe culture we get into the blurred lines of online and IRL, white men being radicalized on Reddit, and the questionable aesthetics of a dick pic.    Check out Sarey’s work : https://www.etsy.com/shop/Sareytales   Submit to Sarey:  Insta @sareytales  sareytales@gmail.com

    Keep Calm & Carry On w/ Nathalie Antonia

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2018 54:46


    It’s Mental Health Awareness Month and we’re celebrating with our favorite British babe Nathalie Antonia! We talk about what depression feels like, how we cope at different times, what tools we use to treat the issues we deal with, and how we can practice caring for ourselves and the people in our lives. Content warning: mental health issues, depression, suicide, suicidal thoughts Need help? In the US: https://www.nami.org/ If you’re in a crisis call 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or text NAMI to 741-741 In the UK: https://www.headstogether.org.uk/ For urgent help call Samaritans: 116 123

    Power & Privilege

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2018 51:05


    Supreme Court nominees have the potential to shape the laws of the country for decades and should have the most impressive judicial/academic/life records and yet somehow a frat boy sexual assaulter who can’t look at a calendar without crying is about to be confirmed because he will surely repeal Roe v Wade! How did we get here? We’re going in on Brett/Bart Kavanaugh, the world of power and privilege he represents, and how we can keep fighting back.  Plus, can someone call Millie Bobby Brown’s parents and tell them to keep Drake away???   Attend an event tonight!  https://act.moveon.org/event/stop_kavanaugh_vigils/search/   Join an Ultraviolet action in the Capitol this week: https://act.weareultraviolet.org/survey/oct-1-5-protest-halls-us-senate/

    The Marriageable Man Story w/ Erynn Brook

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2018 45:17


    This week Twitter genius and communication guru Erynn Brook joins us to unpack the myth of the Marriageable Man- what are the socio-cultural stories men and women learn about relationships and commitment? How does this affect relationship dynamics and self-awareness (or lack of it)? Do men know about therapy? Plus, Erynn’s tips on dealing with— and maybe even transforming—  the culture of Twitter abuse. The Marriageable Man Myth thread-  https://twitter.com/ErynnBrook/status/1031669659831922689 Erynn on Twitter https://twitter.com/ErynnBrook http://www.erynnbrook.com/ https://www.nicewhiteladies.com/

    Feminist Re-Programming

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2018 48:44


    This week we’re doing some feminist re-programming— calling out damaging habits and trying to change our brains to reclaim our time and space, confront misogyny and remake the culture for more equity at every level. From saying sorry, to being a Cool Girl, to slut-shaming— what are the beliefs and behaviors we’ve internalized via living within a patriarchy? 

    August 21, 2018

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2018 31:32


    August 21, 2018 was no joke! With plea deals, guilty verdicts, and the President being named as a criminal co-conspirator- things are finally starting to feel historic in a hopeful way! We’re breaking down the latest in the Cohen and Manafort trials, trying to figure out Roger Stone and his odd relationship with the media, and getting wet for Beto O’Rourke.

    Embracing Your Weird w/ Lizzy Shapiro

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2018 31:23


    This week Lizzy Shapiro, frontwoman of the Prohibition-jazz band Lizzy and the Triggermen, talks about learning to embrace her weirdness (and love of fabulous vintage fashion) as a woman and musician— and the power of inviting audiences to lean into their weirdness too. We reminisce about some of our favorite ‘90s movies and wonder if having crushes on Dr. Phil and Tom Selleck means we have a thing for mustaches...

    Honey Trap w/ Lavetta Cannon

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2018 57:07


    This week we’re joined by Lavetta Cannon, host of the Notorious Women podcast, to talk about the newly notorious Maria Butina: darling of the NRA, Siberian huntress, and newly incarcerated target/witness in the Mueller investigation! From exchanging sex for homework help to jerking off gun nuts to dismantling democracy- we get into all the ways Putin’s Kremlin is fucking us all. Plus Happy Birthday to our real king and queen Barry Obama and Meghan Markle!

    Spirituality & Justice w/ Virginia Rosenberg

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2018 50:19


    It’s a full moon and mercury is in retrograde and the world is on fire, but Intuitive Astrologer Virginia Rosenberg is here to help us understand how astrology can provide insights and wisdom that both support our individual life experience and also motivate us to participate in the necessary work of social justice and change. Plus, is the Scorpio stigma real? What does it mean that the president is a Gemini? What can the planets and stars tell us about where we’re all headed? Also, will we be okay? https://virginiarosenberg.com/blog/2016/7/10/converting-hidden-spiritual-racism-into-sacred-activism-an-open-letter-to-spiritual-white-folks https://virginiarosenberg.com/ Insta @virginiarosenberg

    Not That Bad w/ Kara Lyne Szabadi

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2018 58:01


    CONTENT WARNING: Blunt conversation about rape, sexual assault, domestic violence.   This week we’re joined by Kara Lyne Szabadi to delve into Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, a collection of essays edited by our favorite Roxane Gay. We try to wrap our minds around rape culture- from our personal experiences on college campuses, at work and in dating to the cultural watershed moments of the 2016 election and #metoo movement. We dive into the notion that it's not just the elephant in the room, but the room itself. Why have we internalized the belief that the global epidemic of sexual violence is “not that bad?” What’s “bad enough?” Why are we SO MAD?    If you need help now:  National Sexual Assault Hotline 24 hours a day  1800-656-4673

    Patriarchy Tax

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2018 40:07


    We all know women earn less than men for the same work, but what about all the other ways the patriarchy screws us financially? From makeup to waxing to bras to birth control women spend serious money to meet the demands society makes upon women. How do we make the men pay up? What’s the cash money value of emotional labor? Also, how often should we be washing our bras???

    God is Grey w/ Brenda Marie Davies

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2018 54:02


      This week we are blessed with the presence of Brenda Marie Davies, the creator of the sex-positive Christian YouTube channel God is Grey. We discuss the political power of Christianity today, the historical roots of the Bible-based bigotry, and how to separate power-based institutions and hierarchy from deeper faith teachings. Also, why is a woman's worth based on her virginity? Was Jesus a feminist? Are we going back to the times of Eden? All will be discussed and more.    Check out God is Grey on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Xf6ScN9riYhTOUsvhkhaw

    Speaking with Intention w/ Angel Kalafatis-Russell

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2018 65:46


    Our favorite sex educator is back!  Angel Kalafatis-Russell joins us with advice on talking  to your friends about mental health and how to stick through our own individual process and healing. Also, moving beyond monogamy as default- what are some alternative relationship models? How do we make sure consent is an ongoing process?  Should we be burning the house down in response to #metoo? Lastly, Angel shares her experience with sexual assault and what she’s learning about advocating for one’s safety.  Content Warning: sexual assault and fire arms.  If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please call: 1800-273-8255

    Twin Temple w/ Alexandra James

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2018 44:59


    What the Devil is Satanic Feminism? Alexandra James, front woman of the Satanic doo-wop band Twin Temple, joins us to talk about the unholy union of Satanism and Feminism and how she brings her dark magic to the church of rock and roll. From witch hunts to sex magick and embracing the power of the outsider, Alexandra illuminates the darkness of our souls. http://twintemple.com/

    I Don't Recognize My Own Body w/ Nathalie Antonia

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2018 73:22


    Nathalie Antonia is back to bare all with us about the struggle to accept our changing, messy, imperfect bodies. From the parental and pop culture influences that shaped us early on, to our unresolved questions and issues now- this isn’t a show with easy (or any!) answers, but we know there are hard truths in getting honest about where we are right now. And we hope you’ll join us in this process of getting comfortable with the space we take up in the world, and start to shift our energy from obsessing about our bodies to fighting the patriarchy that causes that obsession in the first place.    Content warning: body talk, disordered eating, unresolved issues    Roxane Gay essay :  https://medium.com/s/unrulybodies/the-body-that-understands-what-fullness-is-f2e40c40cd75   Resources/help: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline

    Spanko w/ Melanie Zoey Weinstein

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2018 71:15


    This week we’re joined by filmmaker Melanie Zoey Weinstein to talk fetishes, bodies, and learning to communicate honestly in the art we make and the sex we want to have. Melanie discusses her new film, Spanko about a misfit teacher exploring her spanking fetish, and explains how watching Sex and the City with her mom and discovering pole-dancing were part of her process in embracing her body and fueling her fire to make feminist films. Plus, we reminisce about some of the ways we discovered sex and our individual kinks- from I Love Lucy to the dictionary to Dan Savage!   Why I Dance: https://vimeo.com/119494981 insta: @melaniezoeyyy Spanko FB: https://www.facebook.com/pg/SpankoFilm/about/

    Act Like A Girl w/ Suzee Dunn

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2018 49:00


    This week we're joining forces with Suzee Dunn of the 'Act Like A Girl' podcast to grow our patriarchy-smashing army! We talk about everything from her political awakening as a teenager in Michigan to questioning our heroes and the quest for the perfect birth control. We play the most disturbing version of Shag/Marry/Kill we could come up with: Kelly Ann Conway, Sarah Huckabee Sanders, Ivanka Trump...what would you chose? Also, which person psychically does Rebecca think sex robots should be based on?

    Clit Sit Meditation w/ Aidi Kansas

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2018 35:27


    Why do men have global permission to masturbate and women don’t? How can connecting with your clit heal your body, mind and spirit? This week we sit in bliss with creator of Clit Sit Meditation Aidi Kansas. She joins us to share the wisdom and practice she’s developed by trusting her intuition and touching her clit. From the perils of religious oppression and male spiritual leaders to developing your sixth sense and committing to your Kegels we’re getting deep into our bodies, minds, spirits and sex. 

    The Year Of Stormy

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2018 42:37


    This week is all about the Stormy of the Century- our heroine and maybe last hope of salvation from tyranny- Stormy Daniels! Beyond the tabloid headlines why does this story matter? How has Stormy’s background in adult films prepare her to take on the President? How is Michael Avenatti so sexy? And which Real Housewife was he fucking? All this and obviously a bonus Kardashian Konnection (TM)!

    Let's Have A Needle Party!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2018 49:01


    Rebecca got some needles in her face and it led us on a journey into the weird world of cosmetics, body modification, and pubic hair! From Queen Elizabeth’s lead-based “Mask of Youth"  to Botox and Mayan skull-modification to the Kardashian Kurves we get into the extreme history of trying to look hot. Plus, Ancient Egyptian wrinkle cream, Indian nose-jobs, and are all the asses in LA fake now?

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