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Join QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki each week as they share stories of their messy, sexy, adventures as women navigating very hectic lives in Los Angeles. From relationships to business, heartache to true love, social to emotional, and all the ups & downs tha

QuyenZi Pham, Jessica Stafford, Nicki Sun


    • Jun 27, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
    • infrequent NEW EPISODES
    • 48m AVG DURATION
    • 34 EPISODES


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    S2E17 Bonus Episode: Gut it Out - Appendicitis Adventures

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2023 46:39


    In this bonus episode, Jessie shares her recent terrifying ER experience caused by appendicitis, which leads to surgery while pregnant! QuyenZi and Nicki coincidentally, have also had emergency surgeries to remove that mystery organ. Somehow, some way, all three of our Messy Sexy Me ladies dealt with their own crazy ordeals (and pains) to get their appendix removed. The stories will blow your mind, or give you some insights on how to identify symptoms before it's too late (and FYI - they don't recommend self-diagnosing)! 

    S2E16: Sunsetting Season 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2023 51:27


    Season 2 has so quickly come to an end, but this is really just the beginning. In this heartwarming Season Finale, QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki are back where it all began on QuyenZi's rooftop where Messy, Sexy, Me was birthed (not by Nicki's ex's ex, the doula - LOL referencing S2:E6). Join the ladies as they close out this Season's Finale with their wins and losses, under an LA sunset.

    S2E15: A "Q & AI" with Keith Koo: the ABC's of ChatGPT

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2023 51:55


    WTP (What the Prompt) is Chat GPT? Is it the future of artificial intelligence? Where does one draw the line between creativity and ethics? QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki each have their own plans to use the Generative Pre-trained Transformer, but first, they want to know who, what, where, when, and how ChatGPT works. The Messy Sexy Me ladies collect detailed insights and answers from their trusted friend, talk show host, and tech maven Keith Koo, whose vast knowledge of the latest trends and innovations in tech and AI makes him a sought-after speaker, consultant, and advisor for businesses and organizations worldwide.

    S2E14: International Women's Day & RxESCUESKIN - All Day Err Day!

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2023 44:59


    A special International Women's Day episode sponsored by RxESCUESKIN. The powerhouses we know as QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki all agree that women should be celebrated every day. From women who inspire, breakthroughs for women, and these three women's own daily habits - pull up a chair to this infinite round table and get ready to seize the day (or lifetime) with some beauty (inside and out) tips, daily love rituals, and some Messy, Sexy, Me GIRL POWER in this episode!

    S2:E13 Content Consumption: Engage, Rage, or Disengage

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2023 46:32


    Everyone seems to have a love x hate relationship with content consumption. Whether we consume vis-à-vis social media, streaming services, or traditional media, content can be addictive. The average person spends about 2.5 hours on social media alone. Nicki is a huge supporter of social causes and amplifying marginalized voices through her own content creation platforms, but hones in on authenticity. QuyenZi can binge-watch her favorite drama series and documentaries in one day while doing research for her ad agency (showering optional); and while she is fascinated with data analytics - she's not down with data mining. Jessie discusses the burn-out from juggling being an artist, social media manager, and co-host of this podcast. Join in on the content convo, as the ladies engage, rage, or disengage (nah

    S2:E12 Tackling Toxicity

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2023 50:04


    We all love Britney Spears' Toxic when it bumps in the club but realistically, dealing with toxic behaviors can be mentally and physically exhausting - especially when they're being projected from a loved one. QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki come to terms with their own experiences with emotionally painful relationships. Share healing space with the ladies as they identify toxic traits and venture into paths of forgiveness, love, or just choose to "forget about it."  Online Information: https://bit.ly/8TypesofToxichttps://bit.ly/WomensHealthToxicArticle

    S2:E11 Chaotic Singles Party with Cassidy Davis

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2023 41:25


    Messy Sexy Me welcomes Cassidy Davis, the brilliant mind behind the Chaotic Singles Party. What started out as a mashup singles mixer at her apartment where she invited over 65 random men for the single ladies (the Tik Tok video has now over 1.2 million views) has evolved into a series of successful events for her devoted community of singles. To attend, you have to bring a random person that you've matched with on a dating app (or in line at the grocery store works, too). The objectives are to mix, mingle, make-out, or marry (or at least start dating someone at the party). Whether you find love or friendship, Cassidy, the chaotic-party-matchmaking-fairy guarantees a good time filled with drinks, games, prizes, and a few surprises at her singles' events. QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki might need to fire up their deleted dating apps to corral some random matches to attend one of these parties (as wing women) - because everyone knows the MSM ladies have a penchant for chaotic, messy, and sexy (just not sloppy)!

    S2:E10 First Round's On Me: From Online to IRL Dating with Joe Feminella

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2023 41:23


    First Round's On Me Founder Joe Feminella cuts to the chase with QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki in this episode about his inspiration to create a dating app that brings back the IRL chemistry test. Why 'Like' when you can actually meet, with intention? The best feature about this new dating app is the capability to instantly ask someone on a date and schedule it. There's also safety features and other sexy features that are being rolled out, to help make virtual dating less messy. The ladies all tested out First Round's On Me and have thoughts that they don't hesitate to share with Joe and he is all ears! Learn more about this app, visit firstroundsonme.com or follow @firstroundsonme. Or get to dating ASAP by downloading the app on the Apple Store or Google Play.

    S2:E8 Hopping into the Year of the Rabbit

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2023 54:14


    2023 is the Year of the Rabbit (or Cat) in the Lunar New Year. QuyenZi (the Tiger), Jessie (the Ox), and Nicki (the Rabbit/Cat) break down their Asian Zodiac signs, their good or bad luck fortunes, and give some insights on how they celebrate Vietnamese, Korean, and Chinese Lunar New Year in America. It's not just about eating delicious food and getting red envelopes, but about tapping into history, culture, community, and sharing AUSPICIOUS traditions to combat that SUSPICIOUS bad luck energy! PLEASE HAVE A VERY HAPPY, HEALTHY, FORTUITOUS YEAR OF THE RABBIT (OR CAT)

    S2:E7 Eat, Pray, Love...and Shop: Travel Adventures ✈️

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2023 62:47


    In Season 1, the Messy Sexy Me Travel Baes discussed favorite vacays...and in this episode, they manifest some dream trips. Did they eat, pray, or love (and/or shop)? From Champagne to Bali, and a romantic trip to Hawaii inclusive of lots of self love and making love; get the pro-tips for where to drink the best bubbly, get a free pre-engagement photo shoot, and take an off road adventure that are not only IG worthy, but will knock out a few check marks on that Bucket List. Don't forget to try Q's recommendation for period sex (while traveling or just in general), Nicki sure did!

    S2:E6 To Girlfriend or Not Girlfriend (Your Man's Ex)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2023 59:43


    In this episode QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki share their individual run-ins with their men's Exes. Each of the gals have a plethora of awkward, bizarre and sweet stories of the Ex-girlfriend (or the new girlfriend of the Ex). Find out if Nicki had to get a blow up mattress under the advice of her Mom; to deal with the Ex who wouldn't go away. Navigate with Jessie, all the twists and turns of being kind and empathetic, but also holding folks accountable for creating cat fights. And don't miss the plot twist when QuyenZi turns the tables on the new girlfriend of the Ex who tried to play her (Spoiler, Q did not girlfriend, Girlfriend)!

    S2: E5 Mickey, Daniel, & Don Spill the Tea in '23

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2023 63:44


    Messy Sexy Me is kicking off the New Year with the Mensss! The ladies of Messy Sexy Me are all Boo'd up (From year one to year 7) and invited their men to come share their thoughts on the loves of their lives. Was it love at first sight, or, first smell? What drives the men crazy or madly in love with the hosts of Messy Sexy Me? What's it like to be partners with QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki and what are the challenges that come with coupling with these 3 baddies? This episode will have you cringing, laughing, and eye rolling throughout as Mickey, Daniel, and Don journey their accounts of falling in love and staying in love.

    S2:E4 Routines, Rituals & Daily Hacks

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2022 56:29


    To close out 2022, the Messy Sexy Me babes detail their routines, rituals, and daily hacks that keep their mind, bodies, and souls in balance. It's important to take some time off from conquering the world to breathe and invest in a little self care. This episode is all about doing what is much needed to nurture, pamper, and reset; so light your favorite candle, pour yourself that perfect drink, and sit back and relax to episode 4 because it's important to #treatyoself!

    S2:E3 Cheaters Never Win...but Hopefully, They Learn

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2022 52:56


    Apparently, there's a new study that 40% of women are cheating on their partners. Have you ever been suspicious that your lover, partner, or new interest is cheating on you, being unfaithful, or is just straight trifling? What are the signs that make them sus? What's the investigative process to find out the truth? How do you (or do you?) confront the cheater? What if you were the one who cheated? Why does one cheat in the first place? These are all the topics the ladies of Messy Sexy Me discuss in detail in this episode. The goal is to understand, unveil, and find closure instead of blaming, internalizing, and staying in toxic relationships. And in true messy-sexy style, be prepared for some hot dog throwing, Ice-T references, and dry humping up in da club as well!

    S2:E2 Fears and Phobias

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2022 56:57


    QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki do a deep dive into their early childhood fears; and then somehow, this episode snowballs into teenage angst, near death experiences, and the case of the attacking cricket. The ladies dissect all of these stranger things to reveal what monsters are still lurking just around the corner, or maybe just buried deep inside!

    S2:E1 Season 2 Launch: Up to All Good

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2022 44:40


    The Messy Sexy Me squad is BACK! After a much needed break from the wrap of Season 1, a wrap/launch party with Q&A moderated by Fox LA's Sandra Endo, the launch of Messy Sexy Me on YouTube (with a hot

    Season 1 Finale

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2022 57:19


    In this heartfelt Season 1 Finale episode, the Messy Sexy Me squad hone in on asking for what they've always wanted while learning to receive. How often do we yearn, want, need something that brings us satisfaction, joy, or healing but do not allow ourselves to ask for it

    Tips, Tricks, & Licks

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2022 53:17


    Let's talk about sex! Turn the lights down low, light some candles, get your favorite sultry playlist going... and get ready for some hot tips, tricks, and licks in true Messy x Sexy style with QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki. It's all about getting turned on (with or without a partner) and describing all the things that get you to climax(es) (x 16?!). Whether it's scenarios with role play, toys, or even a toothbrush - this episode has it all; sorry, batteries are not included, so make sure yours are charged up for this super sexy and ridiculously fun, descriptive, and unfiltered rap sesh. NSFW - unless sex talk is your work

    We Be Trippin: Baes on Vacay

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 30, 2022 67:52


    The Messy Sexy Me gals reminisce about their favorite trips (and how they overcame some very uncomfortable mishaps during their travel adventures). Live vicariously through QuyenZi's escapades rollin' with a Gangster and his hawk in Vietnam; Jessie's Ayahuasca trip in Ecuador, and Nicki's glorious Grecian dream vacation. On true Messy Sexy message...there are some seedy and dangerous road bumps, but the ladies are able to avoid danger with a little help from friends (and their own intuition) and embrace the saying "When in Rome."

    Odd Jobs: "Werk" We Don't Put on the Resume

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2022 52:51


    What was your first worst job or side hustle? QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki share stories of all the dark, traumatic, and all around crazy odd jobs that were part of their past hustle...and can laugh (well, mostly cringe) about in hindsight.

    Astrology Animals: Wolves and Weaver Finches and Black Bears, OH MY!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2022 40:22


    Social Media or Websites Referenced in this Episode:https://www.thepattern.com/https://www.primalastrology.com/animal-spirit-chart.htmlhttps://www.instagram.com/sanctuarywrld/

    Exes: Did It End, Suspend, Blend, or Mend?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2022 52:23


    Links for relationship advice/support:https://5lovelanguages.comhttps://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/a25907941/expert-relationship-advice/https://www.thehotline.orghttps://www.safehorizon.org/programs/5-signs-emotional-abuse/

    WTF Do We Do?! (For a Living)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2022 49:29


    QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki speak candidly about career losses, wins, and their journeys towards becoming a Marketing Assassinista, Tech Show Host, and Event Producer & Escrow Consultant. From red carpet successes to porn star meets peacock FAILS (you had to be there), it's all about lessons learned to secure that bag. Sorry, not sorry: this episode is for #goaldiggers only...#golddiggers need not apply!

    Bringing Out Your Inner Beauty with Outer Beauty

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2022 40:29


    Shop our FAVORITE beauty products HERE!https://technicki.info/msmAdditional links outside Amazon: Links to Quyenzi's products:(Scrub, Essence, Vitamin C Serum, Serum, Face Cream, Beauty Oil, Lip Balm) https://www.tatcha.com/(Skincare) https://epicuren.com/(Undereye cream) https://www.sk-ii.com/(Precision skin wand to even skin tone) https://opte.com/Links to Jessie's products:LG Su:m 37 Fleur Regenerative CreamLG Su:m 37 Fleur Regenerative SerumLinks to Nicki's products:(Concealer) https://www.ilmakiage.com/(Email Resource) https://10minutemail.com/Nicki's Amazon Shop

    Pick Up Lines That Land

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2022 49:33


    The ladies of MSM answer a listener question: “How should I approach someone and ask them out?”A can of worms was open but QuyenZi, Jessie, and Nicki turn these caterpillars (not worms) into butterflies

    Dating App Profile Disasters and Masters

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2022 54:00


    In this episode, the ladies discuss their own profiles and the master vs disaster profiles of their suitors. From basic tips (best greetings) that lead to a first date to how one can avoid getting left swiped and Xed out, this one will resonate with all you single (or once single) lovers out there.

    Surviving Bullying: from Being Dragged Down to Finally Standing Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2022 43:07


    We've all been bullied or have been the bully at one times in our lives. It's time to let go of the pain, hold ourselves or others accountable, and reflect so that we can spread more empathy and kindness. It's never too late to change for the better. Resources for anti-bullying: https://www.stopbullying.gov/ https://www.cfchildren.org/resources/bullying-prevention-resources/ https://www.uft.org/your-union/uft-programs/brave/anti-bullying-resources https://www.thebullyproject.com/

    Best, Worst, and Dream Dates

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2022 46:35


    From discussing innie vs outtie vaginas to losing an Audi, 80 dollar hot pot fiascos, and an eat-pray-love story in Italy, the ladies pile on the messy and sexy in this episode that's guaranteed to make you laugh your a$$ off

    It's NEVER YOUR FAULT: from Harassment to Healing ❤️‍

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2022 30:21


    Resources for help or to speak with someone:1. National Sexual Assault Hotline (1-800-656-4673) 2. https://www.rainn.org/resources

    Enough is Enough

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2022 31:02


    If you've ever felt "not enough" or have had "enough" - you can relate to the experiences these women share when it comes to struggling to be strong and giving themselves grace.

    What we find sexy AF

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2022 33:04


    The Messy Sexy Me ladies get down, deep, and dirty in this episode and break down what they find sexy (and not so sexy) in a partner. Grab a glass of wine or whiskey and get comfy for this one, but be warned...you might spit out your drink LOL during this episode! The ladies each provide their love language preferences and provide some sultry tips that will bring mental, emotional, and physical satisfaction. LFG!!!

    Welcome to Messy Sexy Me: DON'T Tune in if You're PERFECT.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2022 5:13


    An entrepreneur, producer, and tech expert join forces and create a platform that will help them (and hopefully their listeners) learn, heal, and grow. 

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