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In this episode of Clueless Crime, we dive into the heartbreaking and controversial case of Robert Farquharson, a father convicted of a shocking act that sent shockwaves through Australia. On Father's Day in 2005, Farquharson drove his car off the road and into a dam, with his three young sons—Jai, Tyler, and Bailey—trapped inside. What initially appeared to be a devastating accident soon turned into a dark and twisted drama, as investigators unearthed a motive rooted in revenge. Was this a calculated act of retribution against his ex-wife, Cindy Gambino? Or was it a tragic accident, as Farquharson maintained? We explore the chilling details of the case, the evidence that led to his conviction, and the long-standing debates surrounding his guilt. Intro Clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l17MHaYaa00&list=PLrLulycax35-gPvfA4Wp8CumRO5AmLhMM&index=7 ⁠www.cluelesscrime.com.au⁠ ⁠buymeacoffee.com/cluelesscrime⁠ ⁠patreon.com/cluelesscrime⁠ ⁠instragram.com/clueclesscrimepodcast ⁠

Introducing American Homicide. Betrayal host Andrea Gunning, speaks with American Homicide host Sloane Glass about the brand-new podcast.  American Homicide explores mysterious and iconic murder cases from across America. Whether it's the spacious skies and vast deserts of New Mexico or the backwaters of the Louisiana Bayou, these murders are connected to their settings. Journalist Sloane Glass leads you through each crime with interviews from the victim's family and investigators.   Please take a moment to listen and subscribe to American Homicide by clicking here. You will find American Homicide on the iHeartApp, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. And if you want to listen to episodes one week early and ad-free, you can sign up for iHeartTrueCrime+, exclusively on Apple Podcasts. Thank you for listening! American Homicide  S1: E1 – The Father's Day Murders, Part 1 On Father's Day 2011, Cherie Ortiz discovered her parents and brother brutally murdered in their home in the quiet village of El Rancho, New Mexico. In the first episode of American Homicide, journalist Sloane Glass unravels the shocking crime that devastated a close-knit community and ignited a search for answers.    To reach out to the American Homicide team, please email us at AmericanHomicidePod@gmail.com.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Introducing American Homicide. There and Gone hosts, Andrea Gunning and Ben Fetterman, speak with American Homicide host Sloane Glass about the brand-new podcast.  American Homicide explores mysterious and iconic murder cases from all across America. Whether it's the spacious skies and vast deserts of New Mexico or the backwaters of the Louisiana Bayou, these murders are connected to their settings. Journalist Sloane Glass leads you through each crime with interviews from the victim's family and investigators.   Please take a moment to listen and subscribe to American Homicide by clicking here. You will find American Homicide on the iHeartApp, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. And if you want to listen to episodes one week early and ad-free, you can sign up for iHeartTrueCrime+, exclusively on Apple Podcasts. Thank you for listening! American Homicide  S1: E1 – The Father's Day Murders, Part 1 On Father's Day 2011, Cherie Ortiz discovered her parents and brother brutally murdered in their home in the quiet village of El Rancho, New Mexico. In the first episode of American Homicide, journalist Sloane Glass unravels the shocking crime that devastated a close-knit community and ignited a search for answers.    To reach out to the American Homicide team, please email us at AmericanHomicidePod@gmail.com.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On Father's Day Weekend in 1969, six-year-old Dennis Martin was camping with his family near Spence Field in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park when he vanished without a trace, leading to one of the largest searches in the history of the National Park Service. Tragically, he was never found, and the disappearance of Dennis Lloyd Martin remains unresolved after more than half a century.  In recent years, renewed interest in the case has led to speculations about a possible kidnapping, as well as theories that an "Appalachian wild man" akin to Sasquatch may have been involved. Such theories focus on the testimony provided by the late Harold Key and his family, who observed an individual in the park under odd circumstances that unfolded on the same day as the disappearance of Dennis Lloyd Martin.  In this special episode of Sasquatch Tracks, the team takes a deep dive into the details of the disappearance, discussing a recent Hulu series that discusses the kidnapping theory and its possible relevance to what some witnesses liken to wild men or even "apelike" creatures inhabiting the remotest portions of our National Parks. We examine the evidence for this, along with several alternative explanations for the disappearance, and what U.S. government documents and independent research into the landmark search and rescue case reveal.  Stories and other links discussed in this episode:  Dennis Lloyd Martin: 50 Years Ago, This Boy Vanished in the Great Smoky Mountains Cold Cases - Investigative Services (U.S. National Park Service)  Watch OUT THERE: Crimes of the Paranormal Streaming On Hulu Follow Sasquatch Tracks on Twitter. Got a news tip or story to share? Send us an Email. Have you seen an animal you can't identify? Submit a report here.

Since the matter of memory loss is increasing in our society, we increasingly need more Christians to speak out about it and share why and how they deal with it the help of God's Word, His people, and the Church. On today's episode of Equipping You in Grace, Dave speaks about the matter of caring for two family members with significant memory loss and how he addresses it with God's Word and the people of God.What you'll hear in this episodeCaring for family and friends with memory loss.Biblical mediation.LamentSubscribing, sharing, and your feedbackYou can subscribe to Equipping You in Grace via iTunes, Google Play, or your favorite podcast catcher. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a rating and share it with your friends (it takes only takes a second and will go a long way to helping other people find the show). You can also connect with me on Twitter at @davejjenkins, on Facebook, or via email to share your feedback.Thanks for listening to this episode of Equipping You in Grace!It was late at night and I had had a long day. I had just gotten a phone call from my older brother at around 9:30pm that shook me up quite a bit. My older brother stated that my father was now back but in an emergency hospital room in Seattle, Washington. He had come back to pick up some things from his old office that he had stored in a storage shed for the past six and a half years.Allow me to provide some context for this story. The last time I saw my father was six and a half years ago in that exact office. On Father's Day, 2012, (one month before the phone call from my brother) the Lord placed it heavy on my heart to pray and intercede for my dad, which I did. As tears streamed from my eyes, little did I know the Lord would bring my dad back from Eastern Washington to Seattle one day in the near future. So on that day in July 18th, 2012, while I was shocked to get a phone call from my older brother, I was at peace as I spoke to my father on the phone for the first time in six and a half years. As I choked back tears, I said, “Do you know who this is?” and he said, “Yes, I do, it's my son, David.”I've often shared this story with people online and offline. Usually I get the response, “I'm so sorry to hear that and I will pray for you”. My family and I greatly appreciate that response. Often, people want to share with me how they have had a family member or friend who's going through a mental illness. I also appreciate these responses since they encourage and help me. In this article, I want to share how I deal with caring for a parent with dementia. I'd like to make it clear upfront that I'm not an expert in dementia care. I'm a theologian, not a psychologist. It is my prayer that as I share thoughts based on my experience, that God might use my situation to help you through your own time of need.Over the past decade I've learned the best way to deal with a parent with dementia is to have the right perspective. That perspective comes from the Apostle Paul's words in Philippians 4:8: “think on what is noble and pure”. I'll be honest with you here, thinking on what is noble and pure is hard when you start thinking about the devastating effects of a debilitating disease like dementia. Thinking about what dementia will do to my dad causes me to tear up. Perhaps your family member has cancer or another devastating disease. Thankfully, there is coming a day when—the Bible declares—Jesus will wipe away every tear from every eye. While that day is not yet here, I want to encourage you now to feel however you need to feel.This leads me to my second point: the Bible teaches that Jesus is fully God and fully man. Why does this matter with respect to having a parent with dementia? Well, as a man, Jesus experienced the full range of emotions and yet never sinned. He was tempted in every way but did not sin. I don't know about you, but this is what causes me to worship Jesus all the more. When I struggle with my dad's dementia,

On Father's Day, Ps Ants dives into the Bible to uncover why the enemy of God seeks to steal the very breath of life from you.

June 16th, 1991. Denver, Colorado. On Father's Day 1991 an armed robber gained access to secured areas of Denver's United Bank Tower and fatally shot four guards before stealing $200,000 in cash. Based on the shooter's extensive knowledge of the bank's layout and security system, the police suspected that the shooter was a former employee. We have tons of extra content from only available at: patreon.com/generationwhyListen ad free with Wondery+. Join Wondery+ for exclusives, binges, early access, and ad free listening. Available in the Wondery App. https://wondery.app.link/generationwhy.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

August Reiger asked his parents for a trip to a Spanish-speaking country to celebrate his high school graduation, as he was fluent in Spanish and loved learning about new cultures. So just weeks after graduation, his parents and younger brother left Oklahoma for a two-week vacation in Baños, Ecuador. On Father's Day, June 16, 2013, the family set off on a well-maintained hike near their hotel. After a short time, August walked ahead, planning to meet them at the top of an overlook. When the rest of the family arrived at the overlook about 10 minutes later, August had mysteriously vanished and has never been seen again. What happened to August Reiger? Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And join our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast Listen to this week's podcast recommendation, True Crime Connections https://www.truecrimeconnections.com/  Theme Music by Roger Allen Dexter Sources: https://www.facebook.com/bringaugusthome/ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2624407/One-year-valedictorian-19-vanished-family-vacation-Ecuador-two-sightings-family-hope-alive.html https://www.oklahoman.com/story/news/local/oklahoma-city/2013/06/18/classen-school-of-advanced-studies-valedictorian-disappears-while-hiking-with-family-in-ecuador/60906884007/ https://www.news9.com/story/5e34dd63e0c96e774b358741/truck-sought-in-search-for-okc-teen-missing-in-ecuador https://www.koco.com/article/family-of-missing-teen-remains-in-ecuador/4294337 https://www.cnn.com/2013/06/20/world/americas/ecuador-missing-teen/index.html https://www.oklahoman.com/story/news/local/oklahoma-city/2013/08/28/missing-oklahoma-city-valedictorians-parents-return-from-ecuador-without-their-son/60887385007/ https://www.huffpost.com/entry/august-reiger-missing_n_3472822?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR12DNWl8HAjLfKHHGkEulYH5D8gJftUHBeUNB49iApKOJfgaqkh6ZekFSE_aem_09ftQ8XxXqFzWmNPSldOTg https://guardianlv.com/2013/11/oklahoma-scholar-august-reiger-still-missing/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR31m-Zp1Q1hF_w2HQ95jVoX_wGdR6_QDgoVomeJnPyLZoVPGMTKqmdtLuY_aem_4yd5dwOEiEKfh5AJL-Uiwg https://www.oklahoman.com/story/news/columns/2018/06/16/five-years-later-oklahoma-city-man-august-reiger-still-missing/60518662007/ https://latinalista.com/culture-2/art/mother-teen-missing-ecuador-shares-profound-grief-via-art https://abcnews.go.com/Nightline/video/okla-teen-vanishes-family-ecuador-vacation-19530201 https://www.smartraveller.gov.au/destinations/americas/ecuador#:~:text=Violent%20crime%20and%20theft%20are,encouraged%20to%20take%20particular%20caution.

On Father's Day, we give thanks for the fathers or father figures that God has placed in our lives. We might even thank them by allowing them to sleep in. We may also think about the impact they have had in our lives, and the message they would leave us with. As we read the story of Stephen, he addresses fathers and brothers giving them a message that ends with him being stoned to death. In his death, he falls asleep in Christ, something that he and God wants for all people.

On Father's Day / Mandem Sunday, to continue our Seek Series, Pastor Andrew shared a powerful message around what we can learn from God's revelation to us as "Father" and the healthy dynamic that men and women were created to walk in. Please watch, share and be blessed!

On Father's Day at Dodger Stadium, the baseball gods appeared out of a cloudless Los Angeles sky, and struck down one of our best player with a ruthless blow. A companion piece to our previous episode, "Mookie's Best."

On Father's Day Weekend, Professor Byron Klaus shares a poignant story of Eli, a biblical father whose sons were scoundrels with no regard for the Lord. Despite failing as a father, Eli taught young Samuel how to listen to the voice of God. Eli became the bridge to Samuel's destiny as mentor to King David, Israel's greatest king. The word “father” may evoke pain for some, but a person's true identity is only defined by God. As we lean on the Holy Spirit, may the grace of God powerfully transform and rearrange the patterns of our lives!

Low Anxiety, Going Places In this episode, I give a shoutout to Kevin for Montana info, share insights from Andrew Pulrang's Disability Thinking, and discuss prepping Dax Pierson interview questions. I also talk about my kids' haircuts, our neighborhood, music, therapy, hospital visits, and my recent solo trips and poetry publications. Shout Outs Shout outs to Kevin. thanks for the info about Montana. Kevin does comic book reviews on his YouTube channel Under The Cowl Of MS. Disability Thinking Now reading Andrew Pulrang's Disability Thinking Substack. I've always been partial to the combination of disability with thinking, the guy's been on another level for a long time. Writing Dax Pierson interview questions. I have been lagging, trying to be recovered fully before doing the interview. I think it may be time to move forward. I'll Gladly Pay Tomorrow For A Haircut Today After months of hair drama, i took my kids to Supercuts and John's long hair was over in a moment. He was happy. With his new haircut, he's ready for summer. I'm glad that our neighborhood is a protected cul-de-sac. It means the kids can play outside with the other kids in the neighborhood and there's hardly any car traffic. New Music: Magic Fig, "Magic Fig" Magic Fig. San Francisco psych band. I heard it reviewed at the KFJC staff meeting and I ordered it from the group's bandcamp page. Cool new record – local band – insane amount of styles – dreamlike hooks – psychedelic SF – full sonic fireworks, Silver Current Label – over the top – combo Sid Barrett mixed with HR Puff n' Stuff KFJC Music Notes 6/5/24 24-Hour yogurt is smoother than 8-hour yogurt, go figure. I went to the Express Care at the Eden Valley Medical Center bc my ear was feeling blocked, like it had somebody's thumb stuck in it. They prescribed Flonase and something else, and they've been making it easier to breathe through the machine My anxiety is low, put fast away, like it's in the past. My talk therapist thinks it may be due to the EMDR therapy that we've been doing. Excursions I drove the kids to Foothill College where we went to KFJC and we hung out with Jack Tar and Good Karma before having snack on the quad, and then we drove to Hayward. In Hayward, we went to Burger King, a place the kids wanted to go badly after seeing the commercial a million times. Territorial Expansion The next day, I went to Oakland on my own. I've learned how to strap the wheelchair onto my car by myself. On Father's Day, I took the kids to Berkeley. We went to Amoeba Music, Moe's Books, Games of Berkeley, and had slices of pizza for lunch. My new expanded base of operations includes Oakland, Berkeley and Los Altos. Acceptances My ears were burning, my vibe was strong. Three poems were accepted for publication in two different journals. After a long gap, they were accepted in the same day by editors working half a world apart. It'll be my first time publishing my work in another country, and also my first time reprinting a poem. Stay tuned, you'll be the first to know..

On Father's Day, we are reminded that the Universal Father has bestowed upon us the power to manifest in this world.    Spiritual Life Center is an Interfaith, Unity community located in Sacramento, California for spiritual seekers and life explorers. We honor the many paths to God and support people of all faiths in learning and applying positive spiritual principles in their daily lives. Follow SLC on Instagram @spiritual.life.center and on Facebook at facebook.com/SpiritualLifeCenter.

On Father's Day, Padre Rick Bradbury speaks on God's call to all fathers: "Have fun and go father!" Check out our website for announcements, sign-ups, and important information! Watch our live streams, listen to our worship moments, and our teachings on our YouTube channel! Take a peek at our pictures from Sunday mornings, announcements, worship moments, and teaching clips on our Facebook page! Visit our Instagram to see teaching quotes, and weekly updates on what's going on with our family! If you would like to stay connected to what's happening at Redemption Life Church, fill out our Connect Card! If you would like to give, click here! To give towards our Reach Teams, click here! If you need prayer, click here!

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On Father's Day in the United States, a reflection on God the Father.  From Abba's heart flows an endless stream of love...

On Father's Day, one of our new elders Pat Trompeter teaches on the character of the Father and the importance of what we believe He really is like. Our lives really do hinge on what we believe to be true about Him - that He is good and worth trusting.Big House Church is cultivating a community of passionate worshippers who partner with Jesus to create a kingdom culture on earth as it is in heaven. We regularly meet on Sundays @ 9 & 11 AM at the Zeider Theater in Town Center Virginia Beach.Learn more at www.bighousechurch.com.

On Father's Day, one of our new elders Pat Trompeter teaches on the character of the Father and the importance of what we believe He really is like. Our lives really do hinge on what we believe to be true about Him - that He is good and worth trusting.Big House Church is cultivating a community of passionate worshippers who partner with Jesus to create a kingdom culture on earth as it is in heaven. We regularly meet on Sundays @ 9 & 11 AM at the Zeider Theater in Town Center Virginia Beach.Learn more at www.bighousechurch.com.

On Father's Day, we reflect on what it means to be a child of God. Believers are called to exhibit unity, sympathy, love, compassion, and humility. By living these qualities, others should recognize us as God's children, just as people say, "He's his father's son." Even in suffering, we share the hope within us with gentleness and respect. The transformation in Peter, who boldly proclaimed Jesus despite persecution, serves as our model. Let's strive for people to see that we've been with Jesus, embodying His love and grace in all we do.

On Father's Day Sunday, three dads share about what they've been learning recently about God through the gift of fatherhood.

On Father's Day, Pastor Buddy spoke directly to the parents in the room of the importance of fulfilling the responsibility of raising children, calling on the Dad's to TRAIN UP A CHILD. This powerful, practical message will bless your families as we endeavor to live these Biblical principles in our daily lives.

On Father's Day, Pastor Buddy spoke directly to the parents in the room of the importance of fulfilling the responsibility of raising children, calling on the Dad's to TRAIN UP A CHILD. This powerful, practical message will bless your families as we endeavor to live these Biblical principles in our daily lives.

June 16, 2024 Morning Service. On Father's Day, we look back at the men in our lives that have made an impact and left us with advice to grow in. David as he looked back on his life had some words of wisdom to leave for Solomon on how to live his life in service to the Lord. In this week's sermon, Pastor John Friederich examines that advice and how it applies just as much to us today. (1 Chronicles 28:8-10)

On Father's Day, we reflect, in a special way, on the roles of our fathers and grandfathers in helping us grow in ways meant to build up God's Kingdom.

Megan Norris joins us again to talk about the case of Robert Farquharson.Farquharson is the Victorian man who was twice convicted of deliberately driving his car into a dam on the night of Father's Day 2005 for the purpose of murdering his three children, Jai, 10, Tyler, 7, and Bailey, 2. He also launched two failed appeals against his convictions. Recently 60 Minutes devoted an entire episode to the story in which they called for yet another review of the evidence.No one knows this case like Megan Norris. She's a journalist and author who started her career as a court reporter. Megan followed this case from the very beginning, first to write a series of magazine articles. But through that process, Megan developed a close relationship with the mother of the three boys, Cindy Gambino. Cindy asked Megan to write a book about what she was going through, and thank goodness she did, because since Cindy's own death in 2022, that book "On Father's Day" has been her only voice.Megan joins us on Australian True Crime to represent Cindy and to take us back through the evidence against Robert Farquharson.You can click this link to view all of Megan Norris' books, including "On Father's Day".Australian True Crime LIVE is coming to Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne this July! It'll be full of special guests and Q+A's, and we can't wait to see you in person. You can find tickets by clicking this link.For Support: Lifeline  on 13 11 1413 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732CREDITS:Host: Meshel Laurie. You can find her on Instagram Guest: Megan NorrisExecutive Producer/Editor: Matthew TankardThis episode contains extra content from 60 Minutes.GET IN TOUCH:https://www.australiantruecrimethepodcast.com/Follow the show on Instagram @australiantruecrimepodcast and Facebook Email the show at AusTrueCrimePodcast@gmail.comBuild your pro podcast with The Audio CollegeSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/australiantruecrime. Become a subscriber to Australian True Crime Plus here: https://plus.acast.com/s/australiantruecrime. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On Father's Day, 2005, Robert Farquharson crashed his car into a dam. He survived, but his three children who were in the car with him didn't. At first it seemed like a tragic accident. But quickly, it turned into a murder investigation.   For exclusive content and additional reporting on the case, available to subscribers of The Age and The Sydney Morning Herald, visit theage.com.au/trialbywater or smh.com.au/trialbywater. Subscribe now to access the special Good Weekend investigation, which features never-before-seen 3D models recreating key scientific evidence, video, audio and other interviews.Subscribe to The Age & SMH: https://subscribe.smh.com.au/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On Father's Day, 2005, Robert Farquharson crashed his car into a dam. He survived, but his three children who were in the car with him didn't. At first it seemed like a tragic accident. But quickly, it turned into a murder investigation.   For exclusive content and additional reporting on the case, available to subscribers of The Age and The Sydney Morning Herald, visit theage.com.au/trialbywater or smh.com.au/trialbywater. Subscribe now to access the special Good Weekend investigation, which features never-before-seen 3D models recreating key scientific evidence, video, audio and other interviews.Subscribe to The Age & SMH: https://subscribe.smh.com.au/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Caffeine Kilos founders, Dean Saddoris and Danny Lehr, have built a massively successful company. They are both family men. Yet, they still find time to train. In this episode, we discuss the Alpha Dad Challenge and the importance of dads striving for excellence. On Father's Day Weekend, dads who join the challenge will max their overhead press, squat, bench, and deadlift and then time a 5k run. Being strong isn't enough. Good Cardio isn't enough. Dads must be fit: Strong, fast, and jacked, baby! The goal is build a global community of dads who value family and fitness. Join the challenge and get the epic t-shirt here: https://shop.caffeineandkilos.com/pages/the-alpha-dad-challenge

On Father's Day last year we had the opportunity to see Chris Janson at Country on the Coast perform with his son Jesse. After his son was done singing, Tammy took him aside backstage for his very first interview. We played that interview for Chris himself this morning and he was over the moon! He also talked about the audience member that he kicked out because of his son and his respect for the military. 

Listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts I'm so delighted to present you with an interview I did with Professor Nancy Pearcey, an author whose books have significantly helped me understand and live out my faith better. Today we're talking about masculinity. Have you noticed the critical and uncharitable tone in our culture towards men? Although our society celebrates women and girls who excel at sports, education, and business, men and boys often receive nothing but criticism, even outright hostility. Some even say masculine men are the cause of all the problems with the world. Listen in as I ask Pearcey about her recent book and how Christians should approach the whole issue of masculinity both biblically and historically. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOmzSm2_4RI Here are my 8 myths about masculinity that Pearcey responded to in this episode: Bible-believing Christians are slightly more likely to divorce than non-Christians or liberal Christians. Bible-believing Christian men are more likely to be harsh and abusive to their wives and children The Bible's endorsement of male patriarchy causes toxic masculine behaviors. Women initiated the suffragette movement in America because they wanted to be treated as individuals of equal value. Our time is the first when women in America have publicly accused men of toxic behavior. Men have traditionally worked outside of the home and have been the breadwinners. Traditionally women focused on keeping the home and raising the children rather than contributing economically. Blocking or limiting men's testosterone will solve the problems our society has with badly behaved men. Professor Nancy Pearcey is the author of The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes,as well as Love Thy Body,The Soul of Science, Saving Leonardo, Finding Truth, and Total Truth. She is professor and scholar in residence at Houston Christian University. She's been quoted in The New Yorker and Newsweek, highlighted as one of the five top women apologists by Christianity Today, and hailed in The Economist as "America's preeminent evangelical Protestant female intellectual." —— Links —— Get The Toxic War on Masculinity here More about Pearcey at NancyPearcey.com Support Restitutio by donating here Join our Restitutio Facebook Group and follow Sean Finnegan on Twitter @RestitutioSF Leave a voice message via SpeakPipe with questions or comments and we may play them out on the air Intro music: Good Vibes by MBB Attribution-ShareAlike 3.0 Unported (CC BY-SA 3.0) Free Download / Stream: Music promoted by Audio Library. Who is Sean Finnegan?  Read his bio here —— Transcript —— This transcript was auto-generated and only approximates the contents of this episode. Sean Finnegan: Hey there I'm Sean Finnegan, and you are listening to Restitutio podcast that seeks to recover authentic Christianity put out today. I'm so delighted to present you with an interview I did with Professor Nancy Pearcy, an author whose books have significantly helped me understand and live out my faith better. Today. We're talking about masculinity. Have you ever noticed the critical and uncharitable tone in our culture towards men? Although our society celebrates? Women and girls who excel at sports, education and business men and boys often receive nothing but criticism, even outright hostility. Some even say masculine men are the cause. Of all the. Problems with the world listen in as I ask Piercy about her recent book and how Christians should approach the whole issue of masculinity, both biblically and historically. Here now is episode 515, The Toxic War on masculinity. With Professor Nancy Pearcy. Today on the show, I'm joined by Professor Nancy Pearcy. She's the author of the Toxic War on masculinity, how Christianity reconciles the sexes, as well as love thy body, the soul of science, saving Leonardo, finding truth and total truth, publish some other books and articles that I I don't have listed here, but she's a professor and scholar. And residence at Houston Christian University. She's been quoted in The New Yorker and Newsweek highlighted as. One of the five. Top women apologists by Christianity Today and hailed in the Economist as America's preeminent evangelical Protestant female intellectual. Well, Nancy Piercy, welcome to Restitutio. Nancy Pearcey:Thanks for having me. I appreciate it. Sean Finnegan:So I first came. Across your work, when a friend of. Mine told me. He loved told Truth. So much that he read that book every year that intrigued me, I got to read it myself. Was really interested in the. Whole world view. Approach and but it was really the the love thy body book that hooked me. I really enjoyed this one. I think it was 2018. Such an interesting book, it hooked me and so now this new book, The Toxic War on Masculinity, has outdone them all, in my opinion. This is such a fascinating read. I've learned so much about the history of masculinity in America, which I was not expecting. I just thought it was just another culture war book, which I'm happy to read anyhow. But this was really a lot deeper and I found it very challenging, especially the last. The last whole section. You you really challenged husbands in a healthy way. I felt challenged and I've tried to make some changes in my my marriage with my wife and get get a little more involved and so forth. But so I just want to say thanks for courageously stepping out on the limb here and writing this book. Nancy Pearcey:Well, thank you and I didn't realize when I started that it was going to take courage to tell you the truth, but it has in fact been the most controversial book that I've ever written. I really thought love thy body would be more controversial because it deals with issues like abortion, homosexuality, transgenderism, which is really exploding today. But in fact. This one caused more controversy, at least in Christian Circle. Here's an example. When I was writing the manuscript, I taught several classes on it. I LED several leading groups. I like to get lots of feedback, rub off all the rough edges, and when they would tell their family and friends about it. So people who weren't actually seeing the book just hearing about it initially, their first question was always. Whose side is she on with that tone? Whose side is she? On and by. The way the second question was always and why is a woman writing a book on masculinity any. Sean Finnegan:Right. Nancy Pearcey:So this is what I was up against all through the writing process. I rewrote that first chapter multiple times because I had to sort of overcome that suspicion that almost hostility that people have when they just, they're just triggered by the word masculinity. So and and even after the book came out. I. Don't know if you followed. Twitter it all but the day after the book came out, it was jumped on by a Christian egalitarians. Who accused me of giving ammunition their word to complementarians, even though I don't even address that in the book. I even explain why I don't you, you know, because the social scientist said it doesn't seem to make much difference. So I'm giving you data from the social scientist and then once that calmed down, I started getting. Not nearly as not nearly as vicious, but some counter attacks from conservatives as well. So all I had to say it has something to make everyone angry, I guess. Sean Finnegan:Yes, yes and. And and everyone should read it and. See see what it says because it is. It's accessible, but it's also very evidence based and I really appreciated that. Nancy Pearcey:Yeah, yeah, it's the. Most fact based book I've written, so it starts with evidence from sociology and what Christian men are actually like. What are they like? Get rid of the, you know, the accusations back and forth. What are they actually like? Let's look at the social science data where they went out and actually surveyed. Tentacles and then as you mentioned a minute ago, there's a lot of history there too because I wanted. To show where the secular definition of masculinity comes from. As you know, since you've read my books, I'm an apologist at heart. So my goal really is to answer the charges from the secular world. It's secular world that says, you know. Masculinity is toxic, and if you want to counter any social trend, you need to ask where did it come from? How did it develop? And so that's really my goal, is to get to the bottom of the secular. Charges understand where they're coming from and how we can respond to them more effectively. Sean Finnegan:I appreciate that your book is not just masculinity. According to Nancy Pearcy. And what you crazy guys should change or something like that, you know, it's it's very much historical. It's broad in its approach and it is very research based, and it seemed like you were very circumspect not to inject. Your own opinion? Don't think I encountered your own opinion very much. It was just like this is what these people did. This is what this this movement contributed and so forth. Very objective, if I can put it that way. So you'll be commended on that. Your book confronts a number of lies and half truths and false stereotypes floating around in the culture today. So I thought we could get your response to a number of incorrect statements I've concocted. And so these are sentences that on their surface appear obviously true, but when examined closely, turn out to be false. So I've written 10. I don't know how many we can get to in this conversation, but what do you think you Are you ready to debunk some false myths? Nancy Pearcey:Yes, I loved reading your list, so I'd love to get started on your list of false accusations that we often hear, especially against Christian men. Sean Finnegan:Alright, so #1. Bible believing Christians are slightly more likely to divorce than non Christians or liberal Christians. Nancy Pearcey:Yeah. So talking about Twitter feed, I've gotten that several times in recent days, and it's also something that we hear in the church, right. In fact, that's probably the first pushback I get is that don't Christians divorced at the same rate of the rest of the culture or even? And higher. And so the sociologists were looking at accusations like that. And So what they did is they did the studies, they did the studies. And here's what they found. They made a careful distinction between evangelical men who are actually committed to their faith, who are who attend church regularly versus nominal Christian men. And that distinction made all the difference, because committed Christian men actually test out the best of all groups in America in. Other words, they. Test test out as the most loving husbands and fathers their wives test out the highest in terms of saying they feel. Happy with their husband's expressions of love and affection, evangelical fathers spend the most time with their children 3.5 more hours per week than secular men, both in shared activities like sports or church youth group, and in discipline, like setting limits on screen time or enforcing bedtime. Evangelical couples actually divorce at a lower rate than any other major group in society, 35% lower than secular men, and they have the lowest rates of domestic violence. Of any group. In America, so this was a real shocker because we've all heard the charges that you just met. That believing in any form of male headship in the home turns evangelical men into overbearing, tyrannical, coercive patriarchs tyrannical. Did I say, tyrannical, trying to get all those? Words in there? Yeah. I mean, there's there's no. Sean Finnegan:Question that, as a pastor who regularly preaches, I'm the lead pastor here at a. Church in New York, Upstate New York, and this stat has it says torment to me. You know, this idea that the Bible doesn't work if you apply the Bible to your marriage, you divorce more, something that really has not fit for me. But I I'm the sort of person that wants to accept. Facts as they are and see if we can do better. And so reading that early on in your book that actually, no, the Bible is not hurting marriages is is helping men to be well not just men men and women to stay together more frequently. That was just like mind blowing it was just like this is. This is a breath of fresh air and I think it's a great. Place to start because you are. Wading into treacherous waters where there are All kinds of. Sharks and piranha and electric eels out to get you. So I think to start somewhere complementary is good because that does make sense to me that like guys that and women that are regularly attending church services. As as a a measurement of how serious they are about their faith that it that it would have an impact. So I I appreciate that on my next statement. You already just kind of dipped your toes into it, but I I wonder if you could elaborate it. It is #2 is Bible believing Christian men are more likely to be harsh and abusive to their wives and children. Nancy Pearcey:Let's go back to that distinction. When I said Church going committed Christian men test out at the top. And by the way, I'm glad you mentioned that we don't hear this very often. I had to go digging in the academic literature to find this, and this is really the final reason. You know, the final trigger that made me decide to write this book as I was, I was overwhelmed. I was. And you know it's it's so counter to the media narratives. And I said we need. To get this. Out there, this is not just a religious figure, you know, giving a pep talk. This is evidence based findings from the social sciences. But the reason that we have the wrong impression is that the social scientists went back and made that crucial distinction. Of nominal Christians, right? These are men who, on a survey like that, might check the Baptist box, for example, but who rarely, if ever, attend church. It's no more of a family background, coastal background. These are cultural. And they test out shockingly different. They test out with all the toxic stereotypes. They'll rise, report the lowest level of happiness with their husband's treatment of them. They spend the least amount of time with their children. They have the highest rate of divorce, higher than secular men, 20%. Higher than secular men and they have the highest rate of domestic abuse and violence, higher than secular men. And so what's happened is most studies have just looked at evangelicals, you know, as an overarching category. So they're picking up men who are better than secular men and men who are worse than secular men. And that's why the numbers get skewed. It does suggest a different way, maybe that churches can deal with this issue. On the one hand, I think they should be more positive and supportive. Of men who are doing a good job, one of my graduate students is the leader of a women's ministry in a large Baptist Church here in Houston. And she said on on Mother's Day, we hand out flowers and tell the women they're wonderful. On Father's Day, we scold the men and tell. Them to do better. And so I was very careful not to have a scolding tone in this book because I think we should get this positive information out there. Ohh, and here's another example. So in my class at Houston Christian University, when I told them I was writing a book on masculinity, one of the male students shot back what masculinity? It's been beaten. All of us. So in Christian circles, men are also feeling beaten down and demoralized. You know, they're picking up the message. You know that that, that masculinity is toxic and we need to come to. That in the church it does suggest too, that we need to do something about these nominal men if they're sort of hanging around the fringes of the Christian world and claiming an identity. As evangelicals, how do we reach out to them? They are using the language of headship and submission, but they're not giving the biblical meaning to those terms. Instead, they're imputing me importing, meaning infusing meaning from the secular script for masculinity. And so how do we disciple these men? You know, insofar as we have access to them because they're hanging around? You know, the edges of the Christian world? How can the church have a better ministry to disciple these men? Sean Finnegan:That's that's really an excellent question to address because it's these guys on the fringe, as you point out that. The old fashioned word for it are hypocrites. You know, there are people that are going to talk the talk but not walk the walk and they're giving the rest of us a bad name. And yet as a pastor, I can tell you that we are hopeful that by having them come whenever it is, they happen to come, that something will sink in and. That they will have a true. Heart change, you know. So I I think. It's a hard thing to figure out. We can't just cast everyone out of the church who's not living up to the standard of Christianity. Some churches have tried that, but it, you know, it, it ends up with this very judgmental, you know, holier than thou kind of environment. So. It you're right, it is. It is a really thorny problem. Problem but it is important to address for. Sure. Well, let's. Let's move on to number. Three. So the Bible is endorsement of male patriarchy, we're told causes toxic masculine behaviors. What do you think? Nancy Pearcey:Yes, that that's one of the reasons that I relied so heavily on the social science data. What was happening was, of course, evangelical men were being held up. Exhibit A of toxic masculinity. It was very easy to find examples with a quick Google search, but I will give you just one example. So this was the co-founder of the Church 2 Movement, which came after the Me Too movement and she said the theology of male headship feeds the rape culture. That we see permeating American Christianity Today. So what happened was the social scientists, psychologists, sociologists were reading these accusations and saying, oh, where's your evidence? You know you're making these charges, but where's your data? Yeah. And that's what really sent them back to the data to do the studies in my book, I cite some dozen studies or so. I was just looking at what the social scientists were actually finding. Like, some people have said, well, wait a minute. Who cares what the social scientists found? I want to know what the spokesman say. What did the theologians say? What does this Danvers statement say? For example, which is on complementarianism egalitarianism, and so on, and and frankly, that's not what I was concerned about. I don't want to hear what the spokesman. I wanted to answer the secular charge, which is, if you believe in this theology, it will turn you into an overbearing, tyrannical, coercive Patriarch. And my question was, does it does it? Let's look at what it does do, in fact, in terms of these surveys of evangelical couples. And so I have two chapters on this. And I was to tell you the truth. I was again. I was blown away by the the. Surveys the surveys where they went to Christian couples and said, do you believe in male headship and not all? But the majority of the evangelicals would say yes and then they would say what do you think it means? How do you live it out? I was blown away. The loving, respectful, mutual understanding that they had of headship. They would not usually define it in terms of, you know, the final authority or the tiebreaker or the bread. Dinner, the most frequent definition, was spiritual leader, spiritual leader, and then they'd be asked, what does that mean? And of course, they would start with the practical things, get your family to church, get your kids to youth group, have family devotions and family prayer. But it also most of them would talk about the intangibles as well, right? That you're responsible for your children's spiritual growth. You're responsible for your wives, spiritual health and the most frequent verse they quoted was Ephesians 5. Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church. That might not sound significant to you, but when I had chapters later on abuse in Christian homes, I literally ran into people who said they never heard that verse, one woman who said I had to go look it up in the Bible. I didn't believe it was there. I had never heard a sermon on Ephesians 5, the part of it. That is addressed to husbands, and there was another example where there's a pastor who works with abusive men in court ordered counseling. Most abusive men are not in counseling unless it's court ordered, but this is a Christian pastor and he was working with a man who was abusive and and his wife had actually fled the home to escape from his physical abuse. And he kept quoting the first part of Effusions 5. She's supposed to submit to me. This is wrong. She can't leave. The home and he. And so the pastor said, well, what about this other part of it? She didn't. And he said the man was shocked. Kid never heard the part of Ephesians 5 that was addressed to husbands. And so that's why it's so significant that the committed Christian men and couples. That was what they quoted all the time. Ephesians 5. Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church. And so I went to the actual studies. The surveys done of Christian couples to see. How do you live it out? What do you? Think it means. That's what I report in. The book. Sean Finnegan:Yeah, a lot of your book gets into the history of masculinity in America. And I thought that was really eye opening because as somebody who started a lot with early church history, Old Testament history, New Testament history, Second Temple Judaism. I could tell you all about. The Roman Empire, you. Know there's this, like memes going around. How? Often, do you think about? The Roman Empire too much, that's. That's my answer but. American history. I'm not so strong and much less with respect to gender. I really found this, this research you did fascinate. Thing. And so my next myth is about the suffragette movement. And it goes like this. Number four women initiated the suffragette movement in America because they wanted to be treated as individuals of equal value. It sounds just like obviously true, right. But is it? Nancy Pearcey:No, it's not true. First of all, women didn't initiate it. A small group of women did the early feminist. But even they acknowledge that most women were against it at the time. I had so many readers. You remember, I said I had readers on my manuscript. I had so many readers who were skeptical of that that I went out and find the quotes. Some people like Elizabeth Cady Stanton and other early feminists saying the main opposition to the vote. For women, it's other women. So I got the quotes from people saying that why would they opposed to it? Because they did not want to be treated as individuals. It was just the opposite. Is the framework to understand it. The vote was not described in that day as men's vote versus women's vote. It was framed as household vote versus individual vote, and most women wanted the household vote. And why did they want that? Because it put responsibility on men to take into account the. Interest of the entire household. And even broader, I'll try to be short, but even broader. It was a shift in political philosophy. Early America was governed by political philosophy that saw so institutions like the family as an organic unit. Not just a collection of individuals who happen to be there, but there's an organic unit connecting them all to one another and therefore there was a common good. In other words, I look out for what's good for me. You look out for what's good for you, but who looks out for the common good of the marriage, of the family, of the Church, of the school and so on. That's what authority was for. Authority was a person who was not supposed to look out for his own interest. The favorite word of the time at the time was he should be disinterested by which they meant he doesn't pursue his own interest. He's the one who's responsible for the common good of the whole. America, after roughly after the revolution began to shift from that political philosophy to a political philosophy called social contract theory, which does see societies and social institutions as collections of autonomous individuals who've just come together out of a common interest. Well, in that case there is no common good. And so men were no longer held responsible for the common good. And so many women at the time realized this is actually letting men off. The hook. It's giving them a pass on moral responsibility. You know, they're no longer held responsible for the common good of the entire house. And so that's how the debate was framed. Many women that at the time said we want our men to two cents, that they are responsible for their wife and children, and back then the household was was larger, right? So it included extended family and servants and and so on. The man was in charge of the small. Commonwealth. So anyway, it was women who opposed the vote largely, and it was because they saw it as a way that men were going. To be held to a reduced standard that we were lowering the standard on male responsibility. Now I would say that eventually most women came around to it. It took. About a. Century. Eventually, women came out to around to supporting it. But why? Early feminists framed it in terms of autonomy and individual rights that did not speak to most women. Women came around to supporting it when the temperance movement. Began to say this can be a way that we can hold men in check because men are drinking. They're coming home drunk and beating their wives and children and women have little recourse when that happens. And so the head of the Women's Christian Temperance Union, her name is Francis Willard. Historian says she was the most influential. Women of the entire 19. And she began to see the vote as a way to give women power in the temperance movement against drunken, abusive husbands. And so she renamed. It she called it the ballot for home protection. No. If it was about home protection, women were for it, so that that, that shift is why women came around to endorsing it. But again, not for the reasons we think autonomy and individual rights. But ohh, this is a way to give us some leverage against some of the common male voices of drunkenness. And abuse. Sean Finnegan:This home protection at every turn seems like there's so much more to the story than you know on the surface you think? Ohh well. Women were hopelessly oppressed and you know until they got the right to vote, they couldn't do anything about it. You know, that's kind of like the typical way of saying it, but it's so much more complicated and new, nuanced. Just Dance between men and women in American history is incredible. To see it going back and forth throughout your book. So what about the statement our time today, the 21st century is the first when women in America have publicly accused men of toxic behavior. You think? Nancy Pearcey:Well, I just gave you a good example. Where the temperance movement certainly popularized a lot of public rhetoric that was very critical of men, here's the the bigger picture on that, too. So America was becoming more secular. And as that happened, they were governing their behavior less by a biblical ethic, naturally. And how did that happen? Well, the material conditions that gave rise to secularism. This before the Industrial Revolution, men worked alongside their wives and children all day on the family farm, family industry, the family business, and so the cultural expectation on men focused a lot more on their caretaking role and their like. I said a minute ago. Their responsibility for the common good of the whole. Even a secular historian says the masculine virtue was defined as duty to God and man. I I love these surprising facts that come out of history. A surprising fact is that most literature on child rearing was addressed to fathers. If you go to a bookstore today, they're mostly dressed to mothers, but back then they were dressed to fathers. Fathers were considered the primary parent, and so men were given. A lot more responsibility for the. Sean Finnegan:Right. Nancy Pearcey:The Industrial Revolution takes work out of the home and of course, men had to follow their work out of home, into factories and offices for the first time. They were not working with family members who the people they loved and had a moral bond with. They were working as individuals and competition with other men, and that's when you see the literature start to change. People began to protest that men were becoming individualistic, self interested, egocentric, make it at all cost, greedy and acquisitive to use the language of the day. And that they were making their career, their idol, as they were losing their biblical loyalty, they were making their career, their idol, actually using language from the day they complained that men were starting to make an idol out of financial success the first time that we see negative language applied to the male character. Was in the 19th century after the Industrial Revolution and the secularization was was happening at the same time, in a sense, with the Industrial Revolution, a large public sphere developed. You know, society kind of split into private and public people began to ohh public. What do I mean by that? Factories, businesses, financial institutions, universities. Of course the state. And people began to argue that these large public institutions should be operated by scientific principles by which they meant value free. In other words, don't bring your private values into the public realm, which is what we hear today. And since it was men who were getting that secular education and working in that secular field, they were becoming more secular in their outlook before women did. And so naturally, are we surprised that the 19th century saw a huge increase in what our kind of traditional male vices like drinking and gambling and fighting and crime and prostitution? And that's why there was, in response to that, a huge flowering of reform movements. The reform movements are where you see the negative language really develops as they begin to attack men. For all of these vices, I'll give you a quote. So one of my favorite historians puts it this. All of these reform movements were implicit condemnations of males. There was little doubt as to the sex of the Tavern keeper, the slave master, the drunkard, and the seducer. So the language of the 19th century was almost as hostile as anything that we hear today. From radical feminists. Sean Finnegan:It's interesting, you know, if there's smoke, there's usually fire, right? So and you, you do get into that a little bit at the end of the book, some of the misbehavior of men is driving the the modern complaints about toxic masculinity. I think a lot. Pundits advocates today for men are not really delving into the misbehavior of men in our own time. But I think getting this historical perspective can really help us to see, OK, well, what did you want the. Women to do. You want them to just get beaten and treated like punching bags in the home. Of course they they rose up and they advocated and there was rhetoric and. You know, women are powerful, just like men are powerful. Women are powerful, so it makes sense that that would happen. You talk so much and and and this. This is probably the biggest thing that blew my mind in the a lot of the historical work you did, you talked so much about the industrial revolution and you've already touched on it here, but this this next myth really ties into that. Number six men have traditionally worked outside of the home and have been the breadwinners. I think so many of Us are under that impression, especially as conservatives as Christians, Bible believing man, we're like ohh yeah, it's my job to, to, to work outside the home and be the breadwinner. And if I just do that, then I'm satisfied what God requires of me. Nancy Pearcey:The the fact that the literature on parenting was addressed to fathers speaks to the fact that fathers were in the home. See what happened is with the family industry, the family business, the the home was the economic center of society. They didn't have this distinction. A father could be working at home. And raising his kids, you know, and so could a mother, by the way, a lot of manufacturer with household manufacturer think of Proverbs 31, right? The the woman who's running several businesses. She wasn't going to an office to do that. She was working out of her home. And that was the case. That was case right up until the industrial revolution. Both men and women. Could be, could be involved in economically productive work while raising their kids and and in fact, historians say that fathers were just as involved with their children as mothers were. So that kind of blows your mind too. Wait, just as involved as as. Because we're, I mean, just it's just hard for us to use our historical imagination, you know, to think what that was like. So what we have to remember is prior to the industrial revolution, we're talking about all of human history. We're talking about millennia. So it's only very recently in human history, namely the 19th century, that fathers began to work out of the home. And by the way, another thing that I this helps explain is why our fathers ridiculed and mocked so much in the media today. That was another one. That I thought. Well, you know, we all know this is true. Homer Simpson, you know, from advertisements to animations and to movies. Fathers A you know the doofus dad, the the bumbling idiot, my, my, my own son loved the Bernstein bears. So you know the dad was always the bumbling idiot. Anyway, where did that come from? Well, when fathers were taken out of the home at the Industrial Revolution, they did lose touch with their children compared to when they worked side by side. All day they didn't know their children as well. They didn't know what was happening, their family dynamics and already in the 19th century, you see people say, you know, fathers are becoming kind of irrelevant, you know, to the family and even incompetent. You know, the idea that he's incompetent if he doesn't know what's going on in his family, he. Doesn't know the solutions. You know, he doesn't know how to how to solve the family problems, so he's considered incompetent and you see it in the literature of the day. So again, the deep roots to this. And of course, it does also suggest. What the solution is the solution is can we reconnect fathers to their children even after the industrial age? Are there ways to tweak the workplace? I have a whole chapter on that and and the pandemic had a very small silver lining in that a lot of fathers discovered they do like being at home more. One study found that 65% of fathers don't want to go back to the office full time. You know they prefer some kind of hybrids setup and and this one's not in the book because it just came out recently. But the New York Times had an article and the title was something like during the pandemic. Many fathers got closer to their children and they don't want to lose that. So I think that's encouraging that when fathers had a chance to be close to their kids, a lot of them said this is great. Look what I've been missing out on. I mean, I think Christians should really think creatively about ways to flex the workplace. I've had interviews with a lot of fathers who said I'm willing to pay the daddy penalty. You. Know they know they. May not move. Forward quite as quickly in their career if they take more time off to have time with their kids. But most of them said it was well worth paying the daddy penalty. Sean Finnegan:Yeah. I mean at the end. Of the day, let's say you choose to work. You know an extra 10 to 20 hours a week so that you're always the one who gets in the report or finishes the project. And you, you. Find some upward mobility and you know. You what do you? Do you just move your house to a different neighborhood? You move to a different neighborhood by a fancy your house. Now you've got, you know, some more. Expensive cars. Maybe you have a more expensive boat. Maybe you're going to a farther away place for vacation, but like. It's not. It's not worth the sacrifice to not know your children and to not be able to have a healthy marriage that lasts. You know, we tell women. Oh, well, don't. Sacrifice your family for the sake of your career. Because we see so much pressure to do that now. In whatever wave of the feminist movement we're in right now, and so much celebration for women in the workplace, any kind of achievement celebrated and yet the same is true for men. You know, don't sacrifice your family for your career because at the end of the day, you're going to be sitting on your. You got with people you don't even know, people that don't even care about, you know, like, even if you did succeed to that, to that degree. So let's switch sides. We were just talking about how the men are the breadwinner is a new term that was unused before the industrial revolution. Just a totally foreign idea. But what about on the women's side? Traditionally, women focused on keeping the home and raising the children rather than contributing economically, right? Nancy Pearcey:They didn't have to make that decision. There wasn't an either or choice until the Industrial Revolution took work out of the. Home. Remember, it took women's work out of the home too, not just men's work. So women back then, a lot of household manufacturer was presided over by women. So you Can you imagine when you had to cook everything. From scratch, turn your butter, bake your bread, and even grind your flour. And when you had to make all your clothing from scratch, you had to card the wool or the cotton, and you had to weave it. You had to design it and. Cut it out, I. Mean canning and preserving food, making buttons, making candles women's work was extremely rich and and varied. You know, women had a lot of different skills, they had to master. So in many ways, that was more intellectually challenging too. And so it was a true loss, a genuine loss when all of that was taken out of the home. You know, life got easier. On the other hand, it got a lot more boring. You know, when all that's left now is early child care and cleaning. I mean, you know, that's why you have advertisements that glorify, you know, getting your sink cleaner. So I think that that's an important thing to recognize because it it was one of the causes of the feminist movement. Like many secular movements, it identified a true problem. It just gave the wrong. Solution and most people don't want women to follow men out of the home if it means leaving kids in substitute care. They really want parents raising their own. Kids, what women are doing today, though in my studies, I found that the vast majority of women who are home with their kids are doing some kind of home based business or home. Nice work, because it's almost impossible in our economy not to have two incomes. But women want to be home, and so they white collar work is the easiest. Of course, in a knowledge economy. So there's all kinds of IT professionals and writers and editors and marketers. And I I list several of them in the book Blue Collar and pink color, where it can be done from home to some extent as well. I I give the story of when I went to. I have my. Their style and the the woman had a beauty chair in a basement, one chair. And so while she's working with her customer or her client, she's got a glass door that looks out onto the backyard in a fence fenced in backyard. So she's kind of we're keeping an eye on. Her kids. And blue collar workers, this is some of the. Pushback I get is what you know. What about men? Isn't this kind of an elitist thing that, you know, men? Can come home well. Aspects of almost every job can be done at home. A friend of ours owns a car repair shop. For the most part, he's not going to bring his cars home, although sometimes he does work on friends cars. That is in his driveway. But he can bring his bookkeeping home right. He can bring his bookkeeping home. And in the evening, he's sitting there working while his kids are sitting beside him at the kitchen table and doing their homework. He's talking to them. He's answering their questions. And so there's aspects of almost every job that can be done at home while your children are young. I'm not saying it's the ideal for everybody at every stage of life. I'm just worried about the kids while your children are young. That that's what I recommend. People trying to find at least some aspect that could be done from home, you know, at least part time. Sean Finnegan:You know, it certainly is the case that with the the way our economy is and inflation and everything else that. Being a single income household is closed to most people, even if you would. Want to be a. Stay at home. Mom, you have to make some serious sacrifice. This is a lot depends on what's available too, whether or not you can. You can do that and where you live and and so. Forth, but let's talk. About solutions my myth #8 here blocking or limiting men's testosterone will solve the problems of our society with badly behaved men. Nancy Pearcey:We have to start with how to God create men. And by the way, this is one of the questions I always got and therefore I had to put it at the front of the book. People would say, well, what do you think are the differences between men and women then? Well, let's start with basic biology. Men are larger, faster, stronger, 75%, greater upper body muscle mass, 90% greater upper body strength. Ohh, and I just read this one the other day. It was something like 300%. It was very high, 300% more punch force. Any woman who's been abused knows that and because of testosterone, men do tend to be more aggressive. And more risk taking and I think we have to start with just saying, well, this is all God made men and therefore it is intrinsically good. This is before the fall. These are the traits that God created men with. And I have to tell you, one of the things I found most encouraging is I have a couple of studies of men around the world. And they find that. Men do know that these unique masculine strengths are not giving them just to get whatever they want right to dominate others, but are giving them to provide and protect. I'll give you one of them. The this was a study done by an anthropologist. It was the first ever cross cultural study done on concepts of masculinity and what he found out is. Of course, there's differences between cultures. But what they? All share is what this anthropologist called the three P's. It is expected that the good man will provide, protect and procreate, meaning become a father, right, have a family. Build into the next generation, be future oriented and this was all across the world. These were not countries with the Western or Christian background and I thought it was really amazing to see that this just seems to be an inherent innate knowledge that men have universally. I would say they're made in God's image. And therefore they inherently know that their unique masculine strengths were not given them to just get whatever they want, but to provide, protect and build into the future the next generation. This gives us a better approach when we're dealing with men as we can, we can try to tap into that innate inherent knowledge, men. Don't respond well to being called toxic. Nobody would. But what we can do is to tap into their inherent and acknowledge of what it does mean to be a good man. What it does mean to use their unique strengths and abilities for good. And that way we support masculinity as God created it. Including the testosterone, we can then be. Obviously, and my book is full of criticism of the secular definition of masculinity, you have no problem with being a, you know, good critical thinker in analyzing secular thought. But we should start with really supporting, affirming and respecting men for the way God created them. Sean Finnegan:Yeah, that's so helpful. Because I think so many of us are feeling beaten down. I've got four sons. My oldest is 17, and you know, just seeing how Society is telling them over and over be more feminine? Change yourself, and of course you know who celebrated guys who dress like women. Those are those are like the most popular kids in the school. Now it's it's everything is kind of flipped on the the trans, LGBT and Q and so forth in the in the. Last few years. And you know the message they're receiving is you. Know if you. Could just be more like Sally then you know you'd be really great. We want to avoid toxic masculinity, but we don't want to avoid masculinity. There's a difference there. Nancy Pearcey:Yeah. Yeah. Let me give you another study again. I love these studies done by non Christians. But this was the study again. I put this at the front of the book. As well because answering remember I said, people said who? People would say, whose side is she on? Well, you don't have to take a side because there are different scripts for masculinity. And this study brought it out very well. This is done by a sociologist and again it's global. So this is. Around the world is universal. He gets invited to speak around the world, so he came up with this clever experiment where he asked young men two questions. The first question was what does it mean to be a good man? If you're at a funeral and in the eulogy, somebody says he was a good man, what does? Young men all around the world had no trouble answering that they would immediately say things like honor, duty, integrity, sacrifice do the right thing, look out for the little guy, be a provider, and be a productive. Be responsible and the sociologist would say, would you like that? And they say, I don't know, it's. Just in the. Air we breathe. If they were in a western country. They would often say it's part of our judeo-christian heritage. And then he would follow up with the second question. And he'd say, well, what does it mean if? I say to you, man up be a real. And the young man would say ohh no, that's completely different. That means be tough. Be strong, never show weakness, win at all costs. Suck it up. Play through pain, be competitive, get rich, *** ****. I'm using their language. And so the sociologist concludes that there is an inherent universal knowledge of what it means to be the good man. You know another way we could talk about this from a Christian perspective is general revelation, right? General Revelation is what we know. On the basis of creation, apart from Scripture, there are truths that we can know through general revelation. It's also Romans too, right? Everyone has a conscience. What these non Christians anthropologists are finding is that it is a universal awareness that men aspire to be the good man, but they are also feeling this. Cultural pressure to be the quote UN quote real man. And as you saw, those were somewhat more toxic traits. Especially if they are disconnected, decoupled from a moral vision, they can slide into the Andrew Tate phenomenon that we see today, where masculinity is, you know, fast money, fast cars, fast women, it can slide into that. I mean, that is apparently for many young men today that's becoming the real man I just got. A e-mail from a former graduate student of mine who's teaching now at the high school level, and she said all my boys, all my male students, are fans of Andrew Tate. They're even using both of his in the yearbook. And then she said I'm teaching at a classical Christian School. So even a Christian young men are looking to places like Andrew Tate, who are exemplifying a very secular view of masculinity. I'm finding out not everyone knows this, but you know he does. Run. He's made a lot of his money by running an only fans company. Sean Finnegan:Yeah. Andrew Tate is is a pretty complicated fella and he's, I, I have hopes that he will reform his ways, seen glimmers of hope there that, you know, he can embrace more the PPP that you mentioned before than the FFF fast cars fast. Come in and fast success, but instead protect, provide and. What was the? Third one. Procreate. Yeah. Within marriage, I would say. But yeah, there's no question about it. Tate has struck a nerve, and he's preaching a gospel of masculine excellence and. At the same time, there's a lot of that real man script mixed in with his message and really what we need is insight from the designer of masculinity himself, you know, and and we could find that in Scripture and we could find that. Also in our own souls, you know. Seeing these different. Sides of us, you know the the image of God, the imago day stamped upon us, but then also our fallenness, so really really deep points and I encourage you listeners that if you're curious about this at all, check out this book. Get yourself a copy the toxic War against masculinity. Well, this has been a great conversation. How can people find out more about? Hey, Nancy. Nancy Pearcey:Yes, I'm glad you asked because my publisher graciously just designed a new website for me, so it's nancypearcy.com, and Piercy is P/E, ARCEY, nancypearcy.com. And so you can come over there. You can browse my other books you've mentioned a few of them already today. You can browse them and find out what he. Was talking about. And you can also leave the message. I don't have time to answer them all, but I do read them all. So come on by nancypiercy.com. Come on by and say hello. Sean Finnegan:Very good. Well, thanks so much for joining me on Restitutio today. Nancy Pearcey:Thanks for having me. Sean Finnegan:Well, that brings this interview to a close. What did you think? Come on over to restitutio.org and find Episode 515 the Toxic War on masculinity and leave your feedback there and I can't stress to you enough how important. This book is. Whether you're a man or a woman, but especially I talked to the the men out there. I really found this book incredibly informative and very challenging. The whole last section, which I didn't really get into. She goes into issues within Christian marriage on how to handle yourself as a man, as a husband, and the whole thorny topic of domestic abuse and how to handle that. As a church leader and some really important thoughts there that we didn't get into in the interview, so take a look at that. For the record, I'm not receiving any. Compensation for promoting this book, I really just believe in it, and I think Piercy is really good. So take a look at that. Well, that's going to be it for today. If you'd like to leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcast or Spotify, we certainly appreciate that. If you'd like to support. Studio you can find us.online@restitutio.org select the word restitution with no n.org and thanks to all who are supporting us, we'll catch you next week and remember, the truth has nothing to fear.

On Father's Day at the Pilgrim Baptist Church in Lexington, KY, Dr. Stubblefield preaches from the Gospel of Luke, Chapter 1, verses 62-66.  The focus of the sermon is Zacharias, a Levitical priest who lost his voice during an encounter with an angel in the Temple.  During his newborn son's circumcision and the official declaration of his name, he found his voice!  He gave inspiration and hope to those who heard him and to contemporary fathers whose voices in their homes, marriages, families, churches and communities have been silenced. 

On Mother's Day we looked at the nameless mother found in Matthew 15:21-28. Through her actions and faith in Jesus we saw some great lessons. Today is Father's Day. Many people have said that on Mother's Day we hear messages about how to honor and love a mother. On Father's Day we hear messages about […]

The Culture says kids don't need fathers, but God's Word says . . On Father's Day, CNN decided to “help” black families by lying about black families. Here's what CNN published: “Black fathers are often portrayed as absent or distant, but that isn't what most people experience, according to both data and Black dads themselves. Such biased portrayals are often based on who is telling the story.” Here is what Twitter's Community Notes added: “Percentage of children living absent their biological fathers: “Black children: 64%Hispanic children: 42% White children: 24% Asian children: 16% Source: https://datacenter.aecf.org/data/tables/107-children-in-single-parent-families-by-race-and-ethnicity#detailed/1/any/false/2048,1729,37,871,870,573,869,36,868,867/10,11,9,12,1,185,13/432,431CNN isn't alone in lying about fathers. Our own Air Force bosses have tried to ban the very word “father.” The fallen culture teaches fathers are either not needed, or two men can both be fathers with no need for mothers. But, what does the Word of God say?Departing from the Word of God in how we raise our kids will always cause pain. Sometimes that pain will only become apparent after death—and that pain will last forever—sometimes we experience the pain in this life. Today, I will share with you probably the most intimate of details on my own failure to have God at the center of my parenting. My hope in sharing is that no one who hears my story will make the same mistake. Last, because I forgot to do it last week, a thank you to godly men who modeled for me and my traditional, Father's Day story about my Dad, whom I miss everyday. The Real Root Causes of Violent Crime: The Breakdown of Marriage, Family, and CommunityAre fatherlessness and societal breakdown to blame for mass shootings? Americans are struggling to understand why mass shootings like the one in Uvalde, Texas, happen — and what can be done to prevent themGuess Which Mass Murderers Came From A Fatherless HomeWhat does God's Word say? God the Father: What it means and Ten Examples https://www.crosswalk.com/faith/spiritual-life/10-ways-god-is-the-perfect-father-in-case-yours-wasn-t.htmlEpisode 909 Links:On Father's Day, CNN decided to “help” black families by lying about black families. Here's what CNN published: “Black fathers are often portrayed as absent or distant, but that isn't what most people experience, according to both data and Black dads themselves. Such biased portrayals are often based on who is telling the story.” Here is what Twitter's Community Notes added: “Percentage of children living absent their biological fathers: “Hispanic children: 42% Black children: 64% White children: 24% - Asian children: 16% Source: https://datacenter.aecf.org/data/tables/107-children-in-single-parent-families-by-race-and-ethnicity#detailed/1/any/false/2048,1729,37,871,870,573,869,36,868,867/10,11,9,12,1,185,13/432,431The Real Root Causes of Violent Crime: The Breakdown of Marriage, Family, and CommunityAre fatherlessness and societal breakdown to blame for mass shootings? Americans are struggling to understand why mass shootings like the one in Uvalde, Texas, happen — and what can be done to prevent themGuess Which Mass Murderers Came From A Fatherless Home4Patriots https://4patriots.com Protect your family with Food kits, solar generators and more at 4Patriots. Use code TODD for 10% off your first purchase. Alan's Soaps https://alanssoaps.com/TODD Use coupon code ‘TODD' to save an additional 10% off the bundle price. BiOptimizers https://magbreakthrough.com/todd Use promo code TODD for 10% off your order. Bonefrog https://bonefrog.us Enter promo code TODD at checkout to receive 10% off your subscription. Bulwark Capital http://KnowYourRiskRadio.com Find out how Bulwark Capital Actively Manages risk. Call 866-779-RISK or visit KnowYourRiskRadio.com Patriot Mobile https://patriotmobile.com/herman Get free activation today with offer code HERMAN. Visit or call 878-PATRIOT. RuffGreens https://ruffgreens.com/todd Get your FREE Jumpstart Trial Bag of Ruff Greens, simply cover shipping. Visit or call 877-MYDOG-64. SOTA Weight Loss https://sotaweightloss.com SOTA Weight Loss is, say it with me now, STATE OF THE ART! Sound of Freedom https://angel.com/freedom Join the two million and see Sound of Freedom in theaters July 4th. GreenHaven Interactive https://greenhaveninteractive.com Digital Marketing including search engine optimization and website design.

On Father's Day, we remember our fathers, all the fathers we've had. Our physical fathers, our spiritual fathers, Our Father. But the greatest example of Fatherhood we've ever had, was from Christ himself, the Son. Full notes, video, and archive at https://blog.ctk.cc

On Father's Day, which we call  "Mandem Sunday" at ServeCity, Pastor Andrew shared an encouraging message meant to empower men and inspire women to make massive impact for God, even after our mishaps and mess-ups.

On Father's Day, we journeyed into the Lord's Prayer, or as the Catholics call it, the “Our Father.” We sought to listen for the voice of the Father speaking to us.

On this journey of life, it's important to stop and remember. Remember where you have been. Remember where you are going. And remember Who is with you every step along the way. On Father's Day, June 18, 2023, Pastor Chad Gilligan encourages us to Remember God. Father's Day Drawing is now closed.

On Father's Day, Brant reminds something his father once told him: “conflict exists everywhere - the choice we have is how we deal with it.” Today's Scripture is about the early church's decision to meet conflict head-on. To unwrap what's happening in today's Scripture, Brant explains the concept of “gongysmos” - which is a real Greek word and not just a growl, he insists. Acts 6:1-7 fmhouston.com

On Father's Day, our founding pastor, Jim Moore, shared a message on the topic of faith.

In this Father's Day Special edition of our Other Stuff project, Josh and David from the Star Wars Stuff Podcast dive deep on DC's newest blockbuster, The Flash!Congratulations to Coach, on the birth of his second child. On Father's Day no less. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/marvelstuffpodcast/support

On Father's Day, Pastor Thompson shared an important and practical message for fathers, helping them to set the stage for a fulfilled home life with Building Blocks of Fatherhood.

On Father's Day Dr. Galati explains what it is all about. Dr. Ashish Saharia of Houston Methodist joins the program to talks about liver transplant, the understanding or organ donation, and how rejuvenated organs are helping patients with transplants.

On Father's Day, Pastor Mark continued the series, "Authentic Christianity" with a new message titled, "Keeping it Real with The Man in the Mirror". The Word of God is the mirror that reflects the type of person we should be. We must submit to The Word and let it work in our life.

On Father's Day, Ryan Crowl shares on living from our union with Christ as sons and daughters of the Father. 6/18/23 Sunday AM

On Father's Day, I remember my beloved Dad and the gifts he's given me - humanity, song and a glorious vision of the world. This episode includes an excerpt from one of our conversations - the first that I've published. Happy Father's Day Dad! I love you always With gratitude to my sponsors: Roland Corporation Australia Haworths Shellharbour, New South Wales, Australia My dear Patreon patrons, and all supporters past and present Your support will help me bring hope and inspiration to the world: Become a Patreon patron: www.patreon.com/jessica_roemischer More ways to support: www.pianobeautiful.com/donatecontact.html Thank you! Website: www.pianobeautiful.com Audios, Videos and Podcast YouTube: www.youtube.com/@JessicaRoemischer Vimeo: vimeo.com/user1976839 Spotify: open.spotify.com/artist/7rjR3RqXhE35SMskX9Wjv2 Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/home…ca/id1420380439 Follow me on... Facebook: www.facebook.com/jessica.roemischer/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/jessica_roemischer/ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jessicaroemischer/ Buy audios and my Award-winning Memoir Amazon CDs: amzn.to/3E2bAlT Amazon Memoir: amzn.to/3xu5wAo

On Father's Day, Pastor Scott discusses the importance of encouragement in relationships. He looks to Barnabas from the Book of Acts, known as the "Son of Encouragement," for inspiration. Pastor Scott encourages us to become sons and daughters of encouragement in our own relationships by using words and actions, believing in the best in others, challenging people to be better, rejoicing in the success of others, and never giving up on individuals, even after failure. 

On Father's Day 2023, the Cincinnati Reds at only one half game out of first place in the NL Central. Ken breaks down what has led to this out of no where run for the Redlegs. Also are the Bengals the team to beat in the AFC? Finally a recap of all the action at the US Open on the PGA Tour.

In Permanent Ink Somewhere I'll Never Miss It     Today I want to chat about how I spent last Father's Day with the kids.   Hint: We went to Blindside Tattoo in Austin, Texas to add some Heroic targets to my forearm in permanent ink.     Before we go there…   As you may recall, in our last +1, we talked about Admiral McRaven's Hero Code and the virtue of perseverance.   He told us about the fact that it was PERSEVERANCE that helped many of our favorite Heroes weather the inevitable storms of their Heroic quests en route to the summit of fulfilling their Missions.   I think this is so good that it's worth repeating: “George Washington was defeated on the battlefield more times than he won. Abraham Lincoln lost eight elections before he won the presidency. Thomas Edison failed ten thousand times before inventing the lightbulb. Henry Ford had two failed companies before he found success. J. K. Rowling was destitute before she got the first Harry Potter book published, and Oprah Winfrey had an extremely difficult childhood before finding her way. Martin Luther King once famously said, ‘If you can't fly, run. If you can't run, walk. If you can't walk, crawl. But by all means, keep moving.'”   Now…   As I read that passage and reflected on the power of perseverance, I also thought about the fantastic ancient Sanskrit word for being a hero in the beginning: arambhashura.   As Eknath Easwaran tells us in Conquest of Mind: “In Sanskrit we have a word which means “heroes at the beginning”: people who take up a job with a fanfare of trumpets but soon find that their enthusiasm has tiptoed down the back stair. Those who go far in meditation are the ones who keep on plugging. They may not be very spectacular; they may never hear a trumpet. But they keep on trying day in and day out, giving their best in every situation and relationship, never giving up. Such people are bound to reach their goal.”   And…   Now, it's time for that fun trip with the kids Father's Day trip to Blindside Tattoo with the kids.     I created my Note on The Hero Code on the Monday after Father's Day.   On Father's Day, I took Emerson and Eleanor with me to go get a tattoo. (Yes, that's like me! Hah.)   As you know if you've been following along, I have “ARETÉ” tattooed on my right forearm to remind me to practice my philosophy as I strive to close the always-present gap between who I'm capable of being and who I'm actually being in any given moment.   I tattooed “HEROIC” on my left forearm along with the numbers “51 | 2051” to capture the ultimate mission to which I've dedicated my life: playing my role as humbly yet heroically well as I can to help create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by 2051.   On Father's Day 2022, the kids and I went on a little adventure to add “101 | 1M” next to the “51 | 2051.”    The “101” represents my commitment to doing everything in my power to get my Soul Force to 101 so I can help YOU get YOUR Soul Force (as measured in the Heroic app!) to 101.    The “1M” represents the first million people I'm committed to doing everything in my power to help get to a Soul Force score of 101 so we can have a shot at that 51 | 2051.   As we've discussed, science says we increase our odds of achieving our goals by about 42% if we write them down.    So…   I figured I'd write my most important goals somewhere I'd never miss them and let them serve as a constant reminder to PERSEVERE (just one step at a time!) through all the inevitable obstacles in a good heroic quest.   Every morning I start my meditation by looking at down at my arm and saying to myself, “Hero, I see a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by 2051. Let's get our Soul Force to 101 and help 1M people do the same and we have a shot at fulfilling our mission.”   101 x 1M → 51 | 2051   All in. Day 1.    Here's to PERSEVERING through the inevitable storms on our Heroic quests as we take JUST ONE MORE STEP…   Today.   + + +     

It's 17 years since Cindy Gambino's ex-husband Robert Farquharson murdered their three sons, ten-year-old Jai, seven-year old Tyler and three-year old Bailey by deliberately driving his car into a dam on the side of the Princes highway, near Winchelsea, West of Geelong on father's day in 2005. Cindy Gambino died last week as the result of a medical emergency at her home in country Victoria. She was just 50 years old. Journalist and author Megan Norris developed a close relationship with Cindy in the years after the boys' deaths as they worked on a book together. The book is called On Father's Day, and Megan was one of our first guests on Australian True Crime back in 2017. She joined us to talk about the extraordinary experience of writing that book.You can pre order Megan Norris's upcoming book 'Messiah's Bride' here. CREDITS:Host: Meshel Laurie. You can find her on Instagram Co-Host: Emily Webb. You can find her on Instagram here and listen to her podcast Killer Content here. Guest: Megan NorrisProducer/Editor: Matthew TankardExecutive Producer: Jacqueline TonksArchival audio used in this episode is from Channel 10 News If you have been affected by anything discussed in this episode you can contact: Lifeline on 13 11 14 13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people) Thanks for listening, we'll be back next week. GET IN TOUCH: Follow the show on Instagram @australiantruecrimepodcast and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AustralianTrueCrimePod/ Email the show at team@smartfella.com.au Australian True Crime is a podcast by Smart Fella Media. Your story matters and how you tell it matters even more.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/australiantruecrime. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.