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In the 15th Century, Leon Battista Alberti said "A man can do all things if he will". And thus the idea of The Renaissance Man (or Universal Man, or polymath) was born. But how to be a good one? And is it still possible to be one today? We take a look at The Book of the Courtier by Castiglione and see what advice he can offer us.   You can find the Full Video version of the show over on YouTube at  https://www.youtube.com/@RememberRememberPodcast Contact us at  - RememberRememberShow@gmail.com  Twitter - @RememberCast https://twitter.com/RememberCast Instagram - @rememberrememberpod https://www.instagram.com/rememberrememberpod/ Find everything about the show over on our Website - https://www.rememberrememberpodcast.com/ Artwork and logos were made by Mary Hanson @MermaidVexa

In an extended version of the programme that was broadcast, Melvyn Bragg and guests discuss the influential book John Maynard Keynes wrote in 1919 after he resigned in protest from his role at the Paris Peace Conference. There the victors of World War One were deciding the fate of the defeated, especially Germany and Austria-Hungary, and Keynes wanted the world to know his view that the economic consequences would be disastrous for all. Soon Germany used his book to support their claim that the Treaty was grossly unfair, a sentiment that fed into British appeasement in the 1930s and has since prompted debate over whether Keynes had only warned of disaster or somehow contributed to it. With Margaret MacMillan Emeritus Professor of International History at the University of Oxford Michael Cox Emeritus Professor of International Relations at the London School of Economics and Founding Director of LSE IDEAS And Patricia Clavin Professor of Modern History at the University of Oxford Producer: Simon Tillotson Reading list: Manfred F. Boemeke, Gerald D. Feldman and Elisabeth Glaser (eds.), The Treaty of Versailles: A Reassessment after 75 Years (Cambridge University Press, 1998) Zachary D. Carter, The Price of Peace: Money, Democracy and the Life of John Maynard Keynes (Random House, 2020) Peter Clarke, Keynes: The Twentieth Century's Most Influential Economist (Bloomsbury, 2009) Patricia Clavin et al (eds.), Keynes's Economic Consequences of the Peace after 100 Years: Polemics and Policy (Cambridge University Press, 2023) Patricia Clavin, ‘Britain and the Making of Global Order after 1919: The Ben Pimlott Memorial Lecture' (Twentieth Century British History, Vol. 31:3, 2020) Richard Davenport-Hines, Universal Man; The Seven Lives of John Maynard Keynes (William Collins, 2015) R. F. Harrod, John Maynard Keynes (first published 1951; Pelican, 1972) Jens Holscher and Matthias Klaes (eds), Keynes's Economic Consequences of the Peace: A Reappraisal (Pickering & Chatto, 2014) John Maynard Keynes (with an introduction by Michael Cox), The Economic Consequences of the Peace (Palgrave Macmillan, 2019) Margaret MacMillan, Peacemakers: Six Months that Changed the World (John Murray Publishers, 2001) Etienne Mantoux, The Carthaginian Peace or the Economic Consequences of Mr. Keynes (Oxford University Press, 1946) D. E. Moggridge, Maynard Keynes: An Economist's Biography (Routledge, 1992) Alan Sharp, Versailles 1919: A Centennial Perspective (Haus Publishing Ltd, 2018) Robert Skidelsky, John Maynard Keynes, 1883-1946 (Pan Macmillan, 2004) Jürgen Tampke, A Perfidious Distortion of History: The Versailles Peace Treaty and the Success of the Nazis (Scribe UK, 2017) Adam Tooze, The Deluge: The Great War, America and the Remaking of the Global Order, 1916-1931 (Penguin Books, 2015)

In an extended version of the programme that was broadcast, Melvyn Bragg and guests discuss the influential book John Maynard Keynes wrote in 1919 after he resigned in protest from his role at the Paris Peace Conference. There the victors of World War One were deciding the fate of the defeated, especially Germany and Austria-Hungary, and Keynes wanted the world to know his view that the economic consequences would be disastrous for all. Soon Germany used his book to support their claim that the Treaty was grossly unfair, a sentiment that fed into British appeasement in the 1930s and has since prompted debate over whether Keynes had only warned of disaster or somehow contributed to it. With Margaret MacMillan Emeritus Professor of International History at the University of Oxford Michael Cox Emeritus Professor of International Relations at the London School of Economics and Founding Director of LSE IDEAS And Patricia Clavin Professor of Modern History at the University of Oxford Producer: Simon Tillotson Reading list: Manfred F. Boemeke, Gerald D. Feldman and Elisabeth Glaser (eds.), The Treaty of Versailles: A Reassessment after 75 Years (Cambridge University Press, 1998) Zachary D. Carter, The Price of Peace: Money, Democracy and the Life of John Maynard Keynes (Random House, 2020) Peter Clarke, Keynes: The Twentieth Century's Most Influential Economist (Bloomsbury, 2009) Patricia Clavin et al (eds.), Keynes's Economic Consequences of the Peace after 100 Years: Polemics and Policy (Cambridge University Press, 2023) Patricia Clavin, ‘Britain and the Making of Global Order after 1919: The Ben Pimlott Memorial Lecture' (Twentieth Century British History, Vol. 31:3, 2020) Richard Davenport-Hines, Universal Man; The Seven Lives of John Maynard Keynes (William Collins, 2015) R. F. Harrod, John Maynard Keynes (first published 1951; Pelican, 1972) Jens Holscher and Matthias Klaes (eds), Keynes's Economic Consequences of the Peace: A Reappraisal (Pickering & Chatto, 2014) John Maynard Keynes (with an introduction by Michael Cox), The Economic Consequences of the Peace (Palgrave Macmillan, 2019) Margaret MacMillan, Peacemakers: Six Months that Changed the World (John Murray Publishers, 2001) Etienne Mantoux, The Carthaginian Peace or the Economic Consequences of Mr. Keynes (Oxford University Press, 1946) D. E. Moggridge, Maynard Keynes: An Economist's Biography (Routledge, 1992) Alan Sharp, Versailles 1919: A Centennial Perspective (Haus Publishing Ltd, 2018) Robert Skidelsky, John Maynard Keynes, 1883-1946 (Pan Macmillan, 2004) Jürgen Tampke, A Perfidious Distortion of History: The Versailles Peace Treaty and the Success of the Nazis (Scribe UK, 2017) Adam Tooze, The Deluge: The Great War, America and the Remaking of the Global Order, 1916-1931 (Penguin Books, 2015)

The subject of race/white supremacy is a topic that often divides. Many of us find ourselves asking similar questions, and arriving at different answers such as: What is race/racism? Does it still exist? How does it show up? What is the solution, and who's responsible? What actions are constructive versus non constructive? Episode 85 welcomes father, husband, son, and owner of Onustees (onustees.com), Dre Taylor. During the segment we share our answers to questions many of us struggle to agree on. IN addition we discuss the future time where we've created a new value system that isn't based on color/class, and we exist as what is know as Universal Man, Universal Woman, and Universal They. Dre Taylor is owner/founder of onustees (www.onustees.com) ön.us.tees (pronounced Honest Tees) is a clothing brand that aims to promote Honest Propaganda through walking billboards of positivity. Each message, each theme, each design is something we stand for and behind wholeheartedly. Our mission is to evoke emotion from both ön.us.folks who proudly wear the brand and of those who encounter it, spreading our message and motto: "...because honestly, the onus is on us."

“Often we say to ourselves that we will ‘one day' go away and think about where we're going from a professional or personal point of view. But ‘one day' tends not to actually happen.” In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey discuss Grego's personal quarterly offsite process and why it's so effective. http://universalman.org/podcast/quarterly-personal-offsites REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: Why quarterly personal checkpoints are highly valuable What the optimal time is for a bit of time away Some simple tools Grego uses for his offsites   Stay legendary, Grego and Pricey   Connect with Universal Man

“Might be five minutes, might be 10. But it needs to be regular and the amount of time suits you and your pace of life.” In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey discuss the practice of reflection and deep thinking time. http://universalman.org/podcast/reflective-practice REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: Finding your own method and setting your own rules for timeout Grego and Pricey discuss their own processes and how they are different The wellbeing benefits of reflective practice Stay legendary, Grego and Pricey   Connect with Universal Man

“No mountain climber has ever got to a summit without failure.” In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey discuss how taking little steps can result in achieving big goals.   http://universalman.org/podcast/climbing-lifes-mountains REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps    In this episode we talk about:  Taking one step at a time towards success Dropping your ego and seeking help Thinking practically instead of focusing on the end result   Stay legendary,  Grego and Pricey   Connect with Universal Man

In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey discuss core values, why they're important and how to go about determining core values in your own life. http://universalman.org/podcast/core-values-process   REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps   In this episode we talk about:  What core values are Understanding the role that core values play in one's life A simple process to determine your own core values   Stay legendary, Grego and Pricey   Connect with Universal Man

The world in which we live is by and large designed and built for “the ideal man”: The size of cell phones, seat belts in cars, the development of medication – there are countless examples. And most of this we take for granted, that is how used we are, both women and men, to men being the norm, the universal form.If something is to change in the world that is constantly overlooking women, we have to first be aware that this is happening, says writer Caroline Criado Perez. In her book Invisible Women, she lets the numbers speak for her: Data and statistics from all areas of society and a number of countries all show the same picture. “When we see it, we see it. But someone has to point it out to us,” Linn Stalsberg writes in an essay about invisible women in Agenda Magasin. And Criado Perez points it out to us. Where do we go from here? What would change in design and politics if the world started including the experiences of women?Criado Perez is a critically acclaimed writer, journalist, and activist from the UK, where she has campaigned for women to be featured on British banknotes, and for statues of suffragettes to be erected.Linn Stalsberg is a journalist and writer of titles such as Det er nok nå (“Enough now”) and Etter pandemien (“After the pandemic”).This evening, Criado Perez will give an introduction to her project to reveal the male norm governing our everyday lives, before joining Stalsberg in conversation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“These mightn't necessarily be your really close mates. It's people who are just on the same kind of a journey that you think you are on.” In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, the guys do a quick round-up of what Universal Man means to them and what you should be looking for in a men's group.   http://universalman.org/podcast/finding-a-mens-group REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps   Connect with Universal Man About: universalman.org/about Facebook: facebook.com/TheUniversalMan LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/universalman

“The addicted person has to be ready and prepared, and they have to hit a point where there are ramifications to their future health and happiness because of their drug use.” In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego chats with Conrad Tracey, Founder and Head Coach of Addiction Coaching Australia & New Zealand, on how to help yourself or others beat addiction and recover to lead a full life. http://universalman.org/podcast/addiction-and-recovery REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: How to help yourself, a colleague, a partner at home or a child beat addiction The biggest behavioural predictors of addiction in someone The myths around addiction and why they can be so damaging to recovery efforts What the first step is towards overcoming addiction How to offer someone support where they are resistant to change. Connect with Universal Man About: universalman.org/about Facebook: facebook.com/TheUniversalMan LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/universalman

In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey welcome a couple of special guests - Justin McNamara and Damien Jones - to chat about the topic of being a father after separation or divorce. http://universalman.org/podcast/fathering-through-separation REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: Why it's important to keep the kids at the forefront of your thinking at all times What were the surprises in the process of the breakdown, both good and bad, and some new rituals and traditions that were established A long list of do's and don'ts that our guests have gained through lived experience Actively seeking out support from friends and your network Connect with Universal Man About: universalman.org/about Facebook: facebook.com/TheUniversalMan LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/universalman

In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey welcome a couple of special guests - Craig Murphy and Brendan Hawes aka Hawesy - to explore the great adventure of raising boys to become men. http://universalman.org/podcast/fathering-boys-to-men REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: The importance of being involved in your son's life and his activities, but not overstepping the mark Having realistic expectations around his development and not trying to impose yours on him Why boys are risk-takers up until their mid-20s and appreciating that they are developing the ability to control their emotions The importance of humour and why the dad joke is the best tool you can use! Connect with Universal Man About: universalman.org/about Facebook: facebook.com/TheUniversalMan LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/universalman

In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey cover the frameworks and mental models that they use to enable positive, quick and proactive decision-making that can reduce risk and friction in your life. http://universalman.org/podcast/decision-making REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: What the elite chiefs and leaders have that enable them to make really good decisions with clarity and good judgement; Some examples of frameworks and models that exist all around us all day; How you can take existing frameworks and models and adapt them to your needs; Reverse-engineering the process and identifying gaps in your existing frameworks. Connect with Universal Man About: universalman.org/about Facebook: facebook.com/TheUniversalMan LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/universalman

“Any people you live with, partner and/or kids, are 80% more likely to be thriving if you like your job and you are thriving, and the opposite is true if you hate your job.” In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey discuss what career excellence actually means and why it is different from what people usually equate with success. universalman.org/career-excellence REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: What is career excellence exactly? What is mastery? Are the two linked? Reframing that feeling of imposter syndrome to propel your career trajectory and ensure you are a better partner and parent. Why building your network will allow you to achieve excellence. What to do when you hit a career crossroads. Universal Man About: universalman.org/about Facebook: facebook.com/TheUniversalMan LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/universalman

In this episode of The Universal Man podcast, Grego and Pricey discuss male vulnerability and why it's got such a negative connotation, but why it's actually a doorway to a deeper kind of strength and how that can manifest in the modern world. universalman.org/podcast/male-vulnerability REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: What is male vulnerability and why has it got a negative connotation? The background to why men traditionally have struggled to talk about their feelings. Why it is actually a symbol of strength and presents an opportunity for growth. How to create a safe space for others to be vulnerable without fear of judgement. Universal Man About: universalman.org/about Facebook: facebook.com/TheUniversalMan LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/universalman

Many of you are well on the path of growth and self-development. You may have listened to some key podcasts (including Universal Man), read self-help books and blogs and engaged with family and identified some key areas in your life where you might need to focus your energies. The next step is to figure out, with your focus defined, what success in these areas might look like for you. That is where Tom Walton found himself after attending the 2021 Universal Man Camp: asking himself what his key goals for improvement were and how he might define his own success. With a strong competitive streak and drive to perform perfectly that has developed throughout school, university and now his career, Tom has always worked hard to be the best he can be in his profession, embracing a mindset of being first in the office and last to leave - succeeding at all costs. With the help of some great mentors, he worked hard to build expertise and credibility in a specialised area, bringing home some of those great material successes that we all strive for like the family home and fancy car. While this version of success brought great professional and material rewards for Tom and his family, it also came at a cost. Tom was often stressed and irritable. His strong drive kept him at performance level long after he left the office and he often needed to turn to a round of golf or a few round of beers to provide an escape. Eventually, a few key events in life proved the catalyst for Tom to sit down and, with the help of his partner, put himself on the journey to not only realign his purpose and focus, but search to find his “off button,” exploring self-help books and meditation as strategies to begin with. Yet, with a growing young family and some more life under his belt, Tom has come to realise that the genuine fulfilment he is looking for in life might not come from focusing on excelling in his profession at the expense of other areas of his life. Today he is a bit more aware of where his focus should be.  www.universalman.org/defining-success-for-you

In this episode of Digital Transformation & Leadership Danny Levy talks to Greg Layton, founder of Chief Maker and the Council of Chiefs. They get into Greg's epic adventures of personal challenge including, his time spent with the Shaolin KungFu Monks, running ultra marathons through the desert, and what he learnt about business along the way. Greg is an executive coach that specialises in helping CEOs, Boards and Executive Teams lead transformation. He is an Advisory Board Member for QTM Energy and co-founder of Universal Man a NFP specialising in men's health. He has lived and trained with Shaolin Monks, run multiple ultra marathons across world toughest deserts and coached High Performance coach at Super Rugby Level. To get in touch with Greg contact him on LinkedIn here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/greglayton/ For more information about Chief Maker and the Council of Chiefs visit - https://www.chiefmaker.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/danny-levy/message

At our 2021 Universal Man Weekend, 8th - 10th October, the men who were gathered wanted to share with the world just what Universal Man is. So, naturally, we put together a podcast. For wisdom and reflection on all that is Universal Man - our podcast, our camps and our community - have a listen to these brilliant men: Ben Flintoff, Brad Neilsen, Bruce Taylor, Chris Beckman, Damien Price, Greg Layton, Jeremy Seng, Jimmy Purcell, John O'Brien, Justin McNamara, Liam Clancy, Luke Baker, Mark Lysaght, Nathaniel Johnson, Peter Gabauer, Peter McAuliffe, Thomas Walton and Travis Rosevear. https://www.universalman.org/what-is-universal-man

Mark Queppet describes his concept of the Universal Man to Dr. Trish Leigh and how the porn epidemic is impacting relationships for both men and women.Mark Queppet is a professional certified life coach who has been coaching men in the areas of addiction recovery, productivity, mindset, and masculine development, since 2013.His current focus is Universal Man, a project devoted to helping men play a bigger game with their lives so that they can become someone they admire by mastering themselves, optimizing their lifestyle, and conquering their goals. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/pornbrainreboot)

Best to You Scotty Reid, Network, Everyone! Based on the Concept of United Independent Compensatory Code System. https://www.justiceradiostation.com/ Contributes Awareness that in order for Justice to be produced by the Individual, the False Identity provided for everyone in the Falsified Political Tool of R A C E Classification must be RECOGNIZED, RESOLVED Through use of a CODE, taking it to the Head(Deep Thought Meditation, Focus) for Mental Liberation, which must be preceded by META PHYSICS of change.   Results, Universal Man, Woman. Are You Up For This? justice@justiceradiostation.com

Best to You Scotty Reid, Network, Everyone! Based on the Concept of United Independent Compensatory Code System. https://www.justiceradiostation.com/ Contributes Awareness that in order for Justice to be produced by the Individual, the False Identity provided for everyone in the Falsified Political Tool of R A C E Classification must be RECOGNIZED, RESOLVED Through use of a CODE, taking it to the Head(Deep Thought Meditation, Focus) for Mental Liberation, which must be preceded by META PHYSICS of change.   Results, Universal Man, Woman. Are You Up For This? justice@justiceradiostation.com

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Greg Layton is the co-founder of Universal Man; a not-for-profit organisation that provides Men with skills, insights, and brotherhood to become their best selves. I believe it is so very important to provide a space for Men and their sons an opportunity to experience a "rite of passage" which is missing in our modern society, and Universal Man gives Men this amazing experience. Greg has also trained with Shaolin Monks in the remote mountains of China. He has run a 250km Ultra Marathon across the Gobi & Atacama deserts. He has written a best selling book called "Chief Maker" He hosts the "Universal Man" podcast I am looking forward to this interview as Greg and I will be discussing how Men can find their way in a world where rites of passage aren't part of our culture anymore and how Men can find both purpose and meaning in life. Join Michael at Forging Excalibur - http://www.forgingexcalibur.com Or Join Michael's Free Mens Facebook Community - The Training Ground - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1864049460329729/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mulder listens to Olivia Rodrigo and gets all up in his feelings.   Produced by Kristen Riley and Daive Reed Follow on Twitter @CastFiles Email us at TheeCastFiles@gmail.com Music by Hal Six  Logo by @OokaArt Patreon   Summary Camping at night at Lake Okobogee – teenage girl and younger boy outside by the fire. Mother inside the camper.  Full cup of cold coffee on a saucer does the “T-Rex is coming jiggle” as lights flash outside and there's an earthquake. For a camper, there are a ton of breakable dishes - more than we have in our immobile apartment.  Kevin screams for his mom as she flops around like a fish, when she reaches the doorknob she burns her hand.  Finally opening the door, Kevin says Ruby, his sister is gone.  Why didn't Kevin try to open the camper? Why was the door handle searingly hot, but nothing else was impacted by heat?   About Okoboji Actual spelling O K O B O J I, spelling in “Conduit” O K O B O G E E. In reality, Iowa's small town Okoboji which is located on west lake, is surrounded by mostly flat terrain, but was shown in "Conduit" as being surrounded by mountains.  The episode also places the lake near Sioux City, Iowa. They are actually more than 110 miles apart. Mulder also mentions trout fishing, there are no trout in lake Okoboji.  FBI HEADQUARTERS WASHINGTON, D.C. Chief Blevins informs Special Agent Dana Scully of a 302 that Blevins has indirectly received from Agent Fox Mulder. A 302 is effectively petitioning the FBI to assign a case number to a tabloid headline – specifically, "Teen Taken From Tent By Aliens." This is where Mulder's past gets further explanation.  In frustration with Mulder, Blevins tells Scully that the otherwise unexplained Blevins shows Scully case X-40253 – which concerns the disappearance of Mulder's sister, Samantha, an incident that happened years ago – and considers that Mulder's personal quest to discover his sister's fate is clouding his judgment. Scully disagrees with this suggestion and asks to not only talk to Mulder but to also make a recommendation to Blevins on the subject, before he disallows the 302. In the basement office of the X-Files unit, Scully challenges Mulder on the validity of his request. Mulder replies the disappearance occurred at Lake Okobogee, a known UFO Hotspot. He also lets Scully know that one of four well-documented UFO sightings from 1967 involved a young girl scout, now the missing girl's mother, Darlene Morris. SIOUX CITY, IOWA The next day (on August 26), Mulder and Scully arrive at the Morris residence in Sioux City, Iowa and are welcomed inside by Darlene, who tries to introduce them to Kevin but he ignores them, all the while scribbling something on paper. Mulder studies a row of family portrait photographs on a mantelpiece and affectionately touches one of Ruby Morris, Scully noticing he feels personally connected to the case. Darlene gives a statement to the agents, claiming she and Kevin have been traumatized by the loss of Ruby, such as Kevin having been acting strangely since the disappearance. Questioning Darlene, Scully implies a suspicion Ruby may have been taken by Charles, Darlene's former husband, though Darlene herself denies this, insisting a UFO was once again involved.  CDC Divorce rates: provisional data for 1993 show the rate to be 4.6 divorces per 1,000 population. Divorce rate: provisional data for 2020: 2.7 per 1,000 population  She realizes Mulder has the same opinion but that Scully is more skeptical. Mulder tries to talk with Kevin but finds him busily watching static on the TV set and copying a binary string onto a pad of paper. Kevin insists the transmission is coming from the TV, even though Mulder observes only static. At the Sioux City Police station Mulder faxes Kevin's transmission fragment to Danny Bernstein at the FBI Cryptography Section. In a simultaneous telephone call Fox promises Danny tickets to a Redskins game as compensation for attempting to decipher the binary string. Sheriff Jack Withers (a former classmate of Darlene Morris) explains that Darlene has been telling stories of her UFO sighting since the first grade; most people in the area dismiss it as having an active imagination. This combined with Ruby's well-known wild-child attitude, a lack of evidence at the scene and no ransom note led to the case being dismissed as a simple runaway. Sheriff Jack Withers is a sexist, misogynist who believes teenage girls who are sexually active deserve to go missing.   Mulder and Scully find a note stuck to their car and covertly meet a friend of Ruby's in a public library who claims that Ruby's boyfriend, Greg Randall, got her pregnant and that the two had been planning to leave town. “She didn't have friends, just people she liked to hang out with.”  She directs Scully and Mulder to the Pennsylvania Pub, where Greg Randall works. Kip, the bartender, is a great character with an “awesome tattoo” - Mulder pretends not to believe. Kip shows them his ear saying "killer sunburn in the middle of the night" at Lake Okobogee. At 5:30 a.m. the next morning, agents from the NSA burst into Scully's hotel room demanding to know where Mulder is.  So, the NSA isn't even certain which room Mulder is in when his name would be on file.  Mulder is then quizzed by Agent Holtzman as to where he obtained the binary string he faxed the previous day which is revealed to be a defense satellite transmission. The Morris residence is ransacked by NSA Agents later that day, and Kevin's possessions are boxed up to be taken away for investigation, while many other items in the house are broken or damaged in casual disregard for the family's rights and freedoms.  The NSA separates the boy and his mother as Mulder and Scully arrive.  In Kevin's room Mulder comments on the destruction, then looks out the window to see the roof of the camper burnt. He goes outside and collects samples from the blistered roof of the camper.  As the operation draws to a close, Mulder and Scully arrive. Mulder collects samples of a substance blistered on the roof of the RV present at the lake on the night of the abduction. At the FBI regional office in Sioux City Agent Leza Atsumi explains that 77 pages of binary code recovered from the Morris residence were deciphered, the data included an image of DaVinci's Universal Man, a short animation of a DNA double helix and a short segment of music from the Brandenburg Concerto, some lines from the Koran and a Shakespearean sonnet. Mulder says it's “almost like someone switching channels' '. notes that the fragmented nature of the data and its varying origins implies time-division-multiplexing - this is a means of sending multiple messages to multiple destinations/clients at once in a single transmission. Darlene and Kevin Morris are roughly ejected from the NSA building, while Darlene explains that she wants nothing more to do with the FBI, Kevin stares blankly at some CCTV monitors, perhaps seeing embedded transmissions in these too. Like every child ever. Have you seen a kid on CCTV when they can see themselves? Mulder explains to Scully that he believes Kevin “is a conduit” to whoever or whatever took Ruby that night.” has been touched by whatever abducted Ruby, allowing him to perceive these transmissions, the two return to Campsite 53 in the hopes of discovering the truth in the absence of any other evidence. They notice that a line of trees beside the lake have been singed by extreme heat, Mulder then discovers chunks of glass in the sand on the shore also formed by extreme heat (of at least 2500 °F).  GOOGLE / Science Corner 50,000 degrees Fahrenheit Air is a very poor conductor of electricity and gets extremely hot when lightning passes through it. In fact, lightning can heat the air it passes through to 50,000 degrees Fahrenheit (5 times hotter than the surface of the sun). Lightning is hotter than lava. Lightning because lightning is 70,000 degrees Fahrenheit. Lava is just 2,240 degrees Fahrenheit.  Mulder sights a wolf that leads him to the discovery of a shallow grave just inside the forest. They're all white. Only about 6% of wolves outside the Canadian High Arctic tundra Mulder chases the wolf into the forest, and finds 3 wolves on a grave. Why would a wild animal lead a human to its food source? Mulder discovers that the grave contains Greg Randall's body. The sheriff, in all his glory, says “Ruby had a lot of boyfriends.” F*CK YOU! Mulder finds a note inside Greg's wallet that reads: Dr. Jack Fowler Aug.7 - 2:30 They match the hand-writing from this note to the one pinned to their car; both are written by the girl they met at the library whose name they discover to be Tessa. The Sheriff had discovered from Dr. Fowler that the appointment was for Tessa and that she had lied to them, in fact she was pregnant, not Ruby. Greg Randall was the father and he and Tessa had planned to run away.  Tessa waived the right to an attorney. DON'T DO THAT! Mulder presses her into slipping up and revealing that she killed Greg and would've killed Ruby had she had the opportunity. Scully argues that they should now hand the case over to local law enforcement and close the X-file, Mulder refuses and presses on to try to find Ruby. Mulder playing “bad cop” isn't my favorite. “Mulder STOP. Stop running after your sister.” - Scully They return to the Morris house, which is empty, with the front door unlocked and many sheets of paper laid out on the lounge floor. The papers are covered in neatly written binary strings, Scully looks at the arrangement from the mezzanine level above the lounge and from this new perspective sees the chilling image of Ruby Morris' face made up from 1's and 0's. ("Chris Carter Talks About Season One Episodes: Conduit", The X-Files (season 1) DVD special features) The huge mural consisting of binary code was, according to Gordon, something that the writers deemed "specifically weird" and "would give you the creeps." He postulated, "All this information would be regurgitated to Kevin from these extraterrestrials through the television. 'We have her, she's here, she's OK.' The question was, how do you find something that doesn't make sense until another angle illuminates it? We put it on the ground, where you can't really read it and then put the characters on the second floor."  They drive back to Lake Okobogee. Mulder explains a little more about his experience as a child.  They arrive and follow a trail, they hear Darlene yelling and run to find her. She's out of breath and says “it's here, I know it”. Mulder chases after Kevin.  In the dark, the pair return to Campsite 53 and find the Morris' RV abandoned by the shore. They follow a trail into the forest and find Darlene trying to catch her breath. Kevin had escaped her and had run deeper into the forest. Mulder finds Kevin walking towards a bright light which turns out to be the headlights from dozens of bikers off-roading through the forest. Kevin says “She's here, I know it.” Mulder basically says wishful thinking. No one is run over by the bikers. Also, are those Harley's off-roading? Mulder and Kevin run back when they hear Scully's screams to find an unconscious Ruby lying on the forest floor. At the Sioux City hospital Scully and Mulder discuss the health of Ruby who has been awake for a few hours. She has several unusual symptoms that Mulder claims can be caused by prolonged weightlessness. Ruby tells the pair that the "persons" who took her told her not to disclose any details of the abduction. Kevin presses her to tell Mulder who he says "already knows", but before Ruby can answer, she is interrupted by Darlene who because of the troubles "the truth" has brought her, tells the agents to leave and never contact Ruby again. When Mulder's desperate pleas to Darlene to let Ruby speak about her experiences are met with stark defiance, he appears crushed that "the truth" has eluded him once again. Back in Washington, Scully reviews Mulder's hypnotic regression tape concerning his sister's disappearance. Mulder describes the room, his paralysis and his sister's cries for help as she was being abducted, at the same time the real Mulder sits in a church crying, looking at his sister's photo. On the tape Mulder describes a voice he can hear in his head, telling him not to be scared and that one day his sister will return unharmed. Asked whether he believes the voice he replies: "I WANT to believe."

In this video, I sit down with Lennie Graves about his career in animation and living in 7 different countries in the process. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/blkwmnanimator/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blkwmnanimator/support

Today I'm going to be trying something a little different. Instead of my normal video, I've recorded a coaching call that I recently had with a Vanguard member, Jun. In it we talk about how to shift from a vacuous and insecurity based mentality where you are primarily motivated by fear and self-resentment into a radiant dignity based mentality where you motivate yourself through gift, play, and ultimately - love. Honestly it might not be the best first video of this type because it holds a decent amount of "advanced" material... but who knows - I'm hoping it will really click with some of you! Listen to me coach her on Anchor. UYAP! (Unleash Your Apex Potential) Mark Queppet

In today's episode, I talk about the best way I found to *actually* liberate myself and shift a sticky behavior that I have been attempting to change for years. I found this practice in Carolyn Elliot's WEALTH program and she found it from Mark Queppet of Universal Man. This practice has been a game-changer for me and has helped me liberate energy away from sticky over-dependence and mild addiction and the lower vibration emotions of shame and guilt that often came with it, towards true liberation... ..and let me tell you this liberation that I have been feeling lately has been so satisfying... ...the satisfaction of truly mastering my own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Interested? Check it out! Mentioned in this episode: 3rdeyezy.com Neville Goddard Meditation http://carolyngraceelliott.com/wealth https://universalman.com/ Want to work with me? www.adrienneeerophillips.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/adrienneerophillips/message

The Encyclopaedia Britannica defines Renaissance man, also called Universal Man, as an ideal that developed in Renaissance Italy that “a man can do all things if he will.” The ideal embodied the basic tenets of Renaissance humanism, which considered man the center of the universe, limitless in his capacities for development, and led to the notion that men should try to embrace all knowledge and develop their own capacities as fully as possible. I consider today's guest to be such a man. It is my honor and pleasure to introduce you to the Director of Dreamlike Puppet Company, Arthur Poore.

The response to my daily emails has been awesome, so I'm doubling down on the high frequency stuff! This was inspired by Dan Kennedy and Ben Settle (my top two business and marketing ultra-gurus) who always push me to… Identify and utilize my UNUSED CAPACITY! The idea is that most of us have way more output available to us if we were to simply apply a bit more intelligence and intentionality to the way we do things. So in my case - with just a bit more effort, I can turn my daily email into WAY more content with a wider reach! Moving forward this year, the plan is to not only produce a daily email, but Monday through Friday, I'm actually going to be expanding on the daily content by turning it into audio and video content as well! You'll be able to find the Universal Man Daily on: Email YouTube Instagram Facebook Itunes Spotify Web But this isn't about me - it's about YOU! 2020 is being hailed as one of the worst years ever. Let's make 2021 one of the best. You see, like myself, I'm confident that you have a tremendous amount of unused capacity that you are sitting on - all you need is a set of systems, tools and mentalities that will let you start converting all that stuff into gold. So here's the offer: I'm going to show up every day to try and help you UNLEASH YOUR APEX POTENTIAL. In fact, that idea is so core that I'm going to be changing the Universal Man tagline to that statement. As a bonus, if you take the phrase "Unleash Your Apex Potential" and turn it into an acronym you get "UYAP" - which is now the official warcry of the Universal Man Vanguard. I don't just want to unlock a little of our potential, I want to unleash it ALL. All you need to do is tune in and follow along.

Our topics this week is How to Have a Deeper Conversation with a Mate   For more info check out chiefmaker.com/182 Many of you will be experiencing some very challenging times mentally. Or be aware that perhaps a friend is going through a difficult time. This episode was recorded for The Universal Man podcast in honour of one our fallen brothers. It is all about how to have a deeper conversation with a friend. Either for your benefit or theirs. I've reposted here in its raw form. I know both men and women alike will get something from the wisdom of all the men who contributed.   Stay epic, Greg

G'day legends,  In this episode Pricey and Grego talk about Universal Man in a crisis and together we'll try and wrote a poem that serves as a our creed during tough times. Similar to Kipling's 'If'.  Get involved. 

In the first episode of the Universal Man Interview Series I speak with James Dowling, our local Jungian enthusiaist about the crossovers between the Universal Man concepts and those of Psychoanalyst Carl Jung. We cover topics ranging from porn addiction, masculine/feminine psychology, and spiritual advancement. All in all I massively enjoyed this talk and I hope you will too! Download the Reboot Regimen http://www.universalman.com/the-reboo... Join the Universal Man Vanguard community through Patreon http://www.patreon.com/universalman Follow Universal Man on social media Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/aUniversalMan Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/aUniversalMan Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/aUniversalMan

Universal Man Framework Part 1 - UNIQUENESS: Full show notes here: https://www.universalman.org/uman-framework-uniqueness/ Uniqueness is at the very core of being a Universal Man because it gives you this solid foundation for understanding your behaviour, your reactions, your desires, your goals.  And without understanding those key things, it's very, very hard to operate in the real world. You'll surprise yourself. You'll do things that might make you upset and you'll do things that could be going down completely the wrong path and you won't understand why certain things just piss you off or throw your right off track. So knowing yourself through your beliefs and your values, things like your personality preferences, diving into your purpose or your principles for life, these are the things which make up you. So one of the key things is understanding who you are, right? And then understanding that the very best version of you, your uniqueness on a grand scale, is what the world wants to see.

https://www.universalman.org/the-roles-that-define-you/   A man's life is defined by all the different formal and informal roles that we take on every single day.  Husband, father, partner, work colleague, even a certain role you play with your mates. In the Renaissance Man context, they always spoke about the ability to be the right kind of Universal Man in all the different contexts or different teams or situations you're in. Regardless of those different roles that we're all called to play, there's a quality of the man that transfers across - that transcends. All these different types of roles - we shift from one role to the next as we go through life and as we do so we grow, we grow as our roles change. But, how do you get the right set of roles? Because in life, you want to identify the set of roles that best executes your life vision.  WHAT ROLES DO YOU PLAY?  So we want to focus on two questions. Are you in the right set of roles? And for ones you are in, are you doing them right?  Because if you're not, there's going to be, potentially, a lot of conflict, a lot of heartache, a lot of stress. But if you do them right, life can be pretty damn good.  It is so important to be clear about the roles you are playing. This level of awareness is vital because real damage is done when you are playing a role but are not aware that you are doing so.  So begin by naming all the roles you are playing. Stop and say, "Okay, the roles I'm performing, formally and in an informal way within my life, are; “I might be father. I'm friend. I'm an executive officer at work. I'm a football coach." Five, six or seven roles. Be clear what they are. This level of awareness is a great stepping point forward for growth. For each role that you are playing - and so many of us miss this opportunity - it is a great idea to name some of the aspects of the role.  KNOW THE PURPOSE AND QUALITY OF PERFORMANCE FOR EACH ROLE Write on a piece of paper, What's the purposeof the role? What are the key tasks and the qualityrequired of each task?   Let me tell you what we mean by that is. The quality of clarity around role is so important. Maybe your partner says to you, "Hey, Sunday afternoon can you look after the kids?" And you go "No problem." And then maybe you give your wife the afternoon off, or your partner the afternoon off. The kids, you, just hang around at home, put on a movie and watch a movie together.  And then you go and get McDonald's for dinner. She comes in at 7 o'clock and says "I can't believe you did that! Why didn't you take them to the park and make them run around and give them a good healthy vegetable dinner?"  You did the task, but not to the right level of quality. Right? So it's clear that there's a bit of a role conflict right there. So, understand the purpose, the task and the quality.  It is a powerful question to ask yourself, what does success look like in that particular role today?  How can I do it to the best of my ability?  If you just define that for each of the roles you're in, you'll find you get a few little bonuses. UNDERSTAND ALL THE ROLES IN A TEAM Imagine a football team, or a cricket team, going onto the field. Everyone's got a role. Now it's all good and well to know what your role is, but do you know what all the other roles are, and the game plan? Because sometimes you might know your role really well, but no one else knows theirs. Or no one knows really how it all fits together to make the game plan.  Again, it can be the way you run your home. It can be the way you run your team at work. It's really important to understand how everyone's role is important. That's a recognition of the importance of everyone's role, plus how your role fits into that.  When we're doing this really well, the role's supports each other, and you feel energy. So you catch up with a friend and you have an energy. From that catch up with the friend, you can go back home and do some other role, and you've got an energy there. Because you've done that particular role well, is an energy somewhere else. Exactly. I catch up with mates maybe we go for a beer after work one day, and it's really interesting when guys catch up, they just generally talk footy or sport or something, whatever their interest that is, they talk about it all the time. That's the role you play in that moment. Because it is maybe a bit of an escape for everybody to get away. Not talk work, or not talk about family, just be different. Then you go home, and you're wife goes "How was it?" "Oh, it was great, had a good beer." Then she goes "How's their family?" And you go "No idea."  NO ROLES ARE PERFECT One of the little dangers here is we can think that the role is a perfect thing. But we all know every role has it's good and it's bad. There are aspects of it you don't like, but it's still part of the role. I'd like to say every role has a 'suck' factor. There just is no role out there that is just perfect. I don't really love doing toilet training with my boys, I don't like doing the admin and financing of my work. There's just bits and pieces you don't love. Right? But that's just part of every role, so don't look for perfection.  KNOW THE POINTS OF TRANSITION I think the next important thing is know the points of transition.  This is where a lot of conflict and angst arises. Maybe you've been at work all day. You walk in the door and you've still got this potential mindset of maybe I'm very commercial, maybe operational project work, it's logical and linear and moving on, but then you're in the house and it's not all that. It's chaos. It's dinner time or bath time and you're like "Oh my gosh, this is just nuts" and no one listens to you, whereas at work everyone listens to you.  You haven't realised you've changed roles. There is a totally different power dynamic here. So you get upset because you've still got the suit on.  You've got to take that suit off. So know the points of transition, because that's where issues arise. I remember a little while ago, I was trying to put my sons to bed and they playing on the bed, jumping up and down and being crazy and throwing the teddy bears across the room. It was late and I was getting angry at them and saying "Get down to bed!" and "Go to sleep!", and they just weren't ready. Right?  But I realised I wasn't upset at them. I was upset because I wanted to play another role. I wanted to go back and do some work. I was thinking that if they don't go to bed soon, I'll run out of energy out there to do that job. It had nothing to do with them. I remember being at meetings all day and I had a tie on. And I'm walking into a pub to catch up with my mate. As I'm walking in, I take my tie off. It's a tiny little thing, but kinda me saying "I'm leaving that role, those meetings and work, I'm leaving that behind. I'm in a new role, and it's not a formal role, it's an informal role, of just being a mate. The process of changing your clothes is important. Change out of your power suit. Being around the house clothes, or if you're gonna go to the gym, put on proper gym clothes, or whatever it is. That also things like taking your technology. So your phone or your computer, go and put it in the office, plug it in, leave it in there, so you can come back and be present, because if it's in your hand, you'll keep checking it. So when you switch off your phone you're saying, 'I'm leaving that role'. I'm there just with my partner, with the person you're actually with. And then the next morning, when you get up, you maybe put on your jacket or your tie, or whatever, your shirt, just before you leave home, it's the final thing, it's game time, so you can go to work in full swing. Right? Make sure you know those transitions and how you're going to transition from one to the other. Know that there's always gonna be a bit mistake at a times. We don't all actually get it right, but just to be aware.  WHEN A ROLE ISN'T FOR YOU Some roles are not all, actually you. You can't feel a gut feeling, and know this is just not me.  Exactly, and we use the example of Mitchell Johnson, the Australian cricketer, who was a real wild child in many ways. For years they tried to make him a line or length bowler, and that was a square peg in a round hole. Wasn't it? Then all of sudden, the coach said, "No, no. You're the aggressor, what we need you to do is, essentially, to scare people. And he got more wickets in that last three years of his test career, then he did in probably the first ten.  Within all that, sometimes we're asked to play a role for very short time. And it really isn't what or who we want to be longer term. It can be fine for a period. Perhaps your partner's very, very sick and for a short period of time, you've gotta go into nurse, and you've gotta go and do care. It's not who you're gonna be longer term. The danger is sometimes you can go into a role which is not you and you can get yourself trapped there, and it just eats away and you get into a "victim" approach, and you're just not being you. In those moments when maybe something has occurred more from left field, and you're asked to do a certain role, you actually have to reset your expectations about your ability to do other roles. And if it's an energy thing, like perhaps your partner being sick, maybe you need to have some discussions with the other people who are involved and say, "Listen, right now I'm going to be a bit more emotional, a bit more sad or a bit more committed somewhere else". So reset that expectation so it doesn't hurt you so much. On other occasions you've just gotta exit stage left. You might be in a particular role. It worked for a period, and you just realise this is not going to work. This is not you. So instead or wearing yourself out for a long period of time, 'cause that's what a poorly fit role does, wears you out. If that's the case, look to redefine it. Take control of that, and redefine it, and if you can't, eventually you are going to have to exit. GET CLEAR ON EXPECTATIONS AND THE NUMBER OF ROLES Two important principles for being a Universal Man is role clarity and the right number of roles. If you take on too many roles, and overall have too many tasks, you just get into overload, and you don't end up doing any of them well. You just get this poor performance in every single one of them and it's not good for anyone. Not good for the people you're associated with, or the team your involved with. You need to add the right set of roles, that support your achieving or executing your vision. When you let go of one of those roles, which is an extra burden, and it's not being a part of you, you will experience a lift in your own performance and flow. There are certain chapters in your life where there should be a set of roles. This might require some very tough decisions. Sometimes you get in a role that has an amazing title, don't make the title all about you. Make you, you. That's a really powerful thing. There's nothing worse than meeting someone who's a CEO, or the big head-honcho of something, and they're all about the title. Don't hold the title in too tight a way. You've got to be able to be a little bit flexible about it all. I always use the example of football. Everyone has a number on their back, in the game of footy, and you've got a role to play, based on the game plan. Right? But every now and then the opposition drops the ball. You've got to pick it up. The closest person must do the job. So sometimes at work, in particular, or at home where I suppose you've got set roles, sometimes things go wrong. Someone just needs to do a job, and don't just go "Well, that's not my job, because I'm this person." Do what the team, or scenario, needs to keep moving and get a result. Now I say it all the time, it frustrates me because someone says "That's not my job." One thing about being the Universal Man is that the actual universal man senses the role that's needed to be done here. Knows that they can perform within that role, it will enhance them, and not only are they a better person for it, but everyone around them is too. When you have the right set of roles, and they are good ones for you, that's when you really feel that zone and that spirit that you're on top of things, and in flow. And that's the feeling of knowing yourself, growing your own self and your brothers walk beside you. Stay legendary Pricey and Grego

One of Greg and Pricey's favourite books is ‘Legacy' – the story behind the huge success of the All Blacks, their team culture and influence within New Zealand society. One of the key elements in that book is the concept of ‘giving something back' – of leaving the team and the team culture better and stronger once you have moved on. This week's podcast is about volunteering – about legacy and making the world a better place for all. Pricey has been involved for many years with young adults who make a difference. He comes alive when he sees young people working with a refugee, an asylum seeker, a homeless guy, etc., and there's a buzz about it. There is an energy about it. You think, yeah, something's happening here that's going to leave our world in a better kind of way. Volunteering is built on a belief, that the world is not the way it should actually be. Our world's not meant to have huge gaps between rich and poor. It's not meant to have one tribal group or ethnic group or whatever killing another tribal group or ethnic group. All the pain that we see within our world, that's not the way it's meant to be. There's something in every human being which we believe says, “How can I make a difference? How can I leave the world a better place for all?” But this call has to be YOURS. At Universal Man we believe that each of us share this calling to make a difference – but in our own particular way. Everyone of us would find some particular issue that frustrates us and calls us to do something. For example Greg doesn't like global warming, it doesn't fire him up to really go and do something about it whereas issues like men's health do. That's why we started Universal Man. There'll be an element that you (everyone of you) are called to engage in. At that point, you might not even know what it is that you're going to do. You just know that there's something you want to change and sense that you can be a part of that change. There's a movement you want to get involved with, and if you don't get involved with, then the world won't be a better place. Everyone's got to do whatever their particular thing is. Almost without exception, there will be a fear at the very start. For example, the first time Pricey went out with a van and worked with people living on the streets, he'd” never done it. He was probably about 40 years of age and never worked with homeless people. He was shit scared. You know? He got out there, and quickly found out they were just wonderful people and they just made him feel accepted. Regardless of what you do, at the beginning you are going to be a little bit out of your comfort zone. But ask what is your particular thing? What's your way you can make a difference? Listen to the energy within you. What's the issue which fires you up the most? What's the issue that you've got a bit of natural energy around? In the end, this is about being authentic in your engagement and never forgetting why you're there. It's a real genuine relationship and a friendship. Greg's volunteered for a number of organisations over the years. “You feel like you belong, like it's a magnificent friendship, where we understand each other, we understand what we are passionate about. It just makes sense. It's a really good thing.” Your motivation for being involved in the particular issue is very important. Remember your motivation for being there. It's not about you. Absolutely not about you. Greg and Pricey have both spent a lot of time in volunteering organisations. People can get a bit lost. Just remember that it's not about you. Why are you there? Never forget that. One of the terms Pricey uses – he says there's a crap detector. Now, when you're with, let's say, a group like asylum seekers, refugees, homeless people, little kids from very poor homes, whatever group you are actually working with, if you're there for the wrong reasons, the other will sense it immediately. If you're there as a saviour, you're going to fix them up, you're going to make the world a better kind of place, it's going to look good on your CV, they will sense it immediately. Their crap detector will immediately go off. Pricey has been out in a street van so many times, and the homeless guys will say to me, “Hey, see that one over there – he's one of those do gooders!” And they will kind of sense it, because there's a patronising presence in one of the other volunteers. Many years ago Pricey was working down in Sydney. He was working in a homeless shelter. This young guy turned up one particular day. He was a young man studying to be a member of the clergy. He didn't know that Pricey was, you know, kind of a clergyman too. He walked over to Pricey at this homeless place, and he said, “Are you okay?” Pricey remembers looking at him and going, “Yeah, I'm quite okay.” He said, “Oh, do you come here often?” Immediately, he assumed I was one of the homeless guys, but he was talking to me, and he was talking down; patronizing. Pricey's crap detector just went off bad. How you come into volunteering and why is very important. If it is to be the hero and the saviour, and doing it for your CV or so that you can say something in a social setting then it will be hollow. Sometimes that can happen at a real almost unconscious level. It just eats away and affects the way you engage. That's a big pitfall when you see volunteers turn up doing it on their terms rather than the terms of the organisation that's leading the way or even more importantly on the terms of the guests of the organisation. One other one of the key things we've seen from time to time is that volunteers, because they're not being paid, they can often feel like they're a bit special. Like their opinion counts a bit more. They've got a bit more power because someone else is being paid to be in the room. They almost feel like the organisation should listen to them a bit more or the organisation should serve them rather than the other way around. The power gets the wrong balance to it, completely flipped. That's a real trap. The heart-set and the mindset of volunteering is what is key. In volunteering, you must come as a guest. You come to the other, and it is a relationship. It is an equal, reciprocal, relationship. If the guest comes to the relationship gently, slowly, and in a really respectful way, magic can really, really happen. The other one will kind of sense it. There's this beautiful organisation that's all around Australia and New Zealand now called Orange Sky. It's an organisation where a group of young people said, hey, can we get a van out there with the homeless and give them an opportunity for a shower and to wash their shirts and things? If you ever listen to the guys from Orange Sky, it's all about relationship. It's all about friendship. When you're on about those things, the other people sense it, and you turn up at the scene, and there's a sense of community there, there's family. People go away feeling really, really special. It's not “I'm saving you, I'm good, you're bad.” It's just a community. Just things like every person who's there has got a particular story. It's a sense of, doing our little bit to make the world a better place for all. That's just magic. What it does when you engage like that, you feel far, far better as an individual about the contribution you're making, as opposed to if you were playing it for a different reason. It's a magic way of doing it. And it really has a fantastic effect upon you. You're not doing it for the effect. That's the end result. But we've got to know that it is really, it's needed, our world needs everyone, and everyone, to put up their hand, say, can you serve on a board? Can you work on a street van? Can you once a year go and work in a charity for a month? Can you do something? Whatever small thing which is you. The size doesn't matter. It's big or small. Pricey's got a mate who's a CEO of a large company. Every year for their family holiday, he takes his wife and their five kids, and they'll visit a different part of Southeast Asia, and they'll have a wonderful break, but as part of it, they work in a orphanage or in some sort of social service. Now, their kids love it, and the kids, their worldview has stretched. They've got a sense of a global village. They've got a sense that they've got a responsibility to make this world a better place. You have to engage in a way that is congruent for you at the moment in the chapter of your life you're in. If you're super, super busy, you've got a full-time job, you've got a couple young kids, it can be really hard to find the time or the money to help out. So, work out a way that makes sense for you. And, if it's not congruent right now, it's better not to. It's better to say your contribution right now is to your family. And that is not just OK – that is good! And do that. And then in five, 10 years time, come back to it. That is totally okay, and it's better for your family and the organisation you might be volunteering for if you do it that way. There's a beautiful term, Nelson Mandela used to talk about Ubuntu. Ubuntu simply means “I am because we are.” Mandela used to talk about how in Africa there'd be a small village, and when a stranger came past, when a stranger came into the village, someone would open their home. Someone would share a meal. The meal for four would be stretched to become a meal for five. Mandela said it was the spirit “I am because we are.” Ubuntu. That's what we've got to get. We've got to do it our particular way. Stay legendary – Pricey & Grego

Courage - what is it? Courage is a topic Pricey has been avoiding talking about on Universal Man. If you had said to Pricey as a young gun - has he got any courage - he would have said no! Because as a young man he would have been rating himself on whether he had the courage to tackle someone on the footy field or the courage to swim a mile or two or three. Pricey saw courage as a young man as purely a physical thing. Often in our youth we see courage as purely a physical type of thing so as a boy of 12, 13 or 14 of sense of what it meant to be a man - because Pricey compared himself with that stereotype of courage - his sense of being a true man was shattered. Courage means that you are in a particular space and you can fight, flight, or you can grow to be a better, more complete man. You might hit a fork in a road at different points in your life. You're stuck with a choice. Do I run into that tackle or make that tackle or do I run from it? I've got a difficult conversation to make at work. I can either do it or not. And do I avoid it and live with the consequences forever and a day? or do I make the hard call and do the hard conversation? These choices may well be (and often are) when you are at home as well. The forms that Courage takes There's something going on inside of you that you're avoiding it and it takes courage to take the other path, take that other fork in the road and go a different journey. That's what courage is. We talk about it having three forms. Physical, doing something physically challenging. Social or moral courage, and internal courage; knowing yourself and growing yourself just purely internally. There's something about us blokes. For us men, the physical courage dimension is huge. We often define one another with that term. If you have physical courage you really are a man, and the counter thing about that is, if don't perceive yourself as having physical courage then you are a coward. If you don't physically do that thing, you are a coward, and we hate that term. For we men there's nothing worse than being called a coward. This comes from way back where it was the warriors and the fighters that led the way. They were put on this pedestal. These days we use football players and the military and things. Sometimes that's justifiable, but it's only one form of courage. If you're putting someone on a pedestal purely because of what they can do physically, in a physical sense, it's underestimating and selling us all cheap, because physical courage, while important is not the most important form of courage. Why? What is it about Physical Courage? We have often wondered why - what it is about the physical courage and the coward stuff that we really put so much into. What's going on? So often it's the sense that as blokes we want to belong. We're part of a tribe, we're part of a pack. That belonging and the fear of not belonging, the fear of being rejected, is huge. So for so many of us that physical courage is an easily seen, demonstrated testimony to courage. We ‘take one for the team!' So often for we men when that flight or fight moment comes in, maybe it's a footy game or whatever, martial arts or a fight or something, we've always respected the person that fights. The person who stands up and courageously looks a demon or an enemy in the eye and takes them on with courage and expresses himself in that moment. And that is a wonderful thing to overcome. It is a wonderful thing. There's no doubt about it. So the challenge then is to not overplay this element of courage. Too many of us when we don't feel like we've shown physical courage in that moment - we start to think less of ourselves; we dump on ourselves. As a young football player Greg did not perceive that he had a lot of courage on the field; he was quick, he could run away from just about everyone. It took him a long time to learn that 'pain is temporary and glory lasts forever' and it was when he was well into his 20's that he learned more physical courage in contact. This courage found itself in choosing to overcome a mental weakness or mental fragility that feared the physical pain in contact. Interestingly, until he faced this fear and overcome it he thought of himself very negatively until he was able to overcome it. The harsh judgement linked to his physical courage or perceived lack thereof had an out of proportion effect on his inner sense of self; his inner courage of who he was. So the challenge is how to go beyond that making the physical courage everything? It is good, it is so important in many aspects of life; but it is not everything. We've seen so many men who in the physical courage stage, you would give them a 10, and then in other aspects of their particular life, we see them doing stupid things and being a coward in so many, many ways. How do we get the physical courage and take that into every aspect of a particular person's life? In life, most of our life, the vast majority of life, physical courage is simply not required. Not anymore. What's required is social courage, moral courage, and internal courage to grow yourself. That's not something we've ever celebrated as a species. Maybe a bit more now. But if you can demonstrate that courage, to be socially courageous and have difficult conversations, or morally courageous and call someone on something that's just not up to standard for them, or look deep within yourself and go to places that scare you, that's going to open up some serious doors for you as an individual. Moral Courage Pricey was working at a school one time, and the captain of the school, they had a bit of a tradition that on the awards night, speech night, the Year 12's would give the captain a standing ovation. About a month before the end of the school year, the particular school captain came in and said, "Could we gather all the Year 12's in the theatre?" So Pricey gathered all the Year 12's there. The college captain got up and he produced a shirt. He pulled the shirt out of a bag. A couple of guys in the class had made a schoolies week shirt. On the schoolies week shirt, it had something like, "Hey baby, if you love me, you will lay down for me." The whole idea of the shirt was about sex at schoolies. This college captain was a really great guy, a cool guy, in the Second XV, etc. He got up and he said to all these guys, "This shirt is the worst thing we have ever done. This demeans our mothers, our sisters, our girlfriends." And he challenged them, and he said, "We've had a wonderful year, but this undermines it." Then he said, "67 or something of these shirts have been sold. I want them all back within 24 hours." He got 66 of the shirts back. On speech night, that guy got the longest and loudest standing ovation Pricey has ever heard! There was something in his moral courage, in his social courage, that the other men admired. Nike: just do it! We're going to talk a bit about pitfalls and courage. It is really important time to bring this up. Often when you think, 'God, something needs to be done', you feel like you're the only person that's thinking that. But everyone's thinking something has got to change. Everyone's at the fork in the road and no one's said anything else. It's like the elephant in the room. Something needs to be done. Let's talk through how you bring some courage to the physical as opposed to the social and the moral and even the internal, because it's a slightly different approach, really. If you've got to put out a bit of a solution for physical courage, perhaps there's no better solution than to “Just do it!” Like, pain is temporary and glory will last forever. As he keeps on saying Pricey has never seen physical courage as being his thing - but he has learned that for him, when in a physical courage situation now, he just has to quickly ‘do it'. One time he was working with a group of students and they were doing this paper pole activity and Pricey was scared shitless! One of those outdoor education activities where you climb up a tall telegraph pole, one small rung at a time until you get to a very small landing on top. From there you jump into the air - flying fox on a line back to the ground. Pricey was standing there, and when the phys ed teacher said, "Okay, who's going to go first?" Price said, "Me." Because he knew he had to just do it. But as soon as the harness was on, and Pricey is going up the pole, skinny little legs are shaking, he felt awesome! Perhaps the trick to the physical is, if you think about it, and you think about the pain and all the negative things that could happen, you'll never do it. You've just gotta have a crack. Bring your energy, bring your courage in that moment, and just, regardless of what could happen to you, have a go, because you'll be so proud of yourself at just having a crack at it. Everyone's got their own particular physical challenges. It could be the courage of the guy who runs the whole of a half marathon. There's the guy who goes caving. Everyone's got their particular form. Just do it. All of that's a very different scenario to moral courage and social courage. We're talking about environments where something's not right. You're sitting there, well, there's a conversation that needs to happen, I'm not happy with what's happening in this particular relationship or this particular team at work or at home with your partner or a child or a mate, a situation where things are getting out of hand and people are doing things that maybe even you used to do. But now, everyone's moved on and matured and grown and it's not acceptable anymore. And someone needs to say something. In these situations - when you reflect later - part of the wisdom is to gently ask yourself, why, why am I afraid to say something here? What could I actually lose here? Do I think everyone's going to turn on me and go, "You are a fool" or something? Almost always, the answer is no. In these moments, generally, you're hallucinating - imagining, have all sorts of visions about these things that could all go wrong. Oh, and you'll be hated and not accepted and you won't belong anymore. You tend to think of all the bad things, and you lose sight of what the outcome is. At this moment, you've got to work out, keep your eye on the prize. Begin with the end in mind. What do you really want to achieve here? Is this about taking everyone to a new space, a great space? If you just have a difficult moment, is that going to be worth it in the long term to get to this wonderful place that everyone wants to be at? Always think, how did I get here, but really, where do we want to be? And to do that in some small little way, it's not about winning some huge type of war. It's just the small moral choice, the social choice to find that courage in the small thing. Our experience is once you do it once, once you make that little choice in the small, it gets easier and easier. In those moments, if you're not sure what to do, speak to a mentor or a mate or a coach or whoever. Go talk to someone, because what you'll find is this collective wisdom of chatting to a few people will make it a lot easier for you. Sometimes you might be sitting there thinking, you know what? Maybe I'm just wrong on it. Maybe I'm just wrong. And talking to someone else will probably set you free of that. So often with the mentor or mate, many a time they have been in exactly the same situation as you! Then in the end, what it's going to come down to is what are you going to do? You can choose the moment, but you've got to say, this is a big move, like a big moment, a sort of small moment, a quiet conversation, a public demonstration of something. You've got to work out how this is going to change. When you do that, that's when you've got to dial up the courage. Okay, this is going to happen now. Now I need to dial up some serious courage. Dial in my bravery from within and then do it. Again, like the actual physical thing, just actually do it, here, same applies here. If you're feeling uncomfortable in a particular situation, your values have been compromised, don't go making a big, big thing about it. Just quietly say no, I'm not going to do it. Greg works in the business world a lot, and a lot of the people he works with, they're not sure how to hold someone on their team accountable. They dance around the issue, admiring it for six months, 12 months, forever. But if you just quickly say, "Hey, what's going on? Why is your performance like that? How can I help you?" All of a sudden, they often say out of the bag, everyone's talking about it, and you can move on. It's not as simple as that, but I'm saying, have the conversation as quickly as possible. Courage and pitfalls There's some serious pitfalls in this whole journey, because a lack of courage or feeling like you personally don't have courage can really affect you. It compounds in your own psyche, your own confidence, because you just keep taking the easy path. You lose your self esteem. Every day you put the difficult choice off, the particular perceived area where you need courage gets bigger and bigger, so you put it off, you put it off, it gets bigger. You avoid and avoid. If you can just do it quickly and say, "Hey, no, I'm not going to go there." I think it is this sense of, I'm the only one, I'm the only one who's thinking this particular way or going through this particular situation / experience - I'm the only one feeling uncomfortable here, going through this. Mate, you certainly aren't. Another pitfall is just pure isolation. In these moments, you don't talk to anyone about it even. If it's a problem with your mates, you don't talk to your partner. If it's a problem with your partner, you don't talk to your mates. Just talk to someone about it. Lay it out. Do a bit of deep thinking about why is this upsetting you, how did you got here, what do you think you should do, then talk to someone and get their wisdom. You actually may go through a small period of time where you are on your own, when you do speak up, when you do claim your particular values. For a short period of time, you are feeling that. But then quickly, that will go, and you'll feel a sense of yeah, I'm so pleased I did. So pleased! Every time Greg felt like he'd taken his own journey and played to the beat of his own drum and maybe said something, he always felt like there's been respect afterwards. Every single time. Because it was linked to his values and he was right. Here's a classic challenge particularly for blokes, because as you go through a life of maturity, some of the things that we all used to do, maybe when we were 18, 19, 20, even 25, you grow out of it. Then when you go to say something, you feel like you're being a hypocrite. Like you've got this double standard and they're like, "Hey, well, you used to do this." And you're like, "Oh. Now you've taken away my power to say something." That is a cop out and an excuse, because we all mature. The things we all did as kids, of course as you get older, they don't make sense anymore. It's not really right for someone who's 30 or 40 or 50 to do what a 19-year-old does. You can't keep the Peter Pan syndrome. You have to grow out of the stuff you did as a kid, and that takes courage. We have all lost count of the number of times we've seen someone who lacks courage and they then create this victim persona, and they are blaming everyone else, they're dumping on everyone else. It's this person's fault, that particular person's fault. Part of courage is in small ways claiming I'm actually responsible. As it says in the poem ‘Invictus'; “I am the master of my master, I'm the captain of my soul!” Another pitfall is that we place people on a pedestal. Maybe if someone had physical courage, maybe if one of our mates was the captain of the footie team or something when we were young, we put them on this incredible pedestal, because they're physically courageous, and then we can't challenge them socially when they do stuff that's questionable. Or at work we put a peer or a boss or someone on a pedestal, even maybe someone that reports to us, and then we lose our own personal power. That is such an important thing. Don't put people on a pedestal. They're even with you. They're not below you. They're even with you, and that allows you to maintain respect and dignity and, I suppose, just take the power imbalance out of that discussion. That person has fears just as you've got fears. They've got uncertainties just as you do. It's a little matter of, don't try to win the great big battle. You've got a small little fight here. You've just got to win this little fight, get out of bed tomorrow morning, say what you really want to say, claim that small little fight, and then the battle will be won. It's the small little moments of courage again and again and again which make you unbreakable. And it's positive. When you're finding this particular courage, when we're on the journey to it, look, you become unstuck, you've got a sense of your own self. The energy will begin to flow. You will have a quiet confidence and a peace and a sense of your own self. It's extraordinary. And it's liberating too! And it links to our pillars: Know thyself, grow thyself, and brotherhood, because it is hard at times, and when you've got to look inside your own soul and find out why maybe you're fearing something, why courage is required, it's not easy. That's about knowing thyself and growing thyself and connecting to your brothers, holding them to a higher standard, holding yourself to a higher standard. When you look around and you see your particular mates, and you can see in every one of them a person who in little ways has chosen the path of courage, you really have a sense of us, and that particular brotherhood is a special one and has a power to it!. Courage is between you and you and nothing else matters. Conclusion The positives in claiming your inner courage are great. When you choose these small moments of physical, moral or social courage, you're growing your sense of self. Your confidence is there. Problems that you faced before, you find a way around. You're not a victim. And when you do it again, and again, and again, those little things, it's liberating for you as an individual. Your self esteem really grows. You find the courage to look inside yourself, to go places that scare you and take your brothers with you; that is special! Greg and Pricey want to leave you with a poem by Peter Dale Wimbrow; Man in the Glass When you get what you want in this struggle for self,  And the world makes you king for a day, Then go to your mirror and look at yourself, and see what that man has to say. For it isn't your father, your mother or wife, Whose judgment of you – you must pass, The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life Is the guy staring back in the glass. He is the man you must please, never mind all the rest, For he's with you clear up to the end. And you have passed your most difficult and dangerous test, when the man in the glass is your friend. You can be like another and chisel a plum, And think you're a wonderful guy, But the man in the glass says you're only a bum, If you can't look him straight in the eye. You can fool the whole world, down the pathway of years, and get pats on your back as you pass, But your final reward will be heartache and tears, If you've cheated the man in the glass!

Pain has many faces. But like so many things that we talk about in Universal Man, it can be one of life's greatest teachers. Let's try to understand pain and some of its faces. The masochist is the one who just loves pain almost as an end in itself. That is not the approach we want to take here. Pain, in itself, has no intrinsic value. Instead it is an indicator that you are at a doorway to growing your own self. In particular situations, we come to a crossroads and are required to make a choice. Now almost without exception that choice will lead to some sort of pain. There will be a physical pain, there'll be emotional pain, psychological – in growth there will always be some sort of cost. But it's not just as simple as no pain, no gain. Understanding Pain – Types of pain It is important to understand pain if we are to unmask it's wisdom. We live in this world now where pain avoidance is the norm. People are seeking the instant fix to address any discomfort. We don't want to have any form of discomfort. We've got Panadol, Nurofen. It's just amazing what we've become addicted to. And any level of discomfort, any level of unease or pain is to be avoided. Sadly in schools these days we are encountering more and more what we call the age of entitlement; too many young people feel that they are entitled to growth or achievement without the pain. Now there are different types of pain. There's physical pain around fitness, growing fitness, injury, ill health. The physical sense that your body is either growing to get better or is just unwell and is seeking health. Then there's a physical pain that comes from the unconscious mind when there's an incongruence in yourself. And this is your feelings about what is happening in the world, what is happening right now, and what could happen, what you're hallucinating might actually end up happening in your life. And all these things manifest themselves in proper, physical, felt pain. You might be feeling pain in your neck. Maybe you're tense in your shoulders. And where does that come from? While it's now manifested as a purely physical thing, where it's come from potentially is stress, or anxiety, or worry about something. And so it ends up being like a psychosomatic condition. Your thinking is affecting you physically and your physical self is affecting you psychologically; it can go both ways. The role of pain – a signpost It is important to understand the role that pain plays because it can be such a negative. It can engulf you if you let it get out of control, and it can trap you and hold you back. If you let it go, and go, and go again … if you don't deal with it, it grows. It doesn't stay still. It gets worse over time because if it's something that's emotional that's wrong, and you don't deal with it, the emotion eats away at you and grows as a complex over time. Or if it's physical, you just get more and more injured, and more and more unhealthy. So many people get trapped in that kind of a cycle. It's almost a negative cycle. They see pain as being something that they want to avoid. And the more they avoid it, the more they're in pain, the more they reach for pills, or whatever their form of avoidance is – they end up never facing the pain, never learning from it and becoming a better person because of it. Pain avoidance can lead to all sorts of addiction. One of the main causes that leads people to constant addiction is the pain that they haven't resolved within them, be it physical or emotional. But the way to think about pain is that it's the pathway to growth. It's your compass, so to speak. If you're getting a particular pain you can say, “Well, that's the thing that's going to make me stronger, fitter, healthier. More emotionally connected. More congruent as an individual.” That's the key. When you see pain, it's not an negative. It's a signpost. It's a signpost, and the invitation is to make it your friend. If it's physical, you get your muscle systems, you stretch them, work them – there's pain, when you befriend is you're going to grow in a physical sense. So you are all the time listening, aware, choosing. If you go to the gym, and maybe you're doing some push ups, and you don't do enough, maybe you do 10 pushups but are capable of so much more. You don't get any fitter. No. You just maintain the status quo. So the pain will only come when you get past your personal best or what you're capable of. And that will help you grow, or get fitter, or even stay fit in the moment. Pain is unique to every particular person. Within each sphere of pain; physical, emotional, psychological – what is painful for one may not be for another – what stretches one may not stretch another. The kind of things which challenge us, and stretch us, are going to change from one person to the next. A lot of people have no interest in physical fitness. Greg loves fitness and it has been a part of his life since day one. So for those who are not into physical fitness where the pain and discomfort of that has no interest for them – that is okay as long as you're comfortable with that. So some pains are acceptable to avoid if the consequences aren't dire for you and it is not where you are called to grow. But make sure there is someplace within your life you are being stretched, challenged, etc. And that's the space where you're going to grow. And the actual effect of it – whatever that it is for you – will be where your confidence will grow. For some it will be your physical confidence, others your emotional confidence because you've faced this pain, you've worked your way through it. When you have worked through pain, faced it and learnt from it there is a calmness within you. Pain faced Pain faced leads to greater achievement. Pain engaged leads to results like achieving goals, getting stuff done at work, whatever it is you're trying to do, whatever you aspire to right now. If you're not experiencing some pain on the journey, then you're not likely getting much of a result – certainly not as much as you could. Any journey worthwhile having, there's going to be some headwinds. There's going to be some pain, whether it's physical, or emotional, or relational. There'll be some sort of challenge there. Young people in today's society can learn so much from this. As mentioned earlier there's a big question about that sense of entitlement. Now when we can challenge young people with facing pain, and working hard, there is a resilience there. They can bounce back more. Their bounce back comes faster, and they bounce back stronger. Some of that entitlement comes from the world they grew up in. As soon as you show young people the path through maybe a bit of pain, they accept that and understand it quite quickly. And then they can rise above their old belief systems about entitlement. Pain faced leads to greater self discipline. When you embrace pain you grow in confidence, you are calm and that ability to say no to yourself leads to a deeper you. That ability when the alarm goes at 5:00, and you jump out of bed. And the first time it's hard, and the second time it's hard, the third time is hard, but after a while you just get into a zone. And the alarm goes, and you're gone. So that ability to say no to what your body wants in the moment – because you've got a goal. Discipline. How do we deal with pain? Let's talk about how you deal with pain. We understand what it is. We're going to break this up into two components. One, how do you deal with just physical and understood emotional pain like stress and anxiety. And you know what's causing it. And the other is when you're getting pain, and you don't know what the source is. You don't know if it's physical, or emotional. But something is not right. The first one is around this physical and understood emotional pain. And the very first thing … so this might be something you're stressed or worried about. It might be a sore knee, or an ankle, or something that's wrong with you. Even you're just ill. The first thing is to reframe it, and understand that the way forward is to know that the pain is the path. The obstacle is the way. And if you can overcome that, accept it, and understand it, and grow, you will actually grow as an individual. And when you can understand what the source of the pain is, okay. If I've got too many jobs on my case at the moment, and I'm rushing here, here, here, and I'm getting headaches, I'm tense, okay. Stop. Reflect, okay. I can work out why. What is going on? Most of the time the signals you get in that space are very obvious. You've been working too hard, all of a sudden you've got a flu. And that's partly physical because you've run yourself down. At the end you should have fought internal systems. But maybe it's also completely psychosomatic. You're body's just saying, “Enough is enough.” It could be as simple as you're listening to your own body. And you know if you worked eight nights in a row, whatever the thing is, your body inside's going, “Hey. Stop. Stop. Stop.” How to listen to that pain, your tiredness. Another element of this is grit. The whole concept of grit – Greg talked to one of the great Wallabies of all time, Nathan Sharpe and he said he learned to love and enjoy the hard stuff, the grit. The more you learn to love the stuff away from the spotlight, actually the better you are later anyway. So reframe the pain and while not loving it as an end in itself – love it's challenge and it's path. It is not masochism if you are growing to be a better you because of pain embraced and faced! Over the last so Christmas break, Pricey did the Tongariro Crossing in New Zealand. And it's a 19.7km hike in a single day. But it's up very high, and the day he did it was baking hot. So it was painful. It was uphill and hard going. But that grit, that hard yakka paid off – at the end of the day while tired, exhausted – he felt great. The beer at the end of that day at the local pub was just awesome. The other thing about the physical and emotional pain, there's another element to this which is just having some maintenance. So regularly meditating, staying fit, fasting, not eating for 18 or 24 hours once or twice a week, is a process of understanding, and dealing, and pushing through pain. All those things make you better at it. It's like you get pain fit, so to speak. And that makes you stronger mentally, physically, emotionally. And you really grow as an individual. We've said it over and over again, all of these elements are actually linked. So when you're doing all that, when you are getting into a rhythm of whether it be meditation, a rhythm of fitness, a rhythm of eating in a really good way, that rhythm becomes a beautiful psychosomatic thing. We talk about mental strength! Greg recalls the first time he did a marathon – he thought it was a physical mountain to climb. But then he found out it wasn't physical – it was mental. You learn mental toughness when you're running the last five kilometres of your first marathon. And if you can stay strong at that moment, when all the voices in your head are telling you to stop, that's when you start to learn what you're made of. And as a result of what should have been a purely physical endeavour, he was mentally, emotionally, and physically stronger at the end of it. As we keep on saying this new strength flows over into other things. You could be working on all this, and you're in a conflict situation. And a year or two prior, you would have come out of that stressed, and uptight, and exhausted. Now you're in a conflict situation, you are present to them, to the other and even though it is painful you come out of it feeling free. You've done your work. The second element is that every now and then in life, you're going to have situations where you're having pain. You can't work it out. No treatment, nothing seems to work. You just can't seem to understand it. And this is where we you might have a deeper incongruence. Something isn't right within you, and your unconscious mind is demonstrating physically that it's unhappy. But sometimes it's not entirely clear. And we want to tell a story to demonstrate this. One time Greg had a guy who was working on his team when he used to work in the corporate world. Greg was coaching him to run his first ever marathon. It was about four weeks to marathon day and he started to get a really bad shoulder pain in his left shoulder. As the next week or two went on it got worse, and worse, and worse. He went and saw the top physic at a renowned university but it just didn't get any better. Over a period of two weeks, it got worse, and worse. And Greg said to him, “Hey, listen mate. Can we just spend five minutes? Let me see if we can find out if there's something else at play here that your body is trying to tell you.” So let me rephrase that, “Is there something that your unconscious mind is trying to tell you.” Now we were able to almost thank the pain so to speak, and talk directly to the pain source. And this sounds a bit weird and a bit wacko, but hear me out. What he was able to identify was that there was a positive intention for this pain. It was not purely physical, even though there was nothing about it that seemed emotional or psychological, there was. And he was able to identify the positive intention. And the positive intention was recovery. What was going on in the rest of his life was he was working long hours. He was training a lot, he'd left all of his training to the end. He was a really, really busy guy. And there was no recovery. So what ended up happening was there was therefore an incongruence within his psychology. And it said, “Enough is enough. You're not showing me the end here. I'm going to slow you down. What I'm going to do is give you a bit of a sore shoulder and that will stop you.” He didn't see that. It wasn't immediately apparent in any way, shape, or form. We were able to ask a bit of a question of his unconscious mind. We basically said, “Are there any conditions under which he can do something so the pain goes away?” And the message on the inside he immediately had when we asked this question was, “Book some annual leave.” Luckily we were in the office, and Greg was his boss. So Greg said, “Mate, book the leave right now, and go and book the hotel as well. Make it happen. Book it for the day after,” I think the marathon was on a Saturday, “book it for Sunday, of the following Sunday, and get away. He booked that, and two days later there was no pain. He didn't see another physio. So sometimes in life there's a internal incongruence going on. And the signal that comes from the unconscious mind is purely physical, and it can be hard to understand. The path in that situation is to listen. To stop. And if it's just a physical sitting, and listening, and meditation session. Sitting with a friend. And out of that the wisdom, whatever the body's trying to say to you, will come up. And it will come out of the left field. If you get really stuck on this, go and see someone who maybe has a hypnotherapy background or a psychological background in dealing with this. If you've got something that's seems maybe there might be something more to it, then do that. What this is about is an incongruence. So that's a really important point around when you don't know the source of a major pain issue. (NOTE : Remember, sometimes you can chase a non-physical cause when there isn't one. It is actually a physical problem you just haven't found the root cause yet. The best thing in all cases is to seek professional help – psychological or medical) Ultimately Pain is The Doorway to Growth Ultimately pain is an energy. And sometimes we've just got to kind of channel it. So we're hearing it, we're listening to it, and we just gently channel it into a really positive outcome. In the end pain can make you stronger. But only if you grow with it and overcome it. Otherwise, it doesn't make you stronger. It just makes you a masochist. No pain, no gain in the end. When you actually befriend it, when you reframe it as we've said, it loses its negative effect on you. And you begin to, we wouldn't say actually look forward to it, but you're not scared of it. There's not the anchor chain, the drag, the emotional pull down, the energy loss. It actually turns into a positive and you go, “Okay. This is the signpost. This is the way forward.” As Universal Men we've got to reflect, face and know that pain will be our greatest teacher if we but make the courageous choices – and that pathway is a pathway to something really special.

In this episode of Universal Man we look at music and the role it plays in our lives and the invitation we all share to make music, to harness of the power of music to make something unique and special from within ourselves that will add beauty to our world.   “Don't die with the music in you!” Dr Wayne Dyer Music the energy of our spirit Imagine a world without music! Music in all its forms; your favourite band as you work out or jog, that symphony orchestra that brings deeper emotion to the surface or the music of silence as you surf, fish or sip a wine with a loved one; music is the energy of our spirit. A world without music would be so colourless, dry, dull and boring. Music, an art form that we all need, it's part of us, it's part of our souls, it's part of our spirit.     At Greg's wedding he and his beautiful wife danced the bridal waltz to Bon Jovi and Bed of Roses. They had choreographed their dance to this beautiful music. The wedding guests gathered close around as Greg and Char spun and dipped and twirled. As we watched we were all lifted up, there was something special in the music, in the dance and in the love being danced and celebrated. It wasn't just music, it wasn't just dance; the intent to go within made it all so much more. Music's such an important thing. It's kind of like a way inside into our spirit. It helps us find meaning. It's a time and space when we can actually relax, switch off, dream, do all sorts of things. It's that ... it's like a way in. What role does music play in YOUR life? Historically, music has played an enormous role in cultural change. You know, in the early days everything was classic. It came from all the classic European composers. As time went on culture changed the music and the music changed the culture. In the 40s and the '50s we went through all the swing music, then all of a sudden rock and roll turned up. Culture changed on the back of rock and roll. Then it was like heavy metal and into rap and hip hop and all these different versions of music now that are out there. And all of those have led to all of these subcultures. So the very nature of humanity and our culture, throughout the whole of the planet, has been driven by music. All the ceremony of tribes and different groups around the world, they've come together around music and dance.   As men, we need to really deliberately engage with this. We need to say, what role does music play within our lives? How can we use it to make us an even finer man? We go back to our pillars, know thyself, grow thyself, and brotherhood. Most guys spend a bit of time doing some introspection. Maybe a bit of a journal here or there. Or maybe going for a long walk or sit on a mountaintop and just thinking. And how often have those times you have been accompanied by some music. Maybe some melancholy music or something to make you think a bit deeper, you know. There is something there.   Music catalyst, litmus test and inspiration - changing your stateMusic is a catalyst. And it is a catalyst for deepening friendships. It is a catalyst for when you're getting stuck, how to unstuck yourself. It's a catalyst for relaxation or going inside. Music can bond you and those around you. Some sporting teams have a particular song that they play / sing at the end of every game. It helps create culture, a feeling of belonging; a sense of ‘us'. Rituals like this produce the glue that can stick you together in the tough times. It becomes a unifying song.   Music is almost a bit of a litmus test of how relaxed you are within your own self. If you're in a great zone, music's going to be part of your life. When you're not in a really good space, you'll often find music is not there. Pricey cannot sing, hopeless bloody singer. But often when walking along a beach, especially when on his own, he will sing! He is in great space; walking along a beach, singing away; in great spirit and great for his spirit!   Music is something that can really inspire you and take you to a new level. It's really interesting how when you use music, that there's certain times that you want to use a certain kind of music as opposed to another. Like when Greg goes to the gym, he will always listen to Foo Fighters. It just gets him in the mood to work out. But when on a plane flying interstate for some work, he will listen to way more melancholy tunes, because he doesn't want the intensity of the gym music. What music does is it changes your state. It changes your emotional state and where you are in the moment. We use music to get us into the right state of mind or to reinforce or deepen that state.   Some looking for inspiration may put on some classical music or maybe some epic soundtracks or something that, you know, straight out of Gladiator or Braveheart to get pumped up. And if you use it in that way, then it becomes a magnificent catalyst for growing yourself, knowing yourself, and brotherhood. Touching your inner spirit   One time Pricey was returning from facilitating a young adult retreat and a young friend of his, Dave, was sitting in the passenger seat. It was about half past eight at night. As he started off on the trip Pricey put on a CD of beautiful music. The first song that played was the theme from the movie Life as a House. It's this beautiful, orchestral piece with a sense of epic and of awe. They were driving along, this piece is playing and Pricey looked across at Dave, and he was just in his zone with tears coming down his cheeks. Pricey's gut feeling said not to say anything because the music was taking Dave into a space that he wanted to be in, that he needed to be in. It was a really special kind of a moment.   We all use music in the way we need to - to put in sync with our best self in that moment. On a plane, relaxing, listening to melancholy music - then off the plane and into an important meeting - perhaps game time music - in Greg's case it's Guns N' Roses or Metallica or something like that - for Pricey, showing his age, Eye of the Tiger! In your zone - in flow How often do you see athletes now before a match, you see like the pre-match. And everyone's in the changing room and they've all got those great big headphones and all listen to their own tunes or whatever they are. And just trying to reconnect with their spirit that they're going to take on to the field. The whole thing about this, too, is it can create a sense of balance. Because when we've turned the music off in all its forms, we can go within ourselves in a kind of an overly serious way - we over think things. We can be going around in a circle. The music almost takes us out of that. The Science of state control This takes us back to the science of state control or emotional state control where really there's three to four main ways of changing your state quickly. One is just shift your posture. Everybody knows what it looks like to see someone who's depressed as opposed to the shape of their body if they're confident. Another is your breathing rate, if you change the rhythm of that, which is like at the core of things like yoga and meditation, that changes your state as well. Then the last one is that mindset and then rhythm. Every state has a rhythm to it.   That's why when you listen to music and you start almost connecting with the rhythm and the beat, your state shifts immediately. And there's an old rule that if you're stuck in a depressive or a sad state or a stuck sort of state, get up and go for a walk around the block. Because physically, that will start to get you moving into a new space. And music can do that on the spot. It can get that change of state that you need and get you shifted again.   Rhythm! Think of Robert De Niro doing the tango with that gorgeous woman in the movie Scent of a Woman. It's a powerful scene. But here he is, rhythm, and he's in his zone. And what it all does is, it's a way of being gentle with yourself. It's your space, because each of us has got our song. Our particular music. Often a couple will say that was our particular song. You have been out to dinner with friends and then all of a sudden a song will come on and the couple will look at one another and, you know, smile. It's special. It' their song! Ritual and Tradition This ‘our song' business - it creates this sense of ritual and tradition amongst us. And this is the important thing about brotherhood. We men need our rituals and traditions and music can be a vital part of that. Grego has a couple of mates and they did a lot of backpacking when they were very young fellows. They didn't mind a beer back in the day. One of the things they had was when this Guns N' Roses song came on called Paradise City, which they just loved, they made this little pact between themselves that whenever that song would come on, it wouldn't matter where they were, they would go to the nearest place possible and scull a beer. Most ridiculous ritual traditional you've ever imagined. But when you're 19 and 20, this is the kind of crazy stuff you did.   Have you ever been in a bar with a group of three or four mates and a spontaneous kind of a sing along starts. And you go from one song to the next and you look around, then you get home and you think, wasn't that great? You kind of belonged. It was you felt a member of that particular group. It was like a tradition ritual. Often one song in particular, or one type of music becomes YOUR anthem individually or collectively; and that is good.   An anthem is ... an anthem is the song of a group, right. It is literally what gets the hairs on the back of your head upright; Waltzing Matilda, Only 19 or The band played Waltzing Matilda! Watch the Superbowl when Star Spangled Banner is played or be trapped in the stands of Anfield as the Liverpool faithful sing, “You never walk alone!” or courageously wear green and gold at Murrayfield as the crowd sing, ‘Flower of Scotland'! It is powerful, it is anthem - it is spirit; it is us! And even when what is being sung is not YOUR anthem - when those around you are singing their anthem - it brings from within you a deep sense of awe and respect.   A mate of Pricey, Matt, was the defensive coach for the Scottish Rugby team. And he tells that when the Scots get up, they sing Flower of Scotland. It isn't just a song. It's much more. It goes to the heart. And those men on the field, they'll tackle a giant after that.   So what the message here for Universal Men is that music is a tool. It's a catalyst for creating belonging, for creating memory, for creating state change, for growing yourself, knowing yourself, and brotherhood. And a whole range of other wonderful things that make us uniquely human.   And when music's not there in your life, go find it again. Wayne Bennett titled his book, “Don't die with the music in you!” He based it on a quote from Dr Wayne Dyer. Everyone of us has our unique music within and around us; give it expression - dance and truly live!

A little while back, one of our Universal Men was telling a story about his battle fighting his own inner demons that were holding him back, strangling his growth and enjoyment of life. So what are inner demons? They are something that you struggle within your own mind. The voices or thoughts that have been around a long time, that keep rearing their heads and holding you back. Inner Demons aren't something new. Often when people talk about demons, they talk about something that's been around for decades. There's a sense of having lost power to this significant, repeated, negative voice. In your mind, you no longer have the ability to beat your inner demons and they keep turning up to sabotage your efforts. It's like like there's this little voice, or a little animated thing that turns up to talk in your ear and give you a bit of a punch in the guts or a bit of negative backtalk to tell you that you're not up to this, you shouldn't do this, you're bad, or you don't deserve it. And it comes kind of from left field, like the demon, you're going along and all of the sudden that pain from the past, that weakness, that significant loss of confidence, comes bouncing at you and you say, "Yeah. My demons have returned." That's not a weakness. I mean we've all got a particular personality, we've got the things we're good at, things that we're bad at.   WHERE DO INNER DEMONS COME FROM? If you're carrying any Inner Demons, they probably get their life from an inner belief or some sort of ideas and understanding about life, or an event, a loss, a stuff-up. One source is perhaps something that happened at some particular time within your life, and then unconsciously you've wrapped negative feelings and messages around it, and they keep coming back repeatedly. Another is sometimes you can be modelling someone who maybe you respect for one reason or another. You're trying to emulate their success, behaviour or mindset, and in doing so, you might absorb some of their own inner demons. Sometimes this happens even if we don't mean to emulate, like through the copying of our parents and relatives, and almost through osmosis, we pick up ancient limitations that have potentially been passed down through generations. Little beliefs, myths and ideas about the world. And they can be crippling. Sometimes inner demons come with you living a particular archetype or taking on a character type in your life. You might be the martyr, and with the martyr comes a certain set of inner demons it means you limit yourself. You always put other people first and then when you get a chance to take the stage, your demons hold you back because this isn't congruent with your archetype. It is like you take on a particular identity at a deeper level you say, “I am only this. I am this. Not that.”   WHY IS IT NECESSARY TO DEAL WITH ONE'S DEMONS? If we don't know the source of any demons we have, we can't really deal with them effectively. In facing them, in overcoming them, it's like you take them out of the driver's seat of your life, of your feelings, of your up and down-ness, and you harness the Universal Man spirit and own it. Many men carry an inner demon throughout their entire life which shapes their life story. That is because they haven't quite had the skill or process to remove them. This is important because: "Your psychology is like a garden. Weeds grow. Foreign objects, foreign animals get in there. And if you don't weed that garden, if you don't fertilise it, if you don't give it good water. It will get out of control." So even if you've beaten your demons now, if you don't get on the front foot again, you will revert back. Same as physical fitness where when you get unfit the aches and pains return. If you ever needed a brother for something, it's to deal with inner demons. They can be so hard to overcome, and sometimes you just need someone to say, "Hey. Man, that's just total crap. I don't know where you came up with that." Or to support you through it. Weirdly, within every demon, there is a positive wisdom. Why? Because every demon has a deeper positive intention. They have a good side and dark side, so to speak. And just as in Star Wars, each and every one of us could go to the good side or the dark side. What leads to the dark side? Fear. Fear leads to the dark side, men. But courage leads to the good side. And this is the thing. When you have an inner demon, it actually has this positive intention behind it. An example is in a story from one of Greg's clients who was getting prepared to do a big speech, and they were talking about confidence and the conversation went something like this: Client: "Oh! I've got these bloody voices, and they just sabotage me every bloody time." Greg: "Let's just ... can you focus on that voice for a second? Does the voice sound like anybody you know?" Client: "Yeah. It sounds like my old man back in the day." And his old man must have given him some grief about making a presentation when he was young. The voices said, "You're not worthy, you're not good enough, you'll stuff this up." Greg: "Now pause for a minute and consider if there is a deeper positive intention of the voice? What does it really want for you?" Client: “Well I suppose at a deeper level it actually wants me to do a good job. And the voices are trying to make me prepare better? Vitally, at this point, the demons lost their power. Because when you can identify the positive intention of an inner demon, guess what happens? It loses its power.   BEATING YOUR INNER DEMONS Beating demons begins with the courage to name it, to face it. So when you sit down and say, “Now, what's going on here? What's this little negative rock that I've just put in my backpack?” Look at it, name it, and talk as much about it as you can. Get that positive intention so that you can turn it on its head. What can you learn from it? When you face it, when you face the demon, you can see how it's actually a load of absolute crap. Because when you face it in a deliberate and intentional way, you can see it is actually false. So you're facing it, you're naming it, you're almost saying, "Come on in, buddy. I'm going to face you. I'm not going to be afraid of you." And after facing it, get the energy of that demon and channel it into the positive, which is there. A demon gets fuel when you listen to it. When you give it an audience. You take away the audience, and there's no one there to talk to. Another method to help is to journal when you're naming and facing into what the demon is. Give yourself little, simple goals you can mark your demon against.   PITFALLS OF TRYING TO BEAT DEMONS There's the odd pitfall with inner demons. And first of all, is doing it alone. If you're not making any progress, talk to someone, get a mate involved and attack this thing. Write it down on some paper and say, "This is what's going on. Every time I do this, this little bugger turns up. Help me through it please." Your mate isn't walking with the demon every single day. So they've got an objectivity, so when you talk about it in trust, that can be a tremendous thing. If it is a traumatic event then you may need a professional voice. And that professional voice will just help you understand. Sometimes with trauma, to name and face it with a professional voice can be a fantastic thing. This is similar to somebody who's had a decent size injury, physical injury - what do they do? You see a doctor and then a physiotherapist to help with recovery. Same as if you had a mental injury; don't try to do it on your own. Seek professional help. One thing that happens so often with demons is that we can lose perspective. So we're going along and then the demon comes up again, and all of the sudden, life is just awful. And when you think about it, you made a mountain out of a molehill. So have a bit of fun, get a little bit of a balance, talk it through with a mate, keep it in perspective and break it down. Ask yourself, “Could I shift this demon one percent?” And if you could move it one percent, could you move it two? And then maybe if you can move it two, is there anything stopping you from moving it three?   FINAL THOUGHTS Everyone has demons. The one person who says, "I haven't got any demons", they actually aren't being really honest with you. And it's that simple little step. In Australian society, you give people the finger, the one finger salute. One final powerful trick then is to give your demon the Swahili wave and physically give it the one finger which is one way of saying, "Hey. I'm facing you. I'm naming you. I'm going to put myself into the driver's seat." What this is all about is demons are in the driver's seat. Get that bugger out of the driver's seat, get back in control of that particular thing in your life, because it may well be having a huge effect. Consider the consequences that it may have already had in your life. You've got an opportunity now. Get on the front foot and change the future story for yourself. The story for your future, the very best you.   Stay Legendary, Grego and Pricey

This week's episode takes a totally different format as it's a discussion rather than an interview.   I recorded this episode with our spiritual guru, Damien Price, for another podcast called The Universal Man, a Not-For-Profit organisation dedicated to helping men operating at their best in the modern world.   You can connect with Damien on LinkedIn.   He's also been on the podcast before; check out episode 31. Key Quotes from discussion with Damien Price   What is balance? When we are out of balance, there's a sense that you're just going around, you're spinning, you're on a treadmill. You feel a sense that you've got no particular power, and you're just rushing, rushing, rushing, go, go, go. You're out of balance.   Aligning balance to your life vision and life chapters We've got to look at the particular context of where we are in life; it's our vision, it's where we are at this point in time. What chapter of our lives we're in. There is a famous story where a university professor gets out a large jar. He puts in three or four relatively large rocks and says to the class, "Is the jar full?" And the class says, "Yes." Then from under the bench, he pulls out a container of fairly large pebbles. He pours that in, shakes it up, pours more in, and again, "Is it full?" They all say, "Yes." Then he goes under the counter, pulls out a container of very fine sand, pours it in, shakes it, pours more in. "Is it full?" And they're all very, very quiet. Then finally, he goes under the bench and pulls out a pitcher of water, pours that in and it fills the gaps. Therefore, balance is about the different stages of your life ie. the chapter of your life. What are your particular rocks and the pebbles at that point?   The role of core values You don't want to be so busy in life, that it's impossible to have any flexibility. So balance comes when you become aware of the particular chapter you're in, and then you work out your rocks, your core values, your core tasks, who you want to be, or what you want to do. You're deliberate, and you name them all and you plan around them.   Building your life scoreboard and defining achievable success A life scoreboard has a list of all the most important things to you in life. This might be a partner, your family, your wider family, mates, your career, any volunteering contribution to the greater good, health, fitness, finances, hobbies, travel, whatever's most important to you. Give yourself a bit of a score on each and every one of those, to tell you how you're currently going in each of them. And that gives you a sense of whether you're spending your time right, given what's most important to you right now. When you are clear in your planning and you know your achievable outcomes, you deliberately plan them, and they get energy. All of a sudden, you're getting up at 5am for that run or for the gym session or for the work, you've got into a pattern of it, you've got a discipline wrapped around it. You are ticking off a rock within your life. You've got a particular sense of balance then.   Beating guilt of not doing certain things If you're in one place and feeling like you need to be somewhere else, that's when the guilt comes in. If you have a partner, it has to be negotiated and agreed with them. You say, "I'm going to go away for a few days. I know it's a bit of an extra pressure on you. Why don't you do this? Is that okay?” And when they go away, make sure that there's that same discussion. What it means is that when you're away, you're free to be present. It's the same with work as well. There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying to your boss you need to be at an event or that you're picking your kids up from swimming twice a week at 4pm. But then you say what you're going to do in exchange. Bill Gates said, "People vastly overestimate what they can do in one year, and hugely underestimate what they can do in ten years." Let alone a week. Sometimes you get to the end of the week and you feel like you've done nothing. You need to cut yourselves some slack. And one thing that I do, is on a Friday afternoon, I sit down and I say to myself, "What are all the things that I have done this week?” You may have periods when you'll be lacking a tiny bit of balance, like a business trip. But in the bigger picture, you can claim that back.   Creating your rhythm and optimising time Either on a Sunday afternoon or a Monday morning, spend a bit of time, either on your own or with your partner, to plan the week ahead. Rituals and traditions over a year are vital: my wife and I go to this local café every Saturday morning. We know we get that moment every week to reconnect with the family. Make a list of all the activities in your life that you have to do every day. Go to work, your commute to work, pick up/drop off kids, etc. And then list all the things you want to do on top of those, such as going to the gym, doing a hobby, whatever. Then write how many hours per week you have to (or want to) do them. Every single time I've done that with someone, the number of hours in a week that they want to spend on things is far more than the numbers of hours in a week. Which means their unconscious criteria for balance is impossible to achieve.   Simplifying life and buying back time Look at the number of rocks and pebbles you have got. A little process of simplification doesn't have to be a lot. But the art of saying no is so important in being able to achieve your life vision and your career goals. You cannot do it all. You have to make some hard decisions. Instead of doing that thing every week or month, go back to doing it once a quarter or year. Ritualize it; make it a tradition. We also create rocks over stuff which actually isn't. Step back and ask, “Do I really, really have to do that thing?” You might be sitting there thinking, "I just wish there were more hours in the day.” How about getting rid of social media? It's costing people hours and hours a day. How many hours were you on Facebook or Instagram today? Yet you're so busy. Same with TV. Sleep is important, and you've got to have recovery. But if you go to sleep a little bit earlier, you can have very early mornings and therefore you've bought yourself time to work when everyone is asleep.

This episode was recorded at The Universal Man - Being Great Men weekend. All 12 participants were involved in recording.  Oliver Wightman, Bruce McGregor Brendan Hawes, David Graham, Luke Baker, Jimmy Purcell, Simon McDonald, James Kasch, Bruce Taylor, Liam McGuire, Greg Layton and Damien Price.   Grief, at its simplest is the reaction to a loss, and in the face of that loss, adjusting to a new reality. It's the absence of something in our life and how our life changes because of that loss. And it takes many, many forms. It could be, like I'm actually getting really old, so it's the lost of my youth, it can be the loss of a particular relationship, it could be the loss of a particular dream. Loss takes a million forms. And that doesn't make anyone of them, is any less, or more, important.   And there's a beautiful piece of desiderata, which talks about, "Take kindly the council of youth, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit, to shield you in sudden misfortune.” And I think it's important to acknowledge that grief isn't something you can plan for. And it's two o'clock on a Tuesday afternoon, or it's the midnight phone call. It can be sprung on you ... The time is not a think that grief controls. It just happens.   And grief is an internal process. And we'll talk a bit more about that later on. But it's not always visible from the outside on others. So, whilst people may be able to put on a steely exterior, they're still grieving on the inside, as it is an internal process.   Sometimes we associate grief with a sense of weakness, or a sense of vulnerability, but I think an important thing ... As you experience grief, you sort of understand, it's a natural thing. It's something you can't really avoid. And everybody goes through grief in some way after a loss. Be it a loss of health, it could be a loss of a relationship, it could be a loss of a job, or a loss of friend. Everyone goes through some sort of grief after that loss. And it's a totally normal thing to happen.   We cover:  1. What is grief 2. When do we get it wrong 3. Some steps to follow to help 4. How it relates in the context of Universal Man   For full details check out www.universalman.org/grief

“We are all meant to shine, as children do.And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” - Marianne Williamson    What do we mean by The Devil's Apprentice? Several times on Universal Man we have talked about the Wolf Pack - that group of men that we choose to associate with who lift us to our best selves. But life is never perfect nor is any group of mates. Often amongst our group of mates is that one guy who, for whatever reason, drags you down. They are the negative voice, the wet blanket, the one who for whatever reason always reaches for the lowest common denominator to bring everyone with them. This is the Devil's Apprentice and you might well go ‘way back'. They can be someone who has been a mate from your childhood or teenage days, but they have never grown up, they have never graduated into adulthood. Have you been in that scenario where over a couple of drinks on a Friday afternoon one of the group just lowers the standard through the crass joke, the bad timing, the inappropriate call and you shake your head? What were they thinking? You get the feeling they're doing it on purpose to get a rise out of you or the group. See more at www.universalman.org

Neely Fuller, Jr. makes his twentieth solo appearance on The Context of White Supremacy. If you're non-white and in need of The Compensatory Word Guide and/or The United Independent Compensatory Word Guide, visit this page: http://producejustice.com. We'll ask Mr. Fuller to detail his code for responding to random acts of Racist violence. Unfortunately, random White Supremacist attacks are a common aspect of White culture. For starters, non-white people should remain alert about their surroundings, remembering that the plantation is inherently unsafe. Fuller also explains why should refrain from name-calling and what to do when being verbally shellacked. In general, Victims of Racism should remember that our focus should be on becoming Universal Woman & Universal Man. #TheCOWS INVEST in The COWS – http://paypal.me/TheCOWS Cash App: https://cash.app/$TheCOWS CALL IN NUMBER: 605.313.5164 CODE: 564943#

Gus T. Renegade will offer follow up thoughts on the idea of Victims of White Supremacy assisting White People. The great Neely Fuller Jr. shared his view that Universal Woman and Universal Man should help anyone who needs aid. This help should extend to White people, Suspected Racists. All of this is a part of the process of Producing Justice. Gus T. and listeners thought about this suggestion - as Fuller encourages Victims of White Supremacy to do some thinking. Dr. Kamau Kambon and Ms. Zanele offered their views on this topic. Both were staunchly opposed to doing anything to help aid Racist Woman and Racist Man. Non-white people are often forced and/or coerced into aiding Racists in a variety of ways. And White people have deliberately conditioned us to empathize with and comfort White people at all times. Gus thinks correct thinking on the path to Justice would channel help to those most maligned by the System of Racism. Under that System, there is no situation where a person classified as White needs the most help. Non-white people should be most concerned about helping people classified as black and other Victims of White Supremacy. #TheHelp #TheCOWS INVEST in The COWS – http://paypal.me/TheCOWS Cash App: https://cash.app/$TheCOWS CALL IN NUMBER: 605.313.5164 CODE: 564943#