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The capacity for emotion sets us apart from all things living. It gives us the capability for healthy, deep and intimate relationships. What does it look like when our relationships are too enmeshed emotionally? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter and Kathy Knochel teach us about enmeshment and the dangers of being too emotionally dependent on others.    Show notes  While we are to receive and give support to others, we are not to take ultimate responsibility for other's wellbeing. Unhealthy emotional dependency can happen when two or more individuals lose their independence and identity to the relationship. Individuals assume unhealthy responsibility for the feelings of others. Often it is marked with overwhelm and exhaustion on the part of one and deeply felt need on the part of the other. When this occurs in the family system, it often goes by the term enmeshment. However, emotional dependency can occur between unrelated friends also.     Finding health for individuals in emotionally dependent relationships will require some action.   First there needs to be a recognition of emotional dependency.  Second, boundaries will need to be put in place to promote safety between the individuals.   Third, individuals will feel a mixture of guilt and loss. Working through these emotional realities is necessary.   Finally, reengaging in the relationship at the healthiest level possible. 

There is a lot of offense these days. Probably not more offending than normal as people have acted badly for a long time. But it seems people are quicker to call foul when they are hurt by others. “Trauma”, “emotional hurt”, “abuse”, “bullying” are household terms and sometimes we drop them when the opportunity is right. Have we become connoisseurs of the offenses against us? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter and Ted Witzig Jr give us some important tips on living in a world of offense. “Trauma”, “hurt”, “abuse”, and “bullying” are too real to get wrong.    Show notes:  Living well in a world of offense will require a healthy view into our hurt and a healthy view out of our hurt.  A healthy view into our hurt:  Acknowledge the offense against you whether great or small. Welcome others into it. Seek perspective so you can size it correctly.  Engage in the work of healing.  Pursue forgiveness.  A healthy view out of our hurt:  Have a realistic and broad understanding of the offenses that many in this world face.  Have a biblical understanding of the world we live in. Understand both its brokenness and beauty. See God's intention for a coming reconciliation.   Seek joy and wholeness in Christ. 

We are creatures of habit. Rhythmic, repetitious actions that are triggered almost without notice. For good or bad, these habits shape us in profound ways. To help us wield the power of habit for good, Kathy Knochel and Brian Sutter take up the topic of habit formation in this episode of Breaking Bread.    Show notes:  Habits are reinforced by the positive feedback we experience when we do them.   Typically, bad habits form naturally with immediate favorable reinforcement. For example, scrolling on your phone becomes a habit when it seems to cure momentary boredom.  Typically, good habits form intentionally with long term favorable reinforcement. For example, practicing scales on the piano habitually forms muscle memory that will produce a good piano player in the future.    Tips for Intentional healthy Habit Formation:  Identity: See your habit as evidence that you are the type of person you want to be.  For example, Sandy wants to be a thankful person so she begins to understand herself to be a thankful person. When she journals two things she's thankful for each day, it reinforces her identity.  Make the habit accessible: Build the structure that will make your habit easier.   For example, Todd wants to exercise in the morning. By setting out his running clothes the night before, he makes the first step in exercising, that is getting into his workout clothes, accessible.  Use habit stacking: Pair a desired habit with a habit or routine that you already have established.   For example, Jake wants to be a prayerful person. He decides to pray while he brushes his teeth, a habit he has already formed.  Make yourself accountable: Let others know you are forming a habit and ask for their accountability.   For example, Jenny wants to move her body more. She asks a friend to keep her accountable that she walks 8,000 steps each day. 

As the saying goes, “we are as happy as our least happy adult child”. Parents get this. How do parents walk with their kids through disappointment? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter gives us thoughtful cautions and helpful suggestions.   Show notes:  Our kids have disappointments.   Disappointments such as: being excluded, being mistreated, unhappy with circumstances, unhappy with themselves, failure to excel, failure to succeed, losing a job, losing a spouse.  Parents feel their pain.  Often, we are as happy as our least happy adult child.  Unfortunately, sometimes parents service their own pain when trying to help their children.  Healthy separation between parent in child is needed in navigating child disappointment.  There are some things parents should not do when helping children through disappointment.  Parents should not: miss it, talk kids out of their feelings, rescue kids from their feelings, convey that unwanted emotions are bad.  There are some things parents should do when helping children through disappointment.  Parents should: help kids grieve, help kids manage stories, help kids with their identity, help kids with their God image, give kids hope. 

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JK joins the show to talk about the Blues matchup against an undefeated Jets team, Joel Hofer standing on his head early in the Hurricanes matchup, why he sees parts of Brian Sutter in Jake Neighbours' offensive game and how they could affect how the Blues use the Top 6 lineups going forward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Jesus stooped to embrace the children, it was quite shocking to his disciples. That Jesus would give his precious time to this subgroup was quite remarkable. And then he said the unthinkable... “you must become as these.” By this statement, Jesus was saying that we should not only stop and acknowledge the children, but moreover, look up to them! Esteem them as God image-bearers that have a lot to teach us adults. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Amy Mammadov and Brian Sutter teach us what these little ones can teach us.    Show notes:  Children have a lot to teach us.  Where adults can become ridged, children remain flexible - teaching us to “let go.”  Where adults can become high maintenance, children remain bless-able - teaching us how to receive blessings.  Where adults can be pretentious, children remain genuine - teaching us how to live honestly in the world.  Where adults emphasize usefulness, children emphasize enjoyment - teaching us how to live joyfully.  Where adults have an eye toward “doing”, children have an eye toward “being” - teaching us how we should view ourselves. 

Play lies at the center of life for a child, and it should. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Amy Mammadov, a speech language pathologist, along with Brian Sutter, shine light on this important aspect of human growth and development. Additionally, parents should encourage, teach, evaluate and share in the enjoyment of play with our children.    Show notes:  Encourage Play:  Play is critical in the development of language, thought and human relations.   Teach Play:  The norms and technology of the day have stunted play. Some children need to be taught how to play.   Evaluate Play:  Not all play is equal. Many toys and forms of amusement today are adult directed play. Child directed play, on the other hand, provides rich areas of growth and potential.  Utilize Play:  Playing with your child gives you insights into where they are developmentally and provides an opportunity to model healthy reasoning.  Share in the enjoyment of play:  Shared enjoyment is key. If play is anything at all, it is fun. Parents are encouraged to connect with their children at the level of shared fun. 

Exploration is a prerequisite to having a settled identity. For parents with kids unsettled and exploring, this can be a frightening time. What role do we play in the exploration process? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Brian Sutter will help us sort it out.  Show notes:  Identity:  Is the sense of self – Who I am and who I am not.   Identity Formation:  Starts with exploration and ends with commitment.  Exploration is trying, investigating, experiencing, researching.  Commitment is being settled, resolved and grounded.  Identity Culture in “the west”:  It is constructed individually. This means that the community has a limited influence on placing an identity on an individual. Rather, the individual has the ownness of discovering and embracing their identity.   Challenge:  Our young people are saddled with the task of sorting out their identity for themselves.  Angst:  Watching young people explore their identity.  Opportunity:  Support and guide exploration in community.   As possible, try not to rigidly force closure on those in the exploration phase. Rather, have dialogue that prompts healthy exploration. Thoughtful open-ended questions, and critical thinking prompts are necessary to guide wise investigation.   Have patience in the process with a goal to maintain relationship.  Fear:  Suppose an unwise identity is chosen?  Remember: Where there is life, there is experience. Where there is experience, there is exploration. Where there is exploration, there is hope yet for a good commitment. 

The question before every human being is not if they have pain, but rather, what they do with the pain that they have. Some people make peace with their pain. Unfortunately, many do not. In this Breaking Bread two-part series, Brian Sutter and Kaleb Beyer help us understand what making peace with pain means, why it is important and how to do it.   Show notes:  What does making peace with pain mean?   Answer: Making peace with pain happens when we change our relationship with pain. Instead of orbiting the pain, we are freed from the unhealthy attachment we have with it. While pain may remain, we are able to live with it as a part of our story but it does not govern our identity. Pain has its proper effect on our lives - not too much, yet not ignored.  Why is making peace with pain important?  Answer: Pain unattended has a tendency to generate unhealthy attachments in our lives. We orbit closely to the pain. Some will try to soothe the pain by unhealthy means. Others will over identify with the pain. Still others will expend tremendous energies to change circumstances to make the pain go away. As a result, we become less responsive to our present lives because pain management requires so much attention. We don't live well now.  How do we know if there is pain in our lives for which peace needs to be made?  Answer: If we have a past relationship with our pain and not a present relationship we may need to make peace with pain. This can be seen in our response to present circumstances. For example, if we react to present circumstances inappropriately, our past pain may be speaking.   How do we make peace with pain?  Answer: We make peace with pain by first understanding that God is present with us in our pain. We are not alone. Alowing yourself to sit with God in your pain is a healthy exercise. Next, acceptance will need to be practiced. Acceptance is letting go of circumstances that are not and will not be. It includes a trust that God loves you, is good and sees a wider expanse. For some pain, forgiveness will need to be extended to the offending parties.  

The question before every human being is not if they have pain, but rather, what they do with the pain that they have. Some people make peace with their pain. Unfortunately, many do not. In this Breaking Bread two-part series, Brian Sutter and Kaleb Beyer help us understand what making peace with pain means, why it is important and how to do it.

One of the pains of parenting is watching your children make poor choices. What should we do when there is not much we can do? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter and Craig Stickling speak to the do's and don'ts of parenting through these challenges.  Show Notes:   So your child made the wrong decision. Remember this Mom and Dad:   Hang in there with them.  Protect your relationship with them.  Have a posture of grace with them.  Be learners together.  Allow natural consequences to teach.  Help them learn from their decisions.  Speak truth in love.  Don't over personalize their decision.  Lean on the larger community to speak truth into their life.  Give it time.  Trust in prayer. 

While we might lean more towards left or right brain thinking, we use them both. In fact, it is important we do. And we can. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Ted Witzig Jr., Brian Sutter, Kaleb Beyer and Kathy Knochel help us understand how important it is that we connect with people with both halves of our brain.

Two halves make a whole. This is true for everything. But it is uniquely true for our brains. Each half, the left and the right, bring a wholeness that without either one, we are much less than half. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Ted Witzig Jr., Brian Sutter, Kaleb Beyer and Kathy Knochel help us better understand the vast wonder of our created brains and give us a vision for healthy functioning that uses whole brain living.  Show notes:  The left brain (hemisphere) is understood to be the seat of rational logic. It excels in language, math and science.  The right brain (hemisphere) is understood to be the seat of emotional perception. It excels in music, art and fantasy.  It is common that people tend toward one side over the other. That is, they view the world, engage in relationships and respond to their environments by leading with one side of the brain over the other.  Whole brain living is seeking to understand the value that each brain hemisphere brings.  It is possible to grow in our ability to use whole brain thinking. In fact, whole brain living will aid connection in our relationships, understanding of other people, processing our environments and the worship of God. 

On divisive cultural topics like gender identity, sometimes we miss each other. Talking past each other. Unable to relate or understand with one another. To help with this understanding, Brian Sutter presents three lenses that capture three different “starting points” for the persuasions we hold. Show Notes: Mark Yarhouse in his book "Understanding Gender Dysphoria” presents three lenses through which we view the gender identity debate. By understanding these lenses, we will understand our persuasions and the persuasions of others better. Integrity Lens: “There is right and wrong in the world.” ·       Intent – The view of gender being created by God as either male or female. ·       Strength – This lens focuses on identifying what scripture says and holding closely to it. It fights for truth, right belief, and holy living by proclaiming truth even when it is contrary to culture. ·       Weakness – This lens can be cold, unloving, and judgmental. It can forget that sincere individuals can struggle with these issues. It can reinforce incorrect stereotypes about the Christian church. Disability Lens: “There are reasons for why we see brokenness in the world.” ·       Intent – This lens intends to be compassionate, understanding that all of life is touched by the fall and that human beings experience brokenness in all areas of life - including their gender. ·       Strength – This lens views individuals dealing with gender dysphoria with love and compassion. It seeks to provide information, support, counseling to help people work through gender dysphoria issues. ·       Weakness – This lens can overly identify the person dealing with gender dysphoria by their struggle. It can accidently view the individual's life as ‘on hold' until the individual is “cured.” Diversity Lens: “God is love.” ·       Intent – This lens intends to understand and celebrate the uniqueness of each person while providing them with acceptance and community. ·       Strength – This lens recognizes the value of all people regardless of whether gender dysphoria is a lived experience. It doesn't force people into molds. It desires each person to be included and loved in a caring community. ·       Weakness – This lens may elevate gender dysphoria to be the most important part of a person's identity. It may overlook unbiblical lifestyles and may not see a need for conforming to the teachings of the Bible. Each lens has strengths and weaknesses. We each need to understand the lens we view gender dysphoria through, mitigate its weakness and adopt the strengths in the other lenses.

Today we are thinking more deeply about gender -maleness and femaleness. To help, Brian Sutter and Craig Stickling share their insights on this important matter. In this episode of Breaking Bread, we discuss biological sex and its outward expression in our gender. Show notes: Terminology is important. The words we use make a difference. Further, the meaning of the terms we use change. It is important we are informed on the definition of terms. Biological sex – The binary sex determination that occurs genetically and is coded by chromosomes. Those who have XX pairing are female and those who have XY pairing are male. Gender identity – How a person categorizes their felt gender experience. Gender dysphoria – The distress a person experiences when their felt gender identity does not match their biological sex assignment. Gender expression – How a person lives out their gender assignment. Gender roles – Expected rules, roles and experiences that we assume on being male or female. We live in a changing world. Yet, some things remain the same. What is new to the scene and what is not? Gender dysphoria is not new to the scene. Distress over the felt gender experience has been around for a long time. Varying gender expressions is not new. Men and women have lived out their respective gender in a wide spectrum of ways. Today the meaning we make of our gender expression is taking on new conclusions. With increasing freedom, individuals are reflecting on their gender expression and drawing conclusions on their gender identity outside of the assigned biological sex assigned at birth. Culture today is straying from a biblical understanding of gender assignment. Today, many people view gender identity as not being constrained to the binary male or female as it has been in the past. Due to this, here is more emphasis on freedom of gender choice. Gender in today's culture is often understood to be on a spectrum. How can we understand the varied gender experience? There is not a spectrum of gender assignment; however, there is a spectrum for gender expression. God created each person male or female, yet how we live out that gender varies. There are common experiences held by most men. There are common experiences held by most women. However, no two person's gender experience is alike. Rather, we each have a unique gender expression that can glorify God's biological sex assignment. How can we help ease the gender dysphoria some experience? Some gender roles come from biological differences between male and female. Others are constructed and maintained by culture. It is important that we are thoughtful about what it means to be a man or a woman. We should be slow to calling into question those who don't fit gender stereotypes that are not sacred to the biological sex.

Cognitive behavior therapy and EMDR are helpful tools in the clinical toolbox for treating complex trauma. In this audio recording, Kathy Knochel and Brian Sutter provide some wherewithal to what these are and other methods.

God asks us to participate in the life-giving care of people. Untangling the web trauma spins for those who have complex PTSD is one of those rewarding opportunities. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Brian Sutter take the discussion of complex trauma to the next level. They help us see what help looks like and gives us all a role to play. Show notes: Help for those with complex trauma can be understood in three phases: Phase 1: Safety and Stabilization Stabilize the victim and ensure their safety. Receive them on an emotional level. Help create for them a new safe experience that will over time help them construct a healthy meaning of their world. Phase 2: Processing Trauma Professionals in this phase can help create healthy meaning to old memories. Phase 3: Meaning Making and Reconnecting Help a victim engage in the world in a healthy way. Their difficult past does not bind them; rather it equips and provides value to their present.

Sometimes PTSD cannot be traced back to a single event. Rather, for a person with a web of traumatic events in their past and present, PTSD is a state of “normal”. It is the air they breathe. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Brian Sutter teach us what complex PTSD is. For those who want to live well with people, it is a concept that is good for us to understand. Show notes: Definition: Some people experience layers of trauma. Trauma on top of trauma produces an unhealthy stress whose root is not easy to isolate. In fact, a singular root does not exist. This is understood to be complex trauma. Sources: Complex trauma results from living conditions where safety is repeatedly jeopardized. Results: Complex trauma undermines a person's sense of present safety. Traumatic living norms have produced in victims a skewed perception of others and themselves. Often relationships pay a heavy price among those who have experienced complex trauma.

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God has knit into our frame the capacity to have dominion. At some level, it comes from being an image bearer of his. Yet, it comes as no surprise, that after the fall, our capacity to have dominion has been bent. For the worse. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter and Kaleb Beyer address the tendency we have towards taking unhealthy control of situations. Wonderfully, letting go of control is possible, and who teaches it better than the Lord of Lords and King of Kings ~ Jesus. Show notes: I might have an unhealthy relationship with control if: I have an excessive need to be in-charge. I am slow to give responsibility to others. I am irritated when my plans are not followed. I ignore the boundaries of others. I don't trust others. I think too highly of my opinions. I am impatient with others. I work better alone than with people. My desire for control might be fueled by the following reasons: Insecurity – my grasping for control soothes the discomfort I have in myself. Identity – my grasping for control is an effort to prove myself. Fear – my grasping for control protects me from disorder and disaster. Pride – My grasping for control assumes I know better than others. Even though he is the King of Kings, letting go of control is inspired by and exampled by Jesus: He let go of his control to become a baby. He let go of his control to be obedient to his parents. He let go of his control to be tempted by Satan. He let go of his control to be tried before magistrates. He let go of his control to be killed on a cross. By letting go of control, Jesus secured his Lordship. “I lay down my life, that I might take it again.” John 10:17

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We do what we can to prevent our children from being exposed to pornography. But what if they do become exposed? First time exposure to porn can have long lasting effects on the young mind. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter and Jacob Feucht coach parents on the do's and don'ts of engaging our children after exposure.  Show notes:   Consider the following tips if your child has a first time exposure to pornography.  What NOT to do:  Avoid shaming.   This can lead to isolation.  Avoid despair.   This can communicate to the child that irreparable damage has been done.  Avoid rage.   This can drive the issue underground and breakdown communication on the topic of sexuality.  Avoid ignoring.   This will not care for the trauma that has occurred and allow the behavior to go unchecked.  What TO do:  Receive the child in love.   This can prevent shame.  Receive the child with question.   This can give parents the necessary insights to appropriately care for the child.  Receive the child with correction.   This will give the child wise guidance.  Receive the child with patience.   This will allow for an ongoing conversation on the topic of sexuality.  Questions to ask:  What was viewed?   This helps the parent understand what the child has experienced and what ideas have been reinforced.  How did it happen?   This helps the parent coach healthy pro-action and future prevention.  What effect did the exposure have on you?  This allows the parent to demystify and give vocabulary to the experience so that a young person can begin to make sense of it and talk about it.  What did you imagine mom or dad would think about your exposure?  This allows the parent to correct or highlight their perspective on exposure to pornography.   Perspective to keep:  Pornography exposure is not uncommon. If it occurs and complications arise, there is tremendous hope. A lot of help is available for those who struggle with pornography.   Pornography exposure is an opportunity for parents to engage with their children in a wonderful way. Healthy intimate relationships between parents and children can occur as parents walk with their children through the sexual maturation process.  The goal is not keeping our children from pornography; rather, it is growing up our children into healthy young men and women who love God and serve him. 

Often, our bodies seem like a liability to our emotional, relational, and spiritual health. After all, our flesh is weak. Yet Jesus beautifully sanctioned the bodily experience when He came to earth in the flesh. He showed us that our bodies should not be scorned but instead listened to and exercised to the glory of God. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter and Isaac Funk help us see the role our bodies play in our emotional and spiritual health. Show notes: Common Misconceptions: The biological body is irrelevant. Your feelings tell you what is true. Your flesh is a liability. The body is corrupt and will defile you. Healthy spirituality separates itself from the body. Truth: The biological body is relevant. It informs our reality. God had good in mind when he created the flesh. We should learn to listen to it. The flesh has been affected by “the fall”. It can be used for wrong. Healthy spirituality is always done in the body. By listening to our bodies, we can learn to detect our emotions. By learning to live in our bodies, we can positively affect our emotional experiences.

Laughter is relational, healing and necessary. In this episode of Breaking Bread ACCFS clinicians Ted Witzig Jr., Brian Sutter, Kathy Knochel and Kaleb Beyer enjoy a light moment together.  But don't underestimate the weighty benefits such moments bring to our mental health.  Show notes: There are many matters that concern us: struggle, hurt, loss and sorrow abound. Yet, even among these, humor exists. Sometimes laughter springs from surprising places acting as a grace from our heavenly Father who no doubt loves to see his children laugh. What is laughter? Laughter is the physical response to the emotional and cognitive experience of humor, happiness and mirth. Laughter is to happiness as crying is to sadness. Laughter is a common expression of amusement shared by all humanity. What are the elements that give rise to laughter? Humor often plays on surprise. From peak-a-boo with an infant to clever twists in a “punch line”, the element of surprise startles and pleases. Humor often plays on a truth - truth exaggerated or told from a new vantage point often entertains and amuses. What are the benefits of laughing? Laughter grounds a person in the moment. Amusement happens in the present, opening a person's senses to live in the now. Laughter is relational. Sharing amusement with others makes the experience better. Laughter draws people into its participation. People welcome laughter. Healthy humanity employs the spectrum of emotions. Just as sadness has its purpose and benefits, so does mirth. Laughter can increase our capacity to cope with the brokenness we experience in life. Laughter does not make light of sadness. Rather, it assists us in holding it. How can I learn to laugh? Learn to laugh at myself. Often, I take myself too seriously. Learn my place. I can over approximate my role and reach of effect. I need to remember that God is in control. Learn to live. God created me to enjoy his good creation.

Emotion is like fuel. The right amount, at the right time and for the right purpose, yields wonderful results. However, on a negative note, emotion is like fuel. That is why healthy people know how to regulate their emotions. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Brian Sutter coach us on how to do that. Show Notes: What is Emotional Regulation? People who have good command of their emotions use emotional regulation. In fact, emotions for these people are used in their life for the purpose God intended. Emotions are a gift from God. Why does Emotional Regulation work? God has made us wonderfully. Our emotions and our bodies are closely connected. In fact, emotion always happens in the body. Just as emotions affect the body, the body affects emotions. There are bodily techniques that can be learned to bring about a healthy emotional experience. What are some skills for regulating emotions? Deep breathing: Learning to breathe in a way that calms your nervous system. Mindfulness: Learning how to be present in a moment. Defusion: Learning how to detach from unwanted emotions. Acceptance: Learning how to make room for unwanted emotions. Where can I learn emotional regulation skills? ACCFS Course Emotional Regulation Skills Course - ACCFS (accounseling.org) What will be required for me to use regulation skills successfully? Practice

Youth is a time of life when all manner of ideals are being formed in a person: reasoning skills, social skills, character qualities, work ethic, and academics. And yet, greater than these is the formation of the image our kids will have of God. Their God image is the sum total of their beliefs and feelings about who God is. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter speaks to the importance of shepherding this important formation in our children. Why God Image is important? It is the lens through which you view life. Where does God Image come from? Experience Teaching Shepherding God Image in our kids: Tap their imagination. Share testimony. Model it in relationship. Be patient with their questions. Point them to the Scripture. Helps: The Jesus Story Bible by Sally Lloyd-Jones Children's Authors: by Max Lucado The Ology by Marty Machowski Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis Tiny Theologians Catechisms

I should know by now that yelling seldom works. Moreover, it most often works against me. Fortunately, we don't have to be screamers. On this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter explains how an introspective person makes gains on his/her anger. Emotions respond to an impetus and fuel a response. While some emotions fuel a deactivation of our system, anger activates our system. The impetus' that provoke anger and the response it fuels are often constructed from our past experience with the emotion. Gains can be made in controlling our anger. They will require slowing down and being introspective. Notice your triggers. What situations provoke anger in you? Examples: words or phrases, facial expressions, kids, spouse, authority Notice your body. What sensations occur before anger sets in? Examples: shortened breathing, heat flash Notice what is beneath the surface. Anger is a secondary emotion. It responds to deeper emotions. Examples: shame, hurt, insecurity, loss, etc. Notice what your anger is attaching itself to. Example: Do you think you are angry at your child when you are actually angry at yourself? Notice the degree to which you personalize comments and situations. Do you exaggerate negative feedback? Example: When challenged, do you leap to the erroneous conclusion that you are not liked? Notice the thoughts you think to yourself after the impetus and before your anger. Anger will play on these thoughts. Are they true? Example: When your child makes a poor choice, do you think “he will never turn out!” This erroneous thought will not properly inform your emotions.

Solomon the wise said, “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty.” Those of us who have lost the battle of self-control know just how mighty “the slow to anger” are. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter helps us understand the emotion of anger. He explains its purpose, how it works and how to live wisely in your own experience so that you might be slow to anger.

Jeff Marek is joined Greg Millen who discusses his takeaways from last night's Flames-Stars matchup, how Calgary used their top line to hold a lead late in the game, the physical nature of the roster and shares a memory of playing alongside Brian Sutter (02:33). To wrap up, Jeff welcomes in Producer Matt who looks at the offense so far in the playoffs and which Bruins team will show up in game two against the Hurricanes  (16:09). The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the position of Rogers Sports & Media or any affiliates.

We interview Brian Sutter, creator of Neon Lords of the Toxic Wasteland. Plus news and review of Meatlandia, a weird fantasy Old-School Essentials setting from Knight Owl Publishing. #oldschoolessentials #meatlandia #neonlords

We don't like it when things are out of reach. Especially when they are good things. But sometimes they just are. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter helps us understand what health looks like amid the disappointment of our inabilities.    Definition: Limitations are those things that we cannot do or achieve regardless of effort or resources.  Potential examples: IQ, Physical limitations, Mental limitations, Human developmental stage, Economics  Reality: Limitations are often sources of pain in a person's life. We don't like to be told “no” you can't do that.  Healthy Mental Processing: Limitations are losses to be grieved.  Acknowledge the limitation.  Grieve the limitation.  Listen for the lie limitation has posited in your thinking. (ex. You are stupid.)  Correct the lie with truth.   Accept the limitation.  Healthy Mindset: Do not identify yourself according to your limitation. Rather, understand your limitation to be part of your unique story and an aspect beloved by God the Father. Pivot your thinking away from limitations and on to opportunities.  Healthy Action: A lot of good is instore for you even with your limitation. Invest in those areas you can contribute and improve in.   Definition: Weaknesses are those things that we struggle to do well, but with effort and resources, can improve.   Potential examples: Improving a skill, Learning a trade, Growing positive character qualities  Reality: The ceiling of our abilities is most likely untried. We can make meaningful gains in many areas of our life.  Healthy Mental Processing: We need to discern the difference between limitations in our lives and weaknesses.  Healthy Mindset: God has given us the responsibility to steward our abilities. Continuing to grow and learn is part of the human flourishing He calls us into.  Healthy Action: Growth is a function of effort over time. Engage the growth process. 

Sometimes caring comes with a cost. An emotional tax. Overtime we can become spent, tired, irritable and overwhelmed. Living in a world with lots of cares, compassion fatigue is real and is having its impact. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Brian Sutter help us understand how to maintain a measure of health while at the same time engaging in a hurting world. The brokenness of our world is brought to our awareness in increasing measure. From pandemics, natural disasters, wars, famines, injustice, oppression, mistreatment, tragedy, political debacle and societal changes, we are in no lack of matters for which we are aware and for which we care. If the brokenness we are confronted with in our world at large was not enough, matters of deep care and concern fill our personal lives. Loss, divorce, addictions, aging parents, disabilities, financial hardship and more make demands and draw on our physical and mental compassion reservoir. In many ways, a reservoir is a good illustration for the capacity we have with care. Matters of concern draw on our compassion reservoir. When depleted, we experience compassion fatigue. The emotional toll that comes when we mentally and physically are spent. When experiencing compassion fatigue we can become apathetic, cynical, frustrated or exhausted. When we are experiencing these realities, we are not bringing our best selves to the matters we care about. The answer to compassion fatigue is not caring less. Rather it lies in proper perspective and proper self-care. By attending to these two areas we can fill our compassion reservoir.  A proper perspective is one that holds our broken reality in a God-oriented world view. This view acknowledges we were not created with the frame to process all the brokenness around us. In God's perfect creation intent, He intended to keep at bay this darkness. Yet sin defiled our innocence. This perspective helps us understand compassion fatigue is expected. On the flip side of the coin, we understand compassion is actually an attribute of God. It is His reaction to the brokenness we experience. In His likeness, we example His attribute to our world. We fill our compassion reservoir when we understand God ultimately is the savior of the issues that concern us. He is always active. When we are not “on call”, He is. No situation is solely reliant on us. In fact, often God has many other people as active, compassionate, image-bearers devoted to the matters that concern us. Proper self-care follows from this perspective. Healthy compassionate people regularly rest from their worries. They intentionally take sabbath rest. They give their bodies the physical rest it requires to be effective. They detach their minds from concerning matters. They know where and how to invest their mental space in restorative activity. This can range from taking a nap to exercising; from working on a puzzle to reading a novel; from making music to painting a picture. They also engage in restorative relationships. They invest in relationships that support them in ways of accountability as well as enjoyment. Healthy compassionate people also know what is not restorative to their compassion reservoir. Not all mental escape is equal. Sometimes individuals think activities are restorative when they are not. For example, in an attempt to distract oneself away from cares, they escape to places that stimulate the brain to more anxiety. Social media is one common example of this. Each person needs to know him/herself and what is and is not restorative. While we were not created for the brokenness we encounter, we were created for the goodness of God's creation. Wonderfully, traces of that goodness abound. Healthy compassionate people look for this goodness and engage in it. When they do, their compassion reservoir is filled, and they are able to draw on that compassion to minister to the hurting around them. And when they do that, God's compassion is brought near to this broken world.

Today Cassidy Harris and Steve Bailey, REALTORS with CENTURY 21 Preferred, offering you Modern Real Estate Solutions, sit down and talk with Brian Sutter with Sutter Home Inspections. We will find out a little about Brian, how he got into the inspection world, horror stories with inspections he's had, and what are his number one recommendations! To contact Brian Sutter: P: (641) 373-1695 E: sutter329@gmail.com To contact Cassidy Harris: P: (641) 420-1346 E: Cassidy.Harris@Century21.com To contact Steve Bailey: P: (641) 420-4344 E: steve.bailey21@gmail.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On this episode the boys take another look back on some more great moments from the podcast in 2021, we just couldn't fit all the deserving moments in just on episode. We listen back on some young guns like Brady Tkachuk and Trevor Zegras, some hall of famers like Doug Gilmour and Luc Robitaille, plus guys like Tyler Bertuzzi and Brantt Myhres for some very unique stories. We get into stuff like an all time Mike Milbury story,  Brian Sutter losing it after an infamous trade, and even a guests wife joining us for a short time for some of the funniest moments in the podcasts history. We have heartfelt tough stories like with Brantt Myhres battling addiction, fan favorite stories like Trevor Zegras betting Ryan O'reilly, and even Brady Tkachuk body slamming PK Subban. If you've heard them in the past, they are worth a second listen, if you haven't, boy you're in for a treat, enjoy PART 2 of the best of 2021 on this edition of The Cam & Strick Podcast.  Interviews start: 42:32InstagramTwitterYouTubeTikTokCam & Strick WebsiteYou can also keep up with the boys on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook!Andy Strickland - Instagram | TwitterCam Janssen - Instagram | Twitter |  Facebook

Desires can be tricky. Is it okay to have them? Is it okay to voice them? What if I get my way? Does that make me selfish? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter helps us understand how having and voicing desires is not all bad, in fact, it can be healthy. Unhealthy Desire Healthy Desire Desire for things that God has not allowed. Desire for things that God has given to us to enjoy. Selfishness: insisting on satisfying one's desires in a way that brings about strife and is at the expense of others. Voicing desires while understanding that others have desires that will need to be acknowledged. Damages relationships. Enhances relationships.    

The boys give their takeaways from the Flames' preseason loss to the Jets and Justin Bourne provides insight on Jack Eichel's future. Fantasy Points' Joe Dolan gives fantasy football advice and Brian Sutter shares his hockey memories!

Do we love each other because we agree? Or is our love based on something deeper? Surprisingly, conflict exposes the answer. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Matt Kaufmann and Brian Sutter address the nature of conflict and highlight the role our consciences play. God has given everyone a conscience. The conscience gives us a sense of right and wrong. We should listen to our conscience. Our conscience is not perfectly tuned to truth. We should be a steward of our conscience. Scripture should inform our conscience. The Holy Spirit should direct our conscience. Relationships should refine our conscience. When our consciences differ with others, conflict can result. Conflict can help mature our conscience. We should honor another person's conscience.

Am I okay? What do people think of me? Should I be happy with myself? These self- questions highlight insecurity. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter walks us through the finer points of insecurity and presents to us true security. Insecurities are common among all ages. While the things we seek security in change over time, the fact remains that security is a common human desire. Insecurity is helpful in this way. It highlights our desire for security and prompts us with a critical question, “What should my security be in?” Is it in my job, finances, relationships or looks? Just like financial securities, some are better than others, the securities we desire are not all equal. Who do we seek approval from? What is required for me to be happy with myself? Just how secure are these securities? Most often, we look to securities that are exterior to us-the affirmation of a group, the achievement of a goal. Wonderfully, God is that exterior security He wants us to be settled in. Because of God's dependability, He is the security that is superior to all others.

Doug Gilmour, AKA Killer, joined the boys for one of the best interviews he's ever given. You want authentic, uncensored, and true insight into one of the best players in NHL history? You've come to the right place. From his days being overlooked as a kid to blowing up in St. Louis, Gilmour evolved into one of the most iconic names and players in NHL history as a Toronto Maple Leafs legend. Enjoy a true original conversation with Hall of Famer Doug Gilmour on this edition of the Cam and Strick Podcast. 

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Shaming our kids - good intentions, yet with unintended poor consequences. We’ve all done it. Parenting out of exasperation. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter take a careful look at the messages we are sending our kids. Fortunately, a very healthy and redemptive future is possible.   What is Shame? Effects of Shame Examples of Parental Shame High-stakes Moments for Shame How do we unwind Shame? Discipline that doesn’t Shame. Nature of Shame The idea that a person is, at their core, bad, unwanted and beyond repair. Shame pushes your child into isolation. “I don’t care!” When our kids are being creative. Call your child out from hiding and into community. Separates their behavior from their personal worth. Shame shames.   Shame says there is no hope. Because I’m broken and no one wants me. “You are the only 10-year-old who doesn’t get this!” When our kids are being vulnerable. Enjoy your kids. Breaks the will but not the spirit. We will shame and will be shamed.     “You will never amount to anything!” When we downplay interests and abilities that they have because they don’t match our expectations. Celebrate their person. Support guilt where it is appropriate. Shame plays on lies and perpetuates lies.

Meditation is in vogue. Mindfulness is in fashion. yet, the Scriptures have spoken to this discipline for several millennia. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter walks us through the what, why and how of meditation. Show notes: Question Answer What is meditation? Meditation is deliberately setting our mind on a certain thing and remaining with our mind set upon it. Why should we meditate? Through the discipline of meditation, we become more mentally healthy as well as spiritually healthy people. The reason for this is because our thoughts give attention to those things that are true. In what ways is meditation a skill set? Meditation is a skill set because it is a learned and practiced skill by which a person can more fully focus their attention on a selected matter of the mind. What lies at the center of meditation? Attention lies at the core of mediation. Dismissing unwanted distractions and focusing on desired interests is key. What qualities do I need to have in order to meditate well? Patience and focus are required for meditation. How do I meditate? To meditate, we must slow down, identify a matter to contemplate on, focus on that matter with curiosity, remain with that matter over time. How is mediation different than Bible study? In Bible study, we are the agent, and the Scriptures are the subject we act upon. In meditation, we are the subject, and the Scriptures is the agent that act on us. Are mindfulness and meditation the same thing? Yes. These terms are similar. Mindfulness is focusing on the present moment. When is meditation unwise? Meditation is unwise when we adopt the modern notion that truth lies within us and meditation seeks to access that self-goodness.

Brian Sutter's hat trick helps the St. Louis Blues to a 5-2 victory on this day in 1980.

Geoff Courtnall was one of the most well known names in hockey during the 19990's. His speed, physical play, and scoring ability, made him one of the best all around forwards in the game. No one could piss you off or get under your skin quite like Geoff Courtnall. He also has overcome some serious obstacles including the death of his Father when he was 15 years old, and having to retire as a player because of repeated concussions. He also quit drinking back in 2010 thanks to a caring friend by the name of Cam Neely. Courtnall, the older brother of Russ Counrtnall, is also one of the best people you'll meet. Always a fan favorite and a popular player in the dressing room, Courtnall definitely left his mark in the NHL. His life after hockey hasn't been too bad either. From opening up a hospital for mental illness to several other business ventures, Courtnall is a bright businessman who has achieved great financial success since hanging up his skates. He also dated Sarah McLachlan which at one time created headlines throughout North America. From blowing up Jeremy Roenick to running Los Angeles Kings goalie Jamie Storr we get everything with Geoff Courtnall on this edition of the Cam and Strick Podcast

At some level, we all want to be successful. Yet success can have ill-effects. On this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter and Fred Witzig tackle this topic of success. Approaching the topic from a historical, clinical and biblical perspective helps provide insight into this “success” we all want. Show Notes: How healthy is my success? Success should promote humility. Success should not promote arrogance. Success should promote thanksgiving. Success should not promote entitlement. Success should promote a dependence on God. Success should not promote an independence from God. Success should promote a healthy mind. Success should not promote out of balance. Success should promote good relationships. Success should not promote negligence. Success should promote a healthy view of God. Success should not promote misconceptions of God. Success should promote a high view of people. Success should not promote a condescending view of people. Success should promote joy.

A BRACKET OF THEIR OWN: FORWARDS, 2ND ROUND Doug Armstrong acts! Sammy Blais, Marco Scandella, and Mackenzie MacEachern have re-upped with the Blues as the specter of a frozen salary cap looms. Tom Frankin and The Man Called Wags explore what this could mean in Alex Pietrangelo talks. Then, the two break down last week's tough matchups in the Defense and Goalie Regions of #ABracketofOurOwn and look ahead to even more exciting matchups in the Before Hull and After Hull Forward Regions this week...including the potential for some stunning upsets! BEFORE HULL FORWARDS #1 Bernie Federko vs. #8 Joe Mullen #4 Red Berenson vs. #5 Doug Gilmour #3 Garry Unger vs. #6 Jorgen Petterson #2 Brian Sutter vs. #7 Wayne Babych AFTER HULL FORWARDS #1 Brett Hull vs. #9 Adam Oates #4 Pavol Demitra vs. #12 Ryan O'Reilly #3 Keith Tkachuk vs. #6 Doug Weight #2 Vladimir Tarasenko vs. #10 Pierre Turgeon Powered by: Manscaped. 20% off PLUS free shipping with code THPN at manscaped.com/

A BRACKET OF THEIR OWN: FORWARDS, 2ND ROUND Doug Armstrong acts! Sammy Blais, Marco Scandella, and Mackenzie MacEachern have re-upped with the Blues as the specter of a frozen salary cap looms. Tom Frankin and The Man Called Wags explore what this could mean in Alex Pietrangelo talks. Then, the two break down last week's tough matchups in the Defense and Goalie Regions of #ABracketofOurOwn and look ahead to even more exciting matchups in the Before Hull and After Hull Forward Regions this week...including the potential for some stunning upsets! BEFORE HULL FORWARDS 1 Bernie Federko vs. #8 Joe Mullen 4 Red Berenson vs. #5 Doug Gilmour 3 Garry Unger vs. #6 Jorgen Petterson 2 Brian Sutter vs. #7 Wayne Babych AFTER HULL FORWARDS 1 Brett Hull vs. #9 Adam Oates 4 Pavol Demitra vs. #12 Ryan O'Reilly 3 Keith Tkachuk vs. #6 Doug Weight 2 Vladimir Tarasenko vs. #10 Pierre Turgeon Powered by: Manscaped. 20% off PLUS free shipping with code THPN at manscaped.com/ This podcast is hosted by ZenCast.fm

Suffering nearly touches us all and is a common human experience. Suffering is bad.  Period. Yet, God steps into this badness. Somehow His knowledge of it and presence in it has some redemptive qualities. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter with Fred Witzig take the topic of suffering head-on and expose the hope that suffering affords. Suffering rises from different places. One type of suffering results from consequences from our actions. Another type of suffering results from calamity completely outside of our control. And yet, a third type of suffering comes about when we, by choice, pick up our cross and follow Christ. Throughout time, suffering has proven to be a catalyst for either rejecting God or growing faith in God. Throughout the Bible we have examples of men and women who, out of their suffering, turned to God and asked “why this suffering?” God is big enough to shoulder our complaints. There is a difference, however, in asking “why” from a standpoint of faith and a standpoint of no faith. There are some advantages suffering brings. Suffering gives us a Godward perspective. Suffering helps us identify what matters in this life. Suffering allows us to identify with Christ’s suffering. Suffering helps us rid our hearts of sin. In time, God can use suffering to bring us to a settled place in Him. Suffering is often coupled with our loves. Those people and things most dear to us carry the potential for suffering. This risk to love is the risk Christ took and suffered on our behalf. According to God’s purposes, He alleviates some suffering while at other times equips us to endure. God calls us to walk with those who are suffering yet doing so requires patience and silence.

ABRACKETOFOUROWN: B.H. (Before Hull) FORWARDS Scott Perunovich has signed! Tom Franklin and The Man Called Wags celebrate the signing as well as the launching of the THPN Goon Line, the new gaming channel on Twitch, Mixer, and YouTube! Then, they recap the results of the Goalie Region and preview the Before Hull Region, with voting starting Monday and daily polls through Thursday, then two polls a day Friday and Saturday! 1 Bernie Federko vs. #16 Blake Dunlop 8 Joe Mullen vs. #9 Perry Turnbull 5 Doug Gilmour vs. #12 Mark Hunter 4 Red Berenson vs. #13 Rick Meagher 3 Garry Unger vs. #14 Frank St. Marseille 6 Jorgen Petterson vs. #11 Greg Paslawski 7 Wayne Babytch vs. #10 Larry Patey 2 Brian Sutter vs. #15 Chuck Lefley POLLS: www.twitter.com/bluenotespod TWITTER: @TomFranklinKMOX and @WaggieGoob16 GOON LINE TWITCH: www.twitch.tv/hockeypodnet GOON LINE MIXER: www.mixer.com/rulyjoker97 YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/channel/UCTpqc6WyKKe3TEekj2hF7XQ Powered by: Manscapped. www.youtube.com/watch?v=9k2hJCCtH-A

God has made us to be healthy through the COVID-19 crisis. Sometimes that’s hard to believe. On this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter helps us untangle our thoughts and emotions so we can walk these days with a healthy mind. What we need to know about ourselves… We each have an emotional reservoir with only so much capacity. The stress resulting from the COVID-19 crisis can quickly overwhelm us. We need to make the effort to process the emotions we are feeling so as to manage our capacity to absorb stress. Fear, the awareness of danger, is understandable during these circumstances. Fear left unattended can quickly evolve into ruminating thoughts of “what ifs”. This anxiety can be troubling. Our “what ifs” will be answered in time. Our emotions play to our fears. Emotion will “color the story” and very often over-shadow logic. It is important we engage our thoughtful rational processes. We do not all have the same roles in this crisis. Medical workers, authority figures, mothers, fathers, community members all have slightly different concerns. Step into your duties and support others in theirs. Isolation is most unhealthy when we perceive we have been cut off from supply lines. Forge and maintain connection with others in accord with the given precautions. Recreation can be healthy. Having fun is important. Escape has its place. Entertainment should be done with moderation. God has created us to be healthy through trial and will very likely, in time, bring good from these trials.

#ABRACKETOFOUROWN: B.H. (Before Hull) FORWARDS Scott Perunovich has signed! Tom Franklin and The Man Called Wags celebrate the signing as well as the launching of the THPN Goon Line, the new gaming channel on Twitch, Mixer, and YouTube! Then, they recap the results of the Goalie Region and preview the Before Hull Region, with voting starting Monday and daily polls through Thursday, then two polls a day Friday and Saturday! #1 Bernie Federko vs. #16 Blake Dunlop #8 Joe Mullen vs. #9 Perry Turnbull #5 Doug Gilmour vs. #12 Mark Hunter #4 Red Berenson vs. #13 Rick Meagher #3 Garry Unger vs. #14 Frank St. Marseille #6 Jorgen Petterson vs. #11 Greg Paslawski #7 Wayne Babytch vs. #10 Larry Patey #2 Brian Sutter vs. #15 Chuck Lefley POLLS: www.twitter.com/bluenotespod TWITTER: @TomFranklinKMOX and @WaggieGoob16 GOON LINE TWITCH: www.twitch.tv/hockeypodnet GOON LINE MIXER: www.mixer.com/rulyjoker97 YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTpqc6WyKKe3TEekj2hF7XQ Powered by: Manscapped. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9k2hJCCtH-A

Brian Sutter and Craig Stickling provide very practical advice on what to look for and how to engage our children with social anxiety in this episode of Breaking Bread.  Be informed.  Be equipped.  Be encouraged.

We want to protect them at all costs.  But our children will not be able to navigate through this world unharmed.  In this episode Brian Sutter and Craig Stickling help us understand the impact trauma has on children. They also provide practical insights on engaging them on the basis of trauma awareness and healing.

With the St. Louis Blues winning the Stanley Cup, what better time to talk with Blues legend Wayne Babych — the first 50-goal scorer in franchise history. A great shooter, who who could mix it up with anyone, Wayne was drafted third overall by the Blues in 1978.  As a rookie in 1978-79, he scored 27 goals in 69 games playing RW on the Blues “Kid Line” with Bernie Federko and Brian Sutter as he finished third in the rookie of the year voting behind. After scoring 26 goals in just 59 games in the next season, Wayne hit his stride in 1980-81 as the upstart Blues battled for the top overall record in the NHL.  Coach Red Berensen paired Wayne with center Blake Dunlop and LW Jorgen Pettersson and Wayne responded with 54 goals — a league-leading 40 of which were scored even strength — and he played in the 1981 NHL All Star Game. The following pre-season, however, Wayne suffered a severe shoulder injury that would hamper him for the rest of his career.  After three more solid seasons in St Louis, Wayne joined the Pittsburgh Penguins in 1984 and had the distinction of being Mario Lemieux's first regular RW. Wayne eventually landed in Hartford, where he joined brother Dave in the Whalers unlikely 1986 playoff run. In retirement Wayne and Dave Babych have committed much of their time to helping a variety of worthwhile causes and positively impacting lives round the world. We cover it all  — the Blues, the fights, the fun and the tragedies — in this entertaining conversation with Wayne. Host: Mark Willand ITunes/Apple Podcasts SoundCloud Stitcher Twitter Facebook Instagram Google Play Mark Willand Pro Hockey Alumni WHA Hockey Boston Bruins Alumni You Tube

The previous episode focused on the “What is” of emotional intelligence.  In this episode Brian Sutter and Amber Miller address the “how to.”  Expect practical ways to regulate your emotions.

Emotions play a huge role in governing our behaviors and subsequent wellbeing.  It is so important then, that we are able to perceive, understand and regulate them.  In this podcast Brian Sutter and Amber Miller help us do just that.

Stephane Legault, Golden Bears Forward. Bob Stauffer, Oilers Now host. Brian Sutter, Innisfail Eagles head coach. 

The greatest born among women, Jesus called him. Yet this man, who was set aside by God to proclaim Christ’s deity, questioned it deeply. John Reinhard and Brian Sutter explain three critical lessons we learn from the way John the Baptist dealt with his doubt.

Because doubt is such an affront to faith, it can be ignored in Christian circles.  Yet John Reinhard and Brian Sutter see doubt much differently.  Doubt is not an affront to faith, it is necessary for faith.

We want to honor our parents. After all, it is on God’s top ten.  Beautifully, honor takes on different hues depending on the life stage we are in. However, some situations make honor especially challenging. In this episode, Brian Sutter and Amber Miller address some of those challenging circumstances.

God says to His children, “Come unto me.” In like manner, I should say to my children, “Come unto me.” But what does that look like? Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter offer practical encouragement for parents to engage their children in “family time.”

WOOO! (sorry...we'll stop...awful) The St. Louis Blues are HOT, HOT, HOT and have stormed back into the playoff picture with 6 straight wins. As Ken Wilson said after Brian Sutter scored during the Monday Night Miracle, "And the roller coaster ride continues!" We discuss the state of the "streak busting" Blues, has the real Jake Allen finally stood up? What do we do with goaltending in the offseason? The "No Bouw" effect, Today in Blues History, our Beers of the Week, Blues Social Media Fails, we answer your Tweets, and to close out the show we tell it like it is with the in-game presentation and the WOOOO chants, plus more good stuff!

God had a controversy with His chosen people in Hosea’s day; they didn’t know God (Hosea 4:1). Christ had a quarrel with the people of His day; they didn’t know God (John 7:28,29). Paul had a burden for the people of his day; that they would know God (Ephesians 1:17). In this episode Matt Kaufmann interviews Brian Sutter about how we can know God better and the delightful and sometimes surprising end that comes as a result.

Every parent wants his or her child to excel at something; to possess a gift, a talent, a strength. Because they have been fearfully and wonderfully made, they do. As parents, how do we steward them in these strengths? In this episode, Brian Sutter and Craig Stickling help shed light on this responsibility.

Former St Louis Blues' Winger Rick Bourbonnais lets us in on a team long standing rookie hazing initiation.  The "original" St Louis Blues Kid Line (Bourbs, Brian Sutter and Bernie Federko get led out into the boonies to hunt Snipe in an unorthodox fashion.  Trouble with the local law ensues!!

Discipline is much more than behavior change. In fact, it must be. In this episode, Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter elevate this parental role to a more noble end than that of producing good kids. Listen for the hope that naughty kids afford.

By default, our children enter into our families in a relationship with us.  After all, they are our sons and daughters. However, relationships are not in name only. In this episode, Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter speak to the importance of building meaningful relationships with our children.

Teaching is wonderfully optimistic. The sky is the limit; what do you want your students to know? With a little intentionality, parenting is exciting in the same way. In this episode, Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter, interviewed by Matt Kaufmann, encourage us to seize the parenting moment of teaching.

You don’t need to be an intellectual to make a defense for the faith. A visible hope, a genuine love, an honest humility and a listening ear will go a long way in this regard. In this final episode of the Apologetics series Brian Sutter and Matt Kaufmann peal back the onion of faith to reveal the beauty of God and give some tips on how we can engage the skeptic.

The Christian faith is not a house of cards, tenuous and in need of protection. Thus, questions and challenges are welcome. Within the church especially. Within our families absolutely. In this episode, Brian Sutter helps us understand four main lenses through which we can understand apologetics and make a defense for the faith.

Christian apologetics is the discipline of making a defense for the Christian faith. Apologetics, therefore, has an important place in the life of a believer. But what place does it have? Does our faith rest on the sum total of a bunch of rational arguments? Or, do the arguments rest on our faith in God and thereby give rise to worship? In this episode, Brian Sutter, interviewed by Matt Kaufmann, cites the importance for both but advocates for worship. Apologetics offers a great deal of health and hope to the believer.

Having the conversation about the “Birds and the Bees” can be intimidating. In this episode, Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter motivate and equip parents to train up our children on the topic of sex.

We live in a sexually confused culture. It is, therefore, of utmost importance that we engage our children and shape their sexual character. Brian Sutter and Craig Stickling frame up this task by giving parents five areas of focus: beliefs, values, needs, skills, and supports.

Thanksgiving is an ornament of grace in a believer's life. It springs from faith and leads to faith. To prepare our hearts for thanksgiving, Kaleb Beyer, Brian Sutter, and Matt Kaufmann tease out some of the finer points of being grateful. Be encouraged by the re-release of this "Living Joyfully" episode on thankfulness.

Being still helps us know God. Knowing God helps us to be still. And when we are, we identify with the rest of God. Such rest is a theme of the Bible. In this episode Brian Sutter and Matt Kaufmann conclude a three part series on being still and knowing God.

Being still should be easy.  After all, it is the absence of effort.  It is not work but rest.  It is not noise but quietness.  Why then is it so hard to do?  While our gadgets, gizmos, culture and hurried lives present drag to this spiritual discipline, the true value of the practice lies in faith.  In this episode Matt Kaufmann interviews Brian Sutter on cultivating the discipline of spiritual quietness.

To see joyful living exampled, we need only to look at children. Laughter and smiles are a part of their every day. Brian Sutter and Kaleb Beyer suggest learning from children can provide a pleasant relief in our serious lives. Living with childlikeness is the last of five encouragements on living the joy filled life.

It is natural for thanksgiving to come on the eve of blessing. But how about from the ashes of difficulty?  Kaleb Beyer and Brian Sutter suggest that gratefulness is an ear mark of the joyful life, not only because joyful living sends us to thanksgiving but thanksgiving sends us to joy-filled living. Living with an appreciative heart is the fourth of five encouragements contained in the “Living Joyfully” podcast series.

It is a great relief to know that a believer can live joyfully in spite of difficult circumstances. In this podcast, ACCFS clinicians Kaleb Beyer and Brian Sutter unpack two more practical helps for living joyfully – living in the present and living with acceptance. The Christian will understand that their faith in Christ sets them free to apply these techniques regardless of their difficult surroundings.

We should be joyful, however, all too frequently the believer in Christ is not. Living Joyfully is a 4 part podcast series which provides the biblical framework and practical helps for living joyfully in a not-so-joyful world.  In the first episode, ACCFS staff Kaleb Beyer, Brian Sutter, and Matt Kaufmann explain how to live intentionally and how such living can restore joy.  

As parents, God has equipped us to lead family worship.  Corporate Family Worship is the first of 4 episodes in a series of conversations concerning the topic of family worship. Specifically in this first episode Matt Kaufmann interviews ACCFS counselors Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter on the topic of family worship in the context of Sunday worship.

Is your child ready to have a cell phone? Counselors Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter, interviewed by Matt Kaufmann help coach parents on the significance of cell phone use among our adolescents.