Couply Podcast

Elaine Hoan, a researcher studying singlehood and wellbeing, discusses the trends and factors affecting singles. She explores the question of who has better sex, singles or partnered people, and explains that research suggests partnered people tend to have higher quality and more frequent sex. Elaine also highlights the rising rates of unmarried individuals and the reasons why people are choosing to stay single, including career goals and economic factors. She delves into the personality traits of singles, such as introversion, lower conscientiousness, and higher neuroticism, and emphasizes that happiness should not be the sole measure of a meaningful life. The conversation explores the cultural value of extroversion, interpreting low energy responses, not taking things personally, tips for introverted singles, meeting partners through hobbies and interests, Elaine's origin story of meeting her partner through a video game and the impact of online communities on relationships. Connect with Elaine https://twitter.com/elaine_hoan?lang=en Download Couply https://couply.page.link/podcast The best couples app to help your relationship. Couples quizzes, ask a new question every day and a long-distance mode to keep you connected. We have a TON of FREE content to help you build trust, improve communication and invest in your relationship skills. Chapters 00:00 Introductions 00:09 Researching Singles and Sex 03:19 Trends in Singleness and Wellness 04:11 Reasons for Choosing Singleness 05:29 Economic Benefits and Discrimination 07:28 Personality Types and Singleness 15:07 Personality Profile of Singles 26:33 Using Personality Traits to Navigate Singleness 28:14 The Cultural Value of Extroversion 29:00 Interpreting Low Energy Responses 30:26 Not Taking Things Personally 32:29 Tips for Introverted Singles 33:24 Meeting Partners through Hobbies and Interests 34:04 Elaine's got game: Meeting Her Partner through the League of Legends Video Game 36:47 The Impact of Online Communities on Relationships 43:44 Gender Differences in Happiness 46:24 The Emotional Intelligence Challenge for Men 54:39 The Impact of Technology and Online Communities on Singleness 59:06 Elaine's Personal Journey: Meeting a Partner through League of Legends TLDR: Takeaways Partnered people tend to have higher quality and more frequent sex compared to singles. The number of unmarried individuals is rising globally, and people are choosing to stay single for various reasons, including career goals and economic factors. Singles tend to have different personality traits, such as introversion, lower conscientiousness, and higher neuroticism, but this does not mean their lives are less meaningful. Happiness should not be the sole measure of a meaningful life, and singles can navigate their singleness by understanding their personality traits and focusing on what brings them fulfillment. Extroverted people tend to be happier in various cultures, and there is a cultural value placed on extroversion. Interpreting low energy responses from others can be challenging, but it's important not to take it personally and consider other factors. Being single does not mean there is something wrong with you, and it's important to focus on personal well-being! For introverted singles, getting involved in hobbies and interests can be a great way to meet potential partners. Technology and online communities can facilitate connections and relationships, but it's important to be cautious and maintain in-person interactions. Gender differences exist in happiness, with women generally reporting higher levels of happiness when single. Men face challenges in developing emotional intelligence and social skills, which can impact their relationships. The impact of technology on singleness is complex, with potential benefits and risks. Personal experiences of meeting partners through technology can vary, and trust and communication are crucial in online relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Aleeza Ben Shalom, a matchmaker and relationship coach, shares insights on moving from matchmaking to finding clarity in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of getting real, getting married, and staying married. Aleeza discusses the initial signs and feelings that indicate potential in a relationship, highlighting the need to look beyond immediate chemistry. She suggests focusing on shared values, aligned personalities, and the ability to handle each other's fears and quirks. Aleeza also advises setting a timeline for making a commitment and emphasizes the significance of small gestures and qualities in a partner. In this conversation, Aleeza Ben Shalom discusses the challenges of making decisions about relationships and finding a soulmate. She emphasizes the importance of soulmate clarity, which involves understanding one's values, needs, and goals, and comparing them to those of the person one is dating. Aleeza also highlights the time pressure many people feel when it comes to finding a partner and starting a family. She provides insights into deal breakers in relationships and advises accepting a partner as they are, without expecting them to change. Aleeza shares tips for maintaining a strong bond in a relationship, including playfulness, communication, and creating special moments together. She also talks about the balance between her public persona and her personal life, and the importance of prioritizing quality time with her husband. Keywords matchmaking, finding clarity, relationship, marriage, shared values, aligned personalities, fears, quirks, commitment, small gestures, relationship decisions, soulmate clarity, time pressure, deal breakers, accepting a partner, maintaining a strong bond, playfulness, communication, balance Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Aleeza Ben Shalom 01:01 Moving from matchmaking to finding clarity 01:32 Initial signs and feelings when meeting someone 03:27 Signs that indicate a potential lifelong relationship 04:39 The danger of trying to change someone 05:09 The importance of early judgments and snap decisions 06:11 The warning sign of immediate chemistry 08:44 The importance of taking time to make a decision 11:25 The different phases of a relationship 13:13 The timeline for making a decision 15:03 The scarcity of finding a compatible partner 16:23 The importance of valuing and appreciating your partner 23:44 The importance of small gems in a relationship 25:10 Creating diamonds in a relationship under pressure 27:31 Common doubts and cracks in relationships 28:58 Feeling Pressure to Make a Decision 30:35 Soulmate Clarity 32:43 The Grass is Always Greener 34:38 Deal Breakers 38:11 The Good and the Other 41:49 Black Flags and Red Flags 44:11 Keeping the Bond Strong 48:17 Balancing Fame and Relationship 52:31 What's Next for Aleeza --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Rachel and Stacey, the Decoding Couples duo, discuss common challenges in relationships, such as feeling unseen and unheard, and living in different realities. They emphasize the importance of understanding attachment styles and how they shape our relationships. They also provide insights on effective communication, including taking self-inflicted timeouts and taking responsibility for our own actions. Repairing arguments and conflicts is crucial, and they recommend owning up to our mistakes and showing genuine remorse. Listeners can follow them on Instagram and listen to their podcast, as well as explore their online course, Relationship Roadmap. Meet the Decoding Couple Duo: Youtube  @decodingcouples  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/decoding_couples/ Courses and content: https://snipfeed.co/decodingcouples Download Couply https://couply.page.link/podcast Takeaways One of the most common challenges in relationships is feeling unseen and unheard by our partner. Living in different realities can occur when there are small transgressions and a lack of repair in the relationship. Attachment styles formed in childhood greatly influence our adult relationships and can trigger positive or negative attachment patterns. Self-inflicted timeouts can be effective in managing conflicts, but it's important to communicate the intention and timeframe for the timeout. Taking responsibility for our own actions and showing genuine remorse is crucial for repairing arguments and conflicts in relationships. Keywords relationship challenges, feeling unseen and unheard, different realities, attachment styles, effective communication, self-inflicted timeouts, taking responsibility, repairing arguments, online course Chapters 00:00 Introduction 00:45 Common challenges in relationships 03:02 Steps leading to living in different realities 06:41 The role of attachment in relationships 08:04 The cycle of communication 11:25 The communication chart 13:30 Real-life examples of communication cycles 16:57 Repairing after an argument 20:23 Understanding your attachment style 23:08 Self-regulation and self-soothing 25:23 Creating timeouts in communication 30:40 Repairing after a hard conversation 32:30 Upcoming events and where to find more --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Summary In this conversation, Tim Johnson interviews Keeley Rankin, a sex and relationship coach, about male performance issues. They discuss the three main male performance struggles: premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and erectile dysfunction. Reach her here: https://www.keeleyrankin.com/ Keeley explains that early ejaculation is often caused by anxiety and teaches clients how to be present in their bodies and let arousal flow. Delayed orgasm is a complex issue related to trust, fantasy, and touch. Erectile dysfunction can be caused by performance pressure, relationship issues, or medical factors. Keeley also mentions the impact of porn use and the importance of learning what feels pleasurable. In this conversation, Keeley Rankin and Tim Johnson discuss the challenges and experiences of men with erectile dysfunction (ED) and early ejaculation. They explore the importance of communication and understanding in relationships, the impact of societal expectations and pressures, and the need for self-reflection and personal growth. Keeley shares her five-step method for addressing early ejaculation, which includes breathwork, connecting with sensations in the body, and exploring fantasies. They also touch on the role of trust and the potential impact of childhood experiences on sexual struggles. Keeley emphasizes the importance of expanding one's toolkit and finding pleasure in the entire body. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Stories 00:51 Exploring Sexuality and Overcoming Intimacy Issues 02:38 The Impact of Sex Events and Workshops 04:48 The Importance of Open Conversations about Sex 07:43 Society's Views on Sex and the Need for Education 09:11 The Desire for More Adventure in the Bedroom 10:49 Exploring Sexual Fantasies 13:59 Understanding Male Performance Issues 16:25 Causes and Solutions for Erectile Dysfunction 23:27 Causes and Solutions for Premature Ejaculation 25:47 Causes and Solutions for Delayed Ejaculation 33:33 Tips for Men and Partners Dealing with Erectile Dysfunction 35:32 Opening up the conversation about attraction and desire 36:30 The implications of not getting an erection 39:24 The five-step method for addressing early ejaculation 46:47 Sensation categories and connecting with the body 50:08 The need for new tools in sexual relationships 55:51 Trust issues and delayed ejaculation 56:47 Upcoming course and conclusion 58:27 Couply Outro - SD 480p.mp4 Keywords male performance issues, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, anxiety, trust, fantasy, touch, porn use, pleasure, erectile dysfunction, early ejaculation, communication, relationships, societal expectations, pressures, self-reflection, personal growth, breathwork, sensations, fantasies, trust, childhood experiences, pleasure. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Kiersty is a therapist and content creator. You can discover her at @Ikarus_mind on instagram and her website www.ikarusmind.com In this episode we talk about values, communication and answer some of the Couply community member questions. 00:00 Introduction and Background 00:53 Unburdening: Working with People Who Were Dying 03:55 Finding Meaning and Purpose in Life 10:08 Values and Communication 18:01 Triggers and Interpretation 26:08 Blame Cycles and Repetitive Patterns 32:56 Breaking Out of Blame Cycles 34:21 The Power of Acknowledgment, Recognition, and Action 35:23 Balancing Feelings and Actions 36:10 The Stories We Tell Ourselves 37:09 The Impact of Jealousy and Accusations 38:12 Internalizing Stories and Beliefs 39:21 The Influence of Stories on Actions 40:15 Resolving Deeply Held Patterns and Limiting Beliefs 41:37 The Impact of Limiting Beliefs on Relationships 42:20 The Power of Beliefs in Dating 43:16 Chores and Relationship Patterns 44:43 Creating Accountability and Clear Expectations 47:21 The Importance of Organization and Communication in Relationships 49:32 Choosing Your Battles and Effective Communication 51:53 Addressing Issues in a Relationship 58:49 Dealing with a Partner Who is Unwilling to Change --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist, coach, author and content creator who helps people to have the relationships they most desire and utilizes their past as a tool for their future. His book: Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection is a fantastic read. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Book Release 03:39 Realizations and Moving Forward 06:11 The Importance of Expressing Feelings 09:21 The Impact of Childhood Experiences on Relationships 13:13 The Value We Assign to Ourselves 19:25 Dealing with Rock Bottom 23:39 The Consequences of Stifling Feelings 26:28 The Importance of Self-Forgiveness 29:26 Love as a Ferrari or a Bear 33:35 The Complexity of Relationships 38:26 Acceptance and Change in Relationships 39:44 The Flip Side of What We Want 42:19 The Power of Community 43:03 Dramatic Changes vs. Long-Term Growth 44:19 Courage and External Validation --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

In this webinar, the guest is... me! I'm Tim Johnson, the founder of Couply. In this episode you get to listen in on a Couply webinar. What Will You Learn How trust and commitment serve as the foundation of a thriving relationship. The importance of understanding and admiration for your partner in forging a strong connection. Techniques for effective communication, including active listening and how to respond to bids of connection. The process of building love maps and the significance of understanding your partner's needs and desires for a fulfilling relationship. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Purpose of Couply 01:31 Relationship as a Crafted Ship 04:53 Understanding and Admiring Your Partner 06:35 Communication and Setting Boundaries 07:35 Positive Perspective and Managing Conflict 08:35 Making Life Dreams Come True 09:29 Building Rituals of Connection 10:56 Understanding Differences Between Men and Women 12:52 Communication Styles of Men and Women 15:20 The Importance of Love Maps 22:18 The A.R.E. Theory and Understanding Your Partner 23:46 The Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse 28:10 Building Love Maps and Effective Communication 35:11 Conclusion and Call to Action --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Joe Nucci is a psychotherapist seeing his industry devolve into psychobabble right in front of our eyes. Join Tim and Joe as we decipher 10 myths of what kind of relationship psychology information is helpful for you and what isn't. Find out more about Joe: Joe Nucci's Therapy vs The World Podcast. Joe Nucci Instagram Joe Nucci Tiktok 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:43 Neurodivergent Label vs Normal Variance 09:25 Your Ex is Definitely a Narcissist 16:38 The Cult of Trauma vs Something from Our Past 26:38 Therapeutic Language vs Emotional Intelligence 29:49 Is It Love Bombing or Is It Actually Love? 44:45 Taking it Slow and Avoiding Rushed Intimacy 46:23 The Dilemma of Human Intimacy 47:50 Balancing Individuality and Togetherness 50:33 The Timing and Nature of Intimacy 52:05 The Loneliness Epidemic and Building Relationships 58:47 Pathological Compassion and the Need for Growth 01:06:24 End --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Jimmy on Relationships aka Jimmy Knowles has amassed an audience of 4 Million over the last year with his incredible, humorous and relatable relationship advice. Discover him everywhere: Instagram Youtube Tiktok 00:00 Jimmy Knowles Intro 08:17 Importance of Communication and Vulnerability 15:52 Contempt and Resentment in Relationships 22:22 Signs of Relationships Heading to the Graveyard 29:43 Building and Nurturing Relationships 32:43 Overcoming Stigma and Seeking Help 33:52 Understanding Love and Boundaries 34:17 Couples Counseling and Relationship Dynamics 35:14 Taking the First Step in Relationships 36:14 The Importance of Love Languages 37:11 Understanding Your Partner's Love Language 38:08 Curiosity and Learning About Your Partner 39:02 Creating a Safe and Curious Atmosphere 40:00 Repairing Conflicts and Apologizing 44:57 Emotional Responsiveness in Relationships 46:05 Qualities of a Healthy Relationship 49:29 Emotional Safety and Consideration 52:38 Things Men Need to Work On 56:48 Things Women Need to Work On 56:56 A New Chapter 01:10:01 Believing in Self-Worth and Deserving Respect 01:10:06 Navigating Dry Spells in Relationships 01:10:35 The Need for Non-Sexual Affection and Intimacy 01:13:40 The Importance of Trust in a Relationship 01:18:46 Outro --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Summary In this conversation, Robin Ducharme shares her journey from being a matchmaker to building the world's greatest relationship summit, Real Love Ready: In Bloom. Robin also discusses the importance of knowing oneself, the power of vulnerability, and the need for boundaries in relationships. Real Love Ready: In Bloom Get your Tickets to In Bloom here. Use the code "COUPLY15" to get 15% off. The In Bloom Summit is taking place in Vancouver, BC, Canada April 12-13, 2024 Takeaways Knowing oneself and aligning values with a partner are crucial in building healthy relationships. Vulnerability and open communication are key to deepening connections. Setting and maintaining boundaries is essential for personal well-being and relationship health. Taking time to get to know someone and observing their actions can reveal their true character. Setting personal goals and practicing self-compassion are essential for personal growth and well-being. Building better relationships requires continuous learning and collaboration with relationship experts. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 01:16 The Real Love Ready: In Bloom Relationship Summit 02:22 The Journey to Real Love Ready 07:27 Tips for Matchmaking 08:33 The Importance of Boundaries 13:14 The Complexity of Attraction 14:44 The Role of Attraction in Relationships 19:09 Transitioning to Relationship Events 21:55 Lessons Learned from Hosting Relationship Summits 25:05 Struggles and Growth in Relationships 38:55 The Illusion of Instant Connection 41:06 Setting Personal Goals 42:57 Building Better Relationships 43:32 Closing Remarks --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Connect with Nathalia: https://www.nathaliachristensen.com/  On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nathaliachristensen  Download Couply App to Improve your Relationship: https://couply.page.link/podcast  Summary In this episode with Natalia Christensen we discusses toxic relationships and how to NOT turn your relationship toxic! Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 01:23 Specialization in Toxic Relationships 08:09 Interest in Toxic Relationships 10:07 Definition of Toxic Relationships 13:09 Identifying Toxic Patterns 18:37 Creating Healthy Communication 24:56 Addressing Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles 29:27 Importance of Self-Work 35:52 Radical Self-Acceptance 41:06 Accepting Ourselves and Others 42:13 How We Do One Thing is How We Do Everything 43:38 The Impact of Self-Talk on Relationships 45:05 Being Critical of Ourselves and Others 46:15 Where to Find Nathalia Christensen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

In this episode, Tim Johnson interviews Kristina Virro, a couples therapist, about the top relationship issues seen in couples therapy. The conversation covers topics such as the lack of listening in relationships, going to therapy too late, the importance of we-thinking, lacking relationship skills, the significance of micro moments of connection, the fallacy of 'this is just who I am,' overregulating emotions, different communication styles, and the shift from unresponsiveness to responsiveness. The episode emphasizes the importance of small moments in a relationship and the need for intentionality and mindfulness in nurturing a healthy partnership. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:34 Issue 1. Lack of Listening 07:53 Issue 2. Going to Couples Therapy Too Late 08:53 Issue 3. Lacking We-Thinking 11:10 Issue 4. Lacking Relationship Skills 16:19 Issue 5. The Importance of Micro Moments of Connection 20:47 Issue 6. The Fallacy of 'This is Just Who I Am' 29:02 Issue 7. Different Communication Styles 38:25 Issue 8. The Power of Small Moments in a Relationship --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

@SamiWunder  a leading international dating relationship coach, shares her journey into love coaching and the importance of personal responsibility in dating dynamics. She discusses; the challenges high achievers face in dating and the significance of balancing masculine and feminine energy; the common pitfalls in long-term relationships; strategies for maintaining passion and desire; creating space and the "Red Dress Theory" for igniting desire and attraction in relationships. Connect with Sami: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samiwundercoach/ Youtube:  @SamiWunder  Sami has given a special leave behind for the Couply audience! https://samiwundercoaching.lpages.co/lean-back-podcasts/ Want to use the most advanced Couples app in the world to help your relationship? Download Couply: https://couply.page.link/podcast Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:08 Sami's Journey into Love Coaching 05:09 Overlooking Personal Responsibility in Dating Dynamics 07:05 Challenges for High Achievers in Dating 12:07 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy 17:29 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy 23:49 Tripping Up in Long-Term Relationships 28:02 Maintaining Passion and Desire in Long-Term Relationships 34:05 Avoiding Partner Pleasing 39:49 Defining Yourself Beyond the Relationship 42:00 The Tragic Trap of Relationship Definition 45:17 Creating Space for Desire and Attraction 10:00 Understanding Relationship Dynamics 20:00 Building Self-Confidence 30:00 Effective Communication 40:00 Maintaining Healthy Boundaries 50:00 Conclusion and Gratitude --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

In this episode we have Nicoletta Heidegger, a licensed sex therapist and marriage and family therapist, answer all of YOUR questions about sex. Meet Nicoletta and the Couply team! Afternoon Delight is Taking Place at Neue House on Feb 10th in Los Angeles Get tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoo... 00:00 Introduction and Background 08:41 Exploring BDSM in a Relationship 17:15 Dealing with Desire Discrepancy in a Relationship 26:23 Struggling with Orgasm and Pleasure 32:06 Discussing Erogenous Zones and Pleasure within Christian Values 38:47 Adding Spice to the Bedroom 39:38 Exploring Different Sexual Interests 41:01 Communicating with Your Partner 41:28 Learning How to Perform a Prostate Massage 44:25 Understanding Boundaries and Preferences 47:39 Addressing Oral Sex Preferences Follow Nicoletta on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapywith... Join Nicoletta's mailing list: https://www.nicolettavheidegger.com/ Download the Couply app here: https://couply.page.link/podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Tara Blair Ball is a certified relationship coach that specializes in toxic relationship recovery. She's the podcast host for the show, The ADHD Couple, with her husband, Brian, which will premiere December 6th, 2023. She's also the author of three books: Grateful in Love, A Couple's Goals Journal, and Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships. You can learn more about her at tararelationshipcoach.com Check out her new show The ADHD Couple launching December 6th! Follow her at: @tara.relationshipcoach on Instagram @tara.relationshipcoach⁠ on Tiktok Tara Relationship Coach YouTube Check out Couply: The App for Couples here. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Amy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Minnesota. She has been working in the field for 7+ years. She has been providing EMDR therapy since 2017 and works primarily with anxiety, trauma and dissociative disorders. She is passionate about families and relationships and believes that resiliency and healing happen in relationships. Resources mentioned: Body Scan: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/body-scan-script EMDR International: https://www.emdria.org/ Calm safe place: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/using-emdr-to-find-your-safe-place-in-trauma-recovery-0815164 Watch on youtube: https://youtu.be/hG5q6NeRphg Connect with Amy for her podcast about EMDR: https://www.resilientwaterscounseling.com/podcast YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Resilientwaterscounseling?si=8VEsfOjtUu0R6GKh Instagram: https://instagram.com/resilientwaterscounseling Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552613620446 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@resilientwaters --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Dr. Justine Grosso is a Licensed Psychologist, wellness consultant and absolute gem! Couply fam! Please, give her a follow on Instagram ⁠@HeyDrJustine⁠ Dr. Justine specializes in the intersection of the mind-body connection, relationships, and communication. She is particularly passionate about teaching the neurobiology of stress so that people can better understand themselves to succeed in their relationships and careers.  Dr. Justine teaches this through courses and through instagram where she has cultivated a community of 89K followers.  Give Dr. Justine a follow on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heydrjustine/ Join the wait-list for Self-Soothing for Insecure Attachment here: https://mailchi.mp/ea22e3067a9e/attachment?fbclid=PAAaYCgcXaDirYGmrPXSC11XEeJ9_br5zKj1FBvmR6135QntSvr9-jOOE0Ny8_aem_AT5433WRPPJXU1TexZDIEnJ-3X_FyIKRxpDTLTHZu1GmVd9cmwivEBd7WtgDMR03vxI See Dr. Justine's course around Compassionate Self-Parenting here https://modern-mindful-connection.teachable.com/p/compassionate-self-parenting1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Learn how to make your second marriage last. Amber is a psychologist, couples therapist, podcast host and speaker.  She is the Founder of Ember Relationship Psychology and inspired hundreds of thousands of people through her instagram, @emberrelationshippsychology and her podcast Relationship Psych. In this episode we dive into second marriages, and how you can make sure your marriage lasts forever. Connect with Amber: https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/ http://instagram.com/emberrelationshippsychology https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/relationship-psych-love-marriage-conflict-psychology/id1412479463 Download Couply: The App for Couples: Featuring questions, relationship quizzes that help you understand attachment, communication as well as tech for relationship check-ins and sexy couples games, https://couply.page.link/podcast Learn more and read reviews: https://www.couply.io --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Team Couply: If you're enjoying our show – press the subscribe button. You subscribing is our rocket fuel and keeps us motivated to keep the show going for you. Jordan Candlish has coached thousands and his content has been seen by millions. Exciting news: Jordan is hosting an Attraction & Intimacy Relationship Workshop on June 15th 2023. ⁠Sign up to Jordan's workshop here.⁠ He helps people improve their lives and relationships and supports successful people getting out of their heads and into their hearts. We talk about how to reignite the spark in your relationship, what polarity is, Jordan helps Tim dig a little deeper and work through some of his insecurities and Jordan shares how couples can hold space to open up to each other. Join Jordan's community of 230K on TikTok. Join Jordan on Instagram. Sign up for Couply here: https://couply.page.link/podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Welcome  @ianlobas  to the Couply Relationship Advice Podcast! Ian helps successful men reignite their marriage & become irreplaceable husbands, fathers & leaders. He is the host of Irreplaceable Man Podcast. He is a men's relationship and marriage coach. Founder of the Irreplaceable Man Coaching and Mastermind. Ian is well-revered for creating systems and formulas that help men live better lives. Listen to learn Ian's relationship systems that have helped thousands of men become irreplaceable husbands. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Charlie Kieswetter is an attachment theory expert, and TikTok content creator – famous for helping millions navigate No Contact and begin rebuilding after a major relationship ends. In this podcast Tim and Charlie dive into Attachment Theory, learning to love again, managing conflict and so much more! 0:00:00 Intros. 0:00:44 Charlie's Background Story. 0:05:09 Recommendations about Breakups. 00:07:30 Attachment Styles. 00:08:33 How to heal your Attachment Style? 00:10:54 Keys to dropping the Ego 00:13:21 How to focus on what we can control 00:14:25 How to manage emotions? Recognizing Attachment Styles 00:18:37 Anxious Attachment Style 00:20:13 Avoidance Attachment Style 00:25:20 How to create constructive connection? 00:30:55 About “Fighting” vs Constructive Conversations 00:35:24 Learn how to argue - Metaconversations 00:41:44 How curiosity can help us --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

How do we balance being our own person and a unit in relationships? How is desire unlocked by differentiation? Why do we crave closeness even when it can stifle our relationship? We dive in to uncover these secrets with none other than Dr. Jessica Higgins. Dr. Jessica Higgins is a legend. She's the host of The Empowered Relationship Podcast which is one of the longest running relationship-advice podcasts . She's a world-renowned relationship coach, licensed psychologist with her PHd in Clinical Psychology and she is the creator of the Connected Couple.  Dr. Jessica helps couples and individuals transform pain and struggle into deep love, connection, and vitality! In this episode we discuss differentiation, connection and so much more. It's not one to miss! Listen to Dr. Jessica Higgins Empowered Relationship Podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/empowered-relationship-podcast-your-relationship-resource/id969874173 Get in touch with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Link to the Shifting Criticism guide: https://drjessicahiggins.lpages.co/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication/ Empowered Relationship Podcast link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Website link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/ Download and discover Couply: https://couply.page.link/podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

1 in 2 Americans are financially strained, putting their dreams out of reach. Rebecca and Dylan are the RAD Coaches, financial coaches who specialize in helping couples get their finances in order through what they have coined as Financial Intimacy. Getting your finances in order gives you the option to: * Quit the job you hate * Take a Gap Year and Travel * Prep your finances to starting your dream business * Find financial freedom * and most importantly... enjoy happier and healthier relationships! Rebecca and Dylan are also a couple, business partners and podcaster hosts. Learn more about Rebecca and Dylan here: Website: https://radcoaches.com/: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radcoaches/ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2sulTOO... Download Couply here: https://couply.page.link/podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Azia is an author, public speaker, and thought leader on vaginismus and vulvodynia. With +6 years of living with these conditions, Azia brings a honest and authentic perspective to Instagram and TikTok through awareness, online support groups and e-guides. She also navigated her way through a long distance relationship that lasted for 1.5 years of not seeing each other in person, due to the pandemic. The Couply app community will recognize Azia from our Long Distance Relationship mode! Azia's mission is to make pleasure exploration more innovative and accessible with the help of sex tech and fitness. Think of her as the Captain Kirk of exploring your own galaxy (eyyyyooo). Azia is also a proud member of the queer community, identifying as Filipino/Chinese, and currently residing in the digital nomad paradise of Spain with her long-term boyfriend. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Estève is a TEDx speaker and human connection expert. He is co-founder of Green Elephant that helps the world's business leaders and leading teams transform the way they communicate. Estève has dedicated more than two decades to decoding the chemistry of human connection. Listen to learn about the eight types of love: philia, pragma, storge, eros, ludus, mania, philautia and finally agape. And we're so excited to have him on the show. Hosted by Tim Johnson, CEO and co-founder of Couply: The App for Couples which helps couples build an incredible relationship that will last forever. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Amanda is an advocate, writer and coach.  She leads a community of over 176,000 people with Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD has impacted Amanda's life and relationships. Everything turned around for her when she was finally diagnosed and got the support that she needed. However... it was a journey. We cover some sensitive topics such as: chronic pain, surgeries, suicide and mental illness. I met Amanda through Couply, and hearing more about her story and journey… it's just one that needs to be shared.  Listen to learn: how to create a loving relationship with someone who has BPD, what the symptoms of BDP are and Amanda's recommendations for the best experts and courses to attend. It's an incredibly powerful episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Dr. Marisa T. Cohen is a relationship scientist, professor, author, speaker and licensed marriage and family therapist. She is a sought after consultant for relationship technology companies. Marisa is the author of First-kiss-to-forever: A scientific approach to love. You will have seen her words from everywhere from Cosmopolitan to the BBC to discuss the science behind modern love. She is the co-founder of SABLE - the Self-Awareness and Bonding Lab, that examines love from a scientific perspective. She is the founder of Embracing Change Marriage and Family Therapy which provides therapeutic services to individuals, couples, and families. Expect to learn: Disasters in dating an AI boyfriend, how to stop technology from ruining your relationship and so much more. Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marisatcohen/?hl=en Contact Marisa via her website: https://www.marisatcohen.com/ Marisa's business: https://embracingchangemft.com/ Download Couply here: https://couply.page.link/podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Diana Garcia is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Florida. She has her BA and Masters in Psychology and is the founder of the Nurturing Minds Counseling. This is where Diana helps people feel more calm, confident, kickass and helps couples build their bond.  Diana is  a proud first-generation hispanic and is also a soon-to-be published author! Her book: Negative Thoughts Happen: How to Find Your Inner Ally When Your Inner Critic Shows Up will be published in December.  You can reach Diana on: Instagram: @nurturingmindscounseling YouTube: @nurturingmindscounseling TikTok: @nurturingmindscounseling Facebook: @nurturingmindscounseling 0:00 Introductions  5:14 Diana growing up between two cultures 6:14 How do you choose which cultural values you keep and what do you let go of? 8:00 Different expectations from cultures for relationships 11:52 Assumptions and where couples can get stuck  17:11 Wanting to be right vs. Your individual needs vs. The relationship  20:58 Creating boundaries with your family can be uncomfortable 24:57 Dealing with guilt trips from immigrant parents 31:53 How to deal with bad behavior when it's repetitive and reinforce boundaries  34:44 Why your partner won't change their relationship with their parents     36:40 What to do you when your family brushes everything under the rug 41:00 Weddings = culture x family stuff + stress – how to deal with it! 43:50 Open conversations in cross cultural relationships  52:00 What's Diana has happening this year  53:00 How you can connect with Diana  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Janice is a therapist-in-training and the host of the Soul's Work podcast. In this episode Tim and Janice explore the definitions of trauma, how you can start to heal complex trauma, the impact complex trauma can have on your life and relationships and so much more... Learn more about Janice Ho: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janicehocounselling  Website: https://janicehocounselling.start.page/ Podcast: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com Download the Couply app: https://couply.page.link/podcast  Podcast Chapters: 0:00 Introductions 02:08 Janice's Journey 08:10 Defining trauma 10:45 Healing complex trauma 11:20 Examples of complex trauma 13:00 Complex trauma bleeding into so many things in our lives 14:20 Unlearning the trauma in relationships 17:29 Tim struggling to see his own trauma 20:20 Trauma isn't always from the family 21:50 Tim thinking about where his anxious attachment style may have come from 23:40 How has uncovering these trauma wounds and working on them changed you? 25:20 Discerning between what's touching a trauma wound vs. discovering a boundary 29:51 Anger vs. Rage Janice's internal family systems work 32:15 Janice dealing with her rage monster 38:10 Janice relating to her parts and how therapy has helped her 40:30 Janice talks about being transparent about her process with others 43:23 Let go of managing other people's emotions 44:35 What makes for a deep relationship? 45:21 Tim on emotional intimacy 48:20 The blocks between emotional intimacy 53:45 What's next for Janice Ho? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Dr. Shemena is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist providing therapy to individuals and couples based out of Los Angeles, California. Dr. Shemena practice psychodynamic psychotherapy with a focus on understanding each individual's uniqueness. She works to build self-awareness and help clients meet life's challenges towards fulfillment. Her specialties include anxiety, depression, interpersonal conflicts, life transitions, and difficulties relating in relationships. Expect to learn: how trauma can impact in your relationship; how couples can set healthy boundaries and expectations; how to have an important conversation with your partner without it going off the rails; how to spot a narcissist and what the level of healthy narcissism is for an individual; and so much more... Connect with Dr. Shemena Johnson: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drshemenajohnson/?hl=en Website: https://shemenajohnson.com/ Podcast: https://shemenajohnson.com/dark-matters-with-dr-shemena/ Dr. Shemena Johnson is featured in the Enhancing Communication course in Couply: https://couply.page.link/podcast 0:00:00 Intros 03:46 How does trauma impact our relationships? 08:02 Repetition compulsion: Why do people try and resolve unresolved issues from their past in their current relationships? 10:25 How to manage expectations in a new relationship. 17:25 Understanding your internal blueprints and how they impact your behavior in a relationship. 22:25 Dating a narcissist and the definitions of narcissism. 27:18 How it feels to be in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic. 29:30 In a relationship with a narcissist: why these relationships can be intoxicating and disorientating, understanding warning flags, and what you can do to escape. 33:29 What you should do if you're in a relationship with a narcissist. 35:20 How do you set a boundary in a relationship? 40:25 What's more important: liked vs being respected in a relationship? 42:50 How to have an important conversation with your partner. 46:30 How to use communication make a relationship that hums and makes it amazing 49:40 How to get over defensiveness to help your relationship grow 53:10 The importance of having one conversation at a time. 55:24 How to put your issues to the side to keep an open mind. 59:11 Dr. Shemena shares a high form of love. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Modern relationships can be a confusing place for men! In this episode with Matt, we get into the the importance of men being able to hold their partner's emotionality; how to not shut down when your partner gets emotional; the importance of working fully through arguments and leaving nothing under the rug and how to listen in a way that has the other person feel truly heard Matt is a relationship expert and men's group leader. After spending years invested in a fantasy of what a relationship should be - easy, comfortable and sexy all the time, right? - and a reality that was quite the opposite, he got serious training and experience in how to really listen, feel, how to deal with conflict, and how to understand what's actually happening in relationships. He helps men wake up to better relationships every day, through coaching and his men's group AWAKE. He's appeared on various podcasts and his writing has been published on Elephant Journal, The Men's List and The Good Men Project. He's also a parent of two teenagers, and is in the best relationship of his life! Get in touch with Matt here: http://www.mattcoach.com/easy https://www.facebook.com/matt.hilliar... https://www.instagram.com/relationshi... Download Couply: The App for Couples: https://couply.page.link/podcast 0:00:00 - Introductions 02:27 - How did Matt get into the relationship space? 09:26 - Why it's shameful to say your relationship isn't okay 11:17 - The fantasy of “The One” and “Happily Ever After” 12:16 - Disassemble the Myth that it's supposed to be easy 14:13 - What are some things we can do to stop our relationships from failing? 18:00 - What are examples of “Leaning In” to the relationship? 22:00 - Listening is a gift. 24:30 - How can I communicate like this when it doesn't feel authentic? 27:20 - How can moving through a conflict help couples? 34:21 - How men can move through their emotions 36:55 - What does “Holding Emotional Space” mean? 38:45 - How a man's most powerful skillset can actually play against him. 41:20 - How emotional presence can make you a better father. 43:20 - Matt's experience with emotions. 47:20 - The emotional power of connection. 52:00 - How emotional connection equals better sex. 54:20 - Holding space is very sexy. 55:00 - The benefits of being emotionally powerful. 56:00 - Learn more about Matt. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message

Zara Arshad is an author, couples therapist and perinatal mental health expert with a thriving therapy practice in Ottawa, Canada. She is the author of: Stronger Together: A Couple's Guide to Navigating Your Relationship After Baby. Couples relationships are often tested with the arrival of children. In this episode, Zara and Tim breakdown what new parents can expect and how previously dormant attachment styles in the relationship may erupt. Zara and Tim also discuss how our values impact our parenting styles in ways that our partner might not expect! Expect to learn: relationship advice for new parents; how couples can to navigate the postpartum world; important conversations to have with your partner prior to having a baby; the conversations to regularly have after a baby and so much more... Show Notes: Check out Zara's website - https://myottawatherapist.com/about-me/ Check out Zara's book: https://myottawatherapist.com/stronge... Check out Zara's workshop: https://myottawatherapist.com/workshop/ Download Couply: The App for Couples: https://couply.page.link/podcast 0:00 Introductions 0:04:10 Zara's experience with her first baby. 0:09:05 Zara's pandemic experience with her second baby. 0:13:05 Zara dealing with her own relationship struggles post-baby. 0:19:00 How attachment styles showing up after couples have kids. 0:33:30 Can a baby fix a relationship? 0:35:34 How does resentment show up in relationships? 0:47:10 How values show up in relationships. 0:55:10 Zara shares beautiful moments from having kids in her relationship. 1:00:30 Zara's workshops, resources and how to reach her. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message