Podcasts about wounded heart

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What does it look like to evict demonic activity from your life?In this episode, we're continuing a 4-part series on practical spiritual warfare following a NEW acrostic: S.O.N.G. (Stephanie encourages you to "Whistle while you warfare.") At Deeper Walk, we teach a "no drama," legal approach to spiritual warfare. So, after you've removed the permission the enemy is claiming to a place in your life, it's time to use your authority in Christ to "oust the enemy."How do you kick the enemy out of your life? How do you help others? How do you deal with curses sent against you? We touch on all this and more in today's episode.Join us on the trail!

Let's demystify spiritual warfare. Reclaiming ground we've surrendered to the enemy doesn't have to be complicated or scary.In this episode, we're starting a 4-part series on practical spiritual warfare following a NEW acrostic: S.O.N.G. (Stephanie encourages you to "Whistle while you warfare.") At Deeper Walk, we teach a "no drama," legal approach to spiritual warfare. So, when you've recognized you're having a spiritual warfare issue, the first step is to 'Stop giving permission.'How do you recognize your spiritual warfare issues? For some it's blatantly obvious, but for many it may be as subtle as an unshakeable sense of hopelessness. What are common things that give the demonic permission to a place in our lives? Beyond S.O.U.L.L. (which we frequently work through on the podcast), we also touch on other areas like giving into fear or idolatry. Finally, is it R.E.D.? How to stop giving permission when the occult is involved.Join us on the trail!

The statistics on both men and women who have had to deal with the trauma of childhood sexual abuse are alarming and the results are often emotionally devastating. Dr. Dan Allender addresses the issue in his book The Wounded Heart and he joins host Don Hawkins to talk about overcoming the effects of sexual abuse. On our next segment, former Chick-fil-a CEO Dan Cathy and special guest discuss a topic that many men don’t want to talk about; their emotions. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode, Dr. Dan Allender, a pioneer in Christian counseling and founder of The Allender Center, joins Dr. Alison to explore the raw, real work of marriage, trauma, and intimacy. Known for his groundbreaking book, The Wounded Heart, Allender has spent decades teaching how personal trauma shapes relationships. And on the very day of his 48th wedding anniversary, he openly shares how these dynamics continue to play out in his own marriage. In this episode, we dive into: * The surprising (and hilarious) fight he and his wife had the night before their anniversary * Why marriage is both heaven and hell—and why that's actually a good thing * The childhood wounds that have impacted his own marriage * Why logic doesn't help when we get emotionally hijacked * How to fight well and grow through conflict Check out The Deep Rooted Marriage anywhere books are sold. Have a question for Dr. Alison? Leave it here. Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here. If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love: Episode 137: The Mindful Marriage—Overcome Pain Cycles and Discover the Surprising Secret to Lasting Love with Ron and Nan Deal Thanks to our sponsors: Go to Quince.com/bestofyou for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order! Go to AquaTru.com and enter code BESTOFYOU at checkout to get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Contact Restoring the Soul today and learn how their Intensive Counseling Process can jump start your journey to the place you want to be. As a special gift for The Best of You podcast listeners, download their free pdf "5 Ways Unresolved Trauma May Be Derailing Your Relationship." Turn back time on the appearance of your skin with Purity Woods's Age-Defying Dream Cream. Go to puritywoods.com/BESTOFYOU or enter code BESTOFYOU at checkout for an additional 10% off your first order. Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Website: http://www.brministry.org | App: http://get.theapp.co/725cDr. Logan shares the importance of not wounding your child's heart. If you do it is important that you ask their forgiveness. Having a wounded heart will cause your child to shut down.

This episode is a continuation of my previous Life Path Number series! Join me as we explore the shadow side and common challenges of a Life Path 1, so you can better understand the energy of your numerology. Watch the first episode here: https://youtu.be/kYR13sQTTWw?si=pg5mGUfLjpVANynz ----------

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This week, we're sifting through some of the "debris" that can hinder people from moving into the healing process in the wake of sexual abuse.  Dan and Rachael talk about some of the questions that can keep people feeling stuck and silent: What if I don't remember everything? What if my healing journey affects my loved ones? Shouldn't I just forgive and move on? Can I wait until life isn't so busy? What if facing this feels overwhelming? By acknowledging these barriers, you can start to see a way through. Next week, we'll discuss what's needed to begin the healing journey from past abuse. Please note that this episode contains discussions of sexual abuse and childhood sexual abuse, and may not be suitable for all audiences. Listener discretion is advised. Listener Resources: Explore more podcast episodes including: "The Cost of Engaging Stories of Sexual Abuse," "Connections Between Spiritual and Sexual Abuse," and "Bearing Witness to Stories of Sexual Abuse and Racial Trauma." Read: Healing the Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan Allender Sign up for the Healing the Wounded Heart Online Course from the Allender Center  

By Mary Lindow   Today's podcast is going to be discussing a subject that a lot of people avoid because they honestly just don't know how to approach it or, they are afraid to approach it. Somehow people think that people like myself who have been serving in ministry to the Body of Christ for many, many years, and who are called by the Lord to operate or flow in a prophetic ministry as well, do this 40 hours a week. And, of course, people do expect you to be on call and ready to deliver a clear and concise word from the Lord, without considering the fact that you are not just simply a prophet or a teacher/minister, but you are also a human being who lives and breathes and moves and feels.   BEING IN MINISTRY ON ANY LEVEL IS NOT FOR THE WEAK OF HEART and truly should not be something to be considered or pursued by those who are looking for a platform for fame or to hold power over others. It is a call to hear the voice of the Lord, to study his word and to always be ready to give a good report of what he has promised or what he is requiring of his people. So having said that, I am echoing the words and most likely also the thoughts of many disappointed and disillusioned believers right now. I read a wonderful devotional last week from the Bible app. and it so resonated with where things are right now in our world. It said,  “If we are paying attention, we will see a lot of “off” around us. I bet you have noticed things that appeared unjust. Cracks in the façade that show injustice is real. People hurt. Bullies winning. The right action is left undone or the wrong action brings harm. When we pay attention, we have to acknowledge this world is gut-wrenchingly broken.”   Many of us will read a description of mistreatment and nod along from experience, memories bringing a fire to our chest. Others hear words about injustice, and it all feels distant. The deep desire to downplay evil stirs, perhaps even subconsciously. Reading Habakkuk beckons us to acknowledge a foundational principle God reveals through Old Testament prophets—you have to see the evil. We must look around at what is happening in the world and see it for what it is.”   THE BIBLE PAINTS THE PROPHETS AS THOSE WHO JOLT US AWAKE AND FORCE US TO SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING AND WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT SUCH THINGS.   They are the watchmen signaling with waving arms, often to people wanting to look away. “Look up and see the evil done against others”, the prophets said. See the impact of your own choices on the vulnerable. See the disobedience of God's people.   GOD SEES THE WAYS WE'VE GOTTEN THINGS SUPER WRONG FRIENDS, and he's coming to do something about it. Get ready. We might not be paying attention, but he is.   It would be easy for some of us—and beneficial at times—to look away from the wrong done around us. We much prefer the aesthetics that way. Yet, there are consequences to indifference. We should not be surprised by discipline from the Lord if we choose not to pay attention to the discrepancy between our community's actions and God's righteous standard, just as the prophets warned in Israel.   FOR OVER 16 YEARS STEVE AND I HAVE ALSO BEEN INVOLVED AS PASTORAL COUNSELORS. Now, some individuals say that all pastors can give pastoral counseling to people. It's a little different than that. Some people go to school and study psychology, which is the study of the mind, and how to understand the psyche of people and help them. This is a secular approach, and there have been good results and helping people resolve conflicts and often mental illness issues as well as addressing dementia and Alzheimer's problems and more.   Pastoral counseling is where the Bible is the foundation, the Scriptures are the foundation of what you use as a basis to advise and counsel and hopefully help restore people. You also do have to take study courses and apply different techniques in counseling that assist you in being able to assess and discern, as well as understand some issues of mental health in order to be integral in your approach. Steve and I were supervised for over 15 years by a doctor of psychology, who was a strong believer, and we both took courses from different Christian counseling associations and college courses in order to broaden our ability to help people. We also had a brick-and-mortar counseling group with a dear friend, our friend who was the doctor of psychology and the practice supervisor for three years in our local area.   WE SAW THE LORD TRANSFORM, marriages, families, young people, and drug addicts, as well as dealing with many abused believers who had come out of almost cult-like, churches, or who were involved in environments and churches where they could not talk about abuse going on with the staff. Many in ministry callings came to us to share their hearts and gained helpful counsel as well.   LITERALLY A FEW WEEKS BEFORE COVID LOCKDOWNS BEGAN, our landlord who was also a believer let us know that he was going to sell his portion of the medical unit building that we were renting from him, and the Lord had begun to speak to Steve and I about the timing of where we were supposed to head into more private work as pastoral counselors and as mentors within that same timeframe. The state of Colorado had begun to dictate what licensed counselors were permitted to address, absolutely mandating that they were not permitted to talk about any kind of therapy, that assisted those with “different sexual lifestyles” if they wanted to be transformed or helped.   Steve and I strictly operate as Ordained ministers so we do not have to bow our knee to the dictates of a corrupt government licensure program.  We still have to follow confidentiality laws as well as report any kind of devastating child abuse that we may hear in our counseling sessions, but it is all done ethically and legally, and with grace. When the lockdowns began the majority of our work took place over the phone or occasional zoom sessions. With great sadness our dear sister and friend and Counseling Center Supervisor Dr. Muskie, passed into heaven, due to complications with WuhanCovid19.   When You Counsel People, The Number One Thing That Needs To Be Absolutely Evident Is That You Are Willing To NOT Look At Everyone From A Lens Of What YOU Know, But Rather From The Lens Of God's Compassion, As Well As Leaning In To The Discernment Of The Holy Spirit.   The majority of the people I work with are women who have been in abusive environments with either husbands, abusive parents or/siblings and with people in ministry environments (and I'm telling you there are many sexual predators who prey upon women right in church buildings!) as well as working with professional women who are pressured by men and women in their work environments.   There are also a lot of women who are very sensual, who get attention by teasing men hoping to cause them to fall. It's a real deal! And they don't just go after pastors. They will go after any man in a local body or church or work environment to get the attention that they hunger for when they missed out on being parented properly, or if they feel that something sensual makes them get the attention they need to feel loved. This often happens when there has been sexual abuse in their lives.   Pastoral counseling is based on getting to the root of the problem according to what the word of God says, and for a believer the importance of it is that we are willing to face the root cause of what causes us to be traumatized, bitter, secretive, or lie.   ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO COUNSEL IS A PERSON WITH AN EXTREMELY HARD, WOUNDED HEART, OR WHO IS EMBITTERED. No matter how much you try to show them the way and soften the pathway for them with the grace of God, there is often a back lash that always has a reason to explain why they are hurt, why they are hard, and why they choose to stay stuck in a hard place. In Matthew 13:15 Jesus says: “For the heart of this people has become hard, With their ears they scarcely hear, And they have closed their eyes, Otherwise they would see with their eyes, Hear with their ears, And understand with their heart and return, And I would heal them.”   It is a humbling thing to admit that you are stuck or that you are in a hard place, or that you are dominant and mean and cruel to people because you are bitter over tough life circumstances that have happened to you, and so you put up a wall to protect yourself.   I have met Christians who justify the fact that they can bully and name call and yes, often swear at other people when they think they are trying to help them or advise them. They often get angry when they are confronted about their bad bullying behavior towards their children. If you ever hear a believer say something like “my child is a jerk”, or “you're a little brat”, or “stop whining and get up or I'm going to give you something to cry about”, you can tell that there's verbal abuse going on in their home.   Verbal abuse isn't just cussing at someone although it is verbal abuse for sure! Verbal abuse is considered shaming, humiliating, paralyzing, and dominating over someone else verbally to the point that they are caused to emotionally shut down in fear. Unfortunately, I hear in the confines and confidential pouring out of hearts in my counseling sessions many who have been yelled at with scripture verses and shamed over not being perfect and obedient to God.  This is called spiritual abuse.   Picking out specific Bible verses, and using them as a battering ram, or a knife that stabs into the heart of someone to get them to “obey" or to get them to “submit”, is absolutely vicious behavior and it is abusive. There's no godly virtue in posturing to be a big shot, or to appear to be the person who can control a room with snarky snide remarks or a bunch of advice that everyone is forced to listen to.   This is called "insolent pride" in the Bible, and we always take that biblical view, but in the natural if you were studying a psychological viewpoint, this is called narcissism.   Proverbs 21:24 states “Proud,” “Haughty,” “Scoffer,” are his names, 
 He who acts with insolent pride     INSOLENT PRIDE CREATES A SCOFFING, ARROGANT “KNOW IT ALL” ENVIRONMENT, where there is no ability to ever address the deep-rooted issue of control and abuse in a human being and how they use it towards others to posture. The need for power and control becomes “out of control”! But underneath that simmering rage there is someone who needs to keep everything tightly organized and under their thumb in order that no one finds about out the secret part of them that is either weak, wounded, or has done something they should not do to harm others.   WHY AM I SHARING THIS? Well, we are living in a time where narcissism is actually applauded and stroked as a point of near genius! Insolent pride and verbal domination have become the way of communication in most social media groups.  And, unfortunately it takes place in a lot of texting where people can say cruel or snarky things behind the protection of a telephone screen and slander others in one mass social media post or text! But to say it face-to-face and see the pain in someone's face by the words they've spoken is a different thing isn't it? And the other party suddenly being painted as a “rotten person” never gets a chance to tell the side of their story that may actually be the truth.   Every day we come across people who need to hear a kind word, who need to be lead to a place where they can get help or truth, or just simply be treated with a level of empathy.  And, every day we come across people who may be predators, verbal abusers, spiritual abusers, and have no conscience about how they treat people.   IT IS ABSOLUTELY TIME FOR THE BODY OF CHRIST AGAIN TO READDRESS THE ISSUE, FOR THE NEED FOR EXTREME DISCERNMENT. Everything that the enemy could throw at us and our children is on full display right now, and if we dumb down safety and sexuality, safety and what our children watch on television or other tech devices, safety and what WE as adults watch, we simply embrace the narrative of the world, and we move away from scriptural goodness into a place that pollutes the ability to have good discernment.   When we don't allow accountability to come into our lives, whether it be with a good and wise counselor, or with a group of trusted friends who are not going to take your information and spread it far and wide, we leave ourselves open to a secretive fantasy world, or a secret world of torment.   What do you do when you're anxious or sad or depressed or fearful over the way your husband treats you or the way your wife beats you down verbally?   What do you do when you are at a stalemate because a spouse refuses to forgive or move forward into hearing the truth about some of the things they have done to get locked into bad behavior and resentment?   What do you do when you have a child that suddenly has become addicted to video games and it's moved up into their adult life and they have no friends because their world is all in front of a screen?   What do you do when you know that a minister or a member of a staff in a church or a CEO of your corporation is secretly sexually preying upon individuals in their offices, and you could lose your job, because you know?   THESE ARE THE THINGS THAT ARE HARD TO ADDRESS, BUT MUST BE ADDRESSED!   The world is feeling a tremendous amount of being unsettled right now by the great upset of realizing how easy it is to be controlled by a few tyrants, and yet people will cower and go about in denial, instead of learning how to be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.   I have worked with many brave women, who have prayed and fasted and done everything they possibly can to help work on their marriages, but their spouses have chosen to hunker down and gaslight and punish. No matter what approach is taken they become more verbally violent and are determined to blame everyone else.   Is this easy to talk about? Absolutely not! But when you are scripturally based not only as a minister, but also as a pastoral counselor, you must bring truth into the light and help people become free from abusive environments and often “self abusive” environments.  You must above all have confidentiality and trust level that they know will not be breached. Most pastoral counselors work on a sliding scale fee in order to keep their rates low for those who are working hard, sometimes two and three jobs, or a wife who has limited income because her husband tightly holds the reins of the finances.   WHEN YOU'RE A PASTORAL COUNSELOR, IT IS DONE OUT OF THE PASSION FOR CHRIST and therefore money and income are not the foremost driving purpose for your work. But, there must be an investment and a fee from those who are in counseling, or people tend to not take it seriously. It needs to be considered per individual and what they are capable of handling. I often tell people their counseling is much more important than the two or three times weekly custom cup of coffee at their local coffee shop, or perhaps snacks in their afternoon candy bar routine. It really isn't a sacrifice when you start doing the work to get yourself whole and healthy. It becomes a lifetime investment.   Pastoral counseling is definitely a calling and not to be simply a moneymaker. However, many individuals still expect hours and hours of free counseling time, and rarely invest much into changing their lives if there isn't some kind of financial accountability for them. Of course if you attend a local church and there is a counseling pastor on staff, that's what they are there for! If you regularly go to that fellowship and support them, usually there is an option or opportunity for you to see a counselor on staff for no fee. But having experienced some of this in the past, I also know that people tend to jump from counselor to counselor or, Pastor to Pastor if they don't want to deal with the root cause of their problems, and it can cause friction in a local body if there's not respect for the position and the role the pastoral counselor is assigned to, by the Lord. Basically they want someone to justify what they are doing, and their bad behaviors.   I URGE YOU TO ASK THE LORD TO WALK THE CORRIDORS OF YOUR HEART. Are there things in your life that you dominate and hold over others as scriptural and “legalistic absolutes” and they have become nearly abusive because you refuse to listen to someone else's heart on the matter?   One thing that I have often observed is that people become very hard and hardened because they want to win an argument, or something that has helped and changed them, becomes a law for them to use against others.   Now, before others think I'm going to lighten my approach to the Bible, understand this. The word of God is perfect and enlightens the soul. It brings truth to a matter and it does not waver.   Of course, there are absolutes in the Scriptures that God will not deviate from no matter how many people try to dilute or maneuver around them. But if we use a hammer and verbal abuse and shame and scripture to “scorch people” in order to prove a point, or to advise them then we are also biblically unsound and abusive.   FIRST CORINTHIANS INSTRUCTS US SO CLEARLY THAT LOVE IS WHAT? It is patient. It is kind. It is not boastful, it is not arrogant, and it is not self-serving.   When the Lord said, come to me, all of you who are heavy, laden, weighed down and burdened, and I will give you rest, he meant that, because he knows we get heavy laden and burdened and weighed down, either by our own destructive behaviors and sins, or by the destructive behaviors and actions and sins of others.   There is also nothing more painful than when someone is in pain or sorrowful or going through a great loss or trauma, and another individual shouts, “get over it, move on”, or cracks jokes about the person in pain.   Yes, you will be around people who are chronically in pain or depressed, and it takes patience. It takes guidance, and it takes kindness to either help direct them to help, or gently tell them that you are not the person that is able to help them at this time, but that you will stop and pray for them right now.  You see, it takes humility.   Although there is a lot of reading material produced that uses the term “tough love” and a lot of books about boundaries that we can study, remember, if you're coming from a scriptural perspective the ultimate goal of God is a Redemptive moment or a restoration if possible.   BOUNDARIES ARE NOT TO BE HUGE CEMENT WALLS WITH BARBED WIRE AT THE TOP BLOCKING OUT EVEN THE SUN.   Boundaries as a believer are there for when there is a conflict or a disagreement or a different viewpoint with another person. It's a  "time out" to go and think about it, to pray about it, check your own heart and see if there's something that would bring about a form of reconciliation.  And then, you try to come together and discuss the issue. You can agree to disagree and not banish people!   Imagine how much Jesus disagrees with a lot of how we behave and yet he doesn't banish us! He continues to wait for us to come out of our corners of hiding or corners of denial, and meet him again in dialogue until light comes and hope and help, bring a different perspective on our pathway of life.   I have worked with people through phone counseling sessions from many different places in the United States, and I have seen them grieve and open up and trust me with the deepest of their painful sorrows and things that are unbelievably sometimes even unbearable to mention. Slowly, but surely, a foundation of nurture and truth combined begins to chip away at the lie that they have believed and feel viewed as something no longer valuable or useful, or that they are worthy of value and are not to be abused!   For instance, if a young girl has been used and trafficked by a parent for most of their childhood and up into their high school years, once they awaken to this later in life, there is no way that anyone can accuse them of “choosing” to not face it!   There comes a time where the light of God shines brightly on the pain and the sorrow, and they need to be led out into a place where they can express the grief, the anguish and the huge loss of childhood innocence, and yet be brought to a safe place before the face of God, through strategic dialog, planning, or behavioral changes. Gently addressing the people that they affiliate, with until they see the light and the kindness of God. Until they can see themselves as the original creation God had planned them to be.   NOW, DON'T GET ME WRONG. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE WHEN THE LORD OPENS DOORS FOR ME TO SPEAK AND MINISTER, and if so called to, I to do operate in the word of knowledge and the word of wisdom when I am involved in these environments.  It is hard work to study and prepare in prayer for when you are assigned these opportunities to speak and minister publicly. But, this behind-the-scenes work of mentoring and pastorally, biblically guide people with counsel, is one of the hardest things that I think I've ever done, and yet the most joyful and rewarding when you see the lights come on and the light enter and the chains of the enemy become literal paper and fall away. The person finds the joy and laughter and finds that God has a glorious plan for them.   Sometimes it can be a rather rapid process, but the majority of times it is a steady, consistent work, until they find their wings and fly. Every time I work with someone I think about how long it takes for Jesus to help us to find our way, and he often narrows the path of our relationships and friendships in order for us to not only be safe, but to also be on a pathway that is not crowded by those who choose to not do the work that God is asking them to do, in order to be transformed.   If we look at the parable where the seed falls on the ground, there are those who will stay stony hearted and will not take in water. They will not receive nourishment. They choose not to grow, and the sad thing is that their seed is pecked up on my other predators.   I CAN TELL YOU HONESTLY THAT ALL OF THE PROPHETIC WORDS SPOKEN OVER YOUR LIFE DO NOT CHANGE THE HARD WORK IT TAKES TO GET YOUR LIFE ON A PATH WHERE THEY CAN COME TO PASS.   The Lord is so good to give us future promises, but with those there's a requirement for action. Don't wait until things are so bad and you have a minefield of heartache and debris left in your wake that you have to now clean up. Don't be afraid to ask for the help that you need, and find someone whom you can work with and feel safe with, and get on with allowing God to create a new clean heart and renew a right spirit within you.   If you have addictions to pornography or addictions to drugs or any other thing that causes you to feel driven towards it, the Lord wants to offer you freedom and restore you to a place of peace and no longer walking in fear.   The greatest counselor that we can have is the Holy Spirit; the scripture says the Holy Spirit is a counselor. Now, many people say, “Well!  I can hear from the Lord for myself, and I will let the Holy Spirit counsel me!” The problem with that statement is that if we are already in trouble, or we are hiding something, or we have been abused and beat down, we can often dismiss the deep inner voice of the Lord telling us that we need to talk to others and be accountable and get help. Often the Holy Spirit will gently say to someone,  “Go talk to so-and-so or go talk to your pastor or go talk to a counselor or a close friend, who is wise”. Yet pride or fear keeps us paralyzed and afraid to move forward.   EVERYONE SOMEWHERE IN THEIR FAMILY OR IN THEIR LIFE EXPERIENCES HURT, AND PAIN AND TRAUMA. Unfortunately, this is the nature of fallen man and the Earth is riddled with devastation because of it. But in John 10:10, Jesus himself said, “I have come that you might have life to the fullest!” He said that you MIGHT have life to the fullest! And the first part of that verse is, “but Satan comes to rob to steal to kill and destroy”. This is what happens to people in life when they are abused and traumatized!    Jesus offers a hand to us saying come to me all of you, who are very weary and heavy laden, heavy burdened, and I will give you rest so that you might have life to the fullest.   One of the simplest ways you can find help is to simply look in your area for a Christian counselor, and you can even ask for specifics and details. Those who are really dedicated to the call of God as pastoral counselors spend as much time in prayer and preparation before there counseling session, as they do IN the counseling session.   The word of God ultimately has the answers that we need, and the pathway that will guide us out of darkness into the light.   I AM IMPRESSED TO SHARE THIS PODCAST SPECIFICALLY BECAUSE I KNOW THERE ARE THOSE OF YOU THAT ARE LISTENING WHO ARE CRYING OUT FOR GOD TO SHOW YOU WHERE TO GO OR WHAT TO DO ABOUT SOME OF THE SITUATIONS YOU FIND YOURSELF IN.   He wants you to know it is not wrong to seek help and that counseling is not of the devil!   After all the scripture in Isaiah calls, Jesus, The Mighty Counselor! And again he speaks of the Holy Spirit as being our advocate, or one of our counselors, because they are in themselves three in one with the Father. But, the Lord gives the spirit of counsel and wisdom, and insight to those who are called to help others out of dark places.   Don't hesitate! Call someone, research someone in your area, or if you have a pastor or individual who is skilled in your church to help you deal with the specific kind of trauma upset you are dealing with, make an appointment and step forward. Not all pastors are skilled or qualified to help people who have been through traumatic sexual abuse issues, or who are dealing with parents who have dementia and Alzheimer's. But, they can certainly pray with you and help also to direct you to the proper resource.   JESUS WANTS US TO FIND A PLACE OF PEACE AND REST IN HIM. His ultimate is to bring us peace and to draw us close to him.   If there's anyone who has ever shamed you by telling you that, seeing a counselor is weak or shows that you don't trust the Lord, just understand that that individual is also hiding something, or is extremely bound up in the fear of being led astray.   Some counselors are not a good fit and so you go to a different one! There have been times when I have worked with individuals and I have to lovingly let them know that I am not a good fit for their situation, or it becomes overlapped into situations where there needs to be another specialist who can better help them walk out an area where they're stuck, and they need a Focused, Skilled individual to help them unpack, and unburden the deep pain that they are in.   THE SCRIPTURE SAYS HE WHOM THE SON SETS FREE IS FREE INDEED. My prayer for those that are listening today is that you will open your heart to the Lord in prayer and ask him to help you to take the steps forward that you might need to deal with whatever it is that you are suffering over.   If you have been verbally abused by bullies in the church or those that may even say that they have some form of counseling skill, but they verbally abuse or shame or use harsh language in order to shock you, this was not the way God planned it. Try again!   Step forward one more time and ask the Lord to open the door for you to the right counselor. He will do it, and he will help you be free from pain, the hiding of abuse as a child, the difficulty of dealing with addicted or angry adult children, and those that are prodigal parents, or prodigal children.   Jesus has a plan and helping us to hand things over to him in his care when we've done all that we know we can possibly do, and we have apologized or repented for actions on our part.   Remember, nothing is impossible with God. I have seen him turn situations around that seemed absolutely impossible! He can help us to stand firm in our faith and not hide in order to be people pleasers, or to cower under the pressure of abusive treatment.   OUR NATURAL HUMAN RESPONSE TO SHAME IS TO HIDE. We hide from each other and hide from God. This has been the case since Creation. The Bible describes how the first human beings responded to God when they had sinned and were ashamed:  “Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden” (Genesis 3:8).   FRIENDS, HIDING KEEPS US FROM HEALING. Let's all aim to be a compassionate, courageous community of believers. A community in which we support each other as we choose healing over hiding. Let's support each other as we ask God to grow, to change and heal us.   Let Me Lift You Up To The Father In Prayer Right Now: Father, I thank you for those that are listening to this podcast today. I know it's not an easy one and certainly not as stimulating and supernatural or as exciting as some, but it IS a supernatural work that you do when you bring us to a place of releasing pain and telling the truth about what has happened to us, or where we have done something to harm someone else.   Lord, I know you're doing a great cleansing work and that you are starting with the body of Christ, bringing your judgment and your truth, and your light.   Lord, you said the days are coming when we will worship you in spirit and in truth. Lord, we can't fully worship you when we're not truthful with you, if we're hiding and if we're cloaking, so I pray that anyone listening today. Father anyone who is afraid. I pray that you tell them that fear is holding them back and that you would guide them literally by the hand and direct them to the proper counselor, to someone who has the wisdom to help unlock the pain, the history, the stories and the trauma that has happened to them, in war, in family, in abuse in school or a job. With an abusive Pastor, with an abusive Sunday school teacher.   The list goes on and on and you know every one of these events. So Father I ask that those that are hearing this message will take courage. You will GIVE them the courage to step out and ask for help and I know you will do it.   You will help them if they will simply step out, and I thank you for hearing this prayer from my heart for them, in Jesus name.     Duplication and sharing of this writing is welcomed, as long as the complete message, Website, podcast link and information for Mary Lindow is included. 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While having your heart broken may not be preventable, it is conquerable. You can make it after disappointment, and today's key Scripture passage shows us what makes it possible to move through, rise above, and thrive after disappointment. It's like what Paulo Coelho once said, “Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” What determines whether you move on or whether you shut down after heartbreak depends upon how you assess the situation. If you view the event positively, seeing it as an opportunity for growth, versus viewing it negatively and seeing it as a moral judgment, then you are more inclined to grow through what you go through. 

Knowing that you need to trust God or Jesus is one thing. Being able to do so is another. After all, trust takes time to build. And what if you're still learning who they really are? Or have things that are standing in the way - such as related wounds, trust issues, or fears? (Just to name a few.) Well, friend, I've got you covered! Join me as I equip you with a simple exercise to help build that trust and, as a result, begin easing into a life-changing relationship. --------------------    Join the Online Community: https://www.relateescape.com/online-community Be the first to hear about new podcast episodes and special offers! https://relate-escape.ck.page/godsloveforwomeninsider  Shop the Store: https://www.relateescape.com/store Follow on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/relateescape

Altoids. A sick child. The Angel at Fatima.  By our acts of Love we can make reparation for all the crimes and lack of love poured out toward Jesus in the Holy Eucharist--we can soothe His wounded heart.  

Amye and Steph recap and discuss Virgin River S1:EP4 A Wounded HeartHope's health scare prompts a difficult conversation with Doc; Charmaine asks Mel uncomfortable questions; Paige has secrets.Support the show:To get ad-free and bonus episodes including: Sister Wives, 90 Day Love in Paradise, Love During Lockup, Gen X content and cult documentaries, sign up here:https://www.patreon.com/littlemissrecaphttps://littlemissrecap.supercast.com/Give the gift of Little Miss Recap EXTRA: https://littlemissrecap.supercast.com/gifts/newTHE SHOW:Get in touch with us:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/littlemissrecapFacebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/littlemissrecapInstagram: @littlemissrecap Voicemail: www.littlemissrecap.comEmail: Info@littlemissrecap.comGet your Little Miss Recap Merch HERE! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As counselors, we know that everyone is walking around with hurts, wounds, injuries, fears, losses, and traumas as a result of living under the curse of sin. And whether you know it or not, or want to admit it or not, your heart has been wounded. Your story contains scenes of heartache and pain, and your sense of being loved by God has been disrupted in some way that is unique to you. In this episode John & Lynn make the case that: unless you know the terrain of your story, and where you've been wounded, then you may be lost, confused, easily deceived, or helpless to resist the enemy's tactics in your life. We'd like to help you know the map of your heart, and how the enemy may already be playing on your vulnerabilities, so that you can become wise, discerning, and ultimately experience God's love in a profound way as you learn how to intelligently fight your spiritual battles. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com for an episode recap, free resources and book recommendations. Follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds. If you liked this episode leave us a 5-star rating and review to let us know!

Episode Notes She's only been an author for a few years now, but has it ever been rewarding and therapeutic for her! She is Union County native Dani Girten, my special guest this week. You'll be deeply touched by the inspiration behind her first published children's book, "Dear Presley", and fascinated by the sharp contrast of her second effort, "Discover The Realm of Everwood". We'll get the scoop on Dani's background and future goals. Plus, she'll highlight an exciting new development pertinent to her writing endeavors! It promises to be enjoyable . . .and to follow Dani's authorship pursuits, simply visit her web page found here: https://www.authordanigirten.com/. Find out more at https://blabbin-in-the-bluegrassblabbi.pinecast.co

Gary Tanguay fills in for Dan.In his recent book, “Lilith,” author Eric Rickstad tells the tale of a single mom whose son was traumatically injured in a school shooting. The enraged mom then takes justice into her own violent hands to put an end to this “epidemic of violence.” Rickstad joins Gary to discuss his book, “Lilith.”

It was an absolute pleasure to be joined by psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and therapist Cathy Loerzel for an incredible conversation about the journey of healing Trauma. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel are the authors of the book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. They are also the founders of The Allender Center. I really excited to sit down with them after reading the book and participating in story work. This episode is available to watch on Spotify or you listen on any of your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch the episode on video on youtube.YOUTUBE :www.youtube.com/@Thehealingtraumapodcast⁠ Paid Subscribers {FRIENDS OF THE PODCAST} Can enjoy the extended version of this episode which includes a conversation with Dr. Dan Allender where he shares some of his own story of childhood heachache and trauma and how he got into this healing work of over forty years. Subscribe here: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Your support goes directly towards keeping the healing conversation going. Get access to extended and or bonus episodes. Coffee support: buy me a coffeehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast  Dr. Dan Allender has pioneered a unique therapy centered around his innovative theory and training in transforming betrayal, ambivalence, and powerlessness into faith, hope, and love. He is a professor of counseling psychology at The Seattle School and founder of The Allender Center, speaking on trauma, sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, and intimacy. He's a popular podcaster on The  Allender Center Podcast and the author of  multiple books, Health the Wondered Heart,The Wounded Heart, The Healing Path, To Be Told and God Loves Sex. Connect with Dr. Allender on Facebook or Instagram The Allender Center  Cathy Loerzel received her MA in Counseling Psychology in 2007 is the Co-Founder of The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and co-author of Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Your True Calling. She has spent the last 15 years developing the theory and methodology of a popular new coaching and therapeutic approach called Story Work that moves people through their past stories of heartache to heal and discover healthier ways of being in the world.  You can find her here. https://www.cathyloerzel.com

“He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners…”Is 61. Jenny's guests share hope, encouragement and so many profound truths in this interview. Karen Ellison, Founder & President of Deeper Still Ministry & Jacquelyn Michelle Murphy, Exec. Director are back to talk more about “Healing The Abortion Wounded Heart” in Part Two. JESUS is still transforming hearts and lives. You don't need to carry shame, guilt or regret for anything in your past - just trust HIM.  And exciting news; Dr. Ben Carson is the speaker in their upcoming event on March 21, 2024.  Karen Ellison authored the book "Healing the Hurt That Won't Heal - Freedom for the Abortion Wounded Heart and Help For The Church They Fear." She shares her personal story and how Jesus has transformed her life.  She also addresses how important it is for the church to talk about abortion and for healing from its wounds. You can find her book on Amazon or more info at Deeperstill.com. 

Guests Karen Ellison, Founder & President of Deeper Still Ministry & Jacquelyn Michelle Murphy, Executive Director share their stories and the good news of our redeeming Lord - to bring healing to the abortion-wounded heart. After Karen had an abortion, she shares her struggle and her heart.  Karen authored the book "Healing the Hurt That Won't Heal - Freedom for the Abortion Wounded Heart and Help For The Church They Fear." At Deeper Still they are going to be talking about one of the hardest things that so many people face, healing from a past abortion. Deeper Still affirms and encourages your decision to seek a deeper place of healing and restoration from your past choices and is available for both men and women. Our redeeming Lord starts the healing once we surrender our deepest dark places & hurts to Him! Whether you are post-abortive or struggling with other things in your life, you can find this interview helpful.   "I have swept away your offenses like a cloud, your sins like the morning mist. Return to me, for I have redeemed you.” Isaiah 44:22.  For more about Deeper Still Ministry go to www.deeperstill.com or their Podcast, “Freeing The Abortion Wounded Heart." 

While having your heart broken may not be preventable, it is conquerable. You can make it after disappointment, and today's key Scripture passage shows us what makes it possible to move through, rise above, and thrive after disappointment. It's like what Paulo Coelho once said, “Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” What determines whether you move on or whether you shut down after heartbreak depends upon how you assess the situation. If you view the event positively, seeing it as an opportunity for growth, versus viewing it negatively and seeing it as a moral judgment, then you are more inclined to grow through what you go through.

The Women's Suffrage Movement in the US started small, very small in fact, in a tiny hamlet in New York State. Over time, it spread from state to state across the whole country as its following grew. Their fight for equal rights culminated in the ratification of the 19th Amendment after a seventy-year battle. However, while this monumental achievement was a vital step, it did not guarantee every woman access to the ballot. The story continues to this day across the globe and the fight is still fought to achieve Votes for Women by Tory Brown from Fort Circle Games. Read the full review here: https://tabletopgamesblog.com/2024/02/10/votes-for-women-digital-eyes/ Useful Links Votes for Women: https://www.fortcircle.com/games/ Rulebook: https://boardgamegeek.com/filepage/247880/rules-game Fort Circle Games: https://www.fortcircle.com/ BGG listing: https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/311900/votes-women Votes for Women on Rally the Troops: https://www.rally-the-troops.com/votes-for-women Intro Music: Bomber (Sting) by Riot (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/audiolibrary/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠) Music: "Wounded Heart" by AShamaluevMusic.Website: https://www.ashamaluevmusic.com Music: "Memorials" by AShamaluevMusic.Website: https://www.ashamaluevmusic.com Music: "Wonder" by AShamaluevMusic.Website: https://www.ashamaluevmusic.com If you want to support this podcast financially, please check out the links below: Patreon: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/tabletopgamesblog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ko-Fi: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://ko-fi.com/TabletopGamesBlog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tabletopgamesblog.com/⁠⁠ (Photo courtesy of Fort Circle Games) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tabletopgamesblog/message

Dr. Gerry Crete joins us to discuss his all-new book, "Litanies of the Heart: Relieving Post-Traumatic Stress and Calming Anxiety through Healing Our Parts." GUEST LINKSLitanies of the Heart [Book]  Dr. Crete's Website Free Litanies Download EPISODE  SHOW NOTES & LINKS

Giving space for suffering and holding space for one another, as well as working through life and generational trauma in marriage are essential practices for long-term couples. Almost everyone has been through something hard or incapacitating by the time they are married for any number of years. Today Christa is joined by the esteemed Dr. Dan Allender and Becky Allender, co-founders of The Seattle School/The Allender Center, who in their 8-9 pairing have helped hundreds of thousands of people to overcome issues of trauma of all kinds. They share tips in general and reveal some of their own restorative narratives in their marriage, as well as how to suffer alongside each other and address one's own trauma triggers, which are especially helpful when contempt arises. Dan has authored Healing the Wounded Heart, The Cry of the Soul, and more and Becky has authored Hidden in Plain Sight: One Woman's Search for Identity, Intimacy, and Calling. Together they also offer marriage retreat intensives, courses, and more! Watch on YouTube here! The Allender Center specializes in training pastors, therapists, group leaders, lay counselors, and community and business leaders to understand their own stories to more deeply enter the lives of those they are called to love and serve. We come alongside to equip and develop skills for wading into the difficult waters of heartache, trauma, and abuse. Find their resources, books, and marriage retreat info here. https://theallendercenter.org/ Find Dan's podcast here! Use the code ENNEAGRAM15 to get 15% off of one of their marriage video courses here! To work through your relationship needs, make sure to visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com 

In this episode, we change pace a little from our normal format and we interview one of our own: George Hayworth. George shares his story of childhood trauma, life in the military, marriage, fatherhood and how he and his wife fought through severe challenges to remain married. Part 1 of George's story chronicles his life and the internal struggles he carried from childhood into adulthood. After many failures and causing a great deal of harm to his family, George brought his flaws into the light and started on the path to healing. George fell prey to what is called emotional or covert incest. Two books that describe this in great detail are Silently Seduced and Healing the Wounded Heart. Watch George's story to learn more about this relatively unknown form of abuse that happens to children and adolescents.

1. The Story of Shame 2. The Wounded Heart of Shame 3. Healing the Wounded Heart of Shame

Welcome to my podcast, The Wellness Project with Des, where I speak with people about all things mental health and wellness to bring you actionable tips you can implement into your own life to help improve your mental health and overall well-being. On today's episode, I speak with Morgan Rockwell about how looking back on your past can help to mend your broken or wounded heart. For detailed show notes and where to find Morgan: accordingtodes.com/132 Shop mental health & wellness products: https://www.etsy.com/shop/WellnessProjectByDes? Get your free Weekly Wellness Checklist and join my email newsletter: https://www.subscribepage.com/f5t5q2 Join my Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/accordingtodes Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/thewellnessprojectwithdes I would greatly appreciate it if you would take a moment to leave a review for my podcast on iTunes and/or Spotify. Thank you! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-wellness-project-with-des/id1477570126

We are thrilled to have Marcie Alvis Walker, the creator of the popular Instagram feed "Black Coffee With White Friends" and the author of the compelling memoir "Everybody Come Alive: A Memoir in Essays," as our special guest on this week's episode of the Allender Center Podcast. Hosting this insightful conversation are Rachael Clinton Chen and Linda Royster from the Allender Center. Marcie shares a bit about her process of writing her debut book, in which she beautifully shares her unique stories with candidness. She skillfully interlaces the tapestry of her cultural upbringing, along with her personal experiences grappling with various forms of racism, perfectionism, and the complex dynamics with her mother. Get ready to be inspired and moved as we hear a glimpse into her powerful narrative, and be sure to pick up her book “Everybody Come Alive: A Memoir in Essays,” available wherever books are sold. About our guest: Marcie Alvis Walker is the creator of the popular Instagram feed Black Coffee with White Friends. She is also the creator of Black Eyed Bible Stories. Marcie is passionate about what it means to embrace intersectionality, diversity, and inclusion in our spiritual lives. She lives in Chicago with her husband, her college-aged kid Max, and their dog, Evie. Her new book, EVERYBODY COME ALIVE: A MEMOIR IN ESSAYS, is available wherever books are sold.   Listener Resources: Check out Marcie Alvis Walker's book, Everybody Come Alive: A Memoir In Essays Learn about Allender Center's Racial Trauma & Healing offerings Enroll in the Healing the Wounded Heart online course from the Allender Center Read Healing the Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan Allender  

Listen in as Dan and Chris talk with Angelyn McMurray of We Are Free about the tough subject of Human Trafficking.    Connections & Resources: angelynmcmurray@wearefree.us www.wearefree.us   https://christian-sexuality.com/   The Wounded Heart - ...

Anne Polencheck is the Executive Director of New Name NFP, a ministry founded in 2009 that reaches out to women sexually exploited and trafficked in the Chicagoland area.  Anne has served with New Name since the beginning and has been leading the ministry since 2010.  Anne has a bachelor of science in Electrical Engineering and worked as a software engineer for over 20 years.  In 2013, she left her corporate job to stay home with her youngest daughter, allowing her more time to serve with New Name.  Anne has a heart for women to know how much Jesus loves them, right where they are at, and that they have great worth and value.   In this episode, Anne shares her personal story of overcoming alcohol abuse and an eating disorder. Anne received a new mind and a renewed heart through the power of Christ and His love. She shares what sparked her passion to walk with women who are sexually exploited and trafficked. Anne provides insight into how women enter trafficking, the signs of trafficking, the process of healing, and practical tips for individuals and churches who desire to love women in the sex industry.  Connect with Anne: New Name Bridal Boutique by New Name Resources Mentioned: Terrify No More: Young Girls Held Captive and the Daring Undercover Operation to Win Their Freedom by Gary A. Haugen National Human Trafficking Hotline  1-888-373-7888 Unlocking the Wounded Heart by Priscilla Lack Escaping the Devil's Bedroom by Dawn Herzog Jewell International Justice Mission Scars & Stilettos by Harmony Dust This Week's Belt of Truth: “The base of the cross is flat. Anyone can come to Jesus. The gift is free and is not based on you. The only thing based on you is to accept the free gift right where you are at. There is nothing you have to do in this moment differently.  He does not make mistakes. God created you in His image. I care what's happened to you. I am sad about the suffering that you've been through, but that does not define who you are. Know that Jesus bore all of that on the cross.   We can't understand this because we're human. But when He died on the cross, He died for every situation that you've been in, every torture, every abuse you've had to endure. He knows exactly what you are feeling and how it's affecting you. He knows the path out of darkness, and that is the truth.”- Anne Polencheck Want to contact me?  Follow me on Instagram and YouTube Email me at danielle@unashamedandfree.com

"Nothing affects the human heart more than our sexuality.” - Dan AllenderHow do we begin the process of healing from past sexual abuse? How do we deal with the pain, the hurt, and the emotional brokenness that has taken hold of our lives? How are we able to move on?Dan Allender says in his book, The Wounded Heart, “The journey involves bringing our wounded heart before God…”We're pleased to feature Michael's conversation with our good friend, Dr. Dan Allender. Dr. Allender pioneered a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy. For over 30 years, the Allender Theory has brought healing and transformation to hundreds of thousands of lives by bridging the story of the gospel and the stories of trauma and abuse that mark so many.On this edition, Michael and Dan Allender talk about topics such as: Why every one of us is sexually broken, whether or not we have experienced sexual abuse or specific sexual harm. The major difference between man and woman, male and female, as we are made in God's image. The category of lust as “desire gone mad” and why it's crucial to understand lust in terms of relief and revenge.Dan also co-hosts The Allender Center's weekly podcast with Rachael Clinton Chen, which has had over 2 million downloads. *Today's conversation was originally recorded in November 2020*Discover how the barrier built by porn addiction can become a bridge to abundant life.What if lust for porn is really a search for true passion?In a world where there are 68 million searches for pornography every day and where over 70 percent of Christian men report viewing porn in the last year, it's no surprise that more and more men struggle with an addiction to this false fantasy. Common wisdom says if they just had more willpower or more faith, their fight would be over. Contact Restoring the Soul:- Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.comThanks for listening!

How has your past uniquely prepared you to experience more joy? In today's replay of one of my favorite episodes, Dr. Dan Allender and I explore this question in an insightful conversation about healing the heart from trauma, rewriting the broken stories we adopt as children, and the overlap with the Enneagram.   Professor of counseling psychology at The Seattle School and founder of The Allender Center, Dr. Dan Allender has pioneered a unique therapy centered around his innovative theory and training in transforming betrayal, ambivalence, and powerlessness into faith, hope, and love. He's a popular podcaster on The Allender Center Podcast and the author of Healing the Wondered Heart, The Wounded Heart, The Healing Path, To Be Told and God Loves Sex, and Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. Learn more about Dr. Allender at https://theallendercenter.org or follow him @allendercenter on Facebook and Instagram. -- Follow the Typology Podcast on Apple, Spotify, or your favorite podcast player to hear the latest episodes. You can also follow us @typologypodcast on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.