Podcasts about Neff

Kolik jazyků umíš, tolikrát jsi člověkem, tak zní heslo, které má zejména mladé lidi povzbuzovat k učení se cizích řečí. Někdo se jím řídí, někdo ne. Poznal jsem v životě lidi kteří byli v tomto ohledu mnohonásobnými lidmi. Nejvíc člověkem byl profesor srovnávacího jazykozpytu Pavel Trost. Bylo o něm známo, že přesně neví, kolik jazyků umí. Jeho manželka, spisovatelka Helena Šmahelová mi o něm vyprávěla milou historku.

This episode of "Coping" covers a discussion between Kathy and Kevin about self-compassion, addressing common myths and misconceptions. They reference Kristin Neff's research and quotes throughout the discussion. Kathy and Kevin debunk four main myths: that self-compassion is just feeling sorry for oneself, that it makes one weak and unmotivated, that it is selfish, and that it is the same as self-esteem. They emphasize that self-compassion involves recognizing shared human experiences, building resilience, fostering connection, and accepting imperfections. Kathy shares her initial skepticism about self-compassion, noting how she initially viewed it as unproductive. Kevin admits to thinking self-compassion was self-pity. Both now advocate for self-compassion as a means to nurture oneself, build strength, and enhance relationships with others. Kathy closes the discussion with a poem by John Donahue, encouraging gentle self-care. Highlights Introduction to Self-Compassion and Addressing Misunderstandings - Kathy introduces a new series on self-compassion, highlighting its values in upcoming episodes. - Kevin acknowledges common misunderstandings about self-compassion, admitting he once doubted its usefulness, viewing it as self-pity or a sign of weakness that would reduce productivity. - Kathy mentions that eight years ago, she didn't fully grasp the depth and practices of self-compassion, and how it can lead to increased connection, strength, and resilience. - Kathy and Kevin plan to debunk four major myths about self-compassion and reveal its power. Myth 1: Self-Compassion is Just Feeling Sorry for Myself - Kevin admits he used to equate self-compassion with self-pity, feeling bad when things went wrong. - Kevin clarifies that self-pity is self-focused, involving questions like "Why me?" and dwelling on negative aspects, whereas self-compassion is different. - Kathy explains that self-compassion reminds us of our shared human experience, acknowledging that everyone struggles, which fosters connection rather than isolation. - Kevin notes that self-pity isolates, while self-compassion nurtures the hurting part of ourselves, encouraging us to seek support and connection. - Kevin suggests that during challenging times, acknowledging pain and asking what one needs can aid healing. - Kathy mentions Kristin Neff as a leading researcher in self-compassion, whose myths they are summarizing and paraphrasing. - Kathy shares Neff's quote: "Self-compassion frames the experience of imperfection in light of the shared human experience." - Kevin emphasizes that this perspective shifts us from isolation to connection, allowing imperfections to be viewed in a broader context. Myth 2: Self-Compassion Will Make Me Weak and Unmotivated - Kathy admits she used to believe that being harsh on herself was necessary for motivation and change, fearing that self-care would lead to a breakdown. - Kathy states that research shows the opposite: being harsh wears you down, while self-compassion builds resilience and strength to face daily struggles. - Kevin acknowledges that self-compassion is a challenging practice that becomes more habitual with effort, providing needed energy and support. - Kevin shares Neff's quote: "The supportive stance of self-compassion provides strength to face the battles of life," extending it to include internal battles. - Kevin discusses using self-compassion in therapy to address painful memories and insecurities, finding it a source of strength for internal struggles. - Kathy uses the analogy of putting on an oxygen mask first, emphasizing that self-compassion enables us to help others by acknowledging our own needs. - Kathy concludes that being kind to oneself is not weak but smart and strong. - Kevin, drawing from his experience as a first responder, reiterates the importance of self-care to effectively care for others. - Kevin emphasizes that one must practice self-care to genuinely encourage it in others. Myth 3: Self-Compassion Is Selfish - Kathy introduces the third myth: self-compassion is selfish, with people worrying that focusing on self-care will lead to neglecting others. - Kevin argues that compassion is not a limited resource; being good to ourselves provides more energy to support others. - Kevin shares that he is more effective at work when rested and having taken care of himself. - Kathy shares Kristin's quote: "The more compassion that flows inward, the more resources we have available to be there for others." - Kathy likens self-compassion to compounding interest, where investing in ourselves multiplies our capacity to share with others. - Kevin introduces the model that you can't give what you don't have, emphasizing the need to extend grace and support to oneself before offering it to others. - Kevin notes that research supports this in both personal relationships and when caring for strangers, indicating that self-compassion enhances one's ability to love and care for those in their personal life. Myth 4: Self-Compassion Is the Same as Self-Esteem - Kathy introduces the final myth, clarifying that self-esteem and self-compassion are often confused but are quite different. - Kathy explains that self-esteem depends on feeling special or superior and fluctuates with success and failure. - Kathy states that self-compassion involves accepting ourselves as imperfect humans, regardless of circumstances. - Kevin reflects on how his feelings of value fluctuate, suggesting he relies more on self-esteem than self-compassion. - Kevin shares Kristin Neff's quote: "With self-compassion, we don't need to be perfect or better than anyone else to feel good about ourselves." - Kathy emphasizes that self-compassion is more freeing and sustainable than constantly seeking approval. - Kevin admits to being guilty of seeking external approval. Conclusion: The Essence of Self-Compassion - Kevin summarizes that self-compassion is not self-pity, weakness, selfishness, or merely self-esteem, but something more profound. - Kathy concludes that practicing self-compassion builds resilience, connection, and worth. - Kathy encourages viewers to reflect on the myths that resonate with them and take small steps toward self-compassion. - Kathy closes with a poem by John Donahue titled "For One Who is Exhausted," advocating for gentle self-care and reflection.

Avery Neff just wrapped up her freshman season with the Utes, where she earned four All-American honors and was named the Big 12 Newcomer of the Year. Avery also won the Big 12 title on beam and was a regional champion in the all-around and on vault. She accomplished all of this despite suffering two serious ankle sprains in the third week of the season. She joins us to talk about how she overcame that injury and was able to return to the all-around, what it's like being a super competitive person and how that affects her, her recruiting process as one of the top recruits in the country, and more.Thank you to our monthly Patreon supporters: Lee B, Cookiemaster, Christa, Happy Girl, Erica S, Semflam, Amy C, Maria L, Becca S, Cathleen R, Faith, Kerry M, M, Derek H, Martin, Sharon B, Randee B, MSU, Kimberly G, Robert H, Lela M, Mara L, Jenna A, Alex M, Mama T, Kelsey, Lidia, Maria P, Alicia O, Cristina K, Bethany J, Diane J, Kentiemac, Marni S, Betny T, Emily C, Cathy D, Lisa T, Libby C, Thiago, Taryn M, Dana B, Jamie S, Chuck C, Je_GL, Kaitlin, Susan P, Katertot, Mallory D, LFC_Hokie, Ella, Debbie, Megan F, Kay, Diane J, Julie B,, Austin K, Jane, Sarah, Amy, Stephen S, Johanna T, Alison S, Kristina T, Abigail W, Becky, Ola S, Jennifer K, Kate M, Naomi S, Claudia, Siona, Erin L, Sarah A, Kennedy B, Thomas B, Lauren D, Kihika N, Beth C, Amy, Renee PM, Ryan V, Brandon H, Tyler, Hayley B, Ben S,  Karen S, Kate & Landon, Danielle, ALittleUnderRotated, Dana C, Amy C, Grace, Pat G , Lexi G, Laura N, Kathy, Katie A, Ruby B, Katie E, Róisín, Becca, Megan J, Emily D, Britton, Ry Shep, Reyna G, Catherine, William A, MB, MJ L, Jackson G, Brittany A, Stella, Ulo F, Noah C, Melissa H, Alexis, William M, Trish, Susie, Leslie G, Catherine B, Karlin, Laura L, Katy S, J'nia G, Kathy M, Kathy S, Okcaro, Caroline P & JD B! 

Zajímavost hned na začátku. Pokud slyšíte to, co slyšíte, znamená to, že jsem v Japonsku. Mám totiž dlouhodobé lapálie s bolestmi v zádech a o Velikonocích mě to vzalo tak, že jsem se ocitl v Motole na kapačce. Takže hrozilo, že pojedu leda na Macháčkův palouk a ne na císařský turnaj v zápase sumo v Tokiu – ale taky nepojedu do Ósaky a Kjóta, jsme se chystali s Davidem, mým synem.

On this episode of GoalChat, host Debra Eckerling talks about Substack with Jim Fuhs, Fuhsion Marketing and co-host of Dealcasters, senior publicist Kat Neff from Llewelyn, and post-executive coach for women Viveka von Rosen, Beyond the Dream Board. The trio share their enthusiasm and tips for the platform in this entertaining, informative, and slightly tech-glitchy conversation. There are also some tangents on the changing scope of social media, some nostalgia for older platforms, and advice for success in any medium. What Substack Means to Each of Them - Kat: A resource for voices, opinions, and discovery - Viv: Quality content of my choosing, another place to share your voice, and a fresh start for your persona  - Jim: A multi-mode platform that allows you to build community using a variety of media Goals - Kat: Do an AMA on Substack - Jim: Read his article on how to get started on Substack - Jim: Start a Substack Chat by asking a question - Viveka: Substack is an awesome opportunity. Let the authentic you come out Learn More About: Jim Fuhs: FuhsionMarketing.com Kat Neff: Llewellyn.com Viveka von Rosen: BeyondtheDreamBoard.com Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com/Blog 52SecretsBook.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Du spürst den Druck, dich anzupassen, obwohl du weißt, dass Maskieren – das Verbergen deiner autistischen Merkmale – dich Kraft kostet? In dieser Folge nimmst du die Maske ab und schaust unter die gesellschaftlichen Normen. Siri, Psychologin und Teil des Diversara-Teams, erklärt, warum viele Autist:innen ihr authentisches Selbst aus den Augen verlieren, wie internalisierte Stigmatisierung entsteht und weshalb Selbstakzeptanz ein Schlüssel zu mehr Wohlbefinden ist.✔️ Was Selbstakzeptanz wirklich bedeutet✔️ Wie Maskieren dein Selbstbild verzerrt✔️ Doppelte-Empathie-Problem & Imposter-Syndrom✔️ Selbstmitgefühl als konkrete Praxis (inkl. Mini-Übung)✔️ Warum Austausch mit anderen ND-Menschen so heilsam istDu erhältst praxisnahe Reflexionsfragen und erfährst, wie die Diversara-Community dich auf deinem Weg begleiten kann. Hör rein, leg die Maske ab und akzeptiere dich – genau so, wie du bist. www.diversara.de/communityStudie zu internalisierter Stigmatisierung (Livingston & Boyd, 2010)"Selbstmitgefühl zu haben bedeutet, dass du dich selbst so behandelst, wie du mit einem Freund oder einer Freundin umgehen würdest, die gerade eine schwere Zeit durchmachen - auch wenn sie etwas vermasselt haben, sich unzulänglich fühlen oder einfach vor einer schwierigen Herausforderung im Leben stehen. (...) Durch Selbstmitgefühl lernen wir, uns selbst ein innerer Verbündeter zu werden, statt ein innerer Feind." (Neff & Germer, 2019.)Seit 2012 hat dieses Phänomen einen Namen: Das Doppelte Empathie Problem.

Zrovna jsem četl, že 5,5 tisíce studentů podepsalo petici proti zkoušce z matematiky. Teď bude podpisů určitě víc, na podstatě to nic nemění. Matematika není, nebyla a nebude oblíbená. Jaké mám na ni vzpomínky ze školních dob? Dobré i špatné.Všechny díly podcastu Glosa Plus můžete pohodlně poslouchat v mobilní aplikaci mujRozhlas pro Android a iOS nebo na webu mujRozhlas.cz.

Ever felt like someone pulled your battery out mid-sentence? One minute you're go-go-go, and the next—you're a human puddle on the couch, brain offline, soul buffering. That, my friend, is an ADHD energy shutdown—a deeply misunderstood, very real experience where our nervous system essentially throws up the "Closed for Business" sign.

Usmyslel jsem si vyrobit něco jako poličku a skřínku, cosi hybridního, ale na tom nezáleží, co to je. Objekt jsem vymyslel, rozměřil, na papír si nakreslil plánek. Podle zadaných centimetrů mi v hobbymarketu nařezali dílce mého budoucího výtvoru. To byl první krok k úspěchu. Doma bych to nikdy neuřízl přesně na míru a pravý úhel by mi nevyšel pravý, i kdybych se na hlavu postavil. Zkrátka, hobbymarket to nařeže přesně a řez je čistý, kdežto můj… Nebudu se opakovat.

Usmyslel jsem si vyrobit něco jako poličku a skřínku, cosi hybridního, ale na tom nezáleží, co to je. Objekt jsem vymyslel, rozměřil, na papír si nakreslil plánek. Podle zadaných centimetrů mi v hobbymarketu nařezali dílce mého budoucího výtvoru. To byl první krok k úspěchu. Doma bych to nikdy neuřízl přesně na míru a pravý úhel by mi nevyšel pravý, i kdybych se na hlavu postavil. Zkrátka, hobbymarket to nařeže přesně a řez je čistý, kdežto můj… Nebudu se opakovat.Všechny díly podcastu Glosa Plus můžete pohodlně poslouchat v mobilní aplikaci mujRozhlas pro Android a iOS nebo na webu mujRozhlas.cz.

In this conversation, Dr. Han Goh shares his extensive journey in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), detailing his experiences under the mentorship of Dr. Brian Iwata and his transition from academia to private practice. He discusses the evolution of ABA, particularly concerning insurance reform and its implications for service delivery. Han emphasizes the importance of training foster parents using behavioral techniques to improve outcomes for children in foster care, highlighting the significance of family unity and collaboration in the field. He also touches on his international connections and future aspirations to advance ABA practices globally. Watch the video of this conversation here! https://youtu.be/ewcSHeCXXWQ   Continuing Education Credits (https://www.cbiconsultants.com/shop) BACB: 0.5 Learning IBAO:  0.5 Learning QABA: 0.5 General We also offer certificates of attendance! Follow us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/behaviourspeak/ Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/benreiman.bsky.social.bsky.social LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/behaviourspeak/ Contact: Dr Han-Leong Goh https://www.linkedin.com/in/han-leong-goh-%E5%90%B3%E6%BC%A2%E9%BE%8D-ph-d-bcba-d-lba-nc-6280a981/ Breakthrough Autism https://www.breakthroughnc.com/ Articles Referenced: Rescorla RA, Wagner AR. A theory of Pavlovian conditioning: Variations in the effectiveness of reinforcement and nonreinforcement. In: Classical Conditioning II: Current Research and Theory (Eds Black AH, Prokasy WF) New York: Appleton Century Crofts, pp. 64-99, 1972 Dunlap, G., & Vollmer, T. R. (2008). Introduction to the Special Issue on the Florida Behavior Analysis Services Program. Research on Social Work Practice, 18(5), 365-366. https://doi.org/10.1177/1049731508318644  Van Camp, C. M., Vollmer, T. R., Goh, H.-L., Whitehouse, C. M., Reyes, J., Montgomery, J. L., & Borrero, J. C. (2008). Behavioral Parent Training in Child Welfare: Evaluations of Skills Acquisition. Research on Social Work Practice, 18(5), 377-391. https://doi.org/10.1177/1049731507314008  Van Camp, C. M., Montgomery, J. L., Vollmer, T. R., Kosarek, J. A., Happe, S., Burgos, V., & Manzolillo, A. (2008). Behavioral Parent Training in Child Welfare: Maintenance and Booster Training. Research on Social Work Practice, 18(5), 392-400. https://doi.org/10.1177/1049731508318658 Stoutimore, M. R., Williams, C. E., Neff, B., & Foster, M. (2008). The Florida Child Welfare Behavior Analysis Services Program. Research on Social Work Practice, 18(5), 367-376. https://doi.org/10.1177/1049731508318654   Related Behaviour Speak Podcast Episodes: Episode 40: Dr. Kim Crosland https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/episode-40-applications-of-behaviour-science-to-foster-care-runaways-the-homeless-and-bullying-with-kimberly-crosland-phd-bcba-d/ Episode 135: Arturo Garcia https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/episode-135-addressing-human-trafficking-with-behavior-analysis/ Episode 206: Arthur Hairston https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/episode-206-autistic-youth-in-foster-care-with-arthur-hairston-med-bcba/ Links: Malaysia ABA https://m-aba.com/  

Měl bych mít k digitalizaci – jak se dřív pěkně říkalo – kladný vztah. Provází mě půlku života. Ano, před 40 lety jsem se pinožil u sálového počítače Akademie věd, abych jako operátor najatý přes prázdniny vyzkoumal, jestli počítač dokáže člověka zabít. Potřeboval jsem to pro chystaný román Pole šťastných náhod. Zjistil jsem, že ano, stát se to může. Ale úplně jinak, než jak se to za čtyři desetiletí vykreslilo.

"A huge part of my early discovery and then building a life that's more resilient to burnout has been understanding my sensory profile, getting to know what actually works for my sensory system, what soothes it, what comforts it, what triggers it", says Dr. Megan Neff. Dr. Neff joins this episode to discuss her Autistic Burnout Workbook. To learn more about Dr. Neff and her workbook visit https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autistic-burnout-workbook/For bulk order discount information: https://neurodivergentinsights.com/bulk-burnout/Thank you to TR Sun for their song “All Good” on todays episode.  if you would like to follow along or if your like me and seeing the lyrics make listening to music more accessible to you then check them out here: ⁠⁠https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&sca_esv=422b205cf8817bf1&rls=en&sxsrf=AHTn8zqGPy2sjBLlA11mfLQjk4Kzu84YGg:1743872297655&q=&si=APYL9btOMaxI48tKjOYdlPW3RyBplN8gAQzBdTKkB2IKbJ7kM9T8RmW6e56f40nA_2X21d9mSrGLngPcOpmhvjtg5XNYJPcy7w8VeuhHph_MUnX-m-Qx_E-UjzSrmaCq_EexvqEOSFsU&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjMmtfGrsGMAxW-q4kEHc9KPP8Qv_UKegQIKRAD&biw=1428&bih=734&dpr=2⁠⁠If you could subscribe on your favorite listening platform we would really appreciate that. If you are looking for customized coaching by autistics for autistics then visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.autismpersonalcoach.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  If you would be interested in being interviewed on Autism Stories or would like to be a sponsor send an email to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠doug.blecher@autismpersonalcoach.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Hey friend! Ever worked in a place that felt more like survival than success? You're not alone—and today's guest, Kelsey Neff, is here to flip the script. Kelsey is the founder of By Design Consulting, author of 52 Weeks of Impact, and a former nonprofit professional who left the burnout hamster wheel to help leaders actually lead. After years of navigating toxic workplaces filled with favoritism, gaslighting, and burnout, Kelsey realized something big: she didn't need to play the game—she could create a better one.

Dr. Megan Anna Neff, a clinical psychologist based in Oregon, joins Lisa Dent to discuss the signs of undiagnosed autism in adults. Dr. Neff details some of the biggest signs that someone might have undiagnosed autism, and how someone with autism might behave.

Ever wonder how some brands create die-hard fans who wouldn't dream of buying from anyone else? In this episode, I sit down with Bill Neff, a marketing powerhouse known for his work with YETI and beyond, to break down the secrets behind brand loyalty, community-driven marketing, and authentic storytelling.Bill shares his journey from professional kayaking to becoming a key player in the outdoor industry, showing how passion and authenticity can fuel marketing success. We discuss what most brands get wrong about building a following, the power of grassroots engagement, and why storytelling—not selling—is the ultimate key to long-term success.Connect with VeronicaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/vromney/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vromney/If you're serious about advancing your career in marketing and you're looking for some personal insights into how then I invite you to schedule a free Pathway to Promotion call with me: https://pathwaycall.com/If you found value in today's episode, I would appreciate it if you could leave a rating and review.

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Můžete o dnešní době vykládat cokoli a můžete mít tisíc a jednu výhradu, jedno se jí upřít nedá. Je zábavná. K zábavnosti přispívá i to, jak je těžké nebo dokonce nemožné rozlišit, co je pravda a co si někdo vycucal z palce. Může vás to samozřejmě rozčilovat. Špatně je na tom ten, kdo informaci vezme na vědomí a už dál nepátrá, jestli je pravdivá.

Dealing with chronic health issues can often feel like a neverending battle, especially when it seems like there's no clear path to improvement.In this flashback episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, discuss their personal battles with chronic health conditions. They provide an insightful analysis using the biopsychosocial model, share their experiences, and introduce this new series on chronic health issues for neurodivergent individuals.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Gain practical insights into managing chronic health struggles through the biopsychosocial model, which considers the interconnected biological, psychological, and social factors affecting well-being.Discover the power of setting concrete, manageable goals to tackle issues such as sleep, depression, and chronic pain, and learn strategies to cultivate self-efficacy and align your actions with your values.Learn how diet, exercise, and behavioral health perspectives play crucial roles in managing complex medical conditions, and hear about the hosts' personal plans to focus on movement and diet for improved health.As you embark on your own journey to better health, remember that you don't have to do it alone. Identify one tangible goal you can work on today, and consider the broader biopsychosocial factors influencing your well-being. Reflect on how you can take actionable steps, no matter how small, towards living a more value-aligned life.***This episode is a re-release episode of Divergent Conversations selected for our 2025 break. Please enjoy, and we'll be back with new content, resources, and guests in a couple of months.ANNOUNCEMENT: We're extending our break a few additional episodes. If you want more information on what is happening with Dr. Neff and Neurodivergent Insights, you can read about it using the following link, as well as learn how to connect with and support their work: notion.so/neurodivergentinsights/Thank-You-For-Supporting-Our-Work-1aaa17a4bb8b80c790abfa4a08231b7a————————————————————————————————

In this episode of Regulated & Relational, Julie Beem and Ginger Healy discuss the concept of self-compassion, drawing insights from Dr. Kristin Neff's work. Dr. Neff, a researcher in the field, defines self-compassion as treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a close friend. She breaks it into three elements: mindfulness (being aware of struggles), connection (understanding we're not alone in challenges), and kindness to self (responding with warmth instead of self-criticism).Julie shares her own struggles with self-compassion and how it can be difficult to confront pain, often either ignoring it or fighting it. Self-compassion, according to Dr. Neff, allows people to pause, acknowledge the difficulty, and respond with care.Dr. Neff emphasizes that self-compassion isn't just a feel-good idea; it literally rewires the brain by activating the parasympathetic nervous system and increasing emotional regulation. It improves mental and physical health, supports decision-making, reduces stress, and enhances resilience.Julie and Ginger also provide five practical ways to incorporate more self-compassion into daily life, including mindfulness, self-care, journaling, connection with loved ones, and positive self-talk.Supporting ResourcesDr. Kristin Neffhttps://self-compassion.org/Dr. Neff's bookshttps://www.amazon.com/s?k=dr+kristen+neff&crid=218H6KXMNYTJ&sprefix=dr+kristin+neff%2Caps%2C145&ref=nb_sb_noss_1

Listen in as Evan Neff, long time CB Athlete and Coach shares his experience taking over a new varsity basketball program. Tons of great takeaways in this episode.https://x.com/evanneff23Join US Website: www.coachsedge.coachEmail: contact@cramerbasketball.comCamps: www.Cramerbasketball.comOnline Training: https://cramerbasketball.mypthub.net/3/p/133059Twitter.com/coachsedge1Twitter.com/cramerbballFacebook.com/cramerbasketballYoutube.com/cramerbasketballInstagram.com/cramer_basketballBasketball coach basketball podcast basketball strategyPlayer development zone offense zone defense pressing pressure defense programbuilding team defense pack line defense baseline defense zone defense 1-3-1defense basketball united slapping glass coaching tips teach hoops how to coachbasketball basketball podcast youth basketball basketball camps basketballimmersion training basketball shooting tips basketball conditioning shootingdrills ball handling drills passing drills basketball drills basketballworkouts basketball drills youth basketball basketball drills open gymsshootouts scrimmages man to man defense basketball officials and deep dive refssports psychology shot selection dribble drive offense shooting coach freethrows athletic development

Dan Cheely, Church historian, on the Relics of Christ's Passion, and Chuck Neff, producer on his film The Holy Winding Sheet, about the Shroud of Turin.

Sean Hammond interviews Brother Rick Neff with New Victory Baptist Church.

Mike Neff, Frontstretch.com NASCAR reporter on crown jewel venues by Ed Lane

Dan Cheely, Church historian, on the Relics of Christ's Passion, and Chuck Neff, producer on his film The Holy Winding Sheet, about the Shroud of Turin.

In this episode of the BOSS Business of Surgery Series, we dive into the journey behind the third edition of a widely used surgical textbook. Dr. Mark Neff, the book's original author, shares how failing his oral board exam inspired him to create a resource that has since transformed surgical education. Joined by Dr. Kay Yoon-Flanery, a fellowship-trained breast surgeon, and Dr. Ashanti Ratnasekera, a trauma and acute care surgeon, the discussion explores the book's impact, the role of mentorship, and the lessons learned from the oral board experience. Key Topics Discussed:

Poslal mi kamarád Jiří úryvek článku z internetu. Obrázek doplnil poznámkou: Tady čtu, že v Grónsku už mají vesmírnou základnu. V článku se psalo: „Americký viceprezident J. D. Vance přiletěl na americkou vesmírnou základnu Pituffik na severu Grónska.“ K obrázku přidal tři smajlíky, jako že je to legrace. O pět minut později přistála v mobilu další zpráva od Jiřího. Oni tam fakt mají vesmírnou základnu! Žádné smajlíky, jen udivené obličeje.

Neurodivergent individuals can sometimes feel overwhelmed by emotions or struggle to understand their own stress responses, and entrepreneurship can add another level of intensity to this experience.In this flashback episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, talk with Yunetta Smith, a licensed clinician, coach, trauma expert, and EMDR trainer, about the impact of naming emotions on mental health, especially for neurodivergent individuals, entrepreneurs, and people of color, emphasizing the importance of allowing folks to have autonomy over their own experiences and healing.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Discover how naming your emotions can reduce stress and turn tough experiences into opportunities for healing and growth.Gain insights into the reality behind perceived success and the internal struggles many neurodivergent entrepreneurs face—validation that you are not alone if you feel overwhelmed, isolated, or disconnected despite your outward achievements.Learn about Yunetta's groundbreaking work with EMDR therapy, offering marginalized communities access to mental health resources tailored to their unique needs and experiences.As you listen, consider how emotional awareness can enhance both your personal well-being and your entrepreneurial success, keeping in mind that there is more than one right way to access your emotions and honor your nervous system and uniqueness.More about Yunetta:Yunetta Smith is a Thriving Therapreneur (Therapist + Entrepreneur) CEO and founder of Spring Forth Counseling and Ground Breakers Coaching and Consulting. Yunetta is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in the States of TN, KY, and ID, as well as a Nationally Certified Counselor, Clinical Trauma Professional, and EMDR Therapist/Approved Consultant.Yunetta specializes in helping black and brown folks navigate childhood trauma that manifests in adulthood—working exclusively with public figures, professionals, pastors, and practitioners.She works diligently to spread awareness through various media platforms including the weekly “Talk it out Tuesday” segment on the Rickey Smiley Morning Show, co-hosting the Deeper than the Diet Podcast, and self-publishing her self-care workbook “Take the Struggle Out of Self-care: Six Weeks to Create Your Self-care Strategy.”Yunetta is a groundbreaker, a stigma breaker, and a cycle breaker who cultivates spaces for healing, wholeness, compassion, and change. She strives to create an atmosphere where anyone can take of their masks, stand in their truth, and learn to love what they see!Websites: yunettaspring.com & groundbreakerstherapy.comSocial Media: @yunettaspringsmith & @groundbreakerstherapyEMDR Mailing List: text EMDR to 33777***This episode is the 9th of 10 episodes that Divergent Conversations is re-releasing for 2025. Please enjoy, and we'll be back with new content, resources, and guests in a couple of months.ANNOUNCEMENT: We're extending our break a few additional episodes. If you want more information on what is happening with Dr. Neff and Neurodivergent Insights, you can read about it using the following link, as well as learn how to connect with and support their work:

Justin Neff of Sonder Brewing Co. interviews Brady Duncan of Mad Tree Brewing. This Episode is Sponsored by:Malteurop Malting CompanyMalteurop Malting Company (MMC) is based in North America—specializing in growing and producing quality malts for the craft beer and distilling industries. With local farms and Malthouses spread across the United States, Canada, and Mexico, MMC's commitment to excellence is fully ingrained into every batch it produces, ensuring breweries and distilleries of any size can create the finest beverages on the planet. Visit www.malteuropmaltingco.com to learn how MMC can support your malting needs. Contact MMC at customersuccess@malteurop.com or (844) 546-MALT (6258) for questions or to place your order.FirsdTeaBrewers in East Asia have been using jasmine green tea for decades, and now Firsd Tea is bringing the popular ingredient to brewers in North America. Email info@firsdtea.com to find out how to use its natural bouquet in lagers, white beers and pilsners.Host: Justin NeffGuest: Brady DincanSponsor:  Malt Europ, FirsdTea, All About BeerTags: Brewing, Community, GrowthPhoto Credits:  Courtesy of Justin Neff and Brady DuncanThe following music was used for this media project:Music: Hip Hop Intro 06 by TaigaSoundProdFree download: https://filmmusic.io/song/9533-hip-hop-intro-06License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-licenseArtist website: https://linktr.ee/taigasoundprod ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

For adults who are questioning if they are Autistic, ADHD, etc., there is often an exploratory and somewhat confusing phase where they feel in between two different identities.In this flashback episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, talk with Jak Levine-Pritzker, ADHD coach and founder of Authentically ADHD LLC, about the nuances of navigating identity when exploring the possibility of an autism diagnosis, as well as the effect of facing internalized ableism and external input throughout the assessment process.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Learn about Jak's personal experiences with the questioning of fitting into or out of diagnostic criteria, especially when examining overlapping traits between ADHD and autism.Gain insights into the complexities and nuances of the assessment process for neurodivergent conditions, exploring both the quantitative and qualitative aspects that go beyond standardized tests.Discover the evolving understanding of neurotypes, including the impact of self-identification on assessments and the relevance of organizing principles like monotropism and flow state.As you reflect on your own journey or support others in their quest for clarity, remember to ask questions, be mindful that neurodivergent experiences and diagnoses are full of grey areas and overlapping traits, and if you choose to seek a diagnosis, try to approach it with an open mind.More about Jak:Jak Levine-Pritzker(she/her) is an ADHD coach, mental health advocate, and founder of Authentically ADHD LLC. With an online community of over 90k people and a robust coaching practice, she has empowered thousands of ADHDers to heal their internalized ableism and shame and design a life that *actually* works for their brains using a strengths-based approach.Jak is passionate about normalizing and depathologizing what it means to be human, especially a neurodivergent (and queer) human. She shares openly about her own lived experience navigating ADHD, OCD, depression, PMDD, and grief. She truly believes that people with ADHD are not disordered or broken and can live wonderfully successful, fulfilling lives when given the proper support, resources, and environment to thrive.In what feels like another multiverse, she received a law degree from CUNY Queens with clinical training in mediation. She is from upstate NY and currently lives in the Santa Cruz Mountains with her cat, Zen.Check out Jak's online membership (authenticallyadhd.com/membership)! It is an online community for 18+ ADHD adults. There are coaching calls, socials, body doubles, weekly/monthly resets, and more. It is a lovely community and sliding scale starts at $19/month but no one is turned away for lack of funds.Website: authenticallyadhd.comInstagram: instagram.com/authenticallyadhd ***This episode is the 8th of 10 episodes that Divergent Conversations is re-releasing for 2025. Please enjoy, and we'll be back with new content, resources, and guests in a couple of months.ANNOUNCEMENT: We're extending our break a few additional episodes. If you want more information on what is happening with Dr. Neff and Neurodivergent Insights, you can read about it using the following link, as well as learn how to connect with and support their work:

We've been highlighting the fact that The New York Times, the largest paper in the country, has finally hired a gun-beat reporter. So, this week, we invited him on the show to talk about his approach and goals. Reporter Thomas Gibbons-Neff has started consistently doing gun stories for The Grey Lady, as The Times has long been known. It's not his first assignment. I also wouldn't call it his most challenging since he went from active-duty service in Afghanistan to covering it and, later, the war in Ukraine. Still, as Gibbons-Neff readily admits, covering guns in America for a paper like The Times is not without its own challenges. One of the things he has to navigate in order to find sources is The Times' reputation, especially given its aggressive editorial stance in favor of new gun restrictions and bans. But he agreed his background and continual focus on firearms should help him produce better stories than many in the gun world might expect. And he said he's going to work to earn the gun-owning community's trust that he'll be fair, mainly by demonstrating it in the pieces he publishes. Get a 30-day free trial for a subscription to The Dispatch here: https://thedispatch.com/join-offer-reload/?utmsource=thereload&utmmedium=partnerships-podcast&utm_campaign=0125 Special Guest: Thomas Gibbons-Neff.

Možná, že jste už slyšeli o Tísnivé. Není to žádný zeměpisný pojem a nemusíte se obávat, že vám tu budu poťouchle podsouvat reklamu na poznávací zájezd cestovní kanceláře. Údolí podivnosti je teorie z oblasti robotiky. Pochází z doby, kdy původní myšlenka Karla Čapka o strojích podobných lidem začínala být aktuální.

A traditional workplace can be really challenging for neurodivergent individuals, and if a workplace culture is made to be one-size-fits-all, the chances are high that it won't fit for many neurodivergent people.In this flashback episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, talk with Lyric Rivera, founder of NeuroDivergent Consulting, author, and later-in-life diagnosed AuDHD person, about how to create neurodivergent-affirming spaces, including in the workplace and in online communities.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Understand the essential need to reframe our workplace cultures to not just accommodate but truly embrace the strengths that neurodivergent individuals bring to the table.Discover the nuanced challenges adults face with a later-in-life neurodivergent discovery, including unraveling the web of self-deprecating beliefs to shift to self-compassion and understanding.Learn how to implement neurodivergent-friendly practices in the workplace and communities that will lead to more open communication, allow people to play to their strengths, and give individuals the resources and environment they need to show up as their best.There is still a lot of work to be done to create workplaces and other spaces that truly embrace neurodiversity and accommodate for the uniqueness of each individual, but by implementing Lyric's suggestions in this episode, we can start leaning into people's strengths and allow for more growth, better solutions, and spaces that feel safe and welcoming. More about Lyric Rivera:Lyric Rivera, founder of NeuroDivergent Consulting and author of the best-selling business ethics book Workplace Neurodiversity Rising, named “Trend for 2023” and praised in Forbes as “an excellent ‘how to manual' based on lived Experience and professional competence.” Lyric also runs the blog NeuroDivergent Rebel and is known as the pioneer of the #AskingAutistics hashtag, where simple questions prompt open-ended responses that Autistic people can quickly chime in with and invites participants to engage each other in conversations related to the topic. This hashtag connects people who would not otherwise have a reason to engage with each other and fosters a collective understanding of the Autistic Experience.Buy Lyric's Book: books2read.com/neurodiversity-risingWebsite: neurodivergentrebel.comFacebook: facebook.com/NeurodivergentRebelSubstack: neurodivergentrebel.substack.comThreads: threads.net/@neurodivergentrebelYouTube: youtube.com/@NeurodivergentRebelTikTok: tiktok.com/@.neurodivergentrebelResources:Check out Dr. Neff's new book, Self-Care for Autistic People, here to learn more about the book: neurodivergentinsights.com/self-care-for-autistic-people***This episode is the 7th of 10 episodes that Divergent Conversations is re-releasing for 2025. Please...

Ever feel like no matter what you do, it's never enough? Like you breeze past your successes and fixate on what went wrong? You're not alone, and today, we're tackling that sneaky little cognitive distortion: discounting the positive. In this episode, we break down why so many physicians downplay their wins and how this mindset fuels burnout. More importantly, we'll give you practical, science-backed strategies to flip the script and start celebrating your victories—big and small! ✨ What You'll Learn Today: ✅ Why your brain is wired to focus on the negative (and how to retrain it!) ✅ The power of affirmative reflection—why asking “What went well today?” is a game-changer ✅ How writing down wins shifts your mindset and builds resilience ✅ The magic of peer support—why celebrating together makes all the difference ✅ How shifting from “I failed” to “I learned” can transform the way you see challenges We even bring in a Super Bowl-worthy mindset shift (thanks, Jalen Hurts!) to show how elite performers use self-reflection to come back stronger.

Daniel Harrison of Country Boy Brewing interviews Justin Neff of Sonder Brewing Co. This Episode is Sponsored by:Malteurop Malting CompanyMalteurop Malting Company (MMC) is based in North America—specializing in growing and producing quality malts for the craft beer and distilling industries. With local farms and Malthouses spread across the United States, Canada, and Mexico, MMC's commitment to excellence is fully ingrained into every batch it produces, ensuring breweries and distilleries of any size can create the finest beverages on the planet. Visit www.malteuropmaltingco.com to learn how MMC can support your malting needs. Contact MMC at customersuccess@malteurop.com or (844) 546-MALT (6258) for questions or to place your order.OllieIt doesn't matter what size your brewery is. 1 barrel or 1,000. Maybe you're in planning. Whatever the size or situation, Ollie has helped brewers save money and become more efficient. The best part? When you're talking to the Ollie team, you're talking to people who have worked in the industry. Learn more about Ollie and how it's transforming breweries everywhere at getollie.com/pod.Host: Daniel HarrisonGuest: Justin NeffSponsor:  Malt Europ, Ollie, All About BeerTags: Brewing, Community, Marketing, Photo Credits:  Courtesy of  DH Harrison and Justin NeffThe following music was used for this media project:Music: Hip Hop Intro 06 by TaigaSoundProdFree download: https://filmmusic.io/song/9533-hip-hop-intro-06License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-licenseArtist website: https://linktr.ee/taigasoundprod ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Coaches: Register for our FREE MSC Set-Piece Webinar with Michele Aragona below: https://event.webinarjam.com/register/442/k3g3rbgy This week, Gary is joined by Head of Coaching at Wellington Phoenix, Joshua Neff, to discuss the Director of Coaching role at youth and pro clubs. Joshua shares his experience at the New Zealand club of building out a methodology but also aligning it with a 'coaching culture' that is built around trust, honesty, passion for the game, and growth mindset. He discusses the unique environment at Wellington Phoenix and how the coaches work alongside one another to help the players and the club progress. Having also experienced MLS academies, Joshua has some some words of advice for coaches in the US who are working through the sometimes challenging role of a Director of Coaching and where you can get high quality professional support.

In this episode of Human Capital, Jeff Hunt sits down with Dr. Kristin Neff, a leading researcher and author on self-compassion, to discuss how this practice can combat workplace burnout. Burnout is a widespread issue affecting employees and leaders alike, with severe consequences for productivity, well-being, and organizational health. Dr. Neff explains the three core elements of self-compassion—mindfulness, common humanity, and kindness—and how they serve as a foundation for resilience, performance, and stress management. She dispels common myths about self-compassion, such as the belief that it weakens motivation, and instead highlights how it fosters greater accountability, problem-solving, and emotional strength. Drawing from research and personal experiences, she shares insights on how leaders can create healthier work environments and support employees in recognizing and recovering from burnout. She also introduces practical self-compassion exercises that listeners can use to shift from self-criticism to self-support, ultimately improving their professional and personal lives. Listeners will walk away with actionable strategies to foster self-compassion, enhance workplace culture, and sustain long-term success without sacrificing well-being. Guest Info: Dr. Kristin Neff Kristin's Book: Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout: Tools to Help You Heal and Recharge When You're Wrung Out by Stress Kristin's Upcoming Workshop: Self-Compassion for Work Stress and Burnout

Uběhly dva roky funkčního období prezidenta Petra Pavla. Kdo by to byl řekl, jak rychle to uteklo? Hrad jako instituce vydal k výročí prezentaci. Kromě jiného jsme se z ní dozvěděli, že hradní slepice snesly 940 vajíček, v zámeckém parku se posbíralo 40 kilo hub a dva včelíny, pražský a lánský o souhrnné síle pětadvaceti včelstev vyprodukovaly 470 kilogramů medu.

Sensory meltdowns and shutdowns can be deeply misunderstood and unsettling experiences, whether you've faced them personally or seen a loved one struggle.For many Autistic individuals, dealing with overwhelming sensory stimuli is a recurring battle. The space between feeling in control and experiencing a complete sensory meltdown or shutdown can be alarmingly narrow, with profound impacts on personal well-being and relationships.In this flashback episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, share their insights and experiences with Autistic sensory meltdowns and shutdowns, including strategies and signs discussed through a clinical and personal lens.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Gain an understanding of what sensory meltdowns and shutdowns actually feel like, which Dr. Neff and Patrick describe through their vulnerable firsthand accounts, helping to break down the barriers of misunderstanding and stigma.Learn about practical coping mechanisms that can be employed during sensory meltdowns, such as intense physical activity, hot showers, and other grounding techniques, to help regain a sense of balance and control.Discover how to manage and anticipate shutdown triggers, through discussions on sensory self-care, proactive avoidance of overwhelming environments, and the utilization of sensory soothing tools, contributing to a more harmonious interaction with the world.As you reflect on these discussions, try to recognize the bravery and resilience that comes with managing neurodivergent challenges. Be kind to yourself or your neurodivergent loved ones; embrace the coping strategies that work, and continue to learn and adapt.Resources:Check out Dr. Neff's new book, Self-Care for Autistic People. Learn more about the book: neurodivergentinsights.com/self-care-for-autistic-people***This episode is the 6th of 10 episodes that Divergent Conversations is re-releasing for 2025. Please enjoy, and we'll be back with new content, resources, and guests in a couple of months.————————————————————————————————

In this Medical Spa Show speakers series, we hear from Kim Burke, APN, FNP-C, of Kiss Aesthetics; Julie Bass Kaplan, FNP-BC, CANS, of Disappearing Act Medical Aesthetics; Kiiyonna Jones, PhD, FNP-C, of Luxe Beauty and Wellness Boutique; Josie Tenore, MD, of Trevi Longevity & Aesthetics; and Audrey Neff, of PatientNow. They describe their wins and lessons learned, along with what conference attendees will learn from their classes at Medical Spa Show 2025, from April 10 - 13, 2025! Kim Burke, APN, FNP-C Sunday, April 13: 9 - 10:30 a.m. | When Is It Right to Say "No" Sunday, April 13: 10:45 - 11:15 a.m. | Facial Balancing on a Budget Julie Bass Kaplan, FNP-BC, CANS Saturday, April 12: 1:05 - 2:05 p.m. | PANEL: Perfect Partners: Medical Spa Owners and Practice Managers Saturday, April 12: 3:50 - 4:50 p.m. | Panel: The Worst I Ever Had: Complications and How to Overcome Them Sunday, April 13: 9 - 10:30 a.m. | When Is It Right to Say "No" Sunday, April 13: 11:15 - 11:45 a.m. | Addressing Lower Face Laxity Kiiyonna Jones, PhD, FNP-C Saturday, April 12: 2:15 - 2:40 p.m. | Team AI: How Solopreneurs Can Maximize Profits and Reclaim Time With AI Systems and Automation Josie Tenore, MD Saturday, April 12: 9:35 - 10 a.m. | The Value of IV Services in Your Aesthetic Practice Audrey Neff Saturday, April 12: 4:25 - 4:50 p.m. | Developing High-value Membership Programs That Enhance Patient Loyalty and Practice Revenue Music By Ghost Score

Are you truly aware of the addictions shaping your daily life? Dr. Stephan Neff joins Lesley Logan to explore the hidden addictions we all face, from social media scrolling to workaholism, and how they impact our emotions, identity, and self-worth. In this raw and insightful conversation, Stephan shares his personal journey of addiction recovery, trauma healing, and radical self-compassion. Learn practical steps to regulate emotions, embrace grief, and redefine your identity beyond societal labels.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:The hidden addictions we all face and their impact on emotional well-being.The challenges of identity loss after major life changes and the journey to rediscovering self-worth.The importance of grief, how it manifests beyond loss, and why allowing yourself to feel is essential for healing.Practical self-compassion techniques to reframe negative thoughts.How taking intentional action and creating a clear vision can transform challenges into opportunities for growth. Episode References/Links:Stephan Neff Website - https://www.neffinspiration.comSteps to Sobriety by Stephan Neff - https://a.co/d/hHY4w9PDepression Lied To Me by Stephan Neff - https://a.co/d/7s6Ddg0Neff Inspiration Podcast - https://stephanneff.podbean.comStephan Neff YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@neffinspirationStephan Neff Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/neffinspirationStephan Neff Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/neffinspirationStephan Neff LinkedIn - https://beitpod.com/neffonlinkedinEsmee The Mindful Mouse - https://neffinspiration.com/booksGuest Bio:Stephan Neff is an anaesthetist, bestselling author, speaker and show host. After studying medicine in Heidelberg, Germany he travelled and worked in Europe and Australia before settling down with his family in beautiful New Zealand. As a pain physician, he developed a specific insight into human psychology. As a man trying to drown his sorrows, he found out the hard way that the critters can swim. But over the last ten years, he made every day a little bit better than yesterday. When he became intrigued about epigenetics, he started training in functional medicine. Once he experienced the power of breathwork he became a breath coach. Not willing to accept getting stiffer with age he became a flexibility coach. His desire to impact humans led him to become a life coach and hypnotherapist. He strongly believes that the past does not equal the future. By taking action in a consistent way, we can experience transformations beyond our wildest dreams. He shares this passion through his podcast and YouTube channel, and through social media (Stephan Neff / Neff Inspiration) There is so much more to Stephan than sobriety. Nevertheless, in his book “Steps to Sobriety” he shares the lessons he has learned as a doctor and as a man. Every addict can turn his life around, one little decision at a time. His books and his show explain how to do it. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.DEALS! DEALS! DEALS! DEALS!Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSoxBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramThe Be It Till You See It Podcast YouTube channelFacebookLinkedInThe OPC YouTube Channel Episode Transcript:Stephan Neff 0:00  One in three people have got chemical addictions. One in three. How many people are scrolling for hours on their social media? These are all dopamine quick hits, your likes, your, whatever you post out there. Oh, look at me, I'm looking so good. That's all a heap of B.S. because ultimately, it's nothing else than a form of addiction.Lesley Logan 0:24  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 1:07  All right, loves, I'm so excited for today's episode. We had so much to talk about, so I'm gonna make this intro super quick and grab a pen, paper, because there are so many little nuggets of like, oh, I need to do that. Oh, I need to do that. And I think you'll really like it. So Stephan Neff is our guest toda. We are going to talk about all the ups and downs, trials, tribulations of losing a job, losing a marriage, changing your life, and then also, I just love when I ask people what they're excited about right now, because they can learn so much more, and truly, so many, be it action items in here for you. There's something for everyone. So, here you go. Lesley Logan 1:39  All right, Be It babe. I'm really excited that I get to have another conversation with our guest today. I've been on his amazing podcast, and now he's going to be here on mine. Stephan Neff, can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at? Stephan Neff 1:49  Oh, thank you very much, Lesley, for giving me the privilege and the honor to be a guest on your show. I'm Stephan, I'm anesthetist. I'm a functional medicine specialist. I'm also a life coach. I'm a yoga instructor. I've got all kind of hats, like hypnotherapy and I've studied that. So I am addicted to becoming the best version of myself, and I've had many opportunities in my life to make choices that were not so great with hindsight, so I had more trauma than I would wish on my worst enemy, and in turn, I have investigated the effects of alcohol, of renzodiazepines, of sex, of a lot of coping mechanisms, food, for that matter. So workaholics, see, the moment I start talking, the more holics are coming to my mind. Because it's not just one escape mechanism. It's not just one thing that you try, you so dabble in many things. I was lucky because being in Germany, England, New Zealand, I was not exposed to various epidemics the United States have seen, and I was never really tempted by harder drugs that whatever, whoever is guiding here this game, they guided me away from those things. And for that, I need to be really, really grateful. However, I became a master escape artist with all the other things. And unfortunately, yes, they work for a little while, because they take away your pain, but ultimately they catch up with you and these demons, they are riding you deep inside. And again, I have been in situations which allowed me to grow so in other words, about 1011, years ago, I ended up in rehab that stopped my alcohol, and that was one of the best things that could have happened to me. Now, at the time, I was certainly not agreeing with that statement, but nowadays, I strongly believe every 18-year-old needed to be in rehab for a month. I think I would make that mandatory on actually, even before you go into college, even before, a 15-year-old, that's probably a better time to actually just learn about your emotions, learn about your feelings, learn about.Lesley Logan 4:24  What if there's a summer camp for emotions like, what if that's what everyone had to do at 15? I'm in. I think so, too, because it's true. I think most of the different addictions that we have are because we are unsure how to regulate or understand the emotions we're feeling, or we were not allowed to feel them, and so we don't know how to feel them, and so we figure out a different way to not feel. Workaholics get away with that addiction because, you know, except that they're annoying to their family, and their family's never to see them. It doesn't seem to be harmful. In air quotes. So unfortunately, the people who have. The addictions to alcohol and drugs, we look down on that like, oh, my God, how could they have let themselves get involved in those things? Stephan Neff 5:06  Which is ludicrous, Lesley, if you think about it, one in three people have got chemical addictions. One in three. How many people are scrolling for hours on their social media? These are all dopamine quick hits, your likes, your whatever you post out there. Oh, look at me. I'm looking so good. That's all a heap of B.S. because ultimately, it's nothing else than a form of addiction. Lesley Logan 5:33  Well, and it's also so hard because everything out there, there are lots of people who are helping your addiction along. So, you know, I mean, in the States, recently, we've heard about who was arrested in the Matthew Perry loss. And yes, he is addicted, and yes, he's the person who's like, doing the drugs and having been to multiple rehabs, and all these things, but the people around him that facilitated that addiction to continue, you know, and I'm not saying that if you'd switch people like that wouldn't happen with other people, but with your social media scrolling, they make sure you stay on. There's all these different things. And so I love the idea of a 15-year-old or an 18-year-old. My goodness, every so many years it's like we have to go do a CPR test every two years. Maybe you also have to just do a little check in on how are you regulating your emotions? Are you doing that? Because there's going to be times in your life where it's not going to go well, and you could be the best regulator in the world that need help. Stephan Neff 6:30  And but that is a privilege, and that is a something. I mean, gratitude is nowadays playing so much a role in my life due to the many traumas and the lessons I had to learn the hard way, and I'm very grateful for them nowadays, and you're so right, things don't end up in all peachy sort of Hollywood ending. It does not. I'm 58. Now, physically, emotionally, spiritually. I'm stronger than I have ever been in the last 30 years, probably emotionally, spiritually than ever in my life. Now, in reality, I have lost my job as an anesthetist. I'm going through a not nice divorce. My children have moved on in their own lives, and they are now overseas, far away, so I'm not getting the good old center support that maybe I deserve, want, need, and so there is a hard time here. But if there's one thing that I have had to learn, that I had the privilege to learn, is that there is a sense behind that suffering, and Viktor Frankl and many other far more clever people than me, before me have expressed that, and it is so hard, it sounds like a cliche. It sounds like something weird, but ultimately, it is a skill, just as much as you have a skill of maybe playing an instrument or going to the gym, being able to lift a certain amount of weight in a certain style, these are all skills that you have acquired. Now, I have acquired many of these skills, but also I have had to acquire some very powerful skills that allow me to regulate my emotions in a beautiful way. Indeed, going through the divorce and losing my job, losing my identity. I mean, I, who are you? I'm Dr. Neff von Stephan. I'm an anesthetist in blah, blah, there and there, well, take all that away. Who are you left with? And many men don't know that answer. They never ask themselves these answers until maybe trauma, physical trauma, stops them being the master carpenter or the mechanic or whatever they identify themselves. I've had so many soldiers on my show who were top alpha predators, and then were on the receiving end of a machine gun. And then, surprise, surprise, their body was no longer alpha. Theirs was not even omega. It was a heap of minced meat. And then, who are they? Lesley Logan 9:16  Who are you? Yeah. Stephan Neff 9:17  And so many men and women suffer from that, and I had the privilege of repeated traumas that forced me to ask those questions and come up with answers, solutions and the right steps forward.Lesley Logan 9:32  Yeah, many years ago, someone said you can't take someone's rock bottom away, right? And because you're trying to help people, and sometimes we're trying to help people. Of course, we should all be helpful, but sometimes people go into their own detriment trying to help someone, trying to make someone better, or see the light or take something away, and it's like some of those rock bottoms are exactly the thing they need to go through so they can learn who they are, so they can handle the next thing. Because I'm sorry to hear about all of those things. It sounds like there is like one and then a space between, and then another. And it sounds like because of one, you might be able to actually handle the next one. Like the divorce is awful, but because you learned how to regulate and feel your emotions and talk about who you are and go through those things, was that helpful when the divorce happened? Or am I, were they all at one time?Stephan Neff 10:22  No, sometimes you wonder if the gods out there in the pantheon are just sitting there and thinking, Stephan, he's doing far too well. What shall we throw at him? And then everyone pikes up. Ah, monkey pox. No, no, no. Divorce. Around with the children. They say, you know what we do, all of them at the same time. Yeah, see how it copes.Lesley Logan 10:43  Oh, my God. Are you watching, I don't know if you have it in New Zealand, there is a show on Netflix called Chaos. It's about the gods. If you can get it, it is worthwhile, because that is exactly what they're doing.Stephan Neff 11:01  I'm sure some writer had a dream about me, and thought, oh, I we're gonna make that show. I want some royalties here. Lesley Logan 11:09  Yeah, yeah.Stephan Neff 11:10  But there's this, shit will happen, and I ended up in quite a dark space over the end of last year and start of this year, and when I did some courses which forced me to live with my emotions, some radical compassion courses, things like that, where I had to learn how to really live with my emotions, not just run away from them, but actually be there, feel them, pour oil onto the fire and be there, feel it, and then afterwards, learn how to calm down and learn how to nurture myself. It was so beautiful. It was one of the hardest courses I've ever done, but that was what allowed me to be here and speak to you today. Many a times, when I thought, well, is my life really worthwhile? I'm fat, ugly, I'm a failure. You know, all these kind of I ams that are coming up, these voices? Now, fact is, we all have got about 80,000 thereabouts thoughts every day. Of these 80,000 about 80% are negative, and mine had a volume cranked up to max. Now we all have them, and that is a problem, because this is all a heap of B.S. that your body is telling you, either focusing far too much onto the history which is gone. You should learn from your mistakes. You should learn from history to prevent making the same mistakes again. You could talk now into politics big time in your country, but we won't go there. Stephan Neff 11:11  Stephan, trust me, every day, I'm like these people need to fucking read a history book. What is happening here? But here's the deal. Then we have talked about education in this country, and that's another mountain to climb, so.Stephan Neff 12:59  Exactly. I think the same applies for us as human beings. Never forget where you came from. Never forget the lessons from the past, but do not relive the hardships or the sadness, unless you need a relief valve. I, oh my God, end of last year, I went to a counselor, just because, you know, that's really the clever thing to do, because these people sort of can see what you're saying, can listen to you, and can also listen to what you're not saying.Lesley Logan 13:41  Yeah, they're talented. So great.Stephan Neff 13:46  So I had this wonderful woman, which I knew. So I said, like, you know that's what I'm going through. And she said, wow, okay, so how is your loss and grief? I said, which loss and grief? I didn't lose anyone? And she just looked at me, you just lost your wife of 27 years. I thought, huh, okay. And so there was a loss and grief, but I never allowed myself to feel that, and it was interesting for me that a song recently triggered me, and that was absolutely amazing, because that song allowed me suddenly to cry, to really sob, snot, tears, you know, you name it, it came out, but it took me the better part of what, eight months, what is it now? September. That was only really in August. So we're talking 10 months, really, in which I was the stoic survivor, in which I did what I had to do. And that's one of the key things. You have to take action in order to live your life. And the harder it gets, the more action you have to take. So I did all the right things, but I neglected that one emotion, and when it finally came out, it was so beautiful. It was so beautiful to cry. It was so beautiful to feel whole again, because, yes, I can journal every day and write down the things that give me the highest anxiety, and take them off immediately, those things that I take for granted that becomes my win list. So I'm actually writing down pretty minuscule things, but these are all things that maybe previously I would have procrastinated about, etc. And here, tick, tick, tick, tick, tick, and I write win, little wins next to it. And if I achieve something really big, which I didn't think big win. So I do all that. Yet, whilst I took the right action, there was still so many things that needed to be addressed, and there was this emotion, and it was there. It's beautiful. Lesley Logan 15:57  I think I love that you're sharing, because it's so easy. I got my tools, I'm doing my things, I'm doing the work, I'm, whatever the work is for you, but I'm not surprised that grief was an emotion you weren't letting yourself feel because it's not an emotion any of us are taught how to deal with. We don't handle grief well, and there's not a model for it, right? If you don't lose someone or have grief when you're a child and it's not modeled correctly, we don't really know. We don't really see how to do that. And then if you see a parent or person who handles grief terribly, they get angry, they bottle it up, they don't process it, then you learn you can't even, you can't express it. And then most people, what do they say? Oh, you'll feel better in time. There's not a lot of great examples of feeling grief, and we also think grief only comes if we lose like a family member. We are not realizing, you lose your job, that's grief, Stephan, because you're grieving what the future that you thought about was, what did you think that was? Like, we moved to Las Vegas, and that was a beautiful, exciting goal that we had, but also it came so suddenly and when it happened during the pandemic that I remember working with my therapist about grieving my L.A. life, not because I wasn't happy in Vegas, but just the day to day that made me feel like me was gone and I had to start over. And your brain, the way grief works, expecting this thing. Oh, I went for a run to the next, Oh, there's no Starbucks here. Even though that sounds silly, that was, part of my day was saying hi to the same five people, seen running with my best friend. There's a grief there. And I think we don't allow ourselves to grieve what could have been when situations don't go well, and we think it makes us something weak, or makes us feel like we're stuck on the path. And really it's giving that space, and going back to the Greeks, like letting that float down the river, like giving it a celebration, right? I think that that is a huge step. It's something that I'm really, and I'm really, I don't know, I'm really stuck on this in this moment.Stephan Neff 17:52  And I guess there's a message there for you, because obviously I've triggered you. And hopefully after the show, you can reflect on that, and can actually see, ah, okay, what's waiting now to be released, what opening is coming up for me to learn something new about me, because that's really the chance that we have got every single day, and we squander so many of these chances we take our life for granted. Two years ago, my life well, from the outside, I was at a pinnacle. You know, I was I made an very, very beautiful income. I had a big house, I had a pool, I had a wife, I had two kids. From outside, hey, you know, on the inside, I was not a happy man, but it was so grumbling and so chronic that I didn't see how unsatisfied my needs were as a man in my marriage, and the same is probably to be said for my wife, her needs were not met and we were unable to express our respective love languages we wouldn't have known them if they would have bitten us in the ass. It is those kind of things, you know. It is those kind of things that ultimately make you unhappy, make you unsatisfied. You're searching for this mission, you're certain, searching for this purpose in your life that you have not yet found. And I think by going through trauma and being forced to change, you get outside of your comfort zone, you experience fear. And if you look at any successful, truly successful person who's got their shit together, then you will see that they have gone through tremendous amounts of trauma, through tremendous amounts of heartbreak, that in their business, they have failed and were sometimes completely, how do you call it in America where everything is taken away from you? You lose your house, you lose your.Lesley Logan 20:01  Bankruptcy, yes, yes, yes. Stephan Neff 20:03  Yes, exactly. Ultimately, many men and women have gone through such scenarios, but those who are successful are those people who have learned and are willing to learn from such trauma. I call it trauma. Trauma is sometimes a word that is. Lesley Logan 20:21  I think there's little T and there's big T, and I also think it's fine they've gone through some sort of like life experience that has flipped them things upside down. Look at Oprah. We forget what her life was like. We forget who she was before she was Oprah. And so you're completely right. And I guess our life is always evolving. And I think your life is a perfect example of it's not like life's a roller coaster, but it's like an ebb and flow. There's like, these highs, these lows, and what we do with the lows to get to the highs really matters. And how we, actually, it sounds like you educate yourself in a low so that you can, like you go through these highs. But now, with this new life change, like, how do you find yourself being it till you see it to the person you want to be on the other side of all this, what are the tools you're using, or what are the or how are you figuring it out as we go?Stephan Neff 21:06  Righty-ho, so over the next three hours where let's talk about. No, no. I give you, I show you one tool, actually, that I've used very, very frequently in the recent months. And it is actually very easy to do. It comes in various versions, but I use my right hand and put it on the dead shoulder. That hand onto that shoulder. I squeeze as hard as I can and say, Stephan, I love you. You're a good man. You're going through shit. I absolutely love you to bits. You are strong. You are a good man. Shit is happening, but you're a good man. Don't forget that. And I do that for 15, 20 seconds, and I'm renowned for my bear hugs to those people who I love, and you never show this love that you show others to yourself. You're a mean bastard to yourself. You speak to yourself in a way that you wouldn't speak to your worst enemy. And I force myself to actually love myself. Warts and all. And I think that sometimes gives me that hug, gives me that release, gives me that reassurance, where I am getting stronger and I feel the panic and the anxiety running away. We already spoke about writing things down. What I shared with you was the win list, because we always look at our failures. We never look at our wins. And I want to celebrate every win. In order to do so, I need to celebrate every chance I get. In order to do that, I need to celebrate being here. I need to be celebrating that I'm here in this moment. I'm not distracting myself, I'm not escaping. I'm living this moment and I live it with joy. I live it I'm here with you, 100% intentional, and I enjoy every second have I had in the past a fear of public speaking? Hell, yes. Are we talking about some quite, you know, not things that I'm not so happy and proud about, and now I'm sharing it with a few thousand, 10,000 million viewers. Well, okay, talk about that. Do you think me showing up is a win? Well, 80% of success is showing up. Me, actually, jumping over my fear and actually just being here, exposing myself to my fear of public, speaking of whatever it is, and suddenly realizing, actually, you know, I'm not eaten up by some magic force or some saber tooth tiger has killed me, although my body inside and all the responses of fight and flight coming onto this show, but now it is those kind of things, so the gratitude and the realization that this is a privilege that you are living. Yes, it's a shitty day here. Look outside. It's raining. Damn. Many of my friends are no longer here, but due to disease or trauma or violent deaths, well, you know, it's a privilege to be here, so be grateful and practice that. And you need to just, you actually need to do that. Practice it, because it doesn't come naturally to many of us. Lesley Logan 24:47  Right, right. Stephan Neff 24:48  So practice those things. And then the most important bit is finally stop for a moment and actually try to figure out who you want to be when you grow up. Create that dream in your mind, and dream means leery, flary things that are going on in your head. So if you say, okay, I am 58 now, and I haven't found true love in my life. So if I say, okay, I want to find true love. Well, that's nice. You can think of Valentine hearts, or you can say, what does that actually look like? Okay, there is, there needs to be a partner. This partner probably needs to understand my needs. Or for that, I need to be able to learn how to communicate my needs, but then I need to understand what are my needs? There's a bit of work waiting here to actually figure out what is your dream. Now, that dream, it's nebulous. Please change your dream to a vision by becoming very, very, very clear. So I want to have this dream partner. Okay, how does she need to look like? Well, maybe not the best question that you want to ask, because she might come in a very different package, but it has, it's everything that you need. So maybe a different question might be, which features should she have, which emotions, which style, what makes her burst into laughter and in turn infect you with joy? And then you have to figure out, okay, what affects you or infects you with joy. So what is your joy? So it's those kind of things. So once you've nailed it down, go to the next feature, to the next feature, until you dream that nebulism something has become a very clear vision. And now you need to take action. And that is the cool thing, but not action on that. Don't take someone and try to somehow mold that someone. No, take action on the input and say, okay, I want this loving relationship. So what would I do now? Right now? What ideas, five ideas that would make this relationship with this person a better thing. What input can I put there? What does she need? She needs to be supported. Okay. And how does that work? She needs to know that I will not run away. Well, fair call. Let's do something on that. Or she always feels alone that she is doing all the work in the house. Fine. Let me put that rubbish out, let me paint that corner, let me fix that part of the house, whatever it is. I can control the input. I can't control the output. I can't control the end result, but I can show up and do my best, and that is a beautiful skill. Lesley Logan 27:44  I really love your way of being it till you see it. It's like we always work backwards here. We love that, so that's great. But I also loved how it turned into like, the things you're looking for, you have to know more about yourself so that you can spot it when you got it, because people can't read your mind, and you could say, I want a supportive partner, and then you meet someone whose idea of supporting is financial, but what you really meant was emotional. Well, it doesn't matter. I need to be supportive. I am supporting you, and it's because words matter and we need to be specific. So I think that there's just so many different ways. We just had a coaching call with our group, and this girl wants to open a studio. She's like, where do I start? And I was like, well, what kind of studio do you want? What does that look like? What's happening in the studio? How busy is it? Is our teachers there, like, I can't tell you how to open a studio if I don't know what we're opening because then it's like, you go get a building, you get a lawyer. First of all, it's not inspiring. Second of all, what order of those steps is going to change based on all the things you have to know, what it is that you're wanting to open for us to go with the first action step. So I really, really think that that is so cool. What are you most excited about right now? Stephan Neff 28:57  Well, my house is going on the market, and this house, this town, has a lot of memories, many of them beautiful, many of them not so. So, by all I know, in four days time the house is sold, and then what will happen? And I've got a Toyota Estima, sort of a gray people-mover, kind of soccer mom kind of thing. I've turned that into a Batmobile. So I've ripped out the interior. I've turned that into a stealth camper, into basically an RV. Lesley Logan 29:30  So cool.Stephan Neff 29:32  That was quite a cool thing, something, you know, I'm 58 and I'm a doctor, for crying out loud. I focused my skills on a very different skill set by my experience in different skill sets, not necessarily DIY, not necessarily building. So I had to learn auto electronics and how the car works on the inside, etc. So I did that. So that was cool. I was really enjoying finding things that give me joy. And it was a surprising journey, because. You, those things that gave me joy in the past were no longer as beautiful, and I found new ways of creativity, new ways of looking forward to projects that maybe will increase my wealth again. Any divorce is hugely detrimental to anything. So there's a good reason that I changed my house to a car to actually just recover financially, but that is all part and parcel. So here we are. There are those people who have forever dreamt of the RV lifestyle, of downsizing, of those kind of things. I'm forced to do it, but I choose not to look at it as being forced, but I choose it as an opportunity to see that beautiful New Zealand and actually build up my private practice in functional medicine and. Lesley Logan 30:50  Have you been to Gisborne? Stephan Neff 30:52  Yes, I have. Yes. Lesley Logan 30:53  So that's the first light of day. I feel like you have to go there in your RV. If you do, we have a lovely friend there who likes to serve.Stephan Neff 31:02  Like Gisborne, Napier, there are so many beautiful places here. So I'm looking forward to doing that and in the process of finding myself, of finding out more about me, focusing more on one thing. This, the journey of divorce and getting rid of a house is incredibly disruptive to all your creative things. I was lucky because I was putting all my creativity in designing a very tiny home, and it was beautiful. But now it's time to bring that creativity to the next project. May it be, well, part of it probably will be somewhere, a rundown house that I will renovate and bring up just to a really lovely standard. Lesley Logan 31:46  You know, when you live in it, because we, we live in our van from time to time, and we lived in a tiny apartment before our house. Our van is not finished by any stretch of the imagination. I'm glad we didn't, because we would have made changes. And so what I think is really fun for you is the next house you get, even if it's small, you will, based on what you like and don't like in your RV life, you will make changes so that your home has the things you want at the home versus what you have. So then you'll have two homes, and you'll have one you can travel like it's mobile, and then you'll have one that's a sanctuary. I think it's so cool. Yeah. Stephan Neff 32:09  So, so, instead of saying I've lost my house now, I've lost my life, I have gained freedom. I have gained a new way of life that probably injects quite a bit of you back into me. I have the opportunity to explore new things. For example, I love juggling. I love spitting fires, so I studied circus arts when I was a younger man. Lesley Logan 32:46  That's so funny. That's not what I thought you were gonna say.Stephan Neff 32:49  But I know that there's a group of jugglers around New Zealand. They meet, typically on the full moon, on the beach somewhere, and have fire and juggle and things like that. And I always thought, oh, wouldn't that be cool? Then it was always the I need to work next day, and I'm busy and there's all that. Well now I have got that freedom to actually do that. Get back into it. Well, I haven't juggled for quarter of a century. I'm sure I will find it again, and I'm sure I will find new ways of finding joy. In finding those new ways, it is likely that I come across people who really infuse me. And who knows, there might be true love waiting there, true love in whatever form and shape it comes. These are all gifts that have come out of trauma, just as much as I have become the phoenix rising out of the ashes again and again over my lifetime. I just didn't expect it that I'll do it with 58 again. But hey, you do what. A man has got to do what a man has got to do. But I take it as a challenge. I take it as an opportunity as, I take it as a positive thing, and that is the only thing, the only true thing that works when it comes to the challenges in life, that you are able to find the meaning, a purpose, a sense in your suffering, that you accept what is happening, that you practice radical self-compassion, that you take ownership when it is due, that you learn to analyze when someone maybe was gaslighting you or was bullshitting you, or the whole kind of messages subliminal that you had been fed, maybe throughout your life, that you're actually able to start analyzing them and say, well, that's actually a heap of B.S. but that is actually not true. I'm not a failure. You know, for 50 something years, I thought I'm a failure. That's my rundown. Now, it helped me to focus and work harder. But to actually say, actually, no, I'm not a failure. I'm resilient, I'm resourceful, I am a survivor, I'm a thriver. I am lovable, I am worthy to learn. I wrote on my website, I wrote an article about the Power of I Am, and it's so important that we use that power, because it's the shortcut to your subconscious. So instead of being the bearded lady in the circus, why don't you start becoming the ring master and actually decide what is happening in your show, in your circus. Okay, you can actually control your thoughts. You can be far more mindful as far as what is happening up there, and that will make you stronger, that will make you a better human. And in turn, you will attract better humans. Inadvertently, or maybe on purpose, you will seek out a different group of people, not the naysayers, those people who give you good advice, for example, about finances when they are themselves, run down and have nothing. Lesley Logan 36:05  Yes, there's a lot of those around. Yeah.Stephan Neff 36:09  Isn't it? But you're an example, Lesley, you are out there. You have gone through your own trials and tribulation, but you haven't given up. And you keep going. And you keep showing up. You keep showing up on your show. And you're there to help others. You bring others on to infuse you. You open yourself up, in this case, by being very honest, and I was triggering you here on the show. So therefore I know you will grow, like it or lump it, by you showing up and making yourself vulnerable, you grow, and you will become a better version of Lesley than when the show started. How cool is that? I think we all can learn from that, isn't it? Lesley Logan 36:54  Yeah, yeah, oh my gosh. We could keep talking forever, but we're gonna take a brief break, and then we're gonna find out where people can listen to your show and read your books and all the amazing stuff. Lesley Logan 37:05  All right, Stephan, where do you like to hang out? Where can we send everyone if they have been inspired by what you've got? Stephan Neff 37:11  Please head over to neffinspiration.com. Neff, N-E-F-F, it's my surname, inspiration dot com, it's my website. From there, you have got links to my YouTube show. We are close now to 500 guests, and Lesley is one of them. You had some fantastic pearls of wisdom there. It's beautiful. So I'm growing through that show. I have in my creativity, written quite a few books, some of them no longer in print because I felt it's probably not so good. I've recently lost 30 kilogram and some of my books were dangerously good German cheesecakes. So that's a bit inappropriate. I still have that out there. I Lesley Logan 37:59  I mean, it's probably okay if people are addicted to cheesecake.Stephan Neff 38:03  I was always joking that because you bake them for such a long time that you bake all the calories out of them. I don't think that's true. I need to write a new recipe book.Lesley Logan 38:16  Okay, if our listeners hit you up for that cheesecake recipe, you have to give it to them.Stephan Neff 38:21  I can live with that. It's a baked German cheesecake. So it's great quality. It's a great taste. It's a little bit more work. I love it. The free books that can give you the most bang for the buck and the most value, I guess, is Steps to Sobriety. That is a book I've written. It's now coming out next month in its third edition. It is a memoir slash recipe book, How to look at recovery from addiction in a step wise, logical approach, and give you step by step way forward. The steps are essentially the 12 steps from AA, but I've taken the god out. I've taken many of those things out that maybe are a bit more difficult to swallow, and I've put it into a modern language, and have explained why these steps are actually a very good system. How to approach a failing business, for example, and I go into details there. So if you were to help a friend who is in trouble, like you are helping other Pilates teachers to create or maybe become better in their systems, well that's exactly you would actually do exactly the same steps as a 12-step program offers. So I'm using that approach. But then there are so many, so many other things that are typically happening, the trauma, the very predictable things, the depression, the mental health problems that will affect one in three of us. So you might as well learn something about it. When you drive a car, you learn how to change a tire, because sooner or later, you have to. But not one of us ever learns the signs and symptoms of depression or how, what is, what help is out there. So, Steps to S,obriety is really a beautiful mental health book in an overall, over encompassing kind of way. I've had another book out, Depression Lied To Me, in which I had the honor of having 14 female storytellers who were sharing their stories about how depression lied to them. And it's wonderful, because depression, as many other mental health problems, they come in all shapes and forms. They come in all disguises. Yet there are common themes, and yet there are the same kind of bullshit lies that these mental health problems tell us. Let there be addiction, let there be depression, etc. To hear 14 different women talk about their experience has been a very enriching insight for me. And last but not least, I will republish Esmee The Mindful Mouse, because I believe that if we start earlier on in life, if we start creating strong, little humans, it's much easier than repair broken adults. So therefore, why should we not start teaching mindfulness at an early stage? And I've written a beautiful, written and photographed and produced with a friend, a beautiful book about this little mouse who lives in our beautiful redwood forest here, and who is vivacious, but with her vivaciousness also sometimes makes her friends angry, and she needs to find out the difference between, am I a bad mouse, or have I done something bad that has angered someone else? Again coming back to the power of I am and, needless to say, her friends love her for who she is, but she needs to learn that lesson, and you will find links to all those books and more a neffinspiration.com so check it out, guys, but first, please press the like and subscribe button on Lesley's show, because that's so bloody important, because we all grow with algorithms on YouTube and other places, and if you've heard something cool today, hopefully it will enrich your life, but also send it to someone else, and send a link to Lesley show so that they can get better insights and we grow and start becoming this community of growing people.Lesley Logan 42:37  Thank you for that. Please do all of those things everyone. You've given us a bunch already. I feel like, so feel free to repeat something you've said, because I feel like you did. But there are so many gems of like, how we could be it till you see it, but bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps, the action someone can take, if they're like, yes, okay, what can they do next? What would you like them to do?Stephan Neff 42:57  Immediately now, I want you to give yourself a hug. I want you to actually give yourself a hug and spend 15 seconds with yourself just after the show is finished, immediately, 15 seconds, if it is safe to do so if you're driving, maybe not, okay? Maybe pull over, okay? But I want you to close your eyes and be with yourself and whatever is happening with you, whatever goes through your mind, whatever is happening, I want you to give yourself a big bear hug and just accept you for who you are, that beautiful human being who is probably going through some shit, because otherwise you wouldn't listen to a show like this. You would be distracted with living this most beautiful, suckering, sweet Coca Cola advertisement life, which, yeah, how about that? Okay, no, I want you to be real, and I want you to show compassion to yourself, because it all starts with that, yeah, just to tell that inner child of you, to tell that that right now, big child that is sitting there or standing there, whoever is around you, just give yourself that big hug, squeeze as hard as you can, and tell yourself, I love you. Lesley Logan 44:17  That's beautiful. Thank you so much. You guys, go give yourself a hug, and then please make sure that you share this with a friend. And if you have takeaways, please tag Stephan. Tag the Be It Pod. We want to hear them. We want to celebrate what you're doing. Y'all, you heard him say wins all the time. We actually have a wins episode that comes out on Fridays where we love to celebrate your wins. You can actually send them in and we read them out loud, so that sometimes when you hear your own win, it's on a day you really need a reminder that you had a win recently, and until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 44:50  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 45:33  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 45:38  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 45:42  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 45:49  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 45:53  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In Matthew 6:21, Jesus says, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” That teaching is true for everyone, and yet men and women have different perspectives on money. So how do wise women manage the resources God entrusts to them? Miriam Neff is here to talk about that today.Miriam Neff is the founder of Widow Connection, the author of 11 books, a counselor, a Bible teacher, and a speaker. She supports widows through sewing and bakery projects and is the co-author of Wise Women Managing Money: Expert Advice on Debt, Wealth, Budgeting, and More with her daughter. Her radio features New Beginnings and Starting Over Financially air nationwide.Managing money wisely is a critical skill, and for many women, the responsibility of financial stewardship comes unexpectedly. Whether due to widowhood, divorce, or simply taking on a more active role in household finances, women today oversee 51% of the wealth in the United States, a figure that continues to grow.However, with the right mindset and practical steps, women can confidently manage those resources. Here are eight key habits that wise women adopt to steward their finances well.1. Acknowledge That All We Have Belongs to GodThe foundation of wise money management begins with recognizing that everything we have is a gift from God. Whether it's a paycheck, a home, or an investment portfolio, God has entrusted our financial resources to us for stewardship.Some may think of their 401(k) or IRA as ‘theirs,' but biblically speaking, all of our resources—income, spending habits, even our possessions—belong to God. This means we must steward everything wisely, from the big decisions to the small ones.2. Take Responsibility for Knowing Your FinancesMany women suddenly find themselves responsible for managing their finances after years of leaving it to a spouse or financial professional. Miriam emphasizes that understanding one's financial situation is crucial, whether through spreadsheets, budgeting apps, or simple pen and paper.We cannot make excuses, such as “My parents never taught me this” or “My teenagers demand too much.” We are accountable to God for how we manage our resources.Taking responsibility also means seeking help. Resources like Widow Connection, Faith & Finance, and local church financial ministries provide guidance and support.3. Create a Spending Plan Based on Income and ValuesThe world encourages spending beyond our means—bigger houses, new cars, and credit card debt. However, wise financial management requires a spending plan that aligns with both our income and values.Cultural messages tell us to spend first and hope our income will catch up. Biblically, we must prioritize contentment and stewardship. A budget is a tool to help us live within our means and honor God.A values-based spending plan includes giving to God first, meeting needs before wants, and saving wisely.4. Recognize That Every Spending Decision Is a Spiritual DecisionLarry Burkett famously said, “Every spending decision is a spiritual decision.” Where we allocate our money reflects our priorities and our hearts.What do you check first thing in the morning—your bank account or social media? If we want to understand our hearts, we should examine our calendars and bank statements. They reveal our true priorities.If our spending habits don't align with our faith, it's time to make changes, even if they start small.5. Eliminate Excuses and Avoid Emotional SpendingExcuses can be a major roadblock to financial wisdom. Many justify poor financial decisions with statements like:“My spouse is a big spender.”“My children need expensive gadgets to fit in.”“I was feeling down, so I indulged in some ‘retail therapy.'”Fear and emotions should not drive our financial decisions. The Bible warns about fear-based financial mistakes, as seen in the parable of the servant who buried his talent instead of investing it (Matthew 25).Owning our financial decisions, rather than blaming circumstances or emotions, is key to stewardship.6. Take Personal Responsibility for Financial ActionsFinancial wisdom requires discipline and self-control. Some common financial missteps include:Overindulging children to compensate for a difficult divorce or personal guilt.Hoarding money to fill an emotional void rather than stewarding it wisely.Making impulsive purchases out of fear rather than planning wisely.When we take a small step toward honoring God with our finances, He steps in and provides in ways we never expected.7. Regularly Review and Adjust Your Financial PlanFinancial plans aren't static—they must evolve with life's changes. With inflation, rising costs, and unexpected expenses, a budget from last year may no longer be effective.A core principle of financial wisdom is having three to six months of emergency savings. We can't predict when financial challenges will come, but we can prepare for them.Adjustments may involve cutting unnecessary expenses, increasing savings, or shifting spending priorities.8. Invest for Kingdom PurposesThe ultimate goal of financial wisdom isn't just security—it's Kingdom impact. Everyone's calling is different, but we should all invest in eternity. Whether it's giving to your church, supporting missionaries, or helping those in need, prioritizing God's Kingdom brings the greatest return on investment.Accountability partners, financial mentors, and small group discussions can also help reinforce wise financial habits.Take the Next Step in Your Financial JourneyThese eight habits provide a roadmap for women navigating financial responsibilities. Whether you're newly managing money or looking to refine your financial approach, the key is to start today.For more insights and practical steps, pick up a copy of Wise Women Managing Money: Expert Advice on Debt, Wealth, Budgeting, and More by Miriam Neff and Valerie Neff Hogan. And if you're a widow looking for financial support, check out Widow Connection for resources and encouragement.On Today's Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions:If I want to do a reverse mortgage, does that mean the house no longer belongs to me?I'm 36 years old and want to know whether I should keep $1,000 in my emergency fund or save 3 to 6 months' worth of my emergency fund income.Resources Mentioned:Faithful Steward: FaithFi's New Quarterly MagazineWise Women Managing Money: Expert Advice on Debt, Wealth, Budgeting, and More by Miriam Neff and Valerie Neff Hogan, J.D.Widow ConnectionYour Money Counts: The Biblical Guide to Earning, Spending, Saving, Investing, Giving, and Getting Out of Debt by Howard DaytonLook At The Sparrows: A 21-Day Devotional on Financial Fear and AnxietyRich Toward God: A Study on the Parable of the Rich FoolFind a Certified Kingdom Advisor (CKA) or Certified Christian Financial Counselor (CertCFC)FaithFi App Remember, you can call in to ask your questions most days at (800) 525-7000. Faith & Finance is also available on the Moody Radio Network and American Family Radio. Visit our website at FaithFi.com where you can join the FaithFi Community and give as we expand our outreach.

We are often our own harshest critics, but what if self-compassion could be the key to unlocking resilience, growth, and inner peace? In this empowering episode, Dr. Kristin Neff, a pioneering researcher and author, reveals the transformative power of self-compassion and how it can help us overcome burnout, build authentic self-worth, and navigate life's challenges with grace. Through mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness, Dr Neff explains how self-compassion works not as an indulgence but as a strength that fosters motivation, emotional well-being, and stronger boundaries. With actionable strategies like the “self-compassion break” and simple grounding practices, you'll learn how to reframe self-talk, embrace your imperfections, and rediscover the joy of being human. Whether you're a caregiver, entrepreneur, or simply seeking balance, this conversation will inspire you to stop being so hard on yourself and start living in a place of true inner strength. About Dr Kristin Neff Dr Kristin Neff is a trailblazing researcher, author, and educator who has transformed the way we understand and practice self-compassion. As an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, Kristin conducted the first empirical studies on self-compassion over two decades ago, establishing herself as one of the most influential figures in psychology today. She is the bestselling author of Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion and co-developer of the Mindful Self-Compassion program, an evidence-based approach to building resilience and emotional well-being. Through the Centre for Mindful Self-Compassion, which she co-founded, and the Self-Compassion Community, an online platform for shared learning, Kristin has helped countless individuals cultivate self-kindness and transform their lives. Her groundbreaking work, including co-authoring The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout, continues to inspire a global audience to embrace their humanity with courage and care. You can watch the video of this conversation on YouTube Find Out More About Dr Kristin Neff Visit Dr Neff’s Website Check Out Dr Neff’s Giveaways Below: Free Self-Compassion Test Free Intro to Self-Compassion Sessions Connect with Dr Kristin Neff on Facebook Follow Dr Neff on Instagram @NeffSelfCompassion

Navigating the identification, assessment, and diagnosis of ADHD as an adult can be confusing and overwhelming. This mini-series on ADHD focuses on demystifying the diagnostic criteria and making the process clearer and more understandable.In this flashback episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, dive into ADHD, breaking down what it means. This episode lays the groundwork for their series focused on ADHD.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Get an overview of the often misunderstood and oversimplified traits of ADHD, from executive functioning challenges to emotional hyperarousal.Hear personal stories from Patrick and Dr. Neff as they reflect on their own ADHD experiences and how misdiagnoses and societal stereotypes can cloud self-understanding.Discover the interconnectedness and overlapping traits between ADHD and autism, helping to clarify common misconceptions and pave the way for more nuanced discussions.This episode sets the stage for our mini-series on ADHD. DISCLAIMER: We're using the DSM-5 criteria as a framework for this conversation, but this is not our endorsement of the DSM-5.Resources:ADHD DSM In pictures series: Blog post: neurodivergentinsights.com/blog/dsm-5-criteria-for-adhd-explained-in-picturesPDF: neurodivergentinsights.com/neurodivergentstore/p/adhd-dsm-in-pictures***This episode is the 4th of 10 episodes that Divergent Conversations is re-releasing for 2025. Please enjoy, and we'll be back with new content, resources, and guests in a couple of months.————————————————————————————————

Send us a textToday I'm sitting down with Bill Neff, the Head of Marketing at YETI, to uncover the secrets behind building one of the world's most coveted brands. Bill, a seasoned marketing expert with a passion for adventure, shares invaluable insights on YETI's journey from a hunting and fishing-centric company to a household name.During our fun conversation, Bill emphasizes the critical importance of "finding the gap" in brand building. This strategy involves identifying untapped opportunities in the market and leveraging them to create a unique brand identity. He reveals how YETI has successfully implemented this approach, focusing on two key elements: realness and relevance.Tune in to gain a deep understanding of YETI's marketing strategies, including how the company forges genuine connections with its audience, distinguishes between brand awareness and brand trust, and uncovers unexpected product relevance in niche markets. Bill's expertise offers a masterclass in strategic brand development, making this episode a must-listen for aspiring entrepreneurs and marketing professionals alike.Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a 5-star rating along with a brief review. And don't forget to order your BADASS T-shirt here.About MeHey there, I'm Joelly - the Branding Badass. My BADASS superpower is helping you build a brand that matters. From branded merch to keynote speaking, when you work with me, you get results! Need help telling your brand story? Learn more here.To advertise on the show click hereLet's stay connected!instagram - @Branding_BadasslinkedIn - Joelly Goodsonwebsite - BAMKO.NET

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Last week, the New York Times published a fascinating article "How YouTube is Changing American Gun Culture." Even  more fascinatingly, it ended up on the front page. Today, Isaac talks to the reporter who researched and wrote the story. https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/05/us/gun-youtube-firearm-videos.html

Peter Gibbons-Neff returns to the podcast to talk about the successes and failures of his Mini-Transat racing campaign. "PGN" and I sat down face-to-face in Annapolis where he told me about losing a rudder shortly after the start in the Canaries, the hardest part about solo sailing a 16-ft. boat, how the mini-class doesn't allow even basic electronics, his military background and how that helps him offshore — plus his plans to one day win the Mini-Transat! -- ON THE WIND is presented by Forbes Yachts, the yacht sales professionals. Forbes Yachts sell the boats that allow you to effortlessly connect your passion for yachting to the sea, bringing your world one step closer to perfection. Visit forbesyachts.com to get in touch. -- ON THE WIND is also supported by Boat Doctor, powering life on the water. Boat Doctor designs high-powered, off-grid energy systems for boats, RVs and other off-grid applications. To find out more, go to boatdrusa.com.

Peter Gibbons-Neff returns to the podcast to talk about the successes and failures of his Mini-Transat racing campaign. "PGN" and I sat down face-to-face in Annapolis where he told me about losing a rudder shortly after the start in the Canaries, the hardest part about solo sailing a 16-ft. boat, how the mini-class doesn't allow even basic electronics, his military background and how that helps him offshore — plus his plans to one day win the Mini-Transat! -- ON THE WIND is presented by Forbes Yachts, the yacht sales professionals. Forbes Yachts sell the boats that allow you to effortlessly connect your passion for yachting to the sea, bringing your world one step closer to perfection. Visit forbesyachts.com to get in touch. -- ON THE WIND is also supported by Boat Doctor, powering life on the water. Boat Doctor designs high-powered, off-grid energy systems for boats, RVs and other off-grid applications. To find out more, go to boatdrusa.com.

For ADHDers, romanticism is a common struggle where you find yourself constantly daydreaming about an ideal future and struggling with the reality of the present.In this flashback episode, Patrick Casale and Dr. Megan Anna Neff, two AuDHD mental health professionals, discuss the intricacies of romanticizing experiences and the repercussions that come with it. As neurodivergent mental health professionals, they offer a unique perspective on how projecting ideal futures can create a disconnect with the present, leading to disappointment and restlessness.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Discover the impact of romanticizing future outcomes on mental health, particularly for those with ADHD and other neurodivergent traits, and how it can disrupt your ability to enjoy the present moment.Hear Dr. Neff and Patrick's personal stories about their struggles with restlessness and the unending need for new experiences, and learn how this affects their daily lives.Explore strategies to reconcile your idealized visions of the future with the messy reality of the present, and find out how to cultivate a sense of settled contentment.Take some time to reflect on your own tendencies to romanticize the future. Consider how this impacts your well-being and what steps you can take to stay grounded in the present and find balance one moment at a time.***This episode is the 1st of 10 episodes that Divergent Conversations is re-releasing for 2025. Please enjoy, and we'll be back with new content, resources, and guests in a couple of months.————————————————————————————————