Sexually Speaking with Shannon

This audio is the guided pleasure-mapping audio.Some guidelines to follow for pleasure mapping: Before starting the practice, find a private and comfortable environment. You can do this in the bath, shower, or lying in bed. Minimize distractions as much as possible – silence the phone, lock the door, etc.You can be fully or partially unclothed, whatever feels comfortable to you. As you continue to get more comfortable with the exercise, you can take it further than what's in the guided audio and expand to using body oil, lotion, lube, or other textures.Your eyes may be open or closed, whichever allows you to best focus on sensation. The focus of this exercise is not arousal or orgasm specifically (although that is welcome), but rather just to pay attention to pleasurable sensation and explore that.This is just information gathering. Your mind will likely wander during the exercise or judge your experience. That's normal. When that happens, refocus on the physical sensation and breathe. Slow down.Just get curious about what feels good. When you're ready, start the activity.Activity To Do: Pleasure Mapping SessionListen and follow along with the guided pleasure mapping audio included in this moduleWrite in your journal the answers to these questions:     - What part of your body was most pleasurable to touch?    - What type of touch felt best?    - What positive emotions came up? What negative emotions? Are these associated with a particular part of your body?    - Did you notice any automatic thoughts arise during the exercise? What were they? Were they connected to a particular area of your body? Credit for basis of this activity: Desire by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy et. al. Support the show

In this episode, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher shares her insight on shameless parenting and our ability to heal while we learn alongside our kids. Dr. Tina and I dig into how sexual shame impacts our ability to form secure attachments and relationships. She shares her experience as a professor and noticing the shift as the first wave of "purity culture" took on a different narrative that was harmful to the students she was teaching. One of my favorite books, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy was powerful in helping me understand how and why shame is rampant in our culture, but often hard to notice.  And she has recently another book called, Shameless Parenting: How to Raise Confident, Shame free Kids and Heal Your Own Shame Too!Dr. Sellers emphasizes the role of parents in fostering shame-free environments for their children, regardless of their family makeup. She encourages open conversations with teenagers, addressing myths and stereotypes about sex, and prioritizing connection and pleasure over obligation in relationships. Dr. Sellers emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning, dispelling myths, and staying on the path of personal growth to lead a fulfilling life.Follow Dr. Sellers on Instagram at @DrTinaShamelessIn this episode:0:02:28 Dr. Tina Shermer Sellers bio 0:08:45 Healing Through Shameless Parenting0:27:26 Importance of Social and Emotional Learning0:32:51 Parenting Insights Beyond Traditional Family Structures0:39:39 Embodying Sexuality for a Fulfilling Life0:42:13 Connect with Dr. Tina on Instagram0:42:37 Dr. Tina's Podcast EpisodesAlthough this will be my last episode, please stay in touch! Check out what I have going  on @shannonhamaker on Instagram!Also on my website: shannonhmaker.com will share the latest and greatest in my offerings through coaching and retreats. Support the show

One of the most impactful experiences you can have in strengthening your partnership is the understanding of feminine and masculine energy. Most of us understand and embody masculine energy easily without having to think about it. It is the doing, going, and moving forward that most of us learn as valuable in our culture. We learn the social construct that productivity is valued and doing comes naturally to most.But what does feminine energy look and FEEL like?My co-facilitator and friend, Amanda Curry, and I speak from our experiences of why masculine and feminine energy is a powerful concept to understand. We share our moments of learning and how we continue to lean into this concept of “being” in our feminine energy. Amanda Curry is a transformational coach for women who uses the power of somatics, inner child work, and breath to facilitate lasting change. She has been a physical therapist for 12 years and in the self-development world for 15 but only started to support deeper levels in 2020. Amanda is a wife of almost 15 years and a mother of two.Amanda and I discuss personal growth, reflection, and the importance of inner work. We explore masculine and feminine energy, challenge societal expectations, and share our personal experiences. We address the issue of female partners feeling unsupported and offer insights and suggestions. We also mention an upcoming couples retreat focused on effective communication and cultivating extraordinary relationships. Reach out to us for coaching or workshop opportunities.In this episode:0:00:39 Reflecting on growth and partnership in the healing journey0:03:10 The deeper transformation and tools in retreat work0:06:46 Embracing vulnerability and facilitating deeper reflection0:11:31 Embracing the balance of masculine and feminine energies0:13:01 Discerning aligned masculinity from wounded masculinity0:20:27 Embracing both feminine and masculine energies0:23:17 The journey of balancing feminine and masculine energies0:30:24 Couples retreat: extraordinary communication and support0:32:07 Planting seeds of curiosity and compassionSupport the show

In this episode, we explore the world of non-monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton, a renowned relationship coach. We discuss the reasons why some choose open relationships, different approaches to non-monogamy, managing jealousy, setting agreements, repairing relationships, and providing valuable resources for further support couples in that space.Tune in to gain insights and connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton for coaching and workshops.In this podcast episode:0:03:40 Dr. Joli's journey into the field of non-monogamy0:09:56 Navigating polyamory with care0:13:09 The two extremes of jumping into polyamory or hesitating0:15:20 The need for negotiated and consensual relationships0:17:29 Relationships require effort and willingness to embrace change0:20:28 Embracing different needs and relationship dynamics0:28:25 The complexity of envy and jealousy0:30:55 Unpacking the narrative of jealousy0:37:20 Setting boundaries and honoring agreements0:39:24 Trusting yourself and holding integrity with agreements0:41:39 Relationship check-ins and intentionality0:45:09 Consequences and planning for repair0:47:38 Graduating with a clear relationship choiceFind Dr. Joli Hamilton on:Dr. Joli Hamilton's website - https://www.jolihamilton.com/The Year Of Opening - https://theyearofopening.com/The free salon: https://openeasier.com/Support the show

In this episode, I am joined by Trauma Therapist, Mom, and fellow retreat Co-Facilitator, Heather Pincelli. We discuss our recent transformative retreat experience and the power of group work for healing. We also share personal stories and insights on patterns of behavior, triggers, and the importance of communication and self-care. In this podcast episode:0:02:44 The successful Restore for More Retreat experience!0:10:41 Heather's transformation from her younger self to present-day0:15:34 Understanding personality patterns and overwhelm0:18:23 How personality patterns affect relationships and communication0:23:01 Heather's strategic banana dilemma0:26:17 The banana incident and uncovering past trauma0:32:04 Merging pattern0:36:13 Leaving pattern 0:39:23 Enduring pattern and retreating into one's own space0:42:21 Body types and personality patterns0:44:30 Intimidation of the leaving pattern and sensitivity to conflict0:53:51 The power of stopping and breathing through challengesYou can find Heather Pincelli on:IG - @thattherapistheatherAND her new podcast, Therapy in the Wild, will be on all the platforms!Support the show

Join me  in my interview I had with Jennifer Kaylo on her podcast, The Open Bedroom (ahem, I HIGHLY recommend!) In this episode, I share my story of moving from a space of confusion, frustration, and shame to growing my confidence and curiosity.  In this podcast:03:00 - My journey09:55 - Stumbling upon a podcast about conscious uncoupling14:50 - From black and white to a colorful marriage life15:00 - Following the breadcrumbs of curiosity19:55 - The clarity of getting to know my sexual self… And knowing that I am not responsible for him, I'm just responsible to him.23:00 - The moment of awakening32:10 - Surrendering and learning to listen to your body is the best thing you can do35:00 - Midlife crisis to midlife magic39:00 - Learning about my erotic blueprint. Erotic Blueprint Quiz47:30 - My husband's breakthrough51:10 - It all with intention, nothing is by accident54:30 - You don't have to do it alone… Finding a community to work throughSexually Speaking podcast episode with Jen: Consciously Uncoupling with Jennifer Kaylo RuscinBooks mentioned:Come as You AreThe Power of NowWise PowerSexually WokeHow to Do The WorkFollow Jen for moreJennifer's podcast: The Open Bedroom PodcastSupport the show

Lindsey Hall is an Intimacy and Empowerment Coach who supports women to deepen their intimacy with self & others, own their power & their pleasure, and live the joyful life they love!Lindsey spent 12 years in the world of corporate accounting where listening to your intuition and prioritizing your pleasure are not exactly encouraged, so now she is passionate about helping women bring more pleasure to their daily lives and peeling back the layers of shame and social conditioning that prevent us from living our fully empowered lives. She hates small talk and elephants in the room and much prefers to dive in deep talking about the things that are maybe scary but ultimately so important and healing to talk about!After going through her divorce during lockdown with two tiny children, she specializes in supporting women emotionally through the divorce process and beyond, including dating and co-parenting - which are both pretty big adventures!In this podcast:03:30 - Lindsey's story10:50 - Lindsey's healing process12:30 - Learning how to step back and listen more13:00 - Support from a coach17:30 - Self-pleasure class21:00 - The BJ Class23:00 - Lindsey's experience in divorce and dating25:00 - It's not my job to look out for every hurt that may come26:50 - Maintaining the work Lindsay has done30:30 - Voicing my desiresLindsey's Website: Lindsey Hall Coaches Support the show

The parts of you who desire a life based in liberation, love, and leadership can find a home in Katrin's world.Katrin is a sexual liberation mentor who has overcome painful sex and continues supporting women in releasing vaginismus's protective body response. She deeply understands how survival strategies of the mind and subtle protective mechanisms of the body can make the freedom you crave seem out of reach.She has led herself off the beaten path back to her authentic self and now helps you do the same. In sex, love, relationships, and entrepreneurship! Katrin believes that your power is born out of your deepest pain and that the Liberated & In Love Woman within you already has all the answers to guide you in your personal reclamation. She is here to love you as you re-discover your unique signature of play, pleasure, and purpose. She gently calls you into your zone of genius and lifts you up as you bravely build your legacy from that place of aliveness and erotic overflow.In this episode:01:00 - Katrin's story08:30 - How does Katrin support people who are also going through painful sex11:00 -  Why we should stop using the term sexual dysfunction 16:00 - Treating vaginismus19:00 - The Erotic Blueprints23:00 - Vaginismus is a defense response24:00 - How to practice surrendering in the bedroom28:00 - The physical healing journey33:00 - The show - Sex, Love, and Goop39:00 - Why people may experience vaginismus44:00 - Trauma and vaginismus47:00 - Katrin's free course about vaginismus48:00 - Katrin's life after vaginismusKatrin's free course - Putting Vaginismus in the Past - https://www.katrinwithlove.com/Get your erotic blueprint at: https://missjaiya.com/Support the show

I'd like you all to welcome my new friend Emily Sabo! Emily Sabo is a linguist, a Ph.D. speaker, a TEDx speaker, a dancer, a choreographer, and the CEO of Full Body Feels, a feel-good dance fitness company.Originally from Pittsburgh, we are so lucky to have Emily now in Knoxville, Tennessee, and she's here to celebrate feminine energy through dance, yoga, and community.Hear her story on how she came full circle in using dance as medicine and why she thinks others should too! In this podcast episode:02:30 - What did life look like for Emily before Full Body Feels?12:00 - How many languages does she speak?!15:00 - Emily's mental health experiences26:00 - Where the magic happens to learn about your body28:00 - Emily's relationship with her husband and the biggest change in her life34:00 - Movement meditation with EmilyVisit Emily on:emilysabo.comFollow on IG: @fullbodyfeelsSupport the show

My guests today are Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr. Glenn was determined to find out what went wrong so he went back to school and became a marriage and family therapist and a clinical sexologist. But it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. On the other side of the pain that they went through, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis created the Connection Codes,  a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their four-minute tool. Now they are authors, speakers, and have connection coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships. I hope you all enjoy this beautiful story as much as I did! In this episode:01:00 - Dr. Glenn and Phyllis' story05:00 - A traumatic and disappointing first sexual experience10:30 - We may think other couples are doing great20:50 - A couple's pivotal moment: a comment about unloading the dishwasher leads to the discovery26:00 - Tools or books Dr. Glenn and Phyllis read to improve their intimacy?33:00 - The Core Emotion WheelOn Instagram: @Connectioncodes        Go to the website: connectioncodes.co/shannonUse code: SHANNON20 for 20% off our Foundations courseSupport the show

Everyone meet my BA friend, Jesse Akister! Jess shares her journey of understanding her body, mind, and soul. She highlights how our body responds to stress and trauma and how it can manifest in our daily lives, even in our relationships. Jesse is the Co-founder and COO of Sherolife, the first women's holistic fitness community in UAE founded in Dubai in 2019. She is also a multi-awarded athlete in CrossFit and Powerlifting.In this episode:01:40 - CrossFit and Powerlifter Jesse04:50 - Jesse's life before 11:20 - Jesse's relationships during training14:00 - The Polyvagal theory19:30 - Jesse's training applying polyvagal theory29:00 - Jesse uncovering her desires  31:00 - The Will Want Won't list34:00 - Other material resources 38:00 - Breaking down feminine and masculine energy 43:00 - Tips on meditating 47:50 - Listener's takeawayFind Jesse on IG: @jesseakisterSherolife Offerings: @thesherolifeSupport the show

After a couple of years of feeling like a fan girl trying to connect with Whitni Miller, aka BDE.Moves, I finally got to talk with her! Whitni is an amazing human who is creating sexy content with tangible tools for all people to implement! Whitni Miller is a Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator. She loves to create direct, assuring, shame-free sex education content on TikTok, Instagram, and Patreon. She also works with clients 1:1 and in couples setting to help them obtain their pleasure goals.She is very passionate about pleasure-based sex in our performance mindset world!In this episode:02:10 - How did Whitni get into sex education?09:00 - Encouraging exploring pleasure for women09:30 - Top 3 reasons why couples stop having sex12:00 - Patriarchy is bad for both men and women14:40 - Unlearning ‘performance-based' mindset in sex18:00 - Changing the way you self-pleasure can change the way you have sex22:00 - Being intentional in sex and self-pleasure25:00 - Definition of sex for Whitni29:00 - Whitni's Patreon (You must check it out!)  Find Whitni on Instagram @bde.moves Patreon: bdemovesSupport the show

Have you found yourself in the same patterns of behavior or frustration and ever wondered, "WHY AM I HERE AGAIN?!" My guest for this conversation can help you uncover the answer to that question! Anat Peri is an Inner Child Expert, Somatic Coach, and the Founder of Training Camp for the Soul™. (Yes, the retreat that Steve attended 2 years ago that I have mentioned in several episodes!) For over 7 yrs she's guided her clients through the process of mastering the wisdom of their bodies and emotions to choose to live the life they desire with ease, instead of force and sacrifice.With 18 years of experience in developmental work and years of study as a trauma-informed coach, Anat has combined mindset, somatic healing, and inner child re-parenting to create Training Camp for the Soul Method™.Anat considers it her mission to help people thrive, live a life where they feel connected and safe within and with others, and reclaim their power to be the creators of their reality.She has guided hundreds through the TCS™ Method. Marriages, books, businesses, fulfilling lives, and babies have all been created by her clients working with her.In this episode:05:40 - What is Training Camp for the Soul?06:50 - You are the Director of your movie, you can edit the script08:40 - How the inherited script affects your sexuality and intimacy19:00 - What it means to be "hijacked" into a role22:40 - What did healing look like for Anat?30:00 - Building sexual energy in self 30:45 - Grieve the thought of fears coming true36:00 - Your relationship is like a garden40:00 - More about Anat's programs and the TCS retreat46:36 - The way that therapy, coaching, and retreats play in self-development49:40 - Practicing gratitude and humilityYou can find Anat here:Instagram: @anat.periJoin us at the retreat in June here:trainingcampforthesoul.com/retreatUse the code "friendsandfamily" for a discountSupport the show

Breaking up is hard to do, but it can be done with love, respect, and dignity. Jennifer Kaylor Ruscin helps you create a breakup that leaves you and your partner feeling good, where you're both excited about the next phase of your lives.Jennifer is a mom to 2 teenage boys, partner to Scott, multi-million dollar revenue generator of a sales & marketing firm, podcast host, & sex and relationship coach.In this podcast episode:03:00 - What is conscious uncoupling?06:00 - Jen's experience with conscious uncoupling10:30 - Doing things differently while practicing conscious uncoupling12:00 - What kind of emotional support did Jen get when she was having the divorce from her husband?13:40 - How Jen found her second husband19:30 - Conscious uncoupling on an emotional scale25:00 - How do you tell to the kids?31:40 - Additional resources about conscious uncoupling34:00 - If you are thinking about breaking up with your partnerSupport the show

We have Leighanna Nordstrom back by popular demand! Today we are talking about a very controversial and complicated topic - affairs. More specifically, why do they happen, and how do you move toward healing and repair? Leighanna is the owner of Break the Mold Therapy, a virtual private practice in Colorado. She is a relationship and sex therapist who specializes in betrayal repairs, kink/BDSM, non-monogamy, and queer issues. Her goal is to help people unlearn problematic beliefs, values, and patterns by exploring the truths around sex positivity and wellness in a safe and non-judgmental way.If you have friends or loved ones facing this challenge, please share this episode!In this podcast episode:03:00 - What is an affair?04:50 - What causes an affair? 11:30 - What leads someone to have an affair?14:00 - What Affair Repair looks like18:30 - Practicing relationships is practicing communication20:30 - 5 major Don'ts after an affair29:00 - Nobody knows enough to pass judgment35:00 - Your pleasure is your responsibility37:00 - Steps to recovering from an affair43:00 - Top 5 Do's in Affair Repair58:00 - The last powerful takeaway01:00:30 - Leighanna's programsYou can reach Leighanna Nordstrom on:www.breakthemoldtherapy.comSupport the show

Shhhh....your body is speaking to you! What is your internal wisdom saying?! My friend, Bonnie Casamassima is going to help us understand how our intuition can help us connect to our desires and unleash more passion and pleasure!Bonnie is a researcher, professor, and highly sensitive intuitive empath. You know that song, “I'm a little bit country AND A Little Bit Rock+Roll?” Well, “She is a little bit Researcher AND a little bit woo”.She gives 110% in supporting the people she works with every day in connecting with their own intuition through research, mediumship channeling, and consulting on the psychology of the design of their everyday spaces.She has a Bachelor of Science in Interior Design from The University of Tennessee at Knoxville. She also has a Master of Fine Arts in Interior Design focusing on Environmental Psychology and Biophilic Design from Savannah College of Art and Design where she taught Graduate students. Additionally, she has completed two 500+ hour trainings honing her highly sensitive intuitive mediumship abilities. Bonnie is an amazing human being and I cannot wait for you to hear from her! In this podcast episode:05:50 - The New Year, New Moon experience08:00 - What was Bonnie's life before she started listening to her intuition and prioritizing play, pleasure, and sexuality12:00 - Bonnie on spreadsheet decisions 15:30 - Tuning in on your body's intuition and developing self-trust19:00 - Bonnie in the bedroom before20:30 - Listening to your intuition26:00 - Calming your mind and connecting to your intuition34:00 - Being your most authentic self37:00 - Bonnie's life now41:30 - Connecting with your partner43:00 - Bonnie's programsYou can find Bonnie at:intuitivebynature.comFollow her on IG @intuitive_by_nature         Follow Shannon HEREFollow her on IG @shannonhamaker                      Join the Couples Collective here.Support the show

Steve is back! We break down our Top 5 celebrations from 2022 and what we are leaving behind. In an effort to help others we share what worked for us in creating a stronger, more connected partnership. YAYS (What are we celebrating?)Commitment to Personal GrowthRelationship Check-In's Couples RetreatsCouples Mastermind Thrive Couples ClassIn this podcast episode:01:10 - The podcasts we listen to and fuel our journey01:50 - #1 Continual commitment to personal growth02:50 - Steve's personal growth journey05:00 - Guilt in doing or buying stuff for yourself15:10 - #2 Consistent relationship check-ins21:00 - Relationship check-ins on the fly28:00 - #3 The couple's retreats33:40 - #4 The couple's masterminds36:20 - Family constellation41:30 - The Couple's Collective at the beginning of FebruaryJoin the Couple's Collective here: https://bit.ly/CouplesCollectiveWork with Shannon! Shannonhamaker.comSupport the show

In our first episode of the year, I have my friend Amanda Curry who will be co-facilitating a women's retreat with me in April with me. I am so honored that she will be joining me and I cannot wait for you to hear her powerful story of transformation and healing.Amanda Curry is a trauma-informed Doctor of Physical Therapy, Certified Oncology Specialist, Training Camp for the Soul™ Master FacilitatorAmanda has a fierce commitment to supporting those who struggle with feeling they are “ too much” and are tired of living in shame and denial of their true essence.In this podcast episode:04:20 - Amanda's experience at the Training Camp for the Soul07:40 - Amanda and Steve parallels09:50 - What did Amanda's relationship look like before healing15:00 - The before and after of working with a sex coach24:30 - Amanda's ways regulate her nervous system31:00 - Supporting her husband and the men in her life41:30 - Why community is essential and how you can find community- Find Amanda at @somaticdpt on Instagram - Check out Training Camp for the Soul here: https://trainingcampforthesoul.com/- Women's Retreat in April Support the show

Please welcome, Caroline Burkholder, MS, RD, LD, a registered dietitian nutritionist in Knoxville, TN. She is the owner of RootED Nutrition and Counseling.We cover the topics of intuitive eating, recovering your relationship with food, how to model a positive relationship with food to your kids, and how intuitive eating teCaroline became interested in nutrition counseling when she was a collegiate athlete, and her coach consistently shared scientifically unfounded messages about how to fuel for sport. Most of these messages actually encouraged restrictive and disordered tendencies. It became clear to Caroline how important it was for female athletes to have empirically founded nutrition information delivered in a safe and nurturing format. Caroline continues to participate in athletics; she is a mountain biker and an endurance runner. Her practice is heavily informed by her lived experience as an athlete.In this podcast episode:01:35 - Caroline's story on how she got into nutrition counseling06:00 - Recovering your relationship with food08:30 - How to model a positive relationship with food to your kids13:00 - Caroline's relationship with food before16:50 - What is intuitive eating and how do you practice it?23:00 - Keeping a food journal28:00 - Letting go and accepting that your body's going to change33:00 - You are allowed to gain weight37:00 - Finding your middle39:00 - The enneagramYou can find Caroline at:https://www.rootednutritionandcounseling.com/Instagram at @root_ednutritionSupport the show

Have you had a lingering sense that you are different than other women? Do you feel like you start projects with full force, only to fizzle out and not complete it? Does your partner get frustrated when you can't find your keys or you get distracted during s*x? Have a listen! Linda is going to share some incredible insight from her lived experience of being diagnosed with ADHD in mid-life. She also shares the superpowers it has given her and how we can look at the benefits of having this neurodiversity, as challenging as it can be! Linda Roggli is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), an award-winning author, and founder of the A-D-Diva Network for ADHD women 40-and-better. She is recognized internationally as an expert in midlife and senior ADHD. She created the ADHD Palooza series which now includes ADHD Women, ADHD Parents, and ADHD Couples. She regularly hosts workshops, organizing groups and retreats for ADHD women.Linda's book Confessions of an ADDiva-midlife in the non-linear lane won first prize for women's issues in the prestigious Next Generation Indy Book Awards competition. Order an autographed copy at http://shopaddiva.comIs there an offer you would like to give the listeners? : Free download from the ADHD Couples' PaloozaWhere can they find you to get in touch?: http://addiva.net and http://adhdpalooza.comIn this podcast episode:02:30 - Linda's story - how she discovered ADHD05:30 - What helps our neurons make connections08:30 - Linda's superpower as a woman with ADHD14:30 - How can we be good role models to our kids in taking care of ourselves as parents with ADHD22:30 - ADHD, impulsivity, intimacy, and your relationships38:00 - The impostor syndrome41:30 - The Couple's Palooza45:30 - Where do you go if you think you have ADHD?You can find Linda Rogley on:https://addiva.net/Resources:Book: Driven To DistractionSupport the show

If you are here for a comprehensive checklist of all the ways you can get through menopause unscathed by all the dreaded symptoms you have heard about…I hate to break it to you, you won't find that here. But I have some more exciting news for you….  when you listen to this episode with curiosity and an open mind and heart, you may find that you feel empowered and dare I say excited about this transitional time in your life. Especially when you hear this conversation with Alexandra and Sjanie, co-founders of the Red School. Alexandra and Sjanie are also the co-authors of the iconic and celebrated book from Hay House, Wild Power: discover the magic of the menstrual cycle and awaken the feminine path to power and they just released their latest book Wise Power: Discover the liberating power of menopause to awaken authority, purpose, and belonging.They are pioneering the newly emerging field of menstruality, creating a new lexicon and approach to women's health and well-being; creativity and leadership; and spiritual life based on the power of our menstruality consciousness. Between them, they bring over 45 years of experience. And today they teach worldwide on the psycho-spiritual process of maturation that unfolds from menarche to menopause and beyond. They're committed to training the menstruality leaders of the future.www.redschool.netAnd our 6 week live online menopause course, which starts on November 2nd is Menopause: The Great Awakener www.redschoolmenopause.comThank you so much for listening! Share the love by sharing the podcast! And share your reviews and comments on the platform you listened to this episode on. If you would like to contact me about upcoming coaching, workshops, or transformative retreats, you can go to my website at ShannonHamaker.com This episode was edited by Travis Tench at Oak Hill Audio and scored using musing by his band Tinca Tinca. Support the show

Today we have Dakota Russell who is graduate of East Tennessee State University. We talk about STIs and sex education in schools is important. Dakota shares the importance of having these conversations and about her upcoming program offered online called, “How to Talk about the Talk,” aka “HTAT.” You can register for this program at this link:https://forms.gle/iDScSDGeSy42Ria76 In this Episode:02:00 - STD vs STI03:50 - How did Dakota become a student who wanted to study about STIs and educating parents about it?04:50 - Dakota's programs for sex education08:45 - The stigma on women and sex education14:30 - Teaching the proper ways to have sex to prevent suicide rates16:30 - Sex education FAQs19:00 - Teen pregnancies22:00 - The high chlamydia and gonorrhea rates in Tennessee24:00 - How does high STI rates affect relationships?Support the show

Welcome to Sexually Speaking with Shannon! For today's episode, we have Brianna and Mark Carey. Brianna has been in the sexual health field for 14 years and is a Relationship & Intimacy coach. Mark is a Licensed Professional Counselor and has been running his own private practice for the past 6 years. Together with Steve, they talk about postpartum depression and how to work through its challenges. Brianna and Mark also share some ways to reconnect with your partner after having kids and how the 3-2-1 dating guide they created has helped them.In this episode:02:55 – Who are Mark and Brianna?06:55 – What is dad postpartum depression?11:25 – Brianna talks about her work and how she helps her clients reconnect with their partners.15:00 – Brianna and Mark share their experience reconnecting with each other.18:30 – Mark shares men's perspective on things.21:20 – What are some of the things that Brianna and Mark do to stay connected?27:20 – What are some signs of postpartum depression for dads?32:20 – What are some resources to help with postpartum depression?39:10 – Shannon talks about their couple's retreat.Steve and Shannon's couple's retreat experience: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8xNzIwMDQ4LnJzcw/episode/QnV6enNwcm91dC0xMDg4NDczMw?hl=en-PH&ved=2ahUKEwi8_eXngNP5AhXEDd4KHQ-ABrYQieUEegQIAhAO&ep=6Intimacy Evolution Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/387cWiLrs03L6jL7wTT33gSupport the show

It's all things Menstrual Cycle on Sexually Speaking with Shannon! In this episode, Shannon dispels the myths and mystery behind the cycle and why it is incredibly important to live your best life. Whether it is planning how you are going to work out, what you are going to eat to support where you are in your cycle or when you are going to plan on having s3xy time, understanding your body is one of the most impactful things you can embrace and understand to have more access to pleasure. In this episode:01:15 – Myths about the menstrual cycle 03:55 – Books that helped Shannon be more in tune with her bodyWoman Code: https://amzn.to/3QjVWbrIn the Flo: https://amzn.to/3SpmLNi04:35 – The four seasons of the menstrual cycle and their corresponding energy05:05 – What is infradian rhythm?09:30 – Phase 1, the follicular phase12:25 – Phase 2, the ovulatory phase15:50 – Phase 3, luteal phase20:35 – Phase 4, menstrual phase25:05 – Why is it important to track your cycle?The Flo Living Website: https://www.floliving.com/27:15 – What are the effects of birth control in your cycle?28:35 – Ways to track your menstrual cycleWould you like to schedule a free discovery session with Shannon? Go here: https://calendly.com/shannonhamakerWant to see all the offerings Shannon has? Check out her website:https://bit.ly/ShannonHamakerSupport the show

Midlife shouldn't be a crisis! For today's Sexually Speaking with Shannon, she is joined by Jo squires. Jo is an endearing, fun-spirited Midlife Coach and the founder of the Midlife Clarity Club Facebook group.  They discuss what really is midlife and menopause is all about and the clarity and joy you can find. Jo shares her journey and experience with some of the most common challenges including depression and how to find clarity and compassion with yourself as you move through this time. In this episode:00:50 – How did Jo become a midlife clarity coach?04:45 – The difference - Jo at 40 and Jo at 5106:15 – Jo shares having depression and how she overcame it08:00 – Jo shares her career in finance10:30 – Jo talks about her past relationships and the patterns that she'd observed17:20 – What are the tools that helped Jo love herself and encourage her clients to do the same?20:00 – The importance of having your values and sticking to them.22:20 – Boundaries and how having them can help you25:40 – Midlife and going through it28:40 – The different tests you can take to track your menopausal stage30:30 – What is brain fog?32:50 – Jo shares her group members' reactions and the comfort that journaling gives her36:10 – Jo's program - Your Journey To Health and Happiness and how it can benefit youJo's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themidlifeclarityclub.jo.squires/Jo's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-squires-4474b6119/?originalSubdomain=ukSupport the show

Wouldn't it be great if we could understand the reason why people do the things they do? Do you have a family member that shuts down whenever an emotion comes up? Or a friend that freaks out when you have a change of plans? Or maybe you wonder why you do the same things over and over again expecting a different result only to find yourself in the same position that you've been in before?For this episode, we talk about the Enneagram Typing Tool. This ancient tool can give you insights as to why people do the things that they do. We talk about the different types, their strengths, challenges, and how to support them.In this episode:02:00 – Shannon talks the Enneagram and where it came from03:15 – Type 9: The Peace Keeper - my husband Steve10:35 – Let's talk about Type 8: The Challenger/Protector15:55 – Shannon's Type 7: The Enthusiasts23:40 – Let's talk about Type 6: The Loyal Skeptic.28:40 – Type 5: The Investigators32:10 – Type 4: The Romantic or The Individualist35:45 – Type 3: The Achievers/Performers44:50 – Type 2: The Helper and The Nurturer51:35 – Type 1: The Perfectionist or The Reformer57:30 – Shannon recommends ways to figure out your EnneagramHere's the link to take your Enneagram test: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Pick the RHETI version58:50 – Shannon recommends the book - The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan CronSupport the show

Having alone time with your partner isn't a want, it is a need! For this episode, we, (Shannon and Steve) talk about our experience on our 3 day couple's retreat. No…it's not like the movie…it was even better! Steve shares his growth journey leading up to the experience and why he chose to go and Shannon talks about the importance of building trust and fostering not just a sexual but also a spiritual connection with your partner.In this episode:01:20 – Why is having time as a couple important?03:45 – Shannon Shares her experience in her couple's retreat05:40 – Shannon suggests some ways to have a cheaper couple alone time06:45 – Steve shares his thoughts and the growth that he experienced11:15 – Feminine and masculine energy13:40 – What are the different archetypes of feminine and masculine energy?17:55 – Steve talks about his experience in finding the masculine energy that felt most comfortable19:25 – Shannon shares her time with the women's circle and how it helped her break down barriers to growth20:10 – The breath work experience22:50 – Shannon shares why she found experiencing the moment and not expecting it to be challenging27:05 – Shannon and Steve discuss what they learned about pleasure and expanding their horizon28:00 – The 5 erotic blueprints and how it can help the experience be more28:45 – Shannon and Steve share their experience doing Shibari Shannon & Steve - from Checked Out to Fully In!:https://www.buzzsprout.com/1720048/9947634Steve Is Back!https://www.buzzsprout.com/1720048/10395472Visit Shannon at:http://shannonhamaker.com/Support the show

Do you sometimes feel like you are working so hard for your job and taking care of others, that you don't know what to do to take care of yourself? And even if you did…when would you do it?!Or maybe you are watching your partner working overtime and you feel like there is no time left for you and your family? You know they mean well, trying to provide for the family…but in the end, you see the depleted person that you love that is exhausted. And even when they are around, it's like they are there physically, but they aren't fully present. My guest, Dr. Tracy Gapin found himself in a similar situation and he is here to tell us about his transformation after his wife encouraged him to get help. That simple request changed the trajectory of his life and the lives of many others. After taking responsibility for his own health, he opened the Gapin Institute to offer personalized paths to help men maximize sexual health, testosterone levels, and prostate health. Dr. Gapin wants others to find their path to fulfillment, performance, and presence in life. He also wrote a book called Male 2.0: Cracking the code to limitless health and vitality where he breaks down the tangible concepts you can implement in your life. We cover longevity, erectile dysfunction, and functional wellness tips on how to not just live longer, but live better! I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this conversation! In this episode:01:45 – Dr. Gapin shares how he found human optimization and high performance03:30 – What is longevity? Healthspan versus lifespan04:40 – Dr. Gapin discusses performance medicine06:05 – How do all of these things relate to sexual health?09:10 – Dr. Gapin explains what optimal performance and biohacking is11:15 – Dr. Gapin shares the changes he implemented and how they made his life better16:20 – What is Dr. Gapin's Why?18:00 – What are some of the things that Dr. Gapin does to prioritize his relationship with his wife over taking care of others?20:40 – Dr. Gapin discuss some basic health problems and simple habits to support performance optimization22:50 – Dr. Gapin talks about his book, Male 2.0 - https://amzn.to/3xn8mr824:50 – What is high performance?26:10 – Dr. Gapin shares some of the things that inspired him in his journeyLifespan by David A. Sinclair - https://amzn.to/3MDX6weHow to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - https://amzn.to/3OoBq8P26:30 – Dr. Gapin talks about the programs that they offer and how simple coaching helps men achieve a high performanceDr. Gapin's Website: https://gapininstitute.com/Support the show

How do we encourage our teens to have healthy relationships, especially with regards to sexuality?! Julia is here to help! Julia Feldman, M.Ed. Is a human development education consultant with over 15 years of experience in formal education as a classroom teacher, administrator, content area specialist, and professional development and curriculum expert. She believes in an inclusive, medically accurate, sex-positive, empowering, and compassionate approach to teaching that prioritizes the experiences, interests, and needs of her students.In this podcast episode:02:30 - The driver's license analogy06:30 - Answering kids' questions about bodies and relationships09:30 - How do you educate and guide your teens about bodily autonomy and having healthy relationships?13:30 - Family values guiding sex ed conversations 15:30 - The most common realizations that people have19:00 - Healthy  breakups with teenagers24:30 - Parenting is your life on the big screen for your childrenYou can find Julia Feldman on:Instagram: @GivingTheTalkWebsite: https://www.givingthetalk.com/Books:The Penis Book - https://amzn.to/3N29uXTThe Vagina Book - https://amzn.to/3M8NGslWhat's Going On Down There - https://amzn.to/3aeEntuSupport the show

I am so excited about my guest, Author, and award-winning gynecologist, Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith! In this episode, she shares her insight and wisdom on how you can feel empowered to live your best life through the transition of menopause. Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith is a Board-Certified Gynecologist specializing in women's midlife wellness, hormone optimization, and sexual wellness. She is the founder of Complete Midlife Wellness Center in Houston, TX, and the best-selling author of "Sexually Woke- Awaken the Secrets to Your Best Sex Life in Midlife and Beyond." She also hosts a popular podcast and YouTube show called "Empowering Midlife Wellness."Dr. Susan is the recipient of the Texas Super Doctor award over a dozen times and a multiple-time recipient of H-Texas magazine's Top Doctor and Top Doctor for Women awards. She also has been chosen as one of Houston's "3 best rated" gynecologists for several consecutive years. Dr. Susan is also an ICF-certified life and leadership coach, multiple-time marathoner and Ironman triathlete, and mother of 3 teenage daughters. In this podcast episode:01:00 - About Dr. Susan and focusing on menopause and perimenopause04:00 - Dr. Susan's journey 10:00 - 7% of women are “sexually woke” and the common trends among them12:00 - Be open to all possibilities and know yourself first; view your second half of life as a magical opportunity15:00 - Attention and intention19:00 - What is co-dependence?25:00 - Choosing to be out of relationships and choosing a time for self-investigation28:00 - What does perimenopause look like?34:00 - Educating yourself about perimenopause and hormone therapy40:00 - The best sex tip from Dr. Susan42:00 - Sex is an active generosityIG: @drsusanofficial Visit the Complete Midlife Wellness Center here:https://completemidlifewellnesscenter.com/Purchase the Sexually Woke book here: https://amzn.to/3GiY3slSubscribe to Dr. Susan's YouTube Channel here:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSsAoV6KrfZZ71Kkwb_GWVAListen to her podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/empowering-midlife-wellness-with-dr-susan/id1519320996Support the show

Please welcome back, Leighanna Nordstrom! Leighanna is a relationship and sex therapist from Northern Colorado. She embodies all things sex positive and loves to break down and restructure problematic patterns instilled in us by our culture. As a therapist, she is passionate about working with the queer community, individuals with sexual trauma, and couples/relationships struggling with sexual dysfunction.Outside of therapy, Leighanna is a a super nerd who loves fantasy, video games, and board games!This episode is timely after last weeks conversation with Stephen Bravemanc about men survivors of sexual abuse. Leighanna talks about co-regulation and how to reclaim bodily autonomy.In this podcast episode:01:40 - Who is Leighanna Nordstrom?05:00 - What is bodily autonomy?08:00 - Co-regulation and survivors of sexual trauma10:30 - Ways to reclaim your bodily autonomy and sexuality13:30 - Externalization and internal family systems18:00 - What triggers live in different senses21:00 - The 3 minute game25:00 - How do you reclaim bodily autonomy without a partner?27:30 - What do you know about your body?29:30 - Intervention and Trauma Trees35:00 - Play as a co-regulation technique38:30 - Comparative sufferingYou can reach Leighanna Nordstrom through: https://www.pivotalcounseling.com/leighannaOr via email at Leighanna@pivotalcounselling.comSupport the show

Please welcome, Stephen Braveman to this episode to talk about the difficult topic of male survivors of sexual abuse. Stephen is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and  AASECT Certified Diplomate and Supervisor of Sex Therapy with a Private Practice in California, USA. He started and maintains one of the first psychotherapy groups for Adult Males Molested As Children in the US. He is also the creator of the first full-length documentary on this subject, "Boyhood Shadows: I Swore I'd Never Tell.In this podcast episode:08:00 - Sexual problems appeared around 2 years after getting married09:30 - How did Stephen start his men's group?11:00 - Lessons of play from geese - honk, honk, honk16:00 - Men and sexual abuse21:00 - The difference between a pedophile and child molesters25:00 - Pedophiles and shame32:00 - Myths on men and sexual abuse41:00 - Books and steps for couples to help in healing from sexual abuse43:00 - Healing through tantric practices47:00 - Sexual abuse survivors are sometimes misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder52:00 - How to take action against male sexual abuseYou can find Stephen Braveman on:https://www.isgcmonterey.net/Books mentioned:Allies in Healing by Laura Davis - https://amzn.to/3wp6TjHHealing Sex by Staci Haines - https://amzn.to/38mVOI3The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz - https://amzn.to/3NfzQVWSupport the show

Are you or a loved one suffering from erectile dysfunction? In this episode we have Brooke Hazen, author of You Are Not Broken who shares his wisdom on the causes of erectile dysfunction and how to heal the devastating effects without relying on medication. Brooke Hazen is an organic farmer, life-long athlete, physical coach, and a health and fitness enthusiast. A Southern California native, Brooke grew up loving the ocean and the natural world. His affinity for the land, healthy living, and natural foods led him to study Agriculture at Humboldt State. In 2001, Brooke realized his vision to grow nutritious, organic, farm-to-table foods under his own brand when he purchased 88 acres of pastureland in the beautiful Northern California farming region of Sebastopol. He now cultivates apples, citrus, medicinal herbs, and high polyphenol olives. Walking the rows each day, he meticulously hand-tends his orchards and presses award-winning Extra Virgin Olive Oil on his West Sonoma County farm and olive mill, Gold Ridge Organic Farms.Now an author, You Are Not Broken: A Holistic Guide for Men and Women to Heal the Pathways of Sexual Dysfunction and Restore Relational Harmony Together is his first book.In this episode:03:00 - Brooke's story on coping and fixing his erectile dysfunction06:30 - Stillness and letting go of addictions, and how they helped Brooke with his erectile dysfunction08:00 - Getting led to a website through the will of God10:15 - Porn-induced erectile dysfunction16:30 - The book - Dopamine Nation19:00 - How do you support your partner if they have a porn addiction?21:30 - Easy solutions for porn addiction23:30 - Mating behavior and bonding behavior26:30 - Using bonding behaviors to satisfy urges because of addiction32:30 - Having a plant-based diet to heal addictions37:30 - Cardiovascular disease and erectile dysfunction39:30 - Western medicine is misdiagnosing erectile dysfunction41:00 - Brooke Hazen's book - You Are Not BrokenYou can find Brooke on:https://brookehazen.com/Support the show

Not sure what to say to your kids about s3x?! You aren't alone! Today we have Tory Mills here to talk about the importance of sex ed in schools and what parents can do at home to support a future healthy relationship for their children. Tory Mills is currently the Director of Community Engagement for Planned Parenthood of Tennessee & North Mississippi here in Knoxville. In her 10 years with Planned Parenthood, she has provided comprehensive sexuality education to hundreds of young people, parents, and professionals in East Tennessee, and for the last few years, she has focused her energy on organizing communities for reproductive freedom and training new organizers. She is a proud, life-long Tennessean who is dedicated to building equitable communities in our state that value sexual health & education. Tory is about to embark on a new career journey at the end of April which is yet to be determined, but for now will involve spending quality time in the mountains, making all those recipes which have been open for at least 6 months in her internet browser, finishing 23 half-completed home projects, a trip to Dollywood, and continuing social justice work in a volunteer capacity. She spends most of her time these days in newlywed bliss with her husband, Derek, and two cute mutts, Daisy & Ella.In this podcast episode:03:30 - Who is Tory Mills and how did she get into sex ed?11:00 - Talking about values in sex ed14:00 - Should schools teach sex ed?18:00 - The usual age young people have sex24:00 - How do parents handle sex ed with their children?28:00 - Websites and books for sex edResources:https://amaze.org/https://www.plannedparenthood.org/Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

Buckle up, friends! We are expanding your idea of what a relationship can look look like with Erin Kaley, Relationship Design Coach. Erin talks to us about monogamish relationships, play parties, and how to communicate with your partner when all the crunchy stuff comes up. In this podcast episode:04:30 - 50% of married couples in the US stay together08:00 - Talking about non-monogamy with your partner10:00 - How did Erin end up in a monogamish relationship?13:30 - What did it look like for Erin growing up? 18:00 - Facilitating the monogamish conversation with couples21:00 - Let people be who they are23:00 - Erin's first play party30:00 - What does monogamish and polyamory mean?34:00 - What does life in a monogamish relationship look like?43:00 - Jealousy in relationships45:00 - Communicating more effectively with your partner51:00 - It is not too late to explore at any point in your life54:00 - How do you start with exploring other forms of relationships?You can find Erin on:https://erinkaley.com/https://www.instagram.com/turnon.witherin/Erin's 3some Playbook: https://erinkaley.com/threesome-playbook/Support the show

Today we talk about food for healing and for sex.Femeika Elliott is the owner of Meik Meals located in Knoxville, Tennessee. She is a food enthusiast and postpartum chef specializing in plant-based cuisine. Femeika's primary focuses: are community, food education, holistic wellness, and women's health. 01:55 - Meik's story on how she came up with her business that supports women04:40 - The health journey of Meik, the things that she struggles with, and finding the resources and confidence to try the things to see what work09:40 - Difference between vegan and plant-based13:00 - The benefits of nitric oxide16:30 - How had food played a part in Meik's sexual journey21:30 - How can you reconnect with your feminine energy?27:30 - How you can get health foods that is affordable34:30 - Home and community gardensResources:https://meik-meals.com/https://www.instagram.com/meikmeals/The Lotus Program - postpartum mealsSupport the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

It has been a year since Shannon and Steve said, “this ain't working…we can do better.” Maybe not word for word, but after years of feeling like roommates, it was time. Steve has been working leaps and bounds since this time last year, casting limiting beliefs to the side and picking up “superpowers” along the way. He talks to Shannon about all the trials and realizations along his healing journey and how he has learned to "do the work" through resources such ask meditation, breathwork, and support groups. Enjoy this incredibly open conversation where Steve lays it all out there for your listeners! 03:00 - Steve's awakening to doing the work: You are not defined by your marriage05:00 - Steve's seasonal depression spirals08:00 - Resenting the partner you married11:00 - Giving Steve the space to work on himself19:00 - How meditation helped Steve clear his thoughts and be fully present 22:00 - Breath work with Wim Hof and MANifestation Mens Group28:00 - The book - Finding Ultra by Rich Roll35:00 - Steve signing up for a 50K trail run40:00 - TCS retreat after running a 50k44:00 - Leaving space for Steve's masculine energy51:30 - If you are struggling through your marriage or your mental healthYou can find Steve on: @stevakerCheck out Stevaker's design work: https://stevehamaker.com/Book a free coaching call with Shannon: https://calendly.com/shannonhamakerMANifestation Mens Group: http://bit.ly/manifestationapplyWim Hof Breathwork: ​​https://www.wimhofmethod.com/Rich Roll: https://www.richroll.com/Training Camp for the Soul: https://www.trainingcampforthesoul.com/Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

The term “narcissist” has been tossed around to describe selfish behavior or frustrations with relationships, but someone with a true Naricissitic Personality Disorder can wreak havoc on the lives of others. Join us for a deep conversation with my friend, Life Coach, Yoga Instructor, Emily Elliot. Although, this may not resonate with you, you may have a friend in need of support. Learn the signs of what a narcissist looks like and the resources you have to help guide you. ***DISCLAIMER: Thankfully we have a wealth of resources, but ALWAYS seek out a therapist on psychologytoday.com or betterhelp.com for professional support first. This was an experience that we recap and there are a million different ways this can show up and play out with other people. In this podcast episode:01:00 - Who is Emily? 06:00 - In relationship with someone older09:00 - When did Emily see red flags?14:00 - How did Emily get the strength to get out?17:00 - How yoga helped Emily reconnect to self20:00 - The book - Keep The Roses And Give Me The Thorns25:00 - The breaking point28:00 - The cycle of relationship and why Emily went back32:00 - How did Emily help herself when she was ending her relationship?33:00 - What does life look like now? What did dating look life after the relationship?36:00 - How did Emily cope with the pain and trauma?39:00 - Dealing with the kids and co-parenting42:00 - Narcissist recovery is possible, but rare46:00 - How did Emily meet her new partner?You can find Emily on:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_emily/Resourses: Married to a Narcissist by Catenya McHenry for men and womenYouTube: Dr. Ramani Durvasula TikTok: @mentalhealnessSupport the show

Today we have Rachel Alba to talk about intimacy and spirituality.Rachel is a certified clinical sexologist with an M.A. in Theology and Ministry. She loves helping people find pleasure in their sexuality and healing & growth in their spirituality.Growing up a devout Catholic, she was taught a lot of unhelpful things about sexuality. The best thing she learned, however, was the Catholic Church's actual definition of chastity: having an integrated body and soul. For years this idea motivated her.  From dancing in college to studying Tantra and Kabbalah in NYC to becoming a Licensed Massage Therapist. Now she helps others find that same sexual-spiritual integration. Drawing upon her Masters in Theology and Ministry specializing in Sexual Theology and Faith Development, and her certificate in Clinical Sexology, she helps people find their path to having sex with spirit in a life-giving, sex-positive, spiritually enriching way.This is a special deep dive episode on Sexuality and Spirituality. More specifically on the journey that each person can take towards a fulfilled sex life through embodiment practices and self-pleasure. Today on Sexually Speaking: How Rachel went from devout Christian to Sex CoachThe benefits of feeling embodied and how to start the practiceThe commonalities with Kabbalah, Christianity, Tantra, and TaoismHow your sexuality and spirituality can feed each otherSelf-pleasure without pressureTransforming negative thoughts into Body Positive messages that empower youFollow Rachel: IG: @Rachel.Alba.CoachingWebsite: sexwithspirit.comContact Shannon: IG: @shannonhamaker         Email: shannonlivesit@gmail.comFree resources: https://linktr.ee/shannonhamakerWebsite: ShannonHamaker.comSchedule a free coaching call: https://calendly.com/shannonhamakerSupport the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

Welcome back to week 2 of lost libidos! Last week we talked about the ABCs of lost libidos. Today we talk about the qualities of a good relationship, how to know if you're focusing on the negative things, tips for sexual communication, and many more!In this podcast episode:01:50 - You are a divine spiritual being and you are inherently good04:30 - Focusing on negative things09:00 - Working on your relationship with your partner10:30 - It's the quality of your partnership that matters11:30 - Acceptance and attention14:30 - Appreciation16:50 - Affection and allowing18:30 - Things you can do to enhance your intimacy21:30 - Nurturing your fondness towards each other24:30 - Overcoming gridlock25:30 - Create a shared meaning28:00 - Tips for sexual communication; knowing what you wantThe Erotic Blueprint Quiz - https://theblueprintbreakthrough.com/Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

Are you not wanting to have sex as much as you used to? Want to increase your libido? Today we are talking about lost libidos and the ABCs of desire.In this podcast episode:01:30 - What is libido and can you lose it?03:30 - Social factors weighing on your libido07:20 - Thinking of your libido as a flame08:30 - Benefits of a healthy sex life12:00 - Be curious15:30 - Keep track of your cycle19:30 - Notice if your body is saying yes or no26:00 - Ways to cultivate your desire28:30 - Scheduling a time for intimacy30:30 - Getting your testosterone testedThe Come as You Are Workbook by Emily Nagoski - https://amzn.to/3hb4bqKSupport the show

Do you know the history of the vibrator? Today we find out more with Sarah Hamilton the director of the play In The Next Room.IN THE NEXT ROOM or the vibrator play is a provocative, funny, touching, and entertaining story about a young doctor and his wife. Dr. Givings is obsessed with the marvels of technology and what they can do for his patients. His wife, Catherine, is only a bystander in her husband's world - listening at the door from the next room as he treats his female patients. Dr. Givings is not sure exactly how the vibrators help the women he treats - but they do keep coming back. The only woman whose problem is not helped by the doctor is his own wife who longs to connect with him - but not electrically.In this episode:01:00 - Who is Sarah Hamilton? Why did she decide to do theater?03:00 - The history of the vibrator08:00 - Why did Sarah start In The Next Room?15:00 - What is River & Rail?19:00 - Why did they set up tickets to pay what you wish?21:00 - A program to help women entrepreneurs improve their public speaking skills22:30 - How has directing the play affected Sarah? What was its impact on her?24:00 - Tips for a successful marriage in this time of pandemicSupport them and get your tickets at https://riverandrailtheatre.com/Support the show

Sit down and stay awhile…it's storytime with Shannon! In this podcast episode:00:40 - When I started my first podcast and why I stopped05:30 - Finding out what an orgasm feels like06:30 - Taking a human sexuality subject09:30 - Being invited to my first Pure Romance party13:00 - Hosting my first Pure Romance party16:30 - The first time I met my husband21:30 - Looking for people to help in bridging the gap in our marriage27:30 - The Power of Now32:30 - Working on yourself is tough35:30 - The best thing you can give your partnerFind me on Instagram - @shannonhamaker Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

How do you make sure that you still have intimacy with your partner even after having kids? Find out in today's episode.Angela and James Mitchell are creating the most amazing life together. Pulling from their experiences personally in their 10+ years of marriage and professionally as a licensed counselor and certified coach, Angela and James developed Love Intentionally to help couples co-create the life of their dreams. Through facilitating retreats, 2:2 couples coaching, and their Retreat in a Box called the Love Bomb, they help couples connect deeply, communicate effectively, and strategically plan their life in order to reach their goals. They love spending time in the Colorado outdoors, adventuring to foreign lands, and having fun with their family and friends. They know that together they are better than the sum of their parts and they are excited to help plant this seed of expansive love in your life! In this podcast episode:04:30 - How did Angela and James come up with the idea of a retreat in a box?         11:30 - Setting goals with your partner15:30 - Benefits of having a set of questions to go through with your partner every year and getting away to have a retreat with your partner22:00 - What do you do if your partner is resistant to doing the retreats?  26:30 - How do you have boundaries to have a sacred sex space after having kids?34:00 - Prioritizing your relationship38:00 - Having a safe space with your partner45:00 - How do you help your partner feel “safe”?48:00 - The importance of love language to you and your partner53:00 - Resources to help your kids learn about sexualityYou can find Angela and James on: https://www.loveintentionally.com/Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

I spent almost a decade trying to find out what was wrong with my marriage. I just knew there was more to it than what we currently have. Do you feel the same? I hope this podcast today that we had earlier with Rachel Maine helps you too to gain the clarity you want in your marriage.In this podcast episode:02:30 - How Shannon and Steve's marriage started07:00 - Conversations about sex and intimacy Shannon and Steve had growing up11:00 - What if the woman has a higher sex drive?14:00 - Steve's depression23:00 - Being committed to your marriage25:00 - You can't be everything for your spouse and the turning points in Shannon and Steve's marriage31:00 - Taking a sex coaching class41:00 - Taking the first step towards recovery45:00 - How is Shannon and Steve's marriage and sex life now?49:00 - It's OK for you to have all those physical feelings51:00 - Keep looking for the person/ therapy which can help youResources:For Sex & Love Co - https://linktr.ee/thatsexchickTraining Camp For The Soul - https://www.trainingcampforthesoul.comBook - How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self - https://amzn.to/3IFL1VxSupport the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

I know it's dry January for some people so it's a great time to talk about how wonderful sober sex can be. Interested? Then listen to the podcast and take notes!In this podcast episode:01:30 - When and why I decided to have no relationship with alcohol06:00 - The benefits of being sober09:00 - Try to have some fun with yourself while sober11:00 - The Erotic Blueprint Quiz12:30 - The Will, Want, Won't list13:30 - Ask Shannon - Want to try something new with husband but don't know how to get comfortableResources:https://thisnakedmind.com/Support the show

Today we have Tracy Mix to talk with us about sacred sexuality, feminine energy, and how spiritual work is sexuality work. Tracy has been a QHHT practitioner and guide for awakening souls since 2010. She prefers to teach and guide on things she personally has experienced and researched so she knows firsthand how people are feeling when they are seeking information, or are feeling challenged or struggling. She has had a thirst for spiritual knowledge and can intelligently speak on just about any spiritual topic, however, sacred sexuality has been a favorite.In this podcast episode:01:30 - What is Tracy Mix's story?03:30 - What were the seeds that helped Tracy make her life changes?07:00 - What does sacred sexuality look like?10:30 - Sexual energy is th most powerful energy in the universe12:30 - How is Tracy helping people now?15:30 - Feminine energy18:30 - How do you know that another person is also doing spiritual soul work?20:30 - The book - Many Lives, Many Masters; And where can you find a spiritual mentor?26:30 - Basic spiritual practices for couples and how to be intentional with your sex life32:00 - Orgasm is a good thing35:30 - How can you own your sexual self?You can find Tracy Mix on:https://www.facebook.com/theawakeningguide/Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

Somebunny donates shirts to add comfort and style in the time when people need it most! According to WHO in 2020, there were 2.3 million women diagnosed with breast cancer. Today we have Hannah Hopkins Walton. We talk about breast cancer, building a community, sharing your pain, and talking about how she used her adversity to help support others. In this podcast episode:01:00 - How did Hannah build a community when she was still new in her area?02:10 - Who is Hannah? What is her story?06:30 - What did authentic look like to Hannah and how did she create her community for breast cancer?08:30 - Knowing your body and being in touch with it10:30 - What does Hannah's relationship look like with her body and sexuality now?14:30 - How is Hannah's relationship with her husband now?16:30 - How did Hannah and her husband deal with the challenges when she had breast cancer and until now?20:30 - Setting intentions in relationships just like in business23:30 - How did Hannah get the idea to create her community?27:30 - Pink wash and having a support system when you're diagnosed with breast cancer32:30 - How do you support people with breast cancer?37:30 - How do you share your pain without feeling bad about sharing your pain?42:30 - Hannah's fund raising event last NovemberYou can find Hannah on:https://somebunnyawesome.com/https://www.instagram.com/somebunnyawesome/https://www.facebook.com/somebunnyawesomeHannah's Superbad PodcastSupport the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

In this podcast I'm going to be sharing with you my top 10 this 2021. All the things that have helped me and my sex life be a lot better this year. In this podcast episode:00:20 - The wedge pillow01:40 - Yoga with Adrian03:30 - That Sex Chick Podcast04:40 - The Oster Blender06:00 - The Relationship Check-in08:00 - The Pure Romance Adventurer11:15 - Golden Milk Superblend13:20 - Outlander the series16:30 - Instagram - @the.holistic.psychologist20:30 - Palo SantoVisit my website here:prbyshannon.comSupport the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

Christy Texeira is a mother and entrepreneur. She is the author of Pink Elephants: A Mother's Story Of Faith, Strength, And Perseverance. Her award-winning interior design skills have been featured in Better Homes and Gardens and Colorado Homes and Lifestyles. Parenting for Christy draws on her talent for problem-solving in unique ways. Though there are no official awards for being a mom, being a parent is her greatest accomplishment. She has excelled in the extraordinary obstacles that come with having a child with a life-threatening illness. The Colorado native resides in Northern Colorado with her family and beloved dog, Malucca. Taking advantage of the active lifestyle the scenic state has to offer, she is a lover of all things outdoors, including skiing, gardening, rock climbing, and hiking fourteeners.In this podcast episode:03:00 - How did Christy and her husband meet and how did their relationship last so long?10:30 - Give yourself permission to go with the flow and make sure your family remained intact16:30 - Communication tips from Christy and how did the community show up to support them?21:30 - Accepting the generosity of people24:30 - Not keeping your emotions in check in stressful situations28:30 - Being intentional of taking care of yourself, marriage, and your children, and having your own identities34:30 - When and how to tell someone NO39:30 - Looking at NO as ON41:30 - What is Christy working on now?43:30 - The symbolism of the pink elephants47:30 - Let go of the life we planned and live the life waiting for usYou can find Christy Texeira on:https://pinkelephantsbook.com/Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

Today we have my good friend Cindy Faulkner. She's telling us about her mental health journey, depression, when and how to find a therapist, and how to make yourself a priority.In this episode:01:00 - Where did Cindy learn about sex?05:00 - Did Cindy have sex education at school? How did it look like?08:00 - Does sex become great when you get married? Are you “bad” for having premarital sex?12:00 - How did Cindy learn about pleasure for her body?16:00 - Cindy's first vibrator19:00 - Just point out where your clitoris is!22:00 - The difference between achievement and fulfillment in sex30:00 - How did Cindy find herself? How has therapy helped her?32:00 - How do you find a good therapist?36:00 - When should you move on to another therapist? 41:00 - You may need a therapist with a certain specialization45:00 - How did Cindy realize that she was depressed?57:00 - What does it look like to prioritize yourself?01:01:00 - What is the enneagram?You can find Cindy Faulkner on:Cindy Faulkner@prbycfCindy@pureromance.comSupport the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)