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Best podcasts about barbara coloroso

Latest podcast episodes about barbara coloroso

Thoughts on Illustration
Should You Suck it Up or Stick to Your Guns? Navigating Client Feedback

Thoughts on Illustration

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2024 71:41


Learn how to win more creative battles. Take The Six Stages of Illustration on Skillshare today. Use this link to get 30 days free access to every class on Skillshare — https://skl.sh/4cCTxEH In today's episode, we'll dive into the delicate balance of navigating conflicts and compromises with our illustration clients and art directors. As artists, we often have strong opinions about our work, making compromise a challenging but necessary part of our creative process. Illustration, or commercial art, is unique in that it's not just self-expression; it's about expressing others' ideas through our unique abilities, style and point of view. Somehow, we need to maintain our artistic integrity while meeting the needs of our clients. Finding the right balance tricky. We can't make it all about us, but we also can't just give up our creative authority to appease our clients. By listening to this episode, you'll learn how to find more wins in your work by valuing both your client's needs and your own creative vision. Throughout the episode, I'll share insights from listeners and fellow illustrators, offering diverse, valuable perspectives on navigating creative conflicts in illustration. HOW TO SUPPORTThank you for listening/watching!01 — Share this episode/podcast with a friend.This is the single most effective way to help grow this podcast.02 — Support me on Patreon at http://patreon.com/tomfroese$8 Drawing Buddies gain exclusive access to my monthly Draw With Me meetups.Join for as low as $3 to get 20% off my 1-on-1 coaching sessions03 – Take my Skillshare classes!Visit http://tomfroese.com/teaching to find links to all my classes. Use these links and get 30 days of free membership on Skillshare!04 – Subscribe to my Substack NewsletterNever miss an important update. Sign up at https://mrtomfroese.substack.com EPISODE LINKSThe original Threads Post - https://www.threads.net/@mrtomfroese/post/C5T2uL6PEj2The Six Stages of Illustration (Skillshare Class) - https://skl.sh/4cCTxEH PODCAST TEAM/CREDITS Mark Allan Falk, Audio/Video Engineerhttps://linktr.ee/semiathleticAll Music, including Theme Song and Cues by Mark Allan Falk. FIND ME ELSEWHERE www.tomfroese.com

The Parental Compass
Bribes and Threats Don't Work (Guest: Barbara Coloroso) Episode 131

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2024 20:55


Best-selling author Barbara Coloroso returns to The Compass to explain how bribes and threats (rewards and punishments) are two sides of the same coin. She proves to build your child's sense of self, leaving them to want to do the right thing.     To learn more about Barbara's work, visit www.kidsareworthit.com For a handout on today's topic, go to http://www.kidsareworthit.com/services.html

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The Parental Compass
(VIDEO) Bribes and Threats Don't Work (Guest: Barbara Coloroso) Episode 131

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2024 20:55


Best-selling author Barbara Coloroso returns to The Compass to explain how bribes and threats (rewards and punishments) are two sides of the same coin. She proves to build your child's sense of self, leaving them to want to do the right thing.     To learn more about Barbara's work, visit www.kidsareworthit.com For a handout on today's topic, go to http://www.kidsareworthit.com/services.html

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The Parental Compass
Bullying (Guest: Barbara Coloroso, Best Selling Author) Best Of Episode

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2023 21:58


Barbara Coloroso joins the Parental Compass to discussing bullying, the dynamics around their behavior and how to intervene. To learn more about bullying and a variety of other parenting topics from Barbara Coloroso visit http://www.kidsareworthit.com/  http://Familyess.org/theparentalcompass 

The Parental Compass
Bullying (Guest: Barbara Coloroso, Best Selling Author) Best-Of Episode

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2023 21:58


Barbara Coloroso joins the Parental Compass to discussing bullying, the dynamics around their behavior and how to intervene.   To learn more about bullying and a variety of other parenting topics from Barbara Coloroso visit http://www.kidsareworthit.com/ https://familyess.org/theparentalcompass/ 

The Parental Compass
Surviving the Holidays “Joyfully” (Guest: Barbara Coloroso) Episode 113

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2022 20:12


Family conflict, the loss of a loved one, and the pressures of materialism. All of these can make the holidays a difficult time of year. Accomplished author Barbara Coloroso (www.kidsareworthit.com) joins The Compass to discuss navigating these challenges in a way that honors and respects everyone, including yourself.  

The Parental Compass
Surviving the Holidays ”Joyfully” (Guest: Barbara Coloroso) Episode 113

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2022 20:12


Family conflict, the loss of a loved one, and the pressures of materialism. All of these can make the holidays a difficult time of year. Accomplished author Barbara Coloroso (www.kidsareworthit.com) joins The Compass to discuss navigating these challenges in a way that honors and respects everyone, including yourself.  

Healthy Screen Habits Podcast
Encore : How to STOP Cyberbullying and Intentional Harm //Barbara Coloroso

Healthy Screen Habits Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2022 35:29


For the past 49 years Barbara Coloroso has been speaking, educating and teaching on parenting, creating positive school climates, bullying, explaining nonviolent conflict resolution and more.  She has appeared on the BBC, Oprah and CNN. In this episode we discuss cyberbullying, it's far reaching ramifications and what tools our kids need to have to combat this growing problem.

Helping Families Be Happy
Resilience and Self-Sufficiency with Hello Lucky

Helping Families Be Happy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2022 16:27


In today's episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guests Sabrina Moyle and Eunice Moyle (Founder Sisters of the company - ‘Hello! Lucky') about their book ‘I Believe in You'. They also talk about their company ‘Hello! Lucky'. Episode Highlights 01:20 – Sabrina and Eunice are sisters and they grew up in Asia. Their mom was born in China and raised in Taiwan and their dad worked for the US government as a Diplomat. 03:00 – Sabrina refers to the book she read by Educator Barbara Coloroso - ‘The Kids Are Worth It', where she deeply felt resonated with the messages in the book. 05:15 – ‘I Believe in You' is about having Faith and Trust that no matter what, your child is going to be okay.  07:20 – These life lessons are a lifelong process and this is something that continues until adulthood. 08:30 – Dr. Carla states that the fifth and sixth principles reminded her of attachment and how important it is to have a child have anyone in his life know they are a priority. 10:16 – Eunice mentions that one of her parenting mantras is to always tell kids the truth even if they are asking the weirdest question. 12:20 - Parenting is indeed one of the hardest jobs ever made so Sabrina and Eunice are helping support joy in a parent's life to be joyful parents without taking away the truth, says Dr. Carla. 14:25 - There's such tremendous joy that can come with this process if we allow ourselves to learn from our children as well, says Sabrina.         Three Key Points The book – ‘I Believe in You' is about building the resilience and the self-sufficiency of children. It gives out six important messages in the context of raising your child – No matter what, I have faith in you, I trust you, I know you can handle this, you are listened to, you are cared for and you are very important to me.  It is so important that if kids ask questions then respond to them with an age-appropriate answer with honesty and truth, this is all we can do as parents. Be direct, be kind, and be honest in the answers you give to kids. No doubt parenting is one of the hardest jobs and is incredibly challenging, but it is also an important opportunity for transformation. Use parenting to transform yourself into a better human being so that you can model that for your child. What's beautiful about being a parent is you're having to teach all of the basics of being a good human being from first principles to someone who hasn't learned them before. Tweetable Quotes “Eunice and I started our company ‘Hello! Lucky', which is a greeting card company, originally and now it is a Design Studio.” - Sabrina Moyle  “The book ‘I Believe in You' was inspired by the educator Barbara Coloroso.” - Sabrina Moyle  “Let's talk about the six concepts/principles, that are so critical in the context of raising Children.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly “Children need to know that they are a priority.” - Sabrina Moyle  “I'm very sort of organic parenting style, Serena does a lot of reading and likes thinking and I kind of, go with the flow.” - Eunice Moyle  “Parenting can be hard like it's not a joke. It's like one of the hardest jobs I've ever had.” - Eunice Moyle  Resources Mentioned Helping Families be Happy Podcast  Apple Dr. Carla Marie Manly  Website  LinkedIn  Twitter  Instagram Sabrina Moyle and Eunice Moyle  Website Website Podcast Editing

Healthy Screen Habits Podcast
Intentional Harm: What Cyberbullying Really Is - Barbara Coloroso

Healthy Screen Habits Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2021 34:06


For the past 49 years Barbara Coloroso has been speaking, educating and teaching on parenting, creating positive school climates, bullying, explaining nonviolent conflict resolution and more.  She has appeared on the BBC, Oprah and CNN just to name a few.  Her life work of putting kids first and her organization: Kids Are Worth It! is the cornerstone for many in education and early childhood development. In this episode we discuss cyberbullying, it's far reaching ramifications and what tools our kids need to have to combat this growing problem.

Where Parents Talk
Barbara Coloroso: Bystander Behaviour and Cultivating Inner Discipline in Your Child

Where Parents Talk

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2021 26:31


In this week's edition of Where Parents Talk with Lianne Castelino on 105.9 The Region, international best-selling author, educator, speaker, consultant, mother of three and grandmother, Barbara Coloroso discusses the many faces of bystander behaviour and cultivating inner discipline in your child.

Where Parents Talk
Barbara Coloroso

Where Parents Talk

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2021 26:28


This week's guest is Author, Speaker and Educational Consultant - Barbara Coloroso,

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Don't tell me how to parent
A parenting masterclass from Barbara Coloroso

Don't tell me how to parent

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2021 36:21


In this episode I got to sit back and listen to a parenting masterclass from internationally recognised speaker and author Barbara Coloroso. For over 50 years Barbara has been guiding and assisting parents and in this episode she shares some of her most important tips, advice and insights.  Barbara has served as a classroom teacher, a laboratory school instructor, and a university  instructor and she is the author of five international bestsellers. Visit her website at kidsareworthit.com for more information including many incredible articles and handouts. 

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My Teachable Moments
A Discussion About Racial Equity Education

My Teachable Moments

Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2021 49:59


In this episode of Teachable Moments, Sara and Jen talk to UNC-Charlotte professor Dr Tehia Glass about racial equity education...what it is, why we all need it and what it means. Some of the titles mentioned in this episode are:The "Revisioning History" series "We Want to Do More than Survive" by Bettina Love"A Peoples' History of the United States" by Howard Zinn"The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander" by Barbara Coloroso

Being With Joy: A Quest To Crack The Parenting Code
15. Having a growth mindset is for parents too!

Being With Joy: A Quest To Crack The Parenting Code

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2021 12:24


This week I talk about why I feel it is important for parents to possess a growth mindset. It is not only important for children to possess, but it's also important for parents!Resources:1. Brown, B. (Host). (2021).  [Audio podcast episode]. In Unlocking Us with Brené Brown. Parcast Network. 2. Lyons, L. (Host). (2021). [Audio podcast episode]. In Fluster Clux. Luxe Recess, LLC.3. Kids Are Worth It: Raising Resilient, Responsible, Compassionate Kids, by Barbara Coloroso. Penguin Canada, 2010.4. The Learning Scientists, learningscientists.org.

Disrupt The Everyday Podcast
Episode 1 - Parenting Through Crisis

Disrupt The Everyday Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2021 59:44


HOW DO YOU PARENT WHEN FACED WITH CRISIS? On our first show we are joined by Barbara Coloroso as we discuss Parenting Through Crisis: Loss, Grief, Change and COVID-19. Barbara shares timeless advice to help navigate parenting during particularly challenging times. We also learn how Barbara became involved in the work she has been doing for over 40 years and what she has learned not only as a parent, but as a grandparent as well. Some of the topics of discussion are the TAO of parenting (Time, Affection & Optimism), the importance of Recreation, Relaxation and Rebillion, how to discuss important issues with your child and the Six Critical Life Messages. https://linktr.ee/DisruptTheEveryday Barbara Coloroso's website: http://www.kidsareworthit.com/home.html Twitter: @BarbaraColoroso Barbara Coloroso is an international best-selling author, and for the past 44 years an internationally recognized speaker and consultant on parenting, teaching, school discipline, positive school climate, bullying, grieving, nonviolent conflict resolution, and restorative justice. She has appeared on Oprah, CBS, NBC, ABC, CNN, NPR, CBC, CTV, and BBC, and has been featured in the New York Times, Globe and Mail, Time, U.S. News & World Report, Newsweek, and other national and international publications. Coloroso's uniquely effective parenting and teaching strategies were developed through her years of training in sociology, special education, and philosophy, and field-tested through her experiences as a classroom teacher, laboratory school instructor, university instructor, seminar leader, volunteer in Rwanda, and mother of three grown children. She is the author of four international bestsellers: Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline; Parenting Through Crisis—Helping Kids in Times of Loss, Grief, and Change; The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Pre-School to High School—How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence; and Just Because It's Not Wrong Doesn't Make It Right: Teaching Kids to Think and Act Ethically. Barbara's latest book is Extraordinary Evil: A Brief History of Genocide . . . and Why It Matters. She also has two critically acclaimed video programs: Winning at Parenting . . . Without Beating Your Kids and Winning at Teaching . . . Without Beating Your Kids.

Being With Joy: A Quest To Crack The Parenting Code
13. Is Sink or Swim The Only Way?

Being With Joy: A Quest To Crack The Parenting Code

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2021 18:38


Helicopter parenting gets such bad press, so it seems sink or swim would be the way to go. In today's episode, I explore the options parents have between helicopter parenting and letting our kids sink or swim. Perhaps there is another option? Listen to find out?Resources:1. Barbara Coloroso, Kids Are Worth It: Raising Resilient, Responsible, Compassionate Kids, Penguin Canada (1st Edition), 2010.2. The Learning Scientists: learningscientists.org3. GROW Model and coaching for parents: Sir John Whitmore, YouTube video:  https://youtu.be/L81EA8XTJvo

Being With Joy: A Quest To Crack The Parenting Code

For my first podcast episode, I share my story so that you can feel a part of this parenting quest and understand where I have come from, where I am today and where I am going tomorrow.Looking forward to having company on this quest.Sources:1. Sleep Bible: https://www.amazon.ca/Sleeping-Through-Night-Revised-Toddlers/dp/0060742569/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3AP9J4JEVUN4Q&dchild=1&keywords=sleeping+through+the+night&qid=1608742601&sprefix=sleeping+through+%2Caps%2C157&sr=8-12. Barbara Coloroso: https://www.amazon.ca/Kids-Are-Worth-Responsible-Compassionate/dp/0143175432/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Kids+are+worth+it&qid=1608742671&sr=8-13. Shanker Self-Reg: https://www.amazon.ca/Self-Reg-Child-Stress-Successfully-Engage/dp/0143191578/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Self-Reg&qid=1608742934&sr=8-14. Lynn Lyons: https://www.lynnlyons.com/

Being With Joy: A Quest To Crack The Parenting Code

I talk about how my path to parenting better started with self-exploration, discovery, and personal changes.Episode sources:1. Gangster Capitalism Podcast Season 1: https://shows.cadence13.com/podcast/gangster-capitalism/season/12. Barbara Coloroso: https://www.amazon.ca/Kids-Are-Worth-Responsible-Compassionate/dp/0143175432/ref=sr_1_1?crid=YUZRTYIO7ZFR&dchild=1&keywords=kids+are+worth+it+barbara+coloroso&qid=1608743819&sprefix=Kids+are+worth+it%2Caps%2C174&sr=8-13. Lynn Lyons: https://www.amazon.ca/Anxious-Kids-Parents-Courageous-Independent/dp/0757317626/ref=sr_1_1?crid=6QJ1MP1ZI5EZ&dchild=1&keywords=anxious+parents+anxious+kids&qid=1608743878&sprefix=Anxious+parents%2Caps%2C159&sr=8-14. Shanker Self-Reg: https://www.amazon.ca/Self-Reg-Child-Stress-Successfully-Engage/dp/0143191578/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Self-Reg&qid=1608743919&sr=8-15. Unlocking Us Podcast: https://brenebrown.com/podcasts/6. Heart Talk: https://www.amazon.ca/Heart-Talk-Poetic-Wisdom-Better/dp/1501177346/ref=sr_1_1?crid=EKDKR13OZTEV&dchild=1&keywords=heart+talk+cleo+wade&qid=1608743991&sprefix=heart+talk%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1

DADICATED.COM - empowering Dads
53 Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) & Life Energy with Chris Jones

DADICATED.COM - empowering Dads

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2020 56:11


“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is to be present with an open heart.” Chris Jones on DADicated.com Chris has been married to Yolanda for 22 years and they have two boys (16 & 13). Chris shares about his son’s Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) and how his condition has impacted him and the family. Chris’s insights on managing life energy (whilst being relentless) well are powerful. We talk about role clarity, family communication, being vulnerable with kids and life transitions. Chris is a high-energy serial-entrepreneur. He led his last company into building 4 brands to #1 market share in Canada while scaling the business 7 times in revenue and transitioning to working 3 hours per month. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: My wife needs to be my number one relationship – this in turn will make me a better dad If I do my best and come from a place of love it’s ok not to be perfect. I need to take care of myself to truly show up for my family To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success” visit www.dadicated.com. Hope you’ll like it, thanks for listening. “Success is defined differently for me. One thing I have always held very close to my heart is the importance of family and I have always placed family at a higher value than money,” Chris Jones on DADicated.com Chris Jones (guest) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisjonesyyc/ Twitter: keepupwithcj Website: https://www.strategictraction.ca/ Email: cj@strategictraction.ca Author Mentioned in Podcast: Barbara Coloroso https://www.amazon.com/Barbara-Coloroso/e/B000APMW10 Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 #EOS #entrepreneurdad #dad #athletedad #familypodcast #DCD --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadicateddotcom/message

Citrus Love - Keeping Motherhood Inspired
How to break the cycle of bullying... the bully, the bullied child and the bystander with parenting expert Barbara Coloroso - EP. 54

Citrus Love - Keeping Motherhood Inspired

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2020 63:13


''Aim to be the brave-hearted individual.''  Barbara Coloroso   44 years parenting expert, best selling author, mother, grandmother and educator Barbara Coloroso like back again on the podcast to help parents, mothers and educators on how to break the cycle of bullying from the kid (and sometimes adults) who bully, the targeted bullied child and what she calls the not-so-innocent-bystander watching it all happen. This conversation gets really specific so that you may learn and try her tried and tested and what I'm calling 'let's put an end to this bullying' tools.   Some Things We Talk About: The Circle of Bullying Passive Supporters Telling VS Tattling How to raise a brave-hearted child Mean vs. Kind ...and why being nice is not so nice How do you start standing up for yourself against bullies She explains the importance of not fighting back How to stand strong and why it matters against bullying Conflict Resolution What to Do & What Not to Do as a parent The 4 antidotes to Bullying And Much More!   Get the BEST notes from this episode HERE Listening to an episode!, please snap a picture and share it on instagram tag @citruslovepodcast or on facebook @citruslovepodcast Subscribe to our newsletter to receive some favorite tips and takeaways from each episode directly to you!!   Thank you for listening!  See you next episode...  

The Parental Compass
Raising Ethical Children (Guest: Barbara Coloroso) Episode Thirteen

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2020 22:27


Barbara talks about media violence, forgiveness and the difference between punishment vs discipline. 

The Parental Compass
Raising Ethical Children (Guest: Barbara Coloroso) Episode Thirteen

The Parental Compass

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2020 22:27


Barbara talks about media violence, forgiveness and the difference between punishment vs discipline. 

Parenting The Adlerian Way
026: Guest Interview with Barbara Coloroso “Parenting With Wit and Wisdom in Times of Chaos, Loss, Grief and Covid19”

Parenting The Adlerian Way

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2020 56:30


One of the first parenting books I ever read was “Kids Are Worth It” by Barbara Coloroso.  When I attended her talks as a young mother, I didn’t know I was going to become a parent educator or speaker myself. I just wanted to drink up all her wisdom.  She is an internationally reknowned consultant on parenting, teaching, school discipline, positive school climates, bullying, grieving, non-violent conflict resolution and restorative justice.    Such a pleasure to get this hour with her to talk about how to parent around the death and all the chaos that surrounds us during this pandemic.  Barbara will talk about the Tao of Family ( time, affection, optimism) and the 3 passages of grief. You’ll hear how to talk to a child about death as well as signs your child needs professional support.   In the podcast, Barbara recommends the following book:  They Came Like Sparrows:   https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B002PYFVW6/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 You can get free downloaded resources from her website: www.kidsareworthit.com Follow her on social:  Twitter: @BarbaraColoroso LinkedIn: Barbara Coloroso FB: https://www.facebook.com/Kids-are-worth-it-inc-259924737382882/

Citrus Love - Keeping Motherhood Inspired
How You Can Parent Through A Crisis (death, illness, divorce, fire, suicide,...) With Expert Barbara Coloroso - Episode 27

Citrus Love - Keeping Motherhood Inspired

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2020 69:50


One of the most valuable episode for mothers and parents! Life Is Good, Life Is Not Fair, Life Is Painful, We Should Know That's Life. In this episode I talk with Barbara Coloroso, a mother and grandmother and an internationally recognized speaker and bestselling author of 4 books.  She has been speaking and teaching about subjects such as parenting, teaching, school discipline and non-violent conflict resolution for over 45 years. Today she is sharing her knowledge and BEST PARENTING TIPS on how you can parent well during moments of crisis, you know the really tough times most people would like to avoid.  Well everyone dies eventually or some unfortunately get sick, sometimes they are kids, you might be going through a divorce or have lost your house in a fire or are a foster parent...whatever crisis you are going through or will go through (sorry but that's life) then you will want to be prepared for it for yourself, your kids and your family or friends. A few things you'll learn in this episode: - 3 things you need to do as a parent especially during a crisis - How to use humor during crisis - the passages of grief - Mourning the death of a loved one, then do this for your kids... -How kids of different ages go through a crisis And Much More   To learn more about Barbara Coloroso click HERE To learn more about the host Christiane Bégin click HERE Join the Citrus Love Facebook Community & watch training videos HERE You'll find more notes about this episode HERE Subscribe to our newsletter to receive some favorite tips and takeaways from each episode directly to you!!

Real Life Parenting, a Parenting Power Podcast
Barbara Coloroso: What if my child is being bullied

Real Life Parenting, a Parenting Power Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2020 21:39


Barbara Coloroso joins us again to share her advice on the important topic of bullying. She has so much knowledge and expertise to share since her last time with us, we wanted to continue with another episode to hear what she has to say to help parents who have children being bullied and what we can do to help.  If you missed the first episode with Barbara, you can find and listen to it here: Barbara Coloroso: Bullying: How to Stop It   Barbara Coloroso is an internationally recognized speaker and author in the areas of parenting, teaching, school discipline, non-violent conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice. She is an educational consultant for school districts, the medical and business community, the criminal justice system and other educational associations around the world.  She has appeared on Oprah, CBS, NBC, ABC, CNN and NPR and has been featured in the New York Times, Time, U.S. News & World Report, Newsweek, and other national and international publications.  Her uniquely effective parenting and teaching strategies were developed through her years of training in sociology, special education, and philosophy, as well as field-tested through her experiences as a classroom teacher, laboratory school instructor, university instructor, seminar leader, volunteer in Rwanda, and mother of three grown children.    ••••••••••• Music By ••••••••••••• Rising SpiritJay Man - Our MusicBox http://www.youtube.com/c/ourmusicbox Announcer: Adam Smith Sponsored by Beaners Fun Cuts for Kids Salons  

Real Life Parenting, a Parenting Power Podcast
Barbara Coloroso: Bullying: How to make it stop

Real Life Parenting, a Parenting Power Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2020 31:07


Barbara Coloroso delves deep into issues with bullying as overuse of the term contributes to educators and parents failing to discern the difference between conflict and what constitutes bullying. Conflict is natural, normal and necessary however bullying moves to a conscious, willful intent to harm and inflict pain upon another person. Know the difference between teasing and taunting and learn to recognize the actions of bullies from regular, normal conflict situations, among many other valuable lessons in our interview with Barbara. Barbara Coloroso is an internationally recognized speaker and author in the areas of parenting, teaching, school discipline, non-violent conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice. She is an educational consultant for school districts, the medical and business community, the criminal justice system and other educational associations around the world.  She has appeared on Oprah, CBS, NBC, ABC, CNN and NPR and has been featured in the New York Times, Time, U.S. News & World Report, Newsweek, and other national and international publications.  Her uniquely effective parenting and teaching strategies were developed through her years of training in sociology, special education, and philosophy, as well as field-tested through her experiences as a classroom teacher, laboratory school instructor, university instructor, seminar leader, volunteer in Rwanda, and mother of three grown children.  ••••••••••• Music By ••••••••••••• Rising SpiritJay Man - Our MusicBox http://www.youtube.com/c/ourmusicbox Announcer: Adam Smith Sponsored by Beaners Fun Cuts for Kids Salons  

Technically Religious
S1E27: Release to Production

Technically Religious

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2019 31:58


The phrase “release to production” conjures a very specific set of thoughts and even emotions for folks who live, breath, and work with technology. Some of those thoughts and feelings are positive, while others are fraught with conflict. At the same time, those of us who are active in our religious community experience a different kind of “release to production” - releasing our children to the production environment of our faiths, whether that is teaching abroad, missionary work, or adult religious education that takes our young adult across the globe. And like our IT-based production release experiences, we watch our kids transition into chaotic systems, where parental observability is minimal even as the probability of encountering unknown-unknown error types grows. In this episode, Leon and Josh to look at what our IT discipline can teach us about how to make this phase of the parental production cycle easier. Listen or read the transcript below. Leon: 00:00 Welcome to our podcast where we talk about the interesting, frustrating and inspiring experiences we have as people with strongly held religious views working in corporate IT. We're not here to preach or teach you our religion. We're here to explore ways we make our career as IT professionals mesh or at least not conflict with our religious life. This is Technically Religious. Josh: 00:21 The phrase release to production causes a very specific set of thoughts and even emotions for folks who live, breathe and work with technology. Some of those thoughts and feelings are positive while others are fraught with conflict. At the same time, those of us who are active in our religious community experience a different kind of release to production. Releasing our children to the production environment of our faiths, whether that is teaching abroad missionary work or adult religious education that takes our young adults across the globe and like our it based production release experiences. We watch our kids transition and to chaotic systems, where parental observability is minimal, even as the probability of encountering unknown, unknown error types grows. In this episode, we're going to look at what our IT discipline can teach us about how to make this phase of parental production cycle easier. I'm Josh Biggley and the other voice you're going to hear on this episode is Leon Adato. Leon: 01:19 Hello everyone. Josh: 01:20 Hey Leon. Um, so as we always start our podcasts, uh, let's do a little shameless self promotion if you don't mind. Leon: 01:27 I, I never mind shameless anything and self-promotion either. So, uh, I'm Leon Adato as you said, I'm a Head Geek at SolarWinds. Uh, you can find me on the Twitters @LeonAdator. I also blog and pontificate on my website www.adatosystems.com. And my particular religious worldview is Orthodox Jewish. Leon: 01:52 Fantastic. And for those who are new to our podcast, I'm Josh Biggley. I'm a Senior Engineer of Enterprise Monitoring. You can find me on the twitters, um, @jbiggley. You can find my faith transitions community at www.faithtransitions.ca, where you will be redirected to our Facebook group. Um, I am currently a post Mormon transitioning into being an ex Mormon. That's where we start. So, uh, Leon, we've both had some, uh, some challenges, um, that I think have precipitated where we're at with this particular episode. Leon: 02:28 Yes. Josh: 02:28 Um, and as we were having the discussion, I was thinking I do love poetry. Uh, I mean, uh, it's a wonderful thing. I, I found a poem by Robert Burns is from 1786, uh, entitled "To a Mouse". And I, I'd love to, I'd love to have someone else read a portion of that because you know, the, to get the Robert Burns from 1786 just right, uh, is important. So let's listen to that now before we begin. Poetry Reading: 03:00 [Thick Scottish Brogue accent]. Poetry Reading: 03:00 But Mousie, thou art no thy-lane, In proving foresight may be vain: The best laid schemes o’ Mice an’ Men Gang aft agley, An’ lea’e us nought but grief an’ pain, For promis’d joy! New Speaker: 03:17 All right. So I love that particular, uh, part of the poem, you know, this, uh, Robert Burns wrote this poem, um, after plowing a field. And, uh, as he was going along, he noticed that he tore up the, the den, uh, of a mouse and, and that caused him to reflect on it and write this poem. And for us, we have these, these plans that we lay out, we, and we spend so much time invested in them and then the chaos of the world grabs a hold of them and tears apart. Leon: 03:53 Right. And there's a few things I like about this that first of all, the poetry is, is heart stopping. It's just amazing. And, um, but I also like the fact that Robert Burns was plowing his field. He was doing a very normal sort of work-based activity and yet he was also bringing his other, I'll use the word higher, I don't mean it in any sort of, you know, uh, value statement way, but he was using a more thoughtful part of himself to it. You know, how many people are mowing lawn or you know, just walking through, you know, a cut through and they knock over it, you know, a nest of some kind or whatever and it's like, yeah, whatever, and you know, move on. But here, this really obviously caused him some real introspection. And I think that that is a wonderful analog to, uh, what we do as people with a religious, moral or ethical point of view as we go through our it lives is that we, we don't divorce one from the other. And that sometimes moments within our regular work day lives cause us this, this reflection. I think it's important to, to clarify that when we talk about releasing to production, you know, tongue in cheek, because we're talking about our kids. This isn't just, you know, kids going off to college or getting a job or growing up, although it is those things. But it's particular to folks who live a, who live in a faith-based lifestyle. Um, you know, there's some very specific things that I think our kids do that kids from a more secular background don't. For example, uh, you know, my kids went to either yeshiva or seminary after high school, you know, or going to go, or in the process of going. And you'll hear more about that later. Um, you know, that's, uh, one or two or three years of purely religious education, not indoctrination. It's, you know, real deep dive into the, um, philosophy, theology, you know, asking a lot of questions, challenging the thinking that they'd grown up with learning the rest of the story kind of stuff. And there's also, you know, depending on your faith, there's mission work, there's a student exchange programs, there's teaching abroad, there's, you know, gap year programs, all of which send our kids away. But not, again, not in the way that I think at least I think of a secular experience, what my secular experience was, which was you graduated from high school, you went to college, uh, or maybe a trade school or whatever it is, and you got a job and, and you had your life. But that's not really what we're talking about. We're talking about really releasing to a different kind of production system. Josh: 06:38 You know, and it's interesting, I find that a lot of people are starting to embrace this. Maybe alternative -- is that the right word for it? New Speaker: 06:47 It is. Yeah. It's another option that I think wasn't considered by our parents when we were growing up. If you happen to be of a certain age. Josh: 06:56 Yeah. When my daughter graduated from high school last year, she was not the only person in her graduating class who was taking a gap year and who was doing something during that gap year. Going to work during gap here, you hear about that a lot, but taking that gap here and doing what my daughter did, which was go to Haiti, um, during the, you know, period of civil unrest that was going on, that was, that was interesting. Leon: 07:28 My son... Leon: 07:30 It might have been interesting for her, but I'm sure it was interesting in a whole different way for you and your wife. Josh: 07:35 It was uh, uh, we should talk about that in the future. It was a, it was a very, yes. Interesting is a good word for it. You know, and my son is a, is my son is on a mission right now. He comes home in a couple of weeks, which we're super excited about, but I, a bunch of kids took, took a year off, you know, one went to France, one went to Brazil as part of the Rotary Exchange program. So I, I'm courageous. I'm, I'm excited for this future generation in my graduating class, which wasn't nearly as large as my daughters. I think I had 45 or 50 kids in my graduating class, but I was the only one who was going off to do something other than go to college or university or go to work. So I, it is, it is a very unique thing that we have because of our faith. There's a problem here though, and I, I, I do want to talk about this. So, you know, having grown up, um, having grown up Mormon, in fact, we just had some friends, uh, some friends, uh, uh, family members of friends, I guess is the right way to put it. Who stopped by unexpectedly and they said, "Oh, by the way, we know your son Noah, you know. We're from Utah. Here's how we know Noah. We met him while he was there." And so we got to talking about their family and they said to us, "Well, our son is, is and has just proposed to his, his girlfriend, they're going to get married." Well, when you're a Mormon, you know that at 18 you become eligible to go on a mission. And so we said, oh, he didn't serve a mission. Now this, this couple doesn't know that we're no longer practicing Mormons. And you could just, you could see that just that flicker of disappointment in their eyes because, uh, there's that. "Yeah, we're from Utah and we know that our kids are supposed to go." So Leon, let's talk about what happens when, when we spend our entire lives trying to launch our children with their support... Leon: 09:36 right. Josh: 09:37 ...into, into a specific path and the T-minus plan fails. Leon: 09:43 Right. And, and I liked your phrasing. You know that it's a launch plan and T-Minus, and you know, remember that the, the astronauts in the capsule are not unwilling participants in this. They're, they're just as engaged in trajectory and speed and velocity. They may not be the final arbiter of some of those things, but they are absolutely involved in those plans in our kids. While they may not be the, the final arbiter of how they get where they're going or how quickly they get where they're going or whatever, they're active participants in helping plot the course. Um, so I like, I just liked the phrasing. I think that's really good. And Yeah, let's talk about when things don't go. So, I think that if things don't go as planned, uh, the first question, at least that I'm thinking is, "Did I, you know, was this a failure on my part to plan at all, you know, correctly, appropriately? What did I miss?" I, I think that that's, as a parent maybe sometimes your first go to what, what did I do wrong? You know? Josh: 10:46 I think that makes you a good parent. Leon: 10:49 Oh, really? Good. Really good. I know, New Speaker: 10:57 No doubt. Leon: 10:58 Um, yeah, but if that is the one criteria that the self doubt, then absolutely I have, I have piles and piles of good parenting. Yeah. Josh: 11:09 Well, and I think that's important though when we look at our, when we look at our children and we try to ask ourselves, why didn't things go to plan? We immediately look at ourselves mostly because we can, we can change ourselves. We can't change our children. We can sit them down and we can lecture them for hours on end, but about 15 minutes and they're just going to stop listening. You know? I... New Speaker: 11:35 If you get that much, that's where. Josh: 11:36 I was. I was hoping for a good day. Uh, yeah. I, I love the phrase "Analysis Paralysis". It's something that I hear an awful lot at work, especially as we're using all the Buzz Word Bingo, key phrases, right? Agile and DevOps. And I've heard a new one the other day DevSecOps and I'm like, now we're just making upwards. It's great. Leon: 11:59 If you're playing along at home. Right? And you haven't downloaded the beat. You can download the Bingo card from TechnicallyReligious.com. Josh: 12:06 Um, but I, I think that we can get to that point where we look at sort of the look at our lives and the lives of our children. We expect them to do with some very rigid things. Josh: 12:15 And when they don't, w things start to fall apart. We doubt ourselves. We doubt our children. To me, that feels a disingenuous to the art of raising children. Going back to, you know, to the Bible, right? Cain and Abel, uh, you know, Adam and eve have these two kids can enable, you know, great kids grew up while together. And then, you know, one day Cain kills Abel. Did, did Adam and Eve, you know, did they see that coming? Or they're like, "What do we do wrong?" Leon: 12:42 Right. Josh: 12:45 "Geez, maybe we shouldn't have left the garden!?!" Uh, you know, Leon: 12:49 [Laughter] Maybe that, yeah, that was, that was an unplanned, that was, that was its own, you know, production, early release to production issue. Yep. Leon: 12:57 Um, here's... Josh: 12:58 That's what happens when, when Alpha goes to prod, although it worked out really well, so... Leon: 13:03 Yeah, well, it can, but it also can not. Um, and there's even, there's even a question there, just if we're going to invoke Cain and Able that, that, um, Cain may not have understood. Look, Abel was the first person to die at all. He may not have understood that killing was a thing. Um, and in the original Hebrew, uh, the precursor to that moment is they were out in the fields and Cain said to Abel "And Cain rose up and slew Abel" There's, there's a missing, there's no texts there. Now as, uh, a person with two brothers. I can tell you with absolute certainty that I know I have a good, I could make some good guesses about what Cain said to Abel, that would cause Cain to lash out. You know, it caused that conflict to occur. Um, however, we don't have textual, uh, textual evidence of it. But the point is, is that, um, again, that probably wasn't, uh, Adam and Chava, to use the Hebrew names. Um, wasn't their plan for, uh, what their kids were gonna grow up to be or to do. Um, Josh: 14:27 What, what about, what about the attributes of our children though? Leon: 14:30 Yeah. Josh: 14:30 I mean, oftentimes we look at our kids and we want to see the very best than them, but if our kids don't follow our plan, and I will admit, I am one of those kids that did not follow my parent's plan. In fact, uh, after I got home from Las Vegas, I explicitly things to, uh, I want to say to make my parents upset. But when my parents said, don't do, I, I went ahead and did it. So when they said, hey, you know, you shouldn't get married at 21, I was like, no, I'm getting married at 21. Hey, you shouldn't go. You know, you should not go to a school, um, to do that. Oh yeah, no, I'm going to go to school and I'm going to work full time. Uh, I mean, we're going to tell the story a little later, but it's just, does that mean that word? Well, what does that mean about our kids? What, what does that mean about me? I'm, I'm gonna lay it down on the couch now. And you can tell me. Leon: 15:24 Right. So I think there's a, there's two aspects of that. First of all, um, I think as parents we also put way too much stock in this moment. This is the formative moment. If I don't get this right as a parent, it's all downhill from there. Leon, she's going into kindergarten. I know, but it's everything hinges on her getting into the right kindergarten and her learning her abcs, she was slow to walk. You know, we have to make up for that! I think she's gonna do play time just fine. You know, I, I think that sometimes we, we forget that, you know, as much as we have recovered from, you know, setbacks and failures, both big and small and our lives, our kids are going to also, and, uh, there's, you know, and the hard part is because we're sort of passive observers of it, there's a quote, um, Elizabeth Stone said it, uh, "Making the decision to have a child. It is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body." And I think that sums up not just the experience of parenting for, for some folks, but also the, the level of pressure that I think that we, we feel we put upon ourselves that, you know, again, that kindergarten moment has to be perfect because it's my heart there that you're dealing with. But the fact is is that our kids are far more resilient than an internal organ. Um, usually, mostly mostly, at least I choose. So that's the first piece. I think the second piece is they are often more capable than we recognize because when we see them, we see the totality of our experience with, with them from their first moments until this moment. And we, we experience all of those at the same time. So it's hard to remember that the person standing before you now is a relatively capable near adult depending on how old they are, who is tougher than most of the times we give them credit for being simply because we're also seeing them in diapers as we are watching them drive away in the car. Um, so I think, I think those two things are always at work in the head of a, in the head of a parent as there again, quote unquote launching their child. Um, I think there's another though that that comes up, at least for me, when things don't go according to plan, which is, you know, I begin to wonder after I've doubted myself, I begin to doubt my kid. Does it mean that they weren't committed, that they gave up too easily? Um, you know, nobody wants a snowflake millennial for a child. Uh, even if our children millennial, we certainly don't want them to be un-resilient. Um, or worse, we worry that maybe they're not taking it seriously or even worse than that, that their being utterly dismissive and disrespectful to our effort. Not to mention our money. Like, yeah, whatever, you know, they're sending me halfway across the world, but I can always come back. It's no big deal. They got, they can cover it. Josh: 18:33 Right, right, they've got the platinum card. Right. Leon: 18:35 Right, right. It's just money. So you know, and you've spent months, you know, trying to get the, you know, doing the school paperwork and doing the, like you've done all that stuff and all of a sudden it doesn't, doesn't go as you expected it to. And you know, there's a lot of those feelings that sort of swirl around. Josh: 18:55 Yeah. I, I do want to address something about kindergarten. So my daughter is starting university this week in kindergarten. So in Ontario there was junior kindergarten. She was three and a half when she started because her birthday is later in the year. She almost got kicked out of kindergarten because she would not talk and she refused to leave her little cubby where she hung her coat. She would sit in that and would not participate. And the school called us and said, hey, like maybe this isn't the right thing for her. Maybe, maybe she shouldn't be at school right now. This, this is the girl who hopped on a plane and flew to Haiti. This is the girl who when they said, we might have to send you home from Haiti because you know, there's civil unrest. There is literally writing in the streets. It was like, no, no, no, I'm not going. And now she's headed off to university and I would have never imagined it. So yes, my daughter was a snowflake in junior kindergarten. I get it. Leon: 20:04 [laughing] Josh: 20:06 ...because they don't stay that way. New Speaker: 20:07 Yeah. And psychologists will call that a telescoping. When you look at your three year old who's eating paste and saying, oh, it's never gonna. And it's like, no, don't telescope. It's okay. The fact that they do it now doesn't mean that they're always doing it. Or as another great parenting educator, Barbara Coloroso said, um, "I've never yet seen a high school senior walk down the graduation aisle with the shoes on the wrong feet unless it was on purpose." You don't need to tell your kids to put the shoes on the right feet. They can figure that part out for themselves. Josh: 20:40 I, I, so I have, I have another story. If you know when you have lots of children. I have four. When you have lots of children, you have lots stories. Yes. I have a son who suffers from the, how did we put it? "Anything is possible when you don't know what you're doing"-itis. Leon: 20:59 Right. I've worked for managers who suffer from it also. So it's a fairly common uh, affliction. Josh: 21:04 Yeah. It, it's, it's surprising and to, to be fair, part of the, the beauty of youth is that you have no sweet clue what you can't do because you've never tried to do it. But some times the things that you're trying to do are so wonderfully outlandish that you probably should not do them. I...in my own life, I wanted to be a lawyer. In fact, I still would love to be a lawyer. That whole going to school for four years and then having to go to law school for two or three years and then having to article for another three or four years just does not appeal to me. I go figure, I kind of like making money, uh, and, and eating. Leon: 21:50 I was going to say, it's not the money part, it's the eating steady part you become kind of addicted to. Josh: 21:56 I have. I have, yeah. My, my waistline can attest to that. So all, all through high school I was planning on being a lawyer. So I got to my, my senior year and in Ontario at the time. You went to grade 13 which was a college, a university prep year. So as I'm entering my, my university prep here, my guidance counselor calls me in and says, Hey, you know Josh, I'm looking at your, your transcript, you've got all the IT courses that we offer and you know, what do you plan on doing? I said, well, I'm going to be a lawyer. So good, but if that doesn't work out, maybe I'll do IT. And he said, well, you know, you really need to take math. I said, no, no, no. I got all the math credits I need. I, as I look, I know I'm going to be a lawyer. I would not be on this podcast if I was a lawyer. Leon: 22:53 True. True. As much as I, as much as I have, I enjoy our friendship. It wouldn't be that it wouldn't be Technically Religious anymore. Josh: 23:00 That's right. Yeah. It would just be awkward at that point. So I mean, I did it the hard way. I, I didn't take math. I'm also, although I like math now, I did not like math in high school. I was a little hesitant to admit to liking math, but I do like math and I really struggled. I mean, I wanted to be in IT as my backup plan. I didn't realize it was going to become my primary plan, but I really hated math and I hated the math learning experience. Leon: 23:35 Sure. So I just want to, I want to frame some of this, you know, talking about your son and, um, you know, his belief that he can do anything, even if he doesn't have sort of the basic background, I think is a good analog to you wanting to be in IT and not liking math. But I think that lots of folks who are in it come at it from different directions. We know that. And, uh, math can be a challenge. And I think that there's sort of three ways that you can look at addressing it. Like, how do we address problems in IT? So there's sort of the, the easy way, which is to learn everything about that problem. Right. I know that sounds like the hard way, but learning it upfront is actually the easy way. Whether you're going to a vendor course or you're taking a training class or whatever it is, learning it, you know, from start to finish in that order is the easy way. The hardware is actually learning as you go, you know, and trying to do at school of hard knocks and you know, crashing it and rebuilding it and crashing and rebuilding it and you know, not knowing what you don't know and finding out six months later that you actually spec'ed the systems incorrectly and you have to go back to your director and ask for more money because you did it wrong the first time or whatever. Like all that, that is the hard way to go. I think there's a, there's a smart way to go, which is using tools to compensate for our gaps and knowing that, having humility to know when to use those. So, uh, you know, for example, uh, I'm, I'm, I like networking and I am fairly good at networking, but like Cisco Nexus devices are a whole other class of networking that was not there when I initially got my CCNA and Routing and Switching and, uh, trying to manage your monitor those devices is really challenging. But there's, there are tools that can show me what's wrong with a Nexus installation so that I can get past those gaps in knowledge and skill and experience without the hard knocks and without having to take, you know, three months of classes just to get up to speed on it. Josh: 25:47 Hmm. Interesting. Uh, I, I am also afraid of, uh, of the Nexus. It, it, to me, I see one of those large spaghetti, horrible monsters with a billion arms. And that's all I can think of when I think of an axis. Leon: 26:01 Right. It's the not invisible flying spaghetti monster. Yep. Josh: 26:04 Not Invisible at all. It's actually kind of horrifying. Uh, so if, if we were to then like, maybe modify this for people like me. Yep. Um, how would I handle this today? What would the advice be to Josh from 1995-ish? Leon: 26:24 Yeah. Right. Josh: 26:25 Oh Dang. I'm old. ...from 1995-ish. Leon: 26:30 [Laughter]. Josh: 26:30 And explain how, how I can be successful in it. Um, even though I didn't like math. Leon: 26:38 Okay. So I think that, um, again, easy way, hard way, smart way. The easy to go learn it. Now, part of the problem is that you didn't have the math credits in high school to get into a school immediately that had it, you know, like you couldn't have hacked the coursework. Um, but you know, in America we have, you know, community colleges, sort of those smaller local colleges that are easier to get into. And a great way to get a leg up on stuff is just to take a community college set of community college courses one or two years and get into it and get those skills up and then transition to a more, um, challenging school where you're gonna get the depth experience. Josh: 27:21 Oh, nice. Yeah. So, and in Canada we call those a two and two. Right? So you do a two year of college and the Canada college is different than university and then there is a matriculation agreement where you can get into usually third year, um, provided that you successfully completed the coursework in the first two years. Leon: 27:40 Right. So that's, that would be the easy way. The hard way would be not to go to college at all and not to get any training, but just to open your own IT business and uh, learn as you go, you know, break things as you go and probably fail that business and then you get into IT. Having had all that wonderful painful experience, that would be the hard way. Right? Josh: 28:06 Yeah. I, I did it kind of that way. I mean, I didn't start a business, but I got married at 21 had an instant family, was, my wife was pregnant a month later I went to school, worked midnights, um, and then got a job working 60 hours a week while trying to get my MCSE. Is that hard? Leon: 28:24 Okay. That's, there's hard and then there's heart failure. Josh: 28:28 Okay. Leon: 28:28 And that's, yeah. Josh: 28:30 Okay. Heart, heart failure. It is then! Leon: 28:31 One order of myocardial infarction please. Coming up! Yeah. So yeah, that's, that would have been the really hard way. Um, and some of us do that and I think that there's, again, the smart way that in between way, which is, um, as much as we say that IT requires math, it doesn't require all math. It requires a very specific set of math that if you take a little bit of time to understand the area of IT you want to get into, then you can focus on just learning the math you need for that area. Right. Josh: 29:09 I'm a, I'm a big fan of that model. I wish that my 18 year old self could have a discussion with my 40 (ahem!) year old self and I could say, look, you can do this now. I get it when I was 18, things like Khan Academy or, uh, you know, Code Camp didn't exist. But wow, kids today, if, if you know the thing that you want, the thing that gets you really excited about math and it's not going and taking trigonometry then learn the math that gets you geeked. For me it's statistics. I really love stats. Leon: 29:46 Right. And I think that that's another thing that, um, you know, the difference between non young adult, our non young adult kids is that, you know, what are they gonna have to do this Algebra?!? Because it's ninth grade curriculum and you're going to do it. I don't have another answer. This, this is stupid. I'm never gonna use it. Can't argue for or against that, but it's still in a curriculum and you're going to do it like that is the parenting conversation. But with our young adults, we can say, look, if you love this thing, if you love doing this thing, whether it's it or business or whatever, there's going to be math involved. But you just have to learn that. But if you love this thing, you're going to love the math that goes along with it. And if you don't love it, at least you're going to tolerate it. So being monitoring Geeks, both you and I, you know, math is also not my strong suit. It's not something that I naturally gravitate toward the way that some of the other voices we have on the show, like Doug, you know, Doug Johnson who really does love math, you know, that's, that's a different, that's a different thing that love of pure math. But I really enjoy the math that I get to do when I'm scripting, when I'm pulling statistics out of devices for monitoring, when I'm building new visualizations. That math really gets me going because I know what I'm doing with it because it has an application. Um, so that's, you know, that's what we can say to our adult or young adult kids is even if you think you don't like it from school, "Uhhh, it really bad!" The fact is that you will like it because it's part of the thing that you're telling me that you like, Leon: 31:25 We know you can't listen to our podcast all day. So out of respect for your time, we've broken this particular conversation up, come back next week and we'll continue our conversation. Doug Johnson: 31:34 Thanks for making time for us this week to hear more of technically religious visit our website, technically religious.com where you can find our other episodes, leave us ideas for future discussions and connect to us on social media. Leon: 31:47 Test in dev?! Not me! I test in prod!! What can possibly go wrong? Josh: 31:54 Narrator: Apparently, a lot. Nobody was surprised.

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Best of: Barbara Coloroso | Kids are Worth it!

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2019 42:28


With the school year getting under way, this is a perfect opportunity for us to revisit an episode with internationally recognized speaker and author, Barbara Coloroso. Barbara Coloroso is an international bestselling author and for the past 44 years an internationally recognized speaker and consultant on parenting, teaching, school discipline, positive school climate, bullying, grieving, nonviolent conflict resolution and restorative justice.   She has appeared on Oprah, CBS, NBC, ABC, CNN and NPR and has been featured in the New York Times, Time, U.S. News & World Report, Newsweek, and other national and international publications.  Website: www.kidsareworthit.com Twitter: @BarbaraColoroso

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Episode 057: Parenting From The Heart

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2019 33:32


There are many philosophies out there now about how to best raise your children...Attachment Parenting is one that we feel very strongly about.  For this episode, we welcome Ina Avote as our special guest to teach us all about how we can apply these principles in our daily lives as we're raising our children and grandchildren.    "Love is simple. Love never fails."   For this episode, we welcome Ina Avote, mother of 3 and founder of Fertility Love where she specializes in yoga and fertility and offers birth doula services.  Ina is also an Attachment Parenting expert and love the real-life perspective that she brings to this conversation. Using the 4 Principals of Attachment Parenting: Proximity, Protection, Predictability, and Play, Ina encourages parents to always respond to their children with Love.  We hope you'll enjoy this episode and the great information, tips, and encouragement that Ina has to offer.   Resources From This Episode: Ina Avote, Fertility Love: https://www.fertilitylove.com Attachment Parenting International: http://www.attachmentparenting.org/ Barbara Coloroso, Kids are Worth It: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline: http://www.kidsareworthit.com/

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uh-PARENT-ly | Death: how to talk (and listen) to kids about loss and grief

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Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2019


Everyone knows death is unavoidable. But does it have to be a dinner-table topic? What do you do when your child comes home asking about a school shooting or the murder of 5-year-old A. J. Freund? How do you break the news that Grandpa "went to heaven?" Barbara Coloroso, author of Parenting Through Crisis: Helping Kids in Times of Loss, Grief and Change, tells uh-PARENT-ly hosts Tracy Weiner and Anne Johnsos about the importance of honesty…and listening.

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Handling conflict healthily

Parentland

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2019 21:01


'Conflict is inevitable – violence is not.' How do you make sure your kids have healthy disagreements, rather than fighting or bullying? Expert advice from author and educator Barbara Coloroso on managing sibling rivalry in this special episode. If you haven't already, listen to the previous episode, Sibling Rivalry, to hear from our Parentlanders. You can join in the conversation on the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/parentland/ #Parentland

The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish
#44 Barbara Coloroso: The Kids Are Worth It

The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2018 123:24


Parenting expert and best selling author Barbara Coloroso shares her three foundational principles of child-rearing, how to get kids to be accountable for their actions, and what we can do as parents to raise confident, happy children. GO PREMIUM: Support the podcast, get ad-free episodes, transcripts, and so much more: https://fs.blog/knowledge-project-premium/

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ASCD  Learn  Teach  Lead Radio
Creating a Deeply Caring Community in School and Beyond

ASCD Learn Teach Lead Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2018 11:31


Hating, hoarding, and harming are tearing apart our schools and our communities. Our guest takes bullying prevention to another level with her vision for proactively creating communities of deep caring. Follow: @ASCD @mjanatovich @BarbaraColoroso @bamradionetwork Barbara Coloroso is an international best-selling author, and for the past 40 years an internationally recognized speaker and consultant on parenting, teaching, school discipline, positive school climate, bullying, grieving, nonviolent conflict resolution, and restorative justice. She is author of A Bully-Free School: How Do I Create a Culture of Deep Caring in My School. Mike Janatovich is the principal of Harmon Middle School in Aurora, OH, and an ASCD Emerging Leader.

GRANDMOTHERS ON THE MOVE
We are willing to put our feet on the ground!

GRANDMOTHERS ON THE MOVE

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2018 32:28


Welcome to Grandmothers on the Move! I’m your host, Ilana Landsberg-Lewis, and I am delighted to share my conversation with Barbara Coloroso - international bestselling author, speaker, humanitarian - an expert on parenting, teaching, bullying, grieving, nonviolent conflict resolution and restorative justice. A grandmother herself, Barbara's insights and compassion radiate with warmth and hope for a more humane future for all of us! Grandmothers – from the living room to the courtroom – making powerful contributions in every walk of life. We know them most intimately as loving caregivers, the older women in our lives with a thousand stories about their grandchildren and pictures in their purses. In this podcast, you’ll come to know even more about our Grandmothers – they are galvanized, determined and are guaranteed to get you thinking! What drives them? What are they up to? What is the potential of Grandmother power, and how is it changing the world?! Grandmothers are on the move…you don’t want to be left behind!

Way of Champions Podcast
#27 Jen Fraser, Author of Teaching Bullies, The Sports Bully Episode

Way of Champions Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2017 59:17


Has your child experienced bullying in sport? This episode is the tough conversation none of us like to have but we must in order to protect our children. Author and anti-bullying expert, Jen Fraser, shares her own experiences with John and outlines a new kind of sport paradigm that could end bullying. Listen in to find out how to recognize bullying, address it, and protect your children.BioAuthor and teacher, Jennifer Fraser has a PhD in Comparative Literature from the University of Toronto. Her written work ranges from academic studies to plays and novels and she has taught for over twenty years at the university, college and high-school levels. A passionate educator, her new book Teaching Bullies: Zero Tolerance on the Court or in the Classroom explores what happens when the bully is a teacher or coach. Anti-bullying author and advocate, Barbara Coloroso has said “Fraser’s focus on teachers and coaches is a new and important contribution to the field.” Show Notes8:30 Do some of the school sport eligibility rules put athletes in danger for bullying?12:00 The Story of why she wrote Teaching Bullies16:45 What does it mean to be a bully? 23:00 Is it motivation or is it humiliation?27:00 50 years of research on the damage of bullying34:00 The issue of victim blaming in youth sports38:00 How can parents protect their kids in the case of possible bullying48:00 Blowing the whistle isn’t easy, but we have to stand up for kids Get in TouchWebsite: http://jennifer-fraser.comTwitter: @teachingbulliesBook: Teaching BulliesIf you are enjoying our podcast, please help us out and leave a review on iTunes. How to leave an iTunes rating or review for a podcast from your iPhone or iPad Launch Apple’s Podcast app.Tap the Search tab.Enter the name Way of Champions.Tap the blue Search key at the bottom right.Tap the album art for the Way of Champions podcast.Tap the Reviews tab.Tap Write a Review at the bottom.Thanks so much, every review helps us to spread this message!

Roy Green Show
Geoff Currier - Sun. June 21 - Barbara Coloroso

Roy Green Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2015 16:30


US top anti-bullying expert author Barbara Coloroso discusses her new book, The Bully, The Bullied and the Not So Innocent Bystander. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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TVOParents (Audio)
What life skills do children need today?

TVOParents (Audio)

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2013 1:22


Parenting expert Barbara Coloroso on the importance of raising responsible, resourceful, resilient and compassionate children.

TVOParents (Audio)
How can parents teach their kids to be caring and generous?

TVOParents (Audio)

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2013 0:56


Parenting expert Barbara Coloroso on the importance of modeling behaviours that will show children how to be caring, generous and helpful.

Family Connections Archives - WebTalkRadio.net
Family Connections – We Can Stop Bullying!

Family Connections Archives - WebTalkRadio.net

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2013 58:38


This is a show you don’t want to miss! Barbara Coloroso, renowned author of The Bully, The Bullied, and The Bystander, Kids Are Worth It!, and Extraordinary Evil, joins Family Connections in a stimulating and heartfelt discussion about bullying and its effects not only our children, but our communities, and country. Barbara defines bullying and […] The post Family Connections – We Can Stop Bullying! appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

Health and Safety To Go!
Breaking the Cycle of Workplace Bullying

Health and Safety To Go!

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2012 12:43


International best selling author Barbara Coloroso, shares her views on workplace bullying and provides tips on how workers and employers together, can help break the cycle of violence. Ms. Coloroso is also the keynote speaker for CCOHS' Forum IV that will take place October 29 and 30th, 2012 in Halifax, NS.  Released: October 1, 2012 File Size: 11.6 MB Length: 12:42 min ------------------------------------------------------ « Breaking the Cycle of Workplace Bullying » L’auteure à succès de renommée internationale, Mme Barbara Coloroso, fait valoir son opinion sur l’intimidation au travail et donne des conseils sur la façon dont les travailleurs et les employeurs peuvent joindre leurs efforts pour briser le cycle de la violence en milieu de travail. Date de diffusion : le 1, octobre 2012 Taille du fichier: 11.6 mb Durée: 12:42 minutes

Allan Gregg in Conversation (Audio)
Barbara Coloroso Gives Expert Advice on Parenting Issues

Allan Gregg in Conversation (Audio)

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2012 23:40


Parenting expert Barbara Coloroso is the author of "Kids Are Worth It!". In this interview, she divides parenting styles into three categories; jelly fish, brick wall and backbone and describes hypothetical situations and how each type of parent would react. (Originally aired February 1997)

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Allan Gregg in Conversation (Video)
Barbara Coloroso Gives Expert Advice on Parenting Issues

Allan Gregg in Conversation (Video)

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2012 23:24


Parenting expert Barbara Coloroso is the author of "Kids Are Worth It!". In this interview, she divides parenting styles into three categories; jelly fish, brick wall and backbone and describes hypothetical situations and how each type of parent would react. (Originally aired February 1997)

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LIFE KEYS with Lauren Mackler
Bullying 101: How to Recognize & Stop It 01/03/11

LIFE KEYS with Lauren Mackler

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2011 55:28


What’s the difference between conflict and bullying? How do you stop it from causing life-long emotional damage or even more tragic outcomes? Join Lauren and her guest, subject matter expert Barbara Coloroso, for an episode every parent needs to hear.