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A podcast for high performing leaders looking to optimize their leadership capacity while staying connected to the things that make their life worth living.

Sean Hansen


    • Nov 19, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
    • weekly NEW EPISODES
    • 48m AVG DURATION
    • 223 EPISODES


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    Overcoming the Pitfalls of Fear-Based Leadership: Building Positive and Collaborative Work Environments - 223

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2024 41:59 Transcription Available


    Can fear-based leadership really cripple an organization's success? Join me as we unravel the complexities of fear-driven tactics in leadership and their counterproductive impact on team morale and productivity. Drawing from my experience as a performance coach, I share insights into the pressures that can lead even well-intentioned leaders to adopt intimidating behaviors that stifle autonomy and drive skilled employees away. We'll identify key traits of fear-based leadership, such as dominating conversations and using titles to intimidate, while distinguishing them from assertive leadership practices that effectively guide teams through challenging times.As we navigate through the challenges of leadership and team dynamics, I emphasize the importance of recognizing the "tyranny of the urgent" and how it can contribute to burnout and poor decision-making. By prioritizing tasks and understanding human relationships, leaders can foster a healthier organizational culture. We also discuss the crucial need for leaders to assess their management style and seek help from coaches or therapists to manage stress better. Ultimately, this episode aims to empower leaders to inspire teams through genuine influence rather than fear, paving the way for a more positive and collaborative work environment.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Navigating Leadership: Curbing Hubris, Embracing Professionalism, and Fostering Two-Way Communication - 222

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2024 34:59 Transcription Available


    What if your biggest asset as a leader could also be your greatest downfall? Imagine the sharp edge of intelligence being dulled by the subtle creep of overconfidence. In this compelling episode of The Reload, we scrutinize the perilous sway of hubris within leadership, drawing insightful parallels with Greek tragedies. As a performance coach and special operations combat veteran, I share firsthand experiences that highlight how even the best leaders can stumble into this trap, not through obvious arrogance but through an inflated sense of their own capacity. We tackle the critical importance of recognizing and respecting one's limitations to avoid this common pitfall.Our journey continues by peeling back the layers of basic professionalism, often overshadowed by the chaos of daily operations. Discover why the simplest skills like open communication, strategic time management, and self-care form the bedrock of effective leadership. The episode emphasizes the transformative power of sincere interpersonal conduct and the often-neglected art of meaningful recognition. Leaders are urged to intersperse recovery periods and buffers into their schedules to combat burnout, thereby nurturing a more motivated and high-performing team environment.Finally, we shift our focus to the realm of feedback and communication in leadership roles. Moving beyond the traditional top-down method, the discussion underscores the advantages of fostering an environment of mutual understanding. The concept of regular, two-way communication between leaders and their teams is explored, highlighting how it can lead to more constructive feedback and proactive problem-solving. Through humorous anecdotes, such as the "screaming eagle," listeners will grasp the importance of humility and openness in receiving feedback. This episode encourages leaders to embrace a culture of collaboration, ultimately driving the improvement of workplace dynamics.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Transforming Organizational Culture: Insights on Embracing Change - 221

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2024 25:40 Transcription Available


    Unlock the secrets to transforming organizational culture and embracing change with insights from renowned therapist Esther Perel and neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman. Discover how leaders can foster a culture of flexibility and adaptability, even when employees come in with fixed expectations. We promise you'll leave with strategies to recruit individuals open to change and understand the vital importance of clear communication in guiding your team toward a competitive future.Join us as we tackle the complexities of leading organizational change with effective communication strategies. Learn how to paint a compelling vision of the future and ensure your team is aligned and engaged throughout the transition. We'll explore the significance of managing mindset and physiological well-being to handle the emotional challenges of change. With a focus on building trust and reducing uncertainty, we'll delve into open discussions and collaborative experimentation as tools for smoother transitions, offering leaders the keys to fostering a supportive environment for growth and adaptation.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Enhancing Teamwork through Structured Decision Frameworks - 220

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2024 34:54 Transcription Available


    Curious about how to turn your team's creative chaos into clear, effective decision-making? Discover the key strategies that can transform your brainstorming sessions from endless discussions to decisive actions. This episode reveals the vital influence of emotional intelligence in leadership and how even the most rational leaders can benefit from understanding emotional dynamics. By setting clear expectations and timelines, you'll learn how to guide your team through productive and focused discussions, ensuring everyone understands their role and the importance of recognizing time constraints.Explore the nuanced world of leadership responsibility and how genuine leaders can uplift their teams by sharing success and shouldering failures. We unravel the challenges faced by leaders at the top, like the intense scrutiny of being a CEO, and how to skillfully balance accountability with team recognition. You'll gain insights into the importance of training or replacing team members who aren't meeting the mark, all while maintaining integrity and handling corrective measures constructively behind the scenes.Dive into the complexities of decision-making and team dynamics, especially in the face of resistance. Learn how active listening and communication can reduce misunderstandings, helping team members feel valued even when their ideas can't be fully implemented. We'll discuss the importance of a structured decision-making framework for revisiting past decisions, ensuring that moves are made thoughtfully and not reactively. If you're eager to foster a successful team environment and make confident, informed decisions, this episode is your guide. Don't forget to like, subscribe, or share if you find value in our conversation.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Transformative Power of Embracing All Emotions - 219

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 37:48 Transcription Available


    What if embracing the emotions we often label as 'bad' is the key to unlocking personal and leadership growth? This episode of The Reload promises to explore just that. As a performance mindset coach, I share insights from my own life, including a deeply impactful event in Iraq, to illustrate how confronting fear, anger, sadness, and disgust can transform self-imposed suffering into powerful growth opportunities. By diving into 'emotion families' and understanding their physical manifestations, we uncover a path to enhanced leadership and personal development. Our cultural tendency to avoid these emotions is a hurdle many high-performing executives face, but by acknowledging and working through them, we can achieve a more authentic and connected life.Throughout this episode, we tackle the complex interplay between emotional well-being and professional success, especially in a society that often encourages superficiality. We discuss the psychological concept of loss aversion and its impact on motivation, emphasizing the importance of genuine connections and empathy. By sharing personal stories and emphasizing authentic communication, we highlight the role of friends and family in navigating life's challenges. This conversation is not just about emotional intelligence; it's about rekindling personal connections and living a fulfilling life while maintaining professional aspirations. Whether you're a leader or someone seeking deeper connections, this episode offers valuable insights for anyone looking to grow through embracing their true emotions.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    From Shaving Mistakes to Leadership Wins - 218

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2024 40:01 Transcription Available


    Who knew that the simple act of shaving could teach us profound lessons about leadership and communication? Join me, Sean, as I share personal stories revealing how the quest for efficiency can sometimes lead to painful mistakes, both literally and metaphorically. This metaphor sets the stage for a broader conversation about the significance of patience and attentiveness in achieving true effectiveness in life and work.Transitioning from the personal to the professional, the episode dives into the intricate dynamics of leadership within organizations. We explore the fine line CEOs and top executives walk between being involved and being perceived as micromanagers. By unpacking the concept of "commander's intent," listeners will uncover strategies to empower teams through clear communication and trust, ultimately fostering a sense of autonomy that drives organizational success. This episode is a must-listen for leaders looking to refine their approach and cultivate a healthy workplace environment.Communication doesn't stop at leadership; it stretches across time zones and cultures, bringing its own set of challenges. You'll hear about navigating "founder mode," where communication gaps can lead to trust issues and echo chambers. Through practical leadership development strategies like mentorship and adaptability, the episode offers guidance on overcoming these barriers, ensuring sustainable growth for teams and organizations alike. As we wrap up, I invite you to join our community, share your thoughts, and help us continue these meaningful conversations.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Elevate Your Leadership through Emotional Literacy - 217

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2024 39:00 Transcription Available


    Unlock the secrets of emotional literacy and transform your leadership style with insights from my years as a performance coach. Ever wondered why some leaders excel in logical thinking but stumble when it comes to emotional awareness? Discover how enhancing your emotional literacy can empower you to manage stress, build stronger teams, and achieve collective goals with ease. Through candid insights and a sprinkle of humor, this episode promises to equip you with the tools to manage yourself effectively and avoid the pitfalls of emotional ignorance.Embrace the journey towards becoming an emotionally literate leader who can accurately identify and label emotions. Explore the common confusion between emotions and analytical thoughts, a mix-up that can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. With a focus on corporate executives and leaders, this episode sheds light on the importance of fostering curiosity and understanding over emotional reactivity, enhancing both personal and professional dynamics. Dive into the complexities of maintaining team alignment and learn how a nuanced understanding of emotions can elevate your leadership skills.Immerse yourself in the world of emotions using tools like Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions, and learn how to interpret the wide spectrum of emotional experiences. Hear how recognizing both positive and negative emotions can lead to personal growth and more effective leadership. We'll guide you in identifying emotional triggers and mastering emotional responses, ultimately cultivating environments that naturally inspire positive emotions. This exploration into emotional intelligence encourages you to experience profound emotions daily, fostering a richer and more connected existence.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Mastering Team Conflict: Transforming Tension into Productivity - 216

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2024 38:46 Transcription Available


    Have you ever wondered why conflict within teams sometimes spirals out of control, while other times it propels the group to new heights of productivity? Join us on this episode of "The Reload" as we unpack the intricate dynamics of team conflict and reveal how to harness it for positive outcomes. You'll discover why highly intelligent team members often struggle with criticism and how posturing can derail crucial conversations. We stress the need for emotional awareness and provide actionable strategies to recognize and address toxic behaviors that can erode team cohesion.As a leader navigating uncertainty and high-stakes discussions, how can you ensure your team thrives? We explore the impacts of various leadership styles on team culture, including the dangers of favoritism and the power of curiosity-driven questioning. Learn practical techniques for neutralizing destructive communication and fostering continuous improvement by challenging biases. Gain insights on reframing discussions, managing emotional topics, and leveraging Marshall Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communication" to enhance team dialogue. Equip yourself with effective tools to cultivate a healthier, more productive team environment.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    From Silence to Solutions: Enhancing Team Dynamics - 215

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2024 62:33 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered why your team isn't talking to you about the real issues? This episode promises to transform how you understand and address communication barriers in leadership. I'll walk you through the four major signs that your team may not be communicating effectively: silence, indirect communication, excessive but meaningless chatter, and insincerity. We'll also dissect why these issues arise, whether it's due to power dynamics, gender, age, or physical size, and I'll share practical methods like 360 reviews to better foster an open line of communication. Next, we unpack the four main conflict styles—fight, flee, freeze, and fix or fawn—offering insights into how these behaviors show up in both professional and personal settings. From aggressive confrontations to complete avoidance, recognizing these styles is key to moving from emotional reactions to rational discussions. Real-life examples bring these concepts to life, giving you actionable strategies to handle conflicts more productively and return to a rational mindset.Finally, we'll explore how early life experiences shape our responses to conflict and the universal need for belonging within teams and families. Understanding these triggers can lead to a more supportive environment, even when disagreements arise. I'll share a compelling case study of a former Navy SEAL who learned to navigate his own conflict triggers, offering profound lessons in empathy and constructive communication. This episode is loaded with valuable insights and practical advice for enhancing both your communication and conflict management skills as a leader.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Being the "Extra Mile" Person - 214

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2024 58:20 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered if admitting weakness could be a sign of strength? In this episode of The Reload, I recount a powerful encounter with a respected influencer during a training event in Idaho. His heartfelt revelation about battling isolation in the Alaskan wilderness opened my eyes to the immense strength in vulnerability. Join me as we explore how our unseen efforts and connections impact each other's lives, urging a deeper appreciation for those everyday heroes among us.Next, we uncover the hidden toll of striving for perfection. Being an "extra mile person" might seem commendable, but it often comes at a steep price. Drawing from years of experience coaching high-power executives and special operations veterans, I share candid insights into the emotional burden of always aiming for perfection. Delving into the toxic mindset that can arise from setting impossibly high standards, we discuss the importance of acknowledging this pressure and the negative impact it can have on our relationships and well-being.Lastly, we dive into the transformative power of stillness and solitude. By confronting feelings of inadequacy head-on, techniques like journaling and reducing technological noise can offer a much-needed respite from the chaos. Through personal stories and client experiences, we explore how understanding deeply ingrained beliefs and letting go of them can foster personal growth and healthier relationships. This episode promises to offer valuable support and encouragement for anyone grappling with the relentless pressures of achievement, advocating for a more balanced and mindful approach to life.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Breaking Free from Work Addiction: A Cautionary Tale of Failing to Learn - 213

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2024 12:09 Transcription Available


    What happens when high-performing executives place their entire identity in their work? Join me as I recount the harrowing story of a friend and former client whose relentless work addiction led to severe health issues and major medical setbacks. Drawing from my own experiences, including battling suicidal thoughts after combat deployments, we unravel the life lessons often ignored by those too consumed with professional achievements. This episode sheds light on the severe consequences of such destructive patterns and the importance of recognizing them before it's too late.Together, let's explore the actionable steps towards a balanced and fulfilling life. I share personal insights and practical advice to help those caught in the throes of work addiction begin their healing journey. Emphasizing the crucial role of community support, I encourage listeners to not only seek help but also share these empowering messages with others who may benefit. Let's unite to disrupt these destructive cycles and foster a healthier, more connected future for all.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Building Trust and Elevating Team Performance: Insights from Nick Norris - 212

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2024 38:44 Transcription Available


    Can genuine trust really elevate team performance to new heights? In this episode of The Reload, we promise to uncover the essential elements of building trust and vulnerability within teams, guided by the insights from episode 211 and our last conversation with Nick Norris, a seasoned entrepreneur and special operations veteran. We dive into the telltale signs of mistrust, like ineffective communication and defensive behavior, and discuss practical strategies to foster an environment where open dialogue and collaboration thrive.Leadership is crucial in building trust, and we explore the pivotal role leaders play in setting the standard for a healthy team environment. From managing non-verbal cues to avoiding the pitfalls of "meetings after the meeting," we examine how dominant leaders can unintentionally silence quieter voices. We also address the personal pressures leaders face and how these can affect team dynamics. By sharing doubts and insecurities openly, leaders can steer their teams through uncertainty without falling into decision-making stagnation.Balanced participation in team meetings is another key aspect we tackle, highlighting how excessive inclusivity can sometimes hinder rather than help. We discuss ways to manage discussions efficiently and distinguish between relevant and non-relevant issues. This episode is packed with actionable insights aimed at recognizing trust issues and fostering a more collaborative, high-performing team. Tune in to transform your leadership approach and elevate your team dynamics with these invaluable lessons.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    The Power of Vulnerability in Team Building with SEAL Veteran Nick Norris - 211

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2024 76:50 Transcription Available


    Have you ever wondered how to balance high performance with finding deeper meaning in life? Join us as we chat with Nick Norris, a distinguished SEAL veteran and entrepreneur, who shares his incredible journey from the rigors of special operations to the complexities of civilian ventures in commercial real estate and consumer packaged goods. Nick opens up about the emotional challenges faced during the transition from military to civilian life, emphasizing the necessity of emotional connection and reinvigoration for personal growth and deeper relationships.Curious about how trust and vulnerability play into effective leadership? We delve into the critical themes of team trust and vulnerability, drawing from our military experiences to illustrate how shared stressors can naturally build trust and loyalty. Learn about the barriers many leaders face, such as the need for control and fear, and how these obstacles impact creativity, decision-making, and team cohesion. By embracing vulnerability and acknowledging imperfections, we can foster stronger, high-performing teams that thrive even in the face of discomfort and uncertainty.What does it take to create a genuinely resilient and connected team? We explore the nuanced relationship between trust and vulnerability, highlighting the importance of active listening and effective communication to build stronger, more cohesive teams. Discover how transparency and vulnerability can test and strengthen workplace culture, encouraging leaders to set an example by demonstrating openness. This episode offers valuable insights into fostering healthier, more supportive relationships in both personal and professional settings. Tune in to hear Nick Norris's profound wisdom on enhancing your leadership approach through trust and vulnerability.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    The Impact of Appreciation on Professional and Personal Bonds - 210

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2024 48:06 Transcription Available


    Can the simple act of showing appreciation transform your relationships? Discover the profound impact of gratitude as we unpack the often overlooked habit of taking others for granted. We explore how our biases and double standards can lead to misunderstandings and erode trust. Learn how aligning your actions with your intentions can build stronger, more reliable connections both personally and professionally.Unlock the secrets to nurturing relationships with consistent appreciation. Find out why fatigue, not laziness, often prevents us from expressing gratitude and how this oversight can negatively impact our connections. As we move from initial excitement to more established dynamics, we'll share actionable tips for reducing fatigue and maintaining conscious efforts to recognize and appreciate the contributions of those around us. Avoid dissatisfaction and foster a more positive environment by addressing unspoken expectations and roles.Maintaining relationships requires regular, genuine expressions of gratitude. We highlight the importance of small, consistent gestures over grand, infrequent ones, and examine how the effort itself is what truly matters. From handwritten notes acknowledging employee birthdays to structured appreciation methods, learn why it's essential to water your relationship "plants" regularly. Simplify your life for better relationship maintenance and see how small, consistent efforts can have a lasting impact on your personal and professional life. Tune in and transform how you nurture the connections that matter most!Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Achieving Productivity Through Intentional Actions - 'Find Time' vs. 'Make Time' - 209

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2024 41:41 Transcription Available


    What if everything you thought about managing your time was wrong? Welcome to The Reload, where we help unconventional leaders reshape their lives through challenging conventional thinking. In this episode, we dismantle the myth that short tasks are unimportant and share a practical framework to balance your priorities. Drawing from my work with high-level executives, entrepreneurs, and special ops veterans, we dive into the nuanced differences between “finding time” and “making time,” and why both are crucial for a well-rounded schedule.Have you ever considered that the best moments in life often come from spontaneous actions? We break down how "find time" activities, like giving praise or small gifts, can have a lasting positive impact when incorporated with intention and flexibility. Conversely, "make time" tasks require careful planning and are often reserved for more significant events or conversations. We emphasize the importance of balancing these approaches to optimize your time for personal and professional success, ensuring that you're not just busy, but productive in meaningful ways.We've got strategies to help you minimize the disruption to your internal clock, emphasizing the critical role of quality sleep. Plus, we share tips on fostering team connections and personal well-being through celebrations and nature-filled activities. Listen in to learn how maintaining a consistent sleep schedule, practicing meditation, and regular exercise can enhance emotional regulation and stress management. By prioritizing what truly matters in life, you can achieve a balanced and fulfilling schedule. Tune in and discover how to allocate your time effectively for success.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    How Do You Know You Have a Problem? - 208

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2024 33:54 Transcription Available


    Do you ever wonder why high achievers struggle with personal fulfillment despite their success? Today, we promise to uncover the hidden challenges that even the most accomplished individuals face. Join us on "The Reload" as we explore the traits that define unconventional leadership and the transformative journey of self-discovery. We'll unearth how the drive for career success often masks deeper personal issues, especially in relationships, and why recognizing when your usual strategies fall short is pivotal. With stories from my coaching experiences, we'll emphasize the dual importance of internal reflection and external exploration for achieving a truly balanced life, urging a reevaluation of what really matters.In our discussion, we'll spotlight the critical need for honest external feedback, even for those who appear unphased by others' opinions. Learn the value of 360-degree feedback and how insights from trusted colleagues and friends can illuminate areas for growth. We'll also tackle the thorny issue of self-deception, illustrating how recognizing enabling behaviors is key to meaningful transformation. Through compelling examples, including the metaphor of moving your ladder to a new wall rather than starting anew, we reveal how existing skills and experiences can be redirected for greater success. Whether you are at the peak of your career or aspiring to reach new heights, this episode offers invaluable insights to enhance both your professional and personal life.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Balancing the Burden: Empowering Leadership Through Trust and Teamwork - 207

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2024 36:19 Transcription Available


    Does the weight of leadership ever feel overwhelming? Today, we dissect the burdens and responsibilities that come with leading, both personally and professionally. Drawing insights from a compelling text message from an executive client, we delve into why leaders often carry a sense of heaviness, despite the fulfillment their roles can bring. Through definitions from Merriam-Webster, we explore the dual nature of strength and fatigue in carrying such burdens, and the inherent duty that leaders must face. This episode encourages you to reflect on your own burdens and offers a profound understanding of the complexities of leadership.Ever feel like being the "responsible one" is more of a curse than a blessing? We'll reveal how gripping too tightly to this identity can stifle others' capabilities, creating stress and inefficiency within your team. Learn how to loosen this grip, recruit talent, and foster trust and teamwork to alleviate your own burdens. By confronting personal ego and opening space for others to contribute, leaders can achieve a healthier work-life balance and lead their organizations to success. Don't miss our actionable insights on empowering leadership through trust and teamwork, and transforming your leadership approach for a more effective and supportive environment.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Redefining Success: The Hidden Costs and True Rewards of Winning - 206

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2024 60:57 Transcription Available


    What does it mean to truly succeed? Is winning worth the emotional and relational costs? Join me, Sean, as we question the societal norms of success often dictated by external pressures from parents, bosses, and mentors. We'll uncover the tangible rewards like status and material gains but also confront the hidden costs—strained relationships, endless pressure, and the fear of losing it all. This episode promises to offer a balanced understanding of the high stakes involved in the pursuit of success.Together, we challenge the conventional definitions of winning and success by venturing into the complexities that high achievers face. We'll explore how the relentless chase for larger-than-life accomplishments can lead to burnout and unfulfillment, despite outward appearances of triumph. Yet, there's hope. The skills and experiences gained from these pursuits can be repurposed for future endeavors, and often, our most profound growth comes from our struggles and losses.Finally, we'll redefine what it means to win by sharing insights from special operations and coaching. Hear compelling anecdotes that highlight the dangers of setting unrealistic expectations and the value of genuine effort over superficial victories. Discover the importance of true friendships that go beyond mere accomplishments, and learn how to balance external and internal success for a more fulfilling life. Tune in for a thought-provoking exploration that promises to reshape how you view winning and success.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Conquering Performance Anxiety: Strategies from Boardrooms to Martial Arts Arenas - 205

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2024 69:18 Transcription Available


    Performance anxiety is a universal challenge that even the highest achievers face. Imagine being on the brink of a crucial board meeting or stepping into the ring for a Muay Thai fight and feeling paralyzed by anxiety. This episode of The Reload takes you through the intricate maze of performance anxiety with personal anecdotes from the world of martial arts and practical insights for those in high-stakes environments, from corporate boardrooms to combat zones. We uncover how focusing too much on optimizing performance can sometimes lead to overlooking the essential mental and emotional groundwork needed for true success.Discover how balancing preparation and performance can be a game-changer, especially for high-level executives grappling with endless travel, sleep deprivation, and poor nutrition. Hear compelling stories that illustrate the necessity of understanding the difference between preparation time and moments of truth. By being fully present and not obsessing over external perceptions, we reveal how effective preparation can make or break success in critical situations—whether it's a board meeting or a martial arts competition.Lastly, we tackle the grind and growth, emphasizing the importance of rest and being present in high-pressure scenarios. Overcoming inner demons and fears is pivotal, and we introduce you to practical tools like Tim Ferriss's fear-setting exercise. We stress the importance of focusing on process over outcome to stay true to your passion and commitment to your craft. Align your actions with your beliefs and show up authentically in every moment, steering your journey towards continuous improvement. From personal growth stories to actionable insights, this episode is packed with valuable lessons for anyone striving to achieve peak performance.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Mastery as a Continuous Dance of Discovery - 204

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2024 26:26 Transcription Available


    What if mastery isn't a final destination, but a lifelong journey filled with continual growth and discovery? In this episode, we explore the compelling nuances of mastery through a conversation with a former client eager to deepen his understanding and reignite his passion for learning. We dissect mastery from two intriguing perspectives: as a pinnacle of skill and knowledge, and as an ongoing, ever-evolving relationship similar to a long-term marriage. This dynamic perspective will challenge your preconceived notions and inspire you to see mastery not as an endpoint, but as a perpetual process of self-improvement.Through captivating analogies drawn from martial arts, we illustrate how obtaining a black belt represents not the end, but a new beginning in one's practice. Just as a long-term marriage reveals new dimensions over time, mastery involves continuously peeling back layers and revisiting fundamentals to uncover deeper insights. We emphasize the importance of maintaining curiosity and passion, whether in martial arts or personal relationships. Additionally, we touch on the broader educational journey, highlighting that after mastering the basics, the path forward is one of self-directed learning and ongoing personal development. Join us for an episode that will motivate you to embrace challenges and pursue growth in all facets of life.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Navigating Regret: Closure, Meditation, and Living Effectively - 203

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2024 44:50 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered why it's so hard to let go of regret, even when we know better? Discover the profound impact of life's endings in our latest episode of The Reload. We examine the weight of closure in various forms, whether it's the loss of a loved one, the end of a career, or the dissolution of a relationship. Through personal coaching stories, I illustrate how high-achievers often wrestle with hyper-responsibility, especially in the face of betrayal or infidelity. Learn how these experiences shape our decision-making and challenge our perceptions of control.Regret often ties us to the past, shackling us to circumstances we couldn't foresee or change. This episode breaks down why, despite our predictive capabilities, we still stumble into choices we later lament. By understanding why we fixate on past mistakes or future worries, we uncover strategies to live more effectively and fulfill our true potential. You'll gain practical insights into recognizing and mitigating the forces that lead us astray, enabling a more present and purposeful life.Stress and poor self-care can lead even the most driven individuals to react in regrettable ways. Discover the transformative power of daily meditation as I share my personal practices that have helped manage stress and improve overall well-being. Reflecting on mortality and relationships, I offer exercises to create internal space for better decision-making, steering away from regret, guilt, and shame. This episode provides actionable advice to help you navigate life's toughest moments with grace and make empowered choices that align with your highest self.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Grace and Grit Steering Through Leadership Challenges - 201

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2024 59:14 Transcription Available


    Ever grappled with the weight of your professional identity overshadowing your personal life? You're not alone. My friend Nick Norris, an ex-Navy SEAL turned entrepreneur, joins me for an in-depth exploration of how leaders can maintain their core integrity amidst the pressures of high-performance roles. We're tackling the tough topics: setting boundaries, preventing burnout, and balancing personal connections with professional responsibilities. Leadership isn't just about making tough calls; it's about fostering trust and navigating the intricate dynamics of human relationships. In this heart-to-heart, Nick and I reflect on the challenges of confronting disappointing behaviors without losing compassion and the delicate dance of managing emotions in decision-making. We share our personal experiences and insights, aiming to equip you with the tools to maintain authenticity as you scale the professional ladder.When the stakes are high, how do you communicate with heart and intellect to reach equitable outcomes? In the throes of startup culture and high-intensity work environments, we unpack the art of conflict resolution and the importance of heartful communication. The stories and strategies we share in this episode are designed to guide you through the complexities of workplace dynamics and help you emerge as a leader who's respected for both their mind and their empathy. Join us for a conversation that promises to leave you with a deeper understanding of what it takes to navigate leadership with grace and grit.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Turning Blind Spots into Bright Spots: Learning and Sharing for Personal Growth - 200

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2024 18:18 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered how the missteps of others could be your stepping stones to success? This episode sheds light on mining the gold in others' blind spots for your personal development adventure. We navigate the nuances of learning from the actions, both laudable and lamentable, of those around us, transforming observation into self-improvement. It's not about finger-pointing; it's about recognizing the pressures that shape decisions and how they mirror our own. By finding parallels in our lives, we're equipped to identify areas ripe for enhancement and to elevate our performance and behaviors.As we unpack these insights, we also delve into the art of knowledge exchange and the pursuit of novel ideas. Your journey of growth is also about the paths you illuminate for others. By sharing these nuggets of wisdom, we create a tapestry of growth that extends beyond our individual reach. There's no obligation to leap into action with every new idea you encounter, but the act of sharing keeps our collective dialogue vibrant and ensures that we all venture forth, not in isolation, but as a community enriching one another. Join us for this episode, where we celebrate the potential for transformation that lies in the sharing of our human experiences.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    From Combat to Calm: Unpacking Anxiety and the Quest for Resilience - 199

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2024 54:02 Transcription Available


    Struggling with anxiety often feels like waging a silent battle, one that even high performers and seemingly unflappable individuals face. My own journey, from the frontlines of combat to the home front has taught me this lesson all too well. The intense interplay of anxiety and aggression, hidden beneath a veil of composure, can deeply affect personal and professional lives if left unchecked. Through vivid stories from my time in service and the struggles that followed, I offer a perspective that challenges the stoic facades many of us maintain and the resilience required to confront our inner turmoil.Navigating the transition from military rigor to the civilian's more nuanced landscape has been a profound learning curve. In our latest episode, I recount a pivotal debrief with neurologists and psychologists that revealed the surprising levels of anxiety in my own life—a mirror to the experiences of many clients I've guided. Together, we explore the 'always on' mentality, its impact on our lives, and the subtle yet destructive patterns that emerge from unrecognized stress. By sharing my own battles with rigidity and dark thoughts, I hope to inspire a conversation about the power of resilience and the defining moments that can save us from the brink.In the realm of conflict resolution and personal interactions, the signals we unconsciously project can shape the dynamics of our relationships and the energy we attract. I delve into the importance of body language, energetic boundaries, and the projection of our internal state onto the world around us. By examining how our behavior influences the conflicts we face and the partners we attract, this episode is an invitation to reflect and act upon the transformative potential of self-awareness. Join us as we tackle the daunting but essential task of breaking our own destructive cycles, finding peace within, and projecting a presence that aligns with who we truly aspire to be.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Peeling Back the Layers of Shame for Personal Enlightenment - 202

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2024 48:27 Transcription Available


    Have you ever felt the sting of shame so acutely that it seemed to define you? We're peeling back the layers on an emotion that's as common as it is misunderstood, guiding you through the murky waters of shame and its influence on those who strive to perform at their peak. My conversations with clients, from CEOs to startup visionaries, have unearthed a universal struggle with this deep-seated feeling, one that transcends success and demands our attention for true personal growth. Amidst the stories and professional observations in our latest discussion, we unravel shame's intricate tapestry, distinguishing it from guilt, and challenging its place in society. Is there room for shame in the fabric of our culture, or is it a relic of outdated norms? We explore this question, along with how the emotion shapes our interactions within groups, affects self-identity, and can even play a role in our pursuit of self-acceptance. Our journey through these chapters is enriched by the profound work of thinkers like Brene Brown, whose insights into vulnerability and courage offer a beacon of hope for navigating these turbulent emotional waters.As we wrap up this compelling exploration, I extend heartfelt thanks to you, the listener, for joining us on this thought-provoking voyage. Your presence in our community is a reminder of the collective strength we share, vital as we confront the challenges that shape us. Remember, while our episodes may come to an end, the conversations and the connections they foster are just beginning. Let's carry the wisdom gleaned here into our daily lives, supporting one another in the ever-evolving quest for understanding, acceptance, and growth.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Upholding Your Values in the Face of Conflict - 198

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2024 24:11 Transcription Available


    When the sting of a workplace slight had me teetering between indignation and curiosity, I chose an unexpected path that led to harmony instead of havoc. Join me, Sean, as I recount this transformative experience and more, guiding you through the twists and turns of upholding integrity in challenging professional scenarios. We tackle the essence of 'playing your position' in life's grand game, emphasizing why it's vital to stay true to your course for personal and leadership growth. Along the way, we'll unravel the complexities of reciprocity, ponder over the role of regression in our development, and illuminate the nuances of mutual respect.Navigating through the murky waters of professional relationships, we take a hard look at how to confront disrespect without sacrificing our composure or principles. By sharing my own narrative of conflict resolution, I aim to arm you with strategies for asserting your boundaries and maintaining a sterling reputation in your field. You'll discover the power of patience and seeking counsel when tensions rise, ensuring you emerge with your integrity intact. Whether you're a seasoned leader or forging your path, this episode promises to equip you with the wisdom to look out for one another and fortify your position amidst adversity.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    When Bright Minds Fail to See Within - 197

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2024 31:36 Transcription Available


    Have you ever met someone so brilliant yet so blind to their own shortcomings? Join me, Sean, as I reveal the paradox of smart leaders with low self-awareness. We often applaud those with the 'right answers' but overlook the critical skill of being open to other perspectives. Throughout my years as a performance coach, I've witnessed the brightest minds struggle with recognizing their own blind spots. This episode peels back the layers of irony, emphasizing the need for incorporating self-reflection and embracing failure into the leadership toolkit. We'll discuss how a balance between internal conviction and receptiveness to feedback can be the linchpin for personal and professional growth.Reflecting upon a past rife with controlling tendencies, I share a personal story that opened my eyes to the subtle ways leaders can stifle their teams' development. We'll explore the transformative journey from unconscious habits to conscious change, both in personal relationships and team dynamics. It's not just about owning up to our mistakes; it's about reshaping our leadership approach to uplift those around us. As we narrate this intimate saga, witness the strength found in vulnerability, and the profound impact it can have on forging more conscious connections in every facet of life. Join us for this heartfelt exploration that promises to challenge your perceptions and inspire your evolution as a leader.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Breaking Through Pessimism with Self-Coaching Strategies for Leaders - 196

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2024 19:16 Transcription Available


    Embark on a transformative exploration with me, Sean, as we tackle the unseen emotional barriers that even the most accomplished leaders face. Together, we'll unravel real coaching sessions that lay bare the struggle against pessimism and feelings of hopelessness that secretly gnaw at one's resolve. By examining the insidious impact of words like 'ever' and 'never' on our challenges, this episode is a deep dive into how these simple terms can morph everyday hurdles into unscalable mountains. It's an intimate lesson on the necessity of self-awareness and the potent effects of self-coaching for personal and organizational advancement.As we conclude our thought-provoking conversation, I leave you with a nugget of wisdom to ponder and apply. There's a calling to engage, subscribe, like, or even dislike, as your participation doesn't just enrich our community—it propels these vital conversations into the lives of those who stand to gain from them. Whether these insights strike a chord with you or offer a new perspective, your interaction is the thread that weaves our community's fabric, helping us extend our reach and impact.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Navigating the Storm: Balancing Confidence and Feedback in Leadership - 195

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2024 26:41 Transcription Available


    As a leadership coach who's stood in the eye of many storms, I've learned a thing or two about the push and pull of confidence and doubt. On this episode of The Reload, join me, Sean, as we wade into the quagmire of balancing the quiet assurance of internal faith with the cacophony of external voices. We'll delve into the resilience required to maintain one's vision in the face of relentless questioning and the allure of social validation. With tales from the trenches and the wisdom of experience, we examine the strength derived from vulnerability, and why leaders who can admit they don't have all the answers often end up charting the most innovative paths forward.Have you ever felt like a solitary lighthouse amidst a sea of conflicting opinions and advice? That's the conundrum we unravel as we discuss the fine line between personal conviction and openness to feedback, where one's own compass must remain steadfast even as waves of outside input crash against it. We talk about how to treat external feedback as mere data points rather than edicts, ensuring that your core principles aren't swayed by every passing storm. It's a conversation about the courage to stand by your values, even when they lead you against the current, and the wisdom to listen, learn, and evolve from the diverse perspectives that surround us. No guests, just us – let's explore together the paradoxes and power of leadership.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Unlocking Transformation: The Journey Beyond Fear - 194

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2024 36:10 Transcription Available


    Embark on a journey of self-discovery with Sean, a performance coach and battle-tested combat veteran, as we tackle the pivotal moments of personal and professional reinvention. Feel the pull of transformation as we reveal the layers of resistance that often bind us to the comfort of the known, despite the suffering it may entail. Through the lens of Sean's extensive experience, we uncover the role coaching plays in overcoming the struggle for change—highlighting its power to be the catalyst you've been searching for. Prepare to be challenged to let go of the past and make way for a new, thriving self, as we address how ingrained behaviors can both serve us and hold us back.As we unravel the essence of true transformation, Sean illuminates the significance of identifying your personal 'why'—a beacon for sustained change. We confront the fear of the unknown, the discomfort that accompanies growth, and the reevaluation of boundaries that comes with it. This episode is a call to arms for anyone feeling unworthy of a better situation or who finds themselves adhering to beliefs that no longer serve them. Sean offers a guiding hand to those ready to shift their lives, inviting you to look inward, believe in your right to seek more, and possibly take that first step towards profound self-evolution with the support of a trusted coach.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Ascending the Leadership Ladder: Balancing Growth, Expectations, and Joy in Your Career - 193

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2024 40:48 Transcription Available


    Ever find yourself caught in the whirlwind of climbing the professional ladder, only to realize the view at the top brings its own set of vertigo-inducing challenges? I'm Sean, your battle-tested guide through the trenches of leadership growth. Today, I unfold my journey from a white belt in Jiu-Jitsu to blue belt, paralleling the experiences of clients who've stepped up to the daunting plate of senior leadership. We tackle the pressures and expectations that morph with every promotion, weighing the thrill of advancement against the burdens it can add to our shoulders. As your comrade-in-arms, I'll share strategies to keep the fire burning for your craft, even when the heat seems overwhelming.Navigating career transitions or belt advancements isn't just about sporting a new title; it's an emotional odyssey. From sharing the raw sting of being fired to the unforeseen benefits that surface from such trials, I dive headfirst into the emotional undercurrents that steer our courses. The journey prompts us to question our perceptions of success and the role setbacks play as inadvertent mentors. This episode isn't just about licking wounds; it's a clarion call to recognize opportunities clad in the guise of failure and a reminder that our greatest lessons often come at the price of our most challenging experiences.And what of the pressures that come from the outside world, those that sneak into our psyche and nudge us towards places we might not venture alone? I summon the wisdom of the legendary Victor Frankl to dissect the double-edged sword of external expectations and intrinsic values. As we ascend to new heights, the challenge lies not in shouldering the weight of responsibility but in balancing it with the weightlessness of joy that once drew us to our fields. Stick around for insights on harnessing the power of focus to navigate the maze of post-promotion life, ensuring your professional evolution is as rewarding as it is relentless.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    The Truth About Emotional Command and Its Impact on Our Joy - 192

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2024 17:37 Transcription Available


    Unlock the secrets of a fulfilling life as I, Sean, your guide and performance coach, reveal why owning your mindset is more than just a belief—it's the key to unlocking the life you yearn for. Amidst the high stakes of special operations and coaching top executives, I've discovered that while many profess to have a handle on their outlook, their actions and emotions often tell a different story. No guest today, just me distilling years of insights into an exploration of the disconnect between what we claim about our control over our emotions and the reality reflected in our day-to-day satisfaction and joy.This solo episode peels back the layers of mindset mastery, examining the common pitfalls even the most seemingly self-assured individuals face. Through the lens of my unique assessments, we'll confront the uncomfortable truths about our internal barometers of happiness and how they often contrast with our self-perceptions. Get ready to challenge your own assumptions and learn how to align your inner narrative with the extraordinary life you envision. It's not about the facade of control but the genuine command over our feelings and reactions that paves the way for personal triumph and contentment.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Overcoming Labels to Forge a New Self-Identity - 191

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2024 46:53 Transcription Available


    Battling cervical spine issues has been my unwelcome companion, a journey that's taught me about the nuances of identity and power. Today, I share insights with you, drawing parallels between personal health struggles and the broader quest for self-understanding. We wade into the emotional currents of identity, looking at how labels like 'expert' and 'victim' can define our interactions with the world and ourselves, and unpack the complexities of a 'winner/successful' mindset that might push us toward achievement at a potential personal cost.This episode is a deep reflection on how past traumas, particularly ones as profound as childhood abuse, can root themselves in our psyche, dictating how we perceive and navigate our lives. We explore the balance between respecting expertise without undermining our autonomy and the crucial role of compassion in transcending the confines of a victim identity. Through personal anecdotes and client stories, we illustrate the importance of understanding the rules we subconsciously set for ourselves, and how they govern our actions and interactions.As we dissect the intricate tapestry of the self, we also look at how a strong identity of success propelled my brother to professional heights while simultaneously trapping him in an unhealthy pattern. The conversation further navigates the delicate interplay of identity in corporate scenarios, using a client's vendor negotiation complexities as a case study. We aim to guide you toward a richer, more nuanced self-perception, inviting you to engage with our stories, share the episode, or simply reflect on the dialogues we present. Join us for a journey into the core of what makes us who we are.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    From Adversity to Empowerment in the Healing Journey - 190

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2024 28:43 Transcription Available


    Navigating the murky waters of what it truly means to heal, this episode is a deep dive into the complexities of our psychological makeup, inspired by a candid conversation with my friend who's not only well-informed but also unafraid to challenge popular notions. Grappling with PTSD myself, I've come to see the scars and struggles not as abnormalities but as integral threads in the fabric of human existence. We unravel the tangled narrative that often places growth and healing in a box, marked 'abnormal', and instead paint a picture that honors the natural ups and downs of life. Join us as we probe the concept of 'healing' and how it intersects with intelligence, strength, and the human spirit, expanding the conversation beyond the confines of conventional wisdom.Then, we tackle the insidious nature of the victim mindset, inspired by the indomitable spirit of Viktor Frankl, and my own journey from combat zones to inner battles. We reflect on the tightrope walk between embracing a diagnosis and being consumed by it, underscoring the potential for acceptance and self-empowerment to break free from its grasp. The episode is further enriched by the insights gained from my coaching clients' breakthroughs and my wife's valiant dance with an incurable ailment. We highlight the power of choice, the role of support systems, and the relentless quest for betterment, promising listeners a perspective that champions resilience and the pursuit of inner peace.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Breaking Free from the Gravitational Pull of Normalcy - 189

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2024 19:25 Transcription Available


    Discover a fresh lens to view your daily routines as I, Sean, guide you through the murky waters of distinguishing 'normal' from 'habitual' behavior. This episode is a deep dive into why embracing the habitual nature of our actions can be a pivotal step towards personal transformation. As your performance coach with a special operations background, I bring to the table a unique perspective on how the acceptance of 'business as usual' can be a silent saboteur of growth. By identifying and labeling our behaviors as habits, we grant ourselves the power to alter our life's trajectory. Plus, I introduce you to 'gravity problems,' a concept that underscores the importance of discerning when to fight for change and when to yield to the inevitable.The language we use to describe our actions can either be a cage or a key. In this episode, I unravel the influence of our word choices on behavior and why substituting 'normal' with 'habitual' can be a game-changer. We'll tackle common pitfalls, like emotional eating, not just as bad habits but as opportunities for intentional change. This change in terminology can liberate us from needless self-pressure and open up new avenues for growth—whether you're on a solo journey of self-improvement or leading a team. Join me in this empowering exploration that challenges you to question the choices that shape your life, setting the stage for a more aware and deliberate existence.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Emerging from the Shadows of Guilt to Find Grace - 188

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2024 28:28 Transcription Available


    Haunted by a moment in Iraq that changed everything, I've learned that the weight of guilt can be a relentless master. February 12th, 2006, marks the day an oversight on my part resulted in the ultimate sacrifice of a teammate. In a conversation that is as raw as it is real, I navigate through the labyrinth of self-blame and the excruciating journey towards self-forgiveness. This episode doesn't just recount the events that led to heartache, but also the years of self-punishment that followed. Through therapy, coaching, and the unconventional aid of controlled psychedelic therapies, I've begun to piece together a semblance of peace from the shrapnel of war.As we turn the page to a chapter that is both vulnerable and vital, the focus shifts to the arduous task of accepting grace. It's a road fraught with obstacles, where allowing oneself to believe in a life beyond reproach is the rarest form of bravery. This is not just my battle but a shared struggle with countless others who can't seem to forgive themselves for their past. I share insights into the transformative realization that our lost loved ones would prefer us to live fully—embracing grace, not anchored by sorrow. Tune in as we confront the idea that self-punishment is not a conduit to atonement, and discuss why most people, at their core, truly yearn for us to accept the grace and peace we rightfully deserve.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Mastering the Art of Transformation: Navigating Identity and Excellence as We Age - 187

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2024 37:15 Transcription Available


    Embark on a journey with me, Sean, as we confront the delicate balance of personal evolution and professional ambition while the sands of time quietly shift beneath us. Feel the grip of grappling with age as we relate the wisdom of sustainable practices in jiu-jitsu to the broader scope of our lives, drawing parallels to Arthur C. Brooks's enlightening observations in "From Strength to Strength." Discover how the greats, like Darwin, navigated the sea change of their intellectual prowess, and how you too can recalibrate your self-concept for a fulfilling voyage through life's later chapters.As your guide, I'll take you through the transformative process of identity, from the high-octane thrills of athletic achievement to the rewarding embrace of mentorship and leadership. We'll dissect the roots of our fears of becoming irrelevant, a specter lurking in the minds of CEOs and leaders alike, and learn how to channel this energy into empowering others. Drawing inspiration from Marshall Goldsmith's insights in "What Got You Here Won't Get You There," we'll arm ourselves with mental models for steering through life's inevitable transitions with grace, emerging on the other side with tranquility, purpose, and a renewed sense of self.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Embracing the Extraordinary in the Ordinary: A Journey through Evening Gratitude - 186

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2024 8:57 Transcription Available


    Discover the transformative power of gratitude with your guide, Sean, as we embark on a journey to uncover the hidden magic in life's small pleasures. This episode isn't about grand gestures or life-altering events, but about the everyday moments that quietly shape our lives. By exploring a simple exercise, we challenge you to look deeper into the ordinary and find the extraordinary. Imagine a life where every tiny detail you're thankful for tonight is all you have tomorrow. This practice doesn't just spotlight the beauty of the mundane, such as the joy of a morning walk or the flavor of a favorite meal, but reinforces the mortar that fortifies the very structure of our well-being.As we navigate the uncharted waters of unseen blessings, we are reminded of the riches that dwell in our relationships and daily experiences. Together, we uncover the importance of cherishing these gifts, fostering a sense of care and appreciation that extends beyond ourselves. Whether it's the comfort of home or the smile of a loved one, recognizing their value can significantly elevate our appreciation for the life we lead. This conversation is a call to action: to support, share, and subscribe as we collectively cultivate a more mindful and thankful existence. Join us in this heartfelt exchange, and let's take care of each other until our paths cross once more.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Breaking Free: Transforming Trauma into Triumph among High Achievers - 185

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2024 52:04 Transcription Available


    Have you ever felt trapped by a relentless pursuit of success, as if you're constantly proving your worth? Our newest episode tackles the subtle yet profound difference between experiencing victimization and adopting a perpetuating victim mindset. Join me, Sean, as we delve into the narratives of high achievers who've faced their darkest moments and emerged with powerful insights. From combat veterans to corporate leaders, the stories shared will resonate with anyone looking to break free from the shackles of past traumas and reclaim a sense of empowerment in their lives.Trauma isn't selective; it can leave its indelible mark on anyone, including those at the pinnacle of their careers. This episode doesn't just spotlight the problem, but offers a beacon of hope, guiding you through strategies to overcome both visible and invisible barriers that hold you back. Learn how to navigate the tumultuous waters of PTSD and post-traumatic growth with actionable advice rooted in real-world experiences. Whether it's a CEO's journey through public degradation or a soldier's battle with inner demons, the episode is a roadmap to transforming pain into a driving force for personal evolution.In our conversation, we also grapple with the often-overlooked allure of the victim role and how it can insidiously impact our lives. Discover the courage it takes to ask for help, especially when you're accustomed to being the one in charge. This candid discussion reveals how vulnerability isn't a weakness but rather a strength that fosters growth and connection. By the end of our talk, you'll be equipped with the tools to not only recognize when you need support but to take the necessary steps to build a more resilient and empowered self.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Mastering the Art of Influential Leadership: Balancing Power Without Force - 184

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2024 49:36


    Have you ever faced the paradox of wielding influence without tipping into tyranny? Today, I, Sean, invite you to explore the subtle dance between power and force in leadership on Reload. We unravel how leaders can inspire action and foster collaboration, sidestepping the temptation to coerce. I'll share stories from my journey and those of my clients, where the battle to exert authentic leadership transcends gender and tradition, pointing to a universal yearning for leadership that's rooted in sincerity and strength.Communication is the heartbeat of any great leader, and in this episode, we dissect its complexities. Discover ways to align your team with your vision, all while keeping the dialogue open and the atmosphere free of strain. I'll illuminate how staying in sync with the 'flow' is crucial in steering clear of burnout and championing organizational transformation. You'll get a glimpse into my coaching sessions where I contrast the emotional resonance of empowering leadership against the frosty consequences of force. Listen for how these approaches can make or break the delicate fabric of team dynamics and talent retention.As we wrap up, I offer a prescription for powerful leadership that eschews force—a vision passionately shared and supported across every level of your organization. I'll divulge practical tactics to lead with poise and instill a culture of curiosity and patience, drawing from my experiences as a performance coach and combat veteran. The conversation concludes with a toolkit for self-reflection and strategies to manage impulses that could lead to heavy-handedness. If you're looking to shift the paradigm of leadership in your life, share this episode with a colleague or friend and spark a transformative dialogue on what it means to lead with genuine power.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    The Dual Pursuit of Professional Excellence and Personal Solace with Jody Geiger - 183

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2024 68:59 Transcription Available


    Discover the steadfast strategies to navigate through the stormy seas of tech markets with the insightful return of Jodi Keiger from Klue. Amidst economic ebbs and flows, we strip back to the bedrock of business basics, bolstering teams with the coaching and strategic acumen necessary to uncover growth opportunities masked as challenges. Leadership is put to the test when uncertainty looms; our enlightening discussion promises an arsenal of tactics for maintaining focus, instilling clear communication, and evading the snare of overextension.Feel the pulse of uninterrupted time as a luxury rarely afforded to working mothers, a topic we unwrap with poignant stories of personal retreats that rejuvenate the spirit and rekindle the flames of youth and friendship. The grueling routine of caregiving contrasts sharply with the profound peace found in these moments of solitude. We also wrestle with the cultural tug of war between maximizing every minute and the art of satisficing, both in the care we provide and the projects we pursue, searching for that ever-elusive balance.Spark your imagination and embrace the downtime you never knew you needed. When high achievers are confronted with the paradox of productivity, we reveal how true breakthroughs often spring from periods of rest. Through narratives that bind us, we contemplate the transformative impact of challenging conversations with friends like Jodi, who encourage us to question and broaden our perspectives, leading to a richer understanding of ourselves and the world around us. Join us for an episode that illuminates the path towards not only professional triumph but also personal fulfillment and connection.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Breaking Chains: The Impact of Truth in Coaching Relationships - 182

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2024 21:49 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered why withholding secrets may often feel like an overbearing load on your shoulders? Your host, Sean, a performance coach and special operations combat veteran, unveils the intricate dynamics of truths kept hidden in a client-coach setting. Drawing from a rich fountain of experience, he shares a unique strategy he employs - the "withholding game" - to aid clients in unburdening themselves, detailing the essential role of trust, honesty, and openness in a coach-client relationship. Delving deeper, we unearth the roots of guilt and shame that often fuel the urge to hide truths, impacting not just client growth but also the overall essence of their lives. Yet, the dialogue doesn't halt there; we broaden the horizon to encompass the scope of withholding and deceit in the spheres of personal and professional relationships. Here, we scrutinize the potential corrosion of trust, the fear that sparks dishonesty, and the enduring impacts of these actions. You'll learn that honesty is not just a golden rule; it's a crucial ingredient for a fulfilling life. So, buckle up and join us on this enlightening journey, as we navigate these captivating topics and equip ourselves to lead more genuine, satisfying lives.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    The Hidden Pitfalls of Misplaced Needs and Wants - 181

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2023 30:24 Transcription Available


    What if the simple linguistic habit of saying "I really need to" is actually limiting your potential and causing you to neglect your own desires? I'm your host, Sean, a performance coach and Special Operations Combat Veteran, and I'm convinced that our language behaviors influence our actions and wellbeing more than we may realize. In this conversation, we're taking a deep dive into the potential pitfalls of this phrase, the resistance it can create, and how it can unintentionally assign undue importance to wants rather than needs. We'll go further to probe the potential burnout that can result from the constant pressure of feeling the need to serve others. But it's not all doom and gloom! We'll also recognize situations where this phrase can help in simplifying complex issues. Wrapping up, we'll tackle the importance of controversial conversations, the potential for meaningful dialogues they incite, and the essential role we all play in taking care of each other. Drink in these insights and let's navigate the tricky terrains of language and desire together.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Navigating Through the Paralysis of Over-Caring - 180

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2023 22:33 Transcription Available


    Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by the weight of your responsibilities and passions, paralyzed by the pressure of caring too much? Welcome to a thought-provoking episode where I, Sean, your seasoned performance coach, navigate the tricky terrain of over-caring and its impacts on high performing individuals. We discuss my experiences in coaching, focusing on the reasons behind the excessive concern and pressure it creates. Learn how to understand the root causes of your pressure, and how benefits such as writing down your thoughts can give clarity. Discover the delicate balance between valuing rewards and fearing punishments - striking this balance can boost your effectiveness and productivity.We then shift our focus to the "over-caring syndrome," examining how it can affect decision-making and leadership capabilities. I'll guide you through understanding whether your caring tendencies are virtuously motivated or born from fear-based concerns. We'll talk about how you can feel overwhelmed, even paralyzed, and what strategies can be implemented to mitigate these negative effects. Highlighting the fear setting exercise by Tim Ferriss, we explore a powerful tool to overcome the fear of failure. Get ready to reflect on your own caring tendencies and find that perfect balance between your responsibilities and passions. Listen in, and start your journey to managing the pressure of caring too much today.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Reconstructing Hopelessness: A New Take on Futility - 179

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2023 20:10 Transcription Available


    Ever feel like you're living in a futile world, where your efforts are going nowhere? Let's unravel this uncomfortable feeling together; let's question if futility really is all bad. Drawn from my experiences as a performance coach and a combat veteran, I'll guide you through the profound impact of hopelessness and the sensation of being unable to effect change. You're not alone in this journey; many high performing executives have felt this crippling lack of drive and enthusiasm. Have you ever considered how the concept of futility has evolved from frivolity to hopelessness? Join me as we delve deep into the origins of the word 'futile', shedding light on our assumptions about life. Are trifles and frivolous behavior as futile as they seem? Spoiler alert - they might not be. It's time to challenge your perspective on hopelessness and craft the life you truly desire. Tune in for a conversation that is anything but futile. Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Exploring Virtue vs Fear: Deciphering the Motivations Behind Our Actions - 178

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2023 24:28 Transcription Available


    Do your actions spring from virtue or fear? That's the provocative question we're exploring in our latest podcast episode. I'm your host, Sean, a performance coach and special ops combat veteran, who's ready to dive into the origins of our motivations. We ponder the precarious behaviors of high-performing individuals constantly on the brink of burnout, challenging the ingrained notion of fear-based motivation. We'll dissect its impact on the sustainability and constructiveness of our endeavors, and evaluate why it's crucial to strive towards actions driven by virtue instead.Ever found yourself constantly saying yes or constantly fighting? You may be a people-pleaser, a condition we delve into in our second chapter. We discuss how such behavior can hurt your credibility and breed inconsistency in relationships. But, fear not, we also talk about the power of feedback and self-reflection in identifying patterns and motivations behind our actions. Join me on this journey to understand the undercurrents of our behavior and how every action, whether virtuous or not, leaves its mark. It's time to ensure our motivations are virtuous, not fear-driven, as we construct the life we truly desire.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Empowering Leaders: An Insight into 360 Reviews and Coaching, part 2 - 177

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2023 21:54 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered why your efforts to improve team relationships haven't yielded much fruit? You might be missing a crucial element: honest feedback. This episode, led by Sean, a performance coach and special operations combat veteran, will tackle the complex world of the 360 review. We'll dig into the hurdles of not only getting genuine feedback but also properly interpreting it, particularly when past experiences and biases become the yardstick for current evaluations. I'll also reveal how I've helped my clients navigate through these challenges, ensuring they make meaningful strides in their leadership roles.That's not all - we'll also be turning the spotlight on the delicate balance between conceptual and practical change. How do you move from the realm of ideas to the concrete world of action? It's a collective journey that involves the coach, the client, and the people around them. We'll talk about the potential missteps when focusing too much on either the conceptual or action-oriented aspects of change. And, importantly, we'll examine the hard task of long-term transformation, reminding you of the necessity to understand the origins of old behaviors to successfully transition to new ones. Join us for this insightful episode and don't forget to like, share, and subscribe!Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    Empowering Leaders: An Insight into 360 Reviews and Coaching, part 1 - 176

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2023 12:20 Transcription Available


    Uncover the secrets of unconventional leadership with your host, Sean, a special operations combat veteran turned performance coach. I promise you, this journey will transform the way you perceive and interact with your team. We delve into the world of 360 reviews, a game-changing method that gives you a comprehensive understanding of how you are seen by others. This can lead to deeper conversations, improved relationships, and ultimately, a shift in the direction of your organization. Be warned, favoritism doesn't fly here. We emphasize the power of honest feedback. So strap in and prepare to have some powerful conversations.And we're not stopping there. We'll also uncover the transactional side of executive coaching and how it integrates with 360 assessments. These assessments uncover the hidden issues that could be hindering your organization's success and boost its functionality. Are you ready to enhance your career while connecting with the insights that fuel your life? Then tune in, like and share. Your leadership journey just got a turbocharge.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

    A New Perspective: Nurturing Connections with Understanding and Acceptance - 175

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2023 43:37 Transcription Available


    Unearthed from my experience with a recent client intensive, I present to you an unmissable exploration of understanding and acceptance within relationships. This couple, driven by the courage to face areas they failed to understand about each other, went on the brave journey of individually and collectively exploring these areas. Their story serves as an inspiration, proving that working on our shadows and insecurities can ultimately lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.In the romantic sphere, we face a myriad of challenges. Yet, these differences can, when leveraged correctly, bring out the best in each other. By taking the time to understand and truly appreciate our partner's uniqueness, we can be lifted up and inspired to reach our full potential. Alongside this, we delve into the world of insecurities and how they often surface through the people around us, painting a unique opportunity for self-improvement.As I guide you through this enlightening episode, we'll also study the vital roles of trust, faith, and curiosity in our relationships. Drawing a clear distinction between trust and faith, we'll uncover how curiosity can help us understand and accept our partners, even in moments of threat and recoil. Furthermore, we'll frame curiosity as a tool for understanding our partner's desires and building a solid framework of trust and faith. Brace yourself for an episode that will revolutionize the way you perceive and approach relationships.

    4000 Weeks, JOMO, and Finitude - 174

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2023 29:02


    In today's discussion performance mindset coach, Sean Hansen, looks into the wisdom shared by Oliver Burkeman in Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals.Too frequently, busy executives believe that they should be able to tackle all the tasks on their action lists and address all the concerns of those around them. Burkeman's work addresses some of the issues that present themselves with the modern workplace relationship between time management attitudes and the pressures that come from them.How can finitude help you reduce your stress by realizing the limits of your influence or control?Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance?  Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting. 

    Lessons from Jiu-Jitsu: Healthy Competition - 173

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2023 12:04


    In today's discussion performance mindset coach, Sean Hansen, shares a couple quick perspectives on healthy competition.How do you as a leader create a culture of healthy competition that inspires people to surpass their perceived limitations but avoids the unhealthy overcompensation that can lead to backstabbing that erodes organizational effectiveness?Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance?  Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.   

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