Stories of Divorce Resiliency

In this final episode for Season 4, Certified Divorce Coach® Mary Ann Hughes shares her insight and expertise on how to best navigate a divorce when there are special needs kids as part of the family system. Mary Ann shares her own experience with parenting her special needs children while going through her divorce and how she turned that experience into a business to help others. Any listeners who are facing the daunting task of going through a divorce and are worried about their special needs kids will benefit from this episode. Mary Ann Hughes, proud mom of boys on the autism spectrum who successfully advocated for her sons' needs during her complex divorce, became a Special Needs Divorce Coach and founded Special Family Transitions in order to help families navigate the overwhelm and complexities of special needs divorce. Combining her experience and certifications as a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, Life Coach, member of The National Association of Divorce Professionals, graduate of LoneStar LEND Leadership Education in Autism and Neurodevelopmental Disabilities program, MBA, and years special needs advocacy, Mary Ann is committed to help guide families with loved ones with disabilities through divorce challenges and transitions.Mary Ann can be reached at maryann@specialfamilytransitions.com and via the links below:Special Family Transitions websiteSpecial Family Transitions Facebook PageSpecial Family Transitions on Instagram YouTubeTikTokLinkedInLink to ecourseOther resources:LoneStar LEND SLP webinar recording, Self Care and Advice to Help Children with Neurodevelopmental Disabilities during Divorce, presented by Dr. Karen JaggersLoneStar LEND SLP webinar, Strategies to Support Neurodiverse Children during Divorce webinar on 2/16/22, presented by Dr. Michelle Forrester

In this episode, Sherry chats with financial expert Stacy Francis with Francis Financial about the important financial matters to consider during the divorce process. Stacy conducted a survey of over 150 women, and based on that research, is able to provide the listener with common pitfalls to avoid when going through the divorce process.  Are you aware that 80% of women will end up managing their own finances later in life because of death of their spouse or divorce?  This episode is important for all women to listen to, not just divorcing women. Stacy Francis is the President and CEO of Francis Financial: a fee-only, boutique, wealth management and financial planning firm dedicated to improving women's lives through financial and personal empowerment. The firm provides ongoing comprehensive advice for individuals and couples and specializes in helping widows and divorcing or divorcedwomen. Stacy is also the founder of the non-profit, Savvy LadiesTM which helps and provides resources to all women.Stacy is a Certified Financial PlannerTM (CFP®), Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®), Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® and Certified Estate and Trust Specialist (CESTM) with over 20 years of experience in the financial industry. She is the host of the Financially Ever After podcast, and the author of Financial Help for Widows: A Complete Resource Guide as well as Unveiling the Unspoken Truth: The Financial Challenges Women Face During and After Divorce.She is a nationally recognized financial expert being one of twenty of the nation's leading wealth managers on CNBC's Digital Financial Advisor Council, a member of the Forbes Finance Council, as well as an expert contributor for The Wall Street Journal. She has appeared in hundreds of media outlets and has received numerous industry awards, among them, Forbes Top Women Wealth Advisors, Investopedia's 100 Top Wealth Advisors, Investment News Top 20 Women to Watch in the United States and Financial Planning Magazine's Pro Bono Award.The Institute of Divorce Financial Analysts – A resource for CDFAs near you. Find a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) Professionals (institutedfa.com)www.SavvyLadies.org- We have hundreds of free webinars about divorce and money for women. We also have a free financial helpline with over 150 financial expert volunteers with many who are Certified Divorce Financial Analysts.Financially Ever After Podcast – A Child's Perspective on Divorce - Financially Ever After: A Child's Perspective On Divorce (libsyn.com)White Paper Unveiling the Unspoken Truth: The Financial Challenges Women Face During and After Divorce#divorce #divorcesupport #divorced #coparenting #separation #divorcerecovery #divorceadvice #narcissist #divorcedmom #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #divorcehelp #lifeafterdivorce #childcustody #custody #childsupport #toxicrelationships #divorcedlife  #singlemom   #gaslighting  #divorcecommunity #narcissisticabusesurvivor #breakups #divorceddad #blendedfamily #divorcedparents #narcissism #divorcedwomen #survivingdivorce #divorcetips 

In this episode, Sherry chats with Sherrae Lacchu about lessons she learned in her personal life that informed how she works with her clients about the importance of differentiation in relationships. Sherry and Sherrae discuss how differentiation is the opposite of codependency and can lead to healthier boundaries, less resentment and a stronger sense of personal identity when in a relationship. Sherrae Lachhu is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) who is committed to empowering individuals to be the best versions of themselves in life, love, and business through counseling, coaching, and consulting. She is the founder and co-owner of Love and Acceptance, LLC which is equally composed of individuals and couples. Whether working with couples or individuals, the work she does is always centered on identity, authenticity, and empowerment. Love and Acceptance websiteTwitter, Facebook, Instagram: @sherraelacchuFreebies:Journaling Prompts for Self DiscoveryHow to Love Yourself First Workbook#divorce #divorcesupport #divorced #coparenting #separation #divorcerecovery #divorceadvice #narcissist #divorcedmom #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #divorcehelp #lifeafterdivorce #childcustody #custody #childsupport #toxicrelationships #divorcedlife  #singlemom   #gaslighting  #divorcecommunity #narcissisticabusesurvivor #breakups #divorceddad #blendedfamily #divorcedparents #narcissism #divorcedwomen #survivingdivorce #divorcetips

In this episode, family law attorney Irene King, who started her career in litigation, shares why she has revolutionized her practice to one that focuses exclusively on collaborative divorce. Irene brings a unique perspective to the listener as she shares her personal experience as a divorce attorney who's parents went through a divorce after 45 years of marriage, and how this experience changed her view on how divorce should be handled.Irene King is an experienced Collaborative divorce lawyer, NC Board Certified Specialist in Family Law and certified Family Financial Mediator.  She educates and empowers clients on how to divorce with respect and dignity without going to court.  In 2015, after engaging in divorce warfare for over a decade, Irene stopped litigating completely and founded King Collaborative Family Law, where she has a fully out of court practice and compassionately guides clients through the divorce process to resolve all conflict and issues with her clients' most important goals in mind, especially when children are involved.  There are so many benefits of having a Collaborative divorce that one of Irene's goals is to ensure that one day Collaborative will be the first choice for families in transition and adversarial litigation will be the last resort. 

Dr. Tara Egan is a child and adolescent therapist, a parent coach, an author, and the host of a parenting podcast called "One Day You'll Thank Me," which is just beginning its third season. She is the owner of a private practice called Charlotte Parent Coaching, located in Charlotte, NC.  She also offers online resources, bi-monthly free parenting webinars, and public speaking services to parents and educators. In this episode, Sherry and Dr. Egan advise on co-parenting with an ex-spouse. Difficult in the best of circumstances, co-parenting can seem overwhelming or even impossible in the case of a high conflict divorce.  Dr. Egan provides tips to encourage both parents to prioritize the best interests of the children so they can grow to become productive, emotionally regulated, and happy people.  With the right tools, your high conflict divorce can become a more calm and friendly co-parenting relationship.Tara Egan, LCMHCA, D.Ed.WebsiteInstagramFacebookYouTubePodcastDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsite or to book a coaching session onlineDivorce Resiliency BookThe Successful Cp-Parenting WorkbookFacebook PageInstagram- @divorce_resiliencyYouTube ChannelDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

In this fascinating episode, Sherry chats with Roy Biancalana, certified relationship coach and nationally recognized expert in the field of attraction and conscious relationships. Sherry and Roy discuss the common mistakes people make in trying attract love into their lives and how these mistakes can lead to frustration and a feeling of hopelessness in relationships. Roy shares how  taking ownership for one's role in repeating negative relationship patterns is an important first step in raising  consciousness in order to attract healthy, lasting love into one's life. Sherry and Roy touch on the Law of Attraction as well as the Attachment Theory and the importance of understanding one's attachment style and the impact it has on how one shows up in relationships. If you are hoping to "do it right" the next time around, you don't want to miss this episode!For the past 15 years, Roy has been supporting single people in the art of attracting healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships.  His experience has taught him that getting in "relationship shape" is the key to attracting lasting love. Roy works privately with individuals, but he also offers 6-week group coaching programs that provide many of the benefits of private coaching at a fraction of the cost.  Roy is also the author of three #1 best-selling books, the latest of which is Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love and the Pursuit of Intimacy.Roy can be found via the links below:Website: Coaching with RoyTwitter: @coachingwithroyFacebook: Roy Biancalana

In this episode, Sherry chats with fellow CDC Certified Divorce Coach® Andra Davidson about how you communicate with your spouse during the divorce process can have a huge impact on how the process goes for the whole family.  Andra uses her previous experience to help people pre-plan a strategy for communicating so clients can feel more assured that they have a plan for when they feel overwhelmed.Andra Davidson is a Certified Divorce Coach®️ and communications expert working with anxious and overwhelmed clients to create and utilize emotion-free communication throughout the divorce process. Clear, effective communication helps clients achieve their divorce goals, set healthy boundaries and rediscover the strength, resilience and courage needed to successfully transition into their best Phase 2.Andra's website: Compass Rose Divorce CoachCoparenting appsOur Family WizardCozi2HousesPeaceful Coparent

In this episode, Hilda Dumont, LMFT with Apricity Counseling PLLC shares information she has gathered from her years of experience working as an in-home therapist.  Hilda has worked with families who are dealing with all types of transition. In her warm, empathetic demeanor Hilda informs the listener on her tips and best practices for helping your child move through the transition of divorce using the LUV technique. Hilda and Sherry also discuss examples of how well-meaning, overwhelmed parents can handle things poorly while providing concrete tools on how best to support your child.Hilda Dumont is a bilingual Marriage and Family Therapist. She has been working with adolescents and families for over 10 years. Hilda has recently opened her own private practice, Apricity Counseling Services, offering virtual psychotherapy in the state of North Carolina. Hilda particularly enjoys helping teens and young adults tackle their difficulties so they can develop into confident and self-reliant individuals.Hilda can be found via her website Apricity Counseling Services or on FB at @APCounselingNC

In this episode, Sherry chats with Karen McMahon about how to become resilient after a high conflict divorce. Karen  is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce.  She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into an incredible new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce.  Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility” and creator of JBD's exclusive 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program. Here is the link to Karen's website: Journey Beyond DivorceHere are links to Karen's social media and podcast:FacebookInstagramPodcast

In this episode, Greta shares her incredibly inspirational story that started by being shocked when her seemingly happy marriage was shattered by infidelity. Greta shares her healing journey that started after  her husband left her for his affair partner. She discusses how time and distance helped her realize how she wasn't really that happy in her marriage.  Greta is a Management Consulting Director focused on Data and Analytics for a Big 4 consulting firm based in Charlotte, NC. She has embarked on quite a journey over the past 5 years! An abrupt divorce 5 years ago served as one of a handful of epiphany moments that have led her to reexamine her life goals and reshape herself and her vision for long term happiness. Since then, she has been focused on living a full life very intentionally and has successfully navigated a substantial health journey in the process. Here are the links to the resources Greta shares in this episode:BBC Documentary – “Eat, Fast & Live LongerHow We Get SickObesity CodeRunaway Husbands

In this episode, family mediator and coparent coach Denise Banks talks about how shifting your thinking about your relationship with your former spouse can play a role in establishing a  healthy coparenting relationship. Denise Banks-Wilson is a divorce & family mediator and coparent coach. Much to her shock, on the day she completed her divorce mediation certification program, her husband asked for a divorce.  During what became the most challenging time in her life, Denise found herself helping other hurting individuals as they went through their divorce.  Denise took to heart the strategies she was sharing with her clients and through her work with them, she became a survivor. Denise has worked in the divorce and co-parenting arena since 2006.  Over 4500 individuals have attended her Positive Coparenting workshop and she's conducted over 350 family mediations.  At the time of her divorce, Denise was the coparent mom of three, including a 14yr. old son. They became survivors too.  You can learn more about Denise at:Family Journey MediationShe can also be found on FB and Instagram @Family Journey Mediation.

In this episode, Sherry shares her best practices to shift your thinking on Valentine's Day and use it as a way to express all kinds of love, while creating ritual and intention to draw more love into your life.  This episode is short but it packs a powerful punch! In this episode, Sherry also announces her new book "The Successful Co-Parenting Workbook", available to pre-order now.  See the link below to order.Sherry Smith, LMFT, CDC® is a licensed psychotherapist, coach, author and speaker. Sherry has made the commitment to promote a non-adversarial divorce environment that is sensitive to the family system. She is also skilled at inspiring hope and purpose for people as they begin to step into an unknown future. Find her on Instagram or Facebook @divorceresiliency or visit her website www.divorceresiliency.com.The Successful Co-Parenting WorkbookThe History of Valentine's Day

This is an encore episode from Season 1 and the most downloaded of all episodes for this podcast.  In this episode, Sherry's guest is Breta Collins, MA, LMFT.  Breta is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private practice in the Charlotte, NC area.  She works from an attachment-based perspective and is trained in trauma resolution therapy and narcissistic relationship abuse. Breta supports couples experiencing relationship ambivalence, infidelity recovery, and communication issues, individuals who are recovering from toxic relationships, men dealing with midlife discontent and crisis, and people experiencing life transitions.Sherry and Breta have an in-depth discussion about narcissism, the difference between narcissistic traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (there is a spectrum), and how to thrive after getting out of a relationship with a narcissistic partner. Breta's website: Dilworth CounselingFacebook  @Breta M. Collins, MA, LMFTIG: @dilworthcounseling

In this podcast episode, Sherry welcomes back Karmic Astrologer Susan Reynolds.  Susan shares with the listener how the planetary energy of 2022 is different from 2020 or 2021. She also gives examples of how this energy might play out.  Susan has such warm, bubbly personality and delivers her information with compassion and kindness. If you have an interest in astrology, you will love this episode!Susan has been an astrologer, spiritual healer and spiritual teacher for the last 38 years, bringing her unique style of astrology reading to her many national and international clients. Believing that the mystical and practical should work together, Susan combines her psychic skills with her astrological knowledge to give her clients a one-of-a-kind reading. In lectures and workshops, she shares her joy of learning with her students, making spiritual subjects come alive. Over the years Susan's skills have developed to the point she now teaches the knowledge and wisdom she has worked with for decades. Believing that everyone can work with the same principles she does, Susan offers classes and workshops to help people develop their own unique gifts.  Susan has been featured on WCCB news and is the current president of The Council of Esoteric Professionals. Please note that the information and predictions shared in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and should not be viewed as financial or medical advice. Link to Susan's website Explore AstrologyIG: #susanreynoldsexploreastrologyFB #Explore Astrology with Susan Reynolds

In this episode Sherry chats with Lori Saitz about her personal journey to create more satisfaction and fulfillment in her life.  Following her divorce, she took a leap of faith and moved across country. Already an entrepreneur, she decided to turn her natural gifts of coaching others into a business and developed a 3-prong approach in her coaching practice that includes connection, gratitude and courage. This episode will benefit anyone who is ready to leave "fine" behind and create a more fulfilling life for themselves. Lori Saitz is the CEO of Zen Rabbit and host of the podcast “FINE is a 4-Letter Word.” She's an award-winning writer, speaker, and broadcaster. And a nationally recognized expert in using gratitude and meditation as shortcuts to success. The most difficult thing she's ever done is leave a 22-year marriage. That experience inspired her transformational F*ck Being Fine program. Through it, she guides corporate teams and private clients who are finished living in a dumpster fire, to a place of unprecedented clarity, peace, and productivity. When she's not working, you can find Lori in her sanctuary, aka the weight room at the gym. She also loves cupcakes, Thai food and classic rock music.Lori can be reached via her website zenrabbit or on Instagram @zen_rabbit

In this episode, LaQuita Fergerson shares how following her intuition after her divorce led her to move across the country, reclaim her identity, and heal her body from a Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis. LaQuita has a warm, soothing energy that the listener is sure to appreciate.  This episode is helpful for anyone who is considering making  major life changes in their divorce recovery or is looking for inspiration on how making the mind/body connection can help in the healing process.LaQuita Simone Fergerson is a Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach with a passion for resilience, mindfulness, and emotional intelligence. Her published blog,  "Bitter to Better" chronicles her journey to healing from divorce while conquering Multiple Sclerosis. She's been featured on Blackdoctor.org and is currently writing her first book - a memoir of healing trauma with conscious and unconscious reprogramming to create the life you love. Find out more about LaQuita at https://laquitasimone.com/

This episode is sure to resonate with  listeners who want to address in the new year their  pattern of self-medicating their feelings with food and, thus, find that sustainable weight loss is elusive to them.  Sherry and Sherri discuss how addressing negative core beliefs and looking at the emotions that drive unhealthy eating are crucial to achieve lasting weight loss. Sherri Clarke, MS, RD, LDN is a registered dietitian who helps her clients transform their relationship with food and ultimately lose weight.  Sherri starts by focusing on WHY you eat versus a traditional dietitian approach that focuses on WHAT you eat.  Sherri works with her clients to uncover the root causes of where their relationship with food got off track and gives practical tools to identify and change unwanted behaviors.  You can find Sherri on IG, FB and YouTube @Sherri Clarke Nutrition or via her website at sherriclarkenutrition.com. Yale Food Addiction Online Test

In this podcast episode, Sherry chats with therapist and Certified Divorce Coach® Mindy Walder.  Mindy was married to someone closely associated with someone famous and has been divorced for 10-years. She talks about how she can look back and see her codependent patterns early on in her divorce process.  She discusses the importance of clear boundaries in navigating a coparenting relationship with your former spouse, even if the relationship is amicable.  The listener is sure to enjoy Mindy's warm effervescent personality.  This episode is helpful for anyone who is early on in the divorce process and would like to hear from someone who has gained wisdom from her experience post-divorce. Mindy Walder (She/Her) is a therapist and coach working to help others find the connection between healing, personal accountability and social transformation. Mindy began her practice 10 years ago serving marginalized teenagers by helping them learn to cope within the systems that failed them. There, she honed her skills in conflict resolution techniques and self-care practices, which later served her practice as a transformation counselor/coach. Mindy's current work centers specifically around individuals who are navigating the process of divorce—at any stage therein. She helps clients realign action with values to best care for (and protect) themselves and their children in this challenging time of emotional and physical upheaval. Mindy holds an M.S. in Counseling Psychology and is a Certified Divorce Coach®. She holds a certificate from the Mindsight Institute, having studied with Jack Kornfield and Dan Seigel the relationship between neuroscience and Buddhist/mindfulness practices.Mindy currently lives in Los Angeles, CA with her two teenage children and goldendoodle, Leona. In her spare time, she is writing a middle grade fiction series, called Parissma. Mindy's website www.mindywaldercoaching.com is currently under construction and will be active again in January, 2022. She can reached at mindyhelaine@icloud.com to book an appointment and is taking new clients over zoom.Links to coparenting appsOur Family WizardCoziPeaceful Parenting

In this episode, Dr. Aleida Heinz discusses how divorce can be an opportunity to examine how emotional connection has an impact on the sexual experience in relationships.  Dr. Heinz shares her own experience with her divorce and describes how she took the time to grieve the loss and do the work on herself so she could show up in a healthier way in her 2nd marriage, which ultimately led to a more satisfying sex life. She helps you do the same in this episode as well as in her book "Make Love 365 Times a Year: 7 Sex Secrets for a Passionate Love Life". Dr. Heinz holds a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, Master's degree in Sexology and Couple Clinical Counseling, and a BS in Family Science & Psychology. Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Counselor by The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), and member of the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS). She has over 20 years of experience with individuals and couples. Private Practice in Charlotte NC and online. Author of "Make Love 365 Times a Year: 7 Sex Secrets for a Passionate Love Life".She has been married twice. Happily divorced in 2000 after 12 years of marriage with 3 children, at age 34. This was followed by 10 years of happy single life. She married second time in 2010 in the USA to someone she had a crush on at age 12 Now happily married for 11 years at age 56, and still making love 365 times a year... Dr Heinz has a boy 29 years old living in Germany, a boy 27 years old living in the USA, and a girl 25 years old living in Spain. And, a 1 year old dog...her new baby! Find out more about Dr. Heinz here: Dr. Aleida Heiz

In this encore episode from Season 1, Noam shares the importance of healthy masculinity and the male perspective of grief as well as how the Mankind Project helped him with his own grieving process.  He shares his unique perspective on the importance of using religious ritual one might already be familiar with in honoring the death of a loved one to help bring closure at the end of a marriage. Noam Raucher is a coach of many colors. Noam is a divorce coach and offers men and dads, who are going through the haze of divorce and feel abandoned, a holistic: mind, body, and soul approach for going through major transitions in their lives with a teammate, confidence, and strategy.  In addition to that, Noam works with men individually and in small groups to build a life full of integrity, accountability, and emotional intelligence free of shame or judgement. Noam is also an ordained rabbi and trained educator and offers spiritual coaching to all who are seeking it. Whether that be through personal challenges, relationship struggles with family or intimate partners, and parenting. Noam has training in grief counseling, pastoral care, and process and emotional support group facilitation. Noam is a proud father, avid hiker, and is learning how to moonwalk without falling on his face. For more information on Noam, visit his website https://rabbiraucher.com. Links from this episode:Mankind ProjectNoam Raucher

In this episode, Sherry chats with sex addiction expert David Sanchez, LCHMC, CSAT.  David, in his warm, empathetic way discusses what sex addiction looks like and how he assesses for it. He talks about how sex addiction differs from serial cheating. David discusses various types of addiction and the difference between substance and process addictions. This episode is helpful for anyone who wonders if they or their partner might be struggling with any type of substance use disorder or addiction, not just sex addiction. David Sanchez, is the founder and owner of a thriving group private practice, Charlotte Counseling Associates and is  happily married with 12 and 1/2 year old twins in the Charlotte, NC area. David  leads a team of dynamic, caring and seasoned therapists who assist him with his specializations of sex addiction/compulsive behaviors, infidelity, trauma work, anxiety disorders, men's assertiveness, couples work, and faith-based counseling (upon request).  David has a specialization and passion with working with adult men who are struggling with sexual addictive or compulsive behaviors and men that have a hard time saying "no", meeting their needs, being assertive, and being able to communicate in a vulnerable and authentic way David is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, a certified sex addiction therapist, and has advanced training in  EMDR, Experiential Therapy and Brainspotting.Resources for sex addiction and partners of sex addiction:Sex Addicts Anonymoushttps://saa-recovery.orgS-Anon (for partners and family member of sex addiction)https://sanon.orgSAMHSA hotlinehttps://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineFind a Certified Sex Addiction Therapisthttps://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

In this fascinating episode, Sherry welcomes back Breta Collins.  Breta breaks down infidelity into types to help the listener identify which type they might be dealing with in their own relationship.  Breta also talks about how recovery can happen based on type and when recovery might not be possible. Helpful for anyone dealing with infidelity who might be feeling lost and confused on where to go from here in the marriage or relationship. Breta Collins, MA, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private practice in the Charlotte, NC area.  She works from an attachment-based perspective and is trained in trauma resolution therapy and narcissistic relationship abuse. Breta supports couples experiencing relationship ambivalence, infidelity recovery, and communication issues, individuals who are recovering from toxic relationships, men dealing with midlife discontent and crisis, and people experiencing life transitions.

In this episode, Sherry shares the actionable steps to take in your divorce recovery in order to create a happy and fulfilling life post-divorce.  Not only has Sherry helped hundreds of clients achieve happiness as they embark on their next chapter, but she has lived it herself! Divorce is incredibly painful. On the other side of any painful experience is opportunity. No one tells you that divorce leaves you with a blank slate from which you can create your new life on your own terms.  It starts today!Sherry Smith, LMFT, CDC® is a licensed psychotherapist, coach, author and speaker. Sherry has made the commitment to promote a non-adversarial divorce environment that is sensitive to the family system. She is also skilled at inspiring hope and purpose for people as they begin to step into an unknown future. Find her on Instagram or Facebook @divorceresiliency or visit her website www.divorceresiliency.com.

In this episode, Sherry has a conversation with Beverly Shoemaker. Beverly shares her inspirational story of resiliency from trauma. After the divorces of her 1st and 2nd marriages, Beverly lost her son in a tragic car accident. This was followed by the suicide of her 3rd husband. After a period of healing, Beverly was able to find lasting love and happiness in her 4th marriage. Beverly discusses how sharing her story with military veterans combined with connecting with her faith has helped her heal.  This episode is beneficial to anyone who has been divorced more than once and wants hope that lasting love is available to them or anyone who has experienced the loss of a close family member. Beverly is the creator and host of the Resilient Heart Podcast. She is a published blogger, resilience mentor, and inspirational speaker.  Beverly is no stranger to adversity. After losing a husband to suicide and her son in a drunk driving crash, she wanted to give up. She battled depression and discouragement, loneliness and pain, yet she persevered and ultimately found hope. Now she seeks to share that hope with others.  Beverly can be found at www.beverlyshoemaker.com.  Information on her podcast can be found at https://theresilientheartpodcast.com

In this episode, Sherry interviews codependency expert Sheila Maitland, LCMHCS, CSAT. Sheila helps the listener gain clarity on exactly what codependency is and how it can be misconstrued for being needy with a partner, when, conversely, it can present itself as quite the opposite.  Sheila explains that, oftentimes, one can be highly successful professionally while being codependent in their relationships. She discusses the root of where this comes from in the family of origin to help the listener identify if they have codependent patterns in their relationships.  Helpful to anyone who wants to show up in a healthier way in all their relationships, not just their primary relationship.Sheila has been working with individuals, couples,  groups and  families for more than 20 years. With a focus on addiction and co-addiction, Sheila works with her clients to discover the cause of their pain, uncover trauma and heal these wounds. Sheila is a Supervisor and consulting therapist to the nationally recognized Onsite Workshops, and has enjoyed being a part of the organization throughout her career. She is also a Certified Daring Way Facilitator which means she's certified in Brene Brown's work and leads groups dealing with shame, resilience and worthiness.Sheila's practice is in Matthews, NC. Sheila enjoys a rich marriage and family life with her husband, son and Golden Retriever.

In this episode, Sherry chats with Dr. George Bitar with Connect Couple's Therapy. Dr. Bitar shares his experience  working with couples and helps identify qualities in the couple dynamic that indicate there is hope in the marriage. He talks about the importance of making bids for connection in order to create a stronger emotional connection.  Helpful for anyone who is experiencing marriage ambiguity or wants to marry again and do it right this time!George W. Bitar, Ph.D., LMFT is a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist, and has extensive training in EMDR and other attachment-based approaches. He co-owns Connect Couples Therapy, PLLC with his wife of 18 years, Faith, which has locations in Charlotte, NC and Carefree, AZ. They also have a 4-year old and a dog named, Rocky. For more information, please click here: https://connectcouplestherapy.com/dr-bitar/

In this episode, Sherry talks to coparenting expert Lucy Dunning. Lucy shares with the listener tips for successful coparenting as well as explains why getting the coparenting relationship right early on can have a long lasting impact on how the child acclimates to the divorce.  Although anyone at any stage during or after the divorce process will benefit from the information in this podcast, people with children in the early stages of divorce will find it particularly insightful. Lucy Dunning is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Therapist and is currently in the process of obtaining a PhD.  She is the owner of Blue Sky Family Counseling and Coaching, with locations in North Carolina and Georgia. Lucy works with families going through divorce and is a child therapist, parent coordinator, divorce coach, child specialist, custody evaluator, mediator,  and co parent coach. She is the proud mom of 3 children 9, 7 and 4 years old! 

In this episode, Sherry has an intimate conversation with Shannon Saksaka, Certified Divorce Coach ® and owner of "Bling Me Up Shanny". Shannon shares how the death of her mother and her divorce, while incredibly painful, were the catalyst for making some major changes in her life.  Shannon shares her tips for unhooking from triggers as well as the go-to resources she used in her divorce recovery. A must listen for anyone in the midst of the divorce process!Shannon (Broadbent) Saksaka is a single mother to an amazing daughter as well as a seasoned professional whose work in corporate America dates back to 1992.  Her life drastically changed in 2015 when her mother passed away.  In the months that followed, her marriage imploded and by the end of 2016, Shannon was divorced.  The imagined life blueprint in her mind was replaced with a divorce decree and shared parenting plan. In the years that followed, Shannon focused on moving forward and on healing for herself, her daughter and her father.  Today, she proudly calls herself an Entrepreneur.  She launched her “Bling Me Up Shanny” business during the Pandemic and is also actively working on expanding her Career and Divorce Coaching Practice, Rise & Thrive Coaching.  Shannon's divorce resiliency story is an on-going journey and work-in progress.  She is excited to share her story and is committed to work that supports her journey as well as others!

In this fascinating episode, Sherry interviews energy healer and psychic medium Ed Carlton. In the interview, Sherry discloses her own personal experience with energy healing working with Ed when going through a painful break-up. Ed shares with the listener how the chakra system plays a role in our life experience and explains what area of our lives each chakra impacts. He also shares which  area of the body is specifically impacted when going through a relationship break-up. Very insightful!Ed Carlton is an Empath, Psychic and Medium. Connecting with Spirit through angels and spirit guides. Ed has a strong passion for helping people who want to learn to connect with Spirit. Ed feels so strongly about it, he has created a team of professionals who also share a deep connection and have worked hard to educate themselves to give the best services. Ed is a best selling author of the book  "Psychic Medium Within", available on Amazon.

In this episode, Sherry interviews Karmic Astrologer Susan Reynolds. Susan shares how one can use their natal chart to understand not only how they show up in relationships but also gain an understanding of their overall relationship patterns. She also shares how understanding your partner's astrology can help you gain acceptance of certain personality traits. Susan brings her natural effervescence and passion to the interview and makes astrology relatable to anyone who has an interest in learning more about how the planets have an influence over our lives.  Susan has been an astrologer, spiritual healer and spiritual teacher for the last 38 years, bringing her unique style of astrology reading to her many national and international clients. Believing that the mystical and practical should work together, Susan combines her psychic skills with her astrological knowledge to give her clients a one-of-a-kind reading. In lectures and workshops, she shares her joy of learning with her students, making spiritual subjects come alive. Over the years Susan's skills have developed to the point she now teaches the knowledge and wisdom she has worked with for decades. Believing that everyone can work with the same principles she does, Susan offers classes and workshops to help people develop their own unique gifts.  Susan has been featured on WCCB news and is the current president of The Council of Esoteric Professionals. 

In this episode, Sherry interviews family law attorney Lindsey Easterling.  Lindsey has been awarded with many accomplishments including being ranked in the Top 40 Under 40 in National Trial Lawyers as well as being voted in the Top 10 for Best Client  Satisfaction in 2017 by the American Institute of Family Lw Attorneys.  Not only is Lindsey an attorney but she also has a blended family of her own.  In this interview, Lindsey shares pitfalls that she sees clients make as well as providing tips for how to prepare for the legal process of divorce.  She also shares some best practices for co-parenting. This episode is chock-full of helpful tips!

In this episode, Sherry chats with Jeff Newton.  Jeff shares his father's story of his incredible transition from being in such a dark place post-divorce that he was near suicide to finding his faith and building a happy, healthy, spiritual life for himself in his second marriage. Jeff  talks about how this had an impact in own life and the lives of his children. Be sure you listen for the surprising twist in his story! Be prepared to be amazed and inspired. Grab your box of tissues and start listening.Jeff lives in Indian Trail North Carolina, just outside of Charlotte and is a native Charlottean. He has been married to his wife, Shelley Newton, for 36 years and they have three children - Haley 33, Brandon 31, Emily 26. Emily has special needs and Shelley is her primary caregiver.Jeff is a custom home builder - Owner of Newton Custom Homes & Realty https://newtonchr.com. Newton Custom Homes & Realty is the builder of the Charlotte area St. Jude Dream Home since 2015 and is currently finishing their 7th home for St. Jude. Dream Home is a fundraiser for St. Jude's Children's Research Hospital and their homes have raised over $10 million in 7 years. Jeff enjoys sports, particularly football and golf, and he loves spending time with his kids and grandkids.

In this episode, the first episode of Season 2,  Sherry interviews Christine Suhan.  Christine brings her real, down-to-earth, authentic self while sharing her inspiring story of recovering from her divorce from a mentally ill spouse.  Christine also shares how her 12-years of recovery from addiction played a role in her divorce recovery process. Christine discusses how she manages to incorporate self-care while also managing full custody of her three children.  Sherry and Christine share with the listener insight into the brain's functioning when experiencing trauma and how to integrate traumatized parts of the brain for more healthy whole brain functioning.Christine  is a single mom to three incredible boys and works as a clinical therapist for a fully virtual treatment center that specializes in treating Opioid use disorders, eating disorders and other mental illnesses that interfere with daily functioning. Her graduate degree is in marriage and family therapy and her passion lies in working with recovering addicts, PTSD and trauma.

Noam Raucher is a coach of many colors. Noam is a divorce coach and offers men and dads, who are going through the haze of divorce and feel abandoned, a holistic: mind, body, and soul approach for going through major transitions in their lives with a teammate, confidence, and strategy.  In addition to that, Noam works with men individually and in small groups to build a life full of integrity, accountability, and emotional intelligence free of shame or judgement. Noam is also an ordained rabbi and trained educator and offers spiritual coaching to all who are seeking it. Whether that be through personal challenges, relationship struggles with family or intimate partners, and parenting. Noam has training in grief counseling, pastoral care, and process and emotional support group facilitation. Noam is a proud father, avid hiker, and is learning how to moonwalk without falling on his face.In this final episode of season 1, Noam and Sherry discuss healthy masculinity, and how men can overcome the need to fit into certain boxes in society. Noam describes the importance of a supportive group when it comes to taking responsibility for yourself and envisioning a future in which you learn from your divorce process. In particular, Noam shares his advice for people experiencing divorce within the Jewish community and how to grieve the loss of a marriage much like you would grieve a death.Noam RaucherWebsiteFacebookInstagramDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Kate Reuter is a certified coach for entrepreneurial moms. She is the host of the Passion-Minded Mom Podcast, and the creator of Your Epic MomLife(TM), which is a signature framework she designed to help business-driven moms double their productivity and their bottom line, working just 25 hours a week, hustle not included. Kate is a former marketing strategist, a cancer survivor, and a single mom to two daughters. She is certified by The Life Coach School.In this episode, Kate and Sherry discuss the importance of being brutally honest with yourself before, during, and after a divorce. Divorce is a major life transition, and it can be a catalyst for growth if you are open to it. Kate shares how she worked through her cancer diagnosis, divorce, and career change in quick succession. This is an important conversation about taking responsibility for your own happiness. Kate ReuterWebsiteFacebook GroupInstagramDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Salim Uqdah is a Certified Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, Collaborative Neutral, FINRA Securities Arbitrator, and the owner of Uroboros Mediations. Salim specializes in family mediation for the LGBTQ+ community. His previous experience at the Mecklenburg Courthouse, paralegal education, and exposure to various areas of disputes are combined to craft the best compromises for families. Salim focuses on his clients' humanity to foster practicality.In this episode, Salim and Sherry dig into divorce and mediation within the LGBTQ+ community. Salim shares the different perspectives on family, the gender binary, and power that he takes into account when working with his clients. This is an important discussion about the impact of intersectionality on equity, egalitarian conversations, and the assignment of value in relationships that fall outside of the heteronormative expectations.Salim UqdahInstagramLinkedInFacebookWebsiteDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Erin Stephenson, from Massachusetts, is currently a certified Health Coach and Fitness Professional teaching classes from meditation/yoga to cycle and weight lifting. Erin is a former Early Childhood Director/Owner of two Early Childhood Education programs. She has continued working actively as a consultant to both schools, and recently provided a program for elementary age children teaching the world of yoga, to help help anxiety in young children. As a certified health coach, she helps many individuals reach their health and fitness goals. She believes “healthy” is a lifestyle! Erin is a mother and stepmom to 6 children. She is happily married to a wonderful husband. Her inspiration is to inspire others to live a happy and healthy life!In this episode, Sherry and Erin discuss the divorce process from separation, to reconciliation, to divorce. They share their advice on healing, prioritizing your own health and well-being, and getting back into the dating scene with clarity about what you want in a partner. Erin StephensonLinkedInWebsiteDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Dr. Tara Egan is a child and adolescent therapist, a parent coach, an author, and the host of a parenting podcast called "One Day You'll Thank Me," which is just beginning its third season. She is the owner of a private practice called Charlotte Parent Coaching, located in Charlotte, NC.  She also offers online resources, bi-monthly free parenting webinars, and public speaking services to parents and educators. In this episode, Sherry and Dr. Egan advise on co-parenting with an ex-spouse. Difficult in the best of circumstances, co-parenting can seem overwhelming or even impossible in the case of a high conflict divorce.  Dr. Egan provides tips to encourage both parents to prioritize the best interests of the children so they can grow to become productive, emotionally regulated, and happy people.  With the right tools, your high conflict divorce can become a more calm and friendly co-parenting relationship.Tara Egan, LCMHCA, D.Ed.WebsiteInstagramFacebookYouTubePodcastDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Brent Johnson was married for eight years and is the father o two young boys (currently 6 and 8).  His difficulties in divorce were compounded by unresolved feelings of inadequacy, fear, and self-acceptance from childhood and early adulthood.Through reconnecting with his family, faith, friends, and boxing a heavy bag, he was able to work through these issues to become a whole, happy person.Sherry and Brent discuss the long-lasting impacts of internalizing other people's expectations and plans for your life. He also shares his tips for coping with divorce, being a more present parent, and learning how to get in touch with what you truly want and need as a person as a recovering people-pleaser.Divorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Faith Dulin is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Charlotte, North Carolina. She focuses on personal empowerment through self-love and setting boundaries. Outside the office, she enjoys dominating at game night and riding her motorcycle.Sherry and Faith discuss the importance of setting boundaries in your personal relationships, as well as what can happen if your boundaries become blended with significant others in your life. Faith shares tips on how to prioritize being kind to yourself, and encourages connecting with and loving yourself before seeking validation from others. Faith Dulin, MA, LMFTWebsiteInstagramFacebookDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Denise Banks-Wilson is a divorce & family mediator and co-parent coach.  Much to her shock, on the day she completed her divorce mediation certification program, her husband asked for a divorce.  During what became the most challenging time in her life, Denise found herself helping other hurting individuals as they went through their divorces.  Denise took to heart the strategies she was sharing with her clients and through her work with them, she became a survivor. Denise has worked in the divorce and co-parenting arena since 2006.  Over 4500 individuals have attended her Positive Coparenting workshop and she's conducted over 350 family mediations.  At the time of her divorce, Denise was the co-parent mom of three, including a 14-year-old son.  They became survivors too.Sherry and Denise discuss the journey of healing and self-reflection that divorce prompts. Denise shares how her experience filling out an online dating profile really allowed her to get to know herself on a deeper level, and to appreciate her authentic self. Denise Banks-WilsonWebsiteInstagramFacebookDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Today's guest is Jumana Scoggins, MA, NCC, LCMHC.  Jumana is a psychotherapist who works individually with adults and adolescents as well as with couples in her Blakeney office in Charlotte, NC.  Three years ago, she separated from her husband of 19 years and they recently finalized their divorce. They have 3 children between them and 2 children from her former husband's previous marriage.Sherry and Jumana discuss the feelings of resentment and guilt that can infiltrate the divorce process. They also share valuable resources and tips for keeping the children's best interests at the forefront so they don't have to suffer through their parents' divorce.  Jumana shares her own separation and divorce experiences and how she was able to work through her resentment in order to co-parent with her ex-husband.Jumana Scoggins, MA, NCC, LCMHCWebsiteDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Today's guest is Kristen Hilty, CDFA.  A twenty-year veteran in the financial services industry, Kristen is passionate about helping to educate and empower people who are divorced or divorcing to make sound, rational decisions around their financial futures. Kristen has experienced a divorce firsthand, and has watched family members, friends, and of course countless clients go through it as well.  She knew there had to be a better way. Kristen is committed to using her expertise as a Certified Divorce Financial Advisor (CDFA), Investment Advisor, and Family Law Mediator, along with her empathy, to help people avoid making devastating financial mistakes while creating a realistic vision for the future.Sherry and Kristen discuss what financial issues need to be considered throughout the divorce process, the pros and cons of mediation versus family court, and resources that are available if you aren't sure where to turn.  Kristen also shares her own divorce experience and how she was able to find happiness on the other side.Kristen Hilty, CDFAWebsiteFacebook PageInstagramLinkedInDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Today's guest is Breta Collins, MA, LMFT.  Breta is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private practice in the Charlotte, NC area.  She works from an attachment-based perspective and is trained in trauma resolution therapy and narcissistic relationship abuse. Breta supports couples experiencing relationship ambivalence, infidelity recovery, and communication issues, individuals who are recovering from toxic relationships, men dealing with midlife discontent and crisis, and people experiencing life transitions.Sherry and Breta have an in-depth discussion about narcissism, the difference between narcissistic traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (there is a spectrum), and how to thrive after getting out of a relationship with a narcissistic partner. Breta Collins, MA, LMFTWebsiteDivorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

In the first full-length episode of Stories of Divorce Resiliency, you will hear from the host of the podcast: Sherry Smith, LMFT, CDC.   Sherry shares how divorce has impacted her personally, and she discusses the phases people go through as they make the painful decision to divorce.  This episode will help you to determine whether or not your marriage is salvageable; if it is not, Sherry provides an overview of how to heal and thrive after a divorce. Divorce Resiliency Counseling & CoachingWebsiteFacebook PageYouTube ChannelBookFrom Survive to Thrive: A Master Class for Separated and Divorced WomenDo you have an inspirational post-divorce story?Contact info@divorceresiliency.com

Welcome to Stories of Divorce Resiliency, hosted by Sherry Smith (Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Divorce Coach, Author, and Speaker).You may be thinking about getting a divorce and trying to figure out if your marriage is salvageable, going through a divorce and feeling overwhelmed by the process, or recovering from a divorce and feeling stuck.  This podcast is for you. You will hear personal stories from others in similar situations, as well as advice from experts in the field.Divorce can provide a tremendous catalyst for personal growth. My goal is to help you on a path toward a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life.