Podcasts about not drinking tonight

Therapist, author of Not Drinking Tonight, and ‘reformed people pleaser' Amanda E. White joins me back on the show to give her nuanced insights into the wide range of reasons why people might people please.  She'll help us understand what people pleasing is, when it can become manipulative, and how alcohol can play a role in people pleasing. Plus, she shares how relationships can actually become stronger through conflict, and how you can begin to cultivate a more nuanced view of people and situations.  Check out Amanda's new podcast - Nuance Needed!  Learn more about Amanda at www.amandaewhite.com Amanda's first episode on Sober Mom Life: Creating a Sober Life You Love Are you looking for community in sobriety? Join us in the The Sober Mom Life Cafe!  For $40/month, you'll get access to 12 weekly peer support meetings, the exclusive Cafe social feed, our monthly book club and happy hour, the chance to share your story on The Real Sober Moms, and even a monthly Bravo chat! For a limited time, get one week free!  The Sober Mom Life Community is also available, for just $5.95/month - In the Community, you'll receive access to the exclusive Community social feed, the exclusive community chat, our monthly book club, and one free weekly meeting.  Check out The Sober Mom Life on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back for another episode of our Dear Former Fence-Sitter series with mom, therapist, and former fence-sitter, Amanda E. White, where we're answering questions that include... How do I reconcile the different parts of myself that both want and don't want kids? How can I finally decide?  Is it selfish to create a child for my own satisfaction? I'm scared that I'll only be happy on the childfree path if I can make all of my childfree dreams a reality. Am I living in fantasy — or is this me committing? I decided I don't want kids so I got an I.U.D. Now I'm freaking out — what's causing all these doubts? How do you maintain a feeling of closeness in my relationships, when one person has kids and the other is childfree?  As mentioned in the show: Listen to my original conversation with Amanda, where she shares her personal Kids or Childfree journey, here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ir3CeSSRRLLh2PbVwQn1h Find Amanda on Instagram: instagram.com/therapyforwomen Read Amanda's Fence Sitter Substack: amandaewhite.substack.com Listen to Amanda's Nuance Needed Podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/73G84FVO6k5lIAaRWhzlUi?si=39f1a6ffbd444408 Learning about Amanda's therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center: www.therapyforwomencenter.com About Amanda: Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She writes a substack called Fence Sitter. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook. She is the founder of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, and more.  To learn more visit amandaewhite.com __ The next round of our Kids or Childfree Group Program kicks off June 18th! kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program Check out our free resources here, or at kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Kids or Childfree Podcast if you love what you're hearing! You can leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, or a rating on Spotify. Find us online at www.kidsorchildfree.com. Instagram: www.instagram.com/kidsorchildfree TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree

Breaking the cycle of addiction is both possible and challenging, but even just rethinking your relationship with it can be a powerful first step toward change. Offering an alternative to strict abstinence models is Kristin Dempsey, the author of The Harm Reduction Workbook for Addiction, who invites you to reconsider your approach to addiction, offering a tangible, compassionate, and science-backed method of recovery known as harm reduction.  Through reflective listening, motivational interviewing, curiosity, and "change talk," Kristin talks to Michael about just a few of these helpful strategies for reassessing your relationship with addictive substances (and even other areas of your life) and navigating change in a way that feels both supportive and sustainable.  Listen and Learn:  How harm reduction and motivational interviewing reshape substance use treatment with compassion What changes when someone explores behavior on their own with a workbook versus in live conversation? How can Kristin's workbook also reveal insights about everyday habits and hidden patterns? Why do we resist advice, even when we ask for it, and how can choice unlock real change? How “change talk” in motivational interviewing helps people move from intention to action Using reflective listening to improve your conversations and build stronger, more meaningful connections Can curiosity, not problem-solving, unlock deeper conversations and personal growth? Why you should support someone struggling with substance use by building a relationship first, not by jumping to advice Resources:  The Harm Reduction Workbook for Addiction: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648481901  Kristen's social media links: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristin-dempsey-ed-d-lpcc-lmft-322812a Bluesky: ‪@kristind-lmft-lpcc.bsky.social‬ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057356474362.  For more on Kristen's webinars and podcasts, in addition to information about her practice, see here: https://www.kristindempseycounseling.com/ Order The Harm Reduction Workbook and find free worksheets: https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648481901/the-harm-reduction-workbook-for-addiction/ Yael's newsletter on listening About Kristin Dempsey Kristin L. Dempsey, EdD, LMFT, LPCC, is a psychotherapist, counselor educator, and trainer. For thirty years, she has supported individuals with exploring their own relationships to substances. She is a member of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT) and has been privileged to provide motivational interviewing (MI) training to thousands of people in behavioral health, primary care, public health, school, corrections, and human services organizations. Related Episodes 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo 286. Not Drinking Tonight with Amanda White 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your questions, answered! In this very first episode of my new Dear Former Fence-Sitter series, I sit down with former guest — mom, therapist, and former fence-sitter, Amanda E. White — to answer questions that include... How do I decide if I don't feel strongly about having kids one way or the other? If I'm scared of pregnancy and childbirth, what advice do you have for me? I'm a step-mom and struggling to figure out if I want kids of my own — what to do? How do I navigate my relationships with my mom friends as a childfree woman? What was beneficial in preparing yourself for parenthood, and that made you realize you could do it? As mentioned in the show: Listen to my original conversation with Amanda, where she shares her personal Kids or Childfree journey, here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ir3CeSSRRLLh2PbVwQn1h Tune into my Between Friends conversation with Lauren Grant, here: www.kidsorchildfree.com/between-friends-event Find Amanda on Instagram: instagram.com/therapyforwomen Read Amanda's Fence Sitter Substack: amandaewhite.substack.com Listen to Amanda's Nuance Needed Podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/73G84FVO6k5lIAaRWhzlUi?si=39f1a6ffbd444408 Learning about Amanda's therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center: www.therapyforwomencenter.com About Amanda: Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She writes a substack called Fence Sitter. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook. She is the founder of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, and more.  To learn more visit amandaewhite.com __ Get the details and attend one of our Kids or Childfree workshops here: www.kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Check out our free resources here, or at kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Kids or Childfree Podcast if you love what you're hearing! You can leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, or a rating on Spotify. Find us online at www.kidsorchildfree.com. Instagram: www.instagram.com/kidsorchildfree TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree

We're giving you A Little More by bringing back the best moments from Season One. Today we have Amanda E. White (licensed therapist and author of Not Drinking Tonight) talking about sobriety and her system for regulating emotions. Produced by headon.agency

Mommy wine culture is often viewed as a lighthearted joke—with moms turning to wine or a mimosa to cope with stressful parenting moments. And plenty of moms can enjoy an alcoholic beverage without falling into unhealthy patterns. But alcohol use isn't always lighthearted—for some moms, there are mental health concerns that are being overlooked and coping mechanisms that aren't healthy.  This week on The Momwell Podcast, I'm joined by Amanda White, author of Not Drinking Tonight and founder of Therapy for Women Center. We discuss the drawbacks of mommy wine culture, the differences between healthy and unhealthy alcohol use, and the mental health concerns of motherhood. Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3KTEIkF Book a Free 15 min Consult with a mom therapist: momwell.com  Follow Momwell on Instagram: instagram.com/momwell  Sign up for our weekly VIP Newsletter: momwell.com/newsletter  Register for one of our popular workshops and courses: momwell.com/shop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Therapist, mother, and founder of the popular @therapyforwomen Instagram account, Amanda E. White, shares her personal experience of being on the fence about having kids — and how she arrived her her decision to become a mom.  Hear her and Keltie discuss: The complexity of the Kids or Childfree decision, and factors such as societal pressures, personal fears, relationship dynamics, and emotional readiness. Fear of regret, and how this plays into the choice to have kids or remain childfree. Exploring ambivalence and making informed, conscious choices. How social media and other online content can impact decision-making and contribute to further confusion. ...and so many more important aspects of this decision.  As mentioned in the show: Find Amanda on Instagram: instagram.com/therapyforwomen Read Amanda's Fence Sitter Substack: amandaewhite.substack.com Learning about Amanda's therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center: www.therapyforwomencenter.com About Amanda: Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She writes a substack called Fence Sitter. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook. She is the founder of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, and more.  To learn more visit amandaewhite.com —— Get the details on the summer session of my group coaching program, Confidently Childfree, here.  Check out our free resources here, or at kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Kids or Childfree Podcast if you love what you're hearing! You can leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, or a rating on Spotify. Find us online at www.kidsorchildfree.com. Instagram: www.instagram.com/kidsorchildfree TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree

In January, many people choose to refrain from alcohol, or what is known as a “dry January,” after potential excess during the holiday season. But what about those who want to refrain longer or explore their relationship with alcohol? What does it mean to be sober curious, or practice mindful drinking? How would shifting our drinking habits impact our health? We spoke to Amanda E. White, licensed professional counselor and the owner of Therapy for Women Center, author of Not Drinking Tonight, and creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen, about mindful drinking, how to practice boundaries when refraining from alcohol, and helpful tips for listeners who are sober curious to begin changing their relationship with alcohol.

Let's get curious about our drinking habits! In this episode of The Happier Life Project we are looking at the role alcohol plays in our life; as a comforter, socializing tool, way to relax, blow off steam, or avoid uncomfortable emotions.   Guest Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen Amanda also hosts the podcast “Recovered-ish” and is author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook. Not Drinking Tonight isn't a manuscript to help you stop drinking. Not Drinking Tonight is the first book to help you address the root issues that cause you to reach for a drink, while helping you unpack your relationship with alcohol.   Chatting to host Gabby Sanderson, Amanda discusses why you don't need to hit rock bottom - or label yourself an alcoholic - to review your relationship with booze and make some positive changes to your drinking habits. Amanda also chats with Gabby about some of the most common reasons people turn to the bottle, and why it often tends to be more about the ritual leading up to taking that first sip, such as popping the cork when the girls come over, or kicking back after a long day and pouring yourself a glass, or switching on the match and opening a can, that is the most satisfying part.   Amanda also touches upon the effect alcohol plays on our mental health and addresses the myth that a glass of something a day is actually good for us (spoiler alert, research has since dispelled). Gabby and Amanda talk about the pros and cons of taking part in dry (or damp) January and Amanda explains how by removing alcohol, we have the opportunity to build a life we don't want to escape from.   “Alcohol is the only drug on earth you have to justify NOT taking.” Annie Grace   Amanda is the founder of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the US. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, and more.   For all things Amanda E White visit: amandaewhite.com To follow Amanda on Instagram: @therapyforwomen To download the free My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: @mypossibleself

Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist, author of the book "Not Drinking Tonight" and the host of the podcast "Recovered-ish". The self proclaimed "retired party girl" is now 9 years sober and joins Tell Me More to discuss setting boundaries and reassessing your relationship with alcohol. You can find Amanda on instagram @therapyforwomen and her website: amandaewhite.com If you or someone you know is struggling with any topics discussed in this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14. Please see more support options below: Butterfly Foundation: ⁠⁠https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/⁠⁠ Beyond Blue: ⁠⁠https://www.beyondblue.org.au/⁠⁠ The Black Dog Institute: ⁠⁠https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/⁠⁠ Produced by Head On Agency ⁠⁠headon.agency

Most of us know that alcohol is poison, it makes us feel shitty, and rarely leads to much good. Despite knowing this, it's easy to get pressured into drinking even if you don't want to. This episode is for all my sober-curious friends, who want a fun-filled life without being dependent on alcohol (or any substance for that matter). You will learn about... - the benefits of quitting, or at least reducing, your consumption of alcohol - how to set boundaries around alcohol around friends, family, and your partner - the link between adderall and alcohol - why alcohol makes us more turned on + ideas for sober dating - how to regulate your emotions before turning to your substance of choice (whether that's drinking, smoking, or scrolling) Regardless if quitting drinking is right for you or not, you can be less dependent on substances and thus, more emotionally aware, connected, and present in your life. Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the host of the podcast, “Recovered-ish.” She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook.  She is the founder  of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, and more.  To learn more visit amandaewhite.com Follow Amanda on Instagram: @therapyforwomen Get Amanda's Not Drinking Tonight book here: https://amzn.to/400T5KM And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @therapyforwomen Mentioned In This Episode... Dan Carlin's Hardcore History Podcast: https://www.dancarlin.com/hardcore-history-series/

#166 Today's guest is Amanda E. White— a licensed therapist and founder of the Therapy for Women Center, a group therapy practice serving clients in 27 states. She is also the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen, the host of the Recovered-ish podcast, and the author of the book Not Drinking Tonight and its corresponding workbook. We discuss her past struggles with mental health and addiction and how that inspired her to become a therapist, what she wishes she knew going into college, navigating substance use in college, how to recognize when substance use is becoming a problem and getting help, how she started her popular Taylor Swift Therapy series on TikTok, what your favorite Taylor Swift songs might mean about you from a mental health perspective, and tips on how to find the right therapist for you. Amanda's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomenMENTIONED+ Amanda's TikTok+ Amanda's Website+ Recovered-ish podcast+ Recovered-ish Patreon + Not Drinking Tonight+ Switched On Pop podcastSHOP GUEST RECOMMENDATIONS: https://amzn.to/3A69GOCLET'S CONNECT+ Instagram (@shepersistedpodcast)+ Website (shepersistedpodcast.com)+ YouTube (Sadie Sutton: She Persisted Podcast)+ Twitter (@persistpodcast)+ Facebook (@shepersistedpodcast)+ TikTok (@shepersistedpodcast)+ inquiries@shepersistedpodcast.com© 2020 She Persisted LLC. This podcast is copyrighted subject matter owned by She Persisted LLC and She Persisted LLC reserves all rights in and to the podcast. Any use without She Persisted LLC's express prior written consent is prohibited.

Sober October is the perfect time to take a break from drinking so you can look and feel your best going into the holidays.  And I got some of my favorite sobriety podcasters together to talk about all things Sober October and share what helped us most in our first month alcohol-free.  Join me, Suzanne Wayre from The Sober Mom Life, Amanda E. White from Therapy For Women, author of Not Drinking Tonight and host of the Recovered-ish Podcast, and Gill Tietz from Sober Powered for the Sober October kick-off you need to jump-start an alcohol-free life.  If you're looking for a fun conversation with helpful advice and a lot of laughs this is the one for you.  We'll give you the tips and tricks you need to rock Sober October but also dive into what therapists do when they don't believe what you're saying, what happened in our early attempts to take a 30-day break from alcohol, and the embarrassing stories that probably should not be shared on a podcast. 3 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women.  My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Addiction is a frightening disorder with complex root causes, affecting a staggering one in every five people over the age of 14. To explore the intricate nature of addiction, we invited Dr. Judith Grisel, a renowned psychology professor at Bucknell University and the author of Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction, to the conversation.  What makes this conversation so powerful is not only Dr. Grisels wealth of knowledge but also her ability to explain complicated ideas in such a relatable way. And what's even more remarkable is her own history with substance abuse and how, with effective treatment and understanding, she embarked on her own thirty-plus-year road to recovery.   Combining science-based understanding with learned experience, Judith explains how addiction affects the brain, the social, psychological, and genetic factors that play a part, as well as the value of de-stigmatization, support, and early treatment. Whether you or someone you love has been impacted by addiction, her insights, and transformational story are sure to provide guidance and hope. Listen and Learn:  Judith details her own experience with substance abuse and explains what it did for her on a psychological level What is the link between genetic liability and substance use during adolescent years that makes individuals more susceptible to addiction? Why the use of drugs is not a moral weakness Can even moderate use of alcohol be detrimental to your health and well-being?  The neurological process that happens when it comes to addiction  The turning point that motivated Judith's road to recovery Why support, early treatment, and curiosity could be the keys to your recovery  Are some drugs harder to quit than others?  The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety; it's freedom What can society do to combat the underlying causes of addiction? Resources:  Learn more about Judith  Judith's book Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction - TED Talk by Judith Grisel About Judith Grisel Dr. Judith Grisel is a behavioral neuroscientist with a particular interest in addiction. Her research attempts to identify psychological and genetic factors that lead some people to develop drug addictions while others in similar circumstances do not. Grisel's work is inspired by her own personal experience with addiction, a struggle she chronicled in her book Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction. The work, which appeared on the New York Times bestseller list for science books, established Grisel as a leading expert on the science of substance abuse. That reputation earned her an invitation to speak on addiction panels at the 2020 World Economic Forum. Related Episodes: 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher  286. Not Drinking Tonight with Amanda White Episode 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery Episode 155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams      Episode 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey  Episode 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the show I'm talking with author, therapist and recovery expert Amanda E. White all about her book, Not Drinking Tonight. After reading lots of different alcohol-related books as well as psychology books, I really love this book. It's got so many valuable tools and uses science to explain the brain as well as the science of alcohol.As a therapist, Amanda is able to provide lots of insight into trauma and boundaries. Learn more about Amanda and her new podcast, "Recoverd'ish" here: https://www.amandaewhite.comCheck out Just START: Smart Thinking and Real Tools to Change Your Drinking Habits www.mollywatts.com/startBuy Breaking the Bottle Legacy: How to Change Your Drinking Habits and Create A Peaceful Relationship with Alcohol on Amazon or most online retailers. Join my private FB group Alcohol Minimalists here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/changeyouralcoholhabitHas this podcast helped you? Please leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts! Follow me on Instagram: @AlcoholMinimalist Have you grabbed your free e-book, "Alcohol Truths: How Much is Safe?" Get it here.Low risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work.If you' are unsure about whether or not you have alcohol use disorder, please visit the NIAAA for more information. ★ Support this podcast ★

CW: ED, addiction. This week, the Good Girls are joined by licensed therapist Amanda E. White! She is the founder of the Therapy for Women Center, host of the Recovered-Ish podcast, and author of Not Drinking Tonight. We have an informative and fun conversation about being friends with your teachers, Amanda's sobriety journey, and social media therapy buzzwords. Then we play "Sad Talk!" Check out Therapy For Women Center here. If you love this podcast, please consider contributing to our Spotify Listener Support page! You can contribute anything you'd like! Special thanks to DJ Skip to my Luke for our fabulous intro! And a HUGE thank you to the designer of our brand new logo and look, Emery Bergmann! Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and we will mail you a GGGS sticker! Just screenshot the review, send us a DM and an address where you would like the sticker sent! ⁠⁠ BUY SOME MERCH⁠ (shipping is always free!)⁠ Follow Amanda @⁠therapyforwomen⁠ Follow the Good Girls on: Instagram @⁠goodgirlsgonesad⁠ And TikTok @⁠⁠goodgirlsgonesad⁠⁠  And Twitter @⁠⁠goodgrlsgonesad⁠⁠  Follow Becca @⁠⁠thebeccastephenson⁠⁠  Follow Syd @⁠s⁠yd.the.king --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/good-girls-gone-sad/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/good-girls-gone-sad/support

Meg of @youdonthavetodrink joins me today for an important chat about the cross-section between disordered eating and disordered drinking. Meg shares how these intertwined throughout her teens and twenties, and offers insights on how you can begin your journey to heal from both - and not just one at the expense of the other. Content warning - we speak at length about disordered eating in this episode. For more about Meg, visit her at @youdonthavetodrink on Instagram! Resources: “Not Drinking Tonight” by Amanda E. White (Affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3WWqrIb@ProjectHEAL@AllianceforED@RecoverwithMeda@Find.Food.Freedom@No.Food.Rules@Therapyforwomen@DrBrookeSchellerPlease consider supporting The Sober Mom Life podcast by becoming a patron on Patreon! Learn more here: http://patreon.com/user?u=84021397Join The Sober Mom Life FB group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1542852942745657We have merch!!!!  Check it out here!Click here to follow The Sober Mom Life on InstagramLove this show? Let me know by rating and reviewing the show on Apple Podcasts! Check out our sister podcast, Brand New Information!

In this week's episode, Merritt discusses New York Magazine's recent viral article, Do You Know How To Behave?, which lists 140 guidelines for how to text, tip, ghost, host, and generally exist in polite society. In addition to highlighting her favorites from the list, Merritt shares a few rules she'd add + some listener submissions too! Whether or not you agree with the article and the list, it's certainly opened up an interesting dialogue and somewhat of a public debate of what's necessary when it comes to interacting with others today. At the top of the episode, Merritt shares a bunch of new recs & review, including a book for those who are sober curious and a recent podcast episode and series that has captured her attention! THANKS TO THIS WEEK'S SPONSORS, JENNI KAYNE AND ATHLETIC GREENS! Jenni Kayne - Enjoy 15% off your order at jennikayne.com/beckandcall with promo code BECKANDCALL! Athletic Greens - Enjoy a free one year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D and five free travel packs with your purchase of AG1 by visiting athleticgreens.com/beckandcall! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dive, La Duni, Spring 2023 Capsule Wardrobe, Harlem (Amazon Prime), The Rig (Amazon Prime), Shrinking (Apple TV), Locke & Key (Netflix), Not Drinking Tonight by Amanda E. White, Armchair Expert interview with Scott Galloway (the crisis facing boys and men), Armchair Expert's Armchair Anonymous episodes, NY Mag Article - Do You Know How To Behave?

Alcohol is a pervasive part of many of our lives, but have you ever questioned your relationship with alcohol? Taking an honest look at the way we use alcohol can be a powerful tool in identifying our motivations behind drinking, allowing us to make more conscious decisions and better manage our consumption.  Therapist, Author, and Founder of Therapy for Women, Amanda E. White is determined to challenge the traditional “black-and-white” outlook on “alcoholism” by encouraging people to unlock a deeper understanding of their relationship with alcohol.  Exploring practices from Amanda's books Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol, we examine how to identify the purpose alcohol serves in your life and how to use this knowledge to recognize patterns of unhealthy behavior, develop boundaries and create a healthier lifestyle.  Listen and Learn:  Amanda's own journey with alcohol  Why people don't have the language to explore their relationship with alcohol Why Amanda's books are geared toward people who don't necessarily meet the criteria for an alcohol use disorder Why the black-and-white mentality of alcohol is problematic What makes us feel obligated to give the right reason for not drinking alcohol How therapists can examine the issue of alcohol use with their own patients Why do emotional relationships with alcohol make it increasingly harder to cut ties  Why Amanda coined the term ‘disordered drinking' How mindfulness practices can be helpful for people who want to change their drinking habits The importance of self-care in cutting down or quitting drinking  What to do if we think a loved one's relationship with alcohol is problematic, but they don't agree or they don't see it Resources:  Learn more about Amanda and her work here: https://amandaewhite.com/ If you are looking for modern approaches to therapy, visit Therapy for Women: https://therapyforwomencenter.com/  You can buy both of Amanda's books here: Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306925856 and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781683735519 Follow Amanda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/ About Amanda E. White  Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love,” and the corresponding workbook by the same title. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in substance use disorders. People are drawn to Amanda's unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Self, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, and more.   Related Episodes: 27. Alcohol and the Brain with Lara Ray 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher 243. Motivation to Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today author and therapist Amanda E. White joins me on the pod! Amanda is the author of the must-read book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love”, and she is a fountain of knowledge on how to navigate your sober lifestyle. Tune in for a wide ranging chat on the hell that is moderation, the fallacy of the ‘normal' drinker, and the people that AA leaves behind. Plus, get Amanda's great tips for how to navigate your relationship if your partner is still drinking. Get your copy of “Not Drinking Tonight” here! (Affiliate links) https://amzn.to/3WWqrIbAlso, check out the fantastic “Not Drinking Tonight” workbook:  https://amzn.to/3jYDN84Connect with Amanda on Instagram at @therapyforwomen. We now have a Patreon! Please consider supporting the show by becoming a patron. Learn more here: http://patreon.com/user?u=84021397Join The Sober Mom Life FB group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1542852942745657 We have merch!!!!  Check it out here! Click here to follow My Kind of Sweet on InstagramCheck out our sister podcast, Brand New Information!

Welcome back to Enneagram IRL, the weekly podcast where we go beyond Enneagram theory and dive into practical understanding, new clarity, and fresh insight. We're talking about how each type is in REAL LIFE so you can remember – you're more than just a number.We meet with Amanda E. White, a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love," and the workbook version which will be coming out in January 2023. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country.  She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Self and more.We discuss performance and perfectionism, as well as explore the topic of Alcohol & more. This episode is great for those who are curious if their relationship with alcohol is serving them in their daily lives. What a great conversation with my fellow Enneagram Three!Buy Amanda's book, Not Drinking Tonight & Pre-order the Not Drinking Tonight WorkbookFollow Leslie on Instagram & Tik Tok:  @therapyforwomen Or connect with her online: www.amandaewhite.com www.therapyforwomencenter.comHere are the key takeaways:Amanda's journey of finding her Enneagram type as a ThreeDiscussing how Amanda uses the Enneagram with her therapy clientsThe relationship between alcohol and anxiety and the science behind itThe importance of forming a conversation around Alcohol and overall health Shame & Self-compassionAmanda talks about trauma and how individuals experience itHow can you connect and work with AmandaResources mentioned in this episode:Naked Mind Podcast with Annie GraceThe Naked Mind book by Annie GraceSober Curious Podcast with Ruby WarringtonAndrew Huberman on AlcoholWant to keep the conversation going? Join me on Instagram @ninetypesco to keep learning and chatting about how our types show up in REAL LIFE! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/?hl=enLearn more about subtypes! Download my free subtypes guide here.Want to stay up to date with all things Nine Types Co? Join my email-list and receive Enneagram reflections, thoughts about growth and personal development. Plus, you'll get priority access to new offers and courses! Sign up here.Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guide

Welcome to episode #30 of the PFWC Podcast! This week I had the opportunity to sit down with Amanda White, LPC - specializing in alcohol abuse and eating disorders, founder of the Therapy for Women Center, and author of Not Drinking Tonight. Amanda shared her experience with eating disorders and substance abuse and how she got to where she is today. I learned so much during this episode and i'm so thankful Amanda took the time to share her knowledge with us. I never realized that the link between alcohol abuse and eating disorders was so prevalent but it makes so much sense. Amanda shared some of the most common links and specific behaviors to lookout for that could be considered what Amanda labels “disordered drinking.” If you are interestd in learning more about what Amanda is doing or joining her amazing community, you can find her on Instagram and Tiktok as well as her website. You can also purchase her self-help book Not Drinking Tonight here. If this episode resonates with you, please leave a rating + review! Also, feel free to share today's episode or any other episode with friends and family. Your support means the world to me.  Stay up to date on all things @thepfwcpodcast on Instagram and feel free to follow my personal account - @paradisefitnesswithcarly 

Download my new and improved brain detox app here: https://neurocycle.app SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I speak with therapist Amanda White about why some people choose not to drink, her new book Not Drinking Tonight, how to heal your relationship with alcohol, getting to the root issues behind why you drink, and how to build a beautiful, sober life. Sign up to Patreon to get access to the full video and audio recording add-free, exclusive downloads, live Q&As, and more: https://www.patreon.com/drcarolineleaf Read the show blog here: https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/amanda-white Get Amanda's book here: https://amandaewhite.com/book OFFERS FROM OUR SPONSORS: -BiOptimizer's Magnesium: For an exclusive offer for my listeners go to http://www.magbreakthrough.com/leaf and use DRLEAF10 during checkout to save 10% on your order. -Athletic Greens: All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/leaf to take ownership over your health and pick up the ultimate daily nutritional insurance! -Kion: You can now save 20% on monthly deliveries and 10% on one-time purchases. Just go to getkion.com/DRLEAF. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 3:30, 4:40, 49:30 Quitting the binary addiction model 4:15 Everyone, not just people addicted to drinking, can examine their relationship to alcohol 8:00 Alcohol abuse is about more than addiction 13:40 The toxic messages about alcohol use in our society 15:00 Boundaries are not selfish—they are an important part of mental self-care 16:15 Having a drink to fall asleep: how can it backfire? 20:43 You can recover from alcohol misuse! 21:30 Amanda's own struggles with drinking & how she found healing 31:40 There are different ways to deal with alcohol misuse 32:33 Tools to find healing & change your relationship with alcohol 35:30 The importance of mental self-care & mindfulness: taking care of the future self 42:50 Why we need to re-think addiction 46:47 Why we need to move beyond awareness & feelings to find healing ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: -Get my new book Cleaning up Your Mental Mess here: https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com -Get a free Cleaning up Your Mental Mess workbook when you subscribe to my weekly email at drleaf.com! - Visit my website at https://drleaf.com for more free resources -Instagram: @drcarolineleaf: https://www.instagram.com/drcarolineleaf/- -Facebook: Dr. Caroline Leaf: https://www.facebook.com/drleaf -Twitter: @drcarolineleaf: https://twitter.com/DrCarolineLeaf -Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/drcarolineleaf *DISCLAIMER: This podcast and blog are for educational purposes only and are not intended as medical advice. We always encourage each person to make the decision that seems best for their situation with the guidance of a medical professional.

On today's episode, I sit down with Amanda White, a licensed therapist and the author of Not Drinking Tonight. We discuss - why she got sober, social anxiety when drinking, what to say on a date if you're not drinking, our relationships with alcohol, alternative date ideas without alcohol, how to be sober at your wedding, times we were f***ed up and regret it, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss feeling lost in your late 20s, boosting confidence when you have acne, making new friends later on, and how to nudge towards a second date.   Sponsors: Dipseastories.com/acme for an extended 30 day free trial Starface.world code ACME15 for 15% off Gldn.com code ACME for 15% off Liquidiv.com code ACME for 25% off Ritual.com/acme for 10% off your first 3 months   Produced by Dear Media.

When it comes to creating positive sobriety, all of us can use a little coaching.  In this episode, Nate and David talk with Amanda White, author "Not Drinking Tonight: a Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love."

If you've listened to earlier episodes of the Be Well Cartel, you'll know that in our former lives, Holly, Gillian, and Olivia all partied *hard*, and had some pretty unhealthy relationships with alcohol. These days, our interactions with alcohol look pretty different. Today, we're going to take you through the basic facts of alcohol and what is does in your body, and then dive into our own journeys. Here's what we cover: > Cultural and geographical environments and relationships with alcohol > What does alcohol do in your body? > How do the calories in alcohol work? > What is the effect of alcohol on sleep? > Our personal stories with alcohol - from binge drinking, to sober living, to navigating the in-between > What would our advice be for people getting started with working on their relationship with alcohol? **Please note that if you feel you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol to the extent that it is affecting your life or causing significant distress, this podcast is not designed to help; this should be dealt with by a specialized therapist or support organization such as AA https://www.aa.org/ ** Shownotes: > @therapyforwomen Not Drinking Tonight book - https://www.amazon.com/Not-Drinking-Tonight-Guide-Creating/dp/0306925850 > BWC Sleep episodes: Part 1 https://open.spotify.com/episode/5iljhjyrxYqWisU6wGFhcE?si=28481ba5b1a540a6 Part 2 https://open.spotify.com/episode/7yI397IyCHpgGZPq9kufJg?si=0a9ac5def1ae4cb5 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/be-well-cartel/message

Join Mike & Glenn in the Sober Coffee shop as we have a table for 3 with Amanda E. White !! We explore Amanda's story of Experience, Strength & Hope along with the “Value of Therapy” in Sobriety…. AND, we explore her book (guidebook) “Not Drinking Tonight”. A strong episode exploring solutions !!

Today I'm sharing my conversation with Amanda E. White, the therapist you know and love from the IG account @therapyforwomen. She's the author of Not Drinking Tonight, a judgement-free and relatable book that helps you explore your relationship with alcohol.  By the time you're done listening to this conversation, you'll understand: What the sober-curious movement is all about Signs that a friend's drinking may have gone too far Two things that may instantly change in your friendships if you decide to live an alcohol-free life If you're ready to learn how to build friendships that are actually satisfying, visit us at Betterfemalefriendships.com/membership -Follow FRIENDSHIP COACH DANIELLE BAYARD JACKSON -Follow FRIEND FORWARD

Boob Sweat is BACK! And this season is all about you. Our favorite episodes include our listeners, so this season is all about bringing on experts to talk about topics you requested. This week, we brought back clinical psychologist and leading friendship expert Miriam Kirmayer to help answer your friendship questions submitted via Instagram, email, and our hotline! (The information and guidance discussed on the ep is not a replacement for individual therapy or care!) You can find Miriam at @miriamkirmayer, miriamkirmayer.com, and her Coping & Connection Toolkit. You can follow Katie at @katiesturino and @megabababe That's it for this season of Boob Sweat. Have any questions or comments? Email us at boobsweatproductions@gmail.com or leave us a voicemail at 201-701-1575. — Miriam's resources relevant to our discussion: Not Drinking Tonight by Amanda E. White, LPC How to Help An Addict: Resources and Treatment Psychologytoday.com's directory is a helpful resource for connecting with a Therapist. It allows you to search by location and expertise. Many AL-Anon groups will have support groups for caregivers Anyone in crisis should contact The National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 — For a limited time, Boob Sweat listeners can use code BOOBSWEAT15 at checkout for 15% off your order at megababebeauty.com! — This podcast was produced by Wonder Wheel Media and by Madison Higley

RJ Zimmerman is joined by Amanda White, LPC, author of Not Drinking Tonight a Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love. She describes her path to sobriety, how people can make the first steps after they come to terms that a change needs to be made, and how we can be kinder to ourselves! Find Amanda on Instagram @TherapyForWomen and on her website www.AmandaEWhite.com. Find and reach out to Montee on Twitter @MonteeBall28 and everywhere else as @MonteeBall Find RJ on Twitter and everywhere as @itzTR1CKSTER reach out if you need to talk. @UntappedKeg anywhere and untappedkeg@gmail.com Please subscribe, share, and leave us a review! Visit soberathleticwear.com for a great selection of merchandise and help remove the stigma around sobriety! Visit TheOUAI.com and use offer code BLEAV for 15% off your purchase.   Need Help? Call Foundations Recovery Networks confidential and private line at: 877-714-1318 Nationwide Residential & Outpatient Facilities National Suicide Prevention Hotline 800-273-8255 Games and Online Harrassment Hotline Just text "SUPPORT" to 23368 https://gameshotline.org

Janet was right. It's all about CONTROL. Amanda White has some wise, and life-earned, things to say about the illusion of control. If we're honest, our desire for control is inseparable from all of our motivations, and can lead us to extreme places. Amanda is a therapist, a woman in recovery from both disordered eating and alcohol, and she's the author of NOT DRINKING TONIGHT, a terrific book that is a huge contribution in the sobriety space because it bridges the gap between memoir and clinical programming. Amanda breaks down important and often misunderstood topics like self-care, boundaries, reparenting, and trauma, as well as diving deep into WHY we drink. Whether or not alcohol is a thing for you is pretty much irrelevant to this conversation, because almost anyone can relate to issues of control: over our surroundings, other people, and especially our feelings. Show notes: Not Drinking Tonight: https://amandaewhite.com/book Episode link: https://tmstpod.com/episodes/33-amanda-white-our-desire-for-control Spotify playlist for this episode: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1VgaPAppho7DouFQd8CcEz Tell Me Something True is a 100% independent podcast. There are no corporations or advertisers backing this community. We are 100% funded by the TMST community. Support TMST today so you can hear the uncut interviews, attend private events with Laura and help keep TMST ad-free: https://tmst.supercast.com/

SUMMARY: Today we have Amanda White, an amazing therapist who treats anxiety, eating disorders and substance use. Amanda is coming onto the podcast today to talk about her book, Not Drinking Tonight and how we can all have a healthy relationship with alcohol. Amanda White talks about ways you can address your relationship with alcohol, in addition to drugs, social media and other vices. Amanda White also shares her own experience with alcohol use and abuse and her lived-experience with sobriety. In This Episode: Do you have a healthy relationship with alcohol Why we use alcohol and substances to manage anxiety and other strong emotions How to build a healthy relationship with alcohol. How to manage substance abuse, anxiety and substance use in recovery. Tools and tips to manage alcohol use and abuse Links To Things I Talk About: Easiest place to get Amanda's book with all links amandaewhite.com/book Instagram @therapyforwomen My therapy practice therapyforwomencenter.com ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). Episode Transcription This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 219. Welcome back, everybody. I am thrilled to have you here with me today. You may notice that the podcast looks a little different. That is on purpose. We have decided to update the cover of the podcast. It now has my face on it. There were a lot of people who had reached out and said that the old podcast cover art looked like a gardening podcast. And I thought it was probably time I updated it. So, that was something that I had created years and years and years ago. And I'm so thrilled to have now a very beautiful new cover art. Okay. This episode is so, so important. I cannot stress to you how overjoyed I was to have the amazing Amanda White on the podcast. She's a psychotherapist. She's on Instagram, under the handle Therapy For Women. She's so empowering. And she talks a lot about your relationship with substance use, particularly alcohol. But in this episode, we talk about many substances. And this is a conversation I feel we need to have more of because there are a lot of people who are trying to manage their anxiety and they end up using alcohol to cope. Now, this is a complete shame-free episode. In fact, one of the things I love about Amanda is she really does not subscribe to having to do a 100% sobriety method. She really talks about how you can create a relationship with alcohol based on whatever you think is right. And she has a new book out, which I am so excited that she's going to share with you all about. Before we get into the episode, I'd first like to do the review of the week. Here we go. We have this one from Epic 5000 Cloud 9, and they said: “This podcast has absolutely changed my life and made my recovery journey feel possible. After completing ERP, I felt lost and confused as to why I did not feel ‘better'. Kimberley has given me so many tools to build my self-compassion, grow my mindfulness skills, manage OCD, and do all the hard things.” So amazing. I'm so grateful to have you in our community. Epic 5000 Cloud 9. So happy to have you be a part of our little wonderful group of badass human beings. I love it. Let's go right over to the show and so you can learn all about Amanda and this beautiful, beautiful conversation. Have a wonderful day, everybody. Kimberley: Okay. Well, thank you, Amanda, for being here. I'm actually so grateful for you because you've actually brought to my attention a topic I've never talked about. And so, I'm so happy to have you here. Welcome. Amanda: Thank you so much for having me, Kimberley. I'm excited to chat with you. Kimberley: Okay. So, tell me a little bit about you first. Like, who are you? What do you do? What's your mission? Amanda: Yeah. So, my name is Amanda White. I am a licensed therapist. You might know me on Instagram from Therapy For Women as my handle. I'm also sober and I'm really on a mission to destigmatize sobriety and destigmatize the idea that you can question your relationship with alcohol. And it's really why my Instagram page and everything I do isn't sober only focused because I want it to be something where people who maybe aren't necessarily sober or haven't thought about it can, in a safe unstigmatized, unpressured way, also explore their relationship with alcohol. And that is what led me to write a book. And my book is called Not Drink Tonight. Kimberley: So good. So, I already have so many questions. Why wouldn't one question their relationship with alcohol? Because what I will bring here is a little culture. I'm Australian. Amanda: Yeah. I was going to say. Kimberley: I live in America. The culture around drinking is much different. I have some great friends in England, the culture there is much different. So, do you want to share a little bit about why one wouldn't maybe question their relationship with drinking? Amanda: Absolutely. I think I can only speak for America specifically, but I know enough people in England and Australia, too, that there is a culture of drinking is good, drinking is normal. We watch our parents or adults drink when we're young. We think that's what makes us an adult. If you look at the media, you look at movies, TV shows, it's what everyone does when they're stressed. Women pour themselves a glass of wine. Men pour themselves a bourbon. So, I think that we're just raised in the society that doesn't ever question their drinking, because alcohol use is so black and white, where you either are normal and you should drink alcohol and it's what's expected, or you're an alcoholic and you should never drink alcohol. And there isn't a lot of space in between. So, if someone questions their alcohol use, people assume that they're an alcoholic. Kimberley: And so, now let me ask, why would we question our relationship? What was that process like for you? Why would we want to do that? Some people haven't, I think, even considered it. So, can you share a little bit about why we might want to? Amanda: Absolutely. I think it isn't talked about enough of how much alcohol really negatively impacts your mental health. For a while, I know doctors used to talk about there are some heart-healthy benefits of alcohol, which new studies say is not true. There really aren't any benefits to drinking alcohol in terms of our health. But really, I think especially anxiety and alcohol are so intertwined and people don't talk about it and don't think about it. And what I want people to know is when you drink alcohol, it's a depressant and your brain produces chemicals because your brain always wants to be in homeostasis. So, your brain produces anxiety chemicals, like cortisol and stuff like that, to try to rebalance into homeostasis. And after alcohol leaves your body, those anxiety hormones are still in there and it creates the phenomenon where you end up being more anxious after you drink. There's other mental health effects too. But I feel like, especially on this podcast, it's so important that people realize how intertwined alcohol and anxiety is. Kimberley: Right. You know what's interesting is I do a pretty good amount of assessment with my patients. But really often, I will have seen them for many months before-- and even though I thought I've assessed them for substance use and not even abuse, they will then say and realize like, “I think I'm actually using alcohol more than I thought to manage my anxiety.” And I'm always really shocked because I'm like, “I swore I assessed you for this.” But I think it takes some people time during recovery to start to say like, “Wow, I think there is an unhealthy relationship going here.” Is that the case from what you see or is that more my population? Amanda: No. Absolutely. Because I think it's easy to lie to yourself. Maybe not even lie, just like not look at it because again, it's so normalized because we have an idea in our head of what someone with a problem with alcohol looks like. We don't consider ourselves to have that problem. But just because we aren't drinking every day or we're not blacking out or something like that doesn't mean that we might not be using it to numb, to cope with anxiety, to deal with stress. Kimberley: Right. You know what's funny is I-- this could be my personal or maybe it is a cultural thing because I always want to catch whether it's an Australian thing or a Kimberley thing, is I remember-- I think hearing, but maybe I misinterpreted as a young child that you're only an alcoholic if you get aggressive when you drink, and that if you're a happy drunk, you're not a drunk. You know what I mean? And that it's not a bad thing. If it makes you happy and it takes the stress away, that's actually a good coping. So, I remember learning as a teen of like, oh, you get to question what is an alcoholic and what's substance abuse and what's not. So, how would you define substance use versus substance abuse? Or do you even use that language? Amanda: I mean, yes and no. I use it in terms of it exists, and it is part of the DSM. So, it is in terms of, I do diagnose when needed and things like that. A lot of times though, I think the current narrative and I think people spend so much time trying to figure out if it's use or misuse, that they miss out on the most important question, which to me is, is alcohol making my life better. Kimberley: Yeah. Amanda: And if it's not, if it's right-- I have exercises in my book and I talk a lot about like, what are the costs of your drinking, and what are the payoffs? And if it's costing you a lot or it's costing you more than it's bringing to your life, I think that is where you should question it. And I think your life can change. You can go through different things in your life and maybe that's when you can ebb and flow with your questioning of it, especially people get so obsessed with the idea of whether they're an alcoholic or not. And the term ‘alcoholic' is completely outdated. It's not even a diagnosis anymore. It's now a spectrum. So, to me, that word is just so outdated and unhelpful to think about really. Kimberley: Right. And even the word ‘abuse' has a stigma to it too, doesn't it? Amanda: Right. In the DSM, it's alcohol use disorder and it's mild, moderate and severe. But it's wild thinking back. I mean, I was in grad school. Oh my gosh, I'm going to date. I don't even know how long ago, 10 years ago. Kimberley: Don't tell them. Amanda: A certain amount of time ago, I just remember being in ‘addictions class' as it was called and we were talking about what is the difference between use and abuse and what makes someone an alcoholic. And I think people also get very attached to being dependent. It means it's abuse. And it takes a lot to become dependent on alcohol physically. So, we're just missing out on so many people. I say often, we can question so many things in our life. I'm sure you do too with your clients. I question how their sleep habits interact with their mental health. We talk about how getting outside impacts their mental health, all these different factors. But for some reason with alcohol, which is a drug, we don't question it or we are not allowed to. Kimberley: Right. Yes. I will address this for the listeners, is I think with my clients, one of the most profound road, like if we come to the edge of the road and we have to decide which direction, the thing that really gets in the way is if I put a name to it, then I have to stop. And that can be, a lot of times, they won't even want to bring it up – be in fear of saying, well, like you were saying before, is that meaning now-- as soon as I admit to having a problem, does that mean I'm in AA? Is it black and white? I think that there's so much fear around what it means once we really define whether it's helpful or problematic. That can be a scary step. What are your thoughts? Amanda: Yeah, I completely agree. And that's why I really believe in looking at it as a spectrum, especially I think about disordered eating, right? It's like, we know that based on studies, if someone engages in disordered eating, they're more likely to develop an eating disorder. So, in my book, I coined this term ‘disorder drinking' and how I really think we need that term where people can-- it makes the barrier to question your relationship with alcohol much lower, where I find in my practice because I work with a lot of people with eating disorders. People are very open about saying, “Yeah, I'm maybe engaging in some unhealthy, disordered eating. I don't know.” But there's a whole step there before maybe you recognize that you have an eating disorder, where I really think that that is what we need with alcohol. We need to be able to talk about how, like, yeah, most of us in college engage in disordered drinking. It's not super healthy, the way that we drink. Or we may go through a period of time in our life because we're super stressed or something's going on, where we engage in that. And that doesn't mean that you have, for sure, a substance use disorder or you're addicted or you have to never drink again. But I think it's important to recognize when we start to fall into that so we can change that pattern. Kimberley: Right. Particularly with COVID. I mean, alcohol consumption is, I think, doubled or something like that in some country. And I think too, I mean, when we're struggling with COVID that we have less access to good tools and less access to social. So, people are relying on substances and so forth. Yeah. So, what is this solution? There you go. Tell me all your answers. What is their options? How might somebody move into this conversation with themselves or with their partner or with their therapist? What are the steps from here, do you think? Amanda: Yeah. So, I think that the first step is to try to take a break. I think 30 days is a good starting point. A lot of times, if people just start off by cutting back, they don't really get any of the positive feel-good benefits of taking a break, which is why I recommend starting with taking a break first. Obviously, I believe in harm reduction. And if you are in a place where you can't take a break, moderation is definitely a good tool and better than nothing. Kimberley: Can you tell what harm reduction, for those who don't know what that means? Amanda: Yeah. So, harm reduction is the idea that rather than focusing on completely eliminating a behavior or especially completely eliminating a substance is we think about cutting back on that. And I think about specifically, if someone is in an abusive situation, if someone has a lot of trauma going on and alcohol is the one thing that's keeping them afloat, that to me is like, of course, I'm not going to say you must quit cold turkey or something like that. And even if you're talking about, alcohol is very dangerous to physically detox from if you are drinking every day, which a lot of people don't know. In those cases, yeah, it's really important to get support and detox in a safe environment. Kimberley: Right. Okay. So, sorry I cut you off. Take a break-- Amanda: No, it's okay. Yeah. So, that's what harm reduction is. But yeah, in general, I recommend starting with taking a 30-day break, seeing how that goes, see how your health improves, see how your anxiety might be reduced and improved. And really to me, the goal is to learn how to live your life without being dependent on alcohol. Because if we can't process our emotions, set boundaries, socialize, go on dates, whatever, without the help of alcohol, we never really have freedom of choice over drinking or not drinking because we need it on some level. So, my whole goal is for people to learn how to do some of those skills so that they don't have to rely on alcohol, and then they can use alcohol in a healthier way for celebrating or in a way that positively impacts their life and they don't use it as a crutch. Kimberley: So, that's so helpful. I'm pretty well-versed in this, but I wouldn't say I'm a specialist. So, I'm really curious. So, if somebody is using alcohol or any other substance to manage their anxiety, would you teach them skills before they take the break so that they have the skills for the break or would you just start to take the break and then pick up what gets lost there? What might be some steps and what skills may you teach them? Amanda: I think it's a bit of both. I think if you only teach skills before, someone might never take the break, which is fine. But I think if you are only teaching the skills, a lot of times, the skills, I think that's really good to start before you take the breaks. You can learn how to start dealing with your emotions maybe without drinking, for example. But some of the other stuff like going to a party, without drinking is something where if you don't actually take that step, it's probably unlikely that you're ever going to do it until you've pushed yourself to take that break. But in general, yeah. I mean, I think one of the most important ones is learning how to cope with your emotions. People use alcohol all the time, especially alcohol becomes a way to deal with loneliness, to deal with stress, to deal with sadness. And I think-- Kimberley: Social anxiety is a big one. Amanda: Social anxiety. Absolutely. And I think a lot of us literally don't know how to process an emotion, say no, set that boundary, take care of themselves on a basic level without drinking. So, those are some of the skills I think are really important to learn. Kimberley: I mean, yeah. And for a lot of the folks that I see because their anxiety is so high, would you say they're using it to top off that anxiety to try and reduce it? In the case where if you're not drinking, you're having high states of anxiety. Is there any shifts that you would have them go through besides general anxiety management? Amanda: I think the example I'm thinking of is maybe social anxiety. If there's a specific instance, right? I know you talk about this a lot on Instagram, like exposures can really, really help with reducing anxiety. And I think there are steps that you can take that are small if you have a lot of social anxiety about going to a party and not drinking, for example, and you're relying on alcohol to deal with going to a party. I mean, some of the things off the top of my head I can think about are like driving to the place where the party is before it happens, talking to someone who is going to be at the party – taking these small steps to desensitize yourself to it so you can build up your tolerance before you go. Or maybe you go, if this is the first year and you only stay for a short period of time, rather than going from nothing to expecting yourself to go and have fun and stay at the whole party the whole time. Kimberley: Right. What was your experience, if you don't mind sharing? What were those 30 days like, or can you share it, put us in your shoes for a little bit? Amanda: Yeah, absolutely. So, I struggled a lot with an eating disorder and I kept relapsing in my eating disorder when I would drink. And I had said to my therapist at the time, “I think that I might have a problem with alcohol. I don't know.” And she recommended me do those 30 days. And it was really hard for me. I didn't actually make it to the first 30 days when I originally tried because I was so afraid of the pushback of friends, of people asking me why, of not being able to be fun. A huge part of my identity at that time was all wrapped up in what people thought of me and going out and being the fun, crazy one. Kimberley: Yeah. And it's interesting how the different experience, because I too had an eating disorder. But my eating disorder wouldn't let me drink. Amanda: Yeah. Kimberley: That would be letting go of control, and what if I binge, and what if I ingest too many calories? So, it's funny how different disorders play out in different ways. It was actually an exposure for me to drink. What we quote, I think I'd heard so many times “empty calories” or something. So, that was a different exposure for me of that. But I can totally see how other people, of course again, it does-- I mean, I think that this is interesting in your book, you talk about the pros and the cons. It does make it easier to be in public. It does “work” in some settings until it doesn't. Amanda: Exactly. And I think that's so important to normalize and it's part of why I wrote my book because there aren't many books that are, you'll get this as a therapist. I can think of many different situations where, like you said, I wouldn't tell a client, “You should absolutely stop drinking,” because everything is unique. So, I really wanted to write a book that took into account different things and really led the reader through their own journey where they get to discover it for themselves because while there's amazing books out that I love, there aren't a ton that talk about this gray area, drinking, this middle lane, this truth that a lot of times you can feel lonely when you don't drink because you're left out of certain things. And that can cause more anxiety. So, we have to navigate all of that. Kimberley: Yeah. It's interesting too, and I don't know if I'm getting this research correct. And maybe I'm not, but I'll just talk from an experiential point. It's similar with cigarettes, I think. There is something calming about holding the wine glass. Even if it's got lemonade in it, for me, there's something celebratory about that. And so, the reason I bring that up is, is that a part of the options for people? Is to explore the areas? It's funny, I remember my husband many years ago that we talk about cigarettes, because he works in the film industry, and he would say, “The people who smoke cigarettes are the ones who actually get a break because they have to leave set and they get to go outside and sit on something and breathe and have a moment to themselves. If you don't smoke, you're lazy if you take a break.” And so, is that a part of it for you in terms of identifying the benefits and bringing that into your life? Like, I still now drink sparkling cider or something, an alcoholic in old champagne glass. My kids are always joking about it. Is that a part of the process? Amanda: Absolutely. And that's something that I completely agree with you. I think sometimes we don't even want an alcoholic beverage. We want a moment. We want a break. We want a feeling different or celebratory, which is why we take out the wine glass that isn't a regular glass, something like that. And that is why I really believe, I mean, it depends on the person. And sometimes if someone has more severe drinking a non-alcoholic beverage initially could be something that's triggering for them. But I am a big believer too. And yeah, put it in a fancy glass. If you enjoy a mocktail, drink something different than water, you can explore different options. And I think some people are really surprised at how much it's not actually about the drink sometimes, it's the ritual of making a drink or the ritual of using that special glass, or the ritual of drinking something that isn't water. Kimberley: Right. Yes. Or even just the ritual of the day ending. I always remember, my parents would be five o'clock, right? And at five o'clock they would have the-- this is a big family tradition, is at five o'clock, you'd bring out the cheese and the crackers and the grapes and the wine. And it was the end of the day. And so, I could imagine, if someone said, “We're going to take that away,” you'd be like, “No, that's how I know the day is over. That's how I move from one thing to the other.” And sometimes we do think black and white. It means you have to take the whole cheese platter away as well, right? Amanda: Absolutely. We can get almost in our heads of maybe we think we're more dependent on that cheese platter or the wine or whatever, without realizing that what we really like about it is the ritual. Kimberley: Yeah. So, you can share it or not, how does your life look now? And for your clients, give me maybe some context of what do people arrive at once they've been through this process and how might it be different for different people. Amanda: Totally. So, I'm completely sober. I don't drink alcohol. I've been sober for seven years. And in terms of how the process looks for me, I drink mocktails. I drink out of wine glasses sometimes. I love going to a bar and seeing sometimes if there's an alcohol-free option on a menu, I think that's really fun. And for me initially, when I was thinking about this and working on it, like I said, it was very tied to my eating disorder. But the biggest thing for me is I used to think, well, I can't totally stop drinking because that's black and white, and that's not freedom. Freedom is being able to decide. And I think what is different and unique compared to an eating disorder, for example, is that alcohol is addictive, right? Unlike food, it is an addictive substance that we can live without. And for me, I used to, or for me, I don't have to think about it if I don't drink. When I was trying to moderate, it was a lot of decision fatigue. It's like, “What am I going to drink? How much am I going to drink? When will I stop? Am I going to drink too much?” It was all of these decisions. And freedom for me now actually is just not drinking and not thinking about if I'm going to drink or not. So what my life looks like now is I'm sober, I've been sober for seven years. I enjoy going out to restaurants and getting alcohol-free drinks and things like that. And I used to be really worried that that was too reductive, that I was too black and white if I just said I wanted to be sober. But the truth is unlike food, alcohol is an addictive substance. When you have one alcoholic beverage, it does create a thirst for itself for most of us. So, for me, the freedom is actually not worrying about whether I'm going to drink or not. It's so exhausting for some people, myself included, to be constantly thinking about how much you're going to drink, if you're going to drink, when you're going to drink, what you're going to drink. And now, the real freedom for me is I don't drink. I don't think about it. And that's the freedom because-- sorry, I just got caught up in what I was saying. Kimberley: No, I think that that is so beautiful. As you were saying it, I was thinking about me in a Fitbit. I will never be able to wear a Fitbit. Because as soon as I know, I could wear it for day-ish. And day two, I'm all obsessive and compulsive. I just know that about myself. And some people can wear it and be fine, and I can never wear a Fitbit. I just can't. My brain goes very, like you said, on how many? More or less, what's happening? And so, I love that you're saying that, is really knowing your limits and whether it's-- the Fitbit, it's not actually the problem, but the Fitbit is what starts a lot of problematic behaviors that I know is just not helpful for me. Amanda: Yes. And I think it's important to recognize there are factors that make us more likely to be able to moderate successfully or not, right? The amount of alcohol you've drank throughout your life, your past drinking habits, whether you have a history of addiction in your family or substance use, whether you have trauma, whether you have anxiety, all of these things might make it more difficult for you to moderate compared to someone else. Kimberley: Right. I don't know if this is helpful for our listeners, but I went sober. My husband and I did for the first year of COVID. What was interesting is then I got put on a medicine where I wasn't allowed to drink and I felt offended by this medicine because I was like, “But you're taking my choices away.” And so, I had to go back. Even though I'd made the choice already, I'd had to go back and really address this conversation of like, “Okay, why does that feel threatening to you” and to look at it because a part of me wanted to be like, “No, I'm going to start drinking now just because they told me I'm not allowed.” So, it's so funny how our brain gets caught up on things around drinking and the rules and so forth. So, I didn't think of it that way until you'd mentioned it. Amanda: Yeah, absolutely. And I think that that can be why people rebel against “I'm not an alcoholic” mindset instead of it being a choice, instead of it being “My life is better without drinking.” I often say, my drinking was like Russian roulette. A lot of times it was fine when I drank, but the times where it wasn't fine, I was not willing to put up with it anymore. And I don't know whether I could drink successfully or not, but it's not a risk that I'm willing to take. And it's not worth it compared to all the benefits that I have from sobriety. And because of that, it really feels like an empowering choice. Kimberley: Yeah. My last question to you before we hear more about you is, what would you say to the people who are listening, who aren't ready to have the conversation with themselves about whether it's helpful or not? I think I learn in a master's grade the stages of change. You're in a pre-contemplation stage where you're like, “I'm not even ready to contemplate this yet.” Do you have any thoughts for people who are so scared to even look at this? Amanda: Yeah. For people who maybe are in that pre-contemplation, not sure if they want to do the deeper work to question their relationship with alcohol, what I would recommend to them is start by just trying to reduce some of their alcohol intake. They don't have to stop drinking. They don't have to even think about whether it's serving them or not, but there are so many amazing alcohol-free beverages that exist now. I mean there's alcohol-free beers and wines and all kinds of things. And you could just try swapping one of your alcoholic beverages with that when you go out or at home and just see how that makes you feel. Kimberley: Yeah. It's a great response in terms of like, it is. It could be. Would you say that's more of the harm reduction model? Amanda: Yeah, absolutely. Or someone who's not ready or really interested in the big conversation. That's one of the reasons I really support and like the alcohol-free beverages and stuff like that because it gives people, I think, an easier way to step into it. And sometimes even realizing too, like alcohol-free beverages can taste really good compared to the beverage that has alcohol in it. So, you're not drinking this for the taste. Kimberley: Exactly. Sometimes when I have drunk alcohol, I'm like, why am I even drinking this? It's not delicious. Amanda: It's true. Kimberley: It's not delicious. I love that you say that about-- I think one of the wins of the world is they are creating more, even just the bottles and the look of them are much nicer than the general or dual looking kind of bottles, which I think is really cool. I love this conversation, and thank you so much for bringing it to me because I do really believe, particularly in the anxiety field, we are not talking about it enough. So, I'm so grateful for you. Amanda: Absolutely. I'm so glad that I got to chat about it because, yeah, the anxiety connection is huge. Kimberley: Yeah. Tell me about your book and all about you. Where can people find you? Amanda: Yeah. So, my book comes out on January 4th. It's called Not Drinking Tonight. And 2022, because this is out. Kimberley: Yeah. Amanda: Sorry if I messed up. Kimberley: No, no it's good. So, for people who are listening on replay, it will be out as of 2022. Amanda: Yeah. It's called Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love. It is broken up into three different sections so that you can learn in the first section why you drink, and I go into evolutionary psychology and trauma and shame. In the second part, it's about reparenting yourself or the tools that you need to stay stopped. So, I talk about boundaries and self-care and all of the things, emotional health, how we take care of our emotions. And then in the last section, I talk about moderation, relapsing, the overlap of alcohol use and other substances or ways we numb. So, really though my book is structured around alcohol. I talk a lot about eating disorders, perfectionism, workaholism, other drugs, because I think a lot of it is the same in that sense. Kimberley: 100%. Amanda: So yeah. And you can find me on Instagram at Therapy For Women, or my website is amandaewhite.com. Kimberley: Amazing. Thank you so much. It's so great to actually have a conversation with you face to face. Well, as face to face as we can be. So, thank you so much. Amanda: Thank you. This was so great. ----- Okay. And before we get going, I'm sure you got so much out of that episode. Before we get going onto your week, I wanted to share the “I did a hard thing.” This one is for on Paula, and she said: “I started ERP School earlier this year. While looking into my OC cycle, I was surprised to find out that I had some overt compulsions. I thought they were mostly mental. And that's when I figured out I had a BFRB. My loved ones had commented on my hair pulling in the past, but I didn't realize how compulsive it could be. I watched Kimberley's webinar on BFRBs, and I got inspiration to be creative. I tried to use hand lotion, so it would make my hands sticky and demotivate hair pulling. I also got a fidget toy to keep my hands occupied whenever I felt like pulling. But what worked best was you using a transparent elastic band to tie up the two strands I used to pull. It's perfect because it creates a physical barrier to pulling, but also a sensory reminder. If my fingers feel the band, I can say to myself, “Oh, the band, that feels different.” And because I'm trying to make a change, way to go me. Thank you, Kimberley, for all the amazing work you do.” So guys, this is amazing. If you didn't know, if you go to CBT School, we have a free training for people with BFRBs. If you have OCD, we have a free training for people with OCD. So, head on over to CBT School, and you can get all of the cool resources there. Have a wonderful day, everybody. And thank you so much for the “I did a hard thing.” That was so cool. I was not expecting that, Paula. Congratulations! You are doing definite hard things. Have a wonderful day, everybody.

Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator pf the popular instagram account THERAPY FOR WOMEN. Her practice, Therapy For Women, is based in Philadelphia but she serves clients across the country. Her debut novel, “NOT DRINKING TONIGHT: A GUIDE TO CREATING A SOBER LIFE YOU LOVE” came out this month. The book is an honest discussion of mental health where she explores the reasons why many drink alcohol, and what the benefits are from taking a break. It also gives insight to many other habits or rituals one may have acquired and how to decide if they are no longer serving you. We talk about her history with drinking, and her recovering from an eating disorder, and we learn why those two issues are often linked. Speaking with Amanda felt like I was talking to one of my best friends. She's so down to earth and relatable. Hope you enjoy it. And: Cheers to Not Drinking Tonight! XO 

This week I am joined by Amanda White, Therapist and Author of Not Drinking Tonight. We are discussing our relationship with alcohol, disordered drinking and the overlap with Diet Culture. ⁣ ⁣ You can get your copy of Not Drinking Tonight Here: https://tinyurl.com/23fru855⁣ ⁣ Follow Amanda on Instagram & Tik Tok: @therapyforwomen⁣ ⁣ Get The Train Happy Journal: ⁣ UK

Amanda's book, Not Drinking Tonight launched this week, and Tawny and Lisa were thrilled to talk all about it with her. Amanda is a therapist behind the insanely popular Instagram account, @therapyforwomen. The book goes far beyond how to stop drinking. It addresses the history of stress, addiction switching, recovery strategies, drinking culture, how our biology fits in, and much more. Not just for sober folks, the book will help anyone weighing the risks and benefits of drinking.Buy Not Drinking Tonight here: https://www.hachettego.com/titles/amanda-e-white-lpc/not-drinking-tonight/9781549136344/Music Minute featured Taylor Swift and Amanda's Tik Tok! 

In this episode I speak with Amanda E. White, therapist, retired party girl, and author of the new book Not Drinking Tonight about alcohol culture. This is a nuanced conversation about how we collectively relate to alcohol and sobriety, how alcohol misuse and eating disorders are intimately connected, the difference between alcohol addiction and "food addiction" and so much more. Whether you're struggling with your relationship with alcohol, interested in reflecting on your relationship with alcohol, or wanting to support someone in your life who is struggling with substance use, this conversation offers insight as well as practical guidance for navigating these issues. About Our Guest:Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love.” She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in working with individuals with substance use disorders and eating disorders.People are drawn to Amanda's unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, and more.  Follow Amanda on Instagram.Purchase Amanda's Book.  

Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist, retired party girl and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight”. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. People are drawn to Amanda's unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and refreshing authenticity. In her clinical work, she specializes in the overlap of substance use and eating disorders. Amanda is a mental health expert who is often featured in noteable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women's Health Magazine, Buzzfeed, and more. She lives in Philadelphia with her husband. Follow Amanda www.amandaewhite.com, www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen Buy "Not Drinking Tonight" wherever you buy your favorite books! Send me a DM and let me know your thoughts! www.instagram.com/kristinmic

What do you do when you realize that  1) alcohol is making your life worse and 2) moderating is not working?  That's where my guest, Amanda E. White, found herself as she started reevaluating her relationship with alcohol.  Her new book, Not Drinking Tonight, is a guide to understanding why you drink, and how to stop drinking and create a sober life you love.  In our conversation, you'll learn so much about drinking, not drinking, how to figure out whether your relationship with alcohol is working for you and when to take a break.  For full show notes, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/91   Ready to drink less + live more? This is your last chance to join me for a LIVE Kickoff Session on January 9 for my sober coaching program, The Sobriety Starter Kit.  If you're ready to change your relationship with alcohol, enroll in the program and grab your invitation to the 2-hour kick-off at www.sobrietystarterkit.com.  Grab my  Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free   Connect with Casey Find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to her website, www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

It's a new year and alcohol is on the agenda -- we are joined by therapist and author of Not Drinking Tonight Amanda White (@TherapyForWomen). She shares her story of sobriety and walks us through the process and self-reflection for people who want to examine their relationship with alcohol and explore quitting or cutting back (and yes, we're chatting about the fear of dating and socializing sober). We're also discussing why our brains aren't made for the social media world and why it's ok to not be positive all the time. Before Amanda joins us, we're sharing our 2022 goals, Ashley has a confession, and Rayna revels in her recent cooking win. Enjoy and happy new year! Follow Amanda on Instagram @therapyforwomen and check out her book Not Drinking Tonight. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Babbel: Use promo code GGE at babbel.com to get 3 additional months when you purchase a 3-month subscription. Living Proof: Go to livingproof.com/gge and use code GGE to get 10% off your first purchase. The Pill Club: Become a patient at thepillclub.com/gge and they will give a $10 donation to bedsider.org. Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy order, visit buffy.co and enter code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $15 off your first month's subscription + free shipping at nutrafol.com/gge. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge16 and code GGE16 to get up to 16 free meals + 3 free gifts.

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Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist, retired party girl and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight”. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In this episode, Amanda shares her decision to let go of 'cool' and embrace not drinking. She talks about her decision to live an intentional life and the popularity of her Instagram account, which allows her to help women set boundaries vs. rules and normalize not drinking. She shares about her upcoming book "Not Drinking Tonight" and how hopeful she feels that real change is on the horizon. Find the full show notes and links here: https://tlynn.kartra.com/page/podcastep5