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Screens aren't just hard for kids to put down because they enjoy them. As Michaeleen Doucleff explains in Dopamine Kids, screens can become powerful "dopamine magnets," pulling children back again and again, often without leaving them feeling calmer, happier, or more fulfilled afterward.In Part 2 of this important conversation on The Child Psych Podcast, Tammy Schamuhn and Michaeleen Doucleff move from understanding the science of dopamine and screen time to exploring practical solutions parents can use at home.Discover evidence-informed strategies to help children reduce screen dependence without constant power struggles. Learn how to create screen-free spaces that support healthy sleep, improved attention, meaningful family connection, and everyday adventure. Michaeleen shares why simply removing screens is rarely enough and how parents can help children reconnect with activities that naturally support emotional well-being.This episode explores how outdoor play, creativity, movement, boredom, relationships, and family rituals can help children find genuine satisfaction beyond digital entertainment.If you're concerned about screen addiction, excessive screen time, video games, social media, YouTube, or the growing impact of technology on children's mental health, this conversation offers practical and hopeful guidance.Because children don't just need less screen time.They need a life that feels richer, more meaningful, and more rewarding than the screen.Michaeleen Doucleff is a science journalist and correspondent for NPR's Science Desk. She holds a PhD in chemistry from the University of California, Berkeley and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the National Institutes of Health. She is also the New York Times bestselling author of Hunt, Gather, Parent.You can learn more about Michaeleen and her work through Michaeleen Doucleff's official website.Books mentioned in this episode:Dopamine KidsHunt, Gather, ParentAuraYour kid's digital life doesn't come with a playbook.But that doesn't mean you have to stay in the dark.That's where Aura Parents comes in. It combines traditional parental controls—like content filtering, time limits, and Pause the Internet®—with newer digital wellbeing features that show patterns in sleep opportunity, screentime trends, social engagement, and even AI app usage insights.So instead of just limiting screen time, you get more context and insight into changes in patterns and can use that information to decide when to check in with your kid.It's not about control—it's about feeling informed and empowered as you navigate an always changing digital world.Learn more about Aura Parents and start your free trial at auraparents.com/icp Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You pick up your phone to do one quick task, and suddenly 20 minutes have flown by without you even noticing. How do apps do that to you? Science journalist Michaeleen Doucleff felt like her phone had superglue on it, holding her on it for hours each day while draining her of time and energy. Turns out, that feeling isn't accidental. In her new book, Dopamine Kids, Michaeleen describes four features that tech companies add to apps to keep us scrolling for as long as possible. She's sharing this superglue recipe with Short Wave host Emily Kwong … and explaining how these features can pull people into what scientists call a ‘dark flow' state.Interested in more tech and social media science? Email us your question at shortwave@npr.org.Listen to every episode of Short Wave sponsor-free and support our work at NPR by signing up for Short Wave+ at plus.npr.org/shortwave.Listen to Short Wave on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.This episode was produced by Hannah Chinn. It was edited by Rebecca Ramirez. Tyler Jones checked the facts. The audio engineer was Jimmy Keeley.See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for sponsorship and to manage your podcast sponsorship preferences.NPR Privacy Policy

In Part 1 of this powerful conversation, Tammy Schamuhn sits down with Michaeleen Doucleff, author of Dopamine Kids, to explore what is really happening in children's brains when they beg for more screen time, melt down when devices are taken away, or seem unable to pull themselves away from video games, social media, YouTube, or ultra-processed foods.Many parents have been taught that dopamine is simply the brain's “pleasure chemical.” But Doucleff explains that dopamine is more accurately understood as part of the brain's motivation and seeking system — the internal drive that says: keep going, get more, don't stop yet.This shift in understanding changes everything.When children become explosive after screen time ends, their brains may not be responding to joy or satisfaction. Instead, they may be caught in a cycle of constant wanting. Screens and ultra-processed foods can act as powerful “dopamine magnets,” pulling children toward repeated stimulation while leaving them feeling more dysregulated, disconnected, and emotionally depleted.In this episode, Tammy and Michaeleen unpack:why screen time battles can feel so intense for familieshow dopamine-driven behaviors affect motivation, focus, sleep, and emotional regulationwhy children are especially vulnerable to highly stimulating technology and foodshow modern childhood has become shaped by endless craving and overstimulationwhy this is not about blaming parents or shaming childrenhow understanding the brain can help parents respond with more compassion, clarity, and confidenceThis conversation is essential listening for parents, educators, and caregivers trying to understand why screen limits feel so difficult, why transitions off devices can trigger meltdowns, and why many children today seem trapped in cycles of “more, more, more.”In Part 2, releasing June 3, Michaeleen shares practical, science-backed strategies to help families reduce screen dependence, shift unhealthy habits, and reconnect children with play, sleep, focus, creativity, and real-life joy.Michaeleen Doucleff is a science journalist and correspondent for NPR's Science Desk. She holds a PhD in chemistry from the University of California, Berkeley and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the National Institutes of Health. She is also the New York Times bestselling author of Hunt, Gather, Parent.You can learn more about Michaeleen and her work through Michaeleen Doucleff's official website.Books mentioned in this episode:Dopamine KidsHunt, Gather, ParentAuraYour kid's digital life doesn't come with a playbook.But that doesn't mean you have to stay in the dark.That's where Aura Parents comes in. It combines traditional parental controls—like content filtering, time limits, and Pause the Internet®—with newer digital wellbeing features that show patterns in sleep opportunity, screentime trends, social engagement, and even AI app usage insights.So instead of just limiting screen time, you get more context and insight into changes in patterns and can use that information to decide when to check in with your kid.It's not about control—it's about feeling informed and empowered as you navigate an always changing digital world.Learn more about Aura Parents and start your free trial at auraparents.com/icp Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What's really happening in your child's brain when screens, sugar, or shows feel impossible to take away? In this powerful and grounding conversation, Hunter Clarke-Fields talks with Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD—author of Dopamine Kids and Hunt, Gather, Parent—about how modern parenting has become deeply entangled with dopamine, and what families can do to restore balance without shame, punishment, or power struggles. Drawing on neuroscience, anthropology, and real-life parenting experiments, Michaeleen explains why kids aren't “addicted” or broken—and why parents aren't failing. Instead, we're all navigating a dopamine-saturated environment that no human brain evolved for. This episode offers compassionate insight and practical tools to help parents reduce overwhelm, create calmer homes, and support kids' emotional regulation—starting with small, realistic changes. In this episode, we discuss: How Michaeleen first recognized her daughter's intense attachment to a show—and what dopamine taught her about it Why kids melt down when screens or treats are removed (and what's actually happening neurologically) The invisible ways modern life overstimulates kids' brains—beyond just screen time What parents often notice first when dopamine levels normalize How our own phone habits shape our kids' nervous systems The smallest, kindest first step families can take to reduce dopamine overload Why changing microenvironments (like cars, bedrooms, and dinner tables) can have outsized emotional payoffs The power of replacement over deprivation Why “Tech Sabbaths” work—and how to introduce them without turning them into battles One crucial mindset shift to approach kids' screen or food obsessions with more compassion ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MindfulMamaMentor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠/mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If your toddler refuses to listen, has big meltdowns after screens, or seems obsessed with “just one more,” this video will help you understand what's really going on beneath the behavior. We break down how dopamine drives your child's need for more—not because they love it, but because their brain is being pulled into a loop. You'll learn how this affects emotional regulation, why transitions feel so explosive, and what to do instead of constant limiting, negotiating, or power struggles.What You'll Learn: Why your child's brain treats screens and snacks like a “need,” not just a want  What's actually happening during tantrums when you turn something off  The difference between real enjoyment vs. dopamine-driven “wanting”  Why limiting alone often backfires—and what works better  Simple, realistic ways to reduce meltdowns and shift habits quickly This approach is grounded in modern neuroscience and behavioral psychology—but translated into real-life parenting. The goal isn't perfection or eliminating screens entirely. It's helping you stay calm, reduce daily friction, and guide your child toward things that actually leave them feeling good (not just wanting more).If you're tired of second-guessing your decisions or dreading the next meltdown, this channel is here to make those hard moments feel more manageable—and a lot less confusing.Michaeleen Doucleff's book: Dopamine KidsSend us Fan MailSupport the showLinks to help you and me:To support the Podcast, Subscribe on SubstackGet Jon's Top Five Emotional Regulation GamesGet Jon's Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon's Children's Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Youtube

Michaeleen Doucleff joins Luis for an effervescent meeting of minds in this joyful podcast. A reporter and an author with a Ph.D. in biochemistry, Michaeleen's knowledge base is vast and fascinating. In 2021 she published Hunt Gather Parent, and in March 2026 she published Dopamine Kids. Luis credits her work as changing his family's life because of fundamental parenting shifts she shares that they implemented. Michaeleen learned from indigenous families to include kids into the family ecosystem happenings instead of building a family schedule ladened with play dates and extracurriculars. At the center of the dopamine discussion are screens and processed foods that crank up our dopamine, but not our pleasure. Kids and adults actually get addicted to the WANTING. Limiting our kids, and our own, time with dopamine magnets does not deprive us of pleasure, instead it allows us to reclaim pleasure.Can we feel the difference between wanting and pleasure in our own bodies? Can we teach that difference to the next generation? You can sign up for Michaeleen's newsletter at MichaeleenDoucleff.comYou can get instant access to all of the HLN webinars and video courses here: https://hln.thinkific.com/collections You can order the book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book You can read more about, and register for, the retreat at Broughton in the UK here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/broughton-2026----You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigationQuestions? You can email us at info@holisticlifenavigation.com

What if reducing screen time or eating less processed food didn't feel like deprivation, but rather it was the key to unlocking more joy and excitement in our lives?  Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is a correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports on mental health, nutrition, psychology and neuroscience. She's also the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans and her latest, Dopamine Kids: A Science-Based Plan to Rewire Your Child's Brain and Take Back Your Family in the Age of Screens and Ultraprocessed Foods.  Greg and Michaeleen discuss how many products are engineered to create bottomless, non-closure experiences that leave users feeling drained. They also unpack how the dopamine system in our brains really works, and go over practical tips to reduce reliance on screens and ultraprocessed foods that lead to happier, more fulfilling lives.   *unSILOed Podcast is produced by University FM.* Episode Quotes: Why more desire doesn't mean more satisfaction 09:09: Here's the thing: pleasure. And this is how the system is supposed to work, right? Dopamine triggers desire, wanting, motivation, willingness to work. A lot of scientists will tell you its willingness to work, right? How hard an animal will work for something. And this makes us go, want, desire, want more, want more, want more. But when you actually trigger the pleasure center, the hedonic hotspots, as they're called, you stop wanting, you feel satisfied, you feel you're done. What if parenting isn't about taking things away? 04:14: Dopamine Kids is really about creating a culture where you're not just taking things from kids or taking things from your family, but you're actually inviting kids to discover better things in their lives. Why kids actually enjoy effort 19:17: What I think parents don't understand is it's pleasurable to work. Kids find it pleasurable to work, and they want to. And I'm not talking about doing things that they don't like and they hate, right? Or they feel really like they have to. But working on something that you are excited about and that you feel some sort of innate drive to do—this is very pleasurable for people, including children. And actually, that's the way the system is. The dopamine system is evolved to work, right? It triggers wanting, desire for something, and then working to get it. And then the pleasure comes after working and the satisfaction. Show Links: Recommended Resources: Hunt, Gather, Parent feat. Michaeleen Doucleff | unSILOed  Natasha Dow Schüll B. J. Fogg What You Have in Common With a Pigeon and Why It's Causing Problems for You by Michaeleen Doucleff | New York Times https://michaeleendoucleff.com/dopamine-kids-resources/   Guest Profile: Professional Website Correspondent Profile for NPR Guest Work: Dopamine Kids: A Science-Based Plan to Rewire Your Child's Brain and Take Back Your Family in the Age of Screens and Ultraprocessed Foods Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD has written two books: Hunt, Gather, Parent What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans 2021and Dopamine Kids: A Science-Based Plan to Rewire Your Child's Brain and Take Back Your Family in the Age of Screens and Ultraprocessed Foods  2026. In my experience, people outside of the mental health field often write the best books. Dr Doucleff, whose degree is in chemistry,  has provides a very clear explanation about how the neurotransmitter, Dopamine, is relevant to understanding why your child has trouble getting off of screens and why they might be such picky eaters. Her research into these topics is impressive, but more importantly is her capacity to explain the science in ways that anyone can understand. That is part of her gift. Drawing upon the latest work on habit formation, she also provides a template of how we can begin to free ourselves from screens and ultraprocessed foods. It is not about will power, but rather "Curating the Cues".  For more information: michaeleendoucleff.com 

In today's episode, I sit down with Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff to unpack what dopamine actually is—and how understanding it can completely shift the way we approach screens, food, and motivation in our kids' lives. We talk about why dopamine isn't about pleasure but about desire, and how that “do it again” loop can pull kids toward things that don't actually make them feel good in the long run. We discuss practical, doable ways to redirect that drive—by replacing, not restricting—so kids naturally want the activities that support their well-being. We also explore why willpower isn't the answer, how small environmental changes can make a big difference, and how starting tiny can help create lasting habits for a calmer, more connected home. I WROTE MY FIRST BOOK! Pre-order your copy of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans https://draliza.com/pre-order/ Subscribe to my free newsletter for parenting tips delivered straight to your inbox: draliza.substack.com  Follow me on Instagram for more: @raisinggoodhumanspodcast  Wayfair: Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day Minnow: That's shopminnow.com code MEETMINNOW15 for 15% off Academy of Nutrition & Dietetics: Visit eatright.org/everytable to learn more and find a nutrition and dietetics professional Little Spoon: Try Little Spoon Formula with their 2 can trial pack (Buy 1,Get 1 free-that's $30 for 2 cans) at littlespoon.com/tryformula See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I explore the pressure of intensive parenting and the idea that “just because you can doesn't mean you should.” We discuss burnout, productivity culture, and how letting go of unrealistic or unnecessary expectations can help us be the parents we truly want to be.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!And if you love the podcast, FREE ways to help us out:1- Rate and review the podcast in your podcast player app 2- “Like” this post by tapping the heart icon ♥️ 3- Share this with a friend. 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These bras are wire-free, ultra-soft, and seriously supportive—designed to hold you comfortably all day without pinching, poking, or constant adjusting. Check them out HERESarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today, Corey and I discuss an idea we've been thinking about a lot lately and talking to each other about: intensive parenting, the choices we make, and the impossibly high standards we're up against, and how these things affect our mental and physical health as parents and as humans.After I interviewed Jessica Slice, disability activist and author of the book Unfit Parent, who talks about these things and what she's learned from disability culture and being disabled herself, Corey captured all of these complicated ideas about productivity, care, and how we can sometimes drive ourselves too hard as: just because you can.I'm going to say that again: just because you can doesn't mean you should.Listen in to our conversation about how this idea can inform the choices we make as parents and how we can make changes to make life feel easier and more connected and fun.If you find this episode useful, please share it with a friend. 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Just search my name on Substack and you'll find us.As we near our five-year podcast anniversary, we really appreciate the support and the love of our listeners.Here's our conversation.Sarah: Hey Corey, welcome back to the podcast.Corey: Thanks for having me again.Sarah: Do you remember last year when that report came out from the U.S. Surgeon General that said that parents are suffering from intensive parenting?Corey: Yes.Sarah: Yeah, and I think people consider peaceful parenting intensive parenting, right? And we do often say this kind of parenting is a lot of work. It requires a lot of us. But I wouldn't say that it necessarily has to be intensive parenting in all aspects.Corey: I agree so much. I had a lot of mixed feelings when that report came out.Sarah: Yeah, me too. I felt like writing some sort of a defense of peaceful parenting after I heard that.So let's tease this apart a bit. We started talking about this after I interviewed Jessica Slice. If you all didn't catch that, she is a disability activist, and she talked about disability culture and what it tells us about the impossible standards of parenting, and I guess the impossible standards of parenting in general, not just intensive parenting.And you said it reminded you of one of your favorite quotes. So tell us your favorite quote, and that's the anchor of our episode today.Corey: One of my favorite quotes, though I'm not even sure if it's technically a quote, is from one of my favorite movies, Jurassic Park. I recently actually read the book because I was talking so much about how I love the movie. The big theme is: just because you can doesn't mean you should.Now, when you and I were talking about this, honestly, we could have a really long conversation about the way they were talking about it in the book, which was maybe questioning science and where we want to take that, but it actually applies really well to parenting.Sarah: Yeah. And the idea that Jessica Slice brought in, and we're going to play a quote about this, is that there were things that she couldn't do as a disabled parent, and she felt a lot of guilt about that.So let's just take a second and listen to that quote.Jessica: Yeah. I do sometimes feel self-conscious when I see the way my peers parent, when I see them making these perfect little lunches and these divided-up lunch boxes or doing Elf on the Shelf, these kinds of versions of parenting that I just don't have the energy or capacity to have as part of our lives.And I can feel like, are my kids missing out from this type of parenting? And maybe in some ways they are. Nothing is simple. But I know I would have done those things. The version of me in my twenties would have done those things, but she would've also been a lot less patient. She would've had a lot less time for just sort of wasting hours and being together.I have an ability to be present with my kids that I wouldn't have had before.Sarah: Okay, so one thing that's interesting to me in that quote is that she talks about how she probably would have done all the things if she could have, like herself when she was in her twenties. She didn't become disabled until she was in her late twenties, and she said the person she was in her twenties probably would've turned into the mom that was trying to be the perfect mom.The example she used was the little bento box lunchboxes. And just to be fair, if that brings you joy, then that brings you joy, right? The bento box lunches. But if you're doing it because you feel like you should do it, and you can do it, that doesn't mean you should do it.So what are your thoughts on what she was saying?Corey: This really struck me because I think, gosh, I have made lunches that she would consider the little bento box ones, and not because it made me happy. I did feel like this is what I was supposed to be doing in order to be sending an appropriate lunch for my children because of that pressure.That really, really stood out to me, and I couldn't help but just feel the weight of all those pressures we are handed as parents. And because, for most of my parenting journey, I have been able-bodied and can do endless amounts, I often find myself doing way more than I should because I feel like that's what I'm supposed to be doing.And then when you take a step back and you try to question it, you just get crushed by the weight of those expectations of, well, what are the reasonable ones? What should I be doing? What is intensive parenting, and what is taking a step back?Sarah: I think also there's so much value in our culture, and this is one thing that Jessica talks about in her book and in the podcast, is how much of what we do is informed by the values of capitalism. If we don't feel that we're being productive, and what's one more thing? When is it enough? When can you just sit down and rest? Or when do you think, I've got to make those bento box lunches?Now I am done for the day, and I could go to sleep and get some rest, or I could read or watch a show with my partner or whatever, but I really should. So that's a perfect example of I can, but should I? Where do you draw that line? How do you question yourself about what you should do, what you can do, and what you shouldn't do, even if you could?Corey: Yeah, it's true. And I think every stage that I've been through in parenting, and honestly any stage of life, whether you're a parent or not, you're going to be hit by this list of conflicting advice that's coming at you for what you should be doing.I typed out a list of what I'm experiencing right now. I have a 7-year-old and a 10-year-old, and right now I'm getting this conflicting stuff coming at me, telling me what I should be doing. And it sounds something to the extent of: you should have your kids in sports because kids are on too many screens and not getting enough exercise, but don't push them too hard because then they won't love movement. Register them in music lessons or get them extra tutoring. They must have a second language, but not too much because after-school activities can drain your children and then they're not getting enough free, unsupervised time. And don't even get me started on food.With the whole bento box thing, I ended up there because of all the conflicting advice about not letting them have too much of this, but needing to have that, and you don't want to give them an eating disorder. It's just all of this. How do we find that line of what we should be doing and what is too much?Sarah: I think some of it is asking what actually brings joy. Sometimes it brings joy to you, and sometimes you're willing to do it because it sparks joy in your child. So just looking at the sports thing: does it spark joy in your child to play hockey? Does it spark joy in you to be involved in that? Maybe this is one of those things you do for your kids because it sparks joy in them.But the whole idea of “you should do it because it's good for kids to be in sports,” yes, that's true. It is good for kids to be in sports. But that's a perfect thing of just because you can doesn't mean you should. You've got to look at your own life and how it fits into your life and what your kids want to do and what their interests are.Corey: That's so true. And when you think about what we do when we're coaching, almost always we have this discussion with our clients of, okay, what does your daily schedule look like? What does your week look like? And then we're like, okay, now what can you take out?We're almost always telling them this message of: just because you can manage all this doesn't mean you should. What of this can you take out so that your life does feel less intense? I think this is something naturally that we do end up spending a lot of time coaching, because everyone does end up finding that they can't find that line for themselves.Sarah: For sure. And there's also the things that people think they need to do. One thing I hear parents talking about is arguments with their kids about putting their laundry away. You know, “I folded all their laundry and put it in their room, and all they have to do is put it in their drawer.” And my first thought is always, oh my gosh, why are you folding their laundry?And I don't mean that in the sense that they should be folding their own laundry. I mean, who cares if the laundry's folded? Maybe that's your own personal thing, that you love a neat drawer, and okay, do that for yourself. But is it worth the battle to get into that with your kid? Plus, when they go and look for things to wear, they're just going to be rooting through the clothes anyway and throwing them on the floor and unfolding them.Sometimes there are just these shortcuts that people feel really guilty about taking, and they think they're not living up to the North American perfect family standard. Another good example of that is baths every night.Corey: Yes.Sarah: In the summer, maybe your kid needs a bath every day because they've got sunscreen and sand and they're sweaty. But in the winter, at least where we live, it's cold and kids don't get that dirty. A bath a couple of nights a week is totally fine. But parents have this idea, well, shouldn't I do the same thing every night because that's part of the routine? Well, maybe that's good. Maybe that works for you, or maybe you can let it go.Corey: Yes. And I've heard you say this so often too about food. Just because you can make these amazing, crazy meals doesn't mean you should be. It's totally acceptable to be eating scrambled eggs and baby carrots every night.Sarah: Yes, unless it sparks joy for you. And then you might want to do it. And even if it sparks joy sometimes, and you can do it, it doesn't mean you should do it because it might make you too stressed.There were things that I had to give up when my kids were small that I really liked doing, that did spark joy, and that I could have done, but the tradeoff was too great because it would've made me too tired. So that's another thing. Sometimes there is something that sparks joy that you could do, but then you think about the tradeoff: how is this going to make me show up as a parent? Can I be the parent that I want to be?An example I'm just thinking of now is I really wanted to homeschool my kids. Philosophically, that was super aligned for me, and I loved the idea of it in theory, of all of us learning together and doing all the things. But when it came down to it, I could have done it, but I decided not to do it because it wasn't letting me show up as the kind of parent that I wanted to be. Being with my kids 24/7 was not good for me. I just thought, I shouldn't do this because it is not making me show up as the kind of parent that I want to be.Corey: Yeah, exactly. I felt the exact same way about homeschooling. Hats off to people who find ways to make it work for themselves. It truly does work for some families. We just have to look at our individual resources, literally and figuratively, and what that is going to look like in practice for our family. And just because you can doesn't mean you should.Sarah: Yes, and please check out our podcast that we did about how I decided to ditch special time.Corey: Yeah.Sarah: Because that's also a really good example of this.Corey: I agree.Sarah: Of course I could do it. I just realized it wasn't working for us, and instead I chose following what made my family feel joyful. We'll put a link to all the episodes we mention in the show notes. So that's a really good one if you want to hear practically how I followed what made my family feel joyful.Corey: Yeah, I love that.Sarah: So we talked about that sort of drive for productivity. The drive for productivity tries to convince us that if we can do something, we should do it—that more and more and more, like we're always striving to get all the things done and check all the things off the to-do list.One thing that Amanda Diekman talks about—and she's also been on the podcast; she talks about low-demand parenting, and she had a podcast where she talked about something she learned from what she called her superwoman self. And I think that's what we're talking about, like the push, push, go, go, go. “I can do it, I can do it, I can do it.” But can you? And should you?I'm going to read a quote from her. She says, “I'm newly trying to actively love on my amazing superwoman.” This is us appreciating, not beating ourselves up for that go-go-go part, but appreciating, you know, this has probably gotten me to where I am, and there's a lot of life squeezed out of having those sorts of impulses to do more. But also it causes what she calls extreme exhaustion.So she says: “Because it turns out that superwoman holds both my vast trying and my extreme exhaustion. She's trying to protect me from how very tired I am by hyping me up. But when I make her feel safe and tell her that she can let go, she can slow down, I can see how very tired she is and how long she's been hustling to keep me safe. She melts into my arms. She's my most hardworking part, and it turns out she needs a rest too.”Corey: While you were reading that, I got full-body goosebumps.Sarah: Yeah, I love that. So really appreciating that part of us that wants to do more and get stuff done, not villainizing it, but recognizing the good in it and also holding that part of us and recognizing how exhausted it makes us too.Corey: Yes.Sarah: I think there are some things that do exhaust us that we don't feel we can let go of. I remember I was talking to a client, and she was saying how she was feeling so exhausted and sort of resentful by her 4-year-old's bedtime routine. She said, “First I help him get his pajamas on and I brush his teeth, and then I read him stories, and then I lie with him, and it's just so exhausting.”And I said, “Totally. That does sound exhausting. And you don't have to do any of it.”She was like, “What? What do you mean?” I said, “You don't have to do any of that stuff. You could just let him fall asleep on the couch whenever he falls asleep, without his pajamas on and without brushing his teeth. And you don't have to lie with him, and you don't have to read him stories.”And she was kind of like, “What are you saying?” And I said, “You don't have to do any of it, but you're choosing to do it because it's important to you to do that nurturing in that bedtime routine.”So I think that's another thing to think about too, is that when there are things that we're doing, there's this sorting mechanism: what am I doing because I feel like I have to do it, when I really could let go of it? What am I doing because the superwoman is driving me to do it because I'm trying to attain this impossible standard of parenting? And what am I doing that might still be hard, but it's just really important to me?Maybe it doesn't spark joy. Probably no one's bedtime routine sparks joy, but maybe it's just too important to let go of.An example of that for me, and I was just reminded of it this morning, is with my daughter. As you know, Maxine is now in college and she doesn't have to be at school every morning at nine the way she used to. But when she was still in school, she had to get up at seven and get out the door by 7:45 to get to school on time.And I am not a morning person. I may have mentioned that before, but I really hate getting up early. Like, 7:00 a.m. is just way too early for me. But I got up every day of her high school years at 7:00 a.m., and I did with my sons as well.And all of them were like, “Mom, you don't need to get up. We can get out the door on our own.” But I felt like it was supportive to get up, and it was important to me to be supportive of them. If they had to get up early, I wanted to be supportive and get up early with them.I make Maxine a cup of tea in the morning, and she pretty much gets her own lunch now, but I used to make lunch for them when they were in high school. I was doing it even though it felt intensive to get up early when I didn't have to. But it felt important to me to show up and nurture like that.Corey: Yeah, that makes so much sense. It's interesting—as you were saying that too, I was thinking about how every day when all the kids are getting off the bus, my son used to throw his backpack on the ground. Then instead I started just asking him, “I'll take it.”And now, to this day, he would never throw it now because he's not this tiny little kindergartner who can barely get himself back home again. But I still naturally love that moment of being able to be like, “Hand me your backpack.” I don't know, something about it. I take it and I put it on my back, and I feel like I'm letting him know, you can let those weights go for the day.There are these moments where I'm choosing to do that, and I can, and I'm happy to do it. It's very different than that feeling of resentment as I'm trudging along.Sarah: Yeah. It's something you're choosing to do because that nurturing of taking the load off of him, literally and figuratively, is important to you.I think the theme we're coming to with “just because you can doesn't mean you should” is looking at what are the outside forces that are making me think that I should do something—cultural forces or capitalist forces or the parents-next-door forces—that are making you feel like you should do something, and really questioning, what is the reason? What's the drive underneath this thing? Is this something that I believe in and something that I can get behind?And sometimes there may be things that you look at and say, well, maybe I would drop this if it was just up to me, but it sparks joy in my child, or it's a nurturing that I'm choosing to do, or it's a way that I'm choosing to show up. Sometimes you might choose to do something because it does spark joy in your child, even if it doesn't in you. That's something where you have the resources to give them.So just not taking everything at face value of what a good North American bedtime routine looks like or what the other people are doing. I remember when my kids were little and there was always, are you putting them in soccer? Are you putting them in tennis? And I was like, I'm not putting anyone in anything. Partly because they didn't want to, but partly because I didn't want to. I didn't feel like going to all those practices when people weren't begging me, “Please, please, please, can I join a soccer team?” I'm fine with not doing that stuff.Corey: Yeah, that's so true. This is all reminding me of—please go back and listen to one of my favorite podcast episodes you've ever done—with Michaeleen.Sarah: Oh yeah, yeah.Corey: Did I say her name properly? The Hunt, Gather, Parent one.Sarah: Doucleff.Corey: She's the one I first learned about the idea of North American parents being weird.Sarah: Right.Corey: I can't remember—do you remember what she meant by that?Sarah: That weird is Western, educated, industrialized, rich, and democratic. It's sort of like we have all these ways of parenting that are very much the intensive parenting thing again.One thing she talks about is having your weekend organized around kid activities, going to the special science center and birthday parties and all that. She really encourages parents to live their lives and involve their kids in their lives. So instead of going to the science center, you might go to Home Depot and your kid helps you get the things you need for the little mini bathroom renovation you're doing, and then they work with you.Which of course, in itself, is another way things can feel intensive, having a child helper. But she really talks a lot about the benefits of involving your child in your life. One benefit is that they turn out to be good helpers because you've let them help when they want to. But really, it's about living your life as opposed to trying to arrange your life for your child.Corey: Yes. And if I'm honest, I didn't necessarily agree with everything I read in that book, but I think it might be one of the most influential parenting books I've ever read in that it really fundamentally informed how I show up. I just decided that I don't have to do what everyone else is doing.And I think that's a big theme we're saying here too. Look, if we're peaceful parents, if we're being honest, our listeners are already choosing to parent in a way that's different than a lot of their society around them.Sarah: That's true.Corey: So we're basically saying, now take it a step further. Just keep questioning everything. You don't have to do anything you don't want to.Sarah: Yeah, for sure. Question everything. Is that like a sixties slogan?Corey: I don't know, but I feel like I would've done really well living in the sixties.Sarah: “Question everything.” Okay, so another thing that came up from reading Jessica's book and the interview with her was how, if someone is disabled, they often automatically need a level of care that a non-disabled person—and I was going to say doesn't need, but I'm going to change that to doesn't think they need.Yes, there is often physical care that a disabled person needs that a non-disabled person doesn't need, if they have legs that can walk and so on. But the care part of caring for each other in community is something that Jessica talks about disability culture as being really good at, and that community care that we need to choose is in itself going against the sort of rabid individualism of capitalism that is encouraged around us.I think that's why so many parents are so uncomfortable with doing things for their kids, because our culture is so hyper-focused on individualism and independence. Like, why should you carry Big C's backpack if he can carry it for himself? Aren't you just coddling him, and he'll never learn to be independent if you carry his backpack for him?People have probably heard me tell this story before, but I had the same thing with Maxine when she was little, carrying her backpack. And now, when she's 18, she won't let me carry anything. We'll be coming from getting groceries and coming from the car, and she's carrying like five bags of groceries and I'm carrying nothing. I'm like, really? I can carry that. And she's like, “No, Mom, I've got it. Let me carry that for you.”My middle son, the other day, offered to carry my purse for me. I was like, “It's okay. I can carry my purse.” He was like, “Mom, do you want me to carry that?” I'm like, “No, it's okay. I can carry it.”I got a little off the tangent there of care and hyper-individualism, but that's one thing that Jessica said non-disabled parents can learn from disability community: that we all actually need care, no matter how much we try to convince ourselves that we don't.Corey: Yes. And okay, I have a story I really want to tell about this. It just happened recently. Keep in mind, I had been planning this podcast with you. I had listened to this. I knew all of this academically.Last week—once again, we chose something that we really love. My son entered ski racing this year, and it has been the most joyful thing for everyone in our family. We're like, wow, look at us in a big organized sport and loving it.So it's been wonderful. And last Sunday was the last one of the season. My son had been off the entire week with the flu. I hadn't slept properly in about seven days. And he still was sick on Saturday, but by Sunday morning was full of beans and like, “I can go do my last race.”This is the definition of just because you can doesn't mean you should. It was also daylight savings time.Sarah: Oh goodness.Corey: So we lost an hour, or however it works. Daylight savings time should be banned as far as I'm concerned.That morning, as we're all so exhausted and struggling, my husband goes, “Did you know more accidents happen on this day than any other day in the year?”Anyway, race days are chaotic. I had all these 7-year-olds all over the place. They were running out to go do their last run, and I realized in the chalet they'd left some garbage. I was like, I'm just going to clean up after them. I don't want to leave this mess.I pick it all up, walk over to the garbage can, and suddenly I'm on the ground. It was a huge scene. Everyone stood up. People gasped. People ran over to me. I threw garbage in the air, almost had it land in the garbage can, which would've been amazing.It was just a total scene. I'm actually laughing because I didn't realize anything serious had happened, but within a couple of minutes I realized that I was actually hurt.So after my son's next—I still waited for him to finish his race—we went home, and I realized by that evening I had to be taken to the emergency department because I could not walk.Sarah: Oh my goodness. Before you get to the part you want to get to, do you think this all happened because you probably shouldn't have gone to ski racing that morning?Corey: Yes.Sarah: Okay. So this is like a two-moral story. There are two morals to this story. The first moral is: just because you could go to ski racing with all those things that were happening doesn't mean you should have gone, and maybe you wouldn't have gotten hurt.Corey: Yes. And then part two. I could have not gone because we have a wonderful community there, and they all would've helped all those little 7-year-olds if I hadn't been there. So I should have also just let people help me.After not sleeping for a week, and then at the emergency department, I could barely walk. I was limping everywhere, and every turn, someone was offering me a wheelchair, and I kept saying, “No. I'm fine. I've got this.”Sarah: Mm-hmm.Corey: By the time I had just been limping all over the place, a mom there with a teenager literally forced me into a wheelchair.Sarah: Mm.Corey: She was there with her sick child, and she was like, “You know what? You need this.” She got me in the chair and started pushing me around until a nurse noticed and was like, “Oh, I can do this.” The nurse had been offering all along. It wasn't their fault, it was me. I would not accept help.And then while I was there, I was texting with a friend, being like, “I'm just sitting here bawling by myself in the emergency room because I'm really hurt. I'm supposed to be going on a ski trip next week.” Spoiler alert: it's next week. I'm not on a ski trip.And she offered to come and be with me, and I told her, “No, I'm fine.” She offered to come pick me up at the end of the day. I told her, “No, I'm fine.” I just kept telling everyone I was fine, and I wasn't. I could not accept anyone helping me.Sarah: So you didn't end up letting her come or letting her pick you up or anything?Corey: No, nothing.Sarah: Aw. And she told me afterwards that she was like, “Corey, this is a sign that you need to slow down and accept more help in your life.”Well, and also ask for help. It's really hard for a lot of us to ask for help. People listening have probably heard it said, we weren't raised—people listening have probably heard it said that we didn't evolve to raise children in the nuclear family. We evolved to raise children in a village, or at least in a small community of people—grandparents who could help, cousins, younger and older siblings helping with younger siblings.This hyper-independence, small family, nobody else helping, is such a recipe for burnout and exhaustion and all of the physical and mental health problems that people have. I think those things really could be healed if we did what we're talking about in this episode: asking for help, accepting help, and not doing everything just because you can.Corey: Yes, and it's interesting because we talk to people about self-care. Self-care is a big buzzword now, but I often think it gets turned into just another thing that we're expected to do. Instead of what I think is at the heart of self-care, which means just being honest with yourself about capacity.Sarah: Mm-hmm.There was some research done about problem-solving, and I forget what book I read this in, but when there's a problem, people often want to add things on—do this, add this, add that. There actually was research done about this, about what people tend to do when there's a problem.What the research showed is that often the answer to a problem is to take something away or stop doing something. If anyone knows what that study is, shoot me an email, because I don't know where I heard that. But actually, taking something away is often much more effective than adding something in.Corey: Yes, that makes so much sense. Honestly, until I sat down this morning to write some notes for this podcast, I didn't even realize what I was doing.I couldn't get over it. I've been going to physio now for a week, and I can walk right now, which is nice. But literally, she gave me a giant list of stuff, and I'm like, I will do all of this. I'm going to add all this in. I am going to be the best rehabbed-knee person that ever existed.Then I realized that's actually probably what got me into this jam.Sarah: Yeah. And I think sometimes we like to be in control too, right? It makes us feel safe. It makes us feel it's familiar. Especially if we grew up with that sort of push to be independent, not needing people is the safe alternative, or not letting people help.Just on Sunday, two days ago, my middle son and his girlfriend were over for dinner, and I had made this fancy dinner because it was her birthday, and I really had been cooking for the whole day. At the end of the dinner, I had piled all the dishes in the sink, and my son was like, “Let me do the dishes.”And I was like, “No, that's okay. I'll do them tomorrow.”And he was like, “Mom, I'll do the dishes before I go. You've been cooking all day.”And I had to force myself to let him do the dishes, because I'm so used to “I've got it, I'll do it, I can do everything.” And not necessarily in this case, because my kids are grown up and I could have done the dishes tomorrow or whatever, but I just noticed how uncomfortable it was in my body to let him do the dishes.And also I was really proud of him for insisting. I was like, oh, he's such a nice boy. He's such a sweetheart. And he did the dishes, and he did a good job, and I was grateful.Corey: Yeah.Sarah: Well, any last thoughts about this “just because you can doesn't mean you should”?Corey: Go read Jurassic Park. It's fascinating. It was a fascinating book. It made me think a lot about AI.But no, when it comes to this, definitely check out the podcast we did with Jessica. This would be another one of the landmark podcasts that I think you've done where I just can't stop thinking about it. I really think what we need to start doing is realizing we just can't do this all on our own.Do you have any last thoughts, Sarah?Sarah: Well, I was just thinking, I want to leave people with—maybe we'll leave them with a quote from the Jessica Slice podcast.Again, if you haven't heard it, go back and listen to it. We'll put a link in the show notes. But we'll let her close out with some thoughts about care.I think it's just a really nice thing to think about, that aspect of care and what it means to be a good parent, and what it means to think about all of the things that we've just talked about.Corey: Absolutely. I think she's the way to end this.And just in case anyone's wondering, this week my children all cared for me without me ever asking them to. So many times when I got myself too low, they were coming over and helping get me back up again. They were running up and down everywhere in the house to get me everything.So just remember that you are modeling beautiful caregiving, and they're going to just give it back to you, and they're happy to give it back to you.Sarah: Yeah. And I just also want to say that I think this quote we're going to end on from Jessica talks about how the care things that we've talked about don't have to mean that we are living up to these impossible standards or doing the intensive parenting that leads to burnout.I think everything we've talked about in this episode are the antidotes to that burnout and intensive parenting and impossible standards. And I think the last piece of it is just giving yourself compassion for when that's hard because you feel like people are judging you, or that people aren't going to think you're a good parent. So just giving yourself compassion around that.Thanks, Corey. We'll let Jessica close it out.Jessica: I think for all parents there's this sense that you should be able to provide what your kids need without assistance, and that there is a distinction between people who give care and people who need care. And that a mom, in particular, is a person who gives care and doesn't need it.And I think what disability forces to the surface, particularly for those who have some care needs like me, is: I give care and I need care, and that is part of my daily life. Needing care does not hinder my ability to be a valuable member of my family or a good mom.I think it dispels that myth that you have to be one or the other. But I think if all parents could reject that binary of caregivers or care receivers, then it would mean that parenting didn't feel as impossible or didn't have such an impossible standard—that weakness were allowed, or dependence weren't allowed, or interdependence.I think it would just change how we think about parenting in general, because there's this feeling, I believe, that particularly moms have to be all-powerful and limitless and perfect, and that it is a failure in the very definition of what it is to be a parent to start to need support and care.Reimagine Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

What does dopamine actually do to our brains—and to our kids' brains? We welcome back science journalist and parenting expert Michaeleen Doucleff to discuss her latest book, DOPAMINE KIDS. After years as an NPR science reporter, and after writing the bestselling HUNT, GATHER, PARENT, Doucleff began noticing something unsettling in her own life: even during beautiful moments with her daughter, she felt pulled toward her phone. That realization led her to explore the powerful role of dopamine, the brain chemical tied to reward, motivation, and habit formation—and how modern technology and ultra-processed foods are designed to trigger it. In this conversation, Amy and Doucleff discuss how the dopamine-driven design of both screens and ultra-processed foods affects both kids and parents, often making it harder for families to reduce the use of these things in the home. They also explore practical ways families can reclaim attention, connection, and balance in a world full of digital distractions. Here' s where you can find Michaeleen: www.michaeleendoucleff.com Buy DOPAMINE KIDS: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781668049839 What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/⁠ mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, dopamine kids, Michaeleen Doucleff, dopamine and screens, parenting and technology, kids and smartphones, screen addiction kids, dopamine parenting, digital distraction families, parenting podcast technology, healthy screen habits kids, raising kids in the digital age Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Michaeleen Doucleff, science journalist and author of Dopamine Kids, joins me to talk about what's really happening in our children's brains when it comes to screens, social media, and ultra-processed foods and why so many kids (and adults) feel stuck in cycles of constant wanting without real satisfaction.   Together we explore:   What dopamine actually does in the brain and why it's not simply the "pleasure chemical." How screens and ultra-processed foods are engineered to tap into our children's seeking systems. Why today's kids may be experiencing more craving and less true gratification. Why simply taking screens away often backfires and what to replace them with instead. How small, sustainable environmental shifts (not massive overhauls) can recalibrate your child's motivation system. Practical ways to reduce screen use in the evenings, during transitions, and "on the go." How involving your child in the process can increase autonomy, buy-in, and long-term success.   This conversation isn't about fear, shame, or unrealistic detoxes. It's about understanding the science of motivation so we can make thoughtful changes that bring more color, pleasure, and peace back into our homes.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

Noam Dworman, Dan Naturman, and Periel Aschenbrand are joined by Michaeleen Doucleff. Doucleff has a PHD in chemistry, has written for the NPR Science desk for 14 years, and is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. Her new book, Dopamine Kids, is out now.

Noam Dworman, Dan Naturman, and Periel Aschenbrand are joined by Michaeleen Doucleff. Doucleff has a PHD in chemistry, has written for the NPR Science desk for 14 years, and is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. Her new book, Dopamine Kids, is out now.

We weren't built to live in a constant state of “what's next.” Yet that low-grade restless hum has become normal in modern family life. In her third appearance on The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, Michaeleen Doucleff — author of Hunt, Gather, Parent — returns with a powerful conversation about her new book Dopamine Kids and the science behind why screens and ultraprocessed foods leave us chasing instead of satisfied. This episode unpacks the overdrive of wanting, the illusion of pleasure, and the practical shifts that can help you take back the steering wheel of your home. Less frantic scrolling. Less food noise. More calm. More creation. More real joy. We deserve better than Netflix. Get your copy of Dopamine Kids here . It's one of the best books I've ever read! Get your copy of Hunt, Gather, Parent here Learn more about Michaeleen and all she has to offer here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanks to sponsor Wild Nutritionist!Use code MOTR to save 35% off Mama Baby Biome Method AND First Foods PlanElena Bridgers is a mother of two, science writer and researcher with a focus on maternal health and well-being, examined through the lens of evolutionary mismatch.Her personal journey of finding motherhood challenging after choosing to have two-under-two and going through extreme sleep deprivation led her to ask why this is so hard. How did our ancestors do this?While Elena is a big fan of Michaeleen Doucleff, author of "Hunt, Gather, Parent," she points out that Michaeleen's focus is on parenting strategies whereas Elena examines the social context in which our ancestors mothered.In this episode we discuss, from a hunter-gatherer evolutionary perspective:interpregnancy intervalsbreastfeeding as birth controlweaning from nursingtandem feedingthe tradwife movement and having very large familiesBedsharing vs. sleep trainingAlloparenting, "free" childcare, and the nuance with daycareUse code MOTR to save 35% off the Mama Baby Biome Method and First Foods Plan.Subscribe to Elena's Substack (it's one of my personal favorites!)Follow Elena on InstagramSupport the showStay Connected With Me: Subscribe to Moms Off The Record on YouTube JOIN THE MOTR PRIVATE COMMUNITY here Book a potty training 1:1 consult with me here Discount codes & links to my favorite courses and products here Love Moms off the Record? You can directly support the show here Thank you for leaving a rating and written review on Apple and Spotify! This is the best, free way to support the podcast. Follow MOTR on instagram here

In this episode, I sit down with education leader, parent, and author Chris Balme for a deep, thoughtful, and often funny conversation about what adolescents are really doing during the middle school and teen years. We explore why this stage of life is less about “figuring kids out” and more about understanding the intense social, emotional, and neurological work they're already doing every day. Chris offers a powerful frame that I love: adolescents as identity scientists, running experiments to answer one core question—who am I, and where do I belong?We talk about how adults can make that work easier instead of harder, why third spaces and unhurried time matter so much, and how validation, sleep, peers, and belonging shape everything during these years. If you live with, teach, or care about adolescents—or if you're willing to remember your own—this conversation will resonate. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Why it's so hard to change how we parent, even when we know better [1:40] – Why adolescence is the right time to reinvent yourself [3:10] – Chris introduces the idea of kids as “identity scientists” [5:15] – Identity is built through social experiments—and adults can help or hinder [7:45] – The importance of different social spaces where kids can reinvent themselves [9:35] – Why “third spaces” and non-parent adults matter so much [13:30] – The critical role of unhurried time and reflection [15:35] – Sleep deprivation and what it explains about teen behavior [18:25] – Social approval, belonging uncertainty, and the adolescent brain [21:15] – Why validation beats fixing, lecturing, or minimizing [24:30] – Middle school memories, awkward experiments, and empathy [28:50] – Belonging comes first—before achievement and authenticity [31:15] – What we gain, as parents, by walking this journey with our kids Links & Resources:Allo Parents: https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2023/12/01/1216043849/bringing-up-a-baby-can-be-a-tough-and-lonely-job-heres-a-solution-alloparents Ned's podcast Interview with Michaeleen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hunt-gather-parent-with-michaeleen-doucleff/id1676859533?i=1000643496031 About Michaeleen: https://www.npr.org/people/348778932/michaeleen-doucleff Adolescents Are Identity Scientists:  https://chrisbalme.substack.com/p/adolescents-are-identity-scientists About Chris: https://www.chrisbalme.com/ If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

This week on The Hamilton Review Podcast, we are pleased to welcome science journalist, Michaeleen Doucleff. In this episode, Michaeleen discusses details from her Wall Street Journal article, My Family Went Off Ultra-Processed Foods for a Month. The Results Surprised Us. Enjoy this raw, real and informative conversation. Michaeleen is the author of the New York Times Bestseller, Hunt, Gather, Parent. Her second book, Dopamine Kids, comes out March 3, 2026. It explains how screens and ultraprocessed foods work inside our children's brains, and how parents can use this knowledge to raise confident, healthy kids.  As a science journalist for over a decade, Michaeleen studies and reports on cross-cultural parenting, psychology and neuroscience, primarily for NPR. Michaeleen began her career as a research chemist, completing her postdoctoral fellowship at the National Institutes of Health.   How to contact Michaeleen Doucleff:   Michaeleen Doucleff website     How to contact Dr. Bob: Dr. Bob on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChztMVtPCLJkiXvv7H5tpDQ Dr. Bob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drroberthamilton/ Dr. Bob on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bob.hamilton.1656 Dr. Bob's Seven Secrets Of The Newborn website: https://7secretsofthenewborn.com/ Dr. Bob's website: https://roberthamiltonmd.com/ Pacific Ocean Pediatrics: http://www.pacificoceanpediatrics.com/  

In this eye-opening episode, Michaeleen Doucleff returns to The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast to dive deep into the art of fostering independence and emotional autonomy in children. She shares transformative insights from her travels around the world, revealing how different cultures empower children by encouraging initiative rather than constantly telling them what to do. Michaeleen explains how small shifts in our parenting approach—like trusting our children to contribute meaningfully to the household—can drastically improve behavior, strengthen family bonds, and promote emotional regulation. Michaeleen discusses the importance of including children in family life and how this inclusion nurtures their sense of responsibility and belonging. From her experiences with the Maya, Inuit, and Hadza, she highlights the universal parenting practices that teach children to observe, respond, and contribute without the pressure of a chore chart or constant direction. This conversation is a must-listen for any parent who wants to build a calmer, more cooperative home while empowering their children to thrive with confidence and initiative. Michaeleen's Book: Hunt, Gather, ParentDopamine Kids Pre-order: Preorder here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cooperative parenting may be the key to less stress and more connection in your home. In this fascinating episode, Dr. Elana sits down with New York Times bestselling author and NPR reporter Michaeleen Doucleff to explore what modern American parents can learn from traditional cultures around the world. Michaeleen shares how traveling to the Yucatán, the Arctic, and Tanzania transformed her parenting and helped her navigate power struggles with her strong-willed daughter. You'll hear how simple shifts like reducing interference, encouraging autonomy, and inviting children into household tasks can completely change your dynamic. From helping toddlers feel capable, to replacing arguments with confidence-building strategies, this episode is packed with refreshing wisdom and realistic ideas you can try today. Whether you're raising a toddler or a teenager, Michaeleen's stories and research will help you feel more empowered and at ease in your parenting journey. Topics Covered In This Episode: How to raise cooperative children naturally Why toddlers are wired to be helpful The benefits of hands-off parenting Tips for raising confident and calm kids Global parenting wisdom for modern families Show Notes: Follow @foodiescience on X  Learn more about Michaeleen Click here to learn more about Dr. Elana Roumell's Doctor Mom Membership, a membership designed for moms who want to be their child's number one health advocate! Click here to learn more about Steph Greunke, RD's Substack Mindset + Metabolism where women can learn how to nourish their bodies, hit their health and body composition goals, and become the most vibrant version of themselves.  Listen to today's episode on our website Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk and the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising kind and confident children, which moms and dads all over the world have turned to for millennia. Doucleff has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech. For the past decade, Doucleff has reported on disease outbreaks and children's health for NPR. Before that, Doucleff was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture. She lives in San Francisco with her husband, daughter and German Shepherd, Savanna INTRODUCE YOURSELF to Steph and Dr. Elana on Instagram. They can't wait to meet you! @stephgreunke @drelanaroumell Please remember that the views and ideas presented on this podcast are for informational purposes only.  All information presented on this podcast is for informational purposes and not intended to serve as a substitute for the consultation, diagnosis, and/or medical treatment of a healthcare provider. Consult with your healthcare provider before starting any diet, supplement regimen, or to determine the appropriateness of the information shared on this podcast, or if you have any questions regarding your treatment plan.

***Please subscribe to Matt's Substack at https://worthknowing.substack.com/***There's no denying it: Donald Trump is much better off than he was a week ago. Last week, he was getting pummeled by former ally Elon Musk, getting stiffed by wily figures like Putin and Netanyahu, and losing on tariffs, prices, and corruption. This week, the focus has turned entirely to immigration and unrest. So, did he set a trap that we all fell into? Could it have been avoided? And what about the underlying--and now back burnered--disaster of his "big beautiful bill": can anything be done to soften or stop it? Matt is joined on his Substack Livestream by Michaeleen Crowell, former chief of staff to Bernie Sanders and legislative director for civil rights icon John Lewis, to talk about the power and risks of protests, Senate strategy, and some great behind the scenes moments with notable leaders.00:18 Trump's Media Manipulation04:12 Trump's Immigration Strategy10:24 Discussion on Protests and Political Capital18:42 Legal and Political Responses22:20 Debate on Protest Effectiveness32:41 Democratic Party Dynamics and Healthcare Focus34:28 Discussion on the Big Beautiful Bill38:21 Medicaid Expansion and Political Irony47:19 Economic and Social Impacts of Legislation53:48 Behind the Scenes with Michaeleen

Send us a textWhat if the Western approach to parenting is based on spurious cultural assumptions, not human nature? In this episode, science writer Michaeleen Doucleff takes us inside indigenous communities around the world to reveal what Western parenting gets backwards, as we explore her question - what are the universals of childhood? From the origins of modern parenting in orphanage manuals to the power of kids contributing to real family life, we explore what children actually need to thrive — and how small shifts can create big changes in connection, confidence, and calm at home.Support the show

What can we Westerners learn about raising intrinsically happy, self-sufficient, and helpful children from the Maya of Mexico, the Inuit of the Arctic Circle and the Hadza of Tanzania? Well, it turns out, a lot!WEIRD cultures (Western, educated, industrialized, rich, and democratic) have been making parenting unnecessarily more difficult than it was designed to be. From helicopter and free-range parenting, to distracting children instead of intentionally involving them in quotidian household responsibilities, we are unwittingly becoming the source of our modern-day parenting grievances.With the help of Michaeleen Doucleff, mother and New York Times best-selling author of one of our favorite reads, “Hunt Gather Parent,” we break down modern-day parenting myths and turn to our much wiser, indigenous peers for the practical tips we're all yearning for when we are in the trenches of motherhood.Resources: Buy "Hunt, Gather, Parent" from Michaeleen's website!Let Grow: Leading the Movement for Childhood IndependenceSupport the showJOIN OUR NEW, PRIVATE COMMUNITY! DONATE (Thank you!!

In episode 78 of The Road to Wisdom Podcast, Chloe & Keshia speak with Mother and Author of Hunt, Gather, Parent; Michaeleen Doucleff. We dive into the complexities of modern parenting, examining cultural contrasts and how adversity shapes children's development. Discussing the challenges parents face today, the importance of children contributing to family life, and lessons from global parenting practices. This episode challenges the myth that childhood is solely about play, emphasizing the value of teaching autonomy, responsibility, and community involvement. We also explore how rewards and praise influence children's self-esteem, offering a fresh perspective on fostering intrinsic motivation and building meaningful connections. **Key Takeaways** - **Parenting in Today's World:**   - Societal pressures make modern parenting feel like an uphill battle.   - Many parents feel overwhelmed and unsupported in their roles. - **Insights from Global Practices:**   - Cultural differences offer more relaxed and effective parenting strategies.   - Global parenting traditions highlight the value of community and contribution. - **Adversity and Development:**   - Facing challenges can significantly impact children's mental health and resilience. - **Contribution and Purpose:**   - Teaching children to contribute meaningfully fosters autonomy and connection.   - Encouraging participation in family tasks gives children a sense of purpose and belonging. - **The Role of Play:**   - While play is essential for learning, it doesn't always require toys; real tools and tasks can be equally engaging.   - Balancing play with responsibility nurtures development. - **Rewards, Praise, and Self-Esteem:**   - Excessive praise and rewards can undermine intrinsic motivation.   - Thoughtful and measured praise helps build genuine self-esteem. - **Building Connections:**   - Genuine interactions and community involvement are crucial for children's well-being.   - Family dynamics benefit from creating a cohesive and supportive environment. - **Shifting Parenting Mindsets:**   - Gentle, mindful approaches can ease common parenting struggles.   - Mistakes are part of the journey; it's never too late to adopt new strategies. - **Social Media and Self-Worth:**   - Social media often exacerbates self-esteem issues in children.   - Parents can counteract this by fostering purpose and genuine relationships. **Episode Highlights** - The myth of childhood being solely about play and its impact on development. - How teaching children responsibility contributes to their autonomy and self-worth. - Why intrinsic motivation outshines external rewards and praise. - The importance of building community and family connections. - Simple strategies to involve children in daily tasks for greater engagement and joy. **Final Thoughts** This episode invites listeners to rethink traditional parenting paradigms and adopt practices that build stronger family connections, foster autonomy, and nurture a sense of purpose in children. By drawing on global insights and embracing mindful parenting approaches, families can create more meaningful and enjoyable experiences. You can find Michaeleen through her website https://michaeleendoucleff.com/ and her books and resources are all there! Loved what you heard in this episode? Your support means the world. Make sure to hit that subscribe button, spread the word with your pals, and drop us a review. By doing so, you're not just tuning in – you're fueling our community's growth and paving the way for more incredible guests to grace our show. As the week rolls by, we're already cooking up more tantalizing content for your hungry ears. Keen to stay in the loop with the latest episode releases? Follow our journey on Instagram at @theroadtowisdom.podcast and catch behind-the-scenes action on our YouTube channel @theroadtowisdompodcast. Don't miss out on a thing – also, snag the freshest updates straight to your inbox by subscribing to our newsletter over at ⁠⁠https://www.theroadtowisdompodcast.com/⁠⁠. It's your VIP ticket to all things The Road To Wisdom

In episode 78 of The Road to Wisdom Podcast, Chloe & Keshia speak with Mother and Author of Hunt, Gather, Parent; Michaeleen Doucleff. We dive into the complexities of modern parenting, examining cultural contrasts and how adversity shapes children's development. Discussing the challenges parents face today, the importance of children contributing to family life, and lessons from global parenting practices. This episode challenges the myth that childhood is solely about play, emphasizing the value of teaching autonomy, responsibility, and community involvement. We also explore how rewards and praise influence children's self-esteem, offering a fresh perspective on fostering intrinsic motivation and building meaningful connections. **Key Takeaways** - **Parenting in Today's World:**   - Societal pressures make modern parenting feel like an uphill battle.   - Many parents feel overwhelmed and unsupported in their roles. - **Insights from Global Practices:**   - Cultural differences offer more relaxed and effective parenting strategies.   - Global parenting traditions highlight the value of community and contribution. - **Adversity and Development:**   - Facing challenges can significantly impact children's mental health and resilience. - **Contribution and Purpose:**   - Teaching children to contribute meaningfully fosters autonomy and connection.   - Encouraging participation in family tasks gives children a sense of purpose and belonging. - **The Role of Play:**   - While play is essential for learning, it doesn't always require toys; real tools and tasks can be equally engaging.   - Balancing play with responsibility nurtures development. - **Rewards, Praise, and Self-Esteem:**   - Excessive praise and rewards can undermine intrinsic motivation.   - Thoughtful and measured praise helps build genuine self-esteem. - **Building Connections:**   - Genuine interactions and community involvement are crucial for children's well-being.   - Family dynamics benefit from creating a cohesive and supportive environment. - **Shifting Parenting Mindsets:**   - Gentle, mindful approaches can ease common parenting struggles.   - Mistakes are part of the journey; it's never too late to adopt new strategies. - **Social Media and Self-Worth:**   - Social media often exacerbates self-esteem issues in children.   - Parents can counteract this by fostering purpose and genuine relationships. **Episode Highlights** - The myth of childhood being solely about play and its impact on development. - How teaching children responsibility contributes to their autonomy and self-worth. - Why intrinsic motivation outshines external rewards and praise. - The importance of building community and family connections. - Simple strategies to involve children in daily tasks for greater engagement and joy. **Final Thoughts** This episode invites listeners to rethink traditional parenting paradigms and adopt practices that build stronger family connections, foster autonomy, and nurture a sense of purpose in children. By drawing on global insights and embracing mindful parenting approaches, families can create more meaningful and enjoyable experiences. You can find Michaeleen through her website https://michaeleendoucleff.com/ and her books and resources are all there! Loved what you heard in this episode? Your support means the world. Make sure to hit that subscribe button, spread the word with your pals, and drop us a review. By doing so, you're not just tuning in – you're fueling our community's growth and paving the way for more incredible guests to grace our show. As the week rolls by, we're already cooking up more tantalizing content for your hungry ears. Keen to stay in the loop with the latest episode releases? Follow our journey on Instagram at @theroadtowisdom.podcast and catch behind-the-scenes action on our YouTube channel @theroadtowisdompodcast. Don't miss out on a thing – also, snag the freshest updates straight to your inbox by subscribing to our newsletter over at ⁠⁠https://www.theroadtowisdompodcast.com/⁠⁠. It's your VIP ticket to all things The Road To Wisdom

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit www.louiseperry.co.ukMy guest today is Michaeleen Doucleff, correspondent for NPR radio and author of the bestselling book 'Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us about the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans.' We spoke about the ways in which Western parenting radically diverges from the human norm, why parenting books are a product of atomis…

In this episode you will learn about the secrets of the Inuit culture in northern Canada and how they raise some of the most emotionally intelligent children on the planet. What is so fascinating about this culture is they have parents that rarely, if ever, yell at their children; and they parent in such a way that the children are extremely resilient, compassionate, and emotionally regulated. The Inuit moms helped Michaeleen Doucleff, author and global health correspondent, completely rethink her discipline with her daughter, and in this podcast episode you will be gifted some of the biggest takeaways these Inuit mommas bestowed on Michaeleen during time with them. Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is the author of the New York Times Best Seller Hunt, Gather, Parent. This book describes a way of raising helpful and confident children, which moms and dads have turn to for millennia. It also explains how American families can incorporate this approach into their busy lives.  Doucleff wrote the book after travelling to three continents with her three-year-old daughter, Rosy. Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe families showed her how to tame tantrums, motivate kids to be helpful, and build children's confidence, and self-sufficiency. Michaeleen also is a global health correspondent for NPR Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health. She has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, a master's degree from the University of California, Davis, and a bachelor's degree from Caltech. To learn more about Michaeleen visit https://michaeleendoucleff.com or purchase her book "Hunt, Gather, Parent"  Want more from ICP? Don't miss our upcoming Summit on November 18-21st! This summit is packed with fabulous masterclasses from Dr. Shefali, Dr Neufeld, Dr. Hammond, Dr. Macnamara and so many more! ADHD, Aggression, Depression, Parental Wounds- there is something for everyone. A beautiful blend of  recorded masterclasses and live online workshops- and it is all free! Click here to register!   Interested in learning more about our professional and general membership? We would love you to join us! Click here for more: https://instituteofchildpsychology.com/about-membership/ And we do not want to forget about our Best-Seller The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient Children For a limited time only, buy a copy of our book and recieve a free gift! Yes, you get access to our Compassionate Discipline workshop valued at $87.84. Click here for more info or navigate to www.icphelps.com !  

Kids are naturally motivated to feel purposeful. In other words, kids want to feel like they bring value to the pack. It's primal actually. You see, bringing value/ helping out/ feeling as if “these people might be lost without the amazing me and my mad sweeping skillz:)”, are all ways kids feel when they are given purpose. Purpose can be a tiny thing (clearing their plate from the table)…Or it can be much bigger like, (reading to a younger sibling and helping to care for them). Unfortunately, many of the ways we are taught to motivate kids do the exact opposite. Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the parenting phenom book, Hunt Gather Parent, learned and shared a ton of wisdom from cultures that do it differently than many traditional “Western Worlders” are practicing. We can learn to recognize the ways kids express their helpful instincts, and encourage them to feel the sense of purpose they're seeking.This week on the podcast this is what we are discussing. We also talk about how technology is making it harder than ever on families and why fostering that sense of purpose is more important than ever. You don't want to miss it!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-305About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksPart one of my conversation with Michaeleen: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304 Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment

I'm a fan of good therapy. But I also see so many moms, who are trying to help their strong-willed ones, in the wrong order imo…they look for a therapist first, before changing anything at home. Well this is what I'm talking about today with our fave author, Michaeleen Doucleff. In part one of this conversation, we discuss why pack leadership seems so natural for some folks, and so elusive for others. We also get into the topic of purpose, attention seeking, attachment styles and even disagree on a few things!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

My guest today is Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD. Michaeleen is a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk and the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. Michaeleen has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech. For the past decade, Doucleff has reported on disease outbreaks and children's health for NPR. Before that, Doucleff was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:- Key elements of parenting we have lost in the Western world- Children's innate capacity for helpfulness and autonomy- How the child world and the adult world has been separated- Ways parent and child interests can be harmoniously integrated- The value of doing less as a parent- And the importance of allowing a child's authentic interests to be expressed —————————————————————————Michaeleen's website: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/Hunt, Gather, Parent: https://a.co/d/j0KxJg0—————————————————————————Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexibleYou can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexiblePlease subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth

This is re-release of one of our favourite episodes: Mainstream parenting is W.E.I.R.D! Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, Democratic. Well, maybe not everyone. But parenting in North American culture has changed a lot in the past few hundred years and it's a lot different currently than some other places in the world.  My guest in this podcast set out to look at how some other families around the world operate, how American parenting is different, and what we can learn from parents in other places. Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising helpful and confident children, which moms and dads have turned to for millennia. It also explains how American families can incorporate this approach into their busy lives. Doucleff is also a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health.  We cover: [3:00] Why Michaeleen wrote her book and what influenced it [6:30] How the nuclear family has been a failed social experiment  [13:10] Michaeleen's TEAM acronym  [20:00] The interesting thing about encouraging our kids to develop autonomy  [37:30] The importance of having minimal interference with our kids [45:55] Culturally specific traits when raising kids [52:00] Advice Michaeleen would give her younger parent self Download the episode transcript HERE Resources mentioned in this episode:   Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff Brain-Body Parenting by Dr. Mona Delahooke www.michaeleendoucleff.com Connect with Sarah Rosensweet: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/ Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

Michaeleen Doucleff is a science journalist and the author of the bestselling book Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. In her book, Doucleff explores parenting practices from indigenous cultures worldwide, offering insights into raising cooperative and independent children. Her work blends scientific research with personal experience and provides a fresh perspective on modern parenting techniques.Doucleff wrote the book after traveling to three continents with her 3-year-old daughter, Rosy. Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe families showed her how to tame tantrums, motivate kids to be helpful, and build children's confidence and self-sufficiency. 

It's surprising how often we give our kids orders: "Do this!" "Don't do that!" But if we want to raise resilient and independent kids, is this the right approach? Michaeleen Doucleff argues there's a better way, and in this conversation, she explains why and shares practical strategies for solving the parenting "crisis" in the modern world. In this conversation, Doucleff reveals four parenting principles that will help foster resilience and independence in your kids while protecting and enhancing their emotional well-being. Shane and Doucleff discuss her observations on how different cultures approach parenting and how their practices can help alleviate the burdens we place on ourselves and our children. We also explore the role of technology and its impact on our parenting and our children's development and maturity.Michaeleen Doucleff is the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent. Her work has taken her all over the world to explore, observe, and learn from the parenting practices of various cultures. She is also a correspondent for NPR's Science Desk. (00:00) Intro (04:12) How (and why) we've lost our way as parents (08:02) The rise of the nuclear family (13:46) TEAM Parenting: T (17:20) TEAM Parenting: E (23:01) Why you don't need to praise your child (26:12) TEAM Parenting: A (36:42) TEAM Parenting: M (38:34) "Kids do not need to be entertained" (39:12) Technology, parenting, and transmitting values (1:02:59) Resources parents can use to educate kids about technology (1:04:50) How you can use the environment to give kids autonomy (1:09:56) Success and parenting Watch the episode on YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/c/theknowledgeproject/videos⁠ Newsletter - I share timeless insights and ideas you can use at work and home. Join over 600k others every Sunday and subscribe to Brain Food. Try it: ⁠https://fs.blog/newsletter/⁠ My Book! Clear Thinking: Turning Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Results is out now - ⁠https://fs.blog/clear/⁠ Follow me: ⁠https://beacons.ai/shaneparrish⁠ Join our membership: ⁠https://fs.blog/membership/

My conversations with Michaeleen Doucleff are so much fun that sometimes I forget to hit record!Usually it doesn't even matter what we talk about, but this time it's extra good. You know those times when your kid is acting like a little contrarian. You say up, they say down. You say yes, they say no. And around and around and around.Michaeleen has come up with an amazingly simple sentence that shifts this dynamic like magic.It will turn them not just into collaborators but actual co-creators.Listen as Michaeleen and I discuss oh so many things. I love my time with her so much and I think you will too!In this episode, you'll learn:How to encourage your child to contribute ideas and collaborate in planning activities.The messages about our values that we send when we choose recreation for our kids.Why things that keep kids engaged aren't always as fun as they might seem.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-294About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksThe New York Times profile of Virginia Sole-Smith https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/21/well/eat/fat-activist-virginia-sole-smith.htmlHer book Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture https://virginiasolesmith.com/books/fat-talk-parenting-in-the-age-of-diet-culture/All Joy, No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood, by Jennifer Senior https://jennifersenior.net/all-joy-and-no-funOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment:

There is one book that has totally changed my perspective - and I've read a lot of parenting books. Michaeleen Doucleff is the author of "Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans." She joined me on the show to get real honest about the struggles of modern parenting and how it's making us and our kids miserable.Michaeleen shares how the families she visited in other countries just seem so much happier - their kids are well-behaved and actually want to help out! We talk about letting kids sleep when they're tired instead of on our schedule, teaching them life skills instead of just shuttling them to activities, and building a community instead of being lonely and isolated.It was so eye-opening to realize we don't have to parent the way people have always done it. Tune in to hear Michaeleen's inspiring stories from around the world and get some fresh ideas on raising kids the easier, natural way. - - - - - - - - - - -Liz Durham Instagram | WebsiteSubscribe Apple Podcast | SpotifyBeing Different with Liz Durham is a Palm Tree Pod Co. production

Y'all know that Michaeleen Doucleff is my favorite. Her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent, has become a must-read for my Mastermind parents. Since we first connected we've spent hours, on and off the mic, vibing and swapping parenting stories. One story I've been dying to get more detail about is the decision Michaeleen made to start a whole school out of her house! It's a remarkable tale of agency, confidence, and a mama knowing what's best for her kiddo. I guarantee you'll find it fascinating.In this episode, you'll learn:What makes a mom and journalist with no teaching experience decide to build a learning experience for her daughter.Why the way schools teach is so much more important than what they teach.How a school that doesn't match your kids' needs can be so bad for their interest in learning.The mindset that makes it possible to trust ourselves with something as important as providing the education our kids need.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-290About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join us as we welcome Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff, an esteemed journalist, and bestselling author renowned for her captivating exploration of parenting practices across cultures. Dr. Doucleff, author of the New York Times bestseller "Hunt, Gather, Parent," brings a wealth of expertise to our discussion. With a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, a master's degree in viticulture and enology from the University of California, Davis, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech, her interdisciplinary background informs her unique perspective on parenting. Doucleff has reported for NPR's global health desk for nearly 14 years, and in 2015, she was part of the team that earned a George Foster Peabody award for its coverage of the Ebola outbreak in West Africa.Main Topics Covered:Embracing traditional parenting practices from diverse culturesInsights into the gentle discipline methods of the Inuit communityNurturing self-reliance in children, inspired by the Maasai tribeCultivating empathy, resilience, and independence in kids through cross-cultural wisdomIn this enlightening episode, Dr. Doucleff shares profound insights from her latest book, "Hunt, Gather, Parent," offering transformative wisdom on raising resilient, independent, and empathetic children. Discover the gentle discipline methods of the Inuit community, the Maasai tribe's approach to nurturing self-reliance, and how embracing traditional wisdom can revolutionise modern parenting. Tune in to unlock invaluable lessons that transcend borders and cultures, empowering parents to foster thriving relationships with their children.Lots of love,Dave & Steve xDISCOUNT CODES & SPONSORS:Namawell Juicers are AMAZING! They have absolutely revolutionised the juicing game. We have an exclusive 10% Enter the code HAPPYPEAR10LINK: https://namawell.com/collections/juicers/products/nama-j2-cold-press-juicer?ref=thehappypearVIVOBAREFOOT: Vivobarefoot Footwear have given our listeners an exclusive 2O% discount and if you buy now you also get free access to their incredible course showcasing some of the biggest names in the health and wellness space.Enter the code HAPPYPEAR2OLINK: https://www.vivobarefoot.com/uk/the-happy-pearTHE HAPPY PEAR RECIPE CLUB - Blending health and happiness through a range of over 500 delicious plant-based recipes. LINK: https://eu1.hubs.ly/H06JvgK0Sign up to our Newsletter, for updates on our latest recipes, events and news. LINK: https://share-eu1.hsforms.com/1hKXaawjoQOONmJe4EXkCdwf92pyProduced by Sean Cahill & Sara Fawsitt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all want our kids to grow up confident and self-sufficient. But by doing too much and protecting our kids from failure, so many well-meaning moms and dads end up discouraging the autonomy they want their kids to achieve. Welcome to the first episode of an ongoing conversation with my friend and fave, Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the phenomenal book Hunt, Gather, Parent. We use real stories from my Mastermind Parents to help us find antidotes to the performative, perfectionist parenting models we're trying to overturn.In this episode, you'll learn:The key mindset shift that will help you develop a mutually respectful, collaborative connection with your children.What happens when you stop trying to find the perfect script and start talking to your kids like full human beings.Why parents who do the most for their kids wind up raising little anxious humans.How the strategies we use to motivate and reward our kiddos actually push down their natural drive to help out.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-277About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksJonathan Haidt's upcoming book The Anxious Generation https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/729231/the-anxious-generation-by-jonathan-haidt Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/The Whole Brain Child, by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. https://www.tinabryson.com/thewholebrainchildOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course!

Everything in NPR science correspondent Michaeleen Doucleff's life had been relatively easy until she had a two-year-old daughter. "She's a wonderful kid. She's super smart and ambitious and motivated, but at two she was just a huge handful." On a work trip to a remote Mexican village, Doucleff wasn't expecting to "fix her parenting problems" but while there she got her mind blown by the calm parents and their "incredibly kind, respectful kids". Sometime later, Doucleff set off, toddler in tow, to live amongst three ancient cultures and experience their parenting practices firsthand. Her book Hunt, Gather, Parent explores what ancient traditions can teach us about helping kids thrive.

In this episode, I chat with NPR reporter Michaeleen Doucleff about her New York Times bestseller, Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans.We discuss what Michaeleen learned by taking her three-year-old daughter to learn parenting strategies from three indigenous communities: the Maya in Yucatán, the Inuit above the Arctic Circle, and the Hadzabe in Tanzania. She talks about finding parenting relationships based on cooperation rather than control, trust instead of fear, and personalized guidance rather than standardized expectations.Episode Highlights:[00:37] Introduction of Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff and her book, "Hunter Gatherer Parent."[01:53] Michaeleen's journey as a global health correspondent for NPR.[06:34] Exploration of parenting practices in various cultures.[10:11] Insights into the Maya community's approach to raising helpful children.[19:29] Michaeleen's personal experiences implementing these parenting techniques with her daughter.[30:39] Discussion on motivation and collaboration in parenting.[44:13] The impact of emotional regulation strategies from different cultures.[57:18] Addressing criticisms and the universality of these parenting methods.Links & Resources:•Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff•The Self-Driven Child by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson•What Do You Say? by Bill Stixrud and Ned JohnsonIf this episode has struck a chord with you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. Here's to growing, learning, and thriving as adults in this wild world. Until next time!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.comIf you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Today's episode is a gem with Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD and New York Times bestselling author. Michaeleen's incredible parenting book Hunt, Gather, Parent was written after traveling to three continents with her then 3-year-old daughter, Rosy. Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe families showed her how to tame tantrums, motivate kids to be helpful, and build children's confidence and self-sufficiency.  One of my favorite parenting books, I am thrilled to share this convo with you. We sit down to talk about key points, Michaeleen tells examples beyond the book, and how she sees the efficacy of applying the work - with her emotionally intelligent now 7 year old daughter as living evidence. We touch upon: Togetherness Encouraging helpfulness Cultivating belonging, competence, & autonomy Building connectedness & decreasing conflict Benevolence of child motivations Let us know what you are taking away to play with in the comments below.   Stay connected with Michaeleen by email - mdoucleff@npr.org * Sign up for Lindsey's email list here for updates and offerings. 

Our latest Hunt, Gather, Parent conversation was so big and juicy, we couldn't fit it into just one episode! In part two of this episode, journalist and author Michaeleen Doucleff is back to help us unpack what happens when other adults are judging us for our parenting choices. We respond to a real-life scenario submitted by a Mastermind parent, and Michaeleen shares her own experience of dealing with judgment from her own mom. We also talk about some strategies for dealing with kiddos when they're lashing out, and ways that common parenting advice sets us up to struggle with hurt feelings, whether they're caused by kids or other adults.In this episode, you'll learn:That you can feel plenty of judgment from a disapproving parent, even if they never say a word.The approach you can use to handle both judgy adults and kiddos who are acting out.Why it's okay to acknowledge when your child hurts your feelings.The transformative power of learning from your kids, and letting them know when they're teaching you.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-257 About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksSave your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthlyOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

When I sat down with Michaeleen Doucleff to record the next episode in our Hunt, Gather, Parent series, I knew it was a meaty topic. We've all experienced that feeling of being judged for our parenting, by grandparents, other kids' parents, and even random strangers. I've coached so many parents through coping with judgy adults. Michaeleen has reported on how so many other cultures teach empathy for other parents, rather than shaming.There was so much to dig into we couldn't fit it into one episode! I'm so excited for you to hear this conversation. Join us this week for Part 1, and look for Part 2 next week!In this episode, you'll learn:Why so many of us default to judging a parent who's struggling.How to arm yourself against the embarrassment of judgy adults.How cooperation and a collaborative mindset work to stop judgment before it starts.The one question you can eliminate from your vocabulary to help you opt out of the culture of judging other parents.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-256About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksSave your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthlyOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Step into a world of transformative parenting with Michaeleen Doucleff, the acclaimed science journalist at NPR and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent. This highly anticipated episode unpacks the wisdom of our most requested guest, offering insights that will forever change how you approach parenting. Michaeleen's journey into motherhood in 2015 reshaped her perspectives, leading to the creation of her groundbreaking parenting book. Yet, this conversation isn't confined to parenting techniques; it's a profound exploration of nurturing cooperative dynamics with children, transcending cultural boundaries. Explore Michaeleen's revelation that her book not only revitalized her marriage but also holds the key to productive and harmonious interactions with others, avoiding conflict and stress. Discover the fascinating world of parenting practices across different cultures, where yelling at children is considered counterproductive and immature. Michaeleen challenges conventional thinking by sharing how expressing anger is a last resort in these societies, fostering cooperation over confrontation. Embrace the power of calmness as Michaeleen shares actionable steps to maintain composure during parenting challenges. Understand how children's emotional responses are intertwined with our own, and learn techniques to reduce excessive anger, leading to more effective communication. Uncover the surprising impact of practicing wonder and awe on emotional regulation, fostering a calmer state of mind. From the universality of storytelling to empowering misbehaving children with meaningful roles, Michaeleen's insights transcend cultural norms, promoting collaboration and pride. Dive into the concept of bi-directional learning, where parents are open to receiving wisdom from their children. Explore the unintended consequences of praise and the core of self-regulation, gaining a holistic understanding of cooperative parenting dynamics. Embark on a journey to reshape your parenting paradigm with Michaeleen Doucleff's guidance. This episode offers a blueprint for a new approach that transcends geographical borders, cultivates tranquility, and nurtures cooperation between parents and children. Join us to embrace a transformative perspective that goes beyond conventional parenting methods, leading to a harmonious and enriching family dynamic. Purchase your copy of Hunt, Gather, Parent here >> https://amzn.to/44eEA6u Learn more about Michaeleen here >> www.HuntGatherParent.com www.michaeleendoucleff.com Twitter: @foodiescience  

Today's Episode Sponsor is Innate! Clothes for maternity that aren't *maternity clothes*. Here to help you feel confident pregnant, postpartum, and beyond. Use code KINDRED15 for 15% off! Shop here This episode is a recap of our favorite thoughts and takeaways from Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff. We both loved this book so much!! In the episode we chat about some of Michaeleen's tactics to motivate your children to help around the house, taking the pressure off of narrating everything you do with your child, and how being a calm parent is our ultimate goal.

This week we're revisiting one of my all-time favorite conversations. If you're a parent, especially one raising a strong-willed child, it's a must-listen!  Michaeleen Doucleff is the author of “Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans.” She's also a lovely human who shares her wisdom in the unpreachy-est and most beautiful way. “Hunt, Gather, Parent” is unlike any other parenting book I've ever read. It has quickly become required reading for every parent I work with one-on-one. It's a fascinating anthropological study of human behavior. The oldest cultures in the world have mastered the art of raising happy, well-adjusted children. What can we learn from them? We break down what we are getting wrong when it comes to parenting in our mainstream culture, and celebrate the ancient wisdom of our foremothers in a very practical and relatable way. Get ready to learn from Michaeleen. She is absolutely delightful! I definitely have a mom crush on her, and you will too. In this episode, you'll learn: 1. The practices of sustainable parenting that run through cultures around the world. 2. The qualities we celebrate in adults that we too often discourage in our kids. 3. How an investment of time and persistence can change behaviors for the better - and for the long term. 4. Why taking time for yourself and your own interests is good for you AND your kiddos.  And much more!  As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/240 About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi's Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/Links Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans, by Michaleen Doucleff: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/  Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ 

Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our children are learning. Our role is to see them with love and respect and teach them the ways of their family tribe. We tackle how to direct our kids with less force, create cooperation, and reduce the amount of anger in our homes.  Find part one of our conversation here -  230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Books, Quotes, & Links Mentioned Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff  “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”― L.R. Knost Time Stamps 7:15 - Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent 9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour 12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel 14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures 15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly 18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy 22:11 - Don't talk for your kids 25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family 27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom 29:00 - Our work is their play 32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores 35:35 - Never in anger 39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry 41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen 43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same 48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards them Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: Cherise L&D nurse, 03/15/2023 I just want to take the time to thank you for being such a positive change in my life. I started listening to you guys while I was in nursing school back in 2020. Your very first podcast on morning routines changed my life forever. I then purchased “Miracle Morning” and have lived by this since then. I wake up every morning, oil pull, set my diffusers, do yoga, sip on tea, and if I have time run with my dog (I even make sure to do this on my work days). Being a busy mom of 2 kids ages 7 and 4 that I partially homeschool (they're also in a homeschool co op), wife, and a nurse, I can't thank you ladies enough. Your podcasts help center myself as a parent. It's so easy to get caught up in the day to day busy lifestyle, and when I do find that happening, I pop my ear buds in and go on a run and listen to you ladies. I tell every single mom about your podcast. You have made such a positive change for my family. I truly can't even begin to tell you how much gratitude I have for your show. Thank you, Cherise --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our families. In this episode, with the help of Hunter, Gather, Parent by Michaleen Doucleff, we are going to challenge the Western assumptions we all hold about parenting to bring a breath of fresh air and an ease to our parenting that just may revolutionize the way you think about your home environment!  Time Stamps 8:00 - Intro to Hunter, Gather, Parent 10:13 - The silo parenting present in western culture (WEIRD) 15:51 - The drive to help and belong is naturally present in our kids from the beginning 20:30 - In the long run, forcing your kids is detrimental 21:30 - Example of five year old girl from the Nani Gandi Tribe 23:00 - Never force a kid to stay and work 25:00 - Less praise, more acknowledgement 26:38 - Independence vs. Autonomy 30:01 - “We clean it up” vs. “You clean it up” 34:15 - Example of autonomy the Hadzabe community 41:05 - Chore charts and how they work against intrinsic motivation Related Episodes Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) How To: Create Pockets of Peace Books Mentioned: How to Raise Kind Kids // Thomas Lickona Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: AngelinaEM 04/12/2023 My new best friends. I am a busy mom of 4 (7 yo and under) and Find the Magic is something that I do for myself. I connect with these women SO well and they make me feel like I'm doing the best job, even when I feel like I'm not. Thank you ladies for being here for us mothers. ♥️ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Although parenting is perhaps the most natural thing a human being can do, at the same time it's hard being a parent in modern Western society. Compared to parenting cultures around the world, we're actually pretty weird. Children are almost excluded from our grown-up world. We have come to believe that our kids have to be entertained all the time, that an authoritarian approach is the way to teach new things, and that tantrums and disobedience are just a part of normal. And all this causes a lot of struggle. Luckily, there is an easier way. For ourselves (less guilt!), but also to raise autonomous, helpful, happy kids. Out of the thousands of parenting books written, the New York Times bestseller: Hunt, Gather Parent is perhaps the most profound to read. Why? Because it's not about some new thought-up parenting strategy. It's about how humanity raises children for thousands and thousands of years. Author Michaeleen Doucleff took her daughter to travel to three of the oldest cultures in the world – the Maya (Mexico), the Inuit (Northern Canada) and the Hadzabe (Tanzania) – to find answers to her parenting struggles and her mind was blown. In this episode, Michaeleen shares what she learned and I can tell you: it's groundbreaking.The book Hunt, Gather, Parent is available on Bol.com: https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/p/hunt-gather-parent/9300000043889390/?bltgh=lk9RsVwhyQZNezvA4YFKLw.4_14.18.ProductTitleAs well is the Dutch version Jagen, Verzamelen, Opvoeden: https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/p/jagen-verzamelen-opvoeden/9300000016554822/?bltgh=h3hUWJR-qV8crPPSX1pJUA.2_29.31.ProductTitleZie het privacybeleid op https://art19.com/privacy en de privacyverklaring van Californië op https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you find yourself feeling “bored” when paying with your baby or toddler? Instead of catering completely to your child, have you considered including them in your daily tasks and interests? In this episode, Jodine and Amanda share their fascination with the insights shared in Michaeleen Doucleff's book "Hunt, Gather, Parent”. Doucleff challenges the parenting methods we are probably most familiar with, and explores how we can learn from ancient cultures to raise resilient, empathetic, and self-reliant children. Jodine and Amanda discuss the importance of community, connection, and redefining “play” in raising healthy kids, and discuss practical tips on how to implement these ideas in our modern lives. Join them as they discover how we can positively shift our mindsets and the way we parent to help our little ones thrive in a fast-paced world! If you would like to chat, or have a topic you'd like us to discuss, send us a message! instagram: @blameitonmonewmbrain email: blameitonmombrain@gmail.com Thanks for tuning into BLAME IT ON MOM BRAIN. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blameitonmombrain/message

Do you feel like you're in a constant state of verbal contact with your kids - either arguing, praising, or commanding, all day long? So did Michaeleen Doucleff, until she went on assignment to the Yucatan to learn about Mayan methods of parenting. Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff is a science reporter for NPR and the author of the New York Times best-seller Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. In this "Best Of" interview Amy, Margaret, and Michaeleen discuss: The power of NOT negotiating with your child Tenets of WEIRD parenting (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic) How Michaeleen's relationship with her daughter has improved with these techniques Taking note of how much you insert yourself into your child's activities during the day - and making a conscious effort to do so less - is a very important part of improving both your child's behavior and your relationship with them. Here's where you can find Michaeleen: Twitter: @foodiescience michaeleendoucleff.com Buy Michaeleen's book: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781982149673 Do us a solid! Take our listener survey at bit.ly/whatfreshhellsurvey Special thanks to our sponsors for this month: For trusted protection, choose Pampers, the #1 Pediatrician Recommended Brand. Download the Pampers Club App today to start earning rewards with every diaper & wipes purchase. Aura Frames turns your family's past into the perfect gift, bringing all your favorite photos and videos together in one high-resolution display. Get up to $30 off Aura's best-selling frames at auraframes.com/FRESH. Terms and conditions apply. Author Accelerator's Book Coach Certification program provides resources to help you launch your own thriving business coaching writers. Enroll in the program at bookcoaches.com/podcasts before December 31st to get $600 in book coaching extras. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists. Learn more and save 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/FRESH. For gifts of all kinds, Etsy has it. Use code MERRY10 at checkout for 10% off your first purchase at etsy.com. Gladskin is clinically proven skincare for people of all ages with eczema, acne, and rosacea. Get 15% off plus free shipping at gladskin.com/FRESH. Give Awesome this holiday with KiwiCo! Get your first month FREE on ANY crate line at kiwico.com/motherhood. Indeed is the only job site where you're guaranteed to find quality applicants that meet your must-have requirements--or else you don't pay! Visit indeed.com/LAUGHING to start hiring now. Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to prose.com/laughing. Rakuten is an online shopping platform that gives you Cash Back when you shop at thousands of merchants. Start shopping at rakuten.com or get the Rakuten app to start saving today. StoryWorth is an online service that helps you and your loved ones connect through sharing stories and memories and preserves them for years to come. Save $10 off your first purchase at storyworth.com/whatfreshhell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rosy had a packed schedule of lunches, meet-ups and activities - and she was only three.  Mom Michaeleen Doucleff felt she couldn't waste a second of her daughter's time. Rosy needed to be constantly lectured and stimulated if she was going to reach the Ivy League.  This style of parenting was exhausting both mother and daughter, until Michaeleen found that not everyone approaches child-rearing in this way. She tells Dr Laurie Santos how she forged a happier and more relaxed relationship with Rosy - that benefited them both.   Formed Stanford dean Julie Lythcott-Haims explores how "overparenting" has taken hold in recent decades and why it needs to be challenged.    Further reading: Michaeleen Doucleff - Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy Helpful Humans.   Malcolm Harris - Kids These Days: Human Capital and the Making of Millennials  Julie Lythcott-Haims - How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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*During the school holidays we'll be sharing memories from interviews with Justin's favourite guests* Today's guest is Michaeleen Doucleff. To become a Happy Families member, find out more here, Happy Families Membership. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au

Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising helpful and confident children, which moms and dads have turned to for millennia. It also explains how American families can incorporate this approach into their busy lives.Doucleff wrote the book after traveling to three continents with her 3-year-old daughter, Rosy. Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe families showed her how to tame tantrums, motivate kids to be helpful, and build children's confidence and self-sufficiency. Doucleff is also a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health. Doucleff has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, a master's degree in viticulture and enology from the University of California, Davis, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech.In 2015, Doucleff was part of the team that earned a George Foster Peabody award for its coverage of the Ebola outbreak in West Africa. As a science journalist, Doucleff has reported on a broad range of topics, from vaccination fears and the microbiome to beer biophysics and dog psychology.Get Hunt, Gather, Parent Here: Amazon US Amazon AUSPre-order my new book 'The Path of an Eagle: How To Overcome & Lead After Being Knocked Down'.► AMAZON US► AMAZON AUSSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/thestorybox. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

The science of parenting…isn't really a science. It's a lot of myths and advice and stories from elder generations. But let's think about where we are getting that advice. Our guest Michaeleen Doucleff wrote her New York Times bestseller “Hunt, Gather, Parent ”after traveling to three continents with her 3-year-old daughter, Rosy. She says Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe families showed her how to tame tantrums, motivate kids to be helpful, and build children's confidence and self-sufficiency. Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is an author and a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health. Greg and Michaeleen look at modern parenting all over the globe, why it isn't valued and respected as a “job” in many cultures, the loss of the extended family, whether or not babies are actually manipulative, and the pros of alloparenting.Episode Quotes:The auntie/uncle networkSuzanne Gaskins told me about this. She calls it the auntie network, where she teamed up. She lives part-time in this Maya village as anthropologist, but she also raised her three boys in Chicago, and she teamed up with like two other families, and they shared the childcare and child rearing together. And so, you know, one family would pick up from school one day and another family would pick up school from the other day. And then the weekends, they would drop the kids off at other people's houses. And so you create this little mini pod. It is what we would call it now after COVID where, you know, those are the alloparents, right? These families become the aunts, the uncles, the cousins. And, so that's really all you need. So I think focusing more on like quality of these families and how they overlap with your thinking of how kids should be treated is more important than quantity. It doesn't take a village to raise a childPeople always say you need a village. No, you really don't. You need like two other adults that are helping. And that really care. And you work together and you can find that because people are hungry for it.What's negative about positive parentingMy problem with positive parenting is that the families ignore half of the child's life, the negative side. It's just ignored. And so there's this kind of very disingenuine approach. Just acknowledging what the child is doing, whether it's good or bad. And, I think positive parenting is missing that side of it.Show Links:Recommended Resources:Self-Esteem in Time and Place: How American Families Imagine, Enact, and Personalize a Cultural Ideal (Child Development in Cultural Context Series)Suzanne Gaskins | Northeastern Illinois UniversityGuest Profile:Professional Profile on NPRMichaeleen Doucleff WebsiteMichaeleen Doucleff on TwitterHer Work:Michaeleen Doucleff ArticlesHunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans

Michaeleen is an author, scientist, and global correspondent for National Public Radio (NPR) and shares lessons from her New York Times bestselling book, Hunt Gather Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. Michaeleen's global travels introduced her to cultures that model an easier way to raise helpful, confident, cooperative, and kind children.

Mainstream parenting is W.E.I.R.D! Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, Democratic. Well, maybe not everyone. But parenting in North American culture has changed a lot in the past few hundred years and it's a lot different currently than some other places in the world.    My guest in this podcast set out to look at how some other families around the world operate, how American parenting is different, and what we can learn from parents in other places.   Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising helpful and confident children, which moms and dads have turned to for millennia. It also explains how American families can incorporate this approach into their busy lives.   Doucleff is also a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health.    We go into: [3:00] Why Michaeleen wrote her book and what influenced it [6:30] How the nuclear family has been a failed social experiment  [13:10] Michaeleen's TEAM acronym  [20:00] The interesting thing about encouraging our kids to develop autonomy  [37:30] The importance of having minimal interference with our kids [45:55] Culturally specific traits when raising kids [52:00] Advice Michaeleen would give her younger parent self   Doucleff has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, a master's degree in viticulture and enology from the University of California, Davis, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech.   In 2015, Doucleff was part of the team that earned a George Foster Peabody award for its coverage of the Ebola outbreak in West Africa. Before coming to NPR in 2012, Doucleff was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture.    She lives in Alpine, Texas, with her husband, daughter and German Shepherd, Savanna. Resources mentioned in this episode Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff Ask your question: www.speakpipe.com/peacefulparentingpodcast Brain-Body Parenting by Dr. Mona Delahooke Connect with Michaeleen Doucleff On Twitter www.michaeleendoucleff.com   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

In the first segment, Tiokasin talks with Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About Raising Children (Simon and Schuster, 2021). The book describes a way of raising helpful and confident children, which moms and dads have turned to for millennia. It also explains how American families can incorporate this approach into their busy lives. Michaeleen wrote the book after traveling to three continents with her 3-year-old daughter, Rosy. Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe families showed her how to tame tantrums, motivate kids to be helpful, and build children's confidence and self-sufficiency. Michaeleen is also a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health. More about Michaeleen at michaeleendoucleff.comIn the second segment, William Iggiagruk Hensley (Iñupiaq) is the author of Fifty Miles from Tomorrow: A Memoir of Alaska and the Real People (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2009). It is a stirring memoir of his childhood among the Iñupiaq people in Alaska, his lifelong crusade, including a stint in Congress, to protect their culture and way of life. William brilliantly portrays how the lessons he learned in childhood, battling the wilderness of Alaska without many basic necessities, helped him as an adult to battle the hardships of political corruption and deceit in order to preserve his heritage. In 1971, after years of William's tireless lobbying, the U.S. conveyed 44 million acres and earmarked nearly $1 billion for use by Alaska Native peoples. This is the inspiring true story of one man's quest to preserve and defend his people's "Ilitqusiat" - or Native Spirit.Production Credits:Tiokasin Ghosthorse (Lakota), Host and Executive ProducerLiz Hill (Red Lake Ojibwe), ProducerMalcolm Burn, Studio Engineer, Radio Kingston, WKNY 1490 AM and 107.9 FM, Kingston, NYTiokasin Ghosthorse, Audio EditorMusic Selections:1. Song Title: Tahi Roots Mix (First Voices Radio Theme Song)Artist: Moana and the Moa HuntersAlbum: Tahi (1993)Label: Southside Records (Australia and New Zealand)(00:00:25)2. Song Title: Straight UpArtist: Kory ThorntonAlbum: N/A (released as a single in 2020)Label: Music and Beyond Records(00:49:40)AKANTU INSTITUTEVisit Akantu Institute, an institute that Tiokasin founded with a mission of contextualizing original wisdom for troubled times. Go to https://akantuinstitute.org/ to find out more and consider joining his Patreon page at https://www.patreon.com/Ghosthorse.

(Interview starts at 5.25) Welcome back to Season Four of the Untaming Podcast! It is currently the First Quarter of the Long Night's Moon here in the Southern Hemisphere. Michaeleen Doucleff is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising helpful and confident children, which mums and dads have turned to for millennia. Doucleff is also a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health. Michaeleen's Website: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/ Book: Hunt, Gather, Parent: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/54304028-hunt-gather-parent Michaeleen's Twitter: @FoodieScience Michaeleen's Email: mdoucleff@npr.org Untaming Contact: FB: https://www.facebook.com/Untaming-396582437559159/ IG: @untaming_podcast Twitter: @UntamingP Email: untaming.podcast@gmail.com https://anchor.fm/emily033

Do you wish your child were more helpful around the house? I do! In this episode, I talk to Michaeleen Ducleff, author of Hunt, Gather, Parent about the secrets that indigenous cultures can teach us about how to raise helpful children. She talks about her travels and how in western cultures have been teaching parents a really hard way to parent, generating conflict between themselves and their children. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to  Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Takeaways: Involving children will motivate them to help more Boredom isn't bad for children You are always modeling behaviors Michaeleen Doucleff is an NPR's Science Desk correspondent. Her first book, HUNT, GATHER, PARENT, a New York Times bestseller, is now out in paperback. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out these deals from this week's sponsors: Get 15% off your first order when you visit thrivecausemetics.com/HUNTER Ivory Ella a lifestyle apparel brand that donates 10% of profits to saving the elephants: get 15% off using code hunter at ivoryella.com/collections/new-arrivals

Michaeleen is an author, scientist, and global correspondent for National Public Radio (NPR) and shares lessons from her New York Times bestselling book, Hunt Gather Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. Michaeleen's global travels introduced her to cultures that model an easier way to raise helpful, confident, cooperative, and kind children. Michaeleen is our featured Keynote Speaker at our Jumpstart Parent Education Conference on Thursday, August 11, 2022. Save the date! Purchase Hunt Gather Parent here.Learn more about the Keynote Speaker at Michaeleendoucleff.com

This week is a big episode for me, and you don't want to miss every morsel of this conversation with the author, Michaeleen Doucleff. She wrote Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. I make her fascinating book required reading for every parent I work with in my private programs.  This book is not like other parenting books - it reads like a fascinating anthropological study of human behavior. The oldest cultures in the world have mastered the art of raising happy, well-adjusted children. What can we learn from them? In this episode, we break down what we are getting wrong when it comes to parenting in our mainstream culture and bringing back the ancient wisdom of our foremothers in a very practical and relatable way…the good news is that this means more time for yourself and adult activities. Get ready to learn from Michaeleen - she is absolutely delightful! I definitely have a mom crush on her, and you will too.  As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. About Michaleen Doucleff Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk and the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising kind and confident children, which moms and dads all over the world have turned to for millennia. Doucleff has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech. For the past decade, Doucleff has reported on disease outbreaks and children's health for NPR. Before that, Doucleff was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture. She lives in San Francisco with her husband, daughter and German Shepherd, Savanna. Web/Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/Links Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaleen Doucleff: https://amzn.to/39yjEkf Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Michaeleen Doucleff, Ph.D.: “Having somebody there for you if something goes wrong is such a predictor of health.”  Doucleff, a parenting expert and New York Times bestselling author, joins mbg co-CEO, Jason Wachob, to discuss how to raise generous kids without nagging, plus: - How to diffuse a temper tantrum without yelling (~03:26) - How to actually motivate children to do the right thing (~15:17) - How to really give your children autonomy (~21:54) - The best ways to bolster kids' mental health (~24:49) - Why kids should have at least one other caring adult in their lives (~27:03) Referenced in the episode: - Doucleff's book, Hunt, Gather, Parent. - mbg Podcast episode #344, with Lisa Miller, Ph.D. - Read Doucleff's work on NPR.org. - Research showing kids are less likely to help a second time after receiving extrinsic rewards. - Research on relational wealth and quality of life. Take 25% off our sleep support+ with code SLEEP25. Cannot combine with gift cards or other discount codes. Apply code at checkout.  Enjoy this episode! Whether it's an article or podcast, we want to know what we can do to help here at mindbodygreen. Let us know at: podcast@mindbodygreen.com.

We have an incredible episode this week with author Michaleen Doucleff. In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Doucleff sets out with her three-year-old daughter in tow to learn and practice parenting strategies from families in three of the world's most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadzabe families in Tanzania. She sees that these cultures don't have the same problems with children that Western parents do. Most strikingly, parents build a relationship with young children that is vastly different from the one many Western parents develop - it's built on cooperation instead of control, trust instead of fear, and personalized needs instead of standardized development milestones.

Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff, a global health correspondent for National Public Radio's Science Desk, lives here in Alpine. She talks to us about the Omicron variant, who is vulnerable, plus common sense measures and the tools we can use to avoid infection, including vaccination and rapid testing. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hearmeoutalpine.substack.com

We're joined by New York Times science and global health Reporter Apoorva Mandavilli and Michaeleen Doucleff, a correspondent for NPR's Science desk, this week on News Nerds for Wednesday, December 8th, 2021. They share their reporting on the new Covid-19 strain, Omicron which was detected on November 23rd in South Africa. The World Health Organization (or WHO) labeled the variant a variant of concern. That's all coming up. Also the geographical location challenge and a... ...podcast recommendations? Ezra --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/newsnerds/message

Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. She's a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children's health. Doucleff has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of California, Berkeley, a master's degree in viticulture and enology from the University of California, Davis, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech.In 2015, Doucleff was part of the team that earned a George Foster Peabody award for its coverage of the Ebola outbreak in West Africa. The 80/80 Marriage by Nate and Kaley KlempMichaeleen Doucleff on Twitter @foodiescience 

What if the secrets to parenting aren't secrets at all? What if everything you need to know to raise intrinsically-motivated, helpful, kind, and generous humans can all be learned from the Maya in Yucatan, the Inuit in the Arctic circle, and the Hadzabe in Tanzania? We dive into this topic with Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, but after this episode, we think you'll want to dive even deeper!    Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD is author of New York Times Bestseller, Hunt Gather Parent. This is the parenting book of all parenting books, where Doucleff shares what she learned about parenting after visiting three continents with her 3-year-old daughter. You can also find her over at NPR, where she uses her expertise to cover a wide range of topics, all with science and health in mind. She currently lives in Alpine, Texas with her family.     Doucleff says her book isn't just about parenting, it is also about how we treat other people, and how to relate to children in a different way than we do in Western culture.     Children Go With:  In these places, it is normal for children to go with adults; children are integrated into the adult world  Bringing children into your work world gets them to connect with you and learn! A lot of struggle American parents have is because kids aren't used to working together with their parents/family unit    Why/How to Avoid Kid-Centred Activities:  The vast majority of cultures don't have kid-centred activities, because they don't think kids need specific activities (In these cultures, usually kid “toys” are related to work)  After kid-centred activities, kid behaviour can be very poor  Allow sports and activities to be child-driven, meaning let them choose, and hopefully make it family-centred in some way, or allow it to foster independence  Kids who aren't over-scheduled are found to take more initiative in chores and homework   Extra activities are, and should be seen as, privileges     T.E.A.M. Acronym (works best outside!!):  Together (with someone older, who loves them)  Encourage (versus force)  Autonomy (allow kids to make decisions, but still expect them to help, be kind, and generous)  Minimal Interference     The TEAM Acronym is extraordinary for kids physical and mental health.     How/Why to Avoid Bribery & Chore Charts:  Bribery and chore charts don't support kids in becoming intrinsically-motivated to help the family  In cultures outside America, when kids are young, they don't “shoo” the little ones away when they try to help (check out Hunt, Gather, Parent for the other two secrets to this!)  Allow kids to be with you and help you, and start them with a tiny, but still meaningful task     Follow Michaeleen at:  Twitter: @FoodieScience  Contact her via email     Book Recommendation:  Hunt Gather Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff  Self-Driven Child by Ned Johnson    Check out KWE's #patch4apurpose to support 1, or all 8, charities: https://kidswhoexplore.com/product/original-explorer-patch4apurpose/    Today's Hosts: @laurenrodycheberle and @cldowsett from @kidswhoexplore Production: @kpmediaproductions. Music: @michaelferraro_music.  

Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff, the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent, tells us a story about how she almost assumed the worst about her 6-year old daughter when she was using the fine champagne glasses. Before responding in anger, she caught herself and asked, "What's your plan for those?" Thankfully she did, because her daughter was planning to make a "special drink" for Michaeleen's birthday. Likewise, Jun tells a story about how he saw his daughters wrestling on top of a table. His natural reaction was to react in anger, "Stop what you're doing! You're hurting each other." Instead, he asked his children, "What's going on over there?" Turned out, the 4yo was trying to save the 2yo from falling off the table. Learn more about Michaeleen and her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent here: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/

Hunt, Gather, Parent, by Michaeleen Doucleff, shares ancient wisdom that's still relevant today: the key to raising healthy, happy, helpful humans is to engage them in work of the family and community.  That's a truth we seem to have forgotten in our collective desire to optimize our kids. Our intentions are good, but our actions -- signing our kids up for multiple extracurricular activities; spending our weekends shuffling them around to tournaments and birthday parties -- may actually be harming our kids' development. Michaeleen's investigation of parenting practices began when her daughter was two and hitting, biting, and experiencing frequent tantrums. "Everything in my heart wanted to help her, to teach her how to calm down," Michaeleen says. So, like a good modern parent, Michaeleen read parenting books and blogs. But nothing she tried seemed to help. "We'd get in these big cycles: I'd eventually get angry and she would get louder," Michaeleen says. "To be honest, I really started to dread my time with her." Then Michaeleen, a science correspondent for NPR, was sent to the Yucatan to follow up on a research paper that found that Mayan kids are better at paying attention than American kids. The experience was life-changing. "What those parents showed me in the week we were there really shifted my whole thinking about parenting," she says. "I started to realize there's a different way to do this that's not only easier but more effective." Learn more in Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff. In this episode, Jen, Janet & Michaeleen discuss: How a trip to the Yucatan shifted Michaeleen's approach to parenting Why letting children explore is more effective than telling kids what to do Going against the parenting grain Benefits of family-focused (vs. kid-focused) parenting Involving kids in the work of the family Why you should get rid of some of your kids' toys Creating opportunities to share How kids develop initiative Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans -- Michaeleen's book A Global Guide for Parents: How Your Kids Can Have Fun Without Stressing You Out -- NPR article by Michaeleen michaeleendoucleff.com -- Michaeleen's website Sponsor Spotlight: Cozi #1 organizing app for families

Dr. Elana interviews Michaeleen Doucleff - author of New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent and global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk. They discussed Michaeleen's vulnerable power struggles with her own child and how she overcame the conflict in her home by modeling parenting ways she observed while on assignment in areas like the Yucatan and the Arctic. She couldn't believe how cooperative and confident the children were while on her travels and decided to dedicate years to learn techniques from parents all over the world so parents can improve relationships with their kids and avoid conflict. Topics Discussed: How to raise cooperative and collaborative children Benefits of 3 comments per hour max! The leading cause of anxiety and depression in kids and how we can avoid that What we often do wrong as parents and how to easily change it! 3 tips how to raise confident kids How to guide kids versus control them How to encourage shared responsibilities around the house Show Notes:   Tweet Michaeleen Listen to today's episode on our website Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is a global health correspondent for NPR's Science Desk and the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising kind and confident children, which moms and dads all over the world have turned to for millennia. Doucleff has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, and a bachelor's degree in biology from Caltech. For the past decade, Doucleff has reported on disease outbreaks and children's health for NPR. Before that, Doucleff was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture. She lives in San Francisco with her husband, daughter and German Shepherd, Savanna This Episode's Sponsors  Enjoy the health benefits of PaleoValley's products such as their supplements, superfood bars and meat sticks.  Receive 15% off your purchase by using code DOCTORMOM at checkout or head to paleovalley.com/doctormom  Discover for yourself why Needed is trusted by women's health practitioners and mamas alike to support optimal pregnancy outcomes. Try their 4 Part Complete Nutrition plan which includes a Prenatal Multi, Omega-3, Collagen Protein, and Pre/Probiotic. To get started, head to thisisneeded.com, and use code DOCTORMOM50 for $50 off Needed's Complete Plan! Light therapy is a rare treatment that really is one-size-fits-all. Busy moms can benefit from more healthy light in their lives. Light Therapy provides many health benefits like enhanced cellular function and ATP energy production, better skin, increased blood flow, better sleep and faster recovery after workouts. Visit joovv.com/doctormom and use code DOCTORMOM for $50 off your first purchase. INTRODUCE YOURSELF to Steph and Dr. Elana on Instagram. They can't wait to meet you! @stephgreunke @drelanaroumell Please remember that the views and ideas presented on this podcast are for informational purposes only.  All information presented on this podcast is for informational purposes and not intended to serve as a substitute for the consultation, diagnosis, and/or medical treatment of a healthcare provider. Consult with your healthcare provider before starting any diet, supplement regimen, or to determine the appropriateness of the information shared on this podcast, or if you have any questions regarding your treatment plan.    

With booster shots on the horizon for some people, one of the biggest questions is: Am I still protected against COVID-19 if I've only had two doses of the vaccine? As science correspondent Michaeleen Doucleff reports, the answer is...complicated.Read more of Michaeleen's reporting on COVID immunity: https://n.pr/2XIQ6KXReach the show by emailing shortwave@npr.org.

On September's PrepTalks, Ned chats with NPR reporter Michaeleen Doucleff about her recent New York Times bestseller, Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. They discuss what Michaeleen learned by taking her three-year-old daughter to learn parenting strategies from three indigenous communities: the Maya in Yucatán, the Inuit above the Arctic Circle, and the Hadzabe in Tanzania. She talks about finding parenting relationships based on cooperation rather than control, trust instead of fear, and personalized guidance rather than standardized expectations. Follow Ned on Twitter at @nedjohnson and Michaeleen at @FoodieScience.

NPR Global Health Desk Correspondent, Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff, traveled to three continents with her three-year-old daughter, Rosie, along as her sidekick. Together, they lived with Maya, Hadzabe, and Inuit families, and learned how to tame Rosie's tantrums, motivate kids to be helpful, and build confidence and self-sufficiency. Michaeleen captured all that she learned in her New York Times bestselling book, Hunt, Gather, Parent. Liz checked in with her to talk more about her book, what makes modern Western parenting “weird,” why the village is just ingrained in almost every culture except our own, and how we can incorporate what Michaeleen learned from these families into our own lives.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Michaeleen Crowell was Chief of Staff to US Senator Bernard Sanders for 5 years. She was Senior Advisor to the Bernie 2016 presidential campaign. She built the social media empire that Senator Sanders uses to reach 25 million people each week. As if this wasn't enough, she was Legislative Director for civil rights icon John Lewis before that. Michaeleen joins the show to talk about how Bernie Sanders became a masterful inside player; how to pass bills in today's divided Washington; what Republicans are saying behind the scenes in the Senate; what working for John Lewis was really like; what she learned playing Hillary Clinton in the 2016 Sanders campaign prep debates; and what the future of the progressive movement looks like.

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Encuentra este audiolibro completo en https://penguinaudio.com http://bit.ly/ElarteperdidodeeducarSampleNarrado por: Caro CappielloLas culturas más antiguas del mundo siempre han dominado el arte de criar niños felices y bien adaptados. ¿Qué podemos aprender de ellos? Una lectura obligatoria para las mamás y los papás que buscan soluciones inteligentes y creativas a los problemas de crianza que más nos preocupan y frustran. #penguinaudio #audiolibro #audiolibros #Michaeleen #Doucleff #MichaeleenDoucleff See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Katie Lowes talks with Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff about her journey to writing New York Times bestseller “Hunt, Gather Parent” and what she discovered Western parents have been missing out on along the way.  Admittedly feeling ill-equipped to handle her three-year-old daughter, Michaeleen travelled the world to observe and implement parenting practices from different cultures. Struck by the results in her own household, she shares the lessons learned – including ways to respond to kids who are acting out and techniques that teach children emotional intelligence and raise confident and helpful little humans. (SPOILER: it’s NOT a chore chart)  Plus, what is TEAM parenting? Tune in and find out! Katie’s Crib Notes: Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans - Book by Michaeleen Doucleff Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

We talk with Michaeleen Doucleff about her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent. Then, Sherry Turkle tells us about The Empathy Diaries. The post Michaeleen Doucleff, HUNT, GATHER, PARENT & Sherry Turkle, THE EMPATHY DIARIES appeared first on Writer's Voice.

Hunt, Gather, Parent | This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers and Paleovalley.Having children of your own is sure to make you think about the way you were raised and question if you want to do things the same. It’s also sure to raise lots of questions about how your interactions with your child are impacting their development and your relationships.What we see as commonplace parenting here in the US is quite different than other parts of the world. Helicopter parenting takes away from our kids’ independence and autonomy and often leads to conflict. Luckily, there are ways we can be more conscious to help everyone in the family flourish. Today on The Dhru Purohit Podcast, Dhru talks to Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff. Michaeleen is a correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk. In 2015, she was part of the team that earned a George Foster Peabody award for its coverage of the Ebola outbreak in West Africa. Prior to joining NPR, Michaeleen was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture. She has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of California, Berkeley, and a master’s degree in viticulture and enology from the University of California, Davis. Her new book Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans shares what she’s learned in her own parenting journey as well as through her research on families across the globe. In this episode, we dive into: -Michaeleen’s personal struggles with her daughter Rosy (6:30) -Why the way we parent in the West is strange (14:39)-The importance of autonomy for children (18:20) -The rising rates of anxiety and depression in kids, and how the way we parent in the West is contributing to that (23:07) -How Michaeleen’s daughter Rosy puts herself to sleep at night (28:29) -The greatest gift you can give your child (37:19)-The best way to motivate your kids (41:03) -Why children don’t really need child-centered activities (51:50) -Why we shouldn’t constantly praise our kids (59:08) -The value of a communal approach to raising children (1:04:30) -Michaeleen’s TEAM approach to parenting (1:07:34) -How to make this approach work in a busy family life (1:21:15) For more on Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff you can follow her on Twitter @FoodieScience, and through her website https://michaeleendoucleff.com/. You can contact her directly by email at mdoucleff@npr.org. Get her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans at https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/. For more on Dhru Purohit, be sure to follow him on Instagram @dhrupurohit, on Facebook @dhruxpurohit, on Twitter @dhrupurohit, and on YouTube @dhrupurohit. You can also text Dhru at (302) 200-5643 or click here https://my.community.com/dhrupurohit.Interested in joining The Dhru Purohit Podcast Facebook Community? Submit your request to join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2819627591487473/.This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers and Paleovalley.If I had to pick one supplement that has made the biggest difference in my overall health, it would be magnesium. I personally started taking magnesium to help with my sleep, especially when I travel, and it’s been a game changer. But I don’t take just any old magnesium, I take BiOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough. It contains 7 different forms of magnesium, which all have different functions in the body. I haven’t found anything else like it on the market. Right now, BiOptimizers is offering my community a few special bundles, just head over to https://magbreakthrough.com/dhru, with code DHRU10. Not all turmeric supplements are created equal. I love taking Turmeric Complex from Paleovalley. It contains organic whole food turmeric, so you get the synergistic effects of all its compounds. It also contains coconut oil and black pepper which have been shown to improve the absorption of those active compounds by 2,000%, plus it includes other natural anti-inflammatories like organic ginger, rosemary, and cloves. Right now, Paleovalley is offering my listeners 15% off at https://paleovalley.com/dhru. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In the first segment, Tiokasin talks with Michaeleen Doucleff. A correspondent for National Public Radio’s Science Desk, Michaeleen was part of the 2015 team that earned a George Foster Peabody award for its coverage of the Ebola outbreak in West Africa. Prior to joining NPR, Michaeleen was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture. Michaeleen has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of California, Berkeley, and a master’s degree in viticulture and enology from the University of California, Davis. She lives with her husband, daughter, and German shepherd, Mango, in San Francisco. Tiokasin will be talking with Michaeleen about her first book, Hunt, Gather, Parent, which was an instant New York Times bestseller.In the second segment, we hear from regular guest Manuel Rozental, who was interviewed on Friday, April 30 by Mario A. Murillo. This is an international story where the Covid-19 pandemic seems to be once again on the rise. In Colombia as of last Friday, over 500 people died in one day, as a result of Covid-19. It was the worst daily total since the pandemic began last year, and is the equivalent of 5,000 people dying in one day here in the U.S. And while the crisis continues, Colombia is witnessing massive protests in large cities and small towns throughout the country, protesting the government’s proposal for a comprehensive tax reform bill that will adversely impact working people. This past Sunday, Colombia President Iván Duque withdrew the controversial tax reform bill following four days of huge protests across the country. In a televised statement, he said his government would work to produce new proposals and seek consensus with other parties and organizations. He had previously insisted tax hikes were needed to respond to the economic crisis generated by the pandemic. But tens of thousands of people took to the streets in anger at the bill. Unions, who organized the protests, said it would disproportionately impact on the poorest people who were already struggling with the economic impact of Covid-19. This comes as Indigenous communities in Colombia continue to face ongoing threats to their way of life. A number of Indigenous leaders were killed in recent months, which has concerned activists in Colombia and around the world. One of them is Colombian physician and veteran human rights activist Manuel Rozental. During this interview Manuel first explained what the general strike was calling for and how it was tied to the Indigenous movement in Colombia. Mario A. Murillo — a regular guest, commentator and contributor to First Voices Radio — is a journalist, author and Associate Professor and Chair of the Department of Radio, Television and Film in the School of Communication at Hofstra University.Production Credits:Tiokasin Ghosthorse (Lakota), Host and Executive ProducerLiz Hill (Red Lake Ojibwe), ProducerTiokasin Ghosthorse, Studio Engineer and Audio Editor, WIOX 91.3 FM, Roxbury, NYMusic Selections:1. Song Title: Tahi Roots Mix (First Voices Radio Theme Song)Artist: Moana and the Moa HuntersCD: Tahi (1993)Label: Southside Records (Australia and New Zealand)(00:00:44)2. Song Title: Amassakoul ’N’TénéréArtist: TinariwenCD: Amassakoul (2004)Label: World Village(00:33:18)3. Song Title: Riders on the StormArtist: DoorsCD: The Very Best of the Doors (2007)Label: Electra Records / Rhino(00:55:30)

Hosts Joseph Pace and Grace Won talk about the next steps in the Newsom recall effort and then dive into the importance of teaching Asian American history in our K-12 classrooms. Ethan Elkind interviews NPR's Michaeleen Doucleff about her new book "Hunt, Gather, Parent."

Hosts Joseph Pace and Grace Won talk about the next steps in the Newsom recall effort and then dive into the importance of teaching Asian American history in our K-12 classrooms. Ethan Elkind interviews NPR's Michaeleen Doucleff about her new book "Hunt, Gather, Parent."

Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff is the author of the New York Times best-seller Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. In this interview, she tells us about the circumstances that inspired her own "aha" parenting moment, and then the book. While on assignment in the Yucatan as a reporter for NPR's Science Desk, Michaeleen saw children helping around the house, unprompted and unapplauded. She wondered how her own life back in the United States, with a tantruming preschooler and chaotic household, could be so different. It inspired Michaeleen's exploration of how the tenets of WEIRD parenting (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic) differ from those of more ancient civilizations, and how we might all restore a little sanity by unlearning some of our Western ways. Follow Michaeleen on Twitter @foodiescience and on her website: michaeleendoucleff.com. Special thanks to this month's sponsors:   Jane.com is a boutique marketplace featuring the latest in women’s fashion, accessories, home decor, children’s clothing, and more. You will not believe the prices! Visit jane.com/laughing. Parade makes creative underwear and bralettes in a variety of sizes from extra small to 3 XL. Supersoft, super-cute, and prices that start at $8! Get 25% off when you spend $40 or more at yourparade.com/wfh with code WFH.  Zocdoc has you covered! Whether you need a primary care physician, dentist, dermatologist, psychiatrist, eye doctor, or any other specialist, you can find top doctors at zocdoc.com.laughing. Audible has everything you love to listen to, INCLUDING this podcast, all in one app! Try Audible free for 30 days by going to audible.com/fresh, or by texting FRESH to 500-500. Pharmaca is a source you can trust for herbal and homeopathic formulas, high-quality vitamins, and organic cruelty-free beauty. Go to Pharmaca.com/laughing right now to save 20% off your first order! Workplace Comedy Podcast is a hilarious new improv podcast set in a fictional water bottling company, hosted by Emmy Laybourne and Tracy Vilar and a lineup of amazing comedy guests. Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts! Betterhelp allows you to connect with a counselor over text, phone, or video — and everything you say is confidential. Start living a happier life today! Get 10% off your first month by visiting betterhelp.com/fresh. KiwiCo projects make science, technology, engineering, art, and math super fun! Get 50% off your first month plus FREE shipping on any crate line at kiwico.com with code MOTHERHOOD. StoryWorth  gives your loved ones the gift of spending time together, wherever you live! Go to storyworth.com/whatfreshhell to get $10 off.   Bright Cellars is the wine subscription box that pairs you with wine you'll love, delivered to your door. Get 50% off your first 6 bottle order by heading to brightcellars.com/fresh. Membrasin is the totally natural, estrogen-free, clinically proven feminine dryness formula. It works! Go to membrasinlife.com and use the code FRESH to get 10% off. Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it!  Get 15% off your first order today! Go to prose.com/laughing.  Barre3’s workouts combine cardio, strength conditioning, and mindfulness in one workout. Go to barre3.com/FRESH and enter promo code FRESH to unlock 75% off monthly and annual subscriptions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the author of the recent New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent, Michaeleen Doucleff was already examining the culture and practice of mothering when the pandemic hit. Then everything changed for us all. Here, Medcan’s Dr. Daiva Barnicke, mother of two young children, explores Doucleff’s story as well as the pandemic’s impact on motherhood in a frank conversation that could have therapeutic benefits for struggling moms.  https://www.eatmovethinkpodcast.com/podcast/ep-63-motherhood   LINKS Michaeleen Doucleff is on Twitter @foodiescience.    Doucleff’s book is Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. Here’s the New York Times book review. Buy it at Indigo and Amazon.    “There’s a Better Way to Parent: Less Yelling, Less Praise”: An interview with Doucleff in The Atlantic.    The NPR blog to which Doucleff contributes is called Goats and Soda.    Medcan provides a Child and Youth Assessment designed to empower children to eat better, move better and think better. Learn more.     INSIGHTS The pandemic meant the closing of the preschool that Doucleff’s daughter, Rosy, attended. So Doucleff went from parenting her daughter for three or four hours a day, to up around 14 hours a day. Meanwhile, she also had the deadline for Hunt, Gather, Parent to meet. So Doucleff was forced into a position where she had to take the book’s advice, particularly the bit that suggests that North American parents should provide their children with more autonomy, and interfere less in their lives. “I really started to put those ideas into practice throughout the day, and I have to tell you, it saved us,” Doucleff says. (4:50)     Doucleff began thinking about her parenting in 2014, when National Public Radio sent her to Monrovia, Liberia, in Africa, to cover the peak of the Ebola Outbreak. “I saw these parents that were in this incredibly stressful situation,” Doucleff recalls, “and yet they were very calm and composed.” She was struck by the way parents in Liberia were being faced with something that was very harsh and hard, and yet the moms and dads there were able to keep their composure with their children. “I just started to think, maybe there’s a different way of doing things, that is more productive,” Doucleff says. (5:50)    Doucleff studied parenting norms among the Mayan people on the Yucatan peninsula of Africa. She observed that moms among the Maya were far more likely to get their children involved in household work. As a result, the children were more likely to demonstrate the quality of acomedido — the skill of paying attention and then acting in a helpful way. For example, while she was in one Maya mother’s home, Doucleff saw a 12 year old walk into a kitchen and begin doing the dishes, without being nagged or even asked. She believes it’s possible to develop acomedido at any age, because Doucleff realized that both she and her husband needed to develop acomedido as well. (14:40)   Child-centred activities are something that Doucleff believes harm a child’s ability to develop acomedido. Such events as four-year-old birthday parties, kiddie museums, trips to the zoo — things parents do only for their children, and never would do on their own — “these things erode a child’s motivation to help,” Doucleff says. “They teach a child to learn that they are special, that their role in the family is to do these special activities.” Doucleff dispensed with all child-centred activities, and instead started to go about her life as she would normally, as an adult. “Just stop doing things you don’t want to do,” she says. The idea is that life revolves around the adults in the family, rather than the family revolving around the children. (18:00)    We often think children need to be entertained, and that it’s the parents’ duty to occupy children’s time. To keep them busy in some way. “No other culture in the world believes this,” says Doucleff. “And this is definitely not the way children evolved.” Get rid of that mindset, Doucleff says. “That’s doing them a disservice… A lot of life is boring, and hard work. And being able to occupy yourself, but also take initiative — that’s what we’re taking away from them when we constantly organize their schedules.” (20:15)   Power struggles between her daughter and Doucleff were an ongoing problem, and made Doucleff angry with her daughter. But then Doucleff researched parenting norms in Iqaluit. “Kids are just these irrational, illogical beings that don’t have emotional regulation, and don’t have social skills,” the Inuit elders told her. “It’s the job of the parent to show [kids]  proper behaviour.” Seeing the parent-child relationship in that light helped Doucleff to curtail her anger with her daughter, and be more successful at modelling appropriate behaviour. (27:00)     In the US and Canada, one psychologist told Doucleff, parents teach kids to figure out what they want in life and go get it, which has its benefits. But Doucleff believes the single-minded devotion to goal attainment is done at the expense of teaching children to be helpful, and cooperative, and good family members. “And that's really what we needed during the pandemic, right?” Doucleff asks. “Kids to be working on the team with their parents… Moms have way too much on their shoulders. It’s time that the kids give to the mom, and help the mom. And in that process, the child learns all these skills, both physically how to do things, but also emotionally how to connect and bond with their parent in a way that they hadn't before.” (30:55)

"We Westerners are the exception. This conflict-ridden existence between parents and children is not super universal and not actually really common at all." NPR Correspondent Michaeleen Doucleff traveled around the world and documented the different ways parents communicate with their children. She shares these tools to help de-escalate family tensions and incentivize children to take initiative in her book.   Purchase your copy on Amazon and Bookshop. Amazon: https://amzn.to/31YvCMM Bookshop: https://bit.ly/31U0vlt

NPR science correspondent Michaeleen Doucleff chats with Trey Elling about HUNT, GATHER, PARENT: WHAT ANCIENT CULTURES CAN TEACH US ABOUT THE LOST ART OF RAISING HAPPY, HELPFUL LITTLE HUMANS, including: the lack of actual science backing certain popular beliefs among Western parenting, why Maya children are so helpful without much coaxing, how Inuit parents and children rarely lose their cool with each other, the Hadzabe way of fostering independence, and more.

There's evidence of at least seven U.S. variants of the coronavirus, while another that emerged from the U.K. is poised to become the dominant strain here by the end of March. One adviser from the Food and Drug Administration tells NPR there's a tipping point to watch for: when a fully vaccinated person winds up hospitalized with a coronavirus variant.NPR science correspondent Richard Harris reports on concerns that COVID-19 vaccines themselves could cause the virus to mutate. NPR science reporter Michaeleen Doucleff explains why the story of one COVID-19 patient may hold clues to how variants develop in the first place. For a deeper dive on variants, listen to Michaeleen's recent episode of NPR's Short Wave on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. In participating regions, you'll also hear a local news segment that will help you make sense of what's going on in your community.Email us at considerthis@npr.org.