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We all have to make certain choices in life, such as where to live and how to earn a living. Parents and peers influence our major life choices, but they can also steer us in directions that leave us deeply unsatisfied. This week: a favorite conversation with psychologist Ken Sheldon about the science of figuring out what you want. He says there are things we can do to make sure our choices align with our deepest values.If you're not yet a member of Hidden Brain+, this is a particularly good time to give our podcast subscription a try. We're extending our standard seven-day trial period for listeners on Apple Podcasts. Sign up in January and you'll get 30 free days to try it out. If you're listening in Apple Podcasts, just go to the Hidden Brain show page and click "try free." Or you can go to apple.co/hiddenbrain and click "try free.” Thanks for listening and supporting the show — we really appreciate it. 

[ Part 2 ]We sit down for a fantastic chat with 90's St Kilda cult hero, Craig Devonport, to talk about his career, brilliant record in big games, Trevor Barker, and of course, THAT MOMENT with Ken Sheldon against Collingwood in 1992.

Today we welcome back Ken Sheldon to the podcast. Ken is a Curator's Distinguished Professor of Psychological Science at the University of Columbia, Missouri. He has written and edited over 200 academic books, scholarly articles, and book chapters. Among these, some of his most notable work include Optimal Human Being and Self-determination Theory in the Clinic. His latest book is called Freely Determined: What the New Psychology of the Self Teaches Us About How to Live.In this episode, I talk to Ken Sheldon about free will. Instead of questioning its existence, Ken is concerned with how we might use free will to help us reach our goals. Each person has the capacity to make good and bad choices, and to learn from the past. Although we are unable to know everything about ourselves, we can still make informed decisions. Believing that we have the ability to choose directly affects our well-being and values. We also touch on the topics of neuroscience, self-determination, and responsibility.  Website: sheldonk.mufaculty.umsystem.edu/home Topics03:09 Freely Determined07:23 System 1 and System 2 09:02 Cybernetic freewill12:12 Choices are not predetermined17:36 Self-determination theory20:20 The feeling of freedom 24:57 The evolution of the symbolic self32:47 The default mode network in goal setting40:57 The “Rewind the tape” argument45:05 The problem of too much freedom46:51 Determinism is detrimental50:45 Living well together 53:28 Free will is an adaptation

Sports Performance - Train Your Mind to Be Your Best in the Present w/ Alex Auerbach - BRT S04 EP11 (173) 3-12-2023   Things We Learned This Week Mindfullness - Be in the Present, use breathing techniques to anchor in Imposter Syndrome - Q of confidence Client Psychology (30%) vs Environment (70%) - take care of your health, get sleep Sunk Cost Fallacy - resources are gone, move on     Guest: Alex Auerbach, Sports Psychologist for the Toronto Rapters (NBA) https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexauerbachphd/ https://alexauerbach.info/ Performance psychologist working with the world's best performers | Building science-backed systems for health and high performance for elite athletes, executives, and organizations Area of Expertise Include: ·         Wellness & Performing Under Pressure ·         Leadership & High Performance ·         Mindset Training & Systems optimization   Alex is a counseling and performance psychologist currently working as an executive in professional sports. He's been fortunate to work with the best athletes in the world in the NBA, NFL, MLB, and the Olympics. Also with high performers in other domains – including elite military units, Fortune 500 Companies, and venture backed start-ups. In addition to his training as a psychologist, he also worked as a college football coach with 2 different NFL Teams. Alex collaborated as part of several venture-backed start-ups, working in a range of roles from consultant to C-Suite. Outside of work, Alex is the father of an incredible daughter, a dog, & a husband.   3 Mindsets that separate the best from the Rest:  Post - HERE      Notes: Seg 1 Alex works in sports performance. He is a trained psychologist working for the Toronto Raptors. Works with elite athletes, teaching them how to perform under pressure. Star athletes could be pitchers, basketball players or any other major sport. He has also worked as a consultant with executives, start-up founders, and military types.   He helps them through any psychological stops, like self-doubt, or poor habits. Common things are confidence and imposter syndrome. Alex works with athletes to create behavior changes and build high performance habits.   Alex must ask Qs to determine how he can help. What story are you telling yourself?   Everyone needs a coach, and training to develop skills for their unique situations.   Diagnosis - What's the problem, what's the most pressing issue?   Change the thinking, working with risks and discomfort. One must understand how their mindset affects their behavior. We all want to be doing meaningful work.   Everyone is human, so they have to learn to be grounded. Star athletes unfortunately are significant people with lots of fame and talent, and it can be lonely at the top. It can be difficult to connect with others.   Alex works to bring them back to their values. Blend the ‘who you are', with ‘what you do'. How you achieved that success and who helped.   Alex councils individuals and groups. The group dynamic is different as a multiple people must align on core values to help the group achieve a goal.   Seg 2 Alex is originally from Arizona, currently lives in Toronto. He studied at the University of Arizona in the athletic department as an undergrad. He took a job after in New England as an assistant football coach. Then decided football coach was not the career calling, and went back to school. He has worked around the country in universities in North Texas (got his PhD), and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill (his residency), and back to U of A in Tucson.   Since 2020 has worked for the Toronto Raptors NBA basketball team. He had to get a work visa like any other employee. Sports psychologists are very common now in all pro sports like the NFL NBA NHL, and also at the big university schools. Long term, Alex may want to work in climate tech.   One of the most famous is Dr. Brett McKay at University of Alabama. They institute Coach Nick Saban's – Process: Practitioners of process thinking focus on the present instead of past events or future outcomes, and believe that all actions one takes in life, regardless of how trivial they may seem, affect the desired outcome.   Example of Dr. McCabe's work: 4 Ways to Endure the Chaos and Emerge a Warrior - Click HERE   Alex also works with people in business fields, like CEOs of Fortune 500 Companies. There is lots of pressure to perform and always raise profitability of a business. He also has worked with startups who need to do a big fundraise.   Alex works on the mental process, focus on the task at hand. Determine what is tangible like action steps to get it done. It is easy to be paralyzed by all of the possibilities when you focus on the goal. Control your actions day to day.   Better to focus on the process and what you control - then to focus on an outcome which can have lots of factors that are out of your control. One can be overwhelmed by all the factors that go into an outcome. You may not achieve the goal.     Seg 3 Imposter Syndrome is a very common confidence issue with lots of people who have success. Question one asks is do I belong? Do you want to manage the ambiguity? You made is somewhere, but unsure if you deserve to be there.   You may have gotten away from your core skills, and have been coasting. You were getting by, but now it is not working.   Ways to work on this are – 1. focus on past success with wins past experience and be proud of the win leverage the strengths. 2. best to be intentional, what you do to accomplish the task. 3. Your values what do you want to be known for.   Pull from your evergreen well of accomplishments. Non-conscious processes in the brain to work for you, what is your default network. This network monitors how aligned you are with your goals.   Freely Determined by Dr. Ken Sheldon is a book that discusses this. Tilt the brain towards what you're after on a conscious and unconscious way.   Player works towards goals, you always have an internal compass to know what your true north is. Discover your true north. There's a great 30 for 30 about what would it be about.   Client Psychology vs Client Environment: 70% of your behavior is influenced by your environment. Understand that external factors (coach, Mgr, equipment, etc) affect success. High performers have to control not only their mind, but their environment.   Olympians complain most about conditions stopping them from achieving their goals. They need a coach that encourages them and brings out the best. Good coach also removes any external factors blocking top performers. Understands how to challenge and create the right environment for success.   Phil Jackson (great NBA Coach) is known as the Zen Master for bringing out the full potential of top athletes to win 11 championships.     Seg 4 How do you measure performance? Does the athlete feel better when learning psychological angles?   An athlete cannot control playing time, so Alex will check to see how they feel, get feedback. Do they feel more confident? Have a better mindset?   Mindfulness Meditation - the mind wanders to Past or Future events, so you want to bring the mind back to the Present. Redirect the mind. To do this, through focus training and breathing work. Mental reps to redirect the mid and strengthen the connection to the present.   Focus Training Routine: 5 to 10 minutes, 3 to 5x / week for 6 weeks - change the wiring in the brain   Performance is based on being in the here and now, being present. Practice being in the present. Use an anchor to the present, by using a mantra or transcendental meditation.   Breath work, regulate autonomic nervous system, a.k.a. mindfulness. Techniques are the Box or Birthday Candle. Breath can be an anchor to stay in the present.   You always want to pay attention to your health, sleep 7 to 8 hours a night. Sleep cleans the brain during REM sleep. Hydration – drink lots of water. Also exercise, which cleans the nervous system. Spend time with loved ones.   Spend time in nature, 20 minutes 3x / week. Reset your stress levels.   Other ways to reset, write in a journal daily. Write down 3 – 5 things you are grateful for. You want to do a balanced critique of yourself. Ask 3 Qs – what did I do today that I want to: keep doing / do differently / learn from.   Work on your decision making process. Self regulated learning to spot bias or ‘thinking traps'. Careful not to get caught up in black and white thinking, and work to detach from this.   Sunk Cost Fallacy is also very common. It's hard to believe that the resources are gone, so it's fruitless to try and get it back. Do not double down on a bad decision, let it go.     Bonus Loss Aversion – mentally ‘spend more time in the past leads to more problems'   Do you want to have baselines for defaults in your Decision process? Work to review decisions and assess quickly with no judgment good & bad.   Let it go. To be great, must be able to quickly forget what went wrong, and refocus on the situation at hand. Have baseline default actions of pas successes to recover.   Most sports performances are odds based, so top athletes need to understand how to recover from mistakes, and move past it. Dwelling on mistakes does not help.   If you mentally ‘spend more time in the past, it leads to more problems'.     Related Show: Management Accelerator w/ Dave Kline - BRT S03 EP44 (143) 9-11-2022   Guest: Dave Kline https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidkline/ https://maven.com/dave-kline/new-manager-accelerator Bio: (x-Bridgewater Associates, x-Moody's Analytics, x-PwC Consulting) has run large, global strategic and operational teams for the last 2 decades. He has a BSEE from Bucknell University and an MBA from NYU's Stern School. Find him on Twitter @dklineii or LinkedIn, writing about management tactics, leadership lessons, and the evolution of online learning.   Clip – Determine the vision of the company, what's your mission? Design the company and recruit the types of people you want to work there. Remove fiction to get to the result faster. Good analogy is studying next say then, head coach of Alabama. Always talks about the process and having systems for everything you do. 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In this episode, Xavier Bonilla has a dialogue with Ken Sheldon about free will, determinism, the self, and positive psychology. They talk about why studying free will is important, the three horsemen of determinism, grand hierarchy of human interaction, and the illusion of free will. They also talk about the self, self-determination theory, the symbolic self, and many more topics. Ken Sheldon is the Curator's Distinguished Professor at the University of Missouri. He is well-established in the Positive Psychology field and is well-published in the scientific literature. His main interests are in motivation, well-being, personality, and values. He is the author or editor of numerous books, including the most recent book, Freely Determined. You can find his work here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit convergingdialogues.substack.com

Check out our Crawlspace subscription service where we have a bonus show and ad-free episodes! https://crawlspace.supportingcast.fm/ Use promo code, "Crawlspace" for your first month FREE! Check out our Missing subscription service where we have a bonus show and ad-free episodes! https://missing.supportingcast.fm/ Use promo code, "Missing" for your first month FREE! In this episode, Tim Pilleri & Lance Reenstierna revisit the Dean Murder from 1918 in the small town of Jaffrey NH. A new book on the murder of William Dean is out now and author Kenneth Sheldon joins the discussion. They speak about the book, the murder and all the riveting details that come together to build this Agatha Christie style true crime story. Ken Sheldon is a novelist, composer, playwright and performer. Formerly the West Coast bureau chief for Byte Magazine, his writing has appeared in publications ranging from Acoustic Guitar to Yankee Magazine. He writes music for children and adults and created the bestselling Sing Along and Learn series published by Scholastic. His writings appear under his own name, and also as suspense novelist Michael Manley. Visit Ken's website: https://www.kensheldon.com/. You can pick up Ken's book Deep Water at your local bookstore in person or you can have them order a copy. For all online purchase options of Deep Water, go to https://www.kensheldon.com/books.html. This episode is brought to you in part by our wonderful sponsors, ButcherBox & Best Fiends. Sign up today at butcherbox.com/CRAWLSPACE and use code CRAWLSPACE to get one 10-14 lb Turkey FREE in your first box! Download your new favorite getaway, BEST FIENDS, for FREE today on the App Store or Google Play. Another true crime show we are sure you'll enjoy is our friends Justin & Aaron from The Generation Why Podcast! Follow them on Amazon Music or listen early and ad free on Apple Podcasts or the Wondery App. Get $30 off your fertility test when you go to ModernFertility.com/crawlspace30. Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/crawlspacepod  Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Crawlspacepodcast  Follow us on Instagram: https://www.Instagram.com/Crawlspacepodcast Follow us on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@crawlspacepodcast The music for Crawlspace was produced by David Flajnik. Listen to his music here: https://www.pond5.com/artist/bigdsound  Dean Murder music produced by David Williams. Check out our entire network at http://crawlspace-media.com/ Join the Crawlspace Discussion Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/talkcrawlspace/ Crawlspace Media is part of the Glassbox Media Network. Check them out here: https://glassboxmedia.com/ Go to https://smile.amazon.com/ to connect your existing Amazon account to donate to PI's For the Missing. Follow Private Investigations For the Missing https://investigationsforthemissing.org/ http://piftm.org/donate https://twitter.com/PIFortheMissing https://www.facebook.com/PIFortheMissing/ https://www.instagram.com/investigationsforthemissing/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Writer Ken Sheldon presents one of the most fascinating true crime stories you'll read about, a murder that happened over a hundred years ago in a sleepy northern New England hamlet. You're sure to be swept away  by the  gripping story in Deep Water -Murder, Scandal and Intrigue in a New England Town. The author does an incredible job researching the case and surmising a solution to a century old mystery!

Ken Sheldon, Ken is a novelist, composer, playwright, and performer. His writings appear under his own name and also as suspense novelist Michael Manley and Yankee humorist Fred Marple. His latest book is “Deep Water; Murder, Scandal, and Intrigue in a New England Town”. Visit his website, www.kensheldon.com

After 'Conversation Starters', Garry and Tim looked at the Richmond/Carlton rivalry with Carlton legend Ken Sheldon and Richmond legend Dale Weightman.

Ahead of Carlton's massive game against Richmond tonight, Blues legend Ken Sheldon joined Garry and Tim to talk about the rivalry between them and the Tigers, the best players in Yellow and Black he came up against, and to re-live the 1982 Grand Final between the two sides.

On Thursday morning, Garry and Tim's 'Ramble' was dominated by the topic of hair and haircuts and then they were joined by John from Epping who was as fired up as ever. Who's the next back up ruckman at Melbourne, how should North Melbourne be dealing with the Jason Horne-Francis situation, Eddie McGuire's idea for a Tasmanian team, and more were discussed in 'Conversation Starters'. With Richmond and Carlton set to do battle at the MCG tonight, they caught up with Carlton legend Ken Sheldon and Richmond legend Dale Weightman before moving on to 'Questions Without Notice'. They also gave their takes on the LIV golf tour before Tim delivered his Trainer's Report.

Me revoici avec la 2e partie de ce thème de la joie afin de vous partager la façon dont je la cultive de plus en plus tous les jours.Dans ce court épisode, j'aborde:La qualité des relations qui nous entourentApprendre à se connaître et être de plus en plus soi-mêmeL'importance de l'introspectionComment faire un bilan efficace de notre état actuelUne proposition d'un nouvel outil: je suis à la recherche de 3 personnes pour une belle expérimentation !! Recherches discutées dans l'épisode Sonja Lubomirsky, Ken Sheldon et David Schkade sur les déterminants du bonheur chez l'être humainRobert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | TEDSi vous désirez avoir la chance de vivre l'expérience d'évaluer votre échelle de vos valeurs, vous n'avez simplement qu'à communiquer avec moi:Courriel: info@pommeetsucre.comFacebook  https://www.facebook.com/pommeetsucreInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessalabelle_/?hl=fr

With more than 35 years in the financial services industry, Ken Sheldon, President of Bank of America NH has been guiding BOAs growth in the region while assisting small businesses, families and individuals to reach their financial goals. Listen in to our conversation to learn more about Ken, Bank of America NH and his advice and insight in the current economic climate.  Then stay tuned for The Buzz and the Cardinal Corner. Learn more at bankofamerica.com This episode of BizCast NH is sponsored by McLane Middleton Law Firm. Visit mclane.com for more information.

CHRIS NEWBOLD: Hello, Well-Being friends, welcome to The Path to Well-Being in Law Podcast, an initiative of The Institute for Well-Being in Law. I'm your co-host, Chris Newbold, Executive Vice President of ALPS Malpractice Insurance. And, boy, how exciting is it that we're actually moving into the summer months? I always feel like well-being takes a natural elevated state in the summer months. We're also coming off of a really exciting Well-Being in Law week, and I'm joined by my co-host, Bree Buchanan. Bree, I'd just love to hear your reflections on, again, a May event that's really become a foundational element in the well-being horizon, as we think about bringing people together and shining a light on well-being. What were your reflections on this year's Well-Being Week in Law? BREE BUCHANAN: Good morning. Hey, Chris. So that was just... It's such an amazing event, and it's really become a signature event for The Institute for Well-Being in Law. This is our second year to do it. We didn't necessarily have people sign up, but we were able to look at things like the analytics, the people coming to our website, all of that doubled over last year. We had so much energy and excitement around that, and many people involved. We had the actual... the whole week for the Well-Being Week in Law, every day programming. And then this year, we added the after-party, which two weeks later, we did another full week of programming around the different dimensions of well-being for the professionals in this space, the people who are tasked with law firms, with... coming up with well-being programming. That's really an area that the institute is focused on, and supporting the movement and all the people that are out there that are part of this movement. So, it was a great event. What did you think? CHRIS: Yeah, I thought was fantastic, again. One of our goals on the podcast is to build and nurture a national network of well-being advocates. I think one of the great results of the week was just, again, a mobilization an army of folks who are really interested in this particular issue. We would be remiss without recognizing one of our colleagues, Bree, Anne Bradford, and all of the work that she did to really both initiate, and has really been building some significant momentum in building this community through events like Well-Being Week in Law. BREE: Absolutely. The community and just the partnerships that she's helping us create, really valuable. CHRIS: I think the folks interested in receiving mailings and communications from the institute, I think went up to like 1,400. Again, just a testament to the number of folks who are really passionate about this issue and want to see it remain at the forefront as we look to improve the profession. So that's awesome. Let's move into our podcast today. We're, again, super excited. We've taken a little bit of a pivot. In our first 10 to 12, 15 podcasts, we really focused on some individuals in the movement. We've been moving to a little bit of a mini series format. We started with law schools, and now we're really excited to delve into the intersection of well-being and research, and research into the well-being cause. There's been, in a lot of professions, probably a lot more empirical research. We certainly are moving into that space in terms of specifically looking at lawyers, research, well-being, happiness. I know, Bree, we are super excited about our guest today, who's going to kick off our research miniseries, Larry Krieger from Florida State University. Bree, I know that you've known Larry for a lot of years, I'm going to give you the honors of introducing Larry. But we are really excited about our podcast today in the intersection of well-being and the happiness of lawyers, which is, again, something I've been really excited to get into. BREE: Right. I am delighted Larry is somebody I've looked up to and look to as such a real expert in this space ever since I started working in this area, which was 2009. So, let me just give everybody an introduction. Professor Larry Krieger is a widely-recognized expert in lawyer well-being, and particularly, I think, he's known for his study and work around What Makes Lawyers Happy? And we'll get to hear more about that. That study, in particular, was research on 6,200 lawyers, and identified the specific factors that are required for lawyer wellness and satisfaction and basically, happiness. The New York Times report article on that study was the most shared article in The Times for the following two days. So a lot of buzz about that when it came out in 2015. Larry was the founding Chair of the section on balance and legal education for the Association of American Law Schools. He was a litigator for 11 years, so he knows what it's like to be in the trenches. Part of that was Chief Trial Counsel for the Florida Controller, and he now teaches litigation skills and professionalism at the Florida State University College of Law. He is rightly-so recognized as one of the 25 teachers in the Harvard Press Book, entitled, What the Best Law Teachers Do. Finally, I got to meet Larry in person when I presented to him in 2018 at CoLAP Meritorious Service Award, which is given, really, for a lifetime distinction in the work that addresses mental health and substance abuse issues in the profession. That is a small introduction to all that Larry has done in this space. So, Larry, welcome. We're so glad you're here. I want to ask you a question of what we ask for all of our guests. We start off with asking, what brought you to the well-being movement? We have found that just about for all of our guests, and certainly for all of us who are involved in the institute, there's some sort of personal life experience, something that drives our passion for this work. So, what can you tell us about your experience? And welcome, Larry. LARRY KRIEGER: Well, first, thank you so much. It really is a pleasure and an honor to get to talk to you both, and thank you for the amazing work that you both are doing them and all the people out there. Funny story. So what brought me to it was my first wife, who... way back then, she had actually been dating Mike Love, the lead singer for the Beach Boys, when the Beach Boys learned meditation. BREE: Okay. LARRY: Remember [inaudible 00:07:27] back in the late '60s or something. So we're going back a little ways here. I've been around. So I was in law school at the time, actually, I was miserable, and we heard that this meditation teacher, Transcendental Meditation, at the time, was coming to town. And she said, "Oh, let's go." And I said [inaudible 00:07:50]. And so she dragged me in there. I thought it was the stupidest thing I ever heard. We walked out, she was glowing. Like, this is fabulous, thought [inaudible 00:07:59], brother. They wanted 35 bucks for you to learn this technique, I thought this is for the birds. So she learned it, and she changed within two weeks. She was a different person. BREE: Wow. LARRY: So I said, "Okay, I want to learn it, too." Then it took me months to get into it, because the teacher didn't come back for three months. So it was just really good luck. It transcended my own ignorance, honestly. And then I was unhappy in law school, and actually quit law school. It took me eight years to get through law school, which I love telling students when they're discouraged. BREE: Right. LARRY: I just didn't like it. The reason I didn't like it is everybody there was so unhappy. I had already been in the Air Force through the Vietnam War, and I was a little older and stuff going to law school, and I thought, everybody is so serious. Oh, my God. Nobody's got their leg shot off. BREE: Right. LARRY: I just kept quitting law school, because I just didn't like being around. It was so serious and negative. So yeah, that was on me. I've learned to have better boundaries. But that's how I got involved. Then when I finally became a lawyer, I noticed how unhappy the lawyers were. BREE: Right. LARRY: [inaudible 00:09:14]. Come on, guys. Even the super successful ones were just ramped up, tense, pushy, on edge all the time. Of course, by then I had been meditating for a while, and so I it was keeping me chilled out. I was prosecuting in West Palm. We had the sixth highest crime rate in the country at the time. So it's not like it was... I was dodging the bullets and avoiding the trenches, like you say. But just, do your job and then go home and have a nice life. So what got me involved was good luck, certainly not my own intelligence, and then just seeing what was going on in front of me. BREE: Right, right. Absolutely. CHRIS: Well, Larry, you've... Certainly, when you look back on your research and scholarship, it now goes back almost 20 years. I know that you've been thinking about it even longer than that. In some respects, you've been a disruptor in our space before it was even a thing. If you look back on some of your titles, I just I marvel at the fact that you saw so much of this so early, that even though the movement is where it is today, again, you were talking about a two decades ago. Some of your titles included Institutional Denial About the Dark Side of Law, and I think that was published in 2002. Understanding the Negative Effects of Legal Education on Law Students, again, 2002. Does Legal Education Have Undermining Effects on Law Students? 2004. What were you seeing among your students that brought you to engage in this type of research and scholarship? LARRY: Yeah, thanks. Let me just say [inaudible 00:10:55] just like me starting meditation and getting a bigger picture on life than what I had up to that point. I got lucky and got this job. I wasn't looking for a job, I had a marvelous job of chasing Ponzi schemes out of the State of Florida for the state comptroller, like Bree already mentioned. But I just got lucky and got into this job through happenstance, and it gave me time to start thinking. What I saw immediately was... I think I started this job in '91. I just passed 30 years. Yay. Had a little lunch with the dean, and it was really sweet. So it was a good ways after I had been in law school all those years, and seeing all the unhappiness there. When I got into teaching, I realized nothing has changed. Nothing. And I thought, "Okay, well, I've got some time here. I'm going to try to write about it." Actually, the first article I wrote was in '99. I'm not on tenure track, so writing all that negative stuff is a little tricky for me, but I figured, honestly, what the hell? I wouldn't mind going back to being a prosecutor or a lawyer. If they don't like me, they can just get rid of me, but I'm not going to keep my mouth shut. But the first one I wrote was in '99, and it was called What We're Not Telling Law Students - And Lawyers - That They Really Need to Know. In that article, I was just going from my experience, but I was saying we really need to research this. And then shortly after that, just, again, through happenstance, I ran into a fabulous empirical psychologist who was willing to work with me, Ken Sheldon. So, off we went. BREE: There you go. I really relate to what you're saying. I graduated from law school in 1989, and then had the opportunity, about 15 years later, to go back and lead a clinical program there, and it was the same thing. I saw students were still unhappy, stressed out, everything happened around a keg, alcohol flowed through every event. And then actually, when I got to the lawyers Assistance Program and went back to law schools talking, 10 or so years later, it was the same thing, there just hadn't been any shift. I want to talk to you a little bit. My experience with you, my first Larry Krieger encounter... When I started working at the Texas Lawyers Assistance Program in 2009, I came across your booklet that spoke to me so loudly, it was The Hidden Sources of Law School Stress, in which you openly wrote about the dark side of the law school experience, and it just rang so true for me. I was so impacted by that. Tell me what it was like during that period of time to write about these things. It's like sort of the emperor has no clothes, you were going out proclaiming. Just the same truth at the heart of the matter in the profession. How was that received? LARRY: Well, good question. That book's been a thrill for me and me. It turned out that half the law schools in the country and also in Australia and Canada, more than half of them have used the book with their students in bulk. So, that was a thrill. I'm writing a new one now. I'll explain why I decided to take a new tack. But hopefully, that'll be out at the end of the summer for fall students, if I'm lucky. The first thing I started doing before I wrote that is I started talking to clinical conferences, because I'm a clinical teacher, I teach litigation skills. And every time I would give a talk on this well-being, I never saw any other talks on it. It's so wonderful to see the movement now. When I started doing this, it was weird. But rooms would always fill up. There were so many teachers that would say, "This is so important. I wish I'd heard this when I was in law school." And I would say, "I wish I'd heard it law school." BREE: Me too. LARRY: Right. So somebody needed to start saying it. So that was really good. And then our dean of student asked me to give a talk to an early orientation group one summer here, that came pre [inaudible 00:15:49] law school, and I gave this little talk, and it really went well. What I did is I... This is where the booklet came from. I asked them, "So what are you worried about? Let's list everything you're worried about on the board, everything you're afraid of." And then we're going to shoot it all down, one at a time. So they listed it on the board, I explained why they shouldn't stress about it, and then I woke up the next morning [inaudible 00:16:14] you know that was really a lot of good things. And it all came from them, I thought I had to write this down. So I sent out a little summary to this listserv that I had started by then on humanizing legal education, and people wrote back and said, "Oh, can I use it? Can I use it? Can I use it?" And I said, "Okay, I got to put this into a publication." So I was already getting a lot of positive feedback from my community, which was the community of people who actually care about the well-being and happiness of... and sanity, really, of law students and lawyers. I've learned to focus on the people that are supportive, I just don't focus on the other people. [crosstalk 00:16:56]. BREE: Words of wisdom. CHRIS: Well, Larry, obviously, we're shifting a little bit in the podcast here to a three-part series focusing on research, and we just would really enjoy focusing now on your 2015 seminal work that really helped set the stage for the entire well-being movement. Your work, What Makes Lawyers Happy? A Data-Driven Prescription to Redefine Professional Success Redefine Professional Success was really at the forefront. It was a large research project that you conducted with Ken Sheldon. Tell us about the survey, what inspired you to do it, who you surveyed, just setting the stage for what you ultimately found. LARRY: Sure, Thanks, Chris. That came out so well, too. I was shocked at how well... After we publish that, I had a lot of people from different journals and the press [inaudible 00:17:54] and they asked me if there are any surprises in there. Really, the main surprise was that we were right. Everything we predicted came out, and even stronger than I would have imagined. I really encourage folks who are listening to this, take a look at this study, because there's a graph in there of the results, and you can see it in a picture. It's so striking. It's on SSRN, Social Science Research Network, ssrn.com, and it's called What Makes Lawyers Happy?. But what came out of it was that success does not make lawyers happy. That's why The New York Times had such a buzz with it. BREE: Right. LARRY: We were actually able to quantify exactly what's making lawyers happy, and we were able to show, with numbers, it's not the money, it's not the partnership, the junior partners were not any happier than the senior associates in the big firms, not even a bit. Even though they were making 70% more money, and they were partners now, nothing changed. The idea came from because we started researching law students before that, and we were in some of those journals you mentioned with the institutional denial and understanding the negative effects, all that business. I wanted to be sure that what we found in law students actually was going in the direction that the studies predicted, and that lawyers were suffering from the same exact problems. So it really took seven years to get that study done, because I had to get bar associations. Five state bar associations agreed to participate and put their bar members through this survey. I got CLE credit assigned to the lawyers- BREE: Wow. LARRY: ... who were willing do it because it was a long survey. And then one of the states backed out at the last minute, a really big one. So otherwise, we'd have had 10,000 lawyers instead of 6,000, but results would have been identical. But I think they thought it's going to be too hot politically. BREE: Right. LARRY: I think they were afraid that we were going to show what we ended up showing, which is everything that the profession thinks is important, actually isn't important, other than helping clients, and everything that the profession thinks isn't important, like spending time with your family and taking care of yourself, actually is important, and those are the things that's going to make you happy. So, it took years to get that research in but, but we pulled it off. BREE: I see it was just sort of... The findings are just bombshell findings for me. I actually printed out, and I'm looking right now at that graph, and it is so incredibly demonstrative. When you're looking at what really moves the dial on subjective well-being or happiness, are things like autonomy, relatedness, internal motivation, the intrinsic values. So those are long bars on the graph. And then you get to income, class rank, making partner, Law Review, and the bars on that graph drop by like 75% or something. It is just striking visually to see this. Can you talk just briefly a little bit about this divide between the extrinsic and intrinsic values, sort of digging into the secret of happiness? LARRY: Yeah, great point. Thanks for bringing that up. I'm actually looking at it. I did a follow-up booklet to that, Hidden Sources of Law School Stress, that extended out to lawyers too, after this study came out. I have a few of those left. I'm trying not to sell them much anymore, and I'll tell you why at the end here. But it also has that chart in it. It's called The Hidden Stresses of Law School and Law Practice, because they really are hidden stresses. They're mis-assumptions. What these bars mean, is basically, that the human connections that we make, if I could put it in a nutshell, the human connections that we make are everything for the happiness of a lawyer or a judge. They are everything. What these buyers stand for is our connection to ourself, autonomy. Really, the way we measure it is integrity or authenticity. Are you a whole person? Are you true to what you say? Do you follow your own values, or are you two-faced? The negative stereotype of lawyers would be anti-autonomy and anti-integrity. So that's the number one factor, are you well-connected with yourself? And who is, in modern society? What is ourself, even? [inaudible 00:23:00]. And then the next one's obvious, relatedness to other people. Are you closely connected with other people? Not are you around them? Not, do you tell them what to do? But do you feel a close intimate connection with them? The third one and the fourth one have to do with work, do you feel competent at your work, and are you motivated to do your work because you care about it? In other words, is- BREE: Right. LARRY: ... are you connected to it? Not just, are you doing it to pay the bills, but does it give you meaning and purpose in your life? Does it give you joy? So those are the top four, and then autonomy, support, relationship to supervisor. So those are the things. They're way up there as far as predicting well-being. If you don't have those, you're not going to be happy. BREE: Right. LARRY: These numbers are so huge. And then when you get down to made partner, like I said, it's .00. It had no effect on the lawyers, at all, being on Law Review, what all the law students get the most depressed about. .00 and for the layers, it had no effect. Income is very modest, it's .19. These others are .65. BREE: I mean, you just turned it all on its head, Larry. First, when I would see these, I would think I... I would question the validity of the study, almost, because it's so striking against what we're taught and inculcated to believe. But it's a huge set of people that you surveyed, so I'm a believer. It also resonates with me. There's what we've been told, but it resonates with me because it's my lived experience. I believe it, because that's... what I experienced is true, what you found. So, anyway. LARRY: Yeah, thanks for that. If you look at scriptures since time began, in any culture, whatever, they all say the same thing. BREE: Right. LARRY: Right? BREE: Yeah. LARRY: All the music that sells tons and all the movies that are so popular, it's all about love, not money. We actually did a factor analysis. Again, I got lucky. My brother's a math genius, PhD type neuroscience person, and when he saw these results, he said, "Oh, you should do a factor analysis." I said, "What's a factor analysis?" He said, "Well, tell Ken Sheldon. He'll know." You can see I've been led by the nose all the way through my life in this. So we did a factor analysis, [inaudible 00:25:35] in a nutshell, looks at all these top factors for well-being and what my brother said, and it turned out to be true. So those are so big and so close in numbers, that it's going to turn out that they're really saying the same thing. They're not actually five different things, they're going to be one. One thing that's more fundamental. So Sheldon, it took them five minutes when I emailed him, and he said, "Yeah, he's right. There is one thing that's accounting for most of this variability in all of them." He said, "Good luck. Now you have to figure out what it is. I'm just a psychologist, you're the lawyer, because Matthew won't tell you that." Over the years, I did, I think, figure it out, and I've already explained it to you, it's the feeling of connectedness. I tried to think, what is it that makes me feel good when I tell the truth, or when I do what I think is important to me, or when I hug someone, or when I do work that matters, or when I look at a sunset and I feel joy? What is it that they all have in common? It's feeling connected to life. More or life? So I think that's the key to everything going forward, is how do we get lawyers to think bigger, make the box bigger. Because the box we grew up with, that we assumed was going to work does not work. This research shows it so clearly with numbers. We have to get outside that box and think bigger for ourselves. CHRIS: Larry, you've obviously studied this in the context of lawyers, but I just... It's hard not to think about this and say what you've learned about lawyers is really the fact that we are human beings before we are lawyers, and if we take care of ourselves and the relationship and the connectedness... In your study, you talk about what a profile of a happy lawyer is. You could probably replace that with a profile of what a happy person is, and it's going to be equally applicable. LARRY: No question. Actually, that's how we set up the study, is we had all these hypotheses based on research on "normal people", or regular people, not lawyers. That's how we had set up our studies of law students to start with, is using self-determination theory, which had never really been tested on lawyers. That's what I meant when I said, I was just surprised how well it all bore out. These numbers are enormous. Correlations with happiness for each of these factors is like two thirds of a perfect correlation. If you have any one of those five, you're way up there already. But if you're missing any one of the five, you're really missing a lot. So, yeah. Actually, toward the end of the study itself, again, on ssrn.com, I talk about how lawyers are normal people. This is exactly what we would get with normal people. I got to say, I'm a little bit proud about this study because I don't think there's another one that quantifies it like this. This was a another bold step. Once we were getting these results, I asked Ken, I said, "Sir, is there any way we can actually measure these out, not just with P values, which is a probability?" Because they were all highly significant, so they all looked the same. But to show which ones are the strongest. He said, "Yeah, there's these Pearson correlations, these standardized correlation." So he sent me some articles to read about that. And I said, "Let's do that." That's how you actually get these numbers. Because you can't really compare... Bree, you mentioned, you can't really compare how much money you make with how close you feel to your children. They're on two different scales, one's in dollars, and one is in subjective warm and fuzzy feelings. So we were able to do those comparisons and show, for example, that earning more money is a .19 correlation with happiness, whereas having integrity, what we're always pushing lawyers about, is a .66. It's three and a half times as strong. We had to do that with the mathematical conversion into standard. So he was able to do that. Like you said, Bree, I expected to get just hammered once this study came out by people saying, this is garbage, and your methodology is garbage and this and that. Haven't had a single complaint about it, I think partly because every single thing we looked at in the study... And there's probably 50 or 60 correlations in here that people will be interested in like, what about having children? What about being married or a long term relationship? What about how many vacation days you take? What about how big a city you live in? What about the rank of your law school? We were able to compare all those, and everything came out consistently. So each of the findings confirmed each of the other findings. BREE: Right. CHRIS: Larry, first of all, you should be proud of your study. Again, I think it was more, ultimately, reaffirming than anything else, what many of us suspected. So, hey, let's take time to take a quick break. We certainly want to come back after the break and talk about implications of the study, some advice that you have, and then where you're going on the research front from here. So let's take a short break, and we'll be right back. — ADVERTISEMENT: Your law firm is worth protecting, and so is your time. ALPS has the quickest online application for legal malpractice insurance out there. Apply, see rates, and find coverage, all in about 20 minutes. Being a lawyer is hard, our new online app is easy. Apply now at applyonline.alpsnet.com. — CHRIS: Okay. Welcome back to the podcast. We have Larry Krieger here, who published a seminal study, What Makes Lawyers Happy?. Larry, I'm curious, if you had an audience of a group of big law CEOs, HR officers, based on what you've learned, what words of advice would you give to them about having and nurturing successful lawyers? Because obviously, successful lawyers are the key to a successful firm and are, I think, the foundation of, ultimately, serving society as problem solvers. What advice would you have? LARRY: It'd probably be what I'm telling you two. You're CEOs of your organization. [inaudible 00:32:42] being proud of the study. I'm really smiling here so big while I'm talking to you all, because I'm really happy that it came out the way it did. It's wonderful, because I think it's helpful for people, if they take a look at it. I've already intimated what I would want to tell people, is we have to think bigger. Look, when I went to law school, this all started for me. I guess I was somewhat instrumental in getting it going in other circles and in legal education in particular. It started for me because I came with a different perspective. I came from outside the legal perspective. I had gone to college, I'd gone into the military, I'd seen some serious life-threatening situations, and some soldiers who didn't make it that I was transporting here and there. I lived in different countries. I not only took meditation, but I actually taught meditation. So I came with an outside-the-box perspective. And then when I came to law school, I said, "Oh, this box is too small. We have to think bigger. People are not coming to law school expecting to be happy. You've got to think bigger about your life." It was like a merit badge to be so stressed and stay up and be studying and having big circles on your eyes. I don't even want to be around this. This is just bad thinking. The more powerful you are, the more you know what it takes to be happy, usually. Now, that may not be true in our political system anymore. Those people are not happy, I don't care what party you're in. But as you become more successful, you should be becoming more happy. If you're not happy, you're not successful. There are great quotes from great philosophers that happiness is the highest form of success, and that has to be true. So first of all, I would tell CEOs, and I also tell law students the same thing, the highest form of success you can have is to really be deeply, consistently happy. If something sad happens, be sad, be in touch with your feelings. Everything you're doing, you went to law school, why? To become happy. You're making money. Why? To make you happy. You got married. Why? So you'd be happy. You had children. Why? Right? You're going to retire. Why? You'll be happier. Everything is for that, but we put it aside and get lost in the details. BREE: I want to ask you about your current research, and we'll make sure we have time to talk about that. It sounds like you're doing a bit of a pivot in your focus. Tell us about that. LARRY: I think is that the research is so helpful, it will challenge people. Because they may think, "Oh, my gosh, I've spent all my time doing this, and now I need to shift." You just need to make an internal shift, keep doing what you're doing, because you're good at it, but stop thinking that winning or being the greatest is going to make you happy. Just keep doing it because you're good at it and you're competent at it, and you can help people. That will make you happy. So it's this connectedness to self, to others, and to purpose that shows up in the study as being so strong for making people happy. If you don't have it, you're simply not going to be happy. That's what these numbers mean. So once we get there and we accept that, then I started thinking, "Well, how can I really teach my litigation students? Because they're stressed out, they're trying to learn this high pressure stuff, and they're going to lose lots of cases, just like I did. And I need to get them ready for that." So I started thinking, "Well, what's the most important connection that we could have?" And it comes right from that factor analysis, it's really our connection to life. Our connection to life. When we first got this research, and then the analysis, I thought, "Well, what's the difference between me feeling well-connected to you and caring about you guys, and the difference with me making lots of money and feeling well-connected to my money?" Why isn't that so satisfying? The answer is, there's no life in it. There's no life in it. I mentioned this to my minister, my little church I go to, and he told me this great quote from Thomas Merton, that love is an intensification of life. Love is an intensification of life, a wholeness. I looked it up. And I realized, yeah, that's what's making these lawyers happy. They're connecting with their own self, which is life, they're connecting with the life of other people that they care about. So life is connecting to life and reverberating back and forth. In my slideshows, in my PowerPoints, I use an image of a power cord that's plugging in at both ends, and you see electricity going. That's our life. So the more you plug into life and connect to it, the happier you're going to be. So that's one big piece of it. I'm trying to actually get Ken to do another study with me on spirituality and religion, showing that people who feel connected to whatever they believe, might be God or a higher authority, or this or that, if they feel connected and close to it, they're happier people than if they feel a fear of it, or like it's judgmental and this and that. So far I haven't got him there, but I will. I'll keep after him. But I think there's another area of science now that's so important for lawyers, which is the old power of positive thinking from the 1950s, Norman Vincent Peale. But it's turning out to be scientifically really true. Epigenetics, neuroscience, neurobiology, biochemistry. There's a huge body of science now that when you think positively, you feel good, and when you think negatively or you have a negative belief, you feel bad. You can think of the optimism and pessimism research. Same thing. Optimist is just somebody with a mindset that everything is good, even if it sucks. "I got a flat tire. Well, that sucks, but I'll go have a cup of coffee. I got AAA. I'm lucky, I'll call AAA. I'll call and tell them I'm going to be late," and they're fine. Whereas a pessimist has the same flat tire, but has a different mindset and decides now life sucks. Not just this sucks, but life sucks, I suck, and it's never going to get better. BREE: Right. LARRY: So it's the exact same flat tire, it's the exact same client that got convicted of a DUI or got custody, whatever it is, but people frame it in different ways. The way they frame it makes about a 2,000-point difference in your biochemistry. 2,000 different chemicals in your brain and your body, depending on if you have a positive thought or a negative thought. And then that structures how you feel, how you work, how much inflammation you have, whether you're depressed, whether you age, or stay young, and whether you get the raise and the promotion or not, because people actually like being around you, and so forth. So really pushing that now, that people, we need to basically... We have two big things we need to do. First of all, we need to locate our life, and we need to connect to it. Of course, this is a lot of mindfulness and meditation stuff. But that first research shows how important it is to find life in what you're doing. If it doesn't have life, don't do it. [inaudible 00:41:01]. And then both inside and outside. And then the second thing is manage your thoughts proactively. We're so smart, but we have a tendency to think negatively. [inaudible 00:41:16] pessimistic way of thinking what can go wrong? BREE: Right. LARRY: So I'm really coming around, and I'm going to write a paper on this, it's coming pretty soon, about, first of all, work-life balance, real quick. I'll spend just a minute on each of these, because I know we're getting close on our time. Work-life balance is great. I don't think it's worked. The reason it hasn't worked is because nobody's finding life. We're saying we shouldn't be working all the time, let's have more life, but nobody really understands what life is. It's not going out on the golf course and getting aggravated. BREE: Wow. LARRY: It's not spending lots of time drinking. That's not life. It's like, you have to find your life, and then you have to express it to other people, and you have to find it in them, and let them express it to you. So it really involves going deeper inside taking care of your health, and being mindful and finding life. So I've been teaching law students and others, taking just simple meditation practices to do that. And then the second key thing is manage your thoughts proactively. The other sort of talisman we have besides work-life balance that I think is not working well is stress management. Stress management is way better than stress mismanagement, or unmanagement. But stress management, as a talisman, presumes we're going to be stressed. Why do we have to be stressed? To me, that's dumb thinking. You've got to think bigger than that. I actually just did a survey, it was just a random one, no IRB approval, but it's not going to be published, just to prove the point. I want Ken to research this with me, as well. I sampled a bunch of law students, one, two and three hours, just asking them, what did you think law school would be like? That's all. Give me one word. What did you think law school would be like before you started, and what do you think law practice will be like now? One or two words. So they had no bias [inaudible 00:43:34]. 70% of them said stress, burnout, anxiety. That's the mindset, even coming into law school. BREE: Right. LARRY: What this new research says, if that's what you expect, that is what you'll get. In other words, when you get a big assignment, now it's all about, I'm so stressed. I was telling my wife this morning, and then I'll close here, I'm going to get to talk to Bree and Chris today, and hopefully, some lawyers. I could be all stressed about this. I have so much work to do, I don't have time [inaudible 00:44:06]. Or I can say, this is a wonderful opportunity. It's going to be the same talk, either way. What you think it's going to be determines those 1,000 positive or 1,000 negative chemicals flushing through your body and your brain for the rest of the day. So we have to learn to be positive about it, and so we got to get rid of stress management. I would call it thought management, belief management. Just stop looking at the hours of stress. One other quick note. We do have a study that's going to probably be published in about six months, we're just submitting it in the next week or so, that shows that it's not actually the long hours that's making lawyers unhappy. It's not the long hours, it's the wrong work. People who like their work, they work more hours, they actually enjoy it. And the people don't like their work, when they... they're just as unhappy whether they're working long hours or not. So, we need to shift our focus on to find life inside yourself, embrace it, be grateful for it, connect to others, share your life, and think bigger, expect to be happy. Don't expect to be stressed. Because if you expect to be happy and start every day like that, you're going to be happy. Is garbage going to come up? Sure. People come to you because you're a lawyer, they have problems, if you're in that practice. Well, okay. So, let's help them with their problems as much as we can, and then let's go home happy. If we didn't fix them, it wasn't our problem, it was their problem. So we have to have that boundary there and appreciate ourselves. BREE: Larry, thank you so much. It's such a joy to hear you speak, and your point of view when you're thinking about these things. Again, going back to... really just confirms, I think, what I know and what we all know in our gut, in our heart about what makes life worth living. So thank you for that. It's a bit revolutionary, and we need you right now, we need thought leaders like you, and so I'm really excited to hear and read your studies that are coming out. I commend everybody, and I'm going to... We'll make sure that there's a link in the transcript of our podcast. But do take a look at the study, What Makes Lawyers Happy?: A Data-Driven Prescription to Redefine Professional Success. Again, it is really the work that kicked the current well-being movement off, and launched many other research projects that came from that. I've always thought that it is not... I think our listeners can hear that you are not ego-based, you're humble man. So there was not a lot of promotion of this study. I've really felt passionate about... In kicking off this series on research in this area, we had to start with you, because you are the Godfather of this area, Larry. So thank you so much, and we will be back in the next couple of weeks with other researchers to shed light on, what is the cutting edge thinking in this area? Chris, thank you too, for being here today, and take care everyone. We'll talk to you very soon. CHRIS: Thank you.  

Hoe leer je jezelf goede gewoontes aan? En waarom zou je dat überhaupt willen, leveren gewoontes iets op voor je welbevinden? Kunnen we slechte gewoontes ook effectiever afleren? Werken stempelkaarten en beloningen ook voor volwassenen? En ook voor Eva? Welkom in deze aflevering over olifanten, berijders en paden; huilende baby's en stickers - alles over gewoontes dus. Dit zijn de links voor méér: Een blog van Maaike over waarom wilskracht overschat is Jonathan Haidt legt de metafoor over de berijder, de olifant en het pad uit in zijn boek ‘De Gelukshypothese' en ook Chip & Dan Heath gebruiken diezelfde metafoor en werken hem nog beter uit in het boek ‘Switch: veranderen als verandering moeilijk is' Zelf-Concordante doelen en het belang daarvan vind je terug in het werk en onderzoek van Prof. Dr. Ken Sheldon, in dit onderzoeksartikel bijvoorbeeld: Sheldon, K. (2014). Becoming Oneself: The Central Role of Self-Concordant Goal Selection. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 18(4). Retrieved from http://search.proquest.com/docview/1617268264/ En dit filmpje maakte Maaike ooit (voor een online training) over zelf-concordante doelen: Hier lees je alles over de training Mindfulness & Levenskunst die Maaike en Eva samen maakten, en je kan je je inschrijven. James Clear schreef het heldere boek ‘Elementaire gewoontes', met alles over aan-en afleren van gewoontes, en de vier elementen die we in onze aflevering opsommen En dan de leukste uitsmijter: op onze website kan je een overzicht downloaden van hoe je olifant, berijder en pad kan bewegen

A finals win! Unbelievable scenes on Saturday evening as the St Kilda Football Club recorded their first AFL Finals victory since 2010, defeating the Western Bulldogs by 3-points in a cliffhanger at the GABBA. While it was a nervy few minutes, the Saints held on for a famous victory. A Semi Final awaits against Richmond as the 2020 AFL Season continues for at least one more week... In an eerily similar story to the 2020 Saints, a former Carlton premiership player took over the coaching reigns at Moorabbin in 1990, the following year leading St Kilda FC to their first finals campaign in 18 years. Ken Sheldon joins us on Unpluggered to chat about his time at the Saints as both a player and coach, and what it meant to take the football club on that memorable AFL Finals journey. Catch all our Zoom interviews on the Twitter (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/676825/twitter.com/unpluggered)and stay connected with the podcast on all social media networks. Feedback? Questions? Get in touch! UNPLUGGERED ON SOCIAL MEDIA: facebook.com/unpluggered (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/584945/facebook.com/unpluggered) twitter.com/unpluggered (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/584945/twitter.com/unpluggered) instagram.com/unpluggeredpodcast (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/584945/instagram.com/unpluggeredpodcast) EMAIL: unpluggered@gmail.com Follow the boys on Twitter: @Darren_Parkin (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/584945/twitter.com/Darren_Parkin) @nicksplitter (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/584945/twitter.com/nicksplitter) @VAMH26 (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/584945/twitter.com/VAMH26) @Unpluggered (https://dashboard.whooshkaa.com/27cadf17/episodes/584945/twitter.com/Unpluggered) Remember you can catch up on all our old episodes and interviews with great Saints like Lenny Hayes, Robert Harvey, Stewart Loewe, Nathan Burke, and many more, by searching for Unpluggered on Google, YouTube, Facebook or on your favourite podcast platform. Get in touch for guest or sponsorship opportunities at unpluggered@gmail.com. Thanks as always to the brilliant Lloyd Spiegel for the use of his "When The Saints Go Marching In." Go Saints!

Ricky Nixon discusses the camaraderie differences between Carlton and St. Kilda during his playing days and the influence of Ken Sheldon, recent tragedies regarding mental health, how the Richmond Football club current players look after each other and the importance of staying connected with current friends and reconnecting with lost ones.

BIOGRAPHY Shannah was one of the first life coaches in Melbourne (studied it 20yrs ago) no one knew what the hell I was talking about. Shannah wanted to coach athletes into retirement. She had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome from totally not looking after myself which lead to depression due to not being able to move my body how I wanted to – hence got a coach and learnt some self-care and mental health coping strategies. Shannah studied mental health coping strategies for the past 10 years and had coaches working on herself, to be the best version of herself. She built a massive executive coaching business as a life strategist so people can perform optimally (with a view to longevity in career) professionally and still develop a life outside work. She lives, manages and works with CFS and depression on a daily basis and has a great life! As a coach - she provides a safe space for people to have real conversations and unpack what is going on in their minds. She helps people manage their own wellbeing; helps people understand that they are not their job, they are a whole person, their job is what they do - not who they are. Take the job away and who are you - you need to build calm confidence in this space. Shannah started on the speaking circuit 15 years ago to bring life and wellness skills to conferences (before my time) and worked with AFL Players, Swimmers, Track athletes. Approached many AFL clubs - too early for my time, they didn’t want to acknowledge coaching or mental health (recently Ken Sheldon apologised to her and said I was just too early for them even though I could see what was happening) – she wanted to teach a skill set for outside competition, skills that would support them outside of game time.  Also coached members of AFL boards would send players to her and not tell anyone else. Shannah’s books are: 1 - Simplify Structure Succeed 2 - The Life Plan (is the biggest and best seller globally) 3 - Chaos to Calm 4 - Shine 5  - Restore 6 - Ignite - coming out in 2020   Joined with a mum from school and formed business #2 - The Essentialists - teachers of life and wellness skills. Product is The Masterclass of Wellness - we present this workshop globally and work for Deloitte/Macquarie/SEEK/Mercedes etc   TOOLS AND TIPS Values based living - people need to know their values Coping Strategies - breathing, meditation, journaling, gratitude, bookends of the day the most powerful Vision creation Goal setting Habits - are the structure, the foundations, the stakes that need to be addressed Train the brain - set your intentions for the day - the brain is your computer that needs programming Taking responsibility and not playing the blame game - we all have a story - need to move on and be the creator of how we want to feel and what we want to create Upskilling - people are happiest when they are learning and engaged. We can now do this through podcasts, audio books, short courses BE CURIOUS AND MAKE A PLAN FOR YOURSELF PICTURE SHOWNOTES Shannah was inspired by the movie “Wall Street” and worked her way up the chain coming straight out of year 12 and became the first woman to be sat at the trading desk. Soon after she decided to go around the world backpacking and when she came back, wasn’t inspired to be in that job anymore. Shannah went into a “Jerry Maguire” sports agent job instead and loved the relationships with her clients, which meant a lot of achievement based living rather than self-care living. At 28, she was diagnosed with CFS and her life had changed. She still suffers with it but manages it well. She noticed a pattern with athletes as many went into retirement in their late twenties – their identity gets lost too and noticed there was a need to look after our own lives and life skills are not taught. Getting into these build questions about happiness, fulfilment and life skills, getting into the nitty-gritty is where the truth of authentic self comes through and Shannah helps people work through things. Shannah discusses how the first and the last hour of the day are critical because you are in charge of it and can tick the boxes of mental, spiritual and physical wellness in that time too. Ultimately it leaves you happy and fulfilled. Shannah’s definition of happiness is finding inner harmony and contentment within herself The thing that makes Shannah’s heart sing is loud music, watching movies and walking on the beach three mornings a week with her husband Home-cooked Italian pasta is Shannah’s fantasy food, her fantasy dinner guests would be Roger Federer, Lisa Wilkinson, and Oprah Winfrey. Exercise is her non-negotiable thing she must do. Creating a plan of what people can do to help their mental, physical, spiritual, emotional and financial plans is a conducive thing to help with routine. “Give me a higher love” with Kygo is Shannah’s theme tune. What can you do to promote more happiness in your life? This is the question that Shannah invites Carla’s listeners to consider! J   BOOKS You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay The Untethered Soul – Michael Singer   Shannah’s books: 1 - Simplify Structure Succeed 2 - The Life Plan (is the biggest and best seller globally) 3 - Chaos to Calm 4 - Shine 5  - Restore 6 - Ignite - coming out in 2020   THINGS DISCUSSED https://www.viacharacter.org/www/ - character strength planning Website: https://shannahkennedy.com/ IG: @shannahkennedy Facebook: Shannah Kennedy Coaching

Ricky Nixon talks of his career highlights and stories of St. Kilda legend Trevor Barker and former coach Ken Sheldon

In this episode, we cover:Roney and Oldie are up in Bicheno this episode, interviewing people from footballers to corporate partners.The THA's podcast 'Hospitality in our Community' is proudly sponsored by Tabcorp.

Ken Sheldon, president of Bank of America in New Hampshire, says the bank is proud to help encourage young talent in the Seacoast.

Interviews with 16 of our best friends! Starting at about 12 after and every 15 minutes or so, listen to interviews with John Elias, JDog Junk Removal, Peter Chaloner, United Way Board, Ken Grabeau, Monarch Instrument and Rotary International, Harry Cheema, Mr. Macs Mac and Cheese, Ken Sheldon, Bank of America, Greg McAdams, UFO Party Rentals, Andy Armstrong, Pastor, First Church Nashua, Rita McCabe, SubZero Ice Cream, Adam Marcoux, Nashua Teachers Union, Bob Larmouth, United Way Board, TJ Howley, Sentry Roofing, Denyne Sanville, Denyne Designs, Michelle Krall, Bellman's Jewelers, Steve Dalton, Dalton Electric, Paula Moran, BAE Systems and United Way Board, and Andy Whigham, Edward Jones Advisors.

Ken Sheldon was a triple-premiership player at Carlton who was discarded by the Blues at the age of 27 - he later coached St. Kilda with a 55% win ratio before he was dumped by the Saints after four years. Does he have any hard feelings? He sits down for a one-on-one with Mike Sheahan.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ken Sheldon was a triple-premiership player at Carlton who was discarded by the Blues at the age of 27 - he later coached St. Kilda with a 55% win ratio before he was dumped by the Saints after four years. Does he have any hard feelings? He sits down for a one-on-one with Mike Sheahan. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ken Sheldon was a triple-premiership player at Carlton who was discarded by the Blues at the age of 27 - he later coached St. Kilda with a 55% win ratio before he was dumped by the Saints after four years. Does he have any hard feelings? He sits down for a one-on-one with Mike Sheahan.

Ken Sheldon has put fictional town Frost Heaves on the map through the persona of quintessential Yankee Fred Marple. Listen in for the story behind the story – and find out how to get your tickets for the final performance of "Welcome to Frost Heaves," April 8-9. READ MORE #

In this episode Live Happy Co-Founder and Editorial Director Deborah Heisz talks with Sonja Lyubomirsky about gratitude. Sonja is author of The How of Happiness, the first book by a highly-credentialed positive psychologist to present the latest research in a “how-to” format. Sonja’s work has been awarded a Templeton Psychology Prize, a Science of Generosity grant, a John Templeton Foundation grant, and a million-dollar grant (with Ken Sheldon) from the National Institute of Mental Health to conduct research on the possibility of permanently increasing happiness.