Paradigm Shift with Ayandastood

Soul sibling, this is your loving reminder, that whatever you are calling in is not "going to happen" — it's ALL already happening, becoming, unfolding for and through you. Keep being, keep going, keep shining! ✨ This Soul Snack is here to give you an oomph of energy to take forth on your day as we co-create the worlds we wish to see! I hope you enjoy today's Soul Session, made with love!

Hello divine soul! Today we affirm YOU as and each of us as instruments of love. What if: love wants to speak and express through you? To sing, dance, cook, feel, heal, and grow through you, through us?

The fear of making mistakes blocks our collective expression, by design. In today's Soul Session, we dive into deeply-rooted childhood fears of getting things wrong and how these stop us from what we are here to express and embody in this life.

Today, we explore the profound journey of the visionary — those who are a bridge to the next paradigm.

Today we are stepping through the PORTAL of transformation that is the Fear of Being Seen. You will connect with your manifestation/dream/desire — all for the purpose of collective healing and expansion. If you fear being seen, this Soul Session of the Soul Salon Podcast will help you alchemize fear into courageous action. Your vision sent you this, I hope you enjoy it! This Soul Session aims to encourage you to embrace visibility and share your unique gifts with the world, highlighting the transformative journey towards living a fulfilled, purposeful life. Also, discover a free resource, 'The Soulful Visibility Guide,' designed to help you step through the portals of fear into your dream life:

Our journey on the fear of being seen continues! Today we discuss stepping out of your protective shell and embracing your fullest expression. Delve into "overcoming" fears of visibility, childhood wounds, and societal pressures that lead us to hide and dim our light — the same light that is our only hope for healing and transforming the world.

Here is a gift for you, a channeled message from your dream in times of challenge or doubt, when action and vision are not aligned. Soul sibling, y(our) dream is dreaming of you. What you're calling in is calling you in!

You deserve the ease you've been unconsciously rejecting or denying as possible. In this Soul Session, we explore how social conditioning often overshadows our natural gifts and the possibility of finding joy and ease in creation. From childhood passions to adult aspirations, we discuss the importance of feeling worthy of ease and support in our daily lives and creative pursuits. Join us in reprogramming paradigms for a life rooted in love, community, liberation, and EASE.

Perfectionists, gather! In today's Soul Session (#60!!!

It's December and many of us can feel BEHIND at this time of year. (At any time of year, actually! May this message find you at the most aligned time

Multi-passionates, gather! this soul session is all about the spiritual role of the multi-passionate... a love letter to my fellow multi-passionates. keep trusting that voice inside you, even when it makes sense to NO ONE (many times, including yourself!) i hope you enjoy this soul session, made with love!

hello soul sibling! wherever you desire to be seen, there will be fear... online, on stages, in classrooms, hosting events, speaking up in meetings or calls... the fear of being seen is all over our human experience, because it is the fear of judgment, social rejection, isolation, humiliation... in today's soul session we continue our discussion on visibility blocks and a mindset shift to help you move through it: Invitations... what will you be inviting us to, next babes?!

A quick, loving reminder of the power of y(our) voice, art, perspective! Divine & magical being, I hope you enjoy this soul snack! Sign up for an exciting announcement soon, if you haven't already:

hello soul sibling! in today's Soul Session, i start off by sharing how nervous i felt recording it. we discuss how fear can be a portal from the ego to the soul, and why unconditional love can be a cozy home to return to when we feel stuck in perfectionism, fear, embarrassment, or self-doubt.

precious being, if you feel it's TOO LATE this soul session was handmade for you.

in today's soul session, i share three powerful shifts to overcome the fear of being seen & the fear of judgement. we get into radically accepting the truth, integrating our own judgement, seeing beyond the Critic, and creating the world we wish to see. I introduce my method, Soulful Visibility, and share a personal story of a challenge I had making this episode... I hope you enjoy today's soul session, made with love!

MULTI-PASSIONATES, ASSEMBLE! if you want to do a LOT of different things, but you fear confusing other people, this is your sign: BE CONFUSING! This is a continuation of a TikTok I posted. We are RECLAIMING the state of confusion from this colonially imagined, logic-obsessed world. are you coming?!

How do you consistently find the courage to create your most aligned and inspired work? Creative Activations is an answer. A creation from my heart of hearts, here to hold your hand in the gap between fear and inspired action. In this special episode, receive one BONUS FREE Activation from my new Creativity album of uplifting pep talks and meditations to listen to before you create: Creative Activations. Let's move from fear to flow, together.

Sending love beams, soul siblings! I am hosting a FREE MasterClass on Creative Kinship on Zoom this Sunday, June 30 @ 10am-11:30am EST / 2-3:30pm UTC. Register here. ✨ GO DEEPER WITH ME:

“comparison is the thief of joy” they say, a quote originally from Former US President Theodore Roosevelt (random!). but what does the idea that we just "shouldn't" compare ourselves to each other ignore, and in turn, normalize? find out in this soul session and learn: How this idea can reproduce individualism How we are made to glorify our own alienation What another way of seeing comparison could be How thinkers like Bayo Akomolafe⁠⁠, Gabor Maté, and Byung-Chul Han can help us make sense of all this... Time stamps: (02:46): Shame & comparison(03:49): Individualism  (06:28): Crisis Response (Bayo Akomolafe) (09:08): The Myth of Normal (Gabor Mate)(14:25): Atomization & Authenticity (Byung Chul-Hun) (22:06): Collective path (25:11): Social structures  (26:42): Comparison as a cultural cold(33:36): Reimagine social systems (34:40): Essay: Comparison as Symptom (Me) (34:54): Thank you for being here  Sources Mentioned: Philosopher: ⁠Bayo Akomolafe⁠  Podcast: Jung and the World Podcast: One to One with Bayo Akomolafe Book: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté YouTube: Dr. Gabor Maté: The Myth of Normal & The Power of Connection | Wholehearted Book: The Disappearance of Rituals: A Topology of the Present by Byung-Chul Han Podcast: Philosophize This: Episode #189 ... Everything that connects us is slowly disappearing. - Byung Chul Han pt. 2  Essay: Comparison as Symptom by me on my Substack ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Hi my loves, this is the second and final part of my mini-series uplifting the work of abolitionist scientist Dr Ayesha Khan⁠  who writes the most beautiful, informative, revolutionary ⁠Cosmic Anarchy⁠ Substack. If you haven't already, be sure to catch Part 1 on Spotify here and on Apple here. Again, I am reaching imperfectly — for Palestine, for you, for this work. ESSAYS mentioned:  Subscribe to ⁠Cosmic Anarchy⁠ Substack. Learn more about ⁠Dr Ayesha Khan⁠ website & Follow on IG @thewokescientist⁠ ⁠Our boys & men deserve to live, not just our women & children⁠ (focus of today's episode) ⁠Effective activism will never be 'peaceful' & we should stop using that word⁠ ⁠How do we keep hope alive in our movements?⁠ ⁠We keep us safe by fighting back & taking collective risks, not by being pacifists⁠ Poem: ⁠If I Must Die⁠ by Refaat Alareer Essay: Ethics, Risk & Apocalypse by Peter Gelderloos  Book: ⁠Imagination: A Manifesto⁠ by Dr. Ruha Benjamin Other resources: Decolonize Palestine reading list 14 Trusted Charities Helping Civilians in Palestine --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ayandastood/support

hello soul siblings

If you are feeling unmotivated or uninspired, if you are stuck minimizing and hiding from your natural gifts, this episode is for YOU. You have these gifts for a REASON. This episode will get you fired up, calling you back into your power and ACTIVATING you to be brave in the face of the fear we all experience as we face our goals and dreams. You are someone's cheat code.  You are here to UNLOCK something powerful in the collective. NOT keep your gifts to yourself, hiding and playing small when you know that there is something bigger calling you, longing for you just as much as you long for it.  You are not here to be silent and convenient for the status quo or those who don't support you. You are an EXPANDER. You are here to break rules and break the mould that has been given to you, to truly make it your own, and to support the collective in our collective healing journey.  What if: you have these gifts for a reason. And the reason is NOT simply your own self-actualization, but the realization of more love, healing, community, creativity (insert what you are here to help cause) for ALL of us. We need you in your power, bestie! We love you. I love you.  Time stamps: (00:49): Collective consciousness (03:18): Who does it serve?  (04:42): There's a reason (06:11): Ego vs. Soul  (10:00): Creative Power (13:50): Soul resonance  (15:44): You are the cheat code (18:04): Two choices in the face of fear Book a one-on-one coaching session with me to support your creativity and unlock your next level of brave expression: www.ayandastood.com/coaching Sources mentioned: Essay: Age, Race, Class, and Sex: Women Redefining Difference by Audre Lorde (in the book Sister Outsider) Book: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Quote: “We're all just walking each other home” — Ram Dass  ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

hi precious beings! if you're battling with perfectionism, this episode is for you. earth angel, consider this your permission slip to declare your unfinished work FINISHED because completion is a myth maybe?! find out... i love you all, thank you thank you for being here! I hope you enjoy today's soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend

if you dream of writing, there are people dreaming of reading you. if you dream of singing, there are people dreaming of hearing you. if you dream of being seen, there are people dreaming of seeing you. if you dream of teaching, there are students dreaming of being taught by you. your dreams are dreaming you back. even more: the collective is dreaming THROUGH YOU. Question for you: Who might be dreaming you back? book a FREE discovery call to work with me one-on-one as your coach to step into your fullest expression and power, on- and offline: ⁠www.ayandastood.com/coaching⁠ Time stamps: (00:35): Individualistic vs. collectivist dreams (02:02): Example of my (our!) podcast dream (03:09): Who will expand through you? (05:11): Against perfectionism (06:37): You are a representative (07:41): The other side of desire (08:05): What you seek is seeking you (08:26): The beauty of surrender (09:24): Please follow & subscribe :) ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

today i bring you a bite size dose of ENERGY I recorded in December but felt wasn't "good enough" at the time. in honor of breaking up with perfectionism, i bring you this offering. let's call it a SOUL SNACK if you will. topics include: envying someone's success, listening to yourself, embodying what you seek, and the energetic messages of the universe. i love you, sunshines & soul siblings! i hope you enjoy this experience. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend if you resonate

if you are a worst case scenario thinker/feeler/(anti-)dreamer, this soul session✨ is for you. let's unpack why it's time to let go of assuming the worst — not only in terms of what's possible, but also in our relationships and friendships. in this soul session, i share examples of times when i assumed the worst and the exact opposite happened. i invite us to ask ourselves this question the NEXT time we find ourselves stuck in a worst case scenario mindset. you will (re)learn how holding onto the worst case scenario to protect ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: we align our actions to what could go WRONG instead of RIGHT, thereby making the former more likely. you will hear me walk through common examples where we assume the worst and are often "wrong", such as: assuming strangers don't want to talk to us... assuming old friends don't want to hear from us... assuming everyone online will certainly HATE or cancel us... assuming conflict will RUIN our relationships/friendships... and more!! let me say that i applied the lesson of this episode in the PROCESS of making, editing, and sharing it. here's how: my inner critic said (repeatedly): "what i'm saying is nothing ✨revolutionary✨ therefore it's not worth sharing this episode". or "i'm not adding anything new here!" the underlying assumption is A) we get our value from our uniqueness (individualism) and B) no one wants to hear and re-integrate the same lesson again from ME specifically. WHAT IF THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE? A) What if collective wisdom becomes more potent the more people share it? and B) What if people actually LOVE hearing and re-integrating wisdom they already know and feel to be true, and they love hearing it from ME (not exclusively but in a particular way) i love the feeling of applying a lesson i am sharing with you, because it makes me feel very aligned and like i'm sharing my life's wisdom with you. with that being said, I hope you enjoy today's soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend

if you find it cringe or challenging to promote your own work, this soul session will SPEAK to you. today we completely REFRAME AND RECLAIM promotion, breaking it down to its roots and paradigm shifting our understanding. connected to nature and service. In this episode you will learn: Why self-promotion feels so uncomfy How we can reframe “pro-motion” by breaking it down Why pro-motion is key to nature How refusing to promote our work can block other people's expansion My current experience with fearing promoting my coaching services Time stamps:  (01:04): the evolutionary roots of our shame (03:42): reframing pro-motion  (08:06): nature & motion (10:45): my own example of coaching (16:00): blocking motion  (17:43): what you seek is seeking you I hope you enjoy today's soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend

today's soul session is a spiritual perspective on why you fear your own success. if you're like me, you are both drawn to and repelled by your dreams. they are at once enticing and terrifying. in today's soul session we explore a paradoxical fear that many of us face whenever we confront our dreams and desires. but in the typical style of this podcast, we are going to unfold a deep and spiralling web of ideas such as: What do God/source/the universe have to do with the fear of success? Why do we associate power to evil? How can we separate toxic/destructive examples of power from loving/constructive versions of it? Why is nature the answer to reclaiming our power? AND... My own experience with cultural grief and shame I hope you enjoy today's soul session. stay tuned for more, and if you feel called to, please share it with a friend or your community. i love you ✨

in today's episode we talk about the deep state of consciousness that being LOST entails, rather than the inferior state it represents in the western imagination. I frame this in terms of colonial consciousness which privileges "clarity, direction, Knowing, confidence" vs. the deeper truth of the universe, nature, and indigenous consciousness, which embrace chaos, magic, cyclical time, and humility in the face of the unknown and unknowability of all truths of the universe. At the same time, I am sending love as I know being lost feels deeply uncomfortable and isolating. An update episode on the name change is coming soon angels! WORK WITH ME:  Pov: you are a spiritual soul with a powerful voice and message that you dream of sharing with the world. You are here to serve the collective and the divine through the gift of your voice and ability to channel wisdom and insights. When it comes to sharing that voice on social media to find your dream audience, community, and clients, you often feel blocked by perfectionism, fear of judgment & being cancelled, self-doubt, and lack of trust in your voice. You want to quantum leap into the version of you that is taking up SPACE, speaking your truth, and opening up your throat chakra. Work with me one-on-one and let's get your voice shared with the world. Visit www.ayandastood.com/coaching TIMESTAMPS (01:15): Western imagination (06:26): What we gain from being lost (12:30): Birth and Death in life (17:50): Lost in isolation (19:30): The God of the Self (22:18): Finding teachers & surrendering (24:30): Spiritual awakening (32:08): The universe is always inviting us SOURCES MENTIONED:  Essay: Heavy, difficult emotions are important to face & only overwhelming when carried alone by Dr. Ayesha Khan Book: The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts Substack: The Unpublishable by Jessica DeFino Podcast: The Highest Self Podcast by Sahara Rose Episode: 16: Industrialized vs. spiritual Beauty by me ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

we are becoming FEAR ALCHEMISTS in 2024. hi darlings! in this episode I am giving a MasterClass on moving through and BEYOND the fear of being cringe/embarrassing/shameful online. this is a deep wound that many of us carry: fear of being cancelled, ridiculed, dragged, rejected, or criticized. it stops us from sharing ourselves, promoting our work, art, and services, and opening ourselves up to the LOVING POSSIBILITIES that exist for us through the global portal that is the internet. i have faced this pain (both the fear and the experience) and sat with it and soothed and nurtured, it still lives in me but it is now in a place where i can alchemize it into wisdom, grounded in a collective understanding of creativity and healing. so i wanted to speak to this pain and give us some mindset and perspective shifts on how we can TRANSFORM the fear of being cringe into posting through the fear and embarrassment, with love for ourselves and for the people seeking our voices, art, services, and perspectives. Affirmation: THE WORLD NEEDS Y(OUR) VOICE/ART/GIFTS/CREATIONS JUST! AS! THEY! ARE! ☎️ seeking advice and want to phone in with a question? ⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠

in this episode we are calling in ease, flow, pleasure, and love in the experience of creating rather than as a reward. i talk about releasing the tension i've been carrying, the love i am feeling from all of YOU, the magical masterclass experience I had this Sunday with some of you, and end off with reflective questions that can assist us as we create with more pleasure and ease in 2024.

hiii sunshines, happy new year! i'm hosting a masterclass on facing FEAR within the creative process — which manifests in many ways (perfectionism, procrastination, avoidance, setting impossible goals/standards, feeling stuck in research mode, being terrified of judgment & criticism, not feeling talented/"creative"/young/old enough, fear of being seen AND fear of being ignored) on Sunday January 21 with everything i've learned and wish i knew sooner about facing these demons. 

today's episode is all about embracing POSSIBILITY as an abundant energy that can unlock itself even further. possibility, and moving through the world with the openness, expansiveness and abundance mindset it invites us into, is a beautiful self-fulfilling prophecy. unfortunately, impossibility works the same way. i discuss some of the ways the energy of possibility has affected my friendships, and unpack four related areas full of possibilities: conflict, romantic relationships, creativity, and social change. we also get into other things (like we always do) such as soulnliness vs. resonating with the people around you, delusion, wholeness, and more. if you are calling in more possibilities at this stage of your life — this episode is for you. I also share an exciting announcement in this episode about a special opportunity to work with me 1:1 through my creative coaching container, launching in January 2024. Stay tuned for more details in the coming weeks.

if toxic, eurocentric beauty standards won't let you rest: this episode is for you. i made a tiktok (620K views) about this idea in June that people resonated with, and so I decided to make an episode about it. let's unpack how Beauty is a form of alienation from ourselves — and from each other. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love.

many of us feel plagued by a deep-seated unworthiness ingrained in us by society and culture. at a fundamental level, we are convinced there is a lot wrong with us. part of this suffering comes from a society that reduces us to the level of its own distorted and violent view of reality, rooted in colonial and capitalist imaginations. in today's part 2 of our conversation on our infinite worth and power, I asked ChatGPT: why are we irreducible to any one given aspect of our lives? Here are my 7 favorite reasons it came up with, and my reflections on each. if you haven't watched part 1, you can do so here. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love. 

we all face a deep unworthiness and are convinced there is something (or a lot) fundamentally wrong with us. this episode unpacks why you can't be reduced to any one given aspect of your being or experience, or what society projects onto you and you in turn internalize as your own (eg, Beauty according to the colonial paradigm). you are infinite, complex, and multi-dimensional. you are love. you are divine. you are a multidimensional being forced to over identify with a one-dimensional identity that will reproduce the social order. you are not your productivity, your job, your social status, your “success”. you are not your failures, regrets, or mistakes. you are not the chapter of life that you are currently in. you are not what you fixate on about yourself. what if you are love? what if you are more complex, deep, layered, and awe-inspiring than the reality you've been given will ever let you see or understand? i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love

if you've ever felt that the same sensitivity that makes you drawn to creative work also makes you TERRIFIED of starting, finishing or sharing yours — this episode is for you. the irony of this episode is more than i can express to you — leading up to this episode as well as in editing it, i faced so much shame and fear and avoidance in creating this episode out and accepting it as it is. i feel there's so much more to say and so much i wish i had said differently. but i'm telling myself that voice in my head is a LIAR, and i'm choosing to let it be. i want to let this episode become a seed within you as we co-create this experience. thank you today and always for being here on this journey with me. i hope that you receive my offering, and i hope my words take the shape of some of your wounds today.i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love

Congo is currently undergoing a silent genocide. We are lifting our voices for the people of DRC. This episode is my imperfect attempt to amplify the ongoing situation in Congo, and share the 5 greatest lessons I learned from a book I read in light of the moment we are in called Cobalt Red: How the Blood of the Congo Powers Our Lives by Siddharth Kara. In this episode, I also read an overview of what's happening in the Northern Kivu regions where militia groups are massacring, exploiting, and sexually assaulting Congolese people. Free Congo, Free Sudan, Free Palestine, Free Haiti, and free all nations and peoples suffering under colonial, capitalist, supremacist, and military violence.

hi my loves. i recorded this episode a few weeks ago. it's all about prioritizing sustainability in your creative and life pursuits, rather than burning out on impossible demands of yourself. what's the easiest and smallest version of this goal or dream or desire i have, and how can i make promises that feel sustainable to keep? i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love

as a Black South African, my existence and freedom today are only possible because of the liberation efforts of anti-apartheid revolutionaries like Steve Biko, Winnie Mandela, Chris Hani, and Nelson Mandela. all of these people were labeled terrorists by the apartheid government and international community. like Israel, the USA and UK financially supported the South African apartheid government (until it was no longer popular to). after many attempts at non-violent protest, the ANC had to turn to armed struggle. they found that there was no other call for justice and freedom for Black South Africans that would be heeded. this is the case in all liberation struggles. the violence that was used to oppose the apartheid regime in South Africa can not be put on equal footing with the extreme violence of apartheid itself, and must always be viewed in its proper context: an attempt by an indigenous people to be free from the militarized and everyday terror of a white supremacist apartheid state. the same is true for Palestine, with respect to Zionism. ⁠decolonization is not a metaphor.⁠ when we see thorns of violence, and when they pierce our skin, we must look at them and consider: if i am against this thorn, i must acknowledge that this thorn has a stem, this stem has a root, and if i am not against the root of violence, suffering, and terror that gave this thorn life and made its existence not only possible but inevitable, I cannot in good conscience claim to be against violence at all.  colonialism and imperialism are the root of all structural violence; are the true terrors against humanity and this earth, so normalized and so protected that to condemn them is to be labeled with words only appropriate for the militarized forces of the world that create the most heinous, and organized forms of violence we as human beings have ever been made to experience and witness. this is an episode in solidarity with my Palestinian siblings, suffering under the weight of an oppressive regime. Free Palestine — free every colonized people from imperialism and colonialism, from bombs, raids, checkpoints, seiges, humiliation, terror, blockades, forced removals, occupations, prisons, slavery, and exploitation. re-indigenize this earth so that peace, community, and love can be returned to the center of human life on this precious planet. DONATE:  Medical Aid for Palestinians is on the ground in Gaza where they are working to stock hospitals with essential drugs,disposables and other healthcare supplies. Palestine Children's Relief Fund is the primary humanitarian organization in Palestine. They deliver crucial, life-saving medical relief and humanitarian aid on the ground The World Food Program has been distributing fresh bread, canned food and ready-to-eat food to those who sought refuge in United Nations Relief and Works Agency shelters in Gaza Doctors Without Borders is providing support to hospitals and health facilities in Gaza UNRWA is providing medical support, trauma relief, and food assistance on the ground in Gaza LEARN:  Decolonize Palestine has an overview, myth database, and reading list. Support their Patreon here SOURCES MENTIONED: Video: Why Hamas Attacked Israel - And What's Next For Gaza by Dena Takruri for AJ+ Paper: Decolonization is not a metaphor by Eve Tuck and K. Wayne Poem: Refugee by Mahmoud Darwish Essay: My Palestinian Poem that “The New Yorker” Wouldn't Publish by Fady Joudah Poem: Shades of Anger by Rafeef Ziadah Poem: HADEEL by Rafeef Ziadah Poem: The Shelling Ended by Najwan Darwish Poem: My Sixteen-Year-Old Mother by Ahlam Bsharat Documentary: Oceans of Injustice Essay: Poetry is Not a Luxury by Audre Lorde --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ayandastood/support

welcome to ACT 2 of our convo on longing for a romantic relationship and what wisdom we can learn from this longing. In this episode, I read you a love poems, invite you to define romance for yourself, and share my pov on what romance means to me, and how it can be accessed through friendship. I am sending you love, today and always.

today we are talking about longing for romantic relationship and what wisdom we can derive from this longing. how can we integrate rather than suppress our romantic longing? what else can it be channeled into? what does our longing have to say to us, and are we listening? we'll be leaning on works like bell hooks' Communion and Audre Lorde's Uses of the Erotic. This is part 1 of a 2 part series. stay tuned for next episode where we will be discussing things like: romantic friendship, the media we consume, and reimagining where we can find love and desire in our lives. sending all my love to you today, sunshine. 

if you've ever desperately tried to prove yourself to others or to yourself, this episode is for you. today we are discussing the underlying paradoxes and unmet needs at play when we are in the zone of trying to prove and justify ourselves. tldr: you deserve to pursue things irrespective of the outcome; the people meant for you will love you irrespective of your "success" (which itself is a cultural myth); sometimes proving ourselves is a cry for love; when we cling to the need to prove ourselves, we allow our sense of self to be swallowed by other people's and society's expectations of us. Time stamps (03:56): The paradox of proving ourselves (13:15): Attaching our worth to the outcome (17:17): Sacrificing the magic of the process (23:02): Losing ourselves (25:40): Lack of genuine support  (30:02): Self-denial (33:30): Journaling questions (34:13): Write a letter to yourself  ☎️ seeking advice and want to phone in with a question? submit a voicemail here (https://www.speakpipe.com/ayandastood) 

If you obsess over planning things instead of letting them unfold naturally, this episode is for you! Join me as we explore the notion and paradox of Becoming. Let's release the illusion of control, and let the seed of your ideas and your relationships grow into what they wish to become. Nourishing the seed is meaningful and necessary — trying to control and define its possibilities may not be. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. 

today we are digging deeper into my own creative fear — why and how I fear cancellation, my experience with it thus far, and what I tell myself in the face of this fear.