Podcast appearances and mentions of mary van geffen

Hey Y'all.This one's for the parents out there who've ever thought, “Is it me? Or is this child just... a lot?” I'm chatting with the absolutely brilliant Mary Van Geffen, the original spicy kid whisperer. We're talking emotional regulation (yours and theirs), tweenagers with big energy, and what happens when you're a recovering people pleaser trying to raise a tiny human who has zero interest in pleasing anyone. Mary is warm, funny, deeply wise, and this conversation is packed with truth bombs you won't forget.Highlights:(2:59) Defining a "Spicy One"(7:18) Parenting Strategies for Spicy Ones(8:52) Handling Defiance and Self-Care(32:17) Gentle Parenting and Authoritative Parenting(32:33) Dealing with Physical Outbursts(32:50) Navigating People-Pleasing and Good Girl Mentality(35:55) Parenting Tweens and Teens(38:50) Final Thoughts and Rapid Fire QuestionsFind out more about Mary:WebsiteInstagram: @maryvangeffenClassesMoms of Spicy OnesPurchase the live classQualia Mind - click hereCoupon Code: SHOCKANDYALL (15% off any purchase)Visit Nicole's on demand fitness platform for live weekly classes and a recorded library of yoga, strength training, guided audio meditations and mobility (Kinstretch) classes, as well: https://www.sweatandstillness.comGrab Nicole's bestselling children's book and enter your email for A FREE GIFT: https://www.yolkedbook.comFind Nicole on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nicolesciacca/Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenicolesciaccaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/nicolesciaccayoga/Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1X8PPWCQa2werd4unex1eAPractice yoga with Nicole in person in Santa Monica, CA at Aviator Nation Ride. Get the App to book in: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/aviator-nation-ride/id1610561929Book a discovery call or virtual assessment with Nicole here: https://www.calendly.com/nicolesciaccaThis Podcast is Proudly Produced by Wavemakers AudioMentioned in this episode:www.Neurohacker.com/shockandyall and use the code SHOCKANDYALL to get 15% off your first order

In this episode of In It, hosts Gretchen Vierstra and Rachel Bozek welcome parenting coach Mary Van Geffen. Mary offers online classes including a special one for moms of what she calls “spicy ones.” She also shares fun, funny, and relatable posts every day on Instagram.Mary talks with Gretchen and Rachel about parenting spicy kids and how to know if you, too, are spicy. What does it mean to be spicy? Are you spicy? And what should you do about it?Related resourcesParenting tips when you and your child have ADHDBody doubling for ADHD: What it is and how it works5 oddly specific ADHD strategies that help me workListen: ADHD and: Parenting failsListen: Double trouble: ADHD moms share what it's like to parent kids with ADHDMary Van Geffen: Parent Coach for the Spicy OnesTMTimestamps  (1:10) Defining “spicy ones”(4:41) Parents' worries about themselves as parent  (7:36) What impacts children most(8:59) Dealing with sensory overload as a parent(16:51) Organization challenges for parents with ADHD(18:55) Body doublingFor a transcript and more resources, visit the In It page on Understood.We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at init@understood.org. Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Got a strong-willed, fiercely independent kid who's equal parts exhausting and amazing? You're not alone – and this episode is for you. Learn how to parent your ‘spicy one' without losing your mind, and help them thrive in sports and life!What's Covered in This EpisodeWhat is a “spicy one”? Strong-willed, independent, and fiercely competitive kids who march to their own beat.Why spicy ones make great athletes (and challenging kids). Their intensity and drive set them apart.How to handle resistance to feedback. Why stepping back and cheering them on works better than pushing.The power of the pause. Why taking a breath before reacting can change everything.Staying calm as a parent. How your calm demeanor helps regulate your child's emotions.Balancing independence and respect. Teaching your spicy one to advocate for themselves while respecting authority.Letting the world teach lessons. Why natural consequences are sometimes the best teachers.Mary's best advice for parents: “Your main job is to delight in them.”Ready to learn more? Check out Mary Van Geffen's resources at maryvangeffen.com and explore her programs like Moms of Spicy Ones and Kind Class. And if your athlete needs mental training, head to EliteCompetitor.com/EMG to learn more about The Elite Mental Game.Parenting a spicy one isn't easy, but it's worth it. Let's do this together!Episode Highlights: [00:01:15] What Is a “Spicy One”? A “spicy one” is a strong-willed, independent, and fiercely competitive kid who marches to the beat of their own drum. These traits make them incredible athletes but can also be challenging to parent.[00:02:09] Meet Mary Van Geffen. Mary is an international parenting coach who helps moms of spicy ones cultivate warmth, tenderness, and self-compassion. Her mission is to help parents thrive while raising these fiery future leaders.[00:05:26] Traits of a Spicy One. Spicy ones are intense, fiercely independent, and often resist feedback or authority. They're not afraid to take up space, which makes them great athletes but also challenging to parent.[00:11:09] Understanding Adolescent Brains. Teens experience adult-sized emotions without the rational thinking to match, which can lead to big ups and downs. Their brains are still under construction, so patience is key.[00:18:47] The Power of the Pause. Mary's top tip: pause before reacting to your child's behavior. Taking a moment to breathe helps you respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.[00:24:37] Balancing Independence and Respect. Encourage your spicy athlete's independence while teaching them to respect authority figures like coaches and referees. It's a delicate but important balance.[00:30:50] Mary's Best Advice for Parents. Mary's top advice: “Other people can teach them life skills, but your main job is to delight in them.” Your unconditional love is what they need most.[00:34:58] Closing Thoughts. Parenting a spicy one is challenging but incredibly rewarding – let's keep supporting each other and our amazing kids.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Grab your exclusive Elite Mental Game discount for being a podcast listener here!

If you are a regular listener to The Peaceful Parenting Podcast you know that at the end of every Guest Expert interview, I ask them if they could go back in time and give advice to their younger parent self, what advice would they give themselves? There are so many gems of wisdom that come from that question that I thought it would be fun to end 2024 with a mashup of all of the advice from our guests of 2024. We talk about: 3:00 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) with Casey Ehrlich 4:13 Understanding and Loving Spicy Kids with Mary Van Geffen 5:23 Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 5:54 From Strict Disciplinarian to Peaceful Parenting Dad and Coach with Kyle Wester 8:32 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids with Stephanie Pinto 13:17 When Your Child is Different with Sonali Vongchusiri 15:21 Neurodivergent Insights with Dr. Megan Anna Neff 17:31 Parenting Middle Schoolers with Phyllis Fagell 21:00 Conscious Parenting with Destini Davis 22:01 Ruth Whippman Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys- BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood 24:05 ADHD and Feeding/Eating Challenges with Dr. Roberto Olivardia 24:42 How to Help Kids Manage Stress and Difficulty with Ned Johnson 30:08 Greg Santucci on Sensory Processing 33:10 Kristen Day Play Based Learning: Or Why You Don't Need to Get Your Child Ready For Kindergarten 36:33 Why Is Parenting So Hard with Yolanda Williams 38:28 Sexism and Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World with Jo Ann Finkelstein 40:19 School Avoidance and Anxiety with Lynn Lyons 44:32 Strong-Willed Kids with Vivek Patel 46:32 Disordered Eating and Body Image Issues with Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos 48:51 How to Help Our Little Ones Sleep with Kim Hawley 52:49 When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic with Jennifer Wallace   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Casey Ehrlich https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode139/  Mary Van Geffen https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode138/  Eve Rodsky https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode30/ and Eve's book Find Your Unicorn Space Kyle Wester https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode141/  Stephanie Pinto https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-144-raising-emotionally-intelligent-kids/ and Stephanie's Book- From Chaos to Connection  Sonali Vongchusiri https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-146-when-your-child-is-different-with-sonali-vongchusiri/  Dr. Megan Anna Neff https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/neurodivergent-insights-with-dr-megan-anna-neff-episode-147/ and Dr. Neff's book Dr. Megan Anna Neff's book Self-Care for Autistic People: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!  Phyllis Fagell https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/parenting-middle-schoolers-with-phyllis-fagell-episode-151/ and Phyllis' books Middle School Matters and Middle School Superpowers Destini Davis https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/conscious-parenting-with-destini-ann-episode-153/ and Destini's book Very Intentional Parenting: Awakening the Empowered Parent Within   Ruth Whippman https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/raising-emotionally-healthy-boys-boymom-reimagining-boyhood-episode-155/ and Ruth's book BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-kids-manage-stress-and-difficulty-with-ned-johnson-episode-156/ and Ned's books What Do You Say with Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  and Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud (PhD) and Ned Johnson  Dr. Roberto Olivardia https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/adhd-and-feeding-eating-challenges-with-dr-roberto-olivardia-episode-149/  and Dr. Olivardia's book The Adonis Complex: How to Identify, Treat and Prevent Body Obsession in Men and Boys by Dr. Roberto Olivardia Greg Santucci https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/greg-santucci-on-sensory-processing-and-live-qa-with-my-membership-community-episode-157/  Kristen Day https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/play-based-learning-or-why-you-dont-need-to-get-your-child-ready-for-kindergarten-episode-159/  Yoland Williams https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/why-is-parenting-so-hard-with-yolanda-williams-episode-160/  Jo Ann Finkelstein https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/sexism-and-sensibility-raising-empowered-resilient-girls-in-the-modern-world-with-jo-ann-finkelstein-episode-164/  and Jo Ann's book Sexism & Sensibility Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls In The Modern World Lynn Lyons https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/school-avoidance-and-anxiety-with-lynn-lyons-episode-166/ and Lynn's book Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons Vivek Patel https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/strong-willed-kids-with-vivek-patel-and-qa-with-membership-episode-168/  Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/disordered-eating-and-body-image-issues-with-luciana-rosu-sieza-and-alexis-sauls-ramos-episode-170/  Kim Hawley https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-our-little-ones-sleep-with-kim-hawley-episode-172/  Jennifer Wallace https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/when-achievement-culture-becomes-toxic-with-jennifer-wallace-episode-173/ and Jennifer's book Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic- and What We Can Do About It Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194  Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this conversation, Nina and Mary discuss the complexities of body image, family dynamics, and the importance of setting boundaries, especially during the holiday season. They share personal experiences and practical advice on how to empower children with knowledge about their bodies, navigate family expectations, and communicate effectively about private parts. The discussion emphasizes the significance of fostering a safe environment for children to express their boundaries and the challenges parents face in advocating for their children's autonomy. In this conversation, Mary Van Geffen and Nina discuss the importance of empowering children to set boundaries, the significance of unified parenting, and how to navigate conversations about body image and negative body talk within families. They emphasize the need for open communication, preparation for social situations, and the impact of adult conversations on children's self-esteem and body image. 00:00: Navigating Body Image and Family Dynamics 05:56: Setting Boundaries with Family 11:54: Establishing Healthy Boundaries 22:09: Empowering Children to Set Boundaries 28:27: Navigating Body Image Conversations About Mary Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. She teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light! Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®. Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind, and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (17), polar-opposite introverted son (15) and un-Enneagramable hubby. You can find Mary At www.maryvangeffen.com for classes and www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen.com and for more information visit  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Wendy Snyder & Mary Van Geffen to discuss all things "Spicy Kids" ... (aka kids you may describe as strong willed or power kids!) You'll learn 3 Important Steps to Setting Boundaries with Spicy Kids (With Calm, Firmness, & Repetition) & also how to identify unique strengths in your spicy kiddos ... so you can stick with strong boundaries in your home - even when your spicy kiddo seem to challenge them ALL repeatedly. This episode is going to inspire you big time! For links & more info about everything discussed in this episode, head to www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/237.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It was such a joy to get to chat with Wendy Snyder, parenting coach and founder of Fresh Start Families. Her passion for shifting the way we think about parenting and relationships with our kids is such an inspiration. If you are a parent of a spicy/strong-willed child, then this is the episode for you! She discusses “out of date” parenting models that are heavy with punitive measures and why these not only cause disconnection and harm in our relationships with our kids, but ultimately why they're not effective or the way we all flourish. She opts instead for compassionate discipline which she talks about in the episode. I love the practical ways she gives us to empower our children and ourselves by meeting our needs and attuning to our kids. Her personal story and how she landed on this way of parenting resonates so much with my own story and I love the way she talks about strong-willed children and discusses their intense needs to feel powerful and a sense of belonging. So often times we hear this “need for power” as a negative thing, but Wendy talks about how we all have this need, it's biological, and we all have it in varying degrees. When this bucket isn't getting filled, this is when we see resistance or less desirable behavior in us all. She gives the example of even how we see adults speak to a coffee barista rudely, when that bucket isn't being filled. Wendy's passion is contagious and I am so excited to share our chat with you.  You can find Wendy and learn more about Fresh Start Families and her resources, coaching services, course information, and membership group information on: -Instagram @freshstartwendy -her website FreshStartFamilyOnline.com -her podcast Fresh Start Family Show I mention the following people/resources in the episode: Spicy Ones, coined by Mary Van Geffen @maryvangeffen @singinghome and how she helps moms yell less through regulation awareness, music, and singing *Raising Your Spirted Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka *This is an affiliate link. I may earn a small commission if you choose to purchase, at no additional cost to you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/reclaimingthewildchild/message

Do you feel like parenting certain kids seems harder than others? I have a few spicy children and parenting them has been one of the biggest challenges of my life (and also SO rewarding). Join Mary Van Geffen and I as we chat all about spicy ones, both in how to parent them, and how to parent as one. In this episode you'll hear: Parenting spicy ones can differ from typical parenting struggles, and we talk all about tips to help you parent them in a way that fosters their sparkle.What we can learn from spicy ones (and other difficult relationships).How to NOT get on the same page as your partner, and parent super effectively anyways.How to bring in some FIRM to the “gentle parenting” (and why our kids need it).We also dig into how to help dads who may not “get” connection-based parenting, and how to decide what kind of parent-child relationship we want in the future, and what we can about it now to get there.Mary Van Geffen is the international parenting coach for moms of Spicy Ones TM️. She helps people who are highly competent in life but overwhelmed by motherhood to lean into the spiritual discipline of staying calm and cultivating warmth and tenderness all while trying to wrangle fiery future CEOs. Often this requires serious skill-building and the balm of self-compassion.Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach, but her greatest achievement is cultivating a calm, kind and firm relationship with her Spicy go-getter daughter (now 18), mild child son (16) and un-Enneagramable hubby.Connect with Mary on IG: HEREJoin her FIRM class: HERE---Join the re-parenting movement, at my next retreat, The Inward Journey: www.coachcrystal.ca/the-retreatParent School: Discover your own unique path, with confidence… raising emotionally intelligent children that leave your home knowing that you truly, deeply care for them… that you aways have, and you always will. Isn't that we all want deep down? That is my goal for me, and for you… and for the future generation for children we are raising. To be seen. To be heard. To be valued. To feel loved. To feel supported. To feel known. To welcome them to be themselves- fully and completely. That is The Work. I am here for it. Welcome. Join me for the LAST LIVE round of Parent School:shame resiliency: how to feel shame and move through it, what triggers us and why, and how to move through heaviness and use it for growth.emotional regulation: what co-regulation is and how to support our children from our energy- not our words (not scripts and mantras, this work is much deeper than that), how to support ourselves and our kids through big emotions.the power of our thoughts and beliefs: how to separate who we are from what we think, how to create the exact relationship we want through the power of our mindconnection-based parenting: why it's the way of the future, how to parent in a relationship-first manner, developing deep and lasting connections that last a lifetime.6 modules covering all these topics, and more. 2 group coaching calls to get support in your individual family situations. (add-on available for your partner to join).Find all the information HERE.Contact me via email: crystal@coachcrystal.caAudio/text message me on Voxer HERE.

The incomparable Mary Van Geffen is here to help us parent our Spicy Ones, or know if we secretly are one too! Mary deeply understands the science of attachment and parenting, and provides such a soothing dose of wisdom, honesty, self-awareness and humor that can make you feel a little braver in whatever you're navigating in your body and in your relationships. We talk about how our spiciest challenges in whatever form they come, are often the biggest invitation back Home to Ourselves, because that is truly where we have our greatest power and influence. We talk about embodiment practices that we use, she provides journal prompts, we talk about tools to soothe nervous system (donkey breaths!), and even how she hacked her physiology on her lawn to prove her husband wrong. Mary is such a light and this conversations GIVES. If you feel called to work with her, she has many incredible offerings and ways to work with her on her website: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/ If you want to find out if you are parenting a Spicy One, take her quiz! https://www.maryvangeffen.com/quiz You can also learn so much from her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen/

In this deeply engaging episode of "This is Aging," Mary Van Geffen shares her journey of transitioning from feeling overwhelmed in parenting to becoming a beloved coach helping parents of “spicy ones” find support. We explore the nuances of nurturing children with strong personalities, emphasizing the significance of understanding and accepting their unique traits. Mary opens up about her experiences with ADHD and how it has shaped her perspective on parenting and self-awareness. From discussing the impact of generational patterns on parenting styles to exploring strategies for fostering autonomy in teenagers, this episode is filled with heartfelt stories and practical advice. Mary's approach, blending kindness with firmness, offers a refreshing viewpoint on navigating the complex waters of parenthood and the role of empathy and understanding in raising confident, resilient children. Join us in this captivating dialogue that promises to reshape how you view the parenting journey, especially if you have a “spirited” or neurodivergent child.

If your child is spirited, independent, and strong-willed, you might feel like you're at your wit's end with parenting. That's where Mary Van Geffen comes in as the go-to parenting coach for moms dealing with Spicy Ones™️. Parenting these kids can be isolating and tough, but Mary knows firsthand that having support and a community makes it easier to embrace and understand your lively and determined child. As the international parenting coach for moms of Spicy Ones™️, Mary specializes in helping capable individuals who feel overwhelmed by motherhood. She encourages them to stay calm, be kind, and stand firm in their parenting approach. Mary offers online parenting classes and her popular 8-week group program: Moms of Spicy Ones, is designed to empower moms with the confidence to adopt gentle and respectful parenting practices, even if it's different from how they were raised. Time codes:  3:00: How the Spicy One term came to be 10:30: Twenty percent of kids are difficult, strong-willed, and determined  16:00 Tantrums are part of human development and human development is messy 35:30 How to use “the do-over” in family situations  42:00 How to see the good in your child  44:00 How to participate in Mary's courses   Check out Mary Van Geffen's website  Sign up for Mom's of Spicy Ones waitlist Use code: MOMFORCE for 20% off your first Chatbooks order!  Follow Vanessa Follow Mary Van Geffen  Follow Chatbooks The MomForce Podcast on TikTok  Listen to more of The MomForce Podcast

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Mary Van Geffen, a parenting coach, mom of spicy kids, and former marketing MBA executive, shares about her experiences and learnings from parent coaching.  She explains the difference between a 'spicy kid' and a 'spirited kid', emphasizing that both include elements of overlap, but their understanding depends on the perspectives and expectations of the parents.  Mary discusses methods of self-care for parents, the importance of creating healthy relationships within and beyond the family, and the power of maintaining a positive outlook towards your kid.  We talk about: [4:43] Definition of Spicy Ones [6:33] The difference between Spicy and Spirited children [10:53] What's great about spicy kids [12:13] Knowing what is truly important in your life and where boundaries need to be [17:19] How did her mother deal with her growing up [19:30] How has her relationship with herself changed through her parenting journey [23:37] Building what she's teaching other parents [25:18] Best ways parents can support themselves [30:35] Advice to her younger parent self   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling' Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter   Connect with Mary https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen/?hl=en https://www.facebook.com/parentcoachforspicyones http://www.maryvangeffen.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

If you don't know Mary Van Geffen, you're going to want to! This was the kind of conversation that I thought about for a week after! Mary Van Geffen is the international parenting coach for moms of Spicy Ones. She helps people who are highly competent in life but overwhelmed by motherhood to lean into the spiritual discipline of staying calm and cultivating warmth and tenderness all while trying to wrangle fiery future CEOs. Often this requires serious skill-building and the balm of self-compassion. Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light!She offers on-line parenting classes and her signature 8 week group program: Moms of Spicy Ones to help moms gain the confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach, but her greatest achievement is cultivating a calm, kind and firm relationship with her Spicy go-getter daughter (now 18), mild child son (16) and un-Enneagramable hubby. Today she's bringing her life coaching and teaching skills to our podcast, and I could not be more excited! Transcript: https://share.descript.com/view/8j3z4faYtnCConnect with Mary:Website: https://www.maryvangeffen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffenFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/parentcoachforspicyones

Parenting an intense kiddo is a rollercoaster of ups and downs, and sometimes all you want is a wise mentor--someone who has been through it and has compassionate advice for you that actually works with these types of kids. That's why I'm so excited to introduce you to today's guest. Mary Van Geffen is the international parenting coach for moms of Spicy Ones™️. For full show notes, including the three takeaways, go to https://3in30podcast.com/324-mary-van-geffen  Announcement:  I am so thrilled to announce Flecks of Gold for kids, a digital download you can purchase once from my website and then print copies for all of the children in your household, so it becomes part of your family culture to look for the golden moments you experience together. My incredibly talented graphic designer, Bree Morris, included custom illustrations of the parable of the miner throughout the journal that will work as coloring pages for your children to get creative and showcase their personality as they track their Flecks of Gold each day. Make this the year you start a gratitude tradition with your kids! Go to 3in30podcast.com/shop to see the new Flecks of Gold Journal for Kids, and to celebrate the launch of this product, get 50% off from now until the end of the month with the code KIDS!  Episode sponsors: BetterHelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy! Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. *** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do the sights and sounds and feels of parenting overwhelm you some days? Or most days? How can we parent kindly and intentionally when we desperately need a break from all the stimulation?  My guest this week is Mary Van Geffen. She is a mom who has striven to cultivate good relationships with her children and husband while also navigating life as a Highly Sensitive Person with diagnosed ADHD.  She knows firsthand the struggles moms face with sensory overload and she's not trying to “fix” you - you're not broken! But she does offer a bevy of tips to help us take care of ourselves amidst the din of life and to parent in a calm and connected manner.  Connect with Mary Van Geffen:  Website:  https://www.maryvangeffen.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/parentcoachforspicyones  Instagram:  @maryvangeffen  Links Mentioned:    How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty Class with Mary Van Geffen  Heather and Mary's Instagram performance–Body Posture in Parenting Related Episodes: Body Awareness in Parenting :: Mary Van Geffen [Ep 333] When Your Child is on the Autism Spectrum (Part 1) :: Terri Conlin [Ep 182] When Your Child is on the Autism Spectrum (Part 2) :: Terri Conlin [Ep 183] Parenting Neurodivergent Children - Summer Edition :: Carrie Cassell [Ep 413] Parenting Sensitive and Intense Kids :: Lynne Jackson and Lydia Rex [Ep 395] Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues :: Lynne Jackson [Ep 258] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 

We are talking to Mary Van Geffen today who is the queen of all things SPICY moms and kids. I love talking to Mary and today I am just bragging her up on her course MOSO. Moms of Spicy ones is a course I took that truly changed the way I see myself as a mother and the way that I choose to parent. In fact, I loved it so much I asked Mary if she would give my listeners a discount code for her NEXT class starting SEPTEMBER 12. USE CODE BALKANINA for $20 off your MOSO (or any other) course LINKED HERE. In this episode: What does it mean to be a spicy one? I want to talk about your course and what it did for me and what others have said it has done for them…What are 3(+) easy ways / things I can start doing now to mold myself to compliment my spicy one?What are some ways I can help my parenting partner mold to our spicy one along side me? MARY's Instagram! Mary's Courses. ______________________________Did you love this episode? BUY ME A COFFEE for support!Find me on Instagram@balkanina@mamaknowspodcastFind me on TikTokBalkaninaSubscribe to my NewsletterPrivate Facebook Motherhood-Podcast CommunityMama Knows FBDisclaimer: This podcast does not provide any medical advice, it is for informational purposes only! ______________________________Did you love this episode? BUY ME A COFFEE for support!Find me on Instagram@balkanina@mamaknowspodcastFind me on TikTokBalkaninaSubscribe to my NewsletterPrivate Facebook Motherhood-Podcast CommunityMama Knows FBDisclaimer: This podcast does not provide any medical advice, it is for informational purposes only!

Parenting can be a pressure cooker, revealing the limits of our humanity like nothing else. This week, we're praying for those of us raising “Spicy Ones,” a term our guest liturgist Mary Van Geffen coined. Mary is a friend and parenting coach who is well-versed in this area, and she sees raising a Spicy One™ as an invitation to grow our love for ourselves and our children. We hope this prayer encourages you to take a deep breath and experience the graciousness and extravagant love of an ever-patient God.   You can learn more about Mary's work by checking out her website and giving her a follow on Instagram at @maryvangeffen.   Kayla's new book, Every Season Sacred, is an invitation to ask big questions, embrace faithful rhythms, and experience God's mysterious, loving presence together. You don't have to have all the answers—and if we're honest, many answers aren't ours to have. This is the beauty of faith. Preorder your copy before September 19, 2023, and get a collection of free gifts!    You can check out Liturgies for Parents on Instagram for more prayers and encouragement and pick up your own copy of To Light Their Way wherever books are sold. For glimpses of Kayla's experiences with parenting and faith, find her on Instagram at @kayla_craig.   Subscribe to us on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also help others find us by subscribing and leaving an honest review.   This podcast is made possible by our sponsor, Bethany Christian Services. Learn more about how—together—we can change the world through family by visiting bethany.org/kayla.   The Liturgies for Parents Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be, visit www.ChristianParenting.org.

This week on the You, The Mother Podcast, Abbey welcomes Mary Van Geffen! Mary is the international parenting coach for moms of Spicy OnesTM️. She helps people who are highly competent in life but overwhelmed by motherhood to lean into the discipline of staying calm and cultivating warmth and tenderness all while trying to wrangle fiery future CEOs. Often this requires serious skill-building and the balm of self-compassion. She walks us through how to navigate raising our spicy children without dimming their light. Are you navigating life with a spicy child? Let's talk about it! ——————————————— You can find Mary Van Geffen: www.maryvangeffen.com IG @maryvangeffen Join Tweens and Teens Class! Shift your parenting style for a lifelong connection with your adolescent. Self-paced teaching plus a LIVE Q&A on 8/10. Http://maryvangeffen.com/teens ——————————————— Instagram @youthemother www.youthemother.com Now Offering 1-on-1 and Group Coaching! https://calendly.com/youthemother

Beth shares a conversation with parenting coach Mary Van Geffen about the gentle parenting style and how parenting advice is as much about how you were parented as how you may or may not be parenting. Then, outside of politics, Sarah and Beth share their approach to wearing shorts.TOPICS DISCUSSEDMary Van Geffen on Gentle Parenting Outside of Politics: ShortsVisit our website for complete show notes and episode resources. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's solo episode I reflect on your thoughts from this week's episode with Mary Van Geffen.

Mary Van Geffen joins the show this week! Mary is an international parenting coach for moms of spicy ones. Kids who are big, loud, take up space, and might feel things a little more intensely. I adored this conversation with Mary, and I know you will too! You can find Mary here: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/ Join the Amplify Her Networking group here: www.amplifyhermedia.com/networking

Does your child push the boundaries and make things a little more difficult all the time? Have you ever thought, “I need to find out what's wrong with them?” If so, You may have a spicy child like us. This week we sat down with Mary Van Geffen, a gentle parenting expert, to discuss how to determine if your child is spicy or not and then what to do about it. Spoiler alert. The problem probably isn't your child. It's probably how you are interacting with them that is causing all your problems. Mary explained that it is possible to become the gentle parent our kids need even if our parents weren't able to do that for us. She also teaches us why children need boundaries just as much as adults do. She is our boundaries boss bitch!Happy Listening!Find Mary:https://instagram.com/maryvangeffenhttps://maryvangeffen.com/freebie/quizhttps://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/shift-your-parentingAffiliates/ Sponsors:Cure Hydration 20% off!:https://zen.ai/efp1BlendJet 12% offhttps://zen.ai/efpod12Social and Linkshttps://www.instagram.com/ef_ckedpodcast/https://linktr.ee/everythingsfuckedpodcast

Today we are talking with Mary Van Geffen an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. She teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting, especially if they weren't raised that way. Connect with Mary here: www.maryvangeffen.com https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen - Call/text your enneagram questions to (828) 338-9127 Grab a copy of my books at www.thehonestenneagram.com & www.theenneagramletters.com Check out my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/sarajanecase Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode Summary Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light! Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®. Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind, and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (17), polar-opposite introverted son (15) and un-Enneagramable hubby. Who's your ideal client and what's the biggest challenge they face? What are the common mistakes people make when trying to solve that problem? What is one valuable free action that our audience can implement that will help with that issue? What is one valuable free resource that you can direct people to that will help with that issue? What's the one question I should have asked you that would be of great value to our audience? When was the last time you experienced Goosebumps with your family and why? Moms of Spicy Ones™ Get in touch with Mary Van: Instagram Learn more about how Uwe helps in-demand professionals and their VIPs to enjoy Unshakeable Two-getherness in their relationship (plus more free time and zero guilt). Or when you feel you'd be interested in working together you can Book A Chat With Uwe

Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for moms of Spicy Ones™️ who joins us again (listen to her first episode with us no. 115) to continue the conversation of how we can have a healthy relationship with our children... specifically how we can pivot our parenting style if we realize that our current parenting tactics aren't working or are potentially causing harm. Tune in to hear: How we course correct if we've been "getting it wrong" and now want to do better How we uphold our boundaries when others (grandparents, friends, etc.) judge/disregard our parenting style And more! A Longer Table Podcast is hosted by Manda Carpenter. For more, visit www.mandacarpenter.com and purchase her latest book "Soul Care to Save Your Life" here https://www.mandacarpenter.com/soulcaretosaveyourlife These supportive sponsors are helping us Build Longer Tables: Aro - code MANDA for your first month free at https://www.goaro.com/ ABLE - code ALONGERTABLE15 for 15% off all apparel at https://able.sjv.io/c/3929645/1228242/15174

In this episode, Crystal and Laura interview Mary Van Geffen! Mary is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. You can find resources through her website and on her Instagram account! Mary is all about helping moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean Podcast on Instagram ⁠⁠@timetoleanpod⁠⁠ Follow Laura on social media ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thatdarnchat⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Crystal on social media ⁠⁠⁠⁠@itscrystalbritt⁠⁠⁠⁠ Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the ⁠⁠⁠book here⁠⁠⁠ or check out this ⁠⁠⁠youtube ⁠⁠⁠video! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Domestic Violence Resources ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message

If you're a parent to a child or children between the ages of 2 and 12 years old, you're going to get a lot out of today, especially if you have children that are particularly spicy, shall we say?You know the ones. They seem to defy what the parenting books say. They push your buttons. They push boundaries at earlier ages then seems appropriate. They hold a mirror to your wounds and traumas - most of them unhealed - and ask you dig deeper and deeper for the healing and the lesson.They are the kids that will indeed move the world forward, but goodness gracious, they can be challenging to parenting and to hold space for.Thank goodness for my guest on the show today, Mary Van Geffen, a parenting coach to spicy ones. She helps parents through setting and holding healthy boundaries (or not, depending on the situation), so that parent and child together can thrive in a loving, respectful and I dare say even joyful relationship.Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. She teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day.  Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light! Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®.  Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind, and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (17),  polar-opposite introverted son (15) and un-Enneagramable hubby.Follow along on Instagram @themomfeedpodcast Sign up for our newsletter for weekly inspiration and advice on motherhood and beyond.Remember to subscribe to the show if you don't already! xoxo

What does the new paradigm of parenting look like? Is gentle parenting a "soft approach"? What about consequences? What if you have an especially "spicy" or difficult child? How does your childhood experience impact the way you parent your kid? “ Mary and I explore all this as well as the importance of being able to regulate yourself as a parent. Mary brings her humor, insight and wealth of knowledge on the subject of conscious parenting. Plus she shares her personal story of discovery and how she came to be a thought leader in this arena. Just for 10 of my Free Your Soma listeners: join Moms of Spicy Ones™️ for $50 off with the Promo code: SOMA http://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. She teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light! To learn more about Spicy Ones™️: http://www.maryvangeffen.com/spicyones --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/aimee322/support

Do you yell at your kids? This week I talked with Mary Van Geffen about being a yeller, how to recover after yelling at my kids, and even how to stay calm in the chaos. If you tend to yell, listen to this episode! Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™.She teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way.Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light!Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®. Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind, and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (17), polar-opposite introverted son (15) and un-Enneagramable hubby.Website: www.maryvangeffen.com for classes Calm: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/calmFirm:  https://maryvangeffen.com/firmKind:  https://maryvangeffen.com/kindInstagram: @maryvangeffen________________________________________________________________Did you love this episode? BUY ME A COFFEE for support!Find me on Instagram@balkanina@mamaknowspodcastFind me on TikTokBalkaninaSubscribe to my NewsletterPrivate Facebook Motherhood-Podcast CommunityMama Knows FBDisclaimer: This podcast does not provide any medical advice, it is for informational purposes only!

Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for moms of Spicy Ones™️ who joins A Longer Table to share how we can have a healthy relationship with our children. Mary specifically answers Manda's questions about: How to get your child to cooperate more? If we're spending enough time with our children? What are age-appropriate consequences? She is a true gift and a wonderful follow on Instagram @maryvangeffen. Shout-out to our show sponsors: ABLE - code ALONGERTABLE15 for 15% off all apparel! Cozy Earth - code ALONGERTABLE for 35% off luxurious bedding & pjs!

Mary Van Geffen is an international coaching expert for parents of “spicy ones.” She helps people who are highly competent in life but overwhelmed by the challenges of parenting to lean into the discipline of staying calm. She helps them cultivate warmth and tenderness, all while trying to wrangle the fiery future of their tiny future CEOs. We discuss what it means to have or be a spicy child, and how parents can best react to these spirited young ones.You can download show notes for the podcast here: https://blog.bravewriter.com/category/podcasts/Resources:Mary's website: maryvangeffen.comMary's Instagram: @maryvangeffenSign up for our Text Message Pod Ring to get podcast updates and more!Want help getting started with Brave Writer? Head over to bravewriter.com/getting-startedSign up for the Brave Writer newsletter to learn about all of the special offers we're doing in 2022 and you'll get a free seven-day Writing Blitz guide just for signing up: https://go.bravewriter.com/writing-blitzConnect with Julie:Instagram: instagram.com/juliebravewriterTwitter: twitter.com/bravewriterFacebook: facebook.com/bravewriter

Episode 102: Parenting Spicy Kids with Mary Van Geffen   This new season of The Family Brain Podcast focuses on “What to Expect When You Are Expecting a Teen.” I remember my early parenting days gobbling up whatever parenting books were recommended, and I found comfort in their pages, even if the reality of parenting was much more nuanced and complicated than the books let on. Likewise, parenting a teen is not a one size fits all program, and in my conversation with Mary Van Geffen, a parenting coach for “Spicy Kids”, I am reminded of one principal of parenting that seems to fit most situations, and that is that often the point of work is not so much about the child but about the parts of the parent desire for control. I will admit that this conversation came at just the right time for me. Some days parenting feels like a breeze and there are other seasons where I question everything I know. If you have every felt like this, I hope you find hope in this conversation. I know I did.   In this episode:   I kick off a little shaky, and flub Mary Van Geffen's name, but once we get rolling there is no stopping us. We get going talking about how Mary came to the work of helping others parent spicy kids. Mary was a “spicy” kid and that came with some rough times and some rejection. Once she became a parent, she wanted to do things differently for her children and now shares what she has learned with other families. I love when one person's story and past feeds into their work. Mary talks about how parents of spicy kids and particularly spicy teens bring a great deal of intensity to situations, and how its on the parent to lower the energy in those interactions. Spicy kids have a high loyalty to themselves and intensely follow the call of their own heart. Mary says we have so much to learn from them. Spicy kids are not people pleasers and so often do not fall prey to as much peer pressure and are also not as eager to please their parent. I love that integrity to themselves, and as Mary suggests it can be challenging to feel like a competent parent with this kind of intensity.    Mary talks about how the little (not so little) secret is that often the place for the work in a parenting situation is not so much to do with the child as with a parent's unresolved need for control. OK that spoke to me. I have been feeling in the teen parenting years a lot like those early parenting days of no control, and I clearly have more work to do in that area.  Mary notes that often the spicy kids she talks about are inflexible, highly sensitive (sensitive to tags, sounds), and are persistent and often louder than the average child. This came come with some great benefits like staying true to self and goals and being aware of the world in rich ways. It can also come with some frustrations like when things don't go as planned or when the child is able to get what they expected. It can lead to challenges with friendships and at school. Mary has the great reminder that a parent's goal is not to control the child's behavior but rather for the parent to stay as they want to be regardless of how the child is in any given moment. She talks about how teens often trigger in parents their own tender parts as a child at that age, so for example my 11-year-old may bring me back to things that I loved or had a time with as an 11 year old myself. I reflected that nothing seems to quite shine a light more on the unhealed parts of yourself better than your child.    One key lesson I got from talking with Mary is the idea of creating slow customer service with our teens. I know I can be quick to fill requests to clear the list of things to do and tidy up my own anxiety. Welp, it turns out that creates repeat customers with more and more requests. I am committing myself to slowing down my...

In this practical episode continuation, Jessica interviews Mary Van Geffen, an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. In this episode, Mary defines what a “Spicy Child” is and gives guidance and encouragement to all parents currently attempting to raise one. Mary teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light!  Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®.  Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind, and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (17),  polar-opposite introverted son (15) and un-Enneagramable hubbyFind Mary's FREE child temperament quiz here.Brave Together is the podcast for We are Brave Together, a not-for-profit organization based in the USA. The heart of We Are Brave Together is to strengthen, encourage, inspire and validate all moms of children with disabilities and other needs in their unique journeys. JOIN the international community of We Are Brave Together here.Donate to our Retreats and Respite Scholarships here.Donate to keep this podcast going here.Can't get enough of the Brave Together Podcast?Follow our Instagram Page @wearebravetogether or on Facebook.Feel free to contact Jessica Patay via email: jpatay@wearebravetogether.orgIf you have any topic requests or if you would like to share a story, leave us a message here.Please leave a review and rating today! We thank you in advance!

In this practical episode Jessica interviews Mary Van Geffen, an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. In this episode they get into a juicy discussion about all things parenting: new, old, book-lead, child-lead, gentle and everything in-between.Mary teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light! Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®.  Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind, and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (17),  polar-opposite introverted son (15) and un-Enneagramable hubby.Find Mary's FREE child temperament quiz here.Brave Together is the podcast for We are Brave Together, a not-for-profit organization based in the USA. The heart of We Are Brave Together is to strengthen, encourage, inspire and validate all moms of children with disabilities and other needs in their unique journeys. JOIN the international community of We Are Brave Together here.Donate to our Retreats and Respite Scholarships here.Donate to keep this podcast going here.Can't get enough of the Brave Together Podcast?Follow our Instagram Page @wearebravetogether or on Facebook.Feel free to contact Jessica Patay via email: jpatay@wearebravetogether.orgIf you have any topic requests or if you would like to share a story, leave us a message here.Please leave a review and rating today! We thank you in advance!

Join Wendy Snyder & Mary Van Geffen to discuss all things "Spicy Kids" ... (aka kids you may describe as strong willed or power kids!) You'll learn 3 Important Steps to Setting Boundaries with Spicy Kids (With Calm, Firmness, & Repetition) & also how to identify unique strengths in your spicy kiddos ... so you can stick with strong boundaries in your home - even when your spicy kiddo seem to challenge them ALL repeatedly. This episode is going to inspire you big time! For links & more info about everything discussed in this episode - head to www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/138

Mary Van Geffen is spicy. Which is why she's made it her mission as a parenting coach to help parents understand their own spicy children. In this episode, Mary teaches how to manage our own reactions as we parent these amazing kids.  Get Mary's guide to Finding Your Calm here: https://maryvangeffen.ck.page/42c9542683

Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for overwhelmed parents of "strong-willed & spicy children." She helps parents to gain the confidence and skills to choose gentle, respectful parenting. She joins host Matt Popovits to discuss how to parent when you don't feel as though you received the best roadmap for success from your family of origin, parenting in a pandemic, as well as how to deal with parental guilt. It's a powerful and timely conversation for parents, grandparents, and children alike.

If you were able to listen to the bonus episode last week, let me know if it helped you in dealing with a spirited child who is stuck in their big feelings (if you have one), I always love hearing from you! To continue the conversation around this topic, we will talk about how parenting a challenging, strong-willed kiddo can be seen as a spiritual practice and a journey. ​ I know that raising a spirited, strong-willed child can be well... a lot. And so, to help me in this conversation, I have brought in a wonderful colleague, Mary Van Greffen. She is an international parenting coach for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & spicy children. She believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light! ​ If you are looking for more support, you can visit Mary's website and follow her on Instagram @maryvangeffen.Find more show notes here: www.laurafroyen.com/podcast

Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach who helps moms and dads of “spicy” children stay calm, kind, and firm.In this episode Mary will help Matt and Rachel understand what it means to parent in a gentle, respectful, and effective way—especially if you weren't raised that way.Love this podcast? Then check out What Matters Most, daily teachings from Matt Popovits, available wherever you get your podcasts.For more information on MPM, head to mattpopovits.comSupport the show (https://mpm.simpledonation.com)Support the show

What's wrong with my child? Why won't they listen? Why is everything a negotiation? Why do I have to keep yelling, making threats, and going from 0-100 in a split second?  What's wrong with me? Mama–you're not the first one to ask these questions. We've all flipped our lids, cried in the bathroom, felt horribly guilty for yelling at our kids and wondered, at the end of the day, if we're just defective parents.  What if there's nothing wrong with your child, even though they're a little…spicy? And what if there's nothing wrong with you? What if a few more tools in your toolbelt are enough to be the kind and compassionate parent you want to be?  Meet Mary Van Geffen, parenting coach for parents with spicy children. She's helped thousands of moms practice staying calm, kind, and firm with their strong-willed children, and she's a mom with ADHD, just like us.  In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, Mary and I discuss: - Mary's journey to her ADHD diagnosis and the self-acceptance that followed - Her struggles with parenting as an ADHD mom and Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and how tools like self-compassion help her cope with overstimulation - What it means to have a “spicy child,” and why we can stop trying to figure out “what's wrong” with our kids - Self-regulation, self-compassion, and other practices that support us through parenting stress and overwhelm - Cycle syncing and parenting – how we can sync our parenting style with our menstrual cycle to plan activities around our energy levels and show up for our children as the best version of ourselves - The 1-minute meditation that helps you get out of your swirling mind and into the calmness of your body when you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed During the episode, Mary mentions Rich Roll, who had Lisa Miller, PhD on his show (episode #654). She wrote the book called The Awaken Brain.  Mary also mentions during the meditation Shirzad Chamine, who researched and wrote a book around Positive Intelligence. Find it here: We Should All Be Millionaires A big thank you to Mary Van Geffen for sharing her heart-centered wisdom with us!  To learn more tools for parenting spicy children, follow Mary on Instagram at: @maryvangeffen Visit her website: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/ Or join the waitlist for her live, 8-week course, Moms of Spicy Ones: http://www.maryvangeffen.com/waitlist  Learn how to organize your to-do list and your commitments to yourself in the Daily Planning for ADHD Moms course. Join here: bit.ly/adhdplan Click for full transcript.

Parenting is difficult and hormones can make it feel dang near impossible. But today we are offering this perspective shift: What would it look like if you got SO in tune with your cycle that you gained knowledge to help inform your parenting decisions?  Meet Mary! She's the international parenting coach for moms of Spicy Children™️.  Since 2011, Mary has worked with over one thousand parents to help transform how they show up for their kids, and for themselves. She's all about helping you practice the spiritual discipline of staying calm, kind, and firm with your spirited powerhouse of a kid, even when they don't deserve it and she's a firm believer that you don't have to parent without a map. WHAT WE CHAT ABOUT: Parenting while keeping the season of your cycle in mind Setting reasonable expectations for yourself  Journaling printable for MSW listeners In the Flow: Passion, Purpose and the Power of Mindfulness by Deborah Norris, Ph. D. Don't miss the live event this weekend for Mothership Patrons. Become a Patron here! CONNECT WITH MARY: website | instagram | facebook | newsletter  CONNECT WITH REBECCA: website | instagram | patreon CONNECT WITH KATE: instagram | website | patreon CONNECT WITH EMILY: website | instagram | facebook | patreon EPISODE SPONSORS: KiwiCo: Use code MSW for 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line Prose: Use code MSW for 15% off custom hair supplements SHARE THE STRUGGLE! If you've been encouraged, share this episode with a friend.  The struggle is real.  We might as well do this together! Do you love Mom Struggling Well? Please leave a review here! LINKS MENTIONED ON THE SHOW: Patreon | Amazon THE HIGHLIGHT EPISODES: Just Em | Meet Rebecca | Problem Solved | Meet Kate | A Celebration | Moms Struggling Well *Disclaimer: As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. 

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What kind of mom or dad do you want to be? Parent Coach, Mary Van Geffen joins us to share her amazing Thanksgiving Exercise to help you get clear on the kind of family culture you want to create. We also chat about how the exercise uncovers the north star for family decisions, the importance of sharing the results with your teens, and the impact on parents personally as well. connect with Maggie: www.maggiedipasquale.com1:1 mentoringparent coachingonline membership for college freshmen connect with Mary: instagramHttp://cyclical-parenting.teachable.com/p/the-compassionate-response-meditation-workshopHttps://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/calm-in-chaos 

Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & spicy children. Based in Southern California, Mary helps moms (over the phone or on FaceTime to) gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. She has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day.  Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light! Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®.  Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (now 17),  polar-opposite introverted son (14) and un-Enneagramable hubby.Mary is an absolute blast and I cannot wait for you to listen to her! Graphic Design: Lily Wilder Theme song: "Ten Percent" by Gable Price and Friends Follow us on instagram: @thenehemiahcollectiveSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=CF4DEWWHZES9L)

Parent coach, Mary Van Geffen joins us to explain the distinction between being in charge versus in control and why it's so important when it comes to parenting teens. In this pep talk we chat over-responsibility in parenting, redefining success, and what your teens really need from you. Mary even gives us an example of how this plays out in her own home so you can directly implement in your own life. connect with Mary instagramcompassionate response meditation workshopcalm in chaos connect with Maggie mentor membership 1:1 mentoringparent coaching

In this episode we hear from Mary Van Geffen about parenting strong-willed kids, therapeutic resonance and what it means to embrace that gift in us as we mother.

We are joined for today's pep talk by international parenting coach Mary Van Geffen! After finding herself overwhelmed by her Titanium-Willed Child, Mary became a Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach® to help overwhelmed moms with strong-willed or spicy children. Mary has been an epic follow on Instagram and her parent tip-a-day is always packed with so much value. I asked her to be our guest to talk about parenting teens. We chat about the difference between being in charge versus control, how to foster an energy of cooperation that will help your teens hear you, what the real work of parenting is, a script you can use for setting tech boundaries with you kids, and an exercise to get you clear about the kind of family culture you want to create. connect with Mary: instagramHttp://cyclical-parenting.teachable.com/p/the-compassionate-response-meditation-workshopHttps://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/calm-in-chaosconnect with Maggie: www.maggiedipasquale.com1:1 mentoringparent coachingonline membership for college freshmen 

Mary Van Geffen is one of my favorite people on Instagram.  I am so excited to share a conversation about raising Spicy Children and parenting by loving yourself.   Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & spicy children.   She helps moms (over the phone or on FaceTime to) gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way.   She has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light!   Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®. Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (now 16), polar-opposite introverted son (14) and un-Enneagramable hubby.   Here is my Instagram account:  https://www.instagram.com/maryvangeffen/ and my website: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/   Here is my link for coaching:    https://CoachingWithMVG.as.me/?appointmentType=6549717    Favorite takeaways: Mary's prompt to ask yourself: What am I feeling right now?   Planning Ahead for a Mom & Me Date wwwww   Books Mentioned: Untangled by Lisa Damour Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne   Podcast on 7 Patterns of Play     Mary's Key Practices: 1:1 Time that is Child-Led & full of the parent delighting in them Grounding Yourself Getting Away    Join Mary's Parenting Siblings School  Use code PODCAST for $5 off Treat jealousy, constant bickering, mean words & tattling with confidence. End the "you love her more!" complaint once and for all. Learn when to step in. Learn the blueprint for positive conflict resolution. Help kids set boundaries & hear each other's point of view even when skills, ages, and personalities are very different. Become the calmest one in the room. Register here: https://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/parenting-siblings-school?preview=logged_out   Self-Care Ideas: A couple of times a year-- go visit a float tank. Drink Sole in the morning.  Mary uses this salt. Walk barefoot outside early in the day     Family Fun Idea: Get out of your home-- Listen to the same podcast, audiobook, music together.  20 Questions Jedi Mind Trick of the Best Moment together in the last month.      Join the Finish the Book Community Starting August 31!   Keep the conversation going on Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/everyday_runner_christy/      

How we feel in our bodies affects so many facets of parenting-- and in some ways you might now expect. My guest Mary Van Geffen joins me to talk about 4 Ps that can help us practice body awareness as we work on parenting our kids (even the spicy ones) with empathy and connection. “When in doubt I say choose connection rather than control. We're not going to have a lot of control and we don't have the time or the energy to follow through on things. So let's make sure we're connected because connection is the honey and it will help us to have more control.” We go in depth on how paying attention to your Presence, Posture, Proximity and Phase of your Cycle can change how you parent and bring awareness of how to honor your body and rest when you need it.  Connect with Mary:  Website:  maryvangeffen.com  Instagram: @maryvangeffen  YouTube: youtube.com/maryvangeffen   Links Mentioned:   Embodied Motherhood Worksheet with 4 Ps  Coaching with Mary use code: PODCAST for $5 off Dr. Carolyn Leaf, neuroscientist Parenting Siblings School — Join Mary's Parenting Siblings School to treat jealousy, constant bickering, mean words, and tattling with confidence.  How To Stay Calm When Your Child is Acting Crazy PDF  Featured Sponsors: Love Every — Take the guesswork out of your child's play. Choose Lovevery TODAY and get free shipping when you sign up to receive your Play Kits at Lovevery.com/DMA BetterHelp —Visit betterhelp.com/DMA and join the over 1,000,000 people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Special offer for Don't Mom Alone listeners: get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/DMA. 

Come join this conversation with parenting coach, Mary Van Geffen, and ditch your overwhelm and learn how to be a calm parent to your strong-willed & spicy children! We explore the healthy habit of Embodying Motherhood: the skill of using your body to stay calm and to generate more cooperation from your child will make your parenting journey easier and way more joyful! In this episode you'll learn:How & why to find presence in your body through a mini meditation.How to change the posture of your parenting (be a queen!).What is “no butt parenting” and the 2 x 2 x 2 method to connect with your child.How the phase of your cycle affects your parenting.Mary Van Geffen Bio:Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & spicy children. Based in Southern California, Mary helps moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren't raised that way. Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor and a Co-Active Professional Coach. She works one-on-one with moms over the phone to shift their parenting approach so they can:Enjoy being with their childrenGet more cooperation and less “No's” from their childrenStay calm and in control of themselvesBe firm and follow throughTrust themselves and their decisionsMary speaks at schools and mom groups all over So Cal and provides daily parenting tips and tricks on Instagram. Links & Resources:Find Mary on Instagram.Schedule your complimentary 30-minute coaching session with Mary.Consider joining Mary's Parenting Siblings School to:Treat jealousy, constant bickering, mean words & tattling with confidence.End the "you love her more!" complaint once and for all.Explore the blueprint for positive conflict resolution.Help kids set boundaries & hear each other's point of view even when skills, ages and personalities are very different.Become the calmest one in the room.Join the waitlist for Cyclical Parenting Workshop starting September 2021.

Parenting coach Mary Van Geffen guides folks daily through the process of raising "spicy" kids. Want to really get her going? Talk about the societal pressure to be a "good" mom, and the many meaningless, artificial and external markers that indicate what success looks like for modern parents.Mary unpacks and refutes every bit of that. I wish I could quote our entire conversation, but you'll just have to listen yourself. We cover every Southern woman's weakness; the perpetual people pleasers who seek her guidance; why the key to a happy home is in us, not our children; and (in an exercise that brings me to tears) how to create a relationship our grown children will rush home to each Thanksgiving.What DOES success look like in raising children? Mary's perspective may change your whole approach to parenting.Resources mentioned:Mary Van Geffen's website and Instagram The Gottman Institute feeling wheelBrittney Bolt, our Enneagram 7 guest, on being a surrogate for strangersMeredith Jaggard, prioritizing herself and her marriage while parenting and kicking MS square in the teethDo Less by Kate NorthrupTry Softer by Aundie KolberSupport But Not All At Once via our Patreon, where you can catch an hour-long update (and a metric ton of inspiration) from Meredith Jaggard, plus videos, giveaways, upcoming guest Q&As, and more.As always, you can find Anne at  hello@butnotallatonce.com and @butnotallatonce across social media platforms.

Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach for overwhelmed parents of "strong-willed & spicy children." She helps parents to gain the confidence and skills to choose gentle, respectful parenting. She joins host Matt Popovits to discuss how to parent when you don't feel as though you received the best roadmap for success from your family of origin, parenting in a pandemic, as well as how to deal with parental guilt. It's a powerful and timely conversation for parents, grandparents, and children alike.

We all want our home to be a sanctuary from the stress and demands of the world - a place where our child's play is encouraged and social/emotional development is protected. Yet, often, we find ourselves white-knuckling it through the drama of unexplainable meltdowns and wildly inappropriate behavior that make parenting So Not Fun. Join Simplicity Parenting Counselor® Mary Van Geffen to learn how choosing Simplicity in 4 key areas can give your child the space they need to tantrum less and come back to calm: · The Environment · Rhythm & Predictable Transitions · Your Schedule · Media/Screens Listen to the episode for ideas of small doable changes you can make to support your child's mental health and make parenting a whole lot easier. How to Stay Calm when Your Child is Acting Crazy.  A downloadable step-by-step process for how to regulate yourself for less yelling and more calm.   Connect with Mary on Instagram @maryvangeffen and on her website: https://www.maryvangeffen.com/