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With help from guest authors, experts, and community and business leaders, the Familius Helping Families Be Happy podcast explores topics and issues that connect families to the nine habits of a happy family: love, play, learn, work, talk, heal, read, eat, and laugh together.

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    • May 28, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    Teaching Perseverance Through Sports: Babe Ruth's Enduring Influence with Kelly Bennett

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2025 17:32


    In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, Christopher Robbins, host and co-founder of Familius Publishing, converses with author Kelly Bennett. They delve into Bennett's book "Out of the Mouth of Babe," which explores the life and legacy of baseball legend Babe Ruth. The discussion covers Ruth's early life challenges and his indelible impact on baseball and popular culture. Bennett shares anecdotes and quotes from Ruth, illustrating how his character and achievements offer valuable lessons in perseverance, teamwork, and positivity. The episode highlights how understanding Ruth's history can inspire both children and adults today. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and Kelly Bennett's background as a writer and her fascination with Babe Ruth's legacy. 00:01:13: Description of Kelly's career and personal interests, including her MFA and lifelong love for storytelling and baseball. 00:02:25: Discussion on Kelly's four grandsons and their baseball activities, emphasizing that baseball is a major part of their lives. 00:04:02: Insight into Babe Ruth's early life, highlighting his upbringing in an orphanage and the challenges he overcame. 00:05:17: Kelly discusses how Ruth's passion for sports and perseverance led him to greatness, despite a difficult start in life. 00:07:03: Introduction of quotes from Babe Ruth reflecting his understanding of teamwork and life lessons. 00:08:07: Discussion of Babe's articulate nature and ability to inspire teammates and the public with his words. 00:10:01: Kelly talks about Ruth's status as the first superstar athlete and how he became a cultural icon. 00:12:18: The story of Babe Ruth's kindness and genuine enjoyment in mingling with fans and children. 00:13:30: Anecdote about Ruth's interaction with a young boy, Ray Kelly, proving his positive influence on kids. 00:16:23: Closing thoughts on Babe Ruth's enduring legacy, the release of Bennett's book, and her blog for further engagement. Key Takeaways Babe Ruth overcame significant childhood adversity, displaying resilience that propelled him to legendary status. Ruth's legacy is celebrated not only for his athletic accomplishments but also for his generosity and connection with fans. Understanding Babe Ruth's approach to life and baseball offers valuable lessons in perseverance and teamwork. The episode provides insight into how storytelling can capture the multifaceted nature of an iconic sports figure. Shareable Quotes "A fellow has to have something besides curly hair about his shoulders. He's gotta know his onions." - Babe Ruth "You've gotta practice and practice and practice some more. That's all it is to baseball." -Babe Ruth "The greatest curveball in the world isn't worth a dime if you don't know what to do with it."  - Babe Ruth Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Put Down the Phone and Look Up: Exploring the Night Sky with Christopher Robbins

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2025 16:25


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes Christopher Robbins, the founder of Familius. The discussion primarily revolves around stargazing, encouraging families to look up at the night sky, and immersing themselves in the wonders beyond our world. Christopher shares personal anecdotes and offers suggestions for engaging with space and astronomy. The episode also promotes some of Christopher's published works, including his latest book "Space Train," and provides resources for those keen to start their star-gazing journey. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and welcome to Christopher Robbins. 00:01:40: Christopher discusses the importance and joy of stargazing and putting down phones to experience the universe. 00:02:04: Christopher shares a personal story about watching a meteor shower at Lake Powell. 00:02:57: Advice on putting down phones to enjoy and explore the night sky. 00:03:33: Challenges of disconnecting from phones and the impact of creating family memories while stargazing. 00:04:23: Discussion on what is visible with the naked eye during stargazing. 00:05:19: Reflection on human history and navigation using stars like the North Star. 00:06:36: Explanation of visible planets and celestial bodies such as the Andromeda Galaxy. 00:07:37: The significance of understanding perspectives in the context of space. 00:08:40: Christopher's favorite galaxy and its significance. 00:09:25: Personal family experiences of stargazing and its impact. 00:10:14: Christopher's perspective on conservation in the context of space exploration. 00:10:37: Resources and tools for beginner stargazers, including online sites and apps. 00:13:13: Combining phone apps with naked eye stargazing for a hybrid experience. 00:13:41: Discussion about earthsky.org to check visibility and cloud cover for stargazing. 00:14:20: Christopher shares about visible Northern Lights and local stargazing opportunities. 00:14:41: Closing details about connecting with Christopher and finding his books online. 00:15:28: Promotion of other books related to space offered by Familius. Key Takeaways Encourage family bonding and appreciation for the universe by engaging in stargazing. The importance of reducing screen time to engage with the real world and create lasting memories. Basic astronomical knowledge can be appreciated without fancy equipment; curiosity and initiative are key. Utilize online resources and apps to enhance the stargazing experience and educate further. Respect and conservation of our planet are emphasized through the perspective gained from space exploration. Tweetable Quotes "Put down the phone, go outside and look up." - Christopher Robbins "Looking up at the stars, we're reminded of our place in the universe." - Adina Oberman "Curiosity is contagious, right?" - Christopher Robbins "We are on an island in the middle of the universe." - Christopher Robbins Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Teaching Kids Kindness Through Painted Rocks: Megan Murphy's Mission

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 20:10


    In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," host Adina Oberman converses with Megan Murphy, the founder of the Kindness Rocks Project and author of the children's book "Kindness Rocks." Megan shares the impactful journey of her grassroots initiative which encourages spreading kindness through painted rocks, a project that has garnered global participation. They discuss the project's significance, how it beautifully intersects with art therapy and emotional healing, especially in times of trauma, and Megan's personal experiences that shaped the project. The episode highlights the transformation possible through small acts of kindness and the importance of being mindful of the environment while engaging in these activities. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and host Adina Oberman. 00:01:25: Guest Megan Murphy is introduced, highlighting her initiatives and works. 00:03:01: Megan Murphy expresses excitement about discussing her new book. 00:03:06: Megan describes the origin and personal motivations behind the Kindness Rocks Project. 00:05:29: The positive impact of the project on people is discussed, with personal stories shared. 00:09:06: Megan shares details and the intentions behind her children's book, "Kindness Rocks." 00:11:28: Discussion on how the project aids communities during traumatic events. 00:14:02: The importance of the Leave No Trace principle in relation to kindness rocks. 00:15:58: Key takeaways intended from the book "Kindness Rocks." 00:18:50: How listeners can connect with Megan Murphy and learn more about the project. 00:19:19: Conclusion of the podcast episode. Key Takeaways The Kindness Rocks Project emphasizes spreading kindness through small, meaningful gestures. Art therapy and community engagement can aid in emotional healing, especially for children. The book "Kindness Rocks" serves as a conversational tool for discussing emotions and kindness with children. It's important to practice environmental mindfulness with Leave No Trace when placing kindness rocks. Shareable Quotes "One kindness rock at a time, we can make the world a happier place." "We never really know who's in need of kindness." "The essence of Kindness Rocks is treating everyone with kindness, not knowing what could be going on behind the scenes." "Focusing on happy little shiny moments in your day is really important." Show Notes by Barevalue.

    How to Raise Empathetic Kids in a Divisive World with Jessica Speer

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2025 20:39


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Jessica Spear, an award-winning author, about the complexities of relationships, particularly among preteens and teens. They discuss how to handle situations where friendships suddenly turn difficult and offer guidance for parents helping their children navigate these challenging times. Speer emphasizes the importance of empathy, co-regulation in emotional situations and offers valuable advice for maintaining and mending friendships even amidst differences. The episode also offers strategies for adults feeling isolated, highlighting the significance of close friendships and how to nurture them over time. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and guest Jessica Spear, discussing her books and expertise in navigating friendships. 00:01:10: Jessica Spear describes her writing focus and educational background, framing the discussion on relationships. 00:01:51: Dialogue begins with a focus on the complexities and challenges of modern relationships in a divisive world. 00:03:11: Christopher shares a personal story about his daughter's upsetting experience with a friend. 00:04:05: Jessica offers advice on empathizing with children when friendships falter, emphasizing the learning nature of social skills. 00:06:11: Discussion on how stress and anxiety impact decision-making and the importance of calming techniques. 00:06:48: Role of parents in emotionally supporting children through co-regulation and healthy emotional management. 00:09:11: Introduction to another personal scenario about feeling isolated despite being friendly and outgoing. 00:10:24: Jessica explains that feelings of loneliness are common and offers strategies to help children find connections. 00:12:26: Christopher shares his method of maintaining lifelong friendships through regular, simple gestures. 00:14:22: Addressing conflict within close relationships, Jessica discusses strategies for setting boundaries and apologies. 00:18:13: Jessica's final thoughts include the importance of controlling our own actions in improving relationships. 00:19:18: Christopher concludes the podcast, providing information on where to find Jessica Spear's work and advice on nurturing friendships. Key Takeaways Fostering emotional intelligence and empathy in children is crucial when they face friendship challenges. Close friendships are rare and valuable, and they require effort and understanding to maintain. Parents play a crucial role in co-regulating children's emotions and setting a calm example. Boundaries and effective apologies are key in repairing and maintaining strong relationships. Regular, thoughtful gestures can help sustain lifelong friendships. Shareable Quotes "We can only control ourselves, and there's so much we can do in any situation right now." – Jessica Spear "Close friendships are hard to find, and that's perfectly normal." – Jessica Spear "Help children recognize and manage big emotions when hard things happen." – Jessica Spear "Remember, it's not what you said, but how you made them feel that people remember most." – Jessica Spear "Emotional intelligence can help in navigating the messy world of friendships and family dynamics." –Christopher Robbins Show Notes by Barevalue.

    From Stage to Storytime: One Tree Hill's Tyler Hilton on Music, Fatherhood & His New Book

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 19:33


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews musician Tyler Hilton, discussing the intricacies of blending fatherhood with his musical career. Hilton reflects on his time as both a touring musician and an active dad, with a special focus on how the pandemic afforded him a unique bonding opportunity with his young children. The conversation delves into the inspiration and creative process behind his new children's book, "Daddy Live in Concert," emphasizing the special bond between parents and their children and the power of music in fostering this connection. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Host Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and presents Tyler Hilton as a guest. 00:01:19: Oberman elaborates on Hilton's background in music and acting, mentioning his roles and collaborations. 00:02:02: Hilton updates his bio to include the recent addition of his eight-month-old son, expressing the chaos and joy of early parenthood. 00:02:29: Discussion begins regarding Hilton's new book "Daddy Live in Concert" and its inception following the birth of his daughter Winnie. 00:03:34: Hilton shares the evolution of playing music for his children and the broader idea for connecting parents and kids through music. 00:04:28: The process of turning home concerts into live-streamed events during the pandemic is described. 00:05:39: Hilton candidly talks about his daughter's changing reaction to his singing, highlighting phases of children's growth. 00:06:20: Music's impact on young minds is discussed, and Hilton mentions his son's current enjoyment of his music. 00:07:01: Hilton explores similarities between playing music for different audiences — from hospital patients to children. 00:07:50: Oberman refers to another popular parenting tool, the show Bluey, for its lessons on imaginative play. 00:09:36: Hilton explains the book's perspective from a child and the magical view children have of their parents' abilities. 00:12:39: The conversation on how parents should embrace imaginative play ensues. 00:13:16: Hilton shares his strategy for creating a song list tailored to his children's tastes for ease and engagement. 00:16:34: Oberman asks about Hilton's upcoming children's album and his current tour details. 00:17:22: Hilton talks about his worldwide tour and its focus on One Tree Hill music, along with hints at future kid's album plans. 00:18:05: Discussion on the differences between performing for children and for other audiences. 00:18:25: Information is provided on how to follow Tyler Hilton and access his music and tour dates. 00:18:51: The episode concludes with gratitude towards Tyler Hilton and the hope for future collaborations. Key Takeaways Parents don't need to be professionals to entertain and engage with their children through music; it's about presence and enthusiasm. Encouraging imaginative play fosters a deep connection between parents and children and creates lasting memories. Music can bridge the gap in communication with young children, tapping into their emotional understanding. The perspective taken in "Daddy Live in Concert" highlights a child's view of their parents as heroes. Tweetable Quotes "Music is so great for kids anyway, whether it's being played on a speaker, but when they hear it live... it's a soul thing." — Tyler Hilton "Kids are just looking for reasons to have fun and be silly or stupid with their parents." — Tyler Hilton "Parents are the coolest people in the room for only a short time. This book encapsulates that magic." — Tyler Hilton Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Parenting, Mental Health, and the Power of Choice with Rebecca Fox Starr

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 20:44


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes Rebecca Fox Starr, a writer, therapist, and advocate dedicated to maternal mental health. They discuss Rebecca's new book, "Am I Doing This Right?" which is a unique choose-your-own-adventure book designed to help parents navigate the complexities of parenting with humor, actionable tips, and therapeutic tools. The episode emphasizes the importance of normalizing mental health struggles and setting boundaries, while also offering real-life applications of the skills provided in Rebecca's book. Episode Highlights 00:00:00: Silence marks the beginning of the episode. 00:00:10: Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest Rebecca Fox Starr. 00:01:54: Rebecca Fox Star expresses her pleasure at being on the podcast. 00:02:00: Adina delves into Rebecca's new book, asking for a summary of what readers can expect. 00:02:14: Rebecca describes her book as a choose-your-own-adventure guide helping parents cope with guilt through various stages of child-rearing. 00:03:29: Adina praises the book's balance of reality and social media pressures, and Rebecca shares a relatable vignette from the book. 00:04:39: Adina and Rebecca discuss the ongoing challenges of parenting and the need for supportive dialogue. 00:05:31: Rebecca highlights how perceptions on social media often don't reflect real struggles, emphasizing the importance of normalizing these experiences. 00:06:48: Discussion on challenges evolving with children's growth, and how Rachel's book mirrors this evolution. 00:08:28: Rebecca shares practical tools from her book, such as DBT skills and boundary-setting, to help parents cope. 00:10:13: Rebecca emphasizes the inclusion of badges as rewards for achieving certain skills, drawing on personal experiences as inspiration. 00:11:42: The development process and personal anecdotes related to the book's vignettes are shared. 00:17:42: Adina appreciates Rebecca's authenticity and how the book's format allows for multiple readings with new insights each time. 00:19:58: Rebecca provides information on where listeners can follow her and learn more about her work. 00:20:01: Adina thanks Rebecca for her participation in the podcast. 00:20:03: The podcast closes with Adina acknowledging Famis for their support and inviting listeners to leave a review.   Key Takeaways The book “Am I Doing This Right?” aims to provide parents with tools to cope with parenting challenges across various stages of child development. Rebecca Fox Starr's book uses relatable vignettes and humor to tackle issues of parental guilt and self-perception. DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) skills are integrated into the book, focusing on emotional coping and boundary-setting. Parenting challenges evolve as children grow, and the book reflects these transitions through its progressively complex scenarios. Authenticity and sharing personal experiences are fundamental in helping normalize mental health struggles amongst parents. Tweetable Quotes "Every choice in life can lead you to a place where you can cope, even if there are negative feelings." - Rebecca Fox Starr "Everyone has their own story, and especially with mental health, almost everyone knows someone who is struggling." - Rebecca Fox Starr "Bigger kids, different problems." - Rebecca Fox Starr "The book aims to make heavy concepts more digestible through its unique format." - Rebecca Fox Starr. Show Notes by Barevalue.

    The Power of "Why": Encouraging Childhood Curiosity with Dr. Tamara Girardi

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 26:12


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman talks with Dr. Tamara Girardi about her work as an award-winning author focusing on children's literature. Tamara delves into her "Why" series, celebrating childhood curiosity and encouraging young readers to embrace their natural inquiry. As both a parent and academic, she shares insights into the diminishing phenomenon of questioning as children age and offers strategies to nurture inquisitive minds. Additionally, Tamara discusses her personal balance between professional endeavors, family life, and her observations as a college educator. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and host Adina Oberman. 00:01:43: Introduction to Dr. Tamara Girardi, her background, and books. 00:02:17: Tamara expresses gratitude for working with Familias on her book series. 00:02:34: Discussion on the "Why" series for children and its themes. 00:02:50: Tamara highlights the origin and purpose of the "Why" series inspired by her children. 00:03:45: The importance of including hugs in both books for their emotional impact. 00:05:31: Discussion on magical moments in children's literacy and reading together. 00:06:19: Challenges of writing a children's book due to the necessity of word precision. 00:07:26: An example question from the series inspired by Tamara's son. 00:08:49: Importance of understanding children's perspectives through books. 00:10:07: Encouraging children's questions and embracing their curiosity. 00:11:05: Decline in questioning as children age and the importance of inquiry in learning. 00:14:22: Strategies to keep children curious and engaged in questioning. 00:16:22: Introduction to the grandpa and grandma books in the "Why" series. 00:17:08: Tamara's future projects, including nonfiction work and family activities. 00:20:44: Challenges as a college professor and developing student inquiry skills. 00:23:28: Balancing family life with writing and professional goals. 00:25:28: Information on how listeners can connect with Tamara Girardi online. 00:25:34: Closing remarks and gratitude from the host. Key Takeaways The "Why" series celebrates childhood curiosity and encourages children to ask questions. It's essential to nurture an environment where questioning is appreciated to support cognitive development. Despite busy schedules, parents and educators should find time to engage with children's inquiries actively. Balancing personal, professional, and family duties is crucial for personal fulfillment and family happiness. Shareable Quotes "Nobody asks more questions than a 4-year-old." "Questions really are the heart of inquiry and how we learn." "Hugs carry so much power—they reduce stress and improve health." "Celebrating childhood curiosity is paramount, especially in an overstimulated society." Show Notes by Barevalue.

    More Than a Birthday: The Emotional Journey of Year One with Kristie Graves

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2025 14:08


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews Christie Graves, author of the debut children's book "On the Night Before You Turn One." Christie shares her inspiration behind writing the book, which encapsulates the emotional journey every parent experiences as their baby turns one. The conversation touches on the transitions of parenting, the significance of the first birthday as a milestone, and the dual emotions parents face watching their children grow. Christie also shares her personal connection to the book's illustrator, Gregorio, whose previous work she admired. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and the host, Adina Oberman. 00:01:25: Introduction of guest Christie Graves, and her book "On the Night Before You Turn One." 00:01:45: Christie shares the inspiration and process behind writing her book. 00:03:05: Adina and Christie discuss the emotional experience of a child's first year. 00:04:36: The significance of celebrating a child's first birthday. 00:05:35: The message Christie hopes readers take from the book. 00:06:46: Discussion on the illustrations and the illustrator's role in capturing the book's emotions. 00:09:21: Christie's connection to the illustrator's previous work. 00:10:29: Christie discusses potential future projects and her current focus on family life. 00:11:02: Advice for parents approaching their child's first birthday. 00:12:55: Details on how to connect with Christie Graves online. 00:13:23: Conclusion and thanks to Famis for supporting the podcast. Key Takeaways The first birthday is a dual milestone celebrating both the child's growth and the parents' achievements. Balancing emotions and staying present can enhance the experience of parenting's early stages. Connecting personally with the book's creation can make it more meaningful for both the author and readers. The illustrations in children's books can significantly enhance the storytelling by capturing emotions vividly. Parents should cherish each moment with their children while looking forward to what lies ahead. Shareable Quotes "The first birthday is for mom and dad because you made it." - Adina Oberman "A great big hug to share with other parents: I've been there too." - Christie Graves "You did it. Congratulations and there's more to come." - Christie Graves Show Notes by Barevalue.

    The Buzz About Bees: Why They Matter More Than You Think with June Smalls

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2025 11:36


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes June Smalls, an author with a keen interest in honeybees. June discusses her fascination with bees, sparked by serendipitous conversations with her dental hygienist, who is also a beekeeper. Through this dialogue, June shares intriguing bee behaviors, such as their unique way of navigating and the multiple roles they undertake throughout their lifetimes. The podcast also touches on how individuals can learn more about bees and their significant role in pollination. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and today's guest, June Smalls. 00:01:37: June expresses her enthusiasm and gratitude for being on the podcast. 00:01:38: Christopher asks June about her initial interest in bees. 00:01:44: June talks about her early fascination with bees and her dental hygienist's influence. 00:02:32: Christopher comments on the correct terminology for beekeepers. 00:02:37: June explains how her dental hygienist uses honeybee products. 00:02:54: Christopher inquires about providing water to bees and how it's done. 00:03:05: June describes how to set up a bee-friendly water source. 00:03:23: Christopher shares his appreciation for bees and how he uses honey. 00:03:37: June and Christopher bond over their shared love for peanut butter and honey. 00:03:45: Christopher shares a tip for making a less messy peanut butter and honey sandwich. 00:04:04: June explains the broader importance of bees beyond honey production. 00:04:47: Christopher reflects on the importance of pollinators in agriculture. 00:05:00: June suggests working with local beekeepers for mutual benefit. 00:05:25: They discuss how honey flavor varies based on what flowers the bees pollinate. 00:05:45: Christopher asks June about what she found most interesting about honeybees. 00:06:08: June shares her new insights into the life and roles of worker bees. 00:07:11: They discuss how bees' developmental roles relate to children's development. 00:07:26: June shares more insights into bee behavior and hive dynamics. 00:07:31: Christopher asks for additional interesting facts about bees. 00:08:33: June describes the architectural and navigational genius of bees. 00:09:07: Christopher marvels at bees' navigational abilities. 00:09:15: Christopher asks for other resources to learn more about bees. 00:09:33: June recommends resources for learning about bees and mentions her educator guide. 00:10:23: Christopher concludes with June's book recommendation and encourages bee exploration. 00:10:44: June shares her website information for further contact. 00:10:59: Podcast conclusion with appreciation for the sponsor and encouragement to subscribe. Key Takeaways Honeybees play a crucial role in the pollination of approximately one-third of the food we eat. Worker bees perform different roles throughout their lives, showing a natural progression similar to human growth. Local beekeepers can be valuable allies for communities, offering knowledge and services that support agriculture and education. Despite their small size, bees display sophisticated engineering and navigational skills, such as creating hexagonal combs and performing precise dances for communication. Shareable Quotes "Bees perform all tasks of the hive throughout their lives, showcasing a natural progression much like human growth." "Without bees, we'd have to manually pollinate our crops, making food more labor-intensive and expensive." "Bees are engineering and navigation geniuses, with their hexagon combs and mathematically precise waggle dances." Show Notes by Barevalue.

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    Weeds, Wisdom, and Wonder: Gardening with Caleb Warnock

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 24:00


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes gardening expert Caleb Warnock to discuss the joys of gardening and how it can foster family and community bonding. Caleb, an experienced author and blogger, shares insights on maximizing the benefits of gardens at any skill level, from utilizing advanced techniques like geothermal greenhouses to making gardening accessible for beginners. They also explore the importance of engaging younger generations in gardening activities and Caleb's upcoming book on creating botanical colors from plants. Listeners are encouraged to harness the therapeutic and unifying power of gardening, fostering connections and self-sufficiency. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast and guest Caleb Warnock, highlighting his expertise in self-sufficiency and gardening. 00:01:32: Caleb expresses his excitement to be on the podcast and introduces his gardening setup with geothermal greenhouses. 00:01:35: Christopher discusses advantages of year-round gardening in California and inquiries about Caleb's gardening activities in Utah. 00:02:08: Caleb explains how he gardens year-round using geothermal greenhouses in Utah. 00:02:37: Discussion on making gardens a place of community, family, and friendship. 00:03:43: Example of a neighbor using her garden to foster community interactions. 00:04:23: Insights into how gardening connects people and provides emotional balance. 00:05:03: Humor and wisdom in embracing edible weeds in gardening. 00:06:09: Tips for beginner gardeners on choosing the right garden location and focusing on crops that matter most to them. 00:08:32: Strategies for maximizing the output of small gardens and ensuring alignment with family consumption habits. 00:10:24: Resources and methods for improving gardening skills across different levels. 00:13:34: Tried and tested tips for maintaining a weed-free garden. 00:14:56: Engaging children in gardening to build long-lasting relationships with nature and healthier eating habits. 00:19:18: Overview of Caleb's new book on using botanical sources for natural dyes and paints, and its significance. 00:22:46: Encouragement to explore gardening literature and community resources for enhancing gardening experience. Key Takeaways Gardening can significantly contribute to family and community bonding by providing a shared, rewarding activity. For beginners, focusing on manageable space and crops that align with family needs can enhance the gardening experience. Advanced gardeners can explore year-round gardening techniques and expand their gardens with perennial foods for increased self-reliance. Teaching children about gardening fosters a connection to nature and introduces them to healthy food choices. Caleb's upcoming book highlights the forgotten art of deriving beautiful, natural colors from plants for creative and safe use. Shareable Quotes "You can't be angry when your hands are in the dirt." – Karen Wood "It's better to have a small weed-free garden than a large garden full of weeds." – Caleb Warnock "Engage with your friends and neighbors by giving things away out of your garden." – Caleb Warnock "If you don't have a community of people who can help you, turn to someone who can give you consultation to design your garden right the first time." – Caleb Warnock "The best way to improve your soil is to put it inside a geothermal greenhouse." – Caleb Warnock Show Notes by Barevalue.

    The Year of Kindness: Dallas Woodburn's Journey to Transform Lives and Inspire Families

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 20:25


    In this heartfelt episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews award-winning author Dallas Woodburn about her inspiring book, 1001 Ways to Be Kind, and her transformative year-long kindness journey. Dallas shares how small acts of kindness can create a ripple effect, impacting others and enhancing our own lives. Together, they discuss how incorporating kindness into everyday family routines can help raise compassionate, happy children. This episode aligns with the Familius habits of "Give Together" and "Heal Together." Episode Highlights: [01:05] Meet Dallas Woodburn Introduction to Dallas, her achievements, and her life-changing year-long kindness challenge. [05:30] The Journey of Weekly Acts of Kindness How a challenging year inspired Dallas to complete 52 unique acts of kindness and document them on her blog. [12:15] Creative and Stealthy Kindness Ideas Dallas shares examples like paying for someone's coffee or scattering lucky pennies on playgrounds to brighten others' days. [18:40] Parenting with Kindness Incorporating acts of kindness into family life and parenting. The importance of being present and fostering kindness in children. [26:00] Highlights from the Book Adina reads touching examples from 1001 Ways to Be Kind for new parents, busy families, and everyday moments. [32:10] Self-Kindness Matters Too Discussion on the importance of self-care and the “Self-Kindness” section of Dallas' book. [35:40] How to Connect with Dallas Social media links, her website, and details about her podcast, Thriving Authors Podcast. Key Takeaways: Small Acts Create Big Impacts: Whether buying coffee for a stranger or leaving kind notes, even small gestures can ripple outward to inspire more kindness. Kindness is Therapeutic: Dallas' year-long kindness journey helped her navigate personal challenges, showing how giving can heal the giver too. Parenting with Purpose: Modeling kindness to children helps nurture their compassion, emotional intelligence, and connection to others. Accessible Kindness for All: Ideas in 1001 Ways to Be Kind are simple, affordable, and suitable for every lifestyle. Self-Care is Essential: Self-kindness helps you recharge, enabling you to give to others effectively.

    Cooking Smarter, Not Harder: Simple Tips for Effortless Meals with Jason Goldstein

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2025 14:28


    In this episode of the Helping Family Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes guest Jason Goldstein, a chiropractor and food blogger, to discuss his new book, "101 Kitchen Secrets". Jason shares his culinary passion, offering simple hacks to make cooking easier and more enjoyable. They discuss various kitchen hacks, including sheet pan meal prep and using a lint roller for cleanup. The episode aims to help listeners save time, money, and effort in the kitchen, while also discussing the topic of making pizza at home and offering insights into dining in New York City. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Idina Oberman introduces the podcast and guest Jason Goldstein, highlighting his culinary blog and achievements. 00:01:20: Jason expresses gratitude for being on the podcast and introduces his book "101 Kitchen Secrets". 00:02:33: Idina and Jason discuss how the book offers compact, useful hacks for kitchen efficiency. 00:04:06: Jason shares his viral sheet pan meal prep hack to reduce cleanup effort. 00:05:31: An innovative lint roller hack is shared for quick kitchen crumb cleanup. 00:06:49: Jason advises using a cutting board for charcuterie to save money. 00:07:54: Tips for poaching eggs in a muffin tin for easy group hosting are detailed. 00:08:30: Jason introduces his upside-down pizza hack for creating a crispy crust at home. 00:11:06: Discussion on New York City dining culture, highlighting Bleecker Street Pizza. 00:12:39: Information on where to find Jason Goldstein online and further engage with his content. Key Takeaways Smart kitchen hacks can significantly streamline meal preparation and cleanup. Using common household items, like a lint roller, can effectively address kitchen challenges. Efficient strategies for entertaining can reduce stress and enhance hosting experiences. Embracing innovative cooking techniques, such as upside-down pizza, can improve home-cooked results. Sharable Quotes "It's the dishes that roadblock me from cooking, not the actual cooking process!" "Use a lint roller in the kitchen to pick up crumbs effortlessly." "Upside-down pizza is the secret to a perfectly crispy crust at home." "Make your kitchen time easier and happier with smart, simple hacks." Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Helping Kids Thrive: Expert Tips on Exploring Psychiatric Medications for Children with Dr. Alexander Kolevzon

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 23:04


    In this insightful episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Dr. Alexander Kolevzon, a child and adolescent psychiatrist and co-author of A Parent's Guide to Starting Psychiatric Medications for Kids: Start Low and Go Slow. Dr. Kolevzon provides an in-depth discussion on the role of medications in addressing childhood mental health challenges such as anxiety, ADHD, and autism. The conversation focuses on how parents can approach these decisions thoughtfully, emphasizing collaboration, education, and the importance of a "start low and go slow" approach to treatment. This episode aligns with the Familius habits of "Talk Together," "Heal Together," and "Learn Together." Episode Highlights: [01:10] Introduction to Dr. Alexander Kolevzon Overview of his expertise in child psychiatry and the inspiration behind the book. [04:25] The Mental Health Landscape for Children 20% of American children experience mental health challenges, but only 10% are on medications. Addressing the gap in care and access. [07:45] Medications: Treating Symptoms, Not Labels Medications are symptom-focused rather than diagnosis-driven. The importance of understanding individual symptoms over generalized labels. [12:30] What Does “Start Low and Go Slow” Mean? The philosophy of beginning treatment with the lowest effective dose and adjusting carefully. The importance of thorough evaluations and exploring non-medication alternatives. [17:15] When to Seek Help Guidance on distinguishing normal childhood behaviors from those requiring professional intervention. Signs such as severe distress, school avoidance, or functional impairments. [22:00] The Role of Social Media in Youth Mental Health Discussion on the links between social media, anxiety, and depression. Practical strategies for parents to help children regulate social media use. [28:40] Insights from the Book Accessible, Q&A-style format designed to address common parent concerns. How the book demystifies medication options and their appropriate uses. [34:00] Trust and Collaboration with Medical Professionals Tips for building trust and ensuring a collaborative relationship with your child's doctor. Recognizing parents as experts on their children. Key Takeaways: Medications Are a Tool, Not a Cure-All: They address specific symptoms and should be part of a broader treatment plan that includes therapy and environmental adjustments. Start Low, Go Slow: Introduce medications cautiously, ensuring they are tailored to the child's unique needs and minimizing side effects. Know When to Seek Help: Significant distress, avoidance behaviors, or impaired functioning are indicators to consult a professional. Social Media's Double-Edged Sword: It can exacerbate mental health issues but also provides support networks. Parents should guide responsible use. Collaboration is Key: Trust between parents and medical professionals is crucial for effective treatment and long-term success.

    100 Days of Learning: Making School Milestones Meaningful with Pam Lobley

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2025 17:46


    In this episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Adina Oberman welcomes guest Pam Lobley to discuss her memoir, "Why Can't We Just Play." Pam shares her experience of letting her overscheduled children have a summer of unstructured play and the positive impacts it had on their stress levels and family life. The episode also explores the importance of unstructured time for children's development and the challenges of balancing scheduled activities. Additionally, Adina and Pam discuss creative and meaningful ways to celebrate the 100th day of school, focusing on giving back and making learning fun for children. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and introduction of guest Pam Lobley. 00:01:30: Pam expresses her excitement about being on the podcast. 00:01:45: Pam summarizes her book "Why Can't We Just Play" and discusses the summer her kids spent with no structured activities. 00:02:55: Adina praises Pam's book and discusses its relevance to modern parenting challenges. 00:04:22: Pam shares her perspective on the 100th day of school celebrations and advice for parents. 00:05:12: Pam discusses making 100th day activities self-directed for children. 00:06:06: Discussion on the educational value of counting and grouping activities for children. 00:08:48: Ideas for engaging children in counting collections of items to visualize the number 100. 00:09:10: Adina shares ways to tailor activities to a child's interests and learning style. 00:10:09: Importance of chunking work into manageable parts for children. 00:12:22: Pam shares an example of making spelling tests fun with physical activities. 00:13:09: Discussion on classroom celebrations and meaningful 100th day projects, like giving back to the community. 00:15:21: Adina shares an idea of donating 100 items to shelters and food pantries. 00:16:42: Pam shares her social media details for connecting with listeners. 00:17:06: Conclusion and thanks to the podcast sponsor and listeners. Key Takeaways The importance of unstructured playtime for children's development and family well-being. Creative ways to engage children in learning, such as tailoring activities to their interests and learning styles. How to make special occasions like the 100th day of school impactful and educational without overwhelming parents. Incorporating charitable activities into learning to teach children the value of giving back. Tweetable Quotes "When your kids are stressed, you're stressed. It was really time to dial it back." - Pam Lobley "The work of early childhood is to play, and that is how kids learn, even older kids." - Adina Oberman "If you can resist the pressure and let your child take control, that's where the real magic happens." - Pam Lobley "You don't have to do a lot to really make a difference when you're part of a group." - Pam Lobley  

    Exploring the Cosmos: How Jenny Sunstedt Brings Space to Life for Young Readers

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 8:50


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman speaks with Jenny Sundstedt, debut picture book author of In Our Solar System. Jenny shares her personal journey from childhood stargazing with her father to creating a whimsical, rhyming picture book that teaches kids about the cosmos. She offers insights into her creative process, the inspiration behind her book, and how it fosters STEM learning through storytelling. Jenny also highlights ways educators and parents can use the book to make space exploration accessible and engaging for young learners. This episode is ideal for parents, teachers, and caregivers eager to nurture curiosity, creativity, and a love for science in children.   Episode Highlights [00:30] The Origins of Jenny's Love for Space Jenny shares how stargazing with her father and growing up with a backyard observatory sparked her lifelong fascination with the cosmos. [02:00] The Creative Journey Behind In Our Solar System Jenny discusses how she developed her rhyming picture book, inspired by the structure of Over in the Meadow, and how her critique group encouraged her to bring the manuscript to life. [04:00] Making Space Fun and Accessible for Kids Jenny explains how anthropomorphizing planets and using engaging, action-packed language helps young readers relate to and enjoy learning about the solar system. [06:00] Tips for Using the Book in STEM Learning Jenny offers suggestions for educators and parents to use her book for interactive activities, such as dramatic play and group reading, to spark curiosity and teach STEM concepts. [07:30] Collaboration with Familius and Bringing the Book to Life Jenny describes the collaborative process of working with editors and illustrators to refine her story and bring it to its final, vibrant form. Key Takeaways Inspire STEM Curiosity Early: Use books like In Our Solar System to make abstract science topics accessible and fun for young learners. Make Learning Relatable: Anthropomorphized characters and rhyming text help children connect with complex concepts like the solar system. Encourage Hands-On Activities: Complement reading with activities like dramatic play, stargazing, and creative storytelling to deepen understanding. Build Connections Through Storytelling: Books that spark curiosity about the natural world help children develop a lifelong love for learning. Embrace the Power of Collaboration: Jenny's journey highlights how editors, critique groups, and illustrators contribute to creating impactful children's literature.

    Empowering Kids: Body Positivity from A to Z with Emily Lauren Dick

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025 13:45


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman chats with Emily Lauren Dick, author, activist, and creative marketer. Emily discusses her upcoming children's book, I Love Me from A to Z, a beautifully illustrated board book that promotes body positivity, self-love, inclusion, and body safety for the youngest readers. Drawing on her extensive research into body image, Emily shares actionable tips for parents to help children build confidence, recognize their self-worth, and embrace their uniqueness in a world filled with external pressures. She also highlights how starting these conversations early can create a foundation of resilience and authenticity for kids as they grow. This episode is packed with practical advice for parents and caregivers to foster body positivity and teach children the importance of self-care and inclusion. Episode Highlights [02:10] The Inspiration Behind I Love Me from A to Z Emily shares how her research into body image and experiences as a mom inspired her to create a resource for young children that promotes self-love, confidence, and inclusion. [06:30] Why Body Image Conversations Should Start Early Studies show that children as young as three are influenced by body image issues. Emily explains how starting conversations early equips kids with the tools to build confidence and navigate a world filled with media influences. [10:45] Key Themes of the Book: Positivity and Empowerment Emily describes how each letter in her book serves as a positive affirmation or statement to inspire kids, teaching concepts like body safety, kindness, and challenging societal expectations. [15:20] The Power of Language and Visual Representation Learn how the book's vibrant illustrations and inclusive imagery foster understanding, representation, and emotional connection for children of all backgrounds and abilities. [20:10] Teaching Body Safety and Self-Advocacy Emily emphasizes the importance of empowering kids to set boundaries and say “no,” laying the groundwork for healthy relationships and self-awareness. [24:30] Equipping Kids for Resilience in a Media-Driven World Discover tips for parents to combat negative messaging in media, foster mindfulness, and help children reconnect with their authentic selves. Key Takeaways Start Early with Body Positivity: Introduce concepts like body safety, self-love, and inclusion through simple conversations and engaging books. Empower Kids to Set Boundaries: Teach children to say “yes” and “no” confidently, helping them advocate for their feelings and personal space. Celebrate Uniqueness: Promote representation and inclusion by exposing kids to diverse stories and imagery that reflect different abilities, sizes, and backgrounds. Combat Negative Messaging: Equip kids with tools to navigate a media-driven world and maintain a strong sense of self-worth. Use Positive Affirmations: Reinforce confidence and resilience through affirmations that encourage kindness, empathy, and self-care.

    The Power of Play: Building Social and Emotional Skills in Early Childhood with Sarah Winkler

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2025 19:38


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman speaks with Sarah Winkler, an experienced preschool teacher and mom of three. Sarah shares her expertise in play-based learning, emergent curriculum, and hands-on activities that inspire creativity, confidence, and curiosity in young children. Sarah explains how parents and educators can use simple, everyday moments to create meaningful learning experiences. She highlights the social, emotional, and cognitive benefits of play and offers practical tips for setting up engaging activities at home and in the classroom. This episode is packed with actionable advice for parents, caregivers, and teachers looking to nurture early childhood development and build stronger family connections through play. Episode Highlights [02:10] What Is a Lab School and How Does It Work? Sarah describes her unique teaching environment, which emphasizes hands-on, play-based education and training for future educators. [06:30] Why Play Is Essential for Early Childhood Development: Discover how play builds cognitive, social, emotional, and physical skills—and why it's a child's most important job. [10:45] Meaningful Play Activities for Home and Classroom: Sarah shares tips for creating simple, interactive activities like sensory bins, water play, and nature walks that promote learning and exploration. [15:20] Building Social and Emotional Skills Through Play: Learn how play encourages problem-solving, teamwork, and emotional regulation while laying the foundation for future academic success. [20:10] Encouraging Curiosity Through Scientific Inquiry: Sarah explains how activities like shadow exploration and melting ice experiments spark curiosity and teach basic STEM concepts. [24:30] Empowering Kids Through Emergent Curriculum: Sarah discusses how building lessons around children's interests fosters confidence, creativity, and a love for learning. Key Takeaways Play Is Learning: Play isn't just fun—it's how kids develop critical thinking, social skills, and emotional intelligence. Simple Activities Create Big Impact: Everyday objects like water, sand, and blocks can be transformed into meaningful learning tools. Follow Children's Interests: Let kids' curiosity guide activities to deepen engagement and foster a love for learning. Encourage Conversation During Play: Ask open-ended questions to build vocabulary, math skills, and problem-solving abilities. Support Emotional Growth: Teach kids self-regulation, empathy, and cooperation through hands-on play and social interactions.

    Roots of Connection: Inspiring Kids to Love Nature and Reading with Carol Gerber

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2025 17:11


    Episode Note: We are deeply saddened to share that our beloved author Carol Gerber has passed away. Carol touched countless lives through her heartfelt books, inspiring a love for nature, reading, and creativity in children and families alike. This episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, featuring Carol Gerber, marks her final interview. We honor Carol's legacy and the joy she brought to readers everywhere. We invite you to listen to this special episode and celebrate her life, work, and enduring impact on families and children.   In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman sits down with award-winning author and poet Carol Gerber. Carol shares her passion for nature, trees, and poetry, as reflected in her acclaimed picture books like A Tree for Me. Drawing from her experience as a children's author and volunteer nature guide, Carol reveals how parents can use books and outdoor exploration to foster curiosity, creativity, and a love of reading in children. She also offers a sneak peek into her upcoming book, Venus Flytrap, which introduces kids to the wonders of plants through interactive storytelling. This episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and caregivers looking for ideas to boost early literacy, encourage outdoor play, and build stronger family connections through nature-based learning. Episode Highlights [02:15] The Story Behind A Tree for Me: Carol explains how her love of nature and trees inspired her latest book and why she chose to feature a father-and-son relationship to promote family bonding. [06:30] Engaging Kids with Nature Through Books: Carol shares her experience as a nature guide, teaching kids to connect with trees, feel bark, and observe leaves—lessons that inspired her writing. [10:45] The Importance of Outdoor Play and Exploration: Discover why Carol believes time spent outdoors helps children build curiosity, develop confidence, and form lasting family memories. [15:20] Building Early Literacy Through Nature-Themed Books: Carol emphasizes the role of books in teaching children about science, empathy, and the natural world while nurturing a love for reading. [20:10] Preview of Venus Flytrap—Carol's Upcoming Book: Carol introduces her next book, which uses humor and plant science to spark kids' imaginations and inspire a deeper interest in nature. [24:30] Tips for Parents—Interactive Reading and Outdoor Adventures: Carol provides actionable advice for incorporating books, nature walks, and hands-on activities to make learning fun and memorable. Key Takeaways Start Early with Nature-Inspired Books: Introduce kids to books about nature to inspire curiosity and early literacy. Encourage Outdoor Exploration: Use family walks and hands-on activities to connect kids with trees, plants, and the environment. Make Reading Interactive: Choose books with rhyme, rhythm, and humor to engage young readers and make learning enjoyable. Foster Curiosity with Science and Storytelling: Combine books and real-world exploration to teach kids about biology and ecosystems. Prioritize Family Bonding: Spend quality time outdoors or reading together to strengthen emotional connections and build shared memories.

    Building Your Babies Library: Start Early, Read Often with Antonia Squire

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2025 33:47


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Christopher Robbins talks with Antonia Squire, a veteran children's bookseller and children's buyer at The King's English Bookshop. Antonia shares expert tips on building a children's library, starting from baby showers to chapter books for older kids. The discussion highlights the importance of reading aloud to children at every stage of development, the role of books in building empathy and curiosity, and specific recommendations for timeless and engaging titles. Whether you're looking to create a starter library or expand an existing collection, this episode offers practical advice to foster a lifelong love of reading in your children. Episode Highlights [02:15] Start Early—Baby Books as Gifts: Antonia suggests building a library as early as baby showers, encouraging parents to replace cards with books inscribed with personal messages. [06:40] The Importance of Reading Aloud at Any Age: Reading aloud fosters connection, emotional bonding, and early literacy skills. Antonia emphasizes that children are never too young—or too old—to enjoy storytime. [10:30] Interactive Books for Toddlers: Recommendations like Tails and Pout-Pout Fish highlight the value of tactile and rhythmic books for engaging young readers. [15:20] Picture Books for Growth and Humor: Titles such as I Eat Poop and The Gruffalo teach humor, resilience, and irony, making them perfect for ages 3 and up. [20:50] Chapter Books That Build Reading Confidence: Antonia highlights Ramona the Pest and Charlotte's Web as must-reads for early readers, blending timeless storytelling with life lessons. [26:30] Building Empathy Through Fiction: Books help children experience life through different perspectives, improving emotional intelligence and decision-making. [30:10] Creating Access with Nonprofits Like Brain Food Books: Antonia introduces Brain Food Books, a nonprofit focused on providing books to children without easy access, and explains how just 10 books in a home can improve a child's success. Key Takeaways Start Early with Books: Build your child's library starting at baby showers to set the foundation for early literacy and bonding. Read Aloud at Every Stage: Continue reading aloud as children grow to keep them engaged and foster imagination and comprehension. Choose Interactive and Fun Books: Books with humor, rhyme, and touch-and-feel elements captivate young readers and keep them coming back. Include Chapter Books for Growth: Introduce longer stories like Ramona the Pest and Charlotte's Web to deepen literacy and emotional connections. Focus on Empathy and Imagination: Fiction helps children understand different perspectives and make thoughtful decisions.

    Transforming Family Bonds: Play Your Way to Stronger Connections with Christopher Mannino

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2025 18:46


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Christopher Robbins chats with author and former theater teacher Christopher Mannino about how parents can transform their relationships with children through the power of play. Drawing from his upcoming book, Making It Up: A Revolutionary Way to Bond with Kids Through Play, Mannino shares theater-inspired techniques like improv, emotional recall, and role-playing to help parents strengthen emotional connections, manage stress, and make everyday moments magical. This episode is filled with actionable tips for parents, caregivers, and educators who want to boost child development, encourage creativity, and build lasting family bonds—all in just 10 minutes a day. Episode Highlights [02:00] Why Play Matters in Parenting: Manino discusses how intentional play builds emotional connections and creates “core memories” that last a lifetime. [06:45] Using Improv to Spark Imagination and Bonding: Learn how the “Yes, And” technique from improv theater can validate children's ideas, encourage creativity, and deepen parent-child relationships. [12:15] Emotional Anchors: Staying Present with Your Kids: Discover how emotional recall techniques from acting can help parents tune out distractions and focus fully during playtime. [17:30] Managing Tantrums and Stress Through Playfulness: Manino explains how humor, role-playing, and dramatic distractions can quickly defuse tension and improve emotional regulation for both kids and parents. [23:10] Real-Life Scenarios for Play-Based Parenting: Practical examples highlight how parents can turn challenging moments into bonding opportunities by incorporating play. [28:40] Inside Making It Up—A Guide to Playful Parenting: Get a preview of Manino's upcoming book, packed with strategies for making playtime more meaningful, fun, and transformative. Key Takeaways Prioritize Focused Playtime: Spend at least 10 minutes daily in distraction-free, imaginative play to build stronger emotional bonds. Say “Yes, And” to Creativity: Use improv techniques to encourage kids' ideas and boost their confidence. Stay Present with Emotional Anchors: Focus on positive memories to stay grounded and engaged, even during stressful days. Defuse Stress with Humor and Playfulness: Role-playing and humor are effective tools for managing tantrums and shifting moods. Make Play a Habit: Consistent, intentional play can strengthen communication, trust, and joy in parent-child relationships.  

    Unlocking Family Bonds: Strengthening Connections Through Picture Books with Storybook Basics

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2025 19:15


    In this Helping Families Be Happy episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes Erin Clark and Kate Witherington, the creators of Storybook Basics, a platform aimed at helping parents, caregivers, and teachers connect with children through picture books. By using their BASICS approach—Book, Activity, Snack, Ideas, Connections—Erin and Kate provide simple, low-prep ideas to foster parent-child bonding, early literacy, and joyful play. Their tips and strategies offer practical support for busy families who want to nurture literacy and emotional connections in an accessible, engaging way. This episode is packed with insights for parents and educators looking to enhance family bonding time and create lasting memories. Episode Highlights [02:10] Creating Storybook Basics for Parent-Child Bonding: Erin and Kate share how they developed Storybook Basics as a resource for parents to connect with their kids through storytelling and play, inspired by their backgrounds in teaching and early childhood development. [06:00] BASICS Approach to Family Bonding: They outline their BASICS method—Book, Activity, Snack, Ideas, and Connections—which helps parents make reading time an enriching bonding experience. Each week, they feature a quality book, a simple activity, an easy snack, and discussion questions to encourage meaningful conversations. [10:15] Serving Busy Parents and Educators: Erin and Kate explain how Storybook Basics is designed for busy parents, grandparents, and teachers who seek easy, cost-effective ways to incorporate bonding activities, early literacy, and kid-friendly play. [14:00] Making Story Time Accessible for All Families: They emphasize that bonding over books doesn't require expensive materials; libraries, budget-friendly books, and everyday items can create memorable family playtime and storytelling experiences. [17:30] Tailoring Reading to Your Child's Learning Style: Erin and Kate offer tips on adjusting storytime for different learning styles, such as using sensory tools to help active kids focus. These methods ensure an inclusive approach to nurturing early literacy skills. [22:45] Vocabulary Building Through Picture Books: Picture books contain 70% more rare words than typical conversations, making them a powerful tool for building vocabulary, supporting early literacy, and enhancing children's communication skills. [26:30] Embracing Slow Living and Mindful Parenting: Erin and Kate close with their motto, “Slowing down childhood one picture book at a time.” They remind parents that picture books offer a chance to slow down, be present, and nurture strong parent-child connections. Key Takeaways 1. Prioritize Family Bonding with Picture Books: Picture books create rich moments for connecting with your child and reinforcing family bonds. 2. Adapt Storytime to Your Child's Needs: Tailor reading sessions to your child's personality and learning style to make literacy and bonding effective and fun. 3. Foster Vocabulary and Literacy Growth: Reading picture books introduces new vocabulary, supporting early language skills and communication development. 4. Practice Mindful Parenting: Slow down and cherish small, memorable moments with your child through shared reading and playful learning.

    Empowering LGBTQ Kids During Holidays: Practical Tips for Inclusive Parenting with Heather Hester

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2024 22:18


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and author of Parenting with Pride: Unlearn Bias and Embrace, Empower, and Love Your LGBTQ Teen. Heather shares her personal journey of parenting LGBTQ children and provides actionable strategies for navigating family gatherings during the holidays with compassion and confidence. This insightful conversation covers setting healthy boundaries, supporting your child, and fostering open communication, all while promoting acceptance and love within families. Episode Highlights [02:15] Heather's Journey and Parenting with Pride:  Heather introduces her book, which draws from her family's experience of parenting LGBTQ children, and explains how it helps parents unlearn biases and embrace understanding and empowerment.  [07:30] Setting Boundaries at Family Gatherings:  Heather discusses how to handle challenging conversations with family members who may not be affirming of LGBTQ identities. She emphasizes the importance of protecting your child and modeling self-respect. [12:45] Simple Strategies for Difficult Conversations:  Learn how to deflect confrontational topics by providing resources or redirecting conversations. Heather explains why it's not your responsibility to educate others and how to prioritize your child's well-being. [18:00] Empowering Your Child Through Support: Heather highlights the importance of allowing your child to make decisions about their participation in gatherings. By showing them respect and standing by their choices, parents can empower children to set their own boundaries. [22:15] Recognizing and Managing Emotional Triggers: Heather shares tips for managing emotional reactions during heated discussions, including pausing to respond thoughtfully. She encourages parents to model calm, intentional behavior for their children. [26:30] Teaching Self-Love Through Boundaries: Setting and maintaining boundaries isn't just about family dynamics—it's about teaching children how to advocate for themselves and love themselves. [30:00] Final Advice for Navigating Family Dynamics: Heather advises parents to stay present, trust their instincts, and have their child's back in any situation, even when caught off guard by challenging family dynamics. Key Takeaways     Set Healthy Boundaries: Protect your child by setting clear limits with family members who are not affirming.     Empower Your Child: Support your child's autonomy in deciding how to navigate family gatherings.     Model Emotional Awareness: Teach by example—respond thoughtfully to challenging situations instead of reacting impulsively.     Provide Resources, Not Arguments: Redirect confrontational conversations by offering educational resources, not personal debates.

    Navigating Holiday Gatherings: Setting Boundaries with Grace with Carla Marie Manley

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2024 19:25


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Adina Oberman speaks with Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and expert in personal transformation, to discuss strategies for setting healthy boundaries during holiday gatherings. With holidays often bringing together family and friends, Dr. Manley offers practical tips for navigating potentially invasive questions with grace and respect. This conversation is perfect for those seeking to create a positive, self-respecting environment during social events, allowing families to enjoy gatherings with mutual understanding. [00:00] Host Adina Oberman introduces Dr. Carla Marie Manley, highlighting her expertise in relationships, personal growth, and boundary setting, especially relevant during the holiday season. Dr. Manley explains her holistic approach to helping others navigate relationships with a foundation of self-respect and resilience. [04:15] Dr. Manley describes common holiday challenges, such as invasive questions, and emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries. She encourages listeners to view boundaries as emotional “fences” that protect well-being, offering examples of how to respond calmly to probing questions. [09:30] Dr. Manley discusses the impact of the word “should” on boundaries, noting that feeling obligated to answer personal questions can lead to boundary violations. She encourages families to set limits confidently and gracefully, re-framing boundaries as a means of self-care. [13:50] The conversation covers practical responses to common intrusive questions (e.g., about relationships or family planning). Dr. Manley shares polite, direct phrases for redirecting conversations and maintaining personal privacy. [18:20] Dr. Manley emphasizes the value of role-modeling boundaries for children, highlighting how parents can demonstrate self-respect in social settings. She also suggests practicing boundary-setting phrases to build confidence before gatherings. [23:30] Dr. Manley explains the “three strikes, you're out” approach to reinforce boundaries, advising listeners on handling persistent boundary crossers by politely exiting conversations if necessary. [28:45] Dr. Manley addresses handling conversations with individuals under the influence of alcohol, explaining how to navigate these situations by disengaging if needed, to maintain emotional safety and peace. [32:15] Dr. Manley shares advice on avoiding discussions around politics or sensitive topics at family gatherings, including using “timeouts” as a graceful way to step away from uncomfortable conversations. Key Takeaways: Healthy boundaries allow you to maintain self-respect and enjoy holiday gatherings more fully. Polite, direct responses can help redirect intrusive questions without damaging relationships. Role-modeling boundaries for children reinforces the importance of self-respect. Practice boundary-setting phrases to build confidence in social settings. Using a “timeout” can provide a graceful exit from difficult conversations, especially when sensitive topics arise.

    Handling the Holidays after Divorce with Paul Mandelstein

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2024 16:09


    In this Helping Families Be Happy podcast episode, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Paul Mandelstein, founder of the Father Resource Network and author of The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce. Together, they explore the challenges and joys of celebrating the holidays post-divorce, providing divorced or separated parents with advice on handling co-parenting dynamics and creating meaningful, stress-free holiday traditions for the whole family. Episode Highlights [02:15] Prioritizing Flexibility for Kids: Paul advises parents to adapt holiday plans around their children's needs, even if it means adjusting co-parenting schedules. [06:45] Kindness and Agreement-Keeping: Practicing kindness and sticking to agreements with co-parents helps create a positive holiday experience for the entire family. [12:30] Embracing Personal Growth: Holidays post-divorce offer opportunities for self-reflection and growth, which can contribute to a happier, healthier family dynamic. [16:10] Practicing Forgiveness: Forgiveness isn't just for others but is a healing step for oneself, easing tensions and fostering a peaceful holiday season. [21:00] Building New Traditions: Creating unique family traditions allows everyone, including new family members, to feel included and helps children adjust. [25:30] Avoiding Over-Gifting: Instead of compensating with gifts, Paul encourages parents to focus on quality time, as it creates more meaningful holiday memories for kids. Key Takeaways Prioritize Kids' Needs with Flexibility: Be adaptable to give children the best possible holiday experience. Be Kind and Keep Agreements: Kindness and reliability strengthen co-parenting dynamics and ease holiday tensions.     Use Holidays as Growth Opportunities: Embrace self-reflection and personal growth for a fulfilling holiday season.      Create New Traditions and Avoid Over-gifting: Develop traditions that honor your new family setup without excessive gifting.

    The Power of Positive Influence in Families with Barry Rellaford

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2024 21:02


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes leadership expert Barry Relaford. With decades of experience in leadership development and trust-building, Barry shares insights on fostering a positive family environment through authentic leadership, building trust, and creating a lasting legacy. This episode is essential for families wanting to strengthen bonds, instill strong values, and positively impact future generations. [00:00] Host Christopher Robbins introduces Barry Relaford, noting his work with leaders worldwide and his current focus on mentoring emerging talent. They discuss how leadership and trust-building principles apply directly to family relationships. [05:20] Barry defines leadership as positive influence and explains that every family member can lead by setting a good example. This approach fosters trust, strengthens bonds, and encourages growth within the family. [10:30] Reflecting on his family experiences, Barry highlights the powerful role of family legacy, emphasizing how the values we pass down shape future generations. [15:45] Barry shares the quote, “It's a greater compliment to be trusted than to be loved,” underscoring that trust is crucial in family relationships and often outweighs likability. [22:00] Barry explores the process of rebuilding broken trust, emphasizing that it requires trustworthy actions and consistent boundaries to restore family harmony. [30:15] Barry discusses the link between trust and leadership in family dynamics, stressing that parents should model integrity and accountability to foster a secure, supportive home. [35:40] Barry concludes with optimism for future generations, encouraging families to support young leaders, as they are key to creating a more positive society. Key Takeaways: Family leadership is best expressed through positive influence and setting a strong example. Trust is foundational to family relationships and should be prioritized over simply being liked. Rebuilding trust requires consistent, trustworthy actions and clear family boundaries. Family members play a critical role in nurturing future leaders and instilling strong values. Supporting young family members in leadership roles encourages a hopeful future.

    Books with Soul: Transforming Communities Through Stories with Alma Guzman

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2024 16:18


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman speaks with Alma Guzman, founder of Libros con Alma (Books with Soul), a community-driven project based in Southeast Los Angeles. Alma shares her journey of launching Libros con Alma in 2021 to address the lack of bookstores and accessible Spanish-language and BIPOC-authored books in her community. By organizing book pop-ups, engaging in cultural events, and creating the recent exhibit Cuentame, Alma fosters a love for reading and storytelling in underserved areas. Alma discusses her unique approaches to connect with her community, including collaborations with local artists, the “Spanglish Book Club,” and her aspirations to establish a bookmobile. This episode emphasizes the power of community, representation in literature, and the transformative potential of accessible stories. Episode Highlights         1. Origins of Libros con Alma: How Alma launched her initiative to increase access to Spanish-language and BIPOC literature in Southeast LA. 2.  Impact on Community: Alma's insights into the significance of offering free, take-home books in her community and the reactions from local readers. 3. Cultural Engagement: Highlighting Cuentame, an art exhibit showcasing book recommendations and stories from Southeast LA residents. 4. Upcoming Projects: Alma's plans for the “Spanglish Book Club” and her long-term goal of creating a bookmobile.       Key Links: Libros con Alma on Instagram – Follow Alma's journey, pop-up events, and upcoming projects. Familius 10 Habits of Happy Families – Explore ways to foster happiness through learning and conversation.

    See, Support, Connect: Creating a Safe Space Through Books with Kenya Kirkman

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2024 18:22


    In this episode, Kenya Kirkman, founder of 18 August Avenue, joins host Adina Oberman to discuss her mission of empowering BIPOC families through diverse children's books and community-building events. Kenya shares how the stillbirth of her twin sons, Aiden and Carter, inspired her to create a space where Black and brown families can see themselves represented in literature. She talks about the importance of offering resources for parents, connecting with educators, and fostering a sense of belonging for marginalized communities. Kenya also provides advice for aspiring entrepreneurs and shares her vision for the future of 18 August Avenue. Episode Highlights: Introduction to Kenya Kirkman and 18 August Avenue Kenya shares the inspiring story behind founding 18 August Avenue, a children's bookshop that amplifies BIPOC voices, inspired by her twin sons, Aiden and Carter, who were stillborn in 2019. Turning Grief into Purpose Kenya discusses how the loss of her sons led her to create a space for expectant parents and families, providing diverse books and resources that reflect their lived experiences. Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs Kenya offers heartfelt advice to listeners considering starting a business: stay authentic, pursue what feels right, and ensure your passion aligns with your purpose. Breaking the Stigma Around Stillbirth Kenya opens up about the challenges of sharing her personal story, how it shapes her work, and how her bookshop events center on supporting parents and families in ways that are healing and inclusive. 18 August Avenue's Impact on the Community Kenya reflects on how her pop-up events, curated books, and resources are helping families and young people feel seen, supported, and connected. Looking Ahead: Future Plans for 18 August Avenue Kenya shares her hopes for expanding her business, with fingers crossed for a physical location in Brooklyn, and upcoming events designed to engage educators and young readers. How to Support and Connect with 18 August Avenue Kenya provides details on where to find her online, upcoming events in the Brooklyn area, and how people can support her mission of empowering BIPOC families through books. Closing Remarks Host Adina Oberman thanks Kenya for sharing her journey, encouraging listeners to follow and support 18 August Avenue. She reminds the audience to subscribe, leave a review, and explore more family-centered books through Familius.

    Read What You Love with Sarah Gundell

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2024 22:16


    Episode Summary: In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman is joined by Sarah Gundell, a passionate book blogger and advocate for children's literature. Sarah shares her journey from her early involvement with the Twilight fandom to her current focus on promoting a love of reading through her Instagram account, Novel Novice. Sarah discusses her unique approach to engaging kids with reading by connecting their interests to the books they read. She also addresses the value of audiobooks and diverse reading formats, emphasizing that the key to fostering a love for reading is to allow children to explore what they enjoy. Key Takeaways: Align Reading with Interests: Discover how connecting reading material to children's personal interests—whether it's sports, crafting, or graphic novels—can ignite a lifelong love of reading. Embrace All Forms of Reading: Audiobooks, graphic novels, and genre fiction are all valuable. The important thing is engaging with books in any format that resonates with the reader. Model Reading Behavior: Demonstrate your love for reading to your children by making time for it yourself. This models positive reading habits and emphasizes reading as a rewarding activity. Utilize Libraries and Bookstores: Take advantage of local libraries and bookstores to provide diverse reading materials, making books a regular and exciting part of family life. Read Together: Incorporate reading into daily routines and special moments with your family to build a shared love for books and create cherished memories. Resources Mentioned: Sarah Gundell's Instagram: @novelnovice Sarah's Blog: novelnovice.com (for archived book reviews) Quotes from the Episode: “The goal is to keep kids engaged with reading in any form.” – Sarah Gundell “Books are accessible to everyone. Go get a book and discover reading.” – Sarah Gundell “I like to say, read by example.” – Sarah Gundell Join the Conversation: We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Subscribe to the podcast and leave us a review to let us know how we're doing. When you're ready for your next great book adventure, explore the wonderful selections at Familia to continue your reading journey.

    When Mental Illness Hits Home: On Faith and Resilience with Virgina Pillars

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2024 21:43


    Mental Illness and Virginia Pillars In this episode of 'Helping Families Be Happy,' host Adina Oberman engages with guest Virginia Pillars, the author of 'Broken Brain, Fortified Faith' to discuss the complexities and journey through mental illness within a family context. This episode dives into Pillars' personal experience with her daughter's schizophrenia diagnosis, the impact on family, and the power of hope, education, and faith in navigating mental illness. Contributions from both speakers shed light on vital resources, self-care for caregivers, and the importance of ongoing learning and community support.    Episode Highlights  00:00:09 - Host Adina Oberman introduces the podcast focus on family, love, and relationships and presents guest Virginia Pillars, an advocate for mental health, sharing her start as a mother and author dealing with her child's mental illness.    00:01:15 - Virginia speaks about addressing mental illness in families, emphasizing the necessity of faith, mental wellness, and education through her certification in First Aid for Mental Health and her awarded memoir.    00:02:28 - The initiation of the conversation where Virginia expresses gratitude for the opportunity to share her story, setting a tone of mutual respect and eagerness for the dialogue.    00:02:30 - Pillars touches on the inception of her book 'Broken Brain, Fortified Faith', discussing the loneliness felt by families dealing with mental illness and her hope to provide solace and understanding through her writing.    00:04:16 - An intimate discussion on the persistency of hope and the importance of lifelong learning and indulging in one's craft to contribute positively to family and personal growth, despite the dark times.    00:06:00 - Virginia recounts the initial signs of her daughter's schizophrenia, the emergency that signified a major change in their lives, and the critical role this moment played in sparking a relentless quest for help and understanding.    00:08:32 - Dive into the Pillars' family's journey towards recovery, detailing their unwavering effort, exploration of resources, and the eventual success in facilitating an independent life for their daughter.    00:09:44 - Overview of valuable platforms like NAMI for support and education for families encountering mental illness, reinforcing the power of community and shared experiences in healing.    00:11:23 - Virginia shares the personal transformation from questioning faith to drawing strength from it, underlining the spiritual journey intertwined with coping with family mental health issues.    00:14:08 - Emphasis on the criticality of self-care for caregivers, using a compelling analogy with the airplane oxygen mask to highlight the necessity of caring for oneself to effectively care for others.    00:16:01 - Pillars explains how her faith was 'fortified' through adversity, detailing her morning routine of reflection and prayer that provided her with the resilience required for her challenging journey.    00:19:35 - The close of the episode, with Virginia sharing avenues through which listeners can connect with her and learn more about her work, encouraging outreach and dialogue on mental health issues.  Key Takeaways  Hope and education are crucial elements in navigating the journey of mental illness within a family.    Community support, like that offered by NAMI, plays an indispensable role in understanding and coping with mental health diagnoses.    Self-care for caregivers is not just necessary but paramount in ensuring the wellbeing of both the caregivers themselves and their loved ones. 4. Maintaining faith or personal beliefs can offer profound strength and perspective during times of adversity.  Tweetable Quotes  "Hang on to the hope, because hope is always there no matter the darkness." - Virginia Pillars  "Self-care put on our own oxygen masks so that we can continue to care for other people around us." - Virginia Pillars  "We've taken not the question of why but, this has happened now what do we do with it to move forward?" - Virginia Pillars

    The Power of Representation: Children's Literature & Hispanic Heritage Month with Kid Time Storytime

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2024 29:37


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes a celebrated YouTube storyteller known for her Kid Time, Story Time channel, which is particularly popular among kids for its engaging book readings augmented by a cast of entertaining puppets. They dive into the significance of Hispanic Heritage Month, discussing the importance of cultural identity, pride, and bilingualism, particularly within the context of children's literature and upbringing. The storyteller shares her own Cuban-American background, emphasizing the value of maintaining one's heritage language and the profound impact of seeing oneself reflected in media and literature. The conversation also explores broader themes of authenticity, joy in education, and the role of children's literature in shaping a generation's understanding of themselves and their culture.    Episode Highlights  00:00:09: Adina introduces the podcast and welcomes the guest storyteller, highlighting her achievements with Kid Time, Story Time YouTube channel, and her contribution to children's literature and bilingual education.  00:01:13: The storyteller's background as a Cuban-American and her emphasis on the importance of Hispanic Heritage Month are discussed, with a nod to her role as a modern Mr. Rogers. 00:01:56: The storyteller comments on the 'messy' nature of life and the synergy between her work and the podcast's themes of reading, laughing, and learning together.  00:02:25: Discussion moves to how parents and educators can help kids develop a strong sense of self and cultural identity through modeling behavior and embracing their culture joyfully.  00:04:04: Emphasizing the importance of maintaining one's heritage language within the family to preserve culture and identity.  00:07:31: The power of children seeing themselves represented in literature and the influence of authentic experiences and characters are discussed.  00:08:34: The storyteller reflects on her own influential figures, including family members and Celia Cruz, in shaping her personal and professional life.  00:12:22: There's an exploration of the importance of authenticity in creating content and the impact of genuine connection with audiences.  00:15:22: Adina and the storyteller delve into the role of children's literature in helping kids understand and appreciate their cultural identity and the diversity of stories necessary for a comprehensive cultural representation.  00:20:40: The storyteller shares her closing thoughts on the importance of authenticity, joy, and education in shaping children's lives.  00:26:32: Information on where to find Kid Time, Story Time content online is given alongside a message of gratitude to listeners and supporters.    Key Takeaways  Embracing and preserving one's cultural heritage, especially through language, is essential for maintaining a strong sense of identity and pride among children. Children benefit significantly from seeing themselves represented in literature, which can foster a sense of belonging and self-esteem. Authenticity and joy are crucial in educational content creation, as they build genuine connections and make the learning experience enjoyable and meaningful for children. The diversity of stories in children's literature plays a vital role in shaping how kids understand and appreciate their own cultures and those of others, promoting empathy and inclusiveness. Family members and cultural figures can be influential in a child's development, serving as inspirations and role models in their journey of self-discovery and cultural appreciation.  Tweetable Quotes  "Life is messy, and embracing it together through reading, laughing, and learning is what makes us grow." - Adina Oberman  "Being bilingual is not just about speaking two languages; it's about living two cultures, enriching your identity and your world view." - Guest Storyteller  "Children are like sponges, they absorb every detail around them, which is why it is so important for them to see themselves reflected in books and media." - Guest Storyteller  "Authenticity unlocks a special connection between us and our audience, making every shared moment and every taught lesson deeply impactful." - Guest Storyteller    Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Supporting Without Smothering: The Key to College Readiness with Cynthia Munchick

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2024 29:42


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman explores the intricacies of the college application process with Cynthia Munchick, an educational consultant with over 25 years of experience. Cynthia offers invaluable advice on navigating the often challenging journey to college, from understanding the importance of well-rounded experiences to managing stress during senior year. The conversation provides insight into fostering independence in teenagers and the vital role of parental support without overstepping.    Episode Highlights  00:00:10 - Adina introduces the podcast and welcomes Cynthia Munchick, highlighting her extensive background in education and dedication to helping families navigate the college application process. The introduction sets the stage for a detailed discussion on preparing teens for college and the parent's role in this pivotal time. 00:02:07 - Cynthia expresses gratitude for the opportunity to share her insights, illuminating the recurring theme of gratitude and collaboration between educational consultants and families striving for a common goal: the success and well-being of the students. 00:02:51 - The importance of using summers strategically is discussed, with Cynthia advising on the value of balancing rest with activities like volunteering or part-time jobs to enrich a student's high school experience and college applications.  00:03:41 - Cynthia advocates for open communication between parents and teens, emphasizing the need for parents to offer support in managing the bustling schedule of high school life without being dominating, pointing towards fostering independence and self-management skills in students. 00:05:38 - Cynthia shares practical advice for families with underclassmen, stressing the significance of proactive planning and parental support tailored to the unique needs of each student, ensuring they are well-prepared for the college application process. 00:06:16 - Discussion shifts to the unique challenges faced by seniors and their parents. Cynthia reflects on her personal experience as a parent of a rising senior, highlighting the delicate balance between support and allowing independence. 00:08:43 - Cynthia emphasizes the congestive nature of the senior fall, underscoring the importance of time management, strategizing college visits, and dealing with the academic and emotional load during the final high school year. 00:10:40 - The conversation delves into the emotional aspects of navigating senior year, with Adina and Cynthia discussing the importance of giving teens space, understanding, and the permission to manage their responsibilities, highlighting a common thread throughout the episode: the delicate balance of parental involvement.  00:12:23 - Cynthia discusses the concept of "pointy" vs. "well-rounded" students, stressing that neither is inherently superior and encouraging parents to support their children's genuine interests, even if they lead to a more focused set of skills or experiences. 00:16:07 - Cynthia and Adina explore the importance of self-awareness and self-care among students, emphasizing the permission to quit activities that no longer serve their growth or happiness, advocating for mental health and well-being over a packed schedule. 00:20:13 - The episode concludes with a discussion on the first-generation college application process, with Cynthia providing practical advice for navigating this unfamiliar territory and highlighting the abundance of resources available to support these families.  Key Takeaways  Summers should be utilized strategically to enhance personal growth and college applications through volunteering, work, or leisure activities that foster new skills.  Open and supportive communication between parents and teenagers is crucial in managing the stress associated with high school and college applications, with a distinct emphasis on promoting independence and resilience in students.  There is a critical balance in parental involvement; too little can leave a student feeling unsupported, yet too much can hinder their development of necessary life skills.  Emphasis on mental health and well-being over achievement, showcasing the importance of allowing teens to quit activities that no longer serve their happiness or growth.  First-generation college applicants have a wealth of resources at their disposal; it's about asking the right questions and seeking out support within their communities and schools.  Tweetable Quotes "Use summers strategically for growth beyond academics." - Cynthia Munchick "Support, don't smother - the delicate balance of parenting high schoolers." - Cynthia Munchick  "Independence in high school breeds resilience in college." - Cynthia Munchick  "Permission to quit can be the greatest lesson in self-care." - Cynthia Munchick  "First-gen college applicants, seek out resources - they're plentiful." - Cynthia Munchick  Show Notes by Barevalue.

    The Art of Balance: Parenting, Career, and Self-Care with Carly Shoulders

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2024 30:26


    Carly Shoulders Podcast  In this episode, Adina Oberman, a mom and former preschool teacher, explores the themes of work-life balance and making life with kids easier with Carly Shoulders, a former educator turned insurance professional and resin artist. They delve into the challenges and insights of parenting, the pressure to "do it all," and the personal journeys that led them to make significant career and life changes to prioritize family and self-care.    Episode Highlights  00:00:09 - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, focusing on the messy yet beautiful aspects of family, love, and relationships. She welcomes guest Carly Shoulders, highlighting her background as a mother, former educator, and her current roles in the insurance industry and as a resin artist. 00:01:13 - Carly shares her journey from being an educator to finding a balance that allows her to pursue her passions and spend more time with her family. This transition was sparked by the realization that her job was not allowing her to be the parent she wanted to be, leading her to seek a career that offered better work-life harmony. 00:02:16 - The concept of giving 100% in life is discussed, with Carly explaining how splitting her energy between work and family has led to a healthier balance for her. This ideology is rooted in an understanding that it's not feasible to give your all to every aspect of life every single day.   00:03:23 - Carly discusses the pivotal moment when she realized that her professional life had to change. Seeking advice from a counselor, she faced the question of whether her current path was what she truly wanted for her life. This led to a deeper reflection on her values and what it means to be fulfilled. 00:04:19 - The topic of self-care and how it relates to being a parent and professional is addressed. Carly and Adina talk about the importance of assessing one's capacity daily to adequately allocate energy to different aspects of life, including self-care. 00:05:12 - Carly emphasizes the societal pressure on women, particularly mothers, to "do it all" and how unhealthy this expectation can be. She advocates for a more balanced approach that allows for personal well-being and fulfillment. 00:06:03 - Adina reflects on her own experience, resonating with Carly's journey. They discuss the societal and internal pressures parents face, highlighting the importance of making personal choices that lead to happiness and balance. 00:07:07 - Carly recounts a breaking point caused by workplace toxicity, which reinforced her decision to change careers. This moment of clarity led her to prioritize her well-being and family life over societal expectations of success. 00:08:07 - The positive impact of Carly's career change on her family is highlighted. Working from home and having more control over her work-life balance has led to a more fulfilling and happy family life.    00:09:09 - Carly speaks to the empowerment that comes from making life changes for one's happiness and well-being. She encourages listeners to not be afraid of changing their path, as personal growth often requires new directions. 00:10:03 - The discussion shifts to how societal expectations can clash with personal needs and happiness. Both Carly and Adina share their experiences with career changes and how these decisions were critical to finding personal and family happiness.    00:11:06 - Carly's entrance into the world of resin art as a form of self-care and creative expression is explored. This new passion provided her with a therapeutic outlet and a way to connect with her interests and talents.    00:12:24 - The conversation concludes with a focus on Carly's social media presence, where she aims to support other parents with resources, tips, and personal experiences. Her journey underscores the importance of finding one's path to happiness and fulfillment.  Key Takeaways  Finding a balance between professional aspirations and family life is crucial for personal happiness and well-being. The concept of giving 100% doesn't mean splitting your energy equally among tasks but understanding your limits and allocating your energy in a way that aligns with your values and needs.   Social support and community can significantly impact mental health and parenting. Finding or creating spaces that offer support and understanding can be incredibly beneficial.    Self-care is not only about personal relaxation but also about making life choices that reflect one's true needs and desires, even if that means making significant changes.  Tweetable Quotes  "You're enough, no matter what you're giving and no matter what your situation is." - Carly Shoulders    "It's not feasible to give your all to every aspect of life every single day." - Carly Shoulders    "We're all human, we're all in this together, and you are enough no matter what." - Carly Shoulders  Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Breaking the Silence: Gen Z and Mental Health with John Schlimm

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2024 24:39


    In this episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes John Schlimm, a Harvard-trained educator, artist advocate, and author, to discuss the complexities of Generation Z, focusing particularly on their mental health challenges and societal impacts. Exploring John's journey into becoming an advocate for Gen Z's mental health, the episode delves into the reasons behind the high suicide rates in this generation, the role of social media, and how Gen Z is reshaping the conversation around mental health. The discussion also touches on the importance of communication across generations and offers insights into tackling mental health issues head-on.  Episode Highlights: 00:00:09: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and today's guest, John Schlimm, highlighting his work on unveiling the multifaceted identity of Generation Z, beyond stereotypes and media profiling. She underscores John’s innovative collaborations in art and mental health initiatives, aiming to foster a deeper understanding of Gen Z’s unique challenges and strengths.  00:01:21: John shares his initial engagement with Generation Z, noting the generational shift he experienced while teaching. His story reveals an unexpected journey into the heart of Gen Z’s world, highlighting their openness and bravery in discussing mental health issues, which markedly sets them apart from previous generations.  00:02:35: A dialogue on the importance of educators in understanding and connecting with Gen Z unfolds. John emphasizes the value of sitting down and engaging directly with young people, urging fellow educators to listen and learn from their students' experiences, especially regarding mental health.  00:03:39: John dives deeper into the mental health crisis facing Gen Z, discussing its complexity and the lack of a single, definitive reason behind the high suicide rates. He challenges common assumptions and sheds light on the disparity between Gen Z's willingness to discuss mental health and society’s readiness to listen and support them.  00:06:10: Unpacking the paradox of Gen Z’s high suicide rates alongside their forwardness in discussing mental health, John suggests that societal and individual factors play significant roles. He stresses the need for genuine conversation and listening to understand the depths of Gen Z’s experiences without simplifying their struggles.  00:09:12: Addressing stereotypes and misunderstandings about Gen Z, John advocates for a shift in perspective among older adults. Reflecting on how stigmas and preconceptions affect both the listener and the sharer, he highlights the transformative potential of open, non-judgmental communication in bridging generational gaps.  00:10:44: An unexpected moment with surprise fireworks becomes a metaphor for the unpredictability and vibrancy of working with Gen Z. John connects this delightful interruption to the essence of embracing unexpected insights and joyful interactions that can emerge from genuine engagement with young people.  00:12:39: In discussing broader mental health implications, John suggests that lessons from engaging with Gen Z can be applicable across all ages, including surprising demographics such as senior citizens. He emphasizes the universal need for more open conversations about mental health and suicide prevention.  00:21:52: As the episode wraps up, Adina thanks John for his insights and shares with the audience where to find more information about his work. The conversation concludes on a note of hope and encouragement for continuing to build bridges of understanding and support across generations.  Key Takeaways: - Generation Z is unprecedentedly open about mental health issues, setting a new standard for discussions around depression, anxiety, and suicide. Their readiness to share presents an opportunity for societal advancement in mental health awareness.  Show Notes By Barevalue   - The high suicide rates among Gen Z underscore a complex interplay of individual, societal, and systemic factors, with no single cause. It calls for a nuanced, empathetic approach to mental health discussions and support. - Engaging directly and respectfully with Gen Z (and all individuals facing mental health challenges) can lead to deeper understanding and solutions. Open dialogue, free from judgment and preconceptions, is crucial. - The episode emphasizes the importance of listening and learning from younger generations, highlighting that mental health is a universal issue that transcends age and other demographics.  Tweetable Quotes: - "By merely saying words like anxiety and depression, Generation Z has made a historical leap in mental health awareness." - John Schlimm - "Sitting down and talking to young people will teach you more than any research study or book ever could." - John Schlimm    - "We're not pointing fingers; let's just have a conversation." - John Schlimm   Show Notes By Barevalue

    Beyond the Bike: How Adventure and Memoir Transformed Leah Day

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2024 13:31


    In this episode of the Helping Channels Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Leah Day, a former clinical social worker turned cycling enthusiast and shop owner. They delve into Leah's journey from counseling to cycling, her family adventures, and how these experiences culminated in her decision to write a memoir. Listeners will get a glimpse into the transformative power of pursuing one's passions and the unexpected paths life can take.  Episode Highlights 00:00:09 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, its goals, and today's guest, Leah Day. Robbins outlines his background and sets the stage for an engaging conversation about the intertwining paths of family, love, relationships, and personal growth through Leah Day's experiences. 00:01:00 - Leah shares her transition from a clinical social worker to opening Lighthouse Bikes, reflecting on how her previous career and passion for cycling merge to create unique experiences for her and others. Her story underscores the theme of finding new avenues for personal and professional fulfillment.    00:01:58 - The discussion turns to Leah's extensive biking journeys, including her acclaimed bicycle ride across the United States with her youngest son, Oakley. She touches on the impact of adventure and challenge in fostering growth and transition, highlighting her contributions to adventure cycling publications and other media.    00:02:38 - Leah opens up about recent biking adventures in Morocco and Spain, bringing to life her experiences in the Riff Mountains and the unique situations she found herself in due to the locales she chose to explore.    00:03:49 - The conversation shifts to Leah's memoir, "Changing Gears," focusing on the motivation behind documenting her and her son's cross-country cycling journey. This segues into a deeper discussion on the therapeutic aspects of writing and journaling.    00:06:04 - Leah and Christopher discuss the process of writing a memoir, including the initial challenges, the role of blogging and journaling, and the importance of making personal stories public for broader impact.    00:08:14 - Leah reflects on the feedback from readers of her memoir and how sharing personal stories can inspire and support others in their own life journeys.    00:11:31 - The episode culminates with Leah sharing her favorite part of her memoir, a profound moment of role reversal with her son, which encapsulates the theme of growth and the deepening of their relationship through their shared adventure.    Key Takeaways  Transitions in career and life can lead to fulfilling new paths that weave together personal passions and professional experiences.  Documenting journeys, whether through blogs, journals, or memoirs, can be therapeutic and offers a reflective insight into personal growth and understanding.  Stories hold power, and sharing them can inspire, connect, and impact others in meaningful ways, encouraging everyone to explore their own adventures and challenges.  Tweetable Quotes "Part of the journey is becoming the kind of person who could take care of somebody else." - Leah Day  "Writing about it really helped me figure out what was exciting to me for the next chapter of my life." - Leah Day  "If we tell each other our stories, we're actually helping each other. We're not just talking about ourselves." - Leah Day  Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Writing Your Truth: The Art of Memoir with Mary Potter Kenyon

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2024 22:55


    In this episode, Host Christopher Robbins and guest Mary Potter Kenyon dive into the art of memoir writing, exploring the importance of honesty and transparency in documenting life stories. They discuss the challenges and rewards of writing memoirs, providing insights on how to share personal stories with truth and courage. Through their conversation, listeners are encouraged to embrace their voice and experiences, whether writing for personal reflection or publication.  Episode Highlights  00:00:10 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, himself, and guest Mary Potter Kenyon. The introduction frames the episode's focus on memoir writing, emphasizing the value of recording life's significant moments. Christopher's extensive personal background sets a welcoming and relatable stage for the conversation. 00:01:37 - Mary Potter Kenyon expresses gratitude for joining the podcast. This brief interaction establishes a warm and engaging tone between the host and guest, setting the stage for a deeper exploration of memoir writing and its impacts. 00:01:39 - Christopher queries Mary on her extensive writing experience, leading to a discussion on the volume of words one writes over a lifetime. This segment humorously segues into contemplation on the journey and effort involved in refining writing skills. 00:02:36 - Mary differentiates between memoir and autobiography, highlighting memoir as a space for capturing specific life episodes with emotional depth. This segment illuminates the memoir's purpose in storytelling, underscoring its personal nature.  00:03:29 - The dialogue evolves into the structure of memoirs, distinguishing between short memoirs and book-length narratives. Mary offers insights into the craft of writing concise yet meaningful narratives, emphasizing the importance of each word in conveying personal stories effectively.  00:06:34 - Transparency in memoir writing is examined, with Mary stressing the necessity of honesty in sharing personal stories. This part deepens the conversation about the ethics and responsibilities of memoir writing, reflecting on how personal truths can connect with and impact readers.  00:09:08 - The discussion shifts to the therapeutic and healing aspects of memoir writing, exploring how writing can serve as a tool for personal reflection and understanding. Mary shares personal anecdotes to illustrate how writing can be a powerful means of processing and expressing experiences.  00:12:23 - Mary provides practical advice for aspiring memoir writers, including the importance of identifying the memoir's purpose and capturing life's pivotal moments. This guidance offers listeners a starting point for their writing journey, encouraging reflection on what stories they wish to tell.  00:17:31 - The topic of finding one's voice in writing is broached, with Mary discussing the authenticity required to make memoirs resonate. This segment demystifies the process of writing in one's voice, encouraging writers to be genuine and unafraid of expressing their true selves. 00:20:49 - Mary concludes with encouragement for potential writers, emphasizing the act of writing itself over the pursuit of publication. This closing message reinforces the episode's theme of memoir writing as a valuable and rewarding practice, regardless of the outcome.  Key Takeaways  Writing a memoir requires honesty and transparency to truly resonate with readers and provide therapeutic benefits to the writer. Memoir writing is a versatile form allowing for both short-form essays and longer, book-length narratives, each serving to capture and share fragments of life's experiences.   The practice of writing memoirs can serve as a powerful tool for personal healing, reflection, and connection with others, highlighting the uniqueness of individual stories.  Finding one's voice is essential in memoir writing, emphasizing authenticity and encouraging writers to stay true to their experiences and emotions.  Tweetable Quotes  "Memoir is a glimpse into a person's life that serves to connect us through shared human experiences." - Mary Potter Kenyon "Be brave and transparent in your writing; it's through vulnerability that we truly resonate with others." - Mary Potter Kenyon "Don't write to publish, write to express, to heal, and to share. The rest will follow." - Mary Potter Kenyon  Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Unlocking Roots: Genetic Genealogy for Adoptees with Richard Hill

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 17:19


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins and guest Richard Hill delve into the transformative power of genetic genealogy for adoptees searching for their roots. Hill shares his personal journey of discovering his biological family through DNA testing and discusses the evolution of genealogical research tools. The conversation illuminates the emotional and practical aspects of unearthing one's origins, marking an inspiring intersection of technology and human curiosity.  Episode Highlights  00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast episode, highlighting its focus on family, love, and relationships. Robbins details his background and introduces guest Richard Hill, who discusses his experience as an adoptee finding his biological family through DNA tests. 00:01:44: Richard Hill expresses gratitude for being part of the episode and anticipates sharing his story.  00:01:47: Robbins probes into Hill's motivation for exploring his family history. Hill elaborates on his late discovery of being adopted and his subsequent quest to uncover his biological origins, emphasizing how societal norms of the past differed from today. 00:03:26: Hill recounts the process of finding his biological family, underscoring the years of research involved, the eventual identification of his birth parents through DNA analysis, and the expansion of his family tree with newfound relatives.  00:05:13: The conversation shifts to the broader impacts of Hill's journey, discussing the lessons learned, the significance of understanding one's roots, and the legal barriers adoptees face in accessing their original birth records.  00:06:03: Discussing the evolution of research tools over the decades, Hill highlights how advances in technology, especially the internet and DNA testing, have revolutionised genealogical research, making it accessible to a wider audience.  00:07:22: Robbins jokes about the potential for discovering family secrets through DNA testing, illustrating both the intrigue and the cautionary aspects of delving into genetic genealogy.  00:07:31: Hill shares practical advice for individuals interested in exploring their family history, stressing the value of DNA testing and online genealogical resources in piecing together one's heritage.  00:10:15: Hill explains his decision to document his search in a book, aiming to guide and inspire others in similar quests. He reflects on the supportive feedback received from readers and the broader genealogical community.  00:12:16: Robbins highlights the positive reviews of Hill's book and inquires about feedback from readers. Hill shares experiences of connecting with others through his story, emphasizing the transformative power of understanding one's origins.  00:13:20: Offering advice to those new to genealogy, Hill recommends starting with foundational research and embracing DNA testing for its potential to unlock personal histories and connect with biological relatives.  00:15:19: Hill shares resources and ways for listeners to engage with his work and learn more about DNA testing, directing the audience to his website and social media profiles.  Key Takeaways  Understanding one's origins through DNA testing not only satisfies curiosity but also enriches one's sense of identity and connection to the past. Technological advancements have dramatically increased accessibility to genealogical research, empowering individuals with tools and resources to explore their family history.    The legal and societal barriers that once hindered adoptees from accessing their birth records are slowly being dismantled, thanks in large part to the advocacy of individuals like Richard Hill.    Embracing one's family history, whether biological or adopted, adds a significant layer of depth to personal narratives, fostering a greater appreciation for the complexities of family and identity.  Tweetable Quotes  "You just really can't have too much family." - Richard Hill  "DNA has led to many surprises." - Richard Hill  "90% of the surprises are either good or neutral, but be prepared." - Richard Hill  Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Indie Bookstores vs. Amazon: The Case for Community and Connection with Ashley Marie Mireles-Guerrero

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2024 16:03


    In this episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Adina Oberman welcomes Ashley Marie Mireles-Guerrero, a prominent figure in the book industry and co-founder of Judging by the Cover, a bookstore that focuses on amplifying historically marginalized voices. Together, they discuss the importance of accessible reading, the challenges and triumphs of running an independent bookstore, and the societal impact of inclusive literature.  Episode Highlights  00:00:09 - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast "Helping Families Be Happy," guest Ashley Mireles-Guerrero, and shares her professional background in the publishing industry and her advocacy for children's literature. This opening sets the stage for a discussion on the power of books in shaping family dynamics and child development.   00:01:47 - Ashley Mireles-Guerrero shares her journey into the book world, highlighting her multifaceted career and her role on various boards, reflecting on the impact these experiences have had on her perspective towards publishing and her drive to co-found Judging by the Cover bookstore.    00:02:20 - The conversation shifts to the experience of switching roles from a podcast host to a guest. Ashley touches on the unique experiences that come from her varied roles in the book industry and the fulfillment she finds in championing books and authors.    00:03:18 - Ashley dives deep into the motivations behind starting Judging by the Cover, incited by local library book challenges and the lack of independent bookstores in Fresno. She outlines the mission and goals of the bookstore to center historically marginalized authors.    00:04:15 - They discuss the rapid development of the bookstore, fueled by participation in a business incubator and community partnerships. This segment showcases the power of community and shared goals in creating impactful businesses.    00:05:18 - Ashley highlights the importance of Fresno's literary scene and the role Judging by the Cover plays in showcasing local authors and poets, emphasizing the bookstore's dedication to promoting local talent and diverse voices.    00:06:13 - The conversation takes a closer look at the bookstore's unique approach to book curation based on themes rather than genre, aiming to make a wider range of books accessible to diverse audiences and promoting inclusivity through literature.    00:07:11 - Ashley elaborates on their thematic selection process for stocking books and organizing pop ups, which focuses on amplifying diverse voices and supporting small presses, revealing the careful thought and strategy behind their inventory choices.    00:08:16 - They discuss the challenges indie bookstores face in competing with Amazon, highlighting the importance of human connection in the book selection process, and sharing insights into the nuanced, hands-on approach that distinguishes independent bookstores from online retail giants.    00:09:14 - Ashley shares insights into the complexities of the book industry from a behind-the-scenes perspective, elaborating on the intricate process of book creation, distribution, and the pivotal role of indie bookstores in fostering a rich, diverse reading culture.    00:10:13 - The topic shifts to the economic and community impact of supporting independent bookstores over Amazon, underscoring the significance of keeping money within the community and supporting a diverse range of voices and stories.    00:11:05 - Ashley discusses the limitations of shopping for books on Amazon, pointing out the advantages of indie bookstores in discovering and supporting indie gems and BIPOC authors that may not be visible on major online platforms.   00:13:00 - Closing the discussion, Ashley highlights the importance of local community support for indie bookstores and shares how listeners can engage with and support Judging by the Cover, both online and in-person.    00:13:57 - Ashley mentions alternative ways to support indie bookstores, such as bookshop.org, providing a strategy for readers to contribute to the sustainability of indie bookstores while still enjoying the convenience of online shopping.    00:15:02 - The episode concludes with Ashley sharing where listeners can find and engage with Judging by the Cover online, encouraging support for indie bookstores and highlighting the importance of reading diverse stories.  Key Takeaways  Independently-owned bookstores play a crucial role in promoting diversity and inclusivity in literature by spotlighting historically marginalized voices and offering a curated selection that challenges mainstream narratives.    Community and shared values are powerful drivers for change and innovation within the book industry, as demonstrated by the rapid growth and impact of Judging by the Cover: A Bookstore.  Supporting indie bookstores over large online retailers benefits both readers and communities, enriching the literary landscape with diverse perspectives and ensuring that more voices are heard and represented. The personal touch and expert knowledge provided by indie bookstores offer a valuable and irreplaceable resource for finding books that speak to a wide array of interests and experiences, encouraging exploration beyond mainstream selections.    Tweetable Quotes  "It's kind of like a joke that Fresno is the armpit of California, but we have national bestselling authors." - Ashley Mireles-Guerrero    "You can't type that into Amazon and get a good book as a result." - Ashley Mireles-Guerrero on the importance of human interaction in finding books.    "One step at a time, we can make the world a happier place." - Adina Oberman on the mission of their podcast.  Show Notes by Barevalue.

    Turning Challenges into Adventures: Dyslexia and Storytelling with Kimberlee Gaurd

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2024 18:59


    In this heartwarming episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes award-winning author Kimberlee Gard to discuss the power of storytelling, overcoming reading challenges, and the importance of accessible literature for children. Kimberly shares her personal journey with dyslexia and how it led to the creation of her beloved "Languages Fun Series." The conversation delves deep into strategies for supporting children with language development, embracing the joys of reading, and the impactful role of books in family life.  Episode Highlights:  00:00:09 - Introduction: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, its goals, and today's guest, Kimberlee Gard. She outlines Kimberly's accomplishments as an author and her contributions to children's literature through engaging storybooks featured on streaming platforms.   00:01:18 - Kimberly's Inspiration: Kimberly shares the origins of her "Languages Fun Series." Growing up with dyslexia, she faced significant challenges in reading, which led her to craft books that transform letters and punctuation into relatable characters for children. Her personal experiences with her children influenced these creations.  00:02:04 - Welcoming Kimberlee Gard: Kimberly expresses her excitement about being part of the podcast, acknowledging the positive reception of her books among parents, teachers, and children.  00:02:37 - The Genesis of Languages Fun Series: Kimberly delves deeper into the conceptualization of her series, emphasizing the struggles she observed in her own children with reading. This observation sparked the creative process behind making learning materials that are more approachable and memorable for young readers.  00:03:44 - Journey to Publication: Guard discusses the lengthy journey from the idea inception to the publication of her books. She stresses the patience and persistence required in the publishing industry, alongside the importance of marrying visual art with storytelling through collaboration with illustrators.  00:04:34 - Addressing Reading Challenges: Through sharing personal stories, Kimberly highlights the universal struggle of learning to read and how challenges can foster creativity and innovative solutions, such as her book series.  00:06:08 - Supporting Children with Learning Differences: Guard provides invaluable advice for parents and teachers on recognizing and nurturing children's unique learning styles. She advocates for early assessment and intervention to empower children with the tools they need to succeed.  00:07:14 - The Importance of Understanding Learning Differences: Kimberly discusses how identifying and understanding her son's dyslexia helped her family approach learning in a more tailored and effective manner.  00:08:36 - Simple Tools for Reading Success: Sharing practical tips, Kimberly illustrates how small adjustments and tools can make substantial differences in aiding children with dyslexia.  00:09:43 - Advocating for Early Intervention: Adina and Kimberly discuss the benefits of early diagnosis and tailored learning strategies for children facing reading difficulties.  00:10:33 - Embracing Individual Learning Paths: Adina reinforces the concept that acknowledging and strategizing around each child's specific learning needs paves the way for their success and confidence.  00:11:55 - Addressing Educational Challenges: Kimberly points out the systemic challenges in classrooms that can hinder individualized attention and emphasizes the role of parents in filling these gaps.  00:12:56 - Empowering Children through Understanding: Through anecdotal evidence, Guard illustrates the transformative power of understanding and aligning educational efforts with a child's unique perspective and challenges.  Show Notes By Barevalue 00:13:55 - Finding Motivation in Interests: The conversation shifts towards leveraging children's interests to fuel their passion for reading, showcasing the effectiveness of tailored content in engaging young readers.  00:16:12 - Exploring Creative Reading Initiatives: Kimberly and Adina touch on the joys and benefits of community resources like Little Free Libraries in encouraging reading and sharing among children.  00:16:58 - Sneak Peek into New Book: Kimberly provides a glimpse into her upcoming book in the "Languages Fun Series," emphasizing its educational value and the incorporation of themes around diversity and empowerment.  00:18:36 - Conclusion and Thanks: Adina concludes the episode by thanking Kimberly for sharing her insights and encourages listeners to explore Fami's resources for more inspiring stories and educational content.  Key Takeaways:  Identifying and addressing reading challenges early can make a significant difference in a child's educational journey.  Personalized learning strategies and tools are crucial in supporting children with dyslexia and other learning differences.  Books and stories that resonate with children's interests can greatly enhance their motivation and love for reading.  Understanding a child's unique learning needs allows parents and educators to adopt more effective and supportive approaches.    Community resources and innovative projects like Little Free Libraries can inspire a love for reading and sharing among young learners.  Tweetable Quotes:  - "Transforming letters into characters can turn reading challenges into engaging adventures." - Kimberlee Gard  - "Every child learns differently. Embracing this can change the way we approach education." - Kimberlee Gard  - "Books are not just about reading; they're about exploring, learning, and growing together as a family." - Adina Oberman Show Notes By Barevalue

    Reading Adventures: Tips for Summer and Beyond with Melissa Taylor

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2024 21:46


    In today's episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes Melissa Taylor, founder of Imagination Soup, former teacher, and a passionate advocate for reading among children. Together, they delve into strategies for encouraging young readers, especially those hesitant or reluctant to pick up a book. Their conversation also explores the role of technology in reading, summer reading tips, and how to make reading an enjoyable and integral part of family life.  Episode Highlights:  00:00:09: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, its alignment with Fami's habits of "Read Together and Learn Together", and her guest Melissa Taylor. Adina's background as a mom, former teacher, and creator of Big Books for Little Hands sets the stage for a rich discussion on children's literature and engaging young readers.  00:01:18: Melissa Taylor shares her journey from a preschool teacher to the founder of Imagination Soup, highlighting her passion for connecting parents, teachers, and children with enriching reading materials. This segment illuminates Melissa's extensive experience and dedication to inspiring a love of reading in children.  00:02:55: The conversation pivots to strategies for encouraging reluctant readers, emphasizing the importance of linking reading material to children's interests, such as sports or other hobbies. Melissa underscores the value of patience, personalization, and persistence in fostering a child's love for reading.  00:03:58: Melissa and Adina discuss the challenge of competing with screens for children's attention and the potential of diverse materials, including magazines and graphic novels, to engage young readers effectively. This part of the episode offers practical advice for expanding beyond traditional books to captivate young audiences.  00:04:45: Tips for maintaining reading momentum during summer are shared, focusing on the significance of choice and ownership in what children read. Melissa suggests approaches like book picnics and pairing books with related activities to make summer reading more appealing.  00:06:21: The conversation underscores the crucial role of setting up children for successful reading experiences through strategies like the five finger test and simplifying the book selection process. Melissa's insights demonstrate how proactive support can enrich children's reading journey.  00:07:14: Melissa and Adina highlight the importance of incorporating reading into daily routines, suggesting innovative approaches such as reading during meals to create dedicated time for books amidst busy schedules.  00:08:04: They explore the potential of nonfiction books to retain interest among children who may not be drawn to traditional narratives. This segment acknowledges the broad spectrum of reading materials that can captivate young minds.  00:10:45: The role of technology in supporting reading is examined, with a focus on eBooks and audiobooks as valuable resources for interactive and engaging reading experiences. Melissa recommends leveraging digital tools to enhance accessibility and engagement in reading.  00:13:18: Adina and Melissa discuss the educational power of audiobooks, highlighting their ability to build vocabulary, comprehension skills, and a love for storytelling through listening.  00:15:09: The significance of perseverance in finding the right reading strategies and materials for each child is emphasized, with Melissa sharing her belief in the value of experimentation and flexibility in cultivating a reader's mindset.  00:17:06: Melissa shares personal anecdotes to illustrate the enduring relevance of picture books and the joy of rediscovering them as children grow. This segment serves as a reminder of the timeless appeal and educational value of picture books in developing literacy.  Show Notes By Barevalue   00:20:46: The episode concludes with Melissa providing her contact information and inviting listeners to explore more resources on Imagination Soup, encouraging continued engagement with reading strategies and support.  Key Takeaways:  - Personal interests play a crucial role in engaging reluctant readers; by tailoring reading material to individual hobbies or preferences, parents and educators can spark a genuine interest in reading.  - Technology, when utilized thoughtfully, can be a powerful tool in promoting reading, offering interactive and immersive experiences that complement traditional reading.  - Consistency and flexibility in reading routines are essential for maintaining engagement, especially during breaks like summer. Incorporating reading into daily activities ensures that children continue to explore and enjoy literature. - Audiobooks offer a unique avenue for developing listening comprehension and storytelling skills, proving to be an effective alternative to traditional reading for many children.  - Perseverance and adaptation are key in fostering a reading habit; what works for one child may not work for another, emphasizing the need for ongoing experimentation and open-mindedness in encouraging reading.  Tweetable Quotes: - "Connecting a child's personal interests to their reading material is the first step towards unlocking a world of literature." - Melissa Taylor  - "Technology and books are not opponents; when used together, they create an enriching reading experience." - Melissa Taylor  - "Never underestimate the power of a book in the hands of a curious child." - Melissa Taylor    Show Notes By Barevalue

    Gen Z: Mental Health and the Power of Open Conversations with John Schlimm

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2024 24:39


    In this episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes John Schlimm, a Harvard-trained educator, artist advocate, and author, to discuss the complexities of Generation Z, focusing particularly on their mental health challenges and societal impacts. Exploring John's journey into becoming an advocate for Gen Z's mental health, the episode delves into the reasons behind the high suicide rates in this generation, the role of social media, and how Gen Z is reshaping the conversation around mental health. The discussion also touches on the importance of communication across generations and offers insights into tackling mental health issues head-on.    Episode Highlights: 00:00:09: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and today's guest, John Schlimm, highlighting his work on unveiling the multifaceted identity of Generation Z, beyond stereotypes and media profiling. She underscores John's innovative collaborations in art and mental health initiatives, aiming to foster a deeper understanding of Gen Z’s unique challenges and strengths.  00:01:21: John shares his initial engagement with Generation Z, noting the generational shift he experienced while teaching. His story reveals an unexpected journey into the heart of Gen Z’s world, highlighting their openness and bravery in discussing mental health issues, which markedly sets them apart from previous generations.  00:02:35: A dialogue on the importance of educators in understanding and connecting with Gen Z unfolds. John emphasizes the value of sitting down and engaging directly with young people, urging fellow educators to listen and learn from their students' experiences, especially regarding mental health.  00:03:39: John dives deeper into the mental health crisis facing Gen Z, discussing its complexity and the lack of a single, definitive reason behind the high suicide rates. He challenges common assumptions and sheds light on the disparity between Gen Z's willingness to discuss mental health and society's readiness to listen and support them.  00:06:10: Unpacking the paradox of Gen Z's high suicide rates alongside their forwardness in discussing mental health, John suggests that societal and individual factors play significant roles. He stresses the need for genuine conversation and listening to understand the depths of Gen Z's experiences without simplifying their struggles.  00:09:12: Addressing stereotypes and misunderstandings about Gen Z, John advocates for a shift in perspective among older adults. Reflecting on how stigmas and preconceptions affect both the listener and the sharer, he highlights the transformative potential of open, non-judgmental communication in bridging generational gaps.  00:10:44: An unexpected moment with surprise fireworks becomes a metaphor for the unpredictability and vibrancy of working with Gen Z. John connects this delightful interruption to the essence of embracing unexpected insights and joyful interactions that can emerge from genuine engagement with young people.  00:12:39: In discussing broader mental health implications, John suggests that lessons from engaging with Gen Z can be applicable across all ages, including surprising demographics such as senior citizens. He emphasizes the universal need for more open conversations about mental health and suicide prevention.  00:21:52: As the episode wraps up, Adina thanks John for his insights and shares with the audience where to find more information about his work. The conversation concludes on a note of hope and encouragement for continuing to build bridges of understanding and support across generations.  Key Takeaways: - Generation Z is unprecedentedly open about mental health issues, setting a new standard for discussions around depression, anxiety, and suicide. Their readiness to share presents an opportunity for societal advancement in mental health awareness.  Show Notes By Barevalue   - The high suicide rates among Gen Z underscore a complex interplay of individual, societal, and systemic factors, with no single cause. It calls for a nuanced, empathetic approach to mental health discussions and support. - Engaging directly and respectfully with Gen Z (and all individuals facing mental health challenges) can lead to deeper understanding and solutions. Open dialogue, free from judgment and preconceptions, is crucial. - The episode emphasizes the importance of listening and learning from younger generations, highlighting that mental health is a universal issue that transcends age and other demographics.  Tweetable Quotes: - "By merely saying words like anxiety and depression, Generation Z has made a historical leap in mental health awareness." - John Schlimm - "Sitting down and talking to young people will teach you more than any research study or book ever could." - John Schlimm    - "We're not pointing fingers; let's just have a conversation." - John Schlimm   Show Notes By Barevalue

    Balancing Act: Thriving as a Parent and Professional with Louise Webster

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2024 21:59


    In this inspiring episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins sits down with Louise Webster, author and founder of BeyondtheSchoolRun.com, to explore revolutionary approaches for mothers to utilize their skills and talents while their children are at school. The conversation delves deep into the potential for parents to maintain their professional growth and personal fulfillment during the parenting years, highlighting the importance of flow, autonomy, and purpose in achieving a balanced life.  Episode Highlights:  00:00:10 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast's focus on family, love, relationships, and the day's guest, Louise Webster, discussing her mission with Beyondtheschoolrun.com and her book, "A New Way For Mothers." Robbins ties the discussion back to the Famis habits' theme of learning together, establishing the episode's purpose to explore how mothers can integrate their professional and personal growth during their children's school hours.  00:01:23 - Louise Webster expresses gratitude for the platform to share her work and book, setting the stage for a comprehensive exploration of Beyond the School Run's goals, her inspiration for its creation, and the impact it aims to have on mothers looking for fulfillment beyond traditional parenting roles.  00:01:43 - Webster details the inception of Beyond the School Run, its mission to empower mothers personally and professionally, and her motivation stemmed from personal experience and the observed need for a supportive community for mothers in transition periods. This initiates the discussion on the movement towards flexible, meaningful work aligned with parenting responsibilities.  00:04:33 - The conversation shifts towards the evolving landscape of work opportunities for mothers and parents at home, highlighting the shift in corporate attitudes toward remote work and flexible schedules. Webster underscores the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency, responsibility, and the unique perspectives parents bring to the professional world.  00:07:48 - Christopher Robbins links the discussion to the broader theme of autonomy, mastery, and purpose in unlocking personal motivation, touching on societal shifts towards accommodating and valuing the parenting role alongside professional aspirations.  00:08:43 - The focus turns to practical advice for parents looking to rediscover or redefine their professional interests and talents during the limited hours when their children are in school. Webster offers strategies for self-exploration, staying present, and testing new paths, illustrating the process of aligning personal growth with parenting.  00:12:27 - Webster shares insights on the diverse skill sets and professions of individuals within the Beyond the School Run community, highlighting the emergence of new business models and career paths catalyzed by parenting experiences. This segment showcases real-world examples of mothers transitioning into fulfilling careers by harnessing their experiences and skills developed through parenting.  00:16:48 - The concept of "the genius of the and" is introduced, celebrating the ability to fulfill parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams and professional goals. This key moment underscores the episode's message of empowering parents to embrace both family life and personal aspirations without compromise.  00:18:22 - As the episode nears its conclusion, Webster encourages parents facing the transition of their children back to school to take proactive steps towards their own personal and professional development. She emphasizes the importance of vocalizing and acting on their desires as a pathway to fulfillment and empowerment.  00:20:17 - Louise Webster shares where listeners can find more information about Beyond the School Run, including her book, "A New Way For Mothers," her platform's growing community, and the resources available to support parents in their journey towards integrating parenting and professional growth.  Show Notes By Barevalue Key Takeaways:  - The landscape of work and parenthood is evolving, with increasing opportunities for mothers and parents to pursue professional interests and personal growth alongside their parenting responsibilities.  - Autonomy, mastery, and purpose are key to unlocking personal motivation and fulfillment, especially for parents navigating the balance between family life and professional ambitions.  - Open conversations and community support are vital in helping parents identify and pursue their passions and talents during the parenting years, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.  Tweetable Quotes:    - "Empower mothers personally and professionally through Beyond the School Run." - Louise Webster - "Unlock the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency and responsibility." - Louise Webster - "The genius of the and - fulfilling parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams." - Christopher Robbins  Show Notes By Barevalue

    The Freedom of Play: A Guide to Unstructured Summers with Pam Lobley

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2024 21:34


    In this engaging episode of Helping Families Be Happy, host Adina Oberman taps into the wisdom of writer and memoirist Pam Lobley to tackle the challenges of modern family schedules and the lost art of free play. Pam shares insights from her own experiences of letting her children enjoy a summer free of scheduled activities, diving into the benefits and hurdles of unstructured playtime. The episode serves as a reminder of the value of simplicity in our fast-paced world, emphasizing the importance of fostering creativity and imagination in children through the power of play. Episode Highlights: 00:09: Adina Oberman warmly introduces the podcast, sharing her multifaceted role as a mom, former preschool teacher, and a member of the Famis marketing team, as well as her enthusiasm for children's literature through her project, big books for little hands. She welcomes Pam Lobley, a renowned writer recognized for her columns in major publications and her memoir focused on the joys of unstructured play for over-scheduled children. 01:40: Pam expresses her excitement about joining the podcast and delves into the backstory of her book "Why Can't We Just Play?" She illuminates the overwhelming nature of modern parenting, where the pressure to enroll children in numerous activities can overshadow the simple pleasures of childhood. 02:49: Through a heartfelt recount of a night that changed her perspective, Pam describes her realization that her children craved unstructured play. This epiphany led to a transformative summer where her family embraced the freedom of play without the confines of a packed schedule, exploring the resulting benefits and challenges. 04:11: The conversation shifts to the critical difference between structured and unstructured play, with Adina and Pam discussing the invaluable role of free time in fostering children's creativity, decision-making, and self-exploration, contrasting this with the often achievement-focused nature of scheduled activities. 05:34: Pam offers practical advice for parents struggling to incorporate free play into their daily routines. She emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries around screen time and creating opportunities for children to engage in self-directed play, advocating for parental involvement without directing the play itself. 07:32: Highlighting the educational aspect of play, Pam underscores how unstructured playtime can teach children crucial life skills such as empathy, self-awareness, and moral judgment through natural interactions rather than adult instruction. 09:36: Reflecting on the modern parenting dilemma of balancing technology use with active play, Adina discusses the common scenario of parents being physically present but mentally distracted by devices. Pam stresses the importance of being fully engaged and setting an example of prioritizing real-world interactions over screen time. 11:31: Pam shares strategies for managing screen time, including establishing specific rules around its use based on weather and time of day. She advocates for consistency in enforcing these rules and believes that, over time, children come to appreciate and prefer the freedom and joy that comes with less screen dependence. 14:13: Offering further advice, Pam highlights the importance of community and spousal support in facilitating unstructured play, suggesting that parents connect with like-minded families and work together with their partners to create a supportive environment for their children's free play. 19:28: As the episode concludes, Pam provides listeners with ways to connect with her online and reiterates the significant value of embracing the freedom of summer to foster happy, well-rounded children. Key Takeaways: - Structured activities, while beneficial, need to be balanced with ample time for unstructured play, which is critical for children's creativity, emotional growth, and physical well-being. Show Notes By Barevalue   - Parents play a crucial role in setting the stage for free play by minimizing screen time, establishing clear routines, and actively encouraging children to engage in self-directed activities. - Building a support system, whether through family or community connections, is essential in promoting and sustaining the practice of free play in a technology-driven world. Tweetable Quotes: - "Simplicity in play opens the door to boundless creativity and learning for children." - Pam Lobley - "Being present isn't just about sharing space; it's about sharing moments." - Adina Oberman - "The best gifts we can give our children are time, freedom, and the space to explore." - Pam Lobley

    Local Landscapes, Global Lessons: The Magic of Micro-Adventuring by Emily Liebel

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2024 23:15


    In this enlightening episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman is joined by Emily Liebel, an enthusiastic advocate for combining children's literature with outdoor adventures to create enriching experiences for families. As they delve into the concept of micro-adventuring. They share practical tips on making outdoor activities both accessible and educational, leveraging local landscapes to spark creativity and learning. Their conversation underscores the importance of incorporating reading into family routines, especially in connection to exploring the natural world.  Episode Highlights: - **00:00:09** - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, emphasizing its focus on family, love, relationships, and the unique blend of reading and outdoor activities to enrich family life. Adina highlights her background and passion for children's literature and introduces guest Emily Liebel, who shares her insights on using books to enhance outdoor adventures. - **00:01:21** - Emily rejoins the podcast to delve deeper into the concept of micro adventuring, explaining its origins and how it can be tailored to fit any family's lifestyle. This part of the conversation offers families a new perspective on adventure, making it simple, accessible, and a source of joy and discovery close to home. - **00:02:23** - The similarity between micro adventuring and the concept of "staycation" is discussed, reflecting on how the pandemic inspired families to find adventure close to home. Emily and Adina talk about the simplicity of micro adventures and how they can make everyday surroundings exciting and new for both adults and children. - **00:03:20** - Emily shares her approach to inclusive planning for micro adventures, incorporating her children's interests to ensure every family member is engaged and involved. This segment stresses the importance of including children in the planning process, enhancing their investment in the activities and their outcomes. - **00:04:27** - The conversation reveals how micro adventuring also serves as an educational tool, making each outing a hands-on learning experience through simple observations and explorations of local environments. Emily's practice of involving her children in planning helps tailor each adventure to their interests, fostering a deeper connection to the natural world. - **00:05:49** - Emily recounts her family's experiences during the pandemic, utilizing nature preserves for micro adventuring as a means to engage her children with the environment in distinctive, educational ways, including observing wildlife and crafting homemade binoculars. - **00:07:40** - Literacy and outdoor play are intertwined as Emily discusses using books like "Thankful Animals Thankful Me" and "A Tree for Me" from Famis to inspire and inform their outdoor adventures. This segment highlights how literature can deepen children's experiences and connections with nature through guided exploration and observation. - **00:09:49** - Effective teaching methods that parallel outdoor micro adventuring experiences with classroom strategies are compared, celebrating the organic, powerful learning moments that arise when children engage deeply with both literature and nature. - **00:10:56** - Emily offers practical advice and tips for families looking to embark on micro adventures, specifically during the summertime. She emphasizes the importance of simplicity, preparation, and making adventures accessible, regardless of a family's location or resources. - **00:12:09** - Detailing a specific summer micro adventure, Emily describes how her family biked the Jordan River Trail, highlighting the value of exploring local areas and the joy found in simple, planned activities that focus on exploration and spending time together. - **00:17:55** - Emily shares how inclusive library and Famis books integrate with the concept of micro adventuring, reinforcing the habits of happy families learn together, read together, and play together. This part underscores the natural synergy between reading, learning, and outdoor activities in fostering family happiness. - **00:19:01** - The episode concludes with Emily offering final thoughts on the enriching benefits of micro adventuring, coupled with reading as powerful tools for family bonding, learning, and creating memorable experiences. Key Takeaways: Micro adventuring provides a simple, cost-effective way to explore the world around you, turning the familiar into avenues of adventure and discovery. Inviting children into the planning process of outdoor activities not only fosters their creativity and investment but also enhances their learning and enjoyment. Leveraging children's literature in connection with outdoor activities enriches the adventure, deepening the educational and emotional impact of those experiences. Embracing the unplanned and spontaneous moments during micro adventures can lead to meaningful learning opportunities and deeper family bonds. Incorporating the principles of Famis's happy family habits - learn together, read together, and play together - into everyday activities can create a well-rounded and joyful family life. Tweetable Quotes: - Micro adventuring turns the world around us into a playground of learning and discovery. - Emily - Involving children in planning adventures not only deepens their engagement but also their connection to nature and learning. - Adina   - Books are windows into the world, and when paired with outdoor adventures, they become doors we walk through into new experiences. - Emily

    Creating Safe Spaces: The Power of 'Holding Space' for LGBTQ+ Individuals with Lisa Sugarman

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2024 18:28


    In this heartfelt episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familiars Publishing, engages with Lisa Sugarman, a noted author, nationally syndicated columnist, and mental health advocate. They delve into improving relationships and understanding when a loved one comes out as LGBTQ+. Through Lisa's professional and personal insights, the episode illuminates the complexities of family, love, and acceptance within the context of LGBTQ+ experiences.  Episode Highlights - **00:00:09:** Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast theme, focusing on family, love, and relationships, and introduces Lisa Sugarman as the guest. He outlines her extensive background as an author, mental health advocate, and her involvement with the Trevor Project, underscoring her commitment to supporting LGBTQ+ youth.  - **00:01:18:** Lisa's contributions to mental health awareness and LGBTQ+ advocacy are highlighted, including her writing and her role in supporting individuals facing suicide risk. Their discussion promises to explore navigating family and friend relationships within the LGBTQ+ context.  - **00:02:11:** Lisa expresses her excitement about the conversation, setting a positive and engaging tone for the discussion. This moment further establishes the rapport and mutual respect between the host and guest, encouraging open dialogue.  - **00:02:16:** The conversation shifts to the Trevor Project, with Lisa explaining its significance as a crisis support hotline for LGBTQ+ youth. She articulates the kinds of support provided, emphasizing the project's vital role in offering a lifeline to at-risk youth.  - **00:03:07:** The discussion takes a deeper dive into the necessity of supporting LGBTQ+ individuals, with a particular focus on 'holding space' for those coming out. Lisa clarifies the concept of 'holding space' as a non-judgmental, supportive practice that acknowledges and validates personal experiences.  - **00:05:09:** Lisa shares a poignant analogy to underline the importance of simply being present and listening when supporting someone who's grieving or revealing a significant part of their identity.  - **00:05:22:** The role of genuine listening and asking open-ended questions when engaging with LGBTQ+ individuals is explored. This approach fosters a safe environment for personal revelations and strengthens support systems.  - **00:06:31:** Lisa details how the Trevor Project approaches calls from individuals expressing suicidal thoughts, focusing on de-escalation and empowering callers to seek supportive resources. This segment underscores the critical nature of immediate and empathetic response to mental health crises.  - **00:08:43:** Avoiding assumptions and the importance of understanding individual stories without prejudice are discussed. Emphasizing the necessity of keeping personal biases in check to support effectively.  - **00:09:21:** Strategies for respectfully addressing and acknowledging people's preferred pronouns and identities are shared, underscoring the value of personal recognition and respect in supporting LGBTQ+ individuals.  - **00:10:25:** Lisa reflects on her personal experiences with coming out stories within her family, emphasizing the transformative power of listening and accepting.  - **00:12:19:** The significance of language and correct pronoun usage is highlighted as essential for validating and respecting individuals’ identities, fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance.  - **00:13:47:** A broader discussion on privilege and advocacy for the underrepresented encapsulates the episode's theme Show Notes By Barevalue of empathy and action. Lisa encourages leveraging privilege to uplift and support marginalized communities.  - **00:16:08:** The conversation concludes with an emphasis on love and respect for all individuals, regardless of their background or identity, reflecting on the potential for a more inclusive and compassionate world.  - **00:16:34:** Christopher and Lisa encapsulate the core message of the podcast: meeting oneself and others with understanding and acceptance, no matter where they are in their journey.  Key Takeaways - The importance of 'holding space' and listening non-judgmentally to support individuals as they share personal aspects of their identity.  - Effective communication, including correct pronoun usage, fosters respect and validation for LGBTQ+ individuals, contributing to their sense of safety and belonging.  - Leveraging privilege to advocate for and support underrepresented communities is crucial in building a more inclusive society.  - The power of empathy and unconditional love in creating supportive environments for individuals navigating their identity and mental health challenges.  Tweetable Quotes - "Holding space for someone is not complicated; it is about listening in a non-judgmental way and letting them offload what’s on their heart." - Lisa Sugarman  - "The best thing we can do is close our mouth, open our ears, and listen." - Lisa Sugarman  - "We all have some kind of privilege; understanding that and leveraging it for the benefit of others is key." - Lisa Sugarman  Show Notes By Barevalue

    Dad CEO: Balancing Work, Family, and Happiness with Christopher Robbins

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 27:02


    In this heartwarming episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman engages in an insightful and deeply personal conversation with Christopher Robbins, a devoted father of nine and the founder and CEO of Familius. Through their dialogue, they explore the multifaceted experiences of fatherhood, from the pivotal moments that define one's journey as a parent to the broader impacts of fatherhood on personal and professional growth. Christopher shares his unique perspectives on nurturing family relationships, maintaining work-life balance, and cultivating a household centered around love, learning, and laughter.  Episode Highlights:  - **00:00:10:** Adina warmly introduces the podcast, setting the stage for a discussion that delves into the complexities and joys of family life. She briefly outlines her background and her passion for connecting families with impactful literature, segueing into Christopher Robbins' rich history as a father, publisher, and advocate for family happiness.  - **00:01:19:** Christopher recounts his journey from launching an arts magazine in Utah to becoming the CEO of Gibb Smith, highlighting his successes in the publishing industry alongside his growth as a father. This segment illuminates how his personal and professional lives intertwine, shaping his mission to support families through literature.  - **00:02:57 -“ 00:03:35:** A lighthearted exchange reveals Christopher's nervous excitement about being on the other side of the mic, setting the tone for a candid and engaging conversation. His humility and openness pave the way for deeper discussions on fatherhood.  - **00:03:35:** Christopher shares a transformative moment upon the birth of his first child, encapsulating the profound sense of responsibility and love that defines fatherhood. This anecdote serves as a powerful introduction to the theme of fatherhood as a journey of continuous learning and adaptation.  - **00:05:10 -“ 00:06:43:** The discussion shifts to the meaningful shifts that occur once children enter one's life, focusing on the sacrifices and changes in priorities that parenting entails. Christopher's personal anecdotes provide tangible examples of how fatherhood necessitates a reevaluation of one's passions, interests, and daily routines.  - **00:07:25 -“ 00:08:07:** Adina and Christopher discuss the challenges today's fathers face, comparing and contrasting them with those of past generations. The conversation highlights the impact of technology, societal expectations, and the changing landscape of parenthood.  - **00:08:07 -“ 00:12:02:** Addressing the importance of mentorship and the role of fathers in model resilience, the discussion delves into strategies for navigating fatherhood amidst modern challenges. Christopher emphasizes the value of being present, the role of discipline balanced with understanding, and the long-term impact of imparting wisdom through action and example.  - **00:13:32 -“ 00:14:22:** Light-hearted moments intersperse the conversation, underscoring the joy and humor that accompany the trials of parenting. Adina and Christopher share personal experiences that illustrate the unpredictable and rewarding nature of raising children.  - **00:14:22:** Christopher offers sage advice to parents, stressing the significance of prioritizing family over career, sharing meals together as a way to foster communication, and setting aside quality time to strengthen family bonds. His reflections on nurturing relationships within the family unit are invaluable for anyone navigating the complexities of parenthood.  - **00:22:28 -“ 00:26:20:** The episode concludes with Christopher's reflections on his upbringing and the mentors who shaped his approach to fatherhood. He advocates for the positive influence men can have in their communities and within their families, emphasizing the lasting impact of mentorship and engaged parenting.    Show Notes By Barevalue Key Takeaways:    **Embrace the Journey:** Fatherhood is a continuous process of learning, growth, and adaptation. Embrace the responsibility, love, and challenges that it brings.  **Prioritize Relationships:** The richness of family life comes from prioritizing relationships over material success. Time spent building and nurturing family bonds is invaluable.  **Cultivate Open Communication:** Shared meals and dedicated family time are crucial for fostering open communication. These moments are the foundation for a supportive and understanding family environment.  **Balance Discipline with Love:** Effective parenting involves a balance between discipline and understanding. By setting boundaries while showing love and support, parents can guide their children through life's challenges.  **The Impact of Mentorship:** Fathers and male mentors play a critical role in guiding the next generation. By leading with kindness, responsibility, and wisdom, they can leave a lasting impact on their children and communities.  Tweetable Quotes:  - "Fatherhood is an adventure in patience, love, and laughter. Embrace every moment." -“ Christopher Robbins  - "Prioritize your family, your relationships, and the joy of being together above all else." -“ Christopher Robbins  - "In the journey of fatherhood, the best lessons are learned through love, laughter, and sometimes, a little bit of chaos." -“ Adina Oberman  Show Notes By Barevalue

    Beyond Winning: Exploring the Heart of Family Games with Brad Berger

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2024 24:20


    In this enriching episode, Christopher Robbins dives into a captivating discussion with Brad Berger, the ingenious mind behind countless family games. They traverse the realm of game creation and its profound impact on forming personal connections, enhancing family bonding, and fostering discoveries through play. This exploration uncovers the essence of games as tools for learning, engagement, and understanding within the dynamics of family and relationships.  Episode Highlights: - **00:00:09** - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, setting the stage for an exploration into the significance of games in family bonding and relationships. Robbins, a father of nine and a figure of diverse interests, shares his vision of bringing insightful content on love, family, and life. His introduction lays a foundation for an engaging dialogue that promises to unravel the layers of creating meaningful connections through games.  - **00:01:10** - Brad Berger is introduced, offering a glimpse into his lifelong fascination with games and their developmental potential. This segment highlights Berger's journey from inventing games in childhood to using them as tools for education and social bonding. The narrative delves into how Berger's passion for games is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections among people, irrespective of their geographical locations.  - **00:01:54** - A warm exchange signals the start of the conversation, with Brad sharing his extensive experience in game creation. Through laughs and anecdotes, Brad reflects on how his unique approach to everyday conversations turning them into games reveals much about his creativity and passion for engaging people. This interaction not only opens up Brad's world of game invention but also sets a lighthearted and curious tone for the discussion.  - **00:03:01** to **00:03:37** - Brad discusses the sheer volume of games he has created, emphasizing his dedication and innovative approach to game design. He shares insights into his creative process, showcasing how constant experimentation and feedback have been crucial in refining his ideas. This portion offers listeners a behind-the-scenes look at the mind of a prolific game creator, highlighting both his creative prowess and the impact of his games on fostering connection.  - **00:04:05** - The discussion transitions into what games reveal about people, from competitiveness to creative tendencies. Brad's classification of players into quadrants based on their competitive nature provides a framework for understanding diverse personalities. This segment enriches the conversation by bringing to light the nuanced ways games can serve as mirrors to our behaviors and inclinations.  - **00:07:01** to **00:07:36** - Brad's observations on how people's competitive spirits evolve with age lend depth to the dialogue, revealing the transformative power of play across different life stages. This reflection on changing dynamics adds a layer of complexity to understanding how games can be adapted to suit varying age groups and competitiveness levels.  - **00:08:31** - The narrative explores the fundamental allure of games, touching upon the inherent human love for play, competition, and the journey of the game itself. Brad's insights into why games captivate us beyond mere winning unravel the emotional and psychological dimensions of gaming, making this segment pivotal in understanding games’ universal appeal.  - **00:10:04** - With a focus on crafting engaging games, Brad shares his methodology, revealing the diversity in game categories and the thoughtful consideration behind each creation. This detailed breakdown not only sheds light on Brad's creative process but also offers potential game designers valuable insights into crafting compelling gaming experiences.  - **00:14:01** - The conversation takes a practical turn, with Brad suggesting games suitable for road trips, illustrating his ability to tailor game experiences to different settings. Here, listeners gain practical tips on incorporating games into family travels, enriching the journey with interactive and fun learning moments.  Show Notes By Barevalue   - **00:17:37** - As the discussion shifts towards dinner table games, Brad presents easily implementable game ideas that encourage family interaction and bonding during meal times. This advice underscores games' versatility and their power to transform mundane moments into opportunities for connection and discovery.  - **00:20:26** - Brad elaborates on adapting game experiences for various environments, including business settings, emphasizing preparation and customization. His approach to creating meaningful engagement across different contexts showcases the universal applicability of games as tools for connection.  - **00:22:03** - The episode touches upon resistance to game participation, with Brad recounting instances where individuals were initially reluctant yet ultimately drawn into the game's allure. This anecdote highlights the infectious nature of well-designed games and their ability to captivate even the most hesitant participants.  Key Takeaways: - Games serve as powerful tools for education, bonding, and personal discovery, transcending mere entertainment to foster deep connections among participants.  - Understanding participants' competitiveness and preferences can enhance the gaming experience, tailoring it to suit diverse personalities and engagement levels.  - The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the importance of the process and shared experiences over winning.  - Creativity and adaptability in game design can turn ordinary moments into opportunities for engagement, learning, and meaningful interactions across a variety of settings.  Tweetable Quotes: - "Game creation is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections." - Brad Berger  - "The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the process over winning." - Brad Berger Show Notes By Barevalue

    The Essence of 'Dad Mode': Cultivating Meaningful Bonds with Tal Eyre

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2024 29:22


    In this heartwarming episode of *Helping Families Be Happy*, Christopher Robbins engages in a profound conversation with Tal Iyer, exploring the multifaceted role of fatherhood, the impact of authoritative parenting, and the art of creating deep connections with children. Iyer, known for his significant achievements across various spheres, delves into his personal journey of embracing 'dad mode,' sharing insights from his book, "Dad Mode: 25 Ways to Connect With Your Children." Through stories of personal growth, the necessity of intellectual humility, and the power of stories, Robbins and Iyer unfold a guide for fathers striving for meaningful relationships with their offspring. **Episode Highlights:** - **00:00:09:** The episode kicks off with Christopher Robbins warmly welcoming listeners and introducing the podcastâ€TMs mission to explore family, love, and relationships. Robbins introduces Tal Iyer, highlighting his diverse background from athletics to international business, and sets the stage for a discussion on the essence of 'dad mode.' - **00:01:08:** Tal Iyer corrects the pronunciation of his spouse's name, setting a humorous and light-hearted tone for the episode. This moment not only breaks the ice but also humanizes the conversation, inviting listeners into a more intimate dialogue about family and fatherhood. - **00:02:21:** Iyer shares his enchantment with the Swiss Alps, drawing a vivid picture of his idyllic family life, which serves as a foundation for the podcast's exploration of the art and effort involved in creating meaningful connections with children. - **00:03:03:** The concept of 'dad mode' is introduced by Iyer as an art of focused effort toward building a warm emotional connection with children. This insight emphasizes the episode's core message: effective fatherhood transcends perfection to embrace presence and effort. - **00:04:19:** Iyer discusses the applicability of 'dad mode' across various stages of a child's life, highlighting its relevance not only for young children but also for maintaining connections with adult offspring. This part of the conversation brings to light the universality of paternal love and the ongoing nature of fatherhood. - **00:05:53:** The discussion shifts to authoritative parenting, where Iyer shares insights into balancing supportiveness with demands. This approach, as described by Iyer, encapsulates the essence of effective parenting, where expectations are coupled with empathy and encouragement. - **00:07:52:** A practical conversation ensues on managing screen time, a contemporary parental challenge. Iyer shares his strategies, blending authoritative parenting with practical tools like a bamboo box for phones. This segment is particularly relatable for listeners grappling with similar issues. - **00:10:52:** Robbins shares his experience with technology and parenting, emphasizing the value of delayed gratification in the digital age. This reflection prompts a broader conversation on setting expectations and norms within the family structure. - **00:12:27:** Iyer champions the power of observation in parenting, inspiring fathers to engage in the reflective practice of noticing and appreciating the unique characteristics and interests of their children. - **00:16:19:** Intellectual humility in parenting is explored. Iyer makes a compelling case for acknowledging fallibility and demonstrating growth, reshaping the narrative around parental authority and mutual respect. - **00:19:02:** The episode delves into creating family vision and mission statements, a process that strengthens familial bonds and clarifies collective values and aspirations. **Key Takeaways:** Show Notes By Barevalue - 'Dad mode' is more about presence, effort, and consistent engagement with children than aiming for paternal perfection. - The balance of supportiveness and demands encapsulates effective authoritative parenting, fostering resilience and growth in children. - Intellectual humility and the ability to admit when one is wrong are pivotal in nurturing a healthy and respectful family dynamic. - Crafting family vision and mission statements can profoundly unify and guide the family toward shared goals and values. **Tweetable Quotes:** - "Being in 'dad mode' means embracing the artful journey of connecting with your children through a consistent, loving effort." - Tal Iyer - "In parenting, as in life, intellectual humility opens the doors to growth and deeper connections." - Tal Iyer - "Family vision and mission statements not only define our aspirations but also chart the course for achieving them together." - Christopher Robbins

    In the Trenches of Love: Supporting Military Families with Abigail Calkin

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2024 22:00


    Episode Summary  In this heartfelt episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins converses with author Abigail Calkin, exploring the nuanced world of military families, love, relationships, and the challenges of PTSD. Abigail shares her journey as a military spouse and discusses her book, *The Soul of My Soldier*. The discussion also delves into the importance of understanding and supporting veterans with PTSD, and the therapeutic power of writing and poetry in healing and coping with the aftermath of military service.  Episode Highlights  - **00:00:10 - Introduction**: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, focusing on the complex dynamics of family, love, and relationships. He outlines the episode's objective of understanding and supporting military families through the lens of Abigail Calkin's experiences and literary work.  - **00:01:14 - Abigail Calkin's Background**: Robbins details Abigail Calkin's achievements and publications, highlighting her literary contributions that span poetry, fiction, non-fiction, and analyses of behavioral psychology. Calkin's diverse work reflects a deep exploration of human emotion, relationships, and the psychological impacts of military life.  - **00:02:32 - Welcome to Abigail Calkin**: Robbins warmly welcomes Abigail Calkin to the podcast. This introduction sets the stage for an intimate and profound discussion about military life, love, and the power of writing.  - **00:02:45 - Building a Life in Alaska**: Calkin shares her intriguing journey to Alaska, where she and her family built a life, highlighting her hands-on approach and the significance of community and environment in her writing and personal growth.  - **00:03:20 - Inspiration behind *The Soul of My Soldier***: Calkin discusses the emotional triggers and inspirations for writing her book, rooted in her experiences and observations as a military spouse, particularly during her husband's deployment to Desert Storm.  - **00:06:30 - A Reading from *The Soul of My Soldier***: Abigail reads a poignant excerpt from her book, conveying the profound emotional and psychological scars left by war, not only on the soldiers but also on their families.  - **00:09:17 - Understanding Veterans and PTSD**: Calkin provides insight into living with and supporting veterans with PTSD. She emphasizes patience, understanding, and the importance of communication, sharing personal anecdotes to illuminate the challenges and strategies for coping.  - **00:11:28 - Audience Engagement and Reception**: Robbins and Calkin discuss the diverse reactions to *The Soul of My Soldier* from military and civilian readers alike, highlighting the book's impact and the varied perspectives on military service and its aftermath.  - **00:16:22 - Honoring and Supporting Veterans**: Calkin articulates thoughtful and meaningful ways to honor, support, and understand veterans. She reflects on both personal gestures and broader societal acknowledgments that contribute to recognizing and appreciating veterans' sacrifices.  - **00:20:25 - Closing Remarks and Contact Information**: The episode concludes with Robbins thanking Calkin for her insights and contributions. Calkin shares her contact information, inviting listeners to explore her work further.  Key Takeaways  - The emotional and psychological challenges faced by military families, particularly those dealing with PTSD, require patience, understanding, and open communication.  - Writing and poetry can serve as powerful therapeutic tools for expressing and coping with the complexities of military life and its impacts on soldiers and their families.  - Honoring and supporting veterans involves both personal gestures of kindness and societal efforts to recognize and appreciate their sacrifices and service.  Show Notes By Barevalue Tweetable Quotes  - *"Understanding and supporting our veterans with PTSD requires patience, compassion, and the willingness to listen." - Abigail Calkin*  - *"Writing can be a powerful therapy for the soul, helping military families navigate the enduring impacts of service and sacrifice." - Abigail Calkin* 

    Turning Pages, Building Futures: The Power of Children's Literature with Dr. Cynthia Weill

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2024 22:26


    In this heartfelt episode of Helping Families Be Happy, host Adina Oberman, a devoted mother and children's book enthusiast, invites Dr. Cynthia Weill, a renowned art historian and Director of the Center for Children"s Literature at Bank Street College, to dive deep into the significance of children"s literature in early education. Together, they explore the transformative power of books in nurturing young minds, the invaluable resources offered by Bank Street College, and Dr. Weill's personal journey in the realm of children's literature.  Episode Highlights **00:00:10 - Introduction**   Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and its alignment with Famis habits, welcoming Dr. Cynthia Wilde to discuss her extensive work in children's literature. Adina shares her background and excitement about discussing early childhood and literature, setting the stage for a conversation centered around educational practices, children's books, and their impact on families and educators.  **00:01:39 - Dr. Cynthia Weill Joins the Conversation**   Dr. Weill expresses her gratitude for being part of the podcast and sets a warm and engaging tone for the discussion that follows.  **00:01:43 - Bank Street's Contribution to Early Childhood and Literature**   Dr. Weill provides an in-depth overview of Bank Street College's history, its educational philosophy influenced by Lucy Sprague Mitchell and John Dewey, and the institution's comprehensive approach to child-centered, experiential learning. The conversation sheds light on Bank Street's transformative role in the world of early childhood education and its innovative contributions, including the development of the Bank Street Writer's Lab.  **00:02:17 - The Evolution of Children"s Literature**   Expanding on the history of children's literature, Dr. Weill discusses the pioneering work of Lucy Sprague Mitchell in promoting books that reflect the "here and now" of a child"s world. This segment offers listeners insight into how children's literature has evolved over the years, emphasizing Bank Street's historical impact on this transformation.  **00:05:16 - Bank Street"s Best Book Lists and Awards**   Dr. Weill delves into the criteria and process behind the Bank Street Children's Book Committee's selection of the best children's books, highlighting the importance of these resources for educators and families. She underscores the value of curated lists in guiding book selection, thereby enriching the educational experience for children.  **00:06:43 - Advocacy and Diversity in Children"s Literature**   The conversation turns to Dr. Weill's advocacy for quality children's literature, including efforts to curate a comprehensive list of exceptional Spanish-language and bilingual books. This segment emphasizes the need for diversity and representation in children"s books and Bank Street"s role in promoting these values within the publishing industry.  **00:07:55 - Using Bank Street Resources**   Adina asks for advice on leveraging Bank Street's assets to discover quality children"s books. Dr. Weill introduces the newly created database, highlighting its utility in helping families and educators find books on specific topics, illustrating how Bank Street's resources can simplify the search for impactful children's literature.  **00:10:29 - Importance of Advocacy in Children's Publishing**   Dr. Weill discusses the influence of Bank Street's advocacy on publishers' decisions to produce and recognize high-quality children"s literature. This part of the conversation provides an inside look at how recognition and awards can motivate publishers to prioritize significant works for children.  **00:19:05 - Dr. Cynthia Weill's Personal Journey**   Show Notes By Barevalue   Dr. Wilde shares her journey from a Spanish teacher to an artist collaborating with Oaxacan artisans to create bilingual children's books. This segment offers a unique perspective on integrating cultural art and education within the realm of children's literature, highlighting Dr. Weill's passion for her work.  **00:21:40 - Conclusion and Contact Information**   The episode wraps up with thanks to Dr. Weill for her contributions and information on how listeners can access Bank Street's resources. Adina encourages listeners to explore the rich world of children's literature through the lenses provided by Dr. Weill and Bank Street College.  Key Takeaways - Children"s literature plays a crucial role in early development, reflecting the everyday world of the child and fostering a deeper connection to learning.  - Bank Street College serves as a vital resource for educators and families, offering curated book lists, awards, and a comprehensive database to aid in the selection of quality children's books.  - Advocacy and recognition by esteemed institutions like Bank Street can significantly influence publishers' efforts to produce diverse, high-quality children"s literature.  - Integrating cultural artifacts and stories into children"s books enriches the educational experience, providing children with a broader understanding of the world.  Tweetable Quotes   - "Books should mine the world of the child." - Dr. Cynthia Weill - "A best book is what you like to read and share." - Dr. Cynthia Weill - "We're trying to get the best work out there all the time." - Dr. Cynthia Weill Show Notes By Barevalue

    Beyond Acceptance: Empowering Parents of LGBTQ+ Teens with Heather Hester

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2024 16:03


    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins, an author, husband, and father of nine, engages in a heartfelt conversation with Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and advocate for LGBTQIA+ adolescents. They delve into the complexities and beauties of parenting LGBTQ+ teens, drawing from personal experiences and Heather's recent book, "Parenting with Pride." This discussion offers valuable insights into embracing and supporting LGBTQIA+ children with understanding, love, and empowerment.  Episode Highlights: - **00:00:09**: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and its mission to explore family, love, and relationships. He shares his background as a co-founder of Famis Publishing and a father of nine, emphasizing the podcast's commitment to providing real-life insights into nurturing family dynamics and supportive environments for all family members, including LGBTQIA+ teens.  - **00:01:17**: Heather Hester is introduced as today’s guest. She talks about her role as the founder of Chrysalis Mama and her efforts to support parents and allies of LGBTQIA+ adolescents through education and empowerment. Heather shares her anticipation for the release of her first book, "Parenting with Pride," which aims to guide parents in embracing, empowering, and loving their LGBTQ+ teens.  - **00:02:23**: Heather expresses her gratitude for being a part of the podcast and delves into the origins of her podcast, "Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen." She discusses the importance of sharing personal experiences and hosting guests with diverse expertise to support and educate parents navigating their journey with LGBTQ+ adolescents.  - **00:04:29**: The conversation shifts to the core message of Heather's book. They discuss the challenges parents might face when their child comes out as LGBTQ+ and the significance of approaching these challenges with love, understanding, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases.  - **00:05:20**: Heather emphasizes simplicity in dealing with complex emotions and scenarios that arise when a child comes out. She encourages parents to see their child for who they are, reassure them of their unconditional love, and engage in self-reflection and learning to support their child effectively.  - **00:06:16**: The discussion underlines the universal needs of children to be seen, heard, and loved. Christopher and Heather talk about the power of genuine curiosity and open communication in strengthening the parent-child relationship, especially when navigating the child's journey of self-discovery and expression.  - **00:08:04**: Love as a verb is highlighted, with a focus on demonstrating love through actions and behaviors. This part of the discussion serves as a reminder that showing love and support plays a crucial role in modeling healthy relationships and emotional well-being for children.  - **00:09:03**: Heather and Christopher explore the positive impacts of embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children on family dynamics. They share personal stories that illustrate the strength and closeness that can result from navigating these experiences with compassion and understanding.  - **00:09:55**: Educational resources and strategies for unlearning bias are discussed. Heather provides recommendations for organizations and resources that offer valuable information and support for families and communities striving to better understand and embrace LGBTQIA+ individuals.  - **00:12:29**: Heather shares her hopes for readers of her book. She wishes for them to recognize the inherent capability within themselves to love their children unconditionally, become strong allies, and find freedom from fear through education and open-heartedness.  - **00:14:14**: Closing thoughts emphasize the enduring and evolving journey of acceptance and love within families.  Show Notes By Barevalue Heather shares updates on her family and the positive outcomes of embracing the principles discussed in her book and throughout her advocacy work.  - **00:14:57**: Contact information for Heather Hester is provided, offering listeners further opportunities to connect with her work and access additional resources through her website, Chrysalis Mama.  Key Takeaways: Embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children begins with unconditional love, open communication, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases.  Genuine curiosity about a child's experiences and perspectives can strengthen the parent-child relationship and foster a supportive environment for self-discovery.  Education and resources are available for families seeking to better understand and navigate the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ children, emphasizing the importance of community and expert guidance.  The journey of embracing LGBTQ+ children is ongoing, filled with opportunities for growth, understanding, and deeper familial connections.  Tweetable Quotes: - "Your child just needs to be seen. They need to know that you love them for who they are right now." - Heather Hester  - "Love is a verb; it requires action. In our behavior and actions, we actually show love." - Christopher Robbins  - "It's all been in them all along... they can be the ally that their child needs." - Heather Hester  Resources Mentioned: Helping Families be Happy Podcast Chrysalis Mama Heather Hester Show Notes By Barevalue

    Toddler Talk: Language, Behavior, and Parenting with Liz Swenson

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2024 18:48


    On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to author and illustrator Liz Swenson. Liz has written two survival guides for parents: "You Got This, Mama: From boobs to Blowouts, a Survival Guide for New Mothers" and "Raising Tiny Humans: From Potty Training to Prejudice, The Survival Guide for the Wild Toddler Years." The discussion focuses on raising toddlers and includes valuable insights into teaching children about dehumanizing language, separating behavior from the person, and fostering executive function skills.   Episode Highlights: 01:30: Christopher extends Valentine's Day wishes and delves into the evolution of Liz's books, "You Got This, Mama" and "Raising Tiny Humans," laying the foundation for the discussion. 03:04: The focus shifts to a critical aspect of parenting toddlers: teaching them about dehumanizing language and its subtle yet impactful nuances. 05:07: Liz emphasizes the significance of distinguishing between a child's behavior and their core identity, encouraging a healthy understanding of hurtful actions. 06:29: Exploring the concept of "hurt people hurting people," Liz sheds light on how understanding this dynamic can help address negative behaviors in toddlers. 08:00: The conversation turns to the development of executive function skills in toddlers, with Liz underlining the importance of explicit teaching in this area. 09:49: Liz discusses the necessity for parents to undergo mental shifts, specifically reframing tantrums as expressions of significant emotions rather than mere misbehavior. 11:42: The podcast delves into the crucial topic of prioritizing parental well-being and self-care, acknowledging the challenges of navigating parenthood. 13:50: Liz shares valuable insights gained from her journey of writing books and raising toddlers, offering a glimpse into the lessons learned along the way. 16:51: Liz share practical tips for "levelling up" parenting emerge, emphasizing the importance of taking intentional breaks and being mindful of language choices.   Key Points: The conversation highlights the importance of nurturing executive function skills in toddlers through explicit teaching, breaking down tasks, and promoting resilience, contributing to overall cognitive and emotional development. Recognizing the challenges of parenting, the discussion underscores the significance of parents prioritizing their well-being, taking intentional breaks, and practicing patience to create a supportive environment for both them and their toddlers. By reframing tantrums as expressions of significant emotions rather than mere misbehavior, parents can navigate challenges with patience and empathy.   Tweetable Quotes: "Teaching toddlers isn't just about ABCs; it's about nurturing their executive function skills, breaking tasks into steps, and fostering resilience." - Liz Swenson "Parenting is a journey of self-discovery. Prioritize your well-being, take breaks, and grow alongside your child for a more fulfilling experience." - Christopher Robbins "Words matter. Reframing language to separate behavior from identity helps create a positive environment where toddlers learn empathy and understanding." - Liz Swenson   Resources Mentioned Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple https://lizswenson.org/ Podcast Editing

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