Welcome to Yellow Glitter! Mindfulness through the eyes & soul of a gay Asian. Every episode, I share with you what’s on my mind, things I'm be struggling with and how I'm working through it to help you live a more mindful, fabulous life!
In this episode of Yellow Glitter podcast, we're joined by Dr. Varuna Srinivasan. Dr. Varuna Srinivasan is a queer physician and public health expert from Johns Hopkins who's revolutionizing healthcare access for underserved communities. Her work includes developing Planned Parenthood's first Asian American abortion toolkit, serving as Allure's sex columnist, and being the CEO of sexual wellness platform Fluid Health. You can learn more about Fluid Health at myfluidhealth.com In this episode, we chat about: How systemic and societal neglect create healthcare barriers for women, queer, and minority patients. Using the biopsychosocial approach as a holistic model that integrates mind, body, and environment. How Fluid Health improves care by connecting women and sexual minorities with specialized sex therapists. The importance of better sex education, labor rights, and healthcare access. How Intersectionality in healthcare should prioritize collective care, joy, and systemic reform. You can find our guest at: Instagram: @drvarunasrinivasan LinkedIn: @varunasrinivasan You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode of Yellow Glitter podcast, we're joined by Mike Talplacido. Mike Talplacido is a queer Filipino-American artist based in North Carolina. He is the author of Kiss My Mike, a memoir detailing his life as a gay Filipino immigrant navigating self-discovery and acceptance in America. In this episode, we chat about: Acceptance and what it means to be gay in an immigrant household Unlearning the colonized mindset and the pressure to assimilate as an Filipino-American Navigating family and writing your own story of self-love Radical acceptance and unconditional love of your entire personhood You can find our guest at: Website: kissmymike.com Instagram: @kissmymike_official Facebook: @kissmymike TikTok: @kissmymike YouTube: @KissMyMike_Official You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode of Yellow Glitter podcast, we are joined by Bibingka Mama. Bibingka Mama is a Pinay drag queen, baker, songwriter, and entertainer who serves Filipino cuisine with a funky twist. In this episode, we dive into Bibingka Mama's journey from fashion designer to drag artist, exploring how their passion for food and Filipino culture has shaped their identity. In this episode, we chat about: Navigating assimilation as a first-generation Filipino American Discovering her love of food through the art of drag The importance of food in culture Misconceptions surrounding Filipino food Fostering community through food events and creating inclusive spaces Celebrating your identity and cultural background without fear or shame You can find our guest at: Website: bibingkamama.com Instagram: @bibingkamama Facebook: @OGBibingka.Mama TikTok: @bibingka.mama X/Twitter: @BibingkaMama You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode of Yellow Glitter podcast, we're joined by Kekoa. Kekoa is a unique drag artist hailing from the islands of Indonesia. She is known for her powerful performances and unique perspective as a queer Asian creative. Growing up with a mixed heritage in a predominantly conservative environment - Transforming through early challenges and military school - The role of drag as a vehicle for self-expression and living with intentionality - Redefining what it means to be an Asian drag performer - Focusing on collaboration, community, and inspiring others In this episode, we chat about: Growing up with a mixed heritage in a predominantly conservative environment Transforming through early challenges and military school The role of drag as a vehicle for self-expression and living with intentionality Redefining what it means to be an Asian drag performer Focusing on collaboration, community, and inspiring others You can find our guest at: Instagram: @kekoais TikTok: @kekoais You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
For this episode, guest Louis Lee joins us. Louis is the chief creative officer and co-founder of Bellweather, a strategy-led creative agency that specializes in transforming legacy brands in the non-profit healthcare and travel sector. Louis is passionate about helping brands thrive in an ever-changing landscape, particularly by expanding and diversifying audiences, including women, people of color, and Gen Z. In this episode, we chat about: Overcoming childhood challenges while living in an Asian household Navigating family dynamics as a queer couple Breaking away from limiting Asian stereotypes Analyzing the root of Asian stereotypes in America Being a minority in corporate spaces Leaning into supportive family and friends You can find our guest at: Instagram: @bellweatheragency Website: bellweather.agency X: @louisklee You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
This episode we're joined by guest Leslie Xia. Leslie is a queer Chinese American graphic designer and art director currently working at Invesco. They have worked at Fast Company, Vice News, and Men's Health to Millie Magazine, focusing on finance for women, and finally moved to Invesco. In this episode, we chat about: The importance of personal finance, especially for queer and Asian communities Balancing Creativity and Practicality the importance of authenticity in content creation Ethical considerations in journalism and storytelling Maintaining equity and representation in content and design Embracing family support systems and community aid break taboos around discussing money within the community to foster mutual growth You can find our guest at: Instagram: Website: X: Tiktok: You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
This episode we're joined by returning guest ONCH. A multi-talented artist and jewelry designer. ONCH is a creative artist based in Los Angeles who makes amazing wearable art that goes beyond regular fashion. His unique pieces have been featured in a Biotechnology textbook by David P. Clark and in Vogue, as well as displayed in prestigious places like the MET Museum. In this episode, we chat about: vulnerability, authenticity, and the evolving nature of social media collaborating with legacy brands like Keith Haring his experiences overcoming bullying, and turning trauma into creative success the importance of persistence balancing personal and work life building community through raw, unfiltered content the value of staying true to oneself and inspiring others through genuine human connection You can find our guest at: Instagram: @onch Website: www.onch.us X: @onch Tiktok: @onchtv You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
This episode, we're joined by Miss Shu Mai, a Taiwanese American drag queen. We delve into Miss Shu Mai's journey into drag, her dance background, and her experiences with identity and homophobia. She is a founder of the Send Noodz Party, an API-centric drag show in LA. In this episode, we chat about: coming out and finding acceptance the importance of authenticity, community, and celebrating diverse experiences within the Asian American community touching on influences like anime, Pokemon, and the joy of gaming and fan art the significance of holding space for marginalized voices and supporting local drag scenes and cultural communities You can find our guest at: Instagram: @missshumai Send Noodz: @sendnoodzparty You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: yellowglitterpodcast.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
This episode, we're joined by an extra special guest, Kim Thai @kthai6 . She is a community organizer and founder of Joyful Liberation Collective. They are also a mindfulness teacher, writer and an Emmy Award-winning storyteller! Tune in to dive deep into topics of identity, healing, and liberation within oppressive systems. In this episode, we chat about: The ripple effects that either reinforce or work against systems of oppression Kim Thai's mission to help others reclaim their power and freedom in the world. Ancestral practice and the healing power it can bring. The intersection of Buddhist teachings and modern everyday life. The concept of mindfulness in the attention economy. Engaged Buddhism and adapting teachings to address current societal needs. The commitment to transparency and learning from mistakes in the journey towards social justice and equity. You can find our guest at: Substack: @kimthai Website: www.thekimthai.com You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode, we're joined by Johnathan @jonahsahn , a pioneering content creator who began his journey in 2008. His unique perspective as a Black American and Filipino has made him a powerful voice at the intersection of Black and Asian identity. In 2020, he founded the Black and Asian Alliance Network, promoting solidarity between these communities during a time of heightened tension. Check out his podcast series, The Boys Are Black In Town @jonahsahn on YouTube. In this episode, we chat about: Video games and diversity Traveling to Japan and what a "sense of belonging" looks like Intersectionality of Black-ness and Asian-ness Nuanced activism and standing for your beliefs Doing the work to help the community Performative activism and virtue signalling You can find our guest at: Youtube: @jonahsahn Instagram: @jonahsahn You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode, we're joined by Tai Nakladda, who is a freelance creative director. His hunger for building community ultimately led to the creation of Naarak in August of 2022, and he is now an event organizer in the gay API NYC nightlife scene. In this episode, we chat about: community resilience and fostering an environment where gay API have an accepting night-life space coming into queer identity and finding a way to navigate that intersectionality of queer-ness and Asian-ness as an adoptee the origins of Naarak initially starting with small gatherings and eventually expanding to larger events the difficulties of having open conversations and really listening to one another challenging API stereotypes and demonstrating the community's willingness to engage and contribute to the city You can find our guest at: Tai Nakladda: naaraknyc.com Instagram: @nakalakalaka You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
This episode, we're joined by Mike Curato, a gay first generation half Filipino-Irish American author and illustrator of books. He has created many picture books for young children, including his debut queer young adult graphic novel, Flamer, and upcoming books centering diverse creators and audiences. In this episode, we chat about: The launch of Flamer and how it was one of the most banned, talked about books of 2023 The difficulties with social media burnout, online bullying, and doomscrolling Strategies to protect our own mental health, energy, and peace Consuming content mindfully and compassionately Defining our own metrics - what impact are things having on us? Latest project highlighting community, diversity, and love Our upcoming projects for 2024 and beyond You can find our guest at: Mike Curato: mikecurato.com Instagram: @mike_curato You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode, we're joined by Harry Trinh, a queer Asian American art director and experiential designer based in NYC, and the Head of Creative of Welcome to Chinatown. In this episode, we chat about: His latest work with Welcome to Chinatown Pivoting from corporate life into his mission-driven work Understanding the value of community-centered work and raising the bottom-line The history of Chinatowns and unlocking our community's potential through partnership Introducing creative career pathways for API folx Harry's introduction to creativity and design through his family How queerness is intertwined with liberation You can find our guest at: Harry Trinh: https://experienceharry.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harry_trinh/ Welcome to Chinatown: https://welcometochinatown.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/welcome.to.chinatown You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode, we're joined by Susan Liao, a product leader and champion of liberatory leadership working at the intersection of digital innovation, social entrepreneurship and non-profit impact strategy. In this episode, we chat about: Her journey into tech and product Navigating her life through agencies and startups Pivoting from the corporate world to impact-driven work Conforming into inequitable systems and role, and shifting away to find her voice Why we adapt as marginalized communities and how to break away from upholding inequitable systems What's in Susan's “kitchen sink” The future of work, diversifying the spaces we are a part of, and creating different forms of distributing wealth Challenging existing systems of work, capitalism, and labor The concept of "Space, pace, and grace" - how are we acknowledging rest as part of our work? Honoring the north star of the communities around us Creating more intention behind our beliefs, words, and actions The importance of rest and filling our cup You can find Susan at: LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/susanliao Startups for All: startupsforall.org Leaders Like Us: leaderslikeus.us Susan's first startup experience: Print All Over Me with NEW INC's Year 2 cohort About Ecocycles and strategy knotworking Improving cross-disciplinary collaboration with strategy knotworking and ecocycle planning, by Nancy White Emergent Strategy https://adriennemareebrown.net/book/emergent-strategy/ Petra Vega (She/Her/Ella), Liberatory Leadership Coach, Facilitator, Radical Social Worker and Emergent Strategist https://createmorepossibilities.com/about-me/ Ruha Benjamin https://www.ruhabenjamin.com/ Respect The Small https://www.instagram.com/p/Ct2gyOcP694/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com Visit our website yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode, we're joined by Haruka Aoki, a queer Japanese artist and poet-illustrator, who takes us on a journey of self-discovery and artistic expression. In this episode, we chat about: The challenges of integrating into a new community The impact migration can have on identity and intersectionality The power of manifestation and the importance of collaboration in the creative process The importance of solidarity among marginalized communities Issues of performative activism and establishing genuine allyship Raising the bottom line for our underrepresented and historically marginalized communities Challenges and benefits of social media Haruka's book tour and upcoming projects You can find Haruka at: Website: https://harukaaoki.com Instagram: @thecosmicharuka You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
This episode, we're joined by an extra special guest, Lee-Sean Huang (he/they), a queer first-generation Taiwanese, Cantonese American designer and educator based in New York City and Providence. Lee-Sean Huang is the director of Design Content and learning at AIGA and a co-founder, creative director of Foossa, and teaches design and innovation at Parsons and SVA. This episode, we talk about: Lee-Sean's "midlife crisis" and how he is navigating a new chapter in his life Navigating corporate world and academia with queer & Asian identities His work with the New School and advocating for teachers The role of creativity and design in social impact Dismantling perfectionism, and leaning into imperfection as an invitation for social change The power of community-centered design You can find more information about our guest: @leesean on Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn Website: https://foossa.com/leesean-huang Learn more about Yellow Glitter: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com Website: yellowglitterpodcast.com
In this episode, we're joined by an extra special guest, ONCH, a multi-talented artist and jewelry designer based in Los Angeles. We chat about: The power of dreaming and creating a vision of our future Using a dream diary to record, capture, and realize everyday dreams ONCH's journey from Taiwan and finding oneself Setting intentions and manifesting reality Upcoming collaborations coming to life from dreams Becoming fearless and dreaming for a brighter future Learn more about ONCH: Website: onch.us Instagram: @onch You can follow me at: Website: yellowglitterpodcast.com Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
This episode, we're joined by our lovely returning guest, Jonathan Gibbs, creator of the Black and Asian Alliance Network, a proud, gay, Black and Filipino American filmmaker, storyteller, podcaster, and gamer based in Brooklyn, NY. In this episode, we chat about: The importance of solidarity among marginalized communities Issues of performative activism and establishing genuine allyship Holding individuals and corporations accountable and enacting change The need for representation and visibility in media and entertainment for our communities Raising the bottom line for our underrepresented and historically marginalized communities Challenges and benefits of social media You can find Johnathan Gibbs at: Instagram: @jonahsahn Twitter: @jonahsahn Youtube: @blasianFMA You can follow me at: Website: yellowglitterpodcast.com Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
In this episode, we're joined by an extra special guest, Dr. Jonathan Tolentino, Program Director of the Combined Internal Medicine-Pediatrics Residency program at Jackson Memorial Hospital/University of Miami and Associate Professor of Internal Medicine and Pediatrics at University of Miami. We chat about intersectional healthcare and the importance of understanding our history, legislation, and evolving healthcare to show up for our historically marginalized communities & youth. We chat about: The importance of recognizing the intersectionality of gender, race, and sexuality in healthcare. The future of our ever-evolving medical field. Our stories of acceptance and fitting in and the growing visibility of queer identities around the world. Discriminatory laws and their impact on our historically marginalized communities, especially our youth. The importance of showing up and holding our legislators accountable You can more of JT at: Instagram: @jonjon980206 You can follow me at: Website: yellowglitterpodcast.com Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
In this episode, we're joined by a returning friend, Kim Thai, a queer Vietnamese writer, Emmy-award winning producer, social justice advocate, and mindfulness teacher based in New York. We chat about community building, cultivating joy, and her latest work with Ganeshspace, a mindfulness organization that creates healing spaces for historically excluded communities and social justice education for all. In this episode we talk about: Community healing and the importance of centering joy and liberation in our equity-centered work Reclaiming queerness and honoring indigenous practices Surrounding ourselves with people who uplift and nourish us Prioritizing happiness leading to ultimate self-care and joy You can more of Kim at: Instagram: @kthai6 Instagram: @Ganeshspace You can follow me at: Website: yellowglitterpodcast.com Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
This episode we're joined by an extra special guest, Haruka Aoki. Haruka (she/they) is a queer Japanese artist, author and illustrator of children's books based in Queens, New York City. Their narrative artwork, which has appeared in New York Times and the Washington Post, aims to inspire individuals with both wit and sincerity as their hand drawn characters engaged with the world around them growing up. In this episode we talk about: Haruka's pivot from corporate life to exploring art Mental health in today's workplace Their background and family experience growing up Haruka dives into their world of illustration and the inspiration behind their characters Exploring their latest book, Fitting In (fittinginbook.com) You can find Haruka at: Website: https://harukaaoki.com/ Instagram: @thecosmicharuka You can follow me at: Website: https://yellowglitterpodcast.com Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
In this episode, we are joined by a special returning guest, Johnathan Gibbs, to talk about the latest gay movie Fire Island, and also reflect on the harmful impact of the gay white gaze on our queer Asian communities. In this episode we talk about: Reflect on Fire Island movie's representation of queer Asian perspectives and stories The gay white gaze and discussing the harmful impact of these narratives How to catch ourselves when we are co-opting into systems of power and oppression Forgiving ourselves in the process and healing our inner selves Finding refuge and community with more diversity around us References: BaBEC Fire Island GaGaOOLaLa You can find Johnathan Gibbs at: Instagram: @jonahsahn Twitter: @jonahsahn Youtube: @blasianFMA You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi Twitter: @wakuu YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
Excited to be joined by Linda Jiang, a toy designer living in Los Angeles, California. In this episode, we delve into the world of the doll industry and the representation of gender-inclusive doll design. Linda Jiang (she/they) is a toy designer living in Los Angeles, California; unceded Tongva land. Linda's work centers around designing inclusive toys to create social change through play. They designed the recent Barbie Inspiring Women doll, specifically the doll for Ida B Wells, and led the design for Creatable World, a gender-inclusive fashion doll line. When they're not designing, Linda enjoys building community with her friends, reading mystery novels, and learning fashion history through vintage clothing. In this episode we talk about: Linda's background and story of entering the world of design A day in the life of designing in the doll industry Queer BIPOC people in creative industries Gender-inclusive doll designs You can find Linda at: Website: little-linda.com Instagram: @little.linda You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
We're joined by Dr. JT (Jonathan Tolentino) once again to talk about our society's obsession with the perfect physique. We chat about body and muscle dysmorphia, PEDs, the impact of social media, and how this ultimately impacts both our queer and Asian communities. Dr. JT is the Program Director of the Combined Internal Medicine-Pediatrics Residency program at Jackson Memorial Hospital/University of Miami and Associate Professor of Internal Medicine and Pediatrics at University of Miami. In this episode we talk about: The state of COVID and the recent surge Social media effects on our bodies and body image Body and muscle dysmorphia within the queer & Asian communities The slippery slope of dating apps - the effects that filters can have on our experience The dark side of performance-enhancing drugs 2022 Resolutions and how are you recharging yourself this new year? You can find JT at: Instagram: @jonjon9980206 You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
We have another beautiful episode chatting about COVID, our mental health, and our future. We're joined by an extra special guest Dr. JT, Jonathan Tolentino, who is the Program Director of the Combined Internal Medicine-Pediatrics Residency program at Jackson Memorial Hospital/University of Miami and Associate Professor of Internal Medicine and Pediatrics at University of Miami. In this episode we talk about: The state of COVID and vaccinations Navigating misinformation through COVID How communities have learned through history of AIDS and SARS GaysOverCOVID and quarrels within our queer community during COVID Sexual and ethnic minority stress theory on how we see and react to the world Breaking out of the cycle of comparison, judgement, self-criticism How to become allies with one another - especially within our LGBTQ+ community Becoming more aware of our privilege Jonathan's coming out story Navigating queer identities in the Asian community You can find JT at: Instagram: @jonjon9980206 You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
This week, we're joined by our favorite Derek Tran once again to chat about the state of COVID, rainbow-washing, performative allyship, and showing up authentically. In this episode we talk about: Derek's Tinder profile. Yes. Really. COVID mask mandates going down in many parts of America Rainbow-washing and performative allyship from companies Goods Unite Us revealing of where corporate sponsorship is going toward The capital reason why it's valuable to rainbow-wash and market pride Why we all still need to support pride as a protest The shift away from hiring police at pride Why everyone needs to stop eating at the evil chicken shop Showing up authentically yourself this pride season Speaking with our action vs. performance References Goods Unite Us Queer Liberation March You can find Derek at: Instagram: @findyourfearless You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
Another wonderful episode with our lovely guest Derek Tran, to talk about issues surrounding activism, current-day events, and the Asian culture. In this episode we talk about: Flashback to Xanga? Livejournal? Our COVID check-in and thoughts on the CDC directive to remove masks in the US Trump's rhetoric that catalyzed so much of the Asian hate we face Shallow activism in celebrities and gay community Becoming more conscious of the news we take in Why we need to call in vs. calling each other out The shift in younger generation and activism You can find Derek at: Instagram: @findyourfearless You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
Derek Tran and I chat about the rising anti-Asian hate crimes and what we can do to keep ourselves safe and sane during this time. In this episode we talk about: COVID and where we are at with vaccinations Issues with performative social media activists How allies can show up - with more actionable steps The intersection of mindfulness and activism Struggling to find our voice as Asian-Americans Standing up within our romantic relationships to microaggressions Why addressing cultural issues in Asia, by denigrating Asian-Americans don’t work Our social media feeds full of trauma porn Why we both still hate Chick-fil-A How can keep ourselves safe from hate crimes and attacks You can find Derek at: Instagram: @findyourfearless You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
This episode, I’m joined by Kim Thai, founder of ganeshspace, an organization dedicated to making mindfulness a more equitable space. We chat about the current politics of America, how we can show up with compassion in activism, understanding ourselves before helping others, and her journey of finding her queer identity after marriage. Enjoy! Kim Thai is a writer, Emmy-award winning producer, and the founder of ganeshspace, a community organization dedicated to pursuing equity through mindfulness. She is a proud daughter of Vietnamese refugees and is currently living in NYC with her partner and two cats. In this episode we talk about: Advice on managing this pandemic for extroverts What politics of today say reflect what is happening deep down inside of America How to hold compassion for those we don’t agree with Why we need to first assess our own bandwidth before we give The truth behind humor when it appears during traumatic conversations Her journey coming out of a marriage to discover her queer identity How to show up for oneself to bring change to others around us Ganeshpace and creating equity and collaboration in the mindfulness space Show notes: Roque Rodriguez You can find Kim Thai at: ganeshspace: ganeshspace.com ganeshspace Instagram: @ganeshspace Instagram: @kthai6 You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
On this episode of Yellow Glitter, I’m joined by Randy Kim, a queer, second-generation Viet-Khmer American from Chicagoland and podcast host of The Banh Mi Chronicles, highlighting uplifting important Asian voices. We chat about the Asian diaspora, how to heal the trauma of our parents, coming out, the importance of storytelling history of Asian culture, creating inclusive spaces, and why the slogan “representation matters” needs updating. Randy Kim is a queer 2nd generation Viet-Khmer American from the Chicagoland area. Randy currently serves as a board member with the National Cambodian Heritage Museum. He is the co-producer with founder Ada Cheng for TALK Stories: An Asian American/Asian Diaspora Storytelling Show in Chicago. He is the producer and host of “The Banh Mi Chronicles” podcast which can be on Spotify, Apple Podcast, Google Podcast. Randy is currently working on his Master's in Non Profit Management at DePaul University. In this episode we talk about: How he started his podcast, The Banh Mi Chronicles His relationship with Ada Cheng and creating space for Asian diaspora The creative process of focusing on need over entertainment Importance of inclusive and diverse spaces in storytelling The issue with “representation matters” Randy’s story of his heritage, coming out, and finding a community How to help our parents heal and process their trauma Why Asian history is paramount to our growth and activism Show notes: Sigh, Gone: A Misfit's Memoir of Great Books, Punk Rock, and the Fight to Fit In by Phuc Tran Ada Cheng National Cambodian Heritage Museum and Killing Fields Memorial Banh Mi Chronicles - MILCK Banh Mi Chronicles - D&I with Michelle Kim Banh Mi Chronicles - Kathy Park Hong You can find Randy Kim at: Facebook: @banhmichronicles Instagram: @banhmi_chronicles You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
In this episode, we are joined by Mike Curato, a queer Asian author and illustrator, to talk about his latest graphic novel, Flamer, inspired by his own personal life story. We cover a lot of topics including, mental health, bullying, suicide, and the wave of intolerance plaguing our country, and also looking ahead at how we can all do better. Mike Curato is a gay first generation half Filipino-Irish American author and illustrator of books for youth. He has created many picture books for young children, and just released his debut queer young adult graphic novel, Flamer. In this episode we talk about: How Mike is managing quarantine life and Zoom dates Experience of growing up biracial in an intolerant world The importance of finding community Why honesty is important in writing a book and how our shared humanity connects us together Finding family in the queer community - but also facing racism within our queer circles Navigating intolerance within dating apps and within our own gaysian community Mike's experience with bullying and thoughts of suicide and how it inspired the plot of Flamer What got him through the suicidal ideations and difficult high school experiences The journey towards self-discovery and turning towards healing Why sharing our story is so critical to help us understand each other The importance of looking inward at our own internalized racism and intolerance Show notes: Kuku Hughs - Displacement Trung Le Nguyen - The Magic Fish Alison Bechdel - Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic Alison Bechdel - The Essential Dykes to Watch Out For Ocean Vuong - On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous You can find Mike Curato at:Twitter: @MikeCuratoInstagram: @mike_curatoWebsite: mikecurato.com You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
In this episode, we are joined by Jon Lee-Olsen, a professional ice-hockey player who made headlines as the first openly out player in Europe and third in the world. We talk about his experience coming out nationally, managing relationships alongside a sports career, and his experiences as a transracial adoptee. Jon (he/him) is Danish transracial adoptee from Korea who currently lives in Copenhagen Denmark. He was the first to come out as a gay man in professional ice-hockey in Europe and the third in the world. Now he is harnessing his story to help uplift LGBTQ+ and the Asian community. In this episode we talk about: Experiences of being an Asian transracial adoptee growing up in a white community How he discovered hockey while coming to terms with his own sexuality His experience coming out on national television for the first time Combatting the fears of being the first openly out gay ice-hockey player in Europe How being open about his identity improved his hockey Lessons in relationships balancing a professional sports career Show notes: LGBTQ+ organizations (list on Wikipedia) Jon Lee-Olsen comes out nationally (OutSports) You can find Jon Lee-Olsen next at Copenhagen world pride 2021, Eurogames 2021, Athlete ally, Sport leaders conference 2021 (CPH), and Human rights forum 2021 (CPH). You can find Jon Lee-Olsen at: Instagram: @jonleeolsen Twitter: @jonleeolsen Facebook: @jonleeolsen You can follow me at: Instagram: @stevenwakabayashi YouTube: @stevenwakabayashi Weekly Newsletter: mindfulmoments.substack.com
In this episode, we are joined by Rain Valdez to talk about her journey from the Philippines and Guam to the Emmy-nominated actress and producer she is today. We talk about her Emmy-nominated show, Razor Tongue, as well as her recent work on Disclosure highlighting the impact Hollywood has had on the trans community. We have a beautiful conversation with Rain about trans talent and the importance of visibility and stories in media. Rain Valdez is an Emmy nominated actress most notably known for Razor Tongue, Transparent and Why Women Kill. She's an award-winning filmmaker and an out and proud transgender woman and activist. Rain is also the founder of ActNOW, the first and only LGBTQIA+ acting class in Los Angeles that teaches beyond the binary. On this episode we talk about: COVID-19 check-in and finding motivation to get fit during quarantine Her story growing up in the Philippines and Guam Finding pride in her heritage and how it translates into her work Knowing her dream to become an actress early on and getting started with her career The struggles of finding work as an Asian and trans actress When she quit acting and boomeranging back What she asks herself when she questions her dreams Her response to Disclosure on Netflix and why we need to raise trans voices now more than ever What the Emmy nomination means to her, especially as the very first Filipina trans actress Giving trans talent access to more opportunity to tell different stories Why being accessible and creating a loving set is critical towards equity Rain’s inspiration behind her acting class, ACT NOW “Move mountains with the people that you love. Find people in your community that you want to move mountains … you’ll find joy in creating with those people because you’re doing it together." Show notes: Fitness classes with Chloe Tang: chloeting.com | @chloe_t Disclosure on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81284247 Razor Tongue (Rain’s Emmy Nominee!) https://www.noweverartists.com/razortongue Pose on FX: https://www.fxnetworks.com/shows/pose ACT NOW: https://www.noweverartists.com/act-nowever You can find Rain Valdez at: http://www.rainvaldez.com/ Instagram, Twitter, Facebook (@RainValdez) You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
In this episode, we are joined by Amazin LeThi, LGBTQ+ sports ambassador, former competitive bodybuilder, entertainment executive, and fitness author to chat about current events and her life journey. We talk about trans-racial issues, equity and representation in media, and body positivity, homelessness in our queer community, and so much more. Amazin LeThi (she/her) is an Athlete Ally and Stonewall sports ambassador, former competitive bodybuilder, entertainment executive and the first Vietnamese internationally published fitness author. Through her personal journey of homelessness she founded the Amazin LeThi Foundation. Amazin has shared her story for ‘Its Gets Better’ campaign and the first White House Initiative on Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders Asian anti-bullying campaign 'Act to Change'. She has been recognized by GLAAD and NQAPIA for her LGBTQ advocacy. She was the first Asian LGBTQ Athlete in 2020 to be honoured at the Brooklyn Nets 4th Annual Pride Night, she has also been listed in the Australian Pride Power List, Out 100 List, Go Magazine 100 Women We Love List, 2020 Global Changemakers and acknowledged in the Human Rights Campaign - Asian Pacific Islander Heritage Month Honours list. On this episode we talk about: Managing through this current pandemic and ways Amazin is finding balance of news with classical music and fitness Her story growing up in Saigon and being adopted into a trans-racial family in Australia The complexities of racism and prejudice between trans-racial adoptees and their family Getting involved with weight training as the only queer and Asian individaul as an eight year old. Going back to Vietnam and reconnecting with her Asian identity The duality of identity between East and Western culture, hypersexualized and de-sexualized Asian men and women in media Becoming open to vulnerability and accepting ourselves unconditionally Body positivity within the queer community and gender roles we are often asked to play into Queer Asian representation in our media, education and history books Homelessness and its impact to our LGBTQ+ youth, mental health, and livelihoods The power of solidarity and sharing our stories together You can find Amazin at: amazinlethi.com Instagram, Twitter, Facebook (@AmazinLeThi) You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
I am joined by none other than Ian Alexander (Buck Vu of The OA) and Vivien Ngô (Trinh Phan of Queen Sugar) to talk about what it’s like being gaysian in the entertainment industry, their humble beginnings as children of Asian immigrants, and their latest thriller, Daughter. They share some mindful advice on how to create a more equitable workspace for queer actors and having more diverse representation for cast and crew. IAN ALEXANDER Ian (he/him) is an actor best known for his role as Buck Vu in the Netflix sci-fi series The OA. He will be making his video game debut as "Lev" in the highly anticipated The Last of Us Part II for Naughty Dog. Ian is a passionate advocate for transgender and racial justice, and he hopes to see more representation of transgender youth in media. When he's not on set, Ian loves taking naps and walking his dog Max. VIVIEN NGÔ Vivien (she/her) is most known for her role as Trinh Phan on Ava Duvernay's Queen Sugar, and roles on NCIS: New Orleans, Shameless, and films that have played at Slamdance, SXSW, Fantastic Fest, and Cannes. Other career highlights include being drowned on primetime tv, eating nước mắm on cable tv, and talking to an imaginary dagger on Shakespeare's Globe. In her free time, she enjoys browsing the web for Vietnamese memes… and dogs! On this episode, we talk about: What it was like navigating their queer identity with Asian immigrant families Growing up Asian and discovering Asian pride Experience working on The OA as one of the first trans Asian roles in media How was it like being transformed into a video game character Working with Ava DuVernay and learning how she casts for roles Fundraising and leading a POC-led film, Daughter Advice on how to casting more diverse crew and talent Creating a more equitable work environment, especially for trans and POC Why representation is so important in media and entertainment GLAAD trans resources: https://www.glaad.org/transgender/resources Daughter’s Seed & Spark campaign: https://www.seedandspark.com/fund/daughter#story You can find Ian at @ianaiexander You can find Vivien at @vivientngo You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
In this powerful episode, I’m joined by Kalaya’an Mendoza, a nonviolent direct action trainer and disaster preparedness expert, to talk about the current climate and advice for those who headed out to protest in the streets. We chat about how we can show solidarity with Black folx and addressing racism within our Asian community. Kalaya’an Mendoza (he/him) is a nonviolent direct action trainer, Disaster Preparedness expert recognized by TIME Magazine and has spent the last twenty years of his life fighting for social justice on Turtle Island and around the world alongside Human Rights Defenders in the Global South. In this episode we talk about: The current social situation and what is happening all around the US Why Black lives matter How he discovered activism in high school The importance of activism on the streets and behind the keyboard Tips on how to prepare for going out into the streets Using OODA (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act) loops Doing the work in our communities and in our Asian families What are some common issues affecting first-time protesters? Taking care of yourself to take care of the community Never showing up empty-handed His experience protesting in Beijing and facing possible death What does it mean to be in solidarity with Black folx Addressing racism in the Asian community How to connect with our friends and family to have these tough conversations People we mentioned on the show: Mia Mingus (disability activist) Alice Wong (disability activist) Alicia Garza (Black Lives Matter) Patrisse Cullors (Black Lives Matter) You can find Kalaya’an on Instagram (@kalamendoza) and Twitter (@kalamendoza) and his email kala@acrossfrontlines.org Check out his nonprofit Across Front Lines at acrossfrontlines.org. You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
With the novel coronavirus spreading all around the world, so has intolerant attitudes towards Asians. Hate crimes have increased to unsettling amounts and it seems to get worse with each passing day. I am joined in this conversation with our returning guest Derek Tran to unpack the racism towards Asians and offer some advice on how to navigate it. This episode, we talk about: The current climate of COVID-19 and racism Why is this racism different from many others? Addressing the op-ed by Andrew Yang Derek’s personal experience with recent racism Why we struggle to call-out and stand up for ourselves as Asians Why is this even harder for gaysians? Defining what a hate crime is Why we love Cardi B What is the difference between calling in and calling out Some resources to stop AAPI hate Things form our show: Stop AAPI Hate: http://www.asianpacificpolicyandplanningcouncil.org/stop-aapi-hate/ Our favorite activism socials: @Next Shark, @JackFroot, @AsianswithAttitudes Our guest on this podcast: Derek Tran (he/him/his) is a gay, second-generation Vietnamese-American entrepreneur residing in Los Angeles. His interests include mindfulness, fitness, environmental sustainability and has been an integral part of the LA Gaysian scene for more than 20+ years. You can find him on instagram @FindYourFearless You can reach out to me on: Instagram @StevenWakabayashi Facebook @wakuu and Twitter @wakuu And if you want to subscribe to my weekly email newsletter, you can find my writings at mindfulmoments.substack.com
We are living in an unprecedented era with many of us confined in our own homes, facing uncertainty around COVID-19, and experiencing sudden changes in employment. Join us for a session as we have a chat on staying physically and mentally healthy amidst COVID-19, establishing mindfulness to stay present and peaceful, understanding trauma responses during difficult times, and managing sudden shifts in employment. This episode, we talk about: Establishing mindfulness to stay present and peaceful Managing physical health with COVID-19 and what are recommendations on staying safe from this virus Maintaining mental health with balance and routine during shelter-in-place Establishing boundaries to prioritize ourselves Staying connected and navigating social media and news during a pandemic Understanding trauma response during turbulent times What are some opportunities we have during these difficult times Managing sudden shifts at work Resources to help those that are facing unemployment Our guests on this podcast are: Ning Jo (he/him) is a Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Fellow at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital. He specializes in gender, sexuality, and cultural influences on mental health. Marti G Cummings (they/them) is a candidate for NYC Council District 7, drag artist, comedian, activist, and spouse. They currently sit on community board 9, serving the people of Upper Manhattan and are an advisory on the Mayor's nightlife council. Instagram @MartiGCummings Twitter @MartiGCummings Facebook @MartiGCummings You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
This episode, we talk about the continued struggles with COVID-19 here in NYC. But in light of this, there is also opportunity to connect with friends, family, our finances, emotions, feelings, and the planet. We also touch on some of the discriminatory laws that were recently passed against trans folks in Idaho. This episode, we talk about: The current state of COVID-19 in NYC Finding opportunity in our living situation right now, amidst everyone staying at home Taking time to deepen our relationship with those we are living with Practicing unconditional love and kindness for those we struggle with How to become more present with our feelings and emotions Clamping down on our finances How might we improve our relationship with this planet The recent discriminatory bill passed by Gov. Brad Little hurting our trans community in Idaho You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
This episode, I talk about the novel coronavirus, COVID-19. I share how our privilege and ignorance has led us where we are today, why we may be past the point of containment, why getting rid of wet markets is not the solution, addressing xenophobia, and advice on how to cope with emotions during this time. This episode, we’re going to chat about the coronavirus. I talk about: - The clear warnings that were left ignored by Asia and Italy. - How our American privilege has led us to where we are today. - Why focusing on the numbers should not be our main priority - Why getting rid of wet markets is not the solution. - Global xenophobia spurred by this pandemic. - How to deal with racism and prejudice during this time. - Some advice on how to cope and manage emotions. Resources: Google Hangouts Apple Facetime Uber Conference Zoom Video Conferencing Report anti-Asian harassment or hate-crime to New York City civil.rights@ag.ny.gov 1-800-771-7755 Nonprofit Asian Pacific Policy and Planning Council (A3PCON) anti-Asian hate-crime online reporting center You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
This episode, we have none other than Margaret Cho, one of the leading queer Asian voices in comedy, media, and activism here in America. We sit down and talk about her life leading up to comedy, including what it was like growing up in a Korean household, exploring sexuality, dating as a queer Asian, finding spirituality, and practicing mindfulness. She has been a Five-time Grammy and Emmy-nominated comedian, and named one of Rolling Stone magazine’s 50 Best Stand-Up Comics of All Time, 50 People Who Changed American Comedy by CNN, and most recently, stunned America singing her way through the wildly popular break-out hit show The Masked Singer. She is currently on tour with her international “Fresh Off The Bloat” tour and has a brand new podcast, where each week she interviews people YOU KNOW and people she thinks YOU SHOULD KNOW, if you don't already. The 36-episode first season includes guests such as Jonathan Van Ness, Kat Von D, Michael Yo, Kathy Griffin, Quentin Tarantino, Diablo Cody AAAND along with her brand new dog Lucia. On this episode, we talk about: Dropping out of school to pursue comedy, especially within Asian culture. Growing up in San Francisco in a queer bookstore. Life during the HIV/AIDS epidemic. Navigating bisexuality within American and Asian cultures. How to explore and discover our sexuality. Thoughts on dating apps and being catfished. Our horror stories on furniture with sharp corners. Growing up in Korea and America, within American and Korean culture. Cultural shedding in language and mannerisms as part of Americanization. Battling internalized racism and dating other Asians. Margaret’s perspectives on spirituality and religion. Why religion and spirituality are ultimately finding what works for us. Staying true to herself and integrating social activism into her comedy. One of the most important things about doing a comedy show. How to stay mindful and present while being on the road on her international tour. References: The Circle Reality Show Reach out to Margaret Cho: https://twitter.com/margaretcho https://www.instagram.com/margaret_cho https://www.facebook.com/officialmargaretcho/ You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
For the month of February, we sit down with queer Asian Americans to learn more about how they navigate finding love here in America. This episode, we chat with ONCH, a nonbinary first-generation Taiwanese-American designer in LA about gaysian representation in media, racial fetishism, navigating finding love as a queer Asian, and the impact of social media and dating apps on today’s culture. ONCH is a non binary first generation Taiwanese American, the creative force behind the "ONCH" brand (previously known as Onch Movement), designing 'wearable art' for a discerning VIP client list that includes Kate Moss, Kim Kardashian, and Nicki Minaj. ONCH subsequently launched a long term relationship with cult fave Hello Kitty, which culminated in a recent role as designer for the brand’s second collection at Forever21, The Hello Kitty Forever jewelry collection. The trend-setter whose work was even featured in a bio-technology textbook and Italian Vogue has also made headlines for daring & unique designs, from "Meat-Lace" meat necklace which was featured by the NY Post, LA Times, Huffington Post, Ripley’s Believe It or Not, and In Touch. Summer 2016 ONCH was selected by LAPRIDE as the featured artist to create public art for the main instagrammable moment. Spring/ Summer 2019 six pieces of ONCH designs are on display at the Metropolitan Museum of Art (NY) for the exhibition "CAMP: Notes on fashion”. On this episode we over: How ONCH got started in designing jewelry. Being one of the only gaysians on reality TV. Immigrating to Los Angeles and finding oneself. Stereotypes of gaysians and racial “preferences". Dealing with racial fetishism. Understanding the new era of dating apps. Social media how distant it has become from reality. Advice on finding love. You can reach ONCH at: https://www.instagram.com/onch https://twitter.com/onch https://www.facebook.com/onchmovement/ You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
For the month of February, we sit down with queer Asian Americans to learn more about how they navigate finding love here in America. This episode, we chat with Johnathan Gibbs, aka blasianFMA about activism, biracial identities, model minority myths, our racial preferences, and so much more. Johnathan Gibbs, he/him/his also known as blasianFMA online, is a content creator, podcaster, activist, serial panelist, and bubble tea enthusiast. His work in activism began with his YouTube channel “blasainFMA” in 2008, in which he worked to bring awareness to multiracial issues surrounding the intersection of Black and Asian identity. He later enjoyed a 60 episode run of his first podcast “Edugaytion” which covered QPOC issues from the point of view of people from around the United States. He is now working on a newly launched podcast, “This QPOC Life” which is a spiritual successor to the Edugaytion series, re-imagined and ever evolving to be more sensitive to all marginalized communities. This episode, we cover: The story behind the name: blasianFMA Creating content in the early days of YouTube. How Johnathan got started in activism and creating safe spaces What was it like growing up biracial Asian and Black. How does both the Asian and Black community respond to biracial identities? Breaking down the model minority myth. Coming out after publishing a conservative article. Dating as a biracial Black and Asian man. Why racism is more than just our preferences. Thoughts on dating apps, objectification, and stereotypes. How does the work show up in dating? When activism and dating lives collide. Resources: Brown Skin, White Minds: Filipino -/ American Postcolonial Psychology by E.J.R. David Brown Boys and Rice Queens: Spellbinding Performance in the Asias by Eng-Beng Lim You can reach out to Johnathan via his Instagram @BlasianFMA. You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
For the month of February, we sit down with queer Asian Americans to learn more about how they navigate finding love here in America. This episode, we sit down with Robin Mele, a queer second-generation Taiwanese-American therapist in NYC and learn more about them navigating through their asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous identity. We talk about identities, stereotypes, dating apps, and so much more! Robin Mele (they/them/theirs) is a queer second-generation Taiwanese-American who currently works as a therapist on an inpatient psychiatric unit for adolescents at a public hospital in New York City. They have a master's degree in dance/movement therapy, and they have their yoga teaching certification. They currently identify as asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous. This episode, we cover: How Robin got started in their career working as a therapist. What is dance movement therapy? Growing up biracial white and Asian. How they discovered their asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous identity. Facing stereotypes with these identities. Why it’s not about adding more labels and more understanding ourselves. Navigating being asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous within the Asian community. Thoughts on dating apps, inclusivity in the space, and superficiality How to navigate racial fetishism. Why timing is everything in love and relationships. References from this Episode: Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVN) Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Lex Dating App The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman To get in contact with Robin, you can reach out to them Instagram @Robinks You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
For the month of February, we sit down with queer Asian Americans to learn more about how they navigate finding love here in America. This episode, we sit down with Rajiv Khanna, a gay second-generation Indian-American living in San Francisco. We talk about what it was like growing up as a gay Indian man, coming out, dating apps, combating prejudice and so much more. Rajiv Khanna (he/him/his) is a gay second-generation Indian-American living in San Francisco, CA. He is very involved in the South Asian community through volunteering and hosting cultural and queer events, and always loves a good Bollywood dance party! This episode we go over: Growing up as a gay Indian man in a school with only ten Asians Assimilating into US culture and navigating being Asian in America Coming out within Asian culture. Datings apps and how de-personalized they have become. How to navigate racial preferences and combatting prejudice. How we can be more inclusive of South Asians within the larger Asian community. Resources: Asha for Education Parivar (Queer South Asian org) You can reach Rajiv on Instagram @rajutheboy. You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
For the month of February, we sit down with queer Asian Americans to learn more about how they navigate finding love here in America. This episode, we sit down with Derek Tran, a gay second-generation Vietnamese-American entrepreneur in LA and talk about growing up in LA, being a part of the gaysian LA scene, navigating social media and dating apps, and finding self-love through his spiritual and body transformation. Derek Tran (he/him/his) is a gay, second-generation Vietnamese-American entrepreneur residing in Los Angeles. His interests include mindfulness, fitness, environmental sustainability and has been an integral part of the LA Gaysian scene for more than 20+ years. In this episode we talk about: How he got started with his businesses in LA. The story of his family moving from Vietnam and throughout Los Angeles county. Growing up as one of the only Vietnamese individuals in his hometown and trying to assimilate into American culture. Coming back home to his identity and finding his sense of cultural pride. Social media and its impact on our generation. Why there is an entire culture around shaming hookup app conversations. Why racial preference is just racism - from exclusion to fetishism. His journey through body transformation. What unsolicited advice say more about people than the advice itself. How Derek started to do the work to find love for himself. References: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World by Alan Downs Headspace App You can reach out to Derek via Instagram @findyourfearless You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
Right now, we are in quite a precarious time. From the recent death of Kobe Bryant to hundreds of people dying from the Coronavirus all around the world, death is becoming more present than ever. For me, it’s been a frequent visitor and teacher. I share some advice on what I learned from life, death, and lessons of impermanence. This episode I talk about: My experience with death Advice on if you are getting over a death How we continue on after death How to be more present Buddhism concept of impermanence (gross vs. subtle changes) Why is impermanence important Key insights from death that can help change our lives. You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
I’m back for 2020! I share with you my highs of 2019, favorite books I’ve read, lessons from my lows, and advice on how to create habits and New Year’s resolutions that stick. I share a bit about how to practice self-love, compassion and how to address our egos. This episode I talk about: What were my highlights of 2019? What were my favorite books of 2019? What were my lows of 2019? Why do we use negative reinforcements to build habits? Why negative reinforcements don’t work. How to build habits correctly. What is the biggest lesson I learned in 2019? How to practice self-love. What trick do I have to get me to go out when I feel shy. What is my 2020 mantra? Tips on how to set your New Year’s resolutions Check out my gaysian support group in NYC: Yellow Glitter Sparkles (February 2020) Favorite books: Mindfulness: Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by Thich Naht Hanh Human Psychology: Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green Love & Romance: Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix Work & Business: Principles by Ray Dalio Health: When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate Autobiographies: When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi The Choice by Edith Eger Know My Name by Chanel Miller On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong Setting New Year's resolutions: Identify (Create your self affirmations “I am” and identify the small habits that help you achieve this affirmation) Tracking (Score how you are tracking towards each resolution and measure from 0-1) Adjusting (0-0.3: make it easier, 0.4-0.6: keep on going, 0.7-1: consider making it slightly more advanced) You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) Twitter (twitter.com/wakuu) Facebook (facebook.com/wakuu) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
Happy Thanksgiving! Though this day has quite questionable roots, many of us are spending time with those we love. For many Asians, this might mean returning home to our conservative Asian families. In this episode, I share with you something that is near and dear to my heart - forgiving our parents and caregivers. This episode I talk about: My story of finding forgiveness for my conservative family What unconditional love truly means. Why forgiveness isn’t forgetting. An exercise on getting in-touch with our emotions. An exercise on addressing and validating our feelings Being grateful with unconditional love and forgiveness Core Emotions: https://www.interaction-design.org/literature/article/putting-some-emotion-into-your-design-plutchik-s-wheel-of-emotions You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)
This past week, I published an article addressing the cultural insensitivities of Queer Eye Japan. Lots of learnings and also four key lessons to share with you. In this episode, we cover: Feedback from the show Following Western advice all of my life as a queer Asian man Why Western ideologies don’t work for Asians Embracing the edits Doubting myself before publishing the article Why all of our intersections and identities matter Why it’s important to focus on the good Resources: My Culture is Not Your Toy: A Gay Japanese Man’s Perspective on Queer Eye Japan Netflix’s ‘Queer Eye: We’re in Japan!’ highlights a big problem with mainstream LGBTQ advocacy You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com) Facebook (facebook.com/stevenwakabayashi) Twitter (twitter.com/wakuu) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) So much love for you and I’ll talk to you later. Bye! ♥️
Many of my Asian friends and I have experienced parenting in the form of helicopter parenting or Asian guilt to motivate us. After decades of conditioning, this becomes ingrained as a part of our psyche. And to be honest, for me, I’m still navigating and figuring out whenever I make a decision if I am being true to my heart center or doing it out of Asian guilt. “I have to do this to be a good Asian son”. In this episode, we cover: My story of how I defied being a doctor Being compassionate with my family and their expectations Finding a career that my family doesn’t understand Filial piety and impact on us Compensatory strategies of being gay Is it wrong to defy parental expectations Why not following our truth has health consequences Tips on how to manage parental expectations What are the top 5 regrets of dying patients Resources: Gabor Mate - When the Body Says No, The Cost of Hidden Stress Bronnie Ware - Regrets of the Dying You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com) Facebook (facebook.com/stevenwakabayashi) Twitter (twitter.com/wakuu) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) So much love for you and I’ll talk to you later. Bye! ♥️
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