Podcast appearances and mentions of Gary Thomas

Some challenges in your marriage will surprise you! Gary Thomas describes how adding a child to your family, financial woes, or simply being too busy can turn into big trouble with your spouse! Discover how your marriage can withstand these storms. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/776/29?v=20251111

Based on his book Making Your Marriage a Fortress, Gary Thomas helps couples anticipate and weather the inevitable storms of life. He says that they can grow closer to each other and God through these experiences. He provides encouragement and hope for couples who are currently struggling, as well as offering a preparatory warning to couples who haven’t yet faced a crisis and need to know that such crises are inevitable. Receive a copy of the Helping Kids Through Life’s Changes bundle and an audio download of "Making Your Marriage a Fortress" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive. Get more episode resources Do you have a story or comment on how Focus on the Family impacted you or your family? Leave a message for Jim Daly! If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Some challenges in your marriage will surprise you! Gary Thomas describes how adding a child to your family, financial woes, or simply being too busy can turn into big trouble with your spouse! To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/776/29?v=20251111

Based on his book Making Your Marriage a Fortress, Gary Thomas helps couples anticipate and weather the inevitable storms of life. He says that they can grow closer to each other and God through these experiences. He provides encouragement and hope for couples who are currently struggling, as well as offering a preparatory warning to couples who haven’t yet faced a crisis and need to know that such crises are inevitable.Receive a copy of the Helping Kids Through Life’s Changes bundle and an audio download of "Making Your Marriage a Fortress" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive.Get more episode resources Do you have a story or comment on how Focus on the Family impacted you or your family? Leave a message for Jim Daly! If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Storms are inevitable in marriage. Are you prepared? Gary Thomas reviews common difficulties couples can face — everything from chronic illness to infidelity — and describes how clinging to your faith and to your spouse can help you survive and thrive. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/776/29?v=20251111

Grant Clark continues the Proverbs series "How to Build a Life" by turning to what the book teaches about marriage. Rather than the usual texts in Genesis 2 or Ephesians 5, he draws five recurring themes out of Proverbs itself and presents them as five gauges on a dashboard, inviting listeners to check which one needs attention, whether they are married now or may be one day.He opens with recent headlines from an advice column, each one a person in a hard situation asking an expert what wisdom looks like for them:"My Wife Won't Forgive me for Cheating""I Can't Talk to My Wife About Money""My Husband Hates our Life""Do I Like Being Single Too Much to Fall In Love""Do I Work on my Marriage, or Cut my Losses?"The central text is Proverbs 31:10-31, the passage on the wife of noble character. Grant notes it is an alphabetical acrostic running the twenty two letters of the Hebrew alphabet, a literary device signaling completeness, and warns against the two common misreadings: turning it into a wife hunting checklist for men, or an impossible standard for women. It is an idealized portrait, not a job description."This passage is a rich way to end the book on a high note. While it depicts wisdom exemplified in the life of a woman, it is not a lesson only for women, but for men as well. Both men and women need to be like the 'Proverbs 31 woman'!" - Lindsay WilsonThe portrait functions as the embodiment of Lady Wisdom from Proverbs 1 to 9, set in contrast to the adulterous woman whose way leads to ruin."The 'good wife' points us to what Proverbs regards as 'the good life'." - Lindsay Wilson## 1) Become a Person of CharacterProverbs 31:10 and Proverbs 31:30 put character ahead of charm and beauty. Grant tells of asking his brother in law for advice before pursuing his wife, and being pointed to the question that mattered most: does she fear the Lord?"The Fear of the Lord is a reverential awe, that produces humble submission, to a loving God." - Skip HeitzigHe contrasts this with current cultural priorities, citing a 2025 University of Amsterdam study of dating app behavior which found physical attractiveness overwhelmingly determined who got matched, weighted roughly ten times more heavily than intelligence, personality, priorities, job, or height.## 2) Trust Your SpouseProverbs 31:10-11 can be read as the husband entrusting his heart to his wife, a vulnerability with real risk, since a spouse knows us best and has seen us at our worst. Grant passes on a practice from pastor John Tyson: take a fifteen minute window a day to share with your spouse what is happening in your inner world and to listen to what is happening in theirs.He then walks through research from the Gottman Institute on the roughly six hours a week that sustain a healthy marriage:A 2-minute meaningful goodbye in the morning.A 20-minute reunion at night processing the day and being present to one another.A hug and a six-second kiss every day.5 minutes of appreciation and affirmation every day.A 2-hour date a week.A 1-hour state of the union a week, zooming out and looking at the big picture of your life and relationships.## 3) Be LoversProverbs 5:15-20 speaks openly about sex within marriage, with no shame or awkwardness, using the imagery of the cistern, the well, and the fountain. Grant observes that in many ancient cultures marriage was primarily a familial and economic arrangement, which is part of why male unfaithfulness was often socially tolerated. Proverbs instead presents both the ecstasy and the exclusivity of sex in marriage, husband and wife belonging to one another. He is candid that for many this is a vision being built toward rather than a starting point, and offers the church's help for those for whom this gauge is a point of pain.## 4) Spouses are Close FriendsProverbs 2:16-17 uses a Hebrew word for companion that describes the closest of friends, a marked contrast to a setting where wives were often viewed as property and child bearers rather than companions. Grant then turns to how couples erode that friendship through their words, in Proverbs 25:24 and Proverbs 27:15."To nag is not to do thoughtful criticism, but to do 'drive-bys,' making brief caustic or cynical remarks that complain and question motives and character. Two telltale signs of a nagging statement is that it begins, 'You always . . .' or 'You never . . .'" - Timothy KellerThe alternative is not silence about real problems but pouring out the concern at the right time and place, working it through to completion rather than dropping barbs along the way.## 5) Marriage is Kept together by a CovenantGrant draws the contrast between a covenant and a contract, and between vows and speeches. A speech describes how the other person makes you feel. A vow is a promise: for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others. He calls forsaking all others the most radical part, a commitment made in faith without knowing what the future holds. He illustrates the alternative by reading a contractual, watered down version of the vows and letting it land."It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love." - Dietrich Bonhoeffer, written from prison in 1943He notes that Scripture nowhere makes happiness the purpose of marriage, referencing Gary Thomas in Sacred Marriage on marriage being ordered toward holiness more than happiness, with hard seasons serving to form us into the likeness of Christ.Ephesians 5:25: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her..."Marriage is a billboard displaying the love of God, to a spouse and to the watching world. Grant closes by pointing underneath all five gauges to the covenant of grace Jesus has already made, loving us at our worst, forgiving us at enormous cost, and promising never to leave. It is hard to give what you have not received, so as the love, forgiveness, sacrifice, and unconditional commitment of Jesus go deeper, we are empowered to extend the same to a spouse. A marriage is not built in a moment but through thousands of ordinary daily decisions.Verses referenced:Proverbs 31:10-31Proverbs 31:10Proverbs 31:30Proverbs 31:10-11Proverbs 5:15-20Proverbs 2:16-17Proverbs 25:24Proverbs 27:15Ephesians 5:25

Why chasing feelings in relationships often leads to heartbreak. This book summary reveals a counterintuitive philosophy for lasting marriage advice.

Is it possible to idolize our own families at the expense of our faith? What is the real root cause behind the constant restlessness and anxiety modern Christians feel? How should a generation dealing with severe "church hurt" respond to the flaws of the modern church? Author, pastor, and theologian Gary Thomas joins Ben to answer these questions and more as they unpack his book, The Life You Were Reborn to Live.Check out Gary's Substack here----------------------Ben has completely revised and updated his powerful book, Jesus in the Secular World: Reaching a Culture in Crisis—a must-read guide for anyone longing to reach those who may never step foot in a church. Packed with real-world insights and practical strategies, this book could be the breakthrough you've been searching for.Don't wait—get your copy today!Click HERE to check it out on Amazon.For more information, go to: jesusinthesecularworld.com------------------------Questions, comments, or feedback? We'd love to hear what you think! Send them to provokeandinspire@steiger.org, or send us a message on Instagram.Click HERE to receive news, thought-provoking articles, and stories directly in your inbox from Ben, David, Luke, and Chad!Click below to follow the regulars on Instagram!Ben PierceDavid PierceChad JohnsonLuke GreenwoodSend us Fan MailNewest Midroll

Many believers know they're saved but still struggle to experience the peace, joy, and freedom Jesus promised.In this episode, Steve Adams sits down with bestselling author Gary Thomas to discuss The Life You Were Reborn to Live. Together they unpack the subtle spiritual lies that keep Christians trapped in fear, striving, isolation, entitlement, and performance-driven faith.If you've ever sensed there must be more to following Jesus than simply "getting to heaven," this conversation offers a compelling invitation to rediscover the life you were truly reborn to live.Get Gary's new book: https://a.co/d/03OmXHwgLearn more about Gary Thomas: https://garythomas.comConnect with Embracing Brokenness Ministries: https://embracingbrokenness.orgCHAPTERS00:00 Why the Church Still Gives Gary Thomas Hope (Cold Open)01:12 Introduction & Meet Gary Thomas02:20 Why Gary Wrote The Life You Were Reborn to Live08:45 The Spiritual Lies That Keep Christians Stuck13:05 Consumer Christianity vs. Following Jesus19:10 The Church Isn't Here to Serve You27:35 Why Isolation Is So Spiritually Dangerous33:45 Entitlement vs. Astonishment40:15 The Life You Were Reborn to Live45:05 Final Encouragement & Where to Find Gary Thomas

In week one of the Everything's Fine series, Pastor Gary Thomas challenges the lies we tell ourselves about the habits, struggles, and dependencies that quietly shape our lives. Looking through the lens of Scripture and the first step toward freedom, he reminds us that lasting change doesn't begin with trying harder—it begins with admitting our need for Jesus. This message invites everyone to honestly examine the areas where they may be settling for less than God's best while discovering the hope of His transforming grace. Rather than living in denial, we can experience the freedom Christ offers when we surrender control to Him. No matter where you are in your journey, this message is an encouraging reminder that God specializes in bringing new life where we once saw only brokenness.

Men and women tend to respond to stress and situations very differently. Jim Daly and Gary Thomas address the differences in brain chemistry between husbands and wives. Then, John and the Smalley's discuss what a husband can do if a wife keeps bringing up the same problem in conversations. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Loving Him Well Focus on Marriage Assessment How to Positively Influence Your Husband Download the Godcaster App Counseling Consultation and Referrals Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Men and women tend to respond to stress and situations very differently. Jim Daly and Gary Thomas address the differences in brain chemistry between husbands and wives. Then, John and the Smalley's discuss what a husband can do if a wife keeps bringing up the same problem in conversations. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Loving Him Well Focus on Marriage Assessment How to Positively Influence Your Husband Download the Godcaster App Counseling Consultation and Referrals Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

Juli sits down with bestselling author Gary Thomas for a conversation about some of the subtle lies Christians often believe without even realizing it. They're tackling tough questions , like: Can family become an idol? Why do we still struggle with sin after coming to Christ? And what happens when loneliness and isolation become our normal? While this conversation isn't specifically about sexuality, how we answer these questions shapes the way we approach our relationships. Join us to explore how God's truth can lead us into greater freedom, stronger relationships, and deeper intimacy with him. Guest: Gary Thomas Become a monthly donor to Authentic Intimacy and get a FREE copy of the new 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy.   Follow Up Resources: The Life You Were Reborn to Live: Dismantling 12 Lies That Rob Your Intimacy with God by Gary Thomas Ep. #589 Feeling Distant? How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage with Gary Thomas When Your Adult Child Makes Sexual Choices You Disagree With by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Gary at @garythomasbooks Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Betrayal inside the church hits differently. It shakes your faith, your friendships, and sometimes your sense of self. In this episode, Elisa, Eryn, and Vivian get honest about their own experiences with community hurt—the kind that's hard to talk about and even harder to heal from. Together, they turn to Jesus, who knew betrayal intimately, to ask: What does it actually look like to move forward? This is the conversation you didn't know you needed.  Notes and Quotes:  “Jesus had relationships knowing He was going to get hurt.” —Eryn Eddy Adkins  “Do I love God because of what He gives me and these outcomes that I expect in my life? Do I love Him conditionally like a vending machine—I say the prayer, and out comes the blessing and it's transactional? Or do I love Him unconditionally? Do I love Him, come what may?” —Vivian Mabuni  "Do I love in that kind of way with others—is the type of love I display to others conditional or is it an unconditional love because of how God has loved me?” —Vivian Mabuni  “God's love extends to all.” —Elisa Morgan  Verses:  Luke 22:20-54  John 21:15-19  Related Episodes:  GHH Ep 15 – Navigating Difficult Relationships with Patricia Raybon: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/navigating-difficult-relationships/ GHH Ep 17 – Finding Freedom from Toxic People with Gary Thomas: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/finding-freedom-from-toxic-people/ GHH Ep 76 – Abuse in the Church with Dr. Amanda Benckhuysen: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/abuse-in-the-church/ Links:  God Hears Her website: https://go.odb.org/sfmc-ghh  Subscribe to the God Hears Her YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@GodHearsHerODBM

An attitude of service can really benefit a relationship. Author and pastor Gary Thomas explains how any relationship can be improved using four simple secrets, like putting the other person's needs above your own.

From Tolerating to Delighting: Marriage Transformation Is Possible (feat. Gary Thomas & Belah Rose) Imagine this: Your husband is working nights and you are cleaning houses during the day.    When you find out you are pregnant, you pursue a dream of writing a book.   Every morning you walk to the coffee shop just down the street to write.    One of your favorite things to do is listen to books about marriage. One of your favorite books on the topic is written by Gary Thomas. In his book, Sacred Marriage, he asks, "What if marriage is meant to make us holy instead of happy?"   Now, fast forward just a few years.    You are having a conversation with that author, and he tells you he is a fan of your work.    Fast forward a couple more years, and you get to be mentored by this same author.    Eventually, it becomes evident that he and I can help more couples by joining forces and creating a collaboration where he shares his wisdom through books and speaking, and you are able to provide coaching and accountability for people after they read the books or attend the conferences.   That is the story I am sharing with you today as I announce a collaboration with Gary Thomas, bestselling author and speaker.   In this episode, we share how God truly has a plan for your marriage. He is the one who changes lives, and we have been able to see that in both of our work.   I want to encourage you that God can take your loaves and fishes and do something amazing. He can take your willingness. He can take your bit of faith, and He can make a marvelous tapestry for His glory.   Just yesterday, we had two amazing graduations. Both individuals were changed themselves. And their spouse changed in response, though their spouses did not do the work.    That can be your story, too. We would love to witness God perform that miracle through biblical principles made practical on the inside.   Listen to today's podcast to understand Gary's heart and mine regarding the work we do, and now do together.   Thank you, Gary, for the honor!   And thank you, listener, for your love, support, and prayers. I am honored to be able to serve in this way and am trusting God for more healed hearts.   God bless you,   Belah PS - Marriage Transformation is real. Schedule a free Clarity Call and start your journey to a playful, peaceful, purposeful marriage. PPS - Here is a quote from a recent Coaching program graduate:  My wife and I struggled to get along...We were so intimately disconnected that it led to months of no sexual intimacy...it was so painful. We constantly fought about any and everything...I had gone into various counseling programs, spiritual formations, soul care, discipleship...But nothing was really changing our relationship... [Now,] God is answering my prayers and faith is becoming a reality. She is opening up, sharing her thoughts and feeling safe and connected...She is trusting me again...[We] have been having sex again...I am in such a better place and praise God for leading me to Belah and DYM.   Here is an AI-generated summary of today's episode: A New Christ-Centered Partnership for Marriage Transformation Gary Thomas and Belah Rose announce a meaningful new collaboration between Gary's marriage ministry work and Belah's ministry, Delight Your Marriage. Their shared desire is to help marriages be healed, strengthened, and transformed for the glory of God. Belah Rose's Story: From Brokenness to Marriage Ministry Belah shares how her own painful first marriage, divorce, and season away from Jesus shaped her calling. After experiencing healing through Christ and through the love of her husband, Darrow, she became passionate about helping others avoid the pain she had walked through. Her heart for Delight Your Marriage was born from the realization that marriage can either deeply wound or deeply heal—and that intimacy is often a powerful catalyst in that process. Why One Spouse Can Still Make a Difference A major theme of the conversation is that transformation can begin with just one spouse doing the work. Gary and Belah emphasize that this is not about blame or manipulation. Instead, it is about reclaiming God-given influence, loving your spouse as an act of obedience to Christ, and allowing God to change the atmosphere of the marriage. Understanding How Men and Women Receive Love Differently Belah explains the Delight Your Marriage framework for helping spouses love each other well. For wives, the focus is often helping them feel: Safe Known Wholeheartedly cherished For husbands, the focus is often helping them feel: Respected Admired Wholeheartedly intimate Gary affirms that while every person is unique, there are real patterns in how men and women often experience love, safety, respect, and intimacy. Rebuilding Intimacy Without Pressure or Manipulation Gary and Belah address the pain of sexless, disconnected, or emotionally distant marriages. They explain that true intimacy is not about obligation or pressure, but mutual joy, desire, safety, and love. Belah shares that many spouses come into the program wanting change in intimacy, but through the process, their motivation becomes deeper: loving their spouse well because they love God. Real Stories of Marriages Being Restored Belah shares several powerful examples of transformation, including: A couple who had gone 10 years without intimacy and experienced renewed connection after three months of doing the work. A wife whose husband had been checked out through video games, but who became more engaged, responsible, and affectionate after she changed her approach. A husband whose wife had been emotionally cold and distant, but who later began coming toward him with affection, conversation, and intimacy. Hope for Marriages That Feel Dead and Buried Gary and Belah are honest that not every marriage has a guaranteed outcome, especially when divorce, abuse, abandonment, or unsafe dynamics are involved. But they also emphasize that God can resurrect marriages that seem completely hopeless. Through Christ, practical tools, humility, and accountability, many couples have experienced healing they never thought possible. What Happens on a Clarity Call Belah explains that the first step is a free Clarity Call. During the call, a trained advisor listens deeply to the person's story, prays for them, and helps identify what may be at the root of the marital struggle. From there, some people are invited to a Program Discovery Call to discern whether coaching is the right next step. Why Accountability Matters in Marriage Growth Gary explains that books, conferences, and resources can be helpful, but many people need someone to walk with them personally. Belah shares that Delight Your Marriage offers coaching, structure, small-group support, prayer, and accountability so participants are not trying to change alone. Help for Good Marriages That Want to Become Great The program is not only for marriages in crisis. Belah explains that even strong marriages can have hidden "leaks"—small areas where connection, intimacy, communication, or delight could become stronger. Sometimes a marriage that seems good can become far better than either spouse knew was possible. Support for Pastors, Missionaries, and Ministry Marriages Belah and Gary also discuss the importance of supporting pastors, missionaries, and ministry couples. Many leaders feel isolated in their marriage struggles, and Delight Your Marriage offers a private, Christ-centered place to receive help. Belah shares that scholarships are available for some full-time ministers. Special Invitation for Gary Thomas's Audience To celebrate the partnership, Belah shares a special offer for Gary Thomas's audience. Those who sign up and share that they were referred by Gary Thomas can receive $500 or more in savings if they sign up for a Clarity Call and coaching before May 15. Final Encouragement: There Is Real Hope for Your Marriage Gary and Belah close with a message of hope. A painful marriage does not have to stay the same. A distant marriage can become connected again. A marriage that feels dead can be revived by the power of Jesus. The invitation is simple: take the next step, begin with a Clarity Call, and discover what God may want to heal.

In week three of the Asking for a Friend series, Gary explores the deep desire we all have to live a life that matters and challenges how we often misunderstand purpose and calling. It shows how some people chase significance in the wrong ways, while others hold back because they don't believe they have anything meaningful to offer. Instead of either extreme, we're invited to shift our focus toward what truly matters: aligning our lives with God's priorities and trusting Him with the outcome. Through both encouragement and challenge, the message reminds us that purpose isn't found in big, visible moments, but in everyday faithfulness. In the end, it calls us to simply use what we've been given to love and serve others right where we are.

Join Sarah and I as we share some of our favorite books on the topics of faith, marriage, motherhood, health, and   Books Mentioned: A Shepherd Looks at Psalm 23 by W. Phillip Keller https://amzn.to/4dt3iYP  What Do I Know About My God? by Mardi Collier https://amzn.to/4cVJRrI  Glimpses of God Revealed Through His Names by Debi Pryde https://amzn.to/4bxksCi  How I Know God Answers Prayer by Rosalind Goforth https://amzn.to/4sYNhP7  Climbing by Rosalind Goforth https://amzn.to/47GLjdP  Praying the Bible by Donald Whitney https://amzn.to/479wQah  Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas https://amzn.to/4bBYqhK  Cherish by Gary Thomas https://amzn.to/4bRmrCE  His Needs Her Needs by Willard. F. Harley https://amzn.to/4rFjEkQ  Intended for Pleasure by Ed Wheat https://amzn.to/4uJQqnF  The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman https://amzn.to/4bjze0C  The Time-Saving Mom by Crystal Paine https://amzn.to/4uyeael  Parenting with Mercy by Michelle Brock https://amzn.to/4lC6cwB The Strong-Willed Child by Dr. James Dobson https://amzn.to/3NH8vSx  Hormone Repair Manual by Dr. Lara Briden https://amzn.to/4sjRyfS  The Fifth Vital Sign by Lisa Hendrickson-Jack https://amzn.to/4ducOLm  Be Your Own Doctor by Rachel Weaver https://amzn.to/4rDfIkw  Awaking Wonder by Sally Clarkson https://amzn.to/4rE1pMm  The Read-Aloud Family by Sarah Mackenzie https://amzn.to/4cVLTIm  A Charlotte Mason Companion by Karen Andreola https://amzn.to/3PgYlse  Mother Culture by Karen Andreola https://amzn.to/4bBZK4c  Educating the Whole Hearted Child by Clay and Sally Clarkson https://amzn.to/3PJGeLC  Carry On, Mr. Bowditch by Jean Lee Lathum https://amzn.to/4uDrNZI The Little Pilgrim's Progress by Helen Taylor https://amzn.to/40ABXwq  Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth Prentiss https://amzn.to/3NLSKtu  (Amazon affiliate links. Should you choose to purchase through these links, thank you! At no cost to you, it gives a little back to the ministry of NHC)   Resources Referenced: Psalm 23 Study on the NHC Podcast https://nohighercalling.org/podcast_series/psalm-23/  Watch the interview on YouTube https://youtu.be/us3oPYqFAwI    Follow my  journey by subscribing to this podcast. You can also follow me on Instagram, YouTube, and www.nohighercalling.org Subscribe to the NHC email at www.nohighercalling.org 

Pastor Chris Ansell of Restoration Community Church concludes the series called Sacred Pathways, using themes from a book with the same name by Gary Thomas. The final channel we are looking at is the Intellectual, loving God with the mind. We look at the strengths and pitfalls of this posture. Passages: Proverbs 4:7; 1 Kings 4:33-34; 1 Kings 11:6; Luke 2:46-47; Deuteronomy 6:4-5; Mark 12:30; Ecclesiastes 1:9; 1 Corinthians 8:1; 1 Corinthians 13:2

Today I'm joined by my friend and co-author of one of my books, Gary Thomas. He's opening up about many different times in his life when he's either felt misunderstood, slandered, or dealt with toxic interactions (some even from childhood) – and how he's learned to respond as a person who typically leans toward peace and repair. We talk about how to set proper boundaries in relationships with different people, depending on their level of safety and health. Dig deeper into dealing with difficult people and setting healthy boundaries, by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

In Week 4 of the Red Chair series, Pastor Gary Thomas explores what it means to follow Jesus when facing persecution. This message reminds us that challenges and pushback are not unexpected, but part of a faith that is real and lived out. We're invited to shift our perspective, seeing hardship not as something to avoid, but as an opportunity to grow deeper in trust and purpose. It also calls us to stand with courage, live with conviction, and respond with grace no matter the cost. Ultimately, it challenges each of us to consider what it looks like to remain faithful in every season.

If you want a better marriage, pay attention to your spouse! On the next “Focus on the Family,” Gary Thomas encourages you to communicate more, learn how to forgive, and avoid contempt in your relationship. It's a great formula for taking your marriage to the next level!

Are you willing to play “second violin” in your marriage? Gary Thomas describes how serving, affirming, and committing to your spouse above all others will give you a greater marriage than you could ever imagine! Learn what it means to really cherish your spouse.

The early habits you form in marriage don't just shape your first year — they set the trajectory for decades to come. In this episode, the More than Roommates team unpacks the foundational patterns that help couples build a marriage that doesn't drift into “roommate mode,” but instead grows into a lifelong flourishing biblical marriage.Discussion Questions:- What kind of marriage do we want to “vote for” with our daily habits?- Are we consistently praying together? If not, what's stopping us?- Who has permission to speak into our marriage?- Is sex something we are proactively nurturing or just hoping works itself out?- Do we address conflict quickly, or let things simmer?- Are there boundaries (work, family, schedule) we need to clarify?Resources:- Ready or Knot by Scott Kedersha- Atomic Habits by James Clear- Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta- Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds by Douglas Rosenau- Mistake we made as newlyweds More than Roommates- Good Habits as Newlyweds More than Roommates- One Habit to strengthen your marriage More than Roommates

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of making marriages strong enough to withstand life's challenges. We're bringing back one of our best friends, Dr. Gary Thomas, who talks about his book 'Making Your Marriage a Fortress.' The conversation covers how sin, temptations, and life trials can erode a relationship. We also discuss the significance of spiritual growth, community, and emotional safety in marriages. We'll also answer a listener's question about handling life after divorce and provide practical advice on creating a couples' vision board to achieve future goals together. Making Your Marriage A Fortress Hope Restored Article: How To Overcome Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage Take the FREE Reactive Cycle Assessment Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email Call our Counseling Line Here's insight on a Healing Separation Contact the show! Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

At Cherry Hills Community Church, Pastor Gary Thomas challenged couples to raise the bar in their marriages from simply loving one another to truly cherishing one another. He cast a vision of what it looks like to treat your spouse as “outstanding among 10,000” — deeply valued, honored, and treasured. Cherishing isn't based on having a perfect partner, but on living out the gospel through grace, humility, and a commitment to believe the best. Rather than allowing busyness, distraction, or frustration to slowly erode intimacy, couples are invited to cultivate a new climate marked by intentional devotion and respect. When we move from love to love and cherish, marriage becomes not just something we maintain, but something we joyfully strengthen every day.

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Popular author and pastor Gary Thomas brings us more examples for both men and women, showing us how to cherish one another. He explains why honor is key to the process, and you will be so grateful for this insight. Importantly, all men and women can do this successfully! Loving and cherishing is possible and powerful.

This one word—CHERISH—will change your marriage! Best-selling author Gary Thomas explains how cherish is different than love and gives us practical steps on how and why you want to make this important change in your marriage. Inspiring for every marriage!

When you fight with your spouse, do you know what you're really fighting about? Dig deep and ask yourself what the real root problem is. Be ruthless in your evaluation of yourself. Gary Thomas, a bestselling author and speaker, advises honesty, reflection, and a direct approach to overcoming conflict. He dishes out critical advice on how to heal and harmonize in the wake of devastating betrayal within marriage, highlighting a need for true repentance on the part of the offender. He also doesn't shy away from talking about the importance of healthy and edifying sex in marriage. How does it change as we age? How do expectations or methods of connecting shift? Gary also offers insight on how to coordinate and communicate about finances to lessen financial problems that could arise in marriage.TAKEAWAYSAs you age, intimacy will look different, but it is just as meaningfulTrue repentance is marked by actions, not feelingsIt's okay to change your preferences and intimacy triggers over timeMarriage involves two people, not just one - we should serve and love each other as Christ loves His church

How do you keep your marriage strong when the trials of life threaten to pull you apart? Gary Thomas may have the answers you've been looking for! He is the author of 23 books that have sold over 3 million copies. Being married for over 40 years, Gary brings tremendous insight into the importance of cultivating an intimate and deeply Christ-centered relationship from the moment marriage vows are exchanged and beyond. He challenges couples to cherish each other and to give grace to one another. Gary emphasizes, “Get married for the better, but make your vows for the worst.” Manage your expectations. Marriage will not be easy, but helping each other through the storms of life will be the biggest blessing you've ever experienced.TAKEAWAYSMarriage can produce little moments of reconnection in the midst of disappointmentDuring trials and tribulations, affirming each other is key and checking in with your spouse every week to see how they are feeling is criticalNew parents must reprioritize their lives as they adjust to taking care of their infantSetting boundaries with your children is a good and healthy marriage trait

Send us a textA quiet lie can steer a whole life. We sat down with Pastor Gary Thomas, author of Living the Life You Were Reborn to Live: Dismantling 12 Lies That Rob Your Intimacy with God, to name the deceptions that slip into our thinking, even inside church walls, and to rebuild a vision of intimacy with God that can weather real storms. From the first moments, we trace how distraction has become the pattern of our age and why a renewed mind is the only way back to delight, trust, and fruitful obedience.Gary takes us behind his new book and the intentional choice of the word “dismantling”—a call to active agency in pulling down structures that block spiritual growth. We explore how small, untested myths shape daily choices, then map that insight onto spiritual half-truths that leave us frustrated with God. The conversation turns tender and bold when we address “family first.” Jesus warned that allegiance to him can divide households; anchoring identity in the Father's love frees us from chasing validation in our children's responses and equips us to love without bargaining. That shift releases unnecessary shame and restores the courage to hold truth with humility.We also dive into control and the lost art of spiritual adventure. When we surrender outcomes and stay alert to the Spirit's movement, God often uses surprising agents to answer our prayers. Finally, we reframe peace. It isn't situational—stacked on health, money, and harmony—but relational, grounded in the presence of Christ who holds us when the house shakes. If fear imagines futures without God, peace remembers who is with us right now. If this conversation helped you see your life and faith with fresh eyes, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs courage today, and leave a review so more listeners can find the show.Follow Gary Thomas on Instagram: Gary Thomas BooksVisit Gary's Website: Gary Thomas Get the shownotes: SHOWNOTESSupport the showBegin Your Heartlifter's Journey: Support the show: Your Donation Matters Leave a review and rate the podcast: WRITE A REVIEW Make a tax-deductible donation through Heartlift International Visit and subscribe to Heartlift Central on Substack. This is our new online meeting place for Heartlifters worldwide. Download the 2025 Advent Guide: The Great Glimmer Hunt Meet me on Instagram: @janellrardon

Gary Thomas (bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Sacred Parenting) is back on the podcast to discuss his latest book, The Life You Were Reborn to Live: Dismantling 12 Lies About Remaining in God's Love. Gary challenges common parenting myths that Christians often fall into, and offers practical ways on how to live life God's way, not the world's. Let's learn together how to create Christ-centered homes, prioritize God's kingdom over family idols, and embrace spiritual adventure over control. 05:21 - Creating a Christ-centered home (Colossians 3: compassion over conflict) 08:12 - Renewing your mind against worldly lies (Romans 12) 09:06 - Finding pride in spiritual growth over worldly success 14:25 - Why prioritizing God, even above family, is most important 21:53 - Being spiritually adventurous: The adventure Jesus calls us to 25:13 - Parenting on offense: Expecting God to use your kids 26:04 - Powerful testimony: When obedience can save a life 27:51 - Turning your "chair out" toward community 30:00 - Practical tips for isolated teens: Remove comforts, invite fellowship Check out Gary's substack at connecttogary.com and buy his new book The Life You Were Reborn to Live anywhere books are sold. Find out more at garythomas.com. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE). Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of placing more faith in God rather than your spouse with Dr. Gary Thomas. They address various marital challenges, including the impact of adversities, providing both spiritual guidance and practical advice, and they offer recommendations for self-care and self-compassion. Dr. Thomas emphasizes the significance of drawing strength from God and uses personal anecdotes to illustrate how adversity can strengthen marriages. Greg and Erin also tackle listener questions, offering insights on handling emotional abuse and the potential for a healing separation. The episode concludes with critical components in sustaining healthy relationships. The Life You Were Reborn To Live Call Our Counseling Line at 1800-A FAMILY New Hope Restored Focus On The Family Marriage Center in Cave Creek, AZ! Contact the show! Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! Suicide Prevention Hotline If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Pastor Gary Thomas challenges the church to rethink physical health as an act of worship in Week 3 of the Reset series at Cherry Hills Community Church. Rather than focusing on appearance or self-discipline, the message reframes caring for our bodies as offering ourselves to God as instruments for His service. Drawing from Scripture, Gary reminds us that our bodies belong to God and are meant to be used for His purposes, not merely admired or neglected. Through powerful stories and practical insight, he shows how physical habits can either limit or expand our ability to love, serve, and endure in our calling. This sermon invites everyone to embrace a sustainable, grace-filled motivation rooted in honoring God with our whole lives.

Do you ever feel let down in your daily experience as a Christian? You're not alone. Pastor and bestselling author Gary Thomas understands that frustration—which he says often comes from believing lies we don't even realize we've embraced. Today on the 4:13, Gary unpacks the subtle deceptions that quietly shape our expectations, steal our joy, and keep us from the abundant life God promises. He reveals 12 common lies many Christians believe and—using Scripture—helps you recognize those lies and replace them with truth. You'll learn to discern the trap of a self-centered salvation, why a family-first mentality does more harm than good, and how entitlement sneaks into our faith more easily than we think. Plus, you'll be introduced to a perspective of being rescued that can transform everything! So, get ready to renew your mind, deepen your trust, and live the life you were reborn to live! SHOW NOTES: 413Podcast.com/385  Enter to win the GIVEAWAY and read the episode TRANSCRIPT in the show notes. Get my weekly email, Java with Jennifer, to be notified when a new podcast episode releases. Subscribe HERE.

In today’s episode, bestselling author, speaker, and pastor, Gary Thomas, offers a transformative look at marriage through the lens of spiritual growth and Christlike character. This episode challenges couples to move beyond comfort and entitlement toward sacrificial love, responsibility, and maturity. Gary explores how entitlement sabotages intimacy, why spiritual formation is central to a thriving marriage, and how couples can build habits that strengthen emotional connection and mutual respect. He shares practical insights on humility, conflict, and holiness that help relationships grow toward the marriage God designed, not the one culture conditions us to expect. Links: Visit Gary’s Website: https://garythomas.com/ Pick Up Your Copy of The Life You Were Reborn to Live: https://shorturl.at/vGl9a Pick Up Your Copy of Sacred Marriage: https://shorturl.at/8l8Av Looking for Clinically Excellent, Distinctively Christian Counsel & Care?: https://christiancareconnect.com/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Busyness may look normal, but it's quietly draining your marriage emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. In this episode, Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle unpack why most of our busyness is a choice, how to discern when to say yes or no, and practical ways to create margin, live on mission, and protect what matters most at home.Scriptures:Romans 12:1-2Ephesians 5:15-17Matthew 16:25Genesis 2:25Questions to Discuss:1. What are some of the reasons you and your spouse are overly busy in your lives and schedule?2. What is the cost of your busyness to your marriage and family? (i.e., health, money, intimacy)3. Which of your current commitments are true needs and which are really choices that reflect your lifestyle preferences or fear of missing out?4. Who in your community group or trusted circle needs to speak into your level of busyness and help you evaluate your commitments?Resources:Podcast - More Than Roommates, Episode 41 - Why Busyness Might Destroy Your Marriage (feat. Gary Thomas)Podcast - More Than Roommates, Episode 31 - Too Busy to Get Busy (Part 2 of 3 in a series on marital intimacy)Book - Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, by Peter ScazzeroBook - Practicing the Way, by John Mark Comer

Juli and guest Gary Thomas dive into the often overlooked side of sexual intimacy: emotional connection in marriage. They unpack three building blocks of emotional intimacy—emotional availability, sensitive responsiveness, and trust. From understanding male and female brain chemistry to tips on daily connection habits, this conversation gives you tangible ways to create a stronger, healthier marriage. Guest: Gary Thomas Give to Authentic Intimacy today—every gift matched dollar for dollar up to $70,000!   Follow-up Resources Safe Haven Marriage by Arch Hart and Sharon May A Lifelong Love by Gary Thomas Follow Gary Thomas at @garythomasbooks Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Chef Gary Thomas has a lot on his plate. That's because he's in the business of feeding thousands of people a day on a ship in the middle of the ocean. Not just any ship – the Star of the Seas, the largest cruise ship in the world. The Weekend Intelligence's senior producer Barclay Bram braved a trip to the Bahamas to try to figure out the secret behind one of the most impressive food operations in the world. Listen to what matters most, from global politics and business to science and technology—Subscribe to Economist Podcasts+For more information about how to access Economist Podcasts+, please visit our FAQs page or watch our video explaining how to link your account.Music by Blue dot and EpidemicThis podcast transcript is generated by third-party AI. It has not been reviewed prior to publication. We make no representations or warranties in relation to the transcript, its accuracy or its completeness, and we disclaim all liability regarding its receipt, content and use. If you have any concerns about the transcript, please email us at podcasts@economist.com.Read more about how we are using AI. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chef Gary Thomas has a lot on his plate. That's because he's in the business of feeding thousands of people a day on a ship in the middle of the ocean. Not just any ship – the Star of the Seas, the largest cruise ship in the world. The Weekend Intelligence's senior producer Barclay Bram braved a trip to the Bahamas to try to figure out the secret behind one of the most impressive food operations in the world. Listen to what matters most, from global politics and business to science and technology—Subscribe to Economist Podcasts+For more information about how to access Economist Podcasts+, please visit our FAQs page or watch our video explaining how to link your account.Music by Blue dot and EpidemicThis podcast transcript is generated by third-party AI. It has not been reviewed prior to publication. We make no representations or warranties in relation to the transcript, its accuracy or its completeness, and we disclaim all liability regarding its receipt, content and use. If you have any concerns about the transcript, please email us at podcasts@economist.com.Read more about how we are using AI. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Week four of the Ending Well series lands right at the halfway mark. This episode is a look back over a three-year road (starting in 2022) of how God helped me fight inflammation, feel like myself again, and regain my "glow." This is not a weight-loss talk, not a quick-fix list, and not medical advice. It's a redemption story about healing from the inside out — spiritually, emotionally, and physically. "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers." — 3 John 1:2 Key Themes Redemption doesn't just cover salvation; it keeps working through sanctification and healing. Inflammation wasn't just a food problem — it was also a soul and nervous system problem. Real health change is slow, layered, and personal. Your timeline will not look like mine. The glow came as a byproduct of feeling better and living freer, not chasing beauty. Important Disclaimers This episode is descriptive, not prescriptive. Not medical advice. Always talk with a qualified professional for your situation. Do not try to do everything at once. This was a year of foundations plus a total three-year process. One percent better beats perfect overnight. The Story: How the Dominoes Fell 1. August 2022: Stepping Back From Fear-Driven "Crunchy" Culture I was drowning in rules, guilt, and constant fear of what might be harming me. The anxiety and striving became more toxic than the ingredients I was avoiding. First domino: I quit trying to do it all perfectly and started living with grace, budget reality, and peace. Lowering my standards for myself lowered my inflammation. "Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." — Matthew 11:28 2. October 2022: A Major Boundary With a Toxic Relationship I set a serious boundary with someone whose presence fueled self-hatred. Went no contact for about six months. The inner tape of shame and criticism began to quiet. I learned that giving up self-hatred is profoundly anti-inflammatory. Recommended resource mentioned: When to Walk Away by Gary Thomas (plus podcast interview) "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life." — Proverbs 4:23 3. Early 2023: Changing How I Worked Out I stopped high-intensity workouts that were spiking cortisol daily. Switched to lifting heavy and slow, more functional strength training. Worked out less, recovered more. Energy improved, inflammation eased, confidence rose. Current favorite: Nourish Move Love workouts on YouTube. Big takeaway: exercise is a gift, not punishment. 4. February to May 2023: Going Gluten-Free and Cutting Back on Alcohol Grain Brain by Dr. David Perlmutter was a turning point. I tried going gluten-free (cold turkey, not ideal but it worked). Brain fog cleared, bloat dropped, inflammation noticeably reduced. Cutting alcohol alongside gluten made a huge difference. I don't need to understand every mechanism to honor what clearly helps my body. Reminder: everyone has a "thing" — gluten, dairy, sugar, alcohol, stress. Find yours with grace. 5. August 2023: Getting Off SSRIs After 15 Years A massive milestone with a full story in episode 267. For me, SSRIs were not helping inflammation or overall vitality anymore. The drop in facial inflammation from August to December was dramatic. I'm not shaming anyone on SSRIs — I was on them a long time. This was my path. "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free." — Galatians 5:1 What Actually Healed Me This part matters: the glow wasn't mainly from products. Lowering impossible expectations Creating boundaries Learning to like myself Getting out of fight-or-flight Moving my body in a gentler way Removing gluten and minimizing alcohol Walking in obedience even when it felt backwards Healing was spiritual and emotional first, physical second. "Be transformed by the renewing of your mind." — Romans 12:2 Simple "Glow Back" Skin Habits These are the practical, easy wins that helped the outside catch up to the inside. Dermaplaning at home Removes dead skin and peach fuzz. Skin care and makeup apply better. Big difference in glow and smoothness. Learn carefully through YouTube tutorials and use a quality razor. Stopping skin picking Picking was aggravating redness and irritation. I prayed about it and replaced the habit. New habit: brush my hair when the urge hits. Asking God for help in small things counts. Sponsor Spotlight: PreBorn A free ultrasound can double a mother's chance of choosing life. PreBorn offers ultrasounds plus ongoing support for mothers for up to two years. It costs 28 dollars to sponsor one ultrasound. Donate at preborn.com/speakeasy. Takeaways to Sit With If you're overwhelmed, start with one domino. God often heals from the root, not just the symptom. Your body listens to your beliefs. Peace, obedience, and self-kindness are deeply practical health tools. The goal isn't prettier; it's freer, healthier, and more whole. Reflective Questions What is one area where fear or perfectionism is inflaming your life? Who or what might need a boundary so you can heal? What small change feels like the next right step, not the whole staircase? How would your health shift if you treated yourself like someone God deeply loves? Closing Encouragement This glow-back story is really a "come back to life" story. It wasn't a sprint; it was obedience in baby steps. If you're in the thick of it today, don't despise the slow fade. God redeems years, bodies, minds, and hearts — and He's patient in the process. "He restores my soul." — Psalm 23:3

⛪️ Ever wondered if you've accidentally slipped into a “ministry-first” life instead of a God-first one? Or why pursuing “success” in the name of Jesus can sometimes leave your home drained, your marriage stretched thin, and your soul strangely empty? In this episode, we sit down with Gary Thomas to unravel the subtle but powerful lies that derail intimacy with God and quietly distort family rhythms. This conversation will make you rethink control, redefine calling, and reimagine what a spiritually alive home could look like. Resources :The Life You Were Reborn to Live by Gary Thomas https://www.amazon.com/dp/031036065X?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_WEEGZVBTHRSH81Z8F438 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How are you doing this week friend? Are you experiencing the busy of Thanksgiving week? The threshold of the holiday season can be overwhelming with so many responsibilities and shoulds. We are often the holiday makers for those ahead of us in life (our parents) and those behind (our kids and grandkids.) On top of the to-do list there can be the relational heaviness midlife can bring. The holidays can highlight where we are already hurting. Other midlife stressors can be equally painful. But we don't have to dread our life - or our holiday season. Gary Thomas is here to remind us that we live in freedom because Jesus offers us this gift. Yes, we have heartache, but more than that we have the promise of Christ that he has overcome the world. As you are baking your pies and basting your turkey over the next few days, join us as we dismantle some lies that are keeping us from walking in the way of Christ. Gary is honest, humble, and not wrong! This season of midlife can be disorienting and difficult. We also can experience the contrast of hope and good news that is in the resurrected Christ. FIND MORE ABOUT GARY THOMAS Gary Thomas- Website and Instagram Gary Thomas Book- The Life You Were Reborn to Live A FEW THINGS MENTIONED Genesis 3:16 Romans 7 1 Corinthians 15 John 16:33 1 Timothy 6:8 QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE What does it look like to pursue wisdom of God over everything at this stage in life? What does it look like to offer up your child to God, like Abraham did with Isaac? Is there an area of life where you feel you have unknowingly tipped into entitlement? Is there an area of good in your life that has become normal that you can see with fresh eyes again? LET'S CONNECT! Did you like this episode? Let us know and leave a review on itunes or share it with a friend. Or message us on Instagram – we'd love to hear from you! Get the Daily Dozen Checklist -12 habits that will immediately make you happier and healthier

In this episode, I sit down for the third time with one of my all-time favorite authors, Gary Thomas, whose books have radically shaped my faith and perspective on life, relationships, and spiritual growth. From When to Walk Away to Sacred Marriage and Sacred Pathways, Gary's writing has helped countless believers understand what it means to live a life rooted in truth and grace. His newest book, The Life You Were Reborn to Live, takes that even deeper—calling out the spiritual lies that keep us buried beneath the surface of God's best. These lies are subtle, familiar, and often sound like wisdom—but they quietly rob us of peace, purpose, and abundance. In this conversation, Gary and I unpack three of the most powerful lies from his book that hit me straight in the heart (and probably will for you, too). We talk about: Dismantling Restlessness — learning to live in peace, not panic. Dismantling the Comfort Lie — seeing affliction as God's loving pruning, not punishment. Dismantling Complacent Ignorance — rekindling a hunger for wisdom that transforms how we think and live. Gary helps us see how many of these lies have even slipped into church culture—convincing us to chase comfort, control, or comparison instead of the freedom and renewal Christ offers. This episode will help you identify where the enemy has kept you "underground" and remind you that you were reborn to live in the light. It's the perfect conversation to help us end the year well—tearing down what's false and walking boldly into the truth. This episode is brought to you by: PreBorn — A ministry rescuing babies and supporting mothers in crisis. Every $28 you give sponsors an ultrasound for a woman considering abortion—and when she hears her baby's heartbeat, everything changes. Be a voice of hope. Sponsor an ultrasound today at PreBorn.com/Speakeasy CrowdHealth — Take your power back from broken health insurance. For a simple monthly fee, CrowdHealth connects you to a community that shares medical costs while negotiating lower bills on your behalf. With CrowdHealth, you can finally get quality care at a fair price—no surprises, no insurance middleman. Get started for just $99 for your first three months with code SPEAKEZ at joincrowdhealth.com Subscribe to The Speakeasy YouTube Channel for more faith-filled conversations that challenge, encourage, and inspire: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtqJ8I4hmCH-w3Cw4XzFZoQ

You love God. You read the Bible. You try to do the right things. So why does your faith still feel dry, frustrating, or stuck? You're not alone, and it's not because you're doing Christianity wrong. It's because you've been believing lies about what a "good Christian life" is supposed to look like. Bestselling author and pastor Gary Thomas will join us to expose twelve subtle but powerful deceptions that quietly drain joy and block intimacy with God and he will show us how to replace them with freeing truth straight from Scripture.Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gary Thomas is a writer-in-residence at Second Baptist Church in Houston, Texas, and an adjunct faculty member teaching on spiritual formation at Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon, and Houston Theological Seminary in Houston, Texas. He is the author of nineteen books including the highly popular Sacred Marriage, also Sacred Pathways, Cherish, Sacred Parenting, and the Gold Medallion Award-winning Authentic Faith. Gary has a master's degree from Regent College, where he studied under Dr. J.I. Packer, and was awarded an honorary doctorate in divinity from Western Seminary. Gary has spoken in forty-nine states and ten different countries. He has appeared numerous times on various national radio and television programs, including CBN, Focus on the family. and Family Life Today. To contact Gary or to get a copy of his book (When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom from Toxic People), just go to his website: http://www.GaryThomas.com ----------------------- Talk with Dr. Joe 1-on-1: Are you tired and stuck? Want to go to get your faith, marriage, family, career and finances back on track? Then maybe it's time you got a coach. Every CHAMPION has one. Schedule an appointment to chat with Dr. Joe. He takes on only a few Breakthrough Calls each week. The call is FREE, but slots are limited to ONE call only. NO RESCHEDULES. Just click on the link below and select the BREAKTHROUGH CALL option to set up an appointment: http://TalkwithDrJoe.com If no slots are available, please check back in a week. Also join us on: Online Podcast Community (on Station): https://station.page/realmen Facebook: @realdrjoemartin YouTube: http://www.RealMenTraining.com Instagram: @realdrjoemartin Twitter: @professormartin Website: https://RealMenConnect.com

In this episode, we welcome Gary Thomas back to the show. He is a bestselling author and international speaker. His books have sold over two million copies worldwide. He is most known for his marriage and relationship books, to include “Sacred Marriage” (over 1,000,000 copies sold) and “Cherish” (100 Books Every Modern Christian Man Should Read). In this interview, we discuss his new book “The Life You Were Reborn to Live: Dismantling 12 Lies That Rob Your Intimacy with God”, how pervasive restlessness is so damaging, how to fight our need to control outcomes, why putting our families first actually plays into Satan's hands, how to avoid self-centered salvation, how to fight against apathy towards Christ's bride, the dangers of complacent ignorance, and much more. Let's get into it… Episode notes and links HERE. Donate to support our mission of equipping men to push back darkness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode, Emma is joined by author and speaker Gary Thomas to discuss the need to combat the spiritual lies we believe. Often in our lives, we subscribe to lies about ourselves, others, and God, which can result in sin, confusion, and chaos. Throughout this episode, Emma and Gary discuss what these lies can look like, specific ways they cause strife in our lives, and how to combat them. Be sure to check out this episode!   Subscribe to our Podcast Newsletter! Connect with Gary:   Website | New Book | Instagram   Connect with us:  The Daily Grace Co. | Facebook | Instagram | Daily Grace Blog |    The opinions of guests on the Daily Grace podcast do not represent the opinions of The Daily Grace Co., and we do not necessarily endorse the resources that they recommend or mention on the show. We believe it is valuable to hear from a variety of guests, even if we do not agree in all areas. As always, the statements made by hosts and guests on the show should be tested against God's Word, the only authority on truth.