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An experienced litigator who has handled hundreds of civil and criminal cases, Basyle (“Boz”) Tchividjian has dedicated his career to empowering survivors of sexual abuse, sexual assault, and sexual harassment to step forward and seek justice against perpetrators and the institutions legally responsible for their trauma. His current practice focuses almost exclusively on representing child…Read more →

Special Delivery, Part 2 | Stacie Tchividjian Exodus 15:1-5

Special Delivery, Part 1 | Stacie Tchividjian Exodus 14:10-14

Table Talk with Tullian & Stacie Tchividjian

From Shore to Shore | Stacie Tchividjian Matthew 14:22-33

'Table Talk' with Pastor Tullian and Stacie Tchividjian

Be blessed as you listen to 'Table Talk' with Tullian Tchividjian and his daughter, Genna Tchividjian.

Boz Tchividjian, attorney and advocate for abuse survivors joins Amy Fritz on the Untangled Faith podcast to answer your questions and talk about fighting against abuse in the church. What's his origin story as an attorney? The origins of GRACE. Thoughts on the Us v Them messaging from many churches. NDAs Who is the Ronan Farrow or Jody Kantor of  #churchtoo reporting? Who did Billy Graham vote for? (Just kidding. Boz didn't completely clear this one up for us!) (This episode originally aired in May 2022) Links: Sexual Abuse Attorney For Victims | Boz Tchividjian Sexual Abuse Lawyer (bozlawpa.com) https://bozlawpa.com GRACE: GRACE (netgrace.org) https://www.netgrace.org Diane Langberg at the Caring Well Conference: Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores - Diane Langberg on Vimeo https://vimeo.com/365071832 Boz at the Caring Well Conference: Winter Inside the Church and Hope for Spring - Boz Tchividjian on Vimeo https://vimeo.com/365039986   Related Episodes: https://untangledfaithpodcast.com/2023/02/22/71-in-the-dark-spiritual-and-ethical-implications-of-ramsey-solutions-updated-employee-agreement/ https:///untangledfaithpodcast.com/2023/03/01/72-unraveling-abuse-in-the-church-pete-singer-on-third-party-investigations-trauma-informed-practices/Bo Support the show: Subscribe to my newsletter: https://untangledfaith.substack.com Join us on Patreon: https://patreon.com/untangledfaith This podcast is sponsored by Faithful Counseling. For more information and for 10% off your first month, visit Faithful Counseling- https://faithfulcounseling.com/untangled Where you can find me: Youtube channel- https://youtube.com/channel/UCPfFk-I6QShXXvEpSFaJOvg https://untangledfaithpodcast.com https://instagram.com/untangledfaith  https://instagram.com/amyhenningfritz https://twitter.com/faithuntangled https://twitter.com/amyfritz   Host/Creator: Amy Fritz Producers: Michele Pjanic Phil and Susan Perdue Pam Forsythe Chelle Taylor

Be blessed as you listen to 'Table Talk' with Tullian & Stacie Tchividjian

"Never Gonna Give You Up" | Stacie Tchividjian Hosea 1:2

Over the past five years, devastating reports of abuse have surfaced within the institution millions of people trust the most—the Church. How does this happen and what can we do? Boz Tchividjian, Billy Graham's grandson, sits down with Nika Spaulding and Rebecca Carrell to talk about red flags and redemption.To reach Boz Tchividjian, go to to https://bozlawpa.com/To purchase When Narcissism Comes to Church, click here: https://www.amazon.com/When-Narcissism-Comes-Church-Community/dp/0830841598If you enjoy the show, would you please consider rating and reviewing Honestly, Though? Those reviews help others find us in the PodUniverse, and we deeply appreciate the love! Also, you can reach out to us personally to join the conversation on the following platforms:Rebecca Carrell: https://www.rebeccacarrell.com/ ; IG - @RebeccaCarrell ; Twitter: @RebeccaACarrell ; FB - Rebecca Ashbrook CarrellLiz Rodriguez: IG: @lizannrodriguez ; FB - Liz Rodriguez - https://www.facebook.com/liz.rodriguez.92775Nika Spaulding: stjudeoakcliff.org ; IG - @NikaAdidas ; Twitter - @NikaAdidasWe have the world's best producer! Are you interested in podcasting? Do you know someone who is? Taylor Standridge can help with audio engineering, production, editing, show mapping, and coaching. Connect with Taylor at taylorstandridge1@gmail.com or on Twitter: @TBStandridge

Are you struggling to align your team's efforts to achieve the impact you know your organization is capable of? Does it feel like things are just a little out of sync?Maybe all you need to do is find your rhythm. Creating consistent rhythms in your organization can be an extremely effective tool for collaboration and efficiency, but it's not just about working harder. Rest is an essential part of these rhythms and it's important to incorporate spaces of rest within the organization and the team if you hope to truly scale your impact. Most importantly though, utilizing rhythms enables you to truly live into the values of your organization by creating the space to stay focused on the most important things and to lift the voices of everybody in the room. In this episode, Tucker and Sarah are joined by Charlee Tchividjian and Alessandra Thomas, the CEO and Director of Operations of Every Mother's Advocate, to discuss how to establish clear and consistent rhythms within a team, and how to scale those rhythms as your organization grows. Implementing this practice can help you to build a flat organization, where each member of your staff is empowered to be the CEO of their responsibilities and take ownership of your organization's mission.  Need to create a strategic plan (or breathe life into your existing one)? Schedule a free Design Session and we'll explore the areas of opportunity and co-create a plan that fits your organization's needs and budget.Schedule a Design Session

"Who am I?" | Stacie Tchividjian We hope this message encourages you. Colossians 3:1-4

"Exiles in Waiting" | Stacie Tchividjian Jeremiah 29:11

Message from Guest Speaker on November 6, 2022

Be blessed with today's sermon, delivered by Stacie Tchividjian. Romans 6:23

Today I speak with IFBB Pro Angeles Burke, lifestyle and wellness consultant and VIP competitive coach and transformation coach for Bombshell Fitness. Angeles started competing in 2011 and earned her Pro status in 2013. She has competed in over 25 shows! In 2021, she returned to the stage for the first time since 2016! She talks about how the standards have changed in the bikini division since she first started competing and how she planned to bring a better package than she did in 2016. Angeles shares the red flags she noticed that told her it was time to take a break from the stage. Even though she wasn't competing, she staying in the sport as a coach.   Angeles shares her insight into adapting from season to season and how her mentality has changed when it comes to making choices around food. As a coach, Angeles talks about the importance of open communication between coach and client.   Angeles truly lives the bodybuilding lifestyle. She shares valuable information as a long term competitor and coach. You don't want to miss this interview!     Topics covered include: -Mental health -relationship with body -relationship with food -motivation Post show -changes in the bikini division -competing in the 2015 Olympia -habits to support goals -setting the example for her step-children -building a support system   CONNECT WITH CELESTE: Website: http://www.celestial.fit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/celestial_fit/ All Links: http://www.celestial.fit/links.html CONNECT WITH ANGELES: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelestchividjian/   TIME STAMPS 1:00 introduction 2:35 returning to the stage after a long hiatus 7:40 knowing when to take a break 11:50 changes in how she views her body and daily habits 22:24 post-show expectations 27:30 how her Why has changed over time and lessons learned through bodybuilding 36:20 competing for the wrong reasons 45:58 approach as a coach with Bombshell 52:34 advice for competitors CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR THE FREE FOOD RELATIONSHIP COACHING SERIES   CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR THE FREE POST SHOW BLUES COACHING SERIES   LEARN MORE AND APPLY FOR MY 5 WEEK FOOD RELATIONSHIP HEALING & DISCOVERY COACHING PROGRAM   FOR OTHER FREE RESOURCES, LIVE EVENTS, AND WAYS TO WORK WITH CELESTE CLICK HERE

This week's sermon was delivered by Stacie Tchividjian. If you have places in your life that feel barren, void and empty…take a listen as Stacie shares the story of Hannah from 1 Samuel 1:4-18.

Today's sermon was delivered by Stacie Tchividjian. Be blessed as she preaches from 1 Samuel 1:4-18.

Be blessed as you listen to today's sermon, delivered by Stacie Tchividjian (Tullian's wife).

Today we are talking to Billy Graham's Grandson Boz Tchividjian. Boz is a hero for victims of sexual abuse. An experienced litigator who has handled hundreds of civil and criminal cases, Basyle (“Boz”) Tchividjian has dedicated his career to empowering survivors of sexual abuse, sexual assault, and sexual harassment to step forward and seek justice against perpetrators and the institutions legally responsible for their trauma. His current practice focuses almost exclusively on representing child and adult abuse survivors throughout the country. More here: https://bozlawpa.com. Link: "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkHqYDByPRI --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4/support

"Boz Tchividjian, the grandson of world renowned evangelist Billy Graham, is reportedly no longer identifying himself with the term "evangelical," joining many others who have abandoned the term in the wake of the election of President Donald Trump. "I don't identify myself with that term any more," Tchividjian, an activist who speaks out against sexual abuse in the church, was quoted as saying in a Nov. 3 article focusing on "exvangelicals" published by the British news outlet The Guardian. "Words matter," Tchividjian said. "And 'evangelical' isn't like Baptist or Episcopalian, which can be clearly defined. The minute you use that term to someone, "you're defined by how they interpret it." As 2016 presidential election exit polls showed that 81 percent of people who identified as white evangelicals voted for Trump and as Trump has done much in his first year in office to appeal to the conservative evangelical vote, the word "evangelical" has increasingly become associated with the Trump presidency. Considering that "evangelical" a word that most people don't actually know the true definition of or who it refers to, it has begun to take on a very political connotation for many Americans. "Because we have such a broad and vague definition of evangelical, one person could automatically assume every evangelical is a Trump supporter, while another could think they're anti-Trump, because that exists as well," Tchividjian explained. "We're looking at faith through a political lens, and that's unfortunate and dangerous." The Christian Post reached out to Tchividjian for further comment on his remarks to The Guardian and will provide an update if a response is received." --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4/support

Stacie Tchividjian delivers today's message on the first chapter of Ruth. We trust it will bless you! https://thesanctuaryjupiter.com

Stacie Tchividjian delivers today's message on the first chapter of Ruth. We trust it will bless you!

Boz Tchividjian, attorney and advocate for abuse survivors joins Amy Fritz on the Untangled Faith podcast to answer your questions. What's his origin story as an attorney? The origins of GRACE. Thoughts on the Us v Them messaging from many churches. NDAs Who is the Ronan Farrow or Jody Kantor of  #churchtoo reporting? Who did Billy Graham vote for? (Just kidding. Boz didn't completely clear this one up for us!) Links: Sexual Abuse Attorney For Victims | Boz Tchividjian Sexual Abuse Lawyer (bozlawpa.com) GRACE: GRACE (netgrace.org) Diane Langberg at the Caring Well Conference: Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores - Diane Langberg on Vimeo Boz at the Caring Well Conference: Winter Inside the Church and Hope for Spring - Boz Tchividjian on Vimeo   Support the show: Newsletter signup Patreon membership community Paypal Donation  Buy me a coffee Come chat with me! Twitter: Amy Fritz Untangled Faith Instagram: Amy Fritz Untangled Faith Website: Untangled Faith Host/Creator: Amy Fritz Producer: Michelle Pjanic

Stacie Tchividjian preaches today at The Sanctuary. Luke 15:1-2; 11-32 https://thesanctuaryfl.org

A Hero for Victims of Sexual Abuse with guest Boz Tchividjian About Boz: An experienced litigator who has handled hundreds of civil and criminal cases, Basyle (“Boz”) Tchividjian has dedicated his career to empowering survivors of sexual abuse, sexual assault, and sexual harassment to step forward and seek justice against perpetrators and the institutions legally responsible for their trauma. His current practice focuses almost exclusively on representing child and adult abuse survivors throughout the country. More here: https://bozlawpa.com #progressiveChristianity #GodisGrey #exvangelical Catch new episodes every Wednesday! Purchase my memoir: ON HER KNEES https://www.godisgrey.com/projects Audible version: ON HER KNEES https://www.audible.com/pd/On-Her-Kne... SUBSCRIBE to God is Grey: https://bit.ly/2TJAMH4 PODCAST https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... God is Grey MERCH https://teespring.com/stores/godisgrey SUPPORT: Patreon: https://bit.ly/2ruRKwa One time donation: https://bit.ly/2UjRSfe About God is Grey: Your guide to becoming an inquisitive, fearless, SEX POSITIVE, free-thinking Christian in the modern world. Follow God is Grey: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PRSdHu TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2EysSw5 In The Grey is done in partnership with Terra Firma Audio: https://www.terrafirmaaudio.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's show, it is my pleasure to be speaking with Boz Tchividjian of GRACE - Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment: Empowering Christian communities to recognise, prevent, and respond to abuse. Boz is a blessing, and a good man, like his Grandad, the late great Billy Graham.

"There is no other Stream" | Stacie Tchividjian

Support the Show:https://www.patreon.com/preacherboys Purchase a Preacher Boys shirt, mask, sticker, or other merch to rep the show! https://www.teepublic.com/user/preacher-boys-podcast_______________________________________________________Purchase a copy of The Child Safeguarding Policy Guide here: https://amzn.to/3dp2Qdu​_______________________________________________________Contact Boz Tchividjian: https://www.landispa.com/attorneys/boz-tchividjian/386-734-3451boz@landispa.com_______________________________________________________An experienced litigator who has handled hundreds of civil and criminal cases, Boz Tchividjian has dedicated his career to empowering survivors of sexual abuse, sexual assault, and sexual harassment to seek justice against perpetrators, as well as employers and other institutions who fail to protect people from abuse. Prior to joining the firm as a civil litigator in 2001, Boz served as an Assistant State Attorney in the 7th Judicial Circuit of Florida, where he created the first Sex Crimes Division at the Office of the State Attorney and served as Division Chief. In that position, Boz personally prosecuted hundreds of sexual victimization cases and supervised the prosecution of thousands more.Boz is the Founder of GRACE, an internationally recognized nonprofit organization that equips religious organizations with the tools they need to correctly respond to allegations of sexual abuse and educates them on how to create safeguards to protect children in their communities. As a renowned expert on sexual abuse, particularly within faith communities, Boz has been widely quoted in media outlets such as The Washington Post, The New York Times, The Huffington Post, and NBC Nightly News.Boz is the co-author of  The Child Safeguarding Policy Guide, a handbook for religious institutions looking to improve their child protection policies. He has also published scholarly articles such as, “Predators and Propensity: The Proper Approach for Determining the Admissibility of Prior Bad Acts Evidence in Child Sexual Abuse Prosecutions” (American Journal of Criminal Law) and “Catching American Sex Offenders Overseas: A Proposal for a Federal Mandated Reporting Law” (UMKC Law Review). Boz also wrote a weekly column for the Religious News Service.Boz also served as a professor at Liberty University School of Law where he taught employment law, criminal law and procedure, and child abuse law. Boz currently serves as an adjunct professor at Stetson University where he teaches employment law and other business law-related courses.Boz is Of Counsel with the firm and represents abuse victims from around the country.Areas of Practice:Sexual AbuseChild sexual abuseAdult sexual assaultWorkplace sexual harassment and discriminationAll other forms of discrimination and harassment in the workplaceGeneral employment lawPersonal injuryEducation:Samford University Cumberland School of Law, JDStetson University, BABar Admissions:State of Florida, 1993_______________________________________________________Find more stories regarding the IFB movement by visiting:preacherboysdoc.comhttps://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdochttps://twitter.com/preacherboysdochttps://www.instagram.com/preacherboysdoc/To connect with a community who share the Preacher Boys Podcast mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

On this week's episode of Adopting Hope, Sasha and Joyce welcome mother and daughter, Lisa Tchividjian and Charlee Tchividjian-Sherry. Lisa and Charlee share a passion for single mothers and for children who are at-risk for entering the foster care system.  Lisa and her husband, Stephan, began fostering when their three biological children were teenagers. Now, Charlee is the Founder and Executive Director of Ēma, a ministry that exists to transform the lives of young, single mothers and children in crisis though mentoring relationships, parental education, and career development. Tune in to hear about Lisa's experience as a foster mother, as well Charlee's experience as a child growing up in a home that welcomed foster children, and how those experiences guided them to support birth mothers. Adopting Hope is a production of Christianity Today. Produced by Mike Cosper, Joyce Koo Dalrymple, and Sasha Parker Edited and mixed by Alex Carter Theme song “We've Got This Hope” by Ellie Holcomb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this 100th episode of The Speaking Out On Sex Abuse Podcast, we interview Boz Tchividjian, attorney and founder and Executive Director of G.R.A.C.E. Boz talks about the judicial system being overburdened during the COVID-19 quarantines, how abuse is on the rise, and how these issues are complex. We discuss ways individuals, advocates, and churches can prepare to help these victims seek help. Intro-- Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoiseOutro-- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284Transcript for podcast available here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ZfeEBgCeRcfSHfQB76v_Aa2ef0Yook0HNG8ctZUzM1U/edit?usp=sharing

In this episode, Nick and Allison interview Boz Tchividjian, founder of G.R.A.C.E. (Godly Responses to Abuse in the Church), to talk about the state of the church as it relates to abuse. We also talk about Boz's speech at the Southern Baptist Convention and the impact that had.For a snapshot of that speech:https://baptistnews.com/article/caring-well-expert-berates-southern-baptists-for-ignoring-sexual-abuse/#.XqM3IZp7lE4If you want to support us, please consider giving at our Patreon page!

Boz Tchividjian is the grandson of famed evangelist Billy Graham and has made it his mission to fight sexual abuse in ministries. A former prosecutor, Tchividjian is the founder of the organization GRACE, Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment. Recently Tchividjian spoke with us about GRACE and how churches can do a better job at protecting victims and fighting abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Boz Tchividjian is the grandson of famed evangelist Billy Graham and has made it his mission to fight sexual abuse in ministries. A former prosecutor, Tchividjian is the founder of the organization GRACE, Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment. Recently Tchividjian spoke with us about GRACE and how churches can do a better job at protecting victims and fighting abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Boz Tchividjian is the grandson of famed evangelist Billy Graham and has made it his mission to fight sexual abuse in ministries. A former prosecutor, Tchividjian is the founder of the organization GRACE, Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment. Recently Tchividjian spoke with us about GRACE and how churches can do a better job at protecting victims and fighting abuse.

This week, hear Warren Smith’s conversation with lawyer, former prosecutor, and the founder of GRACE, Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment.

William Graham Tullian Tchividjian Pronounced: “TUHL-ee-uhn” (like Tertullian) and “CHA-vi-jin” (like Religion). Tullian is a graduate of Columbia International University, where he received a degree in Philosophy, and Reformed Theological Seminary in Orlando, where he earned his Master of Divinity. A grandson of (Evangelist) Billy and Ruth Graham, Tullian was the Founding Pastor of the former New City Church (in Fort Lauderdale, Florida) which merged with the historic Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church in 2009. He served there as Senior Pastor until June 2015. During his time at Coral Ridge, Tullian founded LIBERATE—a ministry that sought to “connect God's inexhaustible grace to an exhausted world” through annual conferences (2011–2015), training, book and music publishing, daily blog posts, a daily radio program, and a weekly TV broadcast. Tullian has written eight books including, It Is Finished: 365 Days of Good News (2015), One Way Love: Inexhaustible Grace for an Exhausted World  (2013), Glorious Ruin: How Suffering Sets You Free (2012), and Jesus + Nothing = Everything (2011) which won Christianity Today's Book of the Year in 2011. Both “Glorious Ruin” and “Jesus + Nothing = Everything” were ECPA finalists for Book of the Year. He has also served as a Contributing Editor to various magazines and journals. Tullian has traveled extensively around the USA to speak at conferences, churches, universities, and seminaries. Tchividjian has appeared on Fox & Friends, Sean Hannity, 60 Minutes, CBS News, The Ingraham Angle, Morning Joe, the 700 Club, and many other TV and radio outlets. After a season of self-destruction leading up to, and following, his resignation from Coral Ridge in June 2015, Tullian is now married to Stacie, and together they have five children and two grandchildren. They recently launched The Sanctuary Church. Tullian longs to see broken people encounter God's boundless love.

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DISCLAIMER: This message contains adult themes and is not intended for little ears   Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel   John 1:5 “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”    Dr. Jeff Waibel is the Director of Clinical Services at Gateway Woods Family Services, a faith-based human services organization with locations in Indiana and Illinois. Dr. Waibel oversees the residential program located in Leo, IN, which provides residential treatment to at-risk teens with addictions, trauma, and behavioral and mental health challenges. He also supervises Home Based Services at Gateway Woods. Dr. Waibel serves on a number of state committees in Indiana, including the Psychotropic Medication Advisory Committee, the Anti-Trafficking Network, IARCA Residential and Home Based Work Groups, and the Indiana Coalition for Family Based Services. Dr. Waibel obtained his doctorate in Education from Indiana Wesleyan University, a Master's degree in Education from Indiana Wesleyan University, a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of Michigan, and a Bachelor of Science degree from Michigan State University. Dr. Waibel is a licensed social worker in Indiana.   For the past nine years, Dr. Waibel has also served as a bi-vocational pastor at the Apostolic Christian Church in Leo, IN. He and his wife Margo have been married for 15 years and have three children aged 11, 9, and 6. Dr. Waibel lives in Grabill, Indiana.   Gateway Woods Polaris Project Map Polaris Project The National Human Trafficking Hotline Number: 1-888-373-7888 David Platt's Sermon Dr. Kanani Titchen's Ted Talk Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy   “Only the gospel can truly save you. The gospel doesn't make bad people good; it makes dead people alive...the gospel is God's acceptance of us based on what Christ has done, not on what we can do.” – Tchividjian, Tullian., Surprised by Grace: God's Relentless Pursuit of Rebels (p.56)   Thanks to our sponsor, Sexual Wholeness   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Also, check out our Patreon Page to find out how to gain access to additional podcasts and freebies!   Gospel Scripture:    Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”  

Today's conversation is extremely timely! This week, evangelist Billy Graham passed away at 99 years old. His influence can be seen throughout America. On this episode of the Born to Be podcast, Daron and Ryan talk to Billy Graham's grandson, Tullian Tchividjian (yes, that's correct. I checked the spelling three times!) Tullian Tchividjian isn't your average pastor. He has experienced extreme loss and failure. This is a powerfully raw conversation, where Tullian opens up about his divorce and infidelity, as well as his misunderstanding of his own identity. Ultimately, it all comes down to the power of God's grace in our lives, and Tullian has spent the past three years of his life diving into this grace. From www.tullian.net:A grandson of (Evangelist) Billy and Ruth Graham, Tullian was the Founding Pastor of the former New City Church (in Fort Lauderdale, Florida) which merged with the historic Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church in 2009. He served there as Senior Pastor until June 2015. During his time at Coral Ridge, Tullian founded LIBERATE—a ministry that sought to “connect God's inexhaustible grace to an exhausted world” through annual conferences (2011–2015), training, book and music publishing, daily blog posts, a daily radio program, and a weekly TV broadcast. Tullian Tchividjian has written several best selling books, including Jesus + Nothing = Everything which won Christianity Today's Book of the Year in 2011. Quotes and Notes from today's episode: “The purpose behind the suffering you are going through is to kick you into a new freedom from false definitions of who you are.” “The world isn't scandalized by our freedom, but by our fakeness.” “It's when we are at the bottom, on our back, is when God shows us something about who we are and Who He is.” Follow on social @TullianT Visit https://www.tullian.net/ About the Born to Be Podcast The Born to Be Podcast is focused on helping you discover your unique calling and purpose in life. We believe you were created on purpose and for a purpose. Each week, we deliver inspiration and interviews with today's top thought leaders who are living out their unique calling. Are you ready to discover your true identity and become who you were born to be? Hosted by Daron Earlewine, popular radio host, pastor, and the creator of Pub Theology, Radio Theology, and Spiritual DNA. http://daronearlewine.com/borntobe

On the Part 2 of our interview with Tullian Tchividjian and his wife, Stacie: What are the boundaries pastors and churches can set for themselves to avoid adultery? What do pastors and people in ministry do with secret sin? What's your view on church discipline? What would you tell your young self just starting in ministry? This episode is dedicated to Billy Graham. RIP. Thank you to our sponsor, Marriage Supply. www.marriagesupply.com Email us at hello@freesexpod.com

Tray and Melody are joined by Boz Tchividjian to discuss sexual abuse in the Church, grace and how we can assist in creating cultures of healing. God placed on his heart to take what you learn to train and equip his church to be the safest place for those who have been hurt to heal and for those that are doing the hurting. Boz, Tray and Mel discuss a topic that many people don’t want too discuss because it is messy and the victim has to live with the trauma for the rest of their lives.   Boz reflects back on how he ended up doing what it is he is doing and how after going to law school he wanted to be a prosecutor, but God really put the feeling of compassion for those who suffered from sexual abuse and through many experiences and situations he has found a passion at equipping the church to handle these issues head on.    Professor Boz Tchividjian is a former child abuse prosecutor who teaches Child Abuse and the Law and several other courses at Liberty Law. As a prosecutor for more than eight years, he created the first “Crimes Against Children” division at the office off the State attorney in the 7th Judicial Circuit of Florida. As a division chief, he was personally responsible for prosecuting hundreds of cases of child sexual abuse. He has spent in excess of 17 years using what he learned as a prosecutor to train and equip prosecutors, investigators, social workers, and medical personnel in handling various aspects of child sexual abuse cases.    Tchividjian is the founder and executive director of GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment), an organization that educates and equips faith communities to correctly respond to sexual abuse disclosures, while providing practical guidance on how to protect children and serve survivors.   He was a columnist for Religion News Service serving as an expert on issues related to child abuse and child protection. His weekly column was focused on the intersection of abuse and faith communities. His columns can now be found at www.netgrace.org/blog   He has also written a mini book entitled, Protecting Children from Abuse at Church: Steps to Prevent and Respond. As well he has authored numerous law journal articles related to the issue of child sexual abuse. His article titled, “Catching American Sex Offenders Overseas: A Proposal for a Federal International Mandated Reporting Law,” was published in the spring 2015 edition of the University of Missouri-Kansas City Law Review.   He is the third eldest grandchild of Reverend Billy Graham and is the co-author of a book titled, Thank you, Billy.

Find the show notes and more at https://waiting-tables.com. Q. Why did you write this book? Deepak: There are a few reasons why I studied the subject and wrote this book. First, as a pastor who supervises our children’s ministry and youth staff, I was surprised at how little information was available to help us think about preventing abuse in church settings. And what little was available was out of print. I read and studied in order to help our local church think about how to build a better firewall to prevent child abuse. Second, as a pastor of counseling, I once had a chance to talk to Dr. Anna Salter, who is one of the nation’s leading experts on sexual offenders. I asked her about her thoughts on how churches handle sexual abuse…and well, let’s just say she was very clear on how churches do a poor job in preventing and responding to child abuse. That put an idea in my head that something needed to be written. Third, and finally, I was at a conference geared at helping churches prevent child abuse, and I was surprised that the only people speaking were psychologists and lawyers, none of whom had ever worked at a church before. They said a lot of helpful things, but they were some things I felt like they didn’t “get” because they were not coming from the perspective of working on the inside of a church. Somebody needed to say something from the perspective of a pastor who spends his days laboring inside of a church. All of these reason conspired together to make me write the book. Q. Is child abuse in the church really a problem? Why is it such a pressing need today? Deepak: To get a greater sense of the problem, a quick statistical overview of child abuse is helpful: There are approximately 747,000 registered sex offenders in the U.S. alone.[^fn1] There are more than 100,000 sexual offenders who fail to report every year.[^fn2] As many as one in three girls and one in four boys will be sexually abused at some point in their childhood.[^fn3]  Approximately thirty percent of all cases are reported to authorities—meaning that seventy percent never get proper attention or prosecution.[^fn4] Over 63,000 cases of child sexual abuse were reported in 2010.[^fn5] Offenders typically prey on children they know, not strangers. Most perpetrators are acquaintances, but as many as forty-seven percent are family or extended family.[^fn6] Almost half (forty-seven percent) of the offenders who sexually assaulted victims under age six were family members, compared with forty-two percent of who assaulted youth ages six through eleven, and twenty-four percent who assaulted juveniles ages twelve through seventeen.[^fn7] The Department of Justice reports that children under age twelve make up half of all victims of forced sodomy, forced fondling, or sexual assault with an object.[^fn8] Numerous experts have made it clear that sexual predators often have not just one or two victims, but dozens. The Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study found that each child molester averages twelve child victims and seventy-one acts of molestation. An earlier study by Dr. Gene Abel found that out of 561 sexual offenders interviewed there were more than 291,000 incidents involving more than 195,000 total victims. This same study found that only three percent of these sexual offenders have a chance of getting caught.[^fn9] A 2007 FBI report states the following: One out of five girls will be sexually molested before her eighteenth birthday; One out of six boys will be sexually molested before his eighteenth birthday; One out of every seven victims of sexual assault reported to law enforcement agencies was under age six; and Forty percent of the offenders who victimized children under age six were juveniles (under eighteen).[^fn10] Appalling, isn’t it? A quick glance at the numbers shows how pervasive the problem is. This fills out the Bible’s picture of sin with more specifics, helping us to see how common sexual and physical abuse is in our society. Q. What does Scripture teach us about preventing abuse and protecting children? There is plenty in Scripture, where the Bible shows evil nature of abusing someone else – one example, the rape of Tamar by her brother, Amnon, in 1 Sam. 13. Churches have a responsibility to steward the gift of children entrusted to them. The disciples shoed them away, but Jesus received them and blessed them (Mark 10:13-16). The culture of first-century Jerusalem didn’t value children, but Jesus saw them as immensely valuable, and so should we. He said whoever welcomes children in his name shows they also welcome Christ and God the Father (Mark 9:36-37). Scripture teaches us that God has a special burden for the young, weak, oppressed, and the feeble. So, as stewards of all that he has given us and made, we also should be like God. Deut 10:18, Isai. 1:17; James 1:27. Q. Why are churches particularly vulnerable? Deepak: Consider a few reasons… Christians are naïve. Because Christians are generally trusting folks, and sexual abusers know this fact, an offender will take advantage of a churchgoer’s trust. Christians are ignorant. Because Christians don’t know the extent of the problem, they often don’t guard against it. And this makes children vulnerable. Abuse of authority. Child abusers will use positions of authority to gain access to children and abuse them. In the case of one child abuser, he would show up at churches and volunteer to be the children’s choir director after the church got to know him. Sadly, he was not just able to do this once, but several times. Easy access to children. Sexual offenders take advantage of the fact that churches are always looking for help with children’s ministry and are often facing shortages of volunteers. They know the children’s ministry staff are over-worked and desperate for help. These are just a few reasons. There are several others I list in the book. Q. How does an incorrect view of grace help put churches at risk? Deepak: If a sexual offender is actually caught, he or she counts on what Dietrich Bonhoeffer referred to as cheap grace—grace that comes freely and with very little cost. Abusers are not dumb. They know that if they cry, offer words of contrition, and promise never to do it again, they are very likely not to have to face significant consequences. Pastors and churches are very forgiving. They are quick to apply the gospel—and very, very slow to apply the consequences that come from the law.[^fn11] The typical offender will say something like, “I’m soooo sorry (tears rolling down his face). This was wrong; and I promise I will never do this again.” He is very emotional and, from the look of it, appears to be broken over his sin. What would you do? I’d venture to say many of us would remind him of God’s love for him, let the whole thing go, and put the incident(s) behind us. But sadly, when we do that, we embolden the offender to hurt children again because he got away with it. Q. What are some misconceptions about child abusers in the church? Deepak: One of the most common myths about sexual offenders is that they will be strangers who take away your child. Power predators do exist. They scope out playgrounds or other places with kids to abduct children and steal their lives. Jaycee Dugaard knows this reality all too well. But in church and family settings, our problem is much less often with a stranger than it is with those whose lives regularly intersect with ours: fellow church attenders, childcare workers in the nursery, family members, and neighbors—the people we know, not the people we don’t know. Boz Tchividjian, executive director of Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment (G.R.A.C.E.), makes this point: “It is common knowledge that most children are not sexually victimized by strangers. In fact, one study found that only 10 percent of child molesters molest children that they don’t know.”[^fn12] Many children are taught from an early age not to talk to strangers. But strangers are not as much of a problem as some who live among us every day. Teaching our children to be wary of strangers can give us a false sense of security. What parents often ignore is the familiar adult who is too friendly with our kids. Consider the following: More than eighty percent of the time, victims of child abuse know their abusers. Most abuse takes place within the context of an ongoing relationship. Some child abusers are married and abuse their own children.[^fn13] Most children know how to respond to an unwelcome stranger, but they're uncertain what to do when a "safe" adult makes them uncomfortable. Consequently, we will spend much of our time considering how to protect against the “safe” adult who is a persuasion predator. Q. What Is the Typical Profile for a Sexual Predator? Pretend you’re taking a multiple choice test. Take a look at the list below and make your best guess at who you think might fit the profile for a sexual offender. A. A young, single male architect B. A “soccer mom” with four children D. A pediatrician E. A Catholic priest F. A public school teacher G. None of the above H. A and D only I. All of the above The correct answer is “H.” While single males are the most likely, we can’t assume this to be the only type of predator. There are some instances when women get trapped in this perverse sin. Most commonly, one would think of a school teacher who is leading teenage boys astray with inappropriate sexual encounters. But there are other categories of female offenders, including some with sadistic tendencies, and those who are coerced by a male partner to abuse children.[^fn14] In fact, predators come in all types—single and married; blue and white collar; educated and uneducated; rich, middle class, and poor. In examining a range of sexual offender cases, I’ve found examples in almost every category of work—college professor, athletic director of a private school, Catholic priest, doctor, lawyer, pastor, and many other professionals. We can’t limit sexual offenders to just one generic profile. Q. Can you tell us about the type of Predators? Deepak: There are two types of sexual predators—the power predator and the persuasion predator.[^fn15] Both wreak great havoc in the lives of their victims. Both are problematic for police, parents, and the societies in which they live, and they have very different ways of accomplishing their evil ends. The power predator takes a child by sheer force. He overtakes his victim by overpowering her and forcing her into captivity. You can think in terms of a child grabbed in a park or a schoolyard, dragged into a car, and driven off without the strength or ability to stop the sexual offender. Bestselling author and risk-assessment expert Gavin de Beker describes it this way: “The power predator charges like a bear, unmistakably committing to his attack. Because of this, he cannot easily retreat and say there was merely a misunderstanding. Accordingly, he strikes only when he feels certain he’ll prevail.”[^fn16] Almost twenty years ago, Jaycee Dugaard was a young girl on her way to the school bus when Philip Craig and his wife Nancy Garrido abducted her. Nancy had scouted out Jaycee’s path to school, and then one morning, just as Jaycee started walking down the road, the couple drove alongside her. Philip pulled out a stun gun, shocked the girl, and then Nancy pulled her into the back of the car. Philip would later say to his wife, “I can’t believe we got away with this.”[^fn17] For many years after her abduction, Jaycee was a sex slave, locked up in a shed in the backyard of Philip and Nancy’s home. In just one fleeting moment, Jaycee was robbed of her life and childhood innocence. Enduring several years of rape is a nightmare scenario, but Jaycee stayed alive and eventually escaped.[^fn18] Unlike Jaycee, many victims of a power predator are never heard from again. The persuasion predator uses his personality, charm, and influence to convince others that he is trustworthy, and then at the right time strikes to abuse children. You might think about the illustration of a wolf in sheep’s clothing: The wolf intends to harm others but doesn’t want them to discover his plans and so puts on the appearance of an innocent sheep. In church settings we are often less focused on power predators. If you have a good structural set-up in your children’s ministry wing (check-in desk, half-doors on classrooms, hall monitors, etc.) and some type of security check-in system, that does a lot to keep the power predator at bay. The persuasion predator is far more likely to infiltrate your church setting. Q. How do we train volunteers to prevent abuse? You need to talk about it, teaching them what it is, teach them how to respond when it happens, and teach them how to care for victims. The following are some basic questions that staff and volunteers need to consider in regards to abuse and neglect: What do I do if I suspect or observe that a child has been physically, emotionally, or sexually abused? Who is the point of contact at church if I suspect or witness abuse? What responsibility do I have to report child abuse and neglect to the police or Child Protective Services (CPS)? Are there common characteristics of sexual offenders for which I can be on the alert? What happens if a child touches me inappropriately? How will the church respond to allegations or admission of child abuse? How can I best minister to a child who has been abused or neglected? What additional care is required for a child who is in foster care? How can I guard myself from accusations? What happens if a sexual offender starts attending our church? An important goal of this training is to develop a healthy level of skepticism among the staff and volunteers. You don’t want your staff or volunteers to make false assumptions about child abusers but to be vigilant about protecting kids at all times. What kind of skepticism is healthy? You don’t want to make your workers paranoid that there’s a sexual predator lurking behind every corner, but you don’t want to carelessly assume that just because someone is a self-professing Christian, it is safe to give him or her responsibility for your church’s kids. Take, for example, a situation that might not phase you the first time, or may not even bother your volunteers if it is repeated. Jonathan is a nice, single guy, and he has been around the church for several years. He comes to church regularly and has a few friendships in the church. Last week, when a child needed to be taken to the restroom, Jonathan volunteered to help. Now, that might not set off any alarm bells for you. It doesn’t necessarily have to because Jonathan might be standing in front of a kid screaming at the top of his lungs that he has to go potty or he’s going to have an accident. Most adults will rush a kid to the bathroom in that situation. Nothing to worry about, right? But what if the childcare training made very clear that only women are to take children to the bathroom? More suspicious now, right? If it only happened once, then it doesn’t seem like a big deal. Jonathan might have reacted quickly out of sheer fear of a screaming four-year-old who is about to wet his pants. But if Jonathan repeatedly takes young kids to the restroom and ignores the rules . . . well, then your alarm bells should go off. You shouldn’t pass this off and say, “He must have just forgotten about the rule.” Your healthy skepticism should lead you to say something. If a volunteer senses something might be wrong, the last thing he should do is dismiss it or ignore it. He should be wise and sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s direction, as he thinks about what happened and how he should respond. Q. How do we train parents to prevent abuse? Parents need to understand the problem of abuse. Ignorance is tantamount to saying, “We don’t care” or “We’re too busy to think about this.” Child abusers are a public hazard, and too many parents assume they are safe. Children’s and youth ministry staff can equip parents by offering classes and reading materials. The first step in helping parents is to make sure they know how to teach and instruct their children. Parents are the primary disciplers of their kids (Deuteronomy 6:4–9; Ephesians 6:1). While sex-education classes can be mandated at public schools, it is a bit more difficult to do this in a church. So, the best strategy in equipping the children about sex is to educate and encourage parents in their primary role as disciplers of their children. Help parents to understand what to say to their kids. Church staff should help parents to understand the dreadful nature of child abuse and how to fight against it. Teach basic things like answers to the following questions: What are child abusers like? How do they operate? Which children are most vulnerable? What kind of safety skills should your children have? Who should babysit your kids—and who shouldn’t? What incorrect assumptions do parents typically make about our children’s safety? By answering these questions, we are equipping our parents to understand the problem of abuse. Our goal is to create a congregation full of parents who are ready when abuse happens. They won’t be ignorant or reactive or caught off-guard; they’ll be prepared. This preparation will extend to the church’s children, who will be educated about the problem. Appendix C of this book contains advice about what parents can say to their kids about the problem of sexual abuse. Another step can be to help parents know how to talk to their kids about sex. In order to understand what is wrong (child abuse), children (especially the youngest of kids) need to know what is right (a healthy, God-glorifying biblical sexuality). Too many kids grow up in the church hearing the message that sex is wrong but don’t understand anything about God’s beautiful gift of sex to a man and woman in a covenant marriage. Why don’t kids understand? Because too many parents are scared to talk about sex or be open about it at home, so kids are left to figure things out on their own. Overall, what are pastors, church staff and children’s ministry workers expecting from parents? We are asking parents to: be more open with their kids about sex; teach a positive, redemptive picture about the beauty of sexuality in marriage and the need to stay pure until marriage; communicate with their children—again, in a developmentally appropriate way—what abuse is, how to prevent abuse, and what to do if someone hurts or takes advantage of them; teach kids not to allow anyone to touch them in areas of their body that are covered by a bathing suit; teach children that if they are abused they should keep telling adults until someone takes them seriously.[^fn19] teach kids modesty and decorum with one another and with adults; teach their kids basic safety skills at home. Q. When do we report to the civil authority? Deepak: What standard do we use to decide if we are going to report or not? Many might think you need to have concrete proof, or at least be certain about the abuse before you report. But that sets the standard too high. Rather than waiting until you have reasonable cause to report, you should report as soon as there is reasonable suspicion. To help define the latter term, child safety expert Beth Swagman says that a person has reasonable suspicion when “a reasonable person seeing a similar bruise or hearing a similar story would come to a similar understanding about the probable cause of the bruise or assault. Reasonable suspicion does not imply actual knowledge or certainty, as in, ‘I know what happened!’ Instead, reasonable suspicion suggests that reasonable people have sufficient general knowledge of appropriate and inappropriate interactions to be suspicious about a particular incident.”[^fn20] Q. What are basic principles for caring for abuse victims? Deepak: No matter how much work is involved in sorting through an abusive situation, the church needs to be continually mindful of caring for the victim. As soon as the allegations are revealed and the authorities contacted, care for the child or teenager needs to begin immediately. Don’t let victims and their families struggle with the ongoing effects of abuse on their own. Abuse can have a host of aftereffects on the victims. Victims can act controlling in relationships because they need to feel safe. Others might feel powerless to deal with life because they couldn’t stop abuse. Perceptions of body image and identity will be distorted. Victims may talk about themselves in derogatory terms, saying things like, “I am worthless,” or, “I am trash.” There can be self-destructive acting out with drugs, sex, alcohol, food, or spending, as the victims try to find ways to self-soothe or escape the pain. Self-injury, even mutilation or suicidal ideation, can also be a struggle. The victims’ understanding of God’s will and their relationship with God will probably also be severely skewed. When a person who was supposed to protect you betrays you, it makes it very difficult to accept God’s love and grace. God will likely be seen as punitive and judgmental rather than accepting or loving. Relationships can be very unstable, with a consistent push-and-pull—sometimes wanting intimacy, other times feeling scared to be close. Trusting others, especially those in authority, is often difficult. It is not uncharacteristic for victims to have a series of very short relationships, not really letting anyone into their life with any depth but continuing to move from relationship to relationship. Therefore, it is your duty as a church to provide whatever spiritual, medical, and emotional support is necessary to bring healing and redemption to these situations.[^fn21] Churches can often be at a loss in how to help, especially if they have not encountered abuse before. Over the long term, victims need to feel the church’s support in many ways; but in the short term, the best thing that a pastor, staff, or members can do is simply to listen.[^fn22] The wounds of abuse are deep, so it will take lots of love to deal honestly with the harm done by the abuser. Let the victims tell their stories and be patient with them, as the healing process can often take a long time.[^fn23] Apply the gospel very liberally to this child’s or teenager’s life. When he or she acts out as a result of the abuse, do not apply a regimented law, but give the gospel generously.[^fn24] So says Victor Vieth: “The gospel may be the only tonic the abused child has never experienced.”[^fn25] Help the victim to see that Christ empathizes with his or her sorrow because he too was striped and beaten. He suffered and was hated. Remind him or her of Christ’s love for children (Mark 10:13–16) and his warnings for those who do harm to children (Matthew 18:6). In addition to patiently listening and applying the gospel liberally, there are a variety of other things the pastor, members or church staff can do to help. Even if the child or teenager goes to a counselor, one concrete way fellow Christians can help the victim is to untangle the distorted ways that abusers use religious language to confuse children and teenagers. Abusers often use a distorted theology in order to justify their actions. Pastors, staff and church members should also be careful and thoughtful in how they speak to victims. They should not give the child or teenager religious platitudes or a quick, superficial application of Scripture.[^fn26] At some point, in speaking to victims, they should make a clear moral declaration that the abuse was wrong and also encourage the victim that speaking up was scary but the right thing to do. Pastors, staff and members should remind the victims of the need for forgiveness. Forgiveness is important, especially because it can free an abused child or teenager from bitterness or anger. But be careful: some Christians will recklessly press on victims the need for forgiveness. Forgiveness can’t be forced. It has to come from a heart rooted in the gospel and ready to forgive as a response to what God has done for us in Christ. The pastor and church members should also regularly pray for the victim, offer practical assistance, like providing meals, and stay in frequent contact. The church also needs to be mindful of the victim’s family. One of the most overlooked parts of the healing process is the church’s need to shepherd the parents and the siblings, not just the victims. In an age of fast food and quick fixes, leaders or fellow church members might wonder why counseling and dealing with these issues takes so long. The church needs to recognize that in dealing with the trauma of abuse, healing will take time. No one can rush the process. The pastor and church need to be committed to care for the victim for the long haul. Two roles that are important in facilitating the church’s care for victims are a church advocate and a counselor. Both can help the church in doing a better job in caring for victims. Churches should consider appointing an advocate in order to not loose sight of the victim’s needs. Initially, after the allegations of abuse emerge, there will be a lot of turmoil, conversations, and meetings in an effort to deal with the abuse. But six months or a year later, silence or lack of interest by the church can tempt the victim into thinking that he or she has been forgotten. To head this problem off, it is wise for church leaders to designate an advocate—someone in the church to keep tabs on the victim and be in the front lines of caring.[^fn27] This person can help harness the resources of the church to show support throughout the process. For example, this person can arrange rides to doctor’s appointments. He can arrange for meals or childcare for siblings when the parents need to be at important events, like court dates. He can pray regularly and check in regularly, giving the victim and family a consistent sense that the church has not forgotten them and still cares. He or she can also serve as a liaison between the victim and the church’s leaders, advocating for the needs of the victim and keeping the leadership updated. Counselors can also be very helpful in caring for victims. The church’s leaders and the advocate can help by recruiting a competent counselor. At the outset, the church leaders or the advocate or the victim’s family should ask the potential counselor questions about how much experience he or she has in treating abuse. In picking a counselor, Vieth has warned, “An incompetent counselor may be worse than no counselor at all.”[^fn28] [^fn1]: “Sex Offender Statistics,” Statistic Brain, accessed February 11, 2014, http://www.statisticbrain.com/sex-offender-statistics. [^fn2]: Robin Sax, Predators and Child Molesters: What Every Parent Needs to Know to Keep Kids Safe (Amherst, NY: Prometheus, 2009), 24–25. [^fn3]: The U.S. Department of Justice NSOPW (National Sexual Offender Public Website), accessed February 11, 2014, http://www.nsopr.gov/en/Education/FactsMythsStatistics#reference. [^fn7]: U.S. Department of Justice Bureau of Statistics, “Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement: Victim, Incident, and Offender Characteristics,” 10, accessed February 11, 2014, http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/saycrle.pdf. [^fn8]: Ibid., 2, accessed February 11, 2014, http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/saycrle.pdf. [^fn9]: Boz Tchividjian, “Startling Statistics: Child sexual abuse and what the church can begin doing about it,” RNS: Religion News Service, accessed February 11, 2014, http://boz.religionnews.com/2014/01/09/startling-statistics/. [^fn10]: Sax, Predators and Child Molesters, 24–25. [^fn11]: Vieth, “What Would Walther Do?” 270–71. [^fn12]: Boz Tchividjian, “5 Things You Should Know about Child Sexual Offenders,” Resurgence, accessed February 14, 2014, http://theresurgence.com/2012/04/14/5-things-you-should-know-about-child-sexual-offenders. The study Tchividjian cites is the Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study (2002), accessed December 1, 2013, http://www.childmolestationprevention.org/pages/study.html. This study further states, “Of the 3,952 men who admitted to being child molesters, 68 percent reported that they had molested a child in their family” (8). For a more in-depth look, see Gene Abel and Nora Harlow, The Stop Child Molestation Book (Bloomington, IN: Xlibris, 2001). [^fn13]: James Cobble, Richard Hammer, and Steven Klipowicz, Reducing the Risk II: Making Your Church Safe From Sexual Abuse (Carol Stream, IL: Church Law & Tax Report, 2003), 12. [^fn14]: Salter, Predators, 76–78. The Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study gives a sense of how many men versus women are molesters: “Of a sample of 4,007 men and women who admit to molesting a child 13 years old or younger, 99 percent were male and 1 percent were female” (8). [^fn15]: Gavin de Becker, forward to Salter, Predators, xi. [^fn17]: Jaycee Dugard, A Stolen Life: A Memoir (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2011), 9–11. See also Barbara Walters’ very sobering video interview of Jaycee online: accessed February 5, 2014, www.abcnews.go.com/US/jaycee_dugard/. [^fn20]: Swagman, Preventing Child Abuse, 62 [^fn21]: Diane Langberg, Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Maitland, FL: Xulon, 2003), 87–90. [^fn22]: Boz Tchividjian, “When Faith Hurts: How the Christian Community Can Serve Survivors of Sexual Abuse” (video), accessed February 24, 2014, http://vimeo.com/60270235. [^fn23]: Vieth, “What Would Walther Do?” 267. [^fn27]: Tchividjian, “When Faith Hurts.”

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Satan fans angling for some Christian-baked cakes, Christ coin launches as a new crypto-currency, Tullian Tchividjian gets some Gospel grace among Florida Lutherans, and we’ve got a religious accu-weather forecast today on Radical Grace Radio.  

Church infrastructure is failing pastors.  Why are they given the benefit of the doubt when it comes to extra-marital affairs? Was it a misdirected zeal for the sake of the gospel when Tchividjian’s elders tried to keep his affair hidden?  Why are narcissists attracted to the Pastoral profession? Also, Joey kicks alligators, Matt has a theory about Stockholm Syndrome in pets and we have a short interview with BC clubber Silas George. Sponsors and Links: ScoreBig - Click on the microphone and enter promo code “BADCHRISTIAN” at http://scorebig.com/ Weebly - http://weebly.com/badchristian/ AudioFeed Festival - http://badchristianday.com/ Emery Acoustic - http://emeryacoustic.com/ House Of Heroes Pre-Order - http://thehouseofheroes.com/

Various Scriptures || Boz Tchividjian   -We are each created as worshippers, even the smallest of children. What are we doing to protect the most vulnerable from being robbed of worshipping God?

RC Sproul Junior gets a year of suspension, War Room is straight outta second, Southern Baptists missions caught in cutbacks, and we’re announcing it’s Kiddie time today on Radical Grace Radio.   Visit Matthew Pancake's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/matthew.pancake Visit Pastor Gary Held's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/garyheld Visit our Website www.RadicalGraceRadio.com    

Nathan, Greg and Steve resume their conversation on marital fidelity- this time with a twist- is there ever a road back to vocational ministry for maritally unfaithful pastors? Conventional wisdom among a large number of Christians is "no."  The guys kick around the pros and cons of that premise in this intense episode. They also explore the implications of understanding heaven, hell and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit in a relational way rather than a spatial one.  WHAT??? 

Donald Trump Endorses the Bible, ISIS makes a religious Twist on rape, Tullian Tchividjian exits the South Florida Presbytary, and Pastor Gary and I talk with Greg Eilers, a pastor in the LCMS who suffers from Gender Dysphoria.   Visit Matthew Pancake's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/matthew.pancake Visit Pastor Gary Held's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/garyheld Visit our Website www.RadicalGraceRadio.com    

Lifetime’s Preach Program stops preaching, American’s confidence in the church reaches a new low, Tullian Tchividjian resigns as pastor, and God tempts no one....but that doesn't keep us from being tempted by Him. Next up on Radical Grace Radio.   Visit Matthew Pancake's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/matthew.pancake Visit Pastor Gary Held's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/garyheld Visit our Website www.RadicalGraceRadio.com    

In this Edition of RGR, we rant about the Tullian Tchividjian, Covenant Life Church, Boz, Sanctification, and why everyone has it all wrong again...  Live and Uncensored, it's Radical Grace Radio!!!   Visit Matthew Pancake's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/matthew.pancake Visit Pastor Gary Held's Facebook http://www.facebook.com/garyheld Visit our Website www.RadicalGraceRadio.com    

Former ethics officer at Ruder Finn, Emmanuel Tchividjian discusses ethical dilemmas public relations. This was recorded before people started thinking about social media ethics training, which is a more common topic today. Emmanuel Tchividjian has served as the ethics officer at Ruder Finn for a number of years and is also in charge of the… The post Social Media Ethics in Public Relations with Emmanuel Tchividjian appeared first on Eric Schwartzman.