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On today's episode, our guest is Brian Bogert. He's an incredible individual who has gone through a remarkable journey, including the loss and reattachment of his arm. He shares his inspiring story on stage but also offers insights on how to have a significant impact and generate income. In our discussion, we explore his business growth strategies and how he leverages his speaking career to make a difference. If you're looking for both a compelling story and practical advice to launch or grow your speaking business, you're in for a treat. So let's dive into the episode and hear from Brian himself. [1:50] Do you mind sharing with everyone what your actual message is when you step into the world?  To put it plainly, I often declare that my primary roles are as a husband and father. However, my actions didn't always align with this declaration. There was a significant period in my life where I found myself reacting to situations or feeling a certain way due to actions that I believed were in line with my intentions, but often were not. Looking at my journey from a high-level perspective, when I was seven, I endured a traumatic accident where I was run over by a truck, resulting in my left arm being torn from my body and then reattached. While this event has been a cornerstone of my narrative as a speaker, I later realized that it also contributed to unresolved issues that I suppressed for years, leading to periods of turmoil. However, an experience later in life dramatically shifted my perspective and allowed me to realign with my values. Today, I collaborate with individuals and organizations to uncover and eliminate hidden obstacles, transforming them into opportunities for growth and success. Much of our focus centers on understanding human behavior and fostering meaningful connections, ultimately enabling individuals and organizations to operate at their highest levels of performance and potential. [4:10] What was your personal journey in working through that? What did you do differently than most people do?  From the outset, it's crucial to acknowledge a couple of phases in my journey. When I emerged from the hospital as a child, I often drew attention due to the teddy bear I held between my arms. People would inquire about what happened to me, expecting a mundane response. Instead, I would bluntly reveal that I was run over by a truck, causing 99% of them to pause and seek validation from my parents. This experience led me to believe that others wouldn't understand or believe my truth. Consequently, I embraced the idea that mindset and mental toughness were paramount. This mindset served me well for a while until I experienced a snowboarding injury at 20, leaving me isolated and resentful as others adhered to the narrative of my self-sufficiency. Realizing the need for vulnerability and authenticity, I embarked on a journey to foster genuine human connections. Despite achieving material success by age 27, I felt a profound sense of loss as I realized it had come at the expense of my true self. This pivotal moment led me to hire my first coach and transition into a profession where I could utilize my story to inspire others. [12:50] How did you begin building your speaking business? What was your approach? In the beginning, my main focus was on getting as many repetitions as possible with the initial framework, concept, and messaging. Whether it was through podcasts, conference submissions, or other platforms, I tested various languages and observed what resonated with people in real time. Feedback was crucial, and I remained open to adjusting the message to better connect with the audience. While I had prior experience speaking on stage, podcasts opened up new opportunities and allowed me to build relationships with hosts and event organizers. Through these interactions, I aimed to create deep value and impact without solely focusing on selling from the stage. My goal was to transform the audience's experience and leave a lasting impression. As I gained clarity on my message and built assets like a speaker reel, I leveraged referrals and cold outreach to expand my opportunities.  [18:10] What was your process for figuring things out and getting started? Did you rely on asking a lot of questions? How did you pave the way to getting the information and traction you have now? To be completely honest, a lot of my speaking approach stems from the strategies I used to create growth and impact in my previous business. I've been using video for prospecting and communication for 15 years because I understand that words alone don't convey the full message. With video, I can communicate tone, cadence, and nonverbal cues, which builds trust at a deeper level. This approach has roots in my experience negotiating complex deals with multiple decision-makers. Speaking, in comparison, feels easier because typically there are fewer decision-makers and quicker conversations. My goal is to insert humanity into my interactions and ensure that people can feel who I am beyond what they find online. Recently, I delivered a keynote for a $500 million surface contractor after a serendipitous website submission led to a direct phone call. By engaging in personal conversations and sending follow-up videos, I was able to land the deal and secure a consulting contract. I believe that the more intentional and congruent I am in my interactions, the greater the impact I can make, leaving a lasting impression wherever I go. [25:25] When did you realize that simply sharing your story wasn't enough and that there needed to be substance behind it? How did you develop that understanding and begin implementing it into your speaking engagements? I've been speaking for philanthropic reasons for over 20 years, mainly sharing my personal story for motivation. However, as I transitioned into professional speaking, I realized the importance of creating depth and impact beyond just telling my story. While my story can be compelling, I've learned to quickly normalize it and integrate relatable elements that others can connect with. Instead of solely relying on my own experiences, I studied and incorporated stories of well-known figures into my talks, but I found that forced and disconnected. Therefore, I focused on understanding the emotional and mental states I was in during pivotal moments and how I navigated through them. By sharing pragmatic applications and methodologies, I aim to leave a lasting impact and create inflection points in people's lives rather than just being a fleeting memory. [32:20] What strategies are you employing to access higher budgets and build your brand? Currently, my main focus is aligning with what you just mentioned. Historically, most of my opportunities stemmed from direct efforts and referrals. I'm now working on refining my outreach strategy. Despite speaking for large organizations, there are still untapped pathways in the speaking business that I aim to access. While I've been fortunate with referrals and good speaking fees, there's a gap between where I am and the top tier. My motivation for speaking has evolved from seeking higher fees to tying it to a deeper purpose aligned with our broader mission. Each speaking opportunity is a chance to amplify our impact and inspire others. I'm now aiming to identify the right audience and establish consistent outreach systems. Consistency over time is key, and while outbound efforts remain important, having reliable systems in place will make them complementary rather than essential. Key Quotes [8:10-8:18] Trashing your past is not your fault, It just becomes your responsibility once you become aware of it or you start burying others in yours.  [12:55-13:00] Having a great message is one thing but getting it on the stage is another  How to connect with Brian Bogert Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bogertbrian LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/brianbogert Website: https://www.brianbogert.com

In today's episode, our guest is Sam Primm. Sam's unconventional approach to challenges, rooted in faith and openness, has led to remarkable success in real estate and education, as well as amassing a significant social media following. Despite his achievements, Sam remains humble and genuine, proving that success doesn't always require flashy displays.  [2:08] Why should I listen to you?  I suggest you listen to me because I offer a unique perspective. Perception, the lens through which we view the world, is a genuine perspective. It involves removing oneself from a situation to see it from the world's viewpoint, which is often the most beneficial. Hence, I believe we could have many engaging conversations about perspective and perception during our next coffee meet-up, delving deeper into the topic. [3:00] Where do you get to the point of really wanting to hear the truth? It's truly been quite a journey, my friend. We have ample time to delve deeper into this. In the past, my approach was simply to roll up my sleeves and outwork others, which certainly propelled me to a certain level of success. However, I've come to realize that mindset plays a pivotal role. When I adopted the mindset of seeing the bigger picture, I experienced significant personal, professional, and financial growth. Interacting with individuals who are far ahead of me has shown me that their mindset, more than anything else, has been the catalyst for their success. It's about shifting your paradigm and understanding that reaching the next level requires a certain degree of detachment from oneself, whether it's driven by vanity or a genuine desire to help others.  [4:10] What was your mindset and experience prior to making this shift? I was initially on the traditional path of working a job while attending college, following the idea of working until retirement, saving money, and living frugally. However, my perspective shifted when I started investing in real estate on the side with a friend and witnessed its potential. Recognizing this as my new path, we dedicated ourselves to real estate, eventually leaving our jobs in 2018 to fully commit. Entrepreneurship brought its challenges, including managing employees, payroll, and overhead costs. To overcome these hurdles and continue growing personally and professionally, I sought guidance from successful mentors and invested in mastermind groups.  [5:58] What enabled you to overcome that hesitation and take the leap into pursuing what you're doing, considering that many people often find themselves stuck in a similar situation? I believe there's likely some ignorance in simply diving into things without fully grasping the potential consequences or overanalyzing. However, this tendency to take action without hesitation can be both advantageous and problematic. While it propelled us forward, it also means I struggle to find contentment and live in the present moment. This approach has its benefits and drawbacks—it propelled us to quit our jobs and achieve significant success in real estate, but we often neglect to appreciate the journey. It allows us to bypass obstacles that might otherwise hold us back, but it also means we miss out on the opportunity to savour the experience. So, I think the main issue is that I acted impulsively without much consideration. [7:20] What specific action or decision separated you from simply having a mindset shift to actually living the dream of quitting your job? I believe I began to recognize the significance of sharing my story and its impact. As I started posting on social media and witnessing others' stories, it bolstered my confidence. Seeing the tangible impact on myself, my business partner, and others encouraged me to believe that if they could do it, we could too—both online through social media and collectively as a team. It was primarily about building confidence, as I needed to witness firsthand the effects of sharing our journey. [8:00] How did you navigate conversations with your partner, friends, or even spouse who might have had doubts or concerns about your decision to pursue your business endeavours? Moving forward, I'll refer to my business partner as Lucas. It became evident to us early on that when the right combination comes together, the synergy can be exponential. Having known each other since middle school, and then progressing through high school and college together, Lucas and I share a deep history. Our bond has been forged through various experiences, including standing up for each other in numerous situations. We even ran a painting business during college, balancing work with our shared interests. Transitioning into the real world after college, we realized that real estate offered a promising path to success, even without substantial initial capital. This shared realization led us to embark on our journey in real estate together, a decision that has led to tremendous growth. Currently, our team consists of 47 members, with around 15 of them being longtime friends. Despite the common advice against mixing business with personal relationships, we've found success in intertwining the two aspects of our lives. [9:50] How do you maintain long-term relationships with individuals who may bring about challenges or headaches without compromising your standards?  We've encountered our fair share of challenges along the way, but we've become adept at addressing them proactively by setting clear expectations and fostering open communication. Everyone on our team understands the value of their role, and we've occasionally had to reassign individuals to different positions. Fortunately, having multiple companies allows us to find the right fit for both the individual and the company culture. While we don't exclusively hire friends, knowing that they have our backs due to our longstanding relationships is invaluable. Trust and loyalty are paramount to us, as they are more important than simply hiring someone with a specific skill set. In our flipping company, for example, the COO, who happens to be Lucas's brother-in-law, oversees operations, and everyone respects his authority because we hold him accountable to certain metrics.  [11:40] Can you describe a moment when you felt weighed down by challenges and how you navigated through them?  Amid current worries and ongoing pivots, I'm reminded of one of our early challenges. About seven years ago, shortly after diving into real estate, Lucas and I encountered a setback when we purchased a trio of houses, only to realize that two of them were bad deals. Facing the prospect of bringing a substantial amount of money to the closing table to salvage the investment, I was ready to throw in the towel on real estate. However, Lucas remained level-headed and optimistic, assuring me that we would find a solution. This experience taught me the value of having a supportive partner to navigate challenges and persevere through setbacks in our entrepreneurship. [18:15] Do you struggle with not only creating systems and SOPs but also with developing others to reach your level of skill and expertise? Trust is paramount in any partnership, particularly when navigating challenges and accepting the inevitability of mistakes and inefficiencies as part of the growth process. I've come to understand that despite having meticulous standard operating procedures, human error is bound to occur. This realization has underscored the importance of surrounding myself with individuals who excel in areas where I may lack proficiency.  [19:32] What specific area of expertise do you possess where you feel confident in offering guidance and support to others who may encounter similar challenges? One of my strongest areas of expertise lies in handling social media, which I've dedicated myself to for the past two and a half years. Beginning in 2020, I focused extensively on building my presence across platforms such as TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook. Through consistent effort, investing around 30 hours per week, I've been able to amass a combined following of 2.7 million followers. Having experienced firsthand the intricacies of social media growth, I often find myself approached for advice on this topic. I've observed that many individuals struggle with authenticity, often due to outsourcing video production or lacking original ideas. However, I've found that this issue can be easily resolved by prioritizing authenticity. Social media has become a skill that I've honed, and leveraging its power effectively has been one of my most valuable abilities developed over the past year. [23:55] What is something that many people overlook or underestimate that you found to be essential? For social media specifically, I've accumulated a substantial number of videos with over a million views—likely well over 50 in total. Interestingly, almost every one of these videos has been recorded on my phone and edited directly within apps. Conversely, I've also invested significant time and resources into more elaborate videos, which have been meticulously crafted by my editing team, sometimes taking up to 13 hours to complete. However, despite their polished appearance, these videos have often failed to resonate with audiences in the same way as the simpler, more authentic content. Through numerous discussions with peers, I've come to realize that simplicity and authenticity are what truly resonate across all platforms. People gravitate towards content that feels genuine and straightforward, as they're primarily seeking entertainment or quick information while scrolling through social media. This insight was gleaned from my own experiences, where I initially found success with raw, unfiltered content recorded solely with my phone. Attempts to "fancy it up" often resulted in a loss of traction, reinforcing the importance of simplicity and authenticity in social media content. [23:54] What was the main focus for you as you began to delve deeper and refine your approach? Initially, my approach to posting on social media was quite spontaneous—I didn't have a concrete plan in place. I would describe it as a "post-analyze-post" method, where I would upload content and then meticulously analyze the analytics afterwards. I'd examine why certain videos performed better than others, scrutinizing factors such as the background, hook, length, or background music. This process of trial and error continued for about three years, during which I focused on posting as frequently as possible in pursuit of potentially viral content. However, after amassing a significant following, I've begun to transition towards a more strategic approach. Now, I create content tailored specifically to three distinct avatars that we've identified as our target audience. This shift allows us to create videos to attract and engage with these specific demographics. Overall, my initial strategy of creating viral-worthy content without a specific target audience proved successful to a certain extent, but now I'm focusing on creating content with a more intentional and targeted approach.  [39:18] What does your greatest direction look like for all these things coming together? My original goal was one house a year for 10 years, which we surpassed. Then it was $25 million in real estate by 2025, achieved in 2020. Now, we've set bigger goals with deeper meanings: building a billion-dollar organization, owning a billion dollars in real estate, and bringing an NBA team to St. Louis. While NBA ownership is appealing, it represents more than just a status symbol—it signifies financial success, community impact, and job creation, all of which align with my vision for St. Louis's future. [41:17] Do you want to revive the existing team or build an entirely new team from scratch? My idea revolves around syndicating ownership of an NBA expansion team through social media. This entails offering small ownership shares to a broad audience, allowing individuals to invest in the team for a fraction of the cost. Unlike the Green Bay Packers' ownership model, this would be a legitimate investment, providing shareholders with returns and income akin to syndicating apartment complexes. By engaging fans across the country as stakeholders, we aim to raise significant capital and cultivate a loyal fan base that supports the team both financially and emotionally. It's a novel approach that could revolutionize sports ownership and fan engagement. [48:08] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I believe I'm here to inspire millions of people to break free from their ordinary lives so they can achieve more. By increasing their income, they can give and donate more, ultimately gaining financial stability and control over their lives. Key Quotes   [3:45-3:49] If you want to get to a certain level; you have to remove yourself to a certain degree if you want to get there efficiently. [17:17-17:21] You have to have had a certain modicum of success to learn some lesson. How to connect with Sam Primm  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samprimm Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/fasterfreedomcommunity LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/samprimm

In this episode, our guest is Katie Horwitch. She is the author of "Want Yourself, Shift Yourself," engaging in a captivating conversation. In this episode, we delve into self-discovery, personal development, and addressing negative self-talk. How did you develop the desire to be yourself and cultivate a sense of competence to progress in life? Explore the journey of turning dreams into reality as Katie walks you through tactical ways to make it happen. Without further ado, let's dive into the episode with Katie Horwitch [2:34] Why should I listen to you?  Being an introvert and a highly sensitive person, if I initiate a conversation with you, it's because I see the potential for meaningful interaction between us. [3:25] What are the things that are deeply important to you? That's a great question because, as someone with a contrasting personality – a gregarious introvert or what some might label an extroverted introvert – people often mistake me for an outgoing person. However, I tend to keep to myself not because I'm guarded but because I'm a professional observer, always absorbing data from people and the world. Meaningful conversations in this setting, not during a keynote or workshop, stem from something I've noticed in you and grown curious about. When it comes to making adult friendships, many find it daunting, assuming it involves constant small talk. I prefer to reverse-engineer the situation, considering the type of connection and feelings I want to cultivate. I'm genuinely invested in our conversation and our interaction, with a focus on the 'so what' – what happens afterward and beyond. [7:00] What sparked your intense curiosity in professional settings like NFL teams, and have you ever been perceived as stuck up for being a listener rather than an immediate talker? Both questions are intriguing, but the second one stands out. Regarding the first, people often talk about rediscovering their childhood free-spirited selves. However, I've been hypersensitive and a keen observer since birth, not just emotionally but to lights, noises, and people's moods. Thankfully, this trait wasn't discouraged overtly, though growing up in the '80s and '90s, societal expectations leaned toward being loud and confident, particularly for women. While I absorbed the world around me, the societal push for confidence without appearing narcissistic created a dynamic where I became a social chameleon. I adapted to avoid being labeled as off-putting or arrogant, honing this skill through life's ups and downs. Regarding the second point about being perceived as unfriendly for not talking much, I rarely encountered that due to my heightened awareness. Growing up in a talkative family, meeting my introverted husband highlighted my tendency to fill silence.  [13:02] How did you get to the point of finding that space between your husband where you could learn to be quiet? I found myself filling space in certain situations, driven by a desire for something specific. Your example of a group of seemingly self-centered individuals resonates – perhaps they seek acknowledgment or lack opportunities to express themselves elsewhere. As an internal processor in a world of external processors, I sometimes need to process aloud, and my husband, lovingly, called me out on this. I realized my tendency to fill space comes from a desire for connection, born out of being a recovered people pleaser.  [16:25] What was your journey to this point like?  As mentioned, I grew up with hypersensitivity and heightened observance. Navigating life, I faced a constant tug-of-war between my self-confidence, the subtleness within me, and societal expectations, especially for women. There was an unwritten rule against being too loud or taking pride in accomplishments, which wasn't conducive to embracing one's strengths. Reflecting on the mental health conversations prevalent today, it's clear that such discussions weren't part of the narrative during my upbringing as a child of the '80s and '90s. By the time I reached college, the struggle with control intensified. As a musical theater major at the University of California, Irvine, the facade I had maintained for connection and belonging crumbled. This led to a complex mix of eating and body-related disorders, an issue compounded by the limited discourse around mental health in 2006-2007. In those times, the conversation about these disorders was binary, lacking nuance. My personal struggle compelled me to turn my hyper-observant nature inward for self-reflection. Recognizing that something wasn't right, especially as someone in tune with my body like you as an athlete, was a pivotal moment. [21:30] How did you navigate that?  I underwent a journey driven by the pursuit of perfection, particularly as a musical theater major relying heavily on my voice and body akin to an athlete. The impact was tangible, affecting my voice to the extent that I lacked the necessary muscle and breath strength for singing. Instead of being overly critical, I started providing constructive feedback by observing how I responded to conversations, feelings, and thoughts. This introspection revealed the prevalence of what I call "casual negativity" – the habitual use of negative language, both internally and externally. Recognizing this internalized language, I realized the need to delve into its origins. To shift my self-talk, I understood the importance of addressing the underlying beliefs rather than merely affirming positivity on the surface. [24:15] How did that lead to this book?  The book, "Wanting Yourself: Shift Your Self-Talk and Unearth the Strength in Who You Were All Along," posits that self-talk is neither inherently positive nor negative; it's the interpretation and subsequent actions that carry weight. The central idea is that self-talk serves as information, and the book advocates starting with the "self" aspect rather than solely focusing on talk. Comparable to addressing the root cause of a persistent cough, the book provides a practical blueprint for understanding and transforming self-talk. With a foundation in 16 years of research, writing, and speaking on the subject, it dives into the reasons behind our self-conversations and emphasizes the crucial shift needed. It endeavors to empower readers with practical tools, enabling them to navigate the process independently and recognize the urgency and significance of this transformation in our society. [29:14] How does somebody shift their self-talk? I appreciate your emphasis on proof points, a crucial aspect. The initial step, as discussed in the book, involves redefining and reevaluating our self-talk practices. Often, people tend to categorize self-talk as either positive or negative, but I see it simply as self-talk, where our feelings about what we say to ourselves shape our self-perception and subsequent actions. Some claim they don't grapple with negative self-talk, similar to stating they never get tired. Acknowledging the inevitability of discomfort and negative self-talk is vital. Just as knowing how to respond when tired is essential, understanding the underlying message in uncomfortable feelings can guide meaningful actions. The process entails unraveling layers and discerning genuine events from emotional responses. Redefining positivity is another crucial aspect, focusing on sustained positivity rooted in proactive behavior rather than reactive responses. For instance, if someone frequently acts as a social chameleon, the feeling of inadequacy may be tied to a genuine desire for connection. Acknowledging and embracing one's true self in smaller, everyday moments serves as proof that authenticity is liberating, especially before significant moments that may feel high-stakes. [40:34] What happens to your identity when you've done this habit? There's a prevalent notion about thoughts becoming things, and in a podcast conversation, I explored the idea that thoughts, feelings, and beliefs define who we are. These elements are significant and often developed over time, as therapy sessions can reveal. Building a sense of self is an ongoing process, not a quick fix. Your focus on long-term self-building raises the question of the "so what" after forming good habits. I believe our self-talk is the narrative we tell ourselves and others, shaping how we engage with the world. In a complex world with ongoing challenges, our reactions are rooted in the self we've cultivated. When individuals lack a solid sense of self, harmful behaviors like othering or joining harmful movements can arise as a way to combat discomfort. In essence, building these habits goes beyond a mere desire; it's a necessity to be the positive change we want to see in the world.  [50:28] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  She will be exactly who she needs to be  Key Quotes  [24:37-24:50] Self-talk isn't inherently good or bad; it is what we do with that information that informs what we do next and next.  [37:50-37:55] Self-trust can be built in small and everyday moments  How to connect with Katie Horwitch  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katiehorwitch Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katiehorwitch Website: https://www.katiehorwitch.com  

In this episode, we have the remarkable Glen Lundy joining us. Glen's journey is fascinating, from a fulfilling career to an expansive life. He didn't settle; he leaned into that yearning for growth. In this episode, Glen unveils the inner workings of his mind, the pivotal shifts, and the lessons extracted from challenging moments. From seven-figure businesses to a loving family, Glen's story is a testament to intentional living and legacy-building. Join us as we delve into the behind-the-scenes of creating an extraordinary life. Let's dive deep into this insightful conversation. [4:32] Why should I listen to you?  I've had conversations with many people in random places. My wife will tell you I've never met a stranger. And I love having those conversations. I would say you should listen to me because I'm likely to ask you questions that will inspire deeper, meaningful conversations that you might not normally have. I love asking people questions, learning about humans, and sparking real conversation. In today's day and age, sometimes that can be challenging, with everything being brief and short. So that would be the main reason you should talk with me. Then I've got a little wisdom. I've got a little experience. I'm a husband to one and a father to eight. I am a speaker. I've spoken on stages all around the world. I've written a few books, and I've built this, now my second multimillion-dollar company. So I've got a little experience and wisdom and might be able to provide a little value. But most importantly, I'll make sure you feel good about yourself by the time we're done. [6:58] At what point did you discover your true drive? Did these goals align for you, or did your true drive emerge separately in your journey? There's a book called "The Second Mountain" discussing how we're taught to chase conventional success but often hit a midlife awakening, realizing there's more to life. I spent 25 years setting myself up financially. In the last six years, I shifted to building a life-centric business. I value investing time over spending it. I'm passionate about the power of words. I had a realization during a conversation where someone spoke about investing in various aspects of life but casually spent time on non-productive activities. This led me to eliminate the concept of "spending time" and approach everything as an investment with an expected return. This mindset shift allowed me to invest in relationships, business, fitness, personal growth, and mental health, understanding that not all investments require equal effort.  [15:18] What were the subsequent steps in your decision to fully embrace what you're doing now? Yes, for the next year, our focus was solely on chasing dollars. I would accept speaking engagements wherever the pay was good, and we even created and sold planners to generate some income. This was during a time when we were figuring things out. Throughout that year, I observed deficiencies in the auto industry, particularly for individuals at the owner or general manager level. While there's abundant training for sales and finance managers, there needs to be more mentorship for those in top positions. Recognizing this gap, I decided to lean into it. I noticed a unique opportunity to teach others how to run a dealership successfully, something not commonly done by those who've achieved such positions. Realizing this gap, I started conducting workshops and webinars. Eventually, I incorporated strategies for monthly recurring income, leading to the creation of the 800% Elite Automotive Club. Now, I assist dealership owners across the United States and Canada through a monthly membership program, helping them scale their businesses. It has been a journey of figuring things out and seizing opportunities. [18:10] If someone hears your story and resonates with it, feeling stuck in a safe but uninspiring career, what advice would you offer to someone who might have an inkling that they can make a change, even if not necessarily starting their own business? Take a close look in the mirror and at your current opportunity. Ask yourself, have you truly maximized it? Many people express a desire to quit their jobs and become entrepreneurs, but my advice is to assess if you've squeezed the most out of your current situation. Remember when you eagerly sought that job, dressed up for the interview, and felt it was the greatest thing ever? Now, after a year, five years, or a decade, have you become the best at it with no further room to grow? When you reach that point, doors will naturally open, and you'll see the path you should take. It's not a forced decision. Personally, I didn't plan to quit my job that day; I focused on being the best, and the opportunity to move forward presented itself.  [22:35] When someone hasn't fully committed to their current opportunity but is considering a change, how do you balance perseverance for growth with knowing when it's time for something new? If you find yourself not loving your job and waiting for everyone else to be right, consider a different perspective. The issue isn't the job itself; I know janitors who genuinely love what they do. It's about winning at your role, building relationships, and feeling a sense of purpose and pride in your work. Financial gain might not be the driving factor for everyone. It's not a one-size-fits-all situation; it's about the person behind the position. If you currently hate your job, it's likely because you're not winning at it. Find a way to succeed, and then you can determine if this is the right fit for you or not. [35:25] How did you discover the ability to build a relationship with discomfort? I'm not sure if I can say I love it; I think it's more fear. I'm more scared of death than loving the process. I recently challenged my beliefs and decided to train for a marathon, something I once thought was crazy. As a sprinter, long-distance running seemed pointless, but I wanted to question my beliefs. I trained for 30 weeks, ran 20 miles, and was supposed to participate in the Boston Marathon, but I decided not to. It wasn't about the ribbon; it was about pushing my body's limits. I didn't love a single mile of the training route, but I gained the knowledge that I could do hard things. Similarly, my wife and I got back together after a divorce. To spend more time with her, I joined her in hobbies I hadn't tried before, like doing a half Ironman. I hated every minute of it, but it created a shared struggle and strengthened our relationship. The medal didn't matter; it was about the valuable experiences gained through the journey. [41:46] Where do I send people who want to know more about Glen Lundy, what he's up to, and how they can kind of work with you?  Many of the experiences I have now are vastly different from 15 years ago. I went through a period of homelessness and spent a significant part of my 20s in and out of jail, a total of 17 times. I used to solely rely on myself and didn't believe in anything beyond that. The turning point came when I faced deep depression and suicidal thoughts. The very next day, I was introduced to self-development, studying successful individuals who often had powerful morning routines that encompassed mind, body, and spirit. Exploring various practices like cold showers and Tony Robbins-style approaches, I discovered five simple steps that, when applied each morning, completely transformed my life. I started teaching these steps to my 300 employees, and now I've shared the Morning 5, the five simple steps to an extraordinary life with hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of people globally. To connect with me, visit themorning5.com, where you can download my free ebook. It's available in an audible version and takes less than an hour to read. It not only explains the five steps but also delves into my story. It's a great way for us to get acquainted. Feel free to connect with me on Instagram or Facebook after checking out the ebook, as I always like to start with a gift. [44:14] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  God's promise when creating me was clear: everyone gets a seat at the table. Raised in a unique family, with my dad black, my mom white, and both remarried, our homes embraced diverse cultures. Growing up in such diversity made me a chameleon, navigating identity issues. Now, I see it as a gift—the ability to empathize with people from all walks of life. I can understand different perspectives, whether from inmates to the free, the homeless to the wealthy, or the depressed to the joy-filled. It's a beautiful opportunity we all have: bringing people to the table of understanding where everyone deserves a seat. Key Quotes  [11:07-11:15] Jesus wasn't a passive guy but an active guy who went out and faced whatever he had to face to deliver a message of hope and make an impact in people's lives [27:10-27:20] If you don't aspire to be a winner, you are robbing the world of the gift of you. How to connect with Glenn Lundy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/glenn_lundy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialGlennLundy Website: https://www.glennlundy.com

How to Find and Live Your Purpose with Amina AlTai

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Welcome back to the Awwshift Podcast. I'm your host, Anthony Trucks. Today's guest is Eliza VanCort, the author of the book "Claiming Space." It's a fascinating exploration of how to authentically embody the person you aspire to be, both internally and externally. The concept of "anti-mentor" is also discussed, shedding light on those individuals who inadvertently undermine our growth. You'll discover more about what anti-mentors are and how to navigate relationships with them. Eliza shares insights gained from a traumatic injury that impacted her short-term memory, offering a unique perspective on the importance of effective communication. [2:48] Why should I listen to you?  Oh, that's an interesting question. I haven't been asked that before. Why should you pay attention to what I have to say? Well, I believe my life experiences, filled with both wisdom and a mix of joy and sadness, have shaped me into an interesting conversationalist. People who have navigated challenges often have compelling stories and insights to share. [3:30] What races have you run that gave you a challenge? Wow, it's quite a journey. I had a wonderful mom in my early years, but when I was four and a half, she developed paranoid schizophrenia. I went through the trauma of being kidnapped by her three times, traveling from New York to California hitchhiking, and stopping at truck stops. This experience deeply affected me, leading me to associate invisibility with safety. It ignited my passion for claiming space. Despite becoming a teacher and enjoying a good life, I still struggled to assert myself. Later, a head injury challenged my communication skills, forcing me to rebuild them from scratch. These two experiences profoundly changed me and taught me valuable lessons. [5:00] Before we delve into the story, could you provide some insight into your book and the concept of reclaiming space? I authored a book titled "A Woman's Guide to Claiming Space: Stand Tall, Raise Your Voice, Be Heard." For me, claiming space is about living your chosen life unapologetically and bravely. True bravery, in my view, isn't the absence of fear; it's confronting fear with action. The book is structured into five parts, offering direct guidance on how to assert oneself and claim space. [5:58] How did your experiences with your mom, particularly the cross-country incidents, inspire the concept of claiming space, and how can people who haven't gone through similar experiences connect emotionally with this idea? Well, I think everyone has had that moment in their life where they just feel so small, and they feel like everyone around them is somehow able to speak their mind and say what they want to say. And somehow they don't feel like they have the right to do it. We've all had anti-mentors along the way who read about my book, anti-mentors who tell you that you're not enough. And I think for me, claiming space isn't about becoming someone different. It's about me becoming your most fully realized authentic self and that's a lifelong journey for all of us.  [8:10] What was it like for you as a police officer to watch and subject yourself to those emotions? Can you recall the moments when you couldn't remember? It was surreal. I was involved in an accident while riding my bike, following all the rules, when someone who was texting and driving hit me in the head with their car. I suffered a black bilateral brain injury and a subdural hematoma. When I regained consciousness, I walked downstairs to find my ex-husband and kids, and there was a large spread of food on the table. Confused, I asked how it was possible, and he informed me that Tina had brought it over. Tina is the friend who seems to sense when someone needs a casserole from a distance. It struck me how time had passed without my awareness, making it challenging to learn and grow when the events were shrouded in amnesia. I likened it to a country going to war without remembering who started it, making it impossible to fix. [9:58] Can you share the journey or process you went through to reach the point you're at now? Did it involve specific healing tactics, or did it unfold naturally over time? The recovery of my memory gradually improved every day, but communication, which was severely compromised, didn't naturally come back. Realizing my struggle to communicate, I initially contemplated withdrawing from life, sinking into depression with thoughts of whether I could continue. However, lying in bed indefinitely wasn't a viable life strategy. So, I decided to embark on the challenging journey of rebuilding my communication skills from scratch. It was a lengthy and arduous process, yet remarkably enlightening. Eventually, I felt like I had cracked the code of communication, turning it into a kind of superpower—an unexpected outcome from a difficult experience. [11:09] What specific challenges did you face in communication during your recovery? Was it primarily related to verbal expression and articulating thoughts? When I reached out to my friend Kim, expressing confusion about people acting strangely around me, she candidly pointed out that it was me acting differently. My vocabulary was impaired, and I was speaking slowly, making everyone uncomfortable. Seeking another opinion from a friend who is a nurse, she bluntly remarked that I sounded like a stoned third-grader. [12:28] When you confronted the realization of the communication challenges, how did it feel, and what steps did you take to address and overcome it? My educational background is in political science, and I initially pursued a career in acting. After a detour to law school, I found my passion in teaching the Sanford Meisner technique for 20 years. This approach delves into the intricacies of human behavior, encouraging a deep understanding of both oneself and others. Combining this with my political science background, I recognized the impact of various factors like race, age, and background on communication. Confronted with one-size-fits-all communication advice, often tailored to a specific demographic, I delved into research and observation to reconstruct my communication style. Through this process, I gained profound insights into communication and the concept of claiming space. [14:58] How does that equate or carry over into the realm of this claiming space concept of being authentically you?  In the initial stages, being an extrovert who loves to talk, I had to adapt my approach as I would get fatigued easily. This compelled me to observe and listen more, offering a unique and valuable experience. Initially focused on communication, especially regarding how some individuals, particularly women, effortlessly command a room, I sought to identify the key factor behind this ability. However, I soon discovered that there are five essential elements contributing to this capacity, allowing individuals to lead a fully realized life. This revelation was genuinely surprising to me. [15:45] How do certain people enter a room and assertively control the space? The five aspects of claiming space are crucial. Firstly, effective communication involves mastering your physicality and voice to command attention. Secondly, building a supportive community is vital, shielding against negativity and anti-mentors. Thirdly, everyone faces life's boulders; instead of overcoming them, whittle them down into manageable pebbles for inner strength. Combatting efforts to make you small is the fourth aspect, shutting down aggressors skillfully. Lastly, embracing intersectionality, especially for white women, fosters better outcomes, as learning from diverse experiences enriches and uplifts everyone. [21:10] What's the process for breaking free from anti-mentors and creating a sense of liberation? Certainly, I believe there's no clear-cut definition for it. In my understanding, an "anti-mentor" should ideally be your greatest supporter, uplifting you. However, they end up making you feel small and diminished. This is often achieved through intermittent reinforcement, a tactic also observed in gambling, where the occasional big win keeps individuals hooked. Regardless of your actions, dealing with these anti-mentors involves facing constant criticism, punctuated by occasional praise. The study on mice, pulling a lever for intermittent rewards, draws parallels to human behavior in seeking sporadic affirmation. This pattern can lead individuals to persistently engage in self-destructive behaviors. [23:53] Do you ever have that kind of experience?  To begin with, it's crucial to identify these anti-mentors. I've outlined a comprehensive checklist in my book, offering different indicators of what makes someone an anti-mentor. Once you're certain, there are two approaches. The first involves neutralizing them, a method I delve into, and the second is removing them from your life. However, both paths necessitate a crucial initial step — a grieving process. Recognizing that they'll never provide the support you seek when you need it is foundational. It's about realizing you don't have to continually put yourself in a vulnerable position, akin to Charlie Brown hoping to kick the football, only to have it pulled away repeatedly. The first step in liberating yourself from an anti-mentor involves deciding not to play that game anymore. [30:20] How do people break out of their emotional comfort zones in intense moments, like running full speed or yelling loudly? I think teaching is like an art for kids, and I'm sure you're good at it if you work with them. You know, you eventually get through to them; you just have to consider all angles. As adults, many of us receive messages when we're young. You're too quiet, too loud—so many "tools”. I mean, the number of messages we get when we're young like I was too much of a space cadet. Now, I get paid to sit around and think about stuff. So, one of the things I always tell people is to sit around and think about stuff. If you start unpacking the messages you were told, it becomes clear that what people criticize might be your strength. You make yourself small to avoid expanding into what people target as a weakness, which is often your strength. If you want to know what you're good at, think about what people told you to stop doing or what they said you weren't good at—not what you thought they told you because that's usually your superpower. [32:45] How do you navigate the unique qualities of your daughter, like her spacey behavior, while also recognizing and nurturing the remarkable and creative aspects she possesses within that same frame?   That has been significant for me as a parent, given my experience with my nephew and my two sons and daughter. My oldest son struggled with dyslexia and exhibited unique traits. First, he had an intense ability to hyperfocus, making it challenging to divert his attention from a task. For instance, once he started with Legos, getting him to stop was nearly impossible. He also dealt with total time blindness and constant movement; he was incredibly active even before birth, almost breaking my rib. There were moments when I felt overwhelmed and exhausted, unable to keep up with him. However, he later became a three-time National Collegiate cycling champion for the United States, showcasing his ability to hyperfocus and disregard the passage of time. His extraordinary energy found a purpose in cycling. My daughter, on the other hand, was notably oppositional, and now she is a passionate activist for climate change. I strongly believe that the qualities in your child that might drive you crazy are often indicators of their unique strengths and potential. [43:13] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  The existence of a soul is something I'm still undecided on. However, I hold onto the hope that if we are all genuinely kind to each other, actively listen, and extend compassion, perhaps there is a promise that things will eventually be okay. Key Quotes  [5:10-5:17] Claiming space is living the life you choose unapologetically and bravely.  [17:57-18:00] Mistakes are the foundation of learning.  How to connect with Eliza Vancort  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizavancort Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizaVanCort Website: https://www.elizavancort.com  

Welcome to the Aww Shift podcast! I'm your host, Anthony Trucks. Our guest today is Rob Luna, the founder of the Wealth Academy. With a remarkable background and a passion for helping individuals turn a modest sum, like 100 bucks, into substantial wealth or create a thriving business, Rob has achieved this for himself and numerous clients. We delved into the genuine approach to building wealth, recognizing money as a facilitator for impact and joy in life. As men of faith, our hearts align to focus on meaningful endeavors. Rob shares actionable insights to set you on the right path. Let's dive into the episode with Rob Luna. [2:15] Why should I listen to you?  You know, I believe I'm like most people—just an average person out there. Not everyone starts with a silver spoon in their mouth. We're all working towards a point where we can take care of our families. I feel like I come from a position that many people can relate to. I've been fortunate enough to meet some very successful individuals and was thrown into a path early in life where I learned valuable lessons ahead of the curve, putting myself in a position to achieve that at an early age. I think that's information I can share. So, if you're not someone who wants to say, "I wish I knew then what I know now," I can help expedite some of those tough lessons for you. [3:28] What were some of the initial lessons you learned that steered you toward the current path you're on? Coming from a modest background where sports led me to college, I landed my first internship at a wealth management firm when I was 20. That's when I started learning from very wealthy individuals about how they built their fortunes. Over 24 years, I noticed a few key things. Firstly, many of them were successful professional athletes. Secondly, they were individuals who reached high levels in corporate America, often in the C-suite. And thirdly, the majority were entrepreneurs. So, I learned early on that to achieve the kind of wealth most people aspire to, you need to find a place in one of those categories. [4:40] In the context of Dark Work, which serves athletes, executives, and entrepreneurs, what differences do you notice among these groups from your perspective and interactions with them? I find it interesting because we seem to cater to the same demographic of athletes, entrepreneurs, and C-suite executives, and they all share similar traits. It's about having strict discipline, immense drive, and a willingness to do whatever it takes to reach that next level. Whether you're an athlete, an entrepreneur, or a senior-level executive, that's the kind of commitment it requires. Now, considering the statistics, it's undeniably tough to become a professional athlete, but it's almost equally challenging to climb the ranks to the C-suite or establish a successful entrepreneurial venture. So, while there are some differences, they all seem to have more in common than not. I mentioned earlier that in wealth management, I've worked extensively with both professional athletes and entrepreneurs. Interestingly, every athlete I worked with eventually transitioned into entrepreneurship. They didn't want to leave the NFL or MLB only to work for someone else; they wanted to build something themselves and have control over it. [7:45] When faced with a setback, like getting hit unexpectedly, what key lesson did you quickly apply to move forward and overcome that challenge? It boiled down to risk management, understanding the potential outcomes, and identifying possible pitfalls before diving into anything. Going all-in on a single venture can be tempting, and if it works out, it's fantastic. However, the reason many people end up with a bad taste in their mouths in areas like real estate or stock investing is that they often neglect playing defense. The key is to avoid going all-in without considering the risks, getting over-leveraged, or lacking a backup plan. Early on, I learned the importance of having a contingency plan. This involves things like maintaining an emergency fund and taking care of the less glamorous aspects of entrepreneurship. It's about ensuring you have a safety net before venturing out, rather than being a cowboy in business without any safeguards. [9:15] For someone just starting with a month-to-month business, what type of mentorship should they seek, and how can they build towards the principles you've been discussing? In the early stages of my career, I found myself in a similar spot, playing the risky game of cold-calling wealthy individuals. However, reality struck when I realized I didn't know anyone in those circles. Starting from scratch and accumulating wealth can feel daunting, and there's a moment when taking risks becomes crucial. But before going all-in, there's a fundamental investment that's often overlooked – investing in oneself. As tempting as it may be to go all out, maxing out credit cards with blind faith, it won't yield success without a prior investment in understanding your value proposition. Knowing your client, and delivering a service or message that truly impacts lives requires a solid foundation. I've experienced success because I invested time and effort in myself, honing my skills and understanding my worth. So, my advice to those starting is to go to school, seek mentors, read books, watch YouTube – and educate yourself. There's no excuse for not being informed in today's world. Don't fall into the trap of thinking a single Instagram story makes you a professional.  [11:35] For those starting a business without much experience, what advice do you offer when they feel stuck and believe they've exhausted all options? How do you guide them through this situation? Well, as you mentioned, he didn't have much business acumen initially, but he developed it over time. Earlier, we talked about mentorship and education. We're all trying to solve the 'if I only knew then what I know now' challenge. I try to use my educational experience to do a SWOT analysis—looking at operational, financial, and value proposition issues. The great thing about YouTube is you can find almost anything, so there's no excuse not to be educated. Spending time studying profitable businesses, and different structures, and identifying gaps in my game has been crucial. Do I have a complete 365 perspective on how to succeed? There are likely areas I'm still improving today, but the good news is there are many resources, like books, YouTube videos, and podcasts, that people can use to fill the gaps in their knowledge. [13:40] How do you get people into motion?  The problem is that many attend events and read books but don't take action. I've spoken at five events recently, and it's a common issue. People need to find a way for immediate action. For instance, my undergrad didn't teach me much, but in grad school at 38, having run a business for 10 years, I applied information. Combining info with action is a powerful force. In my book, I suggest starting small—a side hustle. It might not take off, but it can lay the groundwork for future success. My first business failed, but through that, I learned. Even my first wealth management firm faced trials before success. Learning, combined with action, provides immediate feedback. You don't need to start big; begin part-time on weekends or evenings. Just get out there and do something." [15:50] What specific actions, habits, or nuances contribute to the success that people notice you consistently achieving?  I'm a strong believer in frameworks, Anthony. If I'm doing something, I ensure there's a disciplined framework. Time is precious, especially as success comes. Managing time effectively is crucial. Each day, I start with a note card outlining what I aim to accomplish on my desk. While I may not achieve everything, I check off what I've done. If something is off-course from my purpose, I cut it out of my life. For instance, I don't check my email. Through constant evaluation, daily check-ins, and weekly reviews, I stay accountable. Success, in my view, hinges on four factors: focus, clarity, execution, and accountability. You must know what you want to do—not being a barber selling real estate on the side. Get clear on your focus, whether it's specializing in certain areas or home values. Once you have that clarity, execute with a defined path. Finally, accountability is key. Even as a former Division One athlete, I know that without someone pushing me, I won't do all I need to do. Start with self-accountability, then bring in mentors and a board to hold you accountable. These are the four things that consistently help me level up. [19:05] What are some of the most close to your heart passionate things that you do daily?  My Wealth Academy, launched after selling my wealth management firm, teaches people to manage their wealth and build businesses. Over 20 years, many sought quick stock tips, but starting from scratch, real estate or the stock market alone won't guarantee wealth. For me, it was building businesses, generating unique cash flow, and creating value for eventual sales. Most people with basic abilities can achieve similar success if given access to the right information. Through my academy and book at an affordable price, I aim to empower people on their financial journey. Seeing entrepreneurs in my academy achieve milestones, like buying their first home, is truly gratifying. While not purely altruistic, witnessing others succeed now excites me more than my wins. Being accountable to myself and seeing others triumph is what energizes me at this stage in my life. [26:40] When I began, the pre-game pressure pushed me to excel. Where in life do you find that balance of comfort and challenge, motivating you to elevate to the next level? As I've gained more wealth, I've noticed a shift in what motivates and brings happiness. The best definition I've come across is the correlation between personal growth and happiness. It's crucial for us to keep growing, and areas where we get comfortable often become resistant to change. After selling my firm's managing clients an average of $20 million in investable assets, the initial excitement of big wins faded over time. Reflecting on this, I realized it was time for a change. Selling the firm allowed someone else to step in, and now I've shifted to working with individuals who might not even have $500 to invest. It's a more significant challenge, and that's what excites me. While growing someone from $25 million to $40-50 million is achievable for many, helping someone start from nothing and build a business worth three, five, or 10 million in the next five to 10 years is a more challenging task. This challenge is what motivates me today, and building a team to assist individuals at that level is my current driving force. [29:13] Stepping away from business, how does your family and life purpose connect to the legacy you want to leave behind when you decide to call it a day? At the end of the day, my primary identity is as a Christian. It's my mission, whether in church, on this podcast, or working with others. Beyond that, I'm a husband and a father, and I believe my greatest legacy will be the impact I've had on people, starting with my family. As a Christian, I strive daily to become the best version of myself, acknowledging growth opportunities in various aspects of life. Prioritizing spirituality, health, and quality time with my family—being present without distractions—is crucial. With a 16-year-old daughter, I've learned the importance of mental presence, making me a better father today. That's my focus now: being a better Christian, father, and husband, trusting that the rest will fall into place. [39:17] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  The promise he made is that he will do everything within his power if you're willing to put in the work to help change your life.  Key Quotes [34:11-34:15] If you don't talk about something, you can't learn about it; and if you don't learn about it, you can't get great at it. [35:19-35:25] If you're giving something of value, even if it's your time to help somebody, there's a potential for reciprocation in a financial manner. Just give the best of you to the world, and then the rewards will come. How to connect with Rob Luna  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelunarob Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelunarob Website: https://robluna.com  

Welcome back to the Awwshift podcast with your host, Anthony Trucks. Today's guest is Rick Jordan Ulrich, a man who has achieved remarkable feats despite not starting with much. He's built an impressive life and made a significant impact on others. Rick emphasizes that money is a tool, sparking a profound discussion about money, life, and humanity. This engaging conversation delves into the deeper aspects of wealth and well-being. Rick describes it as one of his favorite discussions in the last six months, and it's definitely worth a listen.  [2:59] Why should I listen to you?  I love connecting with people; it defines who I am. Our purpose on this planet is to interact with others. The introvert-extrovert dynamic doesn't change the fact that we're here to connect. Personally, I'm an extrovert; you won't find surprises in a personality test. Yet, even introverts are here to engage and build relationships. It doesn't matter where you are or what you're doing; interaction and relationships are fundamental.  [3:45] I'd love for you to share what you're most proud of. What achievements stand out for you? While some might label me a cliché serial entrepreneur, I'm not a fan of that phrase as it suggests a lack of focus. I prefer the idea of going where I'm needed at the moment. For instance, I decided to make a documentary about the lockdown three years ago when COVID-19 emerged. The business was thriving, and with everyone stuck at home, I thought, "Why not devote six weeks to shed light on the situation?" It opened doors and illustrated the concept of going where you're needed. This approach has been a key factor in discovering purpose. When younger colleagues ask how I found my path, it's simple—I stumbled upon opportunities and decided to try them out. [10:12] Did you always have that discipline, or did you build it over time? What's the secret to your commitment? Building a strong work ethic was a gradual process for me. Taking care of my body became a pivotal shift in my life years ago. Growing up in a middle-class family with limited resources, our meals often consisted of simple dishes like mac and cheese or frozen Salisbury steaks. Looking back, it's surprising how I survived on such poor-quality food. I remember chugging three 16-ounce glasses of milk daily for protein before protein shakes were a thing. Reflecting on those habits, it's clear how crucial nutrition is. What I rarely discuss is that despite the challenges, it's crucial to acknowledge bad days while preventing them from turning into bad weeks or months. Negative self-talk may linger, but it's vital not to become the abuser of oneself. By returning to routine, whether hitting the gym, reading in the morning, having a proper meal, or going to the office, we can prevent bad days from snowballing into prolonged negativity. [13:18] Do you adhere to a disciplined plan or structure, or do you operate more on how you feel? I implemented time blocking about two years ago, and interestingly, I later came across a Harvard Business Review article ranking it as the top discipline method. As the CEO of a rapidly growing company, flexibility is key for me. While some prefer scheduling to the minute, I find time blocking offers the right balance. Mondays are dedicated to preparing for the week with one-on-ones and a live CEO talk. Tuesday to Thursday mornings focus on internal matters, while afternoons are reserved for external engagements, like podcasts, vendor meetings, or forming connections. Fridays remain open for any necessary adjustments.  [23:50] What was your initial mindset or conversation about money, and how has it changed over time? I often share this example. My parents had an incredible relationship. My dad passed away when I was just 16, and I'm grateful for the time I had with him compared to my younger siblings. Despite their age, they had their challenges. But growing up a bit older, I got to witness more of their amazing marriage. The only significant fights they had were over money, not the usual couple disagreements. People have bad days, but from my perspective, their marriage was amazing. I had a great childhood. Seeing them fight over money made me think early on, "Why would I want to be in a position of lack?" As I became more emotionally mature, I realized it was a choice. Lack, to me, isn't about a shortage of money; it's about resources. Money is a tool for those resources that allow you to do the things you want. Whether it's fitness or any other goal, you need resources like a gym, equipment, or a membership, all requiring money. So, instead of fighting over lack as my parents did, I ask myself, "What if there's no lack?" Focusing on a gap, which is temporary, is different from perceiving a permanent lack as a negative force. I focus on abundance, thinking about what I'd do if I had everything needed to achieve my goals. It's about making the shift moving in the direction of abundance and obtaining the necessary resources. [32:45] Going back to our earlier conversation about money, it's about taking personal ownership and being the one in control. Were there times when you felt out of control? How did regaining control look for you?  Despite being an optimistic person, money triggers me due to my parents' past fights over lack. I practice gratitude but still struggle when faced with shortages in business and life. About eight months ago, going public, I was two days away from not making payroll, causing a two-week negative spiral. Reminders, like a board saying "I have a $10 million company," help ground me. Recognizing that I have all I need each day is my key to staying positive. Consistent discipline has proven successful in overcoming challenges. [49:39] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  That I am the promise of resources.  Key Quotes  [8:29-8:32] The longer you sit in it, the longer it lasts. [12:25-12:30] When you allow yourself to be a victim to yourself, you are both the abuser and the victim.  How to connect with Rick Jordan  Instagram: https://instagram.com/mrrickjordan Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/mrrickjordan LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrrickjordan      

How to transform yourself to transform your future with Sarah Centrella

In today's episode, our guest is Edward Rushing. What sets him apart is his commitment to giving back, and sharing the wealth of knowledge and skills he has acquired. However, our conversation goes beyond these achievements, delving into life's intricacies. Whether you're seeking insights into overcoming internal battles or unraveling the intangible traits behind wealth creation, this promises to be a captivating discussion. Join me in welcoming our guest, the inspiring Edward Buddy Rushing. Let's dive into the conversation! [5:20] Why should I listen to you?  When I interact with someone, my top priority is to add value. Whether it's bringing humor for a good laugh, offering new perspectives, connecting people who can make a positive impact on each other's lives, or providing support, my goal is to leave a positive influence. I want our interaction to enhance their life, making it better in some way. This approach, when applied wisely, often leads to mutually beneficial relationships. It goes beyond immediate gains, creating opportunities for shared experiences, emotional fulfillment, and sometimes even financial benefits. Adopting this mindset has personally brought me immense joy and satisfaction. [14:45] Could you briefly describe what you do and share insights into your unique approach and how it developed? I appreciate you asking in that way; I haven't shared it like that before. Currently, I'm married with two young kids, and I work for myself in a business called Whitefeather, named after Carlos Hathcock, the Marine sniper. Our mission is to assist military veterans and their families in building financial freedom. We're part of a larger coalition called Veterans for Financial Freedom, sharing the same mission. Millions of people volunteer to serve and protect the American dream, but upon leaving the military, they face significant challenges—homelessness, drug abuse, and suicide. One key reason is the abrupt transition from a highly structured, focused environment to civilian life, where they lose purpose, structure, respect, accountability, income, and many other skills. Transitioning out, they often experience a loss of identity and struggle to adapt. The mission of our business and coalition is to help veterans overcome these challenges, providing support, mentorship, and resources to enable them to live the American dream they fought to protect. It's been the most fulfilling endeavor for us professionally, witnessing the positive impact on the lives of those who have served. [19:00]  How did you personally navigate this transition? Was it based on your own experiences, or did you have a close friend or mentor who guided you through it? Certainly, most of us don't just stumble upon our purpose, right? It's more of an evolutionary process. Personally, growing up in East Tennessee on WIC and food stamps, without electricity or running water, life was challenging. Witnessing privation, drug abuse, and hardships, it seemed like this was just how life was. Trying to understand why people on TV lived differently fueled my desire for change. While your life is now stable, imagine living in fear of getting shot every time you step outside. This stark contrast exists in America. Growing up, I was determined not to continue that legacy and to break the cycle for my family. Fortunately, after high school, I was accepted into the Naval Academy in Maryland, a life-changing opportunity as I couldn't afford college. The academy experience, coming from a small town, made me feel initially out of place. [24:05] Could you share the journey from building your business to the point where you felt a sense of accomplishment or success?  I gained insight from Tony Robbins that fundamentally altered my perspective. He highlighted a crucial idea – that beyond a certain income level, money loses its power to enhance happiness. Robbins emphasized the significance of infusing meaning into life by contributing to others. This revelation guided my approach, particularly during my initial real estate investment in 2007. Unbeknownst to me, this venture coincided with the housing market crash. Despite challenges, I invested my entire $30,000 savings, undertaking renovations personally. Two years later, the property's appraisal revealed a value of half of the purchase price. Unlike those thriving in the mid-2000s, my journey commenced with a profound setback, fostering resilience. [27:34] Amid challenging situations in life, what thought patterns or approaches did you develop to navigate through them? How did your mindset or strategies evolve based on your experiences? So, in essence, my transformation began with the assistance of a friend named Larry, a realtor. Despite the real estate market crash, Larry pointed out the lucrative opportunities in a military town. The correlation between increased housing allowances for military personnel and rising rents presented a chance for high cash-flow properties. Larry's practical advice guided me to invest in properties with substantial returns. Importantly, this experience instilled a valuable principle in my approach – the mindset of either winning or learning in every endeavor. I embraced the lessons from this situation, acknowledging that my mistake was rooted in a lack of market knowledge. The key takeaway was the importance of continuous education, a commitment that shaped my journey over the following years. [33:00] How do you navigate and reconcile your difficult childhood experiences with the positive mindset you've developed, recognizing that not everyone has faced similar hardships? This is a profound question that weighs heavily on me. My kids are four and six, growing up in a wealthy Southern California family, a stark contrast to my upbringing. While I don't want to draw parallels to your ability to face challenges, given your unique experiences, there's a distinctive aspect related to military life. Unlike combat situations, where one's life is on the line, my current business dilemma, though significant, pales in comparison. It prompts me to evaluate the scale of the problem realistically—losing a million dollars versus facing mortal danger. It's a perspective that, perhaps, only someone who has been in life-threatening situations can fully appreciate. Now, as a parent in Southern California's perceived "bubble," I grapple with how to prepare my children, Austin and Alana, for the harsh realities beyond their privileged environment. While their upbringing shields them from life's unfairness and injustice, I'm eager to instill resilience and a deep understanding of the real world. [47:50] What are the exciting things that you do that the world should know about? Most of what we do revolves around the mission of aiding military personnel and veterans in achieving financial freedom. Over the past six years, we've assisted approximately 600 core members—regular military individuals who were not initially wealthy, and many have achieved financial freedom. Witnessing their transformations, with around 30-33 people becoming millionaires through real estate investments and businesses, is truly life-changing. Our movement, Veterans for Financial Freedom, is a free community teaching people how to utilize their VA loans, engage in house hacking, optimize VA benefits, pay off debt, and establish income streams. The goal is to impact generations of service members and their families, and it has evolved into a movement much larger than myself. [50:53] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I would do everything I could to make my corner of the world a little bit more like heaven in the time that I was here.  Key Quotes  [25:10-25:17] You will get fulfillment when you are able to provide value to others [48:55-49:00] You don't need money to build financial freedom; you need knowledge and action.  How to connect with Edward Rushing  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/edwardbuddyrushing LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/edward-rushing Facebook: 

Our guest today is Justin Prince, and our focus is on "Being The One." Our aim is for you to reflect on who you are in this moment and how you can elevate yourself to a higher level. This conversation provides practical models and strategies for making transformative changes in your life, propelling you towards an exciting future. Justin shares compelling stories, valuable insights, and powerful lessons. Without further ado, let's dive into the discussion. [2:30] Why should I listen to you?  To answer your question, I believe you would find me willing to listen, and the reason for that is my genuine care for people. I possess a deep curiosity about others, a love for understanding their complex stories, and a keen interest in learning. I'd ask numerous questions and lend a listening ear, truly attempting to comprehend who you are, what motivates you, and what sparks your passions.  [3:40] When you look at collecting stories, what does that mean to you? I'm a person who tends to speak quite a bit, much like you do. For me, every communication should have a story, and every story should convey a meaningful point. I firmly believe that by making points within your communication and weaving them into a compelling story, you can connect with people on a much deeper level. Stories inherently carry a point, and points become more vivid and engaging when they're intertwined with a story. I'm constantly on the lookout for new stories and unique angles. I'm particularly inspired by individuals who provide me with stories that I can use as illustrations to inspire others. I consider myself a story collector' and am always in search of various tales—be it in the realm of business, human experiences, or stories of resilience. I believe that the true drama lies in the intricate details of these stories. Thus, I'm consistently focused on finding and collecting stories to serve as vehicles for moving people forward. [5:28] Can you tell us a bit about yourself—the human side of you? In life, we often encounter a universal pattern: the dream, struggle, and victory. Each phase is essential, but stories typically focus on the triumph, leaving the struggle hidden. My journey began with divorce, followed by 13 relocations, limited education, and various odd jobs. I harbored big dreams. At 25, I launched my first business, which eventually failed, forcing us into financial turmoil. My wife and kids shared a small loft while I juggled part-time jobs. I questioned if success was possible for me. Perseverance paid off as I rebuilt my business, eventually selling it. I ventured into private equity consulting for two years and spent over a decade transforming a struggling company, achieving two and a half billion in revenue. This path led to speaking worldwide and writing books, allowing me to inspire others. The essence of my story is simple: dreams are attainable, and extraordinary lives are within reach. [8:43] What do you notice stops people from moving toward that thing that, for you, seems so obvious? Firstly, many people lack clarity. They're often confused and uncertain. I advocate for having 3D vision. When you lack vision, you limit your potential to influence and inspire others. Your vision should be crystal clear and always at the forefront of your mind. High performers can articulate their latest goals almost instantaneously, a key sign of clarity. Secondly, fear can be a major obstacle. It can be fear of what others will say, fear of failure, or even fear of success. I've developed a '3 C Success Loop' to address this. It begins with 'confidence,' believing in yourself, which leads to 'commitment.' With confidence, you commit to your goals. Commitment, in turn, leads to 'competence,' improving your skills and abilities. As your competence grows, it boosts your confidence. But to break the cycle of fear and doubt, you need 'courage' to take the first step, even when you can't see the entire path. Courage is what sets you apart, as it's a rare quality. Anything rare holds greater value. Be the one who runs toward the roar, not away from it.  [16:04] What do you find to be some of the common fears that keep people from chasing a lion right now? I understand the fear of being crushed when pursuing something big, whether it's in sports or any other life endeavor. That fear often stems from the worry of being embarrassed in front of others, especially when you're aiming high. I can relate to a personal experience that occurred when I was just starting my entrepreneurial journey. I was at church one Sunday, feeling inspired and enthusiastic about my new venture, and I shared my aspirations with some acquaintances, what I'd call "church friends." Their response was far from supportive. They ridiculed my ambitions, and it left me feeling small and uncertain. I had three initial emotions: a strong urge to fight back, a desire to take back my words, and a need to defend myself. However, I ended up just sitting there, feeling diminished. The lesson from these situations is that when you pursue your dreams, you might encounter naysayers who hammer you down or pull you back. It's crucial to empower the words of those who believe in you, those who say, "You got this." The negative voices will always be there, but it's your choice to listen to the empowering words and let them carry more weight. Like the story of President Reagan, who overcame skepticism at each stage of his life, from playing football to becoming the President of the United States, it's essential to listen to the believers and keep moving forward. [24:20] What is your book about, and who is it for?  I wrote the book "Be the One" for two important reasons. Firstly, I firmly believe that success is rooted in one's identity. How you perceive yourself significantly influences how you perform and engage with the world. If you see yourself as a loser, you'll struggle to perform like a winner, and vice versa. I wanted to emphasize that success is an identity process, and I want people to recognize that they are the one. They are the culmination of generations of people who came together, bled, cried, and sacrificed for their existence. Understanding your value and purpose is vital, particularly in a world facing high rates of suicide, anxiety, and depression. Realizing that your life has meaning can be a transformative realization. The second reason for writing the book is to provide practical and tactical strategies, habits, and routines to help readers become the people they were born to be. While I hope the book motivates and inspires, it's primarily designed to teach and equip readers with the tools they need to be the best version of themselves. My journey from a broken home with no formal education to achieving billions in sales and traveling the world was a result of applying practical strategies and habits, which I share in the book. Ultimately, I want to help readers recognize their identity and provide them with actionable steps to fulfill their potential. [27:38] How does someone elevate beyond their current level when who they are determines the actions and habits that shape their life? The first step in personal transformation is recognizing the need to update your identity. How you perceive yourself significantly impacts your performance. In the book, a story is shared about Jaime Molina, an exemplary individual who transitioned from a troubled past. His story demonstrates that we're not defined by our past but by who we're meant to be. We can create visions for our future, but it's essential to translate these visions into daily habits. Aristotle's wisdom emphasizes that excellence is a result of consistent habits. Your success isn't accidental; it's a product of daily, intentional decisions. Break the cycle, empower your family, and create an unforgettable life by updating your identity, cultivating new habits, and making conscious decisions. [33:06] How can you approach individuals who struggle to envision a future beyond what they currently know or dislike, especially when they doubt their ability to achieve it? How do you help them plant the seed of a vision that extends beyond their current limitations? In a recent event, a woman approached me and said she couldn't cast a vision for her future; her mind felt stuck. I shared the power of words, emphasizing that our words significantly influence our beliefs and actions. When I started lifting weights with a tough trainer, he instilled three rules. The most crucial one was to never say, "I can't do something." He explained how the conscious mind believes what you tell it. So, I adopted a habit of speaking positively and confidently, even when I doubted myself. This practice boosted my strength and self-belief. Research shows that our spoken words are 10 times more impactful than our thoughts. So, by changing your word patterns, you can enhance your future outlook and capabilities. Stop dwelling on past failures and focus on your potential strength and capacity.  [40:30] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  When I was financially below zero, living in my wife's parents' garage and working two part-time jobs, I reached a point of despair. At that moment, I made two solemn promises to myself with tears streaming down my face. I said to God, "If you ever help me find success, there are two things I will do." The first promise was, "I won't forget what it feels like to struggle. I'll remember that lump in my throat, the challenges I'm facing, and what it's like to be the underdog." The second promise was, "I'll do everything in my power to help others achieve their dreams and goals. I'll work tirelessly to inspire and serve them." I believe that God placed me on this earth with a mission to serve and add value to people's lives. This is why I cherish conversations like this. I hope that by sharing my experiences, I can help the next person stay in the game and keep moving forward.  Key Quotes [29:30-29:35] You are not who you are, you are who you are born to be and you are not what you did but what you repeatedly do.  [32:11-32:14] You can't always control what happens but you can control what happens next.  How to connect with Justin Prince Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjustinprince Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamjustinprince Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinkprince  

In today's episode, our guest is Adam Jablin. He is on a heroic journey to create an extraordinary life, but he has to navigate his challenges, including addiction, drinking, and medications. You've seen people overcome similar struggles, and there are always inspiring stories about how they use that experience to make a positive impact on the world. That's what this man does. If you're looking to hear about someone's journey of overcoming adversity and achieving incredible things, especially while battling similar challenges yourself, this episode is perfect. So, without further ado, let's begin. [5:45] Why should I listen to you?  I care deeply, and it's because of my genuine concern for people. I value human connections and strive for meaningful interactions. When I converse with you, you can expect someone who respects and values you, someone who communicates from the heart.  [6:20] Where did you enter into life that led to this journey, and is there a particular point at the very beginning that you consider a good starting point? I come from the era of the 80s and 90s, where masculinity was epitomized by figures like Stallone and Arnold Schwarzenegger. I was raised to be a 'man's man,' tough and rugged. However, my response may seem somewhat contradictory to that image. The truth is, I've always possessed a caring and compassionate heart, a deep desire to help people, and a genuine love for serving others. Now, let me take you back to my earlier statement. Growing up in the 80s and 90s, these larger-than-life characters made me feel somewhat out of place, as it didn't align with my natural inclination. I'd even recall instances in football where I would tackle an opponent correctly and extend a hand to help them up, only to hear my coach demanding that I leave them on the ground. This innate caring nature I've had since birth wasn't something I initially embraced or understood, especially in a world that admired action heroes.  [9:10] How did you develop these qualities? Was it through life experiences or through building rapport with others? I genuinely believe that this is something inherent in my nature. I should note that I didn't have an exceptionally challenging upbringing. My mother was nurturing, but my father embodied the typical 'man's man' persona. There was a clear polarity in my household, and my father was determined not to let me grow up as a 'mama's boy.' He often reiterated that he wouldn't allow me to become too soft. Nevertheless, I think there was a degree of nurturing in my upbringing that I naturally gravitated towards. Despite the challenges, including family struggles, alcoholism, addiction, and the ups and downs of life, this caring nature has always been a fundamental part of who I am. [11:45] How do you balance setting high standards for your child in their chosen pursuits without making them feel like a lesser person? My son has developed a deep passion for bodybuilding, and it warms my heart to see him embrace this love. He's been studying not just the current generation of bodybuilders but also legends like Sean Ray, Dorian Yates, Jay Cutler, Ronnie Coleman, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Frank Zane, and even had conversations with Michael Hearn. I've been fortunate to share this journey with him. In the gym, it's important to communicate and encourage one another. I remember a moment when my son and his best friend were training together. His friend cracked a joke just as he was about to lift a weight, and I noticed my son laughing and losing focus. In that instant, my coaching instincts kicked in. I re-racked the weight and told my son that he could joke once he finished his last rep. It's not about being overly tough but ensuring he stays focused and motivated. We should cheer him on for those extra reps. Anthony, you should take this as a compliment because, having spent time with you and your family, I see that your son greatly admires and respects you. You're like a mentor to him. You inspire him and encourage him to give his best, not allowing him to back down.  [13:23] How did you navigate challenges with unsupportive parents, seeking acceptance and love, and progressing through such situations? I believe there were some accurate emotions at play. My father had a strong desire to mold me into a responsible, capable man. With the perspective of time, I've come to realize that I wasn't always the central focus of his attention. He carried a heavy load of responsibilities, and even when he seemed distant, distracted, or upset, it wasn't necessarily about me. He was a driven, busy figure in the business world, often referred to as an 'assassin.' Many of my cravings for approval, acceptance, and love stemmed from a need to connect with him, to earn his affection in any way I could. [14:40] Can you discuss personal challenges you faced in your journey, how they influenced your path, and the role of your early years? When I was growing up in New Jersey, I was the chubby kid, often referred to as 'El Chapo' by my dad, although he didn't mean it in a harmful way. It was a different era back then. There was a movie in the 80s called 'The Goonies' where a character rolls through a chimney, and my friends would have me reenact that. Fast forward, our family moved to Florida, a non-union state, where I could enjoy the pool every day. I used to swim with my shirt on because I was self-conscious about my weight. My parents noticed how upset I was and decided to make a change. They started buying me fitness magazines like Flex and Muscle and Fitness, got me my first bench press and some dumbbells, and stopped taking me to fast-food restaurants. They replaced my usual McDonald's order with healthier options like grilled chicken and apples. It was a different time, without the wealth of information available today, but I absorbed everything I could, just like you and I get to see with today's youth. In just four years, I transformed from the overweight kid to the fittest in my class. The questions changed from 'How many Oreos did you eat last night?' to 'How much can you bench?' The girls started noticing me, and I began hanging out with older kids, which also introduced me to drinking. Surprisingly, alcohol seemed to fix something inside me that I didn't even know was broken. That broken piece was my constant craving for my father's love and attention. When I became more confident with my physique, I felt like I could finally be seen as his son, like someone who could live up to his standards. I channeled this desire for approval and acceptance into muscle-building, alcohol, and other pursuits. It was my way of seeking validation and striving to be a man in his eyes. [18:56] When did you start drinking and how did it affect you, knowing others may relate to this experience? I started my journey with alcohol at a young age, and it began innocently enough. It wasn't as if I had a drink and then suddenly found myself carrying around a paper bag filled with booze at school the next day. It initially revolved around Friday and Saturday nights during middle school and early high school, occasionally spilling into weekdays. What I quickly realized was that alcohol provided a boost to my confidence, not arrogance. It was like a different version of me emerged, one that could engage with anyone. However, the desire to drink again grew stronger, and I wasn't content with just the weekends or post-game celebrations. I even obtained a fake driver's license to buy alcohol. When I got to Arizona State University, known as the top party school, I wholeheartedly embraced the sex, drugs, and rock and roll lifestyle. Alcohol became my first commandment, an ingrained part of my identity. It progressed over time, and it's what makes alcoholism and addiction a disease, not just a disorder. This disease has four key components: it's progressive, meaning it gets worse over time, chronic, always present, primary, and potentially fatal. I had no awareness of being an alcoholic or an addict at the time; I saw myself as a 'work hard, play hard' kind of person. [22:48] What was your wake-up moment that prompted change?  I'd like to express my gratitude for having me. I'm not sure if I mentioned it before, but thank you for inviting me to your home, the auto-shift, and the truck's house, and for the quality time I spent with you and your wonderful family. My journey had different stages, and the 'aww' moment for me was my intervention. It was a moment when the people who loved me the most surrounded me and read heartfelt letters, all following a similar format. They expressed their love and admiration for me and then delved into the reality of what I'd been doing. They recounted instances like when I drove my nephew while drunk or nearly slipped with my daughter down the stairs, using these memories as a plea for me to seek help. That was the initial part of my 'aha' moment. The major part came nine days later when I entered a treatment facility. It was there that I had a profound spiritual experience. For me, it wasn't an intense, blinding, spiritual awakening like Bill Wilson's, but rather it felt like a part of my ego was dying. This transformation manifested in the form of a panic attack. My heart rate skyrocketed, well over 180, and it was a distressing experience. But this mental shift was necessary for a new version of me to emerge. When I surrendered and accepted the need for change, my heart rate returned to normal, and I left the facility as a new person. This experience showed me that sometimes, something within us needs to transform or 'die' for a new, healthier version of ourselves to emerge. [25:36] Did you have a support system or was it more of a personal journey? I was never alone. You may have heard of the poem 'Footprints,' where a person talks to God about two sets of footprints turning into one during their hardest moments. From family intervention to a treatment center with excellent support, I learned to be authentic. I used to put on a fake smile to hide my problems, but even then, I was never truly alone. God was always there.  [38:20] Did the work you do in building a pathway to personal development connect with or influence the Hero Project in any way? Certainly, the Hero Project is my coaching program, but it's unique in that it's not a one-size-fits-all approach. Instead, it's tailored to each individual's specific needs. We guide individuals through the Hero's Journey, which typically involves a separation phase, like breaking free from addiction or fear. Then there's an initiation process where we teach new skills and beliefs, helping individuals become more empowered. However, often the biggest challenge is confronting inner demons or fears that reside within us. This may involve difficult conversations or making courageous choices. Ultimately, in every hero's journey, there's a return home, not as a conqueror, but as a better, more evolved person, leading by example. That's what my life is all about – guiding people through their own Hero's Journey. [40:30] Do you seek that turning point where people decide to work with you, or do you try to address their hesitations when they're unsure if it's the right fit?  Many times, people come to me when they've reached their own version of rock bottom, whether it's spiritual, financial, emotional, or mental. Often, it's a family member, spouse, agent, or sports team that reaches out, convinced that the person is ready for help, even if they claim not to be. My role isn't to convince but to establish a common language, using metaphors like 'tires win the race' to make them understand the need for change and participation, whether they're athletes or entrepreneurs. [43:58] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  He promised the world that: You will get through the hero's journey but you will have a great time doing that.  Key Quotes  [38:00-38:04] Reawakening in the spirit is a chance to get through difficult things or situations.  How to connect with Adams Jablin  Instagram: https://instagram.com/adamjablin Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/adamjablin  Twitter: https://twitter.com/adamjablin   

I'm your host, Anthony Trucks, and today we have Lori Harder on the show. Lori is a friend I've known for a couple of years now. She's an incredible human who has experienced a lot, learned from her experiences, and has a unique skill set for sharing her expertise in a way that benefits the world. She talks about her journey, from her childhood interest in religion to navigating a shift in identity. She's been through financial struggles, made a significant income in the fitness industry, delved into personal development, and more. Now she's working on launching projects she started from scratch. Lori shares her journey and the reasons behind her choices. So, without further ado, let's dive into the episode. [2:20] Why should I listen to you?  I would say you should listen to me because I've achieved something remarkable in my life. [3:04] What is it that you do so well?  It's intriguing. I believe there are a few things I excel at, but they initially stemmed from a need for survival. These tactics eventually evolved into the realization that, even though they originated from challenging times in my life, they've transformed into skills that can be applied to various areas. I'm particularly adept at learning, such as reading and understanding people and inspiring them to embrace a vision. However, I'm also acutely aware of my weaknesses and make a point of surrounding myself with individuals who possess the skills I lack. [4:00] Was it always that way for you, or did you have an attorney that you asked for help from?  In the early 2000s, I had vivid memories, largely because I was deeply entrenched in the fitness world. Back then, I used to read fitness magazines, and it struck me that the individuals I aspired to be like—those women gracing the covers and winning prestigious fitness awards—seemed flawless. I believed they had it all, and I thought I could never measure up to them because I hadn't gone to college, I wasn't an athlete, and I didn't fit into that mold. I thought they were masters of everything. The world, it seemed, was projecting this message that we had to be experts in every aspect of our lives. But fast forward to today, and that's one of the reasons I appreciate the internet. It's shown me that you don't have to be a jack-of-all-trades; you just need to focus on your strengths and find ways to collaborate with people who excel in areas where you don't. If it's true, and I believe it is, that we should concentrate on what we're good at, we can accomplish so much more. [5:48] How did you get to the point of making people pay you?  The first time I received payment for my work was out of desperation, leading me to question if we always need our backs against the wall to succeed. Most of my significant successes were born from a place of necessity and frustration, such as when my husband lost his job and we faced dire financial circumstances. I realized I had to change my situation. My dream was to be in the fitness industry, but my lack of education held me back. It was only when our situation hit rock bottom, with our home, cars, and $300,000 in debt lost, that I decided to take action. In a moment of desperation, I discovered the power of 'on-demand' motivation. But it would be great if we didn't always need a crisis to activate our potential. I've seen that a simple realization of unhappiness in a 35-45 minute conversation can be enough to drive change. We don't always need our backs against the wall to make a change. So, my earlier question about whether desperation is a prerequisite for success is still intriguing to me. It's a topic that leads to the realization that we can transform our lives without waiting for a major crisis. My journey started with a lack of a high school diploma, but it eventually led me to a place of gratitude and empowerment. [10:48] Is there any other part that led to not graduating high school?  I grew up in a small town and belonged to a very restrictive religion with just 114 members in our congregation. I was homeschooled throughout high school and had virtually no social life. In my early years, I used to go door-to-door, preaching and trying to sell the idea of the end of the world, which wasn't an easy task. However, this experience taught me the art of conviction and persuasion. As a teenager, I started feeling a calling for something bigger, although I couldn't quite define it. This longing for a different path, particularly in fitness leadership, wasn't possible within my religious community. At the age of 18, I made the difficult decision to leave my religion, which meant leaving behind everyone I'd known. This experience of transitioning from a familiar environment to the unknown without a support system or community continues to shape my work today. I can empathize with people going through significant life changes, whether it's a career shift, a lack of family support, or leaving everything behind. My personal journey has fueled my passion for helping others in similar situations. [14:35] Could you specifically share what you do now?  I experienced a series of transitions in my life. I faced tough times after leaving home but found my calling in the fitness world. Working with people made me realize that mindset was crucial for change, not just physical training. This led me to personal development, which helped me deal with anxiety and opened a world of possibilities. I started writing books and organizing events to help others break through their limiting beliefs. After my book was published, I entered a phase of self-discovery. Attending dinners with my husband's friends, who were discussing investments and business opportunities, sparked my interest. These conversations were vastly different from those I had with my female friends. I recognized the need to bridge the gap for women looking to grow financially and professionally. So, I started a female-centric company, raising $2 million from 54 female investors. Our upcoming product, a beauty hydration solution, will launch soon. This journey has been transformative, like jumping several steps ahead into a different reality. [21:0] What made you think you can take money from people in common and make it successful?  This journey was a soul-searching adventure. At first, I was in a place of uncertainty, wondering about what's next. I've learned to fast forward my life by a few years and immerse myself in that feeling. But this time, the idea seemed too daunting, like something the "future me" should handle. I even thought about Sara Blakely, the Spanx founder, and how she didn't hold back when she had the idea for her product. I needed evidence that I could do this. I looked at her beginnings and compared them to my current situation. In some ways, I had a bigger network and resources. This idea wasn't beyond me; I could make it happen. Then I questioned why I should wait. What am I going to learn first? Learning happens on the job, after all. I realized that I could be resourceful, humble enough to ask for help, and smart enough to put together a team. It was a one-step-at-a-time process. But most importantly, I couldn't bear the thought of living with unfulfilled dreams and avoiding the scary stuff. I had already experienced the pain of avoidance and knew it wasn't a path I wanted to follow. I didn't want to choose a self-inflicted painful prison. So, I decided to move forward and embrace the challenge. [25:40] Did you have anybody around you who had the opposite energy?  I've learned that your surroundings, especially the people in your life, have a stronger influence on you than your willpower alone. When you're considering something new, one of the first things to change is the people you surround yourself with. It might not always be possible to swap out everyone around you, but you can choose to spend more time with people who empower and support your goals rather than those who hold you back. This can be a difficult decision to make and act upon, but it's a crucial step. Just like we tell our kids not to hang around with certain groups at school because they'll be influenced by them, the same goes for adults. If you want to believe that something is possible for you, spend time in rooms full of people who also believe that anything is possible. Your beliefs can be influenced by the limiting beliefs of those around you, so make sure to immerse yourself in an environment where the prevailing mindset is one of limitless potential. Surrounding myself with like-minded individuals who have similar goals and have overcome challenges has busted my limiting beliefs.  [29:39] Have you ever experienced any unexpectedly amazing things?  I'm immensely grateful for the love and challenges I've experienced in life. I've come to deeply appreciate the importance of challenges. When faced with something incredibly difficult, it's not that I love it or feel great about it because it's still hard, and there's a part of me that wants to run away from it or hide from my emotions. Even thinking about it can bring tears to my eyes. However, I've learned that on the other side of these challenges, I get to meet a version of myself that's connected to something greater, something like a profound connection with my Creator. It's difficult to explain, but it's as if you gain a new perspective, heightened perception, compassion, and empathy. Now, instead of wanting to run from challenges or resist them, I try my best to run towards them. Even when I don't want them to come, I know that something valuable will emerge from these experiences. It's a belief that's ingrained in me, and it's become a precious gift. [36:20] What are your overarching goals for this venture? Are you considering other paths or staying firmly committed to the current venture? I absolutely love this question, and I appreciate you asking. There are a few things I'd like to do with my business. First, I want to sell it because it's an exciting prospect, and I also genuinely want to explore new opportunities. I have some creative ideas for the business that I'm eager to bring to life. One of my main goals is to structure it in a way that's somewhat akin to network marketing, though not quite the same. I want to empower women through the company, offering various programs and initiatives that could potentially benefit other businesses that follow a similar model. The world of marketing is evolving, and I believe people are craving a sense of community. I want to find ways for businesses to provide this community experience, moving beyond the superficial connections on platforms like Facebook. I'm particularly excited about creating opportunities for people to earn income through our business. This is part of a broader vision to encourage women to invest in each other. I believe that there's an endless well of potential and creativity, and it's crucial to demystify the process of starting a business, developing a product, and exploring new ideas. [44:45] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  She's going to be your permission to do anything you want to do.  Key Quotes  [5:10-5:20] You don't have to know everything; instead, focus on what you excel at, build a team, or surround yourself with those who complement your skills.  How to connect with Lori Harder Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loriharder Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LoriHarder Twitter: https://twitter.com/loriharder

In today's episode, our guest is Henk Rogers, and while he's not the creator of Tetris, he has some fascinating stories associated with the game, which you'll discover in this episode. However, we mainly delve into the pressing issue of climate change. Many people aren't fully aware of the situation and its implications, and Hank sheds light on it. We discuss ideas and actions we can take individually to address this challenge, offering insights that can help you stay informed and potentially contribute to positive change. We all want a better world for our children, and Hank's perspective can guide us in that direction. Tune in with an open mind, an open heart, and attentive ears for an insightful episode! [3:07] Why should I listen to you?   You should listen to me because I'm a key figure in Hawaii's transition to 100% renewable energy. Hawaii is a global leader, and even in the United States, we're at the forefront of achieving 100% renewable energy for electricity. I've played a significant role in making this transformation possible. [3:43] Why has this become a passion of yours, and why are you devoting your time and life to it? I had a near-death experience. After selling my company in 2005, just a month later, I found myself in the back of an ambulance due to a heart attack, with 100% blockage of the Widowmaker artery. I looked at the ceiling and thought, "You've got to be kidding me. I haven't even spent any of the money from the sale." But the next thought was, "No, I'm not going. I still have things to do." This experience made me reevaluate my life's purpose. I came across a newspaper article discussing the threat of coral extinction by the end of the century due to ocean acidification caused by carbon dioxide emissions. I decided I couldn't stand by and watch this happen. So, my mission became clear: to eliminate the use of carbon-based fuels.  [5:20] Why did you choose this specific cause to devote your time and energy to, and what drives your passion for it? I have always had a global perspective, having lived in various countries. When I look at the world, I don't see individual places like Hawaii or San Francisco, even though I lived there for seven years. I see the world as a whole. The issue of carbon-based fuels is not something that can be solved by addressing it in just one place; it needs to be tackled worldwide. Unfortunately, not many people think on a global scale. Most individuals want to help specific communities or address localized problems, like saving a coral reef. These local efforts are essential for creating change on a smaller scale. However, someone must consider these issues on a global level. If I can and do think on this global scale, then it becomes my responsibility because not many others are taking on that part of the challenge. [12:54] What are the major challenges and barriers you've faced while working on a global scale and trying to get buy-in from a large number of people? The situation in Hawaii was as follows: when we began this journey, Hawaii was importing $6 billion worth of oil, with $5 billion spent on oil used for various purposes and another billion dollars specifically for jet fuel. Among this, 30% was allocated to jet fuel, 30% for ground transportation, and 40% for electricity, totaling $2 billion for electricity and a billion dollars for ground transportation. We aimed to halt this $3 billion expense. Notably, the electric company in Hawaii was the largest corporation, and when we introduced legislation to transition to 100% renewable energy, they were one of the main opponents, arguing that it couldn't be accomplished. I recall being on a panel where I stated our goal of achieving 100% renewable energy by 2045. A fellow panelist, a university researcher, declared that, based on his studies, it was impossible. I responded by taking the microphone and acknowledging that I might not be as knowledgeable as him, but we were determined to do it regardless. The prevailing attitude often involves experts and industry insiders insisting it can't be done. This perspective stems from a focus on slow, incremental changes. However, we disrupted the utility's business model to make the transition to renewables more profitable for them, and the results speak for themselves. Hawaii's initial target was 40% renewable energy by 2030, and we have already achieved that goal. [16:00] Are you primarily focused on finding better methods or strategies for implementing renewable solutions, or is your research more oriented toward encouraging people to adopt these approaches? At present, we're closely monitoring emerging research and the rise of companies that develop the cutting-edge technologies we require. Instead of creating these technologies ourselves, we search for them. For example, let's consider our interest in hydrogen production. To make hydrogen, we need an electrolyzer, a device that utilizes water and electricity to generate hydrogen. Remarkably, a new company in Ohio has developed an advanced electrolyzer. We decided to purchase their first unit, which we now use at the ranch to produce hydrogen. Several other companies are also experiencing significant growth. The key point here is that people can visit our ranch and witness the future unfold. They can learn about living off the grid, given that I exclusively drive electric cars charged solely at the ranch. Consequently, we've achieved complete off-grid living and gathered essential knowledge, even if it means occasionally taking cold showers, which can be an interesting experience. [18:42] How are shifts to electric vehicles and renewable energy impacting the automotive repair and mechanics industry, given the ongoing global changes?   The world is in a constant state of flux, as it has always been. Imagine humanity as passengers in a lifeboat, where there are holes in the boat and most of us are diligently scooping out water to keep it afloat. Surprisingly, there are individuals assigned the task of drilling more holes in this lifeboat. This is not a job; it's a crime against humanity and nature. Once we collectively understand this, we must cease damaging the world we intend to pass on to future generations. Considering you have three kids and I have four, with eight grandchildren and another on the way, it's vital to recognize that I'm the eldest of 15 siblings, which means I have a multitude of nieces and nephews. This immense family network makes me feel accountable, not just for them but for all the children who will follow. It's our human responsibility to safeguard the well-being of the next generation and the ones that come after. If we neglect our duty and mistreat our planet, we will witness severe consequences, not only in terms of the current wave of migrants fleeing regions where food can no longer be grown but also in the imminent deluge of people facing dire circumstances in the coming two decades. [25:45] How can we start discussions about climate change and sustainability in suburban areas with limited focus on these topics amid information overload and distractions? I'm determined to inspire individuals to make responsible choices at a local level. For instance, I've personally embraced a sustainable lifestyle by going off the grid, driving electric vehicles, and choosing alternative means of transportation such as cycling or using public transit. These seemingly small actions accumulate and have a substantial impact. Empowering your community to make conscious decisions is of paramount importance. When your community decides to take a definitive step, the conversation shifts from "Why should we do this?" to "How can we achieve this?" The moment people start contemplating the "how," solutions start emerging. Let's take, for example, the city of New York. We initiated the plan to go 100% renewable energy, and once the commitment was in place, everyone involved began brainstorming how to make it happen. Astonishingly, just six months after passing this mandate, the electric company publicly declared, "We've figured it out, and we can achieve this by 2040." It's perplexing that they hadn't explored this earlier, but the power lies in making people think about it. When a city, like San Francisco, declares its intent to transition to 100% renewable energy, it sparks a chain reaction. All the entities contributing to the city's electricity supply start brainstorming how to align with this goal. That shift in mindset is precisely what we need. [34:50] What are some practical steps someone like me can take to contribute to sustainability and environmental efforts, even on a local level, such as in their home or community?  An effective approach to raising awareness involved elementary school children, who went door-to-door to replace 300,000 incandescent bulbs with energy-efficient LED alternatives. LED bulbs consume just about 10% of the electricity required by incandescent bulbs. This easy swap significantly reduces household energy consumption—a simple yet impactful change. I've personally made eco-conscious adjustments, like eliminating beef from my diet. While I enjoy a good burger, I've learned about beef's devastating environmental effects. Cattle farming contributes to deforestation, especially in the Amazon, as trees are cleared for grazing. Cattle also emit methane as they digest their food, further exacerbating environmental issues. In contrast, pigs and chickens have much smaller environmental footprints, primarily feeding on waste, making them a more sustainable dietary choice. [44:33]  What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I'm going to send you somebody who's going to help you fix things  Key Quotes  [6:40-6:42] Ignorance is thinking you can't do something.  How to connect with  Henk Rogers  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/henkrogers Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/HenkRogers Twitter:  https://twitter.com/henkrogers  

On today's episode, our guest is Brad BizJack. He's here to share something special for those of you looking to achieve more success, joy, love, and financial abundance, grow your business, mend relationships, and unlock your full potential. Brad will shed light on the concept of rewiring your mind, explaining what it means and how to recognize it when you need it. Furthermore, he'll explore what life looks like after this transformation, so you can envision the possibilities.  [2:40] Why should I listen to you? Honestly, it's really simple. I can see the problem behind the problem—I can understand what you're going through and help you view life in a way that allows you to rewire your mind to focus on your true dreams. Many people are in a situation where they support others, but sometimes all it takes is one little insight, one question, and one different perspective on a problem that can transform everything. This is evident in the success stories of life. So, picture us at a coffee shop, discussing your dreams and goals. By the end of that conversation, you will undoubtedly know exactly what you want out of life, what's holding you back, and the practical strategies for breaking through. [3:35] Can you share a moment in your life that's relevant to the person you help today? Starting with a challenging $92,000 debt and a miserable job, I eagerly embraced an opportunity for an online business, hoping it would lead to financial success and happiness. As I struggled, I noticed that while everyone else was thriving, I was stuck in toxic positivity, pretending problems didn't exist. I believed I'd only be happy when I achieved success. After talking to a mentor, I made a pivotal decision. I chose to work with a coach who changed my perspective during our first session. She emphasized that my attachment to success was the issue. Success wouldn't miraculously solve my problems. Instead, it was about rewiring my mindset and overcoming limiting beliefs. This realization prompted me to shift my focus to understanding my mental operating system. Attending a life-altering conference, despite a recent job loss, I embraced the theme of rewiring the mind for success. This transformation marked the start of my journey, and now I've dedicated myself to helping others transform their lives and find profound freedom. [8:45] Can you share common language patterns or signs you've noticed from clients you've worked with before they started working with you? My extensive experience working with thousands of individuals has revealed recurring patterns that either hinder their progress or drive them toward success. A common issue is the absence of a compelling vision for the future. Many individuals tone down their dreams to fit a more "realistic" mold, often due to past failures influencing their future outlook. They restrict themselves from dreaming big and play it safe instead of aiming for victory. This rationalization manifests in various ways, such as claiming contentment with their current situation or waiting for the "right time" to take action. Self-blame is another prevalent symptom. People often attribute their struggles to emotional states like lack of confidence, depression, or anxiety. It's crucial to recognize that these states are malleable and depend on how they use their body, focus their thoughts, and express themselves. A prominent sign of this is scarcity thinking, particularly regarding money as the source of their problems. Limiting beliefs about time and fears of not having enough time to change their lives are also common. Two significant symptoms include the belief that they should already be further ahead in life or that they'll only find happiness once they achieve success. [16:20] What is the promised land, and what can people expect when they arrive there? In essence, it's about living life on your terms—a somewhat cliché concept but incredibly significant. It's not just about the overarching idea of having the freedom to do what you want when you want, with whom you want, and where you want. It extends to being irresistibly drawn by a compelling future vision, eliminating internal conflicts, and achieving emotional regulation. Most people allow their emotional state to be determined by external factors. I teach individuals to become emotional regulators, where they set their desired emotional temperature and maintain it consistently. It's also about living in alignment with your true desires, creating wealth, finding freedom, fostering meaningful relationships, and surrounding yourself with individuals who both understand and challenge you. After this transformation, your life becomes a reflection of the expectations set by your inner circle. You'll handle life's challenges with confidence, create your vision of success, and experience fulfillment along the way. This is what it means to reside in the "success sweet spot," where you strive for significant goals while relishing the journey and living in abundance, filled with gratitude and excitement. It's a harmonious and prosperous way of life where everything flows effortlessly. [19:28] How do you adjust your expectations and surround yourself with the right people when your current community or friends may not align with your goals? One significant challenge I encountered was expecting immediate support and understanding from those close to me regarding my dreams. As a visionary, it's essential to lead with unwavering belief in your vision. Lowering your aspirations to match the acceptance level of those around you can lead to disappointment. Instead, I've learned to love and accept the people in my life for who they are. I've also recognized the importance of carefully selecting a supportive peer group. Surrounding yourself with people who believe in your dreams and challenge you to grow is essential for personal transformation and success. [24:00] What can you share about your experience or insights with individuals who want to level up and join a more successful or supportive group but have concerns about not fitting in or being accepted by that group? Successful individuals have a genuine desire to uplift and assist others in achieving success. Joining such a group can be intimidating if you're worried about maintaining the group's integrity and providing real value. Focus on giving rather than getting. When contemplating a peer group, look at those who operate at a higher level than you and consider how you can contribute. Find innovative ways to offer value to them. For instance, if you're part of a more successful business group, leverage your strengths, like a happy marriage, to assist others in that area. It's crucial to set clear boundaries and limit interactions with individuals not at that higher level. I make sure to have regular conversations with people more successful than me, always open to learning. Surround yourself with those who excel in areas you wish to grow and discover ways to enhance your knowledge and skills. Understand your value, and if you think you have nothing to offer, create something valuable to share. [29:50] Could you share some real-time transformations you've witnessed in the people you currently work with? I've witnessed people go from utter financial struggles to establishing multi-six-figure businesses in a mere six months. Their achievements are nothing short of incredible. From an emotional standpoint, some have described it as 40 years of challenges crumbling away like a sledgehammer that just shattered their burdens, leaving them feeling free for the first time. I've seen individuals rekindle relationships with their children, bridging gaps that had persisted for decades. They finally sense the family bonds they've yearned for. People have forgiven their parents after holding onto grudges for years. In just a few days, some have decided to walk away from toxic jobs, opting to explore creative ways of serving others on a deeper level. Then some wake up one day and realize they're simply happy, without fully understanding why. It's truly incredible what becomes possible. [30:20] Can you elaborate on your five-day work and session challenge, how it works, and what individuals can expect when they take part in this challenge?  The challenge is called The Success Accelerator, a life-changing five-day challenge, offered a few times yearly and has already impacted over 50,000 lives globally. It focuses on rewiring your mindset for your distinct vision of success. Many people struggle to grow and change because they're pursuing someone else's dream, shaped by societal norms or personal history. This program not only helps you pinpoint what you genuinely desire for this phase of your life but also dismantles common toxic thought patterns and limiting beliefs that hinder your progress. The challenge isn't just about theory; it provides practical strategies to overcome your fears, doubts, and insecurities, allowing you to create the life you envision. The difference between those for whom success flows organically and those who struggle tirelessly becomes clear in this challenge, along with practical steps to bridge that gap. You can succeed without sacrificing precious family moments. Join the Success Accelerator to unlock your potential and transform every aspect of your life. [35:40] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I would help people come alive, empower them, and help them find gratitude and love so that they can see how beautiful life can be. Key Quotes  [6:00-6:03] You need to make decisions based on who you want to be. [24:10-24:14] Successful people want to help other people become successful.  How to connect with Brad Bizjack Instagram: https://instagram.com/bradbizjack Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/BradBizjackCoaching Website: https://www.bradbizjack.com  

Welcome back to the Aww podcast. Today's guest is not only a dear friend but also someone I had the pleasure of working closely with during the past 100 episodes. She played a pivotal behind-the-scenes role in shaping this podcast. Since then, she has embarked on an exciting journey in her career, specializing in helping authors amplify their brand and utilize their books as effective marketing tools. So, as you listen to Paige Duncan, I encourage you to keep an ear out for nuggets of wisdom that you can apply to your own life.  [3:18] Why should I listen to you?  The first thing is that I'm genuinely curious. When I'm talking to anyone, whether it's you on a park bench or someone else, I don't have any ulterior motives. I simply let my curiosity guide me. I ask questions and start conversations based on what intrigues me or what I find interesting about the person. [4:10] What would your initial conversation be like when approaching someone who has just released a book and expressed a desire to make a significant impact but is unsure of where to begin? I believe it's crucial to be transparent when discussing a book or sharing your thoughts. It's essential to let everyone know right from the start that you're not in the league of those best-selling authors or well-known entrepreneurs we admire. These accomplished individuals didn't possess any special knowledge or expertise when they first started. It's important to remember that we all began from a place of not knowing much more than the next person.  [5:11] Could you share some insights into your background and experiences growing up that have shaped you into the person you are today?  I've always had a desire to serve, connect, and create something of my own since I was a child. When I was just six years old, I began selling painted rocks to my neighbors, and looking back, I'm grateful for their support, even though I'm not sure why they bought painted rocks. This was my first foray into entrepreneurship, creating a product that could benefit others. Simultaneously, while selling those painted rocks, I was also writing poems. A few weeks ago, I revisited my parents' home in Arkansas, and they made me take all my childhood belongings with me. In those stacks of journals and poems, I found my early passion for writing. Writing was my way of expressing myself as a child, especially since I was often labeled as emotional and someone with big feelings. Writing became my outlet. Through writing, I developed a love for books during my preteen years. Interestingly, I didn't start with the personal development genre. Instead, I began with the Boxcar Children's series, which many of you may be familiar with. It was a form of escapism, transporting me to different worlds where I could be anyone and do anything, allowing my imagination to run wild. This is where my love for books truly began. [7:18] Your parents supported your creative endeavors and allowed you to explore your interests freely. How do you think this early support and the freedom to be yourself contributed to your personal and professional development? It sounds like my parents recognized early on that I was destined for a different path than the rest of my family, and they accepted that. They understood that I wouldn't fit the traditional mold they might have had in mind. For me, it was crucial to find an outlet that served me personally rather than being directed toward a particular sport or activity. Writing and books became my creative outlets. At the time, I don't think my parents fully grasped how much these interests would shape my life. They probably saw it as a nice hobby. Little did they know that more than 20 years later, I would be where I am now. Writing and reading not only became my passions but also boosted my confidence, something I lacked during my youth. [10:05] What happened in your journey that landed you where you are now?  In high school, I discovered my gift for communication and connecting with people. Despite my lack of self-confidence, I had a deep passion for getting to know others. As I approached college, I considered how to channel this passion into a career. I didn't want to follow the traditional path of becoming a news reporter or pursuing communications. Instead, I enrolled in college with a business degree and minored in communications and religion, as I attended a private school. After college, I ventured into various opportunities that took me away from my true calling. It took me several years to find my way back to my purpose and passion. I had followed the expectations and advice of others for a while before I finally stood up for myself and decided to pursue my path differently. [11:45] Was there like a specific AWW shift moment or a catalyst moment?  The pivotal "aww" moment for me occurred when we had to close down a business right after I graduated from college. My mom and I had opened a boutique cosmetic store, which was ahead of its time in the market. Unfortunately, it didn't succeed, and we had to shut it down. At that point, I thought I had everything figured out, and this business venture was going to be my journey. This experience forced me to undergo a significant mindset shift. I had to move away from expecting things to go according to plan and shift towards a more adaptive mindset. Instead of assuming that everything would last forever, I began looking at things incrementally and asking myself what skill sets I needed to develop to navigate the path I was on. Rather than going on autopilot, which is what I had been doing, I started to challenge the way I approached opportunities and situations. This period in my life also taught me the concept of "failing forward," although it was a challenging lesson to learn right after college. [13:52] Can you share more about the transition from Dickey's Barbecue to Success Magazine and how it shaped your career and journey? I have a story that perfectly illustrates that, Anthony. There was a pivotal moment in my life after the closure of the cosmetic store. I decided to move from Arkansas to Dallas, Texas, to start fresh. I wanted a clean slate. I vividly remember sitting in a hotel room with my mom, tears streaming down my face, and I asked her, "Mom, when will I figure out my path and create something for myself?" I felt utterly crushed at that moment. During that conversation with my mom, I had a realization that I needed to let go of my ego. I had gone from thinking I knew everything and having my own business to recognizing that I needed to start over. So, I decided to take an entry-level position in the marketing and PR department at Dickey's Barbecue. It was a humbling experience, but I knew I had to learn and build my skillset from the ground up. It took about five years at Dickey's and my second employer before I felt confident and equipped with the necessary tools to succeed and build my career. This journey taught me the value of starting over and continually learning and growing. [15:20] How did that opportunity come to be?  It's a rather amusing story, Anthony. After returning to Dallas from Austin, I was consulting with Dickey's Barbecue once again. My desire was always to work in the media industry due to my PR background. I came across a rather questionable job posting, not even on LinkedIn, but I thought, "Why not give it a shot?" So, I went to the interview, Anthony, and keep in mind they were building their new headquarters, so they were operating from an office in a warehouse in Denton, a town outside Dallas. During the interview, I received two job offers. One was for a digital marketing role, which they desperately needed but didn't match my skill set or passion. The other was for a position at Success Magazine, which was undergoing a transformation and not the powerhouse it is today. I had to decide, and it perfectly illustrates how your career can go in two directions. One option offered me the world in digital marketing, but it didn't align with my goals. The other was with a struggling magazine but had an excellent boss, Jim McCabe, who I believed would become a mentor and influential figure in my life. This is where my entrepreneurial spirit came into play, Anthony. I wanted to take a leap and build something from scratch. When I started, there wasn't even a defined PR role; I had to create it myself. [24:55] Do you mind sharing what it is that you've ventured deeply into now?  It's often said that the third time's the charm, and I truly believe it is in my case. I now run an agency called The Front Porch Collective, where we specialize in assisting individuals who want to establish their authority in the media and public relations realm. While our client base predominantly consists of authors, we also work with various talented individuals, which is how our paths aligned. Our main focus lies in helping our clients make their voices heard in today's crowded marketplace. We achieve this through the art of storytelling, promoting authenticity, and fostering genuine connections. It's no secret that building these connections, especially those needed to reach the levels of success one aspires to, isn't something everyone excels at. That's where we step in, providing the expertise and guidance required to help our clients shine and stand out in their respective fields. [33:03] How do you think people are failing with good books?  The main issue I've observed, even among best-selling authors I've worked with, is the misconception that a book will sell itself. Authors often fail to create a robust marketing and media plan for their book. It's essential to start this plan six to nine months in advance and execute it actively. Many authors expect their books to magically succeed without proper marketing. A book without a strategic plan becomes mere decoration. Authors should understand that publishers won't guarantee a book's success; it's their responsibility to sell it. A well-marketed book can open doors, leading to speaking opportunities and establishing credibility. It serves as an excellent business card, showcasing unique knowledge that only the author can offer. Additionally, a book's content can provide material for years to come, simplifying content creation for social media and other platforms. [45:15] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  There would be nobody who felt like they didn't belong, and I would make sure everybody felt that their voice was valuable. Key Quotes  [26:35-26:40] Where I always tell everybody to start is learning what they're writing about and what they're working on and serving them as a cheerleader. How to connect with Paige Duncan  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tfpcollective Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/paigeofpositivity Twitter: https://www.youtube.com/channel  

In today's podcast, our guest is Rebecca Zung, who has taken a unique path in life. She faced challenges from a young age, being bullied for her Asian heritage and navigating life as a single mom at 22. Despite these obstacles, she forged her journey, veering away from family expectations. She left her first marriage, pursued a career in law, and rose to become one of the nation's top family law practitioners. Her accomplishments extend to representing celebrities like Arnold Schwarzenegger's goddaughter. However, she ventured into a niche in which many needed guidance on narcissism. Rebecca recognized the significance of understanding and dealing with narcissists in today's world. This episode promises to deliver valuable insights into her unique journey and expertise in handling narcissistic individuals. Tune in for an enlightening discussion. [2:35] Why should I listen to you?  I care deeply about giving people access to justice. It is my mission to help people break free from toxic relationships and get access to justice so that they can live authentically and create new beginnings and new futures. [3:20] Where did your base of understanding or awareness of this come to pass?  I hail from McLean, Virginia, which, surprisingly, had its share of racism despite not appearing so. My dad, an anesthesiologist, worked at a DC hospital, while my mom, of German descent, was a nurse. I'm half Chinese and half German, resulting in a perceived lack of "fun genes" and a strong work ethic. Childhood wasn't easy; I faced bullying due to my Asian background, even though I attended Chinese school on Saturdays. While I didn't fit in at Chinese school, I found belonging within my extended family. My dad's unwavering support contrasted with the challenging bullying experience. Nevertheless, I excelled in high school, ranking second in my class. My form of rebellion led to dropping out of college at 19, getting married, and becoming a mother of three by 22. Post-divorce, I became a single mom, worked as an inner-city schoolteacher during the day, and attended law school at the University of Miami at night, even making law reviews. Law school introduced me to a remarkable woman married to a judge and top family law attorney who hired me, launching my career in family law. I later represented billionaires and celebrities, expanding into a successful media career as a national TV correspondent. However, a pivotal shift from law to entrepreneurship exposed me to a covert narcissist, reigniting memories of childhood bullying and prompting me to delve deeper into the subject. [11:30] How can one discern between someone who is having a bad day and a narcissist?  That's an excellent question because I used to believe that narcissists were exclusively male, often misogynistic, loud, dominating the room, and constantly boasting about themselves. I had no idea that narcissists could be female and display covert behaviors. Narcissism is more complex than I initially thought. It exists on a spectrum, with a recognized personality disorder in the DSM-5. At its core, narcissism is characterized by a deep inner emptiness. Individuals on this spectrum seek to fill this void through external means, manipulating and using people to extract any semblance of value. It's like there's a perpetual black hole inside them that can never be satisfied. They desperately yearn for external validation to the point of depletion while still feeling unsatisfied. Narcissists attempt to fill this void in a couple of ways. They might pursue what I call "diamond-level supply," which involves impressing others with flashy possessions, big houses, or wealth. Alternatively, they seek "coal level supply," which represents the darker aspect of narcissistic supply. This involves controlling, manipulating, debasing, or mistreating others to elevate themselves by diminishing those around them. [14:20] Did you, at some point in time, feel bad like you should have known?  Well, the individual I dealt with was a covert narcissist, which presents a subtler and more understated form of narcissism compared to the overt or grandiose narcissist. Overt narcissists tend to enter a room and dominate it, demanding the best table at a restaurant and boasting about their achievements. They are quite obvious in their self-centered behavior. On the other hand, covert narcissists are just as narcissistic but in a less overt manner. They engage in behaviors that often come with plausible deniability, allowing them to keep their hands seemingly clean. For example, they might claim not to have seen you in an email or express surprise about your presence at a meeting they supposedly missed. These actions are subtle, passive-aggressive, and often accompanied by a charming facade that makes them well-liked by everyone around them. [17:50] Can you share how your brand grew?  While parting ways with my business partner, I embarked on an intriguing journey. I dived into understanding the YouTube algorithm and grasped the concept of funnels, all while managing my law practice and regular commutes. My quest for knowledge extended to narcissism, not specifically related to my situation but for deeper insight. As I immersed myself in extensive reading on the subject, my collection of narcissism books grew behind me. This newfound wisdom unexpectedly converged with events in late 2019, when the world was undergoing significant changes. I began applying my understanding of narcissism to my legal cases, leading to remarkable progress. The realization that I might be onto something significant prompted me to create YouTube content in January 2020, focusing on dealing with narcissists. My channel had a modest 300 subscribers, making monetization elusive. However, my videos on negotiating with narcissists defied the odds, gaining substantial traction. March 11, 2020, marked the release of my course, coinciding with the onset of the global COVID-19 pandemic. The inaugural webinar, titled "The Three Must-Have Secrets to Communicating with a Narcissist," aimed to promote the course. Despite these challenges, my efforts paid off, resulting in explosive growth for my YouTube channel, accumulating 400,000 subscribers and 40 million views. I successfully sold 10,000 SLAY programs, introduced a certification program, and authored a book featuring a foreword by Chris Voss. In just three years, my life underwent a profound transformation. [23:40] What prompted you to write the book, and what was the motivation behind its timing? As you penned it, were you envisioning a specific audience, like mothers, colleagues, or someone else? Approximately 1 in 15 people display narcissistic tendencies or possess personality disorders lacking empathy, which include conditions like bipolar disorder or antisocial personality disorder. If each of these individuals emotionally abuses just three people during their lifetime, it affects 158 million Americans or 3.4 billion people globally, and this estimate may even be conservative. Traditional approaches to dealing with narcissistic individuals as if they were regular, reasonable people are ineffective. My methods have proven to work, as demonstrated by over 10,000 individuals who have shared their transformative experiences with me. Many have even expressed that my tools saved them from severe situations, such as contemplating suicide. This reinforces my belief that I'm on the right path and meant to do this work. Recognizing that not everyone can afford access to the assistance I provide, I've taken steps to establish a 501(c)(3) organization in collaboration with Lindsay Snyder, owner of In-N-Out. My passion for this cause stems from the belief that everyone should have access to justice. [26:38] How does understanding and dealing with narcissistic individuals contribute to addressing issues of justice? Narcissistic behavior stems from unique brain structures formed through early and consistent exposure to childhood trauma. Trauma prompts our brains to initiate a fight or flight response, releasing adrenaline and other hormones for heightened strength and speed. In children repeatedly exposed to trauma, this response floods their limbic system, causing arctic development. While their prefrontal cortex continues to develop, the limbic system remains underdeveloped. As adults, encountering triggering stimuli puts narcissists in survival mode, resulting in narcissistic injury. Their behavior may appear irrational to others, but it feels rational to them. Sometimes, they don't even remember their actions during this period. In negotiations or conversations, most expect a reasonable resolution. However, narcissists prioritize taking you down, even at their own expense. This distinction matters because they find satisfaction not just in winning but also in manipulating, provoking, and seeing your discomfort. This complex behavior separates them from those solely seeking victory in negotiations. [36:25] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  Justice for the little guy  Key Quotes [14:10-14:19] Narcissists seek supply by impressing others and controlling and manipulating others.   [11:00-11:08] Narcissists don't attach themselves to you because you have little value; they attach themselves to you because you have so much, and it can happen to anybody. How to connect with Rebecca Zung  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccazung Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebeccazung Twitter: https://twitter.com/rebeccazung

On today's podcast, our guest is Mark Drager. He played a pivotal role in shaping the brand personality of Dark Work. However, this episode goes beyond just branding. It delves into the human element and the journey of discovering how to do more of what you love. Mark discusses how to elevate your vibe to achieve success in business and personal life, whether you're an entrepreneur or an employee. With a track record of working on 3,000 projects for 300 different companies and generating millions of dollars in business, Mark shares his insights and the human stories behind his journey. Stick around till the end to learn more about his work and how it might benefit you. Now, let's dive into the episode. [1:50] Why should I listen to you?  Well, I don't believe I have the ego to dictate that you should. I think none of us are inherently entitled to attention. Instead, I'd be curious to know more about you. Why are you here? What brings you to Canada? Why are we both at Tim Hortons, engaging in the classic Canadian standoff of 'after you' and 'no, after you,' exchanging apologies? It's not about what you should know about me; it's about discovering who you are, understanding your challenges, and identifying where you might need assistance. As a marketer, my goal is to tailor my response to be the person you need. [4:00] Why should somebody listen to an individual like you in that situation? I began my journey in the digital marketing world at the age of 23. At that time, I had just become a father, and despite the challenges, I decided to quit my $ 40,000-a-year job to start my agency. Fast forward to today, I have nearly two decades of experience in this field. I've led my agency through numerous recessions, gradually growing it into a multimillion-dollar business. We've completed over 3000 projects for more than 300 different companies spanning 29 industries, resulting in around $14 million worth of creative work. My journey is a testament to the expertise and insights I can offer.  [6:35] How did your journey unfold to bring you to your current position and achievements? I found myself at a crossroads when choosing my career path. Initially, I had dreams of becoming an architect and following in the footsteps of my family, who were all builders. The idea of designing and creating structures fascinated me. But then, as I was about to apply to colleges and universities, I hit a roadblock. I struggled with chemistry, and for the first time, things weren't coming easily to me. That fear of not excelling in subjects like chemistry made me reconsider my path to becoming an engineer. In a moment of uncertainty, I made a drastic decision. I chose to attend film school instead, believing it would be an easier route to take. I essentially ran away from the challenge I perceived in the sciences and opted for what seemed like a simpler path in filmmaking. This choice defined my journey and ultimately led me to where I am today. [13:05] What makes you stand out and dive into this task when others might have walked away due to not matching their background or skills? In high school, my pursuit of excellence led me initially toward architecture and engineering. I wanted to be extraordinary at something, but the daunting prospect of a 10-year journey to establish myself in this field filled me with fear. I questioned my choice and looked for a different path. That path unexpectedly led me to a sales job, which, at first, seemed unrelated to my film school background. For nine months, I felt like I wasn't using my skills and that life was passing me by. This realization drove me to make a change, and I joined a franchise. In the franchise role, I discovered my passion for connecting the dots and finding creative solutions despite limited resources. Without a team, budget, or even proper equipment, I had to learn how to deliver what was needed. The fear of presenting something entirely wrong to clients motivated me to develop a meticulous onboarding process to understand their vision accurately. This process turned out to be a game-changer when I eventually started my own company. It enabled me to extract clients' expectations effectively, leading to our company's growth into a million-dollar business. Over time, I perfected the art of understanding people's true needs and desires, a skill that has been instrumental in my journey, working on thousands of projects for hundreds of clients. [17:15] Could you explain how your company has evolved over the past six months and share what you're currently focused on, along with the reasons behind this transition? When the pandemic hit, I faced a pivotal moment in my agency's journey. We had 24 full-time staff and $2 million in annual revenue, but we lost a staggering 70% of our income in March 2020. This crisis forced me to ask hard questions and led to a significant shift in our direction. As the leader of an agency and someone guiding entrepreneurs in service-based businesses, I felt the pressure of determining the right strategies in a world with endless possibilities. It was overwhelming, and I didn't realize how burnt out I was becoming. However, the pandemic also permitted me to make the changes I knew were necessary. We streamlined our services and let go of some team members. It was during this break that I reflected on what I truly loved and what we excelled at. I realized that working with entrepreneurs and helping them navigate the complex world of messaging and strategy was my passion. We rebranded as Sales Loop, a refined agency exclusively serving B2B service-based businesses in the seven to eight-figure range. The key lesson I learned is that business can be fun and rewarding when you're aligned with your passion and focus on what you do best. It's about finding your sweet spot and making a positive impact on clients who truly value your expertise. [21:55] How would you guide someone who's searching for their calling but hasn't stumbled upon it like you did with your business? Life's journey resembles a maze of choices, each door leading to a unique outcome. In hindsight, we can connect the dots, but peering into the future, uncertainty reigns, tempting us to control every step. I've learned that life's purpose can emerge serendipitously. Embracing randomness, we explore diverse paths without fixating on predefined goals. My journey shifted from aspiring architect to film school, then to sales, franchising, and eventually founding an agency. These varied experiences, seen through a retrospective lens, define who I am today. It's vital to recognize our innate gifts, those things that feel natural, and understand their value. Mastery in one field often opens doors we never imagined. Arnold Schwarzenegger's transition from bodybuilding to acting and politics, or Michael Jordan's basketball prowess, exemplifies how excellence in one area sparks unexpected opportunities. Identify your passions, hone your skills, and welcome life's surprises, as extraordinary paths often emerge when we relinquish rigid control. [28:00] How do you encourage individuals to explore beyond their comfort zones and realize their potential in areas they haven't tried yet? Certainly, the shift in how I was perceived highlights a crucial point. When considering a departure from my agency business due to challenges, I contemplated a full-time podcasting career or starting a publication. Podcasting and public speaking were my passions. However, something intriguing happened when I introduced myself as a podcast host or event emcee within entrepreneurial circles. Strangely, my credibility seemed to plummet. People appeared disinterested, and I felt like I didn't belong. However, as soon as I reverted to presenting myself as an entrepreneur passionate about marketing, the dynamics changed. Suddenly, the same individuals who previously disregarded my podcasting role acknowledged my accomplishments in building a multimillion-dollar business, leading teams, and managing numerous projects. This shift wasn't about altering my identity; it was about recognizing that our perceived value can change based on how we present ourselves and the context in which we do so. While I remained the same person with the same skills and experiences, acknowledging my entrepreneurial achievements earned me newfound respect. This experience reinforces the idea that our path to success can involve unexpected detours and require us to embrace our unique strengths and journeys. [31:50-31:55] What's your approach to tailoring your advice and value proposition when working with individuals like Tony Robbins versus someone who might be struggling with their business and needs significant help? To earn trust and preference over competitors, you must reach more people who might not even know you exist. These challenges persist regardless of your business's size, from startups to global giants. In crafting sales, written, and social messages, your goal is to pique interest and drive sales. Unfortunately, these messages often become confusing or generic, leaving even your best prospects puzzled about your value proposition. Being equal to your competition won't cut it. You need a compelling reason for customers to choose you, not leaving it to chance. Many businesses overlook the entire customer buying journey, focusing only on message effectiveness. They forget about what happens before and after customers engage with their brand. Lastly, brands frequently fail to showcase the remarkable qualities of their team members. Spotlighting individual expertise and dedication can significantly boost trust and customer connections. [47:30] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  It would be that my energy and personality are the  defining traits that I consistently bring into any room. I'm naturally inquisitive, exuberant, and outgoing, and it seems to resonate well with people. So, rather than downplay it, I should confidently acknowledge and own these traits as part of who I am. Key Quotes [26:00-26:05] The challenge lies in either not recognizing what we are truly gifted at because it comes so naturally to us. [27:20-27:24] The more you choose and walk in a pathway, the more you find out what that pathway is about.  How to connect with Mark Drager  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markdrager Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/markdragercom/  LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/markdrager  

Today's guest is Ken Eslick, someone who's achieved remarkable success, including making the Inc 5000 list this year. He's excelled in the corporate world, climbed the leadership ladder, and trained countless leaders globally. What sets him apart is his willingness to share a story of imperfection. You might wonder, how does this connect with someone who's a top-notch trainer? Well, Ken's journey has taken him through challenging times behind the scenes, despite his external success. Today, he's here to candidly discuss these experiences, extracting valuable lessons we can all apply to our lives.    [1:55] Why should I listen to you?  Why you might find value in listening to me is because I've delved into the dark work, and I can share insights gained from elevating one's identity for peak performance. [3:40] Do you mind sharing some of your darkest moments? I find it amusing because the darkest moments often stem from ongoing issues, not isolated events you can neatly package and move past. It's when these issues steer your identity away from who you truly are that things become challenging. Let me illustrate this with my personal experience. As a child, my family grappled with problems like addiction and my mother's suicidal tendencies. I turned to alcohol, and to some extent, drugs, as a coping mechanism, and this pattern persisted for years. People with addictive tendencies often become adept at managing their vices to maintain them in their lives. When people think of substance abuse problems, they tend to envision someone who has lost everything. However, it's more about the erosion of your potential self. Do we need to hit rock bottom to rediscover our true selves? I'm framing this within my context of alcohol addiction, but addiction can manifest in various forms like food, behavior, anger, or anything that pulls you away from your core values and purpose. [7:28] What was the catalyst for your success?  Well, you and I crossed paths back in 2018 or 2019 at Brendon Burchard's Influencer event. At that time, I was already on the path to sobriety, but a few years earlier, my journey into personal development started with Tony Robbins. The reason I ventured into this field was that life wasn't unfolding the way I expected, so I thought personal development might hold the answer. While it did help in some aspects, I was still sidestepping a significant issue: my drinking problem. In 2017, I was about to take on a leadership role in Tony Robbins' environment, attending a course and meeting fellow ex-military individuals the night before the program. I got heavily intoxicated. The morning after, I woke up with a profound sense of misalignment with my integrity and ethics. It felt awful, like the aftermath of telling a small lie but on a much grander scale. I couldn't stand it any longer and gave myself an ultimatum: address this issue head-on or walk away. I realized that pursuing a leadership role while battling alcoholism couldn't coexist. So, that marked the beginning of my journey to sobriety. I reached out to a friend in Alcoholics Anonymous, and that moment served as a clear catalyst, even though there were other significant moments before. It's crucial to note that readiness varies for each individual. You may not be ready until you hit that point where change becomes a non-negotiable choice. [11:50] How did you know you were ready?  The turning point for me came when I finally had enough leverage on myself. In the Tony Robbins community, we often discuss the "Dickens Process," which draws inspiration from Charles Dickens's "A Christmas Carol." It's a process of envisioning the potential consequences of continuing with one's current behaviors. You start to ask yourself, "What if I keep going down this path?" and, more importantly, "What does that mean for my children and my family?" During that period, I was overwhelmed, though I didn't initially label it as fear. Looking back, I can see it was pure fear. I was terrified, lost, and uncertain about my future. In such a mindset, abundance and success were impossible to attain. So, while it's challenging to pinpoint a single moment, it was a culmination of factors that pushed me toward change. When the decision to change became unmistakably clear, it was like my negative behaviors had awakened my soul. My soul essentially said, "Enough is enough. I'm taking charge now." This decision was relatively straightforward, but the journey of recovery wasn't. However, making that initial choice was the pivotal step, even if the process that followed wasn't always easy. [13:15] What was the journey for you to get to where you are right now?  Personal transformation isn't limited to battling addiction; it encompasses aligning your actions with your goals. Even if someone isn't struggling with addiction, they may have behaviors conflicting with their aspirations, creating inner turmoil, akin to being two different people. As I embraced positive changes, I became acutely aware of my negative behaviors, intensifying that internal conflict. It felt like standing at a crossroads, pondering which path to take. Removing a negative habit necessitates substituting it with a constructive one—akin to smokers replacing cigarettes with healthier activities to prevent relapse. I was fortunate to have certain positive aspects in place when I resolved to change—supportive family and reasonable physical fitness. These formed a sturdy foundation. Surprisingly, I initially anticipated immediate rewards from the universe for my decision to change. However, when these rewards didn't materialize as swiftly as expected, I faced frustration. I realized that the decision to change was just the start; the true transformation required diligent work and perseverance. [25:38] What are some of the actions you took?  Transitioning from a scarcity mindset, which convinces us that we lack the resources to give, to one of abundance is truly transformative. Acknowledging that you possess something valuable to offer, even if it's your time or energy, sends a powerful message to your brain that you have plenty to share. Initially, I expected immediate rewards when I committed to change, but they didn't materialize right away. Instead, I had inadvertently replaced my old habits with self-pity, another unproductive state. However, as I redirected my time and energy towards serving others, a gradual transformation began. It wasn't an instant overhaul, but over time, the rewards accumulated, creating a positive cycle of abundance and contribution. Service alone isn't the complete solution, but it complements the inner work we do on ourselves. It's about finding a balance where you're brimming with positivity and ready to share it with the world. Ultimately, when you offer value to the world, it responds with value in various forms—be it monetary gain, time, love, or appreciation. Regarding my life today, it's crucial to share the positives without any sense of boasting. By doing so, we help others see the incredible possibilities that lie beyond their current challenges. My life has undergone a remarkable transformation into a journey characterized by growth and abundance. [33:00] What out-of-character actions did you take to transition into a higher version of yourself or your new, more conscious identity? Life often repeats its lessons until we grasp them. My brightest moments are linked to service. I coach people pro bono, shifting from scarcity to abundance by recognizing that giving, even time, signals abundance to our brains. I once expected instant rewards for choosing change, but they didn't come, partly due to inaction and replacing my old habits with self-pity. Yet, when I redirected my energy toward abundance, contribution, and service, small victories accumulated. In recent years, they've grown into something remarkable. [41:46] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  Through my leadership, I would shape a path that may not always be straightforward but aims to make the world a better place. Key Quotes  [23:30-23:35] If you don't find proof of who you are, your brain finds proof of who you are.  [26:24-26:28] If you think you don't have enough, you will have nothing to give to others  How to connect with Ken Eslick  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keneslick Facebook: https://www.facebook/keneslick LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/keneslick 

In today's episode, our guest is Kash Hasworth. He is a disruptive sales leader, entrepreneur, and author of "Selling Keeps You Broke". After scaling a wireless franchise to 28 locations in his early 20s, he emerged as a formidable force in the renewable energy arena. He arms his readers with the tools to learn, elevate, and disrupt.  [3:15] Why should I listen to you?  I believe life is profoundly influenced by one's perspective. The key to my ability to attract exceptional individuals and navigate my journey from a challenging past to boardroom success, scaling multiple businesses, and achieving personal breakthroughs, lies in my perspective. I view everything as working in my favor, even during failures or setbacks. Regardless of the intensity of adversity or difficulty, I see it as ultimately benefiting me rather than working against me. When you encounter someone with such a perspective, I strongly recommend welcoming them into your circle. [5:00] Where did this skill set come from?  Regarding many of the skills I possess, such as sales and leadership, I can confidently say they weren't innate abilities. However, when it comes to perspective, I've always been more of an introvert. From as far back as I can remember, I've had a sharp perspective. What truly defined it for me, though, was experiencing the loss of very close friends. When you lose someone who feels like a brother, it hits you hard, and you realize that life shouldn't be taken so seriously. I believe it all stems from that experience, which was a pivotal point in my life. It made me understand that if I wanted to change my destination, I had to change my course.  [7:28] Can you share more about your journey during that period? Before changing my path and coming home, my father was a notorious drug dealer, and I essentially inherited that business when I was around 14. However, when the state kicked in and took him away, he ended up serving six years in prison. Meanwhile, my mother was dealing with some health issues. I'm not making excuses, but I was the only one who could step up and be a provider. People often act based on the information they're exposed to, and our reality is a reflection of our surroundings. That was my environment. So I found myself deeply involved in the drug game at the age of 14 or 15. My father had a tough life himself, and I tried to live up to his legacy, which led to aggressive behaviors and associating with the wrong crowd. One thing led to another, and I ended up in a shootout where someone got shot. As a result, I went to prison for two years. It's crazy how life can thrust you into situations you never imagined, like when I was in foster care, completely removed from the life I once knew. [10:30] Did you reach a point where you felt like you were finished with your previous pursuits and needed to move on? Or did you experience moments when you shifted gears abruptly, saying, 'I'm done with this'?  After my release, one thing was clear: I couldn't return to my former life. My mother still struggled, my father remained in prison, and many close friends were incarcerated, including my best friend, stationed in Germany. I initially fell back into selling drugs but soon distanced myself from friends and headed down a destructive path. One day, during my long walks to clear my head, I stumbled upon an abandoned elementary school. At a picnic table, I sat, unsure of what to ask for; I only sought a life of normalcy and a different environment. I sat there in tears, having a candid conversation with God, pleading for connections to the right people, information, and resources to escape my tumultuous past. My prayer was answered, and opportunities started to surface. The right people entered my life, offering the guidance I needed. With newfound hope and determination, I was on a path to change, leaving behind a life I knew all too well for one filled with promise and potential. [12:56] What were the initial opportunities that helped you make that transition? Prison, strangely enough, turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. It exposed me to adversities, hardships, and intense situations that either break you down with fear and insecurity or make you the strongest person in the room. For me, it became a benchmark for my intensity level, a level I've carried into the corporate world. In corporate spaces, I've never been intimidated because nothing matches the intensity I developed through my experiences. Failures, setbacks, losses, and terminations can't sink below the level of intensity I've known all my life. Instead, they've granted me immense confidence. [15:10] How was your journey in this direction initially kick-off? My journey continued when a friend introduced me to the Workforce Career Center program, which aimed to support at-risk youth from low-income backgrounds, often with criminal records or other barriers. The program placed us on job sites to gain real-life experience. Initially, they wanted me to work at the Career Center itself, eventually creating a youth liaison role for me to help other at-risk youth by sharing my story. Unfortunately, corporations shut down the idea, and the program eventually ended. I was left in the job market, still trying to find my way, and an employer was willing to hire a felon. That's when I stumbled upon an opportunity in the wireless industry, starting as a part-time sales rep at a small kiosk in Martinsville, Virginia. Little did I know that this humble beginning would launch my career in an unexpected direction. [17:28] What do you believe were the distinguishing factors that set you apart from your counterparts and contributed to your remarkable success? I approach every room as a student, eager to learn from others. This mindset led to the FAR method, a framework I discuss in my book. It involves studying experts, adopting their habits, and continuously improving. Starting in the wireless industry, I had minimal training and layers of leadership above me. Still, I was determined to master every role. My charismatic trainer, one of the top performers, became my mentor. I learned from him how to engage people, even in a kiosk environment where eye contact is often avoided. The company lacked training materials, but I was resolute in not returning to my previous life. I observed my trainer's charisma and adopted his tactics, always seeking to learn and grow. This approach contributed significantly to my corporate success. [21:00] Can you describe the process of expanding a company, like the one where you assisted in growing it to 20 locations?  Initiative played a significant role in my journey. Stepping into a role before officially holding it can take you far. When recruiting, I value candidates with strong personalities and initiative. Initiative often outperforms raw talent. One key move was consistently BCCing the owner on my emails when I took over a location. This proactive communication style led the owner to ask me to handle communications company-wide. I took on these responsibilities without an immediate pay increase, but it eventually paid off. I expanded to manage multiple locations. Starting with one successful location, I realized that finding talented salespeople wasn't enough. To scale, I needed to find leaders who could replace me and run the store effectively. This unique perspective on staffing contributed to our success and the growth of multiple stores. [25:45] What did it look like for you to look at the next progression of your career? As we scaled the business, we managed 28 locations across four states for Intel's wireless. Intel's Wireless was a regional carrier similar to Verizon or Sprint, operating in four states. Despite having fewer locations than some competitors, we became their number-one dealer by sales volume. However, the wireless landscape changed. First, Intel's Wireless was acquired by Sprint, and we navigated that transition successfully. But then, Sprint merged with T-Mobile, and to become a T-Mobile dealer, you needed over 300 locations. Realizing that leaving on their terms wouldn't be favorable, the owner explored an exit strategy. Back in the marketplace, I joined another wireless company as a sales rep, quickly becoming their top performer among 400+ salespeople. I moved into leadership roles and helped them scale a door-knocking team. But when that company went under, I found myself back in the marketplace, ultimately leading to the creation of Solar Ignite Group. [35:08] What was the catalyst for a book coming out of you?  The book is titled "Selling Keeps You Broke: A Holistic Approach to Disruptive Sales Performance to Earn Big." I decided to write this book because it was a natural progression of my journey. It only took me 29 days to write because I had been documenting these insights throughout my entire career. My digital notebook is filled with frameworks, quotes, and key concepts that have shaped my approach for the past 15 years. But more than just sharing my knowledge with other sales professionals, this book is a legacy for my three sons. I want to provide them with a blueprint for achieving success and winning in life.  [37:35] Do you still see yourself growing and learning as you age, even with the blueprint you've created for your kids? Success is a dynamic goal. To be successful, whether as a leader, salesperson, or elite professional in any field, one must embrace the idea that it's an ongoing, evolving journey. Every day is an opportunity to learn and improve. I dedicate time each day to absorb new content and refine my skill set because growth is continuous. I believe in instilling the same values in my children. For example, my 12-year-old son has a rule: Before he can use his PlayStation 5, he must watch at least three educational videos of his choice. [42:29] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  To help elevate and expose people to the right information that allows them to escape the environment that they feel confined to.  Key Quotes  [26:40-26:45] If you're not aggressively investing in yourself, you're not going to be able to attract the next-level leader. [26:50-26:55] Critically focus on self-development, communication, leadership, delegation, and accountability.  How to connect with Kash Hasworth  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kashhasworth Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/khasworth/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kash-hasworth  

In today's episode, our guest is Jeremy Delk. He has a remarkable life story, having lost his father at just seven years old. He's navigated through the ups and downs of business, even exciting companies worth hundreds of millions of dollars. What sets him apart is how he's maintained a strong connection to his heart throughout this journey. Today, we'll explore his experiences, from overcoming adversity to achieving success, and the valuable lessons he's learned along the way. We'll also touch on what it means to find true success while balancing family life and passing on those lessons. [2:25] Why should I listen to you?  I think the 43-year-old me would have a different answer than the 20-year-old me. I have this genuine curiosity that will help me in business so much. But I have a curiosity about people, and I love learning. I really love helping. I think that's the biggest piece. So, you should listen to me because I'm going to come from the right place. I'm not going to try to sell you a pitch or something like that. I'm just going to be genuinely curious.  [3:28] When did your curiosity start to build up?  I hail from Bardstown, and growing up in this small town, I had a persistent yearning to explore beyond my comfortable surroundings. At the age of seven, my world was shattered when my father tragically lost his life in a motorbike accident. This event, though not unique in the context of loss, catapulted my family into a state of immense instability. My mom, a young single mother, suddenly found herself responsible for two small kids. It was a daunting transition for all of us. This period of instability left an indelible mark on my psyche. It forged in me a fierce determination never to return to such uncertainty. I became driven by the desire for stability and resources, fueling my journey into adulthood. As I matured, I made my fair share of mistakes, experienced both success and failure and evolved into someone with a voracious appetite for learning. I became addicted to the process, relishing in curiosity, listening intently, and eventually becoming a subject matter expert. That curiosity remains the driving force behind my journey. [7:12] What would be your desired topic of conversation?  Opening a conversation by asking someone about themselves, their aspirations, and ambitions is incredibly powerful. People tend to open up, sharing dreams and goals. The follow-up question, often about actions taken, reveals two distinct profiles: those who've progressed and those making excuses. Entrepreneurs thrive on action, but self-imposed obstacles, like fear of failure or external judgment, frequently obstruct progress. Helping individuals recognize and overcome these mental barriers is transformative. The objective is to encourage them to take that first step, regardless of perceived obstacles, and keep moving forward. These initial actions are the foundation for lasting change. [9:35] How do you help somebody navigate past those roadblocks, and barriers such as self-inflicted excuses? Helping someone embark on a new venture begins with understanding their "why." Regardless of the industry, this foundational question is pivotal. Many may say they want to start a business to be wealthy, but we dig deeper to uncover their genuine motivations. Is it about financial freedom, quality time with family, or a true calling? The core reason must be visceral and compelling. It's not about buying happiness with material possessions; it's about fulfilling a deeper purpose. Once this authentic drive is found, it becomes the unstoppable force propelling them forward, leaving external opinions and doubts behind.   [27:30] Have you ever been worried about losing because the current situation is good?  My transition from New York's bustling energy to Kentucky was an eye-opener. It made me realize that some friends hadn't ventured far from their comfort zones. I have a passion for both building and fixing things, but I've also learned the importance of letting others take the reins once a project is up and running. However, my biggest worry, shared by many, is ensuring my children don't grow up entitled. I want them to understand the value of hard work and perseverance. Instilling good habits and a strong work ethic is crucial; I'd rather not raise entitled individuals. This concern outweighs most others. [37:20] What is the purpose and message behind your book?  The book, "Without a Plan," is my memoir of the past two decades in the business world. It's a raw account of my journey, including turning down multi-million-dollar offers and facing rapid successes and failures. It delves into both professional and personal aspects, touching on experiences like marriage therapy and trauma exploration related to my father. The overarching message is to take action and begin your journey, whatever it may be. Life is unpredictable, and tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Embrace failure as a learning opportunity; it's where growth happens. Don't let the fear of others' opinions hold you back. People are busy with their lives, and your failures don't define you in their eyes. It's your journey, so own it and keep moving forward. [43:27] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  To tell a story about the importance of being authentic. Key Quotes  [17:30-17:33] What is important to you should be all that matters [20:50-20:52] Humans are happiest in motion  How to connect with Jeremy Delk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremysdelk Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/jeremysdelkofficial Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeremysdelk

How to Get Superior Health with Dr. Matt Chalmers   In today's episode, our guest is Dr. Matt Chalmers. He is a health and wellness expert, author, and speaker who specializes in the areas of long-term wellness, nutrition, women's health, weight loss, athlete wellness, and holistic healing. He is also the author of the bestselling book “Pillars of Wellness,” which helps readers cut through the information overload about wellness, exercise, and diet to figure out the actions they can take that will have the greatest impact.  [2:30] Why should I listen to you?  Typically, the conversations I have with people revolve around important health issues. I specialize in various areas that conventional medicine may not address effectively, such as hormone therapy and cardiac prevention. Currently, my primary goal is to combat the opioid epidemic by leveraging the benefits of cannabis and ketamine. Many people either have misconceptions or limited knowledge about the tools we have to combat this crisis. [3:40] How did you arrive at this point? Can you share the journey that led you to confidently discuss this topic on a podcast?  It's actually quite amusing. I play the medical role in what's essentially a venture capital (VC) company. Our primary task involves evaluating various deals. We work extensively with NFL athletes because they often come across questionable deals and require someone to tell them when something isn't right. So, when someone brought us a cannabis-related opportunity, it piqued our interest. At first, we didn't pay much heed, assuming it was just another offering. However, it turned out that cannabis has incredible medical potential. In fact, it can alleviate pain in 64% of cases, which rivals opioids. This completely changed my perspective on cannabis. We realized that many people were missing out on its remarkable health benefits, primarily due to misconceptions or concerns about smoking or vaping. To address this, we employ a unique technology that allows users to benefit from cannabis without smoking, vaping, or ingesting it. This method provides pain relief without the psychoactive effects. For instance, I discussed in my TED Talk how I used these cannabis strips to help my 10-year-old son recover from surgery without experiencing a high. We've found great success in using this approach to manage pain for various medical conditions. This journey started as a response to the opioid epidemic, and we believe more people should be aware of these alternatives. [5:58] In your journey of doing this work, what sparked your passionate connection to it? Was it driven by personal experiences, childhood influences, or a desire to help a specific demographic in need? Interestingly, I have a personal connection to this endeavor, although it's not the primary reason for my involvement. I'll share that connection with you. Back in 2007, I was in a car accident that left me with a broken left foot, a fractured left femur, and my face meeting the car's dashboard, resulting in a severe concussion. To address the pain, I was prescribed opioids. Now, here's where it gets interesting: Due to the concussion, I completely forgot that I had already taken two of those pills, and I ended up taking two more. If I hadn't woken up and realized what happened, I could have been in a dire situation. So that incident is certainly part of my connection to this cause. But the primary reason I'm deeply committed to this mission is my network of connections and driven individuals who share this vision. I firmly believe that if you have the means to make a significant positive impact on people's lives and you choose not to act, it's a tragedy. I have the resources and the drive to make a difference, and I can't let that opportunity slip by. I understand firsthand the challenges faced by individuals in similar situations, and it's a matter of doing our absolute best because there aren't many people with the kind of access we have to make a meaningful change in this field. [7:56] So, considering that this concept has existed for a while, why do you think it's relatively unknown, and why aren't more people aware of these potentially life-changing treatments? First of all, cannabis has been unfairly demonized for a long time, which has created a lot of skepticism and hesitation around it. People tend to view it in a negative light. As for ketamine, it's a relatively recent discovery that it can effectively break addictions about 85% of the time. This breakthrough has only come to light in the last decade or so. Despite ketamine's extensive use in pediatric surgery for its safety, its potential for addiction treatment remained largely unknown. We're working to change that by bringing this knowledge to the forefront. While there are ketamine clinics here and there, not many people are aware of its potential in addiction treatment. What sets us apart is that we've developed a technology using sublingual strips that can deliver ketamine safely and effectively. This means we can reach more people and help them overcome addiction. As we continue to share this information through platforms like podcasts, we hope to create greater awareness and meet the growing demand for this groundbreaking approach, ultimately helping more individuals break free from addiction. [9:25] Could you explain what ketamine is? I've heard of it, but I'm not entirely sure what it is and how it works. Can you break it down for us? Ketamine serves a dual purpose – it's used for pain management and as an anesthetic to induce unconsciousness. The crucial difference is how opioids and ketamine affect the brain. Opioids impact various brain regions, including the one responsible for autonomic respiration, which controls breathing during sleep. The danger with opioids is that they can suppress this part of the brain, causing respiratory failure and, ultimately, death. That's the primary reason opioids are so deadly. On the other hand, ketamine doesn't interfere with the part of the brain that controls respiration. This is why it's considered a safer option. Ketamine has been a staple in the medical world for some time due to its safety profile, particularly in surgeries where it's used as an anesthetic. Ketamine works by targeting NMDA receptors in the brain. Think of your brain as a tangled string, and NMDA helps straighten it out. When used in a specific regimen, known as a ketamine cycle over several days, it can effectively flush out addictive behaviors. Some individuals have reported that after a five-day session, they experienced a significant reduction in their cravings and addiction, such as in the case of cocaine. In essence, ketamine offers a safer alternative for addiction treatment without the life-threatening respiratory risks associated with opioids. [15:56] How can we reconsider the demonization of substances like marijuana and psychedelics for potential benefits? It's fascinating how politics often shifts with public opinion and perception. When it comes to topics like medical cannabis, it's reassuring to see that the vast majority of individuals support expanding doctors' choices for patient care, especially when these alternatives are safer. Public sentiment can have a significant impact on motivating policymakers to contemplate changes in laws. Engaging in nationwide discussions and open dialogues on these topics can help dismantle any existing barriers and clarify misunderstandings. Individuals need to express their backing for policies that resonate with their principles and the welfare of the community. In doing so, we can offer guidance to our representatives and ensure they remain attentive to our shared aspirations and necessities. [21:10] What does life look like for you?  You know, it's one of those things when you're able to help somebody with something they've never had anyone else help them with. We do this with lives, and we do this with conditions like ulcerative colitis, and more. When you finally fix an issue that someone has been desperately struggling with, it's the most rewarding feeling you can experience. Helping someone in need is incredibly fulfilling, and I aspire to make a positive impact on as many lives as possible. I envision our work expanding beyond Dallas, reaching other areas such as California. We're also planning to offer online services. My goal for the next five years, looking ahead to 2027 or 2028, is to significantly reduce the number of deaths related to addiction. I believe we might see an increase in the next two or three years, possibly reaching around 150,000, but after that, we can make substantial progress.   [26:56] How do you envision your role in the future of this mission? Do you aspire to be the enduring face of this initiative, or are you open to passing the torch to someone else if it serves the cause better? This is just one facet of what I do. I'm passionate about many things, and I often speak about various topics in the medical field. For example, I frequently discuss hormones, which can be a hot topic. But the truth is, I've witnessed incredible transformations in people's lives by addressing hormone imbalances. It's remarkable how it can help with brain function and other health issues. As for being the face of this movement, I'll gladly do it as long as it benefits the cause. If someone else, maybe younger or more attractive, comes along and can take the reins, that's fantastic. I'm not possessive about it. My goal is to see this initiative reach its full potential. If I don't contribute to that, it would feel like a failure because, right now, this is my purpose to make a difference. [30:28] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I believe my gifts are strongly connected to an understanding of physiological function and a deep passion for improving health. My purpose seems to revolve around being a doctor for as many people as I can, dedicated to enhancing their overall health and wellness. In the grand scheme of all the things I've done, this aspect might be the most significant. How to connect with Dr. Chalmers Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chalmerswellness Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrChalmers LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-chalmers  

In today's episode, our guest is Krista Mashore. She is in the top 1% of coaches nationwide and has been a Top 1% real estate agent for 20 years. She is also the author of five best-selling books focusing on digital marketing and was named Yahoo Finance's number 1 digital marketer to watch in 2021! Through her coaching, teaching, speaking, and training, Krista is revolutionizing the way agents and professionals market themselves online.  [ 2:00] Why should I listen to you? I genuinely care about people. Many say, "I want to do good and help others," but I truly want to assist. I have a deep love for humanity, and I'm the type of person who wholeheartedly invests in those I care about. They might describe me as someone who pours everything into them, and I thoroughly enjoy engaging in interviews as well. [3:40] Do you mind sharing your story?  At one point, I remember sharing a somewhat dramatic story about my husband, which involved drained bank accounts and his new girlfriend picking up our daughters for Thanksgiving. However, the real story I should have been telling was about my childhood. My upbringing felt like living in two separate worlds: one with a loving dad, a close-knit family, and enjoyable vacations, and the other with an abusive mom. My mother was physically abusive, which led me to run away from home at the age of 13. I spent a year on the run, often stealing clothes and lunch money from schoolmates just to survive. Eventually, I ended up in a group home called Hidden Hills for Girls in Cottonwood. The daily bus ride to the group home was marked with a label that essentially branded us as problem children, subjecting us to ridicule. I became the "weird kid" in school. After that year, I went to live with a foster family and haven't lived at home since I was 13. Thankfully, I reconnected with my mom, who played a crucial role in my healing journey. She attended counseling with me and openly acknowledged her actions to the family. However, the scars from physical abuse run deep, requiring extensive mental work on my part to reach the mindset and life I have today. My message is that if I can achieve multimillionaire status coming from a foster home, anyone can overcome their challenges. [16:17] At what stage in your journey did you transition into college? In 10th grade, I made a pivotal decision to attend college, even though I wasn't sure what I wanted to pursue. My college journey hit a rough patch when I flunked out in my first year, with a measly 1.6 GPA. I returned to Antioch, where we both currently live. To support myself, I took on a full-time job at Costco, working 40 hours a week during the day, while attending evening classes at the University of Hayward extension. During this time, I discovered my passion for teaching and eventually became a third-grade teacher, a role I embraced for six years. However, when my husband had an affair and I needed to care for my children, I made a major shift. I had previously ranked in the top 1% in real estate for 17 consecutive years. Five years ago, I transitioned out of real estate to teach real estate agents, lenders, and entrepreneurs, including individuals like yourself. It's been quite a journey. [18:17] Can you share the story of how your life took a significant turn when a woman walked into your life while you were still working as a teacher and a parent, ultimately changing your path? I was a teacher when a mom from my classroom shared that she had made $13,000 selling a house. It struck me that $13,000 could take me three months to earn, so I impulsively called the Allied School of Real Estate from my classroom, took the real estate test, and got licensed. However, my life took a challenging turn when my daughter fell seriously ill with spinal meningitis and kidney failure. It was a difficult time as they predicted she might not make it due to multiple strokes. I decided to be a stay-at-home mom to care for her. Around the same time, I discovered my husband was having an affair, so I needed to dive into real estate. In my first year, despite facing adversity, I sold 69 houses. My motivation was my absolute "why" – providing my daughters with a safe, loving, and happy home, a stark contrast to my own upbringing filled with abuse and hardship. During Thanksgiving, as my daughters were taken away by my husband's new girlfriend, I hit a low point, drowning my sorrows in a bottle of wine by 10 a.m., gazing at our empty, undeveloped backyard. At that moment, I realized I needed to rebuild both my life and the backyard for my girls. Within a year, I transformed it into a beautiful space with a pool, creating cherished memories for my family. [20:40] If we were to delve deep and examine it, what do you believe is the driving force behind your accomplishments? Teaching someone how to be driven can be a challenge because drive comes from within. Personally, I've always been a fighter, resilient, and unafraid of challenges. I persist even when faced with fear, and I maintain a strong sense of optimism. Successful people tend to look for reasons why something will work and see value in what they do. I share this mindset. Instead of dwelling on the "how," I focus on taking action. When I see others achieving great things, I believe I can too. Instead of asking "how," I often hire the right people or seek guidance from those who have achieved similar goals. Taking massive, effective action, guided by someone with experience, has been a key factor in my success. I believe that anyone can achieve their goals by taking action and not being discouraged by the seemingly impossible. It's about pushing forward and not giving up, even when you're the underdog. [26:38] What Is Your New Book about?   I'm thrilled about this book—it's a passion project and my favorite among the five bestsellers I've written. I genuinely believe it could become a New York Times bestseller. The book explores how our thoughts, around 30,000-70,000 daily, shape our lives. I've mastered the art of transforming negative thoughts into positive ones. Negative thoughts can lead to doubts, like not being able to compete with those who have millions of followers. I've trained myself to interrupt negative patterns with a rubber band snap, switch it, and reframe the thought positively. It's a practice supported by research. This book delves into the science behind it, showing how training your mind to work for you, not against you, can transform your life. [42:15] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  It is earning trust through value, and that's a promise I've upheld. My motto has always been to prioritize people over things, as versions of things may change, but people remain significant in all aspects of life.  Key Quotes  [31:13-31:17] Action ends suffering; take the first step or the fifth, but never stop moving forward. [32:10-32:15] Success breeds success    How to connect with Krista Mashore  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristamashore Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/kristamashore Twitter: https://twitter.com/CoachingKrista  

In today's episode, our guest is Craig Siegal. He is a value-based and high-energy Global Keynote Speaker and also the co-creator of the CLS experience. His journey is captivating – from growing up without a strong sense of self-confidence to venturing into the world of Wall Street. While he achieved success in certain areas, he realized his heart's desires were unfulfilled. This realization led him to a unique reinvention journey, departing from his Wall Street path to a new world of service. Through this transformation, he not only built a remarkable personal brand but also sparked a movement embraced by countless individuals worldwide. Tune in to this incredible episode where we delve into Craig's journey and explore how you can adapt his reinvention formula to transform your own life.   [2:24] Why should I listen to you?    I have a genuine passion for nurturing relationships. In every interaction I engage in, I aim to leave on a positive and elevated note. This drive stems from the simple desire to raise the energy levels. If someone's at a nine, I want to help them reach a ten; if it's a six, I aim for seven; and even if they're already at ten, I'd love to see them hit fifteen. It brings me a sense of accomplishment to infuse each encounter with vitality, enthusiasm, and positive vibes.    [3:54] What is the source of the energy that fuels your positivity?   Before my transformation during the pandemic, I was entrenched in Wall Street for a solid 13 years. Specifically, in the few years leading up to the pandemic, I hit rock bottom. It was a time marked by a toxic relationship and the weight of my best friend and father's battle with cancer. While I had my own business and was making money, my definition of success back then was rather immature, and yes, money isn't the whole picture, as I've come to realize. I was utterly unhappy. This period of lockdown, though, I viewed as an unprecedented chance to reevaluate my life's direction. I recognized that I had a choice: to stick with the story I was living or to rewrite a new narrative. That's when I decided to put my faith in my purpose and passion, and the pieces began falling into place. People often comment that they've never seen someone build a personal brand so rapidly, and I'm truly humbled by that acknowledgment. But what I always emphasize is that it's not about time; it's about alignment. I've learned that having contrast, experiencing the wilderness of being lost and miserable, and then discovering alignment and purpose, can make all the difference.    [9:03] Can you share a specific action you took that enabled you to authentically tap into that state?    This holds immense power, and I'm genuinely grateful you brought it up. I've truly delved into the spiritual aspects, like aligning with different frequencies and vibrational energy. Yet, I need to harmonize this with the practical. I've noticed a trend where some individuals, while well-intentioned, can lean too heavily into the spiritual realm, disregarding strategy and tactics. Balancing both is crucial. It's an unspoken truth, and for me, that realization hit during the lockdown. I observed endless distractions like TV shows and negativity, and I made a conscious choice not to be swept away by that tide. Instead, I took immediate action. In my journey, money wasn't my priority at first. I recognized the potency of personal branding and embarked on content creation. I didn't even have a laptop for the initial eight months, yet I persevered. Through Facebook, I utilized lookalike audiences, virtually shaking hands with people, and extending my network. My sole purpose was to build a community, and the excitement I felt when people appreciated my content was unparalleled.    [14:38] Did this audacious goal and vision that you're talking about, was it clear to you from the start, or did it evolve and take shape as you progress forward?   I remember completing a run in Central Park and spontaneously giving birth to the CLS brand. It was a dormant idea I'd registered years before, activated on GoDaddy. Seated on a bench there, I shaped my brand. Returning home, I didn't possess a laptop. I flipped my phone around, recording a video selfie-style, outlining the brand's mission. This was the first time I truly felt clarity. The lockdown provided a stillness that allowed me to connect and filter out the noise. My aspiration wasn't to become the next Tony Robbins but to be the original Craig Segal, although Tony's work certainly influenced me. So, I envisioned a multi-lane highway, encompassing speaking, podcasting, coaching, book deals, and more. The goal was to become the "Apple" of personal development – reputable and high-quality. With the intention set, I aligned my actions accordingly. However, let me be transparent – I'm still in the process of figuring things out. While I'm quite accessible now and involved in intriguing opportunities, many are unexpected.    [18:15] Could you share your journey, including the experience of your injury and the process of getting into running?   I recall that period vividly. I was deep into training for the Chicago event, while also preparing for a speaking engagement that involved some of our mutual acquaintances. The incident that transpired was a result of playing football on the beach and sustaining an injury. Initially, it was misdiagnosed as a ligament issue. However, it turned out that there was a tumor on my foot, which was quite astonishing. This experience fostered a significant change in my mindset – a shift from viewing life as happening to us, to understanding that it actually happens to us. Despite the uncertainty surrounding the situation, I chose to stay optimistic, maintain my course, and navigate through the process. The tumor was removed, and it was a relief to discover that it was benign. Following the surgery, something extraordinary occurred – I decided to run the New York City Marathon, even though I had no physical training due to the short timeframe. This decision wasn't solely about me; it was an opportunity to inspire others and redirect the focus toward a greater purpose. Moreover, it allowed me to raise funds for the American Cancer Society, a cause that held immense significance due to my father's battle with cancer. Cancer touches countless lives, including my own, and being able to contribute to this cause was deeply meaningful. Reflecting on it now, I'm reminded of the conversations we had during that time and the resilience that emerged from the challenges faced.   [19:45] Please tell us about your book and explain why it must be written and published at this moment in time.   A book was indeed one of the lanes on the 10-lane highway I envisioned, but timing and patience have been essential since my life reinvention, not just a career shift. As you might know, I got engaged last summer, and this change has transformed every facet of my life. My approach to the book reflects my newfound patience. Initially, I wanted a major publisher rather than self-publishing, akin to having a movie studio support my work. The idea was to build the brand, not rush things. The pivotal moment arrived when I saw success among my peers, like our mutual friend Ed Mylett, who partnered with Wiley for his book. Publishers started approaching me, including Wiley, and the timing felt right. Negotiating terms led to a gratifying deal, and I saw this as the right moment to embark on the book journey. The significance of the book lies in its introduction of CLS to the world, but it's more than just about me. People are curious about my journey, but I want them to realize that if I can achieve this transformation, anyone can. This isn't just about me fulfilling an assignment; it's my calling. I aim to empower others to rediscover their potential.    [24:00] When individuals find themselves in this uncertain space, who can they engage in their thoughts or converse with to navigate away from that juncture?    Playing it safe is actually the riskiest move we can make. It's important to create a sense of urgency for everyone. Our time here is limited, and while we're having this human experience, we mustn't forget that it's finite, with an expiration date. So settling for a life out of alignment, a life not filled with love and passion, is simply not acceptable. I vividly recall the days when I would eagerly wait for the weekends, wishing work away. I've been through dark periods, where I tried escaping my reality with alcohol. But having connected with so many people, I've realized that this struggle to find deeper meaning is quite common. The moment you recognize you're destined for more than your current situation, that's a breakthrough. It means you're now aware of the possibilities beyond your current circumstances. What's crucial is gaining clarity on what that "more" entails and then taking action to steer your life in that direction. Success can come remarkably swiftly when you're aligned with your purpose.   [27:45] Have you encountered instances during your journey of transitioning and reinventing yourself where others didn't offer their support for the change you were going through?   Personally, I didn't face that. It's a rare occurrence. When I embarked on this journey, I felt a deep sense of excitement and clarity. I recognized that while I had succeeded in areas that weren't really aligned with my passions, like my past corporate job or running, which I enjoyed but wasn't naturally inclined towards, personal development was where my heart truly lay. For the first time, I committed to presenting myself genuinely, as the real Craig Segal, shedding my past tendencies of being a people pleaser. As I ventured into CLS and reinvented myself, I vowed to show up authentically, even if it didn't guarantee success. If I failed, at least it would be an honest failure. Interestingly, as I embraced my authentic self more and more, the world responded positively. However, some initially cheered me on but lost interest when things gained momentum. I don't dwell on it much, but I believe some people's reactions come from a place of seeing someone else pursue their dreams while they remain stagnant.   [39:45] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?    That I would showcase that reinvention is ready when you are.    Key Quotes [27:50-27:54] Pain is what shapes you and moves you to the next level   [37:43-37:46] When someone excels at something, they are showcasing what is possible.    How to connect with Craig Siegal  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/craigsiegel Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/Craig-Siegel LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/craig-landon-siegel  

In today's episode, our guest is Laban Ditchburn. He is a remarkable individual who triumphed over challenging circumstances and has been sober for seven years. Laban is also the author of the book "Bet on You," and he shares the fascinating story behind its title. As the world's best courage coach, Laban's expertise in courage will be explored in this episode. He shares a unique encounter from the recording of this episode that has the power to change your life. Tune in for an insightful and inspiring conversation.   [4:23] Why should I listen to you?  What a captivating question! It reminded me of my interactions with various individuals, some of whom weren't quite humorous. Interestingly, I've encountered similar instances before. In response, I'd like to borrow a sentiment from Mel Robbins, whom you interviewed on your show a while back. She mentioned something along the lines of considering whether you feel energetically aligned to engage in conversation. If you do, feel free to talk to me, but if not, there's no pressure to do so. I think it's crucial to trust your instincts and tune into the energy we exude, which can vary based on our feelings at the moment. So, if you feel compelled to listen, do so, and if not, it's completely fine too.   [5:30] What do you believe people would gain from listening to you? I'll share an example that occurred this morning. Anna gently suggested we take a walk near Las Vegas University, where we found some grassy fields. As I walked barefoot on the grass, I came across a young, fit African American man with cool dreads named Diego. I struck up a conversation with him, and it turns out he plays football at Las Vegas University and dreams of going all the way in his football career. Interestingly, Diego had just come from a night at the club, and I, being a former professional footballer, understood the importance of getting rid of toxins and alcohol in the body to perform at my best. I asked him if the behavior of going out all night was aligned with becoming the best in the world at football. He took a moment to reflect and realized it wasn't the right path. We spoke for about an hour, discussing the concept of reclaiming power through adversity, a theme often explored on your podcast with various guests. I shared my journey of overcoming addiction and reclaiming control of my life, which resonated deeply with Diego. He even provided a 92-second video testimonial expressing how our conversation transformed his life. This kind of experience is incredibly fulfilling for me and happens frequently in my work, and it showcases the power of honest human connection and mentorship.   [10:10] How did your journey bring you to this point of feeling compelled to share your insights and ideas with others? In 2015, at the age of 35, I hit rock bottom and realized that my life was heading in a direction far from what I had imagined. That night, I found myself intoxicated, gambling on a laptop without any care for the consequences. In a moment of clarity, I saw a helpline number on the screen and decided to call. A woman named Mary, my guardian angel, answered the call and listened to me without judgment. She shared with me the alarming suicide rates among problem gamblers, which shook me to the core. Through Mary's help, I connected with a gambling psychologist who guided me through a year and a half of healing. I began to confront the dysfunctional relationship I had with my mother and took responsibility for my actions and choices. This newfound power fueled my journey toward transformation. I quit gambling in 2015 and gave up alcohol in 2016. I adopted a primarily animal-based diet, which helped me put an incurable autoimmune disease into remission. My body transformed, and I started running ultra marathons, which was unimaginable before. In September 2018, I serendipitously met Anna, my now-wife, and soulmate. Meeting her gave me a renewed sense of purpose and the motivation to use my personal experiences and stories to connect with others. Storytelling became my powerful tool to connect with people, whether as a professional speaker or in my interactions with others like Diego this morning.    [16:20] How did your life's journey lead you to the point where you are now? I am affectionately known as the world's best courage coach. Sometimes, I have to repeat the word "courage" a few times in America because people mishear it as "carriage." The title of the world's best courage coach came from a transformative experience I had in 2021. I was introduced to a community of peak performance coaches, including Steve Hardison, known as the ultimate coach. Steve is a highly regarded coach who has worked with influential figures like Byron Katie and Tony Robbins' ex-wife, Becky Robbins. He had remained elusive for years and declined invitations for interviews or public appearances. Intrigued by a video about him and his teachings on the power of "being," I decided to reach out to him. Against the odds, I managed to contact Steve, and he enthusiastically welcomed the conversation. He didn't seek anything from me, but I introduced myself as a speaker and a coach, running a podcast series called "Become Your Own Superhero." Although someone once criticized my ambition, Steve vehemently defended me, assuring me it was essential to declare myself confidently. On that day in 2021, I proclaimed myself the world's best courage coach, not out of ego but as a powerful declaration. This statement guides me each day, reminding me to embody the qualities of courage and authenticity.    [22:00] When people hear the message of courage and the idea of giving it their all, where do you want them to apply this concept in their lives, especially when encountering a 'courage coach' or witnessing someone else's display of courage? You asked an incredibly insightful question, especially considering the two aspects of my declaration. As an entrepreneur with multiple revenue streams and job titles, it can be confusing for people outside this space to understand what we do. So, I crafted this declaration for two primary reasons. Firstly, it serves as a personal mantra, a declaration of my purpose, and allows me to lean into it with confidence, despite initial imposter syndrome. Secondly, it provides clarity to people when they meet me for the first time, as they haven't heard such a unique combination of words before. When I introduce myself as the world's best courage coach, it sparks curiosity, and 99 times out of 100, the next question is, "What does that look like?" This presents a wonderful opportunity for me to explain my role in helping others. I teach people how to take bold, massive, and courageous action to achieve their own miraculous outcomes. My work encompasses speaking engagements, coaching sessions, writing books, hosting a podcast, and running a mastermind. When they ask further questions, I can operate from a place of adding value to their lives, leading to transformative interactions. This has happened numerous times over the past three years, approximately 250 to 300 times, or even more, and it remains an incredibly fulfilling aspect of my work.   [31:25] Can we dive into your book?  My journey to writing "Bet On You" started during Melbourne's harsh lockdowns. I wanted to be a speaker, so I began my podcast, "Become Your Own Superhero." I cold-called Les Brown, who encouraged me to write a book for credibility. He saw potential in me and gave me a blueprint for the book. I promise, the book was for me, for the person I was five years before hitting rock bottom. And with Les's endorsement, along with others like Mark Victor Hansen and Dr. John Gray, my confidence soared. Now, "Bet On You" is not just a book; it's a divine download from the universe. It has impacted lives, inspiring others to find their purpose and transform their own journeys. It's amazing how my life took a complete turn, from uncertainty to becoming an author and sought-after speaker. I've embraced my divine gift of storytelling, reclaiming my past, and empowering others to bet on themselves. Through speaking, coaching, my podcast, and "Bet On You," I'm on a mission to help people take bold, massive, and courageous action to facilitate their own miraculous outcomes. My journey is proof that anyone can make a significant difference in the world once they lean into their purpose and unleash their full potential.   [38:43] What were some of the challenges you faced while writing the book and revealing personal experiences? How did you navigate through the process and stay motivated to complete it? Writing "Bet On You" was a deeply cathartic experience, unearthing buried memories. One chapter shares a wild night at a strip club, where I hit rock bottom. But amidst the challenges, I recalled a touching moment on my sixth birthday. A retiring substitute teacher gave me an envelope with $30, a significant gesture for my impoverished family. This act of generosity transformed my attitude and shaped the person I've become. Years later, I found the teacher, now a priest, and thanked her for her profound impact. It's not about me; it's about serving others at the highest level. These moments fuel my purpose-driven journey of spreading courage and creating transformative conversations.   [50:08] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  A bright light into this earth to be a beacon of hope, inspiration, and courage for generations to come.    Key Quotes  [28:34-28:38] We are spiritual beings that inhabit the body many times.  [29:30-29:33] People realize they can add value to the people they admire and look up to.  How to connect with Laban Ditchburn Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labanditchburn Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/labanditchburn LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/labanditchburn

Welcome to the 'Aww Shift' podcast, where we dive deep into the art of transformation and growth with your host, Anthony Trucks! Today, we have an extraordinary guest, Ritu Bhasin, an award-winning empowerment coach, speaker, and author who will help you turn your hard life into a beautiful one by showing you how to know, embrace, and be who you are. In this captivating episode, Anthony and Ritu shared amazing insights about self-perception, identity, and how to show up for humanity. Get ready to shift your perspective and unleash your potential in this power-packed conversation! [4:28] Why should I listen to you?  You should listen to me because when you speak, I won't just be listening to what you're saying; you will feel safe and loved in my presence. When I interact with you, it's as if I'm taking you in with all my senses, reading your energy because I'm deeply curious about what makes someone's heartbeat. I believe my superpower is being a high empath, sensing and absorbing people's energy. When people talk to me, they often feel seen, which matters a lot to me because I didn't always feel seen myself. I want others to feel the same. Not only will you experience a good, fun, and energetic vibe with me, but you will also feel good on a deeper level because your energy will resonate with mine. [6:35] At what point in time did you start noticing Gnosis as a genuine part of yourself and utilizing it as an asset to have deeper conversations and improve your connections and network?  I didn't realize I had this ability until my 20s, when I found myself having conversations with people, quickly cutting through the superficial to understand their true drivers, inspirations, and essence. However, I assumed everyone could do this, a skill I took for granted. It wasn't until my 30s that I started to realize my unique talent for connecting with others. I began exploring body-based work, mindfulness meditation, and healing practices, which enhanced my ability to feel and read people's energy in ways others didn't. Transitioning from a lawyer to an HR leader, I worked with hundreds of people one-on-one, realizing my EQ and empathic nature. By the age of 40, I embraced this gift, owning and leveraging it openly. I don't strategically set out to read energy; it naturally happens. This blessing allows me to form deep connections with others, who often confide in me and express emotions they haven't shared with anyone in years. Embracing this gift has been transformative, as I now confidently claim and utilize it to nurture meaningful connections with people. [17:00] How did you manage your anger?  When our bodies feel more stable and less threatened, we can regulate our emotions and avoid falling into a state of rage or fury. While anger is a natural and important emotion, as humans, we experience the full spectrum of emotions. For instance, when someone cuts me off on the road, I may get annoyed or frustrated, but I rarely experience intense rage. I try not to dwell on negativity and instead focus on managing my emotions more healthily. [24:50] Where did you first learn the act of being intentional?  So, the first time I applied this methodology was when I started my business. Back then, I felt uncomfortable talking about myself and articulating my ideas during business meetings. Taking a step back and adopting a thoughtful and structured approach to these discussions was immensely helpful. Over time, I have become deliberate and mindful in all my interactions. It's especially important to do this when we're not in a flow and are moving from meeting to meeting, feeling stressed and anxious. In those moments, it's essential to take a pause and consider the energy we want to emit into the universe or convey to the people we are engaging with. I was inspired by Jill Bronte Taylor's story, where she developed a heightened sensitivity to energy after a severe injury. She learned the importance of being responsible for the energy we bring into a room. This notion resonates deeply with me, and I constantly think about how I want to positively impact others with my energy, whether it's an Uber driver, a little kitten, or the people tuning in to our conversations today. Being responsible for the energy we project is a significant aspect of how I approach my interactions. [29:27] How did the book "We've Got This: Unlocking the Beauty of Belonging" come into existence? Many years ago, I wrote my first book, "The Authenticity Principle," which focuses on how to embrace one's true self amidst societal pressure to conform and hide identities. My childhood experiences as the child of Indian immigrants in Canada, witnessing my parents' struggles with racism, and enduring relentless bullying and racism, deeply affected me. By my 20s, I had curated various personas to fit different environments, losing touch with my authentic self. In my early 30s, I decided to live authentically and left the legal profession to start my own business. However, it wasn't just about authenticity; I realized I needed to heal from the trauma caused by those negative experiences related to my identity. This healing journey led me to write my latest book, "We've Got This: Unlocking the Beauty of Belonging." The book not only shares what I've learned about embracing our true selves and finding belonging but also serves as a healing process for me. Through extensive research and reflection, putting my insights into one book has allowed me to better claim to belong, stand in my power, and embrace who I truly am—a beautiful and transformative journey. [33:34] Who is the best person to pick up your book and read it?  First of all, I define belonging as the profound feeling we hold inside ourselves, of being honored and accepted for who we truly are. To truly belong, we must first belong to ourselves. It means embracing and accepting our authentic selves before seeking to belong with others. Considering what we know about human beings, belonging is an innate human need; it's an instinctive desire to be seen, respected, and valued by others. My book is for anyone out there who has ever struggled to be honored and accepted for their true selves, especially those who have faced challenges with their own identity due to negative messaging that tells them they are not good enough or they should be different in some way. Whether it's being too loud or not loud enough, facing prejudices based on cultural backgrounds, or any other hurtful remarks that have made them feel untethered and distant from their true selves. This book is for those who have experienced hate and hurtfulness due to their identities, and it aims to address the injustice and unfairness that hinders our ability to belong. In particular, "We've Got This" is for you, offering guidance and support to help you reclaim your sense of belonging and embrace your authentic self. [37:00] Have you experienced the fear of belonging?  Just last year, as I was writing my book on belonging and researching the topic deeply, I had a fascinating experience with a group of friends whom I deeply loved and cared for. However, some darkness unfolded within that friend circle, and I ended up no longer being part of it. This experience was eye-opening for me because, even as a grown woman in my late 40s, I realized that my deep wounds of unworthiness and feeling unlovable still affected my sense of belonging and impacted my relationships. Writing a book on belonging did not mean that my journey toward it was over; it's a lifelong process that involves continuous healing and growth. As a professional speaker working with senior leadership audiences around the world, I often find myself in boardrooms where I am the only one who looks like me, coming from an immigrant family with a working-class background and belonging to a minority religion. In these situations, I feel my nervous system activate, triggered by childhood experiences of not feeling like I belong. But I have learned to regulate myself, using breathwork, self-coaching, and mindfulness techniques to settle in these moments. Although I'm still healing, I now use my skills to confidently stand in my power and speak my truth. [45:07] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  He put me here to talk about how beautiful the journey of claiming our belonging is.  Key Quotes  [21:04-21:08] One of the most important things is being mindful of what is happening around you.  [23:25-23:28] How we choose to be in situations reshapes how we engage with people.  How to connect with Ritu Bhasin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ritu_bhasin Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/riturbhasin LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/ritu_bhasin  

"Welcome to the 'Aww Shift' podcast, where we dive deep into the art of transformation and growth with your host, Anthony Trucks! Today, we have an extraordinary guest, Toni Marinucci, a Registered Dietitian and seasoned lifestyle blogger with a profound commitment to enhancing lives through health and happiness. In this captivating episode, Anthony and Toni explore the secrets of building both a remarkable body and a thriving business. Drawing on her expertise as a Master's Degree holder in Nutrition, Toni shares invaluable insights on achieving a harmonious balance between personal health and professional success. Get ready to shift your perspective and unleash your potential in this power-packed conversation!" [2:50] Why should I listen to you?  I consider myself more of a listener. My strength lies in connecting with people, regardless of their age, gender, or how they identify themselves. I take pride in seeing individuals for who they are at their core, and I'm dedicated to helping them believe in themselves. If you seek someone to talk to who will hear you, validate your feelings, and understand your perspective, I'm here to elevate you to the next level. I can provide a fresh perspective, clear away any foggy thoughts, and offer clarity and peace of mind.  [6:20] Do you mind sharing some of your experiences?  I used to feel ashamed of loving so many things, questioning whether it meant I couldn't commit to one specific path. But it's not about being afraid of going all-in; it's about the genuine passion I have for each of my interests. For a decade, I've honed my craft as a registered dietitian, empowering and guiding women to make peace with food and embrace a healthy lifestyle. Mastering my own relationship with food led to a shift in priorities. It's not about appearance or weight loss; it's about feeling good and taking care of myself. My world opened up, and I still love coaching and real estate. I'm now helping other dietitians grow their online practices too. I believe in teaching, inspiring, and serving. We don't need to be confined to one identity, and it's okay to explore other passions. However, it's essential to avoid just dabbling; I am fully committed to all my endeavors, even if it gets exhausting. [13:20] What are the things you are currently putting your energy into?  I've realized that while I have many aspirations and interests, I need to ensure that my nutrition business is well-established and that our clients feel fully supported. That's been my main focus, making sure everyone in our program is thriving and satisfied. On a deeper level, I've been exploring personal development through podcasts and motivational speakers like Trent Shelton, whom I admire greatly. I aspire to speak on big stages and expand my horizons. I've been contemplating what that would look like and how I could turn it into my primary source of income to enable me to pursue other ventures. To achieve this, I've been tapping into the personal development space more deeply, aiming to become the best version of myself.  [16:30] What led you to the path of being a dietitian in the first place?  Growing up, I faced weight-related teasing that tied my self-worth to appearance. The 1990s media exacerbated this issue with fat-shaming and praise for extreme weight loss. My grandmother's comments further deepened this belief. Throughout my teenage years, I struggled with disordered eating patterns, restrictions, overexercising, and bingeing. However, I learned that restriction wasn't the answer and shifted my focus to how food made me feel, leading to balanced eating habits. This revelation sparked numerous shifts and breakthrough moments. My passion for nutrition led me to become a dietitian, but I unknowingly developed orthorexia, driven by societal praise for healthier habits in a bigger body. Realizing the need to heal myself to help others, I pursued a master's in nutrition. Tips with Tony, my blog turned business, began during college, demonstrating that success comes with perseverance and hard work. [24:25] How can you make people who feel less about themselves listen to you, and what aspects should they concentrate on to move past that situation? The first thing I want to mention is the importance of understanding what you just shared. Often, people find it easier to avoid discomfort, which motivates them to make changes. When we feel out of control around food or dislike our bodies, it drives us to do something about it. There's a fear that accepting our current state will cause us to lose motivation, as we're used to relying on external factors to get going. In reality, motivation needs to come from within. It's not just about feeling motivated, it's about making choices every day. We should focus on how we feel and learn that we don't need negative feelings to drive us. There will be times when we don't feel like doing something, but we have to take small steps forward. On the topic of body image and nutrition, it's a more profound conversation. For now, let's explore the philosophy behind it, which is incredibly beneficial. We could have another podcast focusing on developing habits rather than rigid meal plans.  [29:11] What is the importance of having the right people around you during this journey?  Everything revolves around your environment. I'm not saying people can't change without support, but it's really tough. Some of the women I work with have family members who contribute to their issues, yet they're still living with them or depending on them for various reasons. Having a strong support system is crucial, both physically and emotionally. If you can, limit your exposure to people who constantly talk about diets, criticize, or praise your body. Oh, and by the way, praising someone's weight loss without knowing their situation can be harmful too. You never know what someone's going through. So, it's better to avoid commenting on people's bodies altogether. Setting boundaries with others is important. You can kindly ask them not to talk about your body or change the topic when they bring it up.  [36:00] How long does it usually take for someone to start?  When we work with women, it's a minimum six-month commitment. Some clients undergo a significant transformation within this timeframe, with a new mindset and positive habits. For others, it may take longer, depending on their history with self-criticism, and dieting.  However, six months to a year is remarkably fast compared to a lifetime of struggles. Going through this journey alone might extend the process. Healing varies from person to person, and even after transformation, intrusive thoughts can still occur. The key is to respond to them differently, understanding their source and navigating through triggers. Working with the right professionals and support can lead to lasting changes and embracing a new identity that prioritizes mental and physical health. It requires commitment and guidance, but it's a journey worth embarking on. [42:40] Why is it important for you to teach other dieticians how to do what you do?  There are two reasons for my mission. Firstly, by helping others improve their lives and relationships with themselves and others, they spread my mission of wellness and support. Second, the business coaching industry is filled with scams and untrustworthy practices. Many coaches charge exorbitant fees for little value, leading me to take a proactive stance. I decided to offer valuable resources and guidance without breaking the bank. My vision is to make coaching accessible to those just starting out in their entrepreneurial journey.  [49:49] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  To share my voice and be his vessel.  Key Quotes [23:00-23:03] You don't have to wait, you can be happy now [32:20-32:24] Try to compliment the effort, not the look   How to connect with Toni Marinucci Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/toniann.marinucci Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tipswithtoni Website: https://tipswithtoni.com  

In today's episode, our guest is Mignon Francious. She is the Founder and CEO of The Cupcake Collection (TCC). Mignon developed an iconic flavor that drew lines and attention to the hip nature of her Historic Germantown neighborhood, which hadn't seen this concept developed prior.   [2:45] Why should I listen to you?    I struggle with self-promotion, but let me share it with you. I recently authored a book titled "Made from Scratch: Finding Success Without a Recipe." I genuinely believe that everyone has a unique story to tell, and it's important to embrace and share it. In my own story, I experienced a remarkable journey guided by divine intervention. God would awaken me every morning at 3:17, providing instructions and insights that eventually led me to establish the Cupcake Collection   [5:25] Can you explain the process of turning your amazing cupcakes into a business?   In my neighborhood, amidst a time when I had no electricity and only $5 to my name, a remarkable opportunity presented itself. A neighbor knocked on my door, offering a significant cupcake order for her clients. It was a moment of perplexity and uncertainty. However, I had a heartfelt conversation with God, questioning why such an opportunity arose amid my financial struggles. In response, I was reminded of how birds don't worry about their provisions, as they are always taken care of. Encouraged by this, I decided to take a leap of faith. With that meager $5, I ventured to the store, purchasing the necessary supplies to fulfill the order. To my delight, she paid me as promised. That humble $5 transformed into $16 within a day and soared to $600 by the end of the week. This catalyzed my journey toward success and recognition as the best bakery in Tennessee and Louisiana. Through our hard work and determination, we have overcome financial challenges, become debt-free, and even gained ownership of the property we were once on the verge of losing. Our bakery not only provides delicious treats but also supports students' graduations and helps them pursue their dreams.    [8:55] Have you ever experienced doubts or skepticism about the sustainability of your success?   In my heart, there was always a belief that I was destined for fame, though I wasn't sure in what capacity. At that time, I wasn't actively seeking something significant to happen in my life. My main focus was on finding ways to bring in additional income, to make ends meet. Being married, I wanted to support my husband, even though I could sense that our relationship was deteriorating. He appeared vibrant and full of life on the surface, but little did I know that he was slowly fading away emotionally, leading to the eventual revelation that he wanted a divorce after 21 years together. In the midst of praying for guidance, God provided me with an opportunity that would not only help my husband but also empower me. It was a time of financial constraint, with no extra money for field trips or even basic necessities. However, an idea began to take shape, urging me to step out of my comfort zone and reach a larger audience.   [10:30] How did it feel to expand your presence and compete with other businesses in your industry?   I believe that many people tend to underestimate the journey and lessons behind someone's success. In my own experience, I have established myself as a respected business leader in my community, known for my grassroots efforts and spirit-driven approach. However, amidst the challenges I faced, I was simply following my instincts and doing what I knew best. Interestingly, my college education was focused on pursuing a career in medicine, but it was only 17 years later, in my kitchen, that I began to understand the valuable lessons I had been taught. Making those first mixes awakened a passion within me, and I continued along my path, often unaware that I was building something remarkable. It was the support and encouragement from others, sitting in the bakery with me, praising my creations, and urging me to share them with more people, that propelled me forward. As we started winning awards and experiencing high demand, it became clear that we needed to be where the people were. And then, when I turned 40, I received a significant accolade as part of the "40 under 40" recognition by the Nashville Business Journal.    [16:30] Did you ever find yourself comparing your progress to others and feeling inadequate?   I understand what you're saying. It's common for many people, including myself, to have a tendency to compare themselves to others and sometimes downplay their skills or achievements while being overly critical of themselves. I've personally struggled with self-esteem and confidence issues, constantly beating myself up inside as I watched others accomplish the things I yearned for. However, I discovered that my lack of self-esteem was rooted in a distorted perception of myself. It wasn't until I saw a picture of myself without any filters or Instagram enhancements that I couldn't deny the beauty that was captured in that image. It was a turning point for me. I realized that I could walk into a room with confidence, share my ideas, and trust in my own abilities without fearing judgment or rejection. It wasn't about tearing others down; it was always about tearing myself down.    [22:55] How did you develop a strong sense of self and confidence in your abilities?   I wrote this book because of the support and encouragement from my clients and customers. They believed in me and inspired me to fulfill my promise to God. It's for those who are awake at night, seeking connection and inspiration. Women from different countries have reached out, sharing similar stories. Writing this book was a vulnerable and challenging process, but it taught me important lessons. Every chapter and detail can resonate with others, whether they're single women, single mothers, or aspiring entrepreneurs over 30. Starting a business at that age can lead to greater success. Those two years of writing were not wasted; they allowed me to meet people who needed my story. I want readers to find themselves in these pages and embrace their dreams. It's a tangible piece of my journey that can be intimately shared.   [28:50] Can you share which aspects of your personal story were particularly difficult for you to write about?   The most challenging part of my writing journey was sharing something I had never spoken about publicly before. It was the day my life was shattered, and my children witnessed the painful events unfold. As I completed writing the story, I eagerly showed it to my youngest daughter, telling her it was good. However, she responded with a thought-provoking question, expressing that she couldn't call such a day "good" despite acknowledging its well-written nature. This interaction made me realize the power of perspective and the importance of choosing our words carefully. It was a struggle for me to decide whether to share this deeply personal experience, but I knew there are others out there feeling trapped and isolated. I wanted them to know they are not alone, and that success and triumph are still within their reach.    [33:40] Were there any specific obstacles or difficulties that arose as your business achieved greater success?   I firmly believe that every business exists to solve a problem. In my case, the problem I set out to solve was freeing my family from debt and providing for their basic needs. As my business grew, the nature of my problems changed, but they certainly didn't disappear. People often assume that because you're successful, you're rich and should provide financial support or cover their expenses. However, the truth is that my problems may be of a different magnitude, but they are still challenges to navigate. Throughout my divorce and other difficult situations, I faced circumstances that seemed unfair, yet I discovered that God, in His wisdom and grace, guided me through them.  [42:53] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?   That I will take your tears and bond them up and in exchange for your tears, I will give you joy.    Key Quotes [30:15-30:17] Everything happening to you is actually happening for you.  [33:55-33:58] Once you solve a problem, you are presented with new ones.    How to connect with Mignon Francious  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mignon.francois Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iammignonfrancois LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mignonfrancois  

Welcome aboard, folks, to the Aww Shift podcast! We're back with another exciting episode, and today we have a special guest joining us. Give a warm welcome to the one and only Leon Logothetis You may have already heard of him because this guy is making waves with his incredible shows on Netflix and appearances on various TV stations. I mean, Leon has got it all talent, charisma, and a captivating story. Now, let me tell you why Leon embarked on this remarkable journey. He realized that he wasn't satisfied with his life, so he made a decision to change things up. And you won't believe what he did next. He placed his trust in the kindness of humanity and set off on an adventure around the world. Yes, you heard that right—around the world! Along the way, he encountered mind-blowing experiences that taught him valuable lessons about bravery, eliminating anxiety, conquering fear, and finding a sense of freedom in self-expression. Leon even penned a book called "Go Be Brave," where he delves deep into his personal journey and shares his insightful concepts. In this episode, we'll uncover his wisdom and explore how you too can overcome anxiety, push beyond your limits, and embrace anger as a positive force. So get ready to open your heart and mind, because this conversation has the power to transform your life.   If you found value in this episode, I kindly ask you to share it with your loved ones and your community. You never know whose life that simple seed of wisdom could impact in a profound way. And remember, the learning doesn't stop here. If you want to receive a free copy of the show notes after every episode, which condenses the major points for your convenience, simply head over to textand.com and enter the word "notes." Till next time, let's keep making shift happen! Signing off, this is Anthony Trucks and Leon Logathettis. Thank you for tuning in to the Awe Shift podcast. May the seeds we've planted today grow into something extraordinary in your life.

Welcome to the latest episode of Aww Shift! Today we're joined by Jeffrey Shaw, the founder of self-employed life. We'll discuss some key insights that can help you thrive in self-employment. So sit back, relax, and enjoy this episode of Aww Shift! (2:15) Discover Why You Should Tune In! Are you craving genuine conversations? Do you seek meaningful connections and want to learn something new? If so, this podcast is for you! Join us as we embark on a journey of exploration, where we engage with remarkable individuals who are making a significant impact in the world. We kick off each conversation by asking, "What are you up to?" Prepare to be inspired and enlightened! (5:03) Unveiling the Natural Openness I have ever wondered if being naturally open is an inborn trait. Well, let's peel back the layers. Despite being an introvert, I've discovered my knack for initiating conversations. Surprisingly, being a professional speaker has provided a platform for me to break the ice. I find solace in intimate discussions, venturing into the depths of people's stories. Interestingly, I've noticed a pattern among introverted speakers on stage. The discomfort they feel as introverts in the spotlight becomes a driving force. Embracing the limelight becomes an integral part of our growth. Moreover, I've always been someone people naturally gravitate toward, especially children. Parents trust me with their kids, which opens up avenues for meaningful conversations and interactions. It's a beautiful dance of connection. (7:22) The Power of Introverted Communicators Absolutely! Introverts possess a unique ability to observe, absorb, and process the intricacies of humanity. As a former shy kid, my observation skills became my superpower. This led me to pursue a photography career, where I found solace in capturing the world through my lens. The angles, people, and stories I encountered fascinated me. Over four decades, my journey transitioned from photography to becoming a business coach. That same sense of observation paved the way for my coaching career. Statement truly shapes how our brains work; introverts excel in this realm. You hit the nail on the head! (9:43) The Significance of Leadership with Wisdom Leadership comes in various forms and stages. I gravitate toward leading from the side of the room as an observer. Throughout my life, I've played a crucial role in supporting, gently guiding, and instigating change. However, I also acknowledge the importance of front-to-the-room leadership. Both styles have their place, and understanding when to step up and lead from the forefront is critical. (14:42) Unlocking the Path to Becoming a Billionaire Ah, the journey to becoming a billionaire—a topic that often stirs up curiosity and sparks intriguing conversations. Difficult conversations and challenges often hold the key to growth and success, even if they create chaos and disruption. Sometimes, we avoid these discussions, fearing their consequences. However, the ability to navigate such conversations is a crucial skill. Let's delve into the realm of life experiences and uncover the wisdom hidden within. (18:27) The Quest for Wisdom: Unraveling the Source Philosophy and tangible evidence—what a delightful blend! This fascinating combination has always captivated me. In the realm of business and marketing, brevity is often the key. Like the wise man in the fable, the ability to convey your point succinctly holds tremendous power. I enjoy diving deep into profound thoughts, overthinking, and discovering practical applications. My photography business in my 20s taught me the importance of leverage. Connecting with souls and understanding how to translate those connections into tangible, valuable outcomes became my passion. (22:40) Recognizing Problems and Taking a Stand Standing up for your beliefs often begins with experiencing problems firsthand. For me, this journey started during the pandemic. Having weathered economic downturns (30:09) Unveiling the Secrets of Self-Employment Happiness. Have you ever wondered what truly brings happiness to self-employed individuals? I've pondered this question extensively as someone who has never held a traditional job or received a regular paycheck. While some find security in a predictable income, I've realized that the corporate world doesn't align with my lifestyle. The fear of being let go would overshadow any sense of stability. Happiness, in this context, is relative. I hold great admiration for those who courageously navigate the realm of traditional employment. Their resilience and fortitude deserve recognition. (31:53) Embracing the Service of Self-Employment. The core of my work revolves around the self-employed life. It's not just about building a business but crafting a strategic and fulfilling life. Throughout my journey, I've discovered the importance of translating experiences and skills to thrive in the self-employed realm. Traditional business models often revolve around transactional approaches. However, my version of marketing and business focuses on emotionally connecting with individuals and serving them wholeheartedly. I aim to move people from indecision to taking tangible action. This approach, which I call "hug marketing," fosters loyalty and nurtures lasting client relationships. In a world that demands swift solutions, I'm here to help people reach their desired outcomes faster. As a coach, my clients are transitioning into self-employment, and I guide them through the process. Through group coaching, we explore how to translate their existing skills into successful business ventures. I aim to empower individuals to achieve their dreams in a shorter timeframe. (41:48) Exploring the Essence of "The Self-Employed Life" Book. My book, "The Self-Employed Life," is available on various platforms. It delves into the intricacies of a self-employed life, offering insights, strategies, and inspiration. My business institute conducts group training and hybrid coaching programs. We create a thriving community for business owners, fostering collaboration and growth. (44:31) Connect with me at JeffreyShaw.com To stay connected and explore further resources, I invite you to visit JeffreyShaw.com. You'll find a wealth of information, tools, and opportunities to engage with our community of like-minded individuals. Discover a world of self-employed possibilities! (44:56) The Promise I Bring to the World When God created me, He made a profound promise to the world: Your starting point does not define your destination. Regardless of where you begin, you have the power and potential to achieve remarkable heights in life. It's a testament to the boundless opportunities that await each of us. Embrace your journey, believe in your capabilities, and witness the incredible transformation that unfolds. Key quotes (21:45 -21:56) Put your plate in places where something magical can happen in the first place, which you cannot accomplish sitting at your home. (34.10 - 34:15) Move people emotionally toward serving them the best. (44.59: 45.03) Where you can end up has nothing to do with where you start.  How to connect with Jeffrey Shaw Website - https://www.jeffreyshaw.com Linkedin – https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffrey-shaw-654a7985/ Instagram-  https://www.instagram.com/jeffreyshaw/?hl=en Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/JeffShawPhotography/

Today Aww Shift welcomes the guest Dawn Hudson who has survived and thrived in this world and had massive success. I had amazing conversations on different topics, like how we can find ways to help women see what they can do and how she had done that with her band of sisters. Today will be a thinking day. I'm excited about these people as they have walked in different areas of life many people have not experienced. They have their own Aww Shift moments in different regions but evolved to navigate their success on other people. (3:16)Who do you see yourself to be? I don't know; I can even describe who I am. What I can tell you is the promising career path I had and was privileged to take. I went to a career path site in Boston, my mom went to Wesley, my father was an attorney, and I had to follow my mom to Wesley. I'm a little bit more competitive and want to change it up. I discovered a dorm in college in the woods in Hampshire. And I love to hike and sport in school. From there, I went to advertising, which was a terrific way to learn business across many categories. It was a field that had a few women. Interesting, it is now changed quite a bit today. From there, life happened when my clients hired me. When I worked with Pepsi, it needed to reconnect with the next generation; the Pepsi drinkers were to reconnect with music and sport. We had a vast set of sports relationships within Football. We were successful and had a chance to work with Gianna Fel, who operated for 11 years. (6:19)What do you think about what stands out as one of the most unique and unseen aspects you had to walk through? I think I'm trying to learn football. I wish I had tried to play, but I didn't have that opportunity. In an environment where most senior leaders are men, sitting around the table can be intimidating. When the number of former professional football players, I may think I know football, but I can't hesitate to give my opinion on a call or a game change. No matter how much you try to improve your weaknesses and improve yourself, you should be yourself by contributing differently. What I brought to the table was the generational shift in football today from people who follow teams and what they do on Sundays. They follow multiple teams and players using their phones within minutes. That is what I brought to the table, being myself. (8:50)How paramount is this diversity important to human beings or the company? I joined Pepsico in the late '90s. When I joined, it was a men's environment. Pepsico was a very opportunity environment. They believe the world is diverse in many aspects. If a company didn't change its recruiting and culture to attract various people and make them stay, it would not stay in that business in the future. I was lucky enough to be a part of and a leader. So I watched the company's transition from a very white male-focused to a diverse place. If you have any business problem, gather people from different backgrounds; that diversity of perspectives will solve the problem faster and more successfully. So I lived and believed it. One of the things I'm passionate about and why I joined the Band of sisters today is to get your members up to recruit diverse people, which allows you to make a culture that will enable people to feel more comfortable from different backgrounds.  (11:22)Did you experience any kickback from people not embracing 100% of these new changes? Anthony, I was lucky I was not kicked in my face. When I worked in advertising, I was asked to join with a type 1 detergent product, but I needed to work with sports products. I was not excited. However, it was a massive move for others as I was the first woman working on such a vast project. Typically, what you have performed in your job and your strengths are evaluated when offering the next job to you. The company was so good. But one day, a person called me and said, “You won't make it here; you are not our type. I'll do everything by my power that you're not going to make it”. Lucky for me, I had that confidence. I played back, and other people helped me. When I had an issue, I confronted them without complicating the situation. (15:11)Did you always have the mentality to develop something over time? It developed earlier in my career watching others. One of my successors had ways of raising complex subjects that aren't personal or as an attack interpreted as angry and aggressive. A lot of people grow things appropriately. How they do it is misinterpreted, and overreaction is the other side. You should try to help others and have more connections. It will be infectious if you are excited and enthusiastic because you feel like you can bring that. The role of a leader is to make sure that the people in the organization are comfortable being at work, and knowing the different capabilities and personalities will bring more business success. (18:24)Did you share what you believe? Mentors are someone who gives you knowledge and perspective, helping you to perform better over time. I needed mentors for packaging development and operations to get more advice when I entered marketing. When a decision is made, the mentors are not in the room. So, think about who you want to sponsor; someone senior in your direct line can be in the same department. How one person gets selected rather than another is quite an advocate for you.  (21:48)Can you unpack what the band of sisters is about and how your team is together? The band of sisters consists of 6 women from different races, single, married, with and without kids. We work together at Pepsico. We support each other and share stories. But sometimes the stories could be more funny. We discussed how to educate younger women and help with what we had earlier experienced and thought to bring men into the conversation. Before the pandemic, we started speaking and advertising on this and decided to get more examples and materials. When the pandemic hit, we collected 360 stories and decided to write a book instead of speaking. We needed it to be inclusive and gain help from others, including men. (32:09)Did you think through which ones were the more important to put into the book? What was that conversation like? We looked through the themes. Pepsico is powerful in personal development. We had a very affinitive process to see people get together and talk with each other. How they should be judged: performing metrics like future capabilities were considered. We need to get together the things to make sense. We need to give a book of flow about the situations. (34:43)What was the exact name of the book? You must get specific advice to bring attention to a situation. We don't want to handle the situation differently. We have used three voices about how we dealt with the problem. So the people can relate.  (39:57)What is next for the band of sisters? We continue working with companies and associations and coaching and mentoring people. A book is a piece of helping others. We don't know whether we will write a book or not. (40:33)What transpired in your world? In my world, we spend a lot of time with a band of sisters. From my business standpoint, I get invitations to come and talk to extend my impact. It is exciting to dive into the subject. I wouldn't do it if it were not comfortable for me. (43:20)Where can the people access the book and you? We have a website called “thebandofsisters.com,” and you can buy the book from Amazon and bookstores. You can follow any of us from Linkedin or the band of sisters. The contact list is there. (43:56)What promise did god make to the world when he created you? The best comment that anybody made me said was, “You don't give up,” and you will help others. Key Quotes  (17:37-17:56)The role of a leader is to make sure that the people in the organization are comfortable being at work and knowing the different capabilities and personalities will bring more business success. (10:07-10:27)The diversity of perspectives will solve the problems faster and more successfully.  How to connect with Dawn Hudson Website-  https://thebandofsisters.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/the_band_of_sisters/ Linkedin- https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawn-hudson1/ 

In today's episode, our guest is a beautiful human being, Johnny Elsasser. Johnny has a crazy excellent story about his life being in Iraq protecting the American ambassador to Iraq. He has a lot which has never talked about. He has grown through the dark, finding the light times. He is the author of the book “Design the man within” which guides the man to realize that he is not alone in his journey full of struggles, feelings, and judgments to deserve the world. (3:07) Why should I listen to you? You should listen to me because I struggle just as any other man works at the end of the day, and I don't want to hide that. The only difference is how I use many tools and get through the dark times quicker than I used to. Hopefully, in this conversation, I can give you some tools to help. (3:40) Let's unpack your framing of dark times. We all have perspectives relative to humans. What are the kinds of dark times you are referring to? It's always the moment when you are alone. Everything starts to close in, and you will be the harshest critic and the most judgemental person on the planet. It's a dark time for me. It's when we discover what can defeat us and put us in the dark. It can show us what keeps us away from our goals and targets. Dark times are what I look at myself. (4:48) I didn't realize how I felt about being out of it. Some people may not realize that they are in the dark. Do you mind sharing your dark times as awake up call? Most people may not know that they are having a dark time in their lives. They're just going through lives but don't know what's happening. When I was in special operations protecting the US ambassador to Iraq, I loved it. After I came home, I didn't have the flag anymore, and I wasn't representing the flag or the country. At that moment, I thought, “Dude, what are you doing?”. When I lost my purpose of serving overseas as a soldier, I felt I had no direction. What I was doing during those days was not filling me up, and that is when I started drinking a lot, not being the best version of myself. This situation led me to a bad relationship with my ex-wife, leading to a divorce, and at that time, I wasn't living up to my full potential. You are going to be either a piece of crap or good. You need to make a choice. That is where I had an honest conversation and wanted to be a good person.  Some people don't know this. They keep doing the same, which is terrible in the long run. What do you think about navigating the mentality? Though I know what to do, I fear doing it. This is like I was having a conversation with someone else. When you have that internal conversation, you can see the big picture, the big goal. And involved in this big picture, you can see all the steps to that picture. To the people who think that I am not going to do that since there is so much effort in every single step and too much involvement, what I need to say is to see the goal and start compartmentalizing everything. First, you need to get through the front door. You take what is in front of you. Just do one step at a time and keep going, and you will feel, “Oh, that's not bad.”  (13:40) For you, what do the steps look like? Once you go through a journey, you realize you have gone in the wrong direction. What is your say on this? Internal confrontations regarding your ego and insecurities are essential. Remember that you are not victims. What happens outside of us are all our doings. The external outcomes are being received due to how we interact with the outside world. You should confront how I should balance myself and how to create myself as a man who can be dangerous and empathetic and move forward as a holistic version of what a good man should be. My internal conversations were, “Don't ask the wrong question; otherwise, you will expose something strong.” You could call it a weakness, but I would call it an under-note. In this conversation, I need to be honest with my answer and the work necessary to correct that behavior or respond to what I need to be. (19:11) The discomfort holds the path. I can develop by focusing on opening up for businesses and relationships. Is life that simple and easy? I should mention this. We are overcomplicating and just being too dumb to quit. We have the fear that is stopping us from doing. Think about the worst thing if you fail or something wouldn't go out well. The answer would be the current position you would be living in. That is what is killing me. (21:47) you have done great things. What is the journey to writing your book? It is a mysterious book. Military or paramilitary service is so rigid and kind of structure for you. Because of the responsibilities, there is some beauty in that. But after leaving that, people don't know how to design the rest of their lives with the transition. I had to go through this process of losing my first wife from a failed marriage and not knowing who I was. Ultimately, I understood that I had the power to design the man who showed up in every conversation. With certain principles and foundations, highly curated traits were picked up for me. I created a man who is consistent with the things I put in my life, specially designed to be intentional. Then life became more accessible. (24:51) Who is the perfect person to pick this up and read? I had talked with elders in 70 and 80 s, but I failed because those men were spiritual and not connected to the 97% of everyday men. I didn't want to forget this time because we have a quickly evolving society, and we continue to hold back the perceptions of masculinity that men should be. We should develop ourselves to complement how the organization will create a robust and influential figure that holds the authority to avoid chaos in the world. We need good men, and this book is for everyday men. (32:51) Through designing the man, can someone become a protector of his wife, and kids and enjoy his life  What you create in this design is adaptability. We are adaptable and robust enough in our foundation and always try to overcome when things get chaotic and complex. When it comes to designing men, adaptability gives you to experience life with confidence. You have to choose it. Being able to adaptable will create an environment to be with your family being the fun-loving dad and the romantic husband. (34:53) Then you draw these in your life that they can be with you safely? Yeah, exactly. Not only them but also the people around the kids and wife get to experience life differently.  (41:15) Where should I send the people to buy this book? Send them over to design the men within.com. You can purchase them from Amazon and for presale. We have a free eBook at 99 cents. (42:09) What promise did god or the creator make to the world when he created you? I think they made a man who was too dumb to quit could show the world that he can influence through perseverance, development, growth, and authenticity. So that was what they made when they put me in this life. Key Quotes  (10:03-10:09) When you have the internal conversation, you see the big picture, the big goal. (10:27-10:33) See the goal of what you are looking at and then just categorize everything. (10:38-10:41) You take what is in front of you. (11:43-11:45) Just do one step and keep going. (15:06-15:10) The external outcomes are being received due to how we interact with the outside world. How to connect with Johnny Elsasser Facebook: The art of masculinity https://www.facebook.com/the.johnny.elsasser/  Instagram: johnny.elsasser  https://www.instagram.com/johnny.elsasser/?hl=en  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HvppHFkWcwc  Email: johnny@johnnyelsasser.com Web: https://www.johnnyelsasser.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnny-elsasser-men-s-leadership-for-today-b5128979  Twitter: https://twitter.com/ElsasserJohnny   

Welcome to the AwwShift podcast, where we bring you the stories of extraordinary individuals who have impacted the world. Today, we are honored to host a true force of inspiration, Jay Fantom. Jay, is a young entrepreneur, award-winning filmmaker, speaker, and writer. His relentless dedication to becoming his best version shines through in everything he does. Jay's authenticity, honesty, love, kindness, and pursuit of excellence are evident in his daily endeavors. Jay has showcased his exceptional storytelling skills at the helm of The Story Box, a highly acclaimed podcast. With over 600+ episodes, he has unraveled the narratives of high-profile leaders from diverse fields. From Tony Robbins and Matthew McConaughey to Mel Robbins and Rachel Bilson, Jay has had the privilege of delving into the lives of remarkable individuals. Join us on this episode of the AwwShift podcast as we dive deep into the journey of Jay Fantom. Prepare to be inspired by his remarkable achievements and the transformative stories he has unearthed. Get ready to shift your perspective and embrace the extraordinary with Jay Fantom. Why should I listen to you? It is good. I can be an exciting person. If someone is interested in me, I ask deep and meaningful questions at the beginning of the conversation. I may look for an overview as I don't know you. I asked a random question from a person I met on a train. Do you have regrets in life? You have a huge curiosity and the desire to go past the norm of the discomfort of talking to a stranger. Have you ever broken that rule? How was that nature neatly built? When I was a kid, I always used to raise questions from the elders regarding what I was curious. Sometimes they got annoyed thinking about why this kid asked such questions. However, out of curiosity, I have done so many risky things by myself to quench my curiosity. Because of that, my mother advised me there is no necessity to talk to strangers, and there is possible danger. But I did not end up there, and some people enabled me to ask many questions about people they trusted and respected the most. The love for the people, their stories, and the books have always been with me. They helped me foster a child's genuine curiosity and the ability to ask questions. What was your journey on the point to desire to help the people, and what prompted this direction of profession where you serve people? I never thought I would be doing what I am doing today. I wanted to be a filmmaker, and my career path had been filmmaking since childhood. I wanted to be the next Steven Spielberg. Everything I talked was revolving around films and film direction. I found fine scripts and turned them into movies with meaningful messages. However, a part of me wanted to help the world, to make others understand the different values I grew up with through the essence of storytelling. However, my life did not end as I wanted it to happen. Now, I am on a completely different pathway doing different jobs, such as looking after kids and helping disabled people. Therefore there was a gigantic block on the way to my film direction career. What was the moment that kind of unfolded here? It was me in 2019 being broken to the point of getting my hands on my knees and feeling like I could no longer go and live anymore. There was an attempt to end my life in June of 2019. I also talked about this in the book “God Intervened,” in that instance, he saved me from taking my life. He put me in the best possible path. When I was knocked down, there were so many moments I was beaten down and didn't know what I was doing then. However, now I continue to move forward. Earlier, I never got excited when a challenge came my way. Now I get eager to learn through the challenges and know their importance in improving my growth and strength. Through challenges, you learn so much about yourself. The choice is in our hands. Most people decide to be stuck and stay in pain out of fear. How I survived and overcame when I lost what I valued the most in 2019 is encouraging me progressively up to now. You had a complete storm in your life. You decided to move positively as an intentional act at some point, right? I had been in misery for months under depression, attempting suicide, and abusing my job. It was time for me to leave the job and seek another. During my job interview with the CEO of a large company, he asked me only one question, “Why do you want to work here,” and my response was, “I just wanna help people.” During the return journey, I thought about how to help people and my life is not on the right track. Then I wanted to change my life in a proper direction. Long after that, he helped me find myself and my purpose: to live and live this life in the best way I can to distinguish between I am Vs. I do. A lot of people get confused about these two. Who you are has nothing to do with what you do, as they are entirely different situations. Who you are reflects your character, beliefs, and values, and these characteristics affect your actions. All those times, I had been missing who I am. How did you become “I am” when knowing the things you have to do aren't what you typically do? Earlier, everything I did was revolving around filmmaking. Every job taught me a unique lesson about people and life. After deciding to be who I am, I understood that anyone can change whenever they want. After figuring out my values and beliefs, I wanted to consider new ways and career paths that mostly align with myself. As we get older and do more things, we get tired and forget after a while that we are supposed to see everything and that life is full of fillings. I won't be able to see the bigger picture. Then you don't want to go and change into who you are. What do you think? Some people may already know who they are. So anyone can change their career. Creativity can create more options if you know who you are and what you want to do. Don't be subjected to blinded by just one thing. What about finding outside sources such as mentors and coaches who had done this before to feed us inside? Reading books can be helpful, and how do you fit in there?  My second book, “The Path of an Eagle,” is for people who feel stuck and can't move forward. Seeing someone else who has been through a similar struggle and then moved forward successfully inspires others as a positive example. First, look at the macro and then the micro without complicating the situation. If you ask, “What is stopping me from doing what was effective for someone,” the answer should be, “If he can do it, then I can do it too.” Earlier, I also didn't believe my book would be published. However, I could post the book after going through the necessary steps. After reading this book, what will I have in my knowledge? I hope you understand your worth, identity and how you see challenges from different perspectives. I had gone through a lot of suffering in my life. Therefore, I want others to learn something from this book, see the challenges, and become stronger. I assume “The Path to the Eagle” is a unique healing path for the ones who want to raise like eagles. Publishing a person's story that has not been publicly shared may help others struggling. The sense of community, bonding, and belonging is our story. What's your next stage in serving humanity? I'm working on another book at the moment, and it's regarding unboxing stories. It will help people to unbox their own stories. Some people may think their story has no value, but I'm here to show them each level has value and help them share it. Where can people get access to the podcast or the book? They can reach through any podcast platform or check out the book on Amazon and The Story Box podcast.com website. What promise did god make to the world when he created you? That is a good question. Here lies a persistent, courageous authentic storyteller who gave his all and lived for Christ.   Key Quotes   “Be alive and live this life in the best way possible to distinguish between I am vs. I do.” “Through challenges, you learn a lot about yourself.”   How to connect with Jay Fantom Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/iamjayfantom/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jay-fantom-91a6b96b/ Website - https://thestoryboxpodcast.com/  

In today's episode, our guest is Brad Bizjack. He is the CEO and Founder of Brad Bizjack, LLC. He's a personal development expert and international inspirational speaker with almost a decade of experience coaching thousands of individuals and teams to maximize performance and elevate their mindset and career to the next level. He's developed online mindset academies sold in multiple countries throughout the world.  [2:48] Why should I listen to you?  That's an excellent question. It's intriguing because it's not something I've been asked before. If I were faced with that situation, my approach would be centered around active listening and genuinely understanding your story and current circumstances. Perhaps the key lies in empathy and having a deep understanding of what it feels like to walk in someone else's shoes, coupled with a strong desire to be of service. From a credibility standpoint, my ability to connect with people stems from years of personal struggle. I have experienced the challenges of being overworked, underpaid, and burdened by significant debt. Despite my best efforts, I couldn't seem to break free from that cycle. However, once I embraced the strategies and concepts we'll be discussing today, everything started to change for the better. [4:18] Do you mind taking us through your journey?  After college, I pursued a job to overcome my debt and achieve financial freedom. But deep down, I craved more—I wanted to break free from mediocrity and outrun my past. That's when I discovered online business and its promises of success, inspiration, and financial abundance. However, despite my efforts, nothing seemed to work. I found myself trapped in a cycle of toxic positivity, pretending everything was fine while struggling internally. Realizing I needed a mindset shift, I hired a coach despite my mounting debt. During our first call, she opened my eyes to the true path to success: rewiring my mind and finding happiness. This revelation led me to attend a life-changing conference focused on limiting beliefs, where I underwent a transformative experience. From there, I paid off my debt, retired my wife, and built a thriving business serving clients worldwide. I discovered that true success comes from rewiring the mind and prioritizing happiness and appreciation for life. This is where my journey began. [8:08] How can someone find a moment of happiness?  It's crucial to examine what people believe will bring them fulfillment, especially when facing financial struggles. Often, individuals associate peace of mind, freedom, or other desired outcomes with having more money. However, it's important to question who took away their peace of mind or freedom. No external factor has the power to strip away these inner qualities. Many individuals find themselves in a mindset of "should"—believing their circumstances should be different, and they should have more money, a bigger business, or a happier life. This mentality can be counterproductive as it prevents them from recognizing the lessons that will help them break through their challenges. Scott Harris introduced the concept of feathers, bricks, and trucks, illustrating how life presents us with lessons. Initially, life gently nudges us with a feather, but often, we brush it off and fail to learn the lesson. In response, life intensifies its efforts, tossing a brick with a message tied to it through our window. Instead of focusing on the shattered glass, we should seek the lesson hidden within the note. Problems, though painful, are gifts that demand our attention. However, if we continue to ignore the lessons, life may resort to drastic measures, like a Mack truck with a note painted in red. [12:33] What do you have to say about the idea of setting a goal?  I believe in the old adage that without vision, you shall perish, which holds true even in biblical teachings. Unfortunately, many people make the mistake of lacking a compelling vision for their future. Past failures and disappointments have left them so wounded that they have become attached to specific outcomes, believing that their worth is tied to those results. As a result, they shrink their goals to make them more realistic. However, I share the viewpoint of Will Smith, who said that realism is the quickest path to mediocrity. While it's important to be realistic about the actions and time required to achieve our goals, being realistic about the dreams themselves often fails to ignite excitement. Instead of setting goals based on what we truly desire, we tend to base them on past experiences. We rationalize and convince ourselves that we can only handle a certain amount or that it's all we can take on right now. This mentality is comparable to having multiple plugs connected but neglecting to plug in our health. Many people approach their lives this way, trying to be realistic when setting their dreams. Unfortunately, they find that they don't achieve these smaller goals, leading them to think they should aim even lower. [18:52] How does someone have this thing that they love that might be in the same direction but not the same thing? That's a valid concern, and it's essential to approach the pursuit of one's heart's calling with careful consideration and planning. It doesn't always mean making drastic changes or completely upending your life. Here are a few steps to lean into chasing your heart's calling without blowing your life up: Reflect and clarify, set realistic goals, plan and strategize, seek support, manage risks and resources, embrace gradual change, and practice self-care.  [23:06] How does someone lean into chasing some of their heart's callings without blowing their life up? Many individuals harbor resentment toward their current circumstances, Let's make note of two important points. Firstly, from a conceptual standpoint, if you are formulating a vision and expecting immediate support from others, you're being unrealistic. As a visionary, you lead the way and initiate the idea. Eventually, people will join in. For instance, when I started my business, my wife initially believed it was the worst idea ever. However, now she is incredibly happy with our successful venture. I hold no judgment against her, as her concern was for our security and stability. She saw my pursuit of a dream as a threat to our safety. Her intention was pure, she aimed to protect us. The key takeaway is that, as a visionary, you must take the leap of faith without immediate support. Now, if you have a family to provide for while chasing your dreams, it may not be the most responsible choice to abandon your sole source of income, risking your children's well-being. I firmly believe in providing for my kids. Now, let's delve into the psychological aspect that can be helpful. Many people have dreams or callings in their hearts, but they bring negative energy to their existing roles or careers because they feel they shouldn't be in those positions.  [33:20] What do people use nowadays to get from point A to point B that you believe is some useful thing we should think through? So there's something we discussed earlier, and I'd like to touch upon it. It's about achieving success, which I believe is your forte. I'm eager to talk about the commerce I've been working on for quite some time. It all started during a hiking trip with my friends. Every couple of years, we embark on a two-week hiking adventure, tackling challenging trails like Half Dome and backpacking through the Grand Canyon. On the journey from Grand Canyon National Park to Yosemite, I sat in the front seat with my friend Jim. During our conversation, Jim made a profound statement about getting ideas or insights when we lack a pen to jot them down. We pondered this observation, and Jim compared road trips to success. He said, "If you're not excited about your destination, why would you embark on a cross-country drive?" It struck a chord with me, and I had a realization: success is akin to Google Maps. However, there's another crucial factor at play—the stories we tell ourselves about our present circumstances. Most people, driven by their need for significance, tend to create disempowering narratives about where they currently stand. They undermine their progress, fail to recognize the beauty of their journey and berate themselves for not yet reaching their goals.  [44:30] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  That I will make people smile  Key Quotes [10:25-10:28] Your emotions cause you to take action to change your circumstances.  [11:04-11:09] You can't really learn to shift your life until you learn how to appreciate life.  How to connect with Brad Bizjack  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bradbizjack Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BradBizjack Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bradbizjack

In this episode of the Aww Shift Podcast, we sit down with Joshua Krafchick, a highly respected life coach, entrepreneur, and speaker, to delve into the secrets of living a rich life. Joshua has dedicated his life to helping individuals unlock their potential and embrace abundance in all aspects of life. Anthony and Joshua Krafchick engage in a thought-provoking conversation about what it truly means to live a rich life. They discuss how richness extends beyond financial wealth and encompasses multiple dimensions, including personal fulfillment, purpose, relationships, and overall well-being. Throughout the episode, Joshua shares practical strategies and mindset shifts that empower individuals to cultivate abundance. He emphasizes the importance of shifting limiting beliefs and patterns that hold us back from living our richest life possible. Joshua provides actionable tips and habits that can attract prosperity and fulfillment in all areas of life. The conversation also touches upon the significance of purpose and how aligning our actions with our true passions contributes to living a rich life. Joshua discusses common obstacles and challenges that may hinder our journey towards richness, and offers effective techniques to overcome them. By the end of this inspiring episode, listeners will gain a clear roadmap to live a rich life and be equipped with the mindset and tools necessary to embrace abundance and prosperity. Tune in to discover the secrets to living a rich and fulfilling life with our esteemed guest, Joshua Krafchick.

In today's episode, our guest is Alok Trivedi. He is the founder of one of 2021 Inc. 5000's fastest-growing companies and the author of the acclaimed “Chasing Success: Lessons in Aligned Performance.” While running one of the biggest healthcare clinics in the country, Dr. Trivedi was inspired to use his therapeutic doctor background coupled with 27 years of studying the mind/body connection to develop his methods which now included 92 scientifically proven techniques to rewire the fear, beliefs, and habits that hold you back so you can achieve the life you've always dreamed of.  [2:25] Why should I listen to you?  I may have encountered various experiences that could potentially assist you in navigating the chaos you are presently facing. Additionally, I possess a systematic process and scientific tools that can aid you in navigating these challenges, sparing you the need to repeatedly confront them. [2:55] Where did that skillset develop? Through my practice as a doctor, I have had the opportunity to see and treat over 500,000 patients throughout my career. Initially, my focus was on helping individuals with physical ailments, such as back pain, neck pain, and shoulder pain. However, I soon realized that by delving into the realm of their minds and aiding them in rewiring their thought processes, remarkable transformations occurred. Surprisingly, these positive changes took place without any physical intervention on my part. This experience prompted me to adopt a new approach to guiding patients in healing themselves through a thoughtful questioning process. Over time, my expertise expanded beyond medical settings, and I began working with entrepreneurs, business owners, CEOs, and even celebrities. The scope of my work broadened, but it all originated from recognizing the intricate connection between the mind and body and comprehending the inner workings of the human frame.  [3:53] What does rewiring mean?  Indeed, the process involves rewiring not only the neurochemistry of the brain but also one's perspective and perception. The ultimate goal is to attain a state of equilibrium within the brain, as the entire organ constantly seeks balance. Our objective is to assist individuals in achieving this balance across all aspects of their lives, promoting harmony within their minds. [4:20] How would someone know they are out of balance? Many individuals tend to solely focus on their external surroundings, observing the preexisting chaos that exists. However, it is crucial to direct attention inward and acknowledge the presence of the inner voice, commonly referred to as the ego, within our minds. This internal noise generated by the brain holds significant importance. Additionally, it is essential to consider one's symptoms and overall health, as true well-being encompasses more than just physicality. In today's society, there has been a separation between psychological and mental health from our physical state. However, I believe this perspective is entirely inaccurate. Mental health is intricately intertwined with our overall well-being. Thus, our objective is to bridge the gap between mental and physical health, recognizing their interconnectedness and fostering their harmonious integration. [5:23] What kicked you into this realm?  I have always had a relentless pursuit of seeking answers and understanding the intricate workings of the mind and body. My journey began as a physical therapist, which led me to become a chiropractor. However, I found myself continually questioning what governs various aspects, repeatedly asking, "What controls what?" As I worked with patients who suffered from back pain, I embarked on my journey. It was during this time that I started assisting individuals in believing in their ability to heal. I realized that as a doctor if I had not personally experienced the transformative power of care, I would not truly comprehend its profound truth. I had to undergo the process of rebuilding and reawakening my brain when I faced the turmoil of a painful divorce, losing everything in the process. During that challenging period, I had to reconstruct the fragments of my mind to bring myself back to life. Financially destitute, I struggled to make ends meet, surviving on minimal resources for days on end. It was through piecing together the elements of this puzzle that I gained a profound understanding of how the brain truly operates.  [6:50] What were the things you did to pull yourself out of a dark place? I had a significant realization during a speaking engagement. While promoting positive thinking and similar mindsets, I found that it did not align with how the brain truly operates. Backstage, I expressed my frustration to others, seeking help as I struggled financially, trying to meet my child support obligations, and feeling the weight of it all crashing down on me. I was desperate to figure out how to turn things around but couldn't make any progress. People who were well-known in the industry advised me to examine my beliefs, stating that they shaped my reality. However, this seemed illogical to me because reality appeared to be based on what was objectively observable. It was during this time that I realized someone could experience back pain, but the root cause could be diverse, such as a herniated spinal disc or other underlying issues. The back pain was merely a symptom. This realization sparked an epiphany that whatever we perceive is the symptom, while the cognitive aspect is internal. Motivated by this realization, I returned home and delved into my textbooks like a mad scientist. Fuelled by coffee, I spent the entire night researching and developing a path and process to understand how the brain truly functions. I wanted to grasp how the brain creates emotions and the genuine anatomical process behind beliefs, not just the psychological aspect. It became evident that I had formed a belief in my life following my divorce, which was that one could have either love or money, but not both. This belief influenced my experiences, as I had been seeking love while facing post-divorce struggles. I had to piece together this understanding and then focus on rewiring this specific belief. I started implementing these techniques, gradually rewiring different aspects of my mindset, including increasing my sales, confidence, and self-worth. Each day, I continued the process of neuroplastic growth, rewiring my brain to enhance my value. Interestingly, I discovered that I could similarly assist others. This became a significant aspect of my work, as I found joy in helping entrepreneurs rewire their brains to achieve absolute fulfillment and success, without compromising their worthiness. [10:20] Why did you choose entrepreneurs and what are you trying to accomplish for them?  I've always been an entrepreneur at heart since childhood, deeply fascinated by the world of entrepreneurship. However, what struck me as remarkable is the lack of entrepreneurial doctors discussing mental health and its impact on our physiology and overall well-being. It's worth noting that 72% of entrepreneurs experience mental health disorders, even though we may not readily acknowledge it. We often label it as stress or attribute it to the relentless pursuit of success. However, from a biological perspective, this constant grind is detrimental to our health. It can lead to conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, stroke, and other physiological ailments. The correlation between our business challenges and the resulting health symptoms is often overlooked. We find ourselves taking medications for the physical symptoms without addressing the underlying mental and emotional aspects. This disconnect is what compelled me to write my upcoming book, "Wired for Wealth," which focuses on rewiring the brain for both financial success and overall health. It aims to bridge the gap left by traditional training and offer a holistic perspective on achieving prosperity in all aspects of life. I have experienced the need for massive rewiring in my journey and continue to do so. There was a time when I believed I had to separate my focus between making money and nurturing relationships. However, I realized that finding harmony between the two is essential. It's not about pausing one aspect to attend to the other but rather integrating and balancing them simultaneously. It requires rewiring our mindset to understand that we can have both financial success and fulfilling relationships. [12:20] Why do you think people have some certain mentality?  We often tend to compartmentalize different aspects of our lives. Harvard conducted a study on this topic and highlighted the importance of work-life integration rather than striving for a work-life balance that implies separation. It's about recognizing that all facets of our lives are interconnected and should be integrated harmoniously. When we compartmentalize and fail to see the interconnectedness, we limit our potential for fulfillment. Achieving this integration is a part of personal growth and maturity. Moreover, it holds biological significance. It is immensely rewarding when we perceive various elements of our lives as contributing to our progress rather than obstructing it. As we align these aspects along a unified path, they guide us towards the prefrontal cortex of our brain, which is associated with higher cognitive functions, rather than keeping us stuck in the emotional centers of our brain.  [15:17] How do you approach things that seem like you can't change or control?  We often forget that the external environment is a reflection of our internal state. The five primary emotions you mentioned, namely pride, infatuation, shame, guilt, and resentment, play a significant role in shaping our experiences. When we hold onto these emotions, they tend to be mirrored back to us in our interactions and circumstances. For instance, if someone appears angry or resentful towards us, it's essential to recognize that our triggers and behaviors may have contributed to that reaction. Allow me to illustrate this with an example from a recent client session. One of my clients expressed that his spouse was excessively controlling. When we examined their dynamic, it became evident that her controlling behavior was, to a significant extent, a response to his controlling tendencies. However, the challenge arises from our resistance to acknowledging and accepting our flaws. We often judge and disown certain aspects of ourselves, making it difficult to see where we are stuck or disowning those qualities. Once my client was able to confront the fact that he, too, exhibited controlling behavior, a shift occurred. By recognizing and accepting this truth, the trigger between them began to diminish, allowing for healthier interactions. All of us need to reflect on our actions and emotions, as it enables us to break free from patterns that perpetuate discord and cultivate a more harmonious environment.  [20:50] How does somebody get to that point?  Whatever one is addicted to it, I call it an addiction. I remember when I first started my first business, I had nothing to my name. Of course, when you go off because nobody goes, but start a business when you have something you're afraid of losing, that fear of loss is the addiction that you've built to your success and that's the thing that's holding you captive. The other side is that if you've had a past where you've had a trauma or resentment or some challenge, and you don't want to do it again, that's also holding you captive. Both stoats are preventing you from actually moving into the state of gratitude, and love and being able to move forward, because they're the emotions that keep you trapped. [22:10] Where do other outside human beings come into play?  They're the perfect mirrors. We have these neurons in our brain called mirror neurons and these mirror neurons are societally needed and are used for evolution and our family members so we can get super consumed with work and focus. Sometimes we can get super consumed with work and focus at some time, and maybe our spouse or partner says you know what, you never spend time with me you come home with the kids, whatever the case, and you're sitting there saying, I'm trying to build the business I'm trying to grow and the addiction to the one breeds the chaos of the other. [27:50] How does someone discern when it comes to people? Here's what I realized in the brain and what happens as you rewire your brain is that you automatically transcend the tribe that you're in but what will happen is because your influence will want to grow, you'll want to create a better impact inside the world. In most of the personal development space, they'll say things like you know what? You leave them because they're not supporting you and you leave because of resentment. You leave because of that. When you transcend you leave and you rewire. You leave with an appreciation of who they are, and you can still interact with them. You're not trying to shun them out. You've just grown at a different level. There's nothing wrong with that. But you're not leaving with an emotion. That's the key because there's no judgment.  [35:41] What do you think is the natural step order for people especially if they've worked with you before?  I think you need to first know who you are. What I mean by that is in your brain. What I've done is I've wanted to take the philosophy that we're talking about and never wanted to objectify. That was always my objective to say, how do I duplicate this for my kids more than anything else? Is it how I duplicate the path of fulfillment because you know what, it's not about the secret just sitting in manifesting and their action? So the seven levels of the brain in essence that I talked about, and it's going from a state of have to need to, to should too, which is the primary state of guilt into deciding to want to choose to learn love to and going through those levels of the brain silent so the first thing you gotta do is find out kind of where you're at which part of the brain are you using? Depending on where you are will determine how you're living as a function. Here's the interesting thing, I've also correlated. It's also really determining the impact you make and the money you make because of it and so, you got to find out where you are on that scale. I think that's the number one thing to do. [38:08] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  To teach.    Key Quotes  [17:56-17:58] If it doesn't match your identity,  you can't take those actions  [35:10-35:13] Any day, anybody can wake up and choose to be somebody else.    How to connect with Alok Trivedi  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.rewire Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/DrAlokTrivedi/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drrewire   

In today's episode, our guest is Eric Zimmer. He is a behavior coach, certified interfaith spiritual director, podcast host, and writer endlessly inspired by the quest for a greater understanding of how our minds work and how to create the lives we want to live intentionally. Eric has worked as a behavior coach for the past 20 years, coaching hundreds of people from around the world on how to make significant life changes and create habits that serve them well in achieving the goals they've set for themselves. He currently hosts the award-winning podcast, The One You Feed, based on an old parable about two wolves at battle within us.  [2:58] Why should I listen to you?  My expertise in everything I discuss, share, and teach comes from being in the trenches. I have personally coached and worked with over 500 individuals from various parts of the world. Additionally, I have interviewed over 500 intelligent individuals on these topics. I believe my knowledge and experience in these areas are based on these three key factors: my personal experience, my desire to assist others, and my constant pursuit of knowledge from the brightest minds in the field.  [3:50] Can you share a little bit of your background?  Although I grew up in a stable, middle-class suburban environment, there were still some gaps in my upbringing that influenced who I am today. However, I can't solely blame my circumstances for the choices I made. By the age of 24, I had hit rock bottom - I was a homeless heroin addict weighing only 100 pounds, with Hepatitis C and several felony charges looming over me. But despite all that, I was able to rebuild my life into something fulfilling and rewarding. The lessons I learned from my experiences can apply not only to those in similarly dire situations but to anyone struggling to live a life aligned with their values, cope with difficult thoughts and emotions, and manage their challenges. These are all universal struggles that we all face to varying degrees.  [5:35] What got you here?  It's difficult to pinpoint one specific cause for addiction or mental health issues. There are often multiple factors at play, and it can be a combination of genetics, environment, upbringing, and personal choices. In my case, I had parents who were struggling with their mental health issues, and I was a sensitive child who turned to stealing, drugs, and alcohol as a way to cope with my emotions. But ultimately, I believe that it's important to focus on the present moment and how to move forward, rather than getting stuck in the past and trying to assign blame or find a single cause for our struggles. [17:10] How did you approach moments that feel like you don't know what you're doing?  It's interesting because there are both catalyst moments and thousands of small decisions that follow. For instance, deciding to become an NFL player may be a catalyst moment, but it's the countless grueling workouts and dedication that follow that ultimately lead to success. Recovery and sobriety are similar in this way. There may be epiphany moments where you realize you need help, but it's the ongoing commitment to making the right decisions that lead to long-term recovery. In my own experience, the catalytic moment was when I realized I needed long-term treatment while living in the back of a van. From there, it was a series of small decisions like going to meetings, working with a sponsor, and going to the gym that led to true hope and belief that I could change. Consequences are important, but they're not enough. We need both a true desire to change and a belief that change is possible to achieve long-term recovery. [22:14] What are some of the lessons that you learned during these moments? Living according to our values sounds great, but it's difficult to do and often leads to an unpleasant reflection. In my coaching programs, we do a deep dive into values, which can be challenging for people as it brings them face-to-face with areas they're falling short in. However, I believe it's helpful to reframe this by recognizing that we'll always veer off course, just like a plane constantly needs to refocus on its destination. Life is full of demands and distractions, so it's natural to get off track. The key is to minimize emotional drama and get back on course as soon as we realize we're off. By doing this more often without beating ourselves up, we'll be more willing to course-correct. On the other hand, if we spiral into self-criticism every time we slip up, we're less likely to get back on track. I always remind my coaching clients that getting off track is inevitable, but the important skill is learning to get back on track quickly.  [25:47] What are some of the behaviors people may not be doing and are not aware of the dire consequences?  In my experience coaching many people, I've noticed that certain behaviors can be problematic in the long run, even if the individual is not aware of their negative impact. However, it's important to note that what may be problematic for one person might not be an issue for another, depending on their values and circumstances. For instance, if someone has children and spends several hours a day playing video games, it could be problematic as it takes away from quality time with their kids. On the other hand, if someone is a bachelor and enjoys playing video games, it may not be an issue. One behavior that tends to have long-term effects is diet, which can have compounding consequences for better or worse. [30:36) What are some of the behaviors you put into place that helped you?  I have struggled with depression for much of my adult life, which may or may not be linked to my addiction. Therefore, I prioritize my physical and mental health, including exercise, healthy eating, and sufficient sleep. While these behaviors are important for long-term health, they are crucial for my emotional and mental well-being in the present moment. Recognizing that these health practices make me happier and more fulfilled was a significant shift for me. Another crucial behavior is meditation, as I find contemplative practices and time spent in silence to be valuable. Additionally, I frequently ask myself if my actions align with my values and goals, as it is easy to fall into autopilot and live a life that doesn't reflect who we want to be. By reflecting on what matters to me and regularly adjusting my behavior accordingly, I am more likely to live a fulfilling life aligned with my values.  [37:00] Sometimes, our journey is full of ups and downs like a roller coaster. What do you have to say about that?  I believe that accepting the uncertainty and doubt that comes with any creative endeavor or building a new business is essential. For instance, my current project is writing a book, and it's natural to experience self-doubt and uncertainty. However, what has helped me is learning from other successful authors by having them on my show and hearing about their struggles. Even the most accomplished individuals go through similar challenges, but they have learned to manage and navigate them skillfully. Monitoring my progress and adjusting accordingly has been crucial in recognizing and handling any uncertainty that arises. Creating something new inherently involves fear and doubt, and these feelings are not a sign of inadequacy, but instead, they are part of the process. Building a new business is no different, and moments of uncertainty and doubt are common. It is essential to understand that these challenges are normal and not to let them discourage you. It's a misconception that successful individuals have it easy, but the reality is that everyone struggles with self-doubt and uncertainty at some point in their journey.  [41:45] Do you mind sharing with us what the parable in your podcast means?  My podcast always starts with a parable, the origins of which are unknown, but many of you may have heard it. It speaks of two wolves that reside within us - one representing kindness, bravery, and love, and the other representing greed, hatred, and fear. The question is, which wolf will win? The answer is the one that you feed. I love this parable because it's a reminder that we have a choice in our actions and that we all have both good and bad within us. It's natural to have doubts, fears, and uncertainties, but it's how we respond to them that matters. The first step to responding to our negative thoughts is recognizing them and understanding why we want to change. Awareness is key to any kind of change. We should not be attached to our thoughts, as they may not always be true or accurate. They are simply the result of various causes and conditions that have accumulated over time, along with chemical processes in our minds. Some thoughts are closer to reality than others, and we need to learn to work with them more skillfully and smartly. Studies show that about 85% of our thoughts are negative and 95% of them are repetitive. It's important to take inventory of our thoughts and analyze them so that they don't run rampant. [47:45] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  There is hope.  Key Quotes [32:40-32:44] Spending some amount of time in silence and reflection on things is valuable.  [40:48-40:51] Little by little, a little becomes a lot.  How to connect with Eric Zimmer  Instagram: https://instagram.com/one_you_feed   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/1ufeed Twitter: https://twitter.com/oneyoufeed

In today's episode, our guest is Kim Gravel. She is the host of a bevy of number-one shows on QVC and is a wildly successful entrepreneur, television personality, motivational speaker, life coach, podcaster, and leader in the fashion and beauty industry. In 2016, she partnered with QVC to launch her apparel line Belle by Kim Gravel followed by the Belle Beauty cosmetic line a year later. In five years, Kim has grown her brands from zero to hundreds of millions of dollars in sales.  [3:07] Why should I listen to you? I've faced highs and lows in my journey, experiencing moments of financial struggle and blessings. Throughout my career and life, I've gained a collection of valuable knowledge and skills, and this is what makes my story worth listening to. In today's world, it seems like everyone claims to be an expert, but without any actual experience to back it up. That's why it's crucial to seek out individuals who have achieved what you aspire to or succeeded in something you desire. These are the people we should be paying attention to. Whether you can watch or listen to me, if you're looking to start a business, build a brand, or enter the television industry, I believe my insights are worth considering, even if it's just for a few valuable tips. [4:40] Can you take us back to a point where confidence wasn't part of your collection of human skills or traits?  I believe that we are all born with a certain level of confidence and a calling. However, as we go through life, the ups and downs, the mistakes, and the messes that happen to us or that we create for ourselves, chip away at our confidence. The world is a confidence sucker, and we end up losing sight of that inherent confidence that we were born with. But, as we go through life's journey, the mistakes, the regrets, the losses, and the wins all become a part of our message. Collecting confidence is essentially gathering up the pieces of confidence that have been broken and chipped away in our lives and putting them back into our souls. When we were young, we were fearless, and the world was our oyster. However, little by little, comparison, mistakes, and problems chipped away at that confidence. This book is about the journey that I've been on, but also the journey that the reader has been on, and how we have all been collecting our confidence. Some of us may not even realize that we have it, but it's there. [8:10] How does someone find an approach to calling and pursue it?  In the book, I emphasize that the concept of calling has been a constant theme throughout my entire life. It can even be traced back to a specific moment in the fifth grade when I started an air band called Rare Edition with my girlfriends. Despite not fully understanding it at the time, I now realize that my role in the band was not as a singer, but as a builder and manager, as they had organized and created the outfits and instruments for the performance. This experience taught me that I have a knack for building and creating, and it served as a foundational moment in the understanding of my calling. So, I encourage readers to trace their own calling back to their earliest childhood memories, as this can help them identify their purpose in life. Despite many people believing they have a purpose, few can pinpoint exactly what it is, and I suggest that doing the work of examining one's past can help in discovering it.  [10:40] Where did the thread start to gleam?  Throughout my life, I've realized that I had been chasing the wrong things, including the wrong men and the wrong career. It wasn't until I was around 40 years old that I fully understood this. During a recent interview, a young woman in her early 30s expressed to me that she felt the need to do more. I explained to her that I could do many things as long as I was building something, but that doing only one thing poorly wasn't an option. It's essential to figure out what you are meant to do in life because when you do, an abundance of energy, resources, and opportunities open up for you. This realization feels like a light switch going off in your soul. It's not just about business or creating things for monetary gain. It has to be something that truly fulfills you on an inward level. It may sound cheesy, but this is based on my lived experience. [18:27] How did you gain the confidence to step out in the face of people who loved you?  Those little voices in your head and in your life are always talking and talking, but the thing is, they didn't hear the calling - you did. So, you need to consider the source of those voices. When people are clamoring and talking, even your own inner critic, you have to let the voice of your calling be bigger than all the other voices clamoring for your attention. You have to feed and amplify that voice and not let the distractions of everything else be louder than your calling. The purpose is great, but the calling is different - it's a vocation. And when you look up the word vocation, it means a voice calling. It can be a part of every aspect of your life - your relationships, parenting, career, business, and community interactions. Imagine if we all walked in what we were made to do - it would be a whole different world. [23:30] What do you have to say about mentality?  You must be bold and confident. You have to enter the room knowing that even if you lack the qualifications or the willingness to take on a job or task, you still belong there. Life requires you to gain experience, and not all experiences will be victories. Failures can teach you more than successes ever could. Many people are afraid to take action and become stuck in their fear. My best friend, for example, was scared to speak in front of people but played a critical role in our business winning an award. She texted me after accepting the award and said that it changed her perspective and she's ready to take on a more significant role in the company, even though she's 50 and I've been encouraging her for three years. The lesson is that sometimes you just have to take the plunge and do it anyway.  [32:05] What is your message to someone who thinks he can't succeed because he has failed a lot of times?  That statement is false, and you're believing a lie that you're telling yourself. The truth is, if I, a middle-aged Southern woman with minimal education, can accomplish what I have in my life, then anyone can. The key is knowing who you are and what you're called to do. Don't focus on your mistakes or your past, as they are building blocks, not stumbling blocks. It doesn't matter what you've done in your life. Also, I appreciate the mention of Kanye because he is a genuine and authentic person. People respond positively to authenticity in a world that often values fakeness and superficiality. Even though I love a good filter, I'm not talking about that kind of thing. I'm referring to the importance of being true to yourself. Faking who you are will only lead to self-doubt, but being authentic may cause temporary vulnerability and remorse, which will eventually fade. Being fake will never lead to true confidence. So, please,be authentic. I'd rather respect someone I'm not a fan of who is genuine than someone who is fake.  [49:35] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  You are a unique and exceptional creation, designed with great care and intention. Your DNA, your calling, and your purpose are all yours and yours alone. God created you with a specific plan in mind and has equipped you to fulfill it. Embrace your individuality and trust in your abilities to carry out the work you were meant to do. Key Quotes  [6:50-6:54] You can't be fully confident if you are not walking in your calling.  [22:25-22:30] You can't get confidence from someone who isn't confident and you can't learn success from someone who is yet to be successful.  [26:32-26:40] The reason why we don't try things isn't that we are scared of failing but scared of what if it works    How to connect with Kim Gravel  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimgravel  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimgravelofficial LinkedIn: https://twitter.com/KimGravel

In today's episode, our guest is David Greene. He is a successful real estate broker, bestselling author, and BiggerPockets Real Estate podcast co-host. He is a highly respected authority on real estate, having been featured on CNN, Forbes, and HGTV, and has appeared on over 25 different real estate podcasts. As a licensed real estate broker and lender, he runs "The David Greene Team," a top-producing real estate company in Keller Williams, where he has won multiple awards for production.  [2:25] Why should I listen to you?  You should listen to me because we will get into a conversation where we will discuss everything about you that is stopping you from getting the things you want in life or being happier.  [3:34] Where did this come from?  I grew up having a relationship with God, and I think that helps a lot, depending on how you perceive God. My perception of God had a lot to do with the fact that we're forgiven for everything we've ever done. You can operate at this level of honesty about your problems and still be loved by him. So you can take off your shirt at the pool even if you don't look good and still feel loved. When I didn't have that perception, I felt unloved. I struggled with confidence, shame, and laziness, and there was always resistance to getting out there and doing what I needed to do to make my life better. I always craved the right people who would come along as friends, coaches, and mentors and who would help me overcome my resistance. So my best friends became people who practiced with me and helped me get better.  [5:20] What was the process like for you?  High school basketball coaches had a big impact on me, especially one in particular. My first varsity coach asked me to play varsity as a sophomore, but I declined since they already had a good team and I didn't want to be stuck behind another player. Nonetheless, that coach believed in me, which gave me the confidence to play harder. This was important since my relationship with my dad was rough, and I often felt like he preferred more athletic kids. During my senior year, a new coach came in who had just graduated from ULP, a Division I college in Stockton that was making it to the NC double A's every year. This coach brought a Division I college program to our high school, which raised the standards significantly. This was tough, but it helped me grow stronger and understand that I needed to keep raising the bar bit by bit. While I have failed many times in my life, the standard set by my basketball coaches has been like a north star, guiding me toward improvement, happiness, better relationships, and wealth. [8:05] Can we talk about your high school?  I grew up in Chico, which is located between Stockton and the waterpark. The waterpark was a popular destination, especially when I was playing basketball. At the time, Michael Olowokandi was the number one pick in the NBA draft and he had been playing with my coach. They were a dominant team, beating even the top-ranked teams in the tournament. However, my athletic career didn't go as planned, and I broke my ankle while training with a talented player who was the best on his college team. I used to play one-on-one with him at the gym, and although he usually won, I would occasionally win too. But when I saw him wearing Colorado basketball shorts one day, I realized that he was a guard for the team and was good. This made me shift my mindset and realize that sometimes we don't see ourselves from the best angle. [10:50] Were you injured during that period when you were with that individual? I traded with another guy, who happened to be the best player, but I had a lot of ankle injuries from repeated sprains. I didn't understand how it worked at the time. I thought my body knew how to heal from sprains faster, without realizing that each time it happened, my ligaments were getting stretched. The last time, a couple of ligaments snapped in half, and the bones crushed together and broke off. I tried to train with almost nothing, but the pain was too much to handle. Eventually, I had to get reconstructive surgery, and my eligibility was revoked. I was frustrated because I was so close to proving myself, just 99% of the way there. However, this experience taught me a valuable lesson, and it gave me the motivation to push harder in other areas. I had a chip on my shoulder because I didn't achieve what I wanted in my athletic career, which motivated me to graduate from the tough police academy and succeed as a police officer. Although this career can be full of temptations and hate, it all depends on how you let the external world affect you. From there, I became a real estate agent and investor, and my past disappointments have fueled me to push harder than others. [13:24] What are some of the challenges you faced and how did you approach them? I applied to 14 different apartments before getting hired by one. The application process is not just about settling down; each apartment had about nine or 10 steps before getting to the academy. I had to go through constant oral boards, physical agility tests, written tests, and endless driving across various departments. Even when I got 80% of the way there, I still got rejected a few times because of my past speeding tickets, or for never having done drugs or getting into fights. They thought I couldn't handle the job's stresses. Finally, I got hired by one apartment after 13 failures. When I arrived at the academy, the biggest shock to me wasn't the screaming or physical demands, which I was used to from playing sports. It was the emotional shock of being yelled at and punished for something I didn't know was wrong. In sports, coaches would show you the right fundamentals, and if you didn't follow them, you got into trouble. It was a logical approach. However, in the academy, I got in trouble for military rules I didn't know, which was very discouraging. Despite feeling hopeless, I knew I couldn't go back to applying for 14 more departments, so I stuck through it. I also saw this as an opportunity to change my life and gain confidence as a man. I felt like God had put me on this path, and if I didn't complete it, I could end up accepting being a quitter for the rest of my life. I had a healthy fear that quitting would become a part of my identity, and I didn't want that. It's okay to get injured or washed out if it's out of your control, but it should never be because you voluntarily gave up. [16:55] What was your experience of being an officer after finally making it through the journey? Did you feel settled and secure, or did you always have a lingering feeling of uncertainty? You constantly fear getting fired during the FTO program, where an experienced officer evaluates and teaches you simultaneously. It's an emotional state where they're teaching and evaluating you, and they decide whether you make it or not. It's hard, especially when you're younger, trying to remember policies, listen to radio codes, drive in an unfamiliar neighborhood, and identify penal codes. You're being watched and every mistake is noted, creating a constant fear of getting cut. You study hard, drill codes in your head, and seek comfort. It's like being a rookie in sports, where everything feels like white noise and you're a step behind everything, but with time, you cross a threshold and start seeing things before they happen. Many people don't make it through, and it's a continuous struggle even after you pass the academy because you have to learn how to do the job and earn your peers' respect. If they don't trust you, there will be conflict, and you'll be miserable every day.  [24:40] What was the catalyst that made you decide to do something else after going through all the things you just talked about? There is an answer that makes me sound intelligent - I foresaw the strained relationship between the public and police officers improving, particularly in the Bay Area. The negativity of the officers around me was exponentially worsening, and it was beginning to affect my thoughts and actions. Even though my beliefs didn't align with those negative feelings, it was challenging to fight against them constantly. However, I had invested too much time and energy into my career as a police officer and wanted to be the best. It's tough to let go of something that defines your identity, especially for men. That's why people like Tom Brady continue to play football when they retire. But something inside me was changing. I'm not sure if it was divine intervention, but I no longer felt the same desire to continue in law enforcement. It was as if I had a fistful of sand, and the tighter I held onto it, the more sand slipped through my fingers. One day, even the easiest call, like someone with a stomach ache, would make me angry, and I would curse the world on my way to that call. It was as if a door was closing on that chapter of my life, and it made sense to leave. Emotionally, it was a powerful decision, and I felt like I was suffocating. I needed to find a new challenge because there was no longer any joy in the job. People were depending on me, and it was an uphill battle to maintain a positive attitude every day. I knew I wasn't strong enough to overcome those challenges, so I had to move on.  [26:56] Why real estate?  I used to own rental properties, and I was comfortable with that. However, I became a real estate agent because I was tired of referring my friends to agents who weren't very good. In my opinion, most real estate agents are terrible, and it's hard to find good help in this industry. When my friends came back to me with questions about their agents, I would end up doing the agent's job. So I decided to get licensed and do it myself. While I was still working as a cop, I would show homes in the morning, go to work in the afternoon until late at night, then go home and repeat the process. I was also part of a group called Good Abundance, where I was encouraged to stop working overtime, learn how to be a businessman, and eventually ride off into the sunset when I made enough money. But to be honest, I hated it. I didn't like sales or having to persuade people. As a cop, it was easy to tell people what to do, but that doesn't work with scared people who are unsure about buying a house or how much to pay. I felt like a bodybuilder trying to learn yoga, but I needed to stretch and become flexible. I had to connect with people, listen to them, and share personal stories to build trust. Once I realized that personal growth led to more money, I knew what I had to do in this new industry. [29:25] What made you feel secure enough to take the risk and venture into your endeavors? Looking at a chart of how success happens when learning a new skill, it's not a linear process where you put in X hours and get X better, like in the world of work. Learning a skill, such as playing the guitar or building up your biceps, requires perseverance and patience. When I started working out, I was frustrated that my wrists would tire before my biceps during bicep curls. It took months of consistent effort before my wrists were strong enough to support my biceps, and even then, my forearms needed work too. Progress is not always linear, but rather a series of adjustments and improvements. Whether you're a major league baseball player or learning a new skill, success takes time and effort. It's important to keep pushing through the frustrating moments and trust that your hard work will pay off in the end. During this period of growth, you may not see immediate success or financial gain but don't give up. Keep at it and trust the process. Once you reach the inflection point, where progress exponentially increases, you can put even more time and effort into your pursuit.  [33:50] How can someone who doesn't have the same experience as you, in real estate, learn from your success and create their version of wealth through real estate? You can't be a David Green or an Elon Musk; only a handful of people in the world can achieve what they have. However, anyone can strive to be the best employee they can be. When I worked at Todos in high school, my goal was to excel at my job just as I did in basketball. I wanted to outperform my coworkers and become the boss's favorite. This attitude worked well in the workplace because many people approach their jobs with minimal effort. When I started working in restaurants as a busboy and host, I approached every day with a positive attitude and a desire to learn. As a result, I was promoted to waiter, making grown-up money right out of high school. I learned that nobody stops you from giving your best every day, and that mindset has carried me through every profession. Instead of waiting for more opportunities, start by doing your best in the job you have and looking for ways to do more. That's something anyone can do. [43:08] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I believe that one of the key takeaways from our conversation today is that if you put your heart and soul into pursuing your goals, there's no guarantee that you'll achieve them. However, you will inevitably develop the qualities and attributes necessary to attain what you truly need in life. My own experience attests to this truth, that if you give everything you've got, success will come. It's like going to the gym and giving it your all every single day. There's simply no way you won't become stronger. You may not end up with the same physique as Arnold Schwarzenegger or Michael Phelps, but you will undoubtedly improve your abilities and skills. So, if you apply this same mindset to every aspect of your life, you'll begin to see the same benefits and blessings.  Key Quotes [23:35-23:37] If you can't attain it, you can't sustain it.  [32:45-32:50] There's more energy in the time when you've just made a shift than when you're just showing up. How to connect with David Greene  Instagram: https://instagram.com/davidgreene Facebook: https://facebook.com/davidgreene LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/davidgreene 

In today's episode, our guest is Anna Lozana. She is a multifaceted entrepreneur who thrives on adventure, creation, and service. She is also the co-founder of Love Powered Co, an affirmation company that brings mindfulness, connection, and gratitude to women and families around the world.    [4:38] Why should I listen to you?  Well, we are all energy, and at that moment, my inspiration to speak to you was clearly because I felt your energy. Also, for you to have turned around, that means you must have felt my energy, and through that, we can become an energetic match for an authentic, activated conversation.    [6:38] How should somebody approach their thought process about themselves and their expression to the world?  There are so many brands that have been created, especially in the online space, which makes it feel saturated, and more people are being called out to step into their most authentic selves and show up unapologetically. More people are trying to show up in their fullest expression because that is the true energy of their brand, so if you're trying to be like someone else, there is going to be a mismatch and you'll be unable to magnetize clients that are meant to be in your world. It's just so cool because we are being called to be ourselves and scale our brands in that way.  [7:58] What does it mean to operate as your authentic self, and what do you think stifles that for people?  I grew up in East London, Ontario, Canada, and I always claim to be like Anna from the blog, which I have hidden for a very long time. I remember vividly that when I was in sixth grade, brands like guest brands and clothing brands started popping up. I was shopping at Goodwill at the used clothing stores, and I started to surpass who I was to fit in. I remember launching into the entrepreneurial space 13 years ago and during those times, I was a person behind closed doors and sometimes I wasn't [9:45] Why do some people not feel compelled to express who they are?  Well, it is the safety mechanism. It keeps us safe and secure, and sometimes we create this bubble of protection because we've been hurt and judged in the past. I am a mom, wife, and entrepreneur, and the more I can bring that into my personal brand, the more I will connect with my audience and the more I can show my vulnerability. It's our humanism, and it's not being on a pedestal and having perfect days; it's embracing the human aspect of us that comes with ups and downs. Sometimes we have great days and sometimes we do not, and if we can learn to show up on bad days, our audience will be able to relate to us because we are humans. [11:40] Why do we like to see people show their flaws?  Taking the lockdown into consideration, we were not around people, but now we have events, retreats, and conferences, and that's what we are craving for in a human connection. It's always a responsibility to be perfect all the time because you feel the need to dress well in a way that fits the host's brand. However, the truth is that it makes some people feel like they are not portraying who they really are. It should be about how you can lead in alignment with what feels good for you without trying to fit into somebody else's world. We are all energy and transmitting energy; our brand is transmitting energy, and our energy is boomeranging back to us with people's experiences and opportunities. The more we can be authentic, the purer our energy will become, and it will naturally magnetize everything that we desire.  [19:02] Can you compare what your brand was back then to what it is currently?  So as a natural, self-proclaimed hustler, I have never needed someone to tell me what to do or how to do it. I just figured everything out, but this is how the transition happened. About 6 years ago, when I dove into motherhood, I had both masculine energy and the ability to hold feminine conversations. I had to figure out how I could balance these two energies within me. I felt this calling as a mom to rebalance these energies. So I decided to infuse joy, pleasure, and freedom because we bring what we know into entrepreneurship.  [21:18] How did you find a solution and navigate the energetic flow?  When I became a mom, I had a little one who was 100% dependent on me, so I could no longer do things the way that I knew how to do them. I couldn't work for longer hours, I couldn't constantly show up, launch, or sell, and I became really uncomfortable. I had to sit back and ask myself what the next chapter of success looks and feels like. My capacity is much lower, and my girls are now five and seven. It's been a lot of work, but I feel like I have reached an alignment lead and opportunities are coming in all the time. So if something doesn't feel good or is not aligned, I no longer say yes. I don't even say yes because I want to please certain people or because it's going to move my business forward. I say yes when it is in alignment.  [25:02] How can someone find out what their thing should be, regardless of what the rest of the world thinks?  There are so many perspectives and opinions out there, and it's like we have this internal compass called intuition. My body speaks to me, so when I'm out of alignment or saying yes to things I shouldn't, I feel it. So right now, if you are feeling out of alignment, that is your first step to figuring out what you should do differently. We all have that choice, and that is why we become entrepreneurs to have more choices.  [40:34] What are the things you're trying to melt or emit?  Yeah, I want to bring this energy conversation to the forefront. Many women have been building and scaling businesses and showing in this evidence of success that society needs you to work like a man. So for me, I call it a calling home. It is how we can rebalance these incredible energies within us. It is how you can lean more into trust, rest more, and also bring that into marriage. For so long, I was in a masculine energy, and I had an authentic conversation with my husband. All he wanted was for me to surrender, to be in my feminine energy, and to be taken care of. Until that conversation happened, he didn't know what I wanted, and neither did I. I just knew that I wanted to have masculine energy in my business/work and feminine energy at home, which has been incredible with raising two daughters.  [44:50] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I will be a badass, a rebel, and an activator. We all have a sparkle within us, and we are only here for a short time, so it's time to bring this light to the forefront.    Key Quotes    [7:15-7:20] If you are trying to be who you are not in business, you might end up not getting the clients that you desire.  [13:10-13-12] The more we can be authentic, the purer our energy becomes  How to connect with Anna Lozano  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_annalozano/?hl=en  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/annalozano11/  Website:  https://annalozano.com/pages/about   

In today's episode, our guest is Tamar Samuels. She is a registered dietitian nutritionist and the co-founder of Culina Health. Her unique approach to nutrition care integrates functional medicine, positive psychology, and behavioral change techniques pulled from her training in clinical nutrition and coaching science. She's helped countless people transform their relationship with food and their health to overcome various health conditions. [2:35] Why should I listen to you?  I think we should listen to everyone. It's interesting because as I have become busier as a startup founder and a mum, I tend to want to listen to people less. But what I do for a living is to listen to people, so that is why you should listen to me.  [3:50] What compelled you to implement your big idea? Well, of course, it was not an intentional choice. The timing was just an opportunity that I couldn't pass up. I have been a registered dietician for about 10 years, and I met my co-founder early on in my career. Her name is Vanessa Roseto. She is also a black dietitian. We met each other at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City and we just kind of instantly connected but we then never really followed up with each other until 2020 to grab a coffee. She messaged me on Instagram and we both had shared passion and frustration about the same things in the nutrition space and we decided to create a group nutrition practice that took insurance. A couple of months later, the pandemic happened, I got pregnant and so it was really serendipitous in terms of how I got to this place where I have a startup and a toddler at the same time.  [5:40] What are the things that frustrated you?  The nutrition space is really fragmented and confusing and inaccessible to most people. Most people think that nutrition is an elitist service that is only reserved for people who can afford to pay, you know, 1000s of dollars for personal nutrition who gives them a customized meal plan and works with their private chef to execute that meal plan. A lot of people who are not clinically trained and who aren't healthcare professionals are giving nutrition advice and then nutrition advice is not found. So we created Kulina so we can solve those problems, the problem of misinformation, the problem of lack of access, and the problem of lack of culturally competent care. [8:30] How do you guys enter into the conversation knowing that sometimes people might already have skeptical views on things? Yeah, and they should be skeptical, skeptical because the information has changed over time we used to vilify fat, and that then sparked the food industry to create all of these low fat highly processed products that were very high in carbohydrates, which then sparked the conversation that actually like we need to do low carb and high fat that then cause people to completely eliminate carbohydrates and vilify carbs. right. so the information is confusing because of all of the stakeholders that are profiting from nutrition. right and ultimately, that's a big part of the problem. [9:58] How do you get people to understand nutrition?  Yeah, such a great question. Ultimately, it's through science and personalization. We have research, a large body of research on different topics in nutrition that changes all the time, and as Registered Dietitians, we're responsible for always being on top of the research and disseminating that information in a way that is no pun intended digestible for people. So we have science and we have research, but we also need to work with individuals on their particular goals and their lifestyle. There're so many things that are intertwined when it comes to nutrition as it relates to stress, physical activity, mental health, our gut microbiome, lifestyle in terms of demands, with caretaking social life. All of these components are really important when we're working with people to change their health outcomes because they're unique. What works for me probably isn't going to work for everyone and so we need to take all those factors into account. [14:00] How do you address the accessibility portion? I think the most important way that we address accessibility in multiple ways, but most importantly, is by taking insurance. We also provide access by doing telehealth, so working with people virtually allows us to meet them where they're at. The work that we do requires regular meetings you don't change and a lifetime of habits in a one-hour session with a dietitian. It takes consistency and support, so insurance allows us to see our patients pretty frequently.  [16:42] How do you navigate the aspect of people taking care of their health seriously?  I think a lot of that is about having support for self-advocacy. Self-advocacy for your health is one of the most difficult things that people can do. Whether it's self-advocacy to your loved ones or your healthcare professional, it can be really uncomfortable and difficult for people to advocate for their health. There are several reasons why some of them are related to systemic racism and sexism. I have patients who tell me they have a very high nutrition IQ but they are terrified to go to their doctor and get labs done because of previous experiences with medical racism. Empowering people to prioritize their health is so important and one of the mindset shifts that we really work with our patients is advocating on their behalf. We also empower them to advocate for themselves in these difficult situations by giving them tools to support.  [21:20] How do you approach the health and fitness aspect? We can definitively say that physical activity is important for disease prevention and overall longevity, stress management, and a number of different health outcomes.  So in the work that we do at Kulina health nutrition is obviously we're registered dietitians. Our expertise is in nutrition, but we really work with our people on establishing routines. around health overall, within our scope of practice, and so we do have some registered dieticians who are also certified fitness instructors. One of our RDS is a yoga instructor. Another one is a personal trainer. And so there are some dieticians on our team who do specialize in physical activity, but with all of the people that we work with, we are encouraging healthy, balanced movement that is sustainable for their lifestyle. And so we're really working with people on not just changing the way that they eat the way that they eat, but also changing the way that they move. [25:30] Do you recommend wearables?  There  is a small body of research that talks about wearables and whether or not they have meaningful impacts on people's health overall. I think that pedometers can be super helpful from a behavior modification perspective. Some people really lean into the data and appreciate having benchmarks that are measurable, albeit most of them are not accurate, but at least they convince themselves that they're accurate or even just having a benchmark can be motivating from a behavior modification perspective.  [32:45] What triggered you to step into this kind of world?  It's interesting because I actually always wanted to be a therapist. I always knew I wanted to help people if I shifted from mental health to physical health. When I had my own personal experience managing a GI condition that really impacted my quality of life, I did what I just told everybody not to do, which was to try to self manage.  I worked with well intentioned physicians who didn't know anything about nutrition, but also didn't refer me to a dietitian and  so I ended up in this place where I was just chronically unwell. [41:47] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I'm good at understanding people and I think that helps me to be more empathetic, and to use that power for good.  Key Quotes [9:24-9:28] Sometimes it's easier to fool someone than to convince them that they've been fooled.  How to connect with Tamar Samuels Instagram: https://instagram.com/tamarsamuels.rd?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tamarsamuels.rd?mibextid=LQQJ4d  LinkedIn: https://linkedIn.com/tamarsamuels   

In today's episode, our guest is Laura Gassner Otting. She is an author, catalyst, and Executive Coach. She inspires people to push past the doubt and indecision that keep great ideas in limbo by helping her audience think bigger and accept greater challenges that reach beyond their current, limited scope of belief. [2:48] Why should I listen to you? As an introverted person, I rarely initiate conversations with others. On a plane, for example, I would put my earphones in even if they're not turned on. It's ironic because I'm a professional speaker, and I'm comfortable speaking in front of large crowds. However, if I did feel compelled to talk to you, it would likely be because I care deeply like a Jewish mother. Perhaps you're having coffee with someone who is giving you terrible advice, and they've stepped away for a moment. I would turn to you and urge you to listen and avoid making a mistake. I would speak with such conviction and passion that you would either agree with me or think that I'm unhinged. In any case, you would feel hesitant to ignore my advice because you might upset me. I know this may sound crazy, but that's just how I am. [10:20] Can you unpack more about your journey?  Yes, the journey from being a reluctant speaker to becoming a successful one was definitely not an easy one. It required a lot of hard work, persistence, and courage to overcome the fear of public speaking and the uncertainty of pursuing a new career path. After my TEDx talk, I started getting invitations to speak at other events and conferences, and I realized that there was a demand for my message and my style of speaking. But I also realized that I had a lot to learn about the craft of speaking, such as how to structure a talk, how to engage the audience, how to use humor and storytelling effectively, and how to handle unexpected situations. So I invested a lot of time and effort into learning from other speakers, attending workshops and conferences, and practicing my talks. I also hired a speaking coach who helped me refine my message, my delivery, and my stage presence. But even with all the preparation, there were still moments of doubt and fear. There were times when I questioned whether I was good enough or whether I had anything new or valuable to say. There were times when I faced difficult audiences or technical glitches or travel delays that tested my patience and resilience. However, I also had moments of joy and fulfillment when I saw how my talks were inspiring and empowering people to make positive changes in their lives and their communities. I received feedback from people who told me that my talks had helped them overcome their own fears, discover their own purpose, and take action toward their own goals. And that's what kept me going, even when the road was bumpy and uncertain. I realized that speaking was not just a job, but a calling, a way for me to share my passion and my vision with the world, and to connect with others who shared that same vision.  [25:50] How does someone get to that point where they can turn off the monitor that says they need to be accepted by everybody? Upon the release of my most recent TEDx talk on the concept of wonder, it garnered nearly a million views with approximately 20,000 likes and 700 comments. While it is safe to say that it has been well-received, there have been criticisms, such as a comment from one individual who questioned why I speak in a certain manner. I responded to this criticism by sharing a screenshot of it on my Instagram account and stating that this is simply how I speak. However, even with this response, the negative comments still affect me deeply. Amy Cuddy, who was also a victim of online bullying due to her power posing, advised me to stop reading the comments altogether, recognizing that it is a cesspool of negativity. Nonetheless, I find it difficult to silence the voices of those who criticize me, and I often find myself reading the negative comments and doubting myself. I even remember the one-star reviews of my books verbatim, even though there are countless five-star reviews. To cope with this, I attempt to amplify the voices of those whose opinions I respect, even if they do not explicitly praise me. I recognize that these individuals show up for me, cheer me on, and discuss me with their friends, yet they are not always vocal about their support. Therefore, I seek out their honest feedback and sit down with them to ask if the criticisms hold any validity, hoping to gain some clarity amidst the noise. [31:25] Can you unpack the cool concept about Wonder Hell?  When "Limitless" was released and became a best-seller, I expected only a few people, like my mother, father, and sister, to purchase the book. I mainly wrote it to overcome feelings of fraudulence when speaking on stage and to have a tangible accomplishment. However, it was a huge success, and Amy Cuddy even provided a blurb for the book. We sent out press releases in January, and the day after, the Today Show contacted us, having been drawn by Amy's name on the book cover. The book came out in April, and I made appearances on the Today Show, Good Morning America, and other shows. During a red-eye flight home from speaking at an event where I shared the stage with Malala, I realized that the work I had done had opened doors I never thought possible. The potential I saw was both exciting and daunting, and I struggled with anxiety, imposter syndrome, and doubt. We all experience this burden of potential, where we realize the possibilities for our lives and wonder if we will live up to them.  While it may not be easy or smooth sailing, these moments are invitations rather than limitations. When I found myself feeling overwhelmed and stuck at home, I had the opportunity to talk to a variety of people, from Olympic medalists and startup unicorns to everyday people like myself, about how they overcame difficult moments. I was curious to know how they managed to get through these challenging times. What I discovered was that there is always another difficult moment waiting for us, even after we conquer one. Instead of just surviving these moments, we should learn to embrace them and thrive in them. This is what I talk about in my book, "Wonder Hell," which is divided into three sections: Imposter City, Downsville, and Burnout City. Each section has its own set of challenges, like rides in an amusement park. We often think that achieving success will make everything easier, but in reality, it only gets harder. Therefore, it's important to appreciate the challenges along the way and ask ourselves if this is what we truly want to be doing. My book is shaped around lessons learned from the people I talked to about how they got through tough times. [39:18] How does someone approach imposter syndrome to achieve success?  There are many different ways to approach achieving success. One piece of advice I often give is that the things that got you to where you are now may not be the same things you need to reach your next goal. However, these past accomplishments are what has given you the confidence to stand where you are today. For example, there is a woman I mention in my book named Dorie Clark, who has had success as an author, speaker, and business school professor. A few years ago, she decided to pursue a completely different career in scoring Broadway musicals. On the first day of her program, when everyone was introducing themselves, she was intimidated by the others' accomplishments. But instead of feeling unqualified, she recognized that she had been successful in other areas of her life and that with hard work and practice, she could become successful in this new field as well. Confidence is not something you are born with; it comes from competence. Competence is developed by consistently taking action, learning from failures, and getting back up again. You don't become a marathon runner overnight; you start with running a mile, then a 5K, and then a 10K. Similarly, the skills and experiences that have led to your past success can be translated or adapted to help you achieve your next goal. It's important to reflect on how you got to where you are now and identify the strategies and skills that you can use to continue growing and developing. By doing this, you can approach your next challenge with the knowledge that you may not be good at it yet, but with effort and practice, you can become good at it. [48:35] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I believe it's challenging to answer that question without sounding arrogant because I believe that the Creator intended for all of us to have a purpose and make a positive impact on others' lives. However, I also believe that humility is essential, and it's something that we learn from our elders. Ideally, I hope that the reason why the Creator put me on this earth is to make a difference in people's lives and contribute to their well-being, even if it's just a small part. For instance, I aspire to positively influence my children's lives and provide guidance to them whenever necessary. Key Quotes [22:50-22:54]  What is holding us back is not the fear of being loved by people, it is the assumption that people's opinion matters [23:05-23:10] I am not who I think I am, I am not who you think I am, I am who I think you think I am  How to connect with Laura Gassner Otting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heylgo/?hl=en  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heylgo/  LinkedIn: https://na.linkedin.com/wonderhell

In today's episode, our guest is Lisa Bilyeu. She is the co-founder and president of Impact Theory, a digital media production company focused on empowering content. In addition to co-founding Impact Theory, she also co-founded the billion-dollar brand, Quest Nutrition. Her career trajectory has been an arc from housewife to entrepreneur, transforming my business focus from nutrition to entertainment media, and now jumping in front of the camera to host the YouTube show, "Women of Impact," which centers on all things female empowerment! [3:25] Why should someone listen to you? I actually don't think people should listen to anyone first. The truth is that everyone will give you advice, but there's only one you. It's important to listen to your own voice and figure out what you need to hear. I have my own perspective, my way of living, and the things that I've learned from my own experiences. I can share my stance, opinion, and thoughts, but ultimately it's up to you to decide what will serve you best. I believe that sometimes the right message comes from the right person at the right time. It could even be a stranger or a barista who gives you better advice than I could at a particular moment. I know this may sound like a cop-out answer, but it's important to acknowledge that everyone has their own journey and path. So many people look to successful individuals and take their words as gospel, but when they fail, they make it about themselves. It's important to remember that people are only giving their opinions, and it's up to you to decide how to use them to grow and change. [6:55] How did you get to a point where you developed a little bit of trust? Oh, that's a great question. I think you have to just touch the hot stove. Even when people tell you it's hot. You have to get burned. Secondly, we talk about intuition. But what we don't talk about is that intuition is like a skill set. It's like a muscle you have to train. And so what we've done our entire lives is what we've trained our intuition, to the point that if someone walks in the room, and starts looking around frantically and moves slowly, your intuition says, maybe you should keep an eye on this person. They're acting quote-unquote. Now people just like to say, oh, no, that's intuition. No, it's not. It's 20 to 30 years of you identifying that when people walk into a room and look like that. So intuition, to me, is a skill set.  [18:08] Have you ever experienced difficulty in making different statement? Yes, absolutely. It's been a real challenge for me to articulate what I'm looking for, and Tom, my husband, has pointed out that I tend to repeat myself without getting to the point. I've come to realize that I need space to express myself and talk things out, as it helps me understand my own thoughts and emotions. However, I've also recognized that leading with emotion can cloud my clarity, and that makes it difficult for others to understand me. Tom and I have established an agreement on how we communicate when we're in a state of emotional distress. For the first 10 minutes, I just need space to talk and let out my emotions, without any interruptions or suggestions. After that, Tom checks in to see if I'm ready to move on to finding solutions. It's been helpful for us to have this open agreement, as it avoids the typical "men try to fix it, women just want to talk" scenario. If I still don't have clarity, Tom will help me identify that, and I'll take some time to reflect before coming back to him.  To give an example, I started to feel disconnected from Tom, even though we work together every day as business partners. We recognized that we communicate differently with each other depending on whether we're in husband-and-wife mode or business-partner mode. I tend to be more wordy and emotional, whereas he is more direct and to-the-point. We've learned to establish which mode we're in before starting a conversation, which helps us communicate more effectively. So when I brought up feeling disconnected, Tom asked me some questions to help me identify what was causing that feeling. Sometimes, I might just be saying a lot of words without really knowing what I'm feeling, and in those moments, Tom doesn't necessarily know what to do differently. But we've learned to recognize that it's okay to just let me talk things out and process my emotions, even if there isn't an immediate solution. [39:50] So what are you willing to do to get where you want to be? Let's face it, if you believe that just wanting something is enough, then we'd all have six-pack abs, be wealthy, stay young forever, and have long-lasting relationships. In reality, there is a massive gap between wanting something and executing it. Wanting may be the spark that ignites the flame, but to turn that spark into a roaring bonfire, you need to keep feeding it air. You can't simply stop feeding it, or the spark will fizzle out. Keeping the fire burning takes constant work. If you want to become wealthy, successful, or have a happy relationship, you need to come up with an action plan. Willing something to happen is not enough. Tom and I realized this when we were building our businesses at the same time. We learned that nothing happens by accident. You need to put time and effort into anything you want to succeed at, or it won't survive. Neglecting a relationship will cause it to wither away, just like a business. We understand that there is a massive gap between wanting something and having the knowledge to make it happen. Even listening to us talk about it won't make it happen for you. You need to take action. Once you have the knowledge, you need to put it into action and figure out what works and what doesn't. You need to continuously evaluate your progress and make improvements. Tom and I call this the physics of progress. Improving your relationship takes effort and planning, just like running a successful business. We have been together for 22 years, and we are more connected and in love than ever before. This is not by accident; it's because we're willing to work at it. Some people may find it funny or think we sound like we're talking about business, but this is all we know, and it works for us. [55:10] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  To make ordinary people get back up and achieve their dreams. Key Quotes  [28:50-28:55] There is a massive difference between need and want.  [41:50-41:55] If you want to improve on something, you have to come up with a plan and show up to execute it.  How to connect with Lisa Bilyeu  Instagram:https://instagram.com/lisabilyeu?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=  Facebook: Https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/lisabilyeu  

In today's episode, our guest is Kristiana Mand Lakhiani. She is the Co-founder of Mindvalley and has been in the personal transformation industry for over 18 years. She is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and everyday life philosopher. Kristina is also the author of transformational quests "7 Days To Happiness" and "Live By Your Own Rules". She also speaks about personal transformation, authenticity, understanding and accepting oneself, and a path to happiness. [5:00] Why should I listen to you?  I'm not afraid to express my opinions and I enjoy engaging in intellectually stimulating conversations, especially with someone as interesting and insightful as yourself. It's always enjoyable to converse with others, particularly when I'm in public and can ask them questions about their experiences and interests. I'm naturally curious and find it fulfilling to connect with people on a personal level. Talking to you has been an absolute pleasure. Additionally, I've discovered that the ability to discuss love and other complex ideas in a compelling manner can be entertaining and thought-provoking. It's not simply a matter of saying "I love you," but rather exploring the meaning and power behind that sentiment. [7:25] Would you mind elaborating on that conversation a bit more?  I'm glad you brought up that particular chapter because it's my favorite one, and Ashley's favorite as well, as I've been engaged in personal growth for over 20 years. The chapter addresses the concept of spiritual bypassing, which was coined by John Rawls. Essentially, we sometimes become so enamored with certain spiritual theories and concepts that we use them to avoid dealing with our own personal problems. In the conversation you mentioned, where I was being bombarded with expressions of love, many of us have experienced this situation before. Rather than facing conflict or disagreement head-on, the person in question tries to escape by simply professing their love for us. Although it's difficult to pinpoint a single term for this behavior, it often falls under the umbrella of passive-aggressive behavior. By avoiding conflict, we might seem pleasing on the surface, but deep down, the unpleasant feeling will eventually manifest itself. There are several risks associated with this type of behavior, with the most painful being the doubt that it can create within oneself. When we disagree with someone and they respond with "Why don't you calm down? It's you who's nervous," we might start questioning our own sanity. [16:58] Would you mind sharing some of the things that you found difficult at the beginning and had to overcome to gain strength?  If we are specifically talking about my child's diagnosis, it's not so much that he's a difficult child, in the sense that most people wouldn't know that his brain functions differently. So the learning point for me was that seeking professional help is necessary when facing challenges in life. We don't have to figure everything out on our own. It's interesting how we are not taught to deal with life's challenges using professional help. We are expected to figure everything out ourselves, which is especially true when schools only provide academic education that doesn't necessarily translate to real-life situations. In terms of my growth as a parent, the first lesson was about patience and understanding that love alone is not always enough in relationships or anything else. I also learned the meaning of unconditional love, which I believe we get closest to with our children. Later on, I realized that it's okay to prioritize my own happiness and that it's not selfish to do so. One of the biggest lessons I learned from my children is that everyone has the right to their own journey, including the right to make mistakes. This can be challenging for parents because we want to protect our children from pain and difficult experiences. There were times when I had to make a conscious choice to allow my child to face the consequences of life not always going their way, even though I could have intervened and saved the day. [19:45] Is there a dynamic way that the children are given lessons that they need to learn?  Parents often assume different roles when it comes to their children, with mothers typically taking on the role of the caretaker and problem-solver, while fathers may be more inclined to encourage their children to figure things out on their own, particularly when it comes to boys. However, I hesitate to make judgments about Vicious Journey's parenting style, as I am not privy to his personal journey and transformation with his children. For me, the experience of raising my own children has taught me important lessons about love, including the willingness to accept and support my children even when I disagree with their choices. This means recognizing that challenges, difficulties, and hardships are an inevitable part of life, and teaching my children the skills they need to navigate them, such as problem-solving and executive functioning. When I first began teaching about happiness, I often emphasized the importance of acknowledging and accepting the inevitability of pain and struggle in life. Many people misunderstand happiness, believing that it is possible to live in a world without discomfort or adversity. However, this is simply not realistic. By embracing the challenges of life and teaching our children to do the same, we can help them develop resilience and prepare them for the ups and downs that are an inevitable part of the human experience. [30:05] Do you mind unpacking the aspect of putting oneself first?  As previously mentioned, I was born and raised in the Soviet Union, a society known for its idealism and emphasis on community building. In this societal framework, individuals were deemed less necessary and this was deeply ingrained in my worldview until my teenage years. Moreover, my favorite literary period was the end of the 19th century which further reinforced my belief that a person's most important goal in life was to be of use to the rest of the world. However, in my late 20s to early 30s, I experienced some trauma from constantly prioritizing others over myself. It was during this time that I stumbled upon a poster with an unusual message. The poster encouraged individuals to prioritize their happiness, a foreign concept that left me puzzled and questioning its validity. Years later, I found myself working with refugees in Malaysia, mainly from Myanmar, while simultaneously building Mindvalley, a company focused on teaching individuals to live happy, fulfilled, and extraordinary lives. This contradiction between the human tragedy I witnessed and the message of happiness we were promoting at Mindvalley created cognitive dissonance within me. At an event where the Dalai Lama was speaking, I finally posed my question to him, struggling to reconcile the two seemingly opposite worlds I was experiencing. His response, "You can't help anyone if you're not happy," hit me like a sledgehammer. Here was a person who had dedicated his life to making the world a better place, yet he understood the importance of personal happiness and well-being. I realized that personal well-being and happiness are incompatible with the desire to be useful to the world or be a good parent, entrepreneur, or athlete is a fallacy. In fact, prioritizing one's own well-being and happiness is a necessary step toward being able to help others and solve problems more effectively. Although the topics of happiness and self-love may not be seen as sexy or pragmatic in some circles, I have found that discussing these topics with pragmatic individuals, including entrepreneurs, can be enlightening. It is often assumed that personal well-being and happiness must be sacrificed for more "serious" problems, such as economic crises or raising children. However, this assumption is misguided, as prioritizing personal well-being and happiness can actually make it easier to tackle these so-called serious problems. [39:45] Can you tell us what your book is about?  After my previous rant about the importance of taking care of oneself, I noticed that the book in question is about self-love and is called Becoming Foursome. The book focuses on finding one's way back to oneself, which can often be a challenge for individuals who have been busy pursuing success and following societal ideals. Personally, I found myself in this situation around the age of 30–40, where I felt like my body was going through the motions but I wasn't truly present in my own life. It was a strange feeling, but it prompted me to start asking questions and seeking ways to improve my well-being. Eventually, I realized that I needed to reconnect with myself, and the journey back to myself began. The book is quite research-heavy and a nerdy/geeky read, which I personally appreciate. I like to have facts and scientific support before making statements or claims. The Journey Back to You is a transformative journey, and I don't want to spoil it for anyone by giving away too many details. It's like picking up Lord of the Rings and knowing how it ends—it takes away from experience.  [43:40]  Do you know that 85% of adults have self-esteem?  Self-esteem is not synonymous with self-love, although it is often a byproduct of it or the lack of it. This is a common issue, as there are many misunderstandings and distortions around what healthy self-love actually entails. For example, some people think that egocentrism or self-love is excessive, but that is not the case. Similarly, complacency is often seen as a sign of too much self-love, but it is actually a distortion. We may also mistakenly believe that our idealized self-image is an indicator of self-love, when in fact these misconceptions are markers of its absence or lack. It's challenging to talk about self-love when we don't fully comprehend it. Therefore, it's crucial to understand that self-love matters, especially during times when we're not at our best. It's comparable to the love we have for children. It's easy to love them when they behave well, but it's much more challenging when they make mistakes or don't follow our advice. In those situations, it's necessary to accept that they have their own journey and to continue loving them unconditionally. Similarly, it's crucial to learn how to love ourselves even when we make mistakes or don't meet our own expectations. This may be difficult, but it's a crucial aspect of cultivating a healthy sense of self-love. [49:34] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  That it's going to be cool, and you should have fun.  Key Quotes  [11:15-11:20] The words don't convey the actual meaning of your feelings; it's everything about you that does.  [25:20-25:25] We often profess the truth without knowing that what is true to us might not be true to someone else.  How to connect with Kristina Mand Lakhiani  Instagram: https://instagram.com/kristinamand?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand?mibextid=LQQJ4d  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414   

In today's episode, our guest is Tessa White. She is an expert on career and company transformation with more than 20 years of experience in human capital strategy. She helps individuals successfully navigate careers and companies reimagine their workforce potential. [2:27] Why should I listen to you? You should listen to me because I believe I can help you avoid decades of struggling to navigate the difficult corporate workplace. I can provide shortcuts to some of the problems I've encountered on my own journey, drawing from my unique perspective as a former head of HR who has overseen the careers of tens of thousands of people. I have had numerous backroom conversations and learned valuable lessons about how to promote smoother career growth, which can be highly beneficial and even life-changing. Overall, I'm confident that my insights can make a real difference in your life. I hope you find them as useful as I do. [3:42] Do you mind taking us back and walking us through that? Sure. Well, if I go back far enough, I ended up as a single mother with three children, no college degree, and the daunting task of figuring out how to provide for my family. I had no real career to speak of, so I decided to pursue a job in HR because I believed that I had good communication skills and typing ability. It just so happened that I landed a job working for Stephen R Covey, the well-known author, and speaker who was a pioneer in the field of personal development. I learned a tremendous amount from him, which set me on the path to success. Fast forward 25 years, and you would find me as the head of HR at a Fortune 50 company, working with Blackstone in New York, and driving board meetings. However, the journey from nothing to something was far from easy. When the pandemic hit, I decided that I wanted to focus on helping people navigate their careers, rather than just protecting companies. This led me to start a business called 'The Job Doctor,' which I launched from my own home. On day three, my daughter shared some of my advice on TikTok and it quickly gained popularity, with 10,000 people following me in just three days. Since then, I have been able to help thousands of people navigate their own career journeys, which has been a truly rewarding experience. [6:16] Prior to that, what was your plan to get out into the world?  When I worked at Vivint Solar, I had the opportunity to work with young millennials and Gen Z salespeople who were doing door-to-door sales with 4000 rows and flat build caps. I noticed that they were learning and thinking differently, and I had to quickly adapt to their unique styles. After leaving Vivint Solar, I realized there was a need for short-form learning that could be easily accessible through social media. Traditional long training sessions wouldn't work for these young people. So, I decided to meet them where they were by utilizing social media to provide quick, bite-sized learning opportunities. It wasn't a matter of being smart, it was just being wise. [10:00] Where did you start?  I believe that people often underestimate themselves, especially women. They sell themselves short and think they're not capable of achieving their dreams. As part of my coaching sessions, which I call "read my brain," I help people take the first step and guide them with my knowledge about different career paths to help them pick the right one. I act as a cheerleader in the background, encouraging them and telling them they can do it. It's amazing to see how capable people are when they believe in themselves. I had a client who was a single parent cleaning hotels for a living, and now she's making over $100,000 a year as a software engineer. The name "the job doctor" comes from my role as a doctor who comes in to help people with their careers. [11:25] How would you explain your job?  I assist individuals in various aspects of their careers, such as interview preparation and resume building to increase their chances of getting hired. I also provide support to those who are experiencing difficulties at work and help them develop a career strategy for future growth. My approach is practical and focused on actionable steps rather than theoretical concepts, and I offer specific scripts and advice on how to navigate tough conversations and situations at work. Overall, I aim to help people have smoother and more successful careers. [12:13] Where do you think the wealth of that knowledge came from to be able to teach it? Having worked in the HR field for many years, I have seen a wide range of situations and challenges that companies face when it comes to managing their employees. I have had to deal with everything from minor performance issues to serious ethical violations, and I have seen firsthand how these situations can impact the company as a whole. One of the things that set me apart as a consultant is my ability to draw on this vast experience and use it to help my clients navigate these issues. I can provide them with insights into how companies typically handle various situations, and I can help them develop strategies for dealing with these situations in a way that minimizes risk and protects their interests. Overall, I believe that my wealth of knowledge and experience allows me to provide valuable guidance to my clients as they seek to navigate the complex world of HR and employment law. Whether they are facing a difficult employee situation or simply looking to improve their overall HR strategy, I am confident that I can help them achieve their goals and succeed in today's competitive business environment. [16:10] What are some key attributes that contribute to success in a career? As someone who has observed and been frustrated by the pattern of hiring employees who seemed promising but were let go shortly thereafter, I have developed a system to help individuals progress through the five stages of career growth. By identifying essential skill sets for each stage, individuals can anticipate what is required to succeed in their current role and prepare for the next level. For example, in mid-management, conflict resolution and the ability to have difficult conversations that foster safety are crucial. Unfortunately, some individuals may not develop these traits and their career progress may be hindered. Through my system, individuals can learn how to develop these necessary attributes and enhance their overall career trajectory. [18:10] What are these five skills?  The first stage is all about following instructions and being a doer. You need to be able to take direction and complete tasks efficiently. In the second stage, you need to learn how to work independently. You'll be given broad guidelines, but it's up to you to figure out how to get things done. This stage is all about developing independence. Once you get to middle management, you need to learn how to work with others. Collaboration is key, and you'll need to be able to build relationships with other departments to achieve your goals. The next stage is all about being a builder. You can't just focus on completing tasks anymore; you need to be able to define strategy and get buy-in from others. This stage is all about developing your sales and communication skills. Finally, in the most senior role, you need to be able to focus on the big picture. You can't just focus on your own department; you need to spend time working with outside boards of directors and exploring new business opportunities.  [20:58] What are some of the things that stand out to you?  Some of the things that stand out to me from the conversation are the importance of understanding the different stages of a career and the necessary skills needed for each stage. It's also crucial to be aware of the environment you're operating in and to have a clear understanding of your own strengths and weaknesses, as well as seek feedback regularly to improve and grow. Additionally, building good partnerships and collaborating with other departments is essential for success in middle management, and having a clear strategy and the ability to pitch and gain buy-in is vital for those in a builder role. Finally, senior leaders must focus on not just their own department but also spend time with outside boards of directors and seek new business opportunities to ensure the success of the company. [43:17] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  I guess the promise was that you'll meet somebody who you'll never have a dull moment around her and she's going to dream big. Key Quotes  [9:20-9:25] Stop waiting for things to be perfect and do it.  [9:40-9:44] People care less than we think they do.  How to connect with Tessa White Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JobDoctorTessa  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheJobDoctor  Twitter: https://twitter.com/JobDoctorTessa   

In today's episode, our guest is Zee Clarke. She is a Harvard MBA who went from leading teams at Fortune 500 companies and startups in Silicon Valley to teaching mindfulness and breathwork to people of color. Trained in India, Zee leverages her toolkit of yoga, meditation, breathwork, sound healing, and Reiki to ensure that all people of color have the tools to thrive despite any challenges that race, gender, or sexuality might present. [2:55] Why should I listen to you?  If you're a black person, you should listen to me because I can share with you tools that can help you deal with racism and racial profiling and also help your mental health. But if you're an ally or aspiring ally, you should listen to me for education about the reality of the experiences of people who look like me in this country.  [4:56] When did this torch become something you wanted to carry?  So I grew up in Washington, DC, also known as the "murder capital" of America. I grew up in a low-income, predominantly black neighborhood, and I went to a fancy private school in the suburbs of Washington, DC, where I was the only black person in a school filled with rich white people. So the first time that I experienced this feeling of, "Do I belong here?" I'm not good enough. What is happening, why is nobody speaking to me, and why are people treating me differently? That was the first day of school when I was eight years old. I share this with you to say that this feeling continued throughout my education. I went to Harvard Business School. I worked in financial services early in my career, and then after business school, I went to the Bay Area, where I worked in Silicon Valley in tech. And so during that entire time of my corporate career, I would be the only woman in the room, sometimes in tech. My mental health was in the gutter. I wasn't eating, and my doctors were like, "Something's got to change your stress levels; they're causing your current state of being," so I quit and I went to India. I joke that I did the black girl version of Eat, Pray, Love because I was meditating. I'm doing yoga, and I've never felt so good in my entire life. I did not know that this was possible. And so I felt very passionately that I needed to share these tools with others, particularly black people and people of color because we have higher rates of high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, and all sorts of other things that now medical research is showing are a direct result of racism and microaggressions. [8:00] How would you define microaggression?  A microaggression is a comment or action that unconsciously or unintentionally expresses a prejudiced attitude towards a member of a marginalized group. It can also be when people question your competence, when you don't feel seen or heard, or when they mistake you for somebody that looks nothing like you. There is a long list, but in short, we are being treated differently because of what we look like.  [9:45] Where do you think this came from?  I think it's a lack of empathy. A lot of people who commit microaggressions might have good intentions, and that is why the definition means "unconsciously" or "unintentionally." They might have good intentions, but the impact is usually negative. Some of these things come from parents, too. When you hear your parents speak negatively about a certain group of people, you think they are right, but the truth is they also learned it from their parents.  [11:56] What do you think should be the first thing we think about when these things happen to us and when we choose to respond to them?  Well, my book is called Black People Breathe because breathing is very critical to regulating our nervous system. When these things happen, we get triggered, and that is when our systematic nervous system kicks in, and when that happens, your heart rate tends to go up. You might start sweating, you might clench up, your shoulders might come up, and all of that kind of just depends on how your body reacts to that. But that is the sympathetic nervous system kicking in, and when that happens, we aren't rational people, and we might say or do things that come from an emotionally charged place, which could hurt your job. So my recommendation is that when you are triggered, be intentional about breathing so that you can regulate your nervous system.  [16:35] What are the things someone can do when stuff like this happens?  I think what happens is that when you breathe, you can speak from a more calm and rational place. Nelson Mandela has a quote that states that “resentment is like drinking poison and hoping for your enemy to die." When somebody says something offensive, take a breath and ask yourself if it's good for your mental health. Sometimes I'm not okay, but for my mental health, I choose not to engage. I get that sometimes you might want to educate others, but it will be preferable if you don't. You get to sleep better because you didn't get to fight someone at work.  [22:00] Can you dive deeper into your book?  Every chapter of the book is focused on a particular issue that black people face in America, and I shared this in the context of personal stories that have happened to me. At the end of every chapter, there are specific mindfulness and breathwork tools that you can use when it happens to you. So for allies, it's going to be very educational because you will get a live glimpse of what it is like to be black in America. In the end, there are also practices that you can use when you experience anxiety.  [27:20] When one acquires skills like this, do they have to wait until these moments before utilizing them? I know that people are just busy. I have so many friends who are like me and can't meditate and so what I'll say is, yes, even just five minutes every morning of doing some deep breathing is beneficial. One of the practices that I love is called "box breathing," which is when you inhale for a count of four, hold for a count of four, and then exhale. As I explain, many people are familiar with it. But just doing a couple of minutes of box breathing every morning can make you sick and can set a solid foundation for your nervous system so that when things happen, you might not be as triggered. However, you know, what I tend to recommend for folks is that they do it when bad things happen. You've got to remember these breathing techniques so that you can figure them out.  [29:38] What was the journey like for you to get into organizations and express the need for this?  In my experience; diversity, equity, and inclusion initiatives never felt like they were for me. They prioritize talent acquisition, so external candidate pools are usually larger, so I partner with employee resource groups, which are usually funded by DEI. Our stress levels are off the charts. Some of us want to quit. It's a toxic environment. And so I teach workshops to empower black and brown folks in the workplace to know how to navigate microaggressions. I teach a workshop called mindfulness to heal from microaggressions at work. I teach one on countering impostor syndrome because sometimes we need an extra competence boost, but there are also so many other issues when it comes to being black in the workplace. For example, when managing people as a black manager, you have white people report to you. They may not respond to your leadership and direction in the same way that a white man would, depending on their upbringing. As a result, even if they do not respond to your feedback, for example, in a performance review, the dynamics are different, just like when you have the courage to ask for a promotion. As we already know, there aren't that many of us in leadership positions, and so having the courage to ask for a promotion, a raise, or extra responsibilities can be a lot for a black person in the workplace. So I teach several workshops around self-doubt, performance microaggressions, and dealing with stereotypes. [44:00] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?  To help all black people and all people of color feel good so that we can be our best selves in this world. Key Quotes  [34:38-34:40] Do not work harder, but smarter.  [35:50-35:53] Do what matters to the people that matter. [41:42-41:46] Mindfulness is paying attention in the present moment without judgment.  How to connect with Zee Clarke  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zeeclarkebreathes/?hl=en  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zhalisa-zee-clarke Website: http://www.zeeclarke.com/