Podcasts about days to happiness

In this episode of the 30 Days to Happiness Podcast, I sit down with Daniel to explore the powerful concepts of emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and personal leadership. We dive deep into the importance of balancing your energy centers, particularly the heart chakra, and how these elements are crucial for personal growth and success.We also discuss cutting-edge technology like vocal biomarkers, which can analyze emotions through your voice, and the connection to ancient wisdom from Ayurvedic medicine. Together, we talk about forgiveness, setting boundaries, and how COVID has impacted our sense of purpose and emotional balance.Daniel shares his journey from military veteran to life coach, offering profound insights into how personal resilience and self-awareness can drive both personal and professional success.

What if you could transform your life in just 30 days? In this episode of The Leadership Project, we are joined by Holly Smith, acclaimed author of '30 Days to Happiness' and host of the '30 Days to Happiness' podcast. Holly shares her profound journey from overcoming personal struggles in her teenage years to becoming a high-performance coach. She emphasises the interconnectivity between happiness, productivity, and habits, sharing practical tips on establishing routines, recognizing one's values, and maintaining productivity, especially for working parents. Holly delves into the significance of identifying and resolving past emotions, discovering one's purpose, and staying aligned with personal values. Listeners are encouraged to consider their environment, mindset, and intentional choices to foster happiness and productivity in everyday life.

Welcome to the "Become Your Own Superhero" podcast hosted by Laban Ditchburn!Join us for an inspiring episode featuring Holly Smith, a dynamic entrepreneur, bestselling author of "30 Days to Happiness," and a transformational coach dedicated to helping people unlock their true potential. In this powerful conversation, Laban and Holly dive deep into the secrets of overcoming adversity, building daily habits for success, and balancing masculine and feminine energies.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Daily Habits for Success: Discover the key routines Holly uses to maintain happiness and productivity, even amidst life's challenges.Overcoming the Victim Mentality: Learn how to shift from feeling stuck to taking proactive steps towards your goals.Balancing Energies: Understand the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies in personal and professional life.Mastering Mindset: Gain insights into the mindset shifts needed to achieve true fulfillment and purpose.Guest Highlights:Holly Smith: A young, inspiring entrepreneur who turned her life around from depression to success. Author of the transformative book "30 Days to Happiness."Laban Ditchburn: Renowned courage coach, podcast host, and motivational speaker known for his transformative insights and interviews.Find Holly here: https://www.instagram.com/holly_smith00https://30daystohappiness.com.au/https://www.linkedin.com/in/hollysmithcoach/Find Laban here https://linktr.ee/LabanDitchburnBook your complimentary call https://calendly.com/labanmditchburn/discovery-call-together?back=1

Today's episode I bring on the co-founder of the largest personal development platform. In this episode we discuss how you can rediscover, rebuild and renew the relationship you have with yourself. Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is the co-founder of Mindvalley, the world's most powerful life transformation platform with an ever-growing 20 million-strong following. She is a best-selling author, international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, and philanthropist based in Estonia. As an author of transformational programs - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules”, "10 Questions for Self-Love" and "From Awesome to Flawesome", Kristina has touched the lives of over 20,000 students, with wisdom, life hacks, and healthy habit-building formulas curated and inspired by her 20 years in the personal growth industry. Her mission is to put authenticity, happiness and self-love back on the menu for the individual, and the collective. Her first book, "Becoming Flawesome", published by HayHouse in July 2023 instantly became a #1 best-seller in various categories on The Wall Street Journal, USA TODAY, Amazon, and Barnes & Noble. In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself.  In this episdoe we talk about: Difference between self care and self love Removing our masks Becoming flawsome The dark side of personal growth Developing self trust Building your emotional wellness and more Episode sponsor: The Podcast Playbook - Your Complete Step-By-Step Guide To Successfully Launch Your Podcast Without Overwhelm For full show notes and episode resources head to: https://ericalippy.com/kristina-mand-lakhiani/ Find our guest at: Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani | Website,  Instagram , Facebook, YouTube Buy her book: Becoming Flawsome Mindvalley  Follow me on Social Media: Your Host: @ericalippy Podcast: @passionlovepursuit Facebook YouTube PASSION LOVE PURSUIT PODCASTS: https://ericalippy.com/the-podcast/

As life happens, we may lose ourselves and miss out on becoming the best version of who we are. We forget what and who is truly important because of social pressures to fit an ideal. My guest, Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani, says the key to reclaiming your worth is not fixing yourself but healing your relationship with your imperfections. Today she's sharing more on how we can embrace our flawesome selves. Kristina is a Co-founder of Mindvalley, an online learning platform that focuses on personal growth and improving different aspects of your life, and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 20 years. She is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and everyday life philosopher. Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests: "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". In this interview, Kristina shares her story and reflection points to help you transform from the Perfect You into the Real You. She shares ways to navigate external and internal critics so that you can embody a life where no one needs fixing.

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is a Co-Founder of Mindvalley. With over 17 years in the personal transformation industry, Kristina is a truly remarkable teacher, talented international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. She is an author of a transformational quest, "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules.” She was recognized as one of the Top10 influential people online making a difference in the world today and was awarded the Influencers For Change (IFC) by the Global Impact Creators (GIC). In her book Becoming Flawsome, Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani talks about embracing our flaws to live our most authentic lives. She shares her notes on how she, too, lost herself and how she decided to reclaim her authenticity. Becoming Flawsome is about giving yourself the space to be kind to yourself. It is about learning to remove your mask and show the world and, most importantly, yourself, who you truly are and lead this intricate dance called life without fear. Connect with Kristina: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/https://www.facebook.com/kristinamandhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/https://kristinamand.com/ Becoming Flawsome Book: https://kristinamand.com/flawesome/ Connect with Irina: https://linktr.ee/irina089https://www.irinashehovsov.com/ Read My Books: https://www.irinashehovsov.com/mybooks YouTube: https://bit.ly/2WHrkqM irina@irinashehovsov.com If you like to suggest future topics, please fill out this form (https://forms.gle/mgwWqHDMr1Srkx9h7) If you like to apply to be a guest (https://forms.gle/QTWQWxGX4EW1USNH6)

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 17 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. .....................................Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. She just released her brand new book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself. You can find more information about Kristina here: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and website..............................Follow me on all socials as Toitimeblog as well as on the blog. Today's drink of the day is Strawberry Raspberry Smoothie

GUEST BIO:Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more.Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework – “Hacking happiness” – a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices. Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests – “7 Days To Happiness”, “Live By Your Own Rules.” and “The Art of Being Flawesome”. Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting yourself. SHOW NOTES :Guest Info:Website: https://kristinamand.comInstagram FacebookLinkedInWebsite RPP Listener Special Offer:Order the book Becoming Flawesome & get 3 bonuses!  Click Here to Order Now! Core Themes, Keywords, & Mentions: Russian born, perfectionism, truth, who do I want to be, Soviet Union, divorce, turning point, love your country, attitude, transformation, knowledge, problems, resolution, consumerism, staying true to yourself, NGO, Mind Valley, forgiveness, conscious coupling, inquisitive, Soviet union collapse, Becoming FlawesomeSupport the showWant Even More?

Kristina shares her journey to founding Mindvalley, what's next in her life as she enters a new phase and what it means to embrace your flawesome."Life is simple and deep, we make it shallow and complicated."Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of  Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career to personal transformation learning from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her then-husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveller. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices.  Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness.In July 2023, with the help of Hay House Publishing, Kristina releases her very first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself.https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand/https://kristinamand.com/https://www.mindvalley.com/book/flawesome /Find the show at all of the cool spots below and find us at jasonfrazell.com/podcasts. Facebook Instagram

Ever wondered how embracing our imperfections can unlock our unique genius? Prepare to be enlightened as we sit down with Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani, the co-founder of Mindvalley and author of the upcoming book 'Becoming Flawesome'. Listen in as Kristina serves us nuggets of wisdom on the art of overcoming perfectionism and the strength we can find in our flaws. She also introduces us to 'happiness hacking', a fresh perspective on how to develop a healthier relationship with ourselves. So, do you want to rebel against societal expectations and find your true self? Kristina's message is a beacon for all those looking for courage, self-love and the art of putting their happiness first. Don't miss: > What does the word "Flawesome" mean> Perfectionism is a trap> How to develope courage> There's a huge ground between perfection and a true failure> The vision of the book, "Becoming Flawesome"> Why you need to stop trying to be something you're not> Your message is like a baby> The importance of understanding the value of happinessAbout Kristina Mänd-LakhianiKristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career to personal transformation learning from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her then-husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveller. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices. Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness.In July 2023, with the help of Hay House Publishing, Kristina releases her very first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself. Website:

Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 children. As a co-founder of  Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career to learning from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her then-husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world.   Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveler. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices.  Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness.   In July 2023, with the help of Hay House Publishing, Kristina releases her very first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself.   Connect with Kristina https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/ https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand https://kristinamand.com/  https://www.mindvalley.com/book/flawesome    ----more----   Join us and share your empowering story! If you're a woman, a business owner, or an aspiring entrepreneur who has triumphed over abusive and toxic relationships (ranging from self-abuse to domestic violence), we invite you to make your story heard. At our podcast, we believe in the power of sharing experiences without revealing identities. By going public with your journey, you can inspire others and uplift our audience, giving them hope and strength to break free from the confines of abuse behind closed doors. Don't hesitate any longer - apply now at: https://apply.gemmaserenity.com. On a related note, the Global Network of Success (GNS) has recently launched another show called Uplift! Inspiring Stories to Uplift the World on June 1st, 2023. The application link remains the same for both shows. For Uplift!, we are seeking individuals with inspiring and uplifting stories to share with our audience. Regardless of your gender or background, you can make a positive impact without focusing on personal abuse experiences. Apply now and be part of our journey: https://apply.gemmaserenity.com. Discover more about Uplift! and explore our website at: https://uplift-inspire.com.  

Who is Kristina Mand-Lakhiani?Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an entrepreneur, international speaker, and artist. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveler. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices. While belonging to a community has positively impacted happiness levels, Kristina is sure that real, lasting happiness is cultivated. Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - “7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules" and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness.Here's what influences happiness according to Kristina:1. The ways in which happy people interact.2. Your social connections. They are scientifically proven to impact happiness.3. Acts of self-love you treat yourself to during stressful times.Kristina is also about to release her brand new book- "The Art Of Being Flawsome". In her book, she helps you to go through the process of finding your way back to You. From waking up from the delusion of chasing success, giving up perfectionism, to finding the courage to be completely honest with yourself, and finally, finding kindness in your heart to love and accept yourself unconditionally.How to Connect with Kristina?Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/Website: https://kristinamand.com/Grab a Copy of Her New Book, “Becoming Flawesome.”https://amzn.to/3JOsp93.....Connect with Dr. Vic + Freebiesbeacons.ai/drvicmanzoIf you are ready to elevate your business, mindset, consciousness level, and overall life experience, let's chat!www.CallWithDrVic.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Becoming Flawesome   Takeaway: Recognizing and thriving in our imperfections is key to personal growth Money Learnings: Kristina was born and grew up in the Soviet Union and what she knew about money then was that they were hoping to build communism where there wouldn't be any money. But along the way, she learned to be flexible enough because she had to transform from one system to a completely different system. Bio: Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of  Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more.  She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world.  Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveller. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices.   Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. In June 2023, with the help of Hay House Publishing, Kristina releases her very first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself.  Highlights from this episode:  Kristina talked about growing up in a Soviet Union What is it that MindValley does? The darker controversial side to personal growth Kristina was influenced to write a book due to her environment and her message maturing Kristina discusses the fear of imperfection and the importance of being loyal to it The journey of transformation is a path to readiness to make a decision Vulnerability - too much of a good thing can become bad   https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/ https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand Mindvalley.com/book/flawesome Richer Soul Life Beyond Money. You got rich, now what? Let's talk about your journey to more a purposeful, intentional, amazing life. Where are you going to go and how are you going to get there? Let's figure that out together. At the core is the financial well being to be able to do what you want, when you want, how you want. It's about personal freedom! Thanks for listening! Show Sponsor: http://profitcomesfirst.com/ Schedule your free no obligation call: https://bookme.name/rockyl/lite/intro-appointment-15-minutes If you like the show please leave a review on iTunes: http://bit.do/richersoul https://www.facebook.com/richersoul http://richersoul.com/ rocky@richersoul.com Some music provided by Junan from Junan Podcast Any financial advice is for educational purposes only and you should consult with an expert for your specific needs.  

How do you live your most authentic life? On the journey of self-development and healing, this is a question most of us face. Particularly for those of us who are also seeking to contribute in a career or business along the way, being the authentic, whole human who we are can feel like a big challenge. But Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is here to help us with this big question, encouraging you to embrace everything that makes you awesome – flaws and all.Kristina is the co-founder of self-development giant Mindvalley, and has had a unique and very personal behind-the-scenes look at the challenges people face on the road to success. In her new book, Becoming Flawesome, Kristina encourages self-honesty as a path to true happiness and authenticity, and that starts with embracing every piece and part of yourself. In this conversation, she talks about unshaming the bits of ourselves we've seeked to part ways with, and how facing our "dragons" and meeting them with compassion, is the best way to lead our most fulfilling life.Get  a FREE copy of Kristina's book, plus free bonuses MEET KRISTINAKristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of  Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career to personal transformation learning from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her then-husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. Kristina is the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. You can find more information about Kristina on: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Website Support the showLearn about Jen's coaching program at JenLiss.com/MadeForMore Become an official Untethered Unicorn by supporting the show: Get a shoutout in an upcoming episode Share an episode and tag Jen on Instagram @untetheredjen Follow/subscribe to get updates of new episodes Leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts Create a

Do you see happiness as a serious goal? Do you have it in your list of goals for this year? In this episode together, I'm excited to be joined by the inspiring Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani, mother, entrepreneur, author, and everyday-life philosopher. Kristina is the Co-founder of Mindvalley, the Host of the Flawesome with Kristina podcast, and has over 20 years of experience in the personal transformation space, and is the author of three transformational quests - “7 Days To Happiness,” “Live By Your Own Rules.” and “The Art of Being Flawesome.” She believes personal development, authenticity, and understanding and accepting oneself are the paths to finding happiness. Throughout this episode, Kristina talks about her journey into personal transformation and what led her to focus a big part of her work on happiness. You'll hear about Kristina's interactions with the Dalai Lama, her unique views on happiness as a state, not a feeling, why most people refuse to set happiness as a responsible goal, and why embracing our flaws and self-love are crucial to achieving happiness. Additionally, we discuss the mistaken idea of seeing suffering as an indispensable requirement for achieving happiness; Kristina talks about the concept that inspired her latest book, "Flawesome," and much more.Tune in and listen to episode 146 of Grief and Happiness, and discover the paths that'll take you to turn happiness into a state of being, not a feeling. In This Episode, You Will Learn:What got Kristina into the personal transformation and happiness space (2:30)Getting comfortable with pain is crucial for understanding happiness (9:00)Start seeing happiness as a state, not a feeling (12:10)Kristina talks about "Flawesome," her latest book (17:20)Work on your courage instead of avoiding fear (22:20)When you should avoid or embrace fear (26:40)You can't help anyone if you are not happy (28:00)Resources:Book: Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani - Becoming Flawesome: The Key To Living An Imperfectly Authentic LifeFlawesome with Kristina podcastConnect with Kristina:WebsiteInstagramLinkedInLet's Connect:WebsiteLinkedInFacebookInstagramTwitterPinterestThe Grief and Happiness AllianceBook: Emily Thiroux Threatt - Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In June 2023, with the help of Hay House Publishing, Kristina releases her very first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself. Perfection. We all dream of living by it, feeling it, being it... And it is in the name of perfection, we demonise our flaws, make ourselves ‘less-than,' and render ourselves vulnerable to the shame of not being good enough. We live in a society that subliminally encourages us to wear metaphorical masks, slay our inner sadness, and ignore our imperfections, or as Kristina refers to them, her ‘dragons.' Kristina is a truly remarkable teacher, talented international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. She is an author of a transformational quest, "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules.” She was recognized as one of the Top 10 influential people online making a difference in the world today and was awarded the Influencers For Change (IFC) by the Global Impact Creators (GIC). In her book Becoming Flawsome, Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani talks about embracing our flaws to live our most authentic lives. She shares her notes on how she, too, lost herself and how she decided to reclaim her authenticity. She claims that authenticity and honesty are binary. They are either there, or they are not. There is no in-between. Kristina challenges you to face your flaws, look them in the eyes, and...embrace them in order to lead you to your authentic self. She uses her own life as an example to guide you through the various techniques that you will learn throughout the book. Each chapter addresses a different issue that you, the reader, may face, ranging from acknowledging and accepting your feelings and the pressure to be perfect to finally breaking free from the rut. The book is filled with reflection points, exercises, and experiments that will assist you in confronting and working through your feelings. Becoming Flawsome is about giving yourself the space to be kind to yourself. It is about learning to remove your mask and show the world and, most importantly, yourself, who you truly are and lead this intricate dance called life without fear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is a bit unusual for us in that we interviewed our guest, Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, in February, but she asked that, if possible, we didn't publish the episode until much later. So, here it is July 11 and the episode is finally going live. Why? Because just this week Kristina's book, "Becoming Flawesome" is published and available for purchase. Being a NY Times Bestselling author myself I understand and agreed to wait on giving you this episode until you also could find her book. Seems fair to me. Kristina is from Estonia originally where she held government jobs and advanced far beyond what people there would ever expect from a woman. However, Kristina did not let that stop her as you will hear. Kristina brings us an interesting discussion about making choices. As you will hear, in her native country after the Soviet Union fell, suddenly people were confronted with the fact that no one was making choices for them anymore. Before the fall, people really, according to Kristina, did not need to choose much. They were controlled. After the fall all that changed. Another discussion we have is about happiness. Kristina offers a great deal of insight into how we view the concept of happiness including what it really means to attain happiness. I hope you enjoy and get some good knowledge and advice from Kristina's observations. She indeed does offer a number of life lessons that can help anyone. Please let me know what you think by emailing me at michaelhi@accessibe.com. About the Guest: Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 17 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveller. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices. Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. In June 2023, with the help of Hay House Publishing, Kristina releases her very first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself. Ways to connect with Kristina: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/ https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand/ https://kristinamand.com/ https://kristinamand.com/book/ About the Host: Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog. Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards. https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/ accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/ https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/ Thanks for listening! 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Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i  capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Michael Hingson ** 01:20 Well, hi, once again, and welcome to unstoppable mindset, we're inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. And you know what I say unexpected comes up more often than not. And that's what makes it so much fun. Today, we get to chat with an upcoming author, Kristina Mand-Lakhiani. And Kristina has been working on a book. And it will be in his out by the time that you get to hear this, which is great, but we're recording it prior to it coming out. So that we're all prepared when she gets done with all the edits. And she was just telling me that she's gone through and hopefully edited it for the last time. We'll see about that, Kristina.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 02:05 I actually think for this for this print, it's for the last time, but who knows, hopefully it will go well, and I'll go for a second print. But Michael, thank you for having me. And I appreciate it a lot.   Michael Hingson ** 02:16 Well, it's my pleasure. And we're really grateful for you being here and talking with us. I'd like to start by learning a little bit more about you maybe growing up. I know you come from Estonia, and we'd love to learn about kind of the younger Kristina and all that stuff.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 02:33 You know, it's it's funny, because as we were just chatting that I had to go through my book once again, and I noticed suddenly that actually, quite a lot of the book is influenced by the fact that I was born in Soviet Union, because I refer to that I remember even somebody from our audience once saying, why can't you just let go of that past that? It's such an interesting idea? Do we have to let go of our past? Or can we just appreciate it for what it is and for making us what we are? So I am not like I don't consider myself traumatized by the Soviet past. But some of the things that I share do sound a little bit funny. And not funny, actually a little bit odd, probably. But yeah, so I was born in Soviet Union, I was raised in Soviet Union grew up in that country, I was 14 when it collapsed. So I have very conscious memories of of how it was to be in that very restrictive environment. Nowadays, of course, people have hard times imagining it, but I guess the closest comparison would be North Korea, if you can imagine that. Only much, much bigger. And it was it was a human life in any in every sense of the word. But of course, it was a very restrictive society, it was very idealistic. And some things which are normal nowadays, were not, were not part of my reality, for example, being intrapreneur there was no business it was illegal, or personal growth, even for that matter. I believe I'm very skeptical, and a little bit of a nerd because of my upbringing, upbringing. So these things are probably what what influenced me?   Michael Hingson ** 04:08 Well, and in reality, I, I really find it interesting what you said before, and it is so unfortunate, forget your past. That's part of what makes us who we are, no matter what our past is. And I love to tell people, when I think about my life, and so on, I can trace back to a great degree, the choices I made and how those choices have made a difference or made me do the things that I do today. So forgetting about what your past was, as long as you keep it in perspective is never something that we should do, it seems to me.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 04:46 Yeah, agree and we can talk about pasts or we can talk about certain aspects of us as human beings. And you know, we always have a choice what we do with what is given to us. I think I'm partially paraphrasing Right now, Gan, Gandalf who who replied to fraud us complaint that, why was it my lot to bring, you know, to take care of that ring to roll them all. And Gandalf said to that you, you don't get to pick the times when you are born. But you always get to pick what to do with those times or get to choose, of course, I'm paraphrasing this quote, I think that's that's the case about your past. That's a case about you as a human being and everything that has happened to you or where you were born. You never get to choose a lot of those things. But you always get to choose how you how you treat, treat what you have been given.   Michael Hingson ** 05:35 Sure. And the other part about it is that we stress so much about so many things. In reality, one of the lessons I learned from being in the World Trade Center and escaping on September 11, is we didn't have control over the World Trade Center happening. And I'm not convinced, I suppose somebody will prove me wrong someday, perhaps. But I'm not convinced. We really could have figured it out. The people who did it kept it a pretty well guarded secret. And they succeeded. We can't worry about the things that we can't control what we can worry about, or what we should focus on, are the things that we can and let the rest go because it's not going to do us any good to fret about them.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 06:16 Yeah, I absolutely agree with that. And it's not like in the case of September 11. Of course, there may be different opinions about could it have been prevented or not. But there are a lot of things that could not have been prevented, you know, when I don't know, maybe volcano, volcano erupting is not anymore. A good enough excuse, but things happen which are completely out of human control. And and I like quoting fictional characters. So there's another fictional character from one of my favorite novels Master and Margarita. And he's, he's like, he's the devil, in essence, and he says, she says human human is mortal. And that would have been half the problem. The real problem is that the human is mortal unexpectedly. I know it's a little bit of a morbid, morbid quote. But it also has a little bit of a human it. That's the essence of life, that it's unexpected and unpredictable. So what's the point of fretting about what you don't know? Right?   Michael Hingson ** 07:17 Exactly. And, you know, the reality is, life being somewhat unpredictable is a lot of fun. And if we can't approach life from a fun standpoint, if we take ourselves and life so seriously, that we can't find relief or just plain joy in the unpredictability then what good are we   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 07:40 I know that humor for example, is one of the one of the well coping strategies which is considered healthy for you. And coping strategies are those things that we do when we are faced with the reality which we don't want or we didn't expect. So humor is definitely one of those things which is very healthy for you and helps to deal with adversity.   Michael Hingson ** 08:07 Yeah, and that's okay. There's nothing wrong with with humor. I think again, it's like anything else it's how we do it and what we do with it if we if we use it in a in a positive way to uplift us and uplift others that's great if we do it to abuse or pick on someone necessarily a good thing.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 08:28 But that's not necessarily humor that might be   Michael Hingson ** 08:32 might be bullying. You're absolutely right. You know, I love to talk sometimes about Don Rickles Are you familiar with him?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 08:40 I've heard but no, I am not familiar with so used to be known   Michael Hingson ** 08:43 before. Well, he passed but he used to be known as Mr. warmth. And what he did is he came out on the stage. And he loved to pick on people. And and he was was pretty hard on people and brutal. But I saw an interview with him once on the Phil Donahue show back in. Oh gosh, it must have been in the ad some time. And one of the things that he said was that he always watched his audience in if he felt that somebody was getting truly offended by him picking on them, he'd stopped he would not pick on them. Because it was all supposed to be in fun.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 09:25 You know, I I'm, I'm thinking that he must have been very confident in his ability to read people's emotions. But with that said, my favorite type of humor is when people laugh at themselves. I think it's the healthiest kind.   Michael Hingson ** 09:41 Yeah. And he was very capable of doing that. No question about it. And he he also had so many other comedians pick on him as well in fun ways. And so I think that he was a person Who could truly read the emotions of people, I think probably in that kind of a setting, it would have been relatively easy to do based on expressions of people and how they're reacting if he's looking at them, or picking on them, and so on. But still, he had to be good at what he did. And as far as I know, everybody who really stepped back and looked at him, felt that he did a good job. I know there are a lot of people who say, Oh, he just abused people, and he picked on people, but I don't think they looked at him. And they don't think they really analyzed what they were seeing.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 10:30 I can't comment on that, because I haven't seen it. So it does. It does sound like a slippery slope, honestly, because some all could be. It's, some people assume that they understand the effect of worldwide their words on other people. But we don't always, we don't always know what other people feel. And people don't always show what they feel. So   Michael Hingson ** 10:54 Well, I think if people go to his show, they went because they expected to, to mostly be picked on because that's what his reputation was. But when I went, I listened to a couple of his albums. And so when I've never, never did get a chance to go to one of his shows, but it seemed to me that he really did try to keep on the right side of that slope. And I know that if I had ever had a chance to meet him in person, if I'd ever had a chance to go to one of his shows and and he started to pick on me, I would just get up and say Yeah, well, I took one look at you and haven't been able to see since so what do you think of that? Yeah.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 11:32 never got the chance. You see, you're laughing at yourself. That's much better.   Michael Hingson ** 11:36 Absolutely. It's all. Where's the fun without doing that? Yeah. Well, so the Soviet Union collapsed. And then what did you do what what happened with your life,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 11:46 I was a teenager when the Soviet collapse. So I just went on with with whatever it was doing. But things around me started changing dramatically. And it was a hard time for a lot of people who actually didn't like uncertainty. And that was a lot of uncertainty and all the things. But there was one thing about your way to Union, which was, in a way, a lot of people regret losing it was the freedom to not have to choose. Because choices were done for you. And and I do actually wonder how many choices people enjoy doing that. I think there's statistics, there's research that says that we are only comfortable with about like two and a half choices. But there was there was some kind of lightness in the knowing that everything had been decided for you. And you just just go with the flow. I like comparing it to a life of a pet. You kind of have a good life, but But you belong to someone that changed. So there is certainty in somebody else making decisions for you. And suddenly that certainty was taken away. So a lot of people I know suffered. I was a teenager, of course, it was easier for me to adjust. But it wasn't the case for everyone. And yeah, people don't like uncertainty, it's, I think a very understandable analogy for contemporary people would be why so many people prefer working for someone else or like in a big corporation rather than doing their own business. Because if you look into the essence of things, you're as vulnerable to, let's say economic crisis or things happening on not being in your under your control, but you have the illusion of not having to make decisions not being responsible when you work for someone else. So that was literally the comparison you Soviet Union was the country which removed the necessity to make any decisions.   Michael Hingson ** 13:54 Right. Which could be a good thing, but it could be a bad thing based on the fact that then everything changed, and people did D to start to make more decisions for themselves.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 14:07 I think it was a really bad thing, as you know. It's sometimes we like to be safe and comfortable. But if your executive functioning drops because of that, then what's that?   Michael Hingson ** 14:22 Well, exactly right. And the reality is that, I think as humans, we were born to have the capacity to make choice. And I think in the end, probably enough people felt that way that that was part of what would would have caused the Soviet Union to fall. They didn't like the fact that they didn't have any control over their lives and other people wanted to have full control over their lives and that dichotomy is always going to be a problem. I agree. Yeah. So I I can pray She ate that. But it is interesting that so many people, as you point out, felt very uncomfortable after the Soviet Union fell that now they had to make decisions and didn't know how.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 15:14 I think in contemporary Western society, there is still a lot of it decisiveness even though we're given the choice, but yeah, decision seems like a hard thing.   Michael Hingson ** 15:25 Yeah. Well, we, we see it here. There, there are so many times that people won't make choice and choices. And as is always also pointed out, by not making a choice, you're making a choice and and then when you don't like the choice that somebody else made, because you didn't, who do you have to blame only yourself?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 15:46 Yeah, I actually agree that the Indecision is a choice in itself very often. It's just a very comfortable, comfortable excuse. I am trying to make a choice. Choice is so important. And very often behind that. That story is just fear, fear of change, because Indecision is the choice to leave things the way they are not to change.   Michael Hingson ** 16:11 Yeah, it. It's something that we all need to learn to do. And the fact is, I think that ultimately, we are responsible for our lives. We can collaborate, we can seek advice, but if we don't make choices, and we allow someone to make them for us, then we only have ourselves to blame.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 16:32 That's true. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 16:34 So you, but you went on as a teenager, you finished school? And then what did you do you go to college? Or? Or did you just make other choices?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 16:44 No, my choice was predetermined, because I was a teenager when Soviet Union collapsed. So I was still on the same track for a while, I went to university a good a good, good degree, and I started my work in the government, that decision had been made. In Soviet days, I wanted to be a diplomat, because it was the only way I could imagine seeing the world and having some freedom and, you know, having a little bit more exciting life. But of course, by the time when I went to university, it wasn't already the only way to do to do what I wanted to do. So that I guess there were several reasons why I went into government and I started my career there, I made a career pretty fast. Also, partially due to our history, because in Estonia, then when when the, when the Soviet Union collapsed, the people who came to power were very decided that you cannot allow people who had been in the power during Soviet times to stay. So the change happened. And, and everybody who had been in, let's say, in the Middle Ages, they had been in the Soviet government. So literally, very young people came to power. And I was 25, and made a very spectacular career in the government. But then, I got married and moved to New York. And I had to start everything from scratch.   Michael Hingson ** 18:11 So you were 25, when you move to New York,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 18:15 when I married and moved to New York, and I didn't have a visa to I mean, I had a visa to stay but not to work. So it was a huge trial for me because being a perfectionist straight A student all my life, you know, very ambitious, having made a career very early, coming to New York and not having even the right to work. And my education was alien to American companies. They would ask at the interview, do you speak English, which was really ironic because we'd be speaking English. And yeah, that was quite clever   Michael Hingson ** 18:51 when people are observant.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 18:55 But yeah, it was a blow to everything. I imagined that the life would be like it was until 25. Then I had to reinvent things.   Michael Hingson ** 19:06 What did you study in university? Politics? international study part. Okay, great. So what caused you you got married and moved to New York? What caused that to happen? Especially the move.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 19:17 I married I married the son, who is the famous founder of Mindvalley. I'm the less famous co founder of Mindvalley. And he lived in New York at that time. So when we got married, I just moved to live with my husband. That was the reason.   Michael Hingson ** 19:35 Well, has that has that marriage gone? Well?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 19:40 Our relationship has gone well, but marriage is no more we separated four years ago, but we are in good relations and we still we're still a family.   Michael Hingson ** 19:52 It's good. You have children. Yes, we have two   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 19:55 children and the third big babies Mindvalley so we have business together. That's.   Michael Hingson ** 20:02 And that's the demanding baby, isn't it?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 20:07 Yes. Yeah. I would say that. They're all. They're all good source of education and self discovery. They're all very important and unique, but I think human babies more enjoyable.   Michael Hingson ** 20:26 Well, yeah. And that's in part because as, as they grow up and get more mature, they get to be unpredictable, too.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 20:37 Oh, yes, they are unpredictable. Yes, they are.   Michael Hingson ** 20:42 How old? Are they?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 20:43 So mine, a nine and 15. good moment to remember.   Michael Hingson ** 20:49 Good ages for unpredictability by any standard? Yes. Well, so what did you do about work once you moved here? Did you go into Mindvalley? Or do other things?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 21:03 Yeah, New York. Since I was not allowed to work, legally, the best thing I could do was to help the vision of Mindvalley. So usually, when people ask me how I ended up in Mindvalley, I say it's by accident, and reluctantly in a way, because I wanted to make my own career work for you and or something like that. But it wasn't on the cards for a while. But I was searching myself for for quite a few years, it was, it was in my early 30s, when I decided to try just doing Mindvalley work. Until then I was I was doing a little bit of charity, working for different un branches, getting another degree. So searching myself, and I believe that all this dedication went for, for good cause but but sometimes when something is meant for you, you are going to end up doing that sooner or later.   Michael Hingson ** 22:02 Well tell us about Mindvalley. Since we've dropped that name a number of times now,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 22:07 it's well it is it is my main job for the past 20 years. So I was bound to drop the name a few times. Perfect. It is one of the world's biggest platforms for education, personal growth and transformation. And we've been, we've been around for quite a lot of years, we work with the world, probably leading world authors and teachers in our industry. But it's also maybe a little simplistic to explain it in these terms. Because I mean, in 20 years, of course, we've grown and evolved and our mission is to help people to live happy, fulfilled extraordinary lives.   Michael Hingson ** 22:51 How do you do that? What what is my   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 22:53 by sharing about finding the teachers? Well, first of all, we find the gaps in, in our knowledge as humanity. What what humanity lacks what humanity needs to understand. Because you know, academic education gives you the academic knowledge and other knowledge about life. Like if we take simple everyday things such as parenting or building relationships, even health, we don't learn that in school, it's usually up to you to figure it out when you when you adult. So we see we see what humanity needs, we find teachers who are the best in their field to explain to teach to coach to, to lead the way. And then we just help help those ideas spread.   Michael Hingson ** 23:37 Do you do among other things, publish.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 23:41 We do our own our own format of publishing, we have online courses on our own platform. And we publish this way. And we also have events. And we have a big community. So yeah, as I said, it's it's a little unfair to explain Mindvalley through into sentences.   Michael Hingson ** 24:04 Well, that's okay. We we have time for whatever you want to explain, but I appreciate what you're saying. You know, if I start to think about different areas where humanity sometimes does things and sometimes does strange things, or we have interesting conceptions and misconceptions, kind of, for me, the first one that comes to mind is happiness. And you know, everybody wants to be happy. They talked about being happy. But yet, if you ask people what their goals are, happiness doesn't tend to be one of the first things they mentioned, which   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 24:41 I absolutely agree because it's not even not one of the first things to mention, I have seen a lot of people's goals, and I almost never have seen personal happiness as being a goal for the year See 2023 And I think there is an explanation to that we, if you listen to the contemporary discourse about happiness, we are blasted the idea that you can't pursue happiness. You can't, you can't go after it. Like even if you check out TED talks about happiness is often something, something like, you know, don't go for happiness go for meaning don't go for happiness, go for that. So we are told that happiness is unattainable. And no, no wonder no wonder, or that's one one reason why people might not consider happiness is important. The other reason is we, I've noticed that a lot of people feel guilty, wanting to be happy. I guess that comes from this idea that you have to sacrifice your own well being for something bigger, and I know it very well, coming from Soviet Union. That was the mentality of the whole country, that human individual human being doesn't matter, because matters. But that kind of martyrdom complex is actually quite characteristic to a lot of people, especially people who are interested in personal growth and transformation, people come to help the world become a better place. They want to give the one to you know, to leave a mark. And that somehow, in a lot of people's minds contradicts with the idea that you might want to be personally happy. And that's that I find so ironic. And also unfortunate, because people actually give up the idea that they could pursue their own happiness because they think it's selfish. It's not correct. It's not right. It's not noble enough. So these are the two reasons that I see why people don't value happiness enough or don't talk about it seriously enough.   Michael Hingson ** 26:48 Well, let's take it in a slightly different way. Do people know what happiness is?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 26:54 We mostly think that we do because it's such a trite word. But if you were to look beyond the surface of the word, then I guarantee you that if five people talk about happiness, discuss happiness. There are five different understandings of happiness. In that conversation. I guess the most common way we explain happiness it as an emotion or a feeling, which, which is, in my opinion, a huge mistake, because emotions by nature are transient and volatile, and they don't stick so if you equate happiness to an emotion or a feeling, then of course, it's not going to be a sustainable thing.   Michael Hingson ** 27:36 Well, what how would you define happiness or if you were to try to help somebody understand it, what would it be,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 27:42 I would like people to or society to shift shift happiness from the domain of emotions to the domain of states. So for example, if you look at classical psychology, there is no research of happiness by the way, but there are things which are very, very close to that, like, you know, positive and negative activity are very similar to happiness or the theory of you know, how the theory of explanation how you explain events, there are different different patterns, thought patterns that are characteristic to people who are optimists and pessimists. Of course, I'm using common language. So there are there are theories, that kind of touch upon the idea of happiness. But what I found really interesting about psychology is that when we talk about stress, we talk about chronic stress, for example, or anxiety or depression, these are recognized as states, states which are there to stay obviously, and we treat them as such, but then we don't have a state for the opposite. Somehow, there is no research which would equate happiness to a state and state as a much more stable thing. Although maybe I'm a little bit unfair because the theory of hedonistic I think hedonic adaptation or hedonic treadmill, I might butcher the words a little bit. That is probably the the only field of science which, which is attempting to equate happiness to a state rather than an emotion.   Michael Hingson ** 29:26 It seems to me that if we're going to talk about being happy, one of the things that's important is that we have some sort of positive view of ourselves, we must have some level of competence or for feeling or thought that what we're doing is okay. But still, that's only one small dimension of it, because ultimately, if we're going to be happy, then it seems to me that we must believe If that something is going right for us in the world,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 30:05 it's, you know, I think this this, this comment, invites philosophical view your view on the things because how can we, I think that it's a mistake to imagine happiness as some kind of, you know, some kind of blissful state without, without anything painful in it, it's, it's a mystic state which doesn't exist and very often our well meaning parents actually kind of induced that idea on us. Because parents loving parents, they try to make the environment for their children. Without pain without discomfort, they they solve all the problems for their children, or at least they try to go and sort of save the day. So when we grew up, we grew up with an idea that happiness is absence of pain. Because, you know, if the child is crying, the parent goes crazy and thinks, how do I make the child happy, when they're a little bit more grown up, reaction is slightly different. But the idea stays the same, that happiness is this eternal bliss. And, you know, my favorite thing to say, that would be half the problem. The real problem is, because of that aspiration to solve all the problems for our beloved children, we also deprive them of any functional skills to deal with the pain, which is an inevitable, so kids grow up thinking that happiness is the state of bliss, where nothing and pain unpleasant happens with that, we also don't have the skills to deal with the unpleasantness of life, which which is inevitable. Since I love quotes, you know, here I'd like to quote Susan David, she's, she has a PhD in psychology. And he's she says, discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life. So, you know, on one side, Happiness has to be a more stable condition than just an emotion. But on the other side, what happened is definitely isn't, it's not a perfect state of perfection and bliss and absence of pain.   Michael Hingson ** 32:16 as I as I think about some of what you're saying, and I like and appreciate what you're saying, it seems to me that, that one of the things that could make us happier, is knowing that we can deal with, say, when pain comes along, or something unexpected comes along, that we have found some ways to, at least start to deal with it. Or that we can be open to figuring out ways to address whatever issues are negative in our lives. And just by learning to do that, and by addressing them, even if it's just internally, that's part of what it seems to me makes a person happier, because I can sit and go, I was able to deal with it.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 33:04 Also, I think very often the unpleasant experiences are an invitation to discover something new. And and if we, as society encouraged actually curiosity in our everyday life, I think it would make a lot of suffering much lighter. I actually would encourage people who are listening to, to approach everything with curiosity, I was just now thinking of an analogy I remember on as a kid, I used to like to do very bizarre things like you would roll down a hill and get up and the whole world is spinning. And it's such an exciting state. Now as a grown up, if I were to do that, I'd probably be very uncomfortable because I don't like discomfort. I wouldn't do that just because I wouldn't enjoy the the you know, the this to say the pukey feelings. But but that's that's the difference between approaching your life with wonder and not being too judgmental. You know, something is good, something it was bad. Can you just ask yourself a question? You know, what, what does this experience say? What does it carry? What kind of information does it carry? What can I learn about myself about the world about people in the world? And I think once you approach things with curiosity, it removes quite a lot of suffering.   Michael Hingson ** 34:30 Well, I, I think we so much discourage curiosity. Don't Don't touch that you tell a child or don't do this or adults tell each other don't do that. That's not an appropriate thing. That's not the way to act. We or that's not the way to explore this and we so greatly discouraged curiosity, and I love to be curious, and I've been in places I went once was at the The Museum of Modern Art in New York at MoMA and I was there with my wife. And I think it was just the two of us. We were next to a statue and I reached up and I just touched the foot of the statue that was on a pedestal, and immediately a guard came over, you can't touch it, you can't do this, you can't do that. You know, in reality, there are statistics that show that if you allow people who can't see the same things that you can see the opportunity to at least interact with the by touching them, you're not going to damage the artistic piece. But they were so locked into one mindset, that there was no way even to touch the foot of this statue, which wasn't going to be damaged by my hands doing it. Or they could have had a mechanism so that I could have touched the statue by first maybe using a Talat and making sure that with an oil, I know oil on my fingers. But there wasn't the opportunity to observe, which is extremely unfortunate. Yeah,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 36:06 and not very fair.   Michael Hingson ** 36:10 And not very friendly. But I will say, I've never been back to MOMA since Oh, well, I wouldn't get anything out of it. So you know, it's not the same people can sit and describe or standard describe things. But it's not the same as interacting. And you get to interact, because you could see it, and I don't look at things, using the same techniques that you do. But I should be allowed to have that opportunity. And it's something that just tends not to happen. And again, so we discourage curiosity. People ask me all the time, how can you be happy? Because you can't see. And my response a couple of times has been How can you be happy when you can there's so much that goes on in the world that, that you talk about the horrible things, you watch all the horrible things on the news? And I can hear about them, too. But why is it that eyesight needs to be a requirement for happiness?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 37:10 Well, I believe, I believe a lot of things are not a requirement for happiness. You know, I had a friend Unfortunately, he's gone by now. But he had a very unusual genetic condition. So he had brittle bones. And his mom once told him, of course, I can never do justice to the story. But I just love the the sentence that his mom told him, she said, Oh, you're going to make it your curse or your blessing. And that's an interesting thing. In your case, your while your condition is very extreme, maybe, and   Michael Hingson ** 37:44 also is yours.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 37:46 And I was leading to that, but very often, you know, we maybe have have conditions like yeah, being born in a, in a crazy country, it's probably also a little bit of an extreme condition. But I agree and you know, it's your choice. Can you be happy or not? After all there, there is research about happiness and, and the happiest countries in the world. The happiest countries in the world, surprisingly, are not the richest countries. And so the our understanding of what makes us happy is just in children's shoes. And when you were talking about how people say, How can you be happy if you can't be can't see, I was reading a book, I unfortunately, don't remember which of them about happiness. But there was this interesting, interesting philosophical discussion about people who maybe don't have all the physical abilities of a healthy person, and how can they be happy? Well, the thing is that we feel emotions in very different ways. And my happiness and your happiness may be different, my fear and your fear may be different. And it doesn't mean that you know somebody's happiness or fear or pleasure or pain of any better quality. You know, when when one of the wonderful writers, Viktor Frankl, he's discovered his driving life in, in concentration camps and you know, in our contemporary society, we have this, this idea that oh, first of all problems like why why do you? Why do you complain? Why do you whine if there are people who suffer more than you, but who can tell? The I mean, the difference between suffering and suffering? You know, our psychology is built in a way that some people may suffer from what another person might deem not a big deal more acutely than another person would suffer from, for example, not having an eyesight or not having a limb or not having I do not know hearing, so we can't really judge other people's feelings and I think we shouldn't honestly we should let people choose for themselves.   Michael Hingson ** 39:53 Well, and I think you really just hit the nail on the head, if you will. It's still all about choice. And I think happiness in part is also all about choice. And we may define happiness somewhat in different ways, based on our specific involve or environments and our feelings, but we can choose on any given day or with any situation to be happy or not. I mean, we joked earlier about you're working on editing your book, and you're, you're glad you got through that. But that editing job can be something that makes you happy. Or it can make you extremely frustrated. And that's a choice.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 40:39 It is, it is yeah. Although sometimes some, some events are objectively painful. But then as we, we come back to the same conversation that we started, we can't always, we can't always avoid things, unpleasant things happen to us. But a lot of the times, we get to choose how we how we treat those events. And what do we get out of them?   Michael Hingson ** 41:08 Right. So we do have a lot of control. And even in the Soviet Union, probably, this is a guess. But you could choose to accept your circumstances until you could change it. Or you could just accept them and not worry about changing it. Or you could be more unhappy and say it just has to change and work toward change. And all of those are different choices that one could make, I would think,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 41:40 well change, change was a little questionable in the height of the Soviet Union, but a lot of people actually found a way to express themselves to stay true to the values to not have to sell their soul to the devil. So there were there's always, in fact, that same Viktor Frankl writes about people, I mean, in concentration camps, there's you are as against the wall as can be, and even writing about a choice.   Michael Hingson ** 42:07 Um, Michael J, Fox has come down with Parkinson's disease, or however you want to call it, but I remember early on, if I recall, right, he went to a place in France where people constantly laugh, and it's part of their choice and as part of their environment. And he went there because he wanted to learn how to be happier and more content with what was occurring in his life. And I guess he came back and felt that he had learned a great deal. Because it's also about introspection, and thinking about yourself and learning to teach yourself things to.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 42:48 I do believe that people in Europe enjoy life more, I'm not sure if we are happier. But we do. We place a huge value on on the process of living, just working. And here, maybe I'm a little bit unfair, but I have the impression that in America, people are very much obsessed with work way too   Michael Hingson ** 43:09 focused on work sometimes. And they, as a result, don't see the fun part. And haven't learned to figure out the fun part. So I think you're probably right, we focus so much on work that we leave the rest of life out,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 43:26 which would be actually quite okay, if you love what you do.   Michael Hingson ** 43:30 Yeah. Well, so you, you speak a lot, and you teach a lot. And you talk all about happiness and self love and self acceptance. How did you decide that that was what you really wanted to do with your life?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 43:48 Well, I as I had started to tell my story, that wasn't my choice I chose was, was first government and then I thought I'd be more helpful to humanity if I went into charity and nonprofit, and then ended up in Mindvalley. And I was in on the business side of, of the company for for many years. So helping other authors publish, I was never going to become a teacher. And also it was never, never my plan. In fact, I never thought I had anything to share. You know, in my industry, everybody writes a book so that that idea of writing a book was always in the air. But for me somewhere, it's somewhere thought, I know, but I don't have anything to see. I also I just just for the context, in school, we had a huge emphasis on literature and I was brought up on classical literature from different countries, just just to understand how intense it was. We learned literature in the original language. So we were supposed to learn Greek and Latin to retain ancient literature, which I didn't do, by the way, but for me writing books was something I something otherworldly. But I think by the time I was 14, I had gone through my own discoveries and realizations and understandings and, and of course, working with all those wonderful teachers and authors, it all rubs off and you start creating your own theories in your head. So it wasn't a quick conscious decision that this is what I want to do. It's just that at some point, the message was so right that I just couldn't hold it in, you know, like, like, if you're pregnant with a baby, the baby has to come out when the baby's ready. So in my case, I just, I just had to had to start speaking and teaching and writing a book.   Michael Hingson ** 45:43 Yeah, it just became what you had to do. And that makes sense. But it it became your passion. And probably everything that happened before then built to that time.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 45:55 Probably, yeah, we'll see. I still have a lot of hopefully, a lot of years to go, maybe. Maybe I'll discover that that was also built up to something.   Michael Hingson ** 46:04 Well, that's what makes life fun and perhaps unpredictable. But still, what makes it fun? I agree. I agree. Nothing wrong with discovery.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 46:13 Yes, I think our life mission a little too seriously.   Michael Hingson ** 46:19 Yeah, yes. Well, and I love that you not only quote, people who are alive and real people, but that you do read fiction as well. But I think some of the best imagination is come from fiction writing, and there's nothing wrong with fiction. Again,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 46:37 I can't believe somebody would imagine that something is wrong. But it not only imagination, you know, a lot of the fiction is the forerunner of personal growth and transformation. Because if you look at the things which have stayed on the surface, of, you know, of human attention, there have been always a lot of books written, what we have right now is the best of the best. So if you look at some of the old works, authors have been asking themselves the question, how to be a better human for centuries. After all, even even contemporary personal growth, teachers refer to Stoics, who are like 1000s of years old works, but even they were philosophers. Of course, philosophy and personal growth are quite close enough areas. But for example, one of my favorite authors, Dostoyevsky, his Russian novelist, considered himself a philosopher as much as a writer. And, and he was very much concerned with the evolution of human, you know, human character, and human spirit. But take almost any classic, they all ask themselves the question, What makes someone a good human being?   Michael Hingson ** 47:52 Sure. Well, even today, when you look at some of the more modern things like the the Harry Potter series, everybody talks about Harry Potter, making children read more, and so on. But when you look at it, at the most basic level, it is all about what makes a person a good human being and the fact that we can learn and we can discover more about ourselves than we ever thought we would we would be able to do.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 48:16 Yeah, I agree. And there are a few gems in, in almost any work of fiction that you take. Of course, we have to recognize that there is fiction, which is written just for pure entertainment. But in a way, it's like movies as well, you know, how many wonderful deep wisdoms do we find in some of the movies? And then there are movies, which are pure entertainment? And do you feel ashamed that you have seen it occasionally?   Michael Hingson ** 48:45 Until you realize that maybe there was a lesson there after?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 48:48 Maybe? So So yes, I am, I think, and that's, that's the idea that I hold very dear that, that there is learning in almost any experience that you have in your life, if you have the curiosity, the courage, and the presence of mind to just be aware to notice to ask yourself the questions. You really can learn from almost any interaction that's happening in your life, learn about yourself, learn about world, learn about other people.   Michael Hingson ** 49:21 And that's where it gets back to curiosity and making choices and really paying attention to self discovery.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 49:29 Yes, you, you know, the best way to for self discovery is to actually be locked up with yourself for a long enough time.   Michael Hingson ** 49:40 One of my favorite quotes is from the original Muppet Movie. I can't remember if it was Fozzie Bear, or, or somebody who said, I am just beside myself and the person whoever it was immediately shout back. Yeah. Can the two of you live together? or something like that was really cute. That's   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 50:02 genius. When genius codes come from very unlikely characters, I think it's always very invigorating. Like, wow, that   Michael Hingson ** 50:15 just came up so fast. And I actually was the second or third time I saw the movie that I heard it, it was just so clever. I'm going oh my gosh. Or one of my favorite quotes, which isn't a fear, quote, you were we were talking about that. But is still it's a Star Wars quote from Yoda. Do or do not? There is no try, which I think is absolutely true. You either do it and it gets back to choice again.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 50:40 Yeah, yada. Yada is a source of wisdom. Yeah. So yeah, I agree. And Gandalf as well with Gandalf. So yeah, there's a lot of wisdom if you if you open to see it, and notice it and, and I've actually learned a lot reading, reading novels, and sometimes unexpected things. For example, talking about being stuck with yourself, there's a quote by of all people, Agatha Christie, who is the crime queen, when she has a one of one of her characters, she says, a wonderful thing, if you were to actually almost go to that person, if you were to spend a lot of time with yourself, what would you discover about yourself? And that was that novel was actually very brilliant from the psychological point of view. So yeah, you never know where you find the lesson.   Michael Hingson ** 51:37 Which book was that? Which novel was it?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 51:42 It's called Lost in the spring. And it's nowadays, it's published under Agatha Christie. But you know, she's she started and she wrote, not just crime Nice. So that's, that's her non crime novel. She used to write under a different pseudonym, it was Mary Westmacott.   Michael Hingson ** 52:02 You, you, you certainly prioritize in your life, a relationship with yourself, and you want to have a positive relationship. And I think that's important. It seems to me that we all ought to do more introspection than we do. And one of the things as I mentioned earlier to you, we're writing a new book. And we're going to talk a lot of that about introspection. Because I think we never look enough at ourselves. To really figure out what we're teaching ourselves. I used to say, I'm my own worst critic. And I've learned that's a horrible thing to say that it's much more appropriate to say, I'm my own best teacher, because ultimately, people can give me information they can advise me, but they can't teach me I have to decide to teach myself and to truly learn it. And it still all comes from within. But when you're dealing with the relationship with you, how do you compare that and prioritize that in terms of relationships with other people,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 53:03 we are just touching upon a very deep topic. So if we, if we were to talk about relationship with with the self, there is so much to cover, but I believe that your relationship with the world is a reflection, mirror reflection of your relationship with yourself. That's what I have experienced. I don't have research to back me up. But what I have experienced that, if you learn to, to be tolerant of your imperfections, it's much easier to be tolerant of other people's imperfections. If you learn to be forgiving towards yourself, it's much easier to forgive other people. And it goes into anything you you touch, you know, kindness, compassion, love. And so I believe that you have to sort out your relationship with yourself. Because if you are at peace with yourself, it's much easier to be at peace with the world around you.   Michael Hingson ** 54:01 And if you if you truly do that, you also discover not to be as judgmental as we tend to like to be because we think it's so comfortable and comforting to say how much better we are than other people. And we got to get away from that.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 54:19 Well, yeah, Judge judgment is an interesting thing. I think if we replace judgment with curiosity, the world would be a much better place. But with that said, I also can appreciate a good whining session once and I think we all need to express you know, the other day I got very upset with a series of events, you know, sometimes a bad thing happened to you and you you, you're patient, and you hold it in and then the next thing happened, and the next thing happened, and at some point, it's, it can snap and actually it does snap and it's good if it does so, last week, I had I had an episode and I was just lucky because it was going to my kickboxing class but Oh, I still needed to drive there. And I was already on on the verge. So what I did, thank God, I was alone at home, I just made a roll. I was so angry. And there you go. But you know what's interesting, I was sharing it with my kickboxing teacher that day, that I actually felt physical pleasure in expressing that feeling. And in roaring, because you know, the roar has this vibration. And it makes your heart vibrate as well, and what I was talking about, but I guess I was leading to the ideas that, you know, we can't judge our life experience, we can't judge ourselves too hard. It's just not healthy. And it is it is healthy, to sometimes let yourself be imperfect. And sometimes let yourself be wrong. And sometimes let yourself be angry. Or all these things that we think that we deem are horrible. Because expressing it is much healthier for you and for your environment and holding it in. You know, in psychology, there's such a phenomenon as emotional leakage. Just because you don't accept or allow certain unpleasant, painful or unsavory emotions, doesn't make them disappear. It's like hiding your head in the sand, they will stay. And the thing with our, with our emotions is that if you if you don't live through them in a healthy way, they will start poisoning you. And at some point, they will explode, or leak, which is the root of passive aggression, aggressive behavior, which so many of us exhibit. So yeah, it's sometimes a good writing session is also good. The question is, what's your default regime? And if your default regime is judging, whining and complaining, then that's a very definite red flag.   Michael Hingson ** 56:59 Yeah, there's probably some things to deal with when that happens. But the other side of that is, as we've talked about a lot today, if you go back and look at what happened, and you do express your feelings about it, then it ultimately comes down to now, what do I learn from it?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 57:21 And what do I do with it?   Michael Hingson ** 57:23 And what do I do with it? Right, exactly. Well, speaking of doing, you are writing a book, why don't you if you would tell us about becoming blossom? Yeah, becoming   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 57:33 Folsom is exactly, exactly about recognizing your imperfections. And rather than demonizing them and, and trying to fix yourself, recognizing that, you know, if you will try to fix yourself, you imply that you're broken, very often, humans are not broken, they're wounded. And, and that requires healing, not fixing. And when I talk about being floor, some I talk about recognizing your imperfections, your dragons, your scratches, your dance your wounds, whatever it is, or maybe your bad past, or whatever it is, recognizing that it's part of you, and choosing for it to become your blessing rather than your curse.   Michael Hingson ** 58:19 How do you teach people or what can you teach people about self assessment and doing a better job of helping people assess themselves?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 58:32 Well, I would I would have to answer that in two parts. First, I don't teach people.   Michael Hingson ** 58:37 I don't believe in i Yeah, that's probably the wrong way to. But   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 58:40 no, no, I guess it's, it's because I am officially a teacher. But I don't believe in teaching. Because I think and we were talking about that.   Michael Hingson ** 58:48 How do you help people discover,   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 58:51 I can share ideas and people will hear when they're ready. And they when they want I am rather an a companion to people on their path to transformation than their teacher. Now, I also am not sure about self assessment, per se, because assessment sounds a little bit academic, in my opinion, I more believe in just dancing with your life going with the flow and taking your life in the moment. So of course, there are techniques and I mean, I've been wrestling growth for 20 years. So a lot of the teachers start with sitting you down and making you assess whatever area of your life that you want to improve, including probably yourself. Sorry, but I don't believe in recipes in life. Yeah, I think I think that what works for you today might not work for you tomorrow and might not have been what you needed. 10 years ago, what works for you might not work for another person. So I don't believe in recipes in life. I don't believe in tutorials and to do list and not to do lists. I believe that life is literally a dog Dance, a dance. And the dance means that you have to feel your partner, you have to feel the music, you have to be aware of your environment. And, and yes, we drill the steps and we practice. But ultimately you, you know, you can't prepare yourself for life in the sense that it keeps happening to you all the time. It's not that you, you do your personal growth and transformation, and then you can live happily ever after, it doesn't work like that you keep doing it all your life. So because of that I am not a huge fan of assessing. I know there is a lot of there are a lot of tools for assessment. And there are a lot of, you know, systems which put you in boxes and tell you what you are. I believe in, in curiosity, you know, I'm translating and quoting one wonderful teacher that I interviewed years ago, he had this interesting expression in Russian, though, that you have to touch life with your bare hand. And it might be a little bit odd. But that's exactly what I believe in life is happening in this very present moment. Can you feel it? Can you live it? And can you enjoy it to the maximum? Whatever it gives you? Can you can you squeeze it, squeeze the juice out of it. And that's why what I share with people is the system of staying honest, and kind to yourself, and being curious, and brave, courageous, and just, just not shying away from life.   Michael Hingson ** 1:01:35 Well, and self assessment using that word is probably not the best word to have used. But I'm a firm believer in even at the end of the day, and maybe even at the beginning of the day, looking at what goes on let's take at the end of the day and and say, gee, how did that go? How was that? What can I do to even make it better? Or something didn't go? Well? What can I do with it? And and so assessment isn't really right, because you're right, it puts in boxes, but there's nothing wrong with us, looking at the things that we do, and looking for that internal Spirit in us to teach us how to make life even better or live life more to the fullest?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 1:02:22 Well, the first question should be I guess, am I enjoying it? Is that what I want? Or do I want to change anything about it, but I do recommend to? Well, I would say three practices. One of them is absolutely fundamental for any kind of transformation is obviously the well the habit or the skill of being aware of what's going on. Because everything starts with awareness. Unless you're aware, you can't change things. But I keep it as a separate, separate concept. Because it's not a practice, per se, it's more like a mod that you switch on and then you can't switch it off anymore. Excuse me, my throat is giving, it's giving me a little bit about the two practices that I strongly recommend is the practice of journaling and introspection. In fact, combined. Because journaling allows you to put vague sensations into words. And it really helps to crystallize and to bring clarity to what what's going on. Sometimes we rush through life without putting our finger on the pulse. So when you journal, you're kind of forced to, to, to be a little bit more clear about what's what's going on. And introspection, of course, because introspection for me is one of the favorite. Yeah. Everything Everything in my life is. So what does it say about me?   Michael Hingson ** 1:03:51 Or what does it say about what I should do the next time it happens again. But yeah, intersection is exactly, I think the right term to use, and we just don't do enough of it. In our lives. We're too busy. As you said, like with work and so on. We worry so much about all of that, that we never enjoy life and we never enjoy the absolute thrill of introspection in our in our own minds.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 1:04:17 I would only want against being very critical and judgment.   Michael Hingson ** 1:04:22 Exactly. Exactly that and that you've got to stay away from that. That's, I think, totally different than introspection.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 1:04:30 And yeah, there are so many questions you can ask yourself about anything that's happening in your life. And actually, if you do turn experiences inward and see your interaction with your life's events, then then you do learn a lot about yourself. It's It's inevitable.   Michael Hingson ** 1:04:48 If you had one piece of practical advice that you could give to everyone listening, what would it be? I know is that is that an open ended question or what?   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 1:04:59 No I couldn't give so many so much. And that's that's probably a very thankless thing to do. But I will quote, I will quote again from a movie from Cinderella in the production of 2005. And there's this quote by Cinderella's mother because says, have courage and be kind. And I think that's one of the best advices   Michael Hingson ** 1:05:22 I think that absolutely makes sense. And there's no better piece of advice than we could ever give in in life, have courage and be kind period. There's never anything wrong with doing that. Well, I've really enjoyed doing this. And I wasn't sure how we were going to get through a whole hour and look at us, we're we're getting your throat to be thirsty. And it's been almost 70 minutes. And this has absolutely been fun.   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani ** 1:05:51 Thank you so much. Thank you for for this one. Wonderful and very engaged conversation. I enjoyed real life conversations.   Michael Hingson ** 1:05:59 How can people learn more about you maybe reach out to you,

You can learn more about Kristina and order her new book #BecomingFlawesome on her website at https://kristinamand.com/#book You can learn more about bLU Talks at www.blutalks.com About Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani Kristina is a Co-founder of Mindvalley and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 18 years. She is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, everyday life philosopher. Kristina is also the author of transformational quests “7 Days To Happiness” and "Live By Your Own Rules". Kristina speaks about personal transofrmation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself and a path to happiness.

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani's 'Becoming Flawesome': A Must-Read Journey of Personal Growth and Transformation Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of  Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 17 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more.  She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world.  Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveller. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices.   Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. In June 2023 Kristina releases her first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself.  You can find more information about Kristina here: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and website.  

How do you live your most authentic life? On the journey of self-development and healing, this is a question most of us face. Particularly for those of us who are also seeking to contribute in a career or business along the way, being the authentic, whole human who we are can feel like a big challenge. But Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is here to help us with this big question, encouraging you to embrace everything that makes you awesome – flaws and all.Kristina is the co-founder of self-development giant Mindvalley, and has had a unique and very personal behind-the-scenes look at the challenges people face on the road to success. In her new book, Becoming Flawesome, Kristina encourages self-honesty as a path to true happiness and authenticity, and that starts with embracing every piece and part of yourself. In this conversation, she talks about unshaming the bits of ourselves we've seeked to part ways with, and how facing our "dragons" and meeting them with compassion, is the best way to lead our most fulfilling life.Get  a FREE copy of Kristina's book, plus free bonuses MEET KRISTINAKristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of  Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career to personal transformation learning from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her then-husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. Kristina is the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. You can find more information about Kristina on: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Website Support the showSupport the show to become an official Untethered Unicorn! Other ways you can support: Share an episode and tag Jen on Instagram @untetheredjen Follow/subscribe to get updates of new episodes Leave a review so people know this who isn't an old, funky banana peel. It's crisp, baby! Connect with Jen JenLiss.com @untetheredjen Jen's coaching program will launch again in January 2024. Music created and produced by Matt Bollenbach

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her then-husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world. Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveller. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices. Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness.In July 2023, with the help of Hay House Publishing, Kristina releases her very first book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself. You can find more information about Kristina here: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and website. https://kristinamand.com/Becoming Flawesome: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Flawesome-Living-Imperfectly-Authentic/dp/1401974341Support Andrew's work on Patreon HERE and access all bonus episodes + other benefits. https://www.patreon.com/4ndrewpledgerConnect with Andrew Pledger through social media, and his website. https://andrewpledger.mypixieset.com/links Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

EPISODE SUMMARY Join scientist and mindset & high-performance coach Claudia Garbutt and Mindvalley co-founder Kristina Mand-Lakhiani as they talk about entrepreneurship and personal development.   In this episode we talk about: - Sharing uncomfortable truths & embracing your dragons - The importance of playfulness, fun & "crazy" things - Perfectionism, ambition & dealing with expectations    EPISODE NOTES Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 17 years of her career to teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more.  She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their careers. It was shortly after that Kristina and her husband Vishen founded Mindvalley. From a small meditation business operating out of the couple's apartment in New York, the company quickly grew into a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance to hundreds of thousands of students all around the world.  Kristina believes life is too important to be taken seriously and makes sure to bring fun into every one of her roles: as a teacher, mother, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and world traveler. Kristina helps her students to virtually hack happiness by taking them through her unique framework - “Hacking happiness” - a unique framework of balancing your life, taking in every moment, and paying close attention to the small daily choices.   Kristina is also the author of three transformational quests - "7 Days To Happiness", "Live By Your Own Rules.” and "The Art of Being Flawesome". Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. In June 2023 Kristina released her brand new book - "Becoming Flawesome". In her book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself.  #BecomingFlawesome  You can find more information about Kristina here: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and website. ------------------   Music credit: Vittoro by Blue Dot Sessions (www.sessions.blue)   -----------------   If you enjoyed this episode, learned something new, had an epiphany moment - or were reminded about a simple truth that you had forgotten, please let me know by rating & reviewing this show on https://linktr.ee/wiredforsuccess.   Oh, and make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss out on any of the amazing future episodes! If you don't listen on iTunes, you can find all the episodes here.         Disclaimer: Podcast Episodes might contain sponsored content.

Today I wanted to share with you my story for all my new listeners! In todays episode I share with you how I went from depressed to now living my best life. When I was starting out my personal development journey I had no idea how important consistency and accountability was because little did I know…that's how habits are formed!   Back in my teenage years, I was lost. So lost because I lacked purpose.  My purpose was always the end result of getting to the olympics for equestrian (Showjumping). That was the reason I woke up at 5am, trained, went to school and then trained again at 5pm.  My horses were my life. It wasn't until both two horses passed away and we moved off acreage when I became deeply depressed.  Everything I ever worked for didn't mean a thing.  I felt isolated and alone.  Riding my horses was my emotional outlet.  Now I had none. So I kept my emotions in, bottled them up. One day I decided…If life is not worth living then why am I still alive?  Every day I just wish I would be taken out by a car or some other freak accident so I wouldn't have to do it myself. (It sounds selfish now, but that's how bad I was hurting) Till one day I said to God, “I'm done! If you don't take away this pain I am gone tomorrow.” I woke up the next day.  It was a miracle.  I had no emotional heartache. No suicidal thoughts. And no sadness in my heart. I was miraculously healing. I read Dean Graziosi book “Millionaire Success Habits” when I was 17 and was OBSESSED with it.  I then went on this self development journey of creating the right habits to build and create my dream life.  This is just the beginning…. Fast forward to today, my mission and purpose is to help people wake up happy every single day.  I am the author of the book 30 Days To Happiness and have run two businesses since the age of 19.  I have 7 years experience in the health, fitness, wellness and coaching space and I am obsessed with routine, habits, neuroscience and the subconscious mind.  And now have over 100,000 followers and connections across all platforms and work with business owners and leaders to create the right habits to wake up happy every single day to grow personally and professionally.  My formula for happiness is simple yet quite profound.  Habits = Happiness  Get your own personalised habit strategy for you to reach your full potential this year! Book a free habit strategy call here Join the happiness formula course to learn the habits to wake up happy every single day. Get your signed copy of 30 Days To Happiness If you could relate to my story feel free to reach out and share your own experience.Stay happy Holly 

Holly Smith is the Author & founder of 30 Days To Happiness. Holly's purpose is to help people wake up happy every single day. She helps people create amazing habits and teaches them to hold themselves accountable. In this conversation, we cover:

In today's episode, our guest is Kristiana Mand Lakhiani. She is the Co-founder of Mindvalley and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 18 years. She is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and everyday life philosopher. Kristina is also the author of transformational quests "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules". She also speaks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. [5:00] Why should I listen to you?  I'm not afraid to express my opinions and I enjoy engaging in intellectually stimulating conversations, especially with someone as interesting and insightful as yourself. It's always enjoyable to converse with others, particularly when I'm in public and can ask them questions about their experiences and interests. I'm naturally curious and find it fulfilling to connect with people on a personal level. Talking to you has been an absolute pleasure. Additionally, I've discovered that the ability to discuss love and other complex ideas in a compelling manner can be entertaining and thought-provoking. It's not simply a matter of saying "I love you," but rather exploring the meaning and power behind that sentiment. [7:25] Would you mind elaborating on that conversation a bit more?  I'm glad you brought up that particular chapter because it's my favorite one, and Ashley's favorite as well, as I've been engaged in personal growth for over 20 years. The chapter addresses the concept of spiritual bypassing, which was coined by John Rawls. Essentially, we sometimes become so enamored with certain spiritual theories and concepts that we use them to avoid dealing with our own personal problems. In the conversation you mentioned, where I was being bombarded with expressions of love, many of us have experienced this situation before. Rather than facing conflict or disagreement head-on, the person in question tries to escape by simply professing their love for us. Although it's difficult to pinpoint a single term for this behavior, it often falls under the umbrella of passive-aggressive behavior. By avoiding conflict, we might seem pleasing on the surface, but deep down, the unpleasant feeling will eventually manifest itself. There are several risks associated with this type of behavior, with the most painful being the doubt that it can create within oneself. When we disagree with someone and they respond with "Why don't you calm down? It's you who's nervous," we might start questioning our own sanity. [16:58] Would you mind sharing some of the things that you found difficult at the beginning and had to overcome to gain strength?  If we are specifically talking about my child's diagnosis, it's not so much that he's a difficult child, in the sense that most people wouldn't know that his brain functions differently. So the learning point for me was that seeking professional help is necessary when facing challenges in life. We don't have to figure everything out on our own. It's interesting how we are not taught to deal with life's challenges using professional help. We are expected to figure everything out ourselves, which is especially true when schools only provide academic education that doesn't necessarily translate to real-life situations. In terms of my growth as a parent, the first lesson was about patience and understanding that love alone is not always enough in relationships or anything else. I also learned the meaning of unconditional love, which I believe we get closest to with our children. Later on, I realized that it's okay to prioritize my own happiness and that it's not selfish to do so. One of the biggest lessons I learned from my children is that everyone has the right to their own journey, including the right to make mistakes. This can be challenging for parents because we want to protect our children from pain and difficult experiences. There were times when I had to make a conscious choice to allow my child to face the consequences of life not always going their way, even though I could have intervened and saved the day. [19:45] Is there a dynamic way that the children are given lessons that they need to learn?  Parents often assume different roles when it comes to their children, with mothers typically taking on the role of the caretaker and problem-solver, while fathers may be more inclined to encourage their children to figure things out on their own, particularly when it comes to boys. However, I hesitate to make judgments about Vicious Journey's parenting style, as I am not privy to his personal journey and transformation with his children. For me, the experience of raising my own children has taught me important lessons about love, including the willingness to accept and support my children even when I disagree with their choices. This means recognizing that challenges, difficulties, and hardships are an inevitable part of life, and teaching my children the skills they need to navigate them, such as problem-solving and executive functioning. When I first began teaching about happiness, I often emphasized the importance of acknowledging and accepting the inevitability of pain and struggle in life. Many people misunderstand happiness, believing that it is possible to live in a world without discomfort or adversity. However, this is simply not realistic. By embracing the challenges of life and teaching our children to do the same, we can help them develop resilience and prepare them for the ups and downs that are an inevitable part of the human experience. [30:05] Do you mind unpacking the aspect of putting oneself first?  As previously mentioned, I was born and raised in the Soviet Union, a society known for its idealism and emphasis on community building. In this societal framework, individuals were deemed less necessary and this was deeply ingrained in my worldview until my teenage years. Moreover, my favorite literary period was the end of the 19th century which further reinforced my belief that a person's most important goal in life was to be of use to the rest of the world. However, in my late 20s to early 30s, I experienced some trauma from constantly prioritizing others over myself. It was during this time that I stumbled upon a poster with an unusual message. The poster encouraged individuals to prioritize their happiness, a foreign concept that left me puzzled and questioning its validity. Years later, I found myself working with refugees in Malaysia, mainly from Myanmar, while simultaneously building Mindvalley, a company focused on teaching individuals to live happy, fulfilled, and extraordinary lives. This contradiction between the human tragedy I witnessed and the message of happiness we were promoting at Mindvalley created cognitive dissonance within me. At an event where the Dalai Lama was speaking, I finally posed my question to him, struggling to reconcile the two seemingly opposite worlds I was experiencing. His response, "You can't help anyone if you're not happy," hit me like a sledgehammer. Here was a person who had dedicated his life to making the world a better place, yet he understood the importance of personal happiness and well-being. I realized that personal well-being and happiness are incompatible with the desire to be useful to the world or be a good parent, entrepreneur, or athlete is a fallacy. In fact, prioritizing one's own well-being and happiness is a necessary step toward being able to help others and solve problems more effectively. Although the topics of happiness and self-love may not be seen as sexy or pragmatic in some circles, I have found that discussing these topics with pragmatic individuals, including entrepreneurs, can be enlightening. It is often assumed that personal well-being and happiness must be sacrificed for more "serious" problems, such as economic crises or raising children. However, this assumption is misguided, as prioritizing personal well-being and happiness can actually make it easier to tackle these so-called serious problems. [39:45] Can you tell us what your book is about?  After my previous rant about the importance of taking care of oneself, I noticed that the book in question is about self-love and is called Becoming Foursome. The book focuses on finding one's way back to oneself, which can often be a challenge for individuals who have been busy pursuing success and following societal ideals. Personally, I found myself in this situation around the age of 30–40, where I felt like my body was going through the motions but I wasn't truly present in my own life. It was a strange feeling, but it prompted me to start asking questions and seeking ways to improve my well-being. Eventually, I realized that I needed to reconnect with myself, and the journey back to myself began. The book is quite research-heavy and a nerdy/geeky read, which I personally appreciate. I like to have facts and scientific support before making statements or claims. The Journey Back to You is a transformative journey, and I don't want to spoil it for anyone by giving away too many details. It's like picking up Lord of the Rings and knowing how it ends—it takes away from experience.  [43:40]  Do you know that 85% of adults have self-esteem?  Self-esteem is not synonymous with self-love, although it is often a byproduct of it or the lack of it. This is a common issue, as there are many misunderstandings and distortions around what healthy self-love actually entails. For example, some people think that egocentrism or self-love is excessive, but that is not the case. Similarly, complacency is often seen as a sign of too much self-love, but it is actually a distortion. We may also mistakenly believe that our idealized self-image is an indicator of self-love, when in fact these misconceptions are markers of its absence or lack. It's challenging to talk about self-love when we don't fully comprehend it. Therefore, it's crucial to understand that self-love matters, especially during times when we're not at our best. It's comparable to the love we have for children. It's easy to love them when they behave well, but it's much more challenging when they make mistakes or don't follow our advice. In those situations, it's necessary to accept that they have their own journey and to continue loving them unconditionally. Similarly, it's crucial to learn how to love ourselves even when we make mistakes or don't meet our own expectations. This may be difficult, but it's a crucial aspect of cultivating a healthy sense of self-love. [49:34] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  That it's going to be cool, and you should have fun.  Key Quotes  [11:15-11:20] The words don't convey the actual meaning of your feelings; it's everything about you that does.  [25:20-25:25] We often profess the truth without knowing that what is true to us might not be true to someone else.  How to connect with Kristina Mand Lakhiani  Instagram: https://instagram.com/kristinamand?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand?mibextid=LQQJ4d  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414   

Some people are afraid of routines. They think that they make life boring. But there's a difference between a routine and a rut. If you build great routines, not only will you get more done, but you can actually be on your way toward a happier life. On today's episode, Tony Wechsler and Holly Smith are going to discuss “Better Routines for a Happier Life.” Holly is the author of the book - "30 Days To Happiness." A book written to help you create life long happiness habits to live your best life! You can order Holly's book on Amazon or go to - https://30daystohappiness.com.au/ She can also be reached on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/hollysmith-bizfit-coach/ or Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/holly_smith00/ As always, you are invited to join the Strive to Thrive Facebook group for a supportive community.... https://www.facebook.com/groups/strivetothrivepage BTW...If you love this episode, please take a screenshot, share it on your Facebook story and tag me @TonyWechsler

Hey! Thank you so much for being here! I am on a mission to help a million people wake up happy every single day and if this podcast helps me do that,  then I am on way my :) Every one is trying to become happier,  wealthier,  healthier and just find a place in this crazy world. Life can be tough! That's why every week I going to bring you episode after episode of motivation, actions steps & the tool & strategies to overcome daily struggles & conquer all fear,  anxiety & confusion.Everyone's definition of happiness is completely different. That's why I am going to bring on some amazing guest's who have probably gone through what you may have or are going through right now. You can then learn from them & then implement the habits into your own life to live life on your own terms!Motivation, action steps, how's to's, personal development, mental health & encouragement are just some of the conversations we will be having here at 30 days to happiness.Are you ready to get your formula for happiness? Let's go! -Holly 

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Join me in conversation with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani – Mindvalley co-founder, entrepreneur, speaker, author, and all-round incredible human being. As an advocate of happiness from within, Kristina and I talk about what happiness truly is (or, perhaps more aptly, what it is not) and why despite it being the number one pursuit for all of us, very few treat it as a serious enough goal. Kristina shares with us some of the key principles we ought to understand when it comes to building the muscle of happiness and how we can benefit from holding space for unpleasant and difficult emotions.   CONNECT WITH KRISTINA   Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an entrepreneur, international speaker, and artist. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, she brings her female perspective into the company leadership. As an advocate for happiness within, she takes her kids on trips to the Amazon Jungle to recharge or joins groups of entrepreneurs, such as Maverick1000 on Richard Branson's Necker Island. Kristina is also the author of a transformational quest, "7 Days To Happiness" - https://kristinamand.com/7-days-to-happiness/ and "Live By Your Own Rules" - https://kristinamand.com/#programs.   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/     CONNECT WITH NAT   Instagram: www.instagram.com/iameverwell LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nat-lipecka/   Download your FREE ‘YES! – Year End Success!' workbook, designed to help high achievers double down on their goals, refocus their attention and sprint across to the finish line: https://mailchi.mp/34f9089faea6/yes-2021   For your FREE 30-min. 1:1 laser-coaching Performance Power Up, e-mail info@everwellcoach.com with the word “Power Up” in the subject line. The intention behind these calls is for you to bring one problem to our session and walk away with clarity, focus and confidence to take empowered action.   ABOUT OUR SPONSOR HEALF   This episode is sponsored by Healf – online curator of everyday healthy living and wellbeing products across the four key categories of Eat, Move, Mind and Sleep. With the amount of noise out there about what healthy living is, Healf is on a mission to cut through the noise and make healthy living simple and achievable, by stripping it back to basics and meeting you where you are. From supplements and superfoods to aromatherapy and yoga mats, Healf has got all your needs covered at a Healfy 15% percent off with our special listener's code EVERWELL15, which you can redeem over a Healf.com (www.healf.com).

EP 194 - Love Life As It Is with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani In this episode, Kristina Mand-Lakhiani and Alex share how beautiful life is, and the best ways to enjoy it to its fullest. Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an entrepreneur, international speaker, and artist. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, she brings her female perspective into the company leadership. As an advocate for happiness within, she takes her kids on trips to the Amazon Jungle and joins groups of entrepreneurs, such as Maverick1000, on Richard Branson's Necker Island. Kristina was recognized as one of the Top 10 influential people online making a difference in the world today and was awarded the Influencers For Change (IFC) by the Global Impact Creators (GIC). She authored two books of transformational quests, "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules.” Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. She is the co-founder of Mindvalley - a global educational organization - and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 15 years. Kristina is also a mom of 2, a wife, a philanthropist, and a passionate artist. She is currently an international speaker and an inspiring role model for women who feel limited by society's expectations. In this episode we discuss: - How we can be happy and exist powerfully during these tough times - Our relationship with ourselves - The impossibility of changing others - The stress we create about not being able to change others - The world is a mirror and whatever it triggers in you, is about you, not the world - Being human instead of being perfect - Enjoying life exactly as it is - When you want something you don't have, you are reflecting an issue with it not being good enough the way it is - There are no recipes in life. Life is like a dance where the partner is constantly changing - Hedonic Adaptation - Parenting - Why meditation or even gratitude will become a disempowering habit - Our definition of success is ridged - Relationships You can connect with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani here: Instagram: @kristinamand Facebook: @kristinamand Website: www.kristinamand.com Free Giveaway - You can check Kristina's free MasterClass here. You can connect with Alex Terranova here: Instagram: @InspirationalAlex Website: www.TheDreamMason.com Email: Alex@TheDreamMason.com Remember, You are a DreamMason®… Because Your Dreams Don't Build Themselves. Alex Terranova is a DreamMason, the author of Fictional Authenticity, a Personal & Professional Performance Coach, and he Hosts The DreamMason Podcast, Flip the Lens & Co-Hosts The Coaching Show Podcast. He supports strong & successful high achievers to unmask convention, embrace the rebel within them, and more deeply explore the complex and agitated edges of our existence to create more clarity, freedom, and success. Alex has been featured on NBC, Fox, Focus TV's Good Morning LaLa Land, NBC Radio, Elephant Journal, The University of Adversity Podcast, The Unleash Success Podcast, The Rising Man Podcast, The Sovereign Society Podcast, Love Living Radio, and an episode of The Villain Crusher.

My guest this week is Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, and she is the Co-founder of Mindvalley and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 17 years. She is an incredibly talented international speaker, serial entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and a mother of 2 kids. Kristina is also the author of a transformational quest, "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules.” Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. She was recognized as one of the Top 10 influential people online making a difference in the world today and was awarded the Influencers For Change (IFC) by the Global Impact Creators (GIC).

Hey you wild women! My next guest is Co-founder of Mindvalley, the premier personal growth learning platform, and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 18 years. She is an incredibly talented international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and a mother of 2 kids. Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani is also the author of a transformational quest, "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules.” She talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. She was recognized as one of the Top 10 influential people online making a difference in the world today and was awarded the Influencers For Change (IFC) by the Global Impact Creators (GIC). In this episode you will learn about: Where Kristina is from What her mission in life is How letting go of perfectionism can set you and your business free The importance of focusing on the tasks that only you can do and outsourcing the rest The advice she received from Richard Branson The value of making space for creativity Why she cites fear and indecision as her biggest business mistakes Why she believes that ‘what doesn't kill you makes you stronger' is actually not true How context defines how we react to trauma What inspired her to co-found Mindvalley Kristina's leadership journey What her book is about and why she decided to write it How giving up perfectionism is still something she works at daily How she uses scheduling to keep her priorities organized but why she doesn't force work if she isn't in her flow state Why slowing down and listening to herself is key to keeping her aligned HIGHLIGHTS (26:41) What inspired you to co-found Mindvalley? (30:18) Tell us about your leadership journey. (40:51) Tell me about your book? (44:18) How do you balance running your businesses and your personal life? Public Shoutouts: Book: Emotional Agility by Susan David Book: The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday Resources: Website: Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani YouTube Channel: Kristina Mand-Lakhiani Instagram: @kristinamand What it means to be a wild woman: “I think ‘wild' is one of the sides that most of us have and some of us embrace and some of us don't. It's a good quality to show from time to time and to practice being ok with what you are. I believe I have other sides as well, not just wild, but wild is the fun one.” --Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani ------------------------ Renée Warren is an award-winning entrepreneur, a 7-figure business starter, and the founder of We Wild Women, a business dedicated to helping women launch their dream business. She previously founded an industry-recognized PR agency that worked with funded technology startups from South Africa to San Diego. She's a mom to Irish Twins (not planned), a published author, and a drummer. Rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcast "I love Into The Wild, and think it's the best thing since sliced bread."

The pursuit of happiness is more than just a great movie. Now more than ever, people are trying to find ways to buy it, sell it, create it, keep it, find it, and yes even hoard it. Happiness for so many people around the world has become majestic unicorn that so many have written off as simply a child's dream.Well, happiness is very much real and it is achievable! We missed something, something went way over our heads when it comes to happiness. When the desire to find our purpose we missed that our purpose was not actually for us. Purpose allows us to live for something beyond ourselves. It gives us the reason to get up instead of just pulling the covers over our heads each morning. Shelley, a self-awareness expert, gave us insight into reigniting that smile on the inside of us. No matter the level you find yourself on in your entrepreneurial journey, reigniting that smile is necessary for you to be able to move to the next level of success. Shelley's gems: ~ Sometimes you have to let the tears fall~ Know when you need to take a personal timeout ~ Don't judge yourself too harshly if you have to start over~ You can't control it all ~ It is okay to be angry, confused, or fearful but it is not okay to stay there.Ultimately, you control your happiness. There will be things that happen in life to take you off track but that is where it is necessary to tap into some of the gems Shelley shared in this episode. There will be times when we have to forget the order and throw away the strategy in order to get back our happiness. That is often easier said than done. We are raised to follow rules and have a plan but sometimes we achieve the greatest amount of joy when we leave the plan behind. Can you remember a time when you just scrapped the plan and took a leap? How did it make you feel? What was the outcome? The plan can become a happiness drainer so be mindful of that in your life and business. Another thing to think about when it comes to happiness is checking your to-do list. Are you one it? We tend to do a lot for other people but we don't always put things like rest or self-care on our list. Many even go to the extreme and become a people pleaser, finding themselves completely drained at the end of each day. Has your list become one that is pulling you into too many directions at once? "Tap into what makes you happy!" It's time for a self-awareness check:- Determine what makes you happy? - Set time aside for you- Become okay with saying no- What drains your joy? - Do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself? Of others? - Take some time to journalMeet Shelley: Certified Life Purpose Coach, Speaker and Women's Change Agent, Shelley Meche'tte is extremely passionate and dedicated to the empowerment of women through strategized personal and professional development. She is the author of 70 Days of Happy: Life is BETTER When You Smile and the founder of the women's organization, The PowHERful Woman.Shelley challenges women to take responsibility for the actions (both positive and destructive) of the person staring back at them in the mirror while reminding them of the fact that they are POWERFUL...valuable and unique.Some of her features include Yahoo, Bustle, Ask Men, Authority Magazine, WW, Thrive Global, BYU Radio, and more.Social Media Handles (LinkedIn, Facebook, etc.)IG: @shelleymeche'tteFB: Shelley Meche'tte

It doesn't matter what happened that led to the habitual mindset of inadequacy as much as it matters what we decide to do about it. Each of us has a combination of skills, talents, strengths, abilities, character traits, personality traits, and more that combine to make us amazing. We all have areas where we are inadequate, but we also have areas in which we have the ability to be genius. In this episode of Live Love Survive and Thrive Rhonda Sciortino, author of 30 Days To Happiness, and Jenny Christiansen, Certified Life Coach, talk about ways to replace inadequacy with the truth of your authentic identity. To reach Rhonda, go to www.rhonda.org. To contact Jenny, go to www.jennychristiansen.org. Please like, subscribe, and share so we an all #live #love #survive and #thrive. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

Childhood messages about ourselves or what we believe is acceptable can hold us back and damage our relationships. In this episode of Live Love Survive & Thrive, author of 30 Days To Happiness, Rhonda Sciortino, and Certified Life Coach, Jenny Christiansen, talk about identifying childhood messages and what they do to us. To learn more about Rhonda Sciortino, go to www.rhonda.org. To learn about Jenny, go to www.jennychristiansen.org. Please like, subscribe, and share to help others #live #love #survive and #thrive! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

None of us has enough hours in the day to do all we need and want to do. But if we stop doing things that don't need to be done in the first place, we can add hours to our day and happiness to our lives. In this episode, author of 30 Days To Happiness, Rhonda Sciortino, and Certified Life Coach, Jenny Christiansen, talk about how to eliminate the things that don't need to be done and why it's critical to do so. We'll fall short of fulfilling our purpose and enjoying our unique success if we waste our time. If you missed the other 3 episodes on our biggest time wasters, go back and take them in. To contact Rhonda, go to www.rhonda.org. To reach Jenny, go to www.jennychristiansen.org. Please like, subscribe, and share so we can all #live, #love, #survive, and #thrive! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

We've all done it. We complain about the traffic, we complain about our boss and coworkers, we complain about what the people in our lives forgot to do. But WHAT DOES IT GET US? Not a darn thing except time lost that we can never get back. The same goes for blaming others. It doesn't change a thing—literally. When we fail to take responsibility for our part, we don't improve and grow. In this episode, author of 30 Days To Happiness, Rhonda Sciortino, and Certified Life Coach, Jenny Christiansen, talk about how to avoid blaming and complaining and why it's important to your health and happiness to do so. To contact Rhonda Sciortino, go to www.rhonda.org. To reach Jenny, go to www.jennychristiansen.org. Please like, subscribe, and share to we can all #live #love #survive and #thrive! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

There are never enough hours in the day to do all that we need and want to do. The good news is that we can identify and eliminate the BIG time wasters in our lives. This week we're taking on the big four of time wasters. Today we're talking about ARGUING. There are far more effective ways to communicate and persuade than arguing. In fact, people are rarely genuinely persuaded by arguing. In this episode author of 30 Days To Happiness, Rhonda Sciortino, and Certified Life Coach, Jenny Christiansen, talk about strategies for avoiding arguing and why it's important to do so. Please like, subscribe, and share #live #love #survive and #thrive! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

Some people bring out the best in us. Unfortunately, some people bring out the worst and drain the life out of us. In this episode of #live #love #survive and #thrive, Rhonda Sciortino, author of 30 Days To Happiness, and Jenny Christiansen, Certified Life Coach, talk about how to identify healthy relationships, how to create them, and how to hit the delete button on toxicity. Please like, share, and subscribe. Together we can help more people to LIVE, LOVE, SURVIVE and THRIVE! https://youtu.be/-GiF8Qsdol8 #relationships #toxicrelationships #happiness #peace #joy #drama #nodrama #live #love #survive #thrive --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

Have you ever known someone who has been fired from multiple jobs? Or someone who has been betrayed by someone they loved over and over again? There are some people who keep repeating their past, and who, sadly, keep reliving the same kind of pain. In this episode, Certified Life Coach, Jenny Christiansen, and author of 30 Days To Happiness, Rhonda Sciortino, talk about HOW TO STOP REPEATING THE PAST. Please like, subscribe, and share so that we can help more people #live, #love, #survive, and #thrive! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

Two successful survivors of childhood abuse talk about setting healthy boundaries, like how to say now and why to say yes, so that you don't wind up exhausted, depressed, or bitter. We can all find hope by taking care of ourselves with healthy boundaries. For information about Amber Jewell, LMSW, go to www.amberjewell.org. To contact Rhonda Sciortino, author of 30 Days To Happiness (featured on Ellen show and in her Kind Boxes), go to www.rhonda.org. Please like, subscribe, and share so that together we can help more people #live #love #survive and #thrive! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/empoweringresilience/message

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is the Co-founder of Mindvalley and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 17 years. She is an incredibly talented international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and a mother of 2 kids. Kristina is also the author of a transformational quest, "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules.” Kristina talks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. She was recognized as one of the Top 10 influential people online making a difference in the world today and was awarded the Influencers For Change (IFC) by the Global Impact Creators (GIC).Today on Christina The Channel:8:00 - Get to know Kristina12:15 - Kristina's journey: born in the Soviet Union, worked in government, & cofounded Mindvalley20:15 - Kristina's self-discovery while bringing Mindvalley to the Russian market33:00 - Outsourcing and placing trust in others as an entrepreneur with a vision40:15 - The best mindset to have around delegation in business44:10 - Do not sacrifice your happiness & wellbeing for success58:50 - Happiness as a state of being & why it's not selfish to pursue it1:09:00 - Human behavior: lying, manipulation, and narcissism This show is sponsored by:Ned | You can order hemp oil from helloned.com and use the discount code “CHRISTINA” for 15% off your first purchase or 20% off your first subscription.Organifi | Go to organifi.com/ctc and use the code CTC at checkout for 15% off. Resources:GET 25% OFF CHRISTINA'S COURSES WITH CODE "BFCM21" AT CHECKOUT FROM 11/26-11/29/21: christinathechannel.com/courses (applies to Abundance Accelerator, No BS Biz School, Psychic Development Course)Follow Kristina:IG: @kristinamand Website: kristinamand.comConnect with Christina:Learn more: christinathechannel.comPersonal IG: @christinathechannelThe Channel Crew FB GroupGIVEAWAY: Email your iTunes rating & review to podcast@christinathechannel.com to be entered Sign up for the FREE 30 Day 3D to 5D Ascension Challenge hereThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions