Podcast appearances and mentions of Dan B Allender

Jonathan, Brad & JM look back at the year that was 2024. They recap some highlights from Shades Midweek, SVCC and more! JM's Album Of The Week: Tears For Fears - Songs From The Big Chair Bradford's Book Club: The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender & Dr. Steve Call

 A couple of weeks ago, a client of mine said to me, "I know I need to relax to heal, but I can't relax; literally, I can't sit still. If I do, I feel like I'm going to jump out of my skin."When he said this, I realized that he was not the only client who had told me this before.Many of my clients feel that relaxing is very difficult, all for different reasons and different life stages. Maybe you're a mom with too many things to do. Or you're a business owner with an endless list of tasks to complete. Or you're a teacher and father who juggles taking his kids to school and showing up to work without forgetting to eat breakfast.When you take a moment to sit still, relax, do nothing - it's uncomfortable. Your body wants to get up and move. Basically, you don't feel relaxed when you're "relaxing." This is what happens when you have nervous system dysregulation.How do you regulate your nervous system when it's not regulating on its own? And if you're currently experiencing this, how DO you relax?Today, I'm going to dive into two paradigms to help you explore the nature of relaxing and 5 hacks to help you relax and get nervous system regulation with greater ease - no matter what's going on in your life.LINKS FROM THE SHOW:If this podcast episode made positively impacted you, please leave a Rating and Review for the podcast. It'd mean so much! ❤️(1) Take a Personality Test. If you've never explored personality before, take one of the tests I just mentioned or Google more information on it.Take the Myers-Briggs TestTake StrengthsFinder TestRead the Enneagram TypesDo the SYMBIS Evaluation (for married/engaged couples)(2) Read a bookThe Gifts of Imperfection, Brene BrownTired of Trying: How to Hold On to God When You're Frustrated, Fed Up, and Feeling Forgotten, Ashely Morgan JacksonUnexpected: Finding Resilience through Functional Medicine, Science, and Faith, by Dr. Jill CarnahanRedeeming Heartache, by Dan B. Allender(3) Try a New TherapyEMDR (find a therapist on Psychology Today)Internal Family Systems (IFS) (find a therapist on Psychology Today or IFS-Institute Directory)Somatic (find a therapist on Psychology Today)Spiritual Direction (soulshepherding.org)DNRS : Retrainingthebrain.com, by Annie HopperTake the Self-Assessment Survey(4) Join the BBBAddress the biochemical causes of your anxiety and nervous system dysregulation!

 A couple of weeks ago, a client of mine said to me, "I know I need to relax to heal, but I can't relax; literally, I can't sit still. If I do, I feel like I'm going to jump out of my skin."When he said this, I realized that he was not the only client who had told me this before.Many of my clients feel that relaxing is very difficult, all for different reasons and different life stages. Maybe you're a mom with too many things to do. Or you're a business owner with an endless list of tasks to complete. Or you're a teacher and father who juggles taking his kids to school and showing up to work without forgetting to eat breakfast.When you take a moment to sit still, relax, do nothing - it's uncomfortable. Your body wants to get up and move. Basically, you don't feel relaxed when you're "relaxing." This is what happens when you have nervous system dysregulation.How do you regulate your nervous system when it's not regulating on its own? And if you're currently experiencing this, how DO you relax?Today, I'm going to dive into two paradigms to help you explore the nature of relaxing and 5 hacks to help you relax and get nervous system regulation with greater ease - no matter what's going on in your life.LINKS FROM THE SHOW:If this podcast episode made positively impacted you, please leave a Rating and Review for the podcast. It'd mean so much! ❤️(1) Take a Personality Test. If you've never explored personality before, take one of the tests I just mentioned or Google more information on it.Take the Myers-Briggs TestTake StrengthsFinder TestRead the Enneagram TypesDo the SYMBIS Evaluation (for married/engaged couples)(2) Read a bookThe Gifts of Imperfection, Brene BrownTired of Trying: How to Hold On to God When You're Frustrated, Fed Up, and Feeling Forgotten, Ashely Morgan JacksonUnexpected: Finding Resilience through Functional Medicine, Science, and Faith, by Dr. Jill CarnahanRedeeming Heartache, by Dan B. Allender(3) Try a New TherapyEMDR (find a therapist on Psychology Today)Internal Family Systems (IFS) (find a therapist on Psychology Today or IFS-Institute Directory)Somatic (find a therapist on Psychology Today)Spiritual Direction (soulshepherding.org)DNRS : Retrainingthebrain.com, by Annie HopperTake the Self-Assessment Survey(4) Join the BBBAddress the biochemical causes of your anxiety and nervous system dysregulation!

Today we are kicking off our REST series with a special introductory episode to help us lay a foundation for our understanding of Sabbath. Pastor Scott Messner is here to help us unpack what Scripture says about Sabbath, how our understanding of it shifts between the Old and New Testaments, and how we can apply its practices to our lives today. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Embracing the Rhythms of Work and Rest (Ruth Haley Barton) The Rest of God (Mark Buchanan) Sabbath: The Ancient Practices (Dr. Dan B. Allender, PLLC) Perspectives on the Sabbath: The Four Views (Donato, Arand, Blomberg, MacCarty, and Pipa)

We're so excited to bring you a conversation that Shawn and Hunter had with Meghan Lawson. Meghan is a mom, proud-Texan transplant, and an incredibly wise and generous therapist who talks with us about trauma, our bodies, how we can cope with triggers, and the place of therapy in the church. This is such a great episode... we really can't thank Meghan enough for her time and wisdom. If you want to connect with Meghan, you can find her website right here: https://www.lawsoncounselingcenter.com/ Here are some of the resources discussed on the episode: Being Known Podcast with Dr. Curt Thompson - Trauma and the Church The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen Try Softer by Aundi Kolber Redeeming Heartache - Dr. Dan B. Allender and Cathy Loerzal Healing the Wounded Heart - Dr. Dan B. Allender

We live in a broken world filled with broken people. Because of this, everyone experiences some level of trauma. Unfortunately, past trauma experiences can greatly impact our lives, perceptions, and interactions in the present. Many of us have become adept at numbing our pain. In order to heal, however, we need to have the courage to unpack and process our trauma stories with truth but also with a great deal of self-kindness. In this episode, Dr. Allender and Cathy Loerzel, coauthors of Redeeming Heartache, released by Zondervan, share some archetype mentalities that often stem from trauma, why it's so important we learn to order our trauma stories, and how we can grow in greater freedom. Find Dr. Allender at:https://theallendercenter.org/about/team/dan-allender/https://www.amazon.com/Dan-B.-Allender/e/B001HCW4JUFind Cathy Loerzel at:https://theallendercenter.org/about/team/cathy-loerzel/https://www.instagram.com/cathy.loerzel/Learn more about their book, Redeeming Heartache - https://www.zondervan.com/p/redeeming-heartache/Find Jennifer Slattery at:JenniferSlatteryLivesoutLoudhttps://www.facebook.com/JenSlatteFind Wholly Loved Ministries at:https://www.WhollyLoved.comGroup Discussion Questions:1. What resonated with you most in today's episode?2. What type of thoughts or emotions arose when you heard Dr. Allender's definition of trauma?3. Consider Cathy Loerzel's discussion on the three common ways people deal with trauma (to fragment, numb, and isolate). When has this been true for you?4. What do you think it means, in terms of unpacking past wounding, to show oneself kindness?5. Why might it be important for us to acknowledge the brokenness of our world (that our world is not as God intended)? 6. How can acknowledging the world's brokenness help us process past hurts?7. What thoughts or emotions arose when Dr. Allender spoke of false Edens? 8. What are some false Edens people might create?9. What are some false Edens you have created?10. What is one action step God might want you to take based on what you heard in today's episode?

The Trio continues the series on Spiritual Abuse and Church Hurt. In this episode they venture into, but not limited to… Gaslighting, defining and giving examples of it. The Pulpit, where the “pulpit” came from and the reason for speaking the Word of God. The Bully Pulpit, what it is and what it looks like, and some affects. In conclusion, we need to ask one of the hardest questions, one in which takes bracing ourselves for a hurricane. We also have to be willing to answer it truthfully, and as difficult as it may be, with as much grace, hope, and love that we can muster. The toughest question ever needing asked: “How do you experience me?” Books that are referenced and referred to in this series: Escaping The Maze of Spiritual Abuse by Dr. Lisa Oakley & Justin Humphreys Healing Spiritual Abuse by Ken Blue When Narcissism Comes to Church by Church DeGroat The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse by David R. Johnson Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender & Tremper Longman III Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse by Erin Lamb Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg Connect with us on Instagram here —> https://www.instagram.com/onefear3/ Find our Facebook Page here —> https://www.facebook.com/OneFear-109998298125313 Facebook group here —> http://www.facebook.com/groups/348890192873672 For questions, comments, (concerns), email us at contact@onefear.net Visit our website, onefear.net for more information about #OneFear and to learn about what else we do! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/onefear5/message

In this episode, the Trio return to the Upper Room for part 4 of the series on Spiritual Abuse and Church Hurt. They discuss in this episode: How “unity” is used in spiritual abuse What real “unity” is biblically Profile of healing Unity, unfortunately, can be used as a weapon or tool for spiritual abuse and church hurt. It is used, not for, but against others for many reasons. On the contrary, biblical unity is a mystery. Exploring Ephesians 2:11ff, we find that unity is reached in the faith and knowledge of the Son of God and become mature. Then, in healing, there is a passionate drive of anger that is easily understood concerning forgiveness and unity, and what moving on entails. Books that are referenced and referred to in this series: Escaping The Maze of Spiritual Abuse by Dr. Lisa Oakley & Justin Humphreys Healing Spiritual Abuse by Ken Blue When Narcissism Comes to Church by Church DeGroat The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse by David R. Johnson Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender & Tremper Longman III Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse by Erin Lamb Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg Connect with us on Instagram here —> https://www.instagram.com/onefear3/ Find our Facebook Page here —> https://www.facebook.com/OneFear-109998298125313 Facebook group here —> http://www.facebook.com/groups/348890192873672 For questions, comments, (concerns), email us at contact@onefear.net Visit our website, onefear.net for more information about #OneFear and to learn about what else we do! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/onefear5/message

What do you do when God doesn't answer your prayers the way you desire? Sometimes these situations cause us to believe lies about God. In today's episode, through Carrie's personal story you will learn how to recognize the lies and what to do about them.March 8, 2922; Ep. 76Timestamps & Key Topics:0:00-    Intro1:30-    Spiritual Battle2:40-    Is God Good?6:38-    Recognizing Lies8:51-    Resources10:15-  Combatting The Lies13:28-  Meet You In Your Grief16:42-  Reflection   Episode Links & Resources:Scripture mentioned: Ephesians 6:12; Romans 8:31-33The Place We Find Ourselves: Warfare Part 3: AgreementsThe Allender Center PodcastTo Be Told by Dan B. Allender, PhDRedeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True CallingPracticing Affirmation by Sam CrabtreeRun to the Father by Cody CarnesIf you enjoyed our podcast, please...Get our free resource 7 Advocacy Practices & PitfallsGet our free resource on finding Gratitude, Peace, and HopeSubscribe to our newsletter on the Take Heart WebsiteReview and like us on Apple Podcasts Share us with others from wherever you listen to podcastsFollow us on Instagram @takeheartspecialmomsFind Amy at www.amyjbrown.com/  or on Instagram @amyjbrown_writerFind Carrie at www.carriemholt.com or on Instagram @carriemholtFind Sara at www.saraclime.com or on Instagram @saraclime

The Trio returns to present part 3 of the series on spiritual abuse and church hurt. In this episode we learn that a church's character and function will reflect how it is lead, so therefore, abusive leading leads to abused outcomes. There are markers of an abusive culture, such as a dysfunctional family may operate. Those markers may include, but are not limited to: No talking... Including asking the abused what happened. Control and coercion, which is a violation of trust. Dependency on leadership in which cannot be found elsewhere, especially since they have spiritual authority. Dependency on leadership is necessary due to the leaders divine vision to lead. The great assumption that leaders have the best interest for as many people as possible for the greater impact and for over the longest period of time. Fears of consequences. Segregating the so-called "troublemakers" from others. To continue the discussion, Dominick gives a breakdown of Amos 7 and discusses the difference between the prophet Amos and the priest of Bethel, Amaziah. (Visit our Bible Studies on the book of Amos for more.) Living in a culture of hurt - we all hurt, but how we are comforted and work through healing requires more vulnerability, which makes it harder than ever thought to be. Part of spiritual abuse includes a type of safeguard (ie. no talking). Tear those safeguards down and establish the correct ones (ie. knowledge and awareness of abuse). Books that are referenced and referred to in this series: Escaping The Maze of Spiritual Abuse by Dr. Lisa Oakley & Justin Humphreys Healing Spiritual Abuse by Ken Blue When Narcissism Comes to Church by Church DeGroat The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse by David R. Johnson Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender & Tremper Longman III Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse by Erin Lamb Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg Connect with us on Instagram here —> https://www.instagram.com/onefear3/ Find our Facebook Page here —> https://www.facebook.com/OneFear-109998298125313 Facebook group here —> http://www.facebook.com/groups/348890192873672 For questions, comments, (concerns), email us at contact@onefear.net Visit our website, onefear.net for more information about #OneFear and to learn about what else we do! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/onefear5/message

The Trio is back with Part 2 of the series on Spiritual Abuse and Church Hurt. In this episode the abuser and victim are identified: Abuse may not be a thought at all: For various reasons, the crew discuss why the abuser and victim may not even know that spiritual abuse is happening. Common sayings and phrases of abuser and victim: Here, the crew processes more in depth the definition of spiritual abuse and common behaviors and phrases that are often said in light of not knowing that the abuse is happening. Scripture as weapon and avoidance of Scripture: There is a place in which Scripture plays a part in abuse. The crew discusses how it is used as a weapon and why the victim tends to avoid Scripture thereafter. Remedy is not what it seems: For prevention and forgiveness, measures need to be taken. Patterns need broken. Equipping needs done. There is no over night solution to spiritual abuse, but it begins with listening. Books that are referenced and referred to in this series: Escaping The Maze of Spiritual Abuse by Dr. Lisa Oakley & Justin Humphreys Healing Spiritual Abuse by Ken Blue When Narcissism Comes to Church by Church DeGroat The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse by David R. Johnson Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender & Tremper Longman III Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse by Erin Lamb Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg Connect with us on Instagram here —> https://www.instagram.com/onefear3/ Find our Facebook Page here —> https://www.facebook.com/OneFear-109998298125313 Facebook group here —> http://www.facebook.com/groups/348890192873672 For questions, comments, (concerns), email us at contact@onefear.net Visit our website, onefear.net for more information about #OneFear and to learn about what else we do! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/onefear5/message

Dom and Danielle begin the series on spiritual abuse and church hurt. With Raelynn in company, the Trio dialogue through: Why the topic of spiritual abuse - to bring awareness of the reality of it in the Church. What spiritual abuse is and who is a part of this abuse. How to recognize silencing when spiritual abuse is happening. Books that are referenced and referred to in this series: Escaping The Maze of Spiritual Abuse by Dr. Lisa Oakley & Justin Humphreys Healing Spiritual Abuse by Ken Blue When Narcissism Comes to Church by Church DeGroat The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse by David R. Johnson Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender & Tremper Longman III Overcoming Church Hurt & Abuse by Erin Lamb Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg Connect with us on Instagram here —> https://www.instagram.com/onefear3/ Find our Facebook Page here —> https://www.facebook.com/OneFear-109998298125313 Facebook group here —> http://www.facebook.com/groups/348890192873672 For questions, comments, (concerns), email us at contact@onefear.net Visit our website, onefear.net for more information about #OneFear and to learn about what else we do! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/onefear5/message

Episode 2 - Kyra and Jonathan “JD” Daniels Dating as a Christian can be hard, and there's no manual for how to do it perfectly. In this episode, we hear from Kyra and Jonathan Daniels, who met at Renaissance Church in 2018, started dating in 2019, and got married in January 2021. Kyra and JD share how their backgrounds and faith shaped their dating experiences and how their relationship progressed from dating to engagement to marriage. Spoiler alert: It wasn't exactly smooth and easy.  Real Love Conversations is a special collection of interviews released in conjunction with Renaissance Church's Real Love sermon series. As we talk about how our relationships can thrive according to God's model and direction, we're also taking the opportunity to hear about diverse relationship experiences from some of the wonderful and unique people who make up the Renaissance community. It's going to get real! Mentioned in this episode: Dan B. Allender, Ph.D, is a prominent Christian therapist, author, professor, and speaker focusing on sexual abuse and trauma recovery, as well as story, marriage and family, and Christian Sabbath. The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God, By Timothy Keller, with Kathy Keller https://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Marriage-Facing-Complexities-Commitment/dp/1594631875 Clove Indian Restaurant at 1592 Amsterdam Ave, New York, NY 10031 FUMO Harlem - Pizza & Pasta at 1600 Amsterdam Ave, New York, NY 10031

Stories are powerful. We crave stories. They move us and impact us. Isn't it interesting how God communicates His plan of redemption through the STORY of Scripture? He is the master Storyteller! And as His image bearers, we are also storytellers. We each have a story. Yet, many of us don't know how to communicate our stories to others. We don't realize how our stories can impact how we share the gospel and disciple others. Some of us think our stories are boring; our testimonies seem to be void of drama. Others of us think our stories are too hard and may even discredit us from talking about God with others. But the truth is, all of our stories matter. We can craft and share our personal stories to the glory of God! In this conversation, we are joined by Kyra Riley Daniels, and she helps us work through the topic of personal stories and storytelling. Kyra is a staff writer at The Daily Grace Co., but along with her degree in theology from Westminster, she has a degree in theater from Yale University. Here are some questions we work through in this interview:  Why are stories powerful? (11:13) Each of us has a story; we're storytellers. How does this impact how we share the gospel and even disciple others? (15:33) Some believers may think, “Nothing dramatic has happened in my life. My testimony is boring.” Why do these stories matter? What do these stories tell us about God? (20:03) Others may think, “My story is full of really hard things.” Maybe some of us feel like our personal stories discredit us from talking about God or from sharing the gospel. Why do these stories matter? What do these stories tell us about God? (24:40) How can we craft our own personal stories to the glory of God? What practical tips do you have for us to develop our personal testimony in order to share the gospel? (29:12) How can we, as ordinary people, grow in the art of storytelling in order to further the kingdom of God? (32:41)   Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Dan B. Allender Books on Amazon Nadeau Furniture Store Ligonier Ministries “Journey to Freedom: The Life of Moses” Study by The Daily Grace Co. Faith Questions: Suffering by The Daily Grace Co. Advent: The Song of Our Souls (Bonus Episode) by Daily Grace Blogs by Kyra Daniels via The Daily Grace Blog   Scripture mentioned in this episode: 2 Corinthians 5:17   Connect with us: Subscribe to Daily Grace: on iOS, go to our iTunes page and click subscribe.  On Android, click this podcast RSS feed link and choose your podcast app.  If needed, you can copy this link directly into your favorite podcast app (like Stitcher or Overcast). Or follow us on Spotify! We would love it if you took a few minutes to leave us an iTunes review to help spread the word about Daily Grace!  We want to invite more women into our conversations! Download The Daily Grace app: for iOS, click here to download.  On Android, click here to download. Visit The Daily Grace Co. for beautiful products for the whole family that will equip you on your journey to knowing and loving God more.  Subscribe to The Daily Grace Newsletter and receive free Bible study resources in your inbox.  Like The Daily Grace Co. on Facebook. Follow @dailygracepodcast on Instagram for exclusive podcast content and @thedailygraceco for all things The Daily Grace Co. Engage with our Facebook community, “The Daily Grace Co. Community”.  Read The Daily Grace blog for encouragement throughout the week that is steeped in biblical truths. * Affiliate links used are used where appropriate. Thank you for supporting the products that support the production of this podcast! *

Episode 58:Maria Fernandez is a Mental Health Counselor who has used her story to connect and help others in their journey of healing. On this episode, Maria Fernandez talks about what is trauma, the different stages of trauma, dissociation, PTSD. She talks about symptoms of trauma and how to work towards healing. She encourages people to take inventory on their behaviors, educate yourself and to understand your history and childhood in order to heal.Connect with Maria: Email:  mfernandez916@gmail.comResources: https://med.stanford.edu/psybiobehavior/posters-publications.htmlhttps://wfmh.globalBooks to read: Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman, M.D. Healing the Wounded Heart Workbook by Dan B. Allender with Traci Mullins Coping With Trauma- Related Dissociation by Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele  & Onno Van Der HartRestoring the Shattered Self by Heather Davediuk Gingrich Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Don't forget to subscribe to my podcast and follow me on Instagram & Facebook https://www.instagram.com/elizabethsabby/ . For questions, comments or collaborations please email: beautymarkspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode we talk about getting better through the summer and offer some resources and thoughts on using some time with school out to improve yourself and your program. BTB is proud to have HomeTown Ticketing (@hometowntix) as a sponsor of the  podcast. Check out their website at www.hometownticketing.com. Follow them on their social media sites: Twitter: @hometowntix... Facebook: @hometownticketing...Instagram: hometownticketing BTB is also happy to have Gipper (@gogipper) as a sponsor of our podcast. Visit them on Twitter or at www.gogipper.com for a great custom graphics solution. BTB also thanks Varsity Bound (@varsityboundhq) for their support of Beyond the Bench, as well as, AD's and Athletic Departments across the state of Iowa. Resources:  Podcasts:   Craig Groeschel Leadership Podcast  Focus 3 Podcast - Tim Kight/Urban Meyer Championship Mindset - Dr. Amber Selking  Educational AD Podcast with Jake von Sherrer Globetrottin' AD's The Off Duty AD's Books:  SWIM by Walter Bond  The Bus Trip by Jamy Bechler  In a Pit With a Lion on a Snowy Day by Mark Betterson  The Future Leader by Jacob Morgan  Leading With A Limp by Dan B. Allender  Leadership Pain by Samual R. Chand I Love It Here by Clint Pulver  Good to Great by Jim Collins  Teammates by Alan Williams  The Power of Moments by Chip Heath & Dan Heath  Online Courses  NFHS Learn  3D Coaching  NIAAA LTI Courses  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/todd-gordon4/message

To give our church more context around the book of Ecclesiastes and why it is so important for today, Rob interviewed Dr. Tremper Longman III to get his take. Dr. Longman is one of the world's leading experts on the wisdom literature in the Old Testament, which includes Ecclesiastes. He got his doctorate in Near Eastern studies at Yale University before becoming a professor. He was a professor at Westmont College from 1998 until he retired in 2017. He continues to serve the college as a distinguished scholar of biblical studies. He is one of the main translators of the New Living Translation and has even consulted on other translations of the Bible including  the Message, the New Century Version, and the Holman Standard Bible. He has written or co-authored more than 20 books, two of which we are using as resources during our Ecclesiastes It's Time series. His book Breaking the Idols of Your Heart: How to Navigate the Temptations of Life which he wrote with Dr. Dan B. Allender has been particularly insightful and we recommend it as a resource for personal study as well. 

Sandra McCracken's prolific contributions as a songwriter, modern-day hymn writer, and record producer have brought grace and clarity to her soulful, folk-gospel sound. Whether in a theater or in a chapel, she is a dynamic performer who blurs the lines of what church music sounds like, captivating and inviting audiences to sing along. While many of her songs like “We Will Feast In the House Of Zion” and “Thy Mercy My God” have settled into regular rotation in Christian worship services internationally, she has also had songs recorded by All Sons And Daughters, ABC's Grey's Anatomy, Audrey Assad, A Rocha Compilation, Bifrost Arts, Caedmon's Call and others. She is further a founding member of Indelible Grace Music and Rain for Roots (children's music) and has been a guest writer for Art House America, She Reads Truth, The Gospel Coalition, Christianity Today, RELEVANT Magazine, and more. In the first episode of season 3, Sandra and our host Adam Russell talk about how songwriting is influenced by the world around us, discovering who we are when our normal affirmations are stripped away and the opportunity that change brings to learn to love each other.  Sandra also shares her love of the Psalms and the profound impact they've had on her songwriting, and how songs can be a purveyor of hospitality.   Show notes: Sandra's Website https://www.sandramccracken.com Sandra McCracken - Lay My Worry Down https://bit.ly/2X7jeIc To Be Told - God Invites You to Coauthor Your Future by Dan B. Allender https://amzn.to/2X6lBL7 Yo-Yo Ma - “Music Happens Between the Notes” (On Being with Krista Tippet) https://bit.ly/3rN2eEZ Sandra McCracken- Traincar https://bit.ly/3pICyrk Sandra McCracken - Patient Kingdom https://sandramccracken.lnk.to/PatientKingdom https://sandramccracken.lnk.to/PatientKingdom

On this week's episode of "Caring Well", Dr. Middleton interviews Neal Salzman.  Neal is a licensed mental health counselor who resides in Atlanta, GA and previously practiced in Orlando.  He’s worked with many patients at Middleton Pediatrics.  Various aspects of adolescent mental health are discussed. Most of this conversation focuses on teenagers, but the principles discussed are just as true for parents of younger children. Mentioned in this episode: How Children Raise Parents by Dan B. Allender   Connect with Middleton Pediatrics: Website ~ Facebook ~YouTube ~ Twitter

Virtually every church plant and pastor needs — or wants — more leaders. But what should pastors be looking for in the potential leaders who sit among them every week? In this episode, hosts Dhati Lewis, Noah Oldham and Heiden Ratner discuss their top three leadership qualities they look for as they seek to intentionally identify and train leaders. To learn more about how you can practically train leaders in your church, check out our Multiplication Pipeline and residency resources. Mentions: Leadership resource recommendations: Noah Oldham- Leaders that Last by Dave Kraft Dhati Lewis- Leading with a Limp by Dan B. Allender Heiden Ratner- Vance Pitman Leadership Podcast; Replenish by Lance Witt

Fear invites us to experience life differently than love does. What we experience, we will share. You're in the right place if you want to experience and share love--not fear. You're in the right place if you're hungry to discover your true PURPOSE in life and, perhaps, let go of an invalid identity that's wearing you out and keeping you afraid. In this episode, I share a vulnerable story from my childhood about an experience that offered me an invalid identity. And I admit that my real destiny just sat waiting for me while I pretended my purpose was something God never said it was. Doug and I share our own answers to 3 powerful questions that can help you discover your purpose, too, in a world without fear, and we offer these TAKEAWAYS: "Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything.  Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that isn't you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place." (unknown) "Fear makes us see things that aren't there, imagine things that'll never happen, connect dots and draw conclusions that are absolutely incorrect.  Love opens up our hearts to trust our loving Father.  Love inspires us to believe the best, not fear the worst.  Spend some time pondering the love God has for you."  (Susie Larson) Spend some time journaling about these 3 questions:  (1) Who am I when no one needs me? (2) What is my most passionate YES? (3) What is my most powerful NO? We mention these resources in this episode: Bob Hamp and Think Differently Academy  https://www.facebook.com/ThinkDifferentlyAcademy/ The Road Back To You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile https://smile.amazon.com/Road-Back-You-Enneagram-Self-Discovery/dp/0830846190 To Be Told--God Invites You To Coauthor Your Future by Dan B. Allender https://smile.amazon.com/Be-Told-Invites-Coauthor-Future/dp/1578569516/ The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck https://smile.amazon.com/Road-Less-Traveled-Timeless-Traditional/dp/0743243153/ Grace Life Fellowship https://www.facebook.com/GraceLifeFellowship/ Also, check out my new website https://janetnewberry.com/ We're excited about the update!

If you are anything like us, you’ve been a victim of comparison. As women, we have a tendency to size ourselves up, measure someone else by your own standards only to conclude after observation and the collection of just a few facts that we’re inferior or superior to them.   Whether we feel better or worse about ourselves after the comparison, it rarely leads to humility, which pleases God. Comparison robs us of joy and wastes precious energy focusing on ourselves rather than the people who have been put in our lives to serve. We are tackling the ugly game of comparison and sharing some of the ways we have overcome it. Mentioned in the Show: Books: To Be Told: God Invites You to Coauthor Your Future by Dan B. Allender   Podcast: Slices of Life - Episode 20 On Giving Thanks

REFLECTION QUOTES “During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.” ~George Orwell (1903-1950), English novelist and journalist “The work of restoration cannot begin until a problem is fully faced.” ~Dan B. Allender, therapist and author “…there was something else at work, beyond any design of the Ring-maker. I can put it no plainer than by saying that Bilbo was meant to find the Ring…. In which case you also were meant to have it. And that may be an encouraging thought.” ~Gandalf to Frodo in The Lord of the Rings “We are all fragile when we don't know what our purpose is…when we feel like a swimmer in an ocean with no edge…. If you really want people to be tough…make them committed to some worldview that puts today's temporary pain in the context of a larger hope…. Emotional fragility seems like a psychological problem, but it has only a philosophical answer. People are really tough only after they have taken a leap of faith for some truth…. We live in an age when it's considered sophisticated to be disenchanted. But people who are enchanted are the real tough cookies.” ~David Brooks in “The New York Times,” August 30, 2016 “I could never myself believe in God, if it were not for the cross. The only God I believe in is the One Nietzsche ridiculed as ‘God on the cross.' In the real world of pain, how could one worship a God who was immune to it? I have entered many Buddhist temples in different Asian countries and stood respectfully before the statue of the Buddha, his legs crossed, arms folded, eyes closed, the ghost of a smile playing round his mouth, a remote look on his face, detached from the agonies of the world. But each time after a while I have had to turn away. And in imagination I have turned instead to that lonely, twisted, tortured figure on the cross, nails through hands and feet, back lacerated, limbs wrenched, brow bleeding from thorn-pricks, mouth dry and intolerably thirsty, plunged in Godforsaken darkness. That is the God for me! He laid aside his immunity to pain.” ~John Stott (1921-2011), English clergyman and worldwide Christian leader “The other gods were strong; but thou wast weak; They rode, but thou didst stumble to a throne; But to our wounds only God's wounds can speak, And not a god has wounds, but thou alone.” ~“Jesus of the Scars” by Edward Shillito (1872-1948), published in the wake of WWI SERMON PASSAGE Mark 4:35-41 (ESV) 35 On that day, when evening had come, he said to them, “Let us go across to the other side.” 36 And leaving the crowd, they took him with them in the boat, just as he was. And other boats were with him. 37 And a great windstorm arose, and the waves were breaking into the boat, so that the boat was already filling. 38 But he was in the stern, asleep on the cushion. And they woke him and said to him, “Teacher, do you not care that we are perishing?” 39 And he awoke and rebuked the wind and said to the sea, “Peace! Be still!” And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm. 40 He said to them, “Why are you so afraid? Have you still no faith?” 41 And they were filled with great fear and said to one another, “Who then is this, that even the wind and the sea obey him?”

It is extremely difficult to watch a family member or friend struggle with an alcohol or drug addiction.  You feel so helpless.  You are uncertain as to where to turn or what to say.  Pastors, too, struggle with counseling the addict.  Hopefully this month's guest will give us some insights into the life and struggles of an addict. Our guest for this episode is John Burghauser. John is a Pastoral Care Worker with Stauros Ministries. He ministers daily to men and women who struggle with addiction. Like those he helps, John once was an addict.  But Christ delivered him from this dependency.  Now he is living our 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 which says: Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. And John does just that. He ministers to addicts from a place of understanding. John and been married to his wife Peggy for 26 years.  They live just north of Baltimore in Nottingham Md.  He has served 14 years with Stauros Ministries. John Touched On John shared his journey and struggles. He also shared the work he does with Stauros Ministries. Resources Soul Talk: The Language God Longs for Us to Speak by Larry Crabb Encouragement: The Unexpected Power of Building Others Up by Larry Crabb and Dan B. Allender PLLC Spirit-Controlled Temperament by Tim LaHaye Contact Info Email John at John@Stauros.com What We Learned I think John taught us many things today.  Let me focus on just three: The first thing that struck me was the fact that we are no longer who we used to be now that we are in Christ.  You may have been an addict when Christ saved you, but now you are an addict no longer.  You are a new person in Christ. You are a child of God. Of course we are sinners saved by grace. But I think we need to modify our view of self.  I am more than a saved sinner, I am a new creature.  Pastors, you need to share that with those you counsel and those you disciple. The second thing that John taught me was the importance of the local church in the life of an addict.  The church can provide love and grace over and above that of any addiction ministry.  However, the church must remember that it is for the long-haul.  Walking with an addict can be sloppy, it will have its setbacks, and it will take time. Finally pastors, don't blow off local resources that can help the addict.  Get informed and find out what city, county, or state services can be of service.  Some will be beneficial, others will not be.  You need to know which ones can truly help the addict. Your Point of View We would love for you to share your insights.  Many of you have counseled and worked with addicts.  What has worked or not worked with you?  Please share in the comment section below. Subscribe and Review Thanks for listening to Real Pastors.  If you are not a subscriber then please become one. That way you will never miss an episode.  You can subscribe at iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, and most any third party podcast app.  Episodes are released once per month on the third Monday of the month. Also, please leave a review of Real Pastors wherever you listen. Your reviews help the podcast reach more people. Finally, become a member of the Real Pastors Team.  You can do so by clicking HERE.  You will receive an email when we release a new episode.  The show notes will be emailed to you. And on occasion, we will send you Member Only Resources.  We will never share your email address and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Stacy Brookman is a wordsmith. She’s loved words all her life and excels at crafting words into clever phrases and fascinating stories.  Not only is Stacy amazing at her ability to create compelling stories, but she is terrific at teaching this skill to others. Stacy’s language abilities are enhanced by the fact that she understands the concept of using effective mindfulness tools to achieve focus and direction. Stacy has a wonderful podcast called “Write of Your Life” with the tagline Life Happens … Life Storytelling Transforms It!Contact InfoWebsite: www.writeofyourlife.com Email: stacy@writeofyourlife.com Podcast: Write Of Your Life Most Influential PersonAnaïs Salibian, my memoir writing teacher and also practitioner of the Rosen Method of Trauma RecoveryEffect on EmotionsHelped me be much more aware of my emotions rather than ignoring them and stuffing them down. It gets them out in the open where I can address them.Thoughts on BreathingI breathe when the app tells me to breathe. It is very calming. (The HeadSpace App)Suggested ResourcesBook: To Be Told: Know Your Story, Shape Your Future by Dan B. Allender App: Headspace (Worth it to get the Pro version)Advice for Newbie You can do what I do. Lay down in the middle of the day even if you feel like you don't have a moment to spare. Turn on the mindfulness app, listen to ocean sounds or rain drop sounds and just quiet your mind. Think about what you're feeling and the sensations in your body.

Dr. Dan B. Allender received his M Div from Westminster Theological Seminary and his PhD in Counseling Psychology from Michigan State University. He taught in the Biblical Counseling department of Grace Theological Seminary for seven years (1983-1989). From 1989-1997 he worked as a professor in the Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling program at Colorado Christian University, Denver, CO. Currently, Dan serves as President and Professor of Counseling at Mars Hill Graduate School in Seattle, WA. A therapist in private practice he is a frequent speaker and conference leader. He and his wife Rebecca are parents to three adult children

Dr. Dan B. Allender received his M Div from Westminster Theological Seminary and his PhD in Counseling Psychology from Michigan State University. He taught in the Biblical Counseling department of Grace Theological Seminary for seven years (1983-1989). From 1989-1997 he worked as a professor in the Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling program at Colorado Christian University, Denver, CO. Currently, Dan serves as President and Professor of Counseling at Mars Hill Graduate School in Seattle, WA. A therapist in private practice he is a frequent speaker and conference leader.

Dr. Dan B. Allender received his M Div from Westminster Theological Seminary and his PhD in Counseling Psychology from Michigan State University. He taught in the Biblical Counseling department of Grace Theological Seminary for seven years (1983-1989). From 1989-1997 he worked as a professor in the Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling program at Colorado Christian University, Denver, CO. Currently, Dan serves as President and Professor of Counseling at Mars Hill Graduate School in Seattle, WA. A therapist in private practice he is a frequent speaker and conference leader. He and his wife Rebecca are parents to three adult children.

Description: Dan B. Allender talks about mental health, and how madness is around us always. Yet this madness is a way to see Christ. Biography: Dr. Dan B. Allender received his M Div from Westminster Theological Seminary and his PhD in Counseling Psychology from Michigan State University. He taught in the Biblical Counseling department of Grace Theological Seminary for seven years (1983-1989). From 1989-1997 he worked as a professor in the Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling program at Colorado Christian University, Denver, CO. Currently, Dan serves as President and Professor of Counseling at Mars Hill Graduate School in Seattle, WA. A therapist in private practice he is a frequent speaker and conference leader. He and his wife Rebecca are parents to three adult children.

Part 3 in our series Sex And The City. Message by Pastor Dwayne Petty and Pastor Paul McGovern. Due to technical difficulties, this message is not available in our podcast feed. Please go directly to our website to download: crossroadsfremont.org, and click on the "Messages," link. Download Outline SEXUAL HEALING RESOURCES COUNSELING RESOURCES: Call Focus on the Family’s Counseling Dept. – 719-531-3400 x7700. There are a limited number of Christian counselors who have been screened by them to see if they counsel by biblical principles. There are a few other biblical Christian counselors around who have not been through the network, but would be good. Do not assume someone is a biblical counselor just because they put “Christian” beside their name. We would suggest you do a brief interview before you begin with a counselor. Some questions you might ask are: Do you counsel according to biblical principals? What does that mean to you? How would you counsel someone in certain situations – such as “I’m just not happy in my marriage and I want out?” Or “I’m struggling with homosexual tendencies and I feel that is wrong. What should I do?” Or “I have been living in sexual sin, and my life is a mess. Can you help me?” Ask the counselor if they would be willing to tell you when they believe you are getting out of line with what the Bible says. Counseling can be expensive, but if it helps bring healing, it’s worth it! Many counselors will work with you on a sliding scale based on your ability to pay. If you need help to pay for counseling, talk to one of us on staff who you feel comfortable with, and the church may be able to help you cover the costs for a few sessions. INTERNET RESOURCES: www.family.org www.newlife.com www.avenueresource.com www.xxxchurch.com www.pureintimacy.org www.sexaddict.com www.purelifeministries.org INTERNET ACCOUNTABILITY: Covenant Eyes (www.covenanteyes.com) Software for your PC that logs your web surfing, stores the data on our servers, and generates reports that are sent to the accountability partners you choose. Bsafe Online (www.bsafehome.com) Filtering protection for the consumer and small business markets. RECOMMENDED BOOKS: The Wounded Heart – Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dr. Dan B. Allender Tender Love – God’s Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Bill Hybels Everyman’s Battle – Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Battle at a Time by Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker Passion & Purity by Elizabeth Elliot Restoring Sexual Sanity by Randy Alcorn Real Sex by Lauren Winner The Final Freedom by Dr. Doug Weiss She Has A Secret: Understanding Female Sexual Addiction by Dr. Doug Weiss At The Altar of Sexual Idolatry by Steve Gallagher When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart by Kathy Gallagher False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction by Harry Schaumburg Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw Find a Support Group at www.celebraterecovery.com OR www.christiananswers.net/love/supportgroups.html