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Hi, I'm Amanda. I'm a life coach for moms. If you are a mom and are tired of the wash-rinse-repeat burnout cycle of motherhood; if you feel lonely and isolated in your motherhood journey; if you feel like you have completely lost your identity since your babies were born; if you feel like every other mom has it together except for you, this podcast is for you. I am living proof that a woman can be present & loving to her kids, while also being a whole ass person outside of being “that kid’s mom”. The secret? Learning when to say FUCK IT.

Amanda Haro


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    FIM 85: F*ck It Friday: The Turkey is Too Turkey-y

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2025 50:19


    Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! It's that time of the month, (no, not THAT time of the month

    FIM 84: Merry F*ck It Christmas: F*ck It Friday

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2025 61:07


    Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! This one is a special Christmas edition. 3 moms having an honest conversation about ways to let go of what stresses moms out so we can make space for what makes moms happy. Join Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz as they say f*ck it to: Kids playing the drums while mommy is recording White elephant (except for Haro, who is always down for a laugh) Having to wait to decorate until after Thanksgiving (because there's just not enough time to enjoy it otherwise!) Family obligations that you don't want to do Doing Christmas any other way except YOUR way Follow Amanda Haro on Instagram here. Follow Samantha Trujillo on Instagram here. Follow Amanda de la Madriz on Instagram here.

    FIM 84: Merry F*ck It Christmas: Family Dynamics & Christmas with Virginie Fite-Georgel

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2024 52:06


    In this conversation, Amanda and Virginie discuss the complexities of navigating holiday boundaries, cultural differences in Christmas celebrations, and the importance of communication within families. They explore the Santa tradition, gift-giving practices, and the stress associated with holiday planning. The discussion highlights the significance of setting boundaries, managing expectations, and balancing personal and family traditions during the festive season. In this engaging conversation, Amanda and Virginie explore the themes of comfort, personal choice, and the complexities of parenting during the holiday season. They discuss the importance of self-expression, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the necessity of open communication in relationships. The dialogue emphasizes the need to challenge traditional roles and expectations, particularly around holiday obligations, while also reflecting on personal traditions and the joy of being true to oneself. Follow Amanda on Instagram here. Follow Virginie on Instagram here. Check out Virginie's podcast, "Without Judgement", here. Mom guilt, mom shame, boundaries in motherhood, mom life, christmas, holidays, boundaries with family

    FIM 83: Merry F*ck It Christmas: Saying NO to Holiday Stress with Kelly & Ashley

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 52:10


    Moms take on too many responsibilities over the holiday season, leaving them feeling more stressed than joyful. In this episode, host Amanda Haro is joined by Kelly Siebold & Ashley Moore from the Let's Thrive Postpartum podcast, and they talk about saying NO to holiday stress and YES to everything about Christmas that brings them JOY. How do you navigate conversations with your partner about what holiday traditions you'll do with your kids? To elf on the shelf or not? Do you like cooking the holiday meal or would you rather order food & enjoy a day off? Does Santa wrap gifts or leave them unwrapped in your house? 3 moms, 3 real Christmas perspectives, and lots of laughs! Follow Amanda on Instagram Follow Ashley & Kelly on Instagram motherhood, mom life, Christmas, holidays, elf on the shelf, boundaries, self help, self love

    FIM 82: Merry F*ck It Christmas: Mindful Holiday Drinking with Anna Charles

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2024 34:51


    'Mom' has become synonymous with 'wine' in pop culture now. We see it on memes: "Hiding from my kids in the bathtub with a bottle of wine". We see it in alcohol commercials: "Because mommy-ing is stressful". We hear it in song lyrics: "All the wine moms are still holding out, but fuck 'em, it's over". Yes it's funny...sometimes. But it can also become a slippery slope to women developing drinking habits unconsciously. When we're getting the message from literally everywhere that we should deal with our mom stress at the bottom of a bottle of wine, we find ourselves doing that. Every night. TO BE CLEAR: THIS EPISODE IS NOT ABOUT SHAMING. Consuming alcohol is not in and of itself a problem. This episode is simply about uncovering the reasons behind your drinking habits & asking yourself the question, 'Do I like this?' with no shame or judgement, but out of immense LOVE for yourself. And if you find the answer to that question is, 'no', then guest Anna Charles has some helpful tips on how you can feel in control of your drinking this holiday season. There are ways to reduce your stress as a mom at Christmas without drinking them away. Follow host, Amanda Haro, on Instagram. Follow Anna Charles, the drink less coach, on Instagram. Anna's FREE Festive Season Survival Guide. Anna's website 90 Days Later drinking control, holiday traditions, mindful drinking, family stress, alcohol habits, social pressures, personal journeys, holiday celebrations, self-care, parenting

    FIM 81: Merry F*ck It Christmas: And A Russian New Year with Irina Shehovsov

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2024 31:14


    On this episode of this special Christmas series, host Amanda Haro is joined by Irina Shehovsov, who shares her experience acclimating to American holiday traditions as a Russian native. They dive into: Russian holiday traditions vs American holiday traditions Acclimating to a new country as a first generation immigrant How she made the decision of what traditions to keep and which to ditch when she became a mom Merry F*ck It Christmas, mamas! Follow Amanda on Instagram here. Connect more with Irina: Get Irina's book, "The Gift Inside" Instagram YouTube Website Reclaim Your Life Podcast Single Parent Success Stories Podcast mom, motherhood, parenting, immigration, Russian-American, holidays, Christmas, tradition, family life

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    FIM 80: Merry F*ck It Christmas: Holidays on a Budget with Amanda Jacobs

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2024 44:32


    Merry F*ck It Christmas, mamas! Host Amanda Haro is joined by Amanda Jacobs, a financial coach, and they talk about how to do the holidays on a budget without feeling bad about it and while still having fun. They talk about: - Navigating the holidays when gift giving is not your love language - How actually the best part of the holidays is the time we spend with our loved ones - How to navigate the financial pressures that often accompany this time of year - How their relationships with the holidays have evolved, particularly in light of recent changes due to COVID-19 You don't have to put yourself into debt in order to have a magical Christmas. Learning how to align holiday traditions with your personal values and financial realities helps moms create a more enjoyable experience for themselves and their families. Follow Amanda Haro on Instagram. Follow Amanda Jacobs on Instagram.

    FIM 79: Merry F*ck It Christmas: Prioritizing Your Energy Over Obligations with Ryann Watkin

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 52:11


    Moms–do you get stressed by all the family obligations around the holidays but also feel bad telling your mom or mother-in-law ‘no'? This podcast episode is for YOU! This is part 2 of a special 8 part holiday series, devoted to helping moms ditch stressful obligations so that they can focus on the parts of the holidays that mean the most to them. Christmas CAN be the most wonderful time of the year for moms and the kids. This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Ryann Watkin, the host of the Raising Wild Hearts podcast. They talk about: Doing a tradition inventory at the beginning of each holiday season, asking yourself, “Am I doing this for me or for someone else?” and “Does this bring me joy?” Ditching everything that does not bring you joy or that feels too much for you (and letting it be ok that this is different every year) Making new family traditions with your partner Setting boundaries with family members out of love for yourself Letting go of the compare and despair game. Amanda does Christmas in a different way than Ryann, and BOTH are correct. What do you want to say f*ck it to this holiday season? Let us know in the review section of Apple podcasts or the comment section of Spotify to be entered to win a special gift from Santa

    FIM 78: Merry F*ck It Christmas: F*ck You, I'm Santa; Co-Parenting & the Holidays with Julia Hoffman

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2024 79:59


    Merry F*ck It Christmas, mamas! This is part 1 of a special 9 part holiday series, devoted to helping moms ditch stressful obligations so that they can focus on the parts of the holidays that mean the most to them. Christmas CAN be the most wonderful time of the year for moms and the kids. Host Amanda Haro is joined by Julia Hoffman as they dive into the intricacies of holidays after divorce. How can parents work together to create holiday magic for their kids now that they live in separate households? What's the holiday schedule going to look like? How can you refocus when their other parent drops the ball? Amanda and Julia share from their own personal experience of co-parenting after divorce,  including: How to figure out holiday child placement schedule in a peaceful way How to stay focused on the kids instead of getting distracted arguing with their other parent Letting go after you've been the primary magic maker of your family Can Christmas be any other day or is it only on the 25th? Figuring out presents The Santa aspect (whose house does the big man stop at?) Christmas and grief Blending families The first holiday without your kids Connect with Julia Hoffman, co-parenting coach, here. Follow Amanda Haro on Instagram and YouTube. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 3:35 2024 election 6:27 Life is not stable but Christmas is 10:51 Kids outgrowing Santa 16:00 F*ck you, I'm Santa 19:35 Releasing your co-parent to be who they are 24:53 Navigating holiday traditions post divorce 37:59 Balancing holiday responsibilities as co-parents 42:21 Christmas reality vs expectations 58:16 First Christmas after separating; blending families 1:01:53 First time being alone on the holidays 1:06:56 Lightening questions

    FIM 77: F*ck It Friday: Don't Put That on My Face

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2024 49:41


    Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz are back to have an honest, no holding back conversation about the parts of motherhood that suck. Like: Crime scene periods from perimenopause The school morning routine & getting everyone out the door on time Being judged for the type of mom you are Our expectations of motherhood versus the reality of motherhood Sassy pre-teens Sassy 5 year olds Sassy 3 year olds Basically how kids are always sassy What do you want to say f*ck it to this month? Let us know in the comments below! If you loved this episode, make sure you subscribe so you never miss one! Follow Samantha Trujillo on Facebook. Follow Amanda de la Madriz on Instagram. Sign up for Amanda Haro's on-the-go coaching package, “Stop Snapping at Your Kids”. Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here (and get a freebie!) Follow Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach for moms, on Instagram and YouTube. Time Stamps: 0:00 Behind the scenes - getting the flu and perimenopause periods 3:51 Intro 5:03 F*ck the school morning routine 6:27 SAHM vs working mom and how both are good moms 13:04 Expectation of motherhood vs the reality (and how to accept what is) 16:59 F*ck the “experts” 19:28 When your 7 year old is Chucky for Halloween 22:53 Sassy pre teens and making compromises 31:03 When your kid changes their Halloween costume the day of 32:45 Raising strong, independent little women 34:57 Finding the golden age of motherhood 41:00 F*ck appointments 45:01 F*ck cold and flu season

    FIM 76: Resources for New Moms with Mariela Desantiago

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2024 53:56


    Being a new mom is overwhelming. Everything in your life has changed, your body is completely different and healing from the trauma of birth, and you have a tiny human to keep alive. Is the baby supposed to cry this much? Why is their poop black? Why is breastfeeding so hard? How do I sleep train this kid??? As a new mom, you have so many questions. And in this day and age, when we have questions, we turn to Google. Yes, there are answers, but….there are so.many.different.answers. (Emphasis on different). How do you know which opinion is the right one? Host Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach for moms, is joined by Mariela Desantiago, host of the New Mom Talk podcast, which is all about connecting new moms with researched based advice. They discuss: How there is no 1 right way to parent The need for more support for women postpartum How new moms can advocate to get the help they need postpartum Setting boundaries with visitors after baby is born Navigating body changes postpartum with self love Getting out of mom guilt Connect more with Mariela. Check out the New Mom Talk Podcast. Follow Mariela on Instagram and YouTube. Live in Carlsbad, CA or San Diego, CA? Get connected to other moms through the Mom Crew. Sign up for Amanda's on-the-go coaching package, “Stop Snapping at Your Kids”. Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here (and get a freebie!) Follow Amanda, burnout and confidence coach for moms, on Instagram and YouTube. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 5:01 The overwhelm of being a new mom seeking answers 8:10 There is no 1 right way to mother 12:01 Women need more support postpartum 16:49 Buying clothes postpartum 25:29 Accepting your post baby body with love 30:07 How to set boundaries and ask for help as a new mom 33:32 Wanting to be more than just a mom 36:15 The importance of dads stepping up 42:02 Stop the mom guilt 44:49 The messages our actions send our kids 49:10 Lightening questions

    FIM 75: Changing the Culture Around Foster Care with Jen Schwytzer

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 54:05


    In this conversation, host Amanda Haro interviews Jen Schwytzer, a social worker turned foster mom life coach.  They discuss Jen's personal journey into foster care after experiencing infertility, the challenges and rewards of being a foster parent, and the importance of self-care as a foster mom.  Jen shares: Her experiences with foster placements The emotional roller coaster of the foster care system The difficulties of building relationships with birth parents The need for a supportive foster care community  The difficulties of the government red tape in adoption, ultimately leading her to the decision to become a foster parent instead They also touch on the need for a shift in the workplace culture to accommodate the time flexibility needed for parents. Jen shares her favorite guilty pleasure entertainment and her desire to say 'f*ck it' to the bureaucratic system of foster care. Connect more with Jen, coach for foster moms, here. Follow Jen on Instagram. Sign up for Amanda's on-the-go coaching package, “Stop Snapping at Your Kids”, here. Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here (and get a freebie!). Follow Amanda, burnout and confidence coach for moms, on Instagram & YouTube Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 5:40 Jen's journey into foster care after infertility 6:45 Adoption vs foster care 9:47 Going from a 5 year old boy with special needs to 9 and 11 year old girls 12:39 The challenges and rewards of foster parenting 15:44 Navigating the sudden transitions in foster care 19:01 Building a supportive foster care community 22:30 The red tape in the foster care system 25:34 Navigating relationships with birth parents 29:18 The importance of self care as a foster mom 32:56 The need for support and recognition for foster parents 39:14 2 days notice for twin preemies 43:16 Everything is figuroutable 51:18 Lightening questions

    FIM 74: Holding onto Your Professional Identity as a New Mom with Josee Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2024 57:22


    Is it possible to pursue a passion and hold onto a professional identity as a new mom? YES IT IS. In this conversation host Amanda Haro & Josee Smith unravel the challenges of maintaining a professional identity and the importance of pursuing passions as a new mom. Because when a woman prioritizes herself and what brings her joy, it ultimately makes her a better mom. Josee shares: How rediscovering her writer identity not only helped her feel like herself again, but also made her a better mom How to handle self doubt The secret to finding time to write with a newborn Letting go of perfectionism Self publishing tips for new authors Mentioned in this episode: The Creative Penn Podcast. Connect more with Josee Smith, coach for women authors here. Follow Josee on Instagram. Sign up for Amanda's on-the-go coaching package, “Stop Snapping at Your Kids”, here. Give the algorithm the finger–sign up for F*ck It Mothering Newsletter. Follow F*ck It Mothering on Instagram and YouTube Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 2:21 I lost myself in the newborn phase 11:09 The mindset shift for pursuing your passion 16:33 Women helping women 19:53 Finding time for writing as a new mom 24:45 Letting go of perfectionism 34:46 The transition into new motherhood  39:26 The joys & challenges of motherhood 43:46 The importance of self trust in motherhood 46:43 Self publishing tips for new women authors 52:24 Lightening questions

    FIM 73: Fck It Friday: Mommy Needs a Minute

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2024 68:32


    Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz are back to have an honest, no holding back conversation about the parts of motherhood that suck. Like: Tantrums being a thing and being so loud Gentle parenting feral kids who are fight club'ing it out The special kind of mom exhaustion that comes from being needed so much by our kids The special kind of mom stress of being constantly interrupted All the unnecessary 'meet the teacher' emails Socks. They never match and are always dirty or lost. Pee leaks postpartum The dentist guilt trip What do you want to say f*ck it to this month? Let us know in the comments/review section! If you loved this video, make sure you subscribe so you never miss one! Connect with Amanda Haro here. Connect with Samantha Trujillo here. Connect with Amanda de la Madriz here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:16 F*ck stupid toddler tantrums 11:02 F*ck gentle parenting 14:05 How to handle tantrums 18:31 Adult tantrum at Starbucks 20:59 F*ck mom exhaustion 27:34 F*ck mom stress from constant interruption 31:08 F*ck meet the teacher emails 33:55 Getting used to the school suck 35:55 Finding your own way as a mompreneur 38:09 F*ck pee leaks postpartum 41:32 F*ck getting kids to cooperate with orthodontia 56:39 F*ck dentist guilt 1:01:18 F*ck socks mom life, motherhood, potty training, tantrums, boundaries with kids, pediatric orthodontia, holistic dentists, back to school, Starbucks, pumpkin spice latte, psl

    FIM 72: Motherhood - the SCARIEST hood, with Courtney Hartt

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2024 68:48


    This week host Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, is joined by Courtney Hartt, creator of The Scariest Hood, an online resource for parents to help make parenting a little less scary. Because, let's be real--this motherhood gig can be downright terrifying at times. From waking up to kids staring at us while we sleep, to being the one in charge when the entire family gets a stomach bug at the same time, to figuring out who we are outside of our kids. They talk about: What it's like being a young mom (Courtney having her first at 19 & Amanda at 22) Going back to school as a mom of 3 How being a stay at home mom is not for everyone and that's ok How to get out of mom guilt The importance of moms having a personal identity outside of motherhood Tips for how to make co-parenting after divorce peaceful Why being single is actually the shit Connect with Courtney here:  Connect with Amanda here Ready to learn how to be in control of your stress instead of it controlling you? Sign up for Amanda's on-the-go coaching package,”Stop Snapping at Your Kids”, here. Like free coffee? Get entered to win a Starbucks gift card by taking this 5 minute survey. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 0:54 Amanda life update - exciting news 4:24 Chance to win a Starbucks gift card 8:54 The Substance movie review 11:11 Parenthood - the Scariest Hood 17:46 The challenges of going back to school as a mom of 3 21:42 Done is better than perfect 26:35 Why America sucks 30:37 Having your first baby at 19 33:43 I hated being a SAHM 35:54 How to get out of mom guilt 40:47 Parenting when siblings are total opposites 47:21 How to co-parent peacefully after divorce 55:19 On having an adult child 1:00:19 I love my single era 1:04:42 Lightening questions 

    FIM 71: Mom and Daughter Chat: 'I'd Probably Be Happier as an Only Child But Also Bored', with Eowyn

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2024 41:03


    There's a stereotype about moms and teenage daughters fighting like stubborn mules banging their heads together constantly. But this week host Amanda Haro chats with her 14 year old, Eowyn, to disprove this stereotype. Moms can have lovely, meaningful relationships with their teenage daughters. It simply requires open communication, vulnerability and authenticity. Join in on this heart warming and hilarious conversation about all the 8th grade woes, competitive dance life, and what it's like being the oldest of 4 sisters. Give the algorithm the finger–sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here. Ready to learn how to be in control of your stress instead of it controlling you? Sign up for Amanda's on-the-go coaching package, “Stop Snapping at Your Kids”, here. Get Amanda's secret to a successful morning routine for moms here. Hang out with me on Instagram and YouTube Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 14:11 A family tradition 16:15 Being on crutches 17:36 Tales from 8th grade 20:33 Why I'm actually the WORST mom 23:24 Why Eowyn loves competitive dance 27:17 What real life dance moms are like (spoiler it's nothing like the show) 30:52 On being the oldest of 4 sisters 34:10 I'd probably be much happier as an only child but I'd be bored 35:06 Lightening questions Mom life, girl mom, dance mom, parenting

    FIM 70: The Real Reason Moms Snap at Their Kids (and how to stop)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2024 33:57


    If you are a mother and you are a human, then you snap at your kids. And because you are a good mom, you feel bad about snapping at your kids. You beat yourself up about it & vow to work on your stress so you don't get to your breaking point so often. And yet...you find yourself in the same stress cycle that ends with you snapping at your kids. This week host Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, does a deep dive into the specific reasons that moms snap at their kids (spoiler alert: it is NOT because you suck). She explains why working on de-stressing in general has not worked for you and goes into detail on the 4 specific types of stress that are the culprits behind this particular problem: 1. Overstimulation 2. Overwhelm 3. Feeling disrespected or not valued 4. Burn out When you can name the SPECIFIC stress, you can then find the thoughts that are causing the build up.  Are you ready to get a handle on your stress and stop snapping at your kids for good? Get your 20% code for Amanda's 4 week on-the-go coaching package through September 15th.  Connect with Amanda on YouTube. Connect with Amanda on Instagram. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro  1:00 When mom life be lifen' 5:04 Why general de-stressing strategies haven't been working 10:34 Overstimulated 15:44 Overwhelmed 17:34 Disrespected / not valued 24:42 Burnout 26:05 The fix mom life, motherhood, parenting, stress, stress management, burnout, overwhelm

    FIM 69: Fck It Friday: Emotional Scarring Coming Your Way

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2024 73:15


    Happy first Friday of the month, mamas! Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo and Amanda de la Madriz are back for another laugh filled hour of saying f*ck it to the parts of motherhood that suck. They talk about: The exhaustion that comes with kids' constant questions The challenges of transitions and the need for self care as moms Children's dependency on mom for communication Sleep regressions Children's fascination with drawing on themselves with Sharpies The struggle to keep the house clean Balancing needing technology for our sanity in parenting and free play How to have love for yourself as a mom To connect more with Samantha, click here. To connect more with Amanda de la Madriz, click here. To sign up for Amanda Haro's "Stop Snapping at Your Kids" mini coaching program, click here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 2:36 Kids asking why all the time 3:39 Kids using sharpies as face paint 7:05 How does my husband tune the kids out 12:45 Transitioning from summer to school routine 14:45 Sleep regressions 21:45 The screen time and free play balance 28:58 Getting kids to clean up their mess 40:47 Red food coloring strikes again 51:26 Living with messy roommates (IE husbands and children) 1:02:16 Why am I the adult in the room mom life, motherhood tales, real mom stories, parenting, screen time, self love as a mom, self care as a mom, mom guilt

    FIM 68: No Excuses - I am a Mom and a CEO, with Victoria Pelletier

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2024 62:39


    Are you a career driven woman? Have you ever felt judged for juggling motherhood and your ambition? This week host Amanda Haro chats with Victoria Pelletier, who shares her story of how she accomplished her goals in her career while also being a mom.  They talk about: Breaking the cycle of abuse to create a better life How work life balance is about seeing how the two are interconnected, not keeping them separate Peacefully blending families Processing mom guilt after divorce Setting boundaries so you can succeed The mom tax in the work place Making choices that align with your values & goals Victoria is a beautiful example of how women can have whatever kind of life they choose, so long as they live a life of no excuses. Connect more with Victoria Pelletier here Sign up for Amanda's 'Stop Snapping at Your Kids' mini coaching package here to get 20% off Connect with Amanda on Instagram Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:00 Amanda update; Umbrella Academy; Inner 90 year old; Exciting News 12:19 Breaking the cycle of childhood abuse 15:44 Real work life balance for moms 16:56 Success does not equal confidence 22:17 Boundaries for moms 28:07 Mom guilt after divorce 33:14 Becoming a step mom 36:37 Having biological kids, blending families 41:53 Mom tax in the work place 45:32 Advice for the new mom on maternity leave 49:45 Giving my kids what I did not have 54:57 Giving back 57:44 Lightening questions motherhood, mom life, motherhood tales, divorce, blended family, mom guilt, stepmother, career, feminism

    FIM 67: Intuition & Self Advocacy: How to Trust Your Gut and Speak Up, with Amanda Borden

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2024 76:51


    Learning how to trust your gut can completely change your life.  This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Amanda Borden, who shares her life story of learning to trust her intuition in order to advocate for herself and later, her kids. She shares: Her unique career path as a multi-passionate entrepreneur Her journey of overcoming an abusive childhood & domestic violence Her mental health journey, including her decision to stop taking medication and use alternative practices to get herself healthy Going from being a single young mom to learning how to co-parent with a partner But every step of her journey was only possible because she kept making the choice to go IN instead of going OUT; to trust her gut and her intuition. Cultivating a strong sense of self gave her the confidence to advocate for herself not only in her mental health journey but in every other facet of her life. Because when we start improving ourselves in one area, it has a beautiful butterfly effect that touches all other areas of our life. Connect more with Amanda Borden, life strategist, here. Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here. Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter (and snag your freebie!) here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:00 Amanda Haro life update, back to school 18:31 Introducing Amanda Borden 20:46 Finding the right path as a multi-passionate entrepreneur 27:33 Time management as a mompreneur 35:16 Borden's story; abusive childhood, becoming a young mom, domestic violence, mental health 38:42 Finding & advocating for the best mental health treatment for you 42:53 Learning how to co-parent with your partner after being a single mom 47:15 Motherhood after trauma, overcoming PTSD triggers 50:15 When your parenting style doesn't match your partners 55:55 Advice for 18 year old me 1:08:36 Lightening questions self advocacy, mental health, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, empowerment, intuitive living, personal development, single mom, motivational, personal growth, motherhood, podcast, parenting, self awareness 

    FIM 66: Traveling with Kids: The One Where We Almost Missed Our Flight

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2024 46:45


    Traveling with kids is always an adventure. Moms can plan all they want but we might still forget to pack diapers, one of the kids might sleep puke on the flight, and the youngest child might still have a hangry tantrum while we're figuring out the dilemma with the rental car.  The key to a successful family travel day is learning to let go and go with the flow. On this week's episode host Amanda Haro shares her personal day in the life story of her most recent travel adventure as a single mom with her 4 girls. Including:

    FIM 65: Making Choices in Motherhood that Work for You with Roula Abou Haidar

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2024 55:39


    Unpopular opinion: motherhood can be boring. Not everyone adapts well to the demands and slow pace and ultimate isolation of baby life. But also, not enough women talk about the new mom struggles because they feel so guilty for feeling that way to begin with and are terrified of being judged. In short: mom guilt keeps us from finding the other women who are sharing our struggles who could validate our experience. This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Roula Abou Haidar, who shares her story of motherhood with the honesty we've all been waiting for. They discuss: ✨ The challenges of being a new mom as an immigrant ✨ Hating being a stay at home mom  ✨ How hard and painful breastfeeding can be and letting go of the mom guilt around using formula ✨ Divorce and peaceful co-parenting ✨ The decision to remarry & choosing to have another kid ✨ The importance of having boundaries as a mom Connect more with Amanda, burnout and confidence coach for moms, here. Roula's Podcast, The Life Affairs. Connect with Roula on LinkedIn Mentioned in this episode, Roula's favorite book: Courageous Parents: Becoming a good anchor for your children Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 4:20 Being a built in babysitter as a kid turned me off to motherhood 6:37 The struggles of meeting new mom friends as an immigrant 14:15 I felt like my life was over when I became a mom 29:45 Divorce & peaceful co-parenting & finally finding myself 40:40 Remarrying & choosing to have another child 43:54 Tales of raising teenagers 47:02 The importance of boundaries as a mom 50:34 Lightening questions  Mom guilt, boundaries, mental health, self care, self compassion, divorce, co-parenting, blended family, motherhood, making mom friends, breastfeeding, societal pressure, postpartum support, motherhood tales, immigrant family stories

    FIM 64: Letting Go of Perfectionism to Embrace Happiness with Olivia Ganguzza

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2024 65:38


    Did you follow the American formula for a successful life?  Graduate from college ✔️ Get married ✔️ Have kids ✔️ Balance mom life and still kick ass at corporate job ✔️ ...but do you still find yourself riddled with anxiety and ultimately not happy even though you did everything you were supposed to do? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Olivia Ganguzza, coach for high-achieving women, and she shares her personal story of being that perfectionist, high-achieving career woman who had everything but was left anxious and unhappy.  They discuss: ✨ How socialization and traditional gender roles have shaped work culture and why it does not work for the modern family ✨ Realizing perfectionism created anxiety, not happiness ✨ The physical consequences of untreated anxiety and burnout ✨ The importance of identifying your values as a mom so you can confidently make decisions without the anxiety of being judged ✨ How to stay curious with your negative feelings so you can break out of the cycle of harmful negative self talk and learn to have self compassion ✨ How to practice mindfulness as a mom to help reduce mom stress and burnout ✨ How to let go of perfectionism and the social media compare and despair so you can fully embrace yourself and your uniqueness Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach, here. Connect more with Olivia Ganguzza, coach for high achieving women, here. Time Stamps:  0:00 Intro 1:48 Creating space for well being when you are an over achiever and perfectionist 5:15 Balancing work and family life as a working mom  12:46 Why women need to stop trying to be likable by everyone 18:00 Asking for help & letting go of societal expectations in motherhood 30:26 Letting go of perfectionism in the social media age 36:35 Embracing our whole selves; you need all of your emotions 45:49 Making peace with your anxiety 55:51 Lightening questions Self improvement, self help, mental health, emotional intelligence, work life balance, mom life, motherhood tales, mindfulness, core values, authenticity, self care, connection, perfectionism, burnout, stress, anxiety

    FIM 63: Fck It Friday: I Chose This

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2024 58:04


    Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz are back to say 'f*ck it' to the sucky parts of motherhood. Because yes, we all chose to become moms, but we did NOT choose: Messy TikTok hacks that don't get cleaned up Messy Pinterest ideas that only keep the kids busy for 10 minutes Kids cutting their own hair Potty training taking for.ev.er. Connect more with Amanda Haro here. Connect more with Samantha Trujillo here. Connect more with Amanda de la Madriz here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:00 The Shein gamble; does it really cause cancer? 5:39 You can't complain about motherhood because you chose this 12:37 Fck food coloring & TikTok hacks 18:43 Fck messy play trends 25:15 Stop the social media death scroll 32:44 When your kid cuts their hair 40:20 How to repair the relationship after you lose your shit at your kid 52:18 Final fck its; potty training and kids eating in bedroom

    FIM 62: When Motherhood is Not What You Expected with Dr. Wendy O'Connor

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2024 73:38


    What do you do when you finally become a mom - the thing you wanted so badly - but it doesn't look or feel like what you were expecting? When you have anxiety that you never had before? When you can't stop thinking about how you're messing this whole mom thing up? On this week's episode host Amanda Haro is joined by Dr. Wendy O'Connor, a positive psychologist & life strategist, who shares her story of becoming a mom of 3 girls within 18 months (one kid and then surprise twins). They discuss: Dr. Wendy's experience with postpartum anxiety Sibling dynamics Helping twins develop their individuality How to make new friends as a mom How to design your life on purpose How to balance motherhood and career life How to discover your values Breaking free of doing what you think you "should" do so you can live an authentic, joy filled life Connect more with Dr. Wendy O'Connor, positive psychologist & life strategist, here. Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:00 Amanda life update; recovering from surgery when you live alone 15:08 Work life separation is not a thing 19:34 I always wanted to be a mom, so why does this feel so hard for me; PPA 25:08 Surprise it's twins; life as a mom of 3 kids under 2 years old 33:58 When your oldest does not like the new baby 41:15 Postpartum after twins 42:13 Balancing motherhood and career life 56:02 Get to the people; making new mom friends 59:53 Lightening questions

    FIM 61: Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No, A Lesson in Boundaries with Barb Nangle

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2024 80:39


    #boundaries #sayingno #codependency Do you find yourself always saying 'yes' whenever people ask you for favors? Do you feel guilty when you think about how you don't want to do it because you think it makes you a bad person? Most women struggle with saying 'no', because they struggle with these feelings of guilt. Women are socialized to be people pleasers; we are taught that prioritizing ourselves is selfish, that it makes us bad people. But the truth is that when we prioritize ourselves and learn how to set boundaries without the mind drama, it benefits us and everyone around us. This week host Amanda Haro is joined by boundaries coach Barb Nangle, who shares her journey of overcoming codependency and people pleasing and learning how to build healthy boundaries without the anxiety and drama. They discuss: How prioritizing self-care is not selfish, it's actually the best thing you can do for the health of your relationship How to say no and how to be assertive without being a bitch How to communicate a boundary without attacking the other person How implementing boundaries frees you up to focus on the things you love doing, leading to a much happier you To connect with Barb, boundaries coach, click here. To connect with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here. To join the FREE Mom Summer Camp through 8-09-24, click here. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 17:25 Codependency, what it looks like and how to break free 25:12 Boundaries, you can't neglect yourself into being a better person 28:47 Creating healthy boundaries in a romantic relationship 39:35 Breaking out of victim mentality 47:53 Stop saying yes when you want to say no 53:35 Living apart together; redefining success in relationships 60:54 Practical tips for setting boundaries 1:14:36 Lightening questions

    FIM 60: The Kids are Alright: Navigating Divorce and Peaceful Co-parenting with Julia Hoffman

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2024 69:44


    One of the biggest concerns for parents who are divorcing is the effect the divorce will have on their children. In fact, this concern can weigh so heavy, that sometimes it keeps individuals in marriages that are no longer healthy (and sometimes no longer safe), with the thought of, "Staying together is what's best for the kids". On this week's episode, host Amanda Haro is joined by co-parenting coach Julia Hoffman and they share their positive experiences with co-parenting after divorce. They are open and honest about the challenges they faced during the restructuring of their families, but also about the growth and transformation they experienced as individuals. They also talk about: How letting go of anger and resentment is key in creating a peaceful co-parenting relationship with your ex The societal stigma around divorce and the double standards surrounding women who choose to be away from their children part of the time in order to end an unhappy marriage Navigating the journey of self-discovery of being a queer woman while going through a divorce How to embrace the beauty of a blended family Keeping the co-parenting focus on what is best for the children Sign up for the FREE Mom Summer Camp here through August 9, 2024 Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach for moms, here Connect more with Julia Hoffman, co-parenting coach, here Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 10:33 The beauty and pain of co-parenting after divorce 19:22 Mom guilt and other emotional challenges of co-parenting 29:47 I'm so much happier now than when I was married 38:53 Coming out to your kids 51:16 Speaking as adult children of divorce 56:33 Lightening questions

    FIM 59: F*ck It Friday: Hanging on By a Hair Net

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2024 57:11


    Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo & Amanda de La Madriz are back to say f*ck it to the annoying, sucky bits of motherhood. Like feeling guilty when you need a break from your kids; fake eyelashes for dance; and feeling like you're always behind (because that's actually a story we're telling ourselves and it's not fun, so f*ck that). Moms can join all three coaches in their FREE Mom Summer Camp 2024, running through August 9th by clicking here. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:53 Summer just started and I already need a break from my kids 12:25 Getting alone time as a mom / boundaries with your kids 27:10 Dance mom f*ck its. Fake eyelashes, no bun forms, & bitchy Air BnB hosts 42:10 Deciding to have more fun in your life

    FIM 58: Who am I Outside of My Kids with Gao Motsemme

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2024 95:19


    Motherhood tends to be an all-consuming thing that wraps up every part of a woman's identity. Ask a mom anything about herself and she's likely to draw a blank. Then as the kids get older and spend more and more time out of the home, she's left with the question: who am I outside of my children? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Gao Mostsemme, who shares her story of being met with this question during a custody battle that lasted for years. She was handed court corruption but she allowed the experience to be a healing one, spanning patriarchal wounds to mother wounds to finally learning true forgiveness. This episode is a powerful spiritual journey sure to inspire every mother who hears it. Connect more with Gao, Soul Liberator & Change Expert here. Connect more with Amanda, burnout and confidence coach here. Join the FREE Mom's Summer Camp 2024 here. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro. Nationals & planning me time 17:10 Wound of not being accepted 19:26 Hitting rock bottom. Job loss, death, losing custody. 27:00 Going through custody battle 37:20 Taking off the strong woman mask 51:04 The answer is not to resent men 1:05:46 When women tear down other women no one wins 1:19:48 Lightening questions

    FIM 57: Greatest Hits: How to Have a Lazy Sunday as a Mom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2024 26:00


    Mama, be honest: when was the last time you took a proper day off? One where you knocked nothing off your to-do list or prepared for the next week or got caught up on anything except that show you've been picking your way through for the last 6 months. This week host Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, shares her tips on what to let go of (and how to let it go) so that moms can learn how to rest on a regular basis without the shame and mom guilt. ⁠Join the FREE Mom Summer Camp here through August 9, 2024.⁠ ⁠Are you ready to come home to yourself? Schedule your FREE 1 hour consult here.⁠

    FIM 56: Greatest Hits: Fat Girl Summer

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2024 49:34


    It's summer which means that all women in America are extra obsessed with hating their bodies. Gotta get your hot girl summer on, right??? No. Let's get our FAT girl summer on. Mama--your body is a warrior who holds you, who held your children, and who is the only one that shows up for you every single day, no matter how much you abuse her. Don't you think it's time to ditch the scale and the diets and the shame and learn how to befriend your body? Join host Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach for moms, as she shares her journey of going from hating her body to truly loving her body. Join the FREE Mom Summer Camp here through August 9, 2024. Are you ready to come home to yourself? Schedule your FREE 1 hour consult here. Mentioned in this episode: Bare, by Susan Hyatt Bird's Papaya on IG Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 13:47 De-programming social messaging 19:26 Going from I hate my body to I love my body 36:56 Tool to stop the shame when clothes shopping 41:10 You are inherently worthy

    FIM 55: Divorce is Not a Dirty Word with Anna Howerton

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2024 66:49


    Even though the divorce rate in America has been a steady 50% for a hot minute, divorce still has a taboo around it. A stigma behind it. Shame that comes hand in hand with it, because the underlying belief is still: if someone is getting divorced, this means that they failed in their marriage. But what if we stopped looking at divorce as a problem? What if we started seeing divorce as the neutral circumstance that it is? What if we interpreted the 50% divorce rate as for 50% of humans, 1 lifelong partnership just doesn't work for us instead of looking at it like it is something sad that we should fix? Host Amanda Haro is joined by divorce coach Anna Howerton and they dive into their own stories of choosing divorce, why it was the best thing for each of them, how they helped their kids through the transition of going from a 1 house family to a 2 house family, how they dealt with other people's negative opinions on their choices, and dating after divorce. Mentioned in this episode: The Diary of a CEO episode with divorce expert James Sexton Connect more with Anna Howerton here Sign up for Amanda Haro's FREE Mom Summer Camp 2024 here Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 7:52 The stigma of divorce 10:50 Having kids put my marriage in a pressure cooker 18:24 The hardest stage of divorce 31:11 Reconciling your divorce with your religious beliefs 36:03 Helping the kids transition 39:19 Stop seeing divorce as a problem 43:50 Dating after divorce 58:10 Lightening questions

    FIM 54: F*ck It Friday: Toddlers are Assholes (audio issue fixed)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 80:13


    It's the first Friday of the month which means the second installment of F*ck It Friday is here! Give your kids their tablets, grab your favorite drink & join Amanda Haro, Amanda de La Madriz & Samantha Trujillo as they keep it real about the parts of motherhood that suck. Like toddlers. *Audio issue fixed* ⁠Sign up for the FREE Mom Summer Camp running 6-10-24 through 8-09-24 here.⁠ ⁠Connect with Amanda Haro here.⁠ ⁠Connect with Amanda de La Madriz here.⁠ ⁠Connect with Samantha Trujillo.⁠ Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:30 How the RV life with kids is fun 9:22 Toddlers are assholes 12:53 When you're trying to gentle parent but your kid is low key abusing you 16:57 Postpartum, when does it fucking end? 19:32 Pregnancy is the only time we're allowed to take up space 21:36 F*ck taking all the kids to the dentist by yourself 29:35 F*ck white dance costumes, tummy aches & picky eaters 40:03 Stop wasting food! 46:30 F*ck the experts 49:54 Emotional difference between boys and girls 54:17 When motherhood makes you realize you suck at emotions 57:24 No support for women postpartum 1:02:46 It's ok if you hate being a mom sometimes 1:04:33 Lightening questions

    FIM 54: F*ck It Friday: Toddlers are Assholes

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 80:19


    It's the first Friday of the month which means the second installment of F*ck It Friday is here! Give your kids their tablets, grab your favorite drink & join Amanda Haro, Amanda de La Madriz & Samantha Trujillo as they keep it real about the parts of motherhood that suck. Sign up for the FREE Mom Summer Camp running 6-10-24 through 8-09-24 here. Connect with Amanda Haro here. Connect with Amanda de La Madriz here. Connect with Samantha Trujillo. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:30 How the RV life with kids is fun 9:22 Toddlers are assholes 12:53 When you're trying to gentle parent but your kid is low key abusing you 16:57 Postpartum, when does it fucking end? 19:32 Pregnancy is the only time we're allowed to take up space 21:36 F*ck taking all the kids to the dentist by yourself 29:35 F*ck white dance costumes, tummy aches & picky eaters 40:03 Stop wasting food! 46:30 F*ck the experts 49:54 Emotional difference between boys and girls 54:17 When motherhood makes you realize you suck at emotions 57:24 No support for women postpartum 1:02:46 It's ok if you hate being a mom sometimes 1:04:33 Lightening questions

    FIM 53: Learning How to Speak Up for Yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2024 24:27


    It's 5th grade graduation day and an unorganized pack of eager parents all push their kids towards the photo backdrop all at the same time. But you were already there waiting before this new wave arrived. What do you do? Do you speak up for yourself and tell the dad that just joined the C shaped queue that it's actually not his turn? Or do you bite your tongue, swallow your frustration at being looked over yet again, and physically position yourself to telepathically tell the others that you are going next? It's a simple scenario, but we've all been there, right? And like it or not, as women, we have been socialized to be people pleasers. Which means advocating for ourselves in any capacity--be it at the photo line or in our boss' office--is difficult and usually comes with a lot of anxiety, dread, and feelings of unworthiness. This week host Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, explains how to speak up for yourself without feeling anxious. Join the FREE Mom Summer Camp 2024 here. Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter so you never miss your weekly doses of encouragement. Ready to be the main character in your own life? Sign up for your free 1 hour consultation here.

    FIM 52: The Art of Surrendering with Amanda Curry

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2024 57:24


    What happens when you got everything you ever wanted but it doesn't feel the way you thought it would? Or when it actually feels horrible? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Amanda Curry, Somatic Inner Child Coach for Moms. Curry shares her journey of building the American dream just to realize she had built her life using blueprints her parents & society had designed. Who knew motherhood could be so triggering?? The answer for her to get her life back on track: surrendering. Surrendering to not having all the answers, to loving the messiest version of herself, and to healing her inner child so that she could finally become complete. The Amandas also talk about what to do if your male partner isn't on board for a decision you want to make for yourself, how conflicting gender messages as a kid still affect you today, and how to have deeper conversations with your male partner. To connect more with Amanda Curry, somatic inner child coach for moms, click here. To connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here. Mentioned in this episode: Rose Oracle deck by Rebecca Campbell Trevor Noah's episode on platonic relationships Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 11:02 I'm the problem, it's me 13:28 Motherhood is triggering & postpartum is hell 17:24 Loving the messiest version of yourself 20:53 Is this a cult? 25:33 Growing up with conflicting gender messages 28:56 When your partner doesn't support you -- you get to go first 34:41 How to have deeper conversations with your male partner 46:20 Applying inner child work to your children now 52:13 Lightening Q's

    FIM 51: Motherhood After Trauma with Emily Cleghorn

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2024 61:10


    Did you ever struggle with the thought, 'I'm too damaged to be a mom'? Do you still live in fear that the hurt you went through before you became a mom is going to find it's way to your kids? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Emily Cleghorn, who is a trauma recovery coach for moms. Emily shares her personal story of healing herself as an adult after childhood trauma. She's raw and honest about how becoming a mom triggered her in ways she never expected and the deep work she had to do to finally free herself from the bonds of her hurt. ⁠To connect more with Emily click here.⁠ ⁠To connect more with Amanda click here.⁠ ⁠Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here.⁠ ⁠Ready to be the leading lady in your own life? Schedule your free 1 hour consult with Amanda here⁠. Mentioned in this episode: ⁠Taylor Eaton / Wealth Vibe membership.⁠ 00:00 Intro; Intentional happiness, wealth consciousness, how to be abundant now; introducing guest, Emily Cleghorn 11:34 Unpacking childhood trauma 19:51 Nervous system regulation & reconnecting with your body 22:58 Motherhood can be triggering 28:45 My inner child gets jealous of my kids sometimes 35:33 How stored trauma is connected to infertility 40:28 Traumatic birth stories 45:36 Sitting in the hard while you heal 50:49 PTSD and motherhood 53:23 No complaining rule 54:43 Lightening questions

    FIM 50: Adjusting Expectations: Finding Joy When Your Kids Don't Act the Way You Wanted

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2024 37:29


    Mother's Day can be a mixed bag of emotions & expectations, right? The media paints it as this carefree day where moms are pampered and appreciated, but the reality is...we still have to be moms. The baby still has blow out diapers, the older kids still fight, and your partner still can't read your mind. But Mother's Day isn't the only time moms get disappointed by the reality of something they had fantasied was going to be so much fun: We dream up the BEST family vacation, but the reality is our family stress follows us to our destination We long for a family movie night until we're 30 minutes into everyone fighting over what we're watching and the teenager gives up and watches Netflix on her phone in her room We look forward to the weekend to reconnect with our busy teens just to sit at home alone because they went to their friend's house In this episode, host Amanda Haro explains: How to let go of expectations so moms can enjoy authentic family moments How to allow your kids to be themselves & how to give them space to explore their friendships/chosen family & why this is crucial for their growth and development How to embrace change & let go of resistance in order to cultivate acceptance and happiness Mentioned in this episode: FIM 17: I don't want f*cking jewelry for Mother's Day FIM 44: This is not a problem "A Happy Pocket Full of Money" audio book Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter so you never miss your weekly F*ck It joy. Ready to be the main character in your own life? Sign up for your free 1 hour consultation here. You have nothing to lose and YOURSELF to gain. 0:00 Intro 1:00 Mother's Day & TTPD 13:36:04 Doing vs trying & increasing your wealth consciousness 18:46:04 Expectations vs reality of family time 20:52:20 My teen is always at their friends house 26:52:07 "But mom that sounds boring" / being ok with yourself 30:03:17 Letting kids be themselves 33:08:15 How to be ok with change

    FIM 49: Pregnancy After Infertility Using Reiki with Carolina Sotomayor

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2024 86:44


    This week host Amanda Haro is joined by womb healer Carolina Sotomayor from the Make a Baby podcast. Carolina shares her journey of navigating the loss of her father a month before her wedding, infertility, a turbulent relationship with her mother, and how she found healing for all of it through the ancient Japanese practice of reiki. She has since helped almost 100 women successfully treat their infertility with reiki. Carolina's story is a true testament to not only this ancient healing practice but also to the power we all have inside of us to heal even the deepest wounds and to be the generational curse breaker of our families. 0:00 Intro 14:00 Taylor Swift, Eras Tour, Human Design 26:30:18 Carolina's story; physical abuse as a child; grief journey 28:42:16 Spirituality, religion, and learning how to become a medium 33:13:04 Infertility journey and conceiving after reiki 39:35:06 Postpartum depression and anxiety 45:06:00 Spirit babies, world religions, Mary Magdalene Manuscripts 50:35:00 Grief, anger, and getting Godsmacked 57:07:22 Sexual assault, abortion, and having a baby later 60:27:11 Healing relationship with abusive parent in adulthood 1:16:31:13 Lightening questions Mentioned in this episode: A Happy Pocket Full of Money by David Cameron Gikandi audiobook Taylor Eaton, money mindset & manifestation tarot reader Make a Baby Podcast Connect more with Carolina here Connect more with Amanda here

    FIM 48: F*ck It Friday: Be Free and Take a F*cking Shower

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2024 51:22


    Welcome to the first of a new series on the F*ck It Mothering podcast: F*ck It Friday! The first Friday of every month there will be a bonus episode where host Amanda Haro is joined by recurring co-hosts Amanda De La Madriz from That Mom Life Coaching & Samantha Trujillo from Veteran Mama's Coaching to say F*CK IT to something in motherhood. This month we said f*ck it to: 2:34:11 Potty Training (because it sucks) 8:00:00 Our kids always getting sick 12:30:00 Kids fighting showers 16:19:19 Kids being psychos in the car 19:17:00 Other people's kids (because they're annoying) 25:15:04 Being the mom you think you "should" be (it's ok if you hate being the class mom) 30:23:07 Feral kids at lunchtime 37:20:18 The after school meltdown 42:38:21 The struggles of raising independent little women 45:12:02 Mom overwhelm Connect more with Amanda Haro here. Connect more with Amanda De La Madriz here.

    FIM 47: The 34 Hour Dance Competition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2024 48:39


    This week's episode is for all the dance moms, both new and seasoned! Host Amanda Haro shares how she survived a 4 day comp with multiple dancers. She covers: Dance mom hacks to help with quick changes The best costume bag (not sponsored; this is an honest opinion) Sneaking snacks into convention centers & keeping everything accessible and organized once you're there How to prepare yourself for a dance comp The importance of making friends with your fellow dance moms. The kids are a team and so are the moms! Connect more with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here. Email: fckitmothering@gmail.com LinkedIn Instagram Facebook 00:00 Intro 7:11:20 Book Recommendations, Tom Lake and This Spells Love 12:25:18 Taylor Swift & The Tortured Poet's Department 13:59:09 It's ok to panic about the comp schedule 16:08:23 How to make a plan so you don't die 20:03:12 The reality of comp days 22:22:14 You have to learn how to manage your own stress 23:54:15 My fuck up from this comp / Learn from every comp 27:22:21 How to stay organized with multiple dancers on different teams 37:22:11 The boredom factor 39:26:12 How to make a plan for quick changes 42:46:20 How to take care of yourself

    FIM 46: Client Testimonial, Taking My Life Back with Megan

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2024 62:16


    This week, host Amanda Haro is joined by one of her first clients, Megan.  Megan shares her inspiring story of being mis-diagnosed with non epileptic seizures for four years. The doctors told her that the seizures were caused by stress, but they were actually triggered by any intense emotion (ever laughed so hard you seized?).  Megan was having multiple seizures a day when she started working with Amanda and after 3 months of coaching together, she got them down to once a few weeks and sometimes even once a few months!  She has since been properly diagnosed with narcolepsy type 1 and has medicine to help control the seizures, but coaching was what got her through it.  And the coaching tools she learned has helped her to permanently reduce her stress as she navigates being an entrepreneur and mom of two. Since learning how to take care of herself and prioritize herself, she has become a more patient mom. Connect more with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here.

    FIM 45: How Meditation Helped This Single Mom of Twin Boys Navigate a Death Scare w/ Natalie Bedard

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2024 90:42


    This week host Amanda Haro interviews healing energy coach Natalie Bedard about how meditation helped her navigate a death scare (which she received no diagnosis for) as a single mom of twin boys who were 4 years old at the time. Chapters: 13:35 Coming out of the narration of perfection 16:32 Death scare, no diagnosis, how the medical system is failing us 28:00 Keeping stress low using meditation as a single mom of twin boys 30:35 Nat Nat guides Amanda through a live meditation 34:04 Therapy vs meditation / Women are socialized to take care of everyone else's emotional needs but not their own / Befriending anger 37:40 Parenting is messy / “Not good enough” messaging moms receive 43:00 Taking radical responsibility for our emotions 43:42 Grief & our relationship with death 45:40 Learning how to meditate in the chaos of single motherhood with twin boys; “I am not my nervous system” 1:00:36 Understanding your emotional triggers, your nervous system, and doing the work so you can be the generational curse breaker 1:03:50 No one right way to do it & the true definition of empowerment 1:06:24 Navigating mom guilt 1:12:18 Finding the joy without toxic positivity 1:18:41 Lightning questions

    FIM 44: This is Not a Problem

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2024 37:15


    This week, host Amanda Haro shares a simple yet effective tool to immediately begin relieving everyday mom stress by thinking a specific thought on purpose: "This is not a problem". Your toddler is horizontal in aisle A5 of Target because you said 'no' to buying the bottle of Tums they were using as a rattle? This is not a problem. Your teenager grew an attitude the size of Texas overnight? This is not a problem. Your kids can't get through a 10 minute car ride without being psychos? This is not a problem. We create suffering for ourselves when we resist our reality. And so by learning to accept what is, we immediately relieve ourselves of stress. "Ummmmkay, great, Amanda, but all of those things actually are problems. They like really suck and make me stressed." Yes, all these things suck. But they aren't actually problems. A toddler emoting loudly in public is just what toddlers do. Teenagers are assholes; it's just what they do. Siblings fight all.the.time. Especially in the car. Again--it's just what they do. And the problem with thinking of all these everyday things as problems is that our brain then tries to "fix" it. Which doesn't work, because what we're really doing is resisting reality. And so we end up in a hellish cycle of our kids being themselves, us trying to "fix" them, it not working, and us crying in frustration into our wine at night. But this is a hellish cycle of our own making. Tune in to this week's episode to learn how to break out of the shitty cycle for good. Connect more with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here. To dive deeper into this thought work tool in action, also check out FIM 9: When Your Kids Give You the Finger

    FIM 43: Why the Parenting Hacks Don't Work (Spoiler Alert, It's Not You)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2024 46:13


    Have you scoured the internet in search of *the* parenting hack that will solve the problem of your kids tantrums / pissy attitude / picky eating? Have you implemented all that advice just to wind up still stressed / anxious / overwhelmed? If you've been a part of the F*ck It Mothering community for awhile, you'll notice a major difference between host Amanda Haro and “parenting experts” is that she does not give out parenting advice. And she doesn't give parenting advice because it's not going to work. At least, in the sense of reducing your stress.Because taking a new action does not affect our feelings. Our thoughts create our feelings. The reason none of the parenting advice out there hasn't worked for you is not because you suck and your kids are awful. It's just because no one is teaching you how to tackle the real problem: changing your thoughts. Connect more with Amanda, life coach for moms, here. The Lo Life Podcast F*ck It Mothering Depression Episode

    FIM 42: Greatest Hits: Standing Room Only Funeral

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2024 32:51


    As moms it is all too easy to get caught up in all the little details of our individual days. There is so much on a mom's plate that it demands all of our attention. But in the midst of all the diapers, playdates, school field trips, extracurriculars, and screen time limits is our singular precious life. And if we aren't intentional about zooming our perspective out to see the big picture, we wind up with an overflowing bucket of regret to contemplate on our death beds. Join life coach and mom of four, Amanda Haro, as she revisits a F*ck It Mothering Greatest Hit, "Standing Room Only Funeral". We'll talk about how to keep our brains focused on what truly matters in life and how to live with intention so moms can leave their kids with a beautiful legacy of a life well lived. Connect more with Amanda here.

    FIM 41: Traveling with Kids as a Single Mom & Trusting the Power in Your Ordinary Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2024 44:32


    Topics covered in this episode by Amanda Haro, life coach for moms: Traveling with 4 kids as a single mom without being overwhelmed with stress Spring break family vacation in California Disneyland & California Adventure tips Believing in yourself Seeing and trusting the power of your story Leave a review for this episode in Apple Podcasts & get entered to the F*ck It Mothering monthly book & Starbucks gift card raffle! Connect more with Amanda here.

    FIM 40: How to Not Feel Guilty Asking for Help

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2024 26:59


    This week, Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, discusses how to not feel guilty asking for help. You'll learn: Why you feel guilty asking other people for help, especially from the lens of being a woman, and more specifically, being a mom How stay at home moms can stop feeling guilty asking their partners for help with the kids The difference between guilt and shame, and how to tell which you are feeling How to embrace community in motherhood and life Reclaim your power over the content you consume by signing up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here. Connect with Amanda here.

    FIM 39: Holding Hands with My Depression

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2024 33:08


    Topics covered this week by Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence life coach for moms: Deep dive review of Cesca Major's book, Maybe Next Time Netflix's TV series Heartstopper How to get through a depressive spell without the shame thoughts How to trust the healing process and depression's role in that How to turn off a perfectionist brain focused on productivity Unf*ck Your Brain's Clean vs Dirty Pain episode Connect with Amanda on Instagram, Facebook, & LinkedIn

    FIM 38: When Being a Single Mom is Hard, Book Recommendations, & Making Your Dream a Reality

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2024 89:02


    Topics covered this week with host, Amanda Haro, life coach for moms: Book recommendations from money mindset to BOPO to the best Harry Potter to the best romances (both heterosexual & LGBTQIA+) Dating yourself How to take care of yourself when being a single mom is hard Backstage stories from a dance mom How Walt Disney's story is the kick in the pants inspiration every entrepreneur / solopreneur / creative needs to stoke their fire Bed rotting: how to take a day off without the shame monster taking over Check out The Lo Life Podcast here What did you think of this episode? I'd love to know in the review section! And when you leave a review you'll be entered into my monthly book & Starbucks gift card giveaway. Ready to kick mom guilt for good? Schedule your free 1 hour consult today so you can learn how to create that “me time” you never seem to get around to.

    FIM 37: Self Care During the Holidays

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2023 37:16


    With Christmas only 4 days away, it is more important for moms now more than ever to prioritize their self care. The social norm is for women to burn at both ends for the sake of creating Christmas magic for their kids. But just like it would make no sense to drive your car on fumes, it makes no sense to drive yourself on an empty emotional tank. Join Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, as she explains why self care during the holidays is so important for moms & how they can create the time to do it. Do you only know how to survive motherhood by overscheduling yourself, never getting enough sleep, & never having any ‘me time'? Schedule your free 1 hour consult where I can explain the simple steps you need to take so you can feel like a whole ass person & THRIVE instead of just survive: https://calendly.com/fckitmothering/momselfish

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