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Send us a textWhat's good all you culinary capybaras & sparkle-necked starlings!  Crouched in the home studio saddle delivering some thoughts. topics include Saturday being named after a maniacal offspring-munching Roman deity, cultivating one's mental health, waging cage fights with depression, coping strategies for 2024, how wretched and self-defeating misogyny is, institutional religions being infested with demonic impulses, and more! Support links below, appreciate all the Day Ones & welcome all the new listeners!un amor,lr kerkawwwTRACKLIST FOR THIS EPISPODE Afro Lofi - GROWN FOLKS - soul lofi music to chill toExcerpt from Sex At Dawn by Cacilda Jetha & Chris Ryan(Chapter: In Search of Primate Continuity)Paul Robeson - Ol Man River (1938) From the film Showboat (FAIR USE SLOWED N VERBED)Paul Robeson was a Genuine American Hero. This cruel empire not only failed to appreciate his spectacular & multifoliate talents: singer, orator, civil rights activist, debater, stud in American football, and lawyer- but also the Agent Smiths of the empire relentlessly hounded the man his whole life. All he did was be a boss and take names and speak truth. Lord forbid!! Agent Smith hounded and hounded Robeson, eventually cornering him in a spiritually wretched London hospital and administering him unfair doses of the MKULTRA brainwashing drug BZ. According to Robeson's son Paul Jr., this horrific act of nonconsensual behavior modification "broke" Robeson, who shied away from public spaces until the end of his days. Goddess & God Bless you Paul Robeson. You continue to be an inspiration and source of strength and light to this day, in this wretched year of Another Dude who was hounded to death by imperial storm troopers for the simple act of speaking some sense, 2024. EMPIRES ARE THE PRIMARY PROBLEM. we're at the crossroads friends: liberate ourselves from the clutches of demonic imperial filth, or mad max it after a fiery poop storm. * ...tick tick tick... * we ain't gonna vote ourselves out of this horrid ditch we've built up. gonna take good honest community building and hard work.Support the showSupport My Sponsor:Magic Mind Adaptogenic & Nootropic Elixir 20% off at Checkout! Support Link here | Use Code: BARBARIANNOETICS20Tip me in Solana (crypto):Address: 9XPHpqH7GawTGtPgZAzfXFU6oPWTpSua1QXwRYAWVh9y If you dig the pod, check out the adjacent video & livestream show Barbarian Yak Fest on Rokfin: https://rokfin.com/BarbarianYakFestFind me on IG: barbarian_noetics Become a Patron: patreon.com/noetics (unlock bonus content plus win a Dream Interpretation)Direct Donate on PayPal @barbarian.noetics@proton.me Cash App@ $BarbarianRavenbuymeacoffee.com/noetics.Spread the word and tell a friend. Remember to set the BNP on Auto Download after you subscribe. I appreciate you all. Section 107 of the Copyright Act of 1976 allows for “fair use” for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, education and rese...

This episode is an interview made in Kaplankaya, with Bibi Brzozka: a sex, love and relationship coach, and an expert in conscious sexuality. Bibi will share how the perception of sex has evolved through History, how she is teaching women and couples to reclaim their sexuality during her classes, how and why she changed her approach to sexual well-being, and, if you stay with us until the end, Bibi will share some advice on the best way to reach nirvana…Just know that Bibi is starting online classes for "Ecstatic Lovers" (for couples) on the 20th of March 2023. You can learn more on her website: https://www.bibibrzozka.com/In this podcast, Bibi recommends the book Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha.[2:25] - Start of the interview. Sexuality, in general, is not properly taught at school. Bibi tells about pornography, the junk food of sexuality. [6:54] - Testimonials of people attending Bibi's classes in Harvest. [8:56] - What does Bibi mean, when she says that sexual experiences can heal? The trauma about sexuality.[11:25] - How did Bibi change her approach to sexuality, and why at this moment?[12:56] - Bibi explains what she teaches to the people who attend their classes, and why it all starts with self-pleasure. [18:56] - The cold practice. What are the emotional effects of the classes on women?[20:56] - Which advice would she have loved to receive as a young girl? [22:56] - Is it possible to teach someone to have access to God? [23:56] - Now, you listeners have waited enough. Time to ask for special tips from Bibi… What do you do if you want to be remembered as a good partner in bed? [28:46] - What if the person you love is not attracting you anymore? You are a sovereign sexual human being. Are you connecting to your body?[31:00] - How to get orgasms through penetration? Longer foreplay - How can men last longer in bed? [32:00] - What is the worst enemy of a fulfilling sex life? [33:45] - Harvest of the day: if something easy or simple could be done and make the world a better place, what would it be for Bibi?In two weeks, we will release Daniel Schmarchtenberger's interview made in Kaplankaya, about the future of our civilization. Don't miss the episode!Harvest Series is produced in partnership with Athena Advisers and Capital PartnersYou can follow us on Instagram : @Harvestseries, or @rose.claverie for updatesand watch our filmed podcast or speakers on Youtube : Harvest Series.Sound editing by @lesbellesfrequencesTechnicians in Kaplankaya : Joel Moriasi, Hanan Yasir and teamMusic by ChambordArtwork : Pedro Vidigal & Davide d'AntonioThe founders of Harvest Series are Burak Öymen and Roman Carel.This episode was sponsored by &Soul, for more information including how to claim your first month free check out the link below: &Soul

BONUS EPISODES & PREMIUM ACCESS: https://auxoro.supercast.com/ On this episode of The AUXORO Podcast, Chris Ryan and Zach discuss the witch hunt against sexual freedom and nuance in today's society, Chris' best-selling book 'Sex At Dawn,' a conversation Chris recorded with a rattlesnake expert, the myths of monogamy, why the ridiculousness of America is both good and bad, and more. Guest bio: Chris Ryan is the best-selling author of Civilized To Death and Sex At Dawn, the host of the podcast 'Tangentially Speaking' and has appeared on The Joe Rogan Experience, Duncan Trussell's Family Hour, and many other prominent shows. Chris has also spent over two decades traveling the world and has a PhD in psychology.  CHRIS RYAN LINKS:Sex At Dawn: https://amzn.to/3TcFmwfCivilized To Death: https://amzn.to/3pYbnLvSubstack: https://chrisryan.substack.com/Tangentially Speaking (podcast): https://pod.link/566908883 THE AUXORO PODCAST LINKS:Apple: https://apple.co/3B4fYju Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3zaS6sPOvercast: https://bit.ly/3rgw70DYoutube: https://bit.ly/3lTpJdjWebsite: https://www.auxoro.com/ AUXORO SOCIAL LINKS:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/auxoroYouTube: https://bit.ly/3CLjEqFFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/auxoromagNewsletter: https://www.auxoro.com/thesourceYouTube: https://bit.ly/3CLjEqF If you enjoy the show, please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts. It takes less than 60 seconds, helps us appear higher in searches so more people discover the show, and it boosts my ego;) Past Guests On The Auxoro Podcast Include: Aubrey de Grey, Andy Weir, Eben Britton, Eric Jorgenson, Isabelle Boemeke, Houston Arriaga, Jerzy Gregorek, Chris Cooper, Gryffin, Elsa Diaz, Dave Robinson, Meghan Daum, FINNEAS, Chloé Valdary, Coleman Hughes, Maziar Ghaderi, YONAS, Ryan Michler, Ryan Meyer, Gavin Chops, Bren Orton, Zuby, Jason Khalipa, Ed Latimore, Jess Glynne, Noah Kahan, Kid Super, Deryck Whibley, and many more.  

Can we call modern polyamory a matriarchal system? Who's really "ruling" the pride anyway?Contact me:unlimitedheartcoaching@gmail.comIG: unlimitedheartfreedomBooks referenced in this episode:Sex At Dawn, by Cacilda Jetha and Cristopher Ryan. I admit with shame that I do not know how to pronounce the first author's name and so I chose not to mangle it out loud in this episode.Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity is Wrong and How the Truth Can Set Us Free, by Wednesday MartinFancy jargon:polycule: a group, family, or tribe of polyamorous people, which may take any configuration such as a V (a hinge partner who has two partners which are not romantically involved with each other), a triad, quad, etc.

I am pleased to welcome back Rebecca S. Kay, sex educator and intimacy coach, to the podcast! Today we discuss a fascinating topic - Monogamy and Non-Monogamy: - definitions of monogamy, non-monogamy, and polyamory - are human beings meant to be monogamous? - how working with a coach could help with the transition into a non-monogamous relationship - why Western culture supports monogamy so much - some advice from Rebecca Resources mentioned: Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, Sex at Dusk by Lynn Saxon, The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet E. Hardy Rebecca's website: https://www.rebeccaskay.com/ Reach out on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/amberpachla/ or email me at amberpachla@yahoo.ca Let me help you reduce your stress and anxiety, detoxify your home and discover the power of doTERRA essential oils: my.doterra.com/amberpachla https://linktr.ee/amberpachla Work with me! One on one coaching spots available now. Book online at amberpachla.ca or DM/email.

In today's discussion, performance mindset coach, Sean Hansen, sits down with fellow coach, Chance Taureau, to wade into the tricky world of expectation in relationship.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance?  Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.Resources:Chance Taureau's website at http://taureauconsulting.com/Chance's Facebook pageChance's YouTube channelDaring to Trust by David RicohTell Me What You Want by Justin LehmillerYour Brain on Sex by Stanley SeigelState of Affairs by Esther PerelSex at Dawn by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher RyanSex at Dusk by Lynn Saxon

In today's discussion, performance mindset coach, Sean Hansen, sits down with fellow coach and repeat guest, Chance Taureau.  In today's discussion we're looking at the expectation in partnership and where we hold ourselves back from achieving the most fulfilling experiences.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance?  Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.Resources:Chance Taureau's website at http://taureauconsulting.com/Chance's Facebook pageChance's YouTube channelDaring to Trust by David RicohTell Me What You Want by Justin LehmillerYour Brain on Sex by Stanley SeigelState of Affairs by Esther PerelSex at Dawn by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher RyanSex at Dusk by Lynn Saxon

Have you ever wondered if it's possible to be married but still hookup, or even have relationships, with other people? Join your captain, Kaya, as she takes you through the vastly open sea of ethical non-monogamy. Kaya, herself, has been recently attempting to navigate these waters herself, but for her guest speaker, Jocelyn Burton, it is all she knows! Jos is in a non-monogamous marriage and she shares a ton of insight to help us better wrap our heads around this (oftentimes) misunderstood form of relating. Whether you're curious about unconventional relationship styles, or you're attempting to actually do it yourself with your current partner, this episode is full of insight and advice to help open up your mind and guide you!Connect with Jos on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/submanic/Resources for ethical non-monogamy:*The Ethical Slut (book) by Dossie Easton - https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-ethical-slut-third-edition-dossie-easton/book/9780399579660.html*Sex At Dawn (book) by Christopher Ryan, Cacilda Jetha- https://www.booktopia.com.au/sex-at-dawn-christopher-ryan/book/9780061707810.html*More Than Two (book) by Franklin Veaux, Janet Hardy, Eve Rickert (Illustrator) - https://www.booktopia.com.au/more-than-two-franklin-veaux/book/9780991399703.html*Monogamish (film) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4169390/Check out this YouTube video by Shan Boody which helped me a lot. It helps explain different commitment styles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VwU-R3Le2rcAnd if you're still unsure about what your commitment style is, take this quiz on Shan Boody's website to help find some clarity: https://www.thegameofdesire.com/commitment

How do you communicate your emotional and sexual needs clearly with your partner to build trust and love?Miranda Love and Phil Delaire explain the benefits of sharing your needs with your partner in and out of the bedroom in this intimate Living 4D conversation.For Living 4D listeners: Save 15 percent on Miranda's Pussy and Penis Massage courses by using the link chek15 at checkout.Learn more about Miranda's course on Tik Tok and Instagram. Learn more about Phil's work at the CHEK Institute and long career as a CHEK Professional here.Show NotesThe day Miranda's life changed when she met Misty Tripoli and learned Groove. (6:52)Phil's first experience with penis massage. (11:03)“If you're being triggered by what a woman tells you she needs in the bedroom, there's something bigger going on with you.” (24:07)How to handle triggers. (30:48)The value of communicating your sexual needs to your partner. (38:34)Anal orgasms are a real thing. (46:01)No sticky fingers with long nails. Keep ‘em clean too! (56:22)Having “the talk” about monogamy vs. having multiple partners. (1:10:05)Using the Feelings Wheel to pinpoint your true emotions in the moment. (1:14:27)A grounding exercise that can help you deal with strong emotions quickly. (1:23:28)Feelings vs. emotions. (1:27:17)ResourcesThe work of Tara Brach, Byron Katie and Emma PowerSex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means For Modern Relationships by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher RyanNonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall RosenbergThanks to our awesome sponsors: The CHEK Academy, BiOptimizers (save 10 percent on your purchase by using the code Paul10 at checkout, PLUS, for a limited time, BiOptimizers is also giving away free bottles of their best-selling products, P3OM and Masszymes, with select purchases!), Cymbiotika (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK15 at checkout), Organifi (save 20 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK20 at checkout), Paleovalley (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code chek15 at checkout, One Farm CBD Oils (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK at checkout) and Essential Oil Wizardry (save 10 percent on your purchase by using the code living4d at checkout).As an Amazon Associate, we earn commissions from qualifying purchases.

Melayne is a Budokon Mixed Movement Athlete and founder of the Warrior Women Tribe. She is the VP of the Mixed Movement Arts System Budokon and Director of the Budokon Yoga Program and Teacher Training. We speak about movement as a tool for self-exploration and as an invitation to think about how we exist in the world as a whole. We touch on imposter syndrome, sexuality, non-monogamy, and unpack the warrior woman archetype, as well as the mother archetype. We also discuss community and how it acts as a mirror, plus how moving toward fear and risk provides us with an opportunity to grow.  Find Melayne on Instagram and at Budokon.com Melayne's book recommendations: Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, Intimate Relationships by Stephen Wolinsky & Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks Songs featured: "Iluminar" by Porangui, Sumeru by Islandman and "Feeling Good" by Sofi Tukker How to support the show: Rate, review and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support my work on Patreon and get access to perks like an exclusive Discord Server, a book club just for patrons, shirts + stickers, playlists, and curated workshops led by myself, fellow Patrons and former guests of the podcast. Visit my website – AnyaKaats.com & Find me on Instagram Get full access to A Millennial's Guide to Saving the World at anyakaats.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever wondered why we practice monogamy when marriages are breaking down more today than ever before? Is the key to a successful marriage sexual variety? Perhaps swinging with different partners can help keep it spicy… for some couples? Join us with Sex Educators, Kim and Brad, from Tantric Hearts, as we dissect the ideas of promiscuity, sexual desire and fidelity as presented in the book, “Sex at Dawn”, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, and discuss how their ideas might explain the growing trend towards the swinging lifestyle.

Have you ever wondered why we practice monogamy when marriages are breaking down more today than ever before? Is the key to a successful marriage sexual variety? Perhaps swinging with different partners can help keep it spicy… for some couples? Join us with Sex Educators, Kim and Brad, from Tantric Hearts, as we dissect the ideas of promiscuity, sexual desire and fidelity as presented in the book, “Sex at Dawn”, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, and discuss how their ideas might explain the growing trend towards the swinging lifestyle.

This episode of Indie Author Weekly features some of my personal favourite books about polyamory and relationships. As you may already know, my chick lit, new adult, contemporary romance series is called Polyamorous Passions, so basically, I write all about polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and relationships in general as a fiction author. You can get more info on those books and read them at SaganMorrow.com/books, or by searching “Polyamorous Passions” at your favourite e-bookstore. Now, polyamory is something a lot of my readers have many questions about, so that’s why I thought for today it would be great to recommend to you a few books that feature polyamory, so you can learn more about the topic! By the way, I shared several of my favourite books for improving your writing in a previous episode of this Indie Author Weekly, so if that’s something you want to learn, you can tune into Episode 59. Okay, I have 6 polyamory and relationships books to share with you today… TUNE IN to this episode to hear all about it! Resources & links mentioned in this episode: Learn more about all of Sagan's books at SaganMorrow.com/books .Episode 59 of the Indie Author Weekly podcast: Favourite books featuring writing tips .The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton .Opening Up by Tristan Taormino .Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari .Master of None (Aziz Ansari's TV show) .The Offline Dating Method by Camille Virginia .Perv by Jesse Bering .Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha .Tune into Indie Author Weekly on your favourite podcast platform at SaganMorrow.com/podcast .Subscribe, rate & review this podcast on Apple Podcasts .Let's chat about this episode: @Saganlives on Twitter and Instagram .Hashtag: #IndieAuthorWeekly .Email hello@saganmorrow.com .Share your thoughts (or submit requests for future episode topics) in this survey at SaganMorrow.com/question Support the show (https://saganmorrow.com/secretpodcast)

Episode 3: T is for ThreesomeRob and Angel discuss group sex and a study that explored undergraduate attitudes about threesomes and undergraduate threesome behavior. Links and Resources from the episode: Morris, H., Chang, I. J., & Knox, D. (2016). Three’sa Crowd or Bonus?: College Students’ Threesome Experiences. Journal of Positive Sexuality, 2(November), 62-76. https://journalofpositivesexuality.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Threes-a-Crowd-or-Bonus-College-Students-Threesome-Experiences-Morris-Chang-Knox.pdfTell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help Improve your Sex Life by Justin LehMiller https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want-ebook/dp/B0776PYDNMJustin’s website, Sex & Psychology https://www.lehmiller.com/Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha https://amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/0061707813/Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence/dp/0060753641Supplemental Reading and Related Resources: Looking for a Third: A discussion about Unicorn Hunting: https://professorsex.com/blog/looking-for-a-third-a-discussion-about-unicorn-hunting-a-findpoly-postThe Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664Building Open Relationships: Your Hands-on Guide to Swinging, Polyamory, and Beyond by Dr. Liz Powell https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664Hooking up at the Best Swinger Site for Queer People https://professorsex.com/blog/swingtownsThis episode is sponsored by Kink Crate (KinkCrate.com).  Podcast listeners can sign up and get 35% off their first crate by using code: AtoZ.Kink Crate is a monthly subscription box service, for adults, that contains kink and BDSM products, personal items, candy, stickers and other creative treats. Every month, for less than $50 (which includes shipping) your Kink Crate will be packed with 5 to 9 items, a kinky new theme, as well as the informative Kink Crate Handbook which often features content from Professor Sex.  The handbook is the ultimate guide to your monthly crate, it will give you info on your items, useful tips for how to use them, and other pleasure-based sex ed content. Multiple crate options are available for every kind of couple and they also have a “single ladies” crate option. There’s no contract, so you can join or quit anytime you like. Kink Crate announces their themes every month, so you get a hint about what they’re up to, but the specific contents of the boxes are always a surprise.You can see Angel unbox some past Kink Crates on our YouTube channel (https://youtu.be/ZdSdh0M5j_w; https://youtu.be/scGGQCobct0)and read many articles that have featured in their handbook on the Professor Sex blog. (ProfessorSex.com; https://professorsex.com/blog/come-to-your-senses-engaging-all-your-senses-to-enhance-sexual-desire-and-pleasure)Kink Crate Giveaway Details:Kink Crate is also giving away a Naughty Librarian crate box to one lucky Sex from A to Z listener. To enter to win, subscribe to the podcast or the YouTube channel and email us a screenshot and your contact info. (Email to info@professorsex.com) Refer a friend who subscribes and enters, and if they tell us you sent them each new friend will count as an additional entry for you. US Shipping only (sorry, friends). Contest ends on February 5, 2020 and winners will be announced on the podcast on February 7.About “Sex from A to Z”:"Sex from A to Z" is a sex science podcast discussing in plain language the actual studies that inform how sex therapists, sex researchers, sex educators, and medical professionals make decisions about sexual health and wellness.  On each episode we take a deep dive into a different piece of peer-reviewed literature, break it down and explore the social, scientific, and personal implications. This is a podcast for anyone interested in understanding the psychological, medical, and other scientific research behind sexual issues that impact all of us.“Sex from A to Z” is hosted by Angel Russell and Dr. Robert Zeglin, and produced by Steven Russell. Art for the podcast was created by Angel Russell. We will post links to all the articles we discuss and additional resources for exploring each topic. You can watch on YouTube or listen anywhere you find your favorite podcasts. To check out other episodes, updates, show links, and additional content, go to: ProfessorSex.com/podcast.

Episode Notes You guys… is this thing on? Testing 1, 2… testing… Welcome one and all to season two, a season dedicated to S-E-X. SEX! After a longer than planned hiatus due to computer crashes and adult asthma Carla and Delia are back! Delia is back on tinder and looking to find “the one” (this seasons’ hottest debate) because you can find “the one” anywhere and Carla is back on Bumble because she is a baller, shot caller… and this time she’s taking a zany approach to some success! Carla shares her Thanksgiving visit with family, the action in Northern California and the awesomeness of car sitting in the rain. Delia shares that she is trading in her “numbers” game with dating to date just one guy.The ladies talk about the frustration and shame that sometimes surround being single, identifying as a feminist but still wanting to be cuddled and paired off. The gals decide that maybe 2020 is the year they get boo’d up!They dive head first into the book that kicks off the season, Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means for Modern Relationships. Delia assures Carla that this book is about much more than just having intercourse in the morning, it about monogamy and if humans are cut out for it. The book is sci-ency and conversational, Delia’s favorite combo. She talks about the possibility of starting a Tinder book club, how monogamy isn’t really a human thing and new ideas for a girls night in. The gals chat bonobos, March of the Penguins, penguin prostitution, thrusting count and how sometimes bullshit rules keep us stuck in one place.Gentle reminder, Carla nor Delia are licensed as medical professionals capable of dispensing actual medical advice. They are here to read the books, date the fellas and report back on the overall goal of being boo’d up.Stay tuned for our insane meme game (hello Georgia O’Keefe inspired invites with Bonobos for girl’s night), a host of books about intercourse, and meeting eligible bachelors in the hopes of finding that elusive big spoon.Questions? Comments? Concerns? Recipes? Dating Stories? Constructive Criticism? Shoot us a message, landyourman@gmail.comDo you have a business or service we can advertise on the podcast? Drop us a line at landyourman@gmail.com and tell us a little bit about yourself.Listen! Rate! Subscribe! Follow us on social medias. We love to hear from our listeners.Mentioned in the episode: “Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships.” by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan. (Copyright © 2011, Harper Perennial) Finest City Improv Bumble (Dating App) Tinder (Dating App) Meisner/Chekov workshop *Royalty-Free Music by Kevin MacLeod; Two Finger Johnny 2015. Royalty Free Elevator Waiting MusicSupport Land Your Man by donating to their Tip Jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/land-your-manFind out more at https://land-your-man.pinecast.coThis podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Season 3 opens with an intimate, brutally honest wife-husband conversation about navigating this 3rd pregnancy with two small kids, our sex life, porn confessions, our vasectomy conflict, how we're preparing for the arrival of this baby, and how we're hoping to face the challenges of a pretty sad sex life. Books mentioned in the episode: "Sex at Dawn" by Cacilda Jetha & Christopher Ryan "Untrue" by Wednesday Martin "The Truth" by Neil Strauss FKNHONEY.COM HONEYTALKSPODCAST.COM

A woman’s passage through life from growing up to adulthood, parenthood and middle age doesn’t leave her much time for taking a gentle breath and just being an authentic human being. And, what does it mean to learn how be a woman?Allison Pelot describes her journey to become a complete and whole woman in this very feminine Living 4D episode,Learn more about Allison and her expertise in whole health and nutrition, along with her Integrate Yourself podcast at her Pure Energy Wellness website.Show NotesThe day Allison met Paul she experienced such a strong jolt to her system that it “woke her up from a deep sleep.” (4:53)For parents, do you celebrate the rite of passage for your child the first time she/he has sex? (12:59)Paul’s emotional response to absent parents as a child: He failed the third grade and couldn’t read. (15:55)Do you ask a child’s permission to touch them if you don’t know them? (25:14)Allison suffered a major early midlife crisis after completing college. (35:30)“You're not a successful parent if you can't help your kids with life.” (48:21)Too many women are overriding the urge to slow down and take the time to do the work they need just to be feminine. (1:01:58)Allison is a “recovering perfectionist.” (1:08:58)How do you work on new things in the bedroom? Try them out on yourself first. (1:13:07)Mana loves to clean and dance at the same time. (1:31:59)Navigating multiple-partner relationships — a work in progress — from Allison’s perspective. (1:46:46)Portland is the polyamorous capital of the world. (1:54:33)“A turning point for me was when I realized that I wasn't going to be able to control him. And the more I tried to control the whole thing, the less control I had…” (2:11:41)Women aren’t meant to “do it all” by themselves. They need nourishment from their sisterhood. (2:38:31)“Another part of why women have health issues is because we're never really taught how to be women.” (2:40:32)ResourcesDiet and Nutrition: A Holistic Approach by Rudolph BallentineThe Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der KolkHoward Gardner’s theory of multiple intelligencesSex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means For Modern Relationships by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher RyanThe Unruly Mystic: Saint Hildegard of Bingen documentaryVoices of the First Day by Robert LawlorHooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Productsby Nir EyalThe Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer BradleyThe work of Hanna Bier and her 13 Moon Goddess Archetypal HealingGaia Codex by Sarah Drew

There is no known cure for herpes at the time of recording of this podcast. This is me sharing my experience in how a sense of community has played a huge role in my own healing process. It hit me when I read Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. Originally I was seeking it for its content on nonmonogamy and the word community really resonated with me and I realize in hindsight just how useful it was for me to have a community, and how I see it as a tool for healing among so many others after their diagnosis. I didn't edit this. Emily and I spoke in authenticity ;) this excuses my stutters and umms lol. I hope you enjoy! Stay Positive!

There is no known cure for herpes at the time of recording of this podcast. This is me sharing my experience in how a sense of community has played a huge role in my own healing process. It hit me when I read Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. Originally I was seeking it for its content on nonmonogamy and the word community really resonated with me and I realize in hindsight just how useful it was for me to have a community, and how I see it as a tool for healing among so many others after their diagnosis. I didn't edit this. Emily and I spoke in authenticity ;) this excuses my stutters and umms lol. I hope you enjoy! Stay Positive!

In this episode, Robbie covers the pivotal evolutionary psychology book Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. The book covers the science behind how we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships. We talk about how you can use this science to optimize your dating life and understand the [...]

In this episode, Robbie covers the pivotal evolutionary psychology book Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. The book covers the science behind how we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships. We talk about how you can use this science to optimize your dating life and understand the […] The post 97: Book Review “Sex at Dawn” by Christopher Ryan appeared first on Inner Confidence.

In Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, co-authors Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha take what they call the "standard narrative" of human sexual evolution and re-examine it through a different lens: suggesting that sexual exclusivity was not a part of our ancestor's expectations around relationships. Highlighting research in the fields of primatology, anthropology, evolutionary psychology and biology, Christopher Ryan tells Melody Thomas that monogamy is far from "natural" for our species, and that we'd have a much easier time with it if we went in informed.

Let's talk about sex, baby! In honour of Valentine's Day, the team at Castology wanna recommend getting down and dirty. How romantic! But before then we gotta talk about last week, namely: How Did This Get Made?, The Rubin Report and Intelligence Squared U.S. Debates. Then it's getting hot in here, with Liz gushing about Sex Nerd Sandra, Zane slipping in a bit of Savage Lovecast, and Patrick getting stimulating with Tangentially Speaking. Subscribe to us on ITUNES, STITCHER, SPOTIFY or your podcatcher of choice. Find us on FACEBOOK, TWITTER or INSTAGRAM.Liz recommends: Sex Nerd Sandra https://www.patreon.com/sexnerdsandraHost Sandra Daugherty is a podcasting, workshop-teaching, sexual-shame-fighting “sex nerd” and her own words describe her podcast better than Liz ever could. “Many folks at first think "Sex Nerd" is just some provocative catch phrase I use to get attention. Ew no,” Sandra says on her Patreon. “In 2009, it was the only way I could efficiently communicate what I am and how I relate to the world. I was teaching a lot of BJ & orgasm classes back then and that quickly evolved into the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast (formerly on Nerdist). While I love to overshare about neato sex info, I’ve never felt like a sexpert, and always felt like a sex nerd. I hope we continue to learn together. I'm making lighthearted, curiosity-driven sex ed episodes interviewing scientists, practitioners and perverts about their passions." In earlier episodes she co-hosted with Dave Ross. She's now left the Pod Network life and you can donate to her Patreon so she can keep doing her sexy, nerdy thing.Liz's recommendation for Zane: Ep #35 Kiss and Make Out (Live ep).Liz's recommendation for Pat: Ep #66 Red Hot Touch(But Liz also thought it was hard to choose which ep to recommend which gent, so she suggested listening to both if they can).https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/sex-nerd-sandra/id455065811Pat Recommends: Tangentially Speaking with Dr. Christopher Ryan https://chrisryanphd.com/tangentially-speaking/This might be the favourite of my podcast subscriptions, it's certainly the one I recommend most. Chris Ryan first burst onto the scene in 2010 when he and his wife Cacilda Jethá co-wrote Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality. I first heard Chris when he appeared on The Joe Rogan Experience (naturally), where he was encouraged to start his own podcast. I've been listening to Tangentially Speaking from he beginning and am never disappointed. Chris gets all sorts of interesting people on, comedians, actors, musicians, scientists, writers, friends of his, and eccentrics he meets on his travels. I've too many favourite episodes so here's just a few: #188 Tom Spanbauer,#165 Lodhy, #204 Wim Hof, #214 Wade Davis, #254 Debra Berger, #279 Cacilda Jetha, #341 Aron RalstonFor Liz: To keep it thematic I'm going to recommend #322 Angela WhiteFor Zane: #346 Wednesday Martin for Zanehttps://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/tangentially-speaking-with-christopher-ryan/id566908883Zane recommends: The Savage Lovecast https://www.savagelovecast.com/I have been listening to Dan Savage for years and I know he has many strong opinions about Valnetine's Day. Dan Savage is an author, a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, a pundit, and a public speaker. "Savage Love," Dan's sex-advice column, first appeared in the The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated to more than 50 papers across the United States and Canada. Dan has published six books. Dan’s graphic, pragmatic, and humorous advice has changed the cultural conversation about monogamy, gay rights, religiosity, and politics.For Liz and Pat: Any episode really, all very similar.https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/savage-lovecast/id201376301Subscribe to us on ITUNES, STITCHER, SPOTIFY or your podcatcher of choice.Find us on FACEBOOK, TWITTER or INSTAGRAM.

Packed full of expert opinion as well as comedic points of view, this Queer 4 Your Ears review of the amazing book ‘Sex At Dawn’ by Cacilda Jetha & Christopher Ryan, looks at how homosexuality, bisexuality, multiple sex partners, and  shared parenting were all hallmarks of human cultures in pre-agriculture and pre-religious times, and indeed […]

What's up Damn Famn, I have manic depression and created FAR too much content for one episode, so this is going to be a 2 part series on Marxist Feminist revolutionary Alexandra Kollontai and her writings on what love could look like in a post revolutionary society. I also discuss the book Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, as well as a bunch of my own bullshit. Part 2 will be the bonus up next week!!!! For access to our bonus eps, join The Damned by subscribing to our patreon at: Patreon.comPodDamnAmerica

Rakhem Seku got his sexual education like many of us, from porn and the movies. This is what drove him as a sexual being.  When he married his wife at 25 their sex life was OK, maybe a C. 10 years into their marriage they started studying tantra, which opened things up for them sexually and otherwise.    For Rakhem, tantra also began a journey of him expanding and deepening his understanding of what women desire, and who women are as sexual beings.    Join us for a powerful and juicy conversation about men, women, sexuality, relating, honesty, dispelling myths and having it all on Episode 66 of Ignite Intimacy!   About Rakhem:     Carl E. Stevens, Jr. (aka Rakhem Seku) is a metaphysician, life and love coach, and author. Through the JujuMama Love Academy, Rakhem and his wife Kenya teach the Bagua Astrology System (BAS) and applies metaphysical concepts to support people in creating the lives they desire. Married over twenty years with 3 children, Rakhem has been on numerous television and radio shows and has a degree in Industrial Engineering and an MBA in finance.   Contact:   Email: mail@jujumama.com Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/rakhemseku Website: http://www.jujumama.com  JujuMama Love Academy is located at https://jla.jujumama.com?affcode=12691_hqk4yz_w   Resources:    Rakhem’s Books can be found at http://amzn.to/2Bh87QG   Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/1491512407    

Today’s episode is all about committing to not staying safe, to pulling back our safety blankets and seeing what happens when we fully let go and say “fuck it!” Here to inspire us is Tasha Blank, an artist, teacher, speaker, and DJ/producer on a mission to set the world free. Tasha has devoted her last decade to understanding how the technologies of the mind, music, and movement can be used to unlock our fullest potential. Her underground dance phenomenon, The Get Down, along with everything else she does — writing, coaching, teaching, composing, DJing, partying, dancing — is dedicated to letting the most liberated, badass versions of ourselves run wild. Tasha built her life around music and dancing as the mediums for her ultimate message about the possibility and adventure and truth to be found in our lives. She discovered that the quickest way to flip herself out of her bullshit brain and into the real and possible was through movement and sound, and has pursued that path ever since. With dance, Tasha explores the way in which people in Western cultures have become disconnected from their bodies and trapped in their own minds. DJing and music became the channel through which Tasha now explores the mind-body connection. Listening to our bodies and figuring out what we truly need is key to reconnecting with something important that we’ve all lost — our gut instinct. It can be a frightening process, and it’s certainly not easy, but committing to facing our fears and moving beyond them is the surest path forward towards making our dreams a reality. More Radical Lessons in this Episode: Music and dance aren’t separate from our bodies — we all have ears, we all hear rhythm, and rhythms move us. Our bodies store emotions, feelings, and trauma, but we’ve only been educated to process things intellectually, not physically; dance helps us learn to process what’s in our bodies. Trying something new is hard. We have to surrender to the fact that we’ll just suck at it for a while. It’s easy to psych yourself out of doing something and decide something’s not possible before even trying, but you need to be tenaciously committed to staying in motion and staying uncomfortable to achieve what you want. When we do things for ourselves that we truly need — sleep, nourish our bodies, move — we’re fulfilling universal needs, and ultimately increasing everyone else’s chances of fulfilling their own. Create spaces for safe, consensual dancing to help people to come home to themselves and listen to their bodies. So many (if not all) of the lines we draw between ourselves and others are completely false — ignore them, and embrace everyone. Your head may be telling you something is right, but you need to listen to your gut; pay attention when you feel an internal resistance to something. To understand some of our patriarchal history in a new light, read Sex at Dawn, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. Fear is about what we don’t know — the scariest moment is right before you jump. Find Tasha! Website: http://www.tashablank.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djtashablank/

This is a special, very personal episode. Cacilda is going to the Amazon in search of new ways to be a "soul doctor" (psychiatrist).

In this episode of Quah, sponsored by Organifi (organifi.com, code "mindpump" for 20% off), Sal, Adam & Justin answer Pump Head questions about advice they would give to trainers that are trying to transition into online coaching, thoughts about resistance bands, trainers with only a certification giving both workout and nutrition advice and correcting tight IT bands are causing knee pain. Foursigmatic Rashi drink Guys talk Game of Thrones (5:39) Justin watches “softcore” porn on Netflix! (10:23) Below Her Mouth Guys talk “cheating” (13:39) “Open” relationships Communication is key Serial monogamy Quah question #1 – What advice would you give to trainers who are trying to transition into online coaching? (45:24) Build library of content Have platform set up to scale properly Use social media a lot more Gain and attract people Build your network/community Quah question #2 – What are your thoughts on resistance bands? (1:00:16) LOVE! In all their programs Don't cause as much damage as weights Use to target sticking points in compound lifts Quah question #3 – What are your thoughts on trainers, only with a certification, giving out training and nutritional advice? Does having a degree trump self-obtained knowledge in your opinion? (1:08:06) Learn through experience Apprenticeship Hunger and desire to learn is key Quah question #4 – Tight IT bands are causing knee pain, what can you do to relive it? Foam rolling is not working. (1:19:06) Weakness/imbalance in the hips Need to address root cause of pain Foam roll into MAPS PRIME PRO Related Links/Products Mentioned Get that Reishi Elixir that Sal loves  Coupon code – “mindpump” Below Her Mouth | Netflix Is Serial Monogamy Worth Pursuing? (article) SEX AT DAWN : HOW WE MATE WHY WE STRAY & WHAT IT MEANS - Christopher Ryan; Cacilda Jetha (book) RUBBERBANDITZ RESISTANCE BAND SET MAPS PRIME PRO MAPS Prime Pro (MPTv YouTube Series) Organifi  Coupon Code "mindpump" Foursigmatic Coupon Code "mindpump" Would you like to be coached by Sal, Adam & Justin? You can get 30 days of virtual coaching from them for FREE at www.mindpumpmedia.com. Get our newest program, MAPS Prime Pro, which shows you how to self assess and correct muscle recruitment patterns that cause pain and impede performance and gains. Get it at www.mindpumpmedia.com! Get MAPS Prime, MAPS Anywhere, MAPS Anabolic, MAPS Performance, MAPS Aesthetic, the Butt Builder Blueprint, the Sexy Athlete Mod AND KB4A (The MAPS Super Bundle) packaged together at a substantial DISCOUNT at www.mindpumpmedia.com. Make EVERY workout better with MAPS Prime, the only pre-workout you need… it is now available at mindpumpmedia.com Have Sal, Adam & Justin personally train you via video instruction on our YouTube channel, Mind Pump TV. Be sure to Subscribe for updates. Get your Kimera Koffee at www.kimerakoffee.com, code "mindpump" for 10% off! Get Organifi, certified organic greens, protein, probiotics, etc at www.organifi.com Use the code “mindpump” for 20% off. Go to foursigmatic.com/mindpump and use the discount code “mindpump” for 15% off of your first order of health & energy boosting mushroom products. Add to the incredible brain enhancing effect of Kimera Koffee with www.brain.fm/mindpump 10 Free sessions! Music for the brain for incredible focus, sleep and naps! Also includes 20% if you purchase! Please subscribe, rate and review this show! Each week our favorite reviewers are announced on the show and sent Mind Pump T-shirts! Have questions for Mind Pump? Each Monday on Instagram (@mindpumpradio) look for the QUAH post and input your question there. (Sal, Adam & Justin will answer as many questions as they can)

Episode 1 of Kaleidoscope Radio!   Today’s episode will include what you need to know to have the best threesomes, what’s in it for women when it comes to giving blow jobs, and are there hip hacks to get better penetration with your partner? Plus I’ll tell you a few random things I’ve learned recently. All this and more on Ep1 of Kaleidoscope Radio!   Welcome to the first episode of Kaleidoscope Radio! I am your host, Alexa. Now, before I get into all that juiciness from the intro, I think maybe I should introduce myself! So, here’s a little bit about me - I am a girl raised in the deep south of Louisiana, grew up catholic(ish) with military parents, dad left early, mom remarried and then remarried again. My family has A LOT of women in it. And of course as the cliché goes, I wouldn’t have all of that any other way. I am a former pageant queen #rhinestonesisterhood, I went to college at the University of Southern Mississippi where I worked up to 4 jobs at a time along with a full course load just to make it through. I graduated with a degree somewhere in between Biology and Forensic science, which came in very handy when I left two months after graduation to become an art dealer. I sold art as a crew member on luxury cruise ships for 6 years, I traveled and still travel quite a bit - 78 countries and counting, currently recording this episode of Kaleidoscope Radio in Novi Sad, Serbia. You know. . .It was somewhere in my last year, on a cruise ship, where I really fell in love with learning again. I accredit it to an insatiable thirst I have when it comes to devouring books. I was handed the right book at the right time and bang! The rest is history, so it seems. What I became most interested in was sex, sexuality, relationships and varying dynamics of love. It probably wouldn’t surprise you if I told you that the book was Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. Since then studying, educating, writing, making videos and talking incessantly about these topics has pretty much consumed my life. And again, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I came off of ships and began releasing some of my work through social media and the response was incredible! It was mainly short life stories with perspective twists that began catching the eye of many other podcasters, bloggers, editors and even casting directors. Recently I filmed the (hopefully) pilot episode for a reality series for MTV. Still waiting to hear what’s going on with that! I recently made the decision to come off of ships permanently to pursue a full time career as a writer, a speaker, podcaster, YouTuber and all around influencer in the topics of sex, love and relationships. I have a blog called The Violet Butterfly, where most of my work is accessible as well as put a face to the voice! Just go to www.thevioletbutterfly.com In fact, the reason for the “kaleidoscope” in Kaleidoscope radio has to do with my blog. In case you didn’t know, a group of butterflies is called a Kaleidoscope. . .Therefore, when it came time to give a name to my followers, The Kaleidoscope. . .just made sense. The group I am mentioning is a curious, multifaceted, extremely diverse group of people who are all interested in exploring the topics of sex, love and relationships.   What I decided to do, was make a portion of the podcast called “Questions from The Kaleidoscope”. These are real fan questions that I attempt to give unbiased, educational, real life answers.   So, I asked the group – “What is your sex question?” Throughout the show, I'll share some of those with you!   Let’s get started!   A random thing I learned recently, in 2009 the 1st 3D map was created of the female clitoral structure. . .this was 8 years after we had mapped the entire human genome! In my opinion that’s kinda the focus we’ve put on understanding female sexuality as a whole!   Another interesting fact, as early as the 13th century, goat eyelids were used to make cock rings.   SM Is there any way to hack getting your hips higher for penetration without buying a sex contraption or extra piece of furniture?   There are a variety of positions you can try to get your hips higher than what is available with missionary position. I suggest you go to sexinfo101.com for some ideas. What is great about this site, other than they have over 138 different listed, is that they have 3D animations that will demonstrate how to get into those positions safely. Other than grabbing a couple of pillows and putting them under your coccyx (lower back), you can try one of my favorite hacks which is a yoga pose called “bridge pose”. It is where you lay on your back, knees bent towards the sky; then, raise your hips up as high as you can manage. Instead of interlocking your hands behind your back, grab your ankles. That will give you stability and something to brace yourself depending on the force of your partner’s thrusts. When you are ready to try something else, try the arm of your couch (if it is high enough) or other raised surfaces – kitchen counters, the washing machine (if it is not too high). If anything you and your partner can have a laughter infused session romping around the house looking for the best climactic and stable surfaces! I know you mentioned “without buying a sex contraption or extra piece of furniture” ; however, if you are exceptionally agile or as my friend Star Captain Steph would say, bendy then I recommend you to consider trying out a sex swing or a yoga swing. These have unique pulley systems that allow for you to customize your positions. Also, people will never know your yoga swing isn’t always used for yoga ;) #dualpurpose   A random thing I learned recently – There are roughly 57 different genders you can choose from when putting together your Facebook profile. As quickly as I can list them off – here we go – Agender Androgyne Androgynous Bigender Cis Cisgender Cis Female Cis Male Cis Man Cis Woman Cisgender Female Cisgender Male Cisgender Man Cisgender Woman Female to Male FTM Gender Fluid Gender Nonconforming Gender Questioning Gender Variant Genderqueer Intersex Male to Female MTF Neither Neutrois Non-binary Other Pangender Trans Trans* Trans Female Trans* Female Trans Male Trans* Male Trans Man Trans* Man Trans Person Trans* Person Trans Woman Trans* Woman Transfeminine Transgender Transgender Female Transgender Male Transgender Man Transgender Person Transgender Woman Transmasculine Transsexual Transsexual Female Transsexual Male Transsexual Man Transsexual Person Transsexual Woman Two-Spirit   AN So recently discovered I enjoy watching my guy have sex with other women.... Any tips on how to explore this properly and on mentally involvement?   The term is voyeurism, which means you like to watch. Many people enjoy watching others have sex, especially if it is someone they love. You get a unique view of your partner that you would never get otherwise. For most couples this is a bonding, self less experience. For other, less mature couples this can be something that destroys the relationship with flares of jealousy, guilt and distrust. I will give you a few tips assuming that you are a self-aware, conscious individual. If you are looking to have experiences with your male lover by inviting another female into the bedroom, first things first COMMUNICATE with each other what you wish to gain and how the experience will please you. You can even use this verbal exchange as foreplay. It does not have to be a rigid or uncomfortable talk. Next, my recommendation - YOU do the choosing. Before you do the choosing, consider how most women have been conditioned to respond when entering sexual encounters. With that in mind, take that into consideration before choosing the third. Another reason I say for you to do the choosing is because you want to protect yourself in any way from feelings of jealousy or inadequacy that may arise. When you do the choosing, I hope you will be kind to yourself in doing so. I recommend that you choose a third who is more into you than your partner, but also shows your partner favor. She must be mentally and emotionally stable, which means you may not want to take her to bed within the same night as meeting her, or maybe you do if it is a really amazing conversation, just be prepared to wait if you must. No one says that these types of trysts have to happen all within the span of a night! Make sure she is understanding of where your boundaries are, ask her where hers are and of course don’t forget your partner’s requests and limits as well.   Something we don't do in the straight world that we should consider borrowing from gay land is the “what are you into” phrase. In the straight world we seem to forget that sexual encounters are an exchange to be negotiated. In the straight world, once consenting adults get to a yes to sex then people seem to stop talking all together, as if it would ruin the mood. If you are down for sex, you’re down for sex. Make sure you are comfortable when it’s actually going down. If you know you may be bringing a third home then make sure to set the scene as well. Have clean sheets on the bed, make sure the room smells ready for play. Maybe have a bottle of wine on stand by to calm a few jitters or to discuss play intentions over. I don’t recommend sex with any strangers when you’re wasted because so many things can go south and not in a good way, so be cautious about alcohol consumption. Have clean towels, water, EXTRA condoms or other STD/STI protection methods handy and have a bathroom that is clean and ready for showering and freshening up after play time finishes. I know the chosen third is the “extra” in these situations, but that does not mean that her feelings weigh less or should be disregarded when it comes to post coital care. Make sure she feels comfortable and cared for as well. Continue communicating and keep your eyes open for unspoken feelings that should be spoken especially before the third leaves. Have a plan that she is aware of before you all wind up as a beautiful mess of body parts. Does she stay? Does she go? If she stays where? Have a taxi number handy in case Ubers are hard to come by or do not come to your area (if she didn’t drive). Maybe even joke with your partner beforehand what would happen if she goes absolutely bat shit crazy!   I know what I laid out above may sound like a lot, but this is where the answer to the second part of you questions lie. The more effort you put into creating a comfortable safe experience, the better chances you have of protecting your emotions and your bond with your partner. If you enter an emotionally and sexually charged situation like this on a whim or in the midst of a boozy evening with your lover, or if you do it to prove your “bout-ness” or your laidback-ness, you leave yourself open for some major irreversible consequences. Remember that.   My next statement may not get me the popular vote but I will say it anyway. . . If you are in LTR with your partner, maybe married for 10 years say, and you decided you want to “spice things up” and you (as the wife) want to indulge in a fantasy of yours and/or your husbands by having a threesome, I recommend you hire a professional. Someone who specializes in this dynamic, who is acutely aware of feelings and emotions and is trained to make the experience all about you and your partner without any selfish hidden agendas. And make sure to do your research first!   Lastly, remember shit happens (literally and figuratively!) have laughter prepped for those moments instead of tears or anger. And have FUN!   JSS What are women's thoughts on giving oral? As in, how do you get pleasure from giving? I know how great receiving is, but what are women getting out of it and how can we make it better?   Well, JSS, it is hard to generalize, but I will do my best to give you a relatively gender encompassing answer here. And if you don’t mind I will give advice for giver/receiver so that you can get the best idea of total dynamic.   Some women love giving oral. They love the pleasure it brings to their partner and usually that turns them on just as much as the person who is receiving. Some like the taste, the smell, the action. Some like to use that time to touch themselves. For some, that familiarity is a great way to get them in the mood, while getting their partner in the mood as well. “It turns me on to be the turn on” / “ It turns me on to turn you on” Some women may have been raised to know that any sex other than the procreative kind, is ungodly and should not occur. I imagine they have a completely different set of views on fellatio. Some women see giving head as a duty or chore. That could stem from many reasons. Maybe she does not feel her action is equally reciprocated. Maybe she sees sex in general as a burden. Maybe she is not comfortable with her abilities. Some use it to leverage. *I’d personally like to see less of this happening!     WOMEN or GIVERS, who would like to give better head, typically go to Cosmo or the internet to learn different techniques (rub the balls, squeeze the base of the shaft, massage the prostate, etc.) but what they are missing is the mental connection. Technique is one thing, and that is teachable to an extent but what is not typically as easy to convey is that you, as the giver, must actually want to give. Being in the right mental space before you even put your mouth over the tip of his cock is one sure fire way to start giving some of the best blow jobs of your entire life.   Ladies, when you look at him, think. . . (this is like mental one-sided foreplay) “I am going to rock your fucking world” “I am going to show you just how good of a choice you made” “I am going to make you beg” “I am going to tease you, to lick you, to suck you, to fuck you, to show you that you think you know me, but wait. . .there is so much more”   Notice all of those begin with “I am going to” I would like for more ladies to understand that it is just as much your responsibility to put you in the mood as it is your partners. If you love them (or if you are just trying to show off with a 1 night stand) Make sure you do the work to enjoy it!   As clothes get removed, hold the space and the mood you want. You have the penetrable orifice, you make the rules for insertion including the atmosphere. You can keep the vibe with your gaze, your breathing and the words you say to yourself and to your partner either verbally or mentally.   Do your best, as the giver to take the person all the way in before you actually take their member into your mouth. Blow jobs can, and in my opinion, should include much more than just a mouth and a penis. Rub the top and inner part of the thighs in big tantric sweeping motions. Vary the pressure, vary the tempo. Caress the sides of his torso. Kiss him on his neck, down his body, on his pelvic bones. Give a little primal nibble here or there. What I have mentioned just now is all technique, but it is technique that can keep things personal for both sides and is taken to the next level should you continue the sexual mantras all the while. When you look at his penis, have a (I know this may sound strange) conversation with it. I suggest in your head or he may get a little weirded out by it! Tell it how much you love it. Tell it how much pleasure you are giving it. Tell his penis thank you for the pleasure it brings you. Tell it thank you for allowing you to worship it in this way. If you want to get dirty with your conversation well. . .go for it! “One day I am going to let him put you in my ass” – Now that is a different discussion all together ;)   Continue loving, worshiping, fucking with your mouth, hands, breath and emotional body. Don’t be shy if you need lubrication on your throat, meaning use your spit to make it easier to take and to go deeper. Take breaks when you need them and take moments to “check in” with the receiver.   Sometimes this is just the beginning of play, but if it is not and you agree to have him climax in your mouth, make sure to continue to hold the space you create in whatever way feels natural and comfortable. (A little more detail is given below)   Some other good to knows – If you do not want his hand behind your head, tell him. . .but tell him seductively. I don't recommend “surprising” him with certain things you pick up in magazines or blogs (even mine!). I recommend discussing them, as playfully or sensually as you can. Find the boundaries. I promise you will kill the mood (in most cases) if you shove a pinky finger in an ass hole when he is not expecting it because you read somewhere that the male G-spot is best accessed that way. Which is it and can lead to much stronger male orgasms, but he should be prepared for that! Have a plan when it comes to the big finish. If you let him climax in your mouth, don’t take it and run away to spit it out. That is a sure fire way to disrupt that atmosphere you are worked so hard to enjoy and create. Whether you have a cup to spit into when he finishes or should you choose to swallow, make sure to gently give his penis a little more attention before the session is officially complete. Make sure to give it your last few mental whispers of gratitude and thanks before moving to your partner himself.   MEN – do all you can to make the giver comfortable (unless you are her master and the latter is your end goal – different story all together) Don’t push unless you are following her lead. Let her explore your body. Let her find the things that get the most reactions out of you. Don't fake something feeling good, because she is sure to interpret it as you liking it and wanting more of it. Tell her if she is doing something you do not like, that tickles, or that turns you off. And make sure to tell her she is doing a really good job when she finds the parts of you that make you crazy. Use your words, make sure to breathe and moan or grunt when it feels natural. Note that it is not her duty to do anything for you. She does this act for herself, because she loves you.   I have a tip for both sexes – use something to cover his eyes, like a pillow or shirt, the first time you decided to have an exploratory session. Not only does this enhance the other senses by taking one away, but it makes her more comfortable to get up close and personal and can give her a boost to be more confident in her curiosities!   What do both sexes stand to gain from good head? PLEASURE, SATISFACTION, A BOOST IN CONFIDENCE, STRESS RELIEF, STRONGER BONDING BETWEEN PARTNERS, MEMORIES FOR THE MASTURBATION BANK. . .I could go on! You get the point! Good head is good for you!   Last few things - Remember that actual ejaculation is not the measure of a good BJ. Sometimes sex of all sorts is incredible without ejaculation and should not be used to determine success or failure. And to my casual dick lickers, just a reminder that some STDs and STIs are orally transferrable. Is it more uncomfortable to ask important questions about someone’s sexual health or for you to be the one telling another that yours is compromised?   WOW – that’s was quite a show for my first go round! I hope you all found something of value here!   If you have a question for me, you can send it to alexa@thevioletbutterfly.com All identities will remain concealed. If you would like something more creative than your initials to represent your question, sign off with a name of your choice!   You can join the official Kaleidoscope by going to thevioletbutterfly.com/join-the-kaleidoscope And uh, only join if you’re not creepy. Curious – good, Creepy – not so much. I personally monitor everything that goes down in there. Once your request is accepted you will enter a community space of other curious and exploring individuals of all shapes, sizes and backgrounds who treat each other with respect and love! 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The Guests: Ellia- https://elliabisker.wordpress.com, http://sweetsoubrette.com/, http://www.charmingdisaster.com/, http://kotorino.com/, http://funkrust.com/ twitter: @charmingdisaster and @sweetsourbette Susan-http://susanhwanglalala.com/, http://bushwickbookclub.com/ twitter: @soozeehwang The Books: Lafayette in the Somewhat United States (Sarah Vowell), Relish in My Life (Lucy Knisley), God in Ruins (Kate Atkinson), Life After Life (Kate Atkinson), Emotionally Weird (Kate Atkinson), Human Croquet (Kate Atkinson), The Blind Assasin (Margaret Atwood), The Penelopiad (Margaret Atwood), Madame Bovary (Gustave Flaubert), Henry and June (Anais Nin), The Art of Learning (Josh Waitzkin) The 5 Elements of Effective Thinking (Edward B Burger and Michael P Starbird), Hark a Vagrant (Kate Beaton), War and Peace (Leo Tolstoy), Sex at Dawn (Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha), and Moby Dick (Herman Melville) Ellia Reading: http://bushwickbookclub.bandcamp.com/track/ellia-bisker-reading-from-blind-assassin-by-margaret-atwood The Music:http://bushwickbookclub.bandcamp.com/track/sail-ho, https://alfamatrix.bandcamp.com/album/never-look-back-words-ep Writing: Give yourself permission to write the worst song ever (or short story, novel, screenplay…) #inkandworm #rfb

Chris Ryan is the author, along with his wife Cacilda Jetha, of the New York Times bestseller “Sex At Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships,” which advice columnist Dan Savage described as "the single most important book about human sexuality since Alfred Kinsey unleashed Sexual Behavior in the Human Male on the American public in 1948." In this wide-ranging interview with The Young Turks’ Ana Kasparian, Ryan discusses why sexual monogamy among humans is a very recent invention, the critical difference between intimacy and sex, why polyamorous relationships are often much healthier - with better communication and less jealousy - than traditional pair bonds, the primitive roots of the cuckolding fetish, and why it can be perfectly OK to say, “go ahead, fuck the nanny.” To find out more about Chris Ryan, visit www.chrisryanphd.com Buy Sex at Dawn: www.powells.com/biblio/1-9780061707810-2­0 Listen to Chris Ryan’s podcast, Tangentially Speaking: http://chrisryanphd.com/tangentially-... Follow Chris on Twitter: @ChrisRyanPhD Follow Ana on Twitter: @anakasparian Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices