Grow Yourself Up

This week Cath returns to the topic of meeting our needs and how much this can involve when we have not had our needs attended to or met in childhood. She speaks about how many of us experience shame in relation to our needs and how impactful this is. Cath speaks to the nuance around meeting needs, how needs may shift over a healing journey and she shares a couple of anecdotes from her own life.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 136 Cath is joined by author, coach and podcast host Mara Glatzel.This is a rich conversation centered on needs and how we can make space for them, illustrated with stories from Mara's life. We also discuss ambition, grappling with achievement, choice and the decisions we need to make about how we actually spend our precious lives. Mara Glatzel (she/her) is a coach, podcast host, and the author of "Needy: How to Advocate for Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty." She teaches fellow needy humans to uncover the most vulnerable and true expressions of themselves, and learn how to deeply tend to their needs. Through her online programs, workshops, and retreats, Mara supports people to reclaim space for their own humanity and create ambitious lives filled with meaning, without abandoning themselves in the process. Find out more about Mara at maraglatzel.comIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 135 Cath was joined by coach and author Tamu Thomas. We had a joyful and generative discussion covering so much: overworking, why we do it, how we have to redefine success for ourselves and live in line with our values, envy and comparison, friendship and much more.Tamu Thomas is an author, keynote speaker, and leadership consultant. She helps high-achieving women stop overworking and redefine success so it fuels their ambition without eroding their quality of life. Her work helps leaders create workplaces people want to be part of where they can do their best work without needing a sabbatical to recover from burnout.With 15 years in social work and expertise in behaviour change, Tamu brings a unique ability to translate complex human dynamics into practical, organisational strategy. Her approach is informed by Polyvagal Theory and Positive Psychology, helping organisations build cultures where highperformance and wellbeing coexist.Tamu is known for her work on the biology of belonging, demonstrating how nervous system safety underpins psychological safety, inclusion, and sustainable high performance. She helps leaders understand how culture is experienced in the body, and how signals of safety or threat directly shapebehaviour, retention, innovation, and growth.She has a rare ability to make complex, often uncomfortable topics feel accessible, engaging, and even joyful, blending science, storytelling, and personal insight to connect with diverse audiences. Her talks create shared understanding, making people feel seen and supported, while deliveringmindset-shifting insights with warmth, clarity, and practical relevance.She is the author of Women Who Work Too Much, a guide for women ready to stop proving their worth through exhaustion. Her work has been featured in Harper's Bazaar, Stylist, Psychologies, Marie Claire, Grazia, and on BBC Sounds.Tamu works with leaders, founders, and organisations to create cultures where performance is sustainable, people feel seen, and success is measured by more than output alone.For speaking engagements, leadership consulting, and media enquiries, contact tamu@livethreesixty.comOr follow her on Instagram here.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath was joined by Julianne Boutaleb. We discussed fertility journeys, fantasies of ourselves and our babies, how a fertility journey can impact what we believe we are allowed to feel/think and experience in our mothering journeys and so much more. Julianne used poetry to deepen our understanding of the complexities inherent in motherhood and we discussed the importance of right brain to right brain interactions and more!Julianne is the Clinical Director and Founder of the Parenthood In Mind practice. She is a passionate and highly experienced perinatal psychologist who has worked for over 24 years in the NHS and private practice with parents and parents-to-be and their babies (and bumps) who have needed support with a wide variety of issues including anxiety and depression during and after pregnancy, miscarriage and reproductive loss, attachment issues, re-emergence of childhood issues and couples issues.Julianne is a member of the Birth Trauma Association and specialises in working therapeutically with birth trauma, PTSD and tokophobia (fear of giving birth) as they impact the mother, couple relationship and parent-infant attachment. In addition, she is also affiliated with BICA (British Infertility Counselling Association) and offers tailored psychological interventions for individuals and couples (including same sex couples) who are pregnant or are parenting following ART (IVF, ICSI, donor conception, surrogacy) or adoption. She also specialises in offering psychological support to parents (either individually or together) who are co-parenting in the midst of separation and divorce. She has over 15 years' experience teaching and training psychologists and health professionals on issues of parental mental health, attachment, early years and positive mental health for babies and young children.Julianne works from a variety of perspectives including psychodynamic and attachment models, CBT, integrative, ACT and compassion-focussed work, couples work and can also offer parent-infant sessions using the Watch, Wait & Wonder model which focusses on how you can improve your attachment relationship with your baby.You can connect with Julianne on Instagram here. Or her website listed here.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this wide ranging episode Cath focuses on parental burnout and talks about how we are more vulnerable to this if we have childhood trauma and why. She references recent research into this topic discussing what it is, risk factors for parental burnout, why it matters, how we can conceive of it through a nervous system lens and how we can support ourselves.The link to the research discussed in the podcast, is listed below. Ren, X., Cai, Y., Wang, J. et al. A systematic review of parental burnout and related factors among parents. BMC Public Health 24, 376 (2024). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12889-024-17829-yIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath shares that she received a diagnosis of ADHD and Autism in 2024 and some of the reasons she pursued this. She shared how she is integrating this and how she was tending to herself and meeting her needs ahead of the diagnosis. Cath speaks about executive functioning, what it is, how this may be a struggle and she shares specific anecdotes from her own life about needs, struggles in mothering and struggles with time blindness and how she supports and accommodates herself with these. Would you like more of this sort of content?If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 131 of Grow Yourself Up Cath was joined by Dr. Jenny Turner. Jenny and Cath had a wide ranging and rich discussion covering the following: Jenny's path to motherhood and the birth of her son, shame, relationships, the challenges of shifting cycles in parenting, when perimenopause and postpartum collide and how we often have to dig really deep in motherhood and much more.Jenny is a clinical psychologist and founder of 'Mind Body Soul Psychology'. She is based in North Yorkshire, and works online with people from all over the UK. Jenny is also a mum to a four year old son.With an extensive NHS background in child and adolescent mental and physical health services. Jenny is now passionate about supporting Mothers, a central theme of the work she offers is how we can all get our own needs met, while we are caring for so many other people, Jenny believes that the care we receive, our boundaries, and our own healing are all fundamental to the care we offer as mothers, and to our enjoyment of the process of mothering.She is also passionate about helping mothers to navigate through the emotions that society too often (wrongly!) tells us 'we're not meant to feel' as Mothers, such as resentment, ambivalence, anger, rage, trauma, shame, guilt, grief, exhaustion, and burnout.Jenny offers integrative therapy to her clients - She draws largely on systemic, societal, psychodynamic, compassion-based and body-based, trauma-informed models (such as polyvagal theory). As well as the therapeutic model of shame-resilience developed from Brené Brown's research.You can connect with Jenny on her website listed here: www.mindbodysoulpsychology.co.ukOr, Instagram: @drjennypsychologistIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath was joined by Dr Jodi Pawluski, they talked about Jodi's path to motherhood, her postpartum time, how she prepared for this time and how her own parents' support impacted her.Jodi shares a bit about her family history, about the partnership she has with her husband in parenting and how her own work and knowledge of the brain supports her in her mothering role. Dr Jodi Pawluski is a Behavioural Neuroscientist, Psychotherapist and Author. Her research is affiliated with a research unit of the INSERM institute, the University of Rennes, France.For over fifteen years Jodi has studied the neuroscience of motherhood and the effects of perinatal mental illness and antidepressant medications on the mother and developing offspring.In 2020 Dr. Pawluski started a podcast called "Mommy Brain Revisited" which focuses on bringing current research on the parental brain to the general public. She also recently published a book (available in French and English) titled "Mommy Brain: Discover the amazing power of the maternal brain". Dr Pawluski's work has appeared in the New York Times, Scientific American, CNN, The Boston Globe, Die Zeit, Elle, Marie Claire, to name a fewYou can connect with Jodi on her website listed here www.jodipawluski.comInstagram: @dr.jodi_pawluskiX (formerly twitter): @JodiPawluskiIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath is joined by Occupational Therapist and Conscious Parent Coach Maggie Viers. Maggie shares her own growth and awakening in motherhood. She talks about how becoming a mother was a catalyst for her own growth and healing.Motherhood pushed her to look into the details of her own childhood experiences and how these had impacted her. Maggie shares her wisdom, what she finds most helpful in tending to herself and how she prioritises connection with her children and family in a world that is always encouraging us to do more. You will feel hopeful and encouraged after this episode.Maggie is now an Occupational Therapist who has evolved into a conscious parent coach. She has a passion for shifting the paradigm for how we view behavior and supporting other parents to become more connected to themselves, their children, and others. She does this by getting to the “why” and approaching life with curiosity. She helps parents to understand their own nervous system, sensory profile, and triggers so they can better understand their children as well. It wasn't until motherhood that she discovered how her own struggles and patterns had so much to do with her own early childhood experiences and conditioning. For Maggie, becoming a parent was a challenging yet beautiful invitation to go inward and become curious about her own life story so she could show up differently for herself and her kids.You can find Maggie on Instagram @theempoweredfamilyMaggie offers 1:1 coaching through the link in her Instagram bio or www.thrivinglittles.comIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode 128 ponders the question 'Am I failing my kids' and uses an attachment analogy to explain what that would actually look like. She uses details from her own life to explain how we all have periods of challenge, disconnection, stress and how we can reframe this. Instead of using black and white language to describe our experiences and saying we are bad/shit, Cath suggests how we might conceive of things instead.Cath also speaks briefly about the TV show 'Adolescence' and the issues this programme has highlighted. And how secure attachment and cultivating warmth, connection and allowing vulnerability for all are a vital part of how we can protect our children from all sorts of negative outcomes. She speaks about patriarchy and modelling and how our own relationships as adults are what our children learn from.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath is joined by Yvonne Smyth. Yvonne is a Conscious Parent Coach and a Child Advocate. She's a single mum who co-parents her boys of 12 and 13 and she lives in Northern Ireland.Yvonne shares about how and why she shifted her parenting style and how that has been so beneficial for her family. Yvonne is passionate about supporting parents to connect deeply with their children and to move away from using coercion and control within the parent/child relationship. Yvonne discusses the challenges of parenting in the teenage years. She shares how she is approaching this time, how she maintains connection and continues to work on the parent/child relationship, despite messaging in society that says this is a time we 'lose our kids'.Many of Yvonne's clients come to her with lots of "knowledge" about Conscious/Gentle Parenting but struggle to put it into practice. Yvonne is warm, honest and compassionate. One of the words people who work with her most often use to describe her is "relatable". She shares many stories and anecdotes from what she calls her own "living laboratory" of her relationship with her boys which brings her work to life in a way that tends to resonate deeply with other parents.Yvonne offers sessions on zoom to parents, couples and even friends who want to be supported together. She also runs workshops on various themes related to Conscious Parenting. Yvonne has a series of workshops aimed specifically at parents of teens. She has also just launched a community/membership called The Heart of Parenting - What Really Matters. You can find Yvonne here:Instagram: @thisparentingadventure Facebook: www.facebook.com/thisparentingadventure LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvonne-smyth-009645a/If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by Flora Cruft for this episode. Flora Cruft is a poet, a picture book writer, an existential psychotherapist and a creativity coach. She runs her own online therapy and coaching practice, South West Therapy. Her debut poetry book I am a Spider Mother was published by The Mum Poem Press in 2022. Flora won the Books that Help 2023 picture book mentorship with Little Tiger Press, and she loves to write, sing, bake and enjoy loud kitchen discos with her twin daughters.Flora has an instagram account @poet.therapist.baker where she explores the intersections between therapy, creativity, writing, authentic living, baking and mental health. She lives with her partner and family in East Devon.Flora and Cath talked about Flora's path to motherhood, her fertility journey, what she learnt about creativity growing up, how she lost and regained connection to her creativity. We talked about creativity, the inner critic and motherhood and Flora shared how baking nourished her on her motherhood journey and much more! This rich episode will encourage you to access your own creativity!If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by Kendra Wilde this week. They talked all about how to keep our sanity intact in parenting when our children are struggling in some way. Kendra shared about the 'why' behind (Wild Peace for Parents) and how she was pushed to a place of burnout on her parenting journey. This conversation is loaded with self compassion and wisdom from someone who has kids in their twenties, we hope you enjoy it.Kendra Wilde is a parent wellbeing advocate who uses illustration, podcasting, writing, and workshops to share resilience resources with parents. As a mom of three who met burnout up close, she realized the best way to help children thrive is to care for the caregivers. Kendra created (Wild Peace for Parents) to help parents feel less alone and more empowered as they navigate the challenges and growth pains of parenting, especially when raising children who struggle somehow.She recently launched "A Little Easier", a 12-episode podcast series that brings together leading experts and real parents who share insights, personal stories, and practical tools to give parents a lift through challenging times. The series takes listeners on a 12-part journey, exploring everything from the complex emotions parents experience when their kids struggle, to the nervous system's impact on parenting, and what can help us fend off burnout, find a sense of balance, and embrace what “is” with more compassion and joy. You can find (A Little Easier) on most podcast platforms. Visit alittleeasier.org for show notes, a free downloadable discussion guide, a printable poster of key takeaways from the show, and more.Find Kendra on Instagram & FB @wildpeaceforparents and at wildpeace.orgIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this solo episode Cath uses her concept 'The Good Girl Grid' to explain how women are held down in society and how this complicates our ability to own our own internal and motherhood experience. She talks about the idea of 'being on our own sides' and what that means and how that might look in practise (using anecdotes from her own life).Parenting is a huge growth opportunity, please be gentle with yourself.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by psychotherapist and coach Kate Merrick this week. Cath and Kate talked about Kate's path to motherhood, her lineage, how her ancestors turned up to support her journey, personal power in the postpartum time, advocating for our children, medical herbalism and much more.Kate is a mother, an embodied gestalt psychotherapist, transformational coach and a home herbalist and she is dedicated to guiding women on their journey's of healing and transformation. Kate specialises in the holistic treatment of childhood developmental trauma, ancestral trauma and Post-Traumatic Growth, empowering womento reclaim their inner authority, their innate wisdom, their cyclical rhythm and to deepen into loving compassionate relationships with themselves.As well as working in one to one practice, Kate also runs women's circles that centre around psychological and spiritual growth work. In addition, she now runs Rushmead Farm, her “garden cauldron”, making organic therapeutic products from her Somerset herb garden; natural elixirs that support our minds, bodies and spirits.You can connect with Kate on Instagram:@the.embodiedwoman@rushmeadfarmWebsite: www.katemerrickpsychotherapy.co.ukIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath speaks to how much our own inner child may be triggered in parenting and makes some suggestions about what to hold in mind to support yourself.She speaks to the important psychological role of the mother/primary caregiver and how much this is to hold, learn and practise. She answers a listener question about criticism and comments from our kids. And weaves in psychological theory to support your role in your family, using personal anecdotes to explain some points.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this deeply personal episode Cath reflects on what often trips us up when we spend long periods of time with our kids, particularly when we have childhood trauma. She highlights some of the key issues we deal with when we have experienced trauma and gives some tips and suggestions for how you can make the most of time spent with your kids (while holding onto your sanity).If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 120 of Grow Yourself Up Cath was joined by Clint Davis. Cath and Clint talked about culture and patriarchy, how Clint parents differently to how he was patented and how he continues to grow himself up in fatherhood. Cath and Clint talked about Clint's book and how the conversations you have with your kids when they are young provide an important basis for later communication and much more.Clint Davis is an Army veteran, ordained minister, and licensed professional counselor trained in trauma and addiction. Clint is a speaker and hosts the 'Asking Why' podcast. He is also the author of 'Building Better Bridges', a guidebook to having difficult conversations that can save our children.Clint has a large team of mental health professionals that work together to make a difference in their communities.Resources for Clint Davis CounselingTEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/k5bxxen5cAoInstagram: @clintdaviscounselingFacebook: @clintdaviscounselingYoutube: https://www.youtube.comWebsite: www.clintdaviscounseling.comEmail: Clintdaviscounseling@gmail.comBBB: www.buildingbetterbridgesbook.comAmazon: (Building Better Bridges) https://a.co/d/bbkF1FLAsking Why Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/asking-why/id1527892108If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it. To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 119 of Grow Yourself Up Cath was joined by Lisa Marchiano.Lisa is an award-winning author, podcast host, and certified Jungian analyst. She is the author of three books published by Sounds True, Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself, The Vital Spark: Reclaim Your Outlaw Energies and Find Your Feminine Fire and Dream Wise: Unlocking the Meaning of Your Dreams. She is the cocreator and cohost of the popular depth psychology podcast This Jungian Life, and has a private practice in Philadelphia. Cath and Lisa talked about Lisa's motherhood journey, how she has grown herself up, the need for women to grow up and let go of innocence, self abandonment and pleasing others. This maturation process and claiming all parts of our feminine energy (not just that which is kind or sweet) is essential to be able to protect ourselves and our kids and live a full adult life. You can connect with Lisa below:Instagram: @lisamarchianoOther web links: LisaMarchiano.comspinningstraw.comthisjungianlife.comIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It can feel really confusing as a cycle breaking parent learning to hold space for our child's feelings without taking responsibility for them. Often there is entanglement where we may feel we need our children to be a certain way so we can feel ok. Cath speaks to all of this and the overlap around holding space for feelings, stress responses and getting more comfortable with the displeasure of our children. She uses examples from her life to bring the points alive.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath was joined by Dr Kathrin Stauffer. They chatted about how the body remembers in multiple ways and how not getting what we need in childhood impacts multiple systems in our bodies (not just the nervous system). When we are on a healing journey the expression of sadness and grieving are an important part of this journey. However, it may be that we are blocked from crying by our defences. We dived into this and talked about food, body shape, body psychotherapy, the the function of comfort eating, shame and much more. Kathrin Stauffer PhD, UKCP Registered Body Psychotherapist, is the author of ‘Emotional Neglect and the Adult in Therapy: Lifelong Consequences to a Lack of Early Attunement' (W.W. Norton 2020).Kathrin was born and educated in Switzerland. Originally a research biochemist, she retrained at the Chiron Centre for Body Psychotherapy. She lives in Cambridge in the UK and works in private practice as a body and humanistic psychotherapist, EMDR practitioner, trainer and supervisor. She previously wrote ‘Anatomy & Physiology for Psychotherapists: connecting Body & Soul' (W.W. Norton 2010). Currently she is the President of the European Association for Body Psychotherapy EABP.You can contact her via her website which is www.stauffer.co.uk.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath is joined by Dr Catherine Clinton. Catherine shares all about her own healing journey, how she prioritises time outside, how she walks her talk and how she honours her own emotional life to bring in emotional flow and coherence. Dr. Catherine Clinton, a licensed naturopathic physician, has spent over 17 years helping people overcome their health issues. She completed her Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine from the National University of Natural Medicine. Diagnosed with two autoimmune conditions and Lyme disease while in medical school, she began the long and difficult journey of healing- a path that led to the commitment to help others to not only heal physically but to return to the relationships we evolved over millennia with for a deeper sense of health and belonging.Dr. Catherine has multiple articles that have been published in peer-reviewed research journals. She maintains a small practice in Eugene, Oregon. Dr. Catherine teaches doctors, healthcare practitioners and health enthusiasts from around the world in how to apply the principles of quantum biology for health and is a sought after speaker with speaking engagements across the globe.Her mission is to empower as many people as she can with knowledge of quantum biology for health and help them explore a new perspective in healing.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath links trauma healing to the healing we need to do in the collective and for our world. She speaks to how owning all parts of ourselves is essential to bringing in a healthier world, the importance of our imagination and how tending to ourselves is key to each of us playing our part in the revolution.You can read more about this on Cath's Substack here. And also more here.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special bonus episode released on Christmas Day, Cath talks about what can sometimes derail us over the holidays. She makes suggestions around how to return to our own centre, to consider what is important to us and to focus on our own values. Grow Yourself Up will now be on a break for 2 weeks and will return in the new year with the first episode on Tuesday 7th January 2025.Thank you for supporting our podcast this year, it's very much appreciated.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ironically Christmas is often a time when many of us struggle with our mental health and with staying in a regulated enough place.Cath addresses why this may happen, focuses on why an understanding of our nervous system is so helpful in de-shaming this experience and suggests some practical tips to help you if you are feeling like this.Please know that you are not alone if you struggle at Christmas AND there is hope in terms of how you manage yourself and your experience. You can re-frame and re-focus to help yourself and Cath explains what actually helps with this.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath was joined by Stephen Terrell. Steve Terrell is a Healer, Teacher, and Author and sees clients at Austin Attachment and Counseling Center in Austin, Texas. He founded this center over 20 years ago for the treatment of Developmental Trauma and Adoption related issues. He has a Master's Degree in Counseling from Texas A&M University-Corpus Christi and a Doctorate in Psychology California Coast University and sees his clients under his license as a professional counselor in Texas. Steve and Cath discuss Steve's path to fatherhood, what he learnt about parenting from his first son, healing work and the importance of turning up in the relationship. Steve shared about what has been most important in terms of supporting himself and how he breaks things down to make them manageable/achievable. There is so much wisdom in this episode, I hope you find this supportive ahead of the festive period.It was his experience as a clinician and single parent of two adopted sons, along with his understanding of the ACEs that Steve came to the realization that there needed to be a way to reach non-verbal, or early developmental trauma, without spoken language. Out of this realization he developed Transforming Touch® and a training program designed for understanding and healing developmental trauma: “Transforming the Experience-Based Brain: A Regulation-Based Approach to Working Developmental Trauma” (which is offered internationally and offers an understanding of developmental trauma through a new lens). This new lens includes working with primitive reflexes, learning the language of early trauma, working with physiological regulation, understanding the neuro sequential development of the brain, working with survival parts, understanding attachment in the somatic relationship, and more.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath speaks to the general craziness that happens at this time of year and makes some actionable suggestions.Assisting you in bringing more ease, joy and harmony to your life and your family life. If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath was answering questions on 'The Body Love Binge' podcast hosted by Victoria Kleinsman. We discussed a huge range of topics including developmental trauma, shame, childhood coping strategies, attachment styles, eating disorders, the role of control and much more. This episode is full of rich storytelling, hope you find it supportive.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath was joined by Alita Blanchard. Alita Blanchard is an Australian based parent coach, holistic counsellor, and mother of four boys, committed to helping parents create safe, connected, and compassionate homes.With training in nervous system care, Rites of Passage, and Women's Circles, Alita guides mothers through the transformative journey of parenthood, offering tools to navigate overwhelm, anger, and anxiety without shame or fear. Rooted in her own experience raising sensitive, deeply feeling children, Alita's work empowers parents to co-regulate, embrace vulnerability, and foster connection with their kids.Cath and Alita talked about Alita's experience of mothering, how she came to her motherhood journey, mothering after grief, moving away from perfectionism and the growth path this set Alita on. Alita shares about her experience of rage, anger, raising boys, looking at her own attachment patterns and much, much more.Alita's vulnerability and honesty will invite you to reflect on your own patterns with less shame.You can connect with Alita to find grounded, growth-oriented support for your own journey, towards being the parent you aspire to be, below.Instagram: @alitablanchardWebsite: www.theawaremama.com.auIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath explains why on earth we bother with validating those pesky emotions. As parents, it can seem this is a NEVERENDING task, and it may be the exact opposite of what you learnt as a child. So why bother? What is the point? Cath explains this simply and clearly in this episode. If you have a partner who wants to shut you or your kids down this is a great listen. This is also ideal to listen to if you co-parent with someone who is on a different page to you about emotional holding/flow/space. Here is the booking link to buy a ticket for Triggers, Rage and Reparenting Workshop:https://www.cathcounihan.com/triggers-rage-reparenting-workshopThe live Q&A for this workshop is on Weds 20 November so send in any questions you may have. The Q&A will also be recorded.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath was interviewed by Nikki McCahon for her 'Seasons of Matresence' podcast. We had a gentle, compassionate and open hearted conversation about the ways in which experiences of childhood trauma can shape and impact how we experience mothering and raising children.We cover a lot of ground in this episode, the ways in which childhood trauma can impact and shape our experience of mothering and raising children. We talk about the nervous system and our window of tolerance and how trauma can travel through families and generations why playing with your children can feel overwhelming or dysregulating. The power of rupture and repair for our children and ourselves and how we can bring in more compassion in our mothering and our journey of healing from childhood trauma.There is so much wisdom in this episode, and I know that it's going to be really supportive for you.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath speaks to how hard it may be to just 'feel our feelings'.Many of us have been taught the exact opposite and Cath speaks to some common psychological defence mechanisms to block emotions with examples and anecdotes. Cath talks about interoception and how essential this is and makes reference to Stephen Porges book 'The Polyvagal Theory'.Emotional Flow is a process and improving this is step by step and Cath shares some tips around this and an example from her own life of helping her kids begin to process their emotions.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath speaks to self abandonment and how for many of us this feels absolutely necessary. She links it to childhood patterns and speaks to how unfamiliar it can be to start tending to needs, making some suggestions around prioritising your needs. Please also find details about my forthcoming workshop I mention listed here here.You can also read more on abandonment on substack (link to Nurture.Heal.Grow below).If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath speaks to the desperation that can arise when we are cycle breaker and are working really hard to give our kids a different experience to the experience we had in childhood. It can feel like we have to get everything RIGHT (whatever that means) and when we overgive and abandon ourselves it is unhelpful (and damaging) for both us and our kids.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath talks about how emotional health is connected to emotional flow and how this has been the absolute opposite of what many of us have learnt in our families of origin. She provides context about why it is important to learn to actually BE with our emotional selves and shares some personal examples of this.This episode also covers hate, dissociation, Cath's concept of Emotional Flow, what we are aiming for with flow and why this may be so hard for many of us.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath shares about some of her personal journey with unwinding from chronic stress, the patterns that perpetuate chronic stress, burnout, how we are set up for this in childhood and much much more.Healing is a layered and ongoing journey, in service of breaking down shame Cath speaks to parts of her journey and how she has negotiated chronic stress, physical symptoms and challenge this year.Here is the booking link to buy a ticket if you would like to join the Triggers, Rage and Reparenting Workshop on Wednesday 16 October 2024 at 1pm British time: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/triggers-rage-reparenting-workshop-tickets-1040753932027If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by Fran Liberatore in episode 101. Cath and Fran talked about Fran's path to motherhood and how she felt she found her purpose through motherhood, her becoming and growing up in motherhood. Fran talked about her own neurodivergence, how she learnt to let go of control in parenting and how she continues to focus on this. Cath and Fran talked about the imprecise nature of diagnosis and some of their thoughts on this. Fran talked about the schooling journey in her family and how she uses a consent based model in life and education and much more.Fran is an unschooler, mother, writer and child advocate. She writes and podcasts about consent-based, self-directed education, youth autonomy and challenging social norms on her Substack, 'A Life Unschooled' (www.alifeunschooled.substack.com).She is also publishing a book about centering consent-based practice via her Substack. She does some volunteering work around youth advocacy and self-directed education, and is studying for a Masters in Early Childhood Education, hoping to focus on consent-based education. Her favourite things are long walks, coffee and a good book. She lives with her two unschooled children, her husband, and her dog on a little island off the coast of Maine.You can also find Fran on Instagram @bigmotheringIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath spoke with Julie Walter in episode 100. They talked about Julie's motherhood journey, home educating her children, how she left teaching, unschooling from whatever position we are in and what Julie is currently involved in.Julie's BIO:Julie is a certified teacher with years of experience in the classroom, a degree in fine arts, and long-time homeschooler. She has taught students from Kindergarten to Grade 10, including roles as School Librarian and Special Education Resource Teacher. She also has taken on specialised roles such as teaching at an arts school, technology lab instructor at a provincial demonstration school for students with severe learning disabilities, teaching a forest school pilot program, and her most recent role teaching Gifted Education. She currently teaches a forest school homeschooling enrichment program on her farm in Ontario, where she combines what she has learned in classrooms, and more importantly through homeschooling, within a small community of children. Julie also has an online presence as “Family Yields” where she inspires and coaches parents and homeschoolers on how to create more integrated and sustainable family lives. She is also the host of “The Family Yields Podcast.”Julie's SERVICESJulie offers coaching services for people who wish to step into their authenticity in their parenting, homeschooling and life and she has some also online courses, which are all available to purchase on her website. LINKS:Instagram @familyyields and Facebook @familyyieldsPodcast:https://familyyieldspodcast.buzzsprout.com/Website:https://familyyields.com/If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by scientist Concetta Ferretti in episode 99. Cath and Concetta talked about Concetta's path to motherhood, how she used science to support her in thinking about birth, how she does this on an ongoing basis and all about how Concetta is growing herself up in motherhood. We talked about her relationship with her mother in law, how she manages it and how she got to this place. This is a conversation packed with realism and richness, hope you enjoy it.Concetta is a scientist with a background in Biology, a Ph.D. in Oncology, and research experience in chronic disorders. She is currently studying to become a Marriage and Family therapist with a medical specialization. She aims to understand how stress and early life experiences shape mental and physical health. Her work is trauma-informed and benefits from the latest findings in developmental neurobiology and interpersonal neuroscience. She shares her knowledge on Instagram, where she wants to empower mothers with science and wisdom to manage their stress and nurture their babies' brain and attachment relationship.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath is joined by Anna Butcher. We talked about Anna's journey to motherhood, how she experiences mothering and how the act of becoming a mother is an intrusion into our lives (on multiple levels). There is some deeply personal storytelling illustrating the concepts being discussed and we focused on how control turns up for both Cath and Anna and the antidote to this. Anna Butcher is a counselling psychologist specialising in perinatal psychology and the experience of motherhood. She came to the field of perinatal psychology after becoming a mother herself and becoming fascinated in the magnitude of the process which is often simplified and misunderstood. Anna is a lover of psychoanalytic theory and practice, for its richness in exploring early life experiences, relationships with caregivers and what it is to be a person.She loves marrying these ideas with her new found enthusiasm for the journey into and process of becoming a mother. She is also an advocate for speaking about the darker sides/emotions of motherhood which psychoanalytic theory give voice to. Anna taught and trained psychologists for ten years and teaching remains a passion of hers. Anna is trained in perinatal and infant mental health as well as newborn behavioural observation and Watch, Wait & Wonder, a parent-infant psychotherapy approach. She runs monthly support groups for mums in Amersham, Buckinghamshire and you can find her on Instagram @mums_and_microwaved_teaIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by author and medical psychotherapist Marchelle Farrell in episode 97. Cath and Marchelle chatted about Marchelle's childhood in Trinidad and Tobago, the systems her parents operated in, how those systems still operate today, privilege, power, relationships and so much more. We talked about Marchelle's path to motherhood, the power within mothering and how she learnt to let herself be held and supported and the role of her garden in this.Marchelle Farrell is a writer, medical psychotherapist and amateur gardener. Born in Trinidad and Tobago she has spent over 20 years attempting to become hardy here in the UK. She is curious about the relationship between our external and internal landscapes, the patterns we reenact in relation to the land, and how they might be changed. Her debut book, Uprooting, won the Nan Shepherd Prize for nature writing. You can contact Marchelle on Instagram and her handle is @afroliage and on twitter @afroliage (though she rarely uses twitter) or you can contact her via her website www.marchellefarrell.comYou can catch Marchelle at the following upcoming events around the UK:Saturday 27-28th April at the BOCAS Lit Fest in conversation with Safiyah Sinclair and running a nature writing workshop.Saturday 11th May at Nurturing Soils at the Platt Fields Market Garden Manchester in conversation with Amy Jane Beer of Right to Roam and running a nature writing workshop.Sunday 26th May at the City of Literature weekend of the Norfolk & Norwich Festival in conversation with Jessica J Lee and running a nature writing workshop.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 96 Cath was joined by author Molly Caro May. This rich and beautiful conversation covered so much ground. They touched on Molly's memoir ‘Body Full of Stars', talked about Molly's postpartum health experiences, breaking cycles in motherhood, rage and self responsibility.Molly Caro May is an author of two books, teacher, and holder of space. For 13+ years, she has facilitated personal story workshops for hundreds of people across the globe. She is trained in (Somatic Experiencing) and focuses on where language/voice and the animal body meet each other.Her mission is to democratise expression and explore, in good company, the healing alchemy between story and nervous system. She runs online workshops, in-person retreats and keeps the fire lit for her membership community 'The Loam'.You can learn more about her work at www.mollycaromay.com or on Instagram @mollycaromayIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is a continuation of some of the themes from episode 94 (and can also be listened to alone).Cath speaks about the core of people pleasing and how carrying this into parenting sets us up to feel bad, she touches on ‘metrics', getting to know ourselves and having an embodied sense of our enough-ness. There is also discussion around values.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode Cath focuses on people pleasing. She looks at how and why it arises in our family of origin, how it manifests in the way we are in relationships and how it can turn up in parenting. She suggests ways in which to counteract this urge. And next week there will be more on this subject.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath is joined by author and journalist Lucy Jones. Cath and Lucy discussed Lucy's matrescence journey, her most recent book (Matrescence: On the Metamorphosis of Pregnancy, Childbirth and Motherhood), how she makes sense (and continues to) of the huge transition to motherhood, what Lucy finds supportive, how we are all eco systems and some of the realities of mothering at this time in our history. Lucy Jones is an award-winning journalist and the author of four books including the best-selling book Losing Eden: Why Our Minds Need the Wild (Allen Lane), a Times and Telegraph Book of the Year, and most recently Matrescence: On the Metamorphosis of Pregnancy, Childbirth and Motherhood. Her writing on science, health and ecology has been published in BBC Earth, The Sunday Times, GQ, the Daily Telegraph and the New Statesman. Lucy is a mother of 3 and lives in Hampshire in England.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by Coach, Trainer and Supervisor Nicola Rae in episode 92. Cath and Nicola talked about Nicola's path to motherhood, how she came into relationship with her needs, her divorce and how this relates to growing herself and much more. Nicola shared what she focuses on instead of focusing on being liked and how this gives her freedom. Nicola Rae is a Coach Supervisor, Life & Careers Coach, Coach Trainer and experienced Creative Strategist who works with ambitious brands and leaders to help them to fulfil their potential and speak-up and show-up with heart and make a meaningful difference in the world.Nicola is the founder of 'A Life More Inspired' where she combines her 20 year corporate communications/marketing experience with a values-led and compassion-centered coaching methodology rooted in Neuroscience, Positive Psychology and Transactional Analysis.Her uniquely positioned supervision and coaching practice helps move her clients into possibility, overcome challenges and step into a more fulfilling way of working, leading and living.Nicola works with both organisations and individuals and is committed to bringing nuance to the personal growth, wellness and coaching space, so that it is development for the many and not the few.Nicola is trusted by a number of innovative and industry leading brands including being the resident life coach for the global creative agency D&AD, Career Coach for the women's only private members AllBright and a Coach Trainer for Optimus Coach Academy. In addition to working with Warner Music and Google alongside her thriving private client-led coaching practice.Social media - https://www.instagram.com/nicolaraewickham/https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolaraewickham/https://nicolarae.substack.com/https://www.alifemoreinspired.com/weekly-letterWays to work with Nicola:As a private client 121. In her coaching subscription, ROOOTED. In her supervision 121 practice which is for coaches and mentors. If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it. To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by Kate Codrington in this episode. Cath and Kate talked about Kate's path to motherhood, perimenopause in early postpartum, how Kate cares for and supports herself in her life and more. We also talked about breaking free from what the patriarchy says we are allowed and how we can empower ourselves with play, creativity and joy.Kate is a mentor, author, speaker, facilitator, artist and podcaster. The author of 'Second Spring: The Self-Care Guide to Menopause', which is part of the 'menopause cannon' according to the New York Times. Kate mentors people in perimenopause and beyond, 1-2-1 and in groups, and is a nature-based Yoga Nidra meditation guide, and hosts 'Life - An Inside Job' podcast. Kate has been a therapist for more than 30 years and creates multi-level art textile projects. When she's not doing these things you'll find her playing in her compost heaps. Her second book, 'The Perimenopause Journal, will be out in September 2024. To find out more about Kate, click the links listed below.Website: https://www.katecodrington.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kate_codrington/If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it. To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 90 Cath was joined by Integrative Educational Therapist and Nutritionist Lorraine Driscoll. Cath and Lorraine talked about PANs/PANDA's and how Lorraine supported her daughter in her healing. The impact of retained primitive reflexes and how Lorraine's teaching career informed her move into being a therapist and educator, and much more.Lorraine Driscoll is the founder of the Building Better Brains Learning Clinic. She is an Integrative Educational Therapist and Nutritionist (and former teacher) who is known for her radically different approach to overcoming challenges related to learning and behaviour issues. As a former teacher, she is passionate about addressing the root cause via nutrition, gut health, cognitive therapies and neuro-technologies that strengthen weak areas of the brain. Her goal is to help kids move beyond the limitations of IEP's and tutoring so they can reach their full potential. Contact Info:www.lorrainedriscoll.cominfo@lorrainedriscoll.comInstagram: @building.better.brainsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/buildingbetterbrainsLDIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it. To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 89 Cath answers a listener's letter. The content of this episode deals with the question: ‘How can we tend to ourselves when we realise some of our parenting has come from our own pain and trauma?' How do we deal with the guilt and shame arising from this? What helps this shift?If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it. To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 88 Cath focuses on our needs and why starting to meet/meeting them can be so complex. Building on earlier episodes on this topic, listen to episodes 1-4 and 26. She makes a suggestion for how you can reframe times when there is self abandonment (needs not being met) to reduce shame. Having our needs met is a huge contributor to being in our own sense of power and agency.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it. To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 87 of Grow Yourself Up Cath was joined by Clint Davis. Cath and Clint talked about culture and patriarchy, how Clint parents differently to how he was patented and how he continues to grow himself up in fatherhood. Cath and Clint talked about Clint's book and how the conversations you have with your kids when they are young provide an important basis for later communication and much more.Clint Davis is an Army veteran, ordained minister, and licensed professional counselor trained in trauma and addiction. Clint is a speaker and hosts the 'Asking Why' podcast. He is also the author of 'Building Better Bridges', a guidebook to having difficult conversations that can save our children.Clint has a large team of mental health professionals that work together to make a difference in their communities.Resources for Clint Davis CounselingTEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/k5bxxen5cAoInstagram: @clintdaviscounselingFacebook: @clintdaviscounselingYoutube: https://www.youtube.comWebsite: www.clintdaviscounseling.comEmail: Clintdaviscounseling@gmail.comBBB: www.buildingbetterbridgesbook.comAmazon: (Building Better Bridges) https://a.co/d/bbkF1FLAsking Why Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/asking-why/id1527892108If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it. To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.